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| 8 | How to avoid putting myself in the mommy/bangmaid role? | med10crity | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 04:46 PM |
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| 48 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?I met my husband on tinder.. we've been together for over four years, and the first anniversary of our wedding is coming up this April. He was the first guy I met in person after downloading the app. We hit it off immediately and are both still immensely happy to be together. Definitely not a good representation of what OLD (tinder especially) usually looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 05:54 AM |
| 62 | Textbook Terrible V-Dayso basically he's going to be single for sure whenever he gives her this "makeup"gift 🤣 Dude if your relationship is on thin ice, and the thing you buy to desperately try to salvage it is a fucking vagina egg.... you will be dropped so fast it'll give you whiplash lol!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 11:31 AM |
| 10 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?This early on, he should be cooking for YOU. Only agree to cook together if he has already proven he is a competent cook. Otherwise you will just be babysitting him the whole time to make sure he doesn't do anything wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:59 AM |
| 18 | Came across this in OLD today, respectful women must chase the man, ladies we’re doing it wrong 😂"if I have to put more effort than I want to in a relationship, I lose all interest" lmao I bet this guy doesn't respect women who are "too easy" either 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:03 PM |
| 3 | Automatic dealbreaker for me, but are men who use intentional misspellings lv/nv?I think there's a correlation between lazy texting and lv/nv, though not necessarily black and white. If he uses omw when he's coming to pick you up for a date, but still spells out all his "you"s, I wouldn't consider that a red flag. If you're having a genuine conversation and he barely spells out any full words.... something about that doesn't sit right with me. Like, at least try maybe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:52 AM |
| 25 | Ugh, expect?This guy clearly doesn't know what he's talking about, but in a way he's right. As someone who uses a lifeless object whenever I feel like it, only to climax and then set aside where I don't have to look at it again, I definitely don't want to be treated like that by a man!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 175 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!holy hell I read the whole transcript and it's amazing 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 13 | Beware of the over-helper"bUt I wAnNa HeLp"- no, you want to FEEL useful. essentially, you are asking me to prioritize your feelings above my own health even MORE, despite professing a desire to "help". piss off and let me just focus on taking care of myself for once | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:47 AM |
| 68 | Don't give second or any chances to LVM's, NVM'sCan men grow and change for the better? Yes, they can. Will a man who has truly changed for the better come back to harass you into being with him again? Absolutely not. Don't trust anyone who tries to convince you they have changed. First off, they're already boundary stomping by doing that. Second, it's too easy for a man to put on a show long enough to lure you back in to the same bullshit all over again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:14 PM |
| 46 | “What do you bring to the table” is actually a modern question. Don’t fall for it.THIS!! This is the root of the issue. Everyone should actually evaluate if a romantic partner adds value to their life! Men are far more likely to underestimate that value, but there are still LV women out there, and it's not wrong to leave a relationship that isn't beneficial to both parties. When you straight up ask a woman what she brings to the table, though? That's not cOmMuNiCaTiOn, that's belittling and manipulative. It's a deliberate move designed to ensnare pickmes who have been brainwa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 07:57 PM |
| 58 | Report and block… report and block… must remember talking back just stokes their egoI like to throw in a "lol" into the mix nothing hurts a man more than being laughed at | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:42 PM |
| 7 | How can I ever forgive myself?Girl, first off, stop considering your time in that relationship as time "wasted". Think of it as a long, arduous learning experience, one that brought you to where you are today, to WHO you are today. And who you are today is a person who is beginning to understand her true worth, and who is ready to use everything she has learned to propel herself forward into genuine, fulfilling relationships, not only with a man but also with herself!! You have a lot of love to give, so be sure to give at le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:57 PM |
| 14 | How can I ever forgive myself?Girl, first off, stop considering your time in that relationship as time "wasted". Think of it as a long, arduous learning experience, one that brought you to where you are today, to WHO you are today. And who you are today is a person who is beginning to understand her true worth, and who is ready to use everything she has learned to propel herself forward into genuine, fulfilling relationships, not only with a man but also with herself!! You have a lot of love to give, so be sure to give at le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 04:57 PM |
| 4 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.For real, there's shitty people in every community. It never hurts to be selective in who you invite into your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:09 PM |
| 5 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.Ah, that makes a lot of sense. Love to hear it 👍 I totally agree that you don't need to be actively dating to learn what qualities you'd look for in a romantic relationship. Honestly, I think I learned most about what I need in a partner when I took some time to be single for a while. It sounds like you're putting a lot of thought into that, so you'll be fine 😊 And screening out the ones with the most obvious red flags is definitely a nice skill to have 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:51 PM |
| 13 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.Not the original commenter of course, but I thought I'd throw in my own two cents on the topic 🙃 There's definitely plenty of use for learning to recognizing the signs of a lvm upfront so you can nope the hell out without wasting any of your valuable time! But it's equally important to learn the qualities that you look for in a good partner -- many of which might be specific to you. Because you deserve a partner who is not only decent, but who also adds genuine value to your life, who makes it a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:24 PM |
| 33 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.This is so nice to read tbh. I've been a bit nervous about some comment chains I've seen that reflect ideologies that I definitely don't agree with, and I'm here wondering, "is FDS turning into this or that?" Because FDS has always fundamentally been about changing the script of hetero relationships such that women aren't constantly getting the shit end of the stick in every conceivable way. That's it. That's the glue that binds us together. We may have our similarities or differences, but those… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:03 PM |
| 2 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfHonestly, I'm loathe to condemn any man who tells other men to fuck off. Does he deserve praise and commendation? Not really, no. But it's still nice to see. If men only want to listen to other men, then they might as well get an earful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:17 PM |
| 6 | Why does this man feel the need to go out of his way to ask for pats on the back for something so mundane. Wow congrats you have empathy which is the bare minimum we expect from people. Idk gives me nice / woke boi vibes"It could have been so awful if she actually needed help!! Thank GAWD I didn't have to offer any genuine support!!1!11" What the actual fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:10 AM |
| 7 | The more you become aware the more things like these are not funny. It’s just misogynistic really.For a few blessed moments, I was so confused trying to see where the dishwashing machine was. Then I remembered about rampant misogyny 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:54 AM |
| 39 | Ignorance is bliss I guess??As a bisexual woman and former pickmeisha, I've found that "checking girls out together" -- even with a guy I wasn't dating -- was really uncomfortable. The way they talk about women and the things they find attractive don't make any goddamn sense to me. Pretty sure that's just because I actually see women as people, though ¯_(ツ)_/¯ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:14 PM |
| 11 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)Exactly 👌👌👌 or like in those Scottish competitions who wear kilts and lift up enormous logs from giant trees and throw them or whatever. Weight doesn't bother me as much as long as you're taking care of your body | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:22 AM |
| 13 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)You know how the strongest guys in the world are actually heavy set? Like, they look pretty chunky, but then they go and lift up a whole friggin car, and you go "ohhh, that's 90% muscle, huh.” That's my ideal body type. I don't care about seeing the muscle definition so much as knowing that the muscle is there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:31 AM |
| 6 | Every “girls should make the first move!!” Post in a nutshell 🌰 🥜I was pretty forthright about making the first move on OLD, but it was more like "Hi, engage in a conversation with me so I can weed out the boring creeps from the ones I might actually be interested in :)". Cause I see OLD as more like screening applicants for a job... profile being the resumé, first interview over text, then second on a video call, etc. until there's an applicant that seems worth my time. In person, though? Terrible idea. From experience, it doesn't work. I think it follows FD… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 06:29 PM |
| 74 | Paying respect to the original. This slogan was 🔥 before libfems stole it and ruined it.That was an amazing read tbh. Especially near the end, where she talks about how graphic tees used to indicate that you had gone to an event or store in support of a cause, whereas now they are really just performative... I hadn't really thought about that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 78 | My favorite part of being an FDS mod... 😂For reasons I don't entirely understand, reddit men think they are entitled to a ""debate"" everywhere, all the time, for any reason, on any topic, ESPECIALLY topics they have literally no authority on. Like, AcKsHewUlLy, I dont have to defend my right to exist as a woman in public to ANYONE 😘 eat sh!t sweaty ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:17 PM |
| 14 | This is NOT equality!Trying to paint this as many individual "decisions/agreements/choices" as opposed to a societal expectation resulting from systemic oppression is the shittiest possible take. When millions of women have the same shitty experience... it's not because they chose it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 01:01 PM |
| 69 | 👏Yo fr, men who complain about being "silenced" on a hundred platforms and articles and news clips can Fxck Off. They don't seem to have any concept of what actual consequences are? What it really means to be ignored and belittled? And when they do experience that-- on a personal and individual scale mind you, certainly not on an institutional level -- they scream and cry as loud as they can on every possible platform that it's BECAUSE they are a man, that it's MISANDRY. 🙄 OK, sure, whatever you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:39 PM |
| 6 | Since people keep complaining about how wrong and immoral it is to have a "binary rating system" (LVM/HVM) I'd like to propose a ten-point rating system so that at least we're not "worse than the manosphere" 😘I weirdly like this? I know it's satire, but also I think that it could help to conceptualize what is meant by LV, ZV, and NV. What does he add to your life vs what he ruins or takes away. It's not even half as dehumanizing as rating a person's body on a 10-point scale, because it's something everyone can change. What you bring to a relationship, the effort you put into everything from daily chores to grand gestures to taking over everything when your partner is sick... that is all something tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:21 PM |
| 40 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"For real. He clearly misses the point of FDS entirely... Attracting men isn't the problem, since most men will chase after anything with a pulse. We're trying to help each other weed through the garbage to find the men that will actually add something to our lives. I literally can't imagine a single HVM actually getting bent out of shape just because he can't share his shit opinions on one subreddit out of thousands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Stop sending men paragraphs. There are only TWO things that are worth saying to a guy before you block and delete... and even then, it's not recommended.The more indifferent and dismissive your replies, the better. Typing long paragraphs in response to his paragraphs is putting in way too much time and effort into just entertaining him. imho the perfect final text before blocking and deleting is "lol no thanks, boy bye" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Who else can relate? My last ex once ranted at me for 19 minutes straight without taking a breath.lol I got excited and commented this before I read the whole thing, so it's pretty redundant, oops. Normalize emotionally close male friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Who else can relate? My last ex once ranted at me for 19 minutes straight without taking a breath.Honestly? The whole "men need to be allowed to be emotional" really refers to men expressing their emotions healthily with other men. Not just bottling it up until you find one approachable female person to unload on over and over again like they're a human dump truck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 4 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingYet another reason the burden of pregnancy prevention shouldn't fall on women only....... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:01 PM |
| 31 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁Lol petition to change the concept of "actual sex" from PIV to "activity bringing both parties to orgasm". I already hate the all-too-commonly held idea that sexual contact that isn't PIV is "not REAL sex". Now I have the perfect comeback to that 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:57 PM |
| 7 | Lol ✨SHOCKING✨ that a man profited off a woman’s idea /sTry hundreds of authors. It was common for a man's wife to type while he dictated, so even if he wasn't straight up stealing her ideas, she was at least doing all the editing work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 05:27 AM |
| 13 | "Only dogs and women are loved unconditionally" "Men are loved for what they can do"I think the quote must be phrased wrong... it should be "Only dogs and women are able to love unconditionally. Men can only love someone for what they do." Just makes more sense that way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:02 AM |
| 23 | Why don't men seem to pull their weight in relationships?Why don't men pull their weight you ask? .....Because they can get away with it. There's a lot of intricacies to this question, but it essentially boils down to that. There are plenty of people, men and (pickme) women, who would say that asking for a real balanced partnership is too much, and that you should just be happy with what you have. Truth is, those who cry out for 50/50 on everything in a relationship never take into consideration that women are raised to carry emotional and mental burd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:36 PM |
| 10 | Happy wife, happy lifeWhat a beautiful and validating article 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 68 | MeNs InFiDeLiTy Is DiFfErEnTYou can't pull the bIoLoGiCaLlY pRoGrAmMeD card and also claim to be tHe MoRe LoGiCaL sEx at the same time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:54 PM |
| 16 | "Men are nice when they pursue, and women are nice when they reject"- Gift of fear by Gavin de BeckerThat's pretty much how you do it! 😂 Say nothing and walk away like they don't exist, don't give them a second more of your energy or time! It's far from a 100% foolproof way of avoiding male wrath, but it sure does take the piss out of 'em. Plus, many harassers' primary goal is attention, bad or good -- take that away and they leave to find attention somewhere else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:18 PM |
| 8 | For women to feel safe in public spaces, men's behaviour has to change | Rape and sexual assaultLet's be real, men would sooner overthrow the entire government for instating the curfew in the first place than go to such lengths just to protect women 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:22 PM |
| 10 | Scrotes' advice on how to get away with avoiding household choresNotice the deliberate avoidance of the words "wife" or "girlfriend", substituted with terms that are gender neutral as though this actually isn't only aimed at hetero men. Calling your "partner" a "real bitch" who "nags" you about doing basic chores makes it pretty clear what demographic you're talking to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Lmaoagreed. so unimaginative | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:35 PM |
| 13 | LmaoAnd yet I've seen so many male critics of the phrase "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" 🤔 Interesting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:20 AM |
| 21 | How common is this? You should not be needing marriage counseling right after marriage. Society focuses more on the act of being wed/partnered than they do on the quality of the relationship being established. That's why FDS recommends to vet, vet, vet to keep therapy/divorce costs low later on.I wonder if this has something to do with the way that marriage is seen as like, the end goal after which you don't need to try anymore. There's a lot of focus on "getting the girl", as opposed to "constructing and maintaining a healthy & happy relationship with the girl", for which marriage is seen as a milestone but not the final step. If he stops putting effort into the relationship after marriage, couple's therapy ain't gonna do much to alter this mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:16 AM |
| 59 | wOmEn ArE tOo eMotIoNalDamn, that's true!!! I need to remember this for all future comments about my PMS. "Oh I'm sorry, all this extra testosterone has me just as pissy and irrational as you!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 14 | I don’t want the men I used to want anymoreYessss, congratulations!!!! One of my favorite FDS lessons is that a man's attention isn't worth shit <3 It just frees up so much space mentally and emotionally to actually evaluate who they are as a person, and if you'd even want them in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 10:13 PM |
| 16 | Stop fake laughing at men’s unfunny jokes. They really aren’t that funny..."no sense of humor" lol actually that's the problem, I have a great sense of humor which means I can tell when a joke is dogshit 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 136 | Advice to my younger pickmeisha selfToo real. When I started pulling out of depression, I stopped enjoying any kind of pain in the bedroom 🤔 coincidence? I don't fucking think so... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:16 AM |
| 8 | Ladies make sure you are stable before you go into the unstable dating world.The absolute worst time to seek a relationship is when you're feeling vulnerable and seeking comfort. Predatory and abusive men can sense that immediately and will waste no time taking advantage of your pain. 😔 Ideally, the only time you should be putting yourself out there is when you are unshakably confident and not willing to entertain LV behavior for a second. You should know that you're HV to such a degree that any attempts to damage your self esteem are pathetic failures that you can laugh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Where does the idea that women will end up cat ladies and pass alone come from?1 word: ~projection~ Men say we'll die alone because they fear dying alone. They say we hit the wall at 30 because they know they age like milk. They accuse us of cheating the most when they have 2 or 3 side chicks. They call us shallow yet are disgusted by any woman without an hourglass figure and <1% body fat. They-- you get the idea. Personally, I think it's because men generally don't know how to process emotion. They bury their fears and pretend they don't exist, then proceed to lash out at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:01 AM |
| 7 | Smh"the possibility of losing your husband" promise?? how is that at all a threat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:42 AM |
| 9 | She's strong on her boundaries, but asking reddit for advice is asking for pornsick losers to chastise her for having themA moment of silence for all the women who have asked for relationship advice on Reddit only to be blamed and shamed by scrotes and pickmes 😔🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:20 AM |
| 13 | Is honesty and respect really that much more difficult than manipulation and lying? SMHYou 👏 need 👏 therapy 👏 not 👏 a 👏 girlfriend 👏 Truer words have never been spoken!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:03 AM |
| 80 | WTF does this kinda text mean? Seeing this guy about a month. He’s all in to me, then this?This!! ☝️☝️☝️ Plus, in times of high stress and little free time, a HVM would see talking to you as the best part of his day, even if he doesn't have a lot of time to do so. You are a radiant beam of sunshine, not an obligation. Block and delete, sis!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:39 AM |
| 15 | Thought You Queens Would Enjoy ThisEspecially when you consider how often LVM try to isolate you from your friends and family and monopolize all your time and energy 🙃 I'd rather die surrounded by people I care about than beside one mediocre soul-sucking loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:04 AM |
| 7 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentIf a guy calls any of his exes crazy, RUN. No HVM belittles and casts all blame on his former partners like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:19 PM |
| 25 | "He knows if you're the one within a day/week/month of meeting/dating you." Propaganda or reality?She said be wary of a man that doesn’t know his feelings for you early. I think that's the key takeaway here. If a man DOESN'T instantly know he wants to pursue you, then don't even bother letting him waste any more of your time. Not every man who has that moment of "she's the one" is going to actually follow through and add value to your life, and you should continue to vet thoroughly... but if he's on the fence at first then it's never going to get better from there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 06:38 AM |
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