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Sweating, shedding skin cells, general human dirt? I can’t imagine letting that fester for an entire month… I change all of my bedding, including duvet at least once per week. Sometimes twice per week during summer Like the other person said, not washing sheets enough can lead to acne and is overall just kind of gross
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 06:34 AM
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I think it’s based on low self-esteem if anything. people who are sure of themselves can handle being wrong from time to time without having their egos bruised. Sounds like this guy wants a sycophant for a partner rather than an equal
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:05 AM
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Do you know how much maids cost…?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:27 PM
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I have severe ADHD and I’ve never viewed taking garbage out as a chore. sounds like an excuse
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:25 PM
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Bathroom cleaning monthly & towels / bedsheets monthly is gross tbh. I wouldn’t tolerate it personally, but if you’re alone I guess it doesn’t matter what you do with your own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:23 PM
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Love a reasonable dude
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:13 PM
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Probably out of your income bracket, sorry to say. I think the classic inflatable red lips + blue eyeshadow combo style can be purchased for less than $50 USD at your local porn shop?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:08 PM
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What if my man is incapable of making rational, levelheaded decisions? Should I still be deferring to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:02 PM
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Have you ever considered investing in a sex doll?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:01 PM
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Are you willing to be a “traditional man” and support your tradwife through your income alone, or do you expect her to contribute 50/50 in addition? Also, can you make repairs around the home? Any building skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:59 PM
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3 is the worst, in my experience, because it results in complete incompatibility. 4 (lack of hygiene) comes close to being the worst. 2 (poor) is the most tolerable of these. As long as he can budget, live within his means, there’s no reason it would make him an unsuitable partner. i grew up learning to make the best of limited resources and luxuries so if he’s otherwise a decent person, it doesn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:04 PM
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uhhh… they do, all the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:59 PM
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I agree that you don’t need to be shamed. In a way, I can relate, as a low libido woman, I am also shamed for not wanting sex “enough” despite being cleared medically. We as a society have some weird ideas about how often people - men and women - are meant to be having sex. It’s ok not to have sex, it’s ok not to have a relationship. It doesn’t diminish your value as a person by any means.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:48 PM
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could be argued that a person (well, most people) will die from exposure to the elements due to no housing, but nobody will die due to a lack of sex
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:34 PM
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why does it always fall to women to help men with their emotional struggles? don’t want to go to therapy, don’t want to get “deep” with their other male friends, some even suggest we’ve (women) “dismantled” their places where they can have healthy friendships with other men (don’t buy this one tbh, boys clubs are alive in well in many institutions, public & private). I think men and women would benefit hugely from discontinuing this idea that a romantic partner is going to be able to provide you…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:29 PM
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I have struggled so much with this in relationships w/ men, & I try to be empathetic given that many boys are unfairly taught early on not to be emotional (boys don’t cry etc) but like… it’s hard, man. many seem to also view therapy as some kind of mind control and refuse to explore that option, just completely burn their spouses out with unhealthy expression of negative emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:22 PM
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because they usually aren’t like that until they get comfortable / committed.. then they let it all hang out so to speak
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 03:58 PM
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I can’t speak for all women who do this, but in my experience it comes from the husband / bf’s poor emotional intelligence. yeah I’m gonna go talk to my best friend about my problems if he can’t meet any of mine with a shred of empathy, yet expects me to comfort him like his mom would when he rages and rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:36 PM
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I still think you’re doing a bit. thanks for the laugh, man. Love the character.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:19 PM
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it’s wild that you believe this because if anything, i think sort of the opposite would be true I’d pick the less conventionally attractive man every. single. time. if he met my standards of cleanliness and housekeeping… for that in and of itself is attractive and unfortunately, incredibly rare in young men. a partner I have to be a mom to is going to turn me off quickly, because there’s nothing worse than feeling like mommy to a man. idgaf if he’s a Chad or alpha male or whatever u think women …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:16 PM
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Is this satire? If it is, you’re brilliant
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:09 PM
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are men here realistically prepared for the fact that a not insubstantial number of women might choose to remain permanently single (even permanently celibate) if our only options were redpilled men? if so, great.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:45 PM
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denial is not a river in Egypt
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:42 PM
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none of the values I respect in adult women wouldn’t apply to an adult man.. weird question
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:25 PM
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it makes me sorrowful to think how much of their ideas about what woman need / want obviously come from watching way too much porn during adolescence. has really done a number on many of them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:23 PM
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I pick none, would rather be alone than with any of these
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:21 PM
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Emil was my choice until “dark past”, it would depend what the dark past is and if it involved harming others deliberately or use of hard drugs they all sound fine. maybe not the lawyer for me personally because I’ve never really been attracted to people who are “the life of the party” because i don’t crave attention of acceptance from people I don’t know, our personality types would probably clash James sounds alright if he’s ok with me also having lots of busy / alone time. in relationships I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:14 PM
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could it be that it’s not a matter of “not being Chad” and maybe that in most cases, dating or fucking your coworker is a recipe for disaster if you actually care about your job? the immediate jump to “they all just want Chads” is such insecure thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:06 PM
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what? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:03 PM
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According to whom, tho? Is there a definitive source on what is low? I know lots of women who don’t want more than once per month. My female doctor told me it’s normal. So, who decides what a low libido is? Men, lol? I question whether people who will leave because of not enough sex actually love their partner tbh. I understand if it’s like… once a year or something, that would be indicative of your partner not wanting anything to do with you, or some kind of serious medical condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:02 PM
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because, to put it crudely, it really fucks with your head to have sex when you don’t want to. If I will reciprocate by doing nice things for him, why does one of these things have to be sex that will make me feel like living blow-up doll? i don’t quite have the words to adequately describe the feeling to a person who enjoys sex, but it’s really bad for your mental health to have sex when you dont want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:43 AM
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hormones are fine as I let another person here know, thanks. If I have to have sex I don’t want in order to avoid getting cheated on or dumped, I would rather die alone with cats or whatever the worst case scenario is supposed to be
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:13 AM
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is there really a definitive authority on what a “normal” sex drive is tho? im hesitant to call what you describe abnormal because my sex drive could also be described as such. IMO, unless you are skipping out on work or failing to meet imperative obligations in order to pursue sex or watch porn constantly, it doesn’t really sound all that crazy.. most people have some kind of vice that keeps them from accomplishing as much as they’d like to. if you are truly concerned and want to ask a doctor i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:07 AM
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depressing to hear, and slightly surprising as most of my female friends have expressed not wanting more than once every couple weeks - but appreciate your honesty nonetheless. makes me wonder what the “normal” amount of sexual desire for both genders is on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:50 AM
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yeah, but it just seems like such a chore. If I really want to orgasm, which happens approx once per month, it’s easier to do it myself. I also hate the feeling of the other person’s sweat dripping on me, makes me want to gtfo and take a shower immediately. Might be the right call re: the ED thing, but don’t most men with ED still want to have sex and often seek medical treatment to allow them to “perform”? that’s the impression I always had
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:31 AM
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i think it would be substantially different from a roommate situation because because ideally you do have attachment and attraction to the other person, it’s just mostly nonsexual in nature. in my mind, it would be enjoying their company but still pursuing solitary leisure activities, nonsexual physical affection, etc - essentially still going through life together as a couple, maintaining a mutual respect for each other’s autonomy while making sex the lowest priority (if it happens at all).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:22 AM
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so even if a man loves a woman, is otherwise compatible and has spent many years with her, not enough sex is a dealbreaker? man that’s bleak to hear, but if that’s the way she goes…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:09 AM
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we’ve been together for many years and have gone through some traumatic losses in the past while. we do love each other, share many similar interests and tendencies, enjoy doing activities together, find each other attractive… it just like.. never turns off for him, we’ll be dealing with the aftermath of some tragedy and he’ll still want sex and that makes me feel like a piece of meat. It makes me feel awful and like that’s his ultimate goal, not companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:01 AM
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yes, yes, and yes. Orgasm solo is much easier
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:58 AM
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do low T men always look like they have low T, or can they look like your average dude? im not gonna pretend looks aren’t important at all, I can’t really endomorph body
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:57 AM
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im sorry to hear that, I don’t think you deserve to be made fun of. I understand the hesitancy to admit low sex drive to prospective partners, but if a guy I was interested in admitted to low/ nonexistent sex drive right off the bat I would think I had died and gone to heaven. if he didn’t admit it yeah I’d probably assume he wasn’t into me because of how rare low libido men seem to be
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:53 AM
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Thank you, it was helpful, just feeling a bit hopeless. I appreciate your words, they’ve given me a lot to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:49 AM
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I could take it or leave it, honestly. if he never wanted to have sex I wouldn’t have a problem. this is good advice. I’m in a relationship I fear is doomed because my bf wants sex often and I don’t - the more he tries to pursue the further he pushes me away. healthy communication is not possible because he just gets mad and catastrophizes anytime he has emotions. if this ends, I would probably want to be alone for a good, long time, if not give up on romantic relationships entirely and just pur…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:47 AM
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my hormones have been checked, they are fine, I just don’t like sex very much. It’s boring and 5 mins in im thinking about something else, getting frustrated that I can’t go do that other thing. I have severe inattentive adhd (no, not TikTok diagnosed) so that’s probably part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:36 AM
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this is both heartening and disheartening to hear… I guess these men are also probably not actively seeking relationships, and probably feel hesitant to openly admit low sex drive because people tend to make fun of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:34 AM
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the more i learn about men’s desires / sex drive / desire to have a woman defer to them, the more I wonder if it’s possible for me to be in a relationship with one and not be depressed because i feel like I have to do sex out of obligation. I don’t want sex often. I don’t think about sex often ,and i can’t help but feel repulsed when that’s apathologized / met with “get your hormone levels checked”. it’s not a problem for me… Are there heterosexual men in the world who don’t NEED sex? like who w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:18 AM
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that’s not at all how debates work but whatever you say dude
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:29 AM
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That’s neither here nor there because this discussion is about dating, not prison sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:59 AM
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Are women truly given more “grace”, or are men just willing to lower their standards & give poor behaviour a pass in order to get sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:14 AM
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curious, where are you getting this information about how many sexual partners women have had? Are you going by average lifetime partners or…?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:09 PM
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no. if they are equally attractive aside from height, for me, it would come down to whoever has the more endearing personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:25 AM
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this the kind of legacy I would be proud to leave behind. leagues better than a bunch of shitty kids
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:31 AM
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I don’t even know who my great grandparents were so I’m not concerned with leaving a legacy. let’s be real, even the most impressive humans are forgotten usually after no more than a few hundred years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:28 AM
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this reads like AI
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:19 AM
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no, find pickup lines incredibly off putting and immediately makes me think he’s just trying to get laid / has tried this line on 1000 other chicks I’d much prefer he ask how my day is going / introduce himself or ask my name. or just talk about some…thing to get the ball rolling. I don’t know, I feel like anything is better than a corny pickup line
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:37 AM
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if anything I’m getting hit on more (source: old, wrinkled hag in her early thirties)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:12 AM
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you had me up until the “needing cattle prods to keep your spouse off of you” as an indicator of women’s satisfaction with your ability to do sex. maybe my sex drive is just exceptionally low, but even if sex with my partner resulted in an orgasm every single time I still wouldn’t want more than once per week. Even once per week feels too much sometimes. it’s just not a priority for me… there are so many other things I’d rather do for pleasure / enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:27 PM
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probably boy because I’d be way overprotective of the girl, probably detrimentally so, due to my own experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:21 PM
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as a 5’5, I take no issue with this. may you find the tall woman of your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:35 AM
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is the height thing personal preference? or concern that if u were to have kids with an under 5’7 your male children might be short? either way you answer i won’t take issue with it, just genuinely curious as to your reasoning Nice to hear about men having standards
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:19 AM
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I agree with you tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:34 AM
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World doesn’t owe you women doing so much as glancing in your direction
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:23 AM
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stop pretending you’re debating in good faith anytime you get an answer you don’t like
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:57 PM
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I would put $1000 of my own savings on a society of only women lasting longer than a society of only men. you are notoriously bad at cleanliness (think about the spread of illness and disease), self-preservation, and peace. i fully believe you’d blow yourselves up after your society collectively experienced 6 months of no sex with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:55 PM
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this is huge. resiliency, optimism, positivity, and calm demeanour are all highly attractive traits in men and women. These traits are so powerful that they can even override undesirable superficial aspects (balding, short, fat, ugly, poor, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:42 PM
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how? if this was truly how men felt, I would be fully prepared to come to terms with the fact that they don’t accept or view me as a human being, just a potential source for sex. that I will never be compatible with them and will be content to never have one touch me again. I’m cooler with this scenario than you might think, brother.. personally, id join a convent. the more I ponder this, it actually sounds quite peaceful to me. After all, men will have sex robots / artificial wombs and won’t ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:23 PM
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sure, but accepting that insane idea would mean I never have sex with or date another man in my life. i would also not speak to men outside of my family or work. I think many women would go the same way. you good with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:07 PM
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Then be forever alone and stop arguing with women on the internet who don’t want to be with autistic gamers? We would all be very happy if you stopped whining for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:00 PM
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it’s worth nothing because you as a man are not in high demand. I just wouldn’t care because I’m not looking at every man as a potential mate, like men seem to do with women. I’ve also never really been rejected by a man I was interested in (at least during my adult life), as I am extremely selective and become deeply attracted to someone through several mutually positive interactions. im not just blindly shooting my shot at every guy I find physically attractive, because I don’t need anything f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:56 PM
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sorry, just not worth the risk for me. I hear the words “gamer”, “messy”, “slob” I nope out immediately. I don’t want this behaviour in my home. he doesn’t bring enough to the table for me to consider sacrificing my peace and happiness. I don’t want kids and my sex drive is low enough that I can go without for years and be completely content, so he quite literally has nothing to offer me that I couldn’t otherwise get from a platonic friendship. it sounds like you identify with Paul and are tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:34 PM
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He had low self esteem and low emotional intelligence. but it stopped being my problem when he wasn’t willing to address where our relationship was going like an adult, instead choosing to get completely wasted everyday / driving drunk / throwing up in our bed / screaming at the top of his lungs at me when I tried to speak calmly to him. didn’t want to go to NA or AA. I tried so hard to help him, but he was going to destroy me. I wish him well in all future endeavours but he absolutely made his …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:29 PM
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it’s not harsh. If they don’t like it, they can improve themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:58 PM
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in my experience, men and women’s standards of cleanliness are vastly different. “A bit messy” to many dudes I have known = dishes lying around, bathroom cleaned like once or twice a month, and minimal if any deep cleaning. my standards are a lot higher than that. I like my home and I want it to be nice. I don’t want to have to pick up after someone else on a regular basis, especially if I’m expected to contribute 50/50. have ended relationships over this and I’d do it again same with the gaming…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:56 PM
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it’s 100% Paul
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:46 PM
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He’s not on the same level of “red flag” as the woman beater but he’s still gross. slob is a major dealbreaker, too much gaming is a dealbreaker, and the fact that he will probably be broke forever means im gonna be his de facto mom. No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:45 PM
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Humanity being extinguished is a price I’m willing to pay to not have to be with any of these men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:41 PM
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So this means we should assume all single parents will be suicidal /potential criminals and just like… take their kids away? Make being a single parent illegal? What do u propose to fix this “massive issue”?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:46 PM
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single parents - mothers and fathers - are definitely capable of being competent parents & providing their children with good lives. it’s extremely challenging to be a single parent, especially in this economy, but to insinuate their children are “victims” is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:57 PM
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people in general could resolve many of their social issues by coming to the terms with the fact that acceptance is not guaranteed, and that rejection is no longer this soul-shattering, world-destroying event once you stop basing your entire identity around how others may or may not perceive you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:53 PM
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the seething hatred is unnecessary but imo it’s perfectly reasonable not to want to date a single parent I wouldn’t touch a single dad with a ten foot pole, and if I’m being honest in a way yeah I consider them “used goods”. I don’t even want to have my own children, let alone deal with someone else’s. I think single parents are probably best off pursuing other single parents, but I’m sure there are many childless people who are open to dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:41 PM
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low emotional intelligence. he would do things like repeatedly punch himself in the head when angry
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:33 PM
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whatever floats your boat I guess. who am I to judge
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:57 AM
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ok, forget I said anything. you’re in the clear
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:03 AM
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you are absolutely a cheapskate unless you’re under 20 or very poor. sorry to be the bearer of bad news
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:56 AM
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is she 14 or a mormon or what
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:53 AM
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$160 is not very much to spend on a guitar tbh, I hope u at least got something decent secondhand $30 is also nothing for a ring, especially engraved - did you order these from temu? I’d rather a guy just save his money or buy flowers / nice meal than buy me cheap garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:51 AM
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may I ask why this causes you so much distress?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:48 AM
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yeah, I definitely got divorced because of tiktok and not because my ex-husband became a raging alcoholic due to his inability to express his emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:42 AM
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we love drama
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:40 AM
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100%. love arguing with strangers about things that doesn’t matter, often to my own detriment. I’ll do it until I feel like shit, just don’t know when to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:39 AM
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I think spending an extended amount of time posting here is definitely indicative of some kind of mental illness, or at least masochism. it’s a waste of time, accomplishes nothing, hostile environment etc. Rotten place
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:35 AM
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so not going well?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:36 PM
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well, you’d better get on with populating the earth then. btw; how’s it going for you? women lining up to have your baby, I presume..?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 08:02 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/1l0oy6pfwqbd1.jpeg?width=737&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=20d8442761e512f4e2b156f8a04ad77996db77f1 the “chads” I’m referencing look something like this but far less polished and not hairless, give or take some muscle, lose the manicured facial hair & add some wear and tear from going through the ups and downs of life - some of them even have a receding hairline! some aren’t even tall! not my preferred type of “Chad”, I like more of a “Danzig” or 90s longhair wrestler type “Cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:54 PM
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if by “you” you mean humans, then I agree. hopefully something less prone to mindless consumption will take our place after we’re gone. this idea gives me peace
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:48 PM
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yeah cuz that’s exactly what I said. you are so sore about this it distorts your perception of reality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:46 PM
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why should I give a shit about human genetic diversity? areas of the planet are quickly becoming uninhabitable. am I supposed to be concerned that those inheriting a scorched earth won’t come in lots of different sizes and colours, with various neurosis? Not my problem dude
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:45 PM
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the difference is that most inkwells care about being removed from the genetic pool. Most women do not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:43 PM
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I don’t want to “get rid” of anybody and we are dangerously flirting with eugenics here, but I don’t think any person with severe heritable mental or physical illness should reproduce. this includes myself and a not insignificant portion of the population of the western world atp. I would never suggest enforcement of this, but we should probably stop uniformly painting parenthood and reproduction as an intrinsically positive thing. birth control and abortion should always be widely available, pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:16 PM
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in my experience, single / childless women are much more at peace with their circumstances than men so many dudes pushing 40 who cannot function as adults having this fantasy about being a father. it’s ok to not be a functional adult, it’s not ok to subject an innocent being to your incompetence. I think they often assume the mother will take care of the difficult bits, or that becoming a father suddenly infuses you with life skills and ability to cope with adversity. my dad was one of the rare …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:54 PM
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sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:17 PM
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unless you have some kind of facial deformity, it’s probably your personality that is repelling women. I have known some pretty ugly dudes (receding hairline, weak chin, whatever) with loving wives and families. the common denominators: they were positive, funny, intelligent, hardworking, not desperate, and honestly just kind to everybody without some ulterior motive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:14 PM
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quite a few of these “Chads” I have talked to are absolutely not neurotypical, they are just putting significant effort into being as healthy as possible which seems to keep some of their worst symptoms at bay and allow them to move on with life, rather than drowning in self-pity and defeatism
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:11 PM
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I think the care does come from a very personal source in that many women have personally experienced sexual abuse, and don’t want another woman to have to experience the long-lasting harm which comes from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:07 PM
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unless you are cursed with exceptionally terrible genetics, like you just cannot lose weight no matter what (and I’ve met people like this), no, genetics are not EVERYTHING. certain things you might have to accept - even when I spent 2 hrs, 6 days per week in the gym, strict diet, huge emphasis on core strength training I could not develop visible abs, just minimal definition with an little pouch of fat that would not go away. Otherwise, I was very happy with how my body looked and just came to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:01 PM
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“women supporting / protecting other women” is absolutely not universal, another point I agree with you on. especially in workplace settings ; the most insidiously cruel treatment I have had from superiors has been from other women. it sucks. however in situations where another (younger) woman is at risk of experiencing sexual / emotional / physical violence from a man, even the biggest corporate bitch you can think of will usually step in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:55 PM
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is unwillingness to cater to someone else’s ego really ego? I am also unable to suck up to superiors. I have no trouble giving credit where credit is due, but buttering someone up unnecessarily is not in my repertoire. cannot do. Corporate “success” is difficult, maybe impossible with this and I’ve left more than one high-paying job because I couldn’t bring myself to cater to an incompetent superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:47 PM
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hey dude, I also have disorders. it’s a struggle that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. It’s always going to be challenging and you’re always gonna have a harder time than non-disordered people. but you are not doomed to rejection and loneliness. Im doing better than ever before and it has been a fairly simple recipe of: - get sunlight. you don’t have to go to the beach and be surrounded by people - go for a walk in a nearby trail. sit in a chair in the sun and read a book for an hour. hard lim…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:39 PM
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yeah, I won’t disagree with you on that point. being able to spot signs a guy is gonna have abusive tendencies is nearly impossible unless you’ve gone through the wringer that is an abusive relationship. love also makes us highly irrational, I would make excuse after excuse for why my ex would scream at me, punch himself in the head when he was mad, and try to convince me to do bdsm when I didn’t want to. I was really just being naive. it’s why a lot of older women are very protective of younger…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:29 PM
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being truly “athletic” actually takes a huge amount of effort and self-control. you can have an “athletic” body type but if you don’t put in any work, you’re just gonna be not fat and unremarkable looking. the “Chad” you speak of is either going to the gym on a regular basis / participating in sports / physically-intensive work, MAYBE treating himself to an hour or two of vidya per day and knowing when to call it quits. it’s such a cop out to assume they’re just born like this . You could be bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:23 PM
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I personally would treat an asshole Chad and an asshole average / below-average dude with the same level of rejection. i don’t enjoy being treated like garbage, don’t care if the person is hot lol im not gonna put up with it either way
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:16 PM
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nah, this dude could absolutely be attractive if he didn’t have this overwhelming aura of bitchiness, stopped eating garbage, stopped playing video games all day long, shaved the beard and got a haircut on a semi-regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:14 PM
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I was also treated like shit for a lot of my life, mainly from men who could tell I had severe anxiety and low self-esteem. i would consider myself very average in the looks department. when I made a concerted effort to stop giving a shit about what people thought about me as long as I was conducting myself with respect, I stopped being so afraid of people (and men, lol), stopped assuming the worst of people - which is fucking difficult when you’ve had terrible experiences with people - for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:12 PM
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nothing wrong with being “weird” if you’re not a freak about it (i.e treat people with human decency until they treat you without, be friendly, open, empathetic).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:03 PM
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A lot of women can just sort of… tell when a man has never been with a woman. they radiate trepidation and fear, have difficulty making any eye contact, and occasionally try to put you down but just suck really hard at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:55 PM
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im talking about customers, who have much less incentive to put on a front than someone who is providing customer service. Overwhelmingly, the negative interactions I have w/ customers are usually from alt and inkwell-leaning dudes. we have one inkwell who comes in who was straight up nasty to me when I first started because I was “too slow” fetching his desired product, yet he couldnt even make eye contact while doing it. a woman coworker put him in his place and now he’s so meek and submissive…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:50 PM
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this is the way. most of what you will read here is highly delusional. congratulations on your wedding, and may you have a happy marriage & life together!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:47 PM
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because we have nothing to gain from you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:45 PM
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through my job, I interact with people from lots of different walks of life. normies, “alts”, inkwells, bikers, jocks, you name it. im noticing something quite interesting which is challenging my preconceived (and probably unfair) notions about jocks or “Chads” - They are almost all kind, nonjudgmental, have social skills, have their shit together financially, and the ones who do have wives and kids seem to care a lot about them. according to many guys in this sub, these dudes were supposed to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:43 PM
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lol why would I care if dudes im rejecting have respect for me as long as I conducted myself with respect during the rejection? im not LyInG, im just not giving explicit reason for the rejection. “I’m not interested in you” is the truth. you are not entitled to a reason for the rejection. you have to get over this idea if you ever want to stop being so angry don’t find you disgusting, just don’t find you attractive. Why assume the worst when it will result in more insecurity on your part?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:16 AM
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because there’s a huge difference between saying “im not attracted to fat women / old women” and “fat chicks are disgusting / old women age like milk” - there’s just no reason to tack an insult on. maybe this example will resonate with you: im not attracted to men who are shorter than me, but im not going around calling them repulsive betas. im not even gonna tell them to their face why it’s a no because I don’t need to justify myself and potentially hurt their feelings in the process - it’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:02 AM
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Almost like nobody should get butthurt about another person’s preferences!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:54 AM
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nobody’s asking you to be happy about it, but you don’t have to take great offence to it. at the end of the day, you can’t control what others find attractive, as they can’t control what you find attractive - try not to take it personally and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:50 AM
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I wish they would just pay sex workers to alleviate their misery, but they won’t do that either because they think women should give them sex out of charity. big sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:09 AM
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you’re just nitpicking now, probably because you can’t pull women from your age group and you feel insecure about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:05 AM
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30s+ men who tell themselves the 20 year old girl they are dating is mature for her age are just coping again - she isn’t mature, you’re immature. im 31 and could not imagine even hooking up with a 20 year old boy, let alone having some kind of sustained relationship with one. even the most “mature” 20 year old boy is not someone I want to spend an extended period of time around. the former is sleazy but I get that men are very primitive about their sex drives - the latter tells me there’s somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:57 AM
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hate to be the bearer of bad news, but as a former 20 y/o girl who thought she was very mature at the time- they are not very mature because of the simple fact that they have little life & relationship experience. you are just exceptionally immature, so it’s appealing to you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 07:17 PM
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it will come down when men stop “needing” sex more than women “need” sex. you do it to yourselves, really
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 02:13 PM
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agree completely. as a woman, my worst fear is that these guys just want someone who will be controllable , subservient, and defer to them every time - not an equal partner. have ended more than one relationship over this. I would rather be alone than any man’s sidekick.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 05:55 AM
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im not gonna go looking for a peer-reviewed source to prove to you that being kind and empathetic makes you a more endearing / dateable person “developing social skills” can be as simple as: not ranting about shit nobody cares about at inappropriate moments, learning to recognize nonverbal cues that show the person is or is not interested in what you’re talking about, making an effort to be positive, making eye contact, smiling, being helpful and reliable, leaving people alone when they’re not r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 02:00 AM
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the wildest part about it is if they just dropped this whateverpilled shtick and focused on developing social skills, they might actually have a chance at getting laid. but that’s too hard so they just continue to neuter themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:01 AM
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you’re so entrenched in your misery that it is quite literally impossible for you to imagine a fellow human being (more specifically, a woman) sympathetic to the fact that you are stuck in an echo chamber & playing yourself at every opportunity. when you assume everyone HaTeS you, you just repel people because you radiate anger. in a sense, you are protected from rejection, but you lose out on positive friendships and relationships. all im saying is it’s not too late to go down the rational, pra…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:37 PM
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he is hysterical, unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:20 PM
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dude, get help. even just go offline for a week, engage in healthy activities, eat well. I promise you’ll feel much better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:15 PM
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are you ok
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:56 PM
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as long as men “need” sex more than women do, they will eternally be bitter about this. being rejected stings a lot less when you don’t really want / need something from the other person. better to be alone than to be with someone who sucks - but yeah, from what I understand you guys are kind of handicapped by your higher sex drives. focus on quality over quantity and you may find happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:54 PM
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