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... and who you choose to surround yourself with... She wants to be part of the crew. Be casual and invite her to the next get together. Casual sex will insue, assuming you can maintain your energy and social proof. Saying you wanted a date took her out of the group and into your posession but she wasn't ready to make a choice. Being part of the group activities before hand removes her responsibility by letting her make new friends and then "just happen". So... Let it happen. Stop analyzing so m…
/r/askTRP18/04/18 02:04 AM
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I don't know why you think she shows signs of giftedness, or that she "wants more" but I agree he dodged the real question. Should we bang or date? ... Wrong answer though.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 01:52 AM
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K
/r/askTRP18/04/18 01:47 AM
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People without money can be divorced in 6 months. People with money will be in the system for years supporting lawyers and various "support" personnel like therapists, counselors, friend of the court, etc. It's an amazing support network positioned as help but biased against the dad.
/r/TheRedPill04/10/17 11:27 PM
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No.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 02:40 AM
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Also think OP has analyzed this from his male point of view, thinking she will want someone that has more in common with her, as she has probably said she is attracted to in the past and has heard from basically every woman. What he fails to realize is that she can live happily ever after in complete hypocrisy and likely be unaware of it. She could still be spouting feminist bullshit and yet have her man control finances, take care of house, tease and spank her. The likelihood she actually lives…
/r/askMRP12/02/17 10:38 PM
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This stuff has to be timed right, too. Do you know where she is in her cycle? Timing and congruence. Was this out of the blue? Are you handling all your stuff outside the bedroom? Early on I thought I would try spanking the wife's ass. It was a clumsy move, she was on top, I was not in control of the situation in or out of the bedroom. She said" don't do that". I took it as just another shit test and did it again. She got up and got in the shower. Oh well. I'm in a different spot now, got most t…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 11:58 PM
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The same reason anyone plays the victim. To absolve themselves of responsibility in an undesirable outcome. Also to build an army of sympathizers and helpers to do the things they don't want to do, secure their future resources and maintain their position in social hierarchy despite the lack of results.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 02:09 AM
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You accept the conditions were your fault, OK. Seems like your half way. You are still saying you are unable to do anything to about the situation. You hate your cheating wife, but can't leave because excuse. Why can't you accept responsibility for the solution? All the things holding you back are choices to make. I can't say what I would do, because I'm not in your shoes, but I don't hang around people I don't like.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 09:52 PM
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I am actively working towards building my fu-fund. In fact, I just sat the wife down and told her the plan and the reason. I like my job, I make decent money. It can be stressful, my new boss in the recent management turnover threatened to fire me. Other execs exert a lot of pressure, too. For my peace of mind, and to improve my ability to remain calm and level, exhibit no sign of panic when someone is turning the screws, I need to know I can stand up for myself in a confident way. That includes…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 06:13 PM
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You've successfully let your hamster convince you that you are justified in choosing to stay with this cheating, lying, slut of a wife, through no fault of your own. This is an epic display of victim mentality gymnastics. Fine, I guess, if you are really that scared to live on your own or DO something to change the situation. In your post you blame the kids to get you to try, then your finances to get you to stay. Conveniently none of this is your responsibility. No plan to change anything, just…
/r/askMRP04/02/17 03:37 PM
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Dread is raising awareness that your commitment is not free and instilling the fear of losing any commitment and relationship. It is not treating someone like shit, it's treating them more and more like a business transaction, less like a valued intimate relationship.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 12:39 PM
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When I get comfortable and stop filtering my words and behavior, I'm a mean asshole. I've known this for 2 decades. I have read all kinds of shit, went to Carnegie seminar, tried many things to become more social, positive and likeable but it just hasn't happened. It limits me at work. I'm worried it is a behavior model that will get passed on to the kids. My oldest daughter is already a negative pain in the ass just like me. What the fuck should I do?
/r/askMRP28/01/17 03:39 AM
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Come on man, that is a critical piece of info. She has already moved on. Hahaha.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 01:54 AM
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Hookers.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 02:58 AM
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If you just point him to a forum on a website, you are a lazy, inconsiderate friend. Try listening and sharing your experience. Don't use jargon, just tell him what you have observed that is similar to what he is going through. Maybe it's not just this one bitch after all. Turns out that a lot of women are like that and a lot of men were blissfully unaware until it was too late. Now is triage. Stop the bleeding and save the patient, save the rehab for later.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 02:53 AM
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Own it. Every time she calls you rrrrriiiiick, start initiating. Deep kiss, tight embrace, the whole thing. She will ask what the fuck you think your doing, which is giving her what she wants. A stranger in her bed.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 02:44 AM
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Your standards are too low.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 02:36 AM
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I wouldn't step in just because she is upset, your comment implies he should protect her fee fees and step in based solely on her ramped up emotions.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 04:02 AM
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More like "junk in the trunk girl" amirite?
/r/askMRP18/01/17 03:48 AM
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Secret handshake is Up high... Down low... You only want me for sex.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 03:45 AM
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Occasional justified anger is a nice exciting roller coaster and a good way to show you are human. Maybe even a protector. Not bot reading strange internets. Habitual outbursts, butt hurt, passive aggressive comments, scarcasm is a problem. A sign of weakness, helplessness and fear. Tl:dr. It's not always bad to lose your temper, unless you're always losing your temper.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 03:32 AM
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You remind me of Eeyore. No wonder she sees sex as a chore, you mope. Be more fun.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 03:20 AM
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If you want to spin up the hamster wheel, go absent on scheduled sex night. Later " I had to take care of something I wanted to do"... "oh, nothing you would be interested in, good night"
/r/askMRP18/01/17 03:02 AM
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It's hard to separate the noise from the signal. Particularly when young. Too machiavellian? Sorry you acted like an asshole, but you can recover. Live your life for you, as best you can. To me that is simplest thing to take from red pill. Understanding how the genders differ in behavior and thought is an important part of that. The 48 laws, the prince, the other things that are pushed as tenets and techniques are just strategies to take advantage of the behaviors and thoughts of others. Unless …
/r/askTRP15/01/17 06:09 PM
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My wife came home one day with a short hair cut and said what do you think? I said "Your transformation is complete." "Transformation to what?!" "Old Mom. Now hike your jeans up a little." This was before I swallowed the pill, so I got the silent treatment for a few days but it was worth it. She hasn't had hair above shoulder length since.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 11:41 PM
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Red flag. " Better off as friends", or as everyone knows means you are on a break and those dicks don't count, which sent you into panic mode. OH MY GOD SHE IS FUCKING CHAD RIGHT NOW! You can't control her. She is not yours. The reaction to beg forgiveness and plead for affection is revealing. Get past it and internalize that you are living your life. She is living hers. The boundary should be clear before she skips the country. Together means fidelity, I'm assuming. Maybe that's not what you ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:33 AM
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For dread, search bluepillprofessor submitted. And, in my opinion, all the same advice applies. If you choose to have a boundary, you must be prepared to enforce it. BPP just posted a clarifier on STFU, which also applies and related to dread. Tell you changed your mind, your not a submissive and you won't live like one. Then spank her ass hard,real hard. Look her in the eye and say "look at me.... I'm the captain, now." Play a little bit, but make it clear you are serious and be honest about wh…
/r/askTRP10/01/17 03:46 AM
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Change "be way more awesome" into specific goals and plan to meet them. Start with strength standards and set a goal for deadlift, bench, squat, plan how long to reach using 5x5. Same with everything else, set the goal and then figure out how to meet it. Don't get get stuck in la la land or analysis paralysis. Figure out what you want to do, it doesn't have to be some crisis of "oh no, who am I, what should I do..?" Just pick some shit that sounds fun and go for it. Turns out I don't want to be …
/r/askTRP10/01/17 03:07 AM
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"I'm not really from xxxx city, I don't know why I said that, probably so I could squeeze your boobies. Anyhoo, ima be gone for 4 months or so, soooo byeeeeee!"
/r/askTRP10/01/17 03:00 AM
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Your playbook seems limited.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:55 AM
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DEER
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:53 AM
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Don't be ashamed of who you are, and never consider changing your life based on other peoples approval or some stupid shit test. The real problem here is insecurity. Without knowing you, I can guess you have a stereotypical "nerd" major. Own it, amplify it.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:51 AM
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I don't think there is one mentor, you have particular people in your life you ask particular questions. Get involved in your community, gym, sports, clubs. Be open, you will bond with people and and learn what they know about.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:47 AM
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Anybody getting that much sleep , doesnt seem like there is a problem. Learn to prioritize and plan your time and you would be amazed how much you can fit into a week. Don't waste your prime easy sex years by never taking your head out of the books. Read Steven Covey 7 habits.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:38 AM
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Best response to those paragraphs is "k".
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:33 AM
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Search "oneitus".
/r/askTRP10/01/17 02:29 AM
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Keeping score is a bitch mindset. "When will you close the door? I'm a trans-snowman and if I get any colder you're gonna see where they attached the carrot."
/r/askMRP08/01/17 12:42 AM
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Seems simple. You're filled with self doubt because you are still seeking her approval. You are seeking rapport and thinking of building the marriage. What does that mean to you, more communication? My wife was the queen of cold shoulder and silent treatment, until I stopped playing that game. When she went cold, I stopped acting in kind. Soon after, I had a breakthrough type moment and if she went cold since, I haven't even noticed. That is when I realized what dgaf and stfu really meant and th…
/r/askMRP08/01/17 12:37 AM
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The way you talk to someone is usually more important than what you are saying. You started off with "his expectations are not proportional to what he can offer" , those probably aren't the exact words you used but it doesn't matter. You hit the ego at the start, and that is when he shut down. No amount of facts, arguments, talking, whatever is gonna open him back up for that talk. Read up on influencing people instead of arguing. Find Influence by Cialdini and study it. Read Dale Carnegie. You …
/r/TheRedPill07/01/17 09:28 PM
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Many forget what it's like early, where the vision is still blurry and you need to begin experimenting to find out if this is all complete bullshit. Keep reading and applying, but just make smaller adjustments until you get some solid feedback. You did the right thing at the wrong scale. Very easy to be try hard at this stage, where you have seemingly simple strategy that everyone says works miracles; STFU. Well, it does, but there are some other pieces of the puzzle that need to fall in place t…
/r/askMRP28/12/16 03:23 AM
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To pass shit tests in marriage, ignore or make a joke out of everything she says after "I do".
/r/askMRP15/12/16 02:39 AM
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Distance does not effect her at this point, she doesn't want you there! Distance and leaving the house is for when you have better things to do, have higher value and when she is leaching you for attention or emotional support without providing sex. It does not work as a punishment.
/r/askMRP29/11/16 01:33 AM
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Ignore. It's complementary to STFU.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 04:13 AM
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This is not a main event. You're playing out the five year food supply, guns and loading station, underground bunker prepper version of red pill. This is a shit test, and your failing it by taking it seriously. Next time you walk by the couch when she's on it, ask where the extra pillows are since you need something to feel up as you try to sleep. As mentioned by other commenters, I think you are asking for this fight. It seems serious, but if you are truly taking over your life, then this is th…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 04:05 AM
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Yes, it hurts. Best to get started while you have your mind on it. Set your short term goals. Start with the lowest level needs, the simple stuff. Excercise, of course lifting weights is a good start. Diet, sleep the physical stuff short term; the coming week. Be on time this week. You have a lot of reading to do. You painted a bleak picture, you're feeling sorry for yourself at the moment. It could be worse, just think of all the unaware orbiters those traveling sluts have... could be your futu…
/r/askTRP28/11/16 03:47 AM
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Total projection, she can't fathom any other reason to vote for Trump unless you are racist or sexist. Even after he prompts her to search for another motivation, she goes straight back to racism. It shows why the dems went for that message, it wasn't to convert, it was simple confirmation bias of dems, sjw and berners. It was audacious strategy, knowing Bill admitted on the record he actually stuck a cigar into a white house interns pussy. The separation is incredible, really. That you could fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 07:55 PM
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I think ailments begin to appear due to those moods, if it carries on long enough.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/16 02:48 AM
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I carry more disappointment in my progress than bitterness. Then again, I'm only about 1 year into Iron, and just a few more months before that I swallowed that bitter pill. Which changes faster, the body or the mind?
/r/TheRedPill20/09/16 02:40 AM
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This happens to me a lot in the office. My swing from polite and nonchalant to real busy and no time for your shit can be so drastically different, it is jarring. Some particularly entitled women can get upset, they adopt the attitude of indignace at the thought of a beta switching to an alpha and think 'who does this beta think he is, bossing me around like an alpha?!'
/r/TheRedPill20/09/16 02:31 AM
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You lost me at "what I liken this to is video games."
/r/TheRedPill17/09/16 02:13 PM
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Alphas set the mood and tone. Actually, it's not the alpha, it's the leader. They can tell stories to relax the group, get others talking, make connections, do some light teasing and build trust. Simply continuously shining a spotlight on themselves is not a leader or alpha trait, and within a short period, the group will turn in him.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/16 02:07 PM
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Eliminate covert contracts. Either let go of your expectations or make them explicit. Step one is to begin identifying yours, then start eliminating them. You'll find them in unexpected places, like merging on the freeway, holding a door open... places completely unrelated to simply trying to listen and understand your way into some chicks pants.
/r/askTRP16/09/16 10:34 AM
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Any chance you are so upset because he reminds you of someone?
/r/TheRedPill11/09/16 02:21 PM
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I think you make a good point about access to abstract thought. Religion can also give people, particularly men, a way to express emotions safely. I'm not religious myself, I have my opinion of what it's about, but my family is and I have a few friends that are quite serious about it. I've noticed the real religious guys are able to express love and sensitivity but always couched in God's love or will of God. One step removed from personal feelings.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 04:57 PM
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I liked the sense of friendship and love conveyed by your comment. I chuckled. Sorry about your bro.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 04:49 PM
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It is good advice, in hindsight. Unfortunately the process that leads one to find MRP probably began with some serious pain and angst. This means, in my case and from what I've observed on this and ask MRP, urgency that wont wait for evaluation of dread 2...3..4.. and see. Once you begin to realize the depth of your situation and the effectiveness of some of the simple things, like passing shit tests, it's basically irresistible to go full throttle on anything and everything. I think once you li…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 11:33 PM
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Which lawyer that you have talked to told you this?
/r/askMRP22/07/16 06:02 PM
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Pretty run of the mill shit test, why not just agree and amplify and enjoy the plans you made? Your reaction seems knee jerk and like poor leadership. Why blame her for this when you are the one that ultimately decided to alter plans based on a simple, harmless shit test. She was willing to spend her special day with you, if only you had proven you were worth it. This plate didn't spin out, you dropped it.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/16 05:29 PM
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Only if it's a boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 07:29 PM
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Anger phase one week? That's adorable. When you get a paternity test, that's when you know you've swallowed the pill. When it's not yours, that's when the anger phase starts.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 03:57 PM
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You are teaching him to be responsible for others emotions and not his own behavior. You should reconsider how you handle these situations and your approach in general.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 01:14 PM
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If your are spanking out of anger, or when you are not in complete control of your emotions, it's abuse. Obvious break of frame. Spanking, never hitting, for the right reason at the right time and in the right way is good parenting. Always discuss why before, then settle the matter. Children and toddlers are not emotionally developed to the point that logic, reasoning, consequences can be understood at the adult level. For a toddler, a light swat is sometimes enough to to stop and prevent unwant…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 12:54 PM
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Set annual and 6 month goals per progress to strength standards on your big lifts. Novice to intermediate, advanced,etc. Set intermediate goals for progression in your big lifts. Focus on setting new personal records frequently in rep or weight on the way to reaching the longer term goals. Both reaching goals and getting stronger are rewarding. Also, discipline.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 12:02 PM
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She chose to get angry, you feel responsible for her feelings. She is being cold and you are responding in kind. Now, who is leading who here? Ignore it, go back to teasing.
/r/askMRP26/04/16 12:34 AM
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Don't be an asshole. Just give em what they came for. Bride looks beautiful. Groom used to be crazy, amusing anecdote( farther in the past the better) we're good friends and I'm happy for him. Drink.
/r/askMRP26/04/16 12:20 AM
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Many deep thoughts and creative connections have been made while mowing grass. It's meditation. Congrats, nice write-up. Loved the use of the word britches, you just don't see it enough.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 05:25 PM
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I think of it like this: If perceived(by her) smv difference is big enough, it will subconsciously trigger her to test. If she is afraid her smv is higher than yours, you are a beta, weaker than her, or not alpha enough, it will be a shit test. If she is afraid your smv is too far above her, too alpha, it's a comfort test.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 01:57 AM
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Cute.
/r/askMRP04/04/16 02:38 AM
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Yes, I have asked so many times if she was talking to me or the me in her head. It always turns into an opportunity for teasing,
/r/askMRP04/04/16 02:29 AM
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Are you sharing to impress, express your side of a covert contract, gain favor, get approval or just share? In the end it matters more why you are sharing than what and how much you are sharing. Sharing successes and accomplishments will predictably lead to increased shit testing. It's ok to share, just know what to expect. I used to excitedly tell my wife in when I got my annual bonus and the amount. (And other big accomplishments) I did it because I was happy to get it, and cmon, it's a pretty…
/r/askMRP19/03/16 02:19 AM
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Let's recap. Negotiating desire (scheduling sex, telling her she is happier when you do it more), erratic behavior, withdrawing affection (not attention), arguing, saying "you need to communicate to me", covert contract (I'm hurt, be nicer to me, I deserve blah blah), turning down sex to punish (weaponizing sex), and victim mentality (this is all her fault)... did I miss anything? This reads like her diary post. You are acting like a woman and need to start at square one with the reading. You ga…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 12:39 AM
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I was (am? Trace amounts maybe) angry when I unplugged. It was a traumatic experience and one I will never forget or regret. Now, strangely, I am more empathetic after a long period of pain and self doubt. This is something I really needed and I continue to see improve. As angry and hurt as I was for myself, I truly pity the poor souls that are plugged in.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 12:05 AM
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In my opinion, women like IQ only when it is displayed as wit or social manuevering.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/16 04:00 PM
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You are destined to live in an endless loop of mediocrity. You are dodging accountability. This is an example of a covert conract, you are showing you are working hard in return for expected slack. Congrats, you are getting it. Results get promotion. Hard work keeps your job. What result do you see here?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 06:19 AM
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One of the points made in NMMNG is about not being able to admit past mistakes, and trying to cover them up. An extension of people pleasing. Have you read it?
/r/askMRP03/03/16 01:10 AM
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Personally, I began to recognize I had covert contracts errywhere. Most disturbingly at work. Once you begin tearing up those covert contracts, it's liberating. It really changed the way I operate around the house. I do things to make my house better. I just got my annual bonus and raise. Didn't tell her about it. Doesn't matter.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 02:40 AM
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Go to married red pill
/r/askTRP29/02/16 02:32 AM
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...and you continue to seek validation externally and blame others. Why were you not being respected? Take a moment and think why this respect is deserved? Why is it so important to you? They invited you in to have some fun, sounds to me like you were not fun. Your A&A might not have been funny or absurd enough, you prolly showed a little cringe, maybe you couldn't hide completely the hurt you were feeling. Didn't pull off the idgaf vibe. Overall, it sounds like you were overwhelmed, unable to s…
/r/askTRP28/02/16 09:12 PM
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You blame everyone but yourself. This could have had a happy ending if you just had some frame and were nonchalant about being teased. Own it, amplify it.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 04:15 PM
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You need to answer just one question. Are you Liam Neason?
/r/askMRP27/02/16 06:16 PM
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Basically you are tying your progress and value to her reactions and behavior.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 07:46 PM
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Best sex beta you ever had?
/r/askTRP16/02/16 08:39 PM
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If she is attempting to secure those resources, she will give you the best sex you have ever had.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 11:52 AM
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Understanding the reading is also essential. You must study the sidebar, not read it. Merely reading without internalizing leads to mixed results, confusion everywhere and erratic behavior. To learn and make real progress, you are experimenting while implementing what you have come to understand from reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 11:49 AM
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Agree. Same for me and reinforces jack 10 point about having an open mind instead of trying to crack open a coconut. If you are truly searching for answers, chances are you are exploring every possibility and that includes strange ideas like buying gifts and performing chores for your wife might actually turn her off, not on! I want to free as many minds as possible, but an increase in coconut heads might destroy the signal/noise ratio. I don't know how reddit or a lot of the Internet works, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 03:19 PM
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I've been watching "Century of the self" a BBC documentary you can find on YouTube, I think b/c of something /u/jacktenofhearts commented about parallels to marketing. It's all about this emotional and irrational behavior of people. A great piece, but long... 4 hours, 4 one hour episodes. Highly recommended. Related to that, just read a short piece on how people remember events. Another one by Daniel Kahnemen The emotional peak (high or low) and the ending, are the main determinants of how we re…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:33 PM
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It almost sounds like your wife is a teenager throwing a temper tantrum. Have you read anything about that? Have you ever analyzed your own life and behavior before yesterday? Changed her facebook status! AAAAAAGH! What the fuck should I do now? What would you do if your friends teenage daughter was behaving this way? I might keep that ring on lock down, ignore the tantrum and take care of the kid and mom. Is she truly going to use this "disrespecting" to abandon you and the kid while your mom h…
/r/askMRP10/02/16 12:41 PM
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And this, dickhead. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/337uvx/the_elements_of_frame_0_introduction/
/r/askMRP08/02/16 10:26 PM
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Add this to your list. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/420fuh/the_elements_of_frame_3_emotional_basis/
/r/askMRP08/02/16 08:01 PM
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This is true for medical, to the detriment of all of us. This behavior is what fueled the spread of the belief autism is caused by vaccines. It's also why mlm crap is viable, like herbalife, Amway, Tupperware, Avon.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 04:16 PM
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Hamster
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 05:00 AM
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Pornub version: This is a great analysis of why flipping gender roles is problematic, and not because of typical trp/mrp tropes. I enjoyed reading this, and think you have uncovered a valid point that has not been discussed generally. You are obviously incredibly insightful. This is something that should be expanded on and not buried in comments, like so much of your writing. Like a lot of your posts it is intelligent yet relayed in way a way that is relatable. Too bad all that insight and perce…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 03:09 AM
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Soooo... brevity is porn? It's ok, you can fap to this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:52 AM
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Hemingway
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:36 AM
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The worst kids have parents that can't say no. It's worse than absence. With an absent father, at least the kids can assume he wouldn't approve.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:28 AM
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Most TV and movies are unwatchable for me now. I have turned off more movies mid way through in the last 12 months than I have in my entire life.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:21 AM
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Where the fuck do you live? I want to know because what kind of doctor follows a fucking "guru" ?! Are you applying leeches? I gotta call bullshit, because you report you are an ardent follower of MRP, yet this is a hard call? Nope. This is an easy exit, bro. If being homely, anxious and frigid isn't a red flag for you, what, you were waiting until you actually walked in on her fucking the guru to leave?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:16 AM
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No question.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 02:09 AM
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I've struggled with motivation my entire life. At some points, my only motivation was to not be bored. As I've moved through stages of my life, read widely and voraciously, and observed successful people up close and personal, I can say this with confidence: If you are interested in learning and in people, combined with willing to do what others won't, you will never be bored and you will be successful beyond your imagination. Degrees are not limiting! Once you are out of school, the ability to …
/r/askMRP07/02/16 01:54 AM
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This guy posted with a throw away, got some real analysis and advice, but will never post again, let alone actually consider the wise words being spilled here for him. He says its done more harm than good, applying red pill, so it must not work! Not sure where to ask for advice, so he is just shotgunning the Internet looking for someone to agree with whatever cocked up story and next step he has in mind. That seems like a sound strategy, so I'll just waste some time until i go upstairs and grab …
/r/askMRP07/02/16 01:35 AM
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You're baiting for a rage quit.
/r/askMRP07/02/16 12:54 AM
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Breathe. Now, what is going on in your life that would warrant this aggressive response? Maybe you would like to expose your guts to this forum and face similar treatment?
/r/askMRP07/02/16 12:47 AM
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The way I understand drunk captain is letting the first officer make the decisions and lead the crew. In other words absence of leadership. The things you listed were about your personal appearance and career, nothing to do with leading the marriage and guiding the mission.
/r/askMRP06/02/16 10:27 PM
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Good, no more need to fake outcome independence. Get out and be interesting and social.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:06 AM
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You want to point out logically how she didn't hold up her end of this bargain. You want to reopen negotiations. Not gonna work, it will just make things worse. And when you leave after a rejection, you're just leaving her space, but are still in her frame. Next time leave and go to a place that is social and interesting or at the minimum out of her site and go radio silent. Stay in or Get back in your own frame. It sounds like you need to be physically separate from her to do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 12:55 AM
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Yep. Like the blue pill, and the matrix, it is invisible because it is all around you. Once you are able to see just one example of a failed effort was due to your own inaction, when you were absolutely convinced it was out of your control, it can be a revelation. I think this is why choosing who you spend your time with is so important. And why social media is toxic. Victims travel in packs of codependent underachievers. They are masters of narrative and find comfort in each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 09:17 PM
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Similar story for me. Ive had lower back pain for years, since I was 22. Was in a couple nasty car wrecks and was told I would always have pain and it would get worse. 40s now. I started 5x5 last year and the pain got bad, I went to doc and even got xrays and scans, they said structurally it was ok. I kept progressing the weights and my pain shifted from nerve and sciatica to soreness that is just muscle pain and I welcome it over the twinges and hesitancy. I feel best after deadlift day. Curren…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 02:32 AM
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Everything you have written is about how it is someone else's or something else's fault. When she finally burns this house down (our life togethor) I'll have no say in the matter one way or the other. See? The stuff you have posted about you is about your emotions and the tragedy of it all. The scant portions I can read about your attitude when speaking to your wife reads like a child's cry for help. When I say accept your responsibility, it's more than "manning up" , it's about facing the effec…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:56 AM
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Fuck your weak refusal to accept your own responsibilities, and Fuck You. You are part of the problem. You are making excuses and showing your true colors. Give up and add to the problem if you must, but realize this is your choice, not something being done TO you. I'm proud of my family and just because there is a lot of shit to wade through, doesn't make it wrong. I get similar compliments (not young tho) about my family, and when I do, I beam and say thank you. Raising a family in this world …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:10 AM
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askMRP crystallized.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 01:43 AM
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Getting too invested is internal. Talking about relationship and compatibility that early is textbook beta. You are a relationship slut and she recoiled as predicted like clockwork.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 10:26 PM
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Read "when I say no I feel guilty" and stop justifying your decisions. You are seeking approval from strangers by creating reasonable excuses that you want them to believe and approve of in order to make your decision seem like the right one. Stop doing that.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 10:09 PM
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Mistake #2. Talking too much and being a relationship thirsty beta early in the relationship. Mistake #3. Trying to explain her own behavior to her. LOL.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 10:00 PM
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WTF is this? A literature experiment?
/r/askTRP24/01/16 09:53 PM
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At least you're not arguing. Good job. Did she have a valid complaint about the meal plan that you ignored?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 08:58 PM
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Concern trolling
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 08:33 PM
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Wrong. I came here to fuck my wife, not become the best man I could be. I was already doing that as far as I was concerned. MRP/TRP changed my direction, goals and vision for becoming better and what I define to be masculine. Instead of trying to find ways to be more understanding and do more cardio, I'm thinking about how to prevent my boys from being brainwashed and how to improve my overhead press.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 08:31 PM
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Are you on something? Why is this bothering you so much? My advice is do what the fuck ever. If I read it correctly, you have some elaborate plan to appear outcome independent when your wife returns from yet another weekend having fun without you and living a white trash soap opera. Who is all this posturing and gyrating and pretending for?
/r/askMRP23/01/16 08:16 PM
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Passing shit tests is gaming your wife. I have found effects are not always immediate. Sometimes a passed shit test pays off the next day or so. Start with just being more physical. Touch her non sexually, like just bump her out of the way playfully when getting dishes, passing by her in the bedroom, bathroom, etc. Let her know your bigger and stronger. Grab her butt playfully, just a grab when passing by. Dont break stride. Start with the assumption you can touch her. In no way be timid. Bring …
/r/askMRP23/01/16 02:07 AM
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All those beta behaviors away from the bedroom are making you more unattractive. She obviously is not feeling it for you. Bust her balls, tease, blow her off sometimes, stop listening to her bullshit. Pass a few shit tests. She wants to trade emotional puking on you for sex, but guess what... no sex. OK. I tried to remain OI and as UnButtHurt as I could, and tried to STFU. I did throw in a few "I wasn't pressuring you into anything; I was trying to give my wife a kiss; if YOU felt pressured, if …
/r/askMRP21/01/16 03:04 AM
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What's a less enthusiastic version of LOL? Cuz I just kind of chuckled.
/r/askTRP20/01/16 02:31 AM
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I knew there had to be a significant time lapse, since your post was mostly self motivation talk. Well, I hope it worked for you. You have not swallowed the pill, because you do not feel it's effects viscerally. If you truly accepted your reality you would be changing it because you know you can and you should feel rightfully nauseous about your current situation. Commit to concrete action and set goals. For example, read NMMNG by the end of Jan. WISNIFG by the end of feb. Get a gym membership t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 02:29 AM
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Can you identify what is NOT a shit test? If she is asking you to comply, its a shit test. If she is making statements about you and your abilities, its a shit test. Basically, if you are a beta, everything she says is probably a shit test. Just try to pass one per day and work your way up.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 05:52 PM
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Yeah, Op it's so far in wife's frame the light peeking in from the end of the tunnel is the train wreck she calls a family. OP, listen. Your making progress, but you are doing it all for her, about her and to her. Jfc, all these "rebellious" acts seem like pleas for attention. Keep going, you are on track. If you want more sex, you are going to have to start limiting your attention and listening to family crap unless you are happy with the physical relationship. Actions, not words.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 03:19 AM
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It sounds to me like you just don't get it This doesn't help.
/r/askMRP18/01/16 02:51 AM
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When did you discover red pill vs having this epiphany? You got a lot of stuff to unfuck, where will you start? You seem motivated so I wont call bullshit on your plans, but they do seem vague. Most will suggest sidebar and the gym. You might want to start accepting the possibility your wife is cheating. You should start with "no more Mr nice guy" because you need to know what a covert contract is and begin identifying all of yours. Start talking and texting less. Consider yourself on your own f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 02:29 AM
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Boundaries. You need to set them and work with your wife to begin enforcing. For a child this age, a routine is very important. If you can get bedtimes, nap times, meal times, activity times, etc to be consistent this will go a long way in setting the foundation for good behavior. This age is also when they begin testing you and wife for compliance. Those tantrums are a test to see if you will cave. Do it once, and you have a problem. Hold out for 20 minutes and then give in and you just taught …
/r/askMRP13/01/16 04:04 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3crj03/are_you_new_lets_have_a_conversation/
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:31 AM
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Your wife watched the entire 50 shades of being dominated, then increased shit testing of you before submitting to some caveman sex. Always intiating is not what I was thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 05:27 PM
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When you swallow that pill, it's a white knuckle situation for a while. Take the advice about taking it slow, read as much as possible and try to be methodical, meaning try to focus your change. The readings should inform this. Meanwhile, you have latched on to your best strategy of STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 02:52 PM
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Yeah, I think lesson 4 is missing.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 01:36 PM
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I dont know, It seems like what you wrote does agree in general. I see I implied alphas do all the work, but that is clearly not the case. I like your point about sales. Teams could benefit from an alpha leader but the culture and PC over reactions prevent them realizing their potential as hypersensitivity to feelings attitudes and words will cut an Alpha off at the knees before the team gets past formation. Also, the combination of alpha + competence is rare. Betas thrive for the reasons you st…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 01:26 PM
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What drug did you take?
/r/askTRP10/01/16 01:01 AM
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No.
/r/askMRP10/01/16 12:53 AM
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When I was growing up, one of my dad's coworkers was nearing retirement. That old fart knocked up his grandsons teenage girlfriend! I will never forget it because of the way my dad told me about it. Like it was just another anecdote. Sex related talks were not part of life growing up in the midlifedick household. One day we were driving and go past this house, my dad just starts talking, also not a very common thing, and he just tells this story about the guy. Started like "You know xxxx that li…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/16 09:06 PM
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PC bullshit has neutered true alphas within large companies to the detriment of those corporations. Betas thrive because they can hamster away non performance and blend in. They can toil happily away at low and mid levels since they function in team environments as consesus builders and general people pleasing and take instruction without questioning authority. The people that rise above small team supervisors all the way to the cusp of the c suite are generally blowhard self aggrandizing betas …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 05:22 PM
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Agreed. Get through as much reading as possible before making any big moves. Find "your thing" that you need to work on. You will know it when you see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 04:13 PM
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Wake up Cinderella, the evil stepmother is keeping you busy enough to keep you away from the ball. Sack up and give her some ultimatums. This is not a sustainable situation for you. The excuses need to be removed and she needs to start contributing. She has found a nice mechanism to control you. How long will it work on you? She wont stop b/c the potential damage to the reputation. Give her an out, like stop caring and asking about it or forcing appointments. Force her to deal with it like an ad…
/r/askMRP08/01/16 01:02 AM
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I think sometimes this is a way to resolve cognitive dissonance. A woman who can't fathom the reason she isn't attracted to her husband. It's like a reverse placebo: not attracted to husband, nothing wrong with him per the conscious model therefore something must be wrong with me... wait, what, tummy hurts.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 03:53 AM
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At the low point of of my beta days, my wife had numerous health issues. Nothing debilitating, but all sorts of pains and aches. Mysterious issues that we sought all kinds of help to be rid of. Looking back, I am absolutely convinced she was just sick to her stomach because she wanted to be attracted to her husband, but couldnt be. Therefore hamster brain and body conspire to create ailments. Eventually I named this phenomenon "ailment attention seeking" but there is probably a better descriptor…
/r/askMRP07/01/16 03:43 AM
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Funny isn't your thing. And she isn't agreeing and amplifying, she is just being funny. You can't keep up, so she found her handle on you. Play your strengths, which might be caveman. Don't try to be witty if you're not because then you are following her. Just pick her up and put her down somewhere else. "Me love coffee, make me strong!"
/r/askTRP06/01/16 03:16 AM
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Your post didn't have a tl:dr so I made one. TL:DR Dear Diary, today my wife wanted to have sex but I acted like a slobbering half retarded sheepdog when she made some simple request because I don't take no shit from nobody! P.S. the red pill sucks.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 03:08 AM
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So, when red pill started working for me, the sex got a little more frequent. I had a similar issue where wife would be real wet and real loose. I was bummed, too. When it was time to end things, I started asking her to make a ring around my cock with her hand, and she would hold it up against her so I could kinda fuck her "ring" and her puss as I doggy styled it. Worked like a charm. More frequent sex will tighten things up. Here's the thing, as I started developing muscles and losing weight, s…
/r/askMRP06/01/16 12:28 AM
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That's 20 years of technological evolution, and really not that impressive of a change. A double in 20 years? Meh. Real tech breakthroughs are becoming more rare. Even iphone is merely a really good and accepted innovation, but not a breakthrough. For example, nuclear power, a/c electricity, Deepwater drilling, $0.99 stores, etc.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/16 02:13 AM
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It sounds like you are hypersensitive to "manly" things. Prolly cause you think about it a lot and trying to think of the red pill thing to do. It's like when you buy a new car and all of a sudden you notice tons of them on the road, they were always there but you finally tuned your attention to them. Brush it off, A&A, Or just ignore, or stfu and keep going.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 02:01 AM
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Go outside.
/r/askTRP05/01/16 01:54 AM
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Everyone so far has zeroed in on some aspect of fear, but I think your problem is comfort. You have stumbled on some strange version of stability and are finding comfort in that. Sorry buddy, you don't have to go home, but you can't stay here. Get back to work, this is not sustainable and eventually your hand will be forced. Do you have a fear of rejection? Yes. Do you have a fear of inadequacy if you are turned down? Yes. Do you have a fear of change? Yes. Get out of this temporary comfort zone…
/r/askMRP05/01/16 01:24 AM
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Counseling is just another attempt by women to remove accountability and find solace when faced with making a decision. They are absolutely terrified of making a decision on their own accord. My buddy is going through divorce. They did counseling for marriage and the kids and individually, wtf? Nobody in the family has personal responsibility because nobody has true confidence in themselves. Going to counselor and therapist is just reinforcing it. It's worse than a waste because it is actually c…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 12:36 AM
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I don't see evidence of you knowing red pill concepts anywhere in this novel. It was a good read, though. Sounds like married guy came into some money, then hired a crazy prostitute to be his assistant. The end. You have abundance mentality in all things except pussy. Your only hope as I see it is to actually learn the red pill concepts. Improve yourself and steel your mind to endure the inevitable blue pill crazy pussy boomerang of destruction you have flung out into the world. Maybe then you w…
/r/askMRP04/01/16 03:20 AM
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Good for you. Keep your eyes on the prize. Propose this a a means to keep the scholarship. Be sincere in your apology, and make it clear you are now laser focused on your goal and it will be your mission to prove to everyone you are serious. Set some conditions for yourself that are difficult but achievable and if you meet them, it will communicate that you are committed, driven and serious about becoming a Dr. GPA minimums, number of hours studied, one missed class per semester, office hours vi…
/r/askTRP02/01/16 06:07 PM
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I agree. Start over, knowing a little more than you did 4 months ago. You need to accept that this is your burden. Releasing your anger at her, for following your instructions was a mistake. Just own it now. You thought an open marriage would relieve your stress from lack of sex, but you were wrong. I think hard exercise is what you need. If you are not getting it all out with the weights, sometimes I find an extended cardio session is very helpful. Personally, I like to get ride Mt bike, but wi…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 05:01 PM
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No PEDs. I'm basically going for aesthetics, but I do want to be strong. I particularly want to fix lower back pain that I have struggled with due to low activity levels and poor posture when sitting staring at computer for lots of hours. Cut or Bulk? I dunno. I really don't know what I'm doing to be honest. My weight dropped about 8-10 lbs the first two months, then it has leveled off and my weight has not changed since mid October. I started 5x5 b/c it was highly recommended and was easy to ge…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 04:41 PM
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You are stupid, lazy or unmotivated. That's what a 2.0 GPA freshmen semester says about you, so which is it? That is why you are getting advice to do something else, since it only took you 4 months to prove you are too irresponsible to be trusted with tuition money, much less peoples lives. People with ambition, drive and vision to be a Dr. study to be a Dr. because it is important to them and they do what it takes. This can be fixed easily if you really want to get into med school. Either retak…
/r/askTRP02/01/16 04:03 AM
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https://youtu.be/2g5Hz17C4is
/r/askTRP02/01/16 03:42 AM
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He is extremely attentive and romantic roughly dating So, you're not attracted to him and you are thinking this sound, heartfelt advice from a high achiever, intelligent , driven man is a deal beaker? You're thinking maybe your girlfriends are right, you should be out having more "fun" meeting more guys with them?
/r/askTRP02/01/16 03:18 AM
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The productive women are very good at tasks and organizing but even the best, most productive women I have met are not great at strategy and weak with logic. I've never met a women that is capable of creating and enforcing a consistent boundary, which is the foundation of good parenting. Men are required for creating the boundaries and then have to train women to respect it and enforce it, even if they don't understand it or agree with it.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 05:27 AM
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What do you suggest after ss or 5x5 ?
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 02:32 AM
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I saw this happen. My neighbor convinced his wife to get a little kinky, swinging. She started going to orgies without him. Eventually she left him and her two daughters (He got full custody, both under 10!) when he tried to throttle her back. He didn't have time or patience for bullshit, now that he was working full time and trying to parent the two young girls. So to get sex, back in 2006, he went to craigslist and played the third wheel! He loved to tell me about it unprompted. He said if he …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 12:35 PM
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I would like to encourage you to write this post. Seems like this is one of those "playing with fire" scenarios that catch a lot of guys out. They agree to some form of awakening and then get confused when their former "low libido" wife is now the town bicycle, but they are still getting duty sex or just plain left behind so she can "find herself".
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 11:04 AM
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I dont give a shit if you stay or not. I actually wasnt trying to imply you should drop her. I was thinking you are more afraid of her. You are supplicating to her, again. Doing what you want! As long as she is ok with it. You too scared to be the leader. Afraid of her reaction, afraid of consequences. You should be capable of shaping your future the way you want it. See what you want and then do what it takes.
/r/askMRP23/12/15 01:41 PM
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Stop supplicating to her, is a good starting point.
/r/askMRP23/12/15 12:27 PM
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You've already decided to stay and she knows it or doesn't care. Get your shit togethor, reduce spending, give her an allowance at the min required and tell her ANY extra spending $ comes from her soon to be 2nd job, start an auto transfer for the debt. Oh, I forgot, she said she wouldn't get a 2nd job. That's your deal bucky. Now, you might have made this post out of disgust for her irresponsible behavior. Seems like you are doing a lot of your own hamstering. You're ok with her being fat, lazy…
/r/askMRP23/12/15 12:25 PM
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You are afraid of your wife. You are not confident enough in your own abilities and decision making to withstand any negative emotions or perceptions. Essentially you are acting like the oldest child. Somehow, your wife has taken the lead and the proper roles are flipped. This leads to her resenting you because you are weak. Starting now, you need to make the number one priority in your life YOU.
/r/askMRP21/12/15 01:14 PM
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Ignore. Use the time saved to contemplate why you should or should not care if she gets pissed that someone else is not cleaning up after her. It might be good to visualize and inagine how it might feel to sincerely not give a flying fuck how she feels about her own dirty dishes. How would you respond then? Then, consider why you are concerned at this moment. Do you have an expectation that if you do this nice thing there should be a reward for you?
/r/askMRP21/12/15 02:58 AM
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Correlation is not causation. Married women on Tinder = seeking sex only. 19yo match = jackpot. Red Pill = Irrelevant
/r/TheRedPill21/12/15 01:40 AM
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Looking away and breaking eye contact while speaking is dominant. Maintaining eye contact while listening is submissive. Eye contact is very important and there has to be some variation, else you give the wrong impression. You could appear angry or creepy with too much, insecure, too submissive or creepy with too little. When speaking, make sure to break eye contact more frequently than the listener. When listening, break eye contact at times to avoid being seen as submissive, but not so much to…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/15 03:51 PM
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Perhaps, but who is desperately posting on the internet because their COVERT CONTRACT IS NOT BEING FULFILLED?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 06:31 PM
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This is YOUR fault. This is a textbook example of a covert contract.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 04:10 PM
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Haha, you think her every sexual encounter is documented by Apple? Better revise that number up again. So what. They lie about count. As long as you are not seeing her setting up for her next encounter, making plans or sexual exchanges just use this info to push the pill down further.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 03:13 PM
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Exact. She even did it electronically, while in the same house. This might be one of those signs that your old, like thinking the station that plays guns and roses is NOT the oldies station. Why the fuck do people text when in the same house?! To me, this is just as symptomatic as everything else given in the post. No face to face interacting. When two people are too divided to interact face to face, there is already a problem. (yay english!) As much as the conditioning of tv and movie tropes, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 03:21 AM
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If she is a high level corporate type, this wouldn't be surprising at all. Half the job of senior corporate execs is manipulation and half is related to the business. Talking specifics and sources of your thinking is rare, because people don't like to reveal, but they will easily and freely talk tactics. It also fits with your description of a studied Machiavellian. High level senior execs are smart, driven, curious, voracious readers who learn and apply as part of their personality. Attempts to…
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 12:55 PM
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Basic sympathy seeking. Ignore. Expect a round of guilt laden bullshit when you get back. Ignore. When you get this type of behavior, you have to stop engaging, and giving it credibility. As soon as you recognize the bullshit, laugh to yourself and then move on. You can say something only if its dismissive. Of course, recognizing it is your problem at this point. So, until such time you can tell the difference between a sincere, legit, concern and emotional manipulation, its best to shut the fuc…
/r/askMRP12/12/15 02:34 AM
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*reposting as a top level instead of a reply There are a lot of parallels between red pill and negotiation. If you understand red pill, you are probably a good negotiator. If you are a good negotiator, you may or may not understand red pill. The most important things in negotiation; The person that is most willing to walk away holds the most power. Sound familiar? (Don't get Oneitus) Now on to negotiation to do's (a lot of this is for corporateland, but principles still apply) Preparation. Infor…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 08:33 PM
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There are a lot of parallels between red pill and negotiation. If you understand red pill, you are probably a good negotiator. If you are a good negotiator, you may or may not understand red pill. The most important things in negotiation; The person that is most willing to walk away holds the most power. Sound familiar? (Don't get Oneitus) Now on to negotiation to do's (a lot of this is for corporateland, but principles still apply) Preparation. Information is Power. The better prepared you are …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 07:21 PM
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If you dont know what to do, start working with your hands. Find a job that is tough, because you need to become a man. Find a job that is physically demanding and that could lead to you learning a skill or trade. You need to get physically active. Might as well learn something useful at the same time. Wake up earlier.
/r/askTRP29/11/15 07:19 PM
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Practice. YOU actually have to change your life. YOU have to experience it. It's the only way to internalize. Once YOU are exposed to the true nature of women, you won't be able to see the world any other way. I think there are two ingredients that must be present in order for the pill ri go diwn, and there is no particular order. You have been exposed to the ideas, and you need to experience the seedier, or the inconvenient truth side of AWALT. The type that nobody wants to believe.
/r/askTRP29/11/15 07:05 PM
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Shut down everything not related to the project curtly and politely. She will want to talk down about people, shut it down. She will want to talk about past projects and her role and wonderful contribution, allow only if relevant, otherwise shut it down as soon as it becomes non relevant (and it will quickly). She will want to distract with side bar convo, shut it down. She will want to make digs at you for not being "fun", ignore, or shut it down by again being professional. Make it into a "bei…
/r/askTRP29/11/15 02:02 PM
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Where to start? ... "My special snowflake is different..." "My mommies not home! What's taking so long?!" Endless texting followed by butthurt feelings and covert contracts with a side of attempted controlling behavior... I don't know, maybe start with the first sentence. "I have always been RP, but..." and then reevaluate everything in your life because you are delusional.
/r/askTRP29/11/15 02:17 AM
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All these comments about dropping your friend...shheeesh. Is that the person that needs to be blamed here? Who are you blaming in this situation? Your friend? Or the girl "super interested" in you that choked on his cock that night? Sounds like you could learn from this friend if you swallow the pill and park your ego. You obviously havent swallowed the pill. Your pity party post is as blue as it gets.
/r/askTRP28/11/15 06:53 PM
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You are a seething mess of self pity and superiority. Snap out of it and try to enjoy yourself. Try being an observer, even of yourself. Be "on" while at work. Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive. -write that down.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/15 03:07 AM
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"What if you somehow cheated" ... Preemptively not her fault. AWALT.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 02:07 PM
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Add to green flags: Good with children. Exercise part of daily routine. Add to red flags: Excessive make-up. I think the best way to find the best women is to get involved in activities in which the best people, not just women, participate. The standard way is pulling from social circles of high value people. Make an effort to be more social with people you admire, surround yourself with high value people. That also means being high value and adding to the group by being interesting. What do you…
/r/askMRP25/11/15 01:55 PM
1

Lizard brain > Intellectual understanding Turns out you are a person with emotions. I just wish you could benefit from the good advice from the others in this thread without the stomach turning schadenfreude from the blue pill followers. You did miss a great opportunity for AM. "Now? .... Now? I just finished a private cam session, put on that thing I like and gimme about 20 minutes."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 02:09 AM
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So haddock doesn't work for electrical fires. Got it. That must be the one for the chemical fires. That was a good one, thanks for the laugh.
/r/askMRP21/11/15 02:58 AM
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Do you just flippantly hurl insults at everyone who disagrees with you? Because if it becomes a regular pattern you're going to end up getting your teeth rearranged.
/r/askMRP01/11/15 05:39 PM
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I love that the whinemoreplease questions become first part of your conscience then subconscious. And eventually funny.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 01:35 AM
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I literally LOL'd when I read about the anti-sex outfit. Been there brother. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/39tjnn/fr_things_said_in_and_around_my_bed_a_major/ And, another similarity in our paths... I posted that right around the time when we had our first MAJOR blow up fight in a long time. It was becoming clear I was taking over the helm. One day near this point, I was getting to go somewhere on my own and she said " I don't know if it's some power play or what..." Ignore, k…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 11:30 PM
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Go outside. I really feel being in nature is a cure for so much. Anything outside, preferably in the woods; hiking, mt bike, fishing, hunting, camping, hell combine a few. I took up fishing years ago, I never thought I would enjoy it, but I fucking love it now. You can go on your own or with buddies, it's a great excuse to disappear for a few days.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 12:33 AM
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Go to MRP. Start reading sidebar. Take control of YOUR life. The rest is easy. Basically, you are not in a position to demand anything and your wife controls you and the house like a real alpha, sorry but you gotta take the captain's chair before you start barking orders.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 12:27 AM
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First, don't be ashamed of being a man and the sexual desires and tendencies that go with it. Yes, you have pics of girls on your phone. You watch porn and beat off when you want. "Who doesnt? What about you? Stop acting like my mom, I'll take a picture of you for later, too" Second, don't let these girls control you or affect your mood. Let them look, don't let them look, whatever. As long as you are not doing it to comply and gain favor. If you say no, then NO! If you say yes, then, ok. Basica…
/r/askTRP29/09/15 12:18 AM
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Yeah, purposefully finding a way to hurt your wife is the opposite of outcome independence. You had an opportunity to lead her by giving her responsibility for her own damn lunch, but chose to be passive aggressive instead. You may have also established a covert contract with daily lunch meetings, and when she decided to blow it off you immediately get butt hurt, bring her passive aggressive "mom's spaghetti", haha, to show how she has affected your attitude. To get interested in sex with her ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 03:21 PM
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This will fix itself if you just re-focus yourself on what is truly important. You'll probably be busier, at home less, at the gym and out with friends more. If this is anything like my college days its a year lease at a time, and there are lots of neighbors. No sweat, just start limiting the time you spend to sex, foreplay and short afterglow and continue ramping down until it's just friends, or passing acquaintances. I fucked around with one of my college neighbors, it was fun for a while and …
/r/askTRP28/09/15 12:43 AM
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I should have been clearer. Do not get involved in this goatfuck. Create some push pull at some point in the future, as you already mentioned. Maybe an emotional charity event, a walk / 5k for some cancer, an auction to raise money for babies, whatever.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 12:15 AM
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Stop being so rational. You can't solve an emotional problem rationally. This is a hen party social dynamic. It probably started like "omg, I feel so bad." ... "no I feel bad too but for me it's so much worse because when my ____ died I .... " downward spiral begins and since there is no rational voice in the group and no leader, it continues until they all agree its best to go home. They are all now committed to this farce and must keep appearances for the group. In the other hand, nothing wron…
/r/askTRP27/09/15 11:54 PM
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Stop defending your choices. You are clearly in your wife's frame. "She is older" , "she quit her job to marry me"... She is giving you career advice?! That's fucking laughable, make it clear you won't take career advice from someone that has no job... and she's telling you about your complexes? WTF, man!? Stop being her fucking puppet and live your own life. When in doubt SHUT THE FUCK UP. The longer she can draw out the argument, the more frame you are losing. It's like any sport where if you …
/r/askMRP27/09/15 05:23 PM
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Have you tried correcting this behavior and not just deflecting it? You should not allow that type of behavior. Instead of ignoring, you need to state the obvious (you will not tolerate jealousy of the relationship with your own daughter, and you will not be insulted by anyone, anywhere, least of all in your own home) then show her with your actions. You somehow allowed her to continue nagging and being a bitch "all night" while she "unloaded a lot of insulting shit". What? how many times does s…
/r/askMRP27/09/15 04:41 PM
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his wife is much more active I've learned a long time ago to give her a lot of space, or she gets irritated. So I have plenty of things to do and exercise regularly. You are making excuses for your lazy wife. And you are afraid of her. I think you skipped dread levels 1 through 8.
/r/askMRP27/09/15 04:28 PM
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There are already some good comments for you. Obvious covert contracts, start dread, etc. I think it's good advice to clearly state your expectations. It sets the stage and helps you begin to eliminate covert contracts. You're being more honest! ie Sex is part of this relationship and I only feel connected/intimacy/love with you if we are having sex. Leave it at that. Don't get drawn into some argument or discussion. State the expectations and STFU. In no way should you be considering throwing o…
/r/askMRP27/09/15 04:21 PM
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You need to diagnose why you aren't seeing improvement after 3 months. There isn't any info for that in this post. Forget the boat trip, you are already acting butt hurt and you haven't even got rejected on the floating drunk tank yet. Figure out why your stuck first.
/r/askMRP27/09/15 02:25 PM
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+for making me look up anamnesis -1 for quality = no vote.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 04:58 PM
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I feel like I got some insecurity on my thumbs from reading this on my phone. How do I get it off?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 04:53 PM
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Take some deep breaths. Go for a long walk. Do not make any decisions for the next day or two. Give yourself more time to absorb the situation. Then follow the welcome post.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 11:27 AM
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I just found a fly tying club that meets in a bar on Mondays.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 06:30 AM
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The throwaway post history is a gold mine of CC, solipsism, even BB when dating an older guy. Tempted to say too perfectly aligned with TRP, must be troll. If not.... gulp.... It's a jagged pill.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 05:08 AM
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As has been so prodigiously described by text in this thread, the link below is one part of a documentary that explains there is a preference difference between sexes regarding # of partners. So, regardless of how strongly YOU FEEL that you are no longer like that and looking for commitment NOW, your potential suitors do, in fact, consider your past relevant. https://vimeo.com/19921928/description
/r/TheRedPill15/09/15 04:16 AM
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"In my opinion you're trying to "do" dread." Yup. "This is preventing Amused Mastery. You can't be amused like a cat playing with a mouse if you're burning inside. Have you found any ways to deal with that deep anger?" I don't have an answer for this. I assumed it would melt away as I plodded along. I was feeling pretty damn good a week ago. It may have just burrowed deeper.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 09:14 PM
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"And it's not about the blowjobs. Don't get sucked into that. It's about her not respecting you enough to want to make you happy, doing what ever it is you want her to do. If you show her that you are a high quality man, and you have options, she will want to do anything you want.. shark week or not." This is a good insight. It is about her being unwilling (enthusiastic?) to do something for me that I clearly want/need. I view it as selfish. I have told her that in the past, and the fact that it…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 09:09 PM
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"Take a minute, meditate. Tell your wife you've been stressed about your surgery and you took it out on her. I don't give a shit if it's true. But it might be. This will just give you a nice reset button on your series of fuck ups and misapplied tactics." I'm beginning to see my panic style reaction for what it is. I am taking your advice (all of it) and I will use your suggested words verbatim tonight after kids lights out. I'm grateful. *edit Describe the reasons for the hard nos I don't think…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 09:01 PM
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She was on to me as soon as I opened my mouth. Could it been avoided by saying where and when as suggested by some others? Maybe lessened, but I don't believe avoided. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 08:27 PM
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I am lost in my head. Good observation. I'm analytical to a fault. "Your wife doesn't sound like she's that attracted to you through this post so how are you going to fix that?" Excellent point, just keep moving forward is my simple plan. I'm not getting any prettier.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 07:54 PM
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I would like to hear from people that have made it through this, too. I'm experiencing similar things, though it is starting to fade after I noticed it about a month ago. I thought of it as lingering effect of resentment. I was still digesting my own choices that led me to this spot, I was still rehashing what I knew of my wifes past prior to me and our shared history. I expected more, maybe a new covert contract now that I think about it. My priorities shifted obviously as part of the unpluggin…
/r/askMRP30/08/15 07:04 PM
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You need to reduce texting. Use amused mastery with this obvious barb or stfu. Everyone is focusing on the finances and comfort so far, but I think that is short sighted. I think you should be celebrating the shift in her mindset of your role! Are you seriously pissed off that you're not getting credit for being a beta bux provider? I say congratulations. If you handle this correctly with some amused mastery or better yet agree and amplify she might call you an asshole. "It's too bad nobody's su…
/r/askMRP29/08/15 10:07 AM
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Cynicism and scarcasm are very unattractive and caustic attitudes typically displayed by bitter, helpless betas. If you display them often, it's a belief and you are likely making choices influenced by cynicism. Your choices reflect your values, and what does it say about someone whose life is guided by cynicism? If you two talk like you type, I understand why you are so angry. I could be wrong, you might have been attempting amused mastery, but belittling someone in order to place yourself abov…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 09:44 AM
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Im guessing this is a symptom of a lack of goals and direction leading to confusion about what to do. She's building her case to sahm. Problem is she is proving she is not qualified. When the blaming/complaining starts, tell her you are not going to handle all of your stress AND her self inflicted drama. And that she needs to start taking responsibility for these "misunderstandings" . Repeat and then disengage. Any form of attention you give this including problem solving is validating her point…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 11:54 AM
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"I mean, she was expecting you to say I would love you regardless of your sexual past and sexual future. if you chose to cuckold me with this child, or one in the future, I will love you just the same. " This is what jumped out at me. This may be testing your reaction to the news it is Chad's kid. The overreaction being triggered by guilt, and the Facebook ploy to raise the stakes and shift focus. All done subconsciously by her well honed innate Machiavellian skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 10:29 AM
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No need for a nanny and SAHM. Start by talking about the options, (go back to work + nanny or SAHM and we are in this together) then move to eventually having to decide between SAHM and Nanny. Whatever you want should carry some weight if you think about it before hand, and believe it yourself. Whatever you do, do not allow nanny + SAHM. It's a dangerous and unnecessary precedent. Two kids?!? Haha -Amish probably My wife and I faced a decision years ago, should she go back to work or SAHM after …
/r/askMRP13/08/15 11:52 PM
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You've gotten the same basic advice from everyone commenting. Why would half a dozen people project the same flaws in thus plan? It's obvious you have set this up as a validation seeking endevour, but you are not able to see it. Hiding it from your wife with the plan to reveal an "improved" version of you, presumably for the reward of sex or admiration is a textbook covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:51 PM
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To me, it was bringing up the feelings of shame that I felt as the existing world melted away. I did see things differently, and part of my nice guy persona felt embarrassed. Changing anything means admitting that it's true, and eventually accepting it. In the NMMNG book it even mentions the reluctance to admit mistakes and for me living as an increasingly uncomfortable beta was a mistake I sorely did not want to admit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 04:32 PM
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"That is the truth crystallized for all the world to see for the rest of time" When I read this it took me immediately back to the moment I first realized how my life had followed so terribly, predictably, sadly, heartbreakingly and shamefully the path of a man succumbing to a woman. I paused, wondered why you would write that. I assume it's to deal with denial, can you enlighten me on the meaning of adding this sentence? I feel like it's important in the process of helping this guy, but I don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 11:23 AM
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Babe, sex is like your 3rd best thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:43 PM
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Princess, I don't want you to turn back into a frog. You've got a good naughty Disney thing going. Makes me wanna watch Alladin while we do it doggy style.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:41 PM
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You are doomed if you go through with this. It's a matter of months after the wedding and you will be posting in dead bedrooms. Clearly, you are not high value in her eyes. You might be failing a lot of shit tests you are not even capable of seeing. Planning a wedding for a princess can do that to the unsuspecting. Time to put all plans on hold until you get your mind right.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 12:59 AM
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Is there any concern that all this great sex after this confession is in some way a reward for cheating that will lead to more cheating in the future to get attention?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 12:23 PM
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As the day has developed, it has become obvious it is a shit test. She has already booked the ticket to poundtown when she briefly came home and threw another shit test at me and stormed out of the house for a dr. Appt after I went OI. The next time I saw her, she had doe eyes and was literally grinding me in the kitchen as I was trying to leave the house to take care of some things. However, I still dont like the precedent this may be setting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:34 PM
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I like this, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:27 PM
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OI isn't "pretending" it doesn't bother you. It's actually not letting it bother you. In short, whatever you call her tactics, she's gotten to you. I can't predict what her aim is in doing this, if she even has one, but it's working. She has you rattled.< You are right, I shouldn't pretend anything. I don't want to appear butthurt if I choose to confront it. You are also right about finally seeing it for what it is. Now, instead of simply returning fire with the same tactic and getting sucked in…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 03:03 PM
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If you squash your desires, they will leak out somewhere in an unpredictable fashion. Whatever form that takes, you will continue to predictably build resentment toward her. It seems as though she has not recognized the situation here and is not aware of the soft dread. Maybe because you are so fully committed to your sone. Time for you to ratchet up a dread level.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 02:41 PM
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I was standing in line yesterday with my kids and wife. We were about to get ice cream after a kids sports day. The line is long, there are kids everywhere and it's hot. Meanwhile the frumpy busybody in front of me is eavesdropping and wants to chat up. Ignore. Of course there are 200 menu items, sprinkles, chips, 99 flavors, dips, etc. There are 10 kids from our team and their parents, plus all the other people seeking comfort food in the heat. To make my life easier and keep the cost down, I g…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/15 01:57 PM
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I've read most of the sidebar, but don't recall seeing any scale for dread. Can you point me to this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 11:54 PM
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Im married, handy as fuck. Did not ever get a blow job simply for doing projects around the house, even when I was remodeling and doing major renovation. Maybe because I complained about the back pain, threw tantrums when things didn't work and relied on friends to help.
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