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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:24 AM
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STRATEGYmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:12 AM
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LVM LOGICmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:09 PM
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FDS MEMESmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:04 PM
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NAH, SISmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:06 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:44 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:18 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:15 AM
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#JustLVMThingsmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:56 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:53 PM
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PICKME CULTUREmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:05 AM
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#JustLVMThingsmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:34 AM
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#JustLVMThingsmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:40 AM
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STRATEGYmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:51 AM
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Story time ☕maracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:28 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:26 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:03 PM
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LEVEL UPmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:56 PM
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RANTmaracat1989/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:28 AM
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Learn about respect and integrity
/r/seduction06/06/22 04:11 PM
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Yes, if I was there to witness that was exactly how it would go. It’s no big deal, whatever. And if I wasn’t there he would deny deny, despite being the only person who had access to our apartment besides me. Back then I thought “yeah men are stupid you just have to live with it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:35 PM
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Nobody destroying your belongings! I had an ex who set a heavy ass safe onto my dining table, then dragged it across the entire length leaving two HUGE scratches. He also ate a hot meal on top of my antique desk and left two large white heat marks. Absolute idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:44 PM
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Life support systems for a penis. Credit: Gail Dines ( when talking about how pornography portrays men)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:26 PM
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Ive also lost a friend due to this sort of thing. I met her new bf and he was on his phone the whole time and it was really rude. She apologized for him and said he has social anxiety. I asked her why she wanted to be with a guy who has mental problems. She goes “I have mental problems too.” That was enough for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:10 PM
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This article pointed out how we are currently in a “sex recession.” I wonder if this is because women finally have a choice and don’t have to barter sex for survival. I’d like to argue that women have always faced dehumanizing and degrading sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:38 AM
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Dr. Ramani has some really good YouTube vids on toxic positivity ✌️ I had a woman “friend” who was like this. It’s really gaslighty. She acted like her oh so enlightened brand of living and seeing things was the only way and the right way to be. After she had a loser sleeping on her couch for an entire summer and then told me that I shouldn’t be so protective of myself, I had enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:05 PM
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Are we talking about Rhysand? ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 10:16 PM
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RBF = a woman’s face at rest is offensive. Its offensive if her face isn’t performing femininity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:29 PM
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Yes! And explaining just gives him the tools to be more deceitful with the next woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:10 PM
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I relate so much to your post. I also thought for awhile that I was asexual for many of the same reasons you did. Good times. Do you like to read? Sarah J. Maas has some romantic book series that have shown me what true love actually is like. What it looks like to be loved inside and outside the bedroom. Always respect, no objectification. Really helped define my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:10 PM
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He loved himself so much that he wanted to date himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:50 PM
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They want the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:45 PM
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You would enjoy this book “The Beauty Myth” by Naomi Wolf. If you google search for the pdf you can read it free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:12 PM
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Not to mention the total humiliation in front of everyone she loves the most
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:27 AM
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No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 06:46 PM
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Yep. I let a friend of six years go because of her pickmeisha ways. I thought I would miss her but turns out I don’t. I dropped her originally because I was tired of being subjected to her shitty boyfriends. After having some space, I realized how poorly she treated me sometimes. How it really hurt when she ignored me during the entire trip and focused all her attention on her bf. Well they’re broken up now so what was the point of all that?! Now I have been focusing my energy on two other women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:22 PM
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This is why I must finally sign up for the patreon ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:30 PM
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This is HUGE for me. They will know I’m vegan, yet apparently it never occurs to them to look at a menu before picking a restaurant? And they always choose one that has literally zero vegan options! Apparently its too difficult? They go “I didn’t know howw” but there’s always a V next to vegan options!! V with a menu key and everything. Have you never seen a menu with GF options?? Am I crazy to think that they should be able to handle this or what the heck One guy was like “ you have to teach me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:47 PM
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A man cave gives the man a lot of space from family, wife, and his responsibilities. It makes me feel like he doesn’t actually want any of those things. A healthy amount of space is good but the man cave, equipped with big tv, naked women posters, empty beer scans, video games, bottles of piss…. Sounds more like a pig pen. Get some hobbies, some friends, and do something with yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:25 PM
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I was also always chasing validation and protection from men! And then I realized this is exactly what I was missing from my relationship with my father growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:13 PM
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The following is an excerpt from "The Beauty Myth" by Naomi Wolf. When a brilliant critic and a beautiful woman (that’s my order of priorities, not necessarily those of the men who teach her) puts on black suede spike heels and a ruby mouth before asking an influential professor to be her thesis advisor, is she a slut? Or is she doing her duty to herself, in a clear-eyed appraisal of a hostile or indifferent milieu, by taking care to nourish her real gift under the protection of her incidental o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:14 PM
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Yes! For me it was the “NoBoDyS pErFeCt” that really messed with my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:07 AM
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If they were actually genuine in what they were saying then they’re basically saying that all other women suck but you are something else and not like other girls. So basically they hate women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:26 PM
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I dated a “nice guy” who never once planned a date. I even wrote a list of date ideas and posted them on the fridge. Nothing happened or changed. Lesson learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:20 PM
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Why do they pull out ye olde English like that soooo condescending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:54 PM
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Don’t be friends with exes. You knew he still had feelings for you. Don’t do that. You knew he wanted more. That was cruel what you did. Where’s your integrity? This is also stupid because they can lie. And any man worth his salt would take one look at an interview test like that and think you’re nuts. You’re gonna get desperate dusties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:10 PM
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I tell them I’ll cook but it’s $150 up front. Then when they balk I say that’s cheap for a personal chef. Maybe I’ll charge you more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:24 PM
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He hates himself more than he could ever hate you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:15 PM
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Go to therapy STAT. Your father is the average man. He is not an outlier. You don’t want the average man- you want better. Do not fall in love with potential. You don’t have to put up with anything just because you think you’re supposed to marry some day. If every man you see is shit then leave them ALL alone. You don’t have to put up with shit just to have shit in your life. If you don’t like one thing about a guy it’s a good enough reason to break up. In fact any reason is a good enough reason…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:52 PM
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Right like if he cared about how she felt then why would he treat her shitty?! that cOnVeRsAtE thinking is so stupid and backwards to me I don’t understand it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 02:11 PM
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I told my grandma this is what I do and it turns out no man has measured up. Big shrug. Then she goes “well no man is able to be as thoughtful as you” so I said “okay… if that’s true then why would I want that in my life?” You shoulda seen her face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:57 PM
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I was loving criminal minds until I read something on FDS that said media constantly uses “the murder of women as entertainment” and it got me thinking differently about rape, murder and violence in shows/movies. Haven’t been able to enjoy criminal minds since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:45 PM
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Oh yeah they send a long meaningful text one time and they get you hooked thinking they have feelings. It’s like a fake forced intimacy. Worked on me with a man who never did anything nice afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:20 PM
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izombie! Female lead, an HV man. The Magicians is my favorite show and does not make me want to pull my hair out. (It starts with a male lead but eventually the secondary characters become as important or more than him.) Highly recommend! Also Santa Clarita Diet is hilarious, her husband will literally do anything for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:54 AM
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What’s more natural than natural selection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:46 PM
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I don’t understand how she can put out new videos about the same thing until the end of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:40 PM
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They literally get paid more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:52 PM
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I have a tattoo on my thigh and one time a strange man came up to me (I didn’t even see him coming) put his mouth on it and sucked! Out of nowhere. It was terrifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:45 PM
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A man can be in a relationship with you for years and not even like you as a person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:52 AM
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Love herrrr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:48 AM
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I’ve seen the Joe Rogan podcast mentioned on FDS a few times, why is it a red flag? I haven’t wanted to give it my views/support the show by watching
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:46 AM
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I’m now having the same derealization feeling I had after reading that Margaret Atwood quote the first time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:56 PM
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I won’t be able to tolerate this for a second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:00 PM
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I’ve been thinking about this too! Especially when it comes to selective idiocy, like how they act about cleaning. Are you telling me that you don’t know where the dishes go? I know where they go. You can’t do your own laundry? All men are unable to do these things? I thought men were supposed to be smarter than women? Are you calling yourself stupid?? All men are stupid then. Okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:46 PM
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Men have such an integrity problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:16 AM
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The guy I was dating at the time read Twilight and told me Edward was abusive. I was like wHaT nO wAy hEs JuSt PrOtEcTiVe!! Really shows the way men and women are socialized in this society. Ps. They know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:35 PM
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Oh my gosh the amount of men I’ve met who eat a bag of chips for dinner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:29 PM
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I wouldn’t let those scrotes even smell my farts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:42 PM
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It’s probably been this way for a long time and he’s only now noticing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:36 AM
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Why is this reserved for women in Shanghai and not the rest of China? Is it a class thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:22 PM
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This is crazy to me because he would’ve lost respect for you but apparently he never loses respect for himself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:18 PM
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Rape and violence LOOOL SO FUNNY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:26 AM
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I’ve never seen a man do those things before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:08 PM
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Know what’s sad though? I never figured that shit out on my own, I was so lost in pickmeville. FDS what actually helped me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:00 PM
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I’ve dated all these men what do I win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:46 AM
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Love this! I was recently told that. He was the first guy I have dated since finding FDS. It shows how he’s used to easy women... easy to impress, easy to control/manipulate, and easy to learn all their vulnerabilities. Sometimes we give them too much information- men don’t need to know shit lol trust is earned ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:21 AM
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A huge percentage of the women on those apps are fake accounts run by the app themselves. So they match with a hot girl who chats for a short while and then ghosts. Duh. It’s how they keep them engaged/addicted and coming back for more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:10 PM
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This is savage and I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:22 PM
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Thank you I needed this reminder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:33 PM
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This Might Get Wierd- two very funny ladies talking about anything and everything. Always makes me laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:30 PM
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This is why we are socialized to be self loathing! Ppl who hate themselves do not advocate for themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:17 PM
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I love the idea of fleshing out the website and moving away from Reddit completely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:42 PM
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This woman makes me cry-laugh. I love her videos. Wish I had her type of guidance as a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:30 PM
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He loves legos more than her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:57 PM
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He worked from 5pm to 11pm, video games/weed/porn/Mountain Dew until 9am, sleep until 4... rinse and repeat. We “lived together” and I never saw his ass and he didn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:52 PM
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I don’t like the ending of the article where the solution is put on women to “do less.” And then the man “learns”? Hell no. It just wouldn’t get done and the whole family will suffer. Why is it the women’s responsibility again?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:09 PM
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Yes no whining and no expecting pats on the back or cookies or blow jobs for doing it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:54 PM
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Reading this I automatically think “yeah right no man can be this” and then I look at myself and realize all this is me.... if I can do it why can’t a man?!?! I don’t understand why I have never met a man as good as me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:51 PM
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AAAHHH this made me scream laugh oh my god!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:10 PM
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So you don’t want to be my friend but you want to be inside of my body. Male logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:33 AM
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This reminds me of mission trips to “spread the word of god.” Would that be a type of colonialism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:37 PM
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This study needs more attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:43 PM
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I've had the same expirience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:15 PM
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I watch this show to and it’s a study in LVM behavior. It feels like the televised abuse of women for entertainment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:28 PM
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YESSS! I’ve gotten that short haircut I’ve always thought about but never got because “what if guys don’t think I’m sexy anymore” I started a workout class at my gym because it gives me more energy and helps my mood, not because I want to look hot for someone. I also yeeted my Fallopian tubes! I’ve never felt more in control of my body and that it is mine mine mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:16 PM
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Girl I feel you it’s so hard. Rad techs are 90% female and still the dick reigns supreme. It’s weird because rad techs are mostly women, but radiologists (the doctors who make the $$$) are men. In this field the rad techs (women) do the labor that supports the radiologist (men). It’s like a little microcosm for the entire world and I wonder what other occupations are like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:44 AM
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This is why I won’t date someone unless they make more $$ than me. If you are a man, living in a society made by men for men, and cannot be successful, then something is wrong with you. I went to a “women’s” college and had three men in my class. They got better jobs than all the women. I busted my fucking ass to graduate. Omfg out in the field when a patient asks me a question, and then the penis would walk in and they ask him the same exact question but only believe the answer when he says it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:54 AM
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Can you get a water gun and squirt him like a naughty animal when he comes over?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:05 AM
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Was chatting with this guy on OLD and he did the same thing! Then if I didn’t answer within his preferred time frame he would get upset. He wanted to be told ahead of time what I was about to be doing and why I couldn’t respond right away. Wtf I’ve never even met you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:31 PM
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Dumping losers is my fetish!!! Don’t link shame me!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:36 PM
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A failing economy effects women so much more- so many more women lost their jobs due to covid than men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:22 PM
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I read another story on FDS where the man only backed off after she used the word rape. They don’t understand consent and so they don’t think what they are doing is rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:07 PM
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Seems high. Edit: I read an article once that explained these kinds of statistics were not always accurate because they don't specify 1. if the man gave her an orgasm or if the woman gave herself an orgasm while a man was there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:12 PM
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This actually scares me.... will it correlate with a rise in male violence??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:47 PM
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Why is it with stalking that the police can't do anything until the man does something serious (the woman is already dead)?? Is stalking in itself not illegal??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:24 AM
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I went home and slept for 16 hrs straight lol. I was also constipated for four days. The incisions were itchy as they healed. Overall it was an easy recovery. Some ppl have pain from the gas but I had barely any pain. I took oxy for the day after, the next few days just tylenol. Using my abdominal muscles was a bit painful. Worth everything. Cost me my deductible, I didn't have to pay anything more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:27 PM
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No hormonal changes involved because you still have your ovaries which produce the hormones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:34 PM
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I had a salpingectomy a month ago. Highly recommend. Only my mom and closest friends know about it. if you go to the child free sub they have a list of doctors willing to perform the procedure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:27 PM
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You need to ask him first. If he wants kids then that’s it, done. Don’t date a fence sitter. Don’t tell him that you don’t want kids first because he will lie. I had a guy string me along for four months knowing that it was never going to turn into anything more. I told him first and he said “not a dealbreaker.” Lies. Oh also.... if you ask him, and he says he wants kids, and then you say okay nice to know you, and then he goes “no actually I don’t either I just said that because that’s what fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:37 PM
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I LOVED IT! Can’t wait for more! It is an easier way to share FDS with friends who are not Reddit savvy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:16 PM
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My mom and I are trying to figure out how to separate her from her husband in a way where she can still retire. And not be murdered. Yesterday he told her black ppl are making white ppl in California swear fealty to Aztec gods and why doesn’t she believe him it’s on the internet?!?!! He spends all day in his hole getting his meals made for him while browsing far right conspiracies, polishing and touching his guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:50 PM
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The comments on that video.... it’s like... did you watch the same thing that I did?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:41 AM
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Yes I have found that diet is my greatest asset to feeling better! For the last three years I've been eating whole foods (vegan, no gluten, soy) and oil free. I do cheat sometimes out of needing convenience (and I feel the effects after). Its made such a huge difference for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:36 PM
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Yeah girl- fibromyalgia. My father scared us into submission. It’s an invisible illness and nobody (friends, significant others, family) remembers it or takes it into account. It’s really hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:59 PM
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This is what happened to my mom, 8 yr age difference. He just up and retired one day without consulting her, and he also got rid of his life insurance policy because in his words: "What do I need it for?" Slave in the beginning, slave to the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:53 PM
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oooh okay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:59 PM
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500 Days of Summer is the movie that epitomizes the whimsical, eccentric manic pixie dream girl saving the man from his boring humdrum life. If you wanna, try googling "manic pixie dream girl." Ps. sorry for ruining a movie ;p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:59 PM
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Would ppl be less likely to try to break into a townhome than a single home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:20 PM
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Does a 10lb dog count?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:54 PM
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Is there a way to ask a man if he watches porn without setting yourself up to being lied to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:34 PM
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Its so annoying and its only men that make them! Women don't "tease" me about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:27 PM
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I didn’t even know what actual sex was until FDS. I’m 31
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:56 PM
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Dads are creepy af. I climbed up a ladder out of the lake and my dad watched me. Then he said I should be a model. He also watched porn with me in the same room as him but it was on mute so I guess it was secret?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:28 AM
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This reminds me of a documentary I watched about the ripper serial killer who was murdering women in Yorkshire. The women had a protest about female rights and one of the signs said “MEN OFF THE STREETS” I was like YEAH why is it that we have to stay in at night, why don’t we hold men responsible for their behavior?! They are the ones who should have to stay inside instead of raping/murdering! Why are we punished and responsible for their BS???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:35 PM
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I love her! Every time she puts out a new video I think...that one doesn't seem to apply to me. And then I watch it and my head explodes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:10 AM
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You guys I think OLD is dead. You’re swimming in an ocean of sharky NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:40 PM
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Lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:03 PM
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Lolol thank you I’m feeling so validated by your reply! At the time I felt the need to prove myself. Had no idea he was a douche. Arghhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:08 PM
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After I told him I was an MRI technologist- “Do you even have to go to school for that?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:23 PM
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Can I do this over texting or should I in do it in person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:30 AM
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I have recently been battling with whether I want to continue spending time with a friend. I'm leaning towards not seeing her again because of the way she criticized my boundaries and standards. It felt really invalidating and belittling. This is the third time I've come away from hanging out with her feeling like this. What's a nice way of ending a friendship? I want to ghost her because that's easy, yet she doesn't deserve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:27 AM
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There is a documentary by National Geographic! I can’t figure out where to stream it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:34 PM
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They grow, build, and maintain all aspects of home life yet they are not considered heads of their households. I just wanted to point this out as it slapped me in the face a bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:25 AM
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Every time a man leaves something undone, he is deciding that you will do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:30 AM
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Yes this is so accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:10 AM
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Yes I feel like the only way change will happen is on the woman’s part first, and then men will have to shape up because they will all of a sudden have standards to hold up to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:46 PM
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“Yeah? Tell me something less obvious” Compliments on my looks are shallow and boring. Complement my intelligence, creativity or personality. I am a human being not a collection of PornHub tabs in your browser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:11 PM
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That's the point and I hate it! They create the idea that we aren't enough, and then use it to sell as if we will finally be good enough with the product!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:53 AM
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I can’t imagine being unpleasured even one more time. I won’t do it. Giiirrrrl I feel you so hard on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:30 AM
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From Wikipedia: Andrew Carnegie November 25, 1835 – August 11, 1919) was a Scottish-American industrialist and philanthropist. Carnegie led the expansion of the American steel industry in the late 19th century and became one of the richest Americans in history.[3] He became a leading philanthropist in the United States and in the British Empire. During the last 18 years of his life, he gave away ~$350 million (roughly $5.2 billion in 2019)[4] to charities, foundations, and universities – almost …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:43 AM
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Refurbishing old campgrounds, that's awesome! Never thought about that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:05 PM
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My dream is a huge plot of land, my strong woman friends and I all have cute ass tiny houses on it. We share a giant garden, and there’s a lake with a pontoon and jet skis. We all have dogs that play all day and cuddle at night! There’s also a book club!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:46 PM
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Pretty sure women will be more reliable to do better at the service anyways, they won't be cutting corners by being lazy, and they won't take advantage of you b/c you are a woman. "Pink tax"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:14 PM
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As a healthcare worker I see woman being secretary to their husbands all the time. Making their appointments, getting them there on time, basically making sure they show up at all. One time I called a patient ahead of time to give him prep instructions for his exam...he goes "I think you should talk to my wife, I'll never remember this." I said "All you need is a pen and paper." And he goes "You're gonna think this is stupid but I'm going to give the phone to her." So he hands her the phone and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:12 PM
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Theres alot of people who share your views! Check out r/childfree there's over a million members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:06 PM
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I met a woman who had pointy, blood red nails. I complimented them. She told me she was a flight attendant and her nails helped to keep ppl from fucking with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:56 PM
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Girl I feel you! This is the worst. I even wrote date ideas down for him and put them on the refrigerator. They never change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:20 PM
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This woman doing something that you’ve wanted to do with her has gotten you shaken up?? What the actual f? The hypocrisy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:56 PM
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I see them everywhere. Coworkers, family members, my sister's new husband, my friends' boyfriends... all it takes is one action/sentence out of their mouth and its so obvious. Music/sitcoms full of misogynistic rhetoric. And reality television containing straight up abuse. Cannot unsee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:45 PM
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This abuse is expected to happen to us, and when it does it is always our fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:26 AM
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Try to rewatch The Jersey Shore without pulling all your hair out! Or any dating reality show, the amount of gaslighting and double standards is horrid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:13 AM
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She says she is not meeting his emotional or sexual needs.....girl is he meeting yours?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 11:15 PM
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LVM 1 Edit: "I know you said you never wanted kids but I thought it was because you hadn't met the right man yet." "You came here thinking you were going to be tying me down and walk out with a boyfriend" - right after I realized he was using me for sex and I told him he was an asshole ​ LVM 2 Edit: "Oh another one for your rulebook!!!!" After I told him its not okay for him to share private details about my pussy with his sister and friends. Edit: "I'm mad because usually when in the beginning …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:51 PM
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Is he mad? Does he think women are pretending to be something that they aren't?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:24 PM
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Yes girl with how they have to make a point! I’ve had men make sure to add double patties their hamburgers to make up for the fact that I wasn’t eating any meat 😑 fucked up logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:07 PM
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Vegan here. I've only met one vegan male in my entire life! We did not date. I've gotten made fun of by nonveg men I've dated, calling my meal "rabbit food." Looking at my sliced up oranges I was eating as a snack and shaking their head. They make no effort at all in bothering to learn what being a vegan is, despite constant reminders. I got asked if I wanted his butter blended mashed potatoes that was swimming in steak blood. We had been together for 3 years. They always made me choose the rest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:02 AM
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Its like they don't have a soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:44 PM
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super curious to learn more about this spellcraft you speak of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:50 PM
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Online dating attracts narcs because its an easy way to get to you. They can establish an emotional connection with you easily with little effort, they can make their profile advertise them as anything they want. If you’re using it, you’re swimming with sharks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:31 AM
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It’s so stupid whenever they cry that it doesn’t feel as good it’s like.... okay you’re still gonna cum so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:43 PM
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I can absolutely see the merit in this. It gives me a painful pang because I come from a highly abusive family. The way I see it is that youngsters find a way to cope...on one side of the spectrum is self absorption and narcissism where they bully and coerce and manipulate to get their needs met. The other side is codependent, pleasing their abuser to make themselves a smaller target. It looks to me that boys most often take the narc route because society enables it, and girls are more likely to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:57 AM
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I really can’t understand it. Years apart, saying basically the same thing, I never respond, even the time of day is suspect. It’s just so embarrassing. Does he have no shame?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:47 AM
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This is also my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:39 PM
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This strikes me as wacko b/c why would somebody care so much about how often you give oral that they have to get angry about it!? Enough so that you can't even be friends anymore?? Like what...? Is it because they wish their sex life was like yours and they can't stand it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:05 PM
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Is it weird that I think you look really pretty right now??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:35 AM
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I am 5ft 1in and have struggled to be taken seriously my whole life!! I also look very young for my age so that doesn't help either. Its so annoying, especially at work. My pt's look at me and see a small girl fresh out of college. As soon as someone obv older or penisier (penises younger and less experienced than me too) walks in the room they ask them the same questions they just asked me. Of course they get the same answers. I'm 31 and have worked in this field for 5 yrs, I know what I'm doin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:25 PM
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That’s more than my boyfriends have ever done for me in our entire relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:41 PM
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This is one of those men who thinks that cat calling women is okay because it’s a compliment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:08 PM
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That sub is called TwoXChromosomes not FragileMaleEgo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:31 PM
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Their relationship made me cringe multiple times. Remember the part where she begged "Pick me. Choose me." djfajfoiaeml literally being a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:28 PM
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Its sad that sometimes women don't understand that feeling like this is optional. Edit: I can't act like I haven't been in the dark either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:10 AM
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Same with my sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:54 PM
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TRUTH. I dated a guy for a few months then we broke up. Stayed "friends" for TEN YEARS on and off until he finally got to second base with me (pre FDS). I stopped him because I had my period. Later we were texting and I told him I've had feelings for him for a long time. He did not reciprocate. I then said we aren't going to continue doing sexual things because I will only keep catching more feels. He never responded. If I had blocked his ass after we broke up it would have saved me ten years of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:42 PM
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Thank you that’s such a nice thing to say. Damn straight if anything I’m working even harder now, taking on the chores around the house they are too depressed or misogynistic to touch, working overtime when I can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:23 AM
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Thank you for this!! This is why I love this sub - straightforward as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:29 AM
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“If the mom doesn’t like being treated like an appliance then she should leave.” As if when she doesn’t leave it’s because she doesn’t have self respect. It’s a little more complicated than that when there’s children/financial issues involved. Or if she’s been gaslighted into oblivion and is being abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:27 PM
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People associate money with power.... so if they are making money off showing their goods it’s “powerful.” It’s like they ignore the degrading acts and shame and all other negative aspects of porn/cam girling as long as money is being made it’s okay. Cognitive dissonance is everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:57 PM
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Yep this article pretty much sums it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:39 PM
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This is called breadcrumbing and I used to fall for it all the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:02 PM
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She's going to have babies with this man too. They will be raised in this household of bad values/misogyny...and so the cycle continues....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 08:59 PM
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I love Matt Kahn!!! Awesome to see his quote here. Ladies if you’re looking for help with self love/acceptance he’s your guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:26 PM
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Can someone do an experiment where they post a similar scenario as above, and then post the same thing but as a man? I'd like to see the discrepancy in the "advice."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:09 PM
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Is that saying the average amount of time spent on the site is 3 hrs?? Because holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:05 PM
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I like learning more about cultural misogyny and societal conditioning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:37 AM
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Why don't MGTOW actually GTOW??? Because it seems like they still interact w/ women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:18 PM
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what does "love is utility" mean??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:16 PM
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Another good one: https://www.instagram.com/joannathangiah/?hl=en
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:17 PM
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Also, why is it our responsibility to figure out their love language when they don't give a fuck about how we feel loved??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:14 PM
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Wowww I did t even realize I had some of the bored pickme inside! I’m gonna take myself out to eat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:14 PM
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Pretty sure they are trying to find the son a new momma so they don’t have to deal with them anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:34 PM
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They always come sniffing back around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:37 PM
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I've been dressing up more and putting more into my appearance, I realized that I've been "dressing down" and kind of hiding my beauty in a way, it seemed dangerous or rude to shine. I've noticed in the past that it makes some women feel inadequate or self conscious. And men are creepier. Now IDGAF what people think and how it effects them, that's their problem for not feeling good enough. And if a man is going to leer at me, I will leer back or flip him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:56 AM
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FACEPALM!!! I grew up with sisters and before FDS I felt like men who had sisters maybe understood things more. Don't even know why I felt like maybe that was the case, because I had no evidence of it and certainly now I have evidence to the contrary. Good on you sis, keep it up! Women are so damn strong and you're proof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:10 PM
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I hate this so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:26 PM
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wow that sounds so frustrating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:35 PM
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I want my partner to make more money than me. I've worked my ass off and put up with alot of BS to get where I am at today. If I was a man, I would not have had to put in all that effort to get to this same place. If a man puts in the same amount of effort as me, then he should be even more successful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:07 PM
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“A lover of going deep” coming from him, that sounds so nasty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:07 AM
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When applied to women specifically, "crazy" has historically been used as a form of silencing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:43 AM
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No hun not at all! I was trying to say that CPTSD has only made me more susceptible/malleable/accepting of ill treatment. That they don't really know what they are talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:10 PM
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Of course they respond to that because its about how they are effected. Still doesn't show any awareness of how women are treated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:27 PM
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I have CPTSD and have never done anything to deserve the shitty treatment I've gotten from men. If anything it's made me too generous/self sacrificing for others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:24 PM
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Why do men have this dominate/submit perspective?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:20 PM
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You are not responsible for your parents' happiness!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:16 PM
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I'm sorry have there been scabby penises happening?!?! I didn't know this was a thing! How....whyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:45 PM
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Oh for sure! I was so negative anytime it involved taking responsibility on his part or acknowledging or having to change his shitty behavior. He seriously said that rules line after I told him it made me feel uncomfortable when he told his sister private information about my body!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:04 PM
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I saw a man for a few weeks who would say I was always so negative every time I would tell him my feelings or set a boundary. He would roll his eyes with a big sigh and go “he we go again another one of your rules!” It totally had me questioning that, especially since I had to do it so often. I would try to be “positive” and this way he would get everything he wanted and I was miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:46 PM
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I don’t compliment men because they usually start hitting on me afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:18 AM
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Omg another Tom 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:01 PM
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Rofllll omggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:46 AM
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Thank you yes I am being extra careful, I don't really even have any expectations from it at all. Grateful to have the support from this subreddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:39 AM
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This is hilarious and I love it so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:28 AM
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This really struck a chord with me! wowww thank you for this perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:27 AM
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Oh my god SO TRUE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:05 AM
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Oooo I love this breakdown! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:35 AM
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I totally agree with you on this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:34 PM
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lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:33 PM
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match.com. My thought is that it's a paid app so maybe dudes are more serious? Not sure about that yet. I got it before I found FDS and have it paid through Nov, decided to experiment and see what will happen after applying my new FDS skill set.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:32 PM
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I was tempted but nah I decided it wasn't worth my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:29 PM
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Exactly!! Shit, I was interested after 10 or so messages. Why does he make it seem like that's not enough?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:26 PM
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I can't even believe it, this is my first adventure back into dating after FDS and everything I read is right there in what he said. It blew my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:22 PM
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done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:22 PM
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I've started taking online dance classes! Its been really fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:16 PM
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Thank you for this I needed it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:42 PM
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I saw a documentary that explained that the side effects from birth control are less than the side effects of pregnancy. So pregnancy is a bigger health risk than birth control. That’s why men don’t have birth control because they can’t get pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:48 PM
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Maybe something like: “If men are this lame and low effort, you’re going to be dragging them through life. Do you really need that? You can thrive so much more on your own.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:17 AM
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For me the biggest revelation has been that I’m better off on my own than with a man like that. I thought this is just how guys are they don’t understand emotions/empathy blah blah. Have yet to date a HVM and I really hope they exist... but if I never do then I’m better off by myself and surrounding myself with puppies, plants, and other women. You now what else he would do?! Ask for a body massage like all the time which I would put a lot of effort into, reading his signals and adjusting pressu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:23 PM
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I feel like every person craves connection, and I also feel it can be so hard sometimes! I made a new friend recently by meeting a friend’s friend. The three of us hung out together and talked about what we are going through right now. We all also agreed it’s hard to find women friends. For me I’ve always felt afraid of friendships with women due to how I was treated in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:05 PM
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GIRL!!! I feel you. I just ended things with a man who lied to me for four months. I told him on the third date that I didn’t want kids and he said it wasn’t a dealbreaker. I eventually found out that was a lie and he thought I hadn’t met the right man yet and he could change my mind. Then he says the reason he wants to have kids is to carry on the “legacy” and it needs to be made in his wife’s belly, no adoption. 1. Worst reason to have kids ever (have you checked out r/childfree?) 2. He has an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:13 PM
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