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If there comes a time you need to use words to lay out a boundary, it should be focused on the vision you want for your life, your relationship, and how she fits into it (if you can't let her figure it out on her own). What you wrote is airing grievances from the past and how her behaviour hurt your feelings. Why? You're hoping you can defend your actions, explain your perspective, and rationalize things in a way that she can relate to. You want her to say "oh I see now, you're awesome and I'll …
/r/askMRP09/06/24 05:53 PM
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I guess my ask mrp is does that sound like the best course of action? After this whole gay diary entry you ended up scripting out a speech to give to your wife, adding a super lame cherry on top. That's the opposite of radio silence...but you seem to suck at being quiet anyway. A speech like that is not the best course of action. You can find a better course of action in literally the first pin post on the main sub. Read the guide and sidebar. You need to think harder about the first step - STFU…
/r/askMRP09/06/24 03:02 PM
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I wasn't referring to your wife, but you DEERING to the comment above. He pointed out something valuable from the comment you wrote, and you defended it because booking reservations is upgrading your attraction. You might be doing a lot of good things. He was pointing out that you are a dancing monkey.
/r/askMRP30/05/24 10:48 PM
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Pay more attention to this feedback before you DEER (yes, that is what you are doing). The last two sentences are the most important thing for you to read here. Also, read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP30/05/24 04:50 PM
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Jesus dude, stop wasting time posting here. You posted (and deleted?) earlier this week about how you think your wife has BPD and self-harm tendencies. Now she has a diagnosed hormone problem. You also posted in career advice about “HoW mY wIfE dOeSn’T appreciate hOw GoOd ShE hAs It”. You tricked me into thinking you knew enough not to DEER to your wife, then proceeded to DEER everyone in the comments section. You are hunting around trying to find a valid reason for her behavior and justify why …
/r/askMRP30/05/24 04:45 PM
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Why did you say anything at all? Really - what did you hope to accomplish by speaking words?
/r/askMRP28/05/24 09:37 PM
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Pay more attention to this comment.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:46 PM
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Ya, you responded and explained about the furniture. Her reaction wasn't about the furniture.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:43 PM
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Thanks, that's helpful for my DEERING comment, you're dialed-in on the not over-explaining. The second is the leadership side. There's another comment here on listening to your wife. Once I learned what a shit test was and how to deal with it, I needed to relearn that everything isn't a shit test. Sometimes, someone on your crew has something legitimate that isn't a shit test, and needs a different response. I want my wife to come to me when she needs to, with a concern about my bevahiour or any…
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:37 PM
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But my question about this is, when a woman is emotionally manipulative like this, does this indicate that she has BPD but is still attracted to me? Or does this indicate that she is done with me? It indicates you are talking too much. STFU. However you are responding to her "shit tests" isn't getting you a desirable result. Quit talking while you figure out how to respond better. I bet your "cool, sticking-to-your-guns" frame still involves a lot DEERING. If not, it still sounds like shitty lea…
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:14 PM
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These are shit tests. If you want to disagree, fine, but you won't blow things up by treating them like they are shit tests anyway. Treating all of this like it is - completely unserious, like you are doing OP - is a good approach. Most of your responses to the examples you mentioned are fine. If anything, OP is probably defaulting to the same type of response too often. Using your go-to responses works, but it's boring. Get some new material and keep her on her toes. Change it up to keep it int…
/r/askMRP20/04/24 08:11 PM
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Absolutely. Passing shit tests in front of them is super fun and important, and this should have been handled that way. Even "I'll show you what a caveman can do with a stick later", is low hanging fruit and kid friendly. The problem here is his wife hurts his feelings too much so he can't treat this like a shit test. If OP wants to take his wife seriously, and considers this scenario 'disrespectful' enough to draw a line and not just fun bratty behaviour, I usually still just ignore it or give …
/r/askMRP19/04/24 03:37 AM
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I remember it, but can't find the "poopy-head" reference either. I think it was a post on the mrp sub. I thought it was in RM's Amused Mastery - it's not - but the same gist: https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/14/amused-mastery/ "It means you never take her seriously, like a bratty younger sister" Your example with the low value male is a great exercise - don't take her behavior more seriously than it deserves. Challenges with the kids are clearly coming up a lot with the wife here. Personally,…
/r/askMRP18/04/24 07:15 PM
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It is, and it is solid as well. He publishes daily and its consistently dialed-in and usually in the 5-15 minute range. In that same short and sweet bracket, Lewis Howes "Daily Motivation" is another regular for me. Highlight clips from his longer show "The School of Greatness".
/r/askMRP15/04/24 04:13 PM
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That other comment is a fair warning - just like anything else, you need take what works for you and leave the rest. There's not a paint by numbers approach to parenting. With that said, Ryan Holiday's (from Daily Stoic) "Daily Dad" content has provided me a lot of value. More than anything, it focuses on your mindset as a father. Not a podcast, but he fires off a concise and well-written daily newsletter. Last year he rolled some of it up into a 365 page book, highlighting a piece of advice for…
/r/askMRP15/04/24 02:53 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate that insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 08:15 PM
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My first thought is that it has to do with my attention. Responding to shit tests with AA comes more naturally to me and has worked well. STFU 1-changes things up 2-stops me from engaging in banter all the time 3-puts more emphasis on what I say when I decide to. Her response has been either 1-an immediate barrage of flirty shit tests or 2-going out of her way to show her value. I want to stay out of her head, but those may both ways she's trying to get my attention. Regardless, its a good respo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:28 PM
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OYS#6 STATS: 35, 5’8’’, 160lbs. Wife 34, married 8, together 16. Daughter 4. LIFTS: (5x5) DL 256, SQ 201, BP 156, ROW 130, OHP 115 READING/LISTENING: WOTSM, 48Laws, POOK I am practicing using my words mindfully. STFU was solely an exercise in eliminating bad behavior, and still is, but I’m seeing the value it add as well. Carefully chosen words, a question, or silence are more helpful than a quick response. I am better at adopting new habits than quitting existing ones, so this helps to reinforc…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 05:26 PM
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OYS#5 STATS: 35, 5’8’’, 160lbs. Wife 34, married 8, together 16. Daughter 4. LIFTS: (5x5) DL 251, SQ 194, BP 153, ROW 127, OHP 111 READING/LISTENING: NMMNG, WOTSM, Models, 48Laws I am a cliche. Seeing a story I've destroyed myself over kicked back in a few sentences has given me comfort. I am not special or different. The problems I have aren't unique and I am not better, or worse, than anyone. What one man can do another man can do. I thought of the iron rule before it was pointed out. I've stu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 02:41 PM
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Fuck. It won't be fun to work through that idea this week. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 09:58 PM
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You are right, and I am grateful. Thank you for the help.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 07:52 PM
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If I asked myself last year what I really, truly, deeply wanted, it was to hear my wife tell me that she was proud of me. I wanted to hear she was grateful. I wanted her to confirm I was doing what I should be doing. The lack of sexual response has been directly related to her knowing I still needed this validation. Any sexual act I desire is something we used to do when I was at my best; and back then she had all the crazy ideas. I want to be the man I am supposed to be at my core, and measurin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:47 PM
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We had a few conversations that week and it’s frustrating to look back on. This women, in clear overt language, told me what she thought the problem was. “You’ve lost your confidence. You don’t have your same happiness anymore. Are you staying here because you want to or because you are comfortable? You need to try something different. Start playing hockey again, play music again, go on a trip with your buddies. Please don’t waste any more of my time if you are just going to leave”. Jesus. Fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:46 PM
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It was clear to me. My purpose was to get her through this. I needed to remove every barrier I could to ensure she could focus on her recovery. I needed to focus on her, everything else was secondary. I was the sole provider. I fed her with whatever she could stomach. I drained her wounds. I shaved her head. She resented the world and since I used to be at her centre of it, let me know she resented me to. She told me she needed someone who treated her better than I had. She told me she needed me…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:46 PM
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OYS#4 STATS: 35, 5’8’’, 160lbs. Wife 34, married 8, together 16. Daughter 4. LIFTS: (5x5) DL 257, SQ 195, BP 159, ROW 129, OHP 114 READING/LISTENING: NMMNG, WOTSM I have a big pile of shit to own today. I received high-value feedback before some forced time away after my last OYS. I had a well-intentioned plan for how I was going to continue post here to ‘check the OYS box’ and continue on the MPR path. That included focusing only on the week behind me and the future, sticking to a format and a …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:45 PM
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You already know I want to hammer back another wall of text and tell you all about my spreadsheets. I may have been kidding about the MRP Approved Responses, but ya, I do track rejections and a lot of other stuff. This: "If it's funny this is a layer of ego protection that if you are rejected then you can just shrug it off as "oh well, funny stuff, haha" instead of internalizing "shit, she doesn't want to fuck me". You wouldn't dare initiate with true, full authority in these cases if you REALLY…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 10:53 PM
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Happy to see you tune in. I'll put that in my spreadsheet of canned MRP Approved Responses but think something like "I've got time to cuddle your face with my dick" is probably more my style. I appreciate the reminder to check in on the butthurt responses, but my butt only hurts from sciatica and squats. I worked hard to get those needy reactions squashed. She did catch me flat-footed in this example and my lack of typical snappy response would have been noticed, but that's not due to a sexual r…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 05:30 PM
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OYS#3 STATS: 35, 5’8’’, 163lbs 15%BF (a guess); Wife 34, married 8, together 16. Daughter 4. LIFTS: (5x5) DL 257, SQ 192, BP 159, ROW 129, OHP 114 READING: TRP Sidebar, SGM My greatest two assets are my time an attention; I need to be more intentional. I realized a few things this week, some through the feedback received in OYS#2: I have accomplished a lot this year, and I attribute my habits, routines, systems and ‘rules’ as the key to this success (‘rules’ to live life perfectly…what a Nice Gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:18 PM
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I still have notifications on and thought about that comment the whole walk; weak. Fucking validation...I've done a lot of work but that monster is tough to kill. Thanks for the help.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 07:37 PM
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You are right. I can give you 6 months worth of actions if you want to jerk off my ego for me. If you are interested, give me another 500 words and I'll update this afternoon. Today specifically: up at 500am without the snooze bar, 1-mile dog walk (1\4 ran; first day and working up to a mile run), 20 min meditation and 20 minute yoga before kid woke up. Had her sorted and set up with a netflix show while I started SL at 700, setting new PRs on OHP and DL but still being a pussy on squats, while …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 06:30 PM
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OYS#2 STATS: 35, 5’8’’, 162lbs 15%BF (photo); Wife 34, married 8, together 16. Daughter 4. LIFTS: (5x5) DL 255, SQ 190, BP 158, ROW 128, OHP 112 READING: TRP Sidebar, SGM My greatest two assets are my time an attention; I need to be more intentional. I started drafting this two days after OYS#1, realizing a few things: 1-I checked for feedback/upvotes multiple times, hungry for validation/recognition. I was hoping for someone to call me a “faggot” so I could brag about what I have accomplished. …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 02:33 PM
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OYS#1 I have been on MRP since January, but consider February 15th 2020 the day I fully committed. The day after Valentines Day, what a faggot. I am a snowflake with a story but will leave the background out today. It might be worth our time as a 1-Year FR; it’ll read better with success and I can post while I buy her skittles next year. I built my MAP February 18th. Lift, Read, STFU - have not skipped a day since. Thinking I was beyond the prescription compromised my gains, which is why Vday wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 07:54 PM
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