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| 1 | What’s keeping the red pill alive?I don't think Blue Pill denies the differences between the sexes so much as it denies that those differences have a make-or-break effect on a singular person's relationship prospects. a man of median height can go on 50 dates and never meet a woman taller than him Technically, the chances of a man of median height meeting 50 random women and not a single one is taller than him is 0.98^50, or only 36%. In other words, it's almost 2x more likely than not for at least one woman to be taller than hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 08:59 PM |
| 9 | What’s keeping the red pill alive?Blue Pill thinking is based on the logic that population-level statistics do not apply neatly to individuals. It's scientifically undisputed that men, on average, are taller than women. However, in real life, we meet women who are taller than men all the time. I'm sure you can find numerous papers that say things about human mating strategy, hypergamy, and so on, but just because they are statistically significant phenomena that you can observe, it does not mean that every single person is guara… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 06:20 PM |
| – | Blue Pill is a CultImagine being too lazy to write your own ragebait, yikes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Hypothetical for RP menThere are 2 main branches of RP, one for men and one for women, and they are almost diametrically opposed ideologies. I think your confusion stems from how RPM and RPW get muddled together, and how the real RP is very different from the perception of RP. To be clear, the "Red Pill" here refers to the idea that almost all men and women are extremely predictable, and there are straightforward rules you can follow to achieve the relationship you want. If you believe we are animals with mating patte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanI'm not saying that this career doesn't exist; it's that prostitution as a career is not a privilege that is available to all women. Either you are forced to charge very little and put up with dangerous working conditions, or you must be outstandingly attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanI definitely made some generalisations and tried to base this hypothetical in the US (despite it not being legal), but from my understanding of Aus/NZ markets, most sex workers do not host in their own homes for obvious safety reasons, and health insurance due to being self-employed is definitely considered a business expense in the US. In real life, they are most definitely spending less than $5k when they are starting out, but the point of the rough math is that it's still a job that has costs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanIn a lot of places, sex work is literally a crime. I do not think the average woman can sell pics of their butthole to pay rent or their bathwater and make millions, anymore than the average man can play a little basketball and make millions. The point of the post is that men vastly overestimate how many women can do this. Literally, if an about-to-be-homeless woman comes to you to sell you a pic of her butthole, do you want it? How much would you pay for a random woman's bathwater? The privileg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average woman8 new towels at 25 each is literally $200 a month. Unless you mean you are buying 8 towels for $25?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanUnless there is a nearby legal brothel to take care of security, a secondary location, and marketing, I don't see how 8 handies a day does not turn into a full-time job requiring all the same overhead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanJust because men would have sex with all types of women when it's free, it does not mean men would have sex with all types of women when it costs money. Also, your logic could be applied to men as well: looking at all the types of men in the world, it's clear that women are fucking all types of men. Therefore it's clear all types of men could do a form a sex work. Yet you probably don't think that's true. Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:59 PM |
| 3 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanAdverts does not automatically mean success. There are a lot of tinder profiles (i.e. personal ads) of men, but that does not mean they are all successfully getting dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanIf you are seeing 10 clients a day, the only way to do that is through a brothel. Otherwise, it would just be impossible to get yourself and the space ready for the next client. If you go to legal brothel websites in Australia or NZ and such, guess how much they charge for full service? Also in the 500-600+ range. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:51 PM |
| 10 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanI'm will say that there is a slight selection bias - the type of women at say a Whole Foods in a major city might not be representative of women in general. I also agree that most women are not thinking about economic feasibility when they think about sex work - this post is specifically for men who, for some reason, believe sex work to be a female privilege despite all of its very very obvious downsides. I'm trying to argue that even if all women wanted to do sex work, the majority of women can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanBy the same logic, post menopausal women are hardly able to become hookers either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average woman2 a day + 5 days a week is a lot of clients - most sex workers I know/have heard from work closer to 3 days a week, the more established ones only work a few times a month (I'm from a country where sex work is legal). Why not 10? Have you thought about the implications of sleeping with 10 separate clients a day? They most definitely have security. All legal brothels have panic buttons and on-site security. If you are an independent sex worker, you would have to hire/contract it. Clothing worn st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanDo you believe that all women are sexually attractive enough for sex work? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanUK (minus London) has lower COL than the US on average. Also, this is assuming relatively dignified working conditions, which is not always the case. There are trafficked women giving 20 dollar bjs, but that's hardly a privilege. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanTbh most hookers I have seen charge more than that. Men can always join the military. (So can women, but by that logic, men can also become prostitutes.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:31 PM |
| 8 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanDo you want the prostitute you see to have the budget for new sheets every month? New towels? Have a budget for condoms and lube, and maybe some new toys every now and then? That costs money? I think men vastly overestimate the percentage of women they are willing to pay to sleep with. The point of the post is that only 1 in 10 could be a full escort, and that's 1 out of 10 of women in a very specific age range. Over 95% of all women cannot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:30 PM |
| 13 | Men who think the ability to do sex work is a "female privilege" vastly overestimate the *economic* feasibility of sex work for the average womanI feel like "most young women could be a prostitute" is still too idealistic. Most people (not just men) are effectively blind when it comes to people they consider average, so it's more like "most young women attractive enough for me to notice could be a prostitute". Mind you, just under half of US women are obese, and like 70% or so are overweight. Most developed countries are not too far behind on that statistic. Although some men find that attractive, you have to admit that a lot do not. My … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Advice regarding when to let him lead and when to step in.?? A relationship is not indentured servitude (at least in all the English-speaking countries I know of). Even if you are in the most trad of relationships, the fact that you are still with him is you allowing him to lead you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/26 09:30 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worsethe study do not discern between family support mitigating or people already isolated being prone to loneliness I feel like there are words missing from this line because I cannot for the life of me figure out what you are trying to say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 02:45 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseThe definition of "single" that Pew Research uses is unmarried or not living with a partner, where either you or your partner must be the head of the household. So all of the below situations would be considered "single": high school relationships where you live at home, or college relationships where both parties are living in dorms all early-stage relationships prior to moving in - a lot of couples I know don't move in together until the 2-3 year mark all relationships where you live together,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 02:42 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseMost countries I am aware of offer need-based aid to qualified students, as well as scholarships. You can also take on loans. Unless your parents were unable to work and relied solely on you as the breadwinner for the family, I don't see how their lack of money affects you. The issue with marriage is that it requires the participation of someone else. The nice thing about education is that you are, for the most part, solely in control of your outcomes. I feel like there is a trend of an external… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 07:36 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseYou are correct that sexlessness is way up, but the point of my post is that sexlessness or lack of romantic companionship is not the sole cause of loneliness, and is likely not even the largest cause. A meta-analysis of 177 studies with a sample size of N = 113,427 finds that friendship has the greatest impact in reducing loneliness. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0001691822001317 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseHow do you know? My eyes can see I am also a person and have experienced social isolation even while in a relationship, as many people do See research below. Weiss, R. S. (1974). Loneliness: The Experience of Emotional and Social Isolation. - A romantic partner may fill emotional loneliness but not social loneliness. Adamczyk, K. (2015). An Investigation of Loneliness and Perceived Social Support Among Single and Partnered Young Adults. - "In particular, high family support and medium-high suppo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 06:16 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseGetting a bachelor's degree, for the most part, does not rely on anyone else's efforts but your own, so I would say that is the most accessible of the 3 options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Am I wrong for seeing a male provider behind my partners back?(But if I remember correctly, his first partner had a male surgeon for her c-sections. And yes, the 3 of us and their children all live together.) I'm really confused because it sounds like she is also in a polyamorous relationship? Or is this just a strange living situation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/25 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Am I wrong for seeing a male provider behind my partners back?Yeah, I'm confused because even if she picks a female surgeon, there is literally 0 guarantee that the entire surgical team would be female. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/25 09:40 PM |
| 5 | Am I wrong for seeing a male provider behind my partners back?He has 0 authority over your body and healthcare decisions. If he feels disrespected by you seeking normal medical care, he needs to pound sand and also learn how to be a proper man/decent human being. I thought the redpill community would be more understanding / on the side of limiting how much the government is involved in your life / marriage… and not needing “permission” and a piece of paper from the government to consider yourselves married. I would say my sweet summer child, but you are li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/25 09:38 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseI think a man in this very thread said needing close friends is girly, which is not that far from calling it gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseOne big issue with any of these numbers is that they only count marriages and cohabitation, not dating. For example, as far as the Pew Research Center is concerned, 59% of black adults between the ages 25 to 54 are unpartnered, but we know that it does not mean 59% of all black adults are literally single in the sense that they lack any romantic connection. A lot of modern romantic relationships go on for years without cohabitation or marriage (long-distance, college relationships, etc). If anyt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:17 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseComplaining about not having a girlfriend is not the same as complaining about being lonely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:03 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseI feel like feminists/equal rights activists are terrible at branding and executing their message properly, because a lot of the issues they want to solve would help both men and women. For example, a big reason why men commit suicide is job loss or feeling like they have failed as a provider. The government addressing the gender pay gap and empowering women to work more would conceivably lift that pressure off men's shoulders, at least hopefully to the extent where they do not feel the need to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:01 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseDo we mean friends we hang out with a lot, or friends that we are close enough with to cry in front of? Does it matter if right now a lot of men have neither? The fact is, regardless of how you define friends, the numbers show that male friendships have sharply decreased compared to 30 years ago. Even in your question, you allude to one being more important than the other. Do you think they'd still be just as lonely even with a girlfriend? I'm not denying that a romantic relationship is very imp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseBut why the focus on marriage when, according to the poll, people with a good degree and a high income are just as unlikely to be lonely? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:10 PM |
| 7 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseWomen choose less violent suicide methods, which have a higher failure rate. A depressed russian man blowing his head off is more likely to work than an abused indian housewife drinking pesticide, doesn't mean they don't mean it equally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:15 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseWell, people with a bachelor's degree and above are also not very likely to be lonely, at 10% that's almost as good as getting married! Moreover, making a lot of money puts you at 8%. I wonder why you are specifically picking women/marriage to blame. What could the reason possibly be? Maybe it's easier to cry about women bad than to try to work on the issue yourself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:12 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseSo the issue is also that they need to get over their egos and the narratives in their head - but if we are going down that road, it's also possible to get to a level of enlightenment where all human connection is meaningless to you, you straight up achieve nirvana, and not have to deal with any of these issues at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 05:02 PM |
| 3 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseWomen work at google too? Some female-dominated fields are also extremely intense, like nursing. I would argue that the huge gap in automation exposure by gender reveals that much more women are in roles doing basic formulaic work. The current state of what you can automate with ai is very low fidelity and the roles being wiped out require little creativity or problem solving. This leaves a lot of mental energy on the table This is a very curious claim. Again, do you have data to back this up? B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:56 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseThe boomer men I know all seem to have a large circle of old friends who are willing to do things with them. My partner's dad goes up to his friend's cabin every year with like 15 other guys to hunt, plus all the fishing trips and whatnot. They are also friends with half the street and will attend/host neighbourhood events, while I barely know the name of any of my neighbours. My own parents seem to have friends in every city they go to on vacation. From what I can observe, older people have sig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:45 PM |
| 3 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseIf they just need to get laid, they can go visit sex workers, and the issue should be solved. But that's clearly not the case is it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:37 PM |
| 2 | The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worseI think having kids is a whole other basket of worms, they are fully your responsibility, and it is literally illegal not to devote a significant amount of your time to them. In terms of couples with no kids who stop maintaining friendships, I honestly believe it's a mistake. I have college friends who moved to new cities with their partners after graduating, and as such, have very few new friends. All of them miss the type of friend groups and bonds they had back in college. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 04:22 PM |
| 8 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismBut what's the point in directly communicating with him about this if you have made up your mind that you cannot date this person, regardless of why they exhibit this behavior? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:25 PM |
| 8 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismI think part of what makes your argument difficult to agree with is that there is a wide range of possible "negative unverified assumptions", and some are way more defensible than others. You seem to be mostly talking about large leaps in logic, but there exist behaviors a man can exhibit that instantly "disqualify" them as a dating candidate, regardless of why he is doing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 10:21 PM |
| 6 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismHueristics may not always be correct, but they exist for a reason. Yes, this may let through men who are good at repressing their issues, but since I'm not interested in men who openly have anger issues either, regardless of what the root cause may be, it makes sense to use that as a deciding factor. I think your mindset is a really good and tolerant one, and it's how I treat my friends. However, it doesn't work as well for dating because I can only date one person, and I will be spending signif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 09:48 PM |
| 9 | Deluded Women hate actual vetting and would rather resort to snap character judgement due to illusory opportunity costs and misogynistic men mimic this behavior as a coping mechanismThis is fine and all, but there are situations where questions like that simply can't be asked, and you also have to make a vetting decision. For example, "Hey, I notice you seem to get really angry when the game doesn't go your way. Why is that?" would not be a question I am comfortable asking a man I've only met a few times, who I suspect may have anger issues. The risk and time it takes to investigate this type of red flags fully are just not worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/25 08:28 PM |
| 1 | F (25) another rantIf I am looking to place blame in our day-to-day lives, I would say the blame rests squarely on the shoulders of parents instilling problematic values in their children, whether it be accidentally or on purpose. For one, a lot of "women" going into sex work or adjacent fields are hardly women. If a girl starts an OnlyFans account at age 18, you bet that this is something they found acceptable and decided on at a much younger age. Another thing is, women won't be doing this if they believe they h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | book recommendationsIf you enjoy science and find works that are based on anecdotes unconvincing, I recommend the work of Dr David Buss, who essentially founded the field of evolutionary psychology. E.g. https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/files/2015/09/SexualStrategiesTheory.pdf | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | F (25) another rantI think it's important to analyze who is selling this lifestyle as empowerment. Social media companies, companies like OnlyFans, and the showbiz in general take a cut from every woman who is showing her body on their platforms, so they have perverse incentives to make that lifestyle seem as glamorous and "empowering" as possible. Ultimately, these choices are sold as empowering because doing so makes someone very rich, and it's usually not the sex workers themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 05:50 PM |
| 5 | F (25) another rantA choice doesn't have to be empowering to be valid. However, imo a choice is only empowering if real alternatives exist, and you have the power to say no the choice increases your agency The benefits outweigh the costs for the person making it to some extent, the choice isn’t rewarded mainly because it serves existing power structures, because it's too easy to confuse market approval with personal values So a lot of the situations you mentioned are definitely valid to me, but maybe not empowerin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 04:50 PM |
| 6 | F (25) another rantI'm not too sure if this post actually fits the rules, but I will respond anyway since it's a topic I have always been very interested in. I want to talk about our dopamine driven culture, and women’s need for validation today. The pressure to show our bodies, the need to feel desired, and the lengths some women go to for attention. Things like crossing boundaries, seeking validation from unavailable men, or using sexuality as a shortcut to feeling valued. Women seeking validation, desire, or at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menThe context of the post is not a guy who has asked you out or approached you, though. It's a guy who is trying to be your friend. If it's purely physical, then he is not actually interested in being friends, is he? If a man becomes your good friend, you two hang out all the time, you tell him your problems, and you come to find out that he just wanted to sleep with you, and the second you reassure him that you are perfectly straight, he ghosts you and never talks to you again, you would probably… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 10:54 PM |
| 7 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menMost tests show no sex difference in average IQ so... what happened to red pill being into facts again? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 08:21 PM |
| -1 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menI don't believe most women would feel "betrayed" if a genuinely platonic friend develops romantic feelings. OP is specifically talking about "men who act like their friend and then stop being their friend after their rejected" - i.e. a man who approached a woman wanting something "romantic" before even knowing the woman at all, and befriended her for that specific purpose. I put "romantic" in quotes because I struggle to believe that he can find this woman interesting without having known her in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with men?? You realize the topic at hand is friendship, right? Not hook-ups. We are not talking about if it's okay to only hook up with people you find physically attractive or whatever; we are specifically talking about befriending someone as a ruse to hook up with them, and why that's seen as a betrayal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 06:32 PM |
| 6 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menBecause if he wanted a relationship, i.e. a friendship with romantic and sexual intimacy on top, he probably wouldn't have labelled the friendship aspect as a "waste" or be that hurtful to a friend. Also, in that specific situation, he proposed a hook-up, and she actually said she is happy to go on a date and see how it goes, but she's personally not comfortable with sex outside of committed relationships, and his response was "I already wasted all this time hanging out with you though". I didn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:56 PM |
| 5 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menIt's totally fine if someone sincerely likes me but also finds me physically attractive on top of that, but many women have experienced situations where it's very obvious that the friendship was a ruse. For example, there was a guy who labelled all the time he spent hanging out with a friend of mine as "wasted" when she turned his advances down. It cannot be more obvious that this person only wanted a hook-up and never actually wanted to be friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:48 PM |
| 6 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menExactly this. To be friends with someone, you need to actually like and respect them. Most men don't need any of that to be sexually attracted to someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menDid you reply to the correct comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:31 PM |
| 13 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menThe thing is, and correct me if you think I'm wrong, men can be sexually attracted to women they do not like as a person. If a woman is attractive, you are probably happy to hook up with them, even if you think they are stupid or boring or lame. A man's sexual attraction tells me one thing only - he finds my physical appearance attractive. There is a nonzero chance he still thinks I'm stupid or boring or lame. However, someone's platonic friendship tells me that they also respect me as a person,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:24 PM |
| -3 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menThe point is, friendship predicated on "maybe one day she will have sex with me" is not actual friendship. In the specific scenario of a guy becoming friends with a woman for no reason other than hoping it will turn into something more, he was never actually friends with her. The hurt here is not "my friend became interested in me sexually" (that is, at worst, awkward), the hurt here is "my friend was never really my friend". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:01 PM |
| 10 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menI don't think most average men have experienced the specific type of rejection where you thought someone liked you for who you are, but you find out they actually like you for an entirely ulterior motive. Rich men are constantly on the lookout for gold diggers for a reason. They are uninterested in women who pretend to like them but are actually in it for the money. Why is it so hard for men to understand that women feel the same way about men who pretend to like them just to get sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menExplain this to me: when a man sees a woman he's never met before and immediately thinks to himself, "I would like to date her, should I become friends with her first, or should I just invite her out for a drink?", what is the basis of this attraction? Is it not purely just physical? As in, in the above scenario, would it be fair to say that this man is probably not interested in having an LTR or getting married to this woman he literally just laid eyes on, and would be totally happy if it just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:46 PM |
| 0 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menRecently I’ve seen a trend where women are saying that men who act like their friend and then stop being their friend after their rejected is betrayal. i.e. OP saw the post yesterday on this very sub and decided it's a trend lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:41 PM |
| 0 | Why don’t women like passport bros?No, it's clear that *those passport bros themselves* think the whole movement is about exploitation lol If you do not believe the movement is exploitative, then you should have a bone to pick with members of the movement who gleefully claim to be exploiting people, not the people who point out that those people exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:35 PM |
| 8 | Why don’t women like passport bros?The way some passport bros talk about the women they date makes it clear that they think it's exploitation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Women consider it a "betrayal" when an ostensibly platonic male friend expresses romantic interest in them ONLY IF they're not interested in him, as wellI'm not assuming that is always what happens; I'm just saying when that happens, that is what it means. Some people are just not good at handling awkwardness in friendships. I once confessed my feelings to a guy friend, and he went cold on being friends shortly after too. I don't think it's necessarily gendered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 05:09 PM |
| 0 | Women consider it a "betrayal" when an ostensibly platonic male friend expresses romantic interest in them ONLY IF they're not interested in him, as wellI think women can imagine that just fine. However, if your guy friend asks to be in a relationship, you turn him down politely, and he decides to drop you as a friend completely, you really have no other option than to assume he was only pretending to be your friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:55 PM |
| 0 | Women consider it a "betrayal" when an ostensibly platonic male friend expresses romantic interest in them ONLY IF they're not interested in him, as wellIf your point was truly just "the value judgment that women make to a man's romantic feelings can differ based on whether or not she finds him attractive", why add in friendships? I can't speak for all women, but from my lived experience and my observations of my friends, it depends heavily on the specific type of romantic interest. Most women grew up with some messaging along the lines of "girls are not funny" or "girls have lame interests," and so on. It's a well-documented phenomenon in marke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:42 PM |
| 0 | Women consider it a "betrayal" when an ostensibly platonic male friend expresses romantic interest in them ONLY IF they're not interested in him, as wellHowever, the point of my debate is that the value judgment that women make to a man's romantic feelings can differ based on whether or not she finds him attractive, as well. This is a pretty disingenuous way of painting your argument. If you had said "women respond better to attractive men hitting on them than less attractive men hitting on them", then yeah, that would almost universally be true (but it would also be true for either gender). However, by adding the element of friendship, you are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Tips to become a SAHMIt is about as hard to be a content SAHM as it is to be a content <insert any job title>. I feel like a number of women believe the skillset that is required to be a SAHM should come naturally to them. This actually doesn't make much sense - you would never say that about being a chef, a teacher at a daycare, or a housekeeper - so they become incredibly frustrated when they commit to being a SAHM without having developed any of the requisite skills or without knowing if they even enjoy homemakin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/25 03:55 PM |
| 44 | What to say to my feminist roommate who is misandryst to my boyfriendSpeak in her language and then up the ante. Next time she drones on after you told her you are not interested, tell her any of the following: You are violating my boundaries - I told you multiple times I am not looking for any feedback, and you don't seem to be capable of respecting this. It makes me upset and concerned that you, as a woman, cannot respect another woman's boundaries. Why are you making assumptions about the nature of my relationship or how my boyfriend and I identify? You are op… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/25 09:49 PM |
| 24 | What's something you wish the opposite sex understood more about your experiences?For men, 99% of sex feels physically enjoyable, carries little to no safety risks, and has almost zero social repercussions. I wish more men would understand that if sex were offered to women under those same conditions, women would be just as receptive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/25 08:17 PM |
| – | Women’s advice to men hurt women more than it helps womenI think the operative word here is "approached", not stranger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 05:51 PM |
| – | Women’s advice to men hurt women more than it helps womenDesiring romantic relationships with men does not necessarily mean "desire being approached by strangers" though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 05:37 PM |
| – | Women’s advice to men hurt women more than it helps womenWhy do we have laws if criminals usually tend to ignore them? The thing is, even if the message does not fully reach the intended group, it's objectively better if there is a general culture that this behavior is unacceptable than if there isn't. In some countries, where this "advice" has not managed to become part of the general consciousness, men would literally grope women on public transport or take upskirt pictures of women. Even though this advice would likely not stop men from pushing bou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 05:35 PM |
| – | Women’s advice to men hurt women more than it helps womenWhy do you speak for 4 billion women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 05:12 PM |
| 7 | Struggling with libido due to not feeling sexy anymore?I think ultimately it has less to do with male preference or your actual age, and more to do with how you feel about aging. The fact that men would always prefer hotter women is as true now as it was when you were in your early 20s (it's not like being a sexy 22-year-old protects you from the existence of even sexier 20-year-olds), but I assume you had no trouble feeling sexy despite that. Also, the fact that you struggle to believe you are sexy for other women is really telling, because even wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/25 04:46 PM |
| 3 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.The concepts are not the same, though. Women fear men because the vast majority of men are physically stronger than the vast majority of women in every conceivable way. Why does a racist fear another race? What inherent quality of the other race presents an actual, non-imaginary, threat to the safety of the racist? The only way for these two concepts to be conflated is if you think women have no real reason to fear men, and it's all just bias and bigotry. The physical reality of this world does … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 11:28 PM |
| 3 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.Just because two sentences share the same sentence structure does not make them equally reasonable lol. Are you really going to argue that all sentences in that format are equivalent? Like, "I'm afraid of snakes because one bit me as a kid" is also the same as being a racist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 10:58 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend of 3 years wants to sleep with other womenI have a pretty traumatic past as well (not sexual, but it affects my relationships nonetheless). Although I don't know where you are on your healing journey, I strongly recommend that eventually you let him know when you feel comfortable doing so. Firstly, he may surprise you in terms of how well he handles it - we live in a society after all, sexual assault and all sorts of horrific things are not exactly rare. When I told my husband, I was expecting him to react with some mixture of disbelief… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 10:51 PM |
| 4 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 10:37 PM |
| 5 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.That's why I asked for examples. I think the examples you gave are more than valid examples of actual hatred, but if the example of hatred is something like "well, women are rude and cold and distant when I attempt to approach them", then it's significantly less valid. From my perspective, the behaviors you describe come from a place of not being able to see men as equally human as themselves. Either via personal experience or observations, they have internalised this image of men being cold, vi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 10:22 PM |
| 5 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.I don't think any woman is voting Democrat specifically because they would like to flood the country with immigrants. They continue to vote for democratic politicians because in general they are more protective of women's rights. Also, why are American women safer than women in most other parts of the world? Safer from whom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 09:39 PM |
| 5 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.Except the issue is that the top 5% strongest women are weaker than the bottom 5% of men. I don't think that applies to race. Suppose there is a superhuman race where 95% of their race is stronger, faster, and generally physically superior to all but the most trained humans, and about 1 out of 6 or 7 humans has been a victim of sexual violence or worse at the hands of this race, would you not be scared of them? Even if the vast majority of them are nice and well-adjusted, if one of these superhu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 09:28 PM |
| 2 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.I think a lot of men don't appreciate the amount of fear women are in just living their daily lives. There is nowhere you can migrate to where you can avoid all men, so "doing everything possible to escape it" manifests in carrying pepper spray and saying "ugh all men are trash" every now and then, even though it's obviously an untrue statement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 09:16 PM |
| 7 | A lot of women start to sound like the very men they call toxic when defending their point — ironically.Can you give some examples of this contempt? From my experience of being a woman, I wouldn't say most women hate men, but we sure fear men, and that can manifest in weird ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 09:06 PM |
| 8 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.Why does he have to be? RPW are not interested in RP guys. I literally said if my partner showed even a hint of knowing what RP is, I would have run the other direction. Edit: this is some wild fantasy cope about my husband you have summoned up lol, I can responsibly tell you that if you failed to find a man, it's because of your personality and not your looks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 08:56 PM |
| 5 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.Bro, can you read? Also, I'd say I'm pretty mid lol, my husband is much better looking than me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 08:52 PM |
| 5 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.I don't think you know enough about the ideology you are criticising. RPW is very clear about the fact that 99.9% of RP men do not make good partners. If my partner showed even a hint of knowing what RP is, I would have run the other direction. It sounds like you think RPW is an ideology about how "red pilled men are the best, and I'm going to act like a sexy submissive maid to attract one!" when it really is not. RPW is about strategy to get into and then maintain happy long-term relationships … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 08:22 PM |
| 3 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.Think of it as equal but opposite to men praising feminism to get cheap sex. Last year, my husband funneled more money into my investment account than my gross income, and he pretty much does everything in life for me and treats me like some sort of princess, yet he still thinks I'm the best thing to ever happen to him, so go figure. Although I'm sure RPW does not officially condone this behavior, I have stumbled across posts on Vindicta (a sub originally for social climbing ex-sex workers) tell… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 06:03 PM |
| 14 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.I don't know how much RPW theory you have read, but I feel like there are a few misconceptions here. Men's red pill is an ideology that specifically seeks to optimize male sexual strategy in order to maximize having sex. I won't speculate on their beliefs around love, but it's certainly not an ideology that is monogamous or puts women's feelings anywhere near the center of it in terms of importance (except maybe to get more sex). You can imagine how such a mission statement attracts men who do n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 05:55 PM |
| 8 | There was a lot of redpill men under a spousal homicide IG post who defended a man’s murderous actions.Even though this sub shares the name, men's red pill and women's red pill directly contradict each other. No RPW should be looking to date a RPM, whether if they are "actually" red pill or not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 05:21 PM |
| 4 | Feeling a little insecure in my really perfect marriage - not sure if it's all in my headGood idea! We do have a meal service, and I do 100% of the cooking anyway. He really does not like other people in our spaces, so the cleaner discussion is on hold. He said he enjoys doing chores, but as someone who really does not, I find it a little hard to believe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 10:25 PM |
| 3 | I could use some help incorporating submission and STFUI think one of the most eye-opening realizations I've had is that sometimes we treat those who are the closest to us the worst. I have heard people say things to their partners they would never say to strangers, let alone a friend, yet have no problem throwing it at their closest loved ones. I think one of the guiding principles of my marriage is that love is above all an action, and I love my husband more than anything else in the world, so I better behave like it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On?I am pretty ambitious and I enjoy my work. My husband mentioned he might want to stay home with the kids when we have them. Totally fine by me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 08:50 PM |
| 2 | I could use some help incorporating submission and STFUI remember how hard learning to STFU about the little things was until I realized we are all already really good at it - for our friends. If your friend is over the moon about a new boy, but you find him ugly, would you tell her? If your friend prefers one restaurant over another and wants to go, would you list out 5 objectively true reasons why that restaurant sucks? Probably not, because you don't want to hurt your friend's feelings, and it's probably more important to you that you and your fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Husband’s weak characteristics and physicality turning me offWhat did you see in him when you married him? What about when you first started dating? Were you ever really passionate about him? To be really frank, it is very difficult to treat someone with respect without actually respecting them, and I can tell that you really don't seem to respect him. You sound like the mom of a 16-year-old boy who is worried he is not acting like normal boys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 08:26 PM |
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