mcrmd Archive

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2	My wedding anniversary Almost a year ago for our last and 15th anniversary “together” we were still in the same house but my stbx had already checked out. She was 3 months into her travel job leaving me with our 3 kids most weeks even though “I never helped”. She had spent unknown thousands in credit card debt on her side hustle but I “was too controlling”. After I gave resistance from all the packages going to our house she got the post office to stop all our home mail delivery entirely- not suspicious at all. So, on…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/26 12:23 PM
2	Did I do the right thing? I think you are doing just fine limiting things to a monitored texting app. It’s okay to cut off things that will trigger you to get mad or sad or whatever during this time-give yourself some grace. I took too long blocking my ex and any of her friends/family from FB. For too many weeks I was a depressed nut, and since I work from home, often FB seems like my only interaction with outside people. With every other post coming from a relative of hers, or a mutual friend we met together during our …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/26 09:31 PM
2	Advice There’s plenty of modern books on the topic like “Dead Bedroom Fix” and “No more Mr. Nice Guy” . She has probably lost attraction to you, and/or you have made it okay for her to withhold intimacy, which is a basic human need for men. Guys are expected to always take care of their duties but women can withhold intimacy/affection/appreciation and even make you feel like an asshole for even asking. The cure generally involves “manning up” in certain ways and working on yourself (mentally, physicall…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/03/26 05:38 AM
2	Dating After Marriage - Bit of Advice Married for 15 years, and maybe we had a one year high of 8-10 times since my first set of kids were born (twins are 9 now) -otherwise it was maybe every 2-3 months. My ex’s nightstand drawer looked like the Vegas strip with all her shit plugged in and charging. If I mentioned it should be me and not her damn vibrators - I was “too needy” or “insecure”. After the rare occasion we would have sex, I would lay there all recharged and in bliss and mention I wish we could go once a day or at least on…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/26 06:52 PM
4	Please give me strength... I did one birthday just shortly after my ex moved out and so many things wrecked me. Everybody that told me I needed to go for my kids’ sake was either never divorced or were the ones that happened to walk away from their marriages. I did not do the next kids’ birthday with my ex. I just celebrated on their actually bday (a few days before the party) with the kids and my parents. The kids thought nothing of it and enjoyed the presents and double the cake.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/26 10:43 PM
10	anyone divorced due to lack of intimacy It’s a huge and very common reason to get divorced, just check prior threads. Either you recognize it now and walk away, or wait until she finds someone else she wants to be intimate with and blows up your marriage-probably after gaslighting and blaming you for her unhappiness. I’m sorry to bear the bad news but chances are it’s not that she’s entirely asexual - she’s just asexual with you. Im 43M and just went through this. I spent the last 6 months of the marriage working my ass off thinking I…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/26 08:15 PM
5	Just waiting for it to get bad Yes. And there will be pushback but be level headed and just do your thing. When you put up boundaries the people that took advantage of the old you will be the most upset and act like you are the unreasonable control freak for sticking up for yourself. Mine took a job working out of town every other week, AND started some stupid side internet business. …Once while we were still living together at the time, she got back in town and was like “I have to do a show so you got to watch them” Nope. I …	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/26 04:34 AM
12	Just waiting for it to get bad When you’re in the beginning it’s so hard to rip the bandaidS off. I underestimated (or was in denial) of all the ancillary things in my life that were going to change or go away. It’s hard enough coming to terms that you and her are breaking up. But soon you realize you are losing some in-laws, mutual friends, hang out spots, social events, streaming app logins, kid time, pet time….the list goes on. My ex thought we’d be unmarried but coparenting, and I’d go help her with money, moving furnitur…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/26 03:24 AM
7	Ex-wife didn’t even have the kids call me on my bday That sucks and I’m sorry that happened to you. I was still married and living together during my last birthday, but my STBX was laying groundwork. I was burnt out from watching the 3 kids solo while she worked out of town 4 of the past 6 weeks with her new job. The 5 of us all went to my parent’s cabin, where I was hoping to relax, and she picked a fight with me as soon as we arrived over the stupidest thing. My daughter made a mess eating snacks and I told her to wash up because her face was fi…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/10/25 10:35 PM
16	Lol - why is every man a “narcissist” Mine took a job in March that had her traveling away every other week. She was gone 5 of the first 8 weeks leaving me to watch our 3 kids aged 8,8, & 4. She checked out when she was home and developed a shopping addiction on WhatNot then decided she was going to start her own “side hustle” selling luxury shit on said app. I was burnt out and exhausted and spoke out, asking “with what money? and what time do you expect to do all this?” That made me a controlling, manipulative, narcissist. Now I r…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/25 05:31 PM
2	Divorcing Maybe we all married the same woman who likes to use the N-word. The controlling manipulative narcissist attacks really shook me to my core when I started learning about them through YouTube videos. Especially the ones that keep saying “get out NOW”. My STBXW took a travel job in March leaving me working my full time WFH job to single handedly watching our 3 young kids every other week, and the weeks she was back she would hole up in our room on her phone. She had developed a major spending habi…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/25 04:46 AM