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There's also a chat and text line here: https://www.thehotline.org/
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 01:49 PM
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You need to call this number: 800-799-7233. You are being abused, not just physically but completely controlled in every way. You need to get out, there is no way this will get better. Your husband is dangerous. No one deserves to live with someone like this.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 01:48 PM
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I think the first thing to do is ask yourself what you mean by "High value man" and why you want that type of man. This means different things to different people and the reasons can vary as much as that's what I think I should want to very specific reasons. Other than that I'd just work on your own mental health and worry about men later. You also mention a "good man" this is also a relative term. Find out what the specifics are that you really want. There's nothing wrong with being eccentric o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 12:42 AM
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I really think you're making too much out of this. Things should be clear, you shouldn't have to second, third and fourth guess and put puzzle pieces together, especially this early on. Frankly, it does seem like he's gaslighting and manipulative, I would look for those domestic violence red flags if you haven't already, it sounds like that is what you're moving towards. Also, I'd recommend getting out of the habit of texting/contacting him all the time. Submissiveness in my opinion is not letti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 10:34 AM
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I agree with u/thesixthamethyst I think a relationship works really well when you know what your domain is and what their domain is. This doesn't mean one can't participate in the other's domain but let's be honest, not being great at laundry doesn't make you incapable, it probably means it's not something you've thought a lot about nor something you put a lot of time into. If your husband doesn't know that he's better at certain things and worse at other things or you're better at certain thing…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 04:34 PM
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I think your mindset is off. Treating him like he's above you and serving him non-stop is more than submissive, it sounds like you're a doormat and he's grown entitled because of it or moreso that he's grown resentful because of it. You can appreciate him, clean and do the more feminine things without it being non-stop servitude. You have to also take care of yourself. If you have a job and go to school full-time why is he asking you to get a job? That doesn't make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 04:12 PM
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I recommend Alison Armstrongs, she has books and courses but you can also find a list of articles and audios for free on her website and you can search youtube for several interviews.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 04:03 PM
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If you are intimidating it could be a few things. It could be the way you carry yourself or it could be that you attract or allow people who are intimidated by you, which would be insecure people. It's impossible for me to know the answer to this, not knowing you. Ask someone close to you what they mean.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 12:28 AM
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I'm not sure 100% what you mean, but this makes me think of the idea of rather you're trying to make your partner into a girlfriend... if you have a healthy relationship with female friends you shouldn't be tempted to talk to him about those types of things. It would help a lot to know more about what kind of situation you're referring to.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 12:25 AM
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I would say no...there are many, many factors. One of the most interesting being that things are usually easier, quicker, etc. after you've had more than one baby, so subsequent pregnancies/postpartum periods are usually easier. The one exception being the postpartum uterine cramps and this assumes each pregnancy has similar circumstances. I had my first at 23, then one at 26, 32 and 36.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 02:05 PM
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What a lot of women don't realize and some men is that when men judge women by their appearance it's not by any specific standard of beauty, it's what they can instinctively perceive by looking at her. They can see if she is relaxed, calm, nurturing (unless she's a really good fake or he's out of touch with his instincts) regardless of how put together or girly she might look that day. It's not about wearing lipstick or spending extra time in the mirror. Men can perceive things about women based…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 01:30 AM
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Great tips, here. I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 01:22 AM
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Yes, I've been through this as my previous relationship was abusive. I basically will say yes therapy, but therapy alone wasn't enough for me. Taking all the courses, watching all the videos, reading the books of Alison Armstrong and Saida Desilets helped me a ton. Honestly there's a lot to it and it took years. Having a patient man on my side helped too. I don't think it has to take as long as it took me, but it does take a lot of internal work. If you're open, I believe you'll find what helps …
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 01:06 AM
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Not assuming the worst, listening to understand, and recognizing when a man is providing something (it can often be very subtle). Mostly just actually understanding, respecting, and appreciating men and understanding, respecting, and appreciating the fact that I'm a woman and that these things go well together and the ways in which they do.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 12:57 AM
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Also the Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 12:50 AM
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Anything by Saida Desilets
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 12:50 AM
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How about a slack? I have one created for this topic I've been planning to write a book about that I've yet to use.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 12:48 AM
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It's not too late. When I had my transformation (don't think red pill was a thing then) I was 30. I'm also a WOC. Don't worry about a wall. It's true your education has nothing to do with your goals of being a wife or mother but the other things you mentioned are probably helpful. I was a mother of two when I started dating and found a great man where I could live a happy life and be appreciated in my roles as a mother and woman. I totally agree with you on the level up community. Since I'd been…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 12:34 AM
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I think that was her point. Having children is already a lot, managing an intense career and a family is difficult for a lot of people without a lot of help. But sure if you can do it part-time that can work for some people.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 03:08 PM
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It's a long video so I haven't watched the whole thing...but again this really depends on what you mean by best friend. But I definitely agree your relationship with your husband shouldn't be like with a girlfriend which is what the woman in the video says. My first relationship was a disaster and abusive. We had so much in common and it was a codependent relationship. I don't think it's healthy at all. My relationship now is much healthier but we don't have that much in common. We are almost op…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 02:23 PM
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I think this depends on what you mean by the word friend, how long you've known them and if they are a friend of just one of you or you together, as a couple. Personally, I think acquaintances are fine, but friends really should be friends of both of you, unless there is a relationship you've had for a long time that precedes your relationship and that is a discussion to be had with your partner to make sure they're comfortable with it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 02:39 AM
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If you want to convince her you need to address what her concerns are. Not just by telling her. Truly, she's right, it's difficult to have more kids and a career, especially if she's already overwhelmed by 2, also she's 34 so pregnancy becomes more risky and she might fear that. I think your best bet is to befriend families with lots of kids who make it work in a way that would appeal to her. Let her see that it's possible. Also finding a way to help her with her current overwhelm with the two y…
/r/RedPillParenting23/03/21 02:29 AM
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That's a great quote and I can relate to that, how interesting.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 02:24 AM
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I think it's important to acknowledge how far you've come. It goes against the grain of modern society and it takes some bravery, but it also makes for a better life. Those "hot girls" are really just fantasies and not even real.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 12:45 AM
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I would bring it up in a serious, but light way and just tell him how it makes you feel...not what you think it means, not why it bothers you, just how it makes you feel, what would make you feel better and ask him respectfully if he could do what you'd like him to do about it. Then give him some time. Go to this discussion not in your feelings. I'm a bit older than you so I can't exactly relate but I think regardless of my age at the point your relationship becomes serious there needs to be no …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 12:43 AM
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That's the problem with long-distance relationships and that's probably why he's not responding. It's hard to get a read on someone when most of your communication is not in person. Also, a few days is not really ghosting, at all. You could either let it go or be direct and decide what you're going to do. Since you really didn't make a decision it's not surprising nothing has progressed. That was your opportunity to either get a commitment or essentially be done with it. It just happened you guy…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:54 PM
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That's a lot to ask. Advice for teens is just about the same as adults, just go slower and don't date guys who are much older than you. Search this sub and just follow your intuition. There isn't one way to be feminine, everyone has their own personal ways of getting in touch with their femininity. Please get to know your body, how it works and go from there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:42 PM
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Anything in the arts, teaching, of course, like was already mentioned, special education or early childhood would probably be less stressful. I believe if you do something like Biology you could be a park ranger. Nutrition, publishing, writing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:39 PM
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But not a relaxed path.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:30 PM
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Oh I'm not saying it's a bad thing...just that it can be addictive and also have it's negatives. At such a young age I kinda think that's how it's supposed to be, the younger you are the more you're trying to get to a certain place so you can then go out and live in a way that feels authentic to you, but again it can have it's negative side as well. I think you'll know when you have a rhythm between the two that works well for you. Also be open to the idea that your goals might need to change as…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:28 PM
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How old are you? This sounds like you might be a "hunter"...are you very ambitious/focused/analytical? If so it might be that you're in hunting mode so often that anything outside of your goals really makes you feel infringed upon. If that's the case I think it'd help to begin to develop your intuition and artistic abilities without goals. It's the kind of stress that can be good, but ends up being bad when overdone, especially by women. But for me, yes journaling, therapy, good mentors/friends,…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 07:00 PM
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​ Okay...so I have experience from both being a nanny and then a childcare teacher and then being a mom. My recommendation would be to wait as long as you can or only do part-time. You can have a great school with a horrible teacher, no one will be as reliable and focused on your child as you. You also miss out on a lot. In the first 3 years this time with your child is extremely important. They need a lot of guidance and a strong bond with you. After that there is much more flexibility and need…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 06:09 PM
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I don't think there's any reason you need to get up an entire hour early to look nicer. For one thing, there's nothing wrong with dressing for comfort, but every now and then it's good to go a little further, still, I wouldn't put an hour into it. I had a job once where I had to wear make-up, high heels and dress-up every day because my job was to model a certain look and presence for students. It took me 10-30 minutes extra to do all this. Plan one or two days a week. Dresses are your friend, w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 05:57 PM
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First, being ambitious/powerful doesn't automatically make a man a leader in his relationship. I don't know how to explain this except to say, once I realized and appreciated the differences between men and women I realized certain behaviors while I was capable and conditioned to prioritize actually created a significant amount of stress. When I started realizing I couldn't take great care of myself (and no one else would understand how to) and my children (and no one can do that better than me)…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 05:11 PM
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I honestly don't see a lot of problems here, I see a lot of judgement. Which I understand because you're frustrated, but it might help to get some serious emotional distance and figure out what you really want/need and what you're expecting/willing to contribute. There are lots of things that are fixable in a relationship given the right attitude. Other than him calling you a bitch, none of the other things you mentioned seem worth like impossibilities. I can't know for sure not being in your re…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 05:02 PM
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Sounds like you might need to look into therapy. You need to figure out where the anger/short-fuse is coming from. Journaling might be a great way to use your own intuition as a therapist, but I'd still recommend a professional if you can. I'd recommend two other options (though I'd do all 3 if you can): volunteer somewhere/help someone/be of service, it doesn't matter how you do this really, unless you expect anything (at all) in return. If you help a friend or family member don't expect anythi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 04:37 PM
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Alison Armstrong talks about how we act around people we are attracted to or overly attracted to. Her advice is to get to know men you're not attracted to. Once you've dated more and you're attracted to more specific characteristics you'll be more comfortable in yourself and comfortable around men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 02:29 PM
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Wow. That's terrible. So sorry you're being dismissed and gaslit in this way.
/r/MensRights17/03/21 01:13 PM
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Because the media wants to encourage hysteria. It makes them more money. People need to disconnect from these news sources and then they'd stop having the power they have over society.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/03/21 02:14 PM
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I would suggest saying that you are being stalked and harassed. Idk what kind of evidence there is about the 12 year old but if they didn't come forward there is little can be done atm. I would ask why you're being asked to keep quiet...maybe so an investigation can be done. As for your mom, there is little to no publicity for these situations and it seems she was just responding to an internet meme. As a parent it can take some time to process when your child has been violated or targeted. This…
/r/MensRights16/03/21 02:06 PM
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I spent a significant amount of my work life as a health coach, specifically for healthy weight. For women especially a significant portion of your relationship with healthy weight depends on stress levels. I always tell people start with one thing, work your way up to healthier habits gradually. Most diets create extreme stress, self judgement and low self-esteem for women. Losing weight is as much an emotional and mental journey as a physical one it pays to do it right because the repeated fai…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 05:05 PM
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I'll respond to the idea it will be harder as a single mom. If you're a high quality woman finding a good man will not be limited by your being a single mom. There might be some men who won't but most men will date a good woman if her skin is green and she has pet wolves. What I mean is you bring a lot to the table and your child is an asset to men who love you and want children. Those are the men you'll attract if you tend to yourself first, heal yourself, etc. As for financial struggle, if you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 12:39 AM
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I think you've gotten some great advice, I'd add a few things. I'm a Montessorian and that helps my process in a few ways: Have a process for toys...storage, toys in/toys out, if you start out with a process that prioritizes order and simplicity...open ended toys are better for brain development and frankly more beautiful, kids don't need a ton of toys, just a few things they're really interested in at once Get the kid involved in cleaning as young as possible. If you can, start by talking to ba…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/21 12:38 PM
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I agree with what was said already. You're not in the wrong for asking but if you know it's a tense situation for him, take care to anticipate a similar response in the future and either sit it out and be less involved or be more supportive of him. This really depends on what he needs and it could definitely help to talk about the pressure he feels with his family around and what he needs before there is another visit. This doesn't mean what you need is not important but before you go making pla…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 02:48 AM
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I totally get it. I have a 5 month old and 3 other children so I remember the feeling and even still feel this sometimes. Happy to help.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 08:20 PM
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I like Jordan page from fun, cheap or free but I think don't push yourself too much either. You're at a stage in life where getting help would be a really natural option. When you're super pregnant with children at home and the first year or so after having a new baby things aren't going to be as clean as usual unless you have help. There are many disadvantages to overdoing it especially during pregnancy and postpartum to your physical and mental health. Make sure your husband understands this a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 07:41 PM
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I can attest to this. I've rescued many children I didn't know from drowning in the pool when their adults weren't paying attention. I didn't yell for anyone else to help, just jumped in.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 07:21 PM
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What do you mean by unstable? If he's dangerous please talk to a domestic abuse hotline or chatline. Verbal and emotional abuse counts because those tend to escalate at a break up.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 06:45 PM
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I agree that it's not a great idea to lean on your partner but it's important for then to know what's up and be able to offer support when/if they can.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:09 PM
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That's awesome and so happy to hear you're healing. Yes there are tons of them. I'd say most. Doesn't mean there aren't bad ones, doesn't mean even good men never do bad things but yes you can definitely find a good man and be happy together.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:04 PM
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Mostly because both men and women don't really know what they want. There are men and women who are sold the lie that these are the traits that make a person desirable. Women know that looks and sexuality are also a part of it. What we say and what we do aren't always the same thing. Getting back to it. There are men who want that from a woman or they think they do. Women think that's what they want from men, but when engaged in relationships based on outside, materialistic traits both parties b…
/r/askTRP06/03/21 03:00 PM
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Thanks for sharing this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 02:14 PM
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Thank you yes. This is what I was trying to get at. If you haven't normalized the idea that men want to be supportive of you outside of romantic situations, you're essentially giving up some of your femininity, then it's hard to expect much in a relationship because you haven't normalized what to expect in men and you haven't practiced the art of being receptive to men's help, advice etc.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 02:13 PM
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First I have no idea how this could be verifiable information and I don't think a lot of women going around rating their choices. Maybe this is something younger women do, but from what I've seen and experienced relationships develop naturally, meaning most women (and people) become more attracted to someone by getting to know them and having positive experiences with them. Things don't go further without mutual attraction unless someone has extremely low self-esteem or someone is abusive/manipu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 02:01 PM
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Sorry split this up because my phone was dying. Like I was saying I think it's important to have female mentors too but moreso a network of friends, family, peers, etc. I joined a women's group from there studied men and women but for me studying men was extremely important because I didn't have a realistic, beneficial understanding of what to look for. I see a lot of posts here where women don't know this at all. Especially young women. Some of this, for me, came from Alison Armstrong's teachin…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 01:26 PM
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Of course that happens and I wouldn't say it's automatically a bad thing...it's just risky. Some of this might be semantics but I see a big diy between friendship and acquaintances.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 01:18 PM
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I think a female mentor or role model is also important, however if I hadn't healed my relationship with my dad and developed a deeper relationship with my cousin I would have gone into dating holding onto resentment and bitterness towards men. Like I said, some people automatically have this in their lives and don't even notice it because it was always there. For me, I can directly relate the fact I went into an abusive relationship and didn't realize it was that for years because I was trying …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 01:15 PM
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Totally agree. Start small.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:11 AM
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I totally understand that and I feel the same way. I meant more family, friends of the family, mentors, etc. For example I had a client who lived in Europe. We talked only about personal development but this was also when I was not in a relationship. Today I have relationships only with male family members and one couple whom I really don't even talk to the man anymore (I was his friend first) but if I needed to I could (I'd do it through her out of respect). I also had a couple mentors and teac…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:07 AM
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They decided you were lesbian and didn't know it because... patriarchy?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 01:33 AM
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Don't try to make friends out if men you're attracted to or who see you as a potential mate in any way. Befriend family members, older community members, spiritual leaders/mentors/congregants or co-workers who again aren't in the dating scene, aren't married but interested in you, etc. This is why the gay best friend is so valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 01:23 AM
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Instead of generically saving for the wedding show him specific items that are needed and what the value is if those things. Start purchasing those things and store them. It is important to talk about money but he may realize she's anxious about it and think that energy is her judging him. Before they get married they need to have a real discussion about how money will be handled between them but I think if she gets some validation or confirmation that the thing she's most worried about will be …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 11:04 PM
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What exactly is an underground club? Aside from that I really think this is nothing to worry about. It's not DJ'ing that's bothering you, it's something you assume goes along with the territory so what is that thing? That's what you need to talk about. More than that you need to figure out the bigger things when it comes to marriage/parenting, like when, where, how much will you need, who's going to help, what are your parenting philosophies. There are things that will change as you experience a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 10:52 PM
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Wow. Can this be taken up with someone in charge?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 10:42 PM
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Wait, what? I don't even know how to respond.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 10:37 PM
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I don't know if I should share it but when I started learning about masculinity and femininity just before I started dating after a few years out of an abusive relationship I started healing my relationship with my dad. I also started talking to a cousin of mine who is like a brother to me. We talked a lot about relationships and both of these relationships really helped me understand what I wanted, what I deserved and what I appreciated about men. I also felt more confident because being cared …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 10:33 PM
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I think they judge all women that way because it's been common for awhile now in many spaces for women to judge men by the worst men they've met (feminists). They're just flipping the script. The shitty things toxic men do have been common knowledge for decades, the shitty things toxic women do are barely ever talked about and often excused so I think they're just trying to exact validation in many cases. Still I don't think good men or good women are rare, I just think the wounded cry louder an…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 10:27 PM
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I think the most important thing in a relationship is whether you want the same things in life and out of your relationship. It's not shallow at all. Communication skills can be taught/learned and it's not even that difficult. Kindness is not rare. I also think it's difficult to have a good relationship if your standards are kind and can communicate, that's the bare minimum. It sounds like it would be important for you to learn there are tons of men who are kind and can communicate so you know w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 09:40 PM
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It sounds like you want completely different things in life and if you stay with him out of an obligation to not be shallow that's not really a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 07:45 PM
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I have PTSD-anxiety. It's important for me to share that and that he understands it. It happened that he saw me through an anxiety attack fairly early in our relationship and he's actually really good with it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 01:08 PM
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I think therapy is a really great suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 01:06 PM
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Yes. You have a very good point.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:56 AM
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I wouldn't say as young as possible. So many of my peers married at 18 and 19 to divorce at 20 and 21. It all depends on the persons involved.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:48 AM
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Oh by the way I had 2 children too so while some men may not have been interested, I honestly never had a lack of men interested and I'm not tall, blonde, white, girly or anything like that. Attitude and intentions are a lot more important than people make it out to be. I attracted a lot of doctors and military men but honestly all types.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:36 AM
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I left my abusive relationship in my late 20s. I only dated in my early 30s and never had any problems. It's all about the individual. I had very little value in my 20s if I'm being honest. Even before my relationship. Everything got better for me in my 30s and I'm not alone. Again it's how you care for yourself, your relationship skills, etc
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:30 AM
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It's important to come to grips with yourself, forgive yourself and move on. If you wallow in shane you're much more likely to repeat a similar mistake. This is really not that big of a deal. We all make mistakes you can't let them define you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:25 AM
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I think of it as surrender rather than submission more because I think that word has been widely misused. Surrender however is something that is earned slowly and something you do with full trust, knowing you will be protected and appreciated. I surrender to him when he is confident in something, has come to me passionate about something and usually if he just wants my support. I try to do it immediately so I allow him the space to fully share what it is he's passionate or confident about. Then …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:20 AM
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I get where you are coming from but I know if it hadnt been for a community like this I wouldn't have seen my relationship as abusive and escalating. Maybe a pinned post with appropriate responses/resources could help but there will still be people who don't think there is anything wrong with their relationship without a direct response. Some moderation of inappropriate responses might help.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:05 AM
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Thanks for sharing this. Knowing the intentions and genesis of this sub helps put it into perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:01 AM
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I can do that. Thanks for the push.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 01:58 AM
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Well I don't mind giving that advice because I think it's important and related to this topic but if there were more topics generated in this sub about healthy relationships it would be more clear for those in that type of relationship that they deserve better and what to look for and that's very possible.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 01:58 AM
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Maybe it'd help to have flair like other subreddits have like: beginner, intermediate, advanced, expert That way people know who they're getting advice from.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:34 PM
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In the future if suggest not spending so much time texting with anyone. Even when you're in a relationship you both need to live your lives. And like others have said, don't start getting attached without make it clear about the status of the relationship. Another I'd suggest is getting to know several people at once...meaning friendship until you find someone who wants the same thing you want. This way you're not allowing yourself to become codependent on someone, which never leads to a good re…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:32 PM
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Ask him! Everyone likes different things. If you ask him he'll tell you exactly what he likes.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:23 PM
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I guess I've been kinda trying to make sure I actually fit in before I comment too much. Your post has made me feel like I belong in this sub. I'm not sure how/what to share until I see others' posts and responses but I could try.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:05 PM
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And yes these are the most important to me as well as the part about the wall/number count. I'm not Christian, not conservative and I've been in an abusive relationship so I know you don't submit to just anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:55 PM
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I agree with everything you're saying. I'm new here to this sub not to the philosophy if you want to call it that. I've seen a lot of the problems you mention and so glad to see I'm not the only one who sees the behaviors and assumptions you listed as problems. I'm here essentially for the same reason as you and to help steer others in the right direction merely by sharing what I've been through. An abusive relationship first before my healthy relationship I have now. I'm also a mom in my late 3…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:52 PM
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I love Alison Armstrong and she has a wealth of information to consume. I've been working my way through it for the last 7-8 years and totally wouldn't have my relationship without her.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 08:35 PM
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Yes. As a parent I've learned to acknowledge effort and so this has found its way into my relationship too. I always used to correct things not done my way Ive learned there are better ways to do that. First compliment or show gratitude for the effort and don't add anything more. Let it settle in that they are appreciated then you have a choice, either accept that their effort does the job or set up a way of communicating your preferences with no pressure. Favorite ways to do this are to make a …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 08:32 PM
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Intuitive eating. Fill up on fruit salads, smoothies, green salads, carbs, no dairy products, etc. Try to keep heavy meals and meat to only dinner and eat dinner early. After dinner I usually have water or tea. Low fat and healthy food combining. Simple, natural ingredients as much as possible. Eat until full. Drink plenty of water. Low impact exercise so as not to burn out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:44 PM
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I disagree to this extent: if you go back to childhood you'll find that children possess certain traits unless those traits are suppressed or considered undesirable by the adults they are most attached to. As kids we go through predictable stages and have predictable interests and needs. If you go back to 2-5 you'll find that kids are interested in certain things. Male and female and other kids. This is not about gender, femininity is the word we use, we could just as easily call it something el…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 07:15 PM
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You should have either planned things together or he should have planned them. Yes you did too much but he did too much in coming to see you unprepared as well. That's natural though, you're young. You'll have many more experiences hopefully more local to you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 05:17 PM
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Honestly I wouldn't sorry about this. You don't need to rate yourself. Different men like different things looks and personality wise. When you meet someone who really is right for you, you'll bring things to the table that you don't realize you're bringing. It's you that you need to be, for you. When you're comfortable in yourself you'll have more to give to someone else. Don't live your life solely to be attractive to someone else. I would never go so far as to rate my looks just because someo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 05:03 PM
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I gave a suggestion on a thread in this sub from a woman who wanted to lose weight for her husband. I used to be a health coach. Here is what I suggest. First of all maybe restrictions aren't a good way to go about losing weight. I suggest focusing on positive things you can do rather than worrying about what you can't do. Also take the urgency out if the equation. That's only going to create stress. Most of losing weight is in your mind. Don't give yourself unrealistic goals, then when you fail…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 04:40 PM
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Yes! This!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 04:11 PM
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Girl, I'm a hippie, though I try to deny it. I have a very natural look, that's how I attracted him, that's how I feel comfortable, therefore that's how I am when I'm at my best. I rarely wear make up. He doesn't care, at all!!! And I also attract people very easily people who probably don't typically like or think they're attracted to hippie types. It's all in the energy and disposition. Understanding differences goes a long way too, don't get me wrong, but it's mostly mindset and receptiveness…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 04:10 PM
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Yah I wouldn't suggest depriving yourself. I'm not totally against some fasting but only once a week or less.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 03:47 PM
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Oh yeah. Sleeping is massively important. Why aren't you sleeping? Have you tried melatonin?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 03:21 PM
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So I don't do this anymore but I used to be a health coach. One of my main takeaways is that stress is the silent gun damaging your health especially weight loss. It sounds like you're obsessing it over it a bit and that's not going to help you. My advice would be to stop weighing yourself for at least a month. Pick up 1type of exercise you enjoy and do it at least 3 days a week, no more than 5. No more than 30 minutes to an hour a day depending on what intensity level it is. Also start with one…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 03:21 PM
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You need to do these things for you. It sounds like your main issue is judging yourself and feeling shame. Might sound hokey but affirmations have been really helpful in my experience. Also it might help you to really, really listen to what he's saying and take it to heart. Wouldn't it be nice if you saw yourself the way he does, or better? Also who's to say you're not pretty? Being realistic would be accepting that you have some struggles and you deserve grace when it comes to what you can reas…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 03:05 PM
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Yes and having my 4th baby a few months ago I look a hot mess from time to time lol. But he doesn't even notice!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 02:44 PM
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Yes!!!! So glad you get it. It's all about the learning to stop suppressing what comes naturally. I looked a lot more "girly" I like to use that term rather than feminine before I learned these things as well but I was quite uncomfortable, unhappy, insecure and just as you said only doing what I thought I had to do. Basically a lot of striving and struggling.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 02:42 PM
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I would forget about him and only answer him when he contacts you. If you don't want to be hurt and you won't something from him he's not willing to give, giving him what he wants does exactly what you don't want for yourself. It's going to hurt. Maybe don't totally cut off all contact (that's for you to decide) but definitely meet other people. When you have very little dating experience and you're looking for a relationship your best option is to get to know several people at once. You don't w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 01:13 PM
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