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And yeah, i do deal with the same level of rejection men do. I’ve been rejected by every single guy who has captured my interest in the past 2 years. One of which never wanted to pursue a relationship with me but sure didn’t mind using me for company, sex and friendship, telling me im supposedly such a high quality woman but yet im still not enough for him to want to pursue a relationship with. Total bullshit.
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:24 PM
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Yeah, and men usually end up getting what they want out of the arrangement but don’t wanna uphold their end of the bargain. Thats my point. Men love to say women have it so much easier dating and that’s not true at all, you just proved my case & point: it’s easier for women to have meaningless hookups, it’s easier for men to find partners who are willing to commit and date. It sucks being a single woman nowadays.
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:23 PM
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Happens to us women too. We get sick of putting ourselves out there and getting rejected or just used for casual sex and companionship with an expiration on it. It isn’t worth it at all to me anymore. I give tf up on men.
/r/seduction23/05/22 07:56 PM
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And how exactly do you go about doing that? You seem to have all of the answers so please enlighten me. How do you smooth sail through dating without ever getting heartbroken and having bad experiences and bad partners? Because everyone I’ve talked to has had their fair share, and I’ve had enough heartbreak to last me a lifetime and im over dating altogether because to me it isn’t worth losing my emotions to another human being, only to be hurt and/or abandoned or rejected yet again.
/r/seduction23/05/22 07:30 PM
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Right, so you’ve never had the rug ripped out from underneath you? You’ve never been taken by surprise and hurt by a woman you chose to love and trust before? Everybody plays the fool sometimes, just like the song goes. You can try to evade it all you want to, it will eventually get you at some point. Everyone has had someone (or multiple people) they fell for and thought they were a good person/partner, only to be mistaken and had their heart broken. You’re not gonna evade that unless you decid…
/r/seduction23/05/22 05:50 PM
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Its not that cut & dry, as im sure you probably know from past dating experiences with women. People can put on a damn good act in the beginning and make you think they’re this great person, when in reality they’re not, they’re just manipulating you and using your feelings you have now developed for them to their advantage. Once they think they’ve got you, their true colors start to show, and it’s usually a gradual process over time and not overnight. So yeah, it’s not even the choosing that’s t…
/r/seduction23/05/22 02:11 PM
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Someone being fed up with being taken for granted and/or used doesn’t mean that person has personality disorder. It just means they have had shit luck with men and are tired of not finding the love and respect they deserve.
/r/seduction22/05/22 10:31 PM
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That’s exactly what it is. Especially for women. When we get sick of being used and just seen as a casual fling, we learn to shunt off the part of us that feels and cares and would be genuinely interested in getting to know a guy and falling for him & start seeing him and classifying him as a casual fling/fuckboy.
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:52 PM
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Or maybe, us women got tired of feeling exactly how y’all are feeling and realized the more genuine interest we have & express, the less interested the guy is in us. So we learned and were conditioned to stop giving af.
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:29 PM
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I never said its right to take anger out on anyone. I just said it sucks being an older woman single nowadays because it seems men don’t want someone even remotely close to their age. And some women don’t care about height. I was 2 inches taller than my ex husband. I’m 5’9 and he was 5’7” so only shallow women are going to care about height in men. Just like only shallow men give much weight to women’s age difference from theirs.
/r/seduction01/04/22 03:57 AM
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But its not insecurity… it’s a valid thing to be bothered & upset by. When 32/33 yo women are single and struggling to find someone willing to commit or date seriously because they all seem to want a woman in their 20’s solely because that woman is in her 20’s and not anything else she has to offer (loyalty, love, maturity, stability, etc.), of course it is upsetting. It’s not that i personally find anything wrong with it, sure, men and women can and should date whoever they want. But it is dish…
/r/seduction01/04/22 12:48 AM
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Yeah of course. If I’m into a guy & it appears he’s also into me I definitely stay in touch often & reciprocate conversation & making plans to see him.
/r/seduction20/04/20 06:04 PM
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Yeah but you can’t freak out just because she takes longer than that to respond. She could be busy, or just not in the mindset to talk in that moment. And sometimes girls will take a bit to respond so they don’t look super eager and desperate. Stupid yes but we’ve been conditioned to believe men don’t like a woman readily available. And guys do it to us all time.
/r/seduction20/04/20 05:36 PM
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I will never understand the few guys who don’t realize how bad ghosting is. Whether they don’t do it intentionally or they do to play some game, it ruins the interest of the girl.
/r/seduction20/04/20 04:30 PM
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Make myself available as in cancelling any plans I may have already had set up just to please him because he really wants to see me? No. Do I reciprocate my interest in him by never ignoring him and always respond to messages even if it’s hours later? Yes. And if he asks me out on a date, yes I will try to come up with a day & time that works for both of us.
/r/seduction20/04/20 04:27 PM
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I can meet you halfway there. It is true that women love a “challenge,” as long as they think that challenge isn’t too difficult to obtain and they will get the end result they are looking for. And as far as if you show too much interest they’ll lose interest, meh it depends on what you call too much interest. If the guy comes across as a stage 5 clinger from the get to & he’s blowing my phone up constantly then yes, I wholeheartedly agree. That would be a major put off to anyone guy or girl. Bu…
/r/seduction20/04/20 05:03 AM
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Thanks a ton! Much love from United States!
/r/seduction20/04/20 03:38 AM
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Oh absolutely. In your teenage years especially, and even in your twenties, dating is purely experimental. Most people don’t even know who they are or what they’re looking for in life or in a partner, so playing the field is common practice. I actually got married when I was 23, and now I’m separated at 30. I wish I hadn’t gotten married so young, because 23 is still too young for a lot of people to get married imo. I don’t regret the time we were together; we grew a lot together over time and b…
/r/seduction20/04/20 03:35 AM
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Not so. This actually just happened to me this past week/weekend. I was messaging a guy I was interested in seeing where things would go/think he would make a great partner. He was messaging & then bam out of nowhere just starts leaving me on read, after I dropped my digits for him to text me. I sent a follow up message of casual convo just to see if he would keep it going, and when he didn’t I wrote him off. If he was to up and text me now I’d be highly suspicious of his intentions & I wouldn’t…
/r/seduction20/04/20 03:29 AM
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Maybe some women. But when you reach my age (30 going on 31) you’re sick of the games and the mind play. If I’m interested in a guy, I want him to reciprocate that interest and show me that he does. And if he drops the L word, if I’m feeling it, it makes me giddy & happy and i will say it back (depending on how long we’ve been seeing each other, how serious things are and how much the relationship has progressed, etc.) I know some girls are into playing games, but a lot of us aren’t. I like a gu…
/r/seduction20/04/20 03:27 AM
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To an extent yeah. But if you ghost her for days without responding or without taking any initiative to start a conversation any woman would read that as you’re not interested. I’m not trying to be mean or anything by saying this, just offering a woman’s perspective!
/r/seduction20/04/20 02:55 AM
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Wrong. Nothing turns me off faster from a guy than when he plays it hot & cold. Also, if you pull away, many women including myself think you’ve lost interest and we’re not going to continue to pursue you/message you because we don’t want to come across as desperate, pushy, or clingy. You want to lose a woman’s interest, do this and you’ll lose her.
/r/seduction20/04/20 02:47 AM
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I’m starting to seriously question whether he’s even into girls or if he’s gay. Dude is 31 and has never had a serious relationship or even a gf that I’m aware of. What guy doesn’t text a hot girl who just dropped you their digits who is so clearly interested in you?! 🤦‍♀️ I now know the frustration men have of girls who want to take things slow. Like shit can we just get on with it?! 🤣
/r/seduction19/04/20 05:28 AM
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Thank you! I fucking wish like hell I could get his ass to keep the conversation flowing longer than 5 minutes 🙄 I wanna come over & fuck 🤣
/r/seduction19/04/20 04:52 AM
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But as the girl who is hurtin’ for him this suckssssss. I’ve been left on read this past week multiple times (with him responding just often enough to keep me on the edge of my seat) and it’s damn near killing me 😂 I like him & wanna see where things go, sure, but I sure as hell wanna fuck the shit out of him too. And you’re right, being left on read just makes it that more enticing because of the challenge!
/r/seduction19/04/20 03:51 AM
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Nah I’m not head over rebels for this guy in this post. Just feeling him out and testing the waters for a source for a good time. The guy in my previous post I carried a torch for in the past but I let that shit to because it just wasn’t worth it. But yeah, I’m definitely listening to what you’re telling me. I’m acting nonchalant and more reserved so as not to come across as pushy.
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:26 PM
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Different ones. I’m not monogamously exclusive with anyone at the moment. Just trying to have some fun and live life :)
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:22 PM
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Plus if he really wasn’t feeling it, he wouldn’t have sent me a follow request I feel like. He would have just ignored all my messages.
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:15 PM
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Idk, he really hasn’t posted but 5 pics and they’re all spanned a few years apart. And he hadn’t signed in all week until today. I honestly don’t think he was lying about that. I see it more as it piqued his interest & he’s been signing in and out to maybe see if I’ve messaged him more. But I’m scared to after that last message with my number in it. I don’t wanna be too pushy or anything.
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:13 PM
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Yeah, well i think that’s just because your friend is attractive & those particular dudes are just cringey desperate or egotistical douchebags. I feel like most guys, unless they’re the typical fuckboy trying to get laid by any woman who will entertain the thought of conversing with them, are not big into texting. And even those types of guys who do, they text to try to set up a booty call or a date to lead to a hookup & once they get what they want they stop texting as much so the girl doesn’t …
/r/seduction03/04/20 09:46 PM
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Where are all these guys willing to text all the time? 🤣 I’ve never in my life met a guy who was big into texting. And it’s always felt like pulling teeth to get a quick response out of them. It takes them awhile to respond, if they even do half the time. Maybe they could have just been sitting there waiting to respond to not look so eager or something, but in my experiences growing up & dating prior to getting married at 23 (I’ll soon be 31), guys were never all about texting girls 24/7.
/r/seduction03/04/20 09:26 PM
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Hahahahaha! You are hilarious! Yes you answered my question 🤣 I was raised/taught by my mom growing up “let men pursue you, they don’t like it when women hit on them or pursue them.” Ive never listened to that as I always thought it sounded ridiculous. I’ve always been a go getter and go after what I want. If I see a guy I think is hot, damn right I’m gonna walk up & make conversation & give him my digits. I haven’t always had the greatest luck with dating, but it isn’t from my lack of effort.
/r/seduction03/04/20 12:35 AM
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So it’s not a turn off when a woman just directly, out of nowhere, even if y’all aren’t already friends, offers you her number because she’s into you and wants to pursue you?
/r/seduction02/04/20 11:50 PM
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Would you say men like when women do this approach more so than direct “hey here’s my number in interested in you if you want to get together sometime. Text/call me sometime!” ?
/r/seduction02/04/20 09:44 PM
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I agree with all of this. Honestly as a female I kind of have the same approach as you described. I try to get in with the guy as a friend and hope if I fix myself up nice & presentable every time I know he’s gonna be around, and try to be flirty by not obnoxious that he will start to “see the light” as you said and notice me in a more romantic and sexual way. It’s never worked for me though (with guys I want to advance things with).
/r/seduction02/04/20 09:43 PM
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This is true but also there are true just friendships between guys and girls. One of my best friends is a guy I’ve been best friends with since we were 16. Were both 30 now. We hang out in a group of friends and sometimes solo. We talk about anything & everything, including sexual experiences and men and women. It’s nice to actually have a true friendship with a guy who isn’t trying to come onto you & respects you and doesn’t have a motive behind it. Would he sleep with me if I tried, maybe, bec…
/r/seduction02/04/20 08:51 PM
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Men friend zone women too and it sucks. There have been plenty of times I forged a friendship with someone, and had that hope that they would find me attractive & it would advance to more. And it never did. I’m a 30yo woman and I always keep my options open as far as not categorizing people into specific categories as far as I would never consider dating him versus I definitely wanna date him. I’d be open to making a friend and then turning it into something more over time. Just gotta find like …
/r/seduction02/04/20 08:45 PM
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Yes. And you’re the same. As I said, just matured a bit. Stop overthinking it and just be yourself!
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:12 AM
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Yes & no. You can tell you’re the same person. And no you haven’t gotten fat as you asked. You’ve just matured. You look less baby faced and more manly. That’s what I meant. It was a compliment!
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:09 AM
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Maybe it’s just her? I’m 31/F and I’ve always preferred guys to be open and direct with me. If they’re thinking I’m pretty, then I want them to tell me. If they like the way I did my hair or the way my perfume smells, I want them to tell me. If they enjoy holding me/caressing me, I want them to do it & tell me how they enjoy doing it. Sounds like you’ve been seeing girls and not women. The right woman will appreciate your honesty & directness. As long as you’re not overdoing it. Too many complim…
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:08 AM
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No way! In fact, I would say I almost prefer the way you look now. You look like you’ve matured over these years (which makes total sense). Relax & go for it! Good luck!
/r/seduction30/03/20 01:49 AM
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That’s not necessarily true. Depends on the girl. If I’m vibing with a guy & I REALLY like him, he can’t text me enough. Girls love when guys they’re into text them or just keep in contact. Of course I also initiate texting as well. It shouldn’t all be one sided.
/r/seduction29/03/20 05:41 AM
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