mcchigguns Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Why is cold approach so addictive? It's exciting with nothing but upsides to it. I went from basically an insel to happy, well adjusted dude now. I still love it and want to keep doing it.	/r/seduction	03/06/24 02:54 PM
1	Turning 30 soon and absolutely clueless and sexually frustated after attempting cold approach yesterday for the upteenth time. As a 6'4" slightly nerdy black dude who has embraced the blackpill and lives with his parents, finding women into me is near impossible... Black pill is the biggest bullshit ever dog. Getting jacked and better looking can help, but won't solve the problem. If you get that 1% genetics and spend years getting to the top of the looks pyramid, you'll miss out on hundreds of girls. Imagine you don't focus on your game during that time, even the good looking dude from "You" creeps ladies out. Just focus on your game and you'll get better. Build a healthy lifestyle for the sake of it, but don't rely on it for game. Take your rejections li…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 10:00 PM
2	Approaching mixed groups directly? Jacked gay dudes usually turn out to be the best people. This gets me thinking, if you ever feel unattractive, go to a gay bar, real confidence booster. Not gonna admit that I've ever done this, but I did go to a gay club once with a girl and I didn't buy my own drinks. Some sage advice for the noobies could be: remember for every girl that wouldn't bang you, there are a thousand dudes that would.	/r/seduction	19/05/24 09:37 PM
1	Is daygame/cold approach the best use of your time? So don't go out and meet women, just work out with a bunch of ither sweaty dudes? I like the gym but it doesn't get you laid	/r/seduction	19/05/24 12:54 PM
1	Went out solo today Yeah. I do have a friend who's just getting into it, I've been out a few nights with him this year. It's definitely easier to approach when you go out with other dudes, especially at first, but doing it yourself gives you unimaginable freedom. The lessons you learn from going put yourself, for me learning that my thoughts are not reality really changed my life. It's worth it and I can stop for years at a time and just come back to it without it feeling like a mountain again. I don't have the exc…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 12:18 PM
2	Approaching mixed groups directly? have never had an interaction that got even close to aggressive. Dudes don't understand this, cold approach is very safe. Out of countless approaches this only happened to me once and the way I did it was so fucked. It was a girl with a shit ton of tattoos surrounded by gangster looking mexicans (they had norteño tattoos). Dude shoved me immediately and said "That's my girl" but the look on the girl's face was priceless. Dude came at me but his buddies grabbed him. I made him look like a bitch a…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 12:07 PM
1	I feel like a fake alpha at work I would stay away from RSD's stuff. It's amostly nebulous set of BS engineered to sell more courses. Their stuff injects a lot of limiting beliefs that make it more difficult. They make the comparison that being good with girls is like being an olympic athlete, fucking crazy, and the idea of "state" is also really stupid, I've seen it keep guys from approaching IRL because they were waiting to feel some way to take action. What you're saying is trash the alpha frame entirely? So, what does that …	/r/seduction	17/05/24 04:41 AM
1	Went out solo today Good for you bro, this is the start of something that will change your life. Like going to the gym, this shit is mostly benefits. Im a dude that started out going out every night for 6 months to learn this, it was a bit excessive, but I got some tips for you: If you set a schedule to go out on certain days/nights, and you're finding yourself resisting going out, start by making a deal with yourself to just get dressed, or just drive to the area, and if you don't feel like it, you can leave. Even…	/r/seduction	17/05/24 03:08 AM
3	I feel like a fake alpha at work Anything based on a model of "alpha" males is kind of stupid. I would throw that belief system and set of behaviors out. Anyone acting like "an alpha" is off putting, especially as you get into your late twenties early 30s, and women, especially gorgeous ones will see right through it. I think you have a long journey ahead of you that you can start sooner than later by taking on better beliefs about yourself and the world, and going after what you want. If I were you, I'd test my alpha beliefs b…	/r/seduction	17/05/24 02:53 AM
7	Literal model walks into a bar and it's amazing how girls naturally gravitated towards him I never think these posts are constructive because they shift people's focus from making the best of what they can change and instead to comparisons with people that are only visually (can't stress this enough) at the top 1% of people. If you want to take solice in something, know that most of them don't need to go on huge self discovery journeys and end up miserable. I had a really close friend who is a 10/10 guy in terms of looks, the dude would stand around and women would open him so much he…	/r/seduction	08/05/24 10:56 PM
1	Is it a bad idea to just be yourself? Preliminary: Is complete detachment from outcome possible? Or we just want a healthy one? Just a healthy one. You still want the outcome so you're still leading the interaction towards it, but, if it doesn't happen, you're just as accepting of the result. You don't beat yourself up, you don't gauge your worth on that result. Resistance of the possible result is unhealthy attachment in a social context because that implies some level of control, of which you shouldn't have any over another human …	/r/seduction	27/01/24 02:11 AM
1	Is it a bad idea to just be yourself? I think you and I have different definitions of confidence. To me confidence is a mixture of high self esteem (feeling like you're good enough as you are in a given context) and a lack of emotional attachments to the outcomes of what you're doing. You can lead the interaction even if you're nervous, you can kiss her even if you're nervous, just as long as your intentions are seemingly clear to her. Confidence is cool, but I think girls are attracted to your drive more than anything, your drive a…	/r/seduction	27/01/24 12:19 AM
1	Is it a bad idea to just be yourself? I don't understand your question. Women hate a lack of confidence? All women? Most women? Which women? Maybe lack of congruence, maybe hiding your intentions. Everyone learning this has been nervous on a pull before. Some guys with massive egos do pretty well with women sometimes. Are they happy? Do they live a life where they're consistently trying to get everyone around them to validate who they are? Some of those guys get drunk every weekend to go game, does that make them confident? Does it …	/r/seduction	26/01/24 11:33 PM
0	Is it a bad idea to just be yourself? "Being yourself" means different things to different people. Maybe you act differently around hot girls than you do around your friends, maybe that "self" is the one. Maybe the one that secretly goes to do things, or whatever. Any "self" can be attractive as long as it's a self certainty about its desires, what it's about, etc. If you want to be attractive to women, pick your favorite self first. Whatever self esteem issues that self has, work on them. The more certain you are about your values …	/r/seduction	26/01/24 06:49 PM