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Two thoughts: 1- If you start your Kino by going straight to hands on her pussy, you'll want to revisit some less intimate steps before that point: hugs, hands to shoulder, elbow, etc. I know that as much as I respond well to my wife aggressively coming over and going for the groin, she needs more buildup. Which is a bummer, but you can learn to deal with it. 2- Never underestimate the desire a woman has for feeling wanted. A&A, play to this. "Yeah, when I was a teenager if I could have had a mi…
/r/askMRP14/04/16 08:22 PM
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Do you want to do it? Can you do it from your frame, quoting others' words? Even the most cheesy of musicians can rock a solid frame. But if you're singing in order to impress her or earn some sex, beware.
/r/askMRP18/03/16 05:23 AM
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For me, a big change came when I separated the "I want to have sex" from the "My wife is so damn hot I want HER" which wasn't happening. So I initiate when I want, not when my wife turns me on or has pleased me.
/r/askMRP12/03/16 05:24 PM
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Owning: - After my last thread start, wife and I have reset fairly well around sex. Back door apparently scared her, but she is responding well to other aspects. - I am getting a better sense dialed in of giving comfort to her - Rereading no more Mr. nice guy - Tracking food fairly well, but need to lock that down completely - Lifting is on point again after some downtime. Monday, Wednesday, Friday are yoga days. - relationship with both my kids has been strong the last week. Both of gotten some…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 02:19 AM
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Cardio is not evil, but After four months of being on a barbell weight program with usually less than 15 minutes on a rowing machine a few times a week, I bound up stairs now, and mountain trails, way better than when I was running and stairmastering.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 08:22 PM
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Good call on the PT. I will check that out. The chiro that I have worked with isn't one of the aggressive crackers, but does some more holistic work. He previously helped a crap ton with my migraines. But I'll find a good PT also.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 01:47 AM
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Lots of eyetime with twentysomethings, for sure. A barista yesterday, who was super cute, 8+ to me, was very intrigued. But I don't see the need to chase numbers. It's just nice to know that I wouldn't fall flat if I wanted or needed to. Shoulders are a hidden physical key, I think. I've had a few friendzone conversations with ladies who all point to that part of the dude's body as a big area of interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 07:15 PM
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"Because I'm awesome." "I just remembered something somebody said." (Hamster!) "Nothing for you to worry about; I've got it handled."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 06:02 PM
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Here's a good part of getting old (47): 15% and decent shoulders and glutes puts me high in the dad bod spectrum. Which reminds me: another fun part of this journey is women coming up and putting their hands on my back, shoulders, even stroking my beard (I've grown it for a year and a half but keep it trimmed. It's hilarious how a long beard attracts straight women and repulses my lesbian coworkers / friends). Nobody's grabbing my ass, but the number of unintentional or subconscious muscle grope…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 05:59 PM
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From the sidebar book Sex God Method, DEVI is an acronym for Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 05:34 PM
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Yes. "He cares about WHY I'm BSC half the month!", even if it's to know when we should schedule those long solo weekend trips :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 05:18 PM
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I don't do Sex God all the time; in fact, our last time together was mostly Tantric. Lots of touch, gentleness. V is pretty good for us; I is probably where I need the most improvement. I am tracking. Yesterday was day 10, which should have been rosy and happy and sexy - feels. One thing I'll say to the guys who don't track: My wife perceives the fact that I track as a huge honor; like "I want to understand her." She loves that I'm always making sure I'm in synch. Which is funny, because it's mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:20 PM
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We had an entertaining (to me at least) discussion a week or two ago. She goes through phases of wanting to be a foster-dog-mother, or to adopt all my teen daughter's friends from broken homes. Her upbringing was rough; she understandably wants other kids to avoid that. I do too, but not by being their parents. She spent a awhile melting down, told me that if it was just her and she wasn't married and didn't have kids, she'd do X. I told her she had that choice to leave and go do that, but remem…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:14 PM
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Yep. I started out hardcore Keto, and have been slipping. Hardcore StrongLifts -> Starting Strength, but had to pause lower back work. I need to reset both, and if I'm truly sidelined on lower back stuff for longer (see above comment), I'll switch to a body weight system for a while. And I need to hit hard the eating part. There's a massive difference between how I need to eat/lift to get to 15%, vs. getting to 12%.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:07 PM
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Exactly. For ME, the biggest change is that I AM having fun with my life, and I AM a fun person. That changed when I finally realized that I could/must give up on the losing hand that I could help her to be happy. That's her responsibility. I'm keeping frame. I'm busy, active, and am cultivating my own awareness of abundance. It's a good time, even with bumps in the road.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:04 PM
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Yep, ditto; I'm posting this to make sure I navigate this change as well as I can. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:02 PM
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For lifting.. I've been sidelined for a month now after a minor car accident that tweaked my lower back. My chiro asked me temporarily to not to do any squats, deadlifts or power cleans - the foundation of StartingStrength 5x5, which I was doing consistently. That's been a pain. I've restarted on my own this week, with far less weight, at least to keep my form and muscle memory, and not to lose all the gains I made in the previous few months. I have been "active" in MFP, but haven't been trackin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:01 PM
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Thanks. That's all good help. I do think she's backed away from the domineering manipulator she used to be (I let her become), but I'm still a bit cautious to over-comfort because I spent years hoping that would work, and perfecting my DEERing. No more, and it will take us a while to settle into a new dynamic.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 03:55 PM
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You might want to read Robert Greene's book Mastery. It's really good at helping those of us with diverse skills/interests to see how to synthesize that diversity into something new and powerful. It's my favorite book by Greene.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 10:18 PM
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He needs GOMAD! Milk - It does a body good. And time under the barbell.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 02:24 PM
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Absolutely lift, don't wait. Then start counting how much protein you are eating. You'll want 1g protien for each 1lb of LEAN body mass (total weight minus body fat mass) for muscle building. You do not by any means need to figure out your eating first. Do both but start lifting. Starting Strength is better than Strong Lifts (which copied SS with a small change) but either is fine.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/16 04:31 PM
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I've been in a similar situation. Wife has been on antidepressants and anxiety meds for 15 years now. Some meds are better than others for libido or for difficulty reaching orgasm. Selexa was hell; Lexapro works better for her in combination with Wellbutrin. Try others. She continues to use and need those meds, even after counseling. Chemical imbalances continue. However her anxiety is lessened by my leadership; her libido increases as I initiate and she feels wanted (which happened more after I…
/r/askMRP12/02/16 08:56 PM
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Owning: I have pretty clearly regained the leadership role in my household. With regard to decision-making, sex, relationship dynamics, my wife is now following my lead. Both she and I are enjoying the relationship more than we have over our 20+ years of marriage. I have also made some progress, though not as much as I'd like, being a better father to my two children. My older daughter occasionally engages with me, which is better than it was before. My younger son is very much a mama's boy, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 01:50 AM
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Gotcha. Totally agree. My wife doesn't need to see behind the curtain, but just the results. I think this slight difference is whether the source of the change is discovering the red pill, or the source of the change is that you need to change, and red pill gives some strategy to help change. In my own journey I started changing and then found the red pill as a very helpful set of tools.
/r/askMRP31/01/16 06:25 AM
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Why lie? Because you're afraid of just changing to become the man you should be? Or afraid of her and postponing the inevitable? Just improve and own it. Don't live in fear. Read WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 09:06 PM
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I inadvertently skipped this paragraph by the OP. But lifting is more important than running, and easier to do for all fitness levels. Lift and if you want to burn more calories, walk. Hit your 10k+ steps daily. Run if you want but the squats and deadlifts will make you want those days off soon. Go do Starting Strength.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 05:45 PM
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Some of us can intake physical books, ebooks and audio books in different parts of our day. For example, 48 Laws of Power on my headphones while I'm lifting at the gym, Mastery in print on my work desk, and NMMNG on my Kindle.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 05:40 PM
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You will. Keep reading the sidebar. And welcome to the campfire.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 04:19 PM
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Exactly. You don't have to answer ANY question. See When I Say No I Feel Guilty or any political debate. And logic isn't your friend with your lady. STFU reminds you just to act, not talk.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 04:16 PM
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"I am becoming a better me", then STFU, worked for me in my first month. She constantly demanded to know why, and I would just say "because I want to." It's honest, truthful, and it spins up dread and the hamster. Then go improve, and only for yourself, not for her or your covert contracts or some idea of a unicorn elsewhere. Improve yourself because you want to. Soon enough she will stop freaking out and appreciate it, and even follow your lead.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 03:16 PM
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Yes, this is my thought too. I don't use six, seven, eight as fake it till you make it, but more like helping me grow in being more comfortable just being natural and strengthening abundance mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 05:06 AM
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Yes. You're replaceable in the relationship. So is she. Now how will your own this truth and lead accordingly?
/r/askMRP22/01/16 01:50 AM
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Owning: - Finished WISNIFG, finally. - Survived the Mother Of All Hellstorms this weekend. Comfort tests, shit tests, two days of emotional meltdown, verbal attacks and berating. A large theme of "you're an asshole since you 'decided to become a man' and you never apologize anymore" (yep, that's right; I used to apologize at the drop of a hat to 'keep the peace'. All this was burbling up due to Shark Week plus peri-menopause plus emotional insecurity plus grief over wife's mother's death trigger…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 04:56 AM
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Yes. I've found that Levis 541s are relaxed enough, though fairly snug in the thigh. Haven't had to make a shift in khakis away from slim fit in a couple brands, but it'll come.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 10:35 PM
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To often I think guys get focus on the sex improvements only. Yeah, probably so. In our case, my desire was usually low, for both physical and emotional reasons. Hers was always higher than mine. Part of my shift was a flavor of 'fake it til you make it', combined with nofap. I figured if I just focus on my own pleasure, fine. And along the way, desire increased (with less covert contracts, less butt hurt, more testosterone, more DGAF). And she likes that increase in desire/desireability, and it…
/r/askMRP05/12/15 07:09 PM
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They do skew young. Their sidebar is helpful for those of us who haven't given a shit in this realm before.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 12:41 AM
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Thanks, will look into it. I haven't started looking at eBay stuff for vintage clothing, but will do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 06:41 PM
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Owning: Lifting with SL5x5 going very well. I've gotten to where I need a spotter for bench press (good; heavy enough I'm struggling in set 3). Big next goal right now is that I will be deadlifting > my weight in 2 weeks if all goes well both with my weight and with deadlift increases. Big opportunites at my side-job lately. I have a day-job (income, insurance, vacation, but I don't love it); and a side-job (fulfillment, passion). I'm doing fine in day-job but really knocking the side-job out of…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:18 PM
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Visit /r/frugalmalefashion and /r/malefashionadvice. I've used them to help me go from IDGAF-how-i-look jeans/logo tshirts or Dockers and dept store button downs, to dressing much more nicely, getting more attention from wife and others. I'm late 40s, and look good, not like I'm trying on a man-bun and skinny jeans instead of a combover :)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 10:35 PM
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Pea protein is also very low carb, for those on Keto diets. It's a regular supplement for me doing ketogains.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 08:14 PM
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Owning: In a good routine with SL5x5. Haven't missed a day. Getting a good sense of balance between being (over)Demanding Alpha, and just assertive/strong/leader. That calibration took some weeks. Like breaking in a new set of boots. The boots are feeling more comfortable now. I've been out with friends more often recently. Seems I'm finding a good balance of home/family time and friends time. Less shit tests recently due to this, too. Doing well as a dad with my son. We're doing guy stuff, I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:21 AM
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Stuff I'm owning: Passed a fairly mild Main Event this week, with a combination of AM and OI. Wife really wanted to know what's causing the changes she's seeing in me. "Be the best me" was my main theme. After she was satisfied, let's say we celebrated well. Also handled an anxiety attack from wife based on stress that she, i and the kids are all eating differently (I on keto, now week 4). Again, AM and some IDGAF helped frame the conversation. Transition to new gym has gone well, only two visit…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 08:56 PM
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Yep, that's why I am already three weeks in. But looking to make the move to another gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 12:20 AM
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Two months in to this journey. Reading hard. Finished Pook, MMSLP, NMMNG (starting a reread already). Reading MAP now. Health: A month into keto, down ~5%BF to ~18, broke through a weight barrier and am now lighter than I've been for 18 months. Third week in Stronglifts. The most convenient gym to me (in my work building) has Smith machines only. I'll keep that gym for cardio and alternative strength stuff (TRX, yoga) to supplement SL5x5. Bought 3 new pairs of pants, 6 shirts in last few weeks. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 10:13 PM
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That 's fascinating! Another good example of American centric worldview :)
/r/askMRP19/10/15 03:12 AM
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If she's on BC she DOES have periods, and regular ones. This is why MSLP recommends tracking, and also Tuesday fun days. My wife had a hysterectomy and doesn't have "typical" periods any more, but she still has a cycle of ovulation, and the hormonal rhythms associated with that. It's been very helpful for both of us to track her cycle - to her so that she can understand and predict her moods, to me so that I don't get caught off guard and know which types of game are better to play on a particul…
/r/askMRP18/10/15 04:21 PM
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