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| 827 | "Abusive men come in every personality type... No psychological test can distinguish an abusive man from a respectful one." - Lundy Bancroft | STAY WOKE | materialpleasures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 05:20 AM |
| 429 | How does this serve my interests? | STRATEGY | materialpleasures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:52 AM |
| 411 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive? | STRATEGY | materialpleasures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:34 AM |
| 63 | Navigating personal questions and male relationships in the workplace? | DISCUSSION | materialpleasures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:07 AM |
| 1 | She was not fragile like a flower; she was fragile like a bomb. We must make ourselves heard. | MOOD FOR LIFE | materialpleasures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:18 AM |
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| 57 | FDS DIVORCE TIPSNot my place to advise, but I just wanted to say I am sorry you're going through such a difficult and trying time. We are thinking of you and you will always have support in this community. Courage and good luck with your studies! Big hugs! <3 xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?A fellow FDS equestrian! What discipline do you compete in? xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?These look delicious, the blueberries add such a gorgeous pop of colour! Can't wait to try making them this weekend. Thank you for sharing and great advice for smaller ovens! I usually halve the sugar in most recipes anyway. Happy baking! xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:23 AM |
| 5 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?Please share your scone recipe! <3 xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Yrs ago, when I didn’t want to ghost after 1 date with this super s3xually pushy guy. Glad I didn’t let him pick me up from my houseGood riddance. What an absolute fruitcake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:39 AM |
| 8 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?I was very lucky to be born into a horsey family, and perhaps others who got into horses later in life may have additional advice. Your best first port of call would be your local riding school. Most riding schools offer introductory lessons for beginners on a safe and reliable mount using their equipment. Just make sure the school and its instructors are appropriately qualified/accredited. Hopefully someone experienced and knowledgable will be able to take you under their wing. If horses are to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:26 AM |
| 28 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?Horses are a huge passion of mine. I also enjoy swimming and yoga. I'd love to do a class in something artistic like pottery or watercolour painting and it's always been a dream of mine to try ballet, but I feel like I'm too old to learn. Maybe one day... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:04 AM |
| 356 | I think he told on himselfSounds like the trash took itself out. Please be kind to yourself sweetheart. It's heart wrenching to read and I can't imagine how hurt you must feel at this time but you will get through this. You deserve so much better than a man that leaves you feeling this way. Thinking of you xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:03 PM |
| 32 | This makes me so angry - a male primary care doctor(!) refuses to prescribe contraception because apparently basic women's health is "just not something I want to practice"🙏 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 134 | This makes me so angry - a male primary care doctor(!) refuses to prescribe contraception because apparently basic women's health is "just not something I want to practice"In Australia, a proposed religious discrimination bill would allow health practitioners “not to provide or participate in particular procedures, treatments or other services in contravention of their fundamental religious beliefs”. The only examples I could find about it were male doctors refusing to provide prescriptions or consultations for contraception, IVF and pregnancy termination. You can read more about it here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:49 PM |
| 61 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)Be very cautious about who you share your full name with - especially if it's an unusual name or spelling. Go by a nickname or first + middle. Beware what information seemingly innocuous images may contain (eg. phone number on a dog name tag, airline/travel ticket...) Your work colleagues should be vetted the same way potential partners are. Do not blindly trust women in the workplace either, they may unknowingly share key information about you to predators in your workplace (eg. relationship st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:39 PM |
| 2 | How does this serve my interests?Awww thank you <3 it was a great post! xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:14 AM |
| 6 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornThanks for clarifying. You'll always have the support of this community. All the best sweetheart xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:09 AM |
| 110 | Woman feels rightfully betrayed at her husband watching porn, advice columnist gaslights her into her 'past trauma' being the problem.I am so over this shit. It's just exhausting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:31 AM |
| 235 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornJust flagging - I'm a little wary that your boyfriend keeps these men as company. I get the impression you weren't there, and him retelling these stories to you seems a little performative, especially if he's still friends with them. Again, I don't have the full context but I just thought I'd mention x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:02 AM |
| 18 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.Ooh what an interesting point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:55 AM |
| 79 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.This is me! I started reading about poker players and how they maintain a neutral expression, but I found that solved one problem but created another - making me appear stiff/tight through the face. What has helped me most is actually studying royal family members from around the world and trying to emulate their dynamic neutral expression. I try to keep my face "soft", soft eyes and soft relaxed mouth/smile muscles and I find that helps take the tension and expressiveness out of my face. I don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:55 AM |
| 3 | How does this serve my interests?Very well said xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:27 AM |
| 49 | How does this serve my interests?Great suggestions! x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:24 AM |
| 41 | help me find a post debunking the myth that family court favors mothersYay! Doing the lords work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:09 AM |
| 33 | help me find a post debunking the myth that family court favors mothersWhat an excellent post that was! I tried finding it for you, but sadly no luck either. She had some fantastic stats that I wasn't aware of. I'm wondering whether maybe it was a comment instead of a stand alone post? Good luck finding it! xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:07 AM |
| 63 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.I thought the exact same thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:57 AM |
| 3 | What other podcasts besides from FDS nurture you? I find that the most popular ones are conducted by males, gets tiring after a while.Highly recommend "Chat 10 Looks 3" - A peripatetic podcast in which Leigh Sales and Annabel Crabb discuss what they're reading, watching, cooking, listening to or irrationally exhilarated by. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 03:58 AM |
| 13 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?It often does build slowly. I really like the frog analogy: A frog dropped suddenly into boiling water will hop out immediately. But that same frog in slowly heating water does not perceive its increasing danger. This frog meets an unfortunate end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 11:43 AM |
| 16 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?It's so awful how subtle and carefully targeted men's abuse can be, and how easily they can plant seeds of doubt in our mind. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry you had to go through that, but so happy you are free from your controlling ex-husband. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:47 AM |
| 17 | I Like How She Handled This 😂I am so appalled by how normalised this sort of behaviour is. When you reverse the genders it sounds bizarre, yet it's so accepted for men to do. Love her attitude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:34 AM |
| 30 | Gillian Anderson in "The Fall"Love this mentality! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:31 AM |
| 9 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?Really insightful u/Equal-Ear2312 thanks for sharing xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:23 AM |
| 15 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?Glad you are free from him. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:45 AM |
| 12 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?You're welcome. Love your username! x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:02 AM |
| 68 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?Great point! The author actually describes how disrespect can take the form of idealising you and putting you on a pedestal as the perfect woman or goddess. When men do this, they're not seeing you as a person, instead they're looking at you as a fantasy. And when you fail in fulfilling this fantasy image he has created in his mind, things can escalate into abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:59 AM |
| 14 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?You're a gem x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:47 AM |
| 95 | I made the move: broke up with him first.Sweetheart, I am sorry you're going through such a difficult time. Thinking of you and sending love and positive vibes your way. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 07:55 AM |
| 42 | He Who Poops In The Shower.... RUN!Ewww. I think that's enough internet for today... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 07:50 AM |
| 72 | "Abusive men come in every personality type... No psychological test can distinguish an abusive man from a respectful one." - Lundy BancroftHighly recommend "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. Such an insightful book! x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 07:47 AM |
| 10 | Lots of peeOh it’s more than a bit of pee... someone spilt novichok in there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:31 PM |
| 3 | Find yourself a man who looks at you like this ship looks at another ship ⛵💕🛳This is too gorgeous! ❤️🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:27 PM |
| 17 | How men use their children as props in their OLD profiles and glorify doing less than the bare minimum of parentingA true HVM single father would invest his time and energy into his child/ren. A single father seeking a relationship is automatically LV. You will always be playing second fiddle to his ex and children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Happy Valentine’s Day queens!❤️🌹💕💖💘 Got my mom a rose, a card, chocolates, and tea to enjoy on this snow day while our cat tries to catch birds❄️ Here’s your reminder that you are deserving of love and you deserve the best!💕Awww my heart is melting. Please give Miss Honey a kiss and cuddle from her FDS family! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:39 AM |
| 4 | Happy Valentine’s Day queens!❤️🌹💕💖💘 Got my mom a rose, a card, chocolates, and tea to enjoy on this snow day while our cat tries to catch birds❄️ Here’s your reminder that you are deserving of love and you deserve the best!💕Love this! What's your adorable cat's name? Such a cutie xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:25 AM |
| 8 | Happy Galentines! Decorated for MYSELF and my HVW housemates, then had lovely afternoon tea! Giving ourselves the treatment we deserve 🌹💃🏼🍒So gorgeous and that dress! Wow! Stunning! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:22 AM |
| 12 | I have been drawing some uplifting messages on my chalkboard for Valentine's day ❤️ Happy Valentine's day in advance, Queens 👑❤️These are gorgeous! I especially love the decorative flowers and foliage <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:12 AM |
| 4 | For Valentine's Day, I have ordered surprise roses for 3 of my single best friends <3 Sending love to all you ladies!So cute! You've inspired me <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:19 AM |
| 6 | I am sick of the normalization of dangerous fetishes!Do you know, since properly joining reddit/this group, I feel more hope. And I feel so loved and supported -and the best thing is, this group is growing bigger and stronger every day! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 69 | I am sick of the normalization of dangerous fetishes!It's dreadful. Not just the normalisation, but the extreme protection kinks/BDSM and even porn usage have somehow garnered in society. You daren't question or criticise them. I fear we're too far gone to solve this problem. A rather depressing thought to end this evening on... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:21 AM |
| 9 | Guy a cheap date?Walk away. This man does not value you. He's not enriching your life - you said so yourself, he's making you stressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:26 AM |
| 9 | Anyone Else Not Interested in Dating At All After Reading FDS?Me 🙋🏼 I am windowed from a HVM, well I consider him a V(ery)HVM. I know in my heart I will never meet someone like him again. I believe there are other HVM, but they are few and far between. I think there is a huge luck element. You don't get lucky twice, and I'm certainly not wasting my time and energy to find out. I just want men/society to be content with my decision. It's exhausting defending my singledom. I am content in my solitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:50 AM |
| 12 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.That's how I found FDS, and as soon as I checked it out I knew I had found "my people" <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 6 | Navigating personal questions and male relationships in the workplace?Thank you so much! This is exactly what I was looking for. <3 Doubting myself over questions like this does make me question the field I work in - but I am truly passionate about the work and it's what I did my PhD in. I just hate working with these often incompetent and intrusive men. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:29 AM |
| 4 | Navigating personal questions and male relationships in the workplace?It's definitely a balance. This is a response I have used in the past with very intrusive questions and found to be super effective. But, with questions that fall into a grey area, it can seem like an overreaction and I don't feel it is conducive to building strong working relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:24 AM |
| 3 | Navigating personal questions and male relationships in the workplace?I love these suggestions for outside of work and you raise such a good point about the shame element, but sadly I couldn't see these working in an office environment where I want to build rapport x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:21 AM |
| 10 | Navigating personal questions and male relationships in the workplace?Thank you. These are some fantastic suggestions and really helpful! xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:11 AM |
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