mdh5326 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Frustrating to finally start to see the light I’ve done it twice. This last time really messed with me.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/05/26 02:28 AM
10	Frustrating to finally start to see the light I am never getting married again. Ever.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/26 11:18 AM
6	Divorced I married a single mom. She & her kids will always have a “seat at the table.” If anything goes wrong—any slight sense that you’re not 100% in—you’ll be excused. Edit: she booted me about a year and a half ago	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/26 11:16 AM
1	One Year Later It lessens. Sometimes it’s not there at all. Most of the time, there’s a constant undercurrent of grief.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/26 05:06 PM
13	Ive lost everything To answer your question: yes. What you’re going through is very very common. I survived by surviving. Just getting by. For a while. Time has to pass. I did therapy / gym / called friends / went to recovery meetings / prayed / meditated / paced around / etc.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/26 02:01 AM
1	How do you manage the pain? Michael Singer: Wisdom Untethered	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/26 08:06 PM
4	Things are looking up Rush things as quickly as possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/26 07:36 PM
1	Bodily Coercion - Am I crazy? (If you read, read the whole thing) Yeah I’m never getting married again.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/26 02:42 AM
8	Do the hits stop coming? It’s still very very new. It’s going to suck for a while. How long? Who knows. I’m 18 months post-separation (divorced almost a year). Put the dog down almost right after the divorce got finalized (she had cancer, poor thing). I’m still grieving the failed marriage. Not sure if she was cheating (never knew, will never know). She ended it abruptly and didn’t even want to go to therapy. Nothing. It’s going to take time. Probably more than you want. Yes it gets better. But it sticks around for a wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/26 06:46 PM
1	My wife wants a divorce and I don’t know how to move forward About a month after my 2nd anniversary she asked for divorce. My advice (I don’t expect you to follow it or understand at this point): File immediately. Communicate with her as little as possible to figure out what to do with the dogs / house. Nothing more. Otherwise, go completely no contact, including don’t look at what she’s up to, etc. Delete any pics of her, and of you two together. Block or delete on any social media (I got off entirely. Don’t miss it). Keep leaning on God. This is where f…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/26 01:04 AM
29	I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh air This is, hands down, the best post on /rDivorce_Men. The common denominator is that the one who walks away is invariably the one who was never all-in to begin with, started keeping secrets, and essentially ended the relationship long before it was officially over. OP—you’ve nailed every emotion I’ve gone through over the past 18 months. You’ve likely read by now it’s a common sentiment: the hurt, the shock, the betrayal. The agony. The unfairness of it all. The one benefit we have as the ones wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/05/26 01:55 PM
3	What was your part? I got into a relationship with someone right after they got out of a long-term relationship, for one. Two: she was the ex of a friend of mine. Actually, she introduced me to her 'partner' and he and I became friends. Three: I made her my therapist. Those are the bigger ones for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 01:31 PM
1	Completely out of the blue. Are all divorces supposed to be this intense? I miss my family I’m literally never getting married again.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 03:08 AM
6	Shifting processing I feel your pain. I had to turn away from everything she was doing. It literally doesn’t matter what the truth is, other than it’s over. The more you look at her life the less you live yours. Even if you knew the absolute truth of who, what, when, where, why, and how … it won’t change anything. It won’t make it easier to move on. You asked for advice: stop looking at what she’s up to. Learn how to self-sooth. Learn to be happy again. The best revenge is living a good life.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 04:32 PM
14	Newly wed now soon to divorce Yeah bro, it’s terrible. You’re not alone. Surprised no one said “hit the gym” yet 🙄 Hang in there. It’s gonna suck for a while.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/05/26 04:45 PM
4	Haven’t been handling this well… Similar situation for me. Amicable divorce. No assets. No lawyers. She had kids from a previous relationship. I’m 18 months from the separation. Almost 1 year post-divorce (next month is 1 year). Which is crazy to think about. I would have sworn we’d spend our lives together. So cliché but it’s the truth. Was is grief-stricken agony for the better part of a year. Still deal with some depression and a feeling of utter defeat. She single handedly changed my entire life, stripped me of my identity,…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/05/26 01:51 AM
3	May I ask what led to your divorce? She wanted it. Said she got married too soon and thought she could handle it.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/26 11:53 PM
2	One Year Later 18 months today. Still have bad days — even bad weeks. Like you said: emptiness and pain. So yeah I think it’s common.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 06:36 PM
12	Ex wife pics I deleted every. single. picture.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 02:58 AM
2	How can I stop feeling hurt by her new relationship? Couldn’t agree more and well said! Time. It takes time. I honestly don’t think any amount of work truly makes that much of a difference (bring on the hate ….) I’ve been completely relieved from the pain previous breakups (including a previous divorce, which was devastating) by being in agony, fear, and dismay until one day—usually about 2 years for me—it’s just not there anymore. No therapy. No ‘figuring anything out about myself’. Other than time, here’s the biggest component: don’t intentional…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/26 01:32 AM
1	Out with another guy When enough time has passed, you could literally watch her get banged out by another dude and not be affected. Don’t look at anything she’s doing. It’ll pass. But if you keep watching you’ll extend the timeline indefinitely.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/26 04:29 PM
2	Trying to decide if I should hop on the apps I still haven’t jumped on the apps. I know I’m not ready. I think it’s best to be happy without anyone before attempting to date again, but that’s just me. In the past, when I finally was ready I’d go on a rampage—treating it like the numbers game that it really is. Bumble. Tinder. I don’t think Hinge was a thing at the time. Regardless, eventually my ratio of attempts:success improved significantly. It became almost formulaic and I was sealing the deal quickly. It felt great. For about two mont…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/26 12:54 AM
2	How to you get over her? I’m 18 months in and still have some rough days more often than I’d like to admit. The truth is everyone grieves differently and for different lengths of time. I’m working on allowing my grief to be there without resisting. I’m noticing that it’s not just the grief of the lost marriage, it’s all grief from all of life I’m experiencing—which means I’m letting it heal. As men we are conditioned to not feel; to compartmentalize and move on. Thing is, that energy never actually goes away. It gets st…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/26 08:02 AM
6	Would you do it all over again? Yes. Here’s why. To practice letting go. Most of the pain that comes with sudden changes is the resistance to change. It’s not about understanding why they did it and figuring out exactly how much of a villain they are. It’s about accepting reality and developing the ability to not attach to the moment but to see it as something that could change in an instant. That’s the only reason why I’ll go back in time and experienced it all over again. To observe, knowing it’s not meant to last.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/26 01:58 PM
6	Are you guys ready to date again after 5+years of divorce? It usually took me around the one and a half to two year mark before I would start dating again, based on previous break ups and a previous divorce. I consider myself lucky. Somewhere in Reddit land is a guy who is still missing his ex more than 20 years later after they broke up. I think they dated for like a month or two.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/26 04:03 PM
4	Are you guys ready to date again after 5+years of divorce? This comment belongs in /rRealLifeHeroes	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/26 03:57 PM
2	Please Share Your Thoughts Generally speaking: therapy, meditation & prayer, going for walks, jiu-jitsu, gym. Talking with friends. I would read or listen to “Wisdom: Untethered” by Michael Singer. Ultimately, on the hardest of days, just make it through the day. Tomorrow is a new day.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/26 06:07 PM
3	What hope is there in any LTR after Divorce revelations? Wow. It’s crazy how common this is. My ex dropped the D-word unexpectedly, no chance of therapy; nothing. Completely surprised me. Devastated me. I’m about 18 months on the other side of the sudden separation and beginning to feel pretty decent. Takes time. As far as the prospect of another relationship? I can’t think of it without panicking a little. I’m not the biggest fan of being single but getting used to it. Anyway, your post reminded me of the early pain and disbelief.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/26 10:42 PM