marshmallowmeringue Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Do bisexual men have a difficult time with women because of their orientation? Would you date a bisexual man? If not, why? Having more partners isn’t necessarily infidelity, though. I don’t understand how sexual orientation would affect someone’s ability to be faithful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/22 07:00 PM
42	Women how does your sexual attraction work? For me, recognising attractiveness and feeling sexual desire are two different experiences. The former is immediate - I either find someone attractive or not. The latter is something that develops over time with rapport.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/22 02:47 PM
4	Do bisexual men have a difficult time with women because of their orientation? Would you date a bisexual man? If not, why? I’m bisexual and married to a bisexual man. The notion that bisexuals are promiscuous because we are capable of attraction to more than one gender is false and biphobic. It’s like saying because a straight man is attracted to women, he’s attracted to all women and will pursue that regardless of relationship status.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/22 10:02 PM
1	Tea Time Oh, bless you. I hope the side effects ease up soon. Hang in there.	/r/RedPillWives	02/04/22 04:08 PM
3	Reducing Work Hours as a Wife I did! And I also work in a hospital. It was the best decision ever. I worked hard for my career and am proud of my accomplishments in healthcare, but nurturing the best home environment possible for my husband and our kids is way more important. Work will always be there, but the kiddos won’t be small forever.	/r/RedPillWives	31/03/22 08:32 PM
3	Tea Time I’m on new meds too and they’re so rough! I’m with you.	/r/RedPillWives	31/03/22 08:25 PM
5	Is being bisexual as a male a get out of jail free card, for all women's bullshit? My husband is bisexual. He found the male dating pool to be more trouble than it was worth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/22 10:40 AM
4	If you are a man who doesn’t have long term goals or passionate about something, you can’t expect women to be attracted to you. I completely agree. Having interests and goals is proof of self-knowledge, which is only possible with good reflection skills. This is a key trait of a stable partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/22 06:35 AM
10	While I admire the hard work and effort to improve your health and well being, personally, physical characteristics I find attractive in men are usually things you're born with I’m definitely with you about the face being the most important thing initially, in those first moments. Height isn’t something I’m bothered about. Physique does matter to me, but I’m not personally into super muscular/buff gym types. I prefer men who are either lean like dancers, or stocky and a bit soft. Personality and demeanour (kindness, assertiveness, and a sharp sense of humour) are tied for the second most important qualities for me, which I would say are also inherent to a certain exten…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/22 09:28 AM
1	Tips around feeling resentful You’re welcome and good luck!	/r/RedPillWomen	21/03/22 03:57 PM
25	Tips around feeling resentful Hello! I’m sorry you’re going through this. Something my husband and I did that really helped was to make a list of all domestic chores/duties, and then sort them by which ones we ‘like’ and dislike the most. What we discovered was that there were quite a few chores that he actually enjoys doing that I don’t, and vice versa. So we assigned each other responsibilities according to that. I still do the bulk of the housework, but there are now a few things I don’t ever worry about because he always…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/03/22 09:25 AM
1	Women who’ve dated tall men. Are you able to go back to shorter/average height men or have you? My first serious boyfriend was 6’4”. My next serious relationship was with a man who was 6’ tall. And then I married a guy who’s 5’8”. 14 years and going strong. So for me they got progressively shorter!	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/22 03:34 PM
3	What is the difference between toxic masculinity and high value men? I love this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/22 03:31 PM
1	Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people? Polyam and happily married for 14 years here. I think RP could apply to straight people in the ENM community. It doesn’t personally for my situation wherein my husband and I, and both of our partners are bisexual. My husband is the only male I am interested in. He has had a couple of casual situations with women but he predominantly dates other men outside of our marriage. Dealing with multiple egos and sets of feelings takes sophisticated communication and empathy skills. I can’t imagine a situ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 07:01 PM
1	Have you ever had casual sex with someone who was "unattractive"? I’ve had sex with men and women who wouldn’t be considered conventionally attractive, but I personally found them attractive, so it’s highly subjective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 06:47 PM
1	You should pay for what you order when going on a first date I believe that it’s fair and considerate to assume you’re paying for yourself until the subject is discussed to figure out who’s comfortable with what. Splitting the bill and/or alternating who pays during meals out is what I’m used too. I don’t necessarily think wanting to be treated makes someone low value, but it is presumptuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/22 06:32 PM
1	Curiosity Post: What famous people do you find sexually attractive? Omg your post history. You need therapy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 05:35 PM
1	Curiosity Post: What famous people do you find sexually attractive? Stop gaslighting Jews and obsessing over our children’s genitalia. It’s cheap, disgusting, and boring. Go eat a ham sandwich or something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 05:34 PM
2	Curiosity Post: What famous people do you find sexually attractive? A queen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 02:27 PM
1	Curiosity Post: What famous people do you find sexually attractive? Women: Kat Dennings, Thora Birch, Gal Gadot, Hayley Atwell, Kate Winslet. Men: Michael Aloni, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Daniel Day-Lewis, Evan Peters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 02:26 PM
1	Curiosity Post: What famous people do you find sexually attractive? Antisemitism? In this economy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/22 02:18 PM
7	CMV: I think women are hypocrites when it comes to patriarchy I think that we find ourselves in the realm of false equivalencies when we equate ‘patriarchy’ with ‘men’. Refusing to engage with men and anything associated with them is a) unrealistic, b) useless, and c) not addressing the actual issue at hand, which is a system that keeps women in a position of perpetual disadvantage and powerlessness. Secondly, men also suffer within patriarchal systems that demand constant stoicism from them and leave almost no room for personal fault. Men are under immens…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/22 05:51 PM
2	who to have children with (career vs stay at home woman) I don’t think it can be quantified that way because there are too many variables. Not every career woman has the same goals or boundaries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/22 11:02 PM
2	who to have children with (career vs stay at home woman) Neither of those extremes are examples of worthwhile wives. Either choice would lead to stress and unhappiness. As others have said, most women’s life goals fall on a spectrum with many different permutations of wants and needs. The key is finding someone whose goals harmonise with yours, and both people need to be flexible. In terms of what’s best for children, my personal belief is that both parents need to be sources of emotional and practical safety. It’s a sad reality that it’s almost impos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/22 07:05 PM
8	What are the physical traits of men you find the most important inorder for the men to qualify as your partner? I’m similar. I can appreciate someone as being aesthetically pleasing to look at, but I don’t develop sexual attraction until I get to know someone and build rapport and a trust. Because of this, I don’t really have a type. My partners - both male and female - have all been really diverse in terms of appearance. I think my only absolute turn offs would be poor hygiene and being extremely underweight or morbidly obese. And those things are less about looks and more about being a reflection of poo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/22 03:37 PM
2	Can I ask about your dating life so far? What's your goal and have you been successful achieving it? In my late teens and early 20s my main goal was to find a husband and start a family. Thankfully I achieved that and we are still going strong. We are polyamorous and both date outside of our marriage, and sometimes date someone together if it happens organic. The goal for this is to enjoy connecting and bonding with different people, with varying levels of commitment. The only reason we can do this successfully is because our own bond is rock solid, for which I’m very grateful. I’m very content…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/22 05:54 PM
3	Question 4 Women: After this recent Purge has your opinion of Red Pill Men changed for better or worse? Because self-righteous anger is satisfying. Squaring with oneself is hard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 10:46 PM
9	Question 4 Women: After this recent Purge has your opinion of Red Pill Men changed for better or worse? I was going to say something along these lines. A common obstacle RP, BP, and incels face is heavy bias combined with hubris. It prevents them from having meaningful exchanges with the source of their focus - women - which creates a dead end. They set themselves up for failure. If you think you know it all, but can’t figure out why things aren’t going to plan, then it’s time to try something different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/22 08:49 PM
1	I don't trust anyone who claims climate change is THE reason they aren't having kids What I got from the end of your second paragraph was that scientific reasoning about climate change is illegitimate, and therefore that applies to the science around COVID.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 06:49 PM
2	Ladies, which would you rather die than date? 10+ age gap can make it difficult to relate to one another. That’s my main issue with big age gaps. So I’d be reluctant to go for him over someone of my own generation. Height won’t affect chemistry or how well we treat each other, but not having a fundamental understanding due to a big age gap could.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 11:42 AM
2	If you fall seriously ill, is marriage a reliable way to have security over keeping a partner? I’m with you on this. I’d also take it a step further and say that if someone is staying with you post-illness/injury only because of dogma, they’re a significant risk of abuse due to lack of love. Being at the mercy of someone who feels obligated to care for you is a terrifying notion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 11:36 AM
2	I don't trust anyone who claims climate change is THE reason they aren't having kids So, the climate change denial and covid denial isn’t something I’m onboard with. But I do think that aggressively child free people who use climate change to shame parents are ecofascists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/22 11:09 AM
4	Ladies: What's the most outlandish claim from a piller you've seen? Woooooowwwww.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 10:46 PM
4	Ladies: What's the most outlandish claim from a piller you've seen? I’m sure he is all too aware of vaginal delivery, and obsesses over it in bed at night like a child spooked by a scary movie.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 09:01 PM
5	Ladies: What's the most outlandish claim from a piller you've seen? Definitely a gold star for creativity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 08:40 PM
2	Remember Titanic? Remember how all that woman on her deathbed could remember was those few days she spent with Chad when she was young, even though she had been happily married with grandkids for decades? Remember that? Re-commenting because I misread. Apologies. I don’t condone cheating. It can’t feel good that dishonest women use your good nature to rationalise their betrayal. Leaving a partner you’ve been forced to be with against your will, because you’ve found someone who does love you is justified IMO. That’s different than two-timing a partner because of greed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 08:37 PM
12	Ladies: What's the most outlandish claim from a piller you've seen? That menstruation is the product of impurity, and that truly good women don’t have periods.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 08:32 PM
5	Remember Titanic? Remember how all that woman on her deathbed could remember was those few days she spent with Chad when she was young, even though she had been happily married with grandkids for decades? Remember that? Ah, I see how I read it wrong now. No need to get aggro. It was an honest mistake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 08:30 PM
0	Remember Titanic? Remember how all that woman on her deathbed could remember was those few days she spent with Chad when she was young, even though she had been happily married with grandkids for decades? Remember that? I’m sorry you’ve been cheated on. It’s a horrible thing to go through.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 08:03 PM
10	Do you find men like this physically attractive? Not my cup of tea. I tend to go for prettier guys. But if a man like that was a really amazing person and we got along well, then I wouldn’t turn him down based on not fitting a ‘type’.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 05:25 PM
6	Porn has made men very confused about female age I think you’re right, but it’s popular media as a whole. Outside of that, it can also be super variable. Some women look much older or younger than one would expect, due to genetics and lifestyle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 05:22 PM
32	Remember Titanic? Remember how all that woman on her deathbed could remember was those few days she spent with Chad when she was young, even though she had been happily married with grandkids for decades? Remember that? This is hilarious; I’ll bite. My understanding was that Jack showed Rose that she had options in life and that she deserved more than to be a prize for a man who didn’t appreciate her. Jack was dirt poor, but an authentic person (artist, going back to America for a better life, etc) who taught her how to enjoy herself. He convinced her not to kill herself, so that’s a big deal. She had this life changing connection with this guy, then survived a catastrophic trauma during which he died. It doesn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 05:18 PM
4	Reminder for women: if he could pick then he would pick someone else than you If a woman isn’t actually a person to the man, yeah. Abs aren’t going to wipe your ass if you fall down the stairs and break your neck. All the love in the world to gym thots, either way. If my husband brings one home, he’ll share.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 04:55 PM
3	Cis men, are you tired of cis women's bs games and choices? Transwomen are the answer! Accepting and empowering trans women is amazing. It’s a bit weird to try to pit them against other women though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 04:47 PM
1	A lot of women are okay with their man watching porn in a relationship as long as it does not affect their sex lives. Would you be also fine if he watches Onlyfans girls and donates to them? If it’s all legal and not affecting our relationship, then more power to them. I have a couple of female friends with OF accounts, one of which is incredibly successful. My husband and I both subscribe to support them. We are non-monogamous, though, so neither of us feel threatened by attraction to other people so long as everyone is happy. From our standpoint, cheating is about deception.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 04:45 PM
1	How true is this? See, the ‘dad bod’ example here is ‘a bit muscly but not too much’ to me. I wouldn’t count it as a dad bod.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/22 04:33 PM
2	How is it for a women in the midst of other women? I have no patience for petty competition and game-playing from other women. If I notice that happening, I shut down pretty quickly and disengage. This is what earned my husband’s respect for me and has also eliminated immature women from my social circle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 09:52 PM
1	do you ahve a problem with it if your bf watches porn If it’s not illegal in any way and has no detrimental effect on our relationship or his well-being, then no. Same with any women I date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 07:53 PM
1	Porn is a pretty good source of knowledge about the real world and sex in particular Well said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 06:07 PM
1	Speaking as a white man, why are black women so unattractive and disgusting compared to other races? (looking for male input here) There’s no accounting for taste. It’s not universal. Something one person finds unappealing, another can’t get enough of it. So there’s no real answer to your question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 10:26 AM
1	Are you a feminist??? Second wave feminism for me. I don’t think gender should determine what rights someone has, as I don’t think being a man or woman is what makes someone a more or less deserving member of society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 10:17 AM
2	A guy being able to secure a ffm threesome says more about than a high notch count MMF is the dream! I love FFM, don’t get me wrong. But there’s something really special about positive sexual collaboration with two men. chef kiss	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 10:13 AM
5	Be Honest: Do You think Sex the Meaning of Life? I think that people who hinge everything on sex are setting themselves and everyone they seek up for failure. Sex, while extremely important and a source of joy, cannot be everything. It can be taken away at any time by illness or injury. So, if gd forbid, someone’s spouse or partner becomes disabled in a way that prevents them from engaging sexually, what’s left? A bond and foundation of caring outside of sex is essential. That absolutely must be cultivated in order for a relationship to be bui…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 10:07 AM
14	Men need to stop explaining themselves to women on forums like this and expecting any sort of validation. I’m sorry you haven’t felt heard. You definitely deserve to be heard and to receive compassion. I don’t know what experiences you have shared that were met with callous responses, so I can’t offer any specific female insight. What I can say is that I don’t think anyone is loved unconditionally based on gender. Human capacity for unconditional love at all is debatable- we all have our limits, which is a good thing. Offering love without boundaries isn’t healthy because it gives others the freedom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/22 10:00 AM
2	Would you rather share an unfaithful alpha man, or settle for a faithful beta man? Cheating is weak and cowardly. I don’t consider lack of integrity to be ‘alpha’ behaviour. Having to put up with disrespect sounds like settling to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/21 06:10 PM
5	[Q4W] Have any of you experienced guys who use dating coach tactics on you recently? I know. The gall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/21 12:37 PM
13	[Q4W] Have any of you experienced guys who use dating coach tactics on you recently? Yes, at work. I’m an RN. I’d just had an emotionally difficult situation with a patient and was washing my hands before setting off to my next task. A male porter who had come to transfer a patient approached me and started negging me, telling me I looked miserable and if I actually tried smiling people might notice that I’m pretty. He asked me to smile for him to show him I’d stop being miserable, or he wouldn’t take me out on a date. I just looked at home and told him no, I’m not interested, a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/21 08:17 AM
1	Every single polyamorous couple I've interracted with was instigated by the female party. It’s really sad when people assume the worst or other’s intentions, especially when it comes to relationships. I know it can be hard for some folks to understand that not everyone has ulterior motives, or is out to be as maliciously opportunistic as possible. If only they knew how solid a relationship has to be to manage non-monogamy successfully!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 07:13 PM
1	Every single polyamorous couple I've interracted with was instigated by the female party. This is so funny. The reason he initially brought it up was actually because he wanted to explore his attraction to men. 😂 He knew that I was experienced in ethical non-monogamy, so trusted me to support him, which I always will. If you’re curious about our polycule, I’m happy to tell you about it! We are both bisexual. I have a female partner who he’s also involved with, but casually. She lives down the road from us, so we have our separate spaces but function like an extended household. My hus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 07:09 PM
3	Every single polyamorous couple I've interracted with was instigated by the female party. Hello! I’m a woman and polyam. When I started dating my husband I became monogamous, because that’s what he was comfortable with. I was more than happy to remain monogamous for us, but seven years into our relationship he brought up wanting to give polyam a try. So he was the one to initiate it for us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 01:52 PM
1	Where does this hate for TRP come from? Hey. Thanks for your comment. I’m really sorry you were mistreated. You definitely didn’t deserve that. I definitely agree with you that it’s not necessary or healthy to care about or give attention to everyone all the time. I think being respectful and having humanity is something we can do without ignoring the boundaries we need to keep ourselves safe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:55 PM
5	What do you think is the most important part of a relationship and what is your leaning? Affection, loyalty, commitment, chemistry, honesty, care, equal effort from both parties. I’m blue-leaning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:14 PM
3	What do you expect to happen when you ask a man to be emotionally vulnerable or available to you? What does this mean? There are a lot of really thoughtful comments here, and I think most of what can be said has been said. One thing I’ll add is that part of a successful relationship is being able to act as emotional and intellectual sounding boards for each other. Both people need to be able to reflect on their own feelings, and then have an exchange. Individual reflection alone is an essential life skill; we can’t really know ourselves if we don’t understand our feelings. Women tend to do this better because it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 01:09 PM
21	Where does this hate for TRP come from? This is the attitude typical of people who are mean to waitstaff. Walking around being a dick to people until they perform to whatever abstract, arbitrary standard you’ve set is awful. It’s absolutely a social understanding to treat others with a base level of respect unless they harm you - not the other way around, hurting people unless they please you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 12:22 PM
7	Is marriage worth it in today’s era? You’re very right in that marriage is a visible gesture of love and commitment, made publicly. That can definitely be valuable, too. It’s absolutely a status thing that can be helpful if people have certain ambitions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 11:53 AM
9	Where does this hate for TRP come from? I know it can be tempting to dehumanise bad people. But they are people, even the worst of the worst. Accepting this is the only way humans as a collective can reflect enough to hold assholes to account. If we say, oh, they’re not a person, they’re a monster…then that implies there’s nothing to be done. Because how could a monster ever behave properly?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 11:31 AM
31	Where does this hate for TRP come from? It’s worrying to hear someone admit that they wouldn’t help someone who’s different from them. That indicates a lack of empathy. Are there childish women? Of course. There are childish men as well. But we all have negative personality traits. This doesn’t mean we are undeserving of basic respect or care from others. I don’t expect you to relate to this notion. But it’s important to realise that a community that lacks empathy and the desire to protect its members is unlikely to attract people wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 10:41 AM
8	Is marriage worth it in today’s era? I think there are a lot of factors that have an impact on whether or not marriage is worthwhile, such as how marriage impacts your community, if it’s a religious marriage or a civil one, etc. The bottom line is that marriage isn’t necessary for commitment, or at least it shouldn’t be. There are plenty of unmarried couples who are way more successful than some married couples. My personal opinion is that marriage is worth it if it will benefit you emotionally, spiritually, and/or practically - an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/21 10:27 AM
1	Women should not be shamed or judged or pressured over who they allow to touch their genitals. Its really simple. I agree completely and I think it’s pretty intuitive that what consenting adults do or don’t do behind closed doors - within reason - is their business alone. And women who are secure in themselves don’t give much thought to others who judge them for having multiple sexual partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 08:00 PM
1	What is the “inherent value” women have that men don’t? I think this would only apply in a very primitive context. Placing value on a person based on their ability to reproduce is unethical and extremely reductive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 04:03 PM
2	What is the “inherent value” women have that men don’t? It’s asinine to me, as well. Every person has an equal amount of inherent value, regardless of gender. Context is what can influence a person’s value, including if it’s gender-based value, as you illustrated well in your LGBT examples. There’s even more nuance here if we include trans people. I suspect that people who say women have inherent value that men somehow don’t believe that pregnancy has something to do with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 11:12 AM
1	Q4W: Does someone being dismissive make you more interested in them? No. I take people at their word. If they’re distant and uninterested, I’m not going to waste my energy on someone who doesn’t appreciate me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 08:11 PM
2	Redemption Thought policing? Restricting communication? Forbidding differing opinions? How dystopian of you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 02:01 PM
1	FDS women talking about their male friends trying to have sex with them, as if they were trying to murder them. There’s nothing inherently wrong with it. Sex with friends can be perfectly healthy and lots of fun. The issue that can arise is feeling like a male friend has ulterior motives and may only be interested in being part of your life if you’ll put out. That doesn’t feel good. No one wants to feel used.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/21 11:10 AM
1	Women Should Not Be Expected to Work or Have a Career. Ideally it would still be possible for families to live comfortably on one income. That would allow for couples who want children to select one parent to stay home and focus on home making. But unfortunately this isn’t the case anymore and most families require two incomes to make ends meet. There are well known health inequalities that have developed as a result of women being expected to be career driven while also raising children. And there have been studies that show that even when men make…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/21 02:32 PM
1	CMV: Are open relationships fair for men? My views on the matter. I’m polyamorous. My husband and I have been together for 13 years. I have a girlfriend who he’s also involved with, and he has two boyfriends, one of whom I’m involved with. The success of any ethically non-monogamous set-up relies on a commitment to superb communication, the ability to reflect, and transparency. It’s still possible to cheat, as cheating is about deception and betrayal of trust. Many of your points are related to maturity issues, such as having ulterior motives, not caring about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 08:45 PM