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Almost nobody has higher physical standards than men. Even for personality and stuff there are tons of standards: she needs to be submissive so he can feel masculine, she needs to make money but not more than him, she needs to be good with kids/want no kids, she needs to care about her health but not focus much on exercise and food, she needs to be a good cook, etc. And those men only want that because they don't value women as people. It's really that simple. They want a bangmaid who does all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:57 PM
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You forgot to add "fe" in front of male, since we know men factually gain everything from a bangmaid, including better health.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:48 PM
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A neg is a backhanded compliment, ie "Wow, you're not like other girls, you're really good at video games"
/r/askFDS16/08/21 11:28 AM
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Cool, same! Glad we agree unborn people's bodies should be left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:41 PM
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I really don't think she needed help. She was troubled for a long time, abused drugs and was generally very dissatisfied with how her life was going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:32 PM
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I've listened to and read this so many times I almost have it memorized. It's just so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:14 PM
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Same. I got downvoted for agreeing? Lol, ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:05 PM
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There is nothing misogynistic about Christianity (and plenty of cons are not Christian, BTW). Don't blame the faith because some abusive men use it. NVM can use anything as a tool to keep power for themselves. What exactly is misogynistic about treating women as equal to men? Protecting the cheating wife from being stoned? Giving them humanity in a patriarchal society? Comments like these turn me off of the sub so much sometimes. I can't go to other subs because most hate women, and I can't post…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:59 AM
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Except most conservatives are pro life. There are some feminists who are too. And that doesn't make them "anti choice". Truly supporting life means providing women with options. ETA: You know what? You're not really pro choice. I supported choices more than you. I care about holding LVM accountable more than you. You're angry that you can't dismiss pro life women as controlling old white dudes so you just exclude and bully them out of female spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:54 AM
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MFM is so overrated. Do they ever actually talk about true crime? I gave their episodes a couple tries and kept skipping forward in frustration, trying to hear when they'd actually discuss the freaking crime 😂 It's just tiring, there's so few female hosts or there despite true crime largely being consumed by women. And a lot of the male hosts are good, but I think we need more women's perspectives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:52 AM
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And they'll never divorce no matter how much they hate their wife because it's just not worth losing the free meals, free housekeeping and free regular sex they benefit from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:52 PM
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Prude is just short for prudent. Remember that next time someone tries to insult you that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:04 PM
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Casual and long term? Sounds exhausting. Also, the t shirts with snarky, mean spirited text are such a LVM staple. Either "I'm surrounded by idiots" or men who are mentally still in the early 2010s and wearing one of those cringe "cool story babe, now make me a sandwich" 4chan shirts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:54 PM
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I had a friend who didn't mind telling her family my business out a long distance boyfriend because she was very uncomfortable with talking about her own scumbag boyfriends. At the time she was closer to that girl's age too, so I bet she's the same way. Socially awkward pickmes are so irritating. And it's just entitled to think you have a right to tell people. Only it's worse for you because those were just your coworkers! I can't believe she was hoping to gain something there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:59 PM
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I have a friend who does this a lot. To be fair she could just be making conversation and she hasn't met him since he's in an out of state university so she might be curious, but she also has a terrible husband she complains about a lot, so I've often wondered if there's a correlation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:55 PM
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I don't remember the title but there's a whole tumblr blog dedicated to movie covers where women are just legs, chests, etc. It's actually really unsettling how common this is, usually for older comedies, horror or action movies but it still happens now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:53 PM
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So does the fact that people demonize Shannan as a nagging harpy wife on reddit to defend him. I only looked at her sub once and had to rage quit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:33 PM
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NVM do this all over the world unfortunately. Even "progressive" European countries have a problem with infidelity and DV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:31 PM
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I see a lot of people do this, even picky eaters. Apparently just enjoying food makes you a foodie? So aren't we all foodies then? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:11 PM
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Did you tell him you already have a grandfather and aren't looking to entertain a second one romantically? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:05 PM
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Me too. They try to attack women for using queen as an excuse why they can say king but it just sounds dumb and way compensating the way they drop it every other sentence and usually for men who don't deserve it. It's also usually the guys who call women thots unironically, so extra cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:02 PM
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Feminist/liberal men really ARE just as capable of being misogynistic even though you wouldn't guess so. They're just as quick as conservatives to go for low hanging fruit insults, calling you vile names, insulting your looks and intelligence because you merely disagreed with them, etc. I think men should obviously support women's rights but self identified male feminists can be so awful and are almost worse in how well they tend to hide it (whereas far right or anti feminist men are very open a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:57 PM
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And if that fails (because HR often protects the real troublemakers at work), go to the next higher up person, and so on. Don't let him get away with it. Even if he leaves you alone, OP, he could try to prey on another woman.
/r/askFDS18/07/21 02:19 PM
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In a nutshell 😂🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:16 PM
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All the men all but admitting they're disloyal ingrates... yikes The one guy whose wife is 13 years younger and tries to pretend him checking her out when she was only 20 was harmless... yikes And the old geezer who clearly hates his wife and has an incest fetish... Y I K E S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:15 PM
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Does his fiancée know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:57 PM
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Where do boys get the confidence to do this crap? And yeah, girls are so much harder to raise /s Those boys sound like nightmares and I'd be humiliated if the school called me to say my son acted like that. Do parents have no shame??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:41 PM
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It's like how one black (male) comedian represents all blacks. If you're not one of them, you're the Other and the sole representative of your group that others you. Also, they're not very bright and combined with being deeply sexist, they don't like female comedians and therefore don't seek them out, and just aren't aware of any beyond Amy or maybe Whitney Cumming (who also got a lot of hate for being "unrelatable" to guys). So they're the only ones they ever use as an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:18 PM
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That's always annoying because "sense of humor" doesn't mean "laughs at his jokes". It just means being able to perceive humor. We know they're trying to be funny; that doesn't mean they actually are funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:13 PM
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They mean women won't validate their ego by laughing at their jokes, which is one reason I never fake laugh if I can avoid it (with customers and managers it's not always possible, but they're usually well meaning at least). They also can't stand to see women find humor in things they don't, including LVM. It's funny they say female comedians are "unrelatable". Yeah, only to YOU, Brandon. Now you know how women feel at every peen joke, p*rn joke, and "wife bad" joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:10 PM
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A whole McDonald's low value meal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:59 PM
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Wow. I love Jackie and read several books on her in HS because I looked up to her and they never once mentioned this. She deserved better. And this guy apparently had the audacity to marry her for her money (and yet people bash HER as the greedy social climber) then do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:13 PM
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Please tell me people on the sub were informing her he is far from "exceptionally smart"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:59 AM
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I'm happy that a guy was the one who called it out though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:40 PM
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Choose-my-choice liberal feminism mixed with men lacking good male role models to show them how to treat women 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:36 PM
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Translation: You're a woman, it's your job to be approachable and make me comfortable. Even on a five minute phone call in a professional setting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:27 PM
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I'm confused- separate checks mean you pay separately of course, so how did they end up splitting the bill?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:09 PM
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Can you keep a fake wallet? Were you to ever get robbed, toss the fake wallet to the side of the road and run (stuff some old gift cards or business cards or something inside so he can rifle through it and give yourself more time to get away).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:59 PM
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My favorite character on a show was hated by people for being, supposedly, "clingy". Which I didn't see at all, but even so, she was in love with the main character. Why WOULDN'T she want to spend time with him? Is that not the entire point of a relationship?? To me, people who hate "clinginess", real or otherwise, are telling on themselves as commitmentphobes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:10 PM
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The sex pozzie crowd will prude-shame people for preferring normal sex that involves kissing and caressing and generally just... treating your spouse like a human being. For porn it's just bang, bang, bang. And they have the audacity to call the anti-porn crowd boring? Only boring people can't think of ways to be intimate that last longer than 5 minutes or don't involve treating the woman like a blowup doll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:04 PM
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Adoption is a very good option if you feel you cannot afford the baby. Another family would be so happy to have her. Also, if you do decide to keep the baby (for which I commend you), being a single mother is not the worst. I was raised by one. Single moms are better off than women raising kids in a one sided relationship, I'll tell you that much. I hope it works out for you and your child, I really do. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:59 AM
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If his character was respectable, he wouldn't feel attacked 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:22 PM
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Because he doesn't REALLY think she is. He only dates respectable women /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:21 PM
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I think emotional molestation is very much a thing some parents do. Parents who treat their kids like a second husband/wife are nasty and need a therapist, not kids to force their gross personal lives onto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:06 PM
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Pickme moms are so awful. Literally no reason why she had to drag you along, but I've noticed pickmes have this weird need to force other people to interact with their LVM. I've had friends try to bring their terrible boyfriends along on our time together, without even asking me. Maybe your mom wanted you to start seeing him as new dad but forcing a kid to be around a strange man they're not related to so is dangerous! What if he tried to molest you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:04 PM
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It really is the best defense, but be prepared for them still lashing out. I once thought an old guy was staring at me at the depot (lots of LVM there) and I just got sick of how they all feel entitled to treat you like you exist to be looked at. So I gave him a look and I think I heard him say "Wasn't looking at you, b*tch" under his breath. Lol, okay, calm down then? In retrospect I think he actually was looking for his bus. Why lash out then? They are SO insecure and feel attacked by a woman …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:54 PM
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It's because they get off on putting you in your place. Making you feel small makes them feel big, especially unattractive losers who probably never have girlfriends. Like pathetic, gutless bullies, they take their anger out on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:19 PM
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I guess because it's less scary and less effort to punish and demonize girls for "brattiness" (real or perceived) than it is to put up with a bunch of savages harassing girls, flipping over chairs and possibly carrying guns on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:14 PM
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I think he ended up being LV on the show because, to be honest, the showrunners were/are big Daenerys fans who couldn't portray her end in a more positive light ike they wanted without making the characters around her look worse. Jon waits and waits to do anything about her desire to take over Westeros and still doesn't when she murders everyone. He lashes out a lot at Sansa and makes some really baseless accusations towards her when he knows she has his back and he himself said they need to wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:06 AM
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I like the ones under the woman talking about how she was sobbing on the phone and her bf basically wanted no part of that and hung up after telling her she could talk to him when she was done. Two goblins said "KEENG" and another outright said "you women overreact too much". None of them deserve a girlfriend, much less a wife. But they'll probably get one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:39 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:32 PM
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I'm really happy they touched on the types of feminists who try to gaslight other women into thinking just enjoying makeup or girly stuff in general makes you a conformist, gutless libfem. It really makes them sound like they're saying women are too weak and stupid to decide what they like; it HAS to revolve around men. Which is such a LVM thing to think- they always immediately assume a woman who styles her hair or wears a dress is trying to get his attention. Please. I actually saw someone her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:30 PM
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I'm confused why they didn't talk this beforehand if it was so important. People, please vet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:14 PM
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They don't like 1) seeing their fantasy of a "naturally beautiful" woman ruined by the reality of dedicated beauty routines to get that pretty and 2) hate that women take pleasure in something that isn't about or for guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:06 PM
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I'd be like, "Yes, I am, peasant. Bow down." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:03 PM
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While I'm not single, I still enjoy vetting people by asking their opinion on characters like Sansa and Catelyn Stark, Rey from Star Wars, or Amy Dunne. Female characters who are either unfairly hated for disagreeing with a man or get criticized for just for the wrong reasons. People often hate fictional women for really misogynistic reasons and don't even think about why they hate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:01 PM
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I've always liked Piloxing best. I don't have the ability to be still and slowly do pilates and yoga like a lot of people do, I need to move and challenge my body. It's kind of a mix between pilates and kickboxing and a little dance. I love it, and when I actually had time to do it 3-5 times a week for an hour and a half, it made me look and feel good. There are YouTube videos of it up if anyone is curious. I also just love walking. I can listen to a podcast and be out for an hour if I've got th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:53 PM
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What's male average to men is unattractive and what's female average to them is usually very pretty. It's weird. They'll do this even to supermodels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:45 PM
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The strange thing is I actually see women say this more! It's usually women who want a family and think it's cute that he doesn't prioritize working out because he's busy with a family. Which sure, that's fine, and weight can certainly be difficult for everyone as we age, but it's also fine to want a guy who makes time to take care of himself since men tend to want that with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:44 PM
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Is that why Lisa Frank never shows her face? I'm genuinely curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:07 PM
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Those ones did, but not all of them. A lot are also very enthusiastic about doxing and cyberbullying on Twitter, IG, etc and have driven people off. It's scary. They're also the ones getting fed the idea that bdsm and stuff are normal and healthy parts of sex which is also disturbing and I hope they can let go of the black and white thinking so many of them have to see how messed up liberal feminism and sex pozzie culture is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:06 PM
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Why?? That sounds like abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:10 PM
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But they do love when pickmes pipe up to say THEY love it so other women should quit being uptight feminist prudes and get a sense of humor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:20 PM
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Yeah, they wanna call themselves protectors until it's time to protect a woman for real from another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:12 PM
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They hate being laughed at. It feels like you just yanked the power out of their hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:09 PM
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I agree with every single but here but this- pretty privilege really isn't a thing. Pretty women get abused too despite and even because of their looks. Any assault they face is brushed off as her "asking for it" for being hot, or told men can't help it around pretty women. Their accomplishments are ignored or brushed off as her only getting a job/award is because of her looks or how she must have slept her way there. Ugly women being treated like they're invisible or worthless doesn't suddenly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:56 PM
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Legitimately hate that name now. It's just for any woman who annoys anyone. And there's videos and posts about people wishing actual death on these women! And I love when people insist "anyone can be a Karen, even men" like women being bad, entitled customers is somehow default female behavior. I always correct them and say no, a rude man is a Kevin and they're ALWAYS worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:49 PM
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Same. I had exactly 1 truly rude female customer, that's it. And even then she didn't tell or get physical or name-call. Women just stuff their annoyance or let it go or go to a manager and that's the end of it. But men of all ages have been rude. I have several stories, from men just being disrespectful to this really old guy who would come in to chase me down and on giving me (and never men) a handful of candy, and once tried to block me from leaving an aisle. That's not even getting into how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:48 PM
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He's "humbled" her into changing her preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:34 PM
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That's pretty much boomer marriage in a nutshell. I honestly think the women married because their culture told them they were worthless without a husband (and also because women's lib was on the rise and I imagine LVM were scrambling for ways to keep women down) and the men married whatever girl they could get to ensure they have a free maid to sleep with a few times a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:37 PM
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"If you tried saying something actually intelligent sometime, I'd be glad to agree with you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:33 PM
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A lot of these men simply force their families to live in poverty. It's just easier to have a dozen kids (for MuH LeGaCy) and refuse to work harder to provide for them. It's horrible. Have you guys seen some of those quiverful families? So many of those kids look HUNGRY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:32 PM
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As a woman who has a lot of feminine energy and some pretty traditionally girly interests (shipping, gardening, crochet, fashion, cottagecore, trying to get into nail art now!) I truly hate that I can't ever look up stuff about being feminine without the vast majority of it being from a tradfem or redpiller's misogynistic POV. Thank goodness for female level up bloggers, they're typically a great source for being girly AND empowered. Femininity at its core should be about inner strength, wisdom,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:26 PM
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Lol he really tried insulting you for being smart/valuing intelligence and skill? May as well insult someone for being pretty. I'd have said something along the lines of "Yeah, I see why intelligent, artistic subjects are a scary concept for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:03 PM
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They're afraid of women getting anything valuable at all out of THEIR scam. Relationships to them are meant for he men to gain from, not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:57 PM
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Lol lurkers downvoted you for that. Sorry guys, you're not gonna be the pampered princess here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:50 PM
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What is even the point of buying a house with someone you're not married to? I genuinely don't know, I was raised on the idea that comes after marriage. I keep seeing people talk about this but... why?? If you're unmarried and/or plan to keep it that way that means you know a breakup is very possible in the future, making a purchase this huge totally pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:38 PM
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"Soul digger" is good for these types. They take your money, your time, your energy and your dignity until your soul feels empty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:36 PM
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They do. They just think other men are only worthy of friendship and being treated like a person whose company they enjoy. Women exist to marry or hook up with so what good is their company as a friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:12 AM
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Like this doesn't have enough red flags, it shows he didn't even read it since it refers to using Myspace. Bad reading comprehension alone is a turnoff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:13 PM
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Fantastic Creeps and Where to Find Them 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:10 PM
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Oh gosh, her. Miss "women shouldn't have power over men or leadership positions but I can have a platform over everyone, as a treat :)".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:06 PM
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Or smiling at/near them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:29 AM
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That's actually a pretty good response for LVM for any of you ladies who aren't good at mean clapbacks. Vaguely nice and sweet but ultimately unhelpful to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:19 PM
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That's extra scummy he tried to guilt you about his race. There are people that have to deal with real racism in the world. That's just emotional blackmail and almost seems like gaslighting to me. Glad he seems to be an ex though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:09 PM
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This. Then they play the victim. "I don't know, officer. We were just having a disagreement and she just started wailing on me out of nowhere!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:23 PM
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Some pickmes feel proud of having a potentially violent man. I knew a girl who bragged that her bf was strong enough to throw her across the room if he wanted (I saw his pic and he was a scrawny little dude but still, why would you think that would impress us??? You think you're a special exception to a man's dangerous toddler tantrums and we're jealous?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:19 PM
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She'll probably feel relieved it isn't her he's releasing that rage on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:17 PM
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"I don't humor crazy dudes, but you're an exception." (Not really, run from him.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:17 PM
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Wow, didn't think we were back in the 50s 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:15 PM
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Because relationships aren't supposed to benefit women 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:04 PM
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I grew up very poor. Not like, never had food poor, but we moved a lot, I had to rely on other relatives getting me new clothes for school most of the time, got made fun of for being too poor for certain things in school, had our electricity off one autumn. I had financial issues when I got my own place too. It can be traumatizing. I'm very fortunate to have found a very frugal guy now because I want absolutely no part of a relationship with someone who is terrible with spending/saving money or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:55 PM
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Honestly he should ask himself that. Who picked you out for him on that dating app? His mom? His boss? Clearly he saw something he wanted at his table!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:52 PM
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Are they? I don't doubt a lot are good but I keep hearing awful stories here that they're all into situationships, porn and expect 50/50 every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:37 PM
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I love that backhanded "advice". They do the same with breasts. "Aww, don't worry, some day you'll find a guy that doesn't care about how small your chest is :)" Bro, what makes you think our small boobs/butt/lips etc aren't already good looking and need a guy to validate them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:33 PM
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Curvy means more of a defined waist, so women of any breast or butt size or dress size can have it. Candice Swanepoel for instance is curvaceous and she's tiny and has small breasts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:28 PM
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We can blame the Kardashians for that trend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:25 PM
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I'd talked to my boyfriend about this years ago, and he confirmed it to me. He said he used to think he preferred big ones as a teenager because that's what men are "supposed" to like. Then he grew up, matured and realized he prefers something else and isn't actually obligated to care or agree with what other men want or what society says looks best on a woman. Men seriously need to stop losing sleep over what their bros think. Stop wasting your and some poor woman's time "tolerating" her and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:24 PM
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The gist here is women have stopped settling while giving their all in relationships and men have to put actual effort into dating now and bring something valuable to the table. That won't be hard for men who level up and become high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:23 PM
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So she's never allowed to change her mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:12 PM
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It's the lack of self-worth :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:06 PM
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Many, not all. Sects of Christianity have been abused as a tool by men to hurt women. That's not to say it's inherently bad. Jesus defended the adulterous woman from being stoned, he gave his female friends equal standing and respect to his male ones, he ensured his mother would have protection and her needs met when He was crucified, and outright said there is no male or female in God's eyes, ie sexism isn't meant a part of Christianity. If that isn't emancipation for women in a time when we we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:22 AM
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I once saw a post saying if a homeless person who is probably a druggie asks for money, you should give it to them anyway and let them potentially buy crack or whatever. Lots of people were agreeing with it and I was dumbfounded. So... I totally believe they would say that too. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:15 AM
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Tell me you wanna protect violent men without actually telling me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:12 AM
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Nope, but surely they must still NATURALLY understand fixing stuff better than a female /s Just like how women are born being better at feelings and decorating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:14 PM
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Almost sounds like he's about to make you the subject of a true crime murder podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:02 PM
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"Not like other girls". There's always this female character who needs to tell you how DIFFERENT she is from Other Girls, usually to impress a boy, and this is painted as admirable and something for girls to emulate by the author. And oh, I actually just got into Buffy 😂 It's definitely super 90s in ways, although I do admire Buffy for knowing her worth and I love that always looks cute for battle. But her taste in men can be... interesting to say the least lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:01 PM
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I've actually never heard men say it, but exclusively women. Well, specifically immature pickmes and libfems who think Marilyn (who never even said that) is this ideal role model and don't take her issues and behavior into account at all, but just enjoy feeling like a girlboss who's above responsibility for their actions. Although I wouldn't be shocked if a LVM jacked that too, it's very much aligned with their me-first, accountability-allergic attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:58 PM
17

Actually, she never said it at all, it's just one of those quotes that gets circulated a lot by libfems who want no accountability and didn't really care about her as a person but just liked that the quote makes them feel immune from criticism of their bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:56 PM
17

Geez. Can we say P-R-O-J-E-C-T-I-O-N?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:53 PM
38

You can see it throughout history too. It's been pointed out here already but it's so true- how things like high heels and hose were manly things at one point, till women started wearing them. Or how working with computers was women's work till men realized how far they could go with those jobs and pushed women out. Even the Beatles! Fangirls adored them and helped make them successful, and then men decided they were actually a cool man's band, not a dumb one only hysterical girls like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:11 AM
18

True, though the early/mid 2000s in general was kind of the crowning era of pickmes and Cool Girls. Even stuff most adults approved of like Harry Potter and The Hunger Games had at least one heroine who fit one or both of those labels. It was difficult NOT to find a heroine like that, which really didn't feel great when you DID like the stuff the NLOG berated. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:08 AM
40

Which is a shame, because I did grow up in the 90s and really liked their girl power message. I think a lot of young girls did, as well as just the fact that they were a group of all women that were huge in the world at the time, with a message of femsle friendship, and each had a different personality you could relate to. Good stuff gets ruined by hot pants :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:57 AM
8

The "it's healthy/normal" excuse is always funny because it's never, ever said about women who find a strange man off the street or a male celeb attractive. It's only an excuse for men to ogle other women. No way would people be as protective of a woman's "right" to check out men she finds hot and talk about as they are a guy's.
/r/askFDS05/07/21 04:51 PM
2

Hoping she was being satirical 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:16 PM
8

That's not really a Disney or fairy tale thing, the former teaches stuff like magic and true love conquering all and the latter teaches morals like "be kind to others. There's nothing at all wrong with that. It's hot garbage like what is in teen magazines teaching girls to OBSESS over boys in every aspect or YA books that teach girls to be NLOG libfems that worry me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:27 PM
102

According to her caption, she IS naturally pretty, unlike other girls uwu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:22 PM
5

They do this because they enjoy offending us. I actually like the other person's way of a polite smile. Retail Face works wonders for men who like to bully or neg you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:55 PM
9

What the HECK made him think you'd go with him?! That that was appropriate in any universe? Both those men sound utterly unhinged. And yet redditors say it's scarier to be a man and ask women out! Sorry you had to deal with such sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:12 PM
18

And a lot don't care anyway. They don't care about women's pleasure. Or else they're insecure and feel threatened because they dont meet our definition of sexy. Look how many have attacked stuff like Bridgerton, the Star Wars sequels, etc because they focus so much on female sexuality and portray men as the objects of hotness and romance, completely turning the cultural tables around. You could show a guy that Little Women scene where Laurie unbuttons Amy's paint smock and they (and honestly, ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:11 PM
10

Why not? Incels do it to women for free on other subs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:04 PM
26

This should be at the top lol. It's the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:03 PM
129

Because the male gaze is the default. The female one isn't even on their level of existence to them. They like X so women must- or should- like X too. There was a really good tumblr post about this with examples of Hugh Jackman on a men's magazine and a women's magazine. On the men's, he was shirtless, unsmiling, and posed aggressively as Wolverine. That is a male fantasy. On the women's, he was wearing a comfy shirt, had groomed hair, a nice smile, looked huggable. That's what women like. But i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:01 PM
4

That's based on a real scam with McDonald's workers. Notably with a nice but really naive teenage girl :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:44 PM
26

Yep, and not a huge loss imo. Some are nice, sure, but you can't have the same deep friendships as you can with women, and we have less drama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:08 PM
43

Their retort to this is always "but it's not our fault, it's feminism's/society's fault that men are so kindness-starved! We're not allowed to show affection 😔" Yeah, no. Nobody but you is stopping you from giving or receiving emotional support from other men and it's not an excuse to treat women this way. You CHOOSE to view women as free therapists and bangmaids and have shallow relationships with other men. It's not our fault you project your desperation for a gf onto us to the point that even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:01 PM
51

And even then it's still not true kindness. They love abusing the women they're attracted to too :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:57 PM
7

What a jerk. That was totally an insult. I'd ghost him. He can see how hard he has to work to even make you look in his direction now 🤷‍♀️
/r/askFDS30/06/21 05:30 PM
4

I worked in retail before, and what really helped is that I am not naturally smiley and bubbly. Keeping a cool, distant (but nor unfriendly), almost dreamy demeanor works. If they engage with you in conversation, you can easily find ways to casually mention having a bf if they're coming on strong. Don't do the little cutesy girly things that men take as flirty, ie twirl your hair, cock your head, make your voice softer, etc. Pretend you're an A-list high value celebrity on TV talking about your …
/r/askFDS30/06/21 05:28 PM
1

Please tell me they roasted him in the comments!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:19 PM
62

They'd use it as "proof" women are catty bullies that hate each other and are probably envious of the girl's youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:13 PM
23

"Will dump you and show no emotion" Good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:07 PM
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My first thought was immediately "that's a dude". Never have I ever seen a teenage girl write like that or frankly any woman, even when she's on cloud 9 happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:57 PM
2

Women's words are as harmful as men's violence, doncha know? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:42 PM
52

Because they don't know how real friendship works. They usually can't even be friends with other men. Men like this are too unhealthy to understand how a healthy relationship of any sort functions. You can even see it with his wife, it was all about her youth and looks and now her actual LOVE for him disgusts him. This poor new woman probably genuinely thinks he is her friend because women typically don't view men as husband potential but people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:47 PM
42

Who needs sense when you look like that, I guess? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:31 PM
47

Ego, simply. They can't imagine they would be anything less than a woman's dream man because they're their own dream man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:10 PM
3

Take some comfort in the fact that these people are majorly triggered by even the tiniest boundary. It reflects poorly on them, not her. I hope she doesn't take it to heart and got at least a couple people backing her up. Reddit loves dogpiling on any woman who steps out of line and hurts their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 04:51 PM
11

It's another way to blame women for men's behavior. Oh, he gave her the position because he wants to sleep with her? Clearly she is the problem and not his unethical way of rewarding employees and his refusal to treat women like people /s Ironically I was in a group making fun of pickmes once, and these girls were all dragging me for saying beauty privilege isn't a thing and only libfems who think getting catcalled is a "compliment" is. But it's not. How did they not see their own misogyny? 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:45 PM
15

Socialization. We're groomed to tiptoe around their feelings. Plus, as someone who used to be caught up in the "anti feminist" community when I was naive, they teach you to genuinely think that men are oppressed and calling them out on anything is misandrist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:40 PM
2

Well... she's right that both parents are head of the house. There's that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:38 PM
103

These people 99% of the time just fish for validation. They want to be assured they did nothing wrong and the other person in the story is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:10 AM
14

Hahaha what a giant cope. Someone's been reading FDS posts and decided to flip the tables and pretend they're the ones who are too good for you. That's all it is. I can't even be very annoyed by this post, it's such an obvious ego-pat coming from insecurity and envy of women's options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:58 PM
37

He looks very happy with you too 😸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:38 PM
21

So he likes her as company and to waste time during his (by choice) busy schedule, waiting for a "hotter" girl to come along that he can really commit to. That's his vibe I'm getting. I know people are saying it's her fault for staying when he made it clear what he wants but I still can't help but feel sorry for her. 33 and still thinks she'll never find another man as good as this guy who keeps her around out of boredom? She needs real support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:36 PM
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I was about to comment on that! They are so BASIC. Like...basic even for friendship, much less a husband and father. And yet he still managed to contribute nothing that she clearly wants or needs (commitment, wants marriage and kids, spends more time with her than a few hours of Zoom calls a week, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:34 PM
78

How do you know someone hates cats? Don't worry, they'll always tell you 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:17 PM
59

I've seen a lot of videos of men hurting cats. One I saw like a decade ago, some loser held out his hand to trick the poor cat come over then kicked it against the wall where it almost bounced off and quickly ran away (hope it was ok). The forum where this was posted had people that found it genuinely funny. Just look on YouTube of people bullying or abusing cats (or don't). The majority of the time it's some NVM hurting a weaker creature for entertainment and views and the comments are full of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:15 PM
9

Side note, really hate how much he said "panties"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:10 PM
12

Well, that's how the fairy tale went. And to be fair, she already liked human stuff. I'd definitely take that over an emotionally and physically abusive father, personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:08 PM
19

What's wrong with Eric? He's not my face but he was a pretty (genuinely) nice guy who loved his dog, didn't care about fancy stuff despite being a prince, and fought Ursula. I'd prefer him to Flynn or Shang any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:05 PM
15

Did she ever respond?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:08 PM
25

I'm really happy Marina's lyrics are more like this and less like "Girls", which she seems somewhat embarrassed by now. Also, the album is really catchy overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:38 PM
15

This. OP isn't really being fair at all to women here and it more shifting the blame from men's terrible ideas about women onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:33 PM
58

Or even their own, if they really cared so much about men's issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:07 PM
87

I don't see what's prudish there. Lots of men use that as an excuse to get away with touching strange women in a way that gets them off and break down their boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:06 PM
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Marriage doesn't hold them back, selfish men do. Lots of husbands manage to be supportive in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 08:02 PM
19

I don't understand how parents of sons can possibly find this adorable and charming. I'd get up in the face of any man who threatened my son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:06 PM
17

Maybe if you're lucky they'll only call you a man-hating harpy for treating boys the way men are. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:55 PM
9

Can I add, those types of people who speak of their own cats like "lol cats are a**holes!"? I don't trust people who criticize cats for... having standards? Hating people who are loud and destructive and disrespect their boundaries? Who force you to earn their affection? If they're like this about their own pet they chose to have, how will they speak of you as their wife? Double points if the guy is a dog person saying this. So many narcs hate cats and love dogs because one will worship you for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:59 PM
17

It's a really bad come-on and also a backhanded "compliment".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:32 PM
3

I just feel sorry for Jennifer Garner. I know people will call her a pickme but she's one of the few celebs really liked- she seemed really down to earth, protected her kids from the paparazzi, never got into scandals. She was too good for Ben. I have absolutely no idea what he has that Jenifer Lopez thinks is worth being with a guy who treats a good woman like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:35 PM
12

That always cracks me up when non-Americans think they have the moral authority to judge anyone. Like, I see the ugly stuff happening in their own countries even if they aren't big enough to admit it themselves. Take the log out of your own eye first, Jean-Claude. European and Canadian and Australian men are as LV as they are here, in some ways worse (I've seen all the horror stories of Scandinavian men and pick-mes especially). It's not a country problem, it's a world problem!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:32 PM
9

It's so sad and just bizarre how the tables have turned. When on earth and why on earth did women decide to give up that power and let guys be the choosy ones?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:29 PM
11

I may not end up having kids either but it's not because they're a "burden" to my freedom. Kids are great, they're definitely not for everyone but I wish people would just say they don't want any without treating them like a ball and chain as husbands do to their wives. That said, why are your relatives so worried when it sounds like they have two dozen grandkids around? I'd tell my parents they can calm down, a few more toddlers not running around isn't gonna hurt you or them. I don't understan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:25 PM
1

And the weird thing is so many men try to bully women for our looks by negatively comparing women today to old Hollywood starlets, how women today are trashy and cheap looking and those actors and singers were soooo classy and glamorous. It probably took them HOURS at minimum to do all the makeup, girdles, pushup bras, hairstyling, etc they needed for every single photo shoot or movie. They wore far more makeup than a lot of women do today, and yes, they OWNED the bold lips. And you wanna try te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:07 PM
20

Oh my gosh, that pretending it never happened thing drives me crazy because people act like that's somehow the rational, mature thing to do. I remember a middle school teacher talking about how she surd to monitor elementary school kids at recess and when the girls would fight the friendship was over, but when the boys did they'd keep playing their baseball games because the game was just that important. She didn't outright say the boys' way was better but I kind of got the idea it was her point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:59 PM
11

I legit hate pickmes' obsession with generalizing all of us women. Like men don't do it enough. No, Rachel, YOU love bricks thrown through your, being burnt with cigarettes, and being hit. YOU DON'T GET TO SPEAK FOR US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:13 AM
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So many parents act like an unmarried child is their worst nightmare, like it says to the world what a failure their kid is and by extension, them too. They push their kids- especially girls- into marrying the person who gives them the time of day and then act utterly shocked when the marriage doesn't work out. Parents. Teach your kids boundaries! Stop brainwashing your children into thinking that they are worthless without a spouse/partner! Would you rather have a happy single child/a child who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:10 AM
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One silver lining is that at least the poor baby was left unharmed. What happened to her? I pray the maternal family has her or will! This is why anti feminists need to shut their mouths and stop pretending "oh, women in first world countries have it easy and need to APPRECIATE that they aren't being gang raped and stoned for it like in other countries." when we have stories like this. Women are murdered for hurting a man's ego every day, everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:06 AM
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They lie and pretend they would. They refuse to be honest because their ego will never let them admit they're wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:00 AM
6

Exactly, because that's how lots of guys fight. No logic or anything. Just seeing who can throw the sickest burn at each other no matter how stupid it actually sounds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:03 PM
9

Too young to be marrying but old enough to date an older man whose life experience totally clashes with hers? Ok, Mom and Dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:16 PM
3

Guys don't know how to be funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:14 PM
2

Attacking her looks is messed up but wasn't she also demonized for molesting her little sister and playing it off as a funny kid story?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:37 PM
3

More reason why we need more women leading. And there is legitimately no excuse; Deborah, Priscilla, Miriam, and Phoebe were all leaders or held some kind of high status. A female presence makes such a difference and unless they're pickmes, they'll be much better about smelling a creep who is only there to prey on little girls. A lot of male leaders unfortunately would rather just blame the girl and her parents instead of punish the man creeping on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:35 PM
6

We're only women to them, no more capable of being a real threat than a chipmunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:27 PM
40

This is why I now think most anti feminists are mentally ill. They truly live in a fantasy world where men are getting their lives ruined left and right by evil lying women in a "gynocentric" dystopia. And they'll cherry 20 cases of women doing that and quietly ignore the literal millions of times men get away with bullying and terrorizing women and children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:23 PM
56

But it's scary to ask a woman out! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:19 PM
2

Even if we didn't have these assaults to worry about, you don't owe anyone a date. It's so frustrating when older people, even women, act like you have some duty to grab the first man who even looks at you and settle down with him. They don't get it's not the 50s-70s anymore and women can afford to be picky now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:24 PM
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I see some posts about men praising how gorgeous their wives are and people eat it up. That's not at all the same thing. Looks are an accident. Would he like his wife to tell people he's hot and nothing else? Nothing about his strength, wisdom, cleverness, accomplishments, etc? No, of course not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:51 AM
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All this, plus I'd want to grow old WITH him. Where's the joy in growing older when he's gonna kick the bucket far sooner than me and leave me alone? There is just no benefit to significant age gaps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:32 AM
21

Women are the tough sex. We eat bullying worse than this for breakfast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:48 PM
9

This. Like 95% of all viral stuff screams fake. The only thing she forgot to add for the cherry on top is making the whole store applaud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:05 AM
4

And they'd be wrong. That sounds pretty misogynistic, honestly. Are we only empowered when we like masculine-coded stuff?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:52 PM
4

A man wrote this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:33 PM
6

Control and pushing boundaries. That all it ever is. It's also why so many men are so aggressively angry about veganism IMO. Which I think could be a whole other discussion in itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:17 PM
34

Loving romance is perfectly fine. There's ton of good romance novels out there. Terrible rom coms written by socially awkward men who want a Cool Girl? That's bad but that's different. And also super different from the p0rn epidemic going on with boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:13 PM
21

That laugh thing always annoyed me. It feels almost narcissistic how insistent on it they are. If anyone ever asks me what I like about my SO, I'm gonna tell them he laughs at my jokes 🤷‍♀️ It's true, and they can just be offended that the woman is the funnier one. (He's funny too, though.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:46 PM
24

That's exactly what pickmes and chauvinists don't like about friendships/relationships with women: ours are deeper and BECAUSE they're more fulfilling, they can take more effort. LVM and LVW don't want to make effort. They're lazy and shallow and just want insta-feel good chill time, a la beer and video games and awkward silences. Hard, hard pass from me. That sounds draining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:45 PM
21

Can we not dehumanize kids though? They're people, not crotch goblins, not womb demons, not hellspawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:33 PM
17

Then they can date a 75 year old woman who has no patience for p*rn or video games. Love is love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:27 PM
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The only time the far right, anti-feminists, incels, etc will gladly criticize anyone white is when it's a white woman. Suddenly they're the biggest supporters of social justice as long as they can weaponize it for their misogyny. And then there's libfems who conversely are very happy to channel their internalized sexism out, as long as it's about white women. I'm not trying to victimize the group or anything; I'm just disgusted by misogynistic bullying disguised as performative wokeness. It's w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:24 PM
16

Whenever I hear a guy say that I just go, "It beats the alternative 🤷‍♀️" Thank you, Susie from Calvin and Hobbes for the inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:18 PM
0

Ariel wanted to be human way before she fell in love though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:54 AM
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But the law is lenient on women. Female privilege! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:13 PM
24

Because men are people and women are not to them, simply. It's fine for me but not for thee (as if you can really compare bullying a random woman off the street to someone holding you accountable for stuff you said though).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:12 PM
10

Yes, and then they post endless "jokes" about how daughters are a nightmare, too expensive, too emotional 🙄 Your daughter is fine, Jennifer, she just seems "bratty" next to your spoiled son who you make no effort to discipline at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:58 AM
4

The kind many men think about women but nobody minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:53 AM
2

I'm spiritual in the sense that I'm a Christian so it's different, but have any other Christian ladies had problems with atheist men? They really tend to view themselves as science/philosophy experts and can be mansplaining kings. I noticed a LOT of incels tend to identify as this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:48 PM
3

This!! And a lot of pickmes do the same. It's often code for narc scrote/scrotette who thinks their opinions are fact and they can offer them to anyone unsolicited. They use mbti for an ego stroke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:46 PM
4

Why is MBTI garbage? It's quite accurate if you study the cognitive functions and ignore those awful online quizzes with stupid questions like "What would you rather do? A) Discuss the meaning of life or B) Think of what's for dinner?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:45 PM
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For what end?? They HATE the very concept of child support and even the bare minimum of childrearing is a nightmare to them. What exactly are they hoping to accomplish when they claim the custody laws are so biased against men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:38 PM
21

They don't let women in, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:03 PM
22

A really ugly mix of phallocentrism, entitlement, and the belief that women should not have physical standards for men. HE isn't attracted to men therefore HE doesn't see it as a problem. Men will stare even if you're dressed like a nun. The problem is men's refusal to acknowledge that women are people and don't actually exist for men's pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:00 PM
2

It's a popular quote attributed to VS model Adriana Lima, but her agent said she never actually said it. Still, funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:24 PM
1

He was probably hoping it would be an effective opener. THEN he would ask her out, probably something restaurant related.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:26 PM
4

Mothers still get a lot of hate, lack of sympathy, and lack of appreciation. Don't confuse society's shallow, fake "love" of motherhood with genuine love for mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:15 PM
1

Slightly OT but was anyone else a fan of The Princess Diaries books growing up? I remember being so incensed when Mia's own dad called her a tease. I don't remember the context and I don't really care, because there's just no excuse for it. (And how Michael treated her and how people shamed Mia for dumping him when he wasn't honest about his sexual history is another story.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:25 PM
10

Razzie for what?? Her acting was great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:18 PM
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Nicholson is one of the most esteemed actors ever and Kubrick is considered a genius. Of course they haven't apologized, or been prodded to. 🙄 Male "geniuses" can get away with absolutely anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:17 PM
18

And they both think they can do better than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:11 PM
5

And watch them name their "favorite" female characters who are just fictional women they would sleep with/wear sexualized outfits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:27 PM
4

Yeah, but some NLOG are just pickmes who want male approval at any costs. I don't think all of them deserve the benefit of the doubt when some openly and cheerfully support misogynistic men ideologies and brag about how they're better than women who like female closed stuff- which men already do not need help with! They shouldn't get off the hook just for being women IMO. Patience yes, but I don't support their right to trash other women as a cope. I side eye anyone who thinks they are superior …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:37 PM
2

But even then, it's not based on their hatred and mistrust of men as a whole. Nice Guys hate women too, women who reject them or might reject them. Nice Guys and pickmes both are sexist. Even men don't truly get a male version, the misogyny is just sp deep rooted in all cultures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:36 PM
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Their scratched off lottery ticket? A happy meal for your birthday? A bus token?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:23 AM
13

Actors maybe, definitely not the ones I've come across online! So many toxic, smug bullies with such vulgar language. Anyone can be a jerk, obviously, but some of them online act like it's part of their cultural heritage to be mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:02 AM
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I'm sure they like to think they are, but progressive beliefs still don't always equal good character. Online they can be super toxic, throw the c word around in casual conversation. Liberal men are just as capable of being sexist bullies as conservative ones, unfortunately. They might theoretically consider women equal but don't act like it because it doesn't benefit them to. It actually really astonishes me how Australians and Europeans bith can chide Americans for being "backwards" when they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:57 PM
15

Little to no facial hair, warm eyes, nice hands (by that I mean they look good and have a tenderness to them but also feel good when we touch), slim lips, fit (I don't want a bodybuilder but I don't want someone who never takes care of himself either), not shorter than me, not so tall we have to struggle to kiss, hair long enough to play with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:58 PM
84

Exactly! Male dominance was literally the curse for sin. It was never intended to be the norm or a good thing. Ephesians 5:21 even tells us to submit to one another, but you'll rarely hear that one talked about, same as the many verses about authority figures surrendering their power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:44 PM
95

Abusive tradmen aren't "straight cottagecore", they're just abusive tradmen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:42 PM
144

It's our punishment for taking pleasure in anything that doesn't revolve around their approval and serving them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:41 PM
5

But English people will just say they use that for everyone, so it's okay 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:12 PM
17

Bromo? Since these guys seem so much more reverent and attracted to their bros and other men in general than women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:11 PM
40

It's really funny how they make excuse that p*say is ACKSHULLY short for pusillanimous. Right. Like these losers can spell that or even knew the word before they started saying that slur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:11 PM
6

That's because slurs against women are so normalized and used so casually in convos (particularly in places like England and Australia) that men don't even consider them slurs. They don't even think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:09 PM
4

Grandpa is even better than dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:41 PM
-7

Definitely not, especially considering Amy is still an antisocial murderer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:31 PM
17

This is all it is. What men say they want depends on the beauty standards at the time, what their bros think, what their favorite male musician sings about, what their mom was like, what kind of weather it is that day. They often self contradict (for example, some biotroof fans will say men like large boobs because ita sign of fertility but then chade after teenagers... who rarely have mature looking bodies and are certainly not old enough to have kids).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:30 PM
12

Love that perfectly normal emotions like sadness when a guy is purposely toying with your feelings are considered "crazy" but not revenge p*rn, emotional games, threatening to off himself, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:27 PM
7

And they call women crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:23 PM
139

Had a guy at work ask my coworker if I was "mute" because I once didn't realize he said hi to me. They're so self-absorbed they literally can't fathom a woman has better things to concentrate on than their special attention and must just have a disability!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:13 AM
33

Be careful they don't get mad and shove you or something. I frankly don't trust strange men and this is exactly the kind of thing boys in school would do and I don't doubt some unhinged grown man would do it to because you bruised his ego with your uppity female ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:11 AM
31

Probably not. This is speculation but these women always remind me of pickmes who brag about having only male friends because some girl bullied them in school or "women are too much drama". In reality these male friends often use her for sex or string her along for emotional labor and had she had some real female friends or at least actually healthy male friends, she would have likely had someone point out the red flags in her "friendship" with those guys. These women usually settle for unhealth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:36 PM
37

It's really telling how the only time they'll say anything negative about whites is when it's white women being too outspoken/feminist/won't sleep with them/ etc. They HATE white women and yet somehow latch onto white supremacist beliefs. What.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:33 PM
11

They have little to no self-esteem and feel flattered a married men found them "special" enough to take his eyes off his wife for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:27 PM
34

Literally why my best friend's husband will probably never divorce or leave her. He has cheated for YEARS, even walked out when they were having marital disputes (which have all left several issues in their very young daughters), and clearly hates being married, but my friend makes his life much easier so he'll tolerate a relationship he doesn't love so he doesn't have to do much childrearing, chores, etc. He just has to work, play with the kids sometimes, occasionally make dinner while he keeps…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:23 PM
28

I used to think that it meant "making wife/mom happy makes everyone happy because we all love her so much". Lol, dead wrong! In truth if your husband/dad is angry/depressed about anything, it's his wife and kids who will pay heavily for it, so "happy man, happy clan" is much more accurate here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:18 PM
9

Boys will laugh and punch you and sexually harass you. I'd rather get bullied by some spoiled girl than a teenage boy any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:36 PM
15

I think in general girls can never be bullies as bad as boys are. I don't care if a girl calls me ugly. I mean yeah, it hurts, but it hurts more when a guy calls me ugly, knocks my books out of my arms, trips me, and maybe tries to pants me. They do verbal, physical and sexual bullying. Girls simply don't take it as far as boys in general, but society loves so much to pretend teenage girls are out there pouring pigs blood onto anyone they dont like while boys are just little rascals. Sorry, it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:33 PM
3

They don't do it to the ones they do find attractive either, honestly. At best they're more likely to make a little chivalrous noise so she'll look favorably on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:27 PM
19

Zoomers can legitimately be the worst. Why millennials got stuck with depression and social anxiety and these brats (not all, I know) have swollen egos the size of Jupiter with unmatched confidence I'll never guess. The Karen thing has gotten out of control and it just a way for spoiled, bratty teenagers with mommy issues to take their anger out of women doing anything that even slightly hurts their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:25 PM
6

No kidding. In 8th grade I walked home past this elementary school where lots of kids were playing after school. 2 of these little rats who could not have been older than second grade at best were pretending they found me hot, obviously trying to embarrass me, and giggled when I flipped them off (not nice, but I didn't know what else to do, I was so struck by these grade schoolers feeling like they could mess with an older kid). Now obviously this in no way compares to older boys trying to haras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:23 PM
5

True. Many guys- typically teenage boys- will do literally anything to please their bros. It's demented how women are the ones accused of having "fake" or "toxic" friendships with each other, or how people smugly joke about how women will drop a friendship for supposedly petty reasons, when in reality women take all relationships seriously and just don't tolerate gross behavior like most men do out of some childish, spineless need to please their friends above all common sense. These guys as you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:18 PM
38

Unless it's their own wife/daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:44 PM
4

Please don't feel like you're not special though "despite" being a white American lol. He found you attractive for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:07 PM
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Women who don't want kids definitely get hate but I'd hardly compare a cesspool like CF to FDS, or call it one of the most hated subs IMO. What criticism I've seen it get is pretty well deserved, based on the despicable way they talk about children and mothers, especially single mothers. They hate kids like it's a hobby. And that includes men, who also use that sub. I think they think they sound like progressive advocates for different lifestyles and probably some are, but a lot of them just hat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:17 PM
29

Yeah, that really doesn't make any sense. Why would the main gf apologize to the side chick for entering her own boyfriend's home? But either way they're both being played by him in different games 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:21 PM
6

Additionally, men who cry about legacy but only via sons. They're disappointed with daughters and will push their poor wife to keep trying for their little golden prince.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:12 PM
4

The hair thing is weird. Long hair is like makeup in that it can soften your features and "disguise" you so to speak yet so many men are as you said crazyily hostile towards women with short hair while hating on makeup like there's such a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:10 PM
3

Joe Goldberg from "You" and his many many fans come to mind. Bonus points if they hate Beck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:07 PM
3

Reminds me of people who think Humbert and Lolita are a real couple with a sexy fling instead of of a p*do kidnapping a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:06 PM
6

The titular psycho from the movie American Psycho says this. He's very shallow and cares way too much about impressing and one-upping his coworkers with stuff like business cards when he isn't fantasizing about violently killing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:03 PM
1

Good grief. Do you have a link? I need to know that they called him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:51 PM
6

I once reblogged a post making fun of guys who love p.rn and this self proclaimed intersectional feminist sent me an anonymous message demanding to know what I'm doing to help real "sex workers" then, and also, sure a tiny minority of them are being abused but most aren't, so don't be a SWERF! I showed her several links about former p.rn stars' testimonies of abuse, how much sex trafficking is actually involved, pointed out how many titles involve p.dophilic or racist fetishes, and said I'd rath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:12 PM
4

RotS had its flaws but the #1 reason they hated it was the heavy female gaze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:04 PM
7

I hope she was ok :( That was great of you and your grandma to help. If nothing else it's good to know women are more easy to count on. I hope those guys felt even a twinge of guilt when they saw you help her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:47 PM
9

Projection of men being terrible to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:43 PM
3

Female rejection feels like violence to LVM, so they feel justified in "defending" themselves with violence in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:41 PM
12

I remember how during the anorexia panic of the 2010s how a good portion of the hate and bullying to thin women and anorexic women alike came from guys. They were legitimately angry that women without large breasts/butts existed (because that's where the real issue is as OP points out, it's not men caring about illness or even preferring fat to skinniness; they think women are only attractive if they are thin PLUS big boobs) and went out of their way to tell us all how disgusting we were and how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:39 PM
17

But it's gay for men to do it for them :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:11 PM
11

If another tries that, you could tell him he reminds you of your favorite grandfather. They despise being reminded of their mortality and especially nonsexual aspects like family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:10 PM
7

They really do that?? To scare us by showing us they don't respect our boundaries or secretly to get off on it? Weirdos. If a guy tries that with me I'll sniff right back, loudly, then gag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:09 PM
9

The "what time is it" thing annoys me so much. I'm always on my phone so I can't even use the excuse that I don't have a watch. It also comes off as kind of cowardly- either ask a woman out (please don't) or mind your business. Don't do some fake opener to manipulate her into thinking you're not about to do exactly what you're about to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:08 PM
3

It's why people look down so hard on female friendships so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:04 PM
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Does this really need to be reposted every week? It's tiring and I'm tired of being the only one to point out how weird it is to look up to objectively evil women who harm other women and in this case animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:00 PM
5

Cinderella: I met a hot guy I had chemistry with and gave me one night of fun from my hellish existence as the abused slave of my LVW stepfamily. :) I deserve happiness however I find it and I found it in romance! This tweet: Um sweaty you'd be much happier if you settled for being a slave to your abusers forever, actually :) Ok but seriously I'm tired of this tweet and it's weird that she's either literally never seen one of the most famous cartoons ever or else she's got real issues to think w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:55 PM
4

Recognize her? He didn't go at all, his dad sent that servant guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:53 PM
5

This may not be the case with your family, but I've noticed relatives will be vehemently against teen girls showing interest in boys while letting sons date whoever they want, but as soon as the girl does date and rejects men or chooses to stay single they suddenly think she should date any guy who breathes in her direction. I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:21 PM
6

I've had to leave several FB groups about mocking and calling out pickme behavior because too often there's just too much mean-spirited comments and a subtle undercurrent of liberal feminism. It's tiring. Just today they were roasting a pretty blonde girl for saying something like "I don't care about being the prettiest girl in the room, I'd rather be kind" or something like that. Yes, a little lacking in self-awareness like a popular kid saying they don't care about being liked, but ultimately …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:10 PM
27

What an absolute monster. I especially don't understand punishing the child and scarring her for life that way. What logic could he possibly use to justify that (like murdering her mom wasn't evil enough)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:46 PM
3

Even that person as great as their reply is still felt a need to do a little coddling in how they say sending unasked for pics of your junk to a woman is fine and it's only after she's said she doesn't like it while you do it anyway that's wrong. How about no, sending unsolicited pics you're unsure will be received approvingly by a woman should just not be done and you could just leave her alone? (Or at the bare, bare minimum, ask, but for me, I think you shouldn't do it at all to a strange woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:10 PM
15

Does anyone here listen to Something Was Wrong? A lady there had a bizarre experience catfishing experience where her date told her he was running behind but to order 2 fireballs at the bar and wait. He never shows but another man there chats her up, insists on buying her dinner, and is REALLY weird about getting her to come with him. Scary part? The bartender and waitress had seen this guy do this to multiple women, only this lady was the first to not run off with him. They pulled her aside to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:12 AM
15

Geah, really. I've come to hate the word basic. It started out as a catty comment pickmes would use because other girls loved pumpkin spice lattes and Uggs but now everyone, even guys (like incels), use it for anything popular woman and especially girls like. Bath bombs? Instagram? Pop music? The color pink? Charging her phone? Basic. Get some real taste. You know what? Who cares? Some things are popular for a reason. And if it's really quality, eventually chauvinists will decide they like it af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:05 AM
2

Glad it worked for you! Just be wary of some guys with giving them any attention. Even being goofy they will somehow take as your giving approval and then we're the ones who get blamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:17 AM
14

"Nobody hates women more than women" Someone hurry up and tell the manosphere that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:50 PM
53

Are we? That doesn't really explain why the cool girl trope exists, because the whole point of it is that the CG is not like other women who care about "frivolous" stuff like beauty or decorating or whatever; she has "real" hobbies, aka STEM, sports, anything else largely dominated by men. Girly girls are only ever valued for their looks. They are not in the slightest "rewarded" for their femininity since it's seen as inherently inferior to masculinity. Any achievement they get is dismissed beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:45 PM
13

Thank you. I dislike being too dressed up around men because I don't want to be hit on, but it sucks because I genuinely LOVE makeup. I would spend hours as a teen reading books by professional makeup artists who really viewed it as an art, not to make women look sexy for men. Shaming women for actually liking this stuff because you assume it MUST be for male pleasure is gross and not because you're a woman with agency who can make her own choices is quite misogynistic in itself. I get what the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:39 PM
3

The dandruff and nails really makes me want to scrub myself in a hot, soapy shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:45 PM
47

Yeah, I was about to say. Don't most men think this stuff is too girly or "emasculating"? I thought romance was an icky female interest because women want relationships desperately and men just want sex and a good cook (their own admission).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:44 PM
8

Anyone been on the bodybuilding forum's misc board? (If not, I really don't recommend it, they don't deserve the page hits.) I used to read it sometimes when I was more into celebrity culture and they talked about them a lot. But they were unbelievably, audaciously judgmental about stars. Even objectively pretty Victoria's Secret models like Candace Swanepoel got called unattractive. Almost no woman is safe. And keep in mind, these men worked out but were not attractive. They usually refused to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:40 PM
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I don't even think it was about him assuming you'd like a date. You said hi, you came into his gym, you're a woman he finds attractive, and any one of those means you're fair game to be hit on. Your own feelings are irrelevant to these types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:29 PM
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What is it with these crazy male abusers in the media that just attracts pickmes like flies to old food? Chris has his own sub and I saw it had a bunch of people combing through Shannan's old vids to prove she pushed him because she was apparently she was a control freak. And into pyramid schemes which makes her a monster. So we see who the REAL victim is. I also had to stop reading the posts on the SomethingWasWrong podcast sub because it was 90% people blaming the fiance of this gaslighting, e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:33 PM
13

Heaven forbid you call them out though. There's some pushback on a certain site known for caring about social issues and quite a few self proclaimed feminists have been pointing the finger back at women who calling out the "not like other girls" phenomenon and saying we're the real misogynists. We're the ones who like things the patriarchy tells us to like and we are the bad guys for even insinuating women who refuse to befriend other women have a problem. Clearly they feel a little called out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:12 PM
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Isn't it funny how people will go "nobody hates women more than women" or pickmes who go "even WE hate us!" Like... could not relate less. Who is the one shooting up buildings because they can't get a sex slave? Who is the one stoning women for getting an education in other countries? Who are the ones preying on little girls online? Who has the less flattering likelihood of rap.ing women? But sure, women disagree sometimes and that means we're the ones hurting us the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:09 PM
21

I hate this. There's nothing wrong with desiring romantic companionship but do they... do they know they don't have to surrender their basic right to vote, have opinions and marry who they want in order to do that?? They self impose this crazy idea that you can't settle down with a good man unless you become his slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:56 PM
2

No, he deserves a verbal attack tbh. He literally doesn't care about his own helpless baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:54 PM
27

I don't think most want relationships. Not off the bat anyway. Their dumb logic is "hook up first, maybe once or maybe 10 times, see if I still like her by that point, then date officially"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:47 PM
1

Only part that's unrealistic is him preferring small boobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:46 PM
27

Thank you. Small chested women are attractive. We look adult. We've already been trashed as less womanly for decades for not being the beauty ideal. We don't need to be trashed by other women too for actually attracting men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:45 PM
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TBH I do care if other men do. Not because it affects me personally but porn has such deeply damaging effects on the brain that you know it'll harm some woman in his life like it's already harming his mental state. And some porn genres are so disturbing (black slave, "hot" stepdaughter, etc) that the material itself eventually will not be enough; he'll have to turn to real life women to abuse instead of just watching their abuse. And then there's the sex trafficking industry he's happily support…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:44 PM
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WomenGoingTheirOwnWay. But as a warning, there seems to be somewhat lax mod control there compared to fds because incels jump on nearly every single post there to screech, no matter what it's about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:40 PM
11

If you're with a lvm, sure, which goes the same way for having a career while stuck with a lvm since he'll leech off your hard earned money. A hvm will support whatever works best for you and will happily dote on you if you work as a homemaker. I don't know why this sub worships characters like Morticia Addams whose whole thing is being a housewife because she can afford to with a rich husband to support her, but then turn around and treat SAHMs as willing prisoners. Which is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:35 PM
7

And it's sad that this doesn't always dampen the kids' view on their dad. They'll still prefer daddy, still think daddy is the Fin Parent, and completely take Mommy for granted despitw the fact that she's the one always around, always remembers their favorite color, PTA meetings and doctor appointments, makes sure they eat better than chicken nuggets and mac n cheese every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:37 PM
27

"Boring" Only boring people are bored. They confuse being uninteresting with not paying enthusiastic attention to them and their own interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:20 PM
11

I was reading about Mary Pickford and while visiting my dad told him about her, excitedly telling about how she had a surprising amount of power for a woman in 30s Hollywood. He just frowned and said, "Must have been a real a-hole to men."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:18 PM
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Exactly. Men who hate submissive women are still misogynistic. Men who hate homemakers are still misogynistic. Men who hate women who balance career/family perfectly are still misogynistic. Doesn't need to just be powerful rich women, there's always an insidious reason behind them hating a certain type of woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:15 PM
6

I'm so sorry for your doggy. Even when pets die naturally it's extremely painful, forget when another animal kills it. I really admire that you called him out though, especially when he decided to be a bully and try to intimidate someone smaller than him. Women can't always do that but it's great when we do because it seems to be the only way they learn at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:06 AM
1

Did someone already swoop in and save her from the angry downvote-a-thon? 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:33 PM
1

Plenty of us envy you! I feel like that'd make it even easier to deal with LVM, you'd have a better ability to look down your nose at them when they disrespect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:32 PM
14

A guy on another sub tried to explain to me that women like when a man date/hang around lots of women and I bluntly told him nobody wants a player with STDs and emotional baggage and women know what women want better than he does. He kept trying to argue and downvote me just for disagreeing but it's true lol. Men think women think like they do and we're impressed by human trophy collections. Insecure pickmes maybe but self respecting women will be turned off by a guy who needs to show off his pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:25 PM
29

Lots of these dads are Catholic honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:44 PM
7

I actually just finished reading this for the first time (though I've seen the 2013 movie) and I noticed that despite all the hate Daisy Buchanan- Gatsby's love interest from 5 years ago- gets from readers, I quite liked her and found her written with some surprising sympathy from a guy of his time, considering you know how women who enjoy luxury or girly stuff like fashion as she does tend to get depicted. Now I just wonder if it wasn't because of Zelda. If Scott came up with her all by himself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:45 PM
15

I'm glad other people hate that too. I hear men always joking about "honking" their wife's boobs like, what are you, a five year old? Nothing less sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:19 PM
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And I don't wanna hear the rest of reddit call it "misandrist" because it doesn't even go that far. Cassie just goes after creeps. She doesn't kill them either, just scares them. She even does it to 2 women (and the one where she manipulates the Dean into thinking she left her daughter to get assaulted is right where I questioned rooting for Cassie anymore, although thankfully she was fine). There better be any reviews about how this movie is an attack on men or something. This was better than m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:09 PM
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A lot of pickmes for some reason worship country culture. I guess because country girls are supposed to be low maintenance and simultaneously ready to throw down for her man/family. She might think exaggerating the accent will endear her to any good ol' country boys listening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:34 PM
3

I don't know, I got bored with stuff like Legos (loved my classic wooden blocks though) and did tons of world building with my dolls. There's nothing inherently less creative about dolls when you can act out any adventure you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:01 PM
8

There's nothing wrong with girls actually enjoying that stuff (and it's really problematic to suggest traditionally feminine stuff is bad but male coded stuff is better- looking at you, P!nk's "Stupid Girls" music video) but the thing is people need to stop acting like boys CAN'T love them too. Let boys be nurturing for once. You want your son to be a father, Jim? Let him play with his baby doll in peace then. Let him watch female centered shows to learn women are people too. Also, as someone el…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:59 PM
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They really think they're nice guys and expect us to magically know that (even though obviously in OP's case he was not). They cannot put themselves in the shoes of amyone not male. Plus he's a CATCH! you'd have to be nuts to turn this stud's attention away! And so rude to not smile and coo in grateful, modest joy that he deigns to give it to you. Also, pure entitlement. You exist to pretty up the scenery and make him feel good. Do your part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:38 PM
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They think they're smarter than women by default so they'll never get caught. Same reason they tell outrageous, obviously untrue lies in their relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:35 PM
3

I really love dangerous fashion. It's vintage, it's cute, it makes you feel safe. I sincerely hope more women actually wear these!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:07 PM
24

Funny, because women and minorities deal with ugly stereotypes thrown at them and most (especially women) somehow manage to not shoot up buildings or turn into serial rapists for sport. They legitimately think the sun shines for them and them alone, like they're the protagonist and nobody else faces pain and anger ever like they do. (Even though the sexism women deal with systemically cannot compare.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:04 PM
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Women really are "twofaced" for shutting our mouths when we don't agree with a friend (which is what normal, mature adults are supposed to do unless it's like, bigoted opinions ). Men are loyal bros when they stay mum about Brandon perving on a 13 year old. And if we speak up about Brandon, we're "starting drama".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:05 PM
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Aaaaand this is why beauty privilege is a myth only libfems and misogynist men spout. Being conventionally attractive or outwardly feminine or whatever... it doesn't protect you. It doesn't even make men respect you. If I have to see another so called feminist whine that beautiful women have it easy I'll rip my hair out strand by strand. Attractive women are seen as inherently "asking for it" because their looks "provoke" men. Like it's their choice to have good bone structures or a fit body. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:21 PM
33

They truly never learn their lesson either (not young ones anyway). They feel genuinely entitled, as much as lvm do, to string you along without even thinking if it. They drop you fast the second a guy pays attention to them, then carry on like they didn't hurt you when he drops them. It never occurs to them that you're as hurt by their selfish, uncaring treatment of you, the one always there for them, as they are by the guy hurting them. One day they'll have neither a man nor girl friends and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:26 PM
8

"Execute situations" just sounds like what Elliot Rodgers and every other mass killer do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:00 AM
37

It's true. Someone once criticized fandom extremists as treating real people like fictional characters and fictional characters like real people. I think a lot of these girls truly think there are leagues of Thors and T'challas and Frodos and whatnot out there when there's mostly just Ted Mosbys and Nick Dunnes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:58 AM
13

I hate this because Pickles is a wholesome comic and of course lvm have to ruin anything cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:33 PM
10

Them: It's not about me feeling entitled to sex! It's about feeling hurt by rejection! Men have feelings too! Guess I dodged a bullet, I wouldn't wanna be friends with a spoiled princess like her anyway. Why are women such bad friends? Also them: If she doesn't wanna sleep with me then she needs to be ghosted. I deserve someone worthy of me who won't friend zone me. Lol why else would I even bother befriending a woman if she won't put out? I don't need more friends, I need a gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:29 PM
40

Of course they only focus on the race aspect. Not that it ISN'T important, but liberal and conservative men alike will always care more about racism than sexism because men can be affected by racism, but misogyny doesn't hurt men, so what incentive do they have to care about it? And of course her line of work means either she chose to put herself in danger or else this means we need to make sexwork a safer environment instead of, you know, punishing pimps and johns and working to eradicate the e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:23 PM
117

Hating women really is the thing that will bring men of all races, ages, classes, and political parties together. Wish women would band together so easily more like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:19 PM
90

It honestly is. Libfems get really excited to blame "Karens" and "Beckys" for issues great and small because allows them an excuse to be openly misogynist. Male feminists are the same, often worse even. Right wing men too will gladly call out whites- but only women who get on their nerves (see: half the stuff on the StarterPack sub hating on women for enjoying literally anything). What libfems call "white feminism" is just liberal feminism. They're just too uneducated or delusional to own what i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:18 PM
37

It's so weird that that's their angry excuse for any time a woman beats them at a job considering it's 100x more common for men to get picked over a more qualified woman because he's male. I'm pretty sure it's even been proven in a study that men get hired for the exact same reasons that get women discriminated against when they apply (like having a family for instance).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:14 PM
11

That's a lot better than the way pickmes spoil their sons rotten and encourage them to grow into LVM/NVM who disrespect or abuse women though. As well as pickmes viewing their girls as rivals or burdens to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:32 AM
14

Some are mean to their daughters but some act legitimately traumatized by not being the only woman in the house 🙄 How dare they not be the sole receiver of male relatives' attention?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:30 AM
2

Agreed. Let's normalize muscles on women more. They don't even have to be huge if they don't want. But I hate that people think women can't be feminine and physically strong at the same time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:35 PM
67

We didn't. Many millennial women were coached, groomed, and manipulated into loving it by older men. Sometimes the men too although largely they're this way thanks to the rise of porn being everywhere and lack of parents watching out for this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:29 PM
8

They want so badly for women to Be As BaD. They pretend FDS is equal to TRP. They pretend the women on NiceGirls posts are as entitled and toxic as the men on NiceGuys. They pretend there's an epidemic of ONLY spoiled narcissistic first world women as shown on subs like fckoffkaren. There simply is no comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:37 PM
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They themselves would feel "emasculated" if a big hairy bear of a man made lewd gestures or screamed from a car about sexual acts they'd love to perform on them. They're so coddled and sheltered they've simply never experienced the kind of intimidation, bullying and humiliation that women have experienced forever from catcallers and other creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:24 PM
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Thank you! The idea that women are cooler when we wield a weapon isn't any better than telling girls they can't do anything beyond be a housewife. I loved playing dolls but I also always tried to get my friends to wrestle or sword fight with my plastic katana lol. There's sometimes an undercurrent of "girliness is lame" in feminist circles even now and it needs to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:11 PM
4

What stopped you? My friends and I did both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:09 PM
4

I saw the other day there's a RaisedByMisogynists sub. Unfortunately it's been dead for awhile but I think it's a pretty great place considering how many of our relatives here are sexist. I may post there at some point and I hope others do too! We have dozens of subs dedicated to people complaining about "evil" women (specifically fckoffkaren, fcknomil, pussypassdenied, etc) so I hope this one gets more activity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:02 PM
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I think it may be the opposite, at least sometimes. I think a lot of naive young women ONLY hang around guys and therefore buy their narratives that the world is anti-male anymore and women have it easier than men so we should be understanding. They don't learn it's untrue till they get more life experience and start hanging out with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:43 PM
19

What lvm/w call "starting drama" and "picking fights" is in reality showing a backbone and just being proactive. Don't let people make you think standing up for yourself or someone else is making trouble just because they're uncomfortable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:48 PM
5

Did a guy dump her for a smaller-butt girl? Did someone make fun of her for having a big butt? I'm not even asking to be mean. That's a thinly-veiled tantrum brought on by someone with a different body type hurting her in some way 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:05 AM
5

I've said this for ages!! It's like pickmes and guys think boobs and butts are ghosts- if they can't physically see it in a really obvious way must not exist 😂 All it does it suggest big is normal, so anything smaller isn't even real. I have small boobs and a small butt and they're very much real and have gotten noticed. (And as a side note, I also hate when people say small or thin lips = no lips. Nobody says small noses don't exist!) Also, you can be curvy while being small. It just means you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:26 PM
2

Exactly. And on top of that there are multiple verses telling people with positions of power over others to give it up and adopt a servant's attitude. If these guys really wanted to be the "head of the house", he'd be deferring to you more, sacrificing for you more, not selfishly gleaning as much authority as he can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:14 PM
8

No surprise. They got mad when Kim Possible, a teenager, got a live action actor that was... wait for it!!! ...a teenager. The horror. The audacity. They got mad when the slim, small-chested Gal Gadot was cast as Wonder Woman (and made excuse that she didn't look "strong" enough to play a superstrong woman. Like... the cartoon Wonder Woman was built like Jayne Mansfield and could throw a car and nobody complained. 70s Wonder Woman looked like a burlesque model with 0 muscle and nobody complained…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:07 PM
7

Almost makes me think a guy who has never done a bit of work in the kitchen ever wrote it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:57 PM
14

And $20 the pickme is actually a man practicing his (terrible) creative writing skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:06 PM
6

That's not what love languages are supposed to be for! They're not just about ourselves; a big way to know what your LL is is to see how YOU primarily Express love and affection for others. If his was touch he'd be all about holding her hand, giving her massages, giving people an arm pat, shaking hands, etc. It's 200% not about enjoying sex. Because then almost everyone would have physical touch as their LL. These men just use this as an excuse to keep their lazy, entitled ways. His argument mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:01 PM
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Besides that, men can't agree on what they collectively like anyway despite always speaking for each other to try to make women feel bad for looking a certain way or doing certain hobbies or whatever. It's not women who generally don't know what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:12 PM
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Women who aren't approachable are sooo scary. That's all it is. They don't want to be made to feel uncomfortable even slightly by our anger, sadness, exhaustion, even lack of emotion. We just exist to shine light on their day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:14 AM
16

...Can I just ask why they picked two completely random movies for this crappy meme? 😂 The "master" is from freaking Kill Bill. Can't they at least meme properly if they insist on pushing their tired, stale misogyny on us? It almost feels like someone parodying early 2000s incels, it looks so bad. Also... pencil, pencil sharpener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:13 PM
5

Avoid men who think of your children as life ruiners. Wow. Especially the fuss he made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:29 PM
4

27 is old enough to know what he wants. Yes, he enjoys the ego boost he gets from breadcrumbing this poor girl (and I wonder how old she was when they met? 22/27 isn't too crazy an age gap, but it's iffy, and is a red flag if they met when she was in her late teens). He knows she likes him that way. There's no reason to keep manipulating her. He may even be hoping to make his ex jealous with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:22 PM
60

This is one reason why Mad Max: Fury Road was such a good movie. The abuse and horrible life of Immortan Joe's five concubines is merely implied by the fact that they're so desperate to escape being used as breeding stock that they're willing to face death and hunger out in the Waste to do it. You never once see the abuse happening. You see self harm scars on one girl's face and realize that at least two have been raped since they got pregnant but the bad stuff is entirely show don't tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:10 PM
10

It's great to hear good news here sometimes! Hope 2021 is your year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:02 PM
19

I hope this isn't too controversial, but does anyone else feel like the terms gaslighting, love bombing, narcissist, etc are getting thrown around too much? Abuse is more common than many know, it's true, but sometimes lvm are just lvm. Sometimes selfish men are just selfish. Sometimes jerks who you started the fight /were the mean one/whatever really think that's the truth and aren't trying to manipulate your sanity. Lvm don't need to be Adrian Griffin level manipulative and evil to be lvm or e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:57 PM
2

And then they act like women can never shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:27 PM
6

On the other hand, reality shows are full of lvm and pickme relationships so I can't imagine she's seeing much difference between her own and theirs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:17 PM
15

I noticed right away he never mentioned what he brought to HER table...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:14 PM
7

Narcissists aren't as common as people here think. Cocky guys exist and they can be selfish or even abusive. Real narcissists are deeply needy for validation. Cocky men already think the sun rises and falls for them; they're not insecure like a narc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:06 PM
22

On reddit at least they'll even admit this. They'll admit they don't want to be a woman's friend, only her boyfriend. They don't understand how relationships function even slightly. Your spouse, your soulmate, can't be that if you don't fundamentally enjoy their company (and you with them) at the core. You don't enjoy this woman's company, personality, etc at all- what exactly do you think you'd do if she agreed to date you? Oh, right. Sex and watch him play video games. The stuff 50 year marria…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:00 PM
10

Yeah, I agree. Attacking her looks because you think she's insecure? Even if she was, you're just proving her fears true that there's an attractive woman who hates her around her husband. I think we should just say pickme. That's what those kind of wives are. No need to tear into their appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:51 PM
19

That's awful! Your dad sounds great. I hope he, your aunt and grandmother are all in better places emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:43 PM
16

I disagree on one point. I've never seen men ever sexualize anorexic women. As a thin woman who was very skinny ss a teen, I had the exact opposite experience: they HATE anorexic women. They dehumanize them and treat them as hideous freaks. They only like thin women when they have big boobs (even if they legitimately are noticably underweight). In the 2010s, eating disorders were viewed with disgust that only got worse with the rise of the Nikki Minaj/Kim K butt. So either way, they don't take d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:07 PM
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Or pretends they're somehow "equally bad though". Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:23 AM
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I'm not blaming the children here but what's with kids so often idolizing dads, even when they can't be bothered to get involved in their lives? Reminds me of when one of those poor little Watts girls sang a song about daddy being her hero before he murdered them. I know many dads are great people but it's always disappointing to see moms taken for granted and never considered their kids' heroes. As for this lady I hope she moves on and absolutely thrives. Never gives him the luxury of worrying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:18 AM
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His presence probably. I imagine she was raised to think she's not worth much, especially as a single mom, without a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:48 PM
9

My uncle does this to my grandma. It's maddening. He also collects stuff that college kids leave on campus after the semester and what he doesn't sell or give away, he uses her house as extra storage for it. He's also been taking her things out of the basement without asking. He takes showers there, leaves his laundry there, and gets into the fridge. He has his own place and is a 58 year old man 🙄 (Funny enough he knows better than to do this with his girlfriend.) Grandma is annoyed but doesn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:41 PM
9

Friend's lvm husband is the exact same way. She's even pointed out what a hypocrite he is for cheated and arguing all the time and how he wouldn't want their girls to deal with that. Daughters they seem to see as people because they helped make them. Wives are just their property they can treat how they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:55 PM
7

When I was leaving the grocery store last december, this family was ahead of me and this maybe 6/7 year old boy stopped in front of them for some reason, holding us behind them up. The dad yelled at him and SHOVED him forward with his foot to make him go!! Wife didn't say anything (maybe she's afraid of him too?). I was exhausted from work earlier and snarkily asked him why he didn't act like he loved his kids while I walked away. He sure didn't like that. People really don't seem to think treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:04 PM
5

What was his reaction? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:51 PM
3

Do you have a link to any of those studies? I'm not doubting you at all, but I'd love to read it myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:18 AM
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A question about men treating women they aren't dating like nothing made me think of an experience that still bothers me deeply, even though it's been 5 years and too late to complain about it to anyone, and I didn't want to derail OP's post. Basically, it's a lesson that a man who is disrespectful to your friends for no reason will 100% be disrespectful to you, too. You will never be the special exception, no matter how much of a good cook or a good listener or good in bed or anything you try t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:13 PM
12

They like the aesthetic of having a family as well as the status it brings them. And for some really awful parents, kids are built-in indentured servants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:43 PM
18

Of course they wouldn't know. I knew a guy who thought stockings (like you wear as lingerie) were called leggings (which obviously go up around your hips and are worn under skirts). Should be a rule that guys who don't understand clothing or makeup don't get to tout their opinions on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:39 PM
23

Someone identifies waaaaaay too much with a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:28 PM
26

I think it's fine for toys to look cartoony, and at least the Bratz' personalities were ok from what I remember. But women paying big money to get Angelina lips and an almost non-existent nose? Noooo thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:21 PM
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I read the article twice, plus a different source, and I have no idea how he lured her there or why he picked her specifically. He has some gigantic entitlement though, thinking this was his fun little game and probably getting a rise out of the attention he's getting and the pain he caused so many people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:49 PM
23

Oh, poor guy, being "shackled" to a relationship where he statistically benefits 100x more than you the woman ever would. I can't imagine his suffering of having to wash dishes occasionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:45 PM
13

Hera was a victim and I think she gets too much hate from people, but she was also a pickme who punished Zeus' victims. I'd love to see a woman retell her story and maybe protect them instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:43 PM
2

I've had 3 ladies I thought were my good friends, or at least friends I've had for years, do this to me on tumblr. I think they did it because they didn't want the stuff I was posting on their dash but it still really hurt. I suspect your friend didn't like whatever you were posting too. Maybe pics of you made her feel unattractive, or what you were doing (traveling, on a date etc.) made her insecure about her own life. I mean, I get people don't owe us a follow, but it really stings. I follow p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:05 PM
7

I assume your dad did nothing, but I hope your mom put her in her place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:53 PM
13

A relative of mine has really high standards as well even though as at his age, his dating pool is more limited now. He wants a HoT 20/30 something, preferably a redhead, blonde or Asian, and (while he's never outright said so), needs to be submissive. He had at least 3 girlfriends when I was a kid, all nice women, but it never lasted. My aunt told me he's only had unhealthy relationships in his youth too. I think his popularity with girls in the 70s has never mentally left hos consciousness. So…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:51 PM
14

Amazing how he supported these grown men but couldn't be bothered with his wife and kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:40 PM
1

Have you guys seen r/nicegirls? Sure some of those women are immature or even toxic but sometimes it's literally just women tired of taking crap from their partners or men in general. People want so badly for women to be "as bad as men" (ie Nice Guys with a laundry list of demands for their partner) when it's just objectively not comparable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:08 PM
26

4) isn't a monstrous criminal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:05 PM
31

And they pretend society is out on daily witch hunts for men who even look at a teen. Lol ok Brad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:56 PM
120

Nope, when a son turns out badly it's the mom's fault. But when he turns out well the dad gets all the credit- even if he didn't play a single part in making him that way. Women g take the blame and men are rewarded the credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:54 PM
18

Please never, ever have children 🤞🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:52 PM
113

They think ugly = more humble and smarter because you haven't been handed anything thanks to your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:09 AM
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I also think it's because they're furious that they don't intimidate you at all. It takes guts to stand up to people and it shakes bullies to their core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:54 PM
122

Wow, sensitive much. Not exactly fds related, but lot of guys really do HATE vegans/vegetarians because they think it's such a feminine thing, and they try so hard to bully an angry reaction out of us. Sounds like he was mad he didn't succeed in making YOU mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:50 PM
54

Exactly. They're the ones who don't know what a sense of humor is. It's not agreeing with someone, which is their definition of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:48 PM
12

Sounds like my best friend's lvm husband (but for cheating more than anger). And even HE finally agreed to look for a therapist. Sounds like your husband doesn't want to admit he has a problem. Also, I really advise you to not go to couples counseling. When you go with a toxic person, they will always play games and try to manipulate your counselor to think you're the villain and he is the victim. Let him talk to someone himself. You don't have to divorce him yet if you don't want to but I think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:47 PM
44

Easier to pretend this sub is the problem than attempt to tackle the ever-growing nightmare that is incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:42 PM
34

Pickiness is healthy for women. And what do they care for? You're the one "losing out" on lvm, not them. Do they want to see you settle to feel better about themselves doing it or what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:51 PM
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That's an awful story. I hope everyone gets better. He really should have broken up with her (since clearly she became fixated on this guy and was never gonna leave him). Was she struggling with mental illness herself? I can't understand anyone who would be so desperate to marry someone who resents her so much he'd rather die than marry her and raise a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:23 AM
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That's hilarious. Who's the artist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:28 AM
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Yeah, it's annoying. Long hair is like makeup in that it can really hide imperfections well while short hair draws attention to your eyes, cheekbones, etc. A lot of men don't like that, they like the fantasy of perfection. And usually women DO cut their hair for themselves and these guys who think women should care what men want get angry we follow our own tastes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:10 AM
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Also, they don't want to watch you apply it. It ruins the fantasy to see your lush lashes and flawless skin aren't real and kills their buzz to see you shave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:16 PM
16

That doesn't sound like such a bad thing though. I mean, it's awful that they act like plain or homely women don't even exist, but being ignored by some men sounds pretty ideal honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:15 PM
48

Yeah, the word prude shouldn't even be an insult, honestly- I'm too prudent and wise for you? Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:35 PM
1

Also, you may wish to stay away from the podcast's sub. It's mostly people attacking Sara, the main victim of gaslighting, and bullying people who defend her. It looks unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:41 AM
1

This feels like a satire/photoshopped post tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:11 AM
51

What they mean is "women won't appease my ego by pretending to laugh at my lazy jokes and that hurts my feelings and I'll blame them for it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:20 PM
57

A lot of jokes by men only have a punchline that's "peepee and boobies" or "I hate my wife" or something racist/sexist. Women can laugh at themselves (sometimes in a healthy way, sometimes not. Many men seem to only be able to take a joke at others' expense and flip out when they get a taste of what they dish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:19 PM
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The first guy sounded really jealous honestly. Men of all races show some demented entitlement towards women of their own race (but it's okay for them to date women of different races of course). And how despicable for a grown man to bully a child! Sorry you had to go through all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:29 PM
26

They think it's owed to them. They probably grew up thinking the point of a wife is to make their lives easier. It's why they don't mind marrying women they hate (see: many boomer marriages).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:25 PM
44

I love a happy ending. I'm glad some judges and juries still have sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:23 PM
45

This, and on top of it, leaving it open means toilet water sprays in the air when you flush. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:21 PM
25

I'm really glad femininity isn't that fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:21 PM
20

It's really tough seeing male leaders get away with stuff, I'll admit. Even last Sunday, I tuned into a live stream service of a church I liked and used to attend. I read the description of the sermon and turned off the video because it was about how "women need communication and men need physical intimacy" and stuff about how women are meant to be "helpers". I know what all that means. And it's a toxic mentality that has led to many men raping and abusing women. Even though abuse is not condone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:18 PM
9

I don't know what people mean when they ssy fanin Jesus. I've only ever heard liberals/libfems use it to justify their own lifestyles but ironically that's the only fanon Jesus I've come across. The Jesus most people know in my experience has righteous anger (he flipped over a table) and called out immoral lifestyles, but is capable of great understanding and protects the little guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:54 PM
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Where does the bible approve of rape or slavery or anything? Do you think because "Little Women" has a girl burn her sister's book the author approves of property damage? That because Harry Potter has murder, we're meant to agree with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:51 PM
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No, it's much deeper than that. It's about two sisters that reconnect and learn love is the strongest magic. One learns she's not a monster and is loved by her sister despite the pain she caused her. The other learns she deserves love (romantic and familial), isn't demonized for finding romance, and despite having no superpowers like Elsa, single-handedly saves her kingdom and rescues her sister. Elsa's singlehood isn't the point at all, and she's not the hero, Anna is. Of course many men won't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:08 PM
6

Ten bucks that literally never happened. She just wants Pickme Points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:56 PM
6

r/thathappened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:55 PM
54

I think that was the point, since the original artist obviously made her say something not deep at all and the whole joke was to objectify her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:53 PM
11

Also, you curiously never see the reverse, people cooing over a goodlooking, wealthy man "settling" for an unattractive, poor woman. Wonder why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:51 PM
27

And you know a dad would have gotten the job for that exact same reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:36 PM
49

It's so disturbing to me how abusers and bullies seem to be able to turn off their morals (if they have any) like pushing a button and spark up a conversation like they didn't treat you like dirt. And so audacious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:18 PM
12

Honestly, yes. A lot of them hate rap and hip hop but not because it glorifies misogyny or explicit stuff. They're so threatened by 1D and Justin Bieber because they're not sexually aggressive and allow girls to explore what they like in the opposite sex in a safe way. Pedos despise this entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:50 AM
3

"What's the punchline?" "You don't hear me laughing." "Guess you just suck at telling them :)"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:21 PM
17

Oh, I know it's purely lust. But you'll never see them admitting it. Even they know it's wrong deep down and they just pretend it's another reason like biotroofs or, to quote a male relative of mine, because "middle aged women are buzzkills" (this coming from the guy who mocks millennials and zoomers nonstop, so... what age gap do you even want??). They know lots of people still want to see pedos get a beatdown, so they have to grasp and pretend they actually think they share compatibility with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:14 PM
90

Unless a girl speaks up against sexism, in which case she's a stupid little girl who needs to shut up and get spanked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:11 PM
83

I wish male teachers got vetted heavily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:09 PM
187

And I don't mean to dismiss teenagers but what could a grown man POSSIBLY have in common with a child? You're out there with a job, paying bills, watching the game, having a beer with the boys and she's playing on her Switch, watching YouTube videos, making snaps with her friends and worrying about homework. And that's not even going into the mental and emotional development gap. Only men who are mentally and emotionally childish themselves could possibly think they'd have anything in common wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:07 PM
2

I was about to say, even the most tomboyish Cool Girls don't really... sound like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:32 PM
1

What doc is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:21 PM
8

Is peacocking a real term for this? if not, we should use it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:45 PM
34

That's why it's insane that society acts like girls are evil demon spawn to raise or be around while boys can be bullies, violent, get into gangs, sexually harass people, etc. Who is really the troubled sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:05 PM
43

Libfems are a pain by default but somehow European ones seem to be even worse sometimes. I guess because there's just an added layer of unwarranted smugness about how much more "progressive" their countries are compared to us ~prudish Americans when in reality their male feminist citizens are awful and the women have to settle for hookup culture and pretending being used for sex is empowering. Not that we don't deal with that too over here, but at least we have some people calling it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:59 PM
32

In high school, a "friend" if mine had a bf who apparently would whisper stuff to her when I was out ot earshot that I was ugly or smelled weird. I got goodlooking finally and dressed better, learned how to apply makeup, etc around 15 so, no, sorry bro. His gf was really unattractive herself (I'm not trying to be harsh, she was just objectively not goodlooking) and told me herself once that she had 3 STDs from her relationships. I call her a "friend" in quotes because she didn't seem very offend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:22 PM
28

There was a meme on reddit pf Hagrid calling Harry a simp for accidentally spilling his drink on himself when his crush smiled at him. It's like- Man: genuinely likes a woman These guys: SiMp!!!1 Anymore it just means "a guy who likes a woman for more than using her in bed".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:35 PM
16

Some of these are really surprising for the early 20th century, especially #9.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:33 PM
42

A parent who's into BDSM. Wowzers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:31 PM
62

Yep. And when he says they had great conversations, he probably means they put up with him talking about himself for 3 hours or pestering them with inappropriate questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:28 PM
38

I don't think LVM necessarily have to be narcissists to be selfish, entitled children, to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:26 PM
13

Did you ask this on reddit? I'd love to see their excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:19 PM
61

Lorena snapped after years of abuse. Naturally reddit was enraged over this harpy and more concerned with what she did than what drove her to it (this manipulative abusive liar hurting her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:14 PM
10

Perfect reply honestly. Don't need to say "yeah, I know!". Make it seem like your good looks go without saying (as they should) and give low value convos little attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:55 PM
49

A lot of people view daughters as built-in babysitters unfortunately. Teenage girls especially are considered useless unless they're Daddy's princesses or can work for the family in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:52 PM
20

They're not used to be catered to in every single way like non single dads tend to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:51 PM
2

For sure. "I get used for sex all the time!" reads exactly like a dudebro's fanfiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:56 PM
112

I love modern kid cartoons destroying sexist concepts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:46 PM
40

The most insidious thing about pro-nasty fetish pickmes isn't even that they love these fetishes (which still is awful). It's that they work so hard to convince, shame, or brainwash other women and even children into believing these kinks are fine too. They can't just be happy settling for a gross man themselves, they need to bring other women into it so they can sleep at night and feel better about their own miserable relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:15 PM
50

Nope, only hurting those more vulnerable than themselves. Just a coincidence, I'm sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:13 PM
8

I hope libfems stop romanticizing Europe sometime soon. They're equally as messed up as the US and in some ways, worse. Being more liberal doesn't mean all their ways are perfect. Male feminists are often huge pedos/pedo apologists themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:36 PM
14

The heck is the point of building a HOUSE together with someone you don't intend to marry? What will they do if they break up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:16 PM
29

If she willingly cheated and isn't apologetic at a, the wife doesn't owe her a thing honestly. We shouldn't reward pickme behavior that actively works to hurt other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:07 PM
151

Hope he's into single/divorced moms then. no 20 year old wants kids with someone that age. Bet anything he doesn't want to be a stepdad though (even though so many of these guys want to get a replacement wife to do their childrearing for them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:00 PM
62

Also, some really messed up LVM will get irrationally jealous of their own child and punish the wife or fight to get her attention back on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:27 AM
21

Not only this but in abusive relationships like OP's mom, it's often terrifying to leave, either because of what the abuser will do to you, or because the prospect if suddenly being alone is too much. As well it being too hard to accept that you've wasted so much time and emotional investment in this loser who doesn't like you at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:25 AM
175

Nope. The awkward, unattractive nerd is perfect the way he is! At least those makeover plots for female characters seem to have stopped in the last 15 or 20 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:58 PM
14

I was in a LDR, and it was real. He's generous and proved multiple times he's worth my attention and love. We're engaged and I'm planning to move to his country soon. So it really depends on the guy. Mine? Yes. That lady's bf? Not worth her time. Although I admit my situation is probably uncommon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:56 PM
5

It's funny how women get called "catty" and "dramatic" for cutting people out or just ignoring them. That's what mature people do. That's the only effective way to deal with unlikable people who won't apologize or change. But according to society we should just suffer in silence (although then we get accused of being difficult harpies who refuse to CoMmUnIcAtE what's wrong) and let bfs or friends trample on our feelings even after begging them to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:07 PM
6

Free maid and sex. The status/ego boost of snagging a gf. He gets it all for no effort on his part. I've learned a lot of guys seem fine with staying in relationships they HATE because they're so lazy and selfish they'd rather be miserable than give up their mommy gf and have to wash dishes themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:01 PM
6

This! People have got to stop acting like it's the mother's job alone to discipline kids and instill basic manners in them. Nothing is stopping fathers from doing it sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:51 PM
5

Except when they call women crazy or hysterical of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:49 PM
14

And it's never really touch, they just want sex constantly and now they feel they have an excuse for it. Love languages aren't just about how you feel loved, it's also how you express love. A guy who insists his is physical touch but is a selfish lover or never holds your hand or anything doesn't have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:41 PM
3

Nope, gross men are everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:32 PM
9

Gross. I wish places would start cracking down hard on employees who don't practice basic hygiene. Even before the PANDEMIC it was nasty but now there are even more serious reasons to do it. Maybe getting punished enough will instill some sense in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:12 PM
24

Yep. They think you're playing hard to get. Or else take pleasure in "winning" you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:08 PM
73

Have my cheap gold 🏅 Ice, not fire, is exactly how you beat your enemies and abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:04 PM
36

Yeah, I honestly wonder if this isn't just another creative writing attempt for outraged replies and karma like the majority of wild stories you hear on advice subs. Otherwise... what?? What could you have in common with a guy over a decade your junior and why are you using him as a part time babysitter? There's no logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:40 PM
17

Of course a guy would advocate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:31 PM
2

I don't see why not, any more than how having a career isn't necessarily empowering if you do it just because your husband/parents are forcing you to or you're miserable because of the toxic work environment/sexual harassment but obviously don't want to be homeless and hungry. And I'm not at all a fan of feminists who look down on mothers and children and I question how they can even call themselves that while doing it. Mothers and especially children are not the problem- how society chooses to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:27 PM
5

Yeah, but to be fair, both groups also love finding ways to demonize mothers too- single moms (trashy woman who drove her man away), stay at home moms (lazy gold digger who just pops out babies for fun), moms with a busy career (neglectful and selfish), moms with a fussy child at the store (lazy Karen who needs to cOnTrOL her hellspawn), moms out playing with their child (can't I go anywhere without women forcing their womb fruit on meee??). Society might make noise about the wonders of motherho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:22 PM
79

"If she won't give me my spoiled way and put out, she's not worthy of meeee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:18 PM
51

Uhhh... Johnny Depp the violent narcissist has evidence against him too and has the entire world supporting him. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:04 PM
15

Institutional racism against whites in the West? Sure. But racism against all races exists obviously. Look at how many middle eastern men view white women as inherently degenerate wh0res to be abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:44 PM
137

She says she doesn't want to be told to break up and snd she's already looked past his behavior. What exactly does she expect from an advice sub then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:30 PM
3

For unmarried parents, it's to make sure the guy pays child support, typically. Although as others mentioned, I think sometimes it's also a sad attempt to make the guy actually care about his own kids,since to a degree these women know these men can't be bothered if it doesn't revolve around themselves. My friend had her firstborn out of wedlock and gave her daughter his last name and made the baby's initials match her husband's too. He's been in and out of her life even after they did marry so.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:35 AM
2

I really don't understand the part about goodlooking gfs getting attention/compliments. Don't these guys place high value on obtaining a looker to boost their status in the eyes of other men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:50 PM
4

I'm so sorry about that. And I get exactly what you mean. It's so maddening that so many women will aggressively support men over their female friends, sometimes even their own daughters, but most men would never do the same and pick their wives/gfs over their bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:41 PM
15

The level of manipulation they advocate using is so creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:16 PM
26

I would've asked, "so do you think your male friends are cute, too, then?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:54 AM
69

But don't forget that HE'S allowed to keep his (flirty, clingy) female friends who completely disregard you, his gf/wife!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:56 PM
7

I'm so sorry for your mom and you kids. I hope you're all doing great in life. I can imagine whatever is happening, you're still more fulfilled than a guy who is so broken inside he thinks money and flings are better company than his family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:53 AM
49

And they say marriage only benefits women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:46 AM
8

That's so awful. Do his daughters still talk to him? How is his new wife like? Surely it would feel a little awkward being this man's terminally ill wife's replacement whose kids probably hold resentment toward you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:45 AM
9

But to be fair we're hardly the only place ever guilty of doing those things. Asia still deals with serious misogyny, Europe does, etc. The latter especially tends to breed some awful pickme ideologies what with how many liberal men are there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:31 PM
7

"ShUt Up, KaReN!" Remember that video of the guy who got flipped off by a middle aged white woman so he stalked her to her house, harassing her AND filming it the whole time till she broke down? The internet had a field day. Men can bully us to tears and it'll be our fault, because reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:30 PM
19

"Because no women who come from countries where prostitution is rampant defend it." You'd be surprised. An ex mutual of mine is an African Muslim lesbian who preaches sex work is work and has libfem tendencies despite believing in intersectional feminism. It's bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:16 PM
76

Even if they don't consciously get it, those women subconsciously know reddit hates women so they have to tread on eggshells and be as self-effacing as possible to butter up the misogynists and maybe get some advice that isn't them getting called slurs and told it's all her fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:41 AM
4

Lady whatever church you're going to is not a Christian one. Porn is so very anti-everything biblical. She worships having a husband more than Jesus (who actually valued women greatly) and has no love for herself. I hope she gets out before he cheats on her or hurts one of their kids. I'm sure her husband gaslit her into thinking husband = head of the home and therefore anything he does is godly by default. It's twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:35 AM
72

Looks feminine and has feminine skills (ie cooking) but will act like his slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:32 AM
5

Truth. I was friends with a girl online, we had a falling out and she decided to harass me for a couple years to punish me. She would show her boyfriend my social media pages to "laugh" at me (though she hid how far she went with bullying me). She adored him and felt he understood her so well. To nobody's surprise but her...he turned out to be a scumbag who despite having money of his own, was manipulating her because he wanted her father's wealth. Additonally he humiliated her further by suppos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:56 PM
11

But they never want to compliment us that way in the opposite direction...ie "Women make better CEOs, they're so much better at multitasking!" "We need more female politicians because women are great at organizing and nurturing people!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:49 PM
8

Happened to me too online, and the sad thing is, not only was it a prevalent problem on this site with message boards we could chat on, but literally nobody cared. A lot of the women were massive pickmes (including the so called feminists, who often were just as catty to women as the nonfeminist ones) and misogyny was everywhere, even from the few gay men we had. Nobody called it out as a serious thing to deal with. "Pedo" was an insult but otherwise it was just a joke that a bunch of pervs were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:39 PM
12

That's insulting to herman to compare the two! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:13 PM
60

Like telling you to "calm down" when you're literally just calmly and mildly annoyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:26 PM
31

We're not even allowed to show all emotion. We're allowed to be bubbly and happy in a way that makes us attractive and approachable to men- that's it. Occasionally sadness, if it's a single, quiet romantic tear and not ugly, painful grief that men don't want to have to deal with. Our anger is forbidden, we can't enjoy anything that doesn't revolve around or is approved by men, we can't be depressed, we can't even be neutral without some weirdo demanding we SMILE! for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:25 PM
13

I think it's very different with kids than adults though. Most kids naturally think chores are unfair. They mentally and emotionally don't need heavy responsibility like adults. But adults should be over that. I would never hold that stuff over my kid's head because like OP's husband, caring for my kid is the bare minimum I'm supposed to do for them as a parent. It would be like if a woman's husband told her "You don't like it here? You don't appreciate all I do for you? Them leave."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:21 PM
17

I think she was being sarcastic specifically because a grown man paying bills and remembering a birthday for you is nothing to brag about. It's a shaming tactic to people who praise guys for the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:17 PM
8

There are definitely hordes of pick-mes who do fish for attention online (I knew a particular one on a forum once who got catty because I, a younger girl, got some meager male attention that she felt she deserved more) got but the issue is it's ok for men to show off but not women (unless, again, it's pick-mes that men like).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:41 PM
-7

Nothing wrong with the first part. Though he clearly isn't for real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:34 PM
7

Isn't negging a backhanded compliment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:34 PM
36

He probably assumes all he needs to do is show up. He knows she'll be forced to do the real work of childcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:33 PM
61

As someone else said, it feels dehumanizing, like the speaker is describing animals out in the wild rather than human beings. There's also a tendency with unpleasant men to call women "females" but not call men "males", as if distinguishing that men are people but women are their sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:29 PM
12

Because male equals default. Men's experiences represent all of humanity. Women's as special interest that men can't (read: won't) relate to. For example, movies geared toward women are "chick flicks", no matter what their plots or themes are really about, but stuff that is predominantly male-centric or even misogynistic like "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" is about the human spirit triumphing. Also, it's funny- men's failures represent women but never men's successes. I wonder why. The exact …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:56 PM
13

And it's not even true. If they weren't interested they wouldn't be so enraged that we aren't interested in them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:51 PM
5

....Promise??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:45 PM
15

Exactly!! My friend kicked their cat out when she scratched her toddler's face. I was furious! I love her kids and children that young don't know how rough they are but it's entirely HER FAULT for mixing a rambunctious toddler she knows grabs everything with a cat. That cat did not deserve to be punished for being a cat. Don't get animals you aren't responsible enough to care for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:04 PM
8

Many dog people passionately hate cats because cats don't slavishly worship you for throwing the ball or feeding them. You have to earn their love and respect-like people. (Also, they tend to like you even if someone else feeds them, which dogs don't typically. They'll start preferring your neighbor to you if the neighbor started leavinga bowl out instead! I like dogs, but it's true.) I don't know if there's any studies about narcissists preferring dogs but it makes a ton of sense to me. A lot o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:01 PM
24

If it's such a shame to them, then they should have taken some responsibility for not teaching their kid (not blaming you btw). Also, they totally failed to protect you from a predator! How awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:50 PM
7

Not necessarily "let" but I think they're mentally/psychologically unable to set up boundaries and stick by them or even know how.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:40 PM
2

Yep. But heaven forbid YOU turn the tables and make fun of them, even lightly! You're a mean bully who went too far for giving them a small spoonful of their own medicine. People who call you "too sensitive" or call themselves "brutally honest" are always the ones who are too thin-skinned to handle a joke or honest opinion of any kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:02 PM
3

Exactly this. They LOVE a woman who is constantly chipper, smiles at him a lot, asks questions about him. Happiness is a "good" kind of emotional for these kinds of men because they prefer Stepford wives with no problems or needs of their own who just want to brighten the guy's life. A woman who shows anger or grief is a buzzkill for reminding him that women are people with lives outside of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:59 PM
4

Yep, don't even need to buy one, some apps can record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:35 PM
2

I know, but to be fair she was a teen. A lot of them have internalized misogyny and she doesn't seemto be doing that stuff anymore thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:27 PM
117

The disturbing thing is some don't want to be with the women who are into that stuff. They wanna break YOUR boundaries and bully YOU, a woman with no interest in whatever it is, into complying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:41 AM
17

Guys will brag that male friendships are better because female ones are "exhausting" in how they usually require talking, offering support, etc; how they don't care how their buddies are doing they just want to play video games and chill. And then blame women/feminism because their depression is bad and nobody cares and this is somehow other people's fault and they need their female partner to dump their emotions on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:40 PM
4

I'm sorry. I pray you get better and things go your way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:21 PM
1

Hope that gut got reported. At minimum that's just unprofessional!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:20 PM
1

Leaving New York is an upside here though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:00 PM
8

No, she probably loves not feeling alone, tbh. Which is better than being married to such a bad parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:54 PM
3

Your ex sounds super entitled and honestly I can't over any commentary better than what others have already said. But bless that old lady! So thoughtful AND assertive. The attitude I strive to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:54 PM
3

Literally stone walled me over a joke he didn't like and rather than communicating that, chose not to talk to me for a whole weekend. And they say women are the catty, passive aggressive ones??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:52 PM
3

I like female bosses too. I side eye people who say they don't want one (even women will say this). Why's that? Don't like women having the power to call you out on your crappy attitude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:48 PM
11

A lot of men confuse their feelings and opinions for logic because they've been conditioned by society and probably their male relatives to think logic is an inherently male trait. They also irrationally think showing any emotion (besides "Cool Girl. joy at anything he does) is illogical, when that's... not what that means. And if it did, it still proves men are the illogical, emotionally driven ones considering their general crazy overreactions to women rejecting them, women having opinions the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:40 PM
2

I've really come to despise that term. All it does is allow nonwhite misogynists to get away with what they do, and ignores that white women go through oppression too (including straight ones, given the disturbing rates of domestic violence and genersl toxicity in heterosexual relationships). I remember one supposedly intersectional feminist claim black women can be white feminists which tells you all you need to know about how insane libfems have gotten. Just say "first world feminism" or somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:30 PM
263

Or "testerical"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:15 PM
2

Seriously. I don't know if I could even make myself hold his hand for $20 if I needed to pay my electric bill if he reacted that way. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:48 AM
3

Not necessarily. Neither my fiance nor I had. It's okay to not date in your 20s or get physical with people. Neither of us before had found anyone we liked that much. I'm very glad my first kiss was to the man I'll be spending the rest of my life with and vice versa and not some incel like this. His problem however is not a lack of kissing or sex or whatever, it's that he's 22 and still thinks women exist for men, that sex workers really mean it when they sweet talk you, that buying a woman's fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:46 AM
85

I love this. Of course though, some tumblr pickmes felt called out by this one harmless female positive post (instead of just... maybe... changing your attitude?) and had to get rude and snivel in the comments. "BuT i WaS nOt LiKe OtHeR GiRLs! I rEaLLy DiDn'T ReLaTe tO GiRLs! ThEy wErE MeAn To Me!" Okay first, no, if five million NLOGs are all singing about their very special individuality complexes in unison, clearly yall ARE exactly like other girls. Second, were they mean or were you the mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:29 AM
5

"But girls are obviously the worse bullies!! Boys only tease you a bit when they have crushes!!!" Side note, is anyone else bothered by the comment that big boobs = quality boobs? As if small chested women don't have quality bodies and don't deal with sexual remarks either?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:44 PM
11

Wow. Please tell me he's single and in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:04 PM
29

"Actually it's no wonder at all" or "and thank heavens for THAT" too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:42 PM
13

Love bombing can happen in any sort of relationship and also at any stage in it. It's showing extra affection, lots of gifts, tons of support to reel you in like bait to a fish. Then the bad behavior is back. Then love bombing. And so on. A guy who plans early could be an abuser or just really enthusiastic and pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:17 PM
21

Same! It's benefitted me entirely. My friends who are secular tend to have a few more libfem tendencies and I feel bad for them- so many guys in their lives have used them or wasted their time. I don't mean that to sound condescending- I truly do feel for them. They didn't make the guys come to them, prove themselves to them, they shacked up, etc and it really didn't benefit them in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:15 PM
44

Some Europeans make noise about how much more progressive they are than Americans but their men are no better. In a way sometimes they're worse like this dude, wasting her time willfully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:13 PM
5

Them: Prudes are so boring Me: Only boring people are bored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:26 PM
21

And Grace Kelly, one of the most attractive women of all time, routinely got stuck with old dudes who weren't in her league physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:16 PM
18

Honestly she probably hides it from them because she knows they'd have words to say about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:11 PM
49

This, plus women are taught singlehood is shameful for our sex, because it supposedly means we couldn't obtain a man, the sole indication of our worth as people. So women are terrified of being alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:35 PM
2

What is he providing besides learned helplessness and junk food? Nobody's saying he's a vicious child abuser but he's definitely lazy. If women can do the bare minimum of picking out a normal outfit and making a ponytail, so can men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:00 PM
6

Not just girls. I was bullied far more by boys for being "ugly" (ie a typical awkward tween). They made fun of my looks and lack of makeup more than girls ever did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:49 PM
15

More like "dumped my emotional garbage on her and expected her to pick up the mess for me". They're so black and white- they hear "communicate and show basic emotional support" and think "she'll sort my unresolved issues for me and I can use her to talk for an hour about everyone who annoys me".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:42 PM
9

Because to them, a single woman must mean no man wanted her, which they think for women is a fate worse than death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:28 PM
31

I don't understand how these guys can have such giant egos while simultaneously wanting to force a woman not attracted to them to date him. She's dating you by force, not because you're desirable. A normal person would be humiliated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:27 PM
19

Kids don't even know they can or SHOULD have boundaries. Most don't even know what boundaries look like. Parents, educate your kids please! Life won't do it for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:18 PM
7

Because they already have their own dating subs. But they still can't resist stealing women's ideas. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:15 PM
3

I'd tell his dad honestly. Fathers need to set an example too but when their kids are lazy or rude the dads sre let off the hook while mom takes the blame. He likely made his own wife the cleaning lady, too, and taught his son women exist to cater to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:14 PM
6

People too insecure to put up and stick by high standards and boundaries always feel threatened by people who aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:09 PM
6

They learned from their dishonest LV boyfriends and male friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:09 PM
3

My best friend's husband has cheated on her yet again (although it was several months ago and she only recently found out). She has 2 young kids and they're in the process of trying to get custody of her stepdaughter so now if she wanted to leave she can't. She should have left him ages ago and stop stressing herself out putting up with his lies and cheating and laziness and now she's stuck with him for at least a few more years while he gets a free maid and babysitter since she's only staying o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:07 PM
5

Women put up with so much physical pain and barely complain still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:02 PM
-26

I get the idea but Gomez wouldn't treat me like a person but an untouchable angel or child who needs coddling. I'd prefer a guy who respects my independence and admires how capable I am. We need balance, no LVM and none of the opposite where the guy is too old fashioned and treats you like a doll with no flaws or strengths or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:59 PM
6

I had a supposed "intersectional feministc chew me out and block me for my dislike of porn. It's bad enough that men do this but it's kind if insidious that women who claim to care sooooo much about the marginalized defend it and use a silencing tactic to make other women shut up about it. (She was also a lesbian so she isn't even a pickme!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:16 PM
40

It's an ego thing. They need to know they're the most important person in your life even though you obviously aren't theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:08 PM
8

I don't know what impresses me more here, the tired victim-blaming and weird slut-shaming undertone, or the fact that it's almost 2021 and people are still so dumb about Disney movies. Or how this stuff keeps getting karma on a supposedly pro-woman sub. Snow was an abuse survivor who fled for her life, survived the terrifying forest, survived almost being murdered TWICE, used good judgment in agreeing to use the skills she had (housekeeping) in exchange for food and shelter. She even made hersel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:20 PM
25

Reminds me of whem a young guy out of the army became my general manager several years ago. One day he randomly asked (sounding almost like he was gonna cry!!), "Why do you hate me?" .....I literally just kept to myself and didn't talk to him if I didn't need to because I barely knew him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:54 PM
231

Or laugh at all his jokes no matter how objectively unfunny or unoriginal they are. "I like a girl who has a sense of humor!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:50 PM
15

Same. It was weird. I mean I was younger (mostly 14-16 when it happened, gross) but really, what is it about awkward style and unkempt hair that appeals to these weirdos? It stopped almost entirely when I turned 18 and learned what looks good on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:34 PM
40

I listen to a lot of true crime podcasts and it's terrifying how many men willingly risk pregnancy with a woman and then decide to punish both the woman and baby for his own choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:26 PM
47

What they mean is women tell actual jokes that require actual wit and not just penis joke #500, fart jokes, or age old "wife bad" jokes. I also noticed a lot of men whine that female comedians aren't relatable with their jokes. Ok? Should they care? 'Cause most male comedians have never particularly cared about appealing to women with their jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:24 PM
36

This is why I prefer female friends. Men play games but pretend women do when we're the ones wearing our hearts on our sleeves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:12 PM
-7

What was wrong with doing fun stuff with her children? I don't have kids and have had incredibly stressful holidays too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:08 AM
2

Judging by a particular comment of his he is trolling for angry remarks. That's what I dislike about subs like that, there's so many dumb comments you can't always distinguish the real dumb from the fake dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:58 AM
1

I thought they thought romance was a stupid girly thing women only like because of ~emotions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:25 PM
8

It's definitely fake, don't worry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:21 PM
37

This feels pretty r/thathappened but if it's true, good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:24 PM
5

I heard on a podcast that apparently many psychopaths go on to become CEOs (or maybe it was that many CEOs are psychopaths). Either way, a judge or cop isn't so far off. They want positions of power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:33 PM
13

"Delete yours first, Chad" He's so angry he's attracted to her and she already knows she looks good so she wouldnt fall for his lazy manipulative hit-ons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:31 PM
19

To be fair, a lot of Europein general seems to suffer from libfem-itis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:18 PM
3

Love women for that <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:23 PM
10

This. 95% of these types of posts are just men thirsty for female attention even if it's negative. They thrive on us interacting with them in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:23 PM
17

Honestly he's probably like 18 himself and thinks women = his mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:21 PM
-9

I agree. This place gets so defensive sometimes about stuff that really isn't toxic. Not every single guy you find annoying is a nArCiSSiSt waiting to NeG you. Just block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:16 AM
40

Narcissist, probably not, just a guy who thinks he's witty and clever and this will surely charm a fair maiden who is used to guys just straight up asking for nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:14 AM
15

I thought negging was backhanded compliments?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:13 AM
28

But it's women who are two faced lol. They pretend all female friendships are dramatic because most women have the spine to distance themselves from bad people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:00 PM
4

Funny thing is, it seems like when you literally don't care about them and their attention anymore that they suddenly want yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:12 PM
32

I'm pretty sure men do given they're the ones doing this raping and abusing and encouraging it in others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:08 PM
23

Then they should throw up on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:00 PM
12

That's not gaslighting (manipulating you to believe you're losing your sanity) , it's just him being a jerk who doesn't prioritize you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:56 PM
4

Tell me people are calling him out in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:13 AM
15

Here's his replies: https://www.reddit.com/user/ThrowRA-Ineedhelp88/comments Hopefully he really did learn from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:35 PM
53

He clearly only got married for himself. He said nothing about her personality really, only that she's hot and tolerated their crap for a long time. A lot of men seem to only get married for the status and not because they personally love the woman for who she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:29 PM
166

Weak ones will throw you to the wolves to protect themselves. They'll gladly protect their friends above you as well every time. See above. His loser friends' approval matters more than their blatant disrespect to his supposed soulmate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:22 PM
19

I thought only fragile snowflakes were hurt by words by a woman's mere personality is enough to bruise these guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:18 PM
20

Wait, he complained that you never cooked dinner... then complained when you did?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:15 PM
10

What exactly is he hoping to achieve? She'll probably tear into him, leave, and never talk to him again if we're lucky. Are they dumb enough to really think these acts of deceit will somehow charm the women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:24 AM
7

Yeah but I'm pretty sure non Christian countries largely populated by poc treat their women (and gay people and the disabled) like trash too without needing some rich white leaders' help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:19 PM
6

Thank you. Acting like white women are your enemies and having more loyalty to abusive moc just because they're of color is a special kind of pickmeism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:17 PM
7

Wasnt Teen Vogue the one explaining sex acts to girls and encouraging them to try anal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:13 PM
-11

Ok that guy is the true psycho here, but that girl knows good and well she is NTA. Why do people post these stories where they are obviously the wronged party and still ask that? Validation? She should be on fds asking how to break free, not asking if she is somehow the bad guy when she clearly knows she isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:11 PM
65

LOL then maybe he should have dated a... 40 year old woman if he values theit maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:51 PM
25

I remember years ago on tumblr this was this popular post about a guy successfully lying to a girl about being a big feminist to have a hookup. (The story sounded fake to me but you know there's people that would try it or cheer him on.) Of course anti-feminists jumped on it to hoot about how stupid feminists are to fall for that- as if she was to blame for logically assuming a guy is who he claims to be- but the stupidest comment was a guy dramatically claiming that liar was a genius. ...For...…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:35 AM
14

Please tell me even one person called out and that loser who replied out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:29 AM
93

"Hi sis!" Like, totes how women be talking to each other here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:17 AM
14

Oh he's not gaslighting, he likely really believes that. Reddit fully believes grown men have this sort of God given right to prey on women whose decision making skills are still being developed in their brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:29 PM
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