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my parents were people to me, and not just "mom and dad" This is something I just recently started feeling with my mom too! She was always 'mom' until the past few years when I actually started talking to her like she's any other friend my age. After I turned 18 our relationship became like of a friendship than just a familial one so I hear you there; seems like we're both fortunate to be raised like we were. Meanwhile I know people who have the opposite relationship with their parents - even at…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/14 12:41 AM
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Sorry for the super late reply! Your parents sound great. :) It's refreshing to hear about experiences like yours. People tend to think that parents don't care if they don't enforce strict rules, but it couldn't be further from the truth. Some parents, like yours, want to build trusting relationships with their kids, and you can't do that by acting like an unreasonable dictator.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 07:17 PM
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Everyone else addressed the other things on your list, but this part stood out to me: How's your bedroom life right now? Sex about once a month. I'm on birth control and antidepressants (anxiety and depression run in my family) I can't speak for the antidepressants, but I think the birth control may be lowering your sex drive. The important thing: were you already on birth control when you first met or started feeling attraction for him? The hormones make your body think you're pregnant, and pre…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/14 11:04 PM
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I'm an INFP. I think it's very accurate, as I'm very introverted and often too sensitive toward other people. I'd like to be more extraverted, and I've been working on it with moderate success. :) I'll never be the life of the party, but I still love to be around people just soaking up the conversation, and I've made a few friends since forcing myself out of the comfort zone. Being too shy can make it hard to meet anyone, and since I want to meet a lifelong partner in the next few years, it's so…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 11:10 PM
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Whoa, so many girls here agreeing on this - guess I'm the odd one out! It's worth trying once or twice, imo, but you have to be relaxed. Our gut instinct is not to let anything in there which is a shame because I'd say its 2-3x more pleasurable than PIV.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:07 AM
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I wasn't happy-go-lucky anymore I 100% hear you on that one! I was a 'cute-shy' but happy, carefree teen when I met him, and over time I became 'weird-shy,' insecure young adult with anxiety issues. I felt okay around other people, but magically hideous whenever I went anywhere with him. I let him turn me into a doormat because he convinced me that he could do better anytime and that I was lucky to have him because he 'usually dated prettier girls." God I feel dumb for staying with him so long. …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:54 PM
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And he picked on my appearance a lot as well. Not things that I could change, like my weight (I am fit), but things I could only change with a lot of money, which neither of us had. Wow, that's horrible... same exact thing happened to me and it took years to see through the BS facade and repair the self-esteem damage. (I didn't have $4k for a boob job thank god, or I probably would've given in.) Sorry, I don't have advice, but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone; good for you for g…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 09:52 PM
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I say go look for the big-eyed quiet girl INFP here, this is solid advice. Some people are anti-social, sure, but a lot of women are quiet but otherwise happy to spend time with you! Shy girls can have a lot to say once they have a reason - we just won't run our mouths much.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 09:32 PM
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This is so true. I too had my first relationship in my late teens with an older guy (I got so much crap for the age difference!) and it kept notches off my bedpost while I matured a little more. If not so easily frightened by the pushy players in college, I probably would've been a slut, too. Now at 20 I'm no longer in that relationship and keeping an eye out for good men... so where do I spend my time? Well, it depends... we can be found in places like libraries, bookstores, volunteering in the…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 09:21 PM
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Aw thanks! I'm more of in the process of getting it together... but hey, it'll happen eventually. But don't worry about being white; I'm whiter than rice and I wear them - no one cares! Besides, shorts aren't always the best for hiking with so many irritating and poisonous plants around that your legs could brush against. Comfortable pants are the way to go. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 09:37 PM
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Oh god, the cheesiness! I'll remember that one. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 09:33 PM
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You're not alone! Single 20 year old here. You'd think someone my (our?) age would have millions of social connections. Truth is, nobody has fun or makes smalltalk in my demanding STEM classes because everyone's too stressed out or focused on the lesson to really notice each other... makes it hard to meet guys or even just friends, really. I'm going to join a few meetup sites like couchsurfing and start volunteering at animal shelters, etc. - it puts you in groups of new people doing something f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 05:53 PM
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I want to ask which studio because I like indie gaming, but it would be unsafe to reveal that. At any rate, good job having your own company, and I hope you get to have your girl and keep her toxic mother away - there's nothing in the world quite like a father-daughter bond. Lawyer up and stay strong!
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 05:36 PM
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Not a mod but I have a lot of personal experience with this. Basically, I would put extra emphasis on building muscle and practice showing confidence and power with your gait (observe how military guys carry themselves.) Almost every guy I've dated has been 5'6-5'7 (I'm 5'5) and they were hot because they had a commanding presence and exuded signs of masculinity with traits like body and facial hair, big muscles, not taking shit from people, making me laugh, etc. Height is nice, but it's just on…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/14 01:43 AM
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Aww, great news! I'm glad it worked out for you two! :) And no need to feel silly; sometimes it helps to bounce ideas off people when we're really upset. Besides, this thread might help other women in the same situation later on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 11:03 PM
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Haha, good good. :) And thanks! I think Portuguese and Italian have a bit in common.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 10:59 PM
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Oh crap I'm sorry, that sounded mean - I didn't intend it as an insult. Guys that I've never had chemistry with is a better way to say it. Most of them already have girlfriends anyway!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 10:48 PM
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I think facebook is a good tool, personally; just depends how you use it. Just like a hammer is a great tool when you use it to pound a nail into something, but it sucks if you try to use it as a boomerang in a glass house. Facebook lets me keep in touch with female friends that have moved away or guy friends that I would never date anyway. Guys I'm interested in are never on my facebook, and I like it that way - I don't want to know everything about him and I don't want him to know a lot about …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 10:39 PM
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I'm sorry for the late reply - I was signed into a different account for a few days, kinda forgot to check on this one. I think it's worth discussing if you can't get it off your mind. But I personally don't think they were that special to him, for what it's worth. Men love sex, yeah, but they're not just horny loveless robots - there are many men who hate the feeling of waking up to an empty bed after a one night stand. I can see why, to some degree, he might have gotten to know them a little a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 08:42 PM
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Same here, the top quote seemed a bit extreme, but after taking in the whole thing it makes a lot of sense. Man or woman, who wants to be doubted all the time? Especially the trusted leader. The comment on using "we" statements is the best part; "you" statements can sound critical and naggy. Language is very complex and everything from tone to word choices makes a difference. For example, instead of saying "Kim broke the vase," it's better to say "The vase broke." Kim already feels shitty about …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/14 11:24 PM
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Yeah, how could he have 100 relationships? That would be 100+ women that he had feelings for and invested money and time on for months, and then they broke up and he repeated it 100 times. Let's say he started having sex at 15; each exlusive 'relationship' would have to be 2 months long on average with no time spent being single in between. OP, you said that he dated all of them, but did he actually refer to them as relationships? Maybe they were just low-investment coffee/lunch dates and he sle…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/14 10:57 PM
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It used to be about funny shit. I used to think it was a joke sub, kind of like the Flat Earth forums where they pretend to think the world isn't round. A lot of the SRS commenters seem to be serious, though... maybe I'm just gullible.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/14 09:11 PM
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Don't sweat it, when we call a guy cute we don't mean "cute" like a bunny or a child. It's often a specific type of physical attractiveness, usually seen in younger hot guys instead of older, more matured hot men. For example, Leo DiCaprio was cute back in Titanic (round face, endearing smile) whereas someone like Batman is definitely not (stern square jaw and no smile) - but they're both really sexy. A lot of girls also use it as a direct synonym for "hot" or even just "kinda good looking" like…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/14 08:23 AM
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"Making other girls jealous and feighning weakness" is such an oversimplification, though. The whole point was to offset the negative poison that the other women are saying about their relationships - then maybe they'd try to one-up you later by saying "Well my husband's great because X and Y" instead of being negative Nancys. And the "feigning weakness" is just to create a cute I Love Lucy-esque husband and wife moment. What man doesn't love to grab things off high shelves that we can't reach? …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/14 02:36 AM
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People are saying to not be a pushover and have consequences when she messes up. That's great, never be a doormat, but don't be a drill sergeant either. Always keep in mind before giving out consequences: how did she mess up? Was it deliberate or was it a simple accident that she already feels bad about? My dad was only in my life for my first 6 years or so and I have few precious memories of him. My most memorable one was when I was 3-4 years old and I was playing with his expensive binoculars.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/14 01:43 AM
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Don't worry, your post was good with or without Jesus quotes! I'm an atheist too so you're not alone there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/14 08:05 PM
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Haha that sounded kinda house-wifey, didn't it? Nothing wrong with that but I love my career path (animals!), so it won't be exactly like my grandparents' marriage. I'd get bored. But there's no reason I can't pursue both. :P
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/14 03:29 PM
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Seriously, I don't have to be religious or a fetishist to want the same kind of marriage that worked for my grandparents. "Oh those imposters, they just want to be the kind of women that men with standards want, and then ensnare them in a happy, fulfilling marriage with lots of sex and good food." What's the issue? Is it that unfathomable to them that there might actually be women out there who don't want to marry groveling doormat eunuchs? Shame on me - guess I should just retire from dating an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/14 03:08 PM
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I agree, the girl he described is just a drag. I might be shy (INFP) but I always have fun with my boyfriends' friends and I have some fun hobbies and activities of my own (hiking, camping, traveling, ice skating, jogging, etc.) - there's no excuse to melt into the couch and have your whole life revolve around your SO or the TV. That sounds so boring! There's a difference between being anti-social and just feeling more comfortable at home. And that's the kind of wife/mom I'd like to be anyway - …
/r/askTRP16/01/14 11:42 PM
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Yaaay! Congrats! :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 09:09 PM
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It goes over well, but I water it down a little and mix in some sugar to make it easier to swallow. They've always come to me for emotional support and now I can add in chunks of useful advice so they can help themselves in the long run. One friend was putting his first girlfriend on a pedestal and I had to gently explain why it wasn't working. He took my advice and in a matter of days she went from being cold and resentful, to not being able to keep her hands off him. They seem to think I'm som…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 02:31 AM
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Gump was adapted from a book, TIL, which the author was not mentioned once in the 6 acceptance speaches. Ouch. I think I know why that is... I read reviews of the book and the consensus was that it was just a terrible read - nothing like the film. Apparently the film is a vast improvement; it's as if the movie makers took a piece of garbage and turned it into gold. My guess is that they don't want to draw attention to it.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/14 08:27 PM
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This is the situation I recently got into with a very good friend of several years. He's #2 of 2 total partners (I thought we were falling in love at the time.) We care a lot for each other and we enjoy each other's company. Point is, it's much more than just sex - but sadly it can't turn into love/LTR as much as me might want it to, due to cultural differences. So hopefully, future husband won't judge it as casual sex... it made a real bond that'll hurt to break, whereas a ONS with a stranger s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 05:03 AM
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Oh, that's a good point! It'd be good for an emergency or something... I could get my license this summer break and just hide it from people, that way they won't expect me to afford a car soon.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 03:04 AM
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No, it's definitely not just you! And sorry about the pillow issue, that must suck not being able to adjust the seat itself higher. :( But hey, shortness can be a good thing. At 5'5 I'd love to be a little shorter, guys find it cute.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/14 10:15 PM
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Smile every day. This is good advice! Smiling in a mirror is even better imo, and smiling when you're sad will trick your brain into being happier - well it works for me every time, anyway; even while crying. Travel together with your husband/betrothed to someplace in out of the United States you both want to go, before you have any children. This one is so imporant. I'd love to spend my 20's backpacking, rock climbing and ziplining in different countries with whoever I marry before we have kids…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/14 09:56 PM
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It feels so alone being 20 and not knowing how to drive! Everyone pesters me to get my license and buy a car but I can get around just fine on the bus and save hundreds each month. Eventually I'll have to learn but I don't want to slave away to pay for a car and I can't borrow anyone else's, so there's no point learning until I graduate (23.)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/14 09:37 PM
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Hey Tempy! :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/14 04:00 PM
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Hi everyone! Not so much a newbie but a lurker. Already posted about how I found RPW in the lurker thread a while back, but here I'll share more about myself so I'm not just a faceless internet blip: I'm a 20 year old zoology major that wants to work hands-on with animals. I love playing piano, jogging, hiking, cooking & baking, drawing and gaming. My brother is pretty much like my twin; he's my best friend and we bond through videogames (PS, Xbox, Nintendo, PC... all of it.) Although I haven't …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/14 08:22 PM
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Yeah, I've heard that too, but I don't understand why people consider it expensive if they're paying for other BC methods for years anyway. If my insurance hadn't covered it, it would have been about $600. But it lasts for 12 years and it's extremely effective. $600/144 months of protection = $4 a month. My Nuvaring used to cost anywhere from $20-60 a month! It's more money upront but it's very cost-effective in the long term. Getting it put in was painful, about 1/3 the pain of a kidney stone, …
/r/TheRedPill07/01/14 02:34 AM
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Well thanks, glad you think so! Her 'look' varies a bit from Juno to Inception but it's probably makeup tricks. Nice approach btw, sometimes caveman behaviors can get a message across better than talking.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/14 12:48 AM
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This is exactly why I quit hormonal BC early on and switched to copper IUD even when I wasn't having sex - I knew when it was time for a relationship that fake pregnancy hormones could cause me to choose the wrong mate. With copper I never have to worry about being "artificially" attracted to someone or having no libido. To his fiancée, this poor guy is about as sexually attractive as a lamp. Very sad situation.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 09:04 PM
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I've wondered this before, too. I bet we're in the same range of attractiveness as the general public, except it's more likely that we try to stay fit and dress well. For this reason I assume most of us are from 5-7 with a few being 8-9. I've been rated as a 6. I doubt any RP woman (or man) will dare to post their picture... it's just a bad idea... but if it helps any, my friends say I look a lot like this actress. (Posting celebrity look-alikes might be a safe way around the doxxing issue, righ…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/14 02:51 AM
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It's not to make me feel better about myself - I don't feel bad about myself for not knowing how to write code. It's more that I'm hurt and irritated because I've been through similar things before ("I like X but you don't so let's break up") and then after the guys let me go, they regretted breaking it off and wanted me back but I already moved on. Plus, it just seems like a weird standard to have because there already aren't that many women in that field so if that's what he wants then it's a …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 11:34 PM
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His family is Sikh and they're very... what's the word, anti-caste? Very non-discriminatory although they are pretty traditional. His mom and dad seem to really like me and they are very laid back people. He and his siblings are pretty Americanized. They're more strict with his sister than they are with him and his brother. The girl he was going to marry was white and he described me as "whiter than rice." He's casually slept with white girls, Indians, Mexicans, Asians and a black girl, too - bu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 10:31 PM
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I could learn some, but it's definitely not my strong point. He's the computer engineer that's great at calculus; he was actually my math tutor. I help him with English and he helps me with math. Honestly though, if I had to learn code to keep him, I'd try my hardest - but he already told me not to change for him even though I'd be willing to try (hey, more skills are never a bad thing.) I'm glad it worked out for you - that's great that you two can work together! He's an IT tech and his special…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 10:00 PM
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We did have sex and it was passionate, after-3-years-of-waiting-sex so unfortunately I think it made me bond to him more. :( On the plus side, he's only notch #2 on the bedpost. I'll have to be more careful in the future. you are too young to not be with a man who sees his unborn babies in your eyes. That's a sweet way of looking at it. Thanks for helping dry a dumb girl's tears, haha. :,)
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 09:50 PM
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Haha, so concise and to the point. Seriously though, thanks for reading my great textwall of China.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 09:42 PM
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Hey, thanks a lot, I'll work on myself, exercise and just keep busy. It's his loss if he lets me go while he waits for the unicorn herd.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 09:39 PM
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It's alright, it's honest. But what if I back away and try to forget about him and then suddenly his interest is sparked again - would it even be worth pursuing? (He seems to really want to spend time with me even though we haven't been having sex.)
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/13 09:21 PM
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Redpill girl here. Serious question but slightly off-topic: Why does engineering seem to be such popular career choice among Indian men? I've recently been dating a Punjabi guy who for years was 'just' my math tutor and a typical student... then he took me home to meet his family and I found out that not only is he a computer engineer but his dad is an engineer, and his grandpa was also an engineer. It seems like this is pretty common... or am I just noticing a pattern where there isn't any?
/r/TheRedPill15/12/13 11:27 PM
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Well, if it's your facial structure then there's nothing you can do aside from makeup illusions and eyebrow reshaping! But your description sounds beautiful, and as long as you keep taking care of your skin I think you can age gracefully and look younger down the line. Right now you may look 5 years older, but in 5 years, you may just look your actual age; then someday, after taking care of your skin for so long, you'll likely look younger than you actually are (and younger than your peers). As …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/13 01:04 AM
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Also, to answer your second question: It's not an insult to be taken as a few years older, it really could be how you carry yourself. People still find 28 year olds attractive, and coming off a few years older isn't quite the same as being that age. Some men age 10 years just by growing out facial hair but their social groups still know their real age and date them just the same.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/13 12:51 AM
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It sounds like you take great care of yourself... hmm, could it be your personality? Some people just "act" more mature and seem older than they are. It also could be how you do your makeup; the type of foundation and eyeshadow design can make a world of difference. If it's neither, then posting a picture could help us advise you (I understand if you'd rather not though!)
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/13 12:46 AM
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She'll be fine! I grew up with older brothers and always played nintendo, built lego cities and made mudpies with them. One brother is like my twin and we're still super close to this day... however, over the years I've also grown into my feminine side, and I've had no problems at all attracting guys and getting along with nice, down-to-earth girls. I do my makeup and wear pastels but still enjoy the 'guy' stuff I always have. The bad? While I thankfully never went through the stage of being sca…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/13 11:51 PM
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I see people use number ratings quite a bit... in your opinion, what would a 6 and 7 look like? Can you name an example celebrity of each value?
/r/TheRedPill12/12/13 12:57 AM
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Oh, I know how you feel about the "too smart" issue. I dated a guy that was too smart and he made me feel so stupid - but he was also a jerk, so that could've been the problem. My current LI is amazingly smart - he, his dad and his grandpa were all engineers - but he hides it and he never makes me feel stupid, despite the fact that I failed pre-calculus... twice. He even told me I was smart when I'd figure out a problem with his help (he was my math tutor). And hey, as long as you deal with the …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/13 12:30 AM
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I am non-religious and I do not believe in any God or anything supernatural. Boring, I know! But I feel that red pill values are biology at work, and once we know the truth about ourselves, we can use that knowledge to our advantage. I imagine these very common and traditional gender roles are just what worked best for our evolution - the strong alphas hunted the mammoths while the women harvested fruit... that sort of thing. No, I don't consciously want kids yet, nor do I fantasize about being …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/13 12:17 AM
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Oh wow, that's an amazing Ken doll! I didn't even know they made them like that. There's definitely a similarity. Here's the same guy playing Khal Drogo in Game of Thrones. On set he wears extentions: http://static4.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20110626031735/gameofthrones/images/1/1f/Drogo_1x01b.jpg Here he's playing Conan the Barbarian: http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/18lqdyshwkc7jjpg/ku-medium.jpg Long hair on men can be so... timeless.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/13 04:33 AM
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They're all good - the medium hair in that set is my favorite. However, my LI has long, thick, shiny black hair; he keeps it in a ponytail and it looks amazing on him because it suits his face. He's Sikh so he never cuts it, but it only stays mid-back length and looks good kept that way. Sure, truly long hair on a guy could look scraggly and gross at worst, but if they pull it off it can look as flattering as a lion's mane. Take this for example... this is long yet very attractive (well, not ver…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/13 03:09 AM
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Thank you! :) Feels good to be he here!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/13 03:59 PM
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Lurker here of several months. Last summer on my 20th birthday I finally realized my toxic, emotionally abusive LTR of 3 years was only going to waste my window to find a good life partner. (He convinced me that I was unattractive and that I wouldn't find anyone better.) What the hell was I thinking staying so long? I decided then: no more using my heart before using my brain. I wanted an alpha, not an a-hole. Now I'm dating someone I used to know... he was there the whole time but I didn't see …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/13 08:40 AM
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Oh yeah, sorry, it looks like you explained that in your other comments; I should have read them more carefully. Don't worry about the diary thing, I actually edited my own post to make it shorter. But I think I understand how you feel on the 'getting older' issue; if only we could freeze our biological clocks and stay physically 25 for our whole lives! And absolutely, many people seem to obsess so much over their kids that they neglect their sex life and marriage. I never saw myself getting mar…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/13 03:59 AM
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I'm only 20 years old so I can't claim experience on this, but there are great reasons to have babies earlier; your eggs are healthier and you have more energy to chase kids around. However, if you want to have kids later and keeping your figure is the only motivation to have them early, I'd postpone motherhood and save $5k for a tummy tuck in the meantime. Exercise, lotions/oils, procedures... there are ways to rejuvinate somewhat, even if your body won't spring back into shape on its own. Rega…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/13 03:12 AM
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