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marco161091/r/seduction17/12/11 07:24 PM
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marco161091/r/seduction13/12/11 05:42 PM
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Gonna have to agree with you on that yeah. Especially when typing on a phone. I will often not change my yours and theirs because I don’t want to go back and change the stupid autocorrect.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/07/22 04:29 AM
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I mean, it’s not “differently,” it’s just wrong. Especially if you know you’re doing it wrong, since you don’t really have any excuse. It’s not a big deal at all, of course, but it is still wrong, lol. Probably doesn’t affect anyone much after all, except confusing the occasional non-native reader who comes across your writing.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/07/22 04:22 AM
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A couple living together could have been together for any duration. And I guess the framing of your comment made it sound like you’re talking about this generally, not in the context of OP’s relationship. Anyway, how is hanging out daily with your girlfriend/boyfriend of 3 months a red flag? This is extremely common, especially if it’s one of your first relationships.
/r/seduction21/01/22 11:03 AM
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How is that a red flag? Isn't that basically implying that every couple that lives together has some loose nuts?
/r/seduction21/01/22 10:43 AM
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Well what do you want us to say exactly. We already believe it works. So I'm not sure what you want us to tell you. Looks matter, yes. But they really don't matter so much. Unless you're a guy with some really ugly deformity, there's really not much you can't fix with some fashion advice and gym. And even then, there are awesome girls out there who'll overlook even the worst of luck in the looks department. So not something to worry. I know a lot of short guys (around 5' 6") who do fairly well. …
/r/seduction05/06/12 05:29 PM
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Lets assume that yes, the gurus suck. Does that mean all the knowledge this community has to offer you is pointless?
/r/seduction04/06/12 06:51 PM
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I'm going to be turning 21 this October. And I've been running street game without any problems for a long time. You're good to go man.
/r/seduction03/06/12 11:52 AM
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same
/r/seduction29/05/12 03:34 PM
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If you're wondering whether you should do something (like touching her arm, grabbing her by the waist, etc), you should most probably go ahead and do it. You might exceed the comfort zone of some girls but eventually you'll calibrate yourself. Just make sure that the first time you touch some new body part, don't let your touch linger. And escalate from there. Also, take a look at the DiCarlo escalation ladder. Google it. It's a free ebook.
/r/seduction22/01/12 09:02 AM
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Try the sidebar.
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:30 PM
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When in doubt, escalate. I've seriously got no other advice for you cause you've given shit information. Also, this belongs in Askseddit.
/r/seduction13/01/12 10:00 AM
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Sedditor I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm not comfortable at all with being sexual (outside of kino) and the main help I need is there Are you saying that you don't have a problem with physical escalation (kino)? If that's the case, then you shouldn't be getting stuck. Physical escalation is the most important thing you need and is something a lot of people get stuck at. My advice would be to practice kino a lot more. With everyone. And take a look at the DiCarlo escalation ladder. A s…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:33 PM
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Sedditor I have never taken a boot camp or any conference in the exact sense of the word. However, I got good with girls long before I came across pick up theory only because I met and hung out with people who were actually good with girls. Observing them and listening to their advice was my first window into this world and what really changed me. Back to your question. I don't think you should take an boot camp or attend a conference. At least not as a beginner. Best thing you can do is find ou…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:30 PM
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Sedditor Like women as people first and above all. Not objectifying females. This is something that is mentioned throughout seddit. This is also something which is mentioned in almost every book about pick up theory. You know the funny thing? A lot of people who say they don't objectify women actually do it the most. Showing sexual interest however, is not the same as objectifying someone. Be interested, curious, and willing to discuss any topic of conversation that comes up. Again something whi…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:27 PM
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Sedditor 32 upvotes. Now look at the number of people who are subscribed to Seddit. An insignificant number. The truth is that in life there will always be people who hate you. Whatever the reason may be. Maybe you deserve it. Maybe you don't. That's not the point. The point is that you shouldn't judge an entire community because of your experience with a minute percentage of it.
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:16 PM
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Sedditor Those community guys are dicks then. That doesn't mean the community is made up of dicks though. I was once beaten up severely by drunk guys from the army. It's a long story so I won't go there. But does that mean anyone from the army will go around beating people? I hope not. And I definitely think not. I've met awesome people from the army later in life who I'm good friends with. Why? Because I didn't let a few isolated interactions dictate my view of an entire community. This is impo…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:13 PM
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Sedditor I'm sure you must have seen homeless people on your way to places. Sit with them sometimes. Give them food, water. Share a cigarette with them if you smoke. Talk to them. As you walk away, think about how you felt. Did you feel good? Why are you feeling good? Is it because you helped someone? Is it because you gave someone (who needed it) company? Now as yourself if you got anything out of it. And whether it matters. Hopefully, you'll realize that humans generally feel good when they do…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:08 PM
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Sedditor Once you get your first kiss, you'll realize it's really not as big as you made it out to be. It's probably going to suck but that's okay. You weren't born doing maths and you're probably not half bad it now. As for tips. Before going for the kiss, get physically intimate. Stand closer to the girls, maybe put your arms around her. Make her comfortable. A lot of girls will reject a kiss not because they don't want it but because you surprised them. Don't stick in your tongue immediately.…
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:05 PM
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Sedditor Indeed. I couldn't objectively say it's because of Seddit. I've always been happy. But Seddit and Pick up have taught me a lot of things that have made me a better person.
/r/seduction12/01/12 02:00 PM
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Sedditor Oh, there are a quite a few people on Seddit who give out free coaching to people who want it. I do it a lot. I'm no expert though but it helps me too. People like TofuTofu, ImKumarYo, DutchPUA are some examples that come to mind. I'm from Bangalore, India. If any ForeverAloner is from there and want to hang out and have fun, give me a PM.
/r/seduction12/01/12 01:59 PM
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Sedditor I think at an average, most Sedditors would relate a lot to FA's. I personally was lucky enough but there are so many people I know who came to Seddit when they had noone. FA's generally can't relate to Seddit because of the stigma attached to the whole thing as well as (dare I say it) their own problems. A lot of FA's I know generally have this outlook where they blame everything on the world around them while here in Seddit, people are encouraged to understand that there is nothing th…
/r/seduction12/01/12 01:57 PM
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Sedditor I used to be really hateful and angry towards all the PUA stuff. And honestly, I still hate a lot of it. I have a strong dislike for those techniques that involve quantifying various "phases" of the attraction process and focus on manipulating women's emotions and reactions in order to get them to like you (such as preying on insecurities). I can understand where that comes from. What one needs to understand is that all the PUA theory didn't come up with all these "phases". They were al…
/r/seduction12/01/12 01:51 PM
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I upvoted because I'm curious to see who has an answer this question.
/r/seduction10/01/12 06:02 PM
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Your comment has nothing to do with what I said.
/r/seduction10/01/12 05:17 PM
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So according to you, she's a total bitch because she is attention seeking (according to you, not that I disagree but just want to point out that it's an opinion, not fact). I missed the memo when attention seeking = total bitch. Don't be judgemental about people. Don't look for the worst in them, look for the best. And it'll serve you better. Trust me. Rather than calling her a bitch because you think she's attention seeking, be happy that she's honest.
/r/seduction10/01/12 08:44 AM
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Don't presume to know a person by a single action of theirs. Certainly don't be judgemental because of it.
/r/seduction10/01/12 08:01 AM
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I shall support you.
/r/seduction09/01/12 07:09 PM
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Upvote for "He's money".
/r/seduction07/01/12 05:03 PM
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I didn't know that he did stand up.
/r/seduction07/01/12 04:36 PM
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What's it called?
/r/seduction07/01/12 01:19 PM
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That's the most accurate technical definition of flirting that came to my mind. I think it's pointless to think about the definition anyway. I never did until this post and it didn't hold me back any.
/r/seduction03/01/12 04:20 PM
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Make a joke. If you want to keep it serious, then mention something along the lines of you sometimes enjoying your time spent away from people you know.
/r/seduction02/01/12 11:18 PM
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Sexually threatening words but with friendly intent.
/r/seduction02/01/12 11:12 PM
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People who are out having the best lives are usually the ones who post the least! So true. Took me a few years to realize.
/r/seduction30/12/11 12:16 PM
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whut
/r/seduction25/12/11 10:22 AM
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Frame is basically the way you approach and engage a woman. The atmosphere you carry around you. The right frame for anyone depends on their own personality but some factors that are crucial for a good frame are confidence, decisive, sense of humor.
/r/seduction23/12/11 10:26 PM
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Anything is a good opener if your frame is right. Well not ANYTHING but practically anything.
/r/seduction23/12/11 06:43 PM
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I'm just speaking out of what I and my peers have experienced. Not to mention the various material out there. But I understand your point of view. It just seems like a rarer one is all.
/r/seduction23/12/11 06:42 PM
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The concept isn't. But that's what the person will hear. That she's not something.
/r/seduction22/12/11 06:07 PM
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But the guy IS interested. It's just a disqualification technique to build up comfort and get the girl to qualify herself. Most girls will actually shoot back with "How am I not your type?" or "What's your type?" I prefer the positive line because it doesn't shut out the girls. Just gives them an obstacle to overcome. And girls seem to love that. You personally might prefer the negative line but that's not true for most girls in my experience.
/r/seduction22/12/11 07:48 AM
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Silly excuse. I was 16 and in school once, too. I could easily find the time. In fact, the older you get, the less time you'll have.
/r/seduction21/12/11 05:32 PM
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I definitely agree that communicating what you desire out of others is a very good thing to do. Not only is it good for screening, at times it even influences the person to act more like you want him/her to. I skimmed over your comment and thus got the wrong idea. I thought you were saying that we should talk about stuff our exes of friends DID that we didn't like when you were saying that we should talk about how our exes of friends TALKED about stuff which we found unacceptable. Basically, whe…
/r/seduction20/12/11 12:48 AM
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Wouldn't that go against what the OP wants though? That he can keep "secrets".
/r/seduction20/12/11 12:02 AM
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Shallower girls won't put out easier. They will be easier to impress and attract which indirectly means that you might not have to work very hard to get in bed with them. Good too, since it's quite boring to spend time with someone who's shallow. Just because a girl starts talking about sex early in the conversation doesn't mean she's shallow. That just means she's sexually liberated. And it doesn't definitively mean that you will be able to bed her the same night either.
/r/seduction19/12/11 08:21 PM
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I didn't come up with the other phrasing. You did. Stay awesome.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:58 PM
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I think the part I don't like is that you're saying that if there's nothing around that corner, then your day isn't good. "You are always one close away from a good day." Like I said above, reframing your mindset is better. Like you said, "I could walk around the corner and completely change my day." That's a better frame. Always look forward to good things but don't rely on them to have a good time.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:48 PM
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You're basically asking us to tell you how to be better with women. Go through the sidebar.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:34 PM
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Physical escalation. Nothing tells a guy a girl is interested in him more than her touching him even when it's unnecessary. Or you could just do what I like, go to him and tell him you like him. Also, this belongs in AskSeddit.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:32 PM
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What? Some more explanation please.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:30 PM
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Frame everything in a positive manner. Change, "You're cute, you're just not my type" to "You're really fun. I wish you were my type" and you're good to go.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:29 PM
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Talk about it. Sex. Not that you're great at keeping secrets and don't lead women on.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:25 PM
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Reframe your mindset. Like Curveball stated, you shouldn't base the success of your day on whether you close or not. We strive to be as outcome independent as we can and if you walk around with this mindset, you're hurting yourself.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:24 PM
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I don't think you should set low expectations just so you're not disappointed if you fail. Instead, train yourself to not be negative even if the results of some endeavor don't meet your expectations.
/r/seduction19/12/11 07:22 PM
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He's not asking about what to wear to what event. He's asking about what to wear to attract certain types of girls. Which is the wrong way of approaching pick up. Don't be sucked into others realities. Have them step into yours.
/r/seduction19/12/11 06:49 PM
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By being shallow yourself. The more important question here is do you REALLY want to attract shallow girls? And if yes, why?
/r/seduction19/12/11 06:47 PM
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No no no. You don't dress to attract certain types of girls. You dress to accentuate your personality which makes you more attractive to all types of girls.
/r/seduction19/12/11 05:53 PM
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That sucks man. That's quite stupid.
/r/seduction19/12/11 04:05 PM
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I go out of my way There's your problem.
/r/seduction19/12/11 10:37 AM
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The police is a bit more lax here. And the judicial system is also a bit more straight edged. I won't be branded a criminal for self defense.
/r/seduction19/12/11 10:35 AM
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Go through this. http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf
/r/seduction19/12/11 09:49 AM
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I respectfully disagree. That's not something I would advise. It's not good practice to let someone else's reality overpower yours. It's not about gaining something tangible like sex with the girl. More about developing yourself. It might get you in trouble sometimes. Hell, it most definitely will. But in the end, it's for the better.
/r/seduction19/12/11 09:43 AM
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Lets just talk about a guy coming over. You engage him as soon as he comes, introduce yourself, etc. Be friendly, disarm him, then find out how he and the girl know each other. "You guys seem close. How do you know each other?" "Are you guys like cousins or something? You seem really close.", etc. Now, if you find out he's the boyfriend, then you've got to eject anyway. Stay for a while, have fun, and then eject to find another girl. Now lets say a guy comes over angrily and mutters that he's th…
/r/seduction19/12/11 12:56 AM
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Physical escalation.
/r/seduction18/12/11 11:27 PM
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Context>Work>Leisure Talk about what you're doing, then what you do, and finally what you like to do. Try to drive the conversation to topics you're comfortable talking about and try to relate to all her replies before asking another question. In bar/club settings, you can get away with talking about pretty much everything. Stay away from work related topics. Your goal should be amusing yourself.
/r/seduction18/12/11 08:15 PM
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Have you thought about what exactly makes you anxious about approaching a strange girl? For most people it's usually fear of rejection, fear of judgement by others watching, fear of her boyfriend hitting them, etc. So when they force themselves to approach regularly, they realize that they don't need to be afraid of these things and this generally tends to get rid of AA for them. But you've already tried approaching over and over so your problem might be something else. So think about it for a w…
/r/seduction18/12/11 07:47 PM
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Lets see. When my friend joined me at the first set, I DHVd him with the introduction which lent me social proof as well. We made fun of my "clumsiness" (they pushed me at the set and I almost fell down). This moved to them saying I could be drunk. And then there was some banter about male vs female drinking capacity. Around this time, we moved to our table. Then I don't remember many specifics. We all talked about some stories of ours and vice versa. Then me and my two buddies kinda isolated th…
/r/seduction18/12/11 07:04 PM
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I can't really blame him though. I mean here he and his friends were hitting on two girls and all of a sudden one of the guys from the group pulls him away and takes him to another group of girls where both of them are blown out. Basically, I metad his flirting with my friend so in his head that's when he lost his chances with my friend and then on top of that I went ahead and "made a fool of him" with another set. I think I would've been pretty pissed if someone did this to me 2 years ago too.
/r/seduction18/12/11 06:51 PM
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I think you missed the point and I wouldn't even respond to your comment because it's unnecessarily negative but since some other people also sort of missed the point, I thought I'd explain myself. The fight sucked. Period. We got hurt, the girls got unnecessarily shaken up, and we were all pretty much pushed out of state. Half of us wanted to end the night and go back home. That's not flying with me. I'm not going to let some drunk monkeys spoil my night. So I sort of treated it like another sm…
/r/seduction18/12/11 03:14 PM
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It doesn't. When I say we had some bruises to celebrate it, I don't mean that we were actually celebrating. Just an attempt at humor. When I say my friend was a giant pussy, I'm just fucking around. He was actually not even there. He'd gone to get his car. The fight was not fun, it hurt, and it almost spoiled the whole night for us. The whole point with me treating it as something "fun" was that it kept us in state and in the mood to continue on with the night.
/r/seduction18/12/11 03:07 PM
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It definitely helped. But I generally always put having fun above meeting girls so I'm never really worried.
/r/seduction18/12/11 08:41 AM
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If you're worried about something being beta, then you should look to the core since that mere act is beta in itself.
/r/seduction18/12/11 12:09 AM
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I still don't know exactly. However, I did find an open can of paint in my parking lot next to my car.
/r/seduction17/12/11 06:35 PM
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Models is by Mark Manson. He even did an IAMA on seddit. Check it out.
/r/seduction17/12/11 06:20 PM
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Models is the best one out there. Mystery method everyone should check out just because it lays out the foundations pretty well. Attraction code by Di Carlo is very good too. But yeah, Models is a must.
/r/seduction17/12/11 04:53 PM
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I just started reading it a few days back and I've got to say it's the best material out there.
/r/seduction17/12/11 04:04 PM
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Just go out there and do it. Before asking someone a question, always go out and try it out for yourself. If people are not taking you seriously, it's not just the fault of your height. You can't just blame specific parts of yourself. You as a whole should be attractive. Work on your strong suits, minimize your weak suits. But most importantly, go out there and do it.
/r/seduction14/12/11 09:09 PM
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Kudos to you. Good work. You took your first step. But this is really not worth making a post in seddit about. MODs should think about making a thank you thread.
/r/seduction14/12/11 09:05 PM
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Worry about noone but yourself.
/r/seduction14/12/11 09:03 PM
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You never need a reason to follow your heart. But this isn't what your heart wants. You've just created a perfect mental image of this girl which is unhealthy and unhelpful to you. But lets keep all that away for one second. Say she's what your heart really wants so how can this subreddit help you? Seduction is about getting better with women in general, not getting a specific woman. You can learn how to get better with women. Start with the sidebar. Get out and meet new girls. Have sex with a c…
/r/seduction14/12/11 04:01 PM
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Apologies in advance if I come off sounding too hard or a jerk. Wrong wrong wrong wrong. All wrong. Your whole post. It's all shades of wrong. You want to marry this girl? Why? Write the reason down. Why are you depressed because two guys gave her a ride home? Write the reason down. Why EXACTLY will she approve of you? Write the reason down.
/r/seduction14/12/11 12:43 PM
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It's better if you frequent the workplace. 2-3 visits in a week familiarizes her well enough with you and hopefully builds up enough attraction and comfort for you be able to pull a successful #close. 4th or 5th visit. After talking for a while, tell her you have fun talking to her and would like to do so outside of her work too. Make plans for some day 2 and go for the # close.
/r/seduction14/12/11 12:31 AM
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My game with the weed girl was bad all after I brought her to my friends so I couldn't have even escalated if I wanted. 3rd and 4th probably, but I don't think I would've been comfortable standing at the stall and taking their time like that when they have other customers to serve too. 1st girl I definitely should've. And probably tried to make her stay too.
/r/seduction13/12/11 08:29 PM
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The first one, if I could get the girl to stay; things could've escalated but I couldn't. My plan is just to try and set up a Day 2 with her next week. The second one, I just didn't play right. After getting her to my friends, I sort of got more busy with my friends. Happens a lot. I have great love for my friends and I've never been able to give much attention to a girl when my friends are there. I should've instead used my friends for social proof and comfort building and isolated her. I might…
/r/seduction13/12/11 06:47 PM
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Well, yes and no. I am focusing more on getting numbers. Mostly cause I've been out of the game for the past 2 months and just want to get pumped up again. Doing a 100 set challenge for #closes right now. http://www.reddit.com/r/100sets/comments/nauht/marco_100_set_challenge_closes/ But no too, as in I would definitely have pursued the stuff more if I thought the atmosphere was right. First one had to leave so nothing doing there. 2nd one, I didn't isolate so there wasn't much there. 3rd and 4th…
/r/seduction13/12/11 06:43 PM
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"I break into places."
/r/seduction12/12/11 07:09 PM
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3 months ago?? I was a sedditor back then. How do I not know all this?
/r/seduction12/12/11 06:50 PM
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It's happened before?
/r/seduction12/12/11 05:34 PM
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Haha, that would be wonderful.
/r/seduction12/12/11 02:46 PM
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Make sure the first "new" contact you make (touching a new part of the female's body) is unlingering. Touch but let go. Escalation is not just about where to touch but how to touch.
/r/seduction05/12/11 04:26 PM
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"I hit balls."
/r/seduction03/12/11 10:08 AM
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Pretty much, yeah. Just trying to remind people that this isn't a magic bullet or anything. It WILL ramp up attraction but only if you've been handling yourself well enough already.
/r/seduction02/12/11 03:52 PM
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In India, noone has voicemail. It's just something that never picked up here.
/r/seduction01/12/11 03:39 PM
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I've had 100% results the few times I've done this, too. However, it'll work only if she's attracted that much more. And it's not something inexperienced people will have much success with. In the end, numbers don't mean much beyond logistics. It all depends on what you've been doing before the number exchange.
/r/seduction01/12/11 03:34 PM
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askseddit
/r/seduction30/11/11 02:52 AM
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Askseddit.
/r/seduction30/11/11 02:44 AM
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I'd like to read that.
/r/seduction29/11/11 09:13 PM
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There is something about this in the sidebar, if I remember correctly.
/r/seduction26/11/11 02:19 AM
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That depends on how much you've already escalated physically with the female. Chances are that if you deliver the line properly and successfully change the topic (she might ask, "Why?"), she'll start chasing you.
/r/seduction24/11/11 04:08 PM
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This. Giving the LJBF speech has one of two results: You've friendzoned her. You're over her. Done. It tends to make the girl question why you don't want her anymore. Probably might lead to her chasing you and you f closing that deal. So either way, you're good. DISCLAIMER: By you, I refer to the OP.
/r/seduction24/11/11 04:03 PM
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Give the ljbf to the oneitis. "i'm so glad we're just friends" and then change topic.
/r/seduction24/11/11 11:47 AM
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Cheat code. Context > Work > Leisure Things to talk about. First talk about context. Relate to her replies. Move onto work. Then leisure. Don't use this during night game though. Not as good.
/r/seduction23/11/11 01:45 AM
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It's a shit test.
/r/seduction23/11/11 01:40 AM
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Whenever I was about to put my hands in my pocket, I'd feel my ring between my index and ring fingers and it'd remind me.
/r/seduction22/11/11 02:32 PM
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Wearing a ring helped me.
/r/seduction21/11/11 08:33 AM
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I watched one episode and really didn't like it. The participants kind of sucked and the whole constraints of the game were stupid.
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:38 PM
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I'd like to slightly disagree here. From my personal experience, it can be more effective if you pull it off well. A gentle touch on the arm, and hey like you're greeting an old friend works good. But if she's walking, then don't walk next to her after doing this. Just stop and wait for her to stop.
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:32 PM
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How you behave.
/r/seduction14/11/11 02:17 PM
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Is he a really old friend of yours? I'm definitely not as forgiving or empathetic person as you, because I would've stopped hanging out with such a negative person long ago. Here's a trick that I used to get my now ex into therapy. Don't refer to it as therapy. Refer to it as counseling. Honestly, the only thing that can change a person is if he/she decides to do it him/herself. The whole point of therapy is just to get that person to realize it and take action. Your friend has deeper problems t…
/r/seduction11/11/11 01:16 PM
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No offense but your friend does NOT sound like he really wants it. He also sounds like a very bitter person who blames everyone else for his problems. Intervention and/or therapy, he needs.
/r/seduction10/11/11 09:35 PM
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Yep. Check it out for yourself.
/r/seduction10/11/11 07:51 PM
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There is a seddit IRC. Check it out. It's there on the sidebar.
/r/seduction10/11/11 06:36 PM
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Agreed. My question wasn't aimed at your whole post. Just this. This is something I need to work on, as I'm very excited about when I succeed (or want validation when I fail that it was totally not my fault and the girl is acting strange).
/r/seduction10/11/11 06:36 PM
2

So is it really that hard? In which case you could wear something to remind you of not talking about it.
/r/seduction10/11/11 05:16 PM
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Is it really that hard to not tell people about how many girls you're getting? I'm genuinely curious cause all you have to do is not talk about it. Catch yourself a few times and I'm pretty sure you'll stop within a few days.
/r/seduction10/11/11 04:45 PM
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This. Bitches can wait.
/r/seduction09/11/11 02:38 PM
1

Don't waste time on looking for IOIs. A lot of girls become shy and don't give any. And a lot of girls give fake IOIs. Instead, just look for IODs and windows of opportunities.
/r/seduction09/11/11 03:14 AM
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Noone's trying to bring the "Game" to r/MensRights. If people are interested in "game", they are welcome over at r/seduction. I think the point of this post is that the members of r/MensRights shouldn't be so antagonistic towards "Game", especially when they're pretty much ignorant to what it's about. It's like holding anyone who wears a turban responsible for 9/11.
/r/MensRights26/10/11 01:40 PM
1

The problem I think you have with game is that you have an opinion of it while simultaneously being ignorant of it. What you say your problem is something which is inherently discouraged in game. Almost all people biased against game are just ignorant of what it's actually about and/or unwilling to find out about it. Some of them latch onto their hate against it because it makes them feel like they suck with women because of their own choice. They're just afraid to better themselves and use thei…
/r/MensRights26/10/11 05:05 AM
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Repost this in askseddit.
/r/seduction21/10/11 02:11 AM
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Not to sound negative but it's probably not true. You might be very good with social circle game but that doesn't necessarily mean that if you conquer your AA, you'll be extremely successful doing cold approaches as well. The thing is that Social Circle game is generally slower than starting with cold approach. A better way to frame this would be that you can AFFORD to be slow. If you're a naturally attractive person, then chances are that most girls your friends introduce you to will be incline…
/r/seduction19/10/11 02:14 PM
1

I'm a chain smoker so next time this happens, I'll try this line out. Seems good.
/r/seduction19/10/11 11:28 AM
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It can be fun. If I go out with guys who are alien to picking up, I usually have female friends in my group. Helps with social proof and it's also one to integrate your group into other groups.
/r/seduction17/10/11 10:49 AM
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I had the same problem a few years ago. I got over the big group problem by going out with various groups of friends of mine where I was the mutual friend. So my band buddies, few of my school friends, few others, etc. As for one-on-one, just go out more and you'll become comfortable.
/r/seduction16/10/11 05:54 AM
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Try to understand windows of opportunities instead. Don't waste time looking for IOIs, just assume attraction.
/r/seduction16/10/11 03:31 AM
1

Honestly? Girls do care about how physically attractive a guy is. And they'll immediately be more attracted to a better looking guy. However, that's where it stops. Looks are a very minor part of the equation. Unless you're drop dead gorgeous, it's not going to give you that much of a boost.
/r/seduction15/10/11 08:38 PM
1

Not always. I generally only tell these stories if it's related to what we're talking about. But these are my 5 favorite stories. Car broke on highway. Ate weed. Woke up in nowhere alone. Fight with 5 guys. Friend ran away. Old lady threw pots. Almost died while rock climbing. Broke elbow. Lost weed. Destroyed speakers while performing. Fucked up power to whole fest. Kidnapped Friend. Runaway friend. Car chase with cops. Accident. Bonus: And the one time my friends tied me up and left me alone a…
/r/seduction15/10/11 06:10 PM
1

That's what I thought. In situations like this, you'll probably not end up having sex unless you're at a house party and can secure a room for yourselves. Anything else requires you to bounce to another place where seduction is possible. However, for that the girl must be attracted to you and if you're bouncing to your home then you must have qualified her as well (so that her attraction towards you doesn't dwindle) and built up comfort so she feels comfortable coming to your pad.
/r/seduction14/10/11 06:23 PM
2

Qualifying basically is the process through which you convey your interest in the girl to her. For instance, I build up attraction with a girl. So now she's into me. But why am I into her? She needs to feel comfortable that I like her for things besides just her looks and for this, I qualify her. This is the basic principle of qualifying. Of course, qualifying is best used when you ACTUALLY want the girl to qualify herself. i.e. At some point of time in your PUA life, you'll start looking for qu…
/r/seduction14/10/11 05:24 PM
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Congratulations! Your posts and comments have always been very insightful. Looking forward to your tenure here.
/r/seduction14/10/11 04:39 PM
1

Yeah, you did good with the kino and attraction. No qualification and comfort though. You directly moved onto seduction but in a place where it wouldn't be advised. Good work with the finger close but you'll be lucky if you can get things further with this girl.
/r/seduction14/10/11 04:38 PM
2

That's exactly what fast talking signifies. Which is why it's better to slow down. But if you aren't comfortable when you're talking slowly, then your body language is going to suck. In which case, you'd rather be comfortable and have good body language. Either way, I believe it's really easy to slow down the pace of your speech. Practice for 5 minutes in front of a mirror everyday and wear something that can remind you, eg: wear a band or a ring and everytime you look at it in social situations…
/r/seduction13/10/11 06:01 PM
2

"You're interrupting my make out session." The good thing in this line is the insinuation that the girl is interrupting something you're doing. The bad thing is the "make out session" part. Don't get me wrong. It can be a funny line when talking to some women. But at an average, unless you've built good attraction and comfort with a girl, she'll probably be confused by this reply. Generally speaking, if I'm going to use a "You're interrupting me" line, I make the activity sound ludicrous so she …
/r/seduction13/10/11 07:16 AM
2

I agree.
/r/seduction12/10/11 02:24 PM
3

If slowing down and lowering the pitch of your voice is uncomfortable to you even after practicing in front of a mirror everyday, then just stick to your 'natural' voice. Being comfortable is much more important.
/r/seduction12/10/11 02:05 PM
1

Next time point them over to r/seduction?
/r/seduction12/10/11 04:03 AM
1

If you tell them you're not interested, it'll actually be better for them. EDIT: They might refer to you as a bitch though. But yeah, it'll still help them more.
/r/seduction11/10/11 08:04 PM
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Okay, first thing you need to do is read the links in the sidebar of this subreddit and then go through as many of the Top rated (of all time) posts that you can.
/r/seduction11/10/11 08:03 PM
1

Indian guy here and I'm fairly certain it's not much of a problem. Check out Simple Pickup on youtube. Group of three guys who have this channel where they release episodes about getting girls' numbers with some rule (like using lines from WWE, internet memes, in a wheelchair, etc) and giving tips about pickup. You can see they've got game and get laid quite often. One of them is Indian.
/r/seduction10/10/11 08:40 PM
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Don't wait for a Friday at least. Worst time to engage hot girls over phone/texts. You should've started messaging her while you were with her to establish momentum. However, don't wait too long. Message the next day. Something like, "Me and my friends doing X at Y. Come join us/play."
/r/seduction10/10/11 04:14 AM
1

Quite a similar experience for me too. However, I was drunk too so I didn't really mind. Not that sober me would've minded it at that time either.
/r/seduction10/10/11 04:12 AM
3

Well then it's the wrong way to go about it. And I'm not sure that's what the OP means either. Just wanting a hotter girl to be your girlfriend is merely objectifying her. How can you want her for anything more than sex when you know nothing about her besides how she looks?
/r/seduction07/10/11 07:20 PM
6

Open the first set you see with girls in it. Approach a set within 3 seconds of noticing it. Open at least 10 sets. EDIT: Don't forget to update us on how it went.
/r/seduction07/10/11 07:08 PM
1

Kind of a strange question. How can you know you're potentially going to date a girl BEFORE your opening game? It's only after you're in the Attraction stage that you can even see the slightest potential of dating her and you certainly wouldn't be sure until well into the Comfort stage.
/r/seduction07/10/11 07:04 PM
2

Make eye contact with the one you want to talk to, smile, and wave. Gesture if she'd like to talk. If she nods, start talking and try to get her to a corner or out for a smoke.
/r/seduction03/10/11 07:35 PM
4

Yes, you start qualifying her and building comfort. But that doesn't mean you stop on the attraction front. Push/pull cause that builds up great sexual tension. Basically, just enjoy and have fun. Keep screening and qualifying and moving that into rapport building, and then make the talk light again with a small joke to keep attraction up. Eg: You ask her if she likes cats. She says yes and that she had one. So you relate to that and tell her you also had a kitten and how much you loved it. And …
/r/seduction03/10/11 07:29 PM
34

If you start of sitting across, mumble something. When she can't understand you, just get up and go sit next to her.
/r/seduction01/10/11 08:55 PM
7

Good work! You should also start approaching everyone. Not just pretty girls. It'll make you more confident. Also, try starting conversations with strangers when you're engaged in something. Like lunch, parking your bike, etc. Basically try to keep some of your attention away from the interaction. It may help you not get anxious.
/r/seduction01/10/11 06:38 PM
1

Don't fret about it. There'll be many more.
/r/seduction01/10/11 06:21 PM
1

Assuming your game was good, I think UG was into you and HB backed off. She didn't mind. When you went to the bathroom, UG probably made it clear she liked you.
/r/seduction01/10/11 06:16 PM
1

From what I can gather, I'm fairly certain you didn't build up enough comfort. Did you build much rapport with her? Create that 'us vs world' frame, etc?
/r/seduction01/10/11 06:09 PM
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This makes sense. Someone contact the MODs about this.
/r/seduction01/10/11 06:03 PM
1

I mean no offense but I think certain plans work better. It shows you're a decisive individual who doesn't need her approval to have fun. "Maybe we can get together next week." sounds almost like asking for permission. On the other hand, "I'm going rock climbing next week. It's a lot of fun. You should join me." sounds much better. Sets the frame that you're giving her the opportunity to enjoy your company.
/r/seduction01/10/11 04:49 AM
4

Sounds like she does have a boyfriend. Irrelevant though. The thing to note here is that you've taken the first step towards mastering PUA and a rejection didn't get you down.
/r/seduction01/10/11 04:39 AM
2

Would it be bad if I crossposted some of those comments to r/firstworldproblems?
/r/seduction30/09/11 08:32 PM
1

What do I define success with women? In general or any specific woman? In general, I'd say I'll be successful with women when I can go out any day of the week and f close a girl that I like. However, that's just a goal that I've set for myself. And not towards any specific woman. Basically, success means achieving a goal. So before you can gauge how successful you are with women, you need to set a goal for yourself. So, I think it would help you more if you think about what you want exactly from…
/r/seduction30/09/11 06:41 PM
1

It doesn't sound like she's trying to use you. Especially because she has invited a friend along. Her friend can "gauge" you. Basically, she's into you but wants a friend's opinion and this is an easy opportunity to do so. She's not exactly comfortable with just the two of you having lunch alone. It could be either because she doesn't want it to look like she's on a date or that you haven't built up enough comfort yet. She just likes doing things with her friend. I say don't cancel. Go, have lun…
/r/seduction30/09/11 06:34 PM
1

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to imply you just made up all this without any field tests. My implication was merely that while this works for you, how certain are you that it'll work for others as well? For all we know, you might be extremely good looking, which in my experience makes going through the Emotional Progression Model much easier for reasons quite obvious. Besides this, I was just questioning how this is so much better than the Emotional Progression Model + DiCarlo Escalation Ladder that …
/r/seduction30/09/11 06:08 PM
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Nay for me. Don't just forget about her though. I think she might need a friend. Sleeping with her to me sounds almost like taking advantage of her. But then again, I don't know the whole context. But yeah, nay.
/r/seduction30/09/11 11:55 AM
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I think the normal Emotional Progression Model and DiCarlo Escalation Ladder have been serving me well enough. I'm not sure I see the advantage to your method. Have people besides you gone ahead and tried it out?
/r/seduction30/09/11 11:51 AM
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The activities you've mentioned should work enough. If you also practice some hobby like sculpting, painting, woodworking, etc; you can invite her to see those. eg: In my initial meeting with the girl, I'll bring up that I play the guitar or sketch very well and which generally results in the girl asking to see me play or check out my sketches. An easy way to invite them over. How to have sex with them once they're over doesn't depend on the activity much. If you've built up enough attraction an…
/r/seduction29/09/11 07:26 AM
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First things first. Relax. You own this. Don't go into this trying to impress her. You're going on a date with her to see if she's "good enough" for you. Whether you find her interesting, fun, etc. Your goal for the date should be to have fun and find out about the girl. Don't think about sex, kissing, etc. Just relax, have fun.
/r/seduction29/09/11 05:34 AM
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Don't text just for the sake of texting. Read the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone game. Also, check out chasegirls blog. He has some good pointers in some articles.
/r/seduction26/09/11 01:18 AM
1

I'm generally into progressive rock but when I'm about to hit a club or pick up chicks, I like to listen to Around the World - Daft Punk, I'm Yours - Jason Mraz, Sleep Together - Porcupine Tree. In fact, I listen to at least these three songs before I go sarging.
/r/seduction20/09/11 09:20 PM
1

Try to stay in control. I had the same problem.
/r/seduction20/09/11 08:53 PM
1

Do you generally go out to clubs or bars? And if you do, do you make eye contact with the guys there? Maybe smile at them? Look around for confident guys who're having fun, make eye contact with them and smile. Unless they're retarded, they'll approach. If I make eye contact with a pretty girl in a club, I'll almost certainly approach. Unless I'm lazy or not looking to hook up, in which case I only approach if I notice something about them that I like.
/r/seduction20/09/11 12:14 PM
1

After first reading your post, it just seemed to me like a shit test. Just blow it off or something. Or agree and amplify maybe?
/r/seduction20/09/11 04:02 AM
2

Loled at Ramen.
/r/seduction20/09/11 03:40 AM
1

Ai, let us get to know each other. Then we shall be friends and you can come here and sarge with me.
/r/seduction19/09/11 04:31 PM
2

I've never been to Hyderabad. I've lived in Delhi and Bangalore though and meeting new women is quite easy here. For now, I can just advise you to meet MORE girls at once. Maybe that'll help you not get obsessed with a single one. But hit me up anytime you come to Bangalore. It's not that far away.
/r/seduction16/09/11 05:56 AM
1

Makes sense. The only reason I didn't do it because of predicting some social pressure considering the girl was apparently a friend of one of my good friends. Next time I see her. Apparently she frequents that pub a lot.
/r/seduction14/09/11 01:13 PM
1

I hate wearing sunglasses on the street because I like to make it clear when I'm making eye contact. I hadn't actually considered what you just mentioned in your post.
/r/seduction14/09/11 12:22 AM
1

Google Plus is going to be pretty useful.
/r/seduction13/09/11 10:52 PM
2

Maybe I'm completely wrong but it sounds like your buddy cockblocked (intentionally or unintentionally) you or something. Maybe he told the girl he was gaming something about you (fiction or non) and that girl informed on you to the girl you were gaming.
/r/seduction11/09/11 09:20 AM
3

Yeah, I do this quite a bit. I often forget to smile though if the girl isn't pretty and that sometimes makes people think I'm scary.
/r/seduction26/08/11 09:29 AM
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