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IMO this is very unfair to MacKenzie Scott. You make her sound like some kind of predatory seductress that showed up and got half of "Jeff's" money. The truth is that MacKenzie is highly accomplished in her own right, as a Princeton graduate and novelist and she used her experience working in finance to help Jeff build Amazon from the ground up together. So she didn't take his money, but rather reaped the reward of the hard work they put in together to create the company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:13 PM
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Husbands/boyfriend: ?????????? Most men take take take and give nothing in return. Eh, what you are describing here is more about finding an awful partner than it is about men in general. One-sided relationship certainly can also happen with so-called friends, colleagues etc., just as much as they can happen in a romantic context with low value men. But that's the whole point, what makes a man low value is exactly the fact that they are not a clear and net plus to your life. However, good relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:10 PM
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I agree with this, I think a nuanced approach makes sense. If you suspect something shady is going on, then on those rare occasions snooping is the lesser evil. Looking like a fool and getting hurt is far worse than looking through someone's phone. Having said that, I must emphasize the rare part. Ultimately going through someone's phone can be a major breach of privacy. If I found that a guy did that to me, it would almost certainly be a dealbreaker and I would end things. You can also expect t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:52 PM
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Wait, they are talking about the teacher who sent nude photos to a 15 year old boy. That is super fucked up no matter how you slice it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:44 AM
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You know what you call a man that doesn't want to make you cum? A gay man. This just seems like unwarranted homophobia. As a bi person, gay people tend if anything to be more responsive to their partner's needs because they can relate to them. A man who doesn't make an efforts to please his partner is not gay, but is selfish and uncaring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 06:20 PM
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Tbh I think the effect is due to high value people deciding to put things on hold as far as dating goes through this mess. Meeting up responsibly was not gonna be on the table for a long time and for most people chatting for months and zoom dates don't quite cut it. For example, I tried chatting for a bit, but it seemed kinda pointless in the short run. As a result, I decided to just put romantic stuff on the backburner and instead work on myself and enjoy my hobbies in the meantime. Most of my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 04:57 PM
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The important thing is to have a communication style that reflects your relationship needs. If your needs are not met and your partner is not able to compromise than the relationship cannot work. For example, for me your arrangement would not work at all. I am in a busy professional field where I routinely work more than 8 hours a day and I have my phone away most of the time so I can concentrate. As such communication with the guys I'm seeing tends to be more sporadic during the day and I would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:54 PM
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Does he feel guilty? I don’t plan to let him, but I’m curious wtf is going on. Does he really think I want to be friends after he criticized me for not doing his dishes after coming out to see him? If this is how you feel (which is 100% valid and legitimate), then you simply should have left him blocked on all outlets. If you feel like he overstepped your boundaries and have no intention of remaining friends, why allow him any access to you at all, which only serves to dredge up bad memories and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:57 PM
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There is no formula that works 100% for everyone. However, in my case, I do like OLD as one of the avenues to find people. I work in a professional field that is very demanding time-wise and quite insular. As a result, the circle I naturally know can get somewhat narrow. But I live in a bustling city with lots of young people and OLD can be a great way to see people I would never run into otherwise. Sure you have to wade through a lot of crap, but I mostly had ok/good experiences in terms of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:51 PM
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Eh tbf social media is a cancer and the obsession with it does way more harm than good. I would way rather have a guy who treats me well in real life than someone who takes two seconds to religiously clicks a button on instagram like a retarded ritual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:28 AM
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There is little question about this. The vast majority of the world's major religions are founded on patriarchal values, which often are quite explicitly enshrined in their scriptures. Women were traditionally seen as essentially the property of their parents and then their husband. In this sense they could be dispensed with as trade-in-goods and then were expected to submit to their roles as wives and mothers without complaint. In more modern iterations of these religions these aspects have imp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:52 PM
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The point is that there is a difference between settling and ignoring Red flags. Often, there is not I think this is a great way of putting it. A certain form of "settling" is not always bad. What I mean by that is that it's rare that you meet a stranger and immediately they check all of your boxes. Even when it comes to attraction, I find it much more likely to genuinely feel attracted to someone when I build up a connection. That is not to say that physical looks don't matter, of course they d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:51 PM
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I could never seriously date somebody who seriously adhered to the traditional tenets of Islam. I am not religious myself, but I am a feminist and in my mind the clash between traditional Islam and feminism is simply irreconcilable. Explicit sexism not only permeates all of Islam (e.g with respect to polygamy for men, reduced rights for women in all matters of life, etc), but is even grounded in sexism. The very ideal of man is Muhammad who was a sick pedophile who raped a nine year old girl bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:41 PM
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You are not an animal who is so base and primal that you will spread for the most inferior, predatory and abusive of the male species. You deserve self respect, self love and self agency. You are a queen on her throne. You are in control. You wear the crown and you own it. Haha that is so well put. It really irks me when I see self-described feminists glorifying FWB scenarios with guys they otherwise are not compatible with. The way I've seen it justified is, well the guy is immature/unambitious…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:20 PM
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My take is that if we haven't even met in real life then there are 0 expectations for anything since online dating is super flaky. But if I met the guy at least once and the date was nice, I would never ghost. Doing so just seems so discourteous and rude and having been on the other side I would not want to do it to someone else. After all, it just takes one short message to say I had a good time but I'm not interested. On the flipside, if I got a bad vibe and felt like the guy was rude or would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:11 PM
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First of all, I am very sorry you are going through this. But try not to freak out and wait to see the results. I hope it will end up being ok and easily treatable if anything came up. On to the main question, I have only had sex in the context of committed exclusive relationships. To me it's not just about the health angle, but I also need to feel a real emotional connection in order to enjoy the experience. It's for this reason that I came to realize that FWBs and similar arrangements are abso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:55 PM
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I'm not cooking for boyfriends anymore. I'm just going to have nuts and microwave popcorn and hot dogs around the house. In Sherry Argov's book "why men love bitches" she says that if I guy comes over and he's hungry just boils some hot dogs and cut them up into little pieces with toothpicks stuck in them. Have ketchup, mustard, and mayo on the side for dipping! Ok but how does it work if/when you get to the point in the relationship that you spend a lot of time together to so that having meals …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:38 PM
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I had a longish relationship with a cook and I got to enjoy the same perk as well. It was really awesome for a while and he even taught me some techniques I got to learn as well. NGL the food is definitely the part of that relationship I miss the most haha. The only downside was that among household chores I enjoy cooking the most to the point that it doesn't even really feel like a chore. But when we lived together because he did all the cooking I had to pick up more of the other remaining chor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:22 PM
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To me this advice is way too general to really be useful honestly. It depends so much on the length of the relationship, the dynamics etc. For example, at early ages of a relationship I mostly enjoy going out with the person I'm seeing. That makes it feel special and breaks my normal routine, allowing me to focus on evaluating if we are a good match. However, as the relationship progresses I will of course want to spend more time with the guy, and once we are exclusive we will see each other qui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:11 PM
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Hmmm, it is a bit too soon for exclusivity talks for me (despite how very cross I am right now). I'm sorry but in that case I absolutely don't understand what issue you have with this guy. Do you seriously expect the guy to wait for you and not see anybody else while you are seeing and sleeping with other people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:52 PM
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It is absolutely on you to decide what you are comfortable with. If you wish to text longer before being comfortable with a person before meeting up, that is 100% your right. Would you miss out with a few guys who might be great? Sure. But at the same time if texting quality is important to you then using that to screen guys from the get-go makes 100% sense. My own preference is a bit different. I really loathe texting and mostly only use texts as a means of scheduling meetups. But I use my own …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:52 AM
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I lived in Sweden for a while so I can chime in a bit. The part about splitting bills etc. is just part of the culture there. The Nordic countries tend to be very socially progressive, which in part translates to women having mostly equal pay, generous access to healthcare, education, and welfare and quite equal rights. On the flip side it means that men and women tend to shoulder the burden equally including on aspects like dating from the get-go. I wouldn't say it's a matter of Swedish men bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:36 PM
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In some ways we are almost there. Think of Game of Thrones and how overly sexualized it was to the point that it repeatedly crossed the line into softcore pornography. Needless to say it was men who kept pushing for such scenes, even in cases where the female actresses were uncomfortable. And yet watching this show for many was 100% acceptable as a social activity, even with family, because it was such a serious mainstream show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:40 PM
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I'm just curious, does he do more housework than you? Since men usually have more strength and stamina it's only logical. If I ever had a husband who's stronger I'd ask him to do more work than me. You're a bit off on the part about stamina, some studies actually show that women have more stamina and muscle endurance than men. It's actually why reason why women are so good at freakishly demanding ultrasports, like super long distance swimming and the like. In any case, even if that wasn't true, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:12 PM
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What’s your perfect cocktail party moment? (Feel free time post it below!). Once you’ve got it in your mind, remind your self never to accept anything less... To be honest, looking for such a moment is best left to naive 15 year old girls because in the real world things never really play out this way and chasing such a moment only puts you at risk for making bad decisions. All the good relationships I had took time to warm up and grow. The idea that I would see an absolutely stranger and someho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:59 PM
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Nice! OUT OUT OUT for LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:44 PM
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Your response was just needlessly hostile. The guy offered to treat you to drinks or dinner based on your preference. All you had to do was accept the offer for dinner if you that's what you preferred and wanted to see the guy. But you proceeded to bite his head off for throwing in the extra option about drinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:52 PM
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LVM exist in any work field. Exactly. The way I would put it into more sciency terms is that having (or working towards) a career that requires ambition is a necessary but not sufficient condition for a HVM. So if homeboy is working for years as a janitor at your local high school, you know he is not worth your time period. But even if he does work as a doctor, lawyer, scientist, etc. there is no guarantee that the fail to raise to HVM standards in other ways (e.g. by being immature, short or ug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 10:17 PM
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I’m not available whenever he asks, I will sometimes “neg” him by going a few days without responding to messages — given they aren’t urgent — and I don’t compliment him often or show affection often so that when I do, it feels like a reward To be honest this sounds like an awful way at growing a healthy relationship as these games are a surefire way to breed resentment. FDS strategies work best as a means of screening out assholes in the early stages of dating to make sure you end up with someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:00 PM
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Eh to be honest I don't think he did anything bad. I also date multiple people at once and advise people to do the same. A couple of times I ran into similarly awkward situations when dates overlapped, but that's just part of reality with modern dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:36 AM
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Statistically attractive men are less likely to cheat than ugly guys. Do you have some source for this, because I'm extremely skeptical. It's not that I have any illusion about the moral qualities of ugly dudes lol, but it stands to reason that the opportunities they would have to cheat would be quite limited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:11 PM
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Maybe don't share everything huge right away Nah that would be a shitty thing to do in this particular case. When I'm looking for a serious relationship I don't want to waste my time with people who are not in a position to even potentially make that happen. Dating casually is totally fine of course, but it's important to be upfront and not string people along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:49 PM
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I was at a meeting with some clients with another guy from my company and we both had finished the same PhD program, which the clients were aware of. During one event the middle aged man introduced us as Dr. Dude and Ms. maserlaser. Now normally I don't really care about titles and would it obnoxious to correct someone, but here is seemed 1) both malicious and 2) I felt like it would undermine my authority from the very get-go. So I gently but forcefully interjected to say that it's also Dr. mas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:26 PM
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Yup, it's like Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Whether you're a guy or gal the lowest rung you need to secure is your basic physiological needs, of food, shelter, and a bit of disposable income. That's literally the foundation of your normal life and if that is lacking I am afraid that love needs to wait a bit until you are up on your feet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:18 PM
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But then what is the alternative?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:30 PM
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I mean it's not really rocket science. They wanted to go on a date but then found that they didn't feel chemistry or connection on the date and so don't want to meet again. Sadly many people the cowardly way out and instead of just sending a polite goodbye message they just ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 06:18 PM
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I know this term has shifted a bit over time, but I think it's important to stick closer to the original definition, which is the first example you gave. What makes gas-lighting so scary as an abusive technique is that it basically makes you question your own sanity. Victims start to lose confidence in their own memories and ability to keep track of reality, which only makes it that much harder for them to leave and forces them into the hands of the abuser. Nowadays the term has also been used b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:47 PM
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Lol, ironically they are not even close to being unique. In fact in most of the Western world only a minority of women identifies as feminist. In some ways that makes explicitly refusing to identify as a feminist to prove to dudes how cool you are just that much more sad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 07:12 PM
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Yes! Recently relaunched some dating apps and will occasionally match with someone way outside of my parameter settings. To be honest, similar experiences made me realize that distance can be a real dealbreaker for early relationships, to the point where I usually avoid someone if they are further than 30 minutes away or so. Distance just creates such a large barrier to see each other and especially in the early stages of dating when neither of you are sure how things might go. It's one of the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 06:37 PM
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I am of two minds on this. On the one hand OP's safety and comfort must come first and her conscience would be clear if she just blocked the guy. Having said that, sending an anonymous message to the wife may do some good. The poor woman may not believe it right away, but at least it'll plant a seed of doubt that may help her escape from this piece of shit and take him for all he's worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 02:22 AM
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Well I would definitely say that the barrier is in some ways lower for dating in your 20s for both men and women. That is true not just for dating, but also other social interactions like friendship. At that age people generally fave fewer responsibilities and more time to socialize. Plus far fewer people are in committed long term relationships or even married. Having said that, there are also a lot of major perks to dating in your 30s. Most people will be more mature, have more stability and f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:16 PM
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What does he mean by "no worries about meeting up?" Did you two have plans to meet up over the weekend or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:27 AM
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Huh I'm surprised to also see that the number is also below 50% for women. I wonder if part of the answer may be some quirk in their methodology/the way they phrased the question, but unfortunately the article is kinda sparse on that front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:57 AM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with going on dates in part as a way to hone those skills. It's not immoral either as long as you are honest. If you are interested, go out and try to have a nice time with the guy. If you indeed decide that you don't want something long term it's of course ok just to decline further dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 03:32 AM
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I think your job only really strongly reflects on you in terms of highlighting your intellect, ambition, and interests. So for example just having a higher income would probably not make you all that much more appealing to guys. But conversely being stuck in a dead end job without working on self-improvement can be a turn off. So in that sense, I would prioritize what advances your life, whether it is moving up in your career or furthering your education, even if it temporarily comes with a cut …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 11:11 PM
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I don't like having men pay for me. Spoil me with gifts, sure, that's fine, but I want him to be aware that I don't need him financially. I want him to know that his money does not have control over me. My expectation is not that he spends his money on me, but his time. That actually sounds really close to how I feel as well. I kind of slaved away in my 20s for a professional degree and now I make good money, but sadly still have very little time. As a result, a guy spending more money on me is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:44 PM
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Well this may be a good place to ask a clarification on a point that I am curious to see what others think about. FDSers believe that the man should pay for the dates. And should be responsible for significantly more than half of the expenses in the relationship. I guess for me this is the one part of this sub that I've found it hardest to wrap my head around. If you and the guy are making about the same amount of money, how can you expect that they will spend significantly more in the relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:34 PM
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Well it depends on the length and nature of the relationship. Assuming it was a serious and healthy relationship, having a sit down talk where you gently tell them that you wish to part ways and say goodbye is in most cases the way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:04 AM
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The prosecutor said that in the hours after Ms Millane died, the defendant engaged in a number of internet searches, including for the Waitakere Ranges, where her body was found, and for “the hottest fire”. He also allegedly looked at pornography online multiple times and broke off his internet search to take seven intimate photos of Ms Millane’s body. The defendant then resumed searching pornographic websites, before searching for “large bags near me” and “rigor mortis”. Wow wtf, this guy sound…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 02:28 PM
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Nah, it's not worth the effort and you'd only putting yourself at risk for no reason if the dude ends up being crazy. To take the negging thing, if a guy does that then you know he's a semi-psychopathic asshole from the get-go and calling him out won't change a thing. If it comes to drink dates, those are perfectly normal and quite common since a lot of people enjoy those as a more laid back introduction. If that's not your thing that's fine, but "calling the guy out" about that would frankly ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:46 PM
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That is true. One of the best relationships I had was back in grad school with another guy who was equally broke. Of course we couldn't afford to go out to fancy places too often, but I always appreciated when he would make an effort to cook special meals, buy little gifts or save up to enjoy a nice meal out when possible. Of course I did the same when I could and even though funds were tight we both had a lot of great experiences. Now that I make good money and date men who are also generally w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 02:12 PM
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To be honest those other things do make is seem like he can potentially be a good partner. Having said that his honesty is still a potential problem given that there is a very real risk that he may be involved in sketchy shit that could also put you at risk if you associate with him. Honestly at this point, especially given that you two have been intimate and are considering going forward, I would advise you to not worry about being pushy about asking him to elaborate on what exactly it is that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:29 AM
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This is not exactly scientific, but here's been my experience. I grew up in the American South and saw the effect of tough "good old boys" with a chip on their shoulder about "protecting their women." So many idiot assholes working deadend jobs they hated who took out their frustrations on their wives because they were "ungrateful" for them "bleeding to the bone providing for their families." There was a pretty clear correlation too between the insecure assholes acting masculine and cocky and ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:25 AM
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I don't understand, how is it possible that you've gone on so many dates with this man and still know so little about him? Most individuals will in no small part be defined by their education and career. To be honest, I don't really see how you are considering becoming exclusive with this man you know so little about him and from the little you know you say: I don’t know if his lack of candor and seeming lack of drive are long terms issues I mean the only positive side to him that you seem to em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:54 AM
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Then just end the relationship...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:42 PM
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Destroying a good committed relationship in no way benefits a woman who wants to be in such a relationship. Besides the focus on female benefit is about how to adjust normal behavior for your benefit, it's not like some carte blanche to through basic ethics out of the window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:14 PM
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The whole point of a committed relationship is to... well commit. Of course, you should make sure that your needs are met by your partner. But if you're always on the lookout for something "better" than it's best just to break things off since at that point you're frankly not in a real relationship. And cheating is simply beyond the pale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:55 PM
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It's an incredibly shitty thing to do to another person. Honestly I don't really know what more even needs to be said there, if you're not willing to treat another person with basic honesty and decency, why even go into a relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:50 PM
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Just like FDS women have FWBs we don't really invest in, men will not invest in Beckys who they think are easy. To be completely honest I am not super into FWBs these days. But the one time that I was, I still had fun and good time because the guys I was with and I were honest with what we were looking for and expected. Of course, we invested less time and emotion into each other because we weren't interested in a serious monogamous relationship. But there was always a measure of respect and som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:08 PM
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You have to keep in mind, high-value men may treat women who offer them convenient sex poorly. That does not mean they will make a shitty partner or that they are shitty human beings. They will gladly be high-value and an amazing partner when it comes to their dreamgirl who makes him wait. I don't buy that. A guy who treats women poorly in general, e.g. to exploit them for sex in a deceitful way is an asshole, period. That is not the kind of person I would want date let alone associate with. Of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:59 PM
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Well for example the idea that men should pay on every date, take the lead in the planning and organization of relationship activities, etc. does seem a bit on the conservative side in that it follows traditional gender roles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:08 PM
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IMHO no one should date when they’re young, especially women. That’s when you’re naive and stupid and most likely to get trapped in a bad situation. Even if you’re lucky enough to avoid disaster, it can really impede your career and opportunities to get the life experiences that help you mature. Problem is without experience you just risk extending the naivete to when you're older. For better or worse those mistakes are also how you learn. I would maybe reframe the advice as don't commit when yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 03:09 AM
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