she’s an abuser for sure. one misstep with a psycho like that and she’ll blast you in that group making shit up. you can confront her at your own risk or just walk. honestly how is this not seen as the same as wife beaters? women coerce differently - not through violence like men but through social means and destruction to your reputation.
i don’t think it matters that much especially if you’re both mellow about it. if both partners are intelligent and open to being convinced, eventually you converge on stuff. balancing each other out is a good thing.
