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Or racist, only white anglo-saxon men...
/r/MensRights31/07/20 11:52 AM
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Agree in particular with your final statement. I don’t like the use of « Karen » and I’ve ignored all content on it.
/r/MensRights25/07/20 03:55 PM
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Cheers pal, that cake has me up to a 8 out of 10 :)
/r/MensRights25/07/20 07:14 AM
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Great share, thank you. I really enjoyed the talk and had similar thoughts about starting a men’s club like this after a cousin took his own life. Will be looking at joining / starting a Talk Club in my local areas when I finish moving countries.
/r/MensRights24/07/20 06:51 PM
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| "I hope one of the mothers don't report me" because all their kids had seen my downstairs and I didn't want to be put on some register.'” This is the unfortunate situation we are in, the guy went into immediate ‘fight mode’ for his niece and did not hesitate or risk wasting a bit of time to find pants. Instead of thinking, geez the neighbours must be grateful to know they have someone as protective as me nearby, he is worried about being reported. This guys should applauded for being brave and…
/r/MensRights24/07/20 01:38 PM
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Exactly his point. He knows exactly what’s it like to be expected to me ‘man enough’.
/r/MensRights02/07/20 07:04 PM
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Except everyone in the crowd is waiting for the laughs, he pauses for effect as well.
/r/MensRights02/07/20 07:02 PM
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No problem, he is a Aussie comedian. I think he is quite funny
/r/MensRights01/07/20 07:16 PM
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The middle part is meant to be sarcasm, that is this guys comedic style. His point being, we should be shocked at the rate men are killing themselves, be are not because we’ve created this story where men have an easy life, then he add to his point with some realism. I think it’s a clever way to draw attention to this issue
/r/MensRights01/07/20 06:58 PM
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That’s great to hear, hanks that’s sound advice. I’m trying to teach my kids french now so we can do something similar , and we already have a few good rituals - I frequently take the kids out on bike rides, they bring snacks and we stop for a ‘picnic’. I hope I have the same open discussions your having, you sound like you’ve built a great relationship.
/r/MensRights27/06/20 06:05 PM
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Really? Where you based?
/r/MensRights27/06/20 05:31 PM
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Lucky you, I hope to have a good relationship with my kids when they are adults. My wife selected the cup as my three kids were under 5 at the time (3 years ago now). I’m sure you’ll agree it’s hard when they are that age - juggling parenting whilst also trying to get established in my career as my wife is a stay at home parent. I found balancing doing well at work for our future and being more present as a partner/ parent hard. Plus we’d also recently changed states as my previous work site was…
/r/MensRights27/06/20 04:54 PM
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It i see this at work I’d be making a complaint
/r/MensRights27/06/20 03:34 PM
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I wouldn’t save forced, but we certainly feel it’s our ‘duty’ to do so. The stories of the damsel in distress is just as toxic to a boys self image (perception of needing to be a hero) as it is to a girls (perception of needing to be help) I once got a super dad cup for Father’s Day and it bothered me so much I avoided using it, my wife didn’t realise...
/r/MensRights22/06/20 05:17 PM
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Absolutely. Share your feelings and open up we are told as well as be a more active parent. Ask for recognition on a single dad to remain on point and we were labelled as fragile. When will women learn that mean find it much harder to express our emotions so when we do it must be met with care and kindness.
/r/MensRights21/06/20 05:23 PM
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Hang in there mate for your son. He will need you in his life and even if he is withheld from you he will come find you when he is ready. Legal rights of fathers is an utter disgrace and have been for so long. My father had a previous family with 4 kids and never saw them after the divorce until they were adults and found him. One by one they came when they were ready and he welcomed them with open arms. It was beautiful to see and is still one of the things I love most about my dad.
/r/MensRights30/05/20 09:09 PM
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No it’s been more then 15years. When I was applying for roles out of uni in 2003 my female colleague consistently got more interviews and had her pick out of 5 top companies, the rest of us with similar academic results were lucky to get 1-2 offers
/r/MensRights30/05/20 06:53 PM
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Incredible share, thank you. I’m glad to read you’ve moved forward. We need more men like you to share their stories as only then will people realise domestic abuse and violence is a societal problem, not a gender one
/r/MensRights30/05/20 01:28 PM
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Me too, so I moved! Loved growing up there but too busy for me now
/r/MensRights27/05/20 06:11 PM
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Nah we just speak s&&t english
/r/MensRights26/05/20 08:40 PM
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Me too, home state. We need to stop giving her air time
/r/MensRights26/05/20 08:38 PM
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This is absolutely true AND is exactly what we need to understand so we can correct this. Blaming the kids and doing nothin is the easy thing, understanding the causal factors much harder. We need intervention much earlier when these kids are young to show them belief, give and them hope. If we do nothing, we raise another generation of kids with no hope, no drive, and lower prospects.
/r/MensRights11/05/20 08:08 PM
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I’m a Melbourne Uni alumni and I’m ashamed
/r/MensRights23/04/20 06:31 PM
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Your welcome. I’m believe in sharing ideas respectfully and I choose not to engage in topics where people don’t. I also value and respect women. Thanks for the concern. I’m good myself, I just worry about what is going on as I’ve had male family friends, coworkers and men in clubs I’m in take their lives. All good men. It’s hard to understand why they got that low, and I don’t think society is providing enough support. As a young man how do you feel about your future?
/r/MensRights18/04/20 10:07 PM
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I’m here because I think men’s mental health is not being addressed. Men aged 18-45 in most western countries we are most likely to die at our own hands than any other way. Why is this so? I don’t see enough action on trying to find out and address it. Also, as a father of a boy and girls the messaging has gone the other way too far, boys are being left behind at school whilst new push girls into STEM. I’m worried for him. Finally on the pay gap, as a manger in a large engineering firm, I can as…
/r/MensRights18/04/20 07:34 PM
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I do agree with this. If we accept that the women can decide to carry the baby or not, regardless of the fathers wishes, then the father should be able to opt out of the financial commitment.
/r/MensRights18/04/20 05:37 PM
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Yes, we would have marched the streets as we did when a male targeted a young Women a few years ago
/r/MensRights17/04/20 05:20 PM
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His not the best going around right now either. The mayweather vs McGregor wasn’t much of a fight, but brought in plenty of $ coz people were happy to pay for the spectical
/r/MensRights15/03/20 09:07 PM
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Sports players get paid but they amount of revenue they generate, it’s pretty simple really and not the same as paying for their skill / talent. This is why Floyd Mayweather can name his price to fight coz people will pay it. Women’s sport players need to bring the same revenue to demand the same pay.
/r/MensRights15/03/20 12:13 PM
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I’ve also noticed posts thanking nurses with a picture of a female nurse only....
/r/MensRights14/03/20 09:40 AM
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Me too mate. Goes to show what’s wrong with the world when we think that 💰is more valuable than 💕
/r/MensRights12/03/20 08:00 PM
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You would think that would be the logical counter argument
/r/MensRights12/03/20 07:58 PM
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Someone somewhere thinks your awesome.
/r/MensRights08/03/20 02:24 PM
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Yes, exactly. You understand your parents when you have kids of your own
/r/MensRights07/03/20 07:45 AM
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I don’t like it. Being with your family isn’t the sacrifice, being away from them is If I could choose to stay at home with my kids I would
/r/MensRights06/03/20 08:10 PM
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I’m all for gender equality which is why I find it bizarre that we can admit less man graduate from university then women but we don’t address it, and males are under represented in education and caring roles.
/r/MensRights05/03/20 09:17 PM
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It’s amazing how this idea can even be considered half reasonable. Relationship breakup = criminal act, please report to the police. How do you even begin to define a couple? After the first date, a month, a year... This stuff is really pushing our young men down and telling them they are nothing but one bad day from being a violent criminal...like we are some kind of pet tiger that could go wild at any moment...
/r/MensRights05/03/20 06:58 PM
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Wow.... what a ruling. If this becomes a trend it will further destroy the fabric of the essence of family. People will end up avoiding getting married and having kids. Personally I hate the message of “i sacrificed my career for my family“ which suggests you’d prefer to work than have a family. Families and children are choices, you don’t have to have them. You don’t have to stop working (especially if you have £10M and can afford child care) I work full time and wife stays home because simply …
/r/MensRights01/03/20 09:32 AM
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So the manifesto says: 'who object to being mansplained, talked over, ignored, dismissed, or told to take the minutes or pour the tea, to sit down, be quiet, be nice and decorative, to not make this about gender all the time, are labelled difficult and disingenuous'. Never have I seen this happen. What I have seen is plenty of activity to promote and inspire women, mentoring workshops for women, and women being promoted at a faster rate. In 16years in the workforce, only once has there been a de…
/r/MensRights29/02/20 12:48 PM
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We have a real issue with the absence to male role models, very few male teachers, growing split families with dads ‘lucky’ to have customer once a fortnight. How about we start using this data to balance custody decisions
/r/MensRights29/02/20 11:43 AM
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Good advice, my dad has been gone 10 years. His memory makes me want to be a better dad
/r/MensRights28/02/20 09:11 PM
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Hey mate, I normally try to use disabled toilets or I just take them into the men’s if it’s clean enough. When they were younger I carried wipes and used toilet paper to line the seats. Yes I get weird looks but hey I’m their dad, I love that they need / want my help. And yes that even means wiping bums. Actually nappy change was my favourite as my wife never told me I was doing it wrong or tried to take over and I’d just sing them a song I’d make up and they’d love it
/r/MensRights27/02/20 07:07 PM
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Sorry to hear you were in a violent relationship. You don’t deserve that, no one does. Please don’t see him in the rest of us. We don’t all resort to violence.
/r/MensRights26/02/20 08:51 PM
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Agree. Still a mess regardless of which side of the window you look through
/r/MensRights26/02/20 07:34 PM
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Sorry to hear that, shame on them not you
/r/MensRights26/02/20 07:26 PM
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Because they are 7 and 4.... I’m not waiting outside the youngest still needs help
/r/MensRights26/02/20 07:25 PM
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Yeah do agree, had a male teacher describe what it was like being a male teacher at an all girls high school on swimming carnival day.... Cap pushed down low, clipboard held up high
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:49 PM
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Yeah coz even when when she says something with thought people ridicule here so that her message is lost
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:36 PM
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Hollywood is a mess, time to clean it up
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:30 PM
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Yes mate it’s annoying. I have 2 daughters, going to toilets with them gets you strange looks. FWIW, his is not a new problem,,my dad complained about taking my sister to the toilet 40years ago
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:27 PM
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Sorry mistakenly replied to the higher level comment, rather than yours
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:23 PM
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That could also be sensationalist journalists, could have equality written “failed to provide a valid justification for the pay difference” I look at the balance of my teams pay as part of annual reviews and I always look at how individuals are paid vs their peers and I have a logical reason for steps I take, or don’t, to bridge pay difference. The BBC has no excuse for not having a reason.
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:22 PM
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Everyone has a right to an opinion, so happy to share views. I simply believe it’s become far to convient to label someone with a mental health issue when a crime is committed, Yes the crime is not something a ‘normal’ person would do, but we can say that of almost any crime. I think there is a difference between someone knowingly committing a crime and hurtful act vs a person being in a mental state that inhibits their judgement. As for comparing killings, as stated I don’t get any of it so to …
/r/MensRights24/02/20 09:15 PM
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Ahhh oookkk.. can’t I say I agree with most of this .. Hard to say one unacceptable act is better or worse than another. Also too easy to give this incident a label of ‘mental health issue’ when we just don’t know the situation. Which is a point we both agree on, we need to understand why these acts are happening to even hope to prevent them.
/r/MensRights24/02/20 08:18 PM
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Spot on mate well said. We do have a responsibility to our help our mates
/r/MensRights24/02/20 07:13 PM
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You may be having a laugh but as an Aussie this is another shocking storey. I can’t not fathom how this guy could hurt those he loved. We need to understand what is making men think this is a suitable response so we can help prevent this, I’m including suicide here as I’ve had a few mates take their lives overs the years and have seen the impact on those left behind
/r/MensRights24/02/20 07:06 PM
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I don’t think anyone here condones or minimise this violence, abuse and the murders. As a man, husband and as a father I can not begin to comprehend how / why someone can could do this. I would give my life for my family and I work hard every day to support them. As a result I believe your title is inappropriate as it suggest MRAs do condone this - we don’t. What we are here for is to understand how we help these men / each other. What is causing men to reach these depths that they take lives (t…
/r/MensRights22/02/20 03:27 PM
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I’m assuming the original text is in Romanian and we are getting the translation.
/r/MensRights22/02/20 02:18 PM
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Thank you. I was living in Australia at the time and lucky that my employer offered any parental leave. The majority of men are like me and are devastated to leave their baby and partner, yet it’s a reality we face. The first 3 months is an incredibly difficult time, baby not sleeping much, Mum emotional and high risk of post natal depression, dad also not sleeping but still having to work full time whilst trying to do as much around the house when home and spend time with the new born. It is a …
/r/MensRights11/02/20 09:55 AM
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Men are still expected to fulfill a traditional role. Men have not had the kind of emancipation that women have. Men are expected to be corporate slaves, to go to work, toil away at a 9-5 and for what? Family values are being eroded. Often times a man either has no family to support, or if he does, he either doesn't work hard enough and is too lazy, because apparently he needs to cook, clean AND work a 9-5. OR the man spends too much time working to support his family, and so the wife cheats or …
/r/MensRights10/02/20 08:06 PM
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Thank you for sharing that and I think you are right. It’s seen as ok for gay men to be share emotions and I think they aren’t expected to be as ‘strong’ because they are seen as having more feminine emotions. As the OP said, straight men feel all the same things, it’s just we are expected to carry the emotional weight be the strong one in the family.
/r/MensRights07/02/20 07:56 PM
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I’d be interested in this group sharing their thoughts on the matter. From my perspective as a 40yo family man, I think the expectations on men have gotten really high, we have to be the provider and also do half of everything else, we find it harder to make friends now that neighbourhoods aren’t communities. We are expected to be strong, so we put our feelings last, yet we’re told we should share more.
/r/MensRights01/02/20 08:05 PM
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Personally I’m confused by the label, so my immediate reaction is to be intrigued and want to know how that definition defines you, your views and your actions. What are they?
/r/MensRights31/01/20 10:24 PM
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As a dad, I’ll be teaching my kids that asking for, and sharing naked pictures is not on. I’ve got girls and a boy. Learning about boundaries and respect starts at home.
/r/MensRights26/01/20 05:24 PM
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I agree with this “Manning up” often equals putting up with things,
/r/MensRights25/01/20 04:50 PM
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Great share, as a dad of young kids, two girls and a boy, I do worry about this. And now that most companies set 30% female targets, we will see hiring of graduates skewed more and more to women as we try to balance things up, leaving young boys in their wake
/r/MensRights25/01/20 03:01 PM
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This is no surprise, a women in engineering will be pushed up the latter pretty quickly, especially if she is good.
/r/MensRights24/01/20 10:53 PM
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No worries mate. Thought perhaps you replied whilst still recovering from a big NYE celebration ;)
/r/MensRights02/01/20 07:52 PM
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Not sure what’s upset you, but hope things are ok for you. There is no need for insults and your welcome to offer a different opinion.
/r/MensRights02/01/20 11:18 AM
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So on her part it’s stupid to expect others to do things for her, not on yours part. If you don’t want to do it, don’t. Personally I’m happy holding doors, giving up my seat and helping people - male and female. I feel when each of us is thinking about other people’s need it makes a better world.
/r/MensRights02/01/20 11:16 AM
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Is it stupid to be considerate? No, it makes you a better person. If the other person automatically expects it then they are not well mannered.
/r/MensRights01/01/20 08:06 PM
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I don’t see an issue if she is a single mother than there is no need to mention the father, as he could be living anywhere in the world or be deceased.
/r/MensRights01/01/20 05:15 PM
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Strange reason to do it. Making a decision on your child’s body for someone else’s benefit
/r/MensRights30/12/19 08:09 PM
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Shocking minimisation of the offence because the offender is a women. She was in a position of power and had taken advantage of a minor. Funny how we push for equality, can’t even say ‘man hole’ in some places, but it’s ok to write a story about a convicted female sex offender using ‘striking up a relationship’ like the relationship was on mutual terms
/r/MensRights24/12/19 08:45 PM
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I used to raise money for this, until I realised they celebrated the end of Movember with a booze up, can’t see how that’s good for men’s health. Would rather remind my mates in November to go get an a annual health check up, go for walks at lunch or even eat lunch as a group, rather then at your desk.
/r/MensRights24/12/19 08:34 PM
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There is physical violence and psychological. Having access to your own children restricted and controlled should be recognised as a form of abuse
/r/MensRights06/12/19 08:31 PM
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Need more stories like this out there
/r/MensRights06/12/19 08:05 PM
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Maybe I’m just old school, but in Aus I like the fact they are licensed with the cabby id in the car and the protective screening.
/r/MensRights14/11/19 01:01 PM
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Yes there are much safer options. I’m a 40yo male and the idea of Uber doesn’t sit right with me, would rather spend a few extra bucks and know the person picking me up has had a level of rigour applied to their licensing
/r/MensRights14/11/19 09:53 AM
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Yes they should and it should not require men to be the primary carer. This will do wonders for the family as a unit, and I’d except it will reduce the risk of post natal depression for both parents. Hats off to them
/r/MensRights11/11/19 12:36 AM
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Pretty much, this is putting small businesses under pressure as they can’t show men / females on the door
/r/MensRights02/11/19 07:28 AM
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Well more of this is going to happen as businesses respond to being LGBT inclusive. The alternative is change rooms for each possibility...
/r/MensRights01/11/19 11:48 AM
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How’s it going?
/r/MensRights20/10/19 09:10 AM
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Has she mentioned divorce? If not try talking to her
/r/MensRights11/10/19 07:16 PM
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Sorry to hear that and I’m glad you are still with us and contributing to this group. I hope you have a support network now around you and know that someone out there loves you and would miss you dearly.
/r/MensRights05/10/19 08:10 PM
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I think that is the obvious answer. Yes the women has to carry the baby, if she is given full legal rights on whether to abort, or not, then a man, before the same time in the pregnancy, should be able to wave all legal rights and therefore financial responsibility. That seems fair.
/r/MensRights05/10/19 11:42 AM
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Sorry to hear that. It’s so sad that as a society we are so suspicious of everyone else. This isn’t knew though, Mum tells me dad stopped taking my older sister out with him over 40years ago in Australia because he was worried what people would think if he took her to the bathroom - that in’s 🇦🇺
/r/MensRights26/09/19 07:16 PM
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Your most welcome.
/r/MensRights26/09/19 07:10 PM
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Thanks for sharing, that takes a lot of courage. Keep fighting for that love of your son. He will miss you dearly if you are not in his life. You don’t need to be strong all the time. It’s ok not to be. I feel tired and fatigued a lot too, about to hit 40 and have gone from very active to not much activity in recent years after kids. Your not alone in how you feel
/r/MensRights25/09/19 07:13 PM
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Sorry to say but unless there is a neutral witness, like a teacher or older students, he ain’t getting off. I used to get picked on by a girl in class, when I gave some verbal back and she got upset I got into to trouble. I realised I was better off avoiding it.
/r/MensRights24/09/19 07:42 PM
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I was responding to the quote saying men are less interested in making new friends. I don’t think that has anything to do with women. But is does have a lot to do with the fact that more men are at full time work then women, meaning our social network is smaller.
/r/MensRights22/09/19 09:01 AM
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That’s great man that you have the bike to work on through your dark thoughts. Have you joined a motorcycle club? Do you get it out much? I try to get out every week or so, even if it’s just commuting to work.
/r/MensRights21/09/19 09:10 PM
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Less opportunity, don’t think it has anything to do with women. If most of men’s social network is through work it’s not surprising we don’t make more friends. I’d say in the last 5 years I’ve probably added 2-3 friends through work but unfortunately none of them I still live near
/r/MensRights21/09/19 07:32 PM
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I’m not worried about that, I’ve cried with my wife when I lost dad. She can be very sympathetic in that regard. I’ll explain what I mean when I said she won’t understand. We had 3 kids in 3 years and she has been a stay at home mum for the last 7 years. In that time we’ve also lived in 2 countries and 3 cities. So she doesn’t have friends and has been isolated. It’s been hard on her and she has been struggling with mild depression, which is why she is now seeing a physiologist. So she has had i…
/r/MensRights21/09/19 07:25 PM
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Do you have any outlets/hobbies? I’ve started getting active in the car scene before the winter and the odd Sunday morning bike ride. Does feel a bit selfish getting away, but It helps me recharge
/r/MensRights21/09/19 07:15 PM
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College does that too you, but man what a time in your life! I made some great friends in my college days that I still feel really connected to when we cross paths. Yeah I love cars. Didn’t buy a corvette but did buy what you’d call a Pontiac GTO, Australian coupe with a Chevy 6.0l. Also got a 1970 restored car, but that’s in storage in Oz and I’m in the UK at the moment.
/r/MensRights21/09/19 07:11 PM
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Thanks mate, I don’t think she’ll leave me, more that I don’t think she would understand as she is going through her own stuff which she is seeing a therapist for. I spoken to a therapist before, after my dad suffered a major stroke and was hospitalised and some years later after dad and my uncle passed in the space of 6months. It helped and my wife was great then. It’s now I’m hitting 40 and I understand what a midlife crisis is, last 8 years has been all about work / family. I’ve moved a few t…
/r/MensRights21/09/19 03:30 PM
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I’ve joined a car clubs for the same reason and starting to make friends this way. I used to cycle with my buddies but I’ve moved around so much and with work and young kids it’s all dropped off.
/r/MensRights21/09/19 02:40 PM
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You ok buddy? Send a pm if you need to reach out. I certainly feel isolated at times and my wife wonders why I don’t talk about what’s going on? How do I tell her I don’t want to add to the stuff she is dealing, and don’t feel she’ll understand
/r/MensRights21/09/19 02:36 PM
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Males are leaving the education system because they feel uncomfortable dealing with female students and the difference in acceptable contact. It’s a worry because we now have a high number of single mom families where kids aren’t getting a good male role model. I wonder if a push for equality will see men paid more that their female colleagues to attract them to the role, and men pushed through for promotion in the same way women in STEM are.
/r/MensRights18/09/19 07:13 PM
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One of my staff is going through this now, disgrace. He even went to the cops prior to say she is getting nasty and likely to make a false claim and they turned him away.... and then she did as expected. He did send me several emails on this so that I can support this case if needed.
/r/MensRights18/09/19 06:27 PM
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By that token let’s lower the requirements for men to get custody of their kids to increase numbers of single dad families
/r/MensRights30/08/19 05:07 PM
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I don’t know who that is so I’d say no too. Good on him
/r/MensRights28/08/19 07:09 PM
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Yeah I do not get actually and if we aspired to and worked towards improving ourselves them percentage of those exhibiting poor social behaviour would be much reduced
/r/MensRights21/08/19 06:35 PM
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I wouldn’t have started and ended that sentence with ‘smile a bit’ but would make sure I day that to blokes as well as women, The ‘young and beautiful’ doesn’t sound right and isn’t necessary.
/r/MensRights20/08/19 07:02 PM
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Understand your point but I’d like to thing we are better than that and can have the good without the bad
/r/MensRights20/08/19 06:05 PM
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I completely agree with you and I think we need to flip this on its it’s head and use the term to call out things that are the most negative to men’s health. For example: assuming fathers are not as competent parents as mothers and therefore skewing custody rights to women telling men to man up and ignore the impact of financial pressures fairer paternity leave so dads can spend some time with their newborns ending the stories of girls are princesses that need help and men are knights / princess…
/r/MensRights19/08/19 09:17 PM
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We need to talk about it more - it’s our duty as men to define what the desired behaviours are and call out the non desired behaviours.
/r/MensRights19/08/19 09:09 PM
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Splitting chores should mean pulling your weight in the marriage. But any successful relationship knows it’s not 50/50 all the times, sometimes is 100/0. That’s just how it is. If you work your butt off, I’d expect you don’t have time for half the house chores. If you’ve just given birth and are caring for young kids, I don’t expect you’d do the same amount of payed work either,
/r/MensRights19/08/19 09:04 PM
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• ⁠Heroic self-sacrifice I wouldn’t call that toxic masculinity. The word toxic suggests undesirable behaviours. I get your point though we should talk more about what ‘good looks like’ then what’s its not.
/r/MensRights19/08/19 08:57 PM
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I’ve had male college’s and family friends commit suicide and I would describe them as gentlemen and could not associate any of the topic ‘is’ list with them. Good on you for standing up - we need voices like you to speak up and call out bad behaviour. The causes behind male suicide needs much more attention as it’s truly alarming that us men are most at threat from ourselves. Toxic masculinity is: - telling boys that are crying to ‘stop being a girl’ - telling a bloke who is sad/ depressed to ‘…
/r/MensRights19/08/19 08:51 PM
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All you can do is keep being a great friend and let him know he has options. Hopefully he gains confidence from that and moves on
/r/MensRights17/08/19 02:08 PM
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I agree completely. Need to start showing more images of good dads.
/r/MensRights14/08/19 08:50 PM
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Thank you for saying that. I was pretty teary watching that talk and plan to watch it again in a few days.
/r/MensRights12/08/19 08:17 PM
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Wow. That’s a powerful speech. Makes me think of so many things. As a father to 3 kids, I know I have a huge role towards the confidence my girls develop and the way my son expresses his feelings. The facts presented really support that. The problems we are having with male suicide, domestic violence and substance abuse and the link to a lack of good male role models, which we need to be to each other as much as our kids. Finally to my late father. He had me late in life and was retired before I…
/r/MensRights11/08/19 09:10 PM
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Funny how we are reaching a point where can’t use male and female images on bathrooms, but this is ok...
/r/MensRights10/08/19 05:45 PM
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Make a plan and get out.
/r/MensRights10/08/19 05:44 PM
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Having known people that were in the police in SA and had to flee due to the death threats from citizens, I think SA is for more complex that guns laws Look I don’t expect that either of us will change opinions on gun ownership, and that wasn’t the point of my initial comment. My point was innocent people do not need to die as a results of those laws. It should be demanded that people exercise their right to bear arms in a manner that does not impact the civil liberties of their fellow man. If t…
/r/MensRights08/08/19 05:06 PM
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Yes I am serious. These deaths are not lost fighting for liberty, they did not need to happen to protect your gun laws. Suggesting the deaths of these innocent people is an unacceptable cost towards liberty overlooks the senseless violence and is disrespectful to the memory of those lost. And when you refer to what history tells us, are you talking about the American Revolution and Civil Wars? They seem to be the most recent two times when American citizens needed to bear arms to protect their f…
/r/MensRights08/08/19 07:57 AM
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I don’t think I made my point correctly. The deaths would be a ‘cost in the pursuit of liberty’ if lost as a result of fighting a corrupt government or military. That’s not the case - they are senseless deaths that have a negative effect on the liberty of citizens by striking fear and uncertainty into many and limiting their ability to pursue their own interests. I’ve lived in 2 civilised countries where the legal system and our political rights vote is used keep order. In these society the acce…
/r/MensRights07/08/19 08:38 PM
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“... I still believe some mass shooting is an acceptable price to pay for liberty” Ummm... the lives are not a ‘price’ towards liberty. They were not lost defending lands or liberating people’s. There is no reason for these innocent deaths. There living in fear at the hands of your fellow man is not ‘liberty’ no good has come from this
/r/MensRights07/08/19 06:43 PM
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Interesting, team sports I assume? What sports did you play? As a kid I played cricket and loved being part of team. All my kids are doing martial arts to learn discipline, that skills are mastered through practise and dedication and for self defence. Team sports will come when they are older (all under 7j
/r/MensRights07/08/19 02:58 PM
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I think that proverb is very relevant. men are feeling disconnected from society for a variety of reasons. It’s why in many western countries the mostly likely cause of death for a man is at his own hands. It can only be a good thing then the journalist is shinning a light and asking the question why? We need to find an answer or there will be more violence and more deaths,
/r/MensRights06/08/19 06:40 PM
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There is a reality we need to face which has me quite worried as a man and a father of a young boy. For some reason we’ve reached a point in time where men express there emotions through acts of violence: Shootings Domestic abuse Suicide How do we help out brothers out there?
/r/MensRights06/08/19 06:23 PM
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Our government is full or corrupt greasy hand grubs
/r/MensRights03/08/19 12:29 PM
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Spot on. I apply the same policy in construction industry, my contribution to the gender diversity is to give my female applicants and team members every opportunity to shine when interviewing for roles. Once in the team I push for them to have a mentor as I find women in my team often undervalue their own skills,which holds them back.
/r/MensRights03/08/19 09:00 AM
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Disgusting... should not have been able to downgrade to manslaughter.
/r/MensRights26/07/19 09:58 PM
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Respect...
/r/MensRights26/07/19 09:57 PM
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Done, update your title as any UK resident can complete. I’m a EU citizen resident in the UK and therefore able to complete
/r/MensRights26/07/19 12:47 PM
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Unfortunately that is also the laws view. The assumption being if you are erect you are consenting. On the other a women does not need to be wet. Outdated laws
/r/MensRights26/07/19 12:43 PM
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My local sport team run a men’s health campaign and partnered with work to deliver a series of workshops. Absolutely brilliant Highlight was a female colleague attended one of the sessions and get very emotional at the open conversation- she wanted to support her brother better. Hats off to your emplyer
/r/MensRights23/07/19 08:42 PM
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The language is the article is appalling. Claiming she was ‘a hunting trophy’ turns the 37yo into the victim. The article would not have be written the same way if the minor was a female and the older partner male
/r/MensRights23/07/19 08:33 PM
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I get the concern and it’s a real hard one. I just think the more people withhold good dead’s the less normal it is to be nice to others
/r/MensRights27/06/19 07:19 PM
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As a man hitting the big 4 0 this years, it’s not just females of your generation. When I was your age and single I had a rule I called 24, if I assumed a women was under 24 I would not even try talking. Why you ask? Well women that young have almost ever male in there lives hit on them, they have no trouble finding a date / boyfriend / hookup. Therefore they don’t really know the difference between a decent guy and a gerk, looks are higher priority. An older women has probably had 1-2 break ups…
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:38 PM
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At the end of the day, don't harbor resentment, embrace opportunities to make this world a little better one small act at a time. That's how we evolve and grow as a population. Well said mate. Be happy knowing you tried to help.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:30 PM
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That’s how I roll as well
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:28 PM
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Spot on mate, best advice so far.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:24 PM
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Stay the nice guy you’ve always been and make the world a nicer place. Those little niceties can have a big impact on someone
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:22 PM
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Yes - all we have our values and our morales, if you allow what other people may think change who you are, you may not be happy with who you become. I often offer to help to people I struggling with bags if I have a free hand to help with. I’ve had a few ‘no’s’ from women and mostly ‘yes please’ When I was flying weekly for work with a busted arm I was always so grateful to those that offered me help with my overhead luggage. Great question that promoted good replies
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:20 PM
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I’m glad this is being debated publicly. I think this statement implies the ‘man as a superhero symbol’ , where we are just expected to run into battle, have no fear and feel no pain. I would be really interested to know if the repressed feelings are behind the high suicide rates we have in many western societies and the increase male violence back home in Australia
/r/MensRights25/06/19 08:03 PM
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I’m really torn by this because my first thought is it’s just not worth helping anyone else.... but then I think how bad of a world would we be living if it nobody helped each other? I don’t want to become the person that doesn’t show compassion to others. I also disliked liked that both when this story first aired and now, the males version of events are never told. We only hear the negative accusations and that a person can be jailed based on accusations with no witnesses or evidence.
/r/MensRights25/06/19 07:45 PM
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