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| 16 | BuT DiD YoU CoMmUniCaTE??Too much communication about expectations is suffocating. It leaves no room for free will, and can feel quite manipulative. Omg this had literally always bothered me with "Are they supposed to read your mind??" posts. No but they have eyes and the power of inference? Me telling anyone exactly what to do and enforcing exacting requirements makes me feel like a mom and makes me lose respect AND attraction, immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:12 PM |
| 5 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!Probably engagementrings or weddingplanning | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:46 PM |
| 247 | Purposefully doing things to drive up his gf’s utility bill…I thought I read it all 🤦🏼♀️ (repost!)Literally gaslighting lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 01:30 AM |
| 34 | OLD Men that use nicknames / different alphabets when they don't speak that languageI agree on the German ladies part. When I lived there, it was suuuuuper rare to see Turkish men with non-Turkish women, just cause it was so well-known how those men would pump-and-dump non-Turkish women. They also hated Turkish women when they got non-Turkish boyfriends. HM I wonder why!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:59 PM |
| 75 | Do men understand the difference between flirting and being friendly?I think men's entitlement over women lets them interpret friendliness as flirtation. Because if they believe that women have a duty to find them attractive, then she's just "carrying out her duty" to be soliciting male attention, right? You don't see this with men cause men don't think other men are obliged to find them fuckable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:51 PM |
| 6 | How the Big Business of Divorce Benefits Men.... Please read ladies and realize that many lies have been spread about how men are "divorce r*ped" and taken to the cleaners. However the data shows something completely different.What the hell is divorce rape. Rape implies an unwanted assault and divorce is literally a legal contract. They agreed to this, this isn't legal "rape" no matter Hot you cut it. Ugh it just shows how men don't know the first thing about what it's like to be a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?Haha I feel you on the Western cheapnesss. Basically every other culture loves gold and absolutely sees it as something of worth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:40 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?I'd want something max 3k BUT for that and every subsequent year I'd expect at the bare minimum my IRA and 401k maxed out. Just saying, jewelry depreciates, index funds appreciate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:28 PM |
| 11 | The sign reads “Convince my boyfriend to propose to me.” Harry: How long have you guys been together? Her: 7 Years. Harry: I can’t help you.I did read He's Just Not That Into You and I agree it's fantastic as well as entertaining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:23 PM |
| 28 | When friends enjoy the circus 🤡Pickmes will refuse to see the light until they actively choose to so after I've felt like I've listened to their woes enough, given gentle advice, given RATIONAL advice... then it's their turn to do themselves. Pickmes will literally FIGHT you on how their man is amazing and then cry to you about them in the same conversation. It's not worth it. One of my family members is going through a rocky relationship right and and I've done the above. Shrug emoji at this point. Life is too short to worry… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:48 PM |
| 6 | Marcus Aurelius' Meditations: FDS in DisguiseHonestly, this exactly. I did a reddit search for something random and there was a post on the book When I say No, I Feel Guilty - on self improvement of self esteem, assertiveness, etc. Guess what the Redpillers did? Used it as a framework to manipulate women in relationships. Ugh I just can't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:13 AM |
| 23 | Study founds that cohabitation between a pre-martial couple brings short-term benefits but is more associate with divorce in the long-term.Hi, that was me! I deleted the post because I accidentally shared a graphic and didn't want it connected to my reddit in case it leaked. Yes, I'm paranoid. But almost the info came from here: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/11/06/marriage-and-cohabitation-in-the-u-s/ I did have a statistic from another paper that I couldn't find but it was basically, men like the convenience of having a bangmaid and women think they'll get married. Sigh, sociology is depressing sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 01:59 AM |
| 26 | Help having discussions around money / career with current partnerIf he is already 35 and has no plan for the future, when do you think he will? 40? 35? 65? You are young and have not been dating for very long. I'm sorry, but please cut your losses at this point. You do NOT want to be the one bearing the burden of financial planning. In the future, it would most likely spoil any happiness you have if you resent him for making you shoulder it by being incompetent. There are lots of great people in the world so don't have the scarcity mindset of sticking with so… | /r/askFDS | 31/08/21 01:40 PM |
| 7 | The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has goneSomeone that was courting me asked me what I would theoretically want as an engagement ring, price wise. I said 1,5-3,5k but also my IRA maxed out for the year. He said... "that's it?? At least choose 401k, it's 19,500k". I laughed and said that's true, maybe 30k in mutual funds then. Yeah. Cheap men who don't about you will complain about every Penny they think they are entitled to but have to give to you due to the benefits they get from your presence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 28 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 23 - Examining Communication Dynamics between Men & WomenYes. I recommend Running on Empty and The Happiness trap for overcoming emotional issue based in childhood (former) and emotional control/acceptance therapy (latter). Not saying you have deep childhood trauma but the reprogramming they recommended is applicable to everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:16 AM |
| 16 | Submit your Handbook Recs!Why casual sex is not worth it https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lqauyq/debunking_male_reasoning_why_casual_sex_is/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:53 AM |
| 20 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorPlease DM me if you ever want scientific articles. I have access :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:14 AM |
| 27 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 22 - Judge Lynn Toler Holds Court with The QueensI agree. Housing prices in Germany and Netherlands are insane too and people will move in after like... 4 weeks together to save on RENT, never mind a house! It's contributing to women not being able to be independent in case of a breakup and thus leading to them not breaking up. People don't even bother getting married to have kids here, they're not gonna bother when buying a house either. Ask me how I know lol. One abusive ex tried to pin double rent on me after I found a second place, knowing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:13 PM |
| 26 | Need help dealing with anger.I redirected my anger into exercise. If I couldn't life something I would think about how he undermined me and suddenly, deadlift was no problem. Or running for the meditative rhythm. The anger will propell you into a new direction and I can say that eventually... you'll have found peace. After accountability is self-forgiveness and love and brighter futures. I forgave myself because in the end...there's no one to dependably love me but myself and I'll be damned if I die feeling bad. (And maybe … | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 12:47 PM |
| 36 | Just how out of line was my friend? Trying to apply FDS guidelines to my friendshipsShe's projecting, 100%. I have friends that have done this in the past and I generally put them on the back burner in terms of investment for this. It's a form of negging, essentially, because they acknowledge that you are at a certain level at X but they are MORE, so you are lower tier. They get zero effort from me anymore. Ideally I'd block but sometimes it's not possible socially so just roll with it. Your friend may be in a vulnerable place because she's feeling iffy about her work but that'… | /r/askFDS | 04/08/21 11:17 AM |
| 7 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.At this point I just wanna tell him to fuck off & block him. The only thing he seems to do is agree with everything I say and that’s it. That’s bullshit that I dont want to deal with. I created the oportunity but now I don’t even want him to take it anymore. And he probably won’t. Don't tell him a thing. Just block now with zero explanation. He's going to do some work to appease you and put in the bare minimum after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:49 AM |
| 6 | Male fragility means that a picture of a small sausage in a South Korean ad makes men there feel bad about the size of their genitals. So the answer is getting back at feminists by playing cancel culture towards the supposed companies they work for. (You can't make this shit up!)The birth rate in Korea is like 0.63. Men are literally killing themselves in the long run by making women refuse to have kids. Have fun with that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:20 AM |
| 23 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?Oh, it was due to an international move and conflicting goals in life. I had familial responsibilities to tend to and wanted to grow my career. We were together for a litte under a year and talked of marriage. However, if we were to stay together/marry it still would have meant 5-8 years of long distance before realistic unification. He's an academic in Europe and I am now in industry in the USA - a long-distance relationship for years with perhaps 2x yearly visits if we are lucky? Nah. With cor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:31 PM |
| 12 | On the topic of pick me friends…This episode was so good! "She can't take his money. She can't take emotional support from him. She can't get love from him. The only thing she can have is dick, lots of dick. Instead she'll take all of that other stuff from you and hang you out to dry because you are disposable." Mic drop. This is brutally honest. And hence why I let people who like suffer, suffer on their own now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:06 AM |
| 45 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?My libido died after my breakup with my HV-traited ex. He didn't watch porn. He supported me 100%. He gave awesome massages, cuddles and we couldn't keep from affectionately touching each other. Dang I was so horny all the time with him! We had amazing times in bed together. Now? Now that I look and see men leering at me and knowing that they're porn addicts? Or knowing that they may not even wash properly? Nah, I have rechargeable batteries right at home that won't gross me out and give me STDs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:04 AM |
| 108 | Do you think childfree men are less inclined to provide or less or more likely to be HV than non-childfree men?It depends on the man. A LV CF man will use this reasoning to treat you worse. A LV man will treat you worse anyway, even if he's not CF. A HVM will treat you well in general. Get the idea? Men benefit so much more from relationships than women. Less stress, better mental health, better job opportunities, better finances. That does not change whether they want children or not. Your gut feeling is right. You are not a man who happens to be in a female body and you shouldn't be treated like one. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:57 AM |
| 0 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?The contrast between a good boyfriend and a bad one is like night and day. One year I had moved to a different city to do my doctorate. I was miserable, being away from him and my friends, living in a shitty flatshare, I didn't even like my doctorate topic all that much. So I needed support. I told him that I would like it if he texted more, because we couldn't see each other so often. Immediately he says "I'm a bad texter! I prefer in-person visits an calls and skype!"..... well we had incompat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?I have never had This happen and I sometimes sleep with minimal clothing. My ex bf slept in pajamas and had nothing happen. Also he didn't stink too high heaven after sleeping! Dang this is weird!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 06:38 AM |
| 15 | looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behaviorOh boy this comes up so much. With one ex, we were goofing around and I said that I'd love to learn French because I'm a huge language nerd. (I am fluent in a handful already). So he pulls out his old HIGH SCHOOL French workbooks out and I leaf through. It's easy to read French if you're fluent in any other Latin language and English lmao but he was so pissed that I could just "magically" read French and he took 5 years and still can't speak it. When we broke up he said "You would never have lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:00 PM |
| 497 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight."Perez Maurice, 36, has been dating Saucedo for 17 years. Saucedo reportedly didn't think about proposing until the night before the match, according to USA Today. He said he was only planning to propose if Perez Maurice lost, and if she beat Marton, he would wait to propose." I bet he is doing this to psychologically screw with her in the future. "Hey babe, I supported you when you were down, you can't dump me now!". Also, creeeepy 15 year age gap. Unfortunately she accepted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 12 | This is just ridiculous (don't forget to swipe)Yet at the same time other men are praising him for his limp dick problem lmao. Seriously what copium are they huffing?? I'd say something like - "Ok, my man, you have a problem. Stop watching porn NOW if you want a chance to have normal sex at again in the future". It truly is a case of "stop hitting yourselves, men" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mI only have one post for you: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/opg33q/lundy_bancrofts_should_i_stay_or_should_i_go_a/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 09:36 PM |
| 36 | Why waiting makes senseThe thing is, masks can be worn to a certain extent for DECADES even, but... this strategy weeds out men only looking for easy sex - as in easy. Effort, wine and dine for months is not easy and even if it ends at least you got fun out of it! And statistically speaking, it's unlikely for men to not slip up even ONCE in months of dating if they are not genuine. Hence FDS: drop like a hot potato at the first sign of LV behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mThats true, sometimes I wish I could be as private as Rosa Diaz on Brooklyn 99. Erring on the side of angelic would be in my benefit and I'll keep the flaws to "relatable" level, not "incompetent" level. E.g., "Oh, yes, it takes effort to write an a well-marked up script" vs "I can't write an elegant script to save my life!" There is a certain humility expected of women that men are exempt from and that frustrates me. But c'est la vie and I'm going to work on being relatable but high-achieving i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mI had this exact same thought looking at screenshots of relationship drama today. Agree, we don't need that stank on our page. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:11 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mThat is absolutley LV behavior. With my most recent HV ex, I had this exact same conversation and you know how it went? 1) He acknowledged and listened to my feelings and needs 3) Agreed to work on more planning dates and activities to make me happy. That's it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:10 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mI also tend to overshare and this will be good to keep in mind. It's a huge habit I learned from my mom (or just my personality, I don't know!). If I do overshare a bit I will keep it to things that people could only see in a "positive" light - eg, working hard to provide for aging parents, volunteering in free time at animal shelter, some work struggles in a positive way "It can be challenging to write good code, but I perservere!", etc. I mean, people can twist anything to sound like anything … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:08 AM |
| 23 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!To quote Rachel Moran- "You cannot argue for the institution of prostitution without arguing for men's rights to buy their way into women's bodies, and if you argue for women's bodies as products in the service of men, you're not only no feminist; you've yet to discover what the word means." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 09:55 AM |
| 36 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 20 - The Queens Respond to Listener Feedback + Future Plans for FDS!Thank you for the follow-up episode. The part about gender roles was good to hear. When talking about gender roles, masculinity and femininity, it's easy to conflate them with one another. It is so important to keep in mind that gender roles remains an expectation of behavior based on sex, and not on cultural ideas of the power imbalance it usually entails. It's super telling how during the pandemic, women still ended up (and are still!) taking on the vast majority of housework, childcare, plann… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:42 PM |
| -1 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueI have done almost two years of therapy at this point and am a much improved person currently, compared to then. However I see that there is still progress in tells of emotional regulation to be done. Plus getting over childhood trauma. I don't want to feel like my emotions and post control me anymore. I am on my way to earning boatloads more cash. My current financial situation is tied to me supporting my parents for a few years so I'll need money to be financially independent. That needs to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 30 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueI agree. I am also fit and have many talents/hobbies - I'm not going to date someone who can only do 1 thing. HVM exist in all forms - he's going to need to be in *my* form if we are going to work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 7 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueI definitely agree. A very specific group of women I am irritated by are those that complain about their lives but do nothing to change it, or actively do something against positive change. I don't think this behavior is HV and generally, there is a correlation between them being not HV and having LV partners or life circumstances. Being in a higher league means working on getting into AND STAYING in said league! It's hard work! Rewarding, but hard. For example, if a female friend is unhappy in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:34 PM |
| 18 | Can single fathers be HVM?This may be helpful: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/o25od2/guide\_to\_dating\_single\_dads/ | /r/askFDS | 15/07/21 08:07 PM |
| 15 | Why do even high value celebrities have to date scrotes? Dude looks like he hasn’t brushed his teeth for years. Also, there’s a 17-year age difference — He’s 52 while Alexandra Daddario is 35. . She looks beautiful and should have ample options but she goes for this?!Huh could you elaborate on this some more? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 08:55 PM |
| 32 | Reigning in the extreme pick me horror tales - this is not a place to just vent, get sympathy points for tolerating extreme clownery, remain clueless and go back back to being a complete pushover.It is truly sad how obvious it is that many don't bother to read the handbook and just come for the rants again men. FDS may not be one-style-fits-all but some of the CORE tenants, like waiting for sex, the importance of leveling up, etc. are just ignored by posters. It's a very specific way to date and if you don't agree with it, then don't date FDS style! I made a post on not moving with a man before marriage and was surprised that the number of comments along the lines of "well *I and all my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:25 PM |
| 9 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageI showed some statistics but everyone is free to do what they want. I have no idea in your case, but some things popped up. 1) How long have you been together? What are your plans for the future? I'm talking marriage but also life goals and such. If they are incompatible then clearly don't move in. 2) How are you working towards obtaining financial security for yourself? You said you're a waittress and don't make very much. That is a red flag for me because a woman always needs escape money. Unl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 06:51 PM |
| 14 | Need Advice/ EncouragementI feel for you. I broke up recently a really, really sweet man due to logistics and diverging life plans. He has shown consistent HV behavior and even after our breakup has gone out of his way to be respectful and kind to me. He took care of a few things mutual plans that didn't work out and let me know as soon as he did, without initiating further contact so as to not disturb me. Right now I see men coming out of woodwork hitting on me. I'm disgusted and I miss my gentleman more than ever. Howe… | /r/askFDS | 12/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 25 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageDefinitely important to always be vetting, have good boundaries and high standards! Marriage is just one step in an overall relationship picture. The entire process from being asked out, being taken out on thoughtful dates, meeting family, etc etc has to be taken in account. A man can't just say "Hey let's get married" and future-fake to have you move in with him, he has to consistently prove being HV. And yes, it takes time to trust. I'd say that the best defense is basically making it clear fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:15 PM |
| 29 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageI would move in after proposal and wedding date is set and prenup is done. That way if anything Happens it'a not as catastrophic as it could be. This is assuming that the man seems consistently HV anyway. It's not like you don't see his place and see how he lives. A few unexpected (within reason) visits will tell you a lot about the man. This is just one vetting criterion and part of the overall FDS message. The point is, lvm will try to promote a forever girlfriend move in lifestyle and rarely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:43 AM |
| 92 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageI've been there. In my last relationship we were together for 3 years before I proposed to HIM! And guess what! He couldn't even be bothered to plan the wedding that HE wanted - I wanted a courthouse ceremony, period. He saw how stressed and pissed I was planning due to seeing the prices of everything, yet could not even give me a guest list after 6 weeks of me repeatedly asking him to. When we did break up, I asked if he was ready, and he said.... "No". I will never do it again either. Ring on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:15 AM |
| 40 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentGirl didn't we all!! But the future is bright (and shiny and clean cause no man is there to mess it up). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:09 AM |
| 60 | Ikea knows what's upMy HV ex and a good friend of mine assembled ALL the furniture for my place when I moved into my apartment. He looked at the instructions, COUNTED out every little bolt, screw, etc to make sure everything was all there and laid things out in a logical manner before starting. That honestly made me a bit weak in the knees, since we were only in the earlier weeks of dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:53 AM |
| 7 | Proper posture is sexy!I have big breasts and I used to hunch over to make them less noticeable. Or cross my arms. Thanks teenaged boys for this. Now I hold my chest out proud... weightlifting taught me good posture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Proper posture is sexy!I am short myself so I could only wish I were your height. Carry it proud and wear those heels if you want to! From the short side, people say I'm "cute" and "adorable" and it's just ugh when I want to reach things. Good posture helps give me some gravitas indeed. Short or tall, let's be confident in who we are and stand straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 07:57 PM |
| 22 | Deeply difficult brother - what do I do?Start suddenly hanging out more with friends, staying over, etc. and taking on inconvenient job shifts (also yay, more money). You need to study more at the library. Shower at your gym if you have gym membership. Go out more for exercise, go for long walks. Make yourself scarce. If there's any other family you could spend time with do that. Benefits: you'd be making more personal connections that way. Otherwise stay 100% only in your clean room and tell them you're tired from all the studying/wo… | /r/askFDS | 09/07/21 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Exhausted from men at the gymI did Oly style weightlifting a few years ago at a dedicated gym for that, with trainers. mix of 60:40 male:female. Very professional, supportive and overall chill. I move cities and decide to go to an actual public gym gym.... Never have I ever felt so watched and objectified. Men would always tell me what I'm doing wrong ("you can't go that deep in squats! Good mornings will break your back!") Or just leer at my butt/boobs, etc. There was a women's only section and that really helped. Women wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:23 AM |
| 27 | How do I stop feeling miserable about ending things?I read the first sentence and though: please dump this loser. No self-respecting person that is almost thirty would ever consider dating someone as young as you. They see them as basically kids. Men telling you "they don't want to label it" is basically them saying they are not into you. They don't like you enough to want to lock it down! If they cared then they wouldn't want the possiblity of another man being your partner. Keep this in mind for the future. | /r/askFDS | 08/07/21 03:43 PM |
| 99 | My biggest tip: schedule a first date after another event (work event, going out with friends, etc.)Plus you're already in a good mood from having had social interaction and a man has to impress you. You won't be impatiently waiting for his attention at all. And as a being strategy : He can't bring down your mood compared to friends! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:14 PM |
| 10 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 17 - Scrotation Management : The Benefits of Multi-DatingThat's crazy, I'm so sorry it's not possible to delete your Reddit account. Take care of yourself and thanks for the great content on the Patreon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:23 PM |
| 7 | FDS's stance on dating outside of your social classThis is a really good comment and thee second part resonates with me too! Higher degrees mean a lot of investment but at the end of the day a retirement fund doesn't pay for itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:26 AM |
| 4 | FDS's stance on dating outside of your social classThat's a good point. In come cultures class is also social positioning (eg India) and a very real consideration for marriages. Higher social classes provide access to connections and opportunities, which of course leads to more income. And inheritances lol. You are right, 20% isn't a huge difference, just a few promotions away, but I definitely grew up in a very poor family so a 20% boost would have put us over poverty line haha. Class may be more a function of accumulated generational wealth, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 06:07 PM |
| 69 | FDS's stance on dating outside of your social classIt depends on what on means by marrying outside of your social class. If it's in terms of education - then hell no. By next year I'll have 2 Master's (STEM) and a PhD (also STEM) and no, I'm not going to date anyone lower than Master's with stable job and well-earning job for 5+ years. I don't think a man who hasn't been either through the rigours of academia nor well-earning job has anything to add to my life. We should both earn over 6 figures if my starting salary is like 80k, you know? If it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 06:18 AM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 16 - Walk Dates are For Dogs - (feat. Viral Tik Tok Star @Kokobeaute)Subscribe to the Patreon and you can communicate with the producers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:32 PM |
| 29 | Why is someone like you single???I just say "I have really high standards and know what I want and it's not 99% of men I meet". No further explanations on what standards are, etc. Good men will respect it and shitty men will try to talk me down or manipulate me by putting on mask for a bit. But that's easy to see through so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:38 PM |
| 9 | What is FDS’s official stance on online dating? A shift to more productive conversationsWhen I was single I had a full and active life. I went out to museums, theatre, rock climbing, conservatory concerts AS WELL as parties organized by friends. I have never had a problem finding men. Living in the middle of nowhere sucks but maybe that point it may be easier to move to expand dating pool. OLD will suck if the men suck... so there's that. I suppose it may be easier to meet people but it may lead to discouragement because of the quality of people one meets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:36 PM |
| 1 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.I am happy to s ee this post. At some point it started feeling very much WGTOW-y and I thought... y'all.... I'm here to read strategy posts not to hear how shitty men are, I hear this and experience it already! Tahnk you mods for keeping the sub from derailing. If other subs want to be women-only, then dissenters can go and mod it themselves. FDS should be for women who want to date and be in relationships. I second the option of limiting memes, screenshots and Tiktoks to specific days and have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:33 PM |
| 1 | This is Lilith from the FDS Podcast. I'm deleting my Reddit account because I'm tired of misogyny and harassment on Reddit.I'm on the website :) Will be glad to see you there. As always I look forward to your podcast and am a Patron. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:25 PM |
| 33 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.Can confirm. At some point in my childhood (12-13) my mom started earning more than my father after he was laid off and then shit REALLY started to go down. He became more abusive, controlling and forced her to give up her successful business to become a freelance contractor. I don't want my husband to earn less than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:14 PM |
| 201 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️LMAO really, this is against the rules? I just can't. I feel like we should post more HVM-trait content from men just to show that our standards are REASONABLE and REALISTIC. Men absolutely know what to do, now just do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:53 PM |
| 16 | Approaching my self harm scars as a HVW? *potential TW*I too had self arm scars on my upper arms and decided that when I was ready to move on from the trauma, that I would get them tattooed over. And I did ! They are beautiful and I feel that the past is in the past now. | /r/askFDS | 25/05/21 09:45 AM |
| 3 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I just can't. The audacity of him to basically peer pressure you. Gosh he's gone now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:37 AM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I'm definitely interested in the Diamond part! Fascinating, it's not often to hear from industry insiders :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:32 AM |
| 3 | The loneliness of leveling up.I basically transferred my gifting budget to my kitties and they get great food and toys now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:38 PM |
| 14 | The loneliness of leveling up.This is so true. I was a chronic people pleaser and was basically constantly disappointed. I've learned to redirect my generosity to people an beings that deserve it (my parents, my cats). And the extent of the generosity too. I wouldn't have batted an eye at getting a really, really good gift even if were a monetary reach. But now I think... "If we break up/lost contact/etc" tomorrow, would I regret this? Most of the time the answer is "Yes" and I adjust the thing or action I wanted to gift to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:35 PM |
| 9 | If your spouse watches you suffer, then they don't care about you.True that D: I made a comment upthread before reading this lol and let's jsut say mom's wisdom is usually the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 32 | If your spouse watches you suffer, then they don't care about you.That was so low and dirty of your ex and I'm so sorry you had to go through it. Good riddance for breaking up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:24 PM |
| 29 | If your spouse watches you suffer, then they don't care about you.I got mad at my mother for getting mad at my ex bf once. Although he wasn't a straight up LVM, he certainly had a few issues. Maybe MVM or so, or "potential" HV at best. We always got groceries at the store around the corner. Since we went only ~1x a week, groceries got heavy. I, being into sports AND a massive pickme at the time, insisted on taking two heavy bags to "balance things out", and while he seemed uncomfortable about the idea, let me take over. He was skinny and I was obviously fitter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 8 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?The gift that keeps on giving, shares and stocks :) Very smart. I may request this too if I go for a more modest ring. I personally like jewelry so ¿por qué no los dos? I want basically a courthouse wedding and a big dinner for anyone that's interested hahah. I come from a big-wedding culture and it's just... tiring. Nah, and dropping serious cash on a wedding (for other people) is not my style either. Put that money to a house or give it to me in stocks and bonds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 04:57 PM |
| 24 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?Its like im telling the world my future husband has a micropenis for a dck and I love it. I'm dying hahahaha but yea that's how I feel too.... if he can't afford a stone then make something intricate and lovely with the gold! There are so many other options. ....Or you know, just save up and become financially stable before dating. I also agree about a proposal not being a public thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:18 PM |
| 51 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?OMG 70% of their rings were fake? That's just heartbreaking and the teachers must have had egg on their faces.... Oof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:16 PM |
| 56 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?That is so lovely! A ring is symbol of commitment, investment and love, but that doesn't mean it's that object for everyone. How sweet that he's listened to your wants :) Congratulations on the future proposal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 37 | Don’t change your last name for a manI'm Southeast Asian and we don't do it either! It's actually kinda nice in the highly patriarchal culture that both husbands and wives are known by their roles (numbers). So my let's say my dad is Mr. 5th Son and my mom is Ms. 2nd Daughter. Dad can be known as Mr. 5th son , or "husband of Ms. 2nd Daughter". Same for my mom. It just depends on who knew them first, the social relationship takes priority. A good friend of my mom wouldn't call her Ms. 5th-Son's wife, but my father's buddies could ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 09:59 AM |
| 10 | When pickmes compete with each other on who had the most low maintenance first date, engagement ring, wedding, honeymoon etcNo shade on thrifting at all, I love to thrift but a wedding dress isn't the place to prove how not like other women one is. It's a day to cherish and feel happy, not to think about how much cash you saved. If there is a beautiful dress at Goodwill coincidentally, go for it. But for it to be the first place to think of when dress shopping just makes my heart wilt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 115 | When pickmes compete with each other on who had the most low maintenance first date, engagement ring, wedding, honeymoon etcIt's especially bad on Reddit. If your wedding wasn't a backyard BBQ/potluck made of dumpster dived food that took 2 hours to throw together, with a thrifted dress that cost $5 and a bent metal scrap ring - if there was any ring at all because OuR LoVe NeEDs No RiNgS - then you are a gold digger, materialistic person and VERY EVIL and deserve to be dumped. It's just honestly ego defense that leads these poor women to say "it doesn't matter anyway!" as a cope. So much copium! I find that in my cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Share your standards!I am an immigrant to the USA so that made me bilingual:) and learned two languages in high school and college as part of the curriculum. Then I moved to Europe where trilinguality is pretty common so I've been spoiled. It's so nice to be able to watch stuff in OV and discuss cultural snippets from different cultures ! The main/real reason is that knowing languages usually makes a man less close minded. Everything else is a perk. I joke that any child of mine will have a heavy linguistic cross to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:38 PM |
| 7 | Share your standards!My list is pretty long but I'll post the most relevant ones here. MENTAL - emotional availability and self-awareness *HUGE bonus for having been through therapy* - VERY generous/willing to spoil me - goal-oriented and self-motivated -no porn PRACTICAL - not allergic to cats - this ain't gonna fly, I'm a cat person - cooks well - fastidiously clean - MORNING PERSON PERSONHOOD - grad school or trades master with stable job. He's gotta earn at least as much as i do and I plan to make 6 figures. I'm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:11 PM |
| 7 | Share your standards!The smell thing is so true! Some guys just put me off completely through no fault of their own on this point. But that's just compatability then. I also have therapy on my list! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:05 PM |
| 15 | "Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass."This is what it looks like when you have someone with LV habits who is willing to change. I'm not happy that it took me being angry and having to sit him down to explain it all, but I am happy that he responded the way he did. The question is why you are willing to put up with someone with LV habits? He was clearly OK with the way things were (eg, you doing all the work and he not caring) so there's a high chance the mask will slip in ~2-6 weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:50 AM |
| 14 | I would appreciate another point of view, thanks in advanceI want to reiterate what the poster above said: he lied about porn he didn’t follow through on his commitments he’s avoiding you and breaking promises to be home by a certain time. And I quote you: " ... and now I really feel like crying at the thought of having sex with him". He lets you do the cleaning. He is working and earning the same as you so there is no need for you to be doing more domestic labor. I will also say that it's barely been a year and he's already showing his true colors. Thr… | /r/askFDS | 09/05/21 08:18 AM |
| 3 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.This right here. While I may be wondering if what I'm doing is due to the patriarchy or not, at the end of the day my feminist thoughts should not put me into a bind because it disadvantages me. I'm pragmatic. I'm not suddenly going to put on unflattering clothes just to say "eff it, men!" If anything I weaponize my beauty to make life easier for me! It's hard enough as it is without shouldering the burden of self judgment. It's analogous to FDS tenants : maximum female benefit. Do things that a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:22 AM |
| 36 | Childfree women, how do you go about dating with FDS principles?I don't think FDS principles are traditional at all. If anything, it is radical as it places maximum female benefit at the forefront, whether one wants children or not. 50/50 goes so much further than children. Even if you don't have children, you still are under way more pressure than men societally speaking, are less likely to earn as much (due to corporate sexism and women being more reluctant to ask for raises), more likely to be a victim of partner abuse and sexual harassment from strangers… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 7 | Date in his apartment, do I bring something?Where I am nothing is open too but that just means it's not the right time to be dating. If you want to meet up and hook up/be physically close then by all means do it if you understand the risks to you. However we have a whole subreddit dedicated to why it's a bad idea, from time, energy and money wasted to being treated "meh" to like, physical danger. Keep safe! | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 12:56 PM |
| 16 | Date in his apartment, do I bring something?First, why are you going to his apartment for a date? I recommend against it since it's quite low effort on his part. Dates should show consideration. Plus, going to someone's place generally implies sex and sex before commitment is a no-go if you want a relationship. If you bring something then you're subsidizing his desire for your company with yourself AND stuff? Nah. He literally has to stay at home and you're out travelling. | /r/askFDS | 30/04/21 10:07 AM |
| 16 | Why 50/50 is NOT FAIRGenerally women do more labor, physical and emotional, in a relationship, so that's why it makes zero sense to also pay into any expenses. If you pay X percent of household expenses can you also say that you do X percent of household labor, or is it more like 2X ? Take into account, it's also labor if you plan out what needs to be done and go "Honey, go take out the garbage/mow the lawn/do the dishes". If you're thinking about it, it's labor. An occasional treat like ice cream, sure, a homebaked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:54 AM |
| 11 | Tiny quick vetting method: MEN AND CATS😂😂😂😍😍😍 that's so adorable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:35 AM |
| 6 | The RaTiOnaL SexI fear that you are right 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:33 AM |
| 6 | The RaTiOnaL SexI would be interested to see if black and Latino men are more unwilling than women to be vaccinated. I'll do some research and report back. But I agree, misinformation in POC communities is a huge problem! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:32 AM |
| 40 | The RaTiOnaL SexPublic health and academic experts have been long concerned with the “macho” effect that prevents men from getting all sorts of health care, and fear that it might be exacerbated with this vaccine. (Notably, in the most male service branch of the military, the Marines, about 40 percent of those who were offered the vaccine by the Defense Department have turned it down.) A selfie after receiving a Covid shot at the First Baptist Church of Glenarden in Upper Marlboro, Md., last month. “This avoida… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 56 | The RaTiOnaL SexFor those blocked by paywall, emphasis mine: Holly Elgison and Len Schillaci are a mixed vaxxed couple, and they are far from alone. “I was always going to get the vaccine, 100 percent,” said Ms. Elgison, a medical claims auditor in Valrico, Fla. Her husband, a disaster insurance adjuster, said he will pass. “To be honest with you, I think that the worst of Covid is behind us,” Mr. Schillaci said. “I’m good.” As the Biden administration seeks to get 80 percent of adult Americans immunized by sum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 12 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!Same! Working from home means that my space is just more cluttered than usual too since I feel too burnt out to even look at the empty tea cups, etc on my desk. But disciplining myself to pick up 10 min per day (literally time it!) and one deep clean on Sunday has made such a big difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Considering ending a relationship with a potential HVMLMAO that is true with househusband. I guess Iwas thinking he'd be basically my housekeeper and take on allll the traditional wifey roles. (Which he would be good at). I do''think he was serious about the househusband part, but rather that of course he'd take on more domestic duties if I am breadwinning. We both expect to work, just he won't be earning much, maybe ~50k gross income per year. But the big thing is if our life wishes are just incompatible. We currently live in a nicer country than … | /r/askFDS | 21/04/21 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Considering ending a relationship with a potential HVMThank you. I think that that may be the way to go. He's in polisci so it's unrealistic for him to ever earn a 6 figure salary (academia woes) but he seems dead set on that, as it's been his passion. One of the reasons I was hesitating is because we don't want children anyway. However, I do think.. what happens if I am disabled? What happens if he suddenly has to earn 70% of the income? ARGH. Due to contractual reasons at the university I currently earn 25% less than him but obviously this is tem… | /r/askFDS | 21/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 24 | How are you teaching your daughters?My parents didn't teach me this BUT I woudl definitely teach a daughter: The importance of self-esteem and self-worth. Rock-solid self-esteem protects one from so many bad things in life. It's OK to make mistakes, fail, and ask for help. And that mistakes will be made, it's life. Getting a well-paying job. I'm not saying become an investment banker, but the job should be something they at least like, pays above average and is stable! Men are abundant and plentiful, don't stress about it. Sports … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 12 | How are you teaching your daughters?These are all great points, and the 6th point is so true! So many of my friends say the "just can't do art" but rediscover how fun it can be after following a simple tutorial on Youtube or some gentle guidance. I made Christmas cards with my bf and he said, "Huh, I always liked to draw as a child but wasn't good at it so I just stopped. I think I learned more on brush technique with you in the last hour than I did in 5 years of mandatory art classes". We want to make it a tradition, let's see ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:18 PM |
| 188 | I literally cannot remember the last time a woman approached me in public for anything.Oh my God that is so scary. I'm happy you have dogs! If I lived alone in a house I'd have dogs too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 03:41 AM |
| 4 | When you tell your current bf that he can be a renter in your house 🍆 👈 that's my big dick energy 🙋🏼♀️Haha damn sis, sick burn. But yeah you're not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 04:49 PM |
| 9 | Pickmeism, Sunk Costs and the Ego in RelationshipsMy family was (is) also extremely dysfunctional and abusive. I spent much of my childhood wishing my parents would divorce or that my father would die (horrible, but true). My mother tried to divorce once but that ended up with us almost being killed by him, so... yeah. My mother thought that if she stayed, we kids would have a chance at a normal family and that if she takes abuse then we'd be spared. No, it didn't happen like that. All it was was prepare my siblings and I for abusive relationsh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 04:44 PM |
| 47 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.Relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_kXIGvB1uU The men thinking this be funny are telling on themselves so hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:02 PM |
| 18 | Concrete initial steps for decentering men from your lifeNumber 4 is so, so important. A stable and well-earning job frees women from being dependent on men in a patriarchal society. Not hating your job makes you less vulnerable to rose-goggling anything, since you are in general more satisfied with life! Thank you for this great list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 08:36 AM |
| 34 | How I stopped caring for male validation✨Thank you so much for this video. It is so true! We can absolutely not trust what society tells us and it's important to just live life how YOU want to live and not care about what others think. Being happy with yourself is invaluable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:18 AM |
| 6 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?Late 20s now. I have been dating my boyfriend for around 8 months now. If he doesn't mention marriage on his own accord by 1.5 year annivesary I'm out - but if I'm honest, closer to around the 1 year mark, since around that time are the my-birthday-Christmas-NYE-Vday kind of holidays! If there are extenuating life circumstances (education, job changes) then I'd be willing to wait to the second anniversary for the proposal but with marriage within 2-3 months post-proposal. Since there are very ob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 02:44 PM |
| 2 | The importance of maintaining a credit score no matter whatNope. Buy a pack of gum once per month and pay it off. Buy your groceries. Never depend on a man to give you money. If in a breakup what happens if he decides to screw you over ? You could be stuck with high payments forever until it's cleared up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:32 AM |
| 26 | (Xpost) "Today this gentleman brought me a flower... He wow’s me every day" I just wanna get myself a gentleman like him...What a wonderful cat❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:46 PM |
| 93 | Found out he watches porn, kicked him out at 1:30amHe kept saying "it's not like that". Not like what exactly? Not that he isn't porn sick? Not that he prefers porn to an actual woman? Not that it's degrading to women? Good for you for sticking to your boundaries hard. And yeah better to know early than later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:29 AM |
| 11 | Maintaining mental hygiene without unsubscribingI agree with this! Mods, what do you think? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 20 | The dating standards of libfemIt's the Same in Germany/Austria/Netherlands ! I told my coworker that I don't pay for dates and she said "But equality!" Girl, your husband goes out to drink with his buddies while you clean the house, thus making you late for our Ladie's Brunch. Where's the equality in that! Basically I've become the downlow feminist - just ruthlessly do things that ONLY benefit me and my fellow women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 09:46 PM |
| 8 | For those of you looking for signs of him being "Just Not That Into You": this is it!No Problem! I copied many sections of it right on over. It's such a good reminder and hopefully people can start reading it too. She has SO MANY articles! https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/30-signs-that-someone-isnt-interested-or-is-half-heartedly-interested-in-you-how-to-avoid-being-a-passing-time-candidate/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 07:45 PM |
| 4 | For those of you looking for signs of him being "Just Not That Into You": this is it!Wow I hope you've moved on to better things! He was basically sticking around for the benefits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:59 AM |
| 68 | Advice from a divorce lawyer - on Love, Marriage and FeminismI saw another video from a male German divorce attorney. Same thing, it's not a feminist bias. He also said that women generally don't generally look for a new partner immediately after divorce, in contrast to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:23 PM |
| 14 | Advice from a divorce lawyer - on Love, Marriage and FeminismThat's a great resource! I will check out Hope and Memory. I actually did check out a review of Elizabeth Brake's book - Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law. Hm. I will try to read through and make a post on it later to try to do an analysis on the anti-marriage camp. Polymeishas indeed :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:29 PM |
| 114 | How the 90s Became the Era When Women Started Leveling DownThe sexual narrative of liberal feminism has always bothered me. Why is there such an obsession with being sexually empowered over, say, financial or career empowerment? Right, because it in no way benefits ... MEN. Feminism is - and I quote - focused on Female Liberation. It is not focused on anything that benefits MEN. If men benefit from feminism, then it is through the dismantling of the Patriarchy, it in itself pernicious to men. But, feminism is there to maximize Female benefit - just as F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 42 | What is your all-time favorite FDS post?This one about not putting up with the bare minimum/boundary breaking and what it means when one does. I've used this and applied this to other areas of my life too. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/l7lzm0/why_some_women_put_up_with_the_bare_minimum_from/ Quote: Every time you have to say "he's not that bad" you are actively engaging in the pros/cons mindset; dating is not a game of 'this cancels out that'. Dating is about boundaries and dealbreakers, if any of those are br… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:41 PM |
| 6 | Stop telling yourself “deep down he’s a good person”Haha this is hilarious and I will use it the next time I inevitably hear someone go "Deep down xxxx". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:19 AM |
| 216 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.I am smug in my refusal to have babies. If the government wants benefits from mothers then they need to give benefits to mothers first. And to women as a whole. Same to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:55 AM |
| 9 | Trying to understand how FDS can be in favor of marriage.Is there an overlap or are they the same thing? Haha I can't imagine a decent man stringing anyone along for his own benefit...! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:09 PM |
| 28 | Trying to understand how FDS can be in favor of marriage." most marriages are awful. " Can I get a most relationships are awful, and these tend to lead to marriages, ergo most marriages are awful? Marriage after FDS-style vetting is worth it, but yeah, if it doesn't work out being single>>> stuck in a shitty relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:08 PM |
| 44 | How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings 101 - the double standards are real!The third one speaks to me. I've thought about it and it was always men with children that get praises for doing anything, so it makes sense they get more for having kids even if the wife is likely doing all the work. Women's motherhood is just not valued. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI've also had the first decent Valentine's Day in what seems like forever. My partner (~6 months dating now) got me roses and marzipan, my absolute favorite candy, cause I'm not a huge chocolate fan. I got him a box of truffles and a lovely letterpressed card :). And then we watched a nice show together into the night. The next day we make a rather complex recipe together, which usually takes me AGES but sped by with him. Amazing, what competence does! Unfortunately he was one day too proactive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:36 PM |
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