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Sorry. Didn’t mean to upset you. All the best
/r/seduction21/06/23 06:08 AM
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haha... come on bro... if you're gonna say that, at least provide some better advice! none of this: "I'm just here to judge" rubbish.
/r/seduction21/06/23 02:30 AM
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definitely.. these rules apply more so to when you're discussing logistics.
/r/seduction20/06/23 01:34 PM
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thanks very much!
/r/seduction20/06/23 01:12 PM
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agreed. premature exposition.. nicely written.
/r/seduction20/06/23 05:41 AM
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thank you!
/r/seduction20/06/23 05:32 AM
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My point in number three is that formulating an overly comprehensive plan is bad. Make a plan, but keep it relatively simple.
/r/seduction20/06/23 05:22 AM
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I like this approach
/r/seduction20/06/23 05:07 AM
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I know what you mean. if she's completely cold when she rejects several of your proposals, don't flog a dead horse. If however, she says stuff like: "Damn, I also can't do Wednesday... But I do wanna hang out"... then it's appropriate to leave it up to her: "What night does work?" Appreciate your comment.
/r/seduction20/06/23 02:16 AM
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If you couldn't care less, why'd you bother responding at all? Odd.
/r/seduction08/09/22 11:31 AM
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Respect man. This is some great, practical advice. Well played to you bro.
/r/seduction04/03/21 01:01 PM
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Incorrect
/r/seduction31/01/21 09:17 PM
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Thanks very much! Appreciate the positive feedback and I'm glad you drew some value from my thoughts.
/r/seduction28/01/21 04:27 AM
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Haha, as you can see - this advice was valuable for a bunch of other people. If something is obvious to yourself, awesome. But why try and make others feel silly for not being aware of it with a comment like this?
/r/seduction26/01/21 03:37 AM
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Really appreciate the kind words. Good luck to you!
/r/seduction26/01/21 01:04 AM
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Definitely my view as well. If money is the only thing keeping you together, you're far too easily replaced.
/r/seduction26/01/21 01:03 AM
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I've noticed that myself. I have received a lot of hate sharing my posts on other Dating subreddits. Meanwhile, on this one, it's mostly positive. Glad to see there are so many people looking to improve themselves who are able to retain a positive outlook throughout the process.
/r/seduction26/01/21 01:02 AM
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Steve, I told you to keep your mouth shut!
/r/seduction25/01/21 09:24 PM
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That’s true, good addition. To clarify - Steve’s skin problems were far worse than the average person.
/r/seduction25/01/21 11:42 AM
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Thanks for the comment!
/r/seduction25/01/21 06:58 AM
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Great wrap up of Steve's story. Thanks for reading!
/r/seduction25/01/21 06:43 AM
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Thanks for showing your appreciation. If you check out any of my posts, you'll see I'm certainly not an advocate for "pickup artist" techniques. While I'm sure some of them can be effective, I've found that self-respect and sincerity yields more preferable outcomes. Thanks again for your comment!
/r/seduction25/01/21 06:41 AM
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He was always interested in it. Him and I did a couple of IPT subjects together (Information Processes and Technology). I went on to do more Business Subjects, he ended up becoming a Software Developer. He had a good commercial mindset, so moved into a Tech BA position. He earns enough money that his salary probably helps with women a bit, but not enough money that it's the sole reason he's been successful with women (that's how he explained it at least).
/r/seduction25/01/21 05:28 AM
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That's awesome man. Glad you're also someone who understands the value of self-improvement.
/r/seduction25/01/21 05:21 AM
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Appreciate it! Yeah, course you can ask. Steve is a Technical Business Analyst.
/r/seduction25/01/21 05:20 AM
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Oh yeah? Are you the 'Steve' in this case, or is it someone else you know?
/r/seduction25/01/21 05:17 AM
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And thank you for the praise! Love to hear my posts having a positive impact.
/r/seduction20/01/21 04:27 AM
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You are very welcome, friend!
/r/seduction17/01/21 01:52 PM
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Bingo!
/r/seduction17/01/21 01:50 PM
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True
/r/seduction17/01/21 01:50 PM
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Appreciate the critique. If you have a better way to articulate it - post it dude! Don't waste your thoughts at the bottom of the comments section. All the best!
/r/seduction17/01/21 01:48 PM
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Yes! Agreed.
/r/seduction12/01/21 10:45 PM
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Thank you for your comment. "Either brag like you're the shit or don't brag at all." I agree completely!
/r/seduction12/01/21 10:45 PM
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Great line!
/r/seduction11/01/21 11:51 PM
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Being chill / laid back is about exuding quiet confidence. When you're 'acting chill', are you sitting in a relaxed way? Are the conversations you have with women in these scenarios effortless? If there is a pause in the conversation, are you left looking awkward or do you seem at peace by it? Keen to get some more information before I offer my thoughts...
/r/seduction11/01/21 02:10 PM
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Great summary. Thanks for sharing
/r/seduction09/01/21 12:16 AM
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It’s relieving to see it’s not just men who like women that do this. Thanks for your comment!
/r/seduction07/01/21 12:19 PM
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Completely expected at the age of 15!
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:38 AM
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This advice is specifically for people who are at risk of becoming overly-infatuated, but I see your point. Thanks for commenting.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:37 AM
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Thanks jennyfromtheburgh, which is a cool name btw.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:36 AM
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Saving this comment.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:36 AM
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Glad to hear it.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:34 AM
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You're welcome my man.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:34 AM
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Absolutely agreed.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:33 AM
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Glad you can appreciate it in hindsight
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:33 AM
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Great attitude.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:33 AM
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Haha, and on your Reddit birthday and everything. My apologies. If it makes you feel any better, almost every person on earth has exhibited the tendencies mentioned.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:33 AM
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Legend.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:31 AM
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Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:31 AM
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Haha, love the brutal honesty. You're not alone! We've all done many things on the list. Glad it offered some value.
/r/seduction07/01/21 11:30 AM
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Thanks for your comment. I suppose you can’t please everyone!
/r/seduction07/01/21 02:31 AM
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Well lucky for you, you're still realising this at such a young age! Many people never do.
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:23 PM
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Thanks TheGuitto!
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:03 PM
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Agreed! My articles are specifically targeted towards men, but I think these traits are highly applicable to women also.
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:01 PM
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Thanks so much for the kind feedback Sgarden91. Glad you enjoyed reading.
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:00 PM
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Indeed!
/r/seduction06/01/21 11:00 PM
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You're very welcome. Glad you could extract some value.
/r/seduction06/01/21 10:59 PM
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Good point! Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction06/01/21 10:58 PM
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Damn, what a compliment. Appreciate it man.
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:51 PM
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Oh man we’ve all been guilty of a bunch of them. Although, self-awareness is the first step to self-redemption my friend.
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:48 PM
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My man. Appreciate the comment.
/r/seduction06/01/21 08:42 PM
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I must disagree. I don't believe that empathising with women makes a man a 'beta simp'. Appreciate your opinion regardless.
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:09 PM
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I appreciate where you're coming from but I think it's silly to write off dating apps altogether. Especially if there's an opportunity to improve your success rate by changing your approach. Thanks for your comment.
/r/seduction05/01/21 01:05 PM
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Hey guys, I published the article on improving your initial engagement with a woman on Tinder - here it is: https://www.menwithmanners.com/dating/perfect-opening-line-tinder Enjoy!
/r/seduction05/01/21 12:54 PM
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Good points. Appreciate you coming back and clarifying also. Cheers.
/r/seduction31/12/20 01:21 PM
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When you suggest to people I'm kidding myself and have no skill in communicating with women online, I'm not going to graciously thank you for your comment. I thanked you for your opinion, irrespective of the negative assumptions. Regardless, Happy New Year!
/r/seduction31/12/20 12:55 PM
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Consider it done!
/r/seduction31/12/20 12:12 PM
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If you're referring to the generic examples - they were used more so to prove a point around not flogging a dead horse. They weren't to showcase how men should approach women online. Thanks anyway for your comment. Good to get some other opinions.
/r/seduction31/12/20 12:10 PM
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Great comment
/r/seduction31/12/20 10:02 AM
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Great share man
/r/seduction31/12/20 10:00 AM
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Thanks for your response a_little_sunshine. Great to get a female perspective on this!
/r/seduction31/12/20 09:05 AM
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As mentioned, these were generic examples. Thanks for commenting
/r/seduction31/12/20 09:04 AM
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Well said! Agreed.
/r/seduction31/12/20 07:02 AM
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Glad to hear! Thanks for commenting.
/r/seduction31/12/20 07:02 AM
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Sorry to hear man. I am currently working on a guide to help you change up your conversations with women online and ensure some better back and forth. You'll never win them all but you can certainly improve your approach. I'll send you a message when I've posted it to reddit.
/r/seduction31/12/20 07:02 AM
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We will have to agree to disagree on this one. Happy New Year!
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:48 AM
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For a lot of people texting is a great way to build rapport, trust and find common-ground with a woman in the initial stages of online dating. Glad you’re able to keep it brief and get straight to the date, but many men are not. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:41 AM
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It's certainly not always too much of a red flag to consider. It's often down to how you open the conversation. I am currently putting together a fairly comprehensive article on suggestions. I will send you a message once I've posted it on reddit.
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:27 AM
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Well said crude_pangolin. Thanks for your comment.
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:13 AM
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Unless you're dating a woman who is terrible with text-based communication (which some women genuinely are), then yes, I believe you should pull it back a bit if this is happening to you.
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:05 AM
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Very true my friend. Although, if you can get better at it, you're all the better for it!
/r/seduction31/12/20 05:23 AM
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I would advise against suggesting women look like they can 'down a rack of ribs in one sitting' but besides that - I like your creativity in terms of opening statements. Thanks for commenting.
/r/seduction31/12/20 04:52 AM
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Agreed, confidence is a major contributor. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction29/12/20 03:21 AM
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Haha, true. They can seem a little contradictory. I think the key is: middle-ground.
/r/seduction29/12/20 03:16 AM
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I didn’t. It got removed by moderators..? Odd.
/r/seduction28/12/20 07:51 PM
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Thanks for your comment. The fact she's developing feelings for you now is the beauty of truly being friends with her! Well done.
/r/seduction28/12/20 03:00 PM
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Facing each other, for sure. Sitting side by side is too intimate for the first date. It's also more annoying if you're trying to keep eye contact with her (all the head-turning will strain your neck, and you'll be sitting in a slightly unnatural position all evening trying to face her)
/r/seduction28/12/20 01:10 PM
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In this situation, a classic one (if you're a little shy) is to write your name and phone number on a piece of paper and confidently (smile on your face, hold her gaze briefly) hand it to her as you're leaving (perhaps even hand it to her with your tip, if you live in a country where tipping is expected). You'll know soon enough if she's interested.
/r/seduction28/12/20 01:07 PM
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Good points here man. Thanks for commenting.
/r/seduction27/12/20 12:19 PM
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Sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you're asking here?
/r/seduction27/12/20 12:16 PM
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Very, very well articulated. Thanks for your comment here Aeon199. I enjoyed reading it and agree wholeheartedly with your points.
/r/seduction27/12/20 11:11 AM
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I think this is a different example. I can certainly see that your advice is credible, as it's based on something you developed, as opposed to being born with amazing looks. I'm also certainly not saying ladies men have no useful advice, I'm just advising men not to take on the advice of a ladies man and think 'Ok, this is how you pick up women. If it doesn't work, I'm just not meant to pick up women.'
/r/seduction27/12/20 05:36 AM
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I know what you mean. I still believe that ladies men can offer great advice, the point I'm making is to ensure that you don't take on the advice of a ladies man and accept it as the be-all and end-all of advice. I think taking advice from different people - be it fully fledged ladies men, men who are similar to yourself but with more experience / success with women etc is helpful, provided the advice resonates with what you're like as a person.
/r/seduction27/12/20 05:31 AM
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Well said. Agreed!
/r/seduction27/12/20 04:54 AM
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Hi DrewsberryDrewster88 - I just sent you a message. I've absolutely got some tips for you.
/r/seduction24/12/20 03:40 AM
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Haha!
/r/seduction23/12/20 08:58 PM
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I see where you're coming from. Have you pulled back from online dating in favour of losing weight, or how have you been doing it? PS good on you for identifying the problem and doing something about it.
/r/seduction23/12/20 01:26 PM
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We will have to agree to disagree on this one. All the best mate. Hope you’re all good.
/r/seduction23/12/20 08:29 AM
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Thank you GoldSmith64. Glad you understood the sentiment more clearly. Have a great day!
/r/seduction23/12/20 06:41 AM
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Yeah, of course. I agree. When I said ladies men get rejected more than the average man, I mean - it's because the average man makes far fewer attempts with women than the average ladies man. A ladies man might talk to 20 women a week and get rejected by 5 of them (as a very rough example). The average man is only approaching 4 women a week (again, just a rough example), therefore even if every woman were to say no to the average man, the ladies man still faces more rejection. Perhaps I didn't a…
/r/seduction23/12/20 06:22 AM
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You're missing the point. The point I'm making is: he who puts himself out there and fails has more success than than he who never tries at all. If you truly believe that every woman a ladies man asks out says yes, you are naive my friend. They get rejected plenty, they just don't let it phase them and they move on. Appreciate the comment nevertheless.
/r/seduction23/12/20 05:50 AM
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Very true my friend! Good advice.
/r/seduction23/12/20 05:40 AM
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Thanks very much. Ghosts be ghosts... love it!
/r/seduction23/12/20 05:40 AM
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100%
/r/seduction23/12/20 04:50 AM
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Agreed, good points.
/r/seduction23/12/20 04:50 AM
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Definitely agree with you on this re: bad boys, although, this article isn't to say 'women don't like bad boys.' It's to make men realise the dangers of becoming a Nice Guy in their pursuit of a woman. Thanks for your comment.
/r/seduction22/12/20 11:47 PM
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Hi there, thanks for your comment. I'm looking at what to write next and I like this idea - what are your thoughts on 'how to know you're dealing with a Nice Girl'
/r/seduction22/12/20 11:42 PM
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Good for you! Thanks for reading.
/r/seduction22/12/20 09:10 PM
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Glad to hear it!
/r/seduction22/12/20 09:10 PM
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...and secondly? haha
/r/seduction22/12/20 08:39 PM
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Exactly..
/r/seduction21/12/20 09:49 PM
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I see. Thanks for sharing your insights here, always appreciate the opportunity to learn. I also agree, it is absolutely a learnable trait to be able to speak to women. Some men seem to take to it a little easier than others, but any man willing to learn is capable.
/r/seduction21/12/20 03:49 AM
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I think it's unfair to speak for most women when you're referring to women that are attracted to serial killers and criminals. I think this makes up a very small portion of the overall female population. Thanks for the comment though, good to get other perspectives on this stuff.
/r/seduction21/12/20 03:27 AM
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Man, I'm so glad to hear that for you. Do you find life is easier and you're more likeable to both men and women as a result?
/r/seduction21/12/20 03:19 AM
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Sure, speaking with women is a learned skill, which improves with practice. Even so, when people are called 'natural' at something, it means they pick up on how to do it easier than the average person. Thus, bad boys and good men are natural communicators when it comes to women.
/r/seduction21/12/20 02:46 AM
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Hey man, as promised - another 2k + words, but this time, on 'bad boys' and how they fit into the scenario. If women like good men, why do they date bad boys? Enjoy!
/r/seduction20/12/20 11:41 PM
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Very true! Well articulated.
/r/seduction20/12/20 11:31 PM
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This sentiment is essentially the sum up of my previous post :D Well said.
/r/seduction20/12/20 11:21 PM
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My man. I think the subject matter can be a little confronting for some people. Appreciate the response!
/r/seduction20/12/20 11:05 PM
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None of us are perfect, but striving for improvement is the aim of the game. I’m not writing this article as if to say ‘I’m perfect, be like me’. Thanks for the comment anyway.
/r/seduction20/12/20 10:53 PM
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I don't understand what your response means? Can you write it a little clearer, please? Also, are you aware I'm referring to the modern definition of 'Nice Guys' (as opposed to men who are nice)?
/r/seduction20/12/20 10:13 PM
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This summed up my article really well, thanks for your comment.
/r/seduction19/12/20 01:35 PM
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Nah, not at all. I appreciate having my advice challenged, as it uncovers more perspectives. I certainly don't have all the answers and I appreciate contributions from others. Peace!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:59 AM
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Definitely see where you're coming from. I can't speak for all women when I cover topics like this. Just the majority. I also understand that men can exhibit traits of good men and Nice Guys and it comes down to the individual woman and her preferences. Regardless, if you're a good man you've got far more chance with a woman than you do being a Nice Guy. That's the sentiment here.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:54 AM
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Damn man, well articulated. Good points raised.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:51 AM
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Good lad!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:51 AM
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Thanks for your comment :D Glad you agree with the points!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:50 AM
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As a man, I'm glad to hear that! Thanks for your support.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:50 AM
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I'd be lying if I said your wording here wasn't amusing. Hope this hasn't happened to yourself!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:49 AM
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Thanks for the comments and responses here. Great to see it open up some friendly, thoughtful dialogue.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:48 AM
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Thanks for your comment. Definitely see where you're coming from with some of what you've said. Glad you've had advice that's helped you in the past.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:47 AM
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Definitely, some good points you made. Thanks for your comment.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:44 AM
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Haha, might have to print and frame this comment.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:43 AM
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What a great time of your life to learn. Just don't let it get in the way of your grades young man.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:43 AM
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Thanks for commenting!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:40 AM
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Really good query. I should clarify - I'm definitely not denying the existence of women as the 'bad guy' in some scenarios. In this case, however, Nice Guy was being too forceful. Emily had proven to be reluctant to meet up. Nice Guy shouldn't have pushed again to meet up straight away. If he had played it cooler, Emily may have eventually felt comfortable enough with him to meet up (perhaps a week or so later) That was the point I was looking to prove with this example. Sure, Emily may have onl…
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:39 AM
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Wow, thanks so much.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:30 AM
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Sounding like a good man to me. Well played.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:29 AM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:29 AM
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:D :D
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:29 AM
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Legend man, thanks for the response. Really glad you're treating your past grievances like a good man does. Respect.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:28 AM
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Haha, I understand where you're coming from. Although, I think men need to be reminded of it from time to time. Thanks for your comment, Matt.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:19 AM
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Couldn't have summed it up better myself. Sure, there are variations of this content online, but it exists for a reason. Thanks for your comment TheBeastAndTheHarlot.
/r/seduction19/12/20 04:18 AM
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Hey man, I’m actually putting together an article on it right now. Got about 1500 words together.. I’m going to dm you as it would great to get some more insight on what you’d like clarified.
/r/seduction18/12/20 06:04 AM
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Glad to hear it. This article isn't to tell men 'every woman likes this' or 'you need to change yourself completely'. It's a warning to ensure you don't become a Nice Guy, or if you are one - you look to improve yourself and change it. All the best man :D
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:59 AM
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If it makes you feel any better - I’m actually a 32 year old man.
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:50 AM
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Wow I don't see why not - I might be a little more careful on how I refer to them though haha. Thanks for the tip - something along the lines of: warning signs of women who will use you / how to ensure they don't damage your confidence.
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:04 AM
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There are far too many variables in the consideration of attraction to sum it up in one line.
/r/seduction18/12/20 12:09 AM
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These are the sort of comments that really motivate me to keep creating content. Thanks a lot for sharing your story. Glad to hear you're on the right path!
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:06 PM
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10 hours 48 minutes from start to finish! (I've been timing how long it takes me to create articles)
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:34 PM
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Word to live by. Well played.
/r/seduction17/12/20 11:10 AM
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Thanks for the feedback! I always appreciate when people offer suggestions to improve my writing skills. Have a great day.
/r/seduction17/12/20 11:06 AM
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Woah! What a glowing review. Thank you for the gold my friend.
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:51 AM
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It sure is! Well noticed.
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:36 AM
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PS, Happy Reddit Birthday my friend.
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:02 AM
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That's a good idea. I have a half-written article around how many women enjoy certain 'danger' elements in a man. The article discusses the fact that men who exhibit some 'danger' elements (bad boys are the perfect example) can still be fundamentally good men. With your insights here I think it'll give me a more succinct direction to take it in. Thanks for the advice. I'll let you know when I post it.
/r/seduction17/12/20 10:00 AM
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Well I'm always looking for new topics to cover. Could you please elaborate a little more? Based on the context you're looking for me to approach it from, I can look to create a post around it.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:50 AM
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There is nothing wrong with being nice in nature. This article serves to ensure that men don't teeter towards becoming a Nice Guy (based on the modern definition). To be fair, based on some of what you mentioned around your empathy for others, you sound like more of a good man.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:32 AM
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