marysalad Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you?		marysalad	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 07:59 AM

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–	Who do the really attractive women end up with? we are not the same age (or nationality) but we have a similar type. You have the confidence to cuff them though. How do you do this? Are you a black belt in ego management? serious question(s).	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/23 02:15 PM
1	Leaving wife and kids all other things aside, if the mother is somehow sent to prison, then you will be a full-time single father nurturing an infant and raising a young child. just a reminder	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/23 12:19 AM
3	Ex-Wife Wants to Teach Kindergarten Son About Toxic Masculinity that seems pretty reasonable :)	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/22 04:57 AM
1	Ex-Wife Wants to Teach Kindergarten Son About Toxic Masculinity That's not typical feminism yeah. If you had had a daughter you would have wanted her to find meaningful employment, be safe from violence or on the streets, be fairly represented in court, not be subject to harassment or assault, have access to finance when she wants a home loan, receive equal pay for equal work. These are the gains of feminism. What you're referring to is going into the territory of radical feminism, which let's face it has an equal but opposite manifestation on the male side …	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/22 04:55 AM
12	Ex-Wife Wants to Teach Kindergarten Son About Toxic Masculinity I am not keen on that - that's kind of slathering on issues that he may internalise and mis-identify with. I think kiddo's work better with strong and gentle leadership and positive reinforcement, not being told that something he may identify with is wrong (or toxic) . That's a very adult concept and not a 6 yo issue, he is still learning not to squeeze puppies too tight or throw a stick at someone. I agree with your observation that masculinity is not inherently toxic but that behaviours are. T…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/22 04:21 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Dw, based tradwife is 100% his type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 01:42 PM
4	Is it OK for a man to ask a woman he's dating for emotional support? Wait what? It's nice to be there for someone. Her response very not ok in my opinion. I love being able to listen and support my people. Especially a partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/21 07:20 AM
1	How did you touch the hot stove again.....shake the hornets nest. Youth? Ignorance? Desperation? Not sure if any sane woman +or man) would marry someone who'd been divorced 2, 3, 4, 5, 6??? Times before. I'd be a little curious about their motivation for wanting to get married. What's wrong with simply... not getting married? Do they have a marriage kink? Lmao	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/21 12:49 AM
1	Planning to file. I am not the bio dad of our son, who is 13, but I want primary custody. My wife lied to me about her infidelity and does not know that I know he isn’t mine. Can I make it known that she’s an adulterer without risking custody? What is your confidence in the accuracy of that test?	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/21 07:21 AM
1	Mediation in couple hours A good mediator will seek agreement on the most workable solution that meets the needs and reasonable wishes of both parties. They are trained to follow up on signs of abuse, and work through manipulation and stonewalling. The needs and interests of the child/ren come first. The agreement can be revisited later as the kids get older, for example. There are also financial mediators. if both of you just want to figure it out and even if you're far from each other's biggest fan, it should work for …	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/21 11:27 AM
1	What kinds of compliments do men appreciate most? Where do I go to debate RP ideas ?	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/21 09:56 AM
1	How do I find a good man/act appropriately around them? (deadbeat dad related) I am older. I care how I am perceived, but not at the expense of my inner peace, mental health, financial security (/independence) and safety. I can live without anyone who tries to impose on me that way. It took me a while to learn how to effectively stand up for myself. You know in your heart when that needs to happen. I still don't always get it right. I also learnt to believe in myself, and have certainty in my needs, which abused children often struggle with. Communication skills, regulatin…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/21 11:59 AM
3	I am about to move in with my bf and I am nervous Lady, are you okay?	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/21 11:06 AM
2	Hospitality: Insecure about serving a table for our guests Personal safety is more important than good manners	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/21 10:41 AM
1	What kinds of compliments do men appreciate most? Women would rather be loved than ... Respected?	/r/RedPillWomen	29/05/21 10:36 AM
1	MEN MUST TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES Well said. Healthy ways to handle big emotions. You gotta live.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/21 09:19 AM
1	Approach when she's got company. Lol "sisters" aka telling a girl she looks like her mother	/r/seduction	29/05/21 01:08 AM
2	No idea what went wrong here Which part was going good lmao	/r/seduction	29/05/21 01:03 AM
1	Is vasectomy a smart choice? Makes sense. I guess the guys I know who have done it are very clear in themselves that they do not want to have any more children.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/21 12:37 PM
1	Is vasectomy a smart choice? It's the dream for us girls, because it means not having to mess our hormones around on birth control, or get bits of metal implanted, remember to take a stupid pill, freak out when we forget, whatever. I'm dating a divorced guy who's done it and makes a huge difference (psychologically among other things). More of y'all should do it. Frreal. I can't speak for the kids thing though. Aren't vasectomies reversible anyway?	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/21 11:43 AM
1	Dating post divorce and commitment issues Some people would say that the one who stuck around was a sucker for sticking around so long when there was little to no chance you wanted to be with her. (E.g. I had advice from a divorced male friend to definitely not wait around, when I realised I was falling for a recently separated man, and also knowing very clearly that this was not a good idea.) While I am a very realistic person, I went through a lot of pain in realising I had somehow ended up in that position. I'd be interested in your …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/21 01:30 PM
2	Bill and Melinda Gates divorce after 27 years of marriage Crazy how you can't just grow apart and decide to set each other free to fart on the couch in private after being married 27 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/05/21 01:53 AM
2	I Find I Choose Attractive Women as Accessories to Boost my Self-Esteem and Can't Break the Cycle We like what we like. No judgement btw. Dating apps are definitely a skewed lens. Good luck 🤞	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/21 07:51 AM
1	I Find I Choose Attractive Women as Accessories to Boost my Self-Esteem and Can't Break the Cycle You'll know. And also, try to challenge your fear that all women over 40 are fat 'n' ugly :P	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/21 06:02 AM
2	I Find I Choose Attractive Women as Accessories to Boost my Self-Esteem and Can't Break the Cycle Sounds like you're pretty clear on that which is awesome. I can relate to the anxious-avoidant conundrum.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/21 09:03 PM
2	I Find I Choose Attractive Women as Accessories to Boost my Self-Esteem and Can't Break the Cycle This has turned into a bit of an essay, It sounds like you're deriving your sense of identity and self worth from people and things that are external to you as a person, rather than you in yourself. What did you learn about yourself in your singlehood gap-year? What sort of words or messages would you tell yourself if you had to spend one year without the nice car, the hot women etc? Outside your comfort zone. Learning how to do different things and not being better than other people/men without…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/21 04:09 PM
2	Dad, please just give Mum the money Be careful that you do not find yourself taking on responsibility for your mother's (or father's) emotions or the details of the divorce. She is an adult. It is her job to manage herself, and protect you, or at the very least not involve you & your siblings. Likewise, your dad. It isn't at all about being heartless, you sound like a kind person. It's about their jobs as the adults and parents. Objectively speaking and from a mental health perspective, it is not fair or ok that you feel you have …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/21 01:55 PM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Cool	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/21 12:35 AM
2	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? The priority - responsibility idea is an interesting/helpful way to consider things. Thank you (edited for words)	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/21 12:28 AM
2	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? That's a good point, feeling ok to tell a potential partner where my comfort zone with their kids is too. I'm going to reflect on this	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/21 12:21 AM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Yeah I don't disagree. I actually hold strong views mostly against the theory and practice of marriage that I won't go into here	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 11:23 PM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Thanks, I greatly appreciate these words.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 01:18 PM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Thanks. I understand every family is different, but did it take a while for you to find your feet in the dynamic? Or I guess just a matter of talking it through as it comes up?	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 12:10 PM
2	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Thanks. And sorry to hear this. I guess I hadn't thought as far as someone getting married again and combined finances. Others have commented similarly so I should definitely consider this as a sensitivity. But what you said makes sense. Thank you	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 11:49 AM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Yep, seems fair. (The mindset, not the experience)	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 11:36 AM
2	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? so as in if she was happily financially independent this would alleviate a sense of $ responsibility or burden as a partner / and also not threaten your existing commitments (.. that sort of thing)?	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 11:18 AM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? 20 years is a very long time. What is PTO? I think all kids need hugs and encouragement fwiw so I hear you. thank you for this	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 10:53 AM
4	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Sorry you've had that experience. I'm personally not into marriage for reasons so that's not an issue. I'm relieved because it's such a sticking point for so many. Thank you for your answer	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 08:35 AM
1	Men who have children and who are (getting) divorced, what would you need to see in a potential partner for her to be a more serious prospect to you? Thanks. Will do	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/21 08:33 AM
1	When you get married, it's about love. When you get divorced, you're told its about money, basically a business transaction Talk early, talk often.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/21 05:21 AM
1	When you get married, it's about love. When you get divorced, you're told its about money, basically a business transaction Absolutely agree. I deeply wish we could revolutionise this. It's a form of socio-economic control that largely helps to uphold capitalist structures. I guess that's why no one in power wants to change it lol	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/21 05:14 AM
14	On a question about why old men hit on 13-18 year olds. I am absolutely disgusted and frightened. Like we're documented in a fkn ledger by creeps. This entire post is triggering and I have to gtfo but I'm glad someone else had the same thought	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/21 02:05 PM