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I am currently working on clearing 3 credit cards worth 17k in debt. I only have about 1300 left.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 01:20 AM
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I was gas lit into so much shame I questioned everything and anything I said. So I started to shut down. I didn't know what was going on and she was starving for a connection. She found that in male friend who's married with kids ina swinger life style. Heh, funny thing is she tried to get me to open the marriage so she could sleep with him during our failing Marriage, but that fell threw. So I was guilted into believing I was the cause for everything. It took a year of therapy and some mutual f…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 12:53 AM
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It's free 99. You can register if you want to, but I do recommend getting there early. Because when you hear 50 hammers going at it you just wanna punch some dry wall that happens to be in the workshop area.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 01:39 AM
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So every year I take my kid to home Depot on the first Saturday of May. We do the kids workshop and its a mother's day theme. Pretty good.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 01:19 AM
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I did something similar, I just collected every single photo both physical and digital I had and put put it in my child's box. Then I proceeded to do a daily social media scrub that took a full year to get done. Untagged her, deleted shared pictures/ post and untagged myself from anything she/ friends mentioned in my name and or her name in it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 12:54 AM
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Yes. You can get the one from the county appraisal office and a few more for market values.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 02:02 AM
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It's called lack of accountability. There's always two winners from a divorce and a loser. The two winners can now openly sleep with each other and not feel any guilt/ be held accountable for their actions in the collapse nof the marriage. With the loser is the one that has their world shattered and picks it back up and moves on.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 06:37 AM
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Nah, I sold the 2 apple watches ( that I bought) she left behind at my house after she moved.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:06 AM
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I'm in the same boat. I was blind to her actions during our marriage. Until I had mutual friends point out what she was doing. Gaslighting, manipulation, mind games, "training" etc to me. I was in so much denial of it, but getting into the much needed counseling and going to church.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 09:34 PM
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Yeah, my wife was an amazing woman and a great mother. We had our ups and downs. Yet she let others get in her head (later in her bed) and plant the seed of doubt. She divorced me and found "loved" in a married man's arms. Do I still miss my ex-wife? Yes, but I have accepted there is no point to even try anymore. She's moved on and I will too. I am just working on myself before anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 11:42 PM
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Look at it this way. She sees your marriage with her as a meal. You know with the veggies, starches, sides and the main thing is the meat. That meat is you and it is pork. Not bacon either. Now she's been having said pork meal for the last how many years and has gotten tired of it. She is hungry for something different, let's say beef. This beef happens to be a prime ric 30oz with all the good things going with it. Don't forget the desert too (sex). She's eating steak instead of pork chops from …
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 09:11 PM
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I'm in that same boat. That the woman I loved is being "loved" by her FWB and now her fiancee. I saw how fast she divorced me and jump on the next guys bonea.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 12:01 AM
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Nope. I'm pretty sure she knew how to push my buttons and know exactly how to make it look like I was the villain all along. Ya thought you know someone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 11:42 PM
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Then you're in the clear.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 02:53 AM
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If they can't establish that you are the child's father (biological or legal by birth certificate/ adoption paperwork) you should be clear. Still look up your state laws to be safe.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 01:33 AM
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I know how you feel. My ex-wife is doing the same thing
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 02:09 AM
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Yeah, she mentally checked out years before telling me. Maybe hoping it could be repaired. Guess not. She did try to go for sole custody (no 50/50). I shot that down real quick. We agreed to what will be split. She moved out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 09:37 PM
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Happy Gilmore?
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 09:20 PM
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My ex-wife moved out, so now I am going to make it the way I want. Paint rooms, redecorating, furniture etc. finally make an office.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 03:44 AM
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4 months
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 03:14 AM
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Improve my house.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 03:08 PM
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Same. My ex-wife got me so guilt ridden I was losing my mind.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 01:22 AM
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2-3-2
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 05:04 AM
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Yeah, I'm in the same boat as well. I met the guy my ex-wife is going to marry and even found out he owns a ranch and business doing very well. Even has a mustang. Don't get me wrong, I'm bitter as hell, but I have to let it go. That is the person my ex-wife wants to be with and I love her that she found him. The guy can probably give her everything she truly needed. Support, both body and mind, financial and a great home. Our daughter loves the guy's own kids. She See's them as family already. …
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 04:16 AM
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That which I will overlook all their flaws and imperfections just to keep the peace. While mine are laid bare, told to others and used against me. I know not every woman is the same. Yet I had to have a mutual friend point out my ex-wife's flaws just for me to acknowledge them. I thought she was perfect, nope. I now know that it's better to be single. If I ever did get into a relationship again and it did lead to marriage. I will have a prenuptial agreement as a deal breaker.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 05:25 PM
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I'll look it up.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 05:21 PM
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I'll do that. Thank you for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 02:58 AM
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Same, I had to set a boundary with my ex-wife on how she answers her front door in the morning when I drop our child to her. She would open the door in a tank top (no bra) she's poking through and booty shorts. Don't get me wrong I do have some attraction to her, but this is something I should not see and neither should our child. I asked her to put some more clothes on and got the third degree so, "you have no say so in my personal life and go fuck your self if you feel awkward". So now she's g…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 06:51 PM
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That's what my ex-wife was trying to do after our divorce and moved out. Her close male friend (who's married with kids and lives a stagg/ vixen lifestyle) whom sleep had sex with. She even asked a mutual friend to get her some plan b. Well her life, not mine.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 07:57 PM
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This is exactly the same for me! My ex-wife got engaged 4 months after she started to date this new guy. Saw the ring last January. It's a nice diamond about 2-3k plus. Glad to know where her standards are. I also found out from a mutual friend he took her out to Vegas over Superbowl weekend. I am pretty sure they were trying to get married in a chapel, but she found out he isn't divorced from his second wife. Apparently his stbx lawyered up and this is being dragged out. Lol. Her life is not mi…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 07:50 PM
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Not gonna lie, I was hope that horizon fw, had a reference to area 51 in it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 07:39 PM
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I have to starve myself of everything to make it by. Less food , entertainment, social life and trying to save money to just clear my debts.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 12:59 PM
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I don't even know where the ones we had went. I think they were in her jewelry box and she chucked them. Or maybe our daughter will find them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 03:32 AM
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Kinda like howy ex is fucking a married man who's divorced was not finalized yet, but he all ready is engaged to her, ring, she's moving in and pretty sure a date has been set. The guy's stbx kust lawyered up and pushed it back even farther. Sucks to be her. This is what she gets for emotionally cheating on me, them sleeping on and off with her AP and now got her claws in to this new guy. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 04:56 AM
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Happened to me. She was sleeping with her married friend who has 4 kids, open marriage, swinger life (stag and vixen) and multiple partners for him and his wife. And to top it off, my ex told me was was in a relationship on the day that would have been our 8th wedding anniversary and was engaged 3 months after telling me of him. So I see it like wow, 4 months in and ring on her finger. I saw it and the price is $2000 ish. So I know what she wanted all this time. Not my wife, not my life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 02:31 AM
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I just laugh at the idea of him screwing her as I know how many partners he has. Like a walking STI factory and he infected her. I know they've hooked up multiple times since the divorce. And is now going through marriage problems since his wife has closed their open marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 10:42 PM
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I'm in the same boat. With the ways employment is going with the federal government, it's gonna be hard to survive.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 10:25 PM
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I know your pain. I was in an extreme dry spell with my ex-wife when I was still married. I think like 14 months straight. Still hugged and kissed. That was it and nothing else. I would try to initiate and get shot down.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 06:08 PM
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Yep, that's how my marriage ended at the end. She used sex as a weapon and had me doubting my own memories.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 02:49 AM
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Same here. She was cheating on me with the guy. Any time he was in town he was banging her. She even tried to get pregnant by the guy. And now she's engaged to a new guy less than 4 months, her lover is freaking out and having issues with his own wife. Chickens coming home to roost.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 11:13 PM
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I found out from a friend that my ex-wife started dating in August last year and was engaged by mid November. With a wedding planned this summer after she moves in with him. I've met him a few times, he's an okay guy from what I can tell. She can live her life how she wants to. I'm out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 09:01 PM
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Nice, you got to keep the mother in law out of the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 08:56 PM
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I was supposed to go to a concert, but after getting ready I took a nap and missed it. It's okay, just another day and year alone.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 08:55 PM
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My ex-wife after she told me that she wants a divorce tried to buy me a PS5 Christmas. I told her that's a waste of money and thing we're going to get tight. She was probably trying to be nice, but I did take it the way she wanted. I most likely hurt her feelings in the end and will never ask her about it. We moved on in our own ways. She's getting married and I'm working on my life for my kid.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 01:36 AM
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I begged her and was still divorced. Worst mistake ever. Never show women any form of weakness because they will never let you forget it and will use it against you. Like years down the road they might see you in a new light as a new successful man and still remember you at your weakest point in life. Then the kick to the balls comes out of nowhere.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 02:35 AM
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Does collecting all the things the ex-wife left behind and throw/ donate away count. If I am asked I will just say " you left it here for over 1 year plus, now it's gone.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 07:50 PM
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Don't care. If she's happy in this rebound relationship more power to her. She had a chance with me and I won't be anyone's second choice or back up.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 04:16 AM
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Been there. Almost committed it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 12:57 PM
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Yep. She's now engaged to a good man, after 4 months of dating. I pray it works out for her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 10:42 PM
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Mine did. She even encouraged me to have sex after the divorce was final and as a fool that was stupid of me to do it. I later found out from a mutual friend she was trying to get pregnant again with another kid from me. I dodged that bullet, but also found out she was then looking for a sperm donor. Who happened to be the guy she emotionally cheated on me with and is also married in an open marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 10:26 PM
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Can't, the guy's wife is a good friend of hers and encouraged for it to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 04:25 PM
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That happened to me as well!
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 03:39 PM
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Would not be surprised either. She just wanted an excuse to screw the guy without feeling any remorse.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 08:22 PM
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My ex-wife had sex with a married guy who has an open marriage who she emotionally cheated on with. She did want to try and open our marriage. I said no
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 04:14 AM
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How did you just tell my story?!?!
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 01:57 AM
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At fish I was hooked, lined and sinkered. I was in the palm of her hand. Had me by the balls so to speak. Came to realization and found God. So I don't care what she does anymore. Just ignore it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 01:31 AM
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I agree. I met the guy, he's a great guy. I just pray he gets a prenuptial first.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 12:59 PM
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That's what I'm doing.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 12:58 PM
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Two years in March.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 06:08 PM
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I used to feel that, now there is nothing. Like I don't even feel anything when I thought she was having sex with her "friend" or whatever random thought of her enjoying her new freedoms in life. She made her bed and who she'll share it with. I just support my child and myself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 05:11 AM
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I was in the same boat. Felt like getting kicked in the gut multiple times. I still have to interact with her due to us having a kid together. I just look at her and smile with a smirk on my face. Knowing what she's going to put that guy through in the future. I still have the random thought of her sleeping around but it fades away even faster now. I have become indifferent to her now. She chose that life choice not me. She could catch a STI and I wouldn't feel anything for her. The best thing i…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:26 AM
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I agree with you on that, I know what it's like to be starving for physical contact from a partner.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:24 PM
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Yes, realizing I was not to fully blame for a failed marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 03:42 PM
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You really don't. Every time I look at my child I see her. The only way is to just accept they are gone. They wanted out of the relationship. I just remembered what my ex-wife told me "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." I will play that over and over until I can start moving again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 04:48 AM
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Nothing at all.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 02:02 AM
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I'm not going to lie, I did post on social media that my ex and I were in the process of a divorce. I did it out of anger. I admit it was wrong of me to do it. Yet at that time I had to let it out. I could have done it in a better way, but I was too angry.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 09:55 PM
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A year and a half to start seeing the effects of healing. I'm glad that I had the support I needed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 11:08 PM
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Nah, face moisturizer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:13 PM
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Yep. I'm on track to be debt free in about 5 years or less. I can penny pinch like there is no tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 02:40 AM
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Show them younglings what a man with discipline and experience can do.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 10:02 PM
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I did that mistake when she asked for a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 02:19 AM
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For Xmas day last year I was alone. Friends and family wishing happy holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 01:01 AM
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Oh yeah! It was hard to look at what I have become over the years. That made me angry at everything and myself. Got into therapy and it helped out a lot. Making lists of what your good strengths are then making 2 two opposing for each one. Makes you see a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 10:05 PM
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6 years of it and she still divorced me
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:46 AM
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So in my town in Kansas the is a pink SUV with the plate: PNKDLDO
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 01:46 AM
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"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something" ― Chris Rock. In my failed marriage this had been the point.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 12:49 PM
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If she wants the house. Then she will need to have only her name on it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 01:06 AM
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Does finding a C*** ring count? I found it while cleaning my closet out and came across the "toy" box and that was the only thing left in it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:43 PM
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Just be careful of her really close inner circle. It will become an echo chamber real quick. I know from personal experience. And once the cracks show there will be someone ready to slip in.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:24 PM
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Yes, if I had better communication skills with my ex. Actually listened and did not blow her off. Put her needs about my own. Sadly too much resentment built up and she left me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 06:51 AM
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6 years of marriage counseling. Things would get better and then worse. Her friends got involved with giving her "advice". I truly wanted to keep going, but it didn't work. I was emotionally cheated on by her with a male friend of hers from the military (who is married with 4 kids and into a swinger lifestyle). Icing on the cake she had sex with him after our divorce was finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 02:54 AM
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You're gonna want to get your body and mind in the right place and have that documentation stating you were charged, but not convicted. I guarantee they will do a background check on you to make sure there is nothing hiding.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:10 PM
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I'm in the same boat. My ex-wife told me recently that she has been seeing someone for a while. I guess her male best friend/ lover can't give her the five love languages she wants because he is rarely in town. So now she's on to the next guy. I pray she finds her happiness as well.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 09:19 PM
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Neither I just deleted it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 01:44 AM
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From the amount of damage I did to what we had. We don't even acknowledge each other. Even if we walk past one another. From the pain I caused during my failed marriage and after the divorce. I admit to my wrong doings. So there is nothing between us at all. I feel nothing anymore for her. She left me for a life without me. so she has no power in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:16 PM
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I've been there. Think of it this way my brother. If she truly wants to leave after you have done everything you can do. Let her go. You are a good father and a good son to your parents. These times will be hard and these will temper your resolve. You've been beaten down so much but you are not broken. There is still so much you have to do. So be there for your children and family. She is just a chapter in your life and that is okay. It's time to turn the page and start writing. The first thing …
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 02:46 AM
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I agree with you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 09:32 PM
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I found out by a picture on the echo show she left at my house when my daughter pointed it out to me that was synced to her Amazon photos. It was her in bed fucking the guy who helped her move out of my house, I also thought was a friend, who she emotionally cheated on me with, causally hooks up after the divorce is finalized, when he is around and is currently married with 4 kids is in an open marriage that into that swinger, stagg and vixen sex style. Has had multiple partners. So I would neve…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:35 AM
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That's the hard part, but I do agree.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:36 AM
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I agree! I was guilt tripping so hard I was thinking of ending my life so my wife ( now ex-wife) could get the insurance money to wipe the slate clean. It took a lot of counseling to come to terms with what happened. I openly admitted family, friends, pastor and counselor about my part in a failed marriage. My actions/ inactions, prioritizing work over her, ignoring/ gaslighting and letting her have 95% of the decision making. I will be the monster/ villain in her story. I have proof that would …
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:30 AM
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I know that pain as well. I have those thoughts multiple times a day. I constantly have "what if" scenarios about events, conversations, actions/ inactions and more going on in my head. I have to remind myself that the past is the past and that time is gone. It's too late to change the past and move on. I do find it painful to see my daughter grow up and not be there for her. I know what I did and didn't do in how my marriage fell apart. I admit and accept all of what I have done. I will not den…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 07:44 PM
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Same here. I do book time over video for my daughter, but it's every day for me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 12:15 PM
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She was sent underwear (bra's, panties, lingerie, crotchless panties and cupless bras) by her male "best friend". I even found the pictures of her wearing them and sending them to him. Even sexted each other including the guy's wife too.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 10:59 PM
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It's the memories you have for the unconditional.love you gave her. For the amount of grief she may have given you. You still loved her at the end of the day. This will pass as you start to see her in a new light. Some good some bad. I am going through it also, but then I remember all the negatives. I was emotionally cheated on by her. How could I trust her again after knowing that? So I made the decision that if she wants to be with her lover (who is married, with kids, in the military, and a s…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 02:12 AM
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Budget like you have no money and all you can eat is ramen noodles for the next 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 08:30 PM
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Nope, he's in a committed open swinger stag/vixen marriage with 4 kids
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 04:20 AM
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The "male best friend" that is not a threat.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 11:02 AM
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I don't know. I do go over to her house every now and then for my daughter. I see how small her house is compared to mine. I really don't care. I see all the stuff she buys and keeps it to myself. I can really see the debt she's racking up, but that's her life not mine. I only care about my little girl and nothing else. If I don't have to be there I won't. Especially after she had her lover there for three weeks to "help" around the house. She made her bed and chose to have him in it. I'll focus…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 09:04 PM
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My ex-wife has had off and on with her lover whenever he is around. The guy she emotionally cheated on me with.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 08:37 PM
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Nope, I was sure we were perfect for each other. She got it in her head that I can't give her the love she needs. Also she got the echo chamber support from her friends. Oh let's also include that emotionally cheated on me and after the divorce hooked up with him. She had him at her house for the last 4 weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 03:28 AM
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She had a really close male friend who I was told "nothing to worry about". 6 years later and that was a lie.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 12:17 AM
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Shinedown: 45 Limp biscuit: behind blue eyes Disturbed: sounds of silence Are to name a few.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 03:27 AM
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She will close her heart on you, so she can open her legs for them..
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 01:08 AM
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I agree with you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:08 AM
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I never cheated I was faithful. My ex-wife was the one who emotionally cheated on me. I have the proof.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 12:39 AM
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Woah! It's not cheating in their eyes if they don't love you
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 04:07 AM
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But what do you do when you get manipulated so much that you became the villain in the story out of guilt, shame, depression and no self-confidence. And the only validation you got was from them?
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 03:38 AM
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This happened to me. While still married bahe got bras, panties and lingerie sent to her. She even sent back pics/ video to the guy. And 4 months after the divorce is signed, she fucks him. So closed her heart to me and she opened her legs to him. She wants to whore it out. I won't touch her again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 02:33 AM
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She did. After many years of failing marriage counseling and "advice" from her family and friends. Hell she even emotionally cheated on me with someone I thought was a mutual friend. Even better she had sex with him 4 months after the divorce was settled. I guess our 7 years shit to her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 01:55 AM
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40k ish
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 01:50 AM
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Same.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:56 AM
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I have a mantra: who, where, what, when and why she spends her time (and with) doesn't concern me. Unless it effects my little girl.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 01:56 AM
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It's the gold/ blue dress debate all over again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 03:40 PM
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Your paying her alimony or child support ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 08:50 PM
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