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never. i hate when men make the first move. all of my relationships are a result of me pursuing them. i feel safer and more in control. when men approach me i just feel anger and anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 09:53 PM
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I think I’m very average and live in a small town but commute to a large city daily. I get hit on very regularly when I go out to run errands or at my work/school. Some are more threatening (two men blocking my path) some are more harmless (women flirting at a queer club).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:19 AM
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2 relationships, 5 and 3 years. probably 3 weeks without sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 11:58 PM
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how about you just spend what you are comfortable spending? there’s nothing wrong with being nice and buying coffee or drinks, but it’s also fine to pay for yourself only. some of you people think about this way too much. having boundaries is important wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:21 PM
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As long as my partner is loyal and respects me I don’t care. One of the best feelings is being comfortable enough with someone I can not wear makeup, not be freshly shaved, or not have my hair washed and not worry about my partner hating me. It feels really good for being loved for me, and not my body or face.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 12:03 AM
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I read a lot of books by psychologists/couple therapists on relationships, so i like to make observations and think back to what i read. but making bold assumptions like “oh she’s insecure” or “he’s absolutely cheating” feels wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 03:28 PM
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if it prevents people from getting raped, assaulted, or mugged on a first date, YAY! love it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:24 PM
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I HATE the notion that you have to 1) be careful not to reply too fast to their texts!! or 2) never double or triple text them!!!! it’s so fucking weird and i rather talk genuinely to someone i’m excited about talking to
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 05:03 PM
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i dont hate women for choosing to do it. what is empowering to me is not empowering to another woman, and i have no right to make assumptions about her individual situation. i may not want to support porn or OF, but i do want these women to be safe and be treated with basic human decency. porn and OF is normalized, men demand it, and women supply it. i just think it’s naive and wrong to assume all women only do it because they genuinely want to. it’s just something i wish wasn’t so normalized an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:16 PM
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when did i ever make a claim about OF being empowering?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:09 PM
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Are we assuming all women are not low income, have to work multiple jobs, homeless, in abusive situations, being coerced or trafficked, being manipulated, etc.? Are we also ignoring who is demanding this service?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 06:08 PM
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how to influence a 14 year old male so he stays single for the rest of his life
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 07:09 AM
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do you live in the bible belt or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 08:55 PM
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it changes a lot, sometimes i feel like my bf is way too attractive for me, other days i will feel like the “hot” one. i’m just happy to be with someone who loves me for me, on my ugly or pretty days.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 11:08 PM
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I honestly don’t think Manson is a good example for this. Manson targeted impoverished, children from abusive households, or the extremely impressionable. Most of his followers were minors, there were more cult-grooming tactics at play from the rest of his group. I think Ramirez and Bundy are better examples. It’s also interesting that EAR didn’t really have many “stans”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 07:00 PM
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This did happen with men and a few internet famous female Japanese serial killers and murderers. A more recent example is Yuka Takaoka.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 06:21 PM
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If it's behind my back, staggered disclosure, blatant lying, crossing my boundaries, without my knowledge despite knowing I would be opposed, or anything similar to that...Yeah that's cheating. Even if there is no intercourse, there are other ways to betray your SO that are equally damaging to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 11:21 PM
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Thank you for sharing my thoughts perfectly, take my upvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 10:41 PM
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A lot of the people commenting on here are single, or had a divorce, or faced a terrible heartbreak. They are incredibly hurt and biased and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 07:54 PM
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How exactly is a man being intimate with his SO past male relationships by having sex with her? I am confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 08:09 AM
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Male attention in real life terrifies me, I hate being approached by them. I always had to “make the first move” when dating/single. Male validation is something I cared more about when I was an insecure teenager, but it’s much less important now. Now, if I post a selfie online and men compliment me, I just feel uncomfortable soon after. Platonic female attention, however, makes my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 03:32 PM
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I was shown diagrams of the labia, learned about getting my period, but had no knowledge of birth control options, safe sex, std prevention, plan b pill, consent, or masturbation. this needs to be changed immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 06:20 PM
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I only make the first move, men approaching me first just makes be nervous and makes me assume the worst about them. I rather have control.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 04:39 PM
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True, I honestly don’t think any of these people have been in long term relationships. This reminded me of a guy I dated. He was such a husk of a human being, he never showed any emotion and I was miserable with him. It was so much effort trying to figure out what his issues were or why he was behaving a certain way because he refused to show any vulnerability or talk about feelings. He would get angry if you asked him why he seemed sad, stressed, etc. God I can’t imagine ever dating another guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 10:45 PM
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More assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:51 PM
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No way to find out now but he really didn’t have that problem when he was dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:44 PM
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You’re making a lot of assumptions (wrong ones) about people you don’t know. I’m definitely not the first, or second, or third. Don’t blame a man’s insecurities on how many women he had sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:30 PM
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You’re confusing him too much I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:25 PM
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I have done this in all of my relationships too. And all of my female friends relationships...Men confide in their partners, it’s normal and common.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:23 PM
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Sounds like toxic masculinity. My partners all male coworkers uphold this high standard at his work every day. He is insecure because he doesn’t fit the mold set by his toxic male coworkers. I have never thought negatively about his height, weight, skin, emotions, etc. Or compared him to these wannabe alpha male types. But I prefer him over anyone else easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 04:15 PM
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The best monologue, thank you for mentioning Gone Girl!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 05:30 PM
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Also, the best examples of the MPDG are seen really only in heterosexual relationships in media, that is what I meant by only seen in male fantasy. Anyone can find the MPDG sexy though lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 05:20 PM
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Anyone can find anyone attractive, I mean they choose attractive actresses/actors for these movies right? I am saying these MPDGs are written by men for men. I think you should check out these analysis for a better understanding of the trope! I’m sensing a lot of confusion or different interpretations. The Misuse of the Term: https://youtu.be/WwGjpPlgqyo Overview: https://youtu.be/b_gxo8l9j8s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 05:19 PM
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It’s supposed to be a woman that is only found in male fantasy, so there are no lesbian or trans MPDGs (There can be bi girls though, as long as that never gets in the way of the male protagonist). The MPDG only exists to benefit the male lead, she will conveniently disappear when the male lead has learned his valuable lesson from her “free-spirited individual nature”. This is convenient because no man actually wants to put in the energy to have a loving long term relationship with a woman as in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 05:04 PM
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I did. Very conservative and Christian. Sex was never discussed. It made me feel shameful for wanting to masturbate or have sex with my partner. It caused me to not have safe sex for all of my teenage years until college because I was too ashamed to have that conversation. I had several pregnancy scares and took plan B pills which caused negative side effects. Even as an adult, at 19 my parents found out I had sex with my partner of 4 years and were enraged. They grew more accepting further into…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 06:18 PM
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I was molested at 7-9 so I guess then. I think I noticed attention from men online and in public around 11-13.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 06:30 AM
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I think that depends on the person. Yeah, I don’t save sex for marriage, but I have sex with two people in my life who I have been in relationships with for 3-5+ years. I had/have high hopes for those partners but sadly things don’t always work out. To me, marriage is for lifelong commitment and making a family. Marriage can look entirely different for someone else and that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 09:48 PM
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I really really want to be someone’s wife someday. I could be like some people my age (early 20s) and get engaged right away...But I want to first finish my education, move in with my partner, and spend time building a trusting, healthy relationship. I want to be married, but I don’t want to rush it because I value it so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 09:42 PM
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Because they have never experienced it and never will and have no interest in empathizing with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 03:32 PM
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Yeah, I think this comment is better for a different post. Because you can have your experience and I can have mine. Our responses are products of our unique experiences and I guess I can’t expect you to understand that. Your opinions aren’t really contributing much here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 03:30 PM
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Thank you, that’s very kind :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 06:14 AM
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Because unfortunately those types of insults are just already part of the culture. People often throw slurs and tell people to kill themselves in online gaming it just partially lost meaning (EXCEPT to those minority groups, people who are suicidal, etc.) I just mean to me, personally, death threats and being told to kill myself is not as uncomfortable. I can shrug that off when the game ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 02:36 AM
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Yeah, exactly. To add to that, it creates this hostile environment that cant be replicated with men imo. When a man in voice chat goes on to call me a slut, and bad at the game because of my gender, etc. it instantly creates this environment where I feel dehumanized and like everyone on the team is against me and hates/blames me because I am female. A lot of men (in my experience) will either not say anything or laugh and/or join in. It’s a very dehumanizing and demoralizing experience that is N…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 02:20 AM
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I never said that haha. I just personally can handle death threats and insults centered around my gameplay better than the weird sexist attacks I have gotten in online games. This is a question directed towards women and their individual experience. I personally can handle insults but am less comfortable when they revolve around my gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 09:29 PM
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Yes. But being called cumslut, egirl, ethot, whore, or threatened to be raped hits different than simply being called bad at the game or retarded, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 09:16 PM
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I know, I am not talking about general anxiety. I am specifically talking about the fear of being raped and kidnapped, there are certain mannerisms I do because of that intense fear that I do not believe I would continue doing if I was male :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 05:15 PM
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I would feel safer absolutely, I am a very cautious/anxious person. Dating might have been easier because I like to make the first move. I think women would also love my cooking and that I love to clean. I think playing video games would be more enjoyable, I get harassed A LOT in online games. I usually like to be very vocal but it’s hard when men call you names and ask for your socials.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 04:36 PM
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I play video games, most of my female friends play video games, the ones that don’t play don’t care that we do and are open to hearing about it. All of my male friends and partners have played games, it’s not an issue. A lot of girls love video games...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 08:37 PM
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Yup, partners can develop addictions, seek affairs, become less involved with their children, become abusive to their SO or children, or just change so much they no longer share the same interests or beliefs. I love my dad, but he had a phase where he would drink and yell/threaten to hurt me. My mom said if he continued to do this she would leave him, and he stopped drinking. My ex’s parents are divorced, they simply fell out of love. Neither of them dated after the divorce. My partner has a por…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 04:36 PM
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Because they feel like everyone else besides him will also care, when they are closer and trust each other she might tell him. Or maybe it’s not something she’s proud to admit because she doesn’t want to talk about a specific relationship because it might have been traumatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 03:41 AM
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men anyways surprise me with how far they will go to convince you to have sex with them. the older i get the more uncomfortable and cautious i become around them. i don’t intend to be rude to them, i just want to keep myself safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 06:45 AM
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