mightythistle Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Q4W: How many of you have "back-up" guys? Nope. I'm an introvert and a bit of a loner. I don't have a lot of friends irl, and most of my friends are female. With that being said, I do have a couple of male friends who I grew up with (since elementary school), but they are in relationships themselves and we talk too infrequently for them to be considered orbiters. Talking negatively about my relationship or complaining about my husband is strictly off the table with any friend of mine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/17 01:37 AM
2	How are you supposed to hit on women "in person" when they're always on their phone? Eh, we'll have to agree to disagree on "just as many". I think that the population that grew up with the technology is more dependent on it than older generations, just based on my own personal observations. Like others have said, a phone isn't always necessarily a force field. Some implement phones/headphones/books as such (like myself) but a woman using a phone doesn't mean that she is simply inapproachable. I think at most times of the day, people are engaged in some kind of stimulus whether …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 11:00 PM
2	How do you maintain intimacy when someone becomes too important to lose? I'm not saying that this would work for everyone, this is just coming from someone who DOES consider her husband too important to lose, and who has maintained a very deeply intimate relationship for ten years. I think it's important for both parties to acknowledge at the beginning of a relationship that it is most likely a "honeymoon" period in which major flaws and shortcomings are not going to be immediately revealed. Even as teenagers, I like to think that my husband and I had a mature unders…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 10:28 PM
1	How are you supposed to hit on women "in person" when they're always on their phone? I don't think this is so much of a "women" problem as it is maybe a generational one, in which a lack of understanding of time/place for smartphones comes off as rudeness, especially in young people. Obviously, an inability to put the phone down during a date, family time, etc., is rude and not conducive to a good time for all parties. But I don't think that women using their phones in the privacy of their own parked vehicles, or during public transit commutes, are examples of this. I personally…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 09:13 PM
4	Women: how would your life be different if 60% of men decided to have no contact with women? I would obviously be broken if my husband left me. I would be equally as sad if other important male figures in my life cut off contact with me, namely my father and grandfather. As for the other 60%, I could not care less. I wouldn't be interested in trying to extract a new male partner out of the remaining 40%. I'm currently pregnant so I think what would most likely happen in terms of my life changing, is I would probably live with my mother, grandmother and aunt, assuming that their husbands…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 08:55 PM
1	Why is it acceptable to shame older men for being attracted younger women? I'm not denying that the middle-aged ones do it as well. What I'm trying to touch upon is the origin of the social acceptance of shaming men for being attracted to/pursuing younger women, and how this sentiment got passed down to younger generations, but traditional values have dwindled so it makes a lot less sense. The women today that are middle-aged and younger who do this seem to parrot this shaming due to their (accurate or not) perception of predatory behavior, a presence of actually illeg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 07:53 PM
3	How do you maintain intimacy when someone becomes too important to lose? I agree. I've always thought that the beginnings of relationships are when people portray themselves the best, put the most effort into keeping their personality flaws under control, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 07:17 PM
1	Why is it acceptable to shame older men for being attracted younger women? Well, yeah. Unless of course they're being divorced/cheated on for younger "hotter" women. Then I think that understanding goes away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 06:35 PM
1	Why is it acceptable to shame older men for being attracted younger women? I didn't specifically say 40 year old women so I don't know what the fuck YOU are talking about, either. I referenced older women who DID grow up when the cultural norm was to marry young/preferably as a virgin. This wasn't some 1800s-exclusive concept, you know. Both of my grandmothers come to mind, who both married when they were 19 and virgins. That was what their mothers told them was "right", and their mothers before that, and so on and so forth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 06:33 PM
9	Why is it acceptable to shame older men for being attracted younger women? There are a lot of comments here denying that this happens, which really surprises me, because I think that it certainly does. And not just for the "gross" factor of an old man with a young woman in her prime. These types of relationships are frequently disparaged and seen as superficial ("he's a creep", "she's a gold digger"). This is just my take on it: it's usually older women (presumably women that grew up adhering to traditional gender roles) that heavily disparage older men for being attra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/17 04:29 AM
1	Q4ALL: Tell us about the time you got rejected I told my ex-best friend that I liked him, and he responded positively at first, although he didn't affirm whether or not he actually wanted to date me. He gave me a long hug and we made plans to hang out the beach near my house the following day. The next day he flaked, didn't call me or respond to my phone call/text asking if we still had plans. A couple of hours later, I got a friend request on Myspace from a girl I didn't know personally, but who I knew of because my ex-best friend had told …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/17 11:15 PM
1	CMV: Women, even "good girls," look down upon guys they perceive as being sheltered/less experienced with the world than themselves I don't mind at all! I don't think there was a single Mormon family in our hometown, lol. His parents have always been very traditional but he wasn't raised to be very religious. My parents are not traditional at all, nor are they religious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/17 11:39 PM
4	CMV: Women, even "good girls," look down upon guys they perceive as being sheltered/less experienced with the world than themselves I had the opposite experience. I was a virgin when I met my husband, but I had kissed one other guy, and I was wild in every other aspect. I hung out with people that were older than me and I got into all kinds of trouble with them: drinking, doing drugs, fighting, stealing our parents' cars and other illegal behavior. My husband had never even held a girl's hand before mine, never drank before the legal drinking age, never did drugs, etc. It never once bothered me that his social life was very …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/17 02:44 AM
3	The TMI laydees-only sex toy thread. Or, "how my understanding of women's orgasms was smashed on the weekend..." it seems to me that women's orgasms don't have to be connected to the psychological or to our sexual partners in the way we commonly believe. I've always believed this to be true, and it bums me out that so many people think that the female libido only exists in relation to her attraction to another person, or that the male libido is "sooOoOoOooooO much more intense". I accidentally discovered clitoral orgasms when I was really young, like before kindergarten, and pretty much haven't stopped mas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/17 04:11 PM
3	Discussion for all: Would you allow yourself to become an ONS or a "plate"? Never have, never will. I lost my virginity to the guy I ultimately married, and that was after I had already decided that I wanted to marry him one day. I understand that not everybody feels this way about sex, but I would never have sex outside of a committed relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/17 03:49 PM
2	Do BP women here have an actual track record of loving beta men? This characterization of "beta" men is a pretty good example of why I don't buy the RP concepts of alpha and beta in terms of sexual strategies in the first place. My shy, unathletic, soft-spoken, cuddly, no-rhythm having husband, whom I have been with since I was a teenager, wouldn't know the first thing about a carburetor and has never even so much as taken a peek under the hood of our car to try to make sense of how it works. But he isn't resigned to a sexless marriage where he acts as a sent…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/17 12:22 AM
1	Q4ALL Do women prefer men capable of Cheating? It depends on what you mean by "capable". I would never prefer a man who was not morally opposed to cheating and who was capable of betraying me in that way. My husband is tall, handsome, intelligent, makes good money, and dresses well. I know he gets female attention wherever he goes. However, he is fiercely dedicated to me, and it has been that way since we began dating in high school nearly 10 years ago. I truly do not believe he is the type to cheat. But if he were the type, I know that he w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/17 04:02 AM
1	What about you breaks gender stereotypes? Grew up and spent most of my time playing video games, it's the most consistent hobby I have ever had. Assertive when it comes to romantic interest. I asked my husband out for our first date, and I paid for it. Only socially intelligent enough to not be a total outcast. I've always been more of a "lone wolf". Watch porn pretty much every single day. Really vulgar sense of humor. Have been the sole breadwinner for most of my relationship, although not currently. Love computers and technology. Fin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/17 08:11 PM
1	Q4 All: how old were you when you lost your virginity? (Gender and pill please) 17 years old. Female. Blue pill. He was also 17, a virgin, and blue pill. We're married now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/17 04:19 AM
1	Why are "nice guys" that complain about assholes considered a meme... There's also such a thing as rejecting someone in stride, and not just ghosting someone or leaving them on Seen. Well, yeah. I don't think we disagree about that, but sometimes having an open and polite conversation about why you are rejecting someone still yields the kind of treatment I received when I straight up told my guy friends, "Hey, I'm sorry but because of the fact that I am completely googly-eyed-in-love with someone else, I have nothing to offer you in that regard!" Just because it d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/17 09:47 PM
1	Why are "nice guys" that complain about assholes considered a meme... "Nice guys arent nice. I expect them to be nice even after being humiliated!" There is such a thing as taking rejection in stride. That applies to both men and women. "Incels just want sex! LOL penis in vagina! xdddd" "Incels only like the top women! All those other women are completely ignored by the evil incels!" When did I mention incels specifically? So what, you're in your late 20s? Sort of close to the wall, which means... LMAO. I'm 25. I have never, ever participated in the ~dating market…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/17 07:52 AM
6	Why are "nice guys" that complain about assholes considered a meme... These guys had never called him an asshole before we started dating. In fact, he was frequently made fun of by them for never having a girlfriend, for being, in their minds, the most likely to "graduate a virgin". They had previously perceived him as a "loser", up until that "loser" got the girl that they wanted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/17 02:10 AM
10	Why are "nice guys" that complain about assholes considered a meme... It's not even close to being the universal truth about who women go for, and in my experience, the "nice guys" (the kind being referenced in the memes) who complain about women picking "assholes" are not nice guys at all, and leave a lot to be desired in terms of their personalities. From what I've commonly witnessed, it's a more of a gripe over not getting to fuck the particular girls that they want to. Example: I started dating my husband in high school. He has always been very shy and quiet, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/17 01:31 AM
1	Is there any truth to this "women are attracted to bad boys" trope that gets trotted around? I've seen and personally experienced the opposite so many times that I personally don't believe that all women can be painted with this brush, or even MOST women. I met my husband in high school, he was incredibly shy and quiet, and even sometimes bullied by the "bad boy" types in our classes. When he started talking to me, and I got a glimpse of how intelligent, funny, and genuinely kind he was, I started dating him within two weeks of us meeting. We've been together for almost 10 years. It was…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/17 04:13 AM