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4

That's something I'm still trying to wrap my head around - I still don't think I need a wife the way I need a paycheck.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 04:48 PM
4

Hey, when they're being raised in this here rape culture...
/r/MensRights24/03/13 07:27 PM
3

Those bullet points at the end are mostly totally reasonable ways to act, for both genders - except for the one about media consumption. It's kind of insulting to insinuate I can't enjoy certain aspects of media without supporting the supposed message.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 06:52 PM
3

... Wait, why does everyone believe this story? I'm extremely skeptical that this ever happened - it reads a lot more like satire to me, maybe making fun of social justice / SRS, but it's hitting all the right notes for appealing to MRA as well. It's hard for me to think this is anything other than trolling, and there are kind of a lot of people just buying into it for some reason.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 06:31 PM
6

the point is, saying that minorities steal is as much an exaggeration as saying that men rape. both are true in specific cases, but unfair if taken as a general rule.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 03:12 AM
3

He said he had one drink, and he felt 'paralyzed'
/r/MensRights17/03/13 06:55 PM
1

Weird. Why would you apologize for something you're not responsible for?
/r/MensRights13/03/13 12:30 AM
19

lets keep it that way ... is women's right to vote being threatened?
/r/MensRights09/03/13 10:50 PM
2

...because abuse like this could meet happen at a private school?
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:05 PM
193

There is absolutely no way I would have given up my phone to my school. There's no way that's a reasonable search.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:03 PM
11

Stopped at 'mangina' - fuck that word annoys me. It's so irredeemably childish.
/r/MensRights21/02/13 09:30 PM
2

That's fair - but it seems like a lot of these post end up being pretty vindictively anti-feminist, and end up equating feminism with SRS trolling / social justice bullying / whatever. Feminism is something those people may identify with, but I wouldn't over-generalize about what feminists are like, any more then Christians, for example. Plenty of people act like assholes in the name of god, that doesn't mean being Christian means acting like an asshole. You know?
/r/MensRights09/02/13 08:19 PM
16

Nope, I disagree. I don't need feminism, and masculinism isn't even a thing - and I refuse to help support yet another worthless 'us-versus-them' situation. This is bullshit. This subreddit is supposed to be about institutionalized sexism against men, not anti-feminism. Right?
/r/MensRights08/02/13 07:04 PM
2

Jesus, I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed. I don't think I'll ever understand why people make those kind of over-generalizations - they're not good for anybody.
/r/MensRights06/02/13 08:58 PM
0

Jesus. Am I the only one who doesn't think these are real / serious? They look a lot more like satire. How are we discussing them and getting outrage over them as if they were real.
/r/MensRights05/02/13 08:59 PM
1

Ha ha, wait, people still use norton? I feel like this is kind if like complaining about a site being blocked for the browser for the sega dreamcast.
/r/MensRights05/02/13 08:31 PM
0

I'm mostly uncomfortable with the over generalization - even if we both know what 'feminists' means in this context, why not just say what you mean?
/r/MensRights01/02/13 07:49 PM
1

Still seems pretty presumptive.
/r/MensRights01/02/13 07:42 PM
1

Nah, if sweeping generalizations (even accidental ones) make me uncomfortable, then reddit in general doesn't need to do much at all - the various rights subreddits even less so.
/r/MensRights01/02/13 07:42 PM
18

some feminists FTFY.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 09:55 PM
1

Maybe this is nitpicky, but her sense of entitlement and the clerk's lack of concern (and even the victim's inability to continue needling her) are tough to call 'sexist' without some sort of indicator. The clerk doesn't tell him to 'man up,' and neither participant says anything regarding the other's gender - she doesn't accuse him of acting like a little boy who can't wait his turn, he doesn't complain about her 'typical bitch behavior' etc. Tl;dr: without evidence, all we know for sure is tha…
/r/MensRights26/01/13 01:11 AM
3

I strenuously object to fighting and violence being characterizes as "the 'man' thing" - we just watched a video of a man not doing that, and a woman doing that.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 08:46 PM
0

No, that's the assumption you're making. And we're just saying, it's getting to the point where any time there's conflict between a man and a woman, with the man as the victim/loser, it gets posted here as yet another case of feminazis having their way with the poor oppressed men. ... Which gets old pretty fast, and sort of dilutes the pool of actual instances of culturally supported or institutionalized sexism.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 08:42 PM
1

I'm gonna have to weigh in on the side of this not being what I'd prefer to see in this subreddit - anti-feminist (and this protest could just as easily be religion motivated as feminist) content isn't automatically interesting or relevant to men's rights; and besides, feminism it's isn't antithetical to men's rights necessarily, so much as its an excuse as much as anything is an excuse that some people use to justify the unequal treatment of men.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 07:30 PM
2

Also - our OP was the one that came up with the rape implication - neither mother nor daughter said anything about it at first.
/r/MensRights20/01/13 11:14 AM
1

Sure, it'd be trying emotionally, I could see that - stress and anxiety. But 'severe depression' and professional treatment seems like... I don't know, it seems so much more serious than I can imagine requiring, just personally speaking. It's not like the source of your troubles is a mystery - you're choosing to pretend to be another gender, and you can choose to stop. Sit down and figure out what to do about it, talk it over with some people you're close to and get a second opinion, start small…
/r/MensRights13/01/13 07:02 PM
46

She continued her emotional descent, and a week later, checked in to a hospital with severe depression ... Whoa what?
/r/MensRights13/01/13 08:31 AM
25

No no, people want to talk - they just don't want to talk the way you want/expect then too. I've found that in order to have a discussion with a hostile party, you actually need to discuss two things - starting with, what is your objective for this discussion. If you know what the other person is hoping to achieve, it's very easy to stay on-track - but if neither party knows what the other is trying to argue, you'll just be shouting at each other, not having an actual argument.
/r/MensRights13/01/13 07:51 AM
1

it's hard to deny that most of the violence in the world is done by men. Though of course, most of the victims of that violence are also men I guess my question would be - would you argue that the violence is done because they are men? In other words, are we arguing correlation, or causation?
/r/MensRights26/12/12 10:32 AM
1

They're only facts in the cases you're thinking of, and there are plenty of exceptions. Men can be dangerous - but being a man doesn't make you dangerous necessarily, and being a man doesn't make you any more dangerous than women in general, necessarily. Sure, you can name plenty of anecdotes of men doing dangerous things, and so can I - we can both also come up with plenty of stories about women doing dangerous things. We can even come up with examples of men and women who refuse to do dangerou…
/r/MensRights26/12/12 10:29 AM
3

I don't get this thing about answering negative stereotypes about men with positive stereotypes about men; You're still over-generalizing.
/r/MensRights25/12/12 07:24 PM
-2

I can't tell if you're deliberately ignoring my point, so let me pare down: Men should choose circumcision for themselves. They shouldn't have to settle for what their parents thought was best for their penis - they should make their own decisions about their penis. That is all in trying to argue.
/r/MensRights23/12/12 07:27 PM
-1

Well I really can't argue with logic like that.
/r/MensRights23/12/12 07:11 PM
12

The point is, I guess, that of course you're fine with it - you never had a choice. It's fine that you're fine, but even if you weren't, there'd be no recourse.
/r/MensRights22/12/12 07:55 PM
8

your parents cut off a huge piece of your penis without asking you. I don't really know how to make it any clearer. It makes sense that people focus on the 'but I'm okay' angle, as a coping mechanism - I mean, it's pretty scary and weird to think that your parents cut up your dick before you could even talk. But it's a fact. And it's wrong, simply on principle. Think back to the first time you masturbated - your first blowjob, the first time you fucked. Your parents changed the way that felt for…
/r/MensRights22/12/12 07:44 PM
25

that's not even what's weird about this to me - it's more that the metaphor just doesn't translate. She's taking this: if everyone had a gun, they could shoot first if someone else tries to shoot them, this saving themselves from being shot and she's turning it into this: if everyone had a penis, they could rape first if someone else tries to rape them, thus saving themselves from being raped. ... which doesn't make sense, obviously.
/r/MensRights22/12/12 01:06 AM
-36

Well... Maybe I would've the first few times I saw it reposted?
/r/MensRights16/12/12 08:20 PM
43

So. What does this have to do with MRA?
/r/MensRights16/12/12 08:08 PM
14

She'd probably argue that men already have safe spaces that exclude women, and therefore it wasn't unreasonable for her to create one for her own gender.
/r/MensRights11/12/12 06:15 PM
1

Is there already an /r/mramythos subreddit?
/r/MensRights10/12/12 04:57 PM
1

downvoted for begging for upvotes... in the title, no less.
/r/MensRights08/12/12 02:16 AM
13

Man, I think you are completely misconstruing the tone and intent of this article by quoting out of context. She's saying that when she brings issues up with men, their first instinct is to try to 'fix' the problem she's experiencing - she sees herself as attractive for attributes she doesn't value, so they reassure that the attributes she does value are attractive. However, them telling her that isn't enough to make her feel better. She isn't saying anyone has a responsibility to do anything - …
/r/MensRights01/12/12 10:02 PM
0

okay okay okay, but - what if she's, you know, hot. Like, you know, bangin', and you just know she wants it, looking the way she does. What if you know she wants it, and she'd like it if she'd stop being so uptight and just let herself enjoy it? How about then?
/r/MensRights28/11/12 04:45 AM
3

that that fear stems more from their perception that they might be raped - instilled by rape culture, of course. you're looking at the wrong facts. the point is, they want to feel safe - and then you're having a conversation about whether their feelings are justified, and how much consideration they should be afforded.
/r/MensRights19/11/12 05:21 AM
1

I guess that's our difference of opinion, then - I'd argue that you should call it what it is, not what's convenient.
/r/MensRights15/11/12 12:41 AM
1

fair enough. high fives for being reasonable people who are willing to talk about things.
/r/MensRights15/11/12 12:41 AM
1

we'd have to have a whole discussion about what is 'necessary' wouldn't we? I mean, what's your criteria? I'd say if it educates / raises awareness, renews commitment to values, and prompts discussion, those are all points in its favor.
/r/MensRights15/11/12 12:39 AM
1

... as evidenced by your user name, ha ha. fair enough.
/r/MensRights15/11/12 12:36 AM
1

I'm trying not to put too many words in your mouth here, but - are you advocating that the legal definition of rape in australia be expanded to include non-physical crimes in general; or using the promise of sex as a motivator to trick a potential mark into falling for a scam in particular?
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:54 PM
1

I'm really not on board with it being a sexual crime. Could you explain that ? Are you saying that because of their sexual desire and her promise of finding the perfect partner implied sexual contact, that she was somehow... what? Using their own sexual desire against them, for the purpose of working the scam? I think that's the case, but that doesn't make it a sexual crime - to me, a sexual crime would be one whose goal is sexual, not whose methods. Blackmail with a private sex tape, for instan…
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:44 PM
1

There's no way I could ever agree with you about the rape equivalency. This was an entirely non-violent crime. So are many rapes, as currently defined by law. that is an entirely fair point, I'll concede that a crime doesn't have to be violent to count as sexual abuse. Her behaviour amounts to emotional sexual abuse of the worst kind. I believe it should be regarded as a crime. no one is arguing that it isn't a crime, obviously - I assume that's a typo and you were referring to it being a sexual…
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:37 PM
2

oh come on, that's a bullshit cop-out answer and you know it. do you think you're right? can you explain why? if so, do it, and quit whining about what other people are doing - if not, then forget it, and don't try to get the last word by posting shit like this. (sorry if that's harsh, but come on, you can't just jump into a discussion like this and then leave us hanging.)
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:28 PM
1

Maybe it's not a huge deal, but it is a deal, you know? Ostensibly a personal experience that exposes a double standard which negatively impacts men; that's a Men's Rights issue - at least inasmuch as feminism would call a double standard that negatively impacts women a Women's Rights issue. Does that not seem like a fair parallel to draw?
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:18 PM
1

you can do better than that - awareness of... what? discussion... well okay, but this isn't a general discussion forum - this is a discussion forum on a very specific topic (men's rights, natch) and if the story at hand isn't related to that specific topic, it has no place here - right?
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:13 PM
2

no offense, but the reason you're getting voted down is that really doesn't add anything to the discussion - no one is arguing that it is okay for anyone to behave like this, and your character (and your daughter's character,) though laudable, is pretty irrelevant.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:12 PM
1

be that as it may, I'd argue that the 'level of badness' has no bearing on the punishment fitting the crime. In this case, the goal is for the men who've essentially been robbed to recover their lost resources (including time, including emotional suffering, neither of which are bullshit damages, no argument there) - as well as preventing this person from being put in a position where she can run this sort of scheme again. Pretending that she raped these men might be treating her crime with an ap…
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:09 PM
1

that's pretty much what I suspected.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:05 PM
1

pretty much. more charitably, it could be that you're deliberately abusing unrealistic gender roles / social norms in order to control someone else.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:04 PM
35

Trigger warning: #timetravel
/r/MensRights14/11/12 08:18 PM
6

OP is referring to situations such as: A: men don't cry. B: I cry, and I'm a man. A: okay, but you're not a real man - real men don't cry.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 06:43 PM
9

for one thing, it assumes that they're putting time into making money. they could be independently wealthy, they could happen to have a very high-paying job that they don't have to work hard at. They could have some sort of social anxiety -type disability. They could have no interest in playing the 'dating game.' Who knows? You and I certainly don't know. Here's the thing, time is money - and strictly speaking, putting time into meeting women or paying someone else to find a woman for you amount…
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:51 PM
7

There's no way I could ever agree with you about the rape equivalency. This was an entirely non-violent crime. There was nothing even approaching rape or molestation or even anything sexual about her conduct. Putting her on the sex offender's registry doesn't make any sense whatsoever. That list is for actual sex offenders. A jail sentence wouldn't be uncalled-for, I agree - because you're right, it'd be easy for her to run other scams that don't technically fall under the 'introductions industr…
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:47 PM
2

oh yeah, it's hard for me to empathize either - I literally cannot imagine a situation where I'd waste money like that. as for your question: ostensibly, the big deal would be if this were somehow an example of a woman being able to take advantage of men because of the way our culture feels about gender roles or whatever - and the implication would be that she got off easy because of sexism. I'm not convinced it's a big deal either, but if it were a big deal, that's what the deal would be.
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:31 PM
1

... I guess I'm confused about what we're talking about here, in that case. Why even leave the I've had it happen. It ended well. Couldn't really complain. comment? like, what point are you trying to make - that it's possible for men to be felt up by women and not feel violated? 'cause I'd think that would be pretty self-evident, right?
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:28 PM
13

that seems like a pretty big assumption, doesn't it?
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:16 PM
7

practically speaking, you're right, it's like just burning money. legally speaking, you're wrong, they entered into a legal contract, and the other party didn't fulfill their obligation.
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:15 PM
4

oh man why didn't you write all that to begin with? so let's talk about this, starting with: the guilty parties seem to have escaped appropriate punishment she has already been sentenced to personally pay back the $342k she scammed her 'clients' out of - resulting in her declaring bankruptcy, in addition to being legally barred from ever working in that industry. what further punishment do you think would be appropriate?
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:12 PM
21

... okay, so I'm gonna be the guy who asks it: what's the 'mens rights' connection?
/r/MensRights13/11/12 09:09 PM
1

sure, that's one way you could deal with it. so - are you arguing that he basically should've kept it to himself instead of posting that screenshot here?
/r/MensRights13/11/12 07:51 PM
3

I think you're focusing on the wrong part here. it's a fact that he was receiving unwanted sexual advances, being straight up groped, apparently. Maybe he could have done a better job dealing with it, but that doesn't change what happened. His other friend's respond wasn't to make the suggestion you just made, it wasn't a friendly or supportive, "damn that sucks, want me talk to her?" Or anything helpful like that - his friend flat out discounted something that had just happened to him. She resp…
/r/MensRights12/11/12 09:37 PM
46

that's the thing that really gets me about gender roles and sexism: it isn't any good for anyone, ultimately.
/r/MensRights12/11/12 07:01 AM
11

right, but here's the point - it worked out for you, and that's cool, but it didn't work out well for this guy, and that's not cool. he shouldn't have to put up with it just because you haven't had a bad experience yet, you know?
/r/MensRights12/11/12 06:55 AM
4

jesus christ - getting drunk and feeling up a friend is irresponsible at best, but the second girl's response is heartless... how is the second one even still your friend?
/r/MensRights12/11/12 06:51 AM
3

I'm not convinced that any of this happened because she is a woman and/or you are a man. Couldn't it also have happened because she is simply fucking crazy, and took advantage of the legal system in place? None of the above, however, reduces my outrage on your behalf - what happened to you was fucked up and extremely unfortunate.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 10:01 PM
1

In the few cases where the mother/children found out the identity and started interacting with the child, the father ended up having to pay child support. So the outlook isn't very good. wow, no kidding. I stand very much corrected. that's pretty disappointing. I can't see how a sperm bank would work unless the man donating was definitively giving up any connection to his potential progeny.
/r/MensRights30/10/12 08:05 PM
1

Yes he can. How do you think donation to a sperm bank works?
/r/MensRights30/10/12 07:12 PM
3

Oh absolutely, they could've easily drawn up a contract that would e legally binding. I think the issue is they only had a verbal contract, and that's tough to deal with, especially years after the fact, because its his word against hers to prove they agreed to any particular terms. Always get things in writing. All that said, it's a terrible situation to be in, it's completely unfair to him, and if that woman had any decency she wouldn't be putting him through this.
/r/MensRights29/10/12 09:43 PM
-6

It's his child, biologically. They didn't do any legal contract stuff (except for a verbal contract, and that's tough to prove) so paternal obligations work the way they usually do: if you have a kid, you help raise it. It would actually be unusual if this wasn't the case. It's an unfortunate lesson in being cavalier with the law.
/r/MensRights29/10/12 07:50 PM
0

Right - the important thing to remember is that if anything, it was wrong for each to hit the other, and certainly not worse for him to hit her.
/r/MensRights16/10/12 05:51 AM
1

You haven't lived long enough well I'm working on that, ha. and to be fair, I've seen it, I've just never had to deal with it personally.
/r/MensRights15/10/12 07:57 PM
2

Can't say I've ever experienced any of that.
/r/MensRights15/10/12 04:11 PM
1

augh, it's like, from a business perspective, this is a great idea - take advantage of unreasonable fears you can charge a premium to alleviate; but from a moral perspective, this is incredibly stupid, and sets back human rights quite a bit.
/r/MensRights14/10/12 05:09 AM
4

seems that hiring only women because you don't have to pay them as much could be as much of a patriarchy thing as otherwise.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 01:50 AM
1

legally though. I mean employers are free to set terms of employment to specifically prohibit relationships like this - and they do. But that's breach of contract, something to be fired over, not something to be criminally charged with. That's all I'm saying.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 12:53 AM
28

come on. you're really reaching with this one.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 11:40 PM
1

legally, unless I'm missing something, you should be able to - otherwise 18 isn't so much the 'age of consent' as it is the 'age of consent*'
/r/MensRights26/09/12 11:28 PM
2

I liked that it includes changing the definition of 'equal' so it just means 'privileged.'
/r/MensRights22/09/12 06:35 PM
2

Lame, poor marks awarded for lack of trolling subtlety.
/r/MensRights20/09/12 06:16 PM
3

'death to vermin?' really? Who names these bots?
/r/MensRights04/09/12 06:33 PM
5

The point is - you never had a choice. I mean sure, you're used to it now, you've made the best of the situation, but that doesn't mean it was right to begin with. Men should be given the choice, because you could just as easily argue that had you not been circumcised, you probably wouldn't choose to have it done, because you'd e okay with it the way it was. You think it hasn't been a detriment to your life, but you have no basis for comparison, because you've never had a foreskin, and because o…
/r/MensRights28/08/12 04:16 AM
2

It could be queue, though - the flood of accusations could queue up as courts struggle to deal with them.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 04:28 PM
1

pretty much. I was going to throw in some 'dick's but figured, you know, mensrights, dicks, better watch it. 'asshole' would've been a good substitute I guess.
/r/MensRights18/08/12 05:02 AM
8

I kind of think this doesn't need to be a gamer or a sexism issue - a douchebag is a douchebag. Some male gamers are douchebags, but they're not douchebags because they're male and/or gamers... they're just douchebags. There are female douchebag gamers as well. It doesn't help anything to conjure up this fantasy world where gaming is somehow this intrinsically androcentric activity that women have to try to 'break into' and all this bullshit, because it's not true, and all it does is turn people…
/r/MensRights18/08/12 01:12 AM
-8

Ha ha, what, on a tumblr devoted to satirizing that stuff? You don't say!
/r/MensRights08/08/12 04:16 PM
-5

Oh wow, 'mansplaining' and now 'whitesplaining?' Internet, you are too kind.
/r/MensRights08/08/12 03:48 PM
1

Ha ha, perfect!
/r/MensRights07/08/12 03:19 PM
2

'period,' Christ, spare me. I realize it's convenient, maybe even comforting, to live in this little blak-and-white world you've created for yourself, but don't act like we're all there with you.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 09:44 PM
0

yeah, I thought that was kind of weird too. is it so important that you explain yourself to her that you physically restrain her (however non-threateningly or whatever) to make sure she hears you? If she's going to leave, let her. If she cares to hear what you have to say, talk to her later, when it's just the two of you, and she's not pissed off. There's no reason to make a big deal about it right there in the bar. Just forget it.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 05:10 AM
1

oh I like this.
/r/MensRights21/07/12 11:11 AM
1

'FA7D1C5' is the best I can come up with off the top of my head.
/r/MensRights21/07/12 11:11 AM
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