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8	The Best Books on Seduction That Aren't Seduction Guides	Resources	memoriesofthesea	/r/seduction	22/04/20 08:48 PM

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1	Attitude vs Numbers game You asked why it would be easier to establish ties at a distance? Given social distancing, people are more likely to engage with messaging randos on the internet. Once they've found you interesting in that medium, they will continue exchanging messages until the distractions come back. So there's a window of opportunity there that wasn't there before, in the messages exchanged due to social isolation. I'm associating this with more feet in more doors. Whether or not this actually translates into…	/r/seduction	24/04/20 10:13 PM
3	Is it normal that a girl shares our chat conversations with her female friends?? Yeah, I'd even go further and suggest writing every message/saying everything as if the whole world will one day read it.	/r/seduction	24/04/20 12:11 AM
1	Attitude vs Numbers game Yes, though this escalation happens everywhere, in all things. The complexity of our society is ratcheting up every day. You grow more effective to deal with it.	/r/seduction	24/04/20 12:04 AM
3	Attitude vs Numbers game I am counting on my ability to deliver uncommon value- I have trouble with the initial hook, but once I'm in, I tend to be in for life.	/r/seduction	24/04/20 12:03 AM
1	Why Self-Improvement Is More Important Than "Getting Women" This right here.	/r/seduction	24/04/20 12:02 AM
3	What are the green flags to look for in a person regardless of gender? Yes, like most advice it's Not For Everyone. If you rely on compartmentalization to continue doing your job well (and you're attached to your career) or to sustain a relationship with your family (and you're attached to your current relationship with your family), etc, then it's not a good idea.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 08:32 PM
1	What is the order of preference to seduce a girl? Skip money, go straight to wealth. Wealth is not money. If you're starting with these 7, go with whatever interests you first. For example, if you are initially most interested in humor- as you're learning humor, observe how social status is used in humor (Keith Johnstone's Impro is really a book about social status, for instance). See what about style is funny. Notice how intelligence is at work in producing humor. Feel how your body relaxes and tenses when you're playing with humor- what joke …	/r/seduction	23/04/20 08:27 PM
3	what kinda words should you use/not use when speaking to others to make you appear confident? Use whatever words you want, but you have to actually want them. The closer it is to your stream-of-consciousness, the closer you're getting to actual confidence (as opposed to the appearance of it). Part of the key is in taking ownership of whatever comes out of your mouth, no matter how silly or ridiculous it may seem.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 08:22 PM
8	What are the green flags to look for in a person regardless of gender? It's rare. I tend to focus on making myself this, and find it attracts likeminded people over time, with cascading effects. The more of us there are, the more of the same we attract. Specifically, about one new person/year.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 08:18 PM
6	What are the green flags to look for in a person regardless of gender? Yep.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 08:18 PM
4	Attitude vs Numbers game You rack up the numbers to find your attitude, and then stop using numbers. I hit on over 800 women (in-person- none of these were "successful") when I first started, until I got an idea of what interest (both mine and theirs) looks like, and what one does to encourage that interest. Everyone is "secretly" desperate for love. In the absence of actual love, they take attention in the form of validation. If you can figure out how to give everyone you meet or message more of the real thing (ie, und…	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:27 PM
39	What are the green flags to look for in a person regardless of gender? Can they generalize? That is, can they take what they know in one field/hobby/etc and bring it to all aspects of their life? Part of this is about compartmentalization. The more compartmentalization (ie, the less generalizing they do) there is, the more they're going to be different people with different masks in different areas of their life. What you're looking for is someone who acts the same way whoever they're with, wherever they are. Such people are rare, but when you start to identify the…	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:22 PM
1	What are the green flags to look for in a person regardless of gender? This.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:19 PM
7	Why Self-Improvement Is More Important Than "Getting Women" Yeah, and I'd add that trust is more resilient than self-respect. Respect is what we fall back on when we lack trust. Trust yourself, and everything follows. This is harder to actually execute than "Be Attractive".	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:17 PM
2	The Best Books on Seduction That Aren't Seduction Guides I don't really know how to fuck women without ending up in some sort of relationship with them, in the same way that I don't really know how to interact with people without developing a relationship with them.	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:10 PM
1	The Best Books on Seduction That Aren't Seduction Guides Yes, reading without direct application is something we're trained to do in school. It's not the best way to get the most out of a book. When I read, I immediately apply every tool and model to my everyday actions and see how they fit. You can't read The Book of Five Rings properly without practicing some sort of "alive" physical conflict, and you can't really "get" Coleman Barks without having sex. Would you say it's predation if the prey implicitly wants it? Would you say that taking the kinds…	/r/seduction	23/04/20 07:08 PM
5	Accent gets in the way of seduction Change your accent.	/r/seduction	03/06/18 10:55 PM
4	Tips to meet men Hrm, as someone who meets my partners at whatever level of contact they want (ie, everything from fucquaintances to play partners to long-term relationships) I'd suggest looking for openly Non-Monogamous men. Biased, of course, but I do think you'll find a higher rate of emotional regulation among them. No guarantees, just a trend. On a meta-level, I'd suggest a) going after guys instead of letting them chase you b) being extremely open about your expectations Draw a hard line and be picky. Ther…	/r/seduction	17/11/17 03:50 AM
1	Text game for women? Too early to tell, I think. I would err on the side of doing whatever feels most honest/vulnerable, personally.	/r/seduction	29/08/17 04:22 AM
1	Text game for women? Honestly, it's going to differ depending on the dynamic you have with the person, where y'all are culturally, etc. What numbers are you working with? I'd honestly consider carrying on with direct communication, except with a high number of men so you can find the ones that are really into you. If you've tried this with, oh, a hundred guys and these are the results, I'd start to look into what kind of guys you're texting, here. (ie age, subculture, education level, etc)	/r/seduction	29/08/17 01:37 AM
3	How can I improve my self-esteem? (20F) CBT might help, with a work book like this. https://www.amazon.com/Cognitive-Behavioral-Workbook-Anxiety-Step/dp/1572245727 I would also look into gratitude journaling and building success spirals. Basically, set small tasks that you can succeed in that in turn lead to other tasks.	/r/seduction	29/08/17 01:30 AM