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She moved out two years ago. Divorce was final about six months ago. I'm in no hurry to start dating. I feel like being in a relationship right now might be the last thing I need.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 08:13 PM
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What do you do when someone points a camera at you?
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 06:13 PM
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She moved out two years ago. The divorce was final just before Thanksgiving. There is a favorite picture of mine where we were together and when the camera came out, she turned and looked at me so lovingly. The thing is, way back when the picture was taken, the problems were obvious. She just never was happy with me. Always seemed to be pissed about something. I remember when we got that picture developed, and I thought how much I wished it really was like that in our marriage. I still have all …
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 05:18 AM
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Keeping score in a relationship is not healthy because the person starts looking for things to write down. They become focused on the negativity and its a downward spiral from there.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 04:14 AM
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Don't tell anyone but I still love her and I think I always will.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 06:26 AM
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You know that part about how the daughter becomes the mother? And you know that part where the girl is just absolutely in love with you and thinks the Sun shines at your ass? Her mother was pissed and shitty and I ignored it until she became pissed and shitty. I loved her but she was always pissed at every little thing I did. Eventually, you give up on the idea that it's going to work out and you start thinking about how to get out. When it comes right down to it, even if you are the best they c…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 06:17 AM
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Dude, I am fucking 61 years old. I have reinvented myself multiple times throughout the course of my life and you can too. The part you are going through right now sucks ass. There is no better way to put it. Everything you described was an absolute shit show. No fucking questions there. Total bag of shit. Life has got a lot of shit to teach you. Me, I had to figure out all out for myself No matter how many people told me the same shit. I could probably tell you all the secrets but you are young…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 05:39 AM
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I'm on the other side. It comes to an end. I promise it gets better. A lot of good advice here listen to what they say. It is for your own good. We are here for you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/26 05:14 AM
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My (61M) ex moved out 24 months ago and the divorce was final 7 months ago. I'm in therapy. I don't want to be in a relationship now. I don't think I'm suitable for a relationship. I am not concerned with what how other people think I should be handling this. Last weekend I attended a motorcycle safety foundations traing class and had a really good time. I am doing what I want to do. Take some time and become comfortable with yourself without someone. When you do meet the right person, it will g…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 02:10 AM
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Recognize it for what it is and don't fall into the trap.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 08:21 PM
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I think she may be trying to provoke you into doing something that she can capture on camera and then use against you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 08:02 PM
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Remind yourself of the reasons why you got divorced. Sometimes my mind slips into a state where I recognize the current lack of any real connection that I have with anyone right now and then I start thinking about the good times. If the good times sufficiently outnumbered the bad times, we wouldn't be divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/26 10:46 PM
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I can't imagine that I will no matter what may happen. It's a simple matter of my expectations that the rewards will be significantly less than the cost. That is not restricted to money. I am talking about emotional cost also.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 02:25 AM
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For the majority of the 30 years my ex and I were together, she was pissed or unhappy and from what I could tell, she felt like it was my fault. The last few years we were together, she made a new group of friends through work. From what I can tell, she created an echo chamber for herself which eventually led to our divorce. I suspected as much and curiosity got the best of me so I checked her phone when I got a chance and sure enough, she was getting relationship advice from her friend group. W…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 12:05 AM
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I totally agree! When my ex and I were in marriage counseling and she said she was not going to be attending any more sessions, I called our therapist and said I'd like to keep the appointment but it would just be me. I felt like the therapist was already familiar with my background so I wouldn't be starting over. Since that time, I've come to not take whatever she does personally because I am able to recognize that what she says or does is more about her than it is about me. I haven't always be…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 09:37 PM
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I sent a DM
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 04:30 AM
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We were final right before Thanksgiving. I working on letting go. I really came out of the whole thing smelling like a rose. This is a weird transition period where you should be thinking of what you want to be and how you will become that idea of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 04:25 AM
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You will never know for sure why she is doing what she is doing. Take a moment to let that sink in. She has already shown you that she is not consistent with your idea of who she is. Trying to figure out what she is doing is a waste of your time. You are going through a terrible adjustment. You want to resist it because it is painful. Ignoring it is worse. Cognitive dissonance is what you are experiencing. Why do I know these words my brother? I feel your pain. You will resist because it is too …
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 03:47 AM
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I think you need to be realistic about imagining what a reconciliation would look like. It sounds to me like at best, you would be getting a second chance and then you'd be on something like permanent probation. I don't think it would be anything close to her saying "you are the one for me" and that's what you really need to shoot for. Are you clinging to an idea of what you wanted her to be and still not ready to give up? It is painful. I've been through it myself. You have to take a good look …
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 03:28 PM
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We've had a tradition, when we were married, where we went to the same restaurant on my ex-wife's birthday for the last several years. This year I kept the tradition for reasons I'm not entirely sure of. I'm still in the process of letting go. Anyway, afterwards, we all went over to my daughter's house for cake & ice cream. Things I noticed about the evening: my daughter thanked me for dinner and my ex-wife did not. My ex-wife did thank our daughter for having her over for cake & ice cream. If y…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 07:35 PM
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About the best I think I could expect from her would be something along the lines of, "I've decided to give you another chance". That would be nowhere close to the attitude change it would take for me to consider getting back together.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 08:45 PM
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With everything you have ever done for her, I know you feel like you deserved better treatment and I'm sure you did. That is no guarantee of better treatment. If she has decided it's over, there is nothing you can do to make her love you. The only person you have any control over is yourself. When you say you are still in love with her, is it really more the idea of what you wanted your life together to be? Is it a memory of something she used to be? The unknown is scary as hell but you've got y…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 11:10 PM
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It sounds to me like you are catastrophizing as a response to dealing with the unknown nature of your future. I've done plenty of it myself. Since I am not a therapist, it would be wrong for me to go any further with this but I think it would be beneficial for you to look into it and how to defeat it and then decide for yourself. In my experience with it, I have caused myself significant unnecessary stress and anxiety with this behavior. I hope this may point you in the right direction.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 12:19 PM
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I don't know if you listen to this guy or not. He makes a lot of sense and his videos have shed a lot of light on the subject. Maybe give it a try. This video in particular seems relevant. Psych Hacks
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 10:08 PM
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Sounds real familiar! Divorce will be final soon. I plan to get a motorcycle. The only big difference is that I'm 60. It's never too late...
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 07:32 PM
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My(60M) wife(53F) moved out 16 months ago. The divorce could be final within a month. I am not actively trying to meet new women. My STBXW and I have two adult children together and two grandchildren. We are amicable which makes it a little weird to be honest. We've been together for thirty years and things just ran their course. I will want another relationship at some point. I expect my STBXW to not take it well even though she is the one who filed for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 05:05 AM
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I saw something the other day that made a lot of sense. No woman ever characterized herself as the villain in her life story. Well let's take it a step further, I don't think I would characterize myself as the villain in my life story either. Everybody feels like they have pretty good reasons for doing what they do. Even if the overwhelming consensus is that the other person did you wrong, you shouldn't be surprised when they don't think they did anything wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 07:49 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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