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| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 28, 2021OYS 24 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 150.5 lbs, body fat: 12-13% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 147.5 lbs (x5), DL: 255 lbs (x6), Sq: 200 lbs (x8), OHP: 95 lbs (x5) This is my first OYS in eight weeks. I realized that my last few entries were mostly thinking and whining. I had an insight into my victimhood mindset but was still playing the victim and that was pervading everything I was doing here. In short, my posts were a waste of my time and that of anyone reading them, so I removed mysel… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/09/21 11:54 AM |
| 8 | Wanting to explode when STFU?No one is here to help you. But if you’re lucky and if you can put aside your ego, you might get something that will help you help yourself. | /r/askMRP | 21/08/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021you're still hung up and you're still comparing yourself to others. None of that shit matters, and you know that, but it doesn't seem like you believe it yet. I only mentioned my neighbor illustratively to make that exact point. It's normal to compare ourselves to other people but it's unproductive to dwell in or hide behind my perceived deficiencies. You're right that this is just an insight for me at the moment. First step is to stop getting down on myself and making excuses. True mindset chan… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/21 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021Yeah, I get what you’re saying. My point was that I just can’t get hung up on what I don’t have. I don’t actually think I am completely ugly, I just wish I was a lot better looking than I am. I can get so hung up on that that it feels hopeless to try to become as attractive as I can personally be. My neighbor across the street, for example, looks like a blond Chris Evans. All he has to do is stay in reasonably good shape and he looks fucking amazing. No matter how jacked I get or how I dress, et… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 03, 2021OYS 23 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 152 lbs, body fat: 14%-15% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 137.5 lbs (x5), DL: 245 lbs (x6), Sq: 190 lbs (x6), Row: 150 lbs (x10), OHP: 90 lbs (x5) A couple months ago I realized that I have a victimhood mindset that is holding me back in a big way and that insight was hugely important. Over these past few weeks I’ve seen I’m not over it and have had several opportunities to observe how pervasive it really is. First example: a coworker recently took a sho… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/08/21 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021I essentially stopped seeking out [affection] for myself I'm kind of where you are too, so I'm going to ask you what I'm asking myself right now: What are you going to do about the fact that you want or expect affection from your relationship and aren't getting it? What I mean is: assuming you're not just seeking validation through affection and that affection is what you want and expect from the woman in your life, how are you dealing with the fact that you don't have that? Are you waiting it o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/21 11:27 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 13, 2021OYS 22 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 154 lbs, body fat: 16-17% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 135 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, Sq: 175 lbs, Row: 140 lbs, OHP: 90 lbs (GSLP) We spent last week with the family visiting my in-laws out of state. There were way too many people at the house and too few bathrooms, no privacy, etc., so I sprung for a hotel for me and my wife. Our second night there, we got back to the hotel pretty late but I really wanted to fuck. I knew it was probably not going to happen be… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/21 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021You never tell your wife where you will be at any time? Edit: just saw you’re not married. Phrasing the question differently: what validation was I seeking in telling my wife where I would be for four hours on a Saturday? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021Yeah, this makes sense. “It’s here and it’s secure and handled” is a better position. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/21 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021Yeah, if I wanted one I do think I would buy one. I haven’t given it a lot of thought, but I think I would approach her from a position like “I am planning to buy a gun and I want to work with you to find a way to ease your discomfort with that.” I’m not the kind of person who is going to have one under my pillow or something, so my conversation would probably be explaining why it is more cost effective to purchase a gun than to rent one at the range, telling her about trigger locks and safes, e… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/06/21 03:35 AM |
| 11 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 29, 2021OYS 21 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 153.5 lbs, body fat: 16%-17% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 145 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, Sq: 185 lbs, Row: 145 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) I took a pistol shooting class over the weekend. I’m not really a “gun guy” but I’ve always wanted to learn to handle and use them. Seems like one of those basic things a man should know how to do, like knowing how to drive a stick, paint a room, bait and cast a fishing rod, etc. It was a lot of fun and got me out of the house f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/06/21 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Thanks for the refresher. I assure you I am not about to go "Active". I always just feel a bit impatient when I have a breakthrough of some kind here. Will continue to play it cool. For any newbs reading this and wondering who "J10" is, here's a link to the post Steel is referencing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/06/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Muh excuses. I have 6.5” wrists, low T, anaemia, other shit too long to mention and I still managed to become the dominant form of life on the planet. OK, fair criticism. Good to know I'm probably not physically defective, just mentally defective. drop everything to 20 reps and keep adding enough weight each week that you’d drop one rep (about 5%) ... This is interesting, thank you! I might give this a try next week and see how it feels. When you say increase 5% each week, do you mean increase t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Fair enough. Thanks for taking the time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Right now I've switched bench press from 3x5 to 5x3 and that got me up to 150 lbs (barely) but I don't know if that's actually helping me or not. I used to do a couple added AMRAP sessions every week at ~75% of my 3x5 weight to get some more training in without hurting myself but people said that was too much and would fuck up my recovery so I stopped that. I just read something the other day about certain accessory lifts you can add to help shore up a weak BP (e.g., inclined/seated press) so I'… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021When you first benched six months ago, what were your lifts? I started around 90 lbs or so because SL 5x5 wants you to start low. It didn't start getting difficult until I got to about 130 lbs. That was four months ago and I've yet to manage 3x5 at 145 lbs. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021You might want to try cycling calories, with workout days at least maintenance. Honestly at that size I would probably make the whole week isocaloric but you could maintain a small deficit if you must. I've thought about that. Goal was to get to a respectable bf% as quickly as possible and follow a traditional bulk/cut cycle after that, but maybe that's unnecessary at novice level? Your lifts suck. You are doing it wrong. Do you have any history of athleticism? How would you rate your effort? Ar… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021I know... but I started at 16% bf and at 20% bf last month I was starting to look like a lump of shit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021Why are you wanting to change your program? Your numbers aren't bad but they're still beginner numbers. I didn't expect to be jacked already but I've been at this for six months (not counting the five months of mostly useless dumbbell work I did before that) and as far as I can tell I've only gained six to seven pounds of lean mass, which seems low given some of the reports from others in MRP. Maybe I just have unrealistic expectations. I'm also really surprised that all of my lifts have plateau… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021I know some guys here learn about stoicism and if that works for you great, I need to be more in touch with my emotions. Stoicism (in the philosophical sense) is not about avoiding or suppressing emotion. It is about recognizing your emotional state, dealing with it appropriately, and reconditioning oneself over time to eliminate unskillful emotional reactions. A Stoic might say something like... emotions can be rational or irrational, depending on whether the object of the emotion warrants the … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021I don't see anything in your OYS about why you're here. What are you looking to change in your life? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 01:01 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 15, 2021OYS 20 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 154.5 lbs, body fat: 18%-19% (cutting) Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 145 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, Sq: 200 lbs, Row: 137.5 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) Last week I wrote about finally letting go of victimhood. I don’t know how I was able to finally flip that switch but the difference is night and day. I can’t describe how much lighter I feel. Surprisingly, the hardest part has been forgiving myself. I realize that since starting MRP I’ve come to see myself as a vict… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/06/21 12:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 01, 2021She has an amazing technique of "I'm not feeling well" / "I'm pissed at you" tuned up to 11. Basically when we had a plan set in advance, she just drops it in the morning, tells me she just won't do anything and stay in bed. ... and she just does that. I've called her bluff a few times, or confronted her, does not change a thing. So if I don't want my kids to be left alone in their room I take care of them. Of course, this fucks my whole day. And of course, before covid's flexible work arrangeme… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/21 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021You "almost responded" until you realized you could protect your ego with an ad hominem deflection instead. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/21 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021The other day, a guy tried to chat me up at a kid's practice, but I was content with watching and meditating, so I simply didn't respond to him. I looked right at him, and he kept at me, but I never flinched. I wasn't trying to be a dick; I just didn't want to stroke his ego or mine with chit chat at the moment. Was very relaxing. WTF? Did you actually just stare like a mute retard at a guy who was being friendly? You're acting like this was some kind of shit test. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/21 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021Ran out of room in main post for this last section: Social This one needs work. I have no social life to speak of outside of home and work. I mentioned above that I’m looking for groups on meetup.com. I’m also thinking about where I might want to do some volunteer work. I don’t have anything concrete yet, but this is something I will continue to track in my OYS going forward because it’s going to be really important to my development. In the meantime, one of the guys on my team at work is hostin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/06/21 11:53 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 08, 2021OYS 19 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 155 lbs, body fat: 18%-19% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 150 lbs, DL: 235 lbs, Sq: 200 lbs, Row: 135 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) Well, shit. I did a second round of labs to confirm my low T numbers from the first test and this time I got a result of over 600 ng/dL total T; well within normal range. All other factors were normal too. I did not expect that. The urologist couldn’t explain it other than to say maybe the first test just came in low because I did… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/06/21 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 18, 2021OYS 18 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 159.5 lbs, body fat: ~19% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 142.5 lbs, DL: 220 lbs, Sq: 195 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) In my last OYS a couple weeks ago, I realized I need to work more on Vision. I went through this a few months ago after some inspiration from EasyDaysHardNights but it obviously did not sink in because I managed a Rule 9 ban just a few weeks later. Reading through my last several OYS, it’s clear I’ve been circling around this and not really mo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021Here’s the deal: when I signed the contract, there was this clause that said that the hourly rate would be 5% less after 6 months, and another 5% after 12 months (total). I’m now employed 12 months with them, so I’ve taken a cut of 10% of my hourly rate, and would like to get this back. For what reason, other than utter desperation, would you accept a deal like this? Do you, in fact, provide less value over time? If you do not negotiate for scheduled rate increases in your upcoming renegotiation… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/21 05:02 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021I’m going to expand my focus to diet/nutrition tracking a bit because I’m almost certainly not eating enough right now. At 20-24% body fat you are too fat to start bulking. Just keep doing your lifts and slim down. You won't gain muscle as fast, but there is still plenty of room in your lifts before you need to worry about eating more. Sleep: Not good enough this week, average was down from 7.25 hours a night the previous week to 7 this week. Seven hours is a pretty reasonable amount of sleep. A… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/21 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 04, 2021OYS 17 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 161 lbs, body fat: ~20% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 142.5 lbs, DL: 210 lbs, Sq: 195 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) I’ve been neck deep in TRT research this week to make sure I fully understand what I’m getting into and what I need to manage. I asked my doctor for more tests to get some baseline numbers. That’s not something I would have done before having read NMMNG because I would have been worried - possibly even to the detriment of my health - that I migh… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/21 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021Thanks, this is great! Terre d’Hermés - I had the Parfum as one of my first colognes when I started. The vibe was mostly "older guy." I got tired of it and traded it. I am wearing this for the first time today and I get the same impression. It's not "me". Too woody. I will also recommend trying: - Versace Eros - everyone who has smelled this said "Wow!" - Versace Dylan Blue - very popular, women love it too. - YSL Y EDP - very fresh, also very popular. I'll check those out too. Along with th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/21 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 27, 2021OYS 16 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 164 lbs, body fat: ~20% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 140 lbs, DL: 205 lbs, Sq: 190 lbs, OHP: 95 lbs (GSLP) Got my labs back last week from my physical. Almost everything looks great and my cholesterol dropped 20 points and out of the “borderline high” category. I can’t be sure but I credit lifting and cleaning up my diet. I did get a sub-300 total Testosterone reading, confirming my suspicions. My GP is willing to put me on TRT. I’ve asked for a few mo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/21 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021Wow, thanks for that link. I hadn't read that exchange before, but Maui's description of the struggle really resonates. I am alone - and while in some ways that's amazing, freedom, etc... it is also very lonely. That BP Nice Guy inside me is slowly realizing the more time passes and the more real external examples he sees that there is no equal partnership, there is no one to lean on in hard times and there never will be. Women only want you because you're the Oak in the Storm, not because they … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/21 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021Great section on validation seeking. Thanks. I've been thinking a lot about what you told me a couple weeks ago and putting it into practice as much as I can. It's helped a lot. Nice little CC. Maybe so. The reason I stopped wearing cologne in the first place was because my wife would make comments like "why are you wearing cologne?? We're just going to X" or "Who are you planning to see while you're out??" And because I was such a nice guy retard it never occurred to me to just poke a little fu… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/04/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 20, 2021OYS 15 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 163 lbs, body fat: ~19% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 15 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 140 lbs, DL: 200 lbs, Sq: 185 lbs, OHP: 97.5 lbs Last week I talked about external validation, my lack thereof, and some changes I’m making to avoid validation seeking behavior. This week, oddly, I’m dealing with an abundance of external validation. My wife has been way more affectionate with me over the past week than she’s been in some time. I don’t know what b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/04/21 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021Have you read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson? As you practice giving less fucks about your wife’s frame/validation, it could help to also practice giving more fucks about the shit that’s meaningful to your frame (& within your control). You’ll likely find yourself self-validating more as you meet your goals. No, I haven’t read that one yet, but it’s actually next on the list. I definitely need my own internal yardstick to measure myself against. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/21 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021That's a fair challenge. Right now it's mostly a process of mindset change. Here's an example I left out of my OYS to avoid triggering Rule 9. My wife came in while I was changing clothes and made a lighthearted joke that I must be running out of pants that fit me, since I've lost so much weight over the past few months. The thing is, I've gained over 15 lbs in the five months since I started lifting seriously and she thought I was getting thinner! It made me think "fuck, I've done all this work… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/04/21 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 13, 2021OYS 14 Stats mid 40s, 5’9”, 162 lbs, body fat: ~19% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 14 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 140 lbs, DL: 195 lbs, Sq: 180 lbs, OHP: 97.5 lbs Sea-tease reminded me last week how far I still have to go on the way to outcome independence and self-validation. The loneliness of all this has been the hardest part to get used to. Having to stop myself searching for external validation to shore up my insecurities feels like being alone in a boat in the middle o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/04/21 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021It's not an out and it's not an excuse. Just voicing a frustration, I guess. I am a small, skinny person. My wrists are fucking 6.4" around. I don't actually know my potential, fair enough, so I suppose I am probably talking out of my ass. But even if all I can ever achieve is a fraction of what many of you guys are able to do, I will continue to push toward whatever I can get. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021For one, I’ll be asking for a hormone panel at my physical next week. There are a number of things going on that make me suspect low T, among these is the feeling that “the gains” aren’t where they should be. Starting from scratch in my forties I certainly don’t expect to get jacked overnight, but everything I’m reading online suggests I should be further along than I am after five months of diligent lifting. Second, I need to get my accessory lifts squared away. I throw them in kind of randomly… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/04/21 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021I didn’t really mean I was looking to “share my gifts with the world”. It was more about getting out of my head and being more present. My head is so full of MAP and STFU and “I need to do X” and “I need to stop doing Y” that I end up just closing myself off, which of course is not the point of any of this at all. That said, everything in your comment is spot on. I am struggling like hell with OI and self-validation. I don’t know why I’m having so much trouble with that. It’s a pretty simple con… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/04/21 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 06, 2021OYS 13 Stats mid 40s, 5’9”, 161 lbs, body fat: ~19% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 13 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 135 lbs, DL: 190 lbs, Sq: 175 lbs, OHP: 92.5 lbs Several deloads last week. My squats took the biggest hit; I recorded myself and discovered I’d been going a little too shallow and had to drop about 20 lbs. to get low enough. It’s all really discouraging, but I know I’ll get there. Bought straps for my deadlifts because my hands are now giving out before my back.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/04/21 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Dread QuestionIt’s not really an either-or thing. If you read up on Dread, it’s really just about building up your value, then demonstrating your value in a way that makes people desire your time and attention. You’ll see some of the smart guys here say that Dread is FOMO. So by all means, “do dread”. Lift, pass shit tests, dress and groom nicely, go out and build a life. The idea is FOMO will follow as you become a man people want to be around. | /r/askMRP | 18/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 16, 2021OYS 12 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 159 lbs, body fat: 18%-19% (stronger.io says 16%, I like that number better) Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 10 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 135 lbs, DL: 200 lbs, Sq: 185 lbs, OHP: 90 lbs Lifts are going well enough. I’ll hit the wall on something every week or two, but still setting a couple PRs every week, for now. I bumped up to eating 3,500 Calories on my three lift days and staying at 3,000 Cal on rest days. That’s got me gaining weight again a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/03/21 02:19 PM |
| 8 | Dread QuestionUh, yeah. If you're not displaying higher value there's no dread. No one is afraid of "missing the boat" if the boat is a leaky, barnacled tub. | /r/askMRP | 13/03/21 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 02, 2021This is a big list of problems. Good you see your deficiencies. What are you doing about them? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/03/21 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 02, 2021You’re wondering how to establish frame, but right now you are obviously way inside your wife’s frame (which is very common for us new guys). You can’t build your own frame until you step out of hers. Stop trying to read her mind or avoid her moods. Do what feels right to you (assuming you’re not a complete moron), own your choices, and let the chips fall where they may. Finish NMMNG and understand it before you pick up another book. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/03/21 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 02, 2021OYS 11 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 156.5 lbs, body fat: ~18% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 7 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 135 lbs x 5, DL: 190 lbs x 5, Sq: 170 lbs x 8, OHP: 87.5 lbs x 6 I’ve thought a lot about Man_in_the_world’s Dancing Monkey post as well as advice I got from EasyDaysHardNights last week and revisited my MAP. First I removed just about everything that was specific to my marriage (the stay plan is the go plan). Then I reviewed what was left. A lot of it came orig… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/03/21 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 23, 2021Yeah, this is one of those things I know intellectually, but don’t feel yet. It’s a big mental shift to go from feeding on external validation to realizing I don’t need that and rediscovering my own sense of self-worth. What you said about challenging myself and succeeding is along the same lines as what interwebztufguy threw at me a couple weeks ago: do stuff. Push boundaries. Build confidence from accomplishment. I need to find more shit to do. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/21 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 23, 2021Thanks, Zen. I always appreciate you checking in and helping me out. GSLP has been working much better for me than SL. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/21 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 23, 2021This is helpful, thanks. I’ve been struggling with the idea of Mission since I started here. I’ve found it to be too abstract a concept and anything I come up with sounds fake or generic. What you’ve suggested - first understanding what I want from life and building from there - feels like it could get me there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/21 03:50 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 23, 2021OYS 10 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 156 lbs, body fat: ~18% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 6 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 132.5 lbs x 6, DL: 180 lbs x 10, Sq: 165 lbs x 9, OHP: 82.5 lbs x 6 Had to deload squats last week. When I got up to 175 lbs. I was able to do the lifts (not easily) but got a sharp pain in my groin. When I tried to do it again later in the week it hurt too much to go on. Dropped back to 160 and will work back up. Other lifts are going well. Over the past couple w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/21 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 09, 2021It’s been a long time. Thanks for the kick in the ass, man. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/21 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 09, 2021I have the same suspicion, man. I’ve got a physical coming up. Been reading up on what tests to ask for to get that checked out. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 09, 2021OYS 9 Stats 43 yo, 5’9”, 155 lbs, body fat: ~18% Married 18 yrs, wife 46 yo, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 4 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 125 lbs x 7, DL: 165 lbs x 10, Sq: 170 lbs x 6, OHP: 75 lbs x 9 Nothing groundbreaking this week. I’m still working to peel the onion of my validation seeking behaviors. I knew I had a problem, but had never previously appreciated the extent to which insecurity pervades every aspect of my life. My mindset is so fucked up. I feel fundamentally defective because my woman… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/02/21 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 02, 2021Yeah, valid point, and I agree. My wording was weird. When I say I “redeemed myself” I meant that I finally initiated sex because I wanted sex and not because I needed to feel a certain way or meet some dumb personal goal. That I was successful was largely beside the point, except that maybe it shows a difference in response to genuine desire vs. validation-seeking. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/21 08:58 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 02, 2021OYS 8 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 154 lbs, body fat: 17%-18% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 3 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 117.5 lbs x 8, DL: 155 lbs x 10, Sq: 160 lbs x 6, OHP: 72.5 lbs x 10 Reading The Rational Male vol. 1 (Tomassi) I’ve still been thinking a lot about the focus on validation-seeking from last week. Every time I think I’ve cut out some bullshit behavior I uncover another subtler layer underneath. So I stopped initiating sex when I could tell I was just looking for… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 26, 2021Thanks, man. Feels like it’s all fat, but I assume there’s some new muscle under there somewhere. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 26, 2021OYS 7 Stats mid 40s, 5’9”, 153.5 lbs, body fat: 17%-18% Married 19 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 2 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 115 lbs x 7, DL: 135 lbs x 12, Sq: 150 lbs x 9, OHP: 65 lbs x 9 Reading The Rational Male vol. 1 (Tomassi) There’s been lots of good stuff posted recently on the subject of sex for validation. I thought I had this fixed but now I’m not so sure. Thanks to Blarg and Horns for your posts last week. I’m digging into my motivations and trying to discern genuine des… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/01/21 02:30 PM |
| 7 | Dump LTR?No one is going to figure this out for you. You have to do the work. Tomorrow is OYS day at MRP. Join us and unfuck. Or don’t. | /r/askMRP | 25/01/21 09:53 PM |
| 13 | Dump LTR?You’re asking a bunch of internet assholes to tell you what’s important to you. How the hell does that work? | /r/askMRP | 25/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 19, 2021I’m not even sure this contract is covert anyway, since your wife overtly acknowledges it. If you have drinks and then you have sex you both enjoy, that’s awesome. I think what you want to avoid is needing drinks to have sex or creating the correlation in your mind that if we have drinks tonight she will want to have sex. Hell, have you ever tried a “hey babe, let’s get sloppy and fuck tonight.”? Not covert at all! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/01/21 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 19, 2021Now - She wants us to make cocktails on valentine's day. Here's where I need some help : Do I just go ahead with it and smash? Or should I be actively trying to stop this covert contract? Do you want to have cocktails on Valentine's day regardless of whether or not you end up fucking? Yes, you should stop the covert contract and yes, you can have cocktails if you want to have cocktails. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/01/21 02:41 PM |
| 10 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 19, 2021I started using something I call blame syllogisms. It’s a way to focus blame entirely on myself, no matter what the circumstance. Two examples I’ve run into this week: I’m angry because she won’t have sex with me. She won’t have sex with me because I’m fat and needy. Therefore, I’m angry because I’m fat and needy. This is great. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/01/21 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 19, 2021OYS 6 Stats 43 yo, 5’9”, 153 lbs, body fat: 17%-18% Married 18 yrs, wife 46 yo, 1 kid 8 yo GSLP week 1 (after 6 weeks SL 5x5) - BP: 105 lbs x 10, DL: 135 lbs x 12, Sq: 135 lbs x 10, OHP: 60 lbs x 14 Reading The Rational Male vol. 1 (Tomassi) Was out of town for a couple weeks and didn’t get to do my lifts. I’d been doing Stronglifts for several weeks, but on ImpatientZen’s advice, I looked into GSLP. When I got back home I made the switch for the focus on hypertrophy, which feels like a better f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/01/21 02:05 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 05, 2021OYS 5 Stats 43 yo, 5’9”, 150 lbs, body fat: 17% (scale), 16% (navy), 15% (strongur.io) Married 18 yrs, wife 46 yo, 1 kid 8 yo SL 5x5 week 6 - BP: 120 lbs, DL: 185 lbs, Sq: 135 lbs, Row: 105 lbs, OHP: 75 lbs Traveled after Christmas to stay with my in-laws for a week, so no lifts. For reasons no one cares about, we’re extending our stay another week, which pretty much guarantees a deload when I get back. I’m doing push-ups and weighted squats to try to stay active, but obviously that’s not going … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/01/21 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Unable to use dread due to lockdownThis post has been up for half a day already and no one’s recommended Brazilian Ju Jitsu yet? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/12/20 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 22, 2020I've just been adding the prescribed 5 lbs. each session (unless I fail). I'll take a look at Greyskull. As skinny as I look, I really want to put on more visible muscle. Eat as you have been. Keep adding a couple of pounds of bw a month. Then cut the flab off when you hit 175 lbs and have some muscle to show. Oof.. at the rate I'm going, by the time I hit 175 lbs I'd probably be at like 22% bf. I was actually thinking of cutting in January because I hate getting chubby. But you're probably righ… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 22, 2020Thanks! I did fail OHP the other day but nothing else yet. I just feel really close to failing on most of them. And, yeah, I've never lifted like this before so I have no context. I'm staying on the program as prescribed (along with some dumbbell work and a few extra evening sets). I've put on about 3.5 pounds in the past month since I started eating more, but it looks like a fair amount of that is fat. I'm in a bout of insomnia lately, so my sleep could definitely be better. Stress is better la… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/12/20 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 22, 2020As for her shit test about her not liking you lately. She’s pushing back testing your frame. Stfu and keep doing your thing There was a hell of a lot of contempt in her voice, so I assumed it was more than "just" a shit test. But it looks like you're right. I've just continued doing what I'm doing and since yesterday she's interacting with me as if nothing had ever happened. Maybe we're progressing to next-level shit tests. And you're right, I do need to GTFO the house more. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 22, 2020OYS 4 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 150 lbs, body fat: 17% (scale), 16% (navy) Married 18 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 7 yo SL 5x5 week 6 - BP: 115 lbs, DL: 175 lbs, Sq: 130 lbs, Row: 100 lbs, OHP: 75 lbs Most of my lifts are getting tough now. I’d hoped my numbers would be higher before that happened, but I’m starting from skinny-arm nerdling and it is what it is. I usually lift in the morning M/W/F and I’ve now added an extra 20-30 minute session on those evenings to get a few more sets in to push it a bit… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/12/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 08, 2020OYS 3 Stats Mid 40s, 5’9”, 148.5 lbs, 16.5% bf (scale & navy) Married 18 yrs, wife mid 40s, 1 kid 7 yo SL 5x5 week 4 - BP: 100 lbs, DL: 155 lbs, Sq: 105 lbs, Row: 85 lbs, OHP: 75 lbs Reading The Power of Now (Tolle) - I’m a little over halfway through this one and it’s getting very woo-woo. I’ll keep trudging through it.The Masculine in Relationship (Youngblood) - Author stresses a three-step “blueprint” to bring masculine energy into the relationship: 1) Respond, don’t React. 2) Provide Structu… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/12/20 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 01, 2020That’s an excellent point. But this concept is also well-covered in a number of other books I’ve already read, so it wasn’t a revelation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/20 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 01, 2020OYS 2 Link to OYS #1 Stats 43 yo, 5’9”, 148 lbs, 16% bf (scale & navy) Wife 46 yo, married 18 yrs, 1 kid 8 yo SL 5x5 week 3 - BP: 95 lbs, DL: 135 lbs, Sq: 90 lbs, Row: 80 lbs, OHP: 65 lbs Reading I finished Manson’s Models, which probably didn’t help me all that much at this stage other than to remind me that there are other women out there if I ever need to move on from my marriage. I’m still reading Tolle’s Power of Now which is helping me with mental models I will need to forgive myself for b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/12/20 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 24, 2020I’m sure you’re right. I usually eat ~2,900 Calories per day (TDEE + 500) but I do fall short some days. I haven’t made it my “job”. I’ll push for 3,100 every day for the next few weeks and see what happens. I’ve been reluctant to increase because I’m already at 16% bf and I don’t want to get too flabby, but what the hell. Everyone gets a little fatter over the holidays and I know I can burn it off again. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/20 08:59 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 24, 2020OYS 1 Stats 43 yo, 5’9”, 146 lbs, 16% bf (scale & navy) Wife 46 yo, married 18 yrs, 1 kid 8 yo BP: 90 lbs, DL: 125 lbs, Sq: 75 lbs, Row: 75 lbs, OHP: 60 lbs This is just the second week of SL 5x5, starting from beginner weights. Working on form while everything is still easy. Was doing dumbbell workouts from June until I was able to buy a barbell set this month. Why I’m here I’ll try not to write my entire autobiography here, since OYS #1 doesn’t mean shit and I’ve got plenty of time over the co… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/11/20 02:14 PM |
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