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RANTmiaowkitty/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:33 AM
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I think I have picked wrong guys, prioritizing something else than sexual compatibility, because I don't want to be too "picky" and wind up alone with 10 cats. More advice is welcome, because to be honest once a week would only be a compromise for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:47 PM
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Yeah that's the problem, a high sex drive man wouldn't be happy with just one woman. And getting unenthusiastic sex once a week isn't worth it for me. I could do with enthusiastic sex once a week though, if I have to compromise, which seems very likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:18 PM
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I'm a high sex drive woman who wants a LTR, and the problem for me has been that I just haven't been able to find a man who matches my sex drive. Even if I want to give him my best, he's not really into receiving it. I initiate sex often and he gets self conscious about that and even starts to feel a grudge towards me. Of course I ask about the guy's sex drive before doing anything, but I think men generally want to say "I want sex often" because they are expected to say that, and they want to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:26 AM
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I'm going to be the only one here I guess, but him putting effort into the relationship as much as I do, sounds good to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:20 AM
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I think that has something to do with female hormonal system. Of course it doesn't apply to all women, but generally, if she's relatively stable, it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:13 AM
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It's usually some kind of consistent behaviour that doesn't change. I was in an online relationship with a guy who I was first attracted to. He started criticizing me about some of my messages not being long enough, and I took it as a joke at first. However, the small criticisms about different things just continued and I tried to explain that I'm an introvert and my social skills are not the best but I'm trying. It wasn't like my messages were one word but I just couldn't always keep the convo …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:47 PM
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Yes, I think abnormally high voice would be a big problem for a man. There's high-ish and soft voice that can be pleasant, but then there is squeaky voice that would sure cause big problems when dating, because it's not considered masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 08:29 PM
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That is definitely true for me. Voice also matters a lot. Obviously there is the looks threshold, but passing that doesn't make the attraction happen, for me it's how he talks and his voice. Male and female sexuality are just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 02:01 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately that's true. My ex had a high n, and he was jaded, disgusted with sex and there wasn't much sex in the relationship. I also know a guy who had many hookups, was very anxious but then became religious. I don't think there are many people who are happy with that lifestyle in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:47 AM
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I'm definitely not a doomer, just a realist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:29 PM
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I need to think about that and figure out something new, because I have single hobbies like video games, gym and hiking. Maybe I need to get into some tabletop rpg circles or something haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:42 AM
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That sounds like a good idea, but in my country it would be considered extremely weird if a woman would approach a random guy at university, in the street or a place like that. Not that I wouldn't want to do that, but that would be off the norm. What do you think I should say, ask him if he's single and if he wants to go for a date? I have thought about doing that from time to time, but thought it would be very atypical in this culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:23 AM
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I don't even like traditionally handsome or very successful men if I use dating apps, because it just feels like there's no point even chatting with a guy who's way beyond my league. He wouldn't stay with me anyway, so why waste time with a guy like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:17 AM
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This guy gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 08:18 PM
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Correlation is not the same as causality. What is more interesting is to think about the underlying causes, things like trauma or BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:27 AM
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Basically, marry a person you would still want to live with as a friend and raise the kids together if the romantic side of the marriage doesn't work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 06:58 PM
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It at least reminds us that the human brain is not fully developed until 25 years of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:40 PM
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Well said. The more attractive the woman is, the more careful she has to be, because there are so much men around her, and she needs to be aware how to vet them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:38 PM
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Check this out, in this kind of rating tables 6 is already noticeably attractive: https://imgur.com/1EpSoNB
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 01:24 PM
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No, 5/10 are invisible, because they are average, and that's the most people. 6/10 is already above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 01:01 PM
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It's probably about opinion too, because for me a guy who is cute, is also hot, but not every hot guy is cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 11:33 AM
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Clearly above average is often considered hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 10:44 AM
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The guy is around 6/10, therefore he's doing pretty well and wouldn't have problem getting dates with his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 09:58 AM
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He was definitely above average - because there are actually objective standards of beauty whether or not you personally think so or not - enough so to be called hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 09:57 AM
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Yeah I mean Elliot Rodger was straight up hot, but his toxic personality sure scared normal women away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 04:16 PM
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He could be handsome if he had better posture (it looks terrible in photos) and in general took better care of himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah, like the opposite of a doomer is a bloomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 02:04 PM
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• Emotional stability, also known as low neuroticism. No rage fits, passive aggressivity, endless drama about everything. Emotional stability encompasses a lot, so I'm not going to list everything. • Has empathy and sympathy. • Mutual attraction. Healthy attitude to sexuality and intimacy. • Employed the most of the time. If he earns less than me, that's fine, but if he's unemployed long term, there's something else going on. • Strives to be a better person, is interested in improving himself. •…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 01:55 PM
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Trying to stay optimistic in the fucked up world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 06:50 PM
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Not everyone is pretty or handsome. But I want to be attracted to him, and want him to be attracted to me. It wouldn't be fair any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 04:17 PM
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Lmao, my worst was when a guy said on the first (and only) date "did I forget to mention that I'm in a relationship, that we are polyamorous?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:09 AM
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When I was a kid, I went to online chats and pretended to be a guy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:07 AM
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When she's not fat enough, that's also one. I got so much shit about that when I was a teenager, and it was never from the girls. On the contrary, one girl tried to comfort me after some guy was shouting at me because I was thin.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:31 AM
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Yeah definitely this!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 07:28 AM
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Now that I'm at it, women also have them asymptomatic more likely, and they can more easily cause infertility to women than for men. So in general the risk/benefit ratio in casual sex is way different for women than for men. https://nefhealthystart.org/for-men-seven-ways-stds-affect-men-and-women-differently/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:13 PM
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No, but actually women contract STDs easier than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:10 PM
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The risk of getting raped, getting pregnant, getting STDs, being called a slut because of having casual sex... I don't find that a privilege. So called sex positive liberal feminists and men's right activists have made it seem like "empowering" and "liberating", but the truth is that casual sex is a loss for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:35 AM
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Yeah, but to be honest men put really bad photos of themselves on online dating apps and sites - double chin angle, bad light, too close to their face and so on. I think that might be the reason they were considered lower than average in that infamous OkCupid experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 04:28 PM
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Not often, but if I go to a fantasy/scifi convention there might be a few lol. But really, most guys in their twenties look pretty good to me, and guys my age (early 30s) look average. Losing weight wouldn't make them worse, just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 04:24 PM
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Yes, that's how it goes in mature adult relationships. I'm not saying that kind of relationship is easy to find though. But generally I have noticed people have pretty low standards and they don't even notice that. It's understandable, because self-actualisation needs some life experience, so in your early twenties you're probably unconfident and confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 05:59 AM
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Companionship, physical intimacy and sex. Family, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 06:20 PM
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Is that your real life experience? Do your social circles consist of very attractive people? I'm asking, because I know so many average women who have an average boyfriend who earns the same amount or less. On the other hand, I have noticed that very attractive alpha women want a guy who earns significantly more than her. But that is a minority. The most people are just average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 04:08 PM
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Usually when people are asked what is the most important thing in a partner, they rarely say "looks", and shame people who do think so. I find this very weird, because looks are always the first thing people consider. You're not an option, if you don't pass the threshold. OP is right about good looking guys usually having better personality. Good looking people are more likely to be successful, other people react to them more positively and so on. They have no reason to be desperate in dating, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:48 AM
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It's good to see that there are men who admit how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:45 AM
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None of them. I know some women who have cheated in the past but they are not my friends. One is very attractive and used to have a big ego because of that. Men forgived her because she is so attractive. The other one had a problem with alcohol but doesn't drink anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 06:30 AM
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Exactly. Cheating is a choice, and it's a choice made by people with low morals, no respect and no real ability to connect emotionally with one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 08:19 AM
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This! I was seeing a guy who thought satisfying a woman is "bOrInG." I can't believe I still gave him a chance and thought I could teach him to be a better lover. He just didn't want to. He was very stuck up about sex, zero interest to try new things or even do the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:08 AM
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I might be a bit naive asking this, but wouldn't this be prevented by carefully vetting your partner to find out if they are able to compromise and work together in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 07:28 AM
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Nobody is perfect, so you just have to decide what kind of flaws you can tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 07:01 AM
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Not much actually, just some old BDSM style photos but mostly "normal" sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:09 PM
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It would make me feel I have seriously failed as a parent, so I would most likely blame myself. If I had children, I would do my best to give them resources to become as successful as possible (social skills, confidence, work ethics, family values).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 07:13 AM
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That's true, but old porn magazines are less hardcore than stuff you find from internet nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:59 AM
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Yeah that is actually disgusting and childish behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 07:40 AM
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Insecure men. What comes with insecurity is emotional lability, passive aggressiveness and dramatic behavior. People who move from one crisis to another. People who claim they have to be in an open relationship or be polyamorous because otherwise they will cheat. This is a big one. People who strongly dislike children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 07:20 AM
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I have also noticed this. My social circle consists of geeky people, and the couples are on the same level of attractiveness. My geeky female friends value intelligence and similar interests more than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:56 AM
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If more women had this view and they refused casual sex, would TRP men actually find it a positive change? I don't know if you are TRP man, but what would you think about the situation where women had higher standards and wouldn't engage casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 09:53 AM
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Female.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 09:44 AM
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No, they don't want to end up as emotionally traumatized single mothers, which is the inevitable consequence of TRP. Young women just are too naive to see past the SJW sex positivity propaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 09:39 AM
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Negging is a turn off for me, because it makes me wonder what is wrong with this guy. Low self esteem, borderline personality? Straightforwardness and honesty are signs of confidence to me, and women obviously value it. Negging only works if a woman has low self esteem and mental health issues. I've known or met several women who fall into those tricks, and every single one of them had mental health issues. If that's what you want, you need to raise your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:10 AM
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