mihapiha Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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-2	Struggling with style I think that makes you creepy. I have no idea what the thirsty refers to, but I'm convinced now it's creepy. But sure. I guess the world is full of people who think that was too creepy to give someone advice on "wear what you feel confortable in". That's apparently an ill advice somehow	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/22 08:43 PM
0	Struggling with style It's the advice to "wear what your confortable in" irrelevant because I mentioned that I liked belly buttons? Very odd to pick out one sentance out of everything to block everything	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/22 01:52 PM
1	Struggling with style What a woman wears, is not a sign of her being RedPill or not. You wear what you're confortable in. You can be feminin with your movements and there are female styles of wearing jeans too. The biggest turn on for me is if women show off their belly buttons. It's not something major, but that works for me. What you want is to highlight the waist (so wear something tighter there) and the rest will work either way. Men are not really picky when it comes to this stuff.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/22 08:40 AM
1	Do you offer to split the bill on the first date? I don't think you have to do that, and that comes from a man's point of view. Paying for the date is I think dependent on whomever had the idea of the date. So if I invite, I pay, if you as a girl invite, then it's your bill to be picked up. The other side can offer to split the bill, but I don't think anybody would be mad if you don't. Men tend to get upset if it looks like you're only taking advatage of the situation. Don't go, if you're not interested, and do offer if it's the 3rd date or so.…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/11/22 10:09 PM
8	Is it possible to marry a rich man as my goals (F 23)? weird goal you have. I can tell you that this is the most offputting on any woman period. Probably smoking coming in second for me personally. If anybody is interesting in being around me because of my bank account, then I don't want to be around them. You should always find a connection point with another human being, and not really care for their bank statement exclusively. Maybe to turn it around for it to be more understandable from a female perspective, is a guy who's only interested in a g…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/11/22 08:29 AM
3	How to be a man's muse? Why do you need to be controlling or mothering? What a guy who's really ambitious wants, is a woman who's extremely loyal, precise and supportive. Besides, behind every successful man is not a woman who outsmarts her man, but a woman who understands what her man is good at, and trusts him with the path, while taking over the things he may struggle with. Let me give you a practical example. Any successful man will have to work hard, if he tries to succeed. What someone like that wants is a woman,…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/22 02:22 PM
1	Meeting the parents Americans tend to be part of the Ango-American cultural sphere. I live in Austria, which means Italian influence, and long dinners and lunches being social events. For Americans (and Brits usually) food is something they do before socializing. So it's short (from my point of view) thing they do. You can expect it to last like an hour, but rarely more than that, even if it's a celebration. Personally I do recommend watching the distance and consciously thinking that you're not standing to close t…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/22 09:52 PM
3	Advice for a low-value woman? why do you consider a low-value woman? Everything you said here has nothing to do with how men value women. I fear this discussion is going to be quite personal, if you choose to go deep, but in that case you're welcome to DM me. Men consider women of value to be young (which you are), not having had a ton of boyfriends (which you said you haven't) and providing peace of mind and peace. If you're willing to submit to guys, you should have little problems of finding reasonable options for yoursel…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/22 07:40 PM
2	Meeting the parents depending on the country of origins, check up on the difference in mannerisms. For example, coming from central Europe, we tend to have a smaller social bubble than Americans. Meaning we tend to be 0.5 - 1 meter away from the party we talk to; for Americans it tends to be about 1-1.5 meters (or over 3 feet if you prefer imperial). So be careful not to stand to close to people. You might see them move away. When you eat, you use the right hand for the fork, and cut much of the food into pieces be…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/22 07:23 PM
1	Is trauma offputting? It is sad to hear, but unfortunately not that isolated of an incident. I must have heard that from about half a dozen women. Is it off-putting? No, but it's a strange thing where you as a normal man don't know how to act. It's more of a walking on egg-shells type of a relationship, because you want to be trusted and not bring back any trauma based on what you're doing. So it it has impact on many things, especially in the bedroom. It depends also on how the woman acts with that sort of an experi…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/22 02:06 PM
2	how to handle being disrespected in a relationship Ok. I'm sure you can figure out something else that will make him upset and jealous. The idea is not to overdo it, and still to make the point that he has to expect some consequences for stupid behaviour. The point either way is just to threaten and do it maybe once, and then he'll get the message. If you have something simpler which will do the trick, you can use that too... Edit: If you pick out something too inconsequential, he won't stop. So it has to be something hard hitting enough, that h…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/22 10:27 PM
2	How Long Should I Wait To Get Married? I'm of the belief that you have to live together for 6 months minimum, and 2 years at the most. After 2 years you know all of your partner's little weird things, and you know whether you can handle that for the rest of your life or not.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/22 08:31 PM
5	how to handle being disrespected in a relationship He is testing. Testing if you get jealous. Apparently he wants you to get jealous, which seems to be more of a sign that you care for him. I don't know why he's doing that, because it tends to be something guys do at the beginning of the relationship to get a feel if she cares for him. It's quite odd to do that 8 months in... The best way to handle that, is to let him know that every time he's thinking of his ex, you'll get a hall pass to think about your's. That ought to shut him up. Edit: The …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/22 08:24 PM
3	My boyfriend called me used up… Ok. I find it quite confusing. Being at 4 at age 26 is not too bad, I think. And for him at 30 to start with this nonsense, makes me quite worried I have to say. He's not into some weird Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson crap lately and feels like he's the victim as the man suddenly? At age 30 he's not supposed to feel like he's missing out on wild dating life (which some guys crave in their mid 20s if they've had a serious relationship long enough). This would make sense to some extent, that he's try…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/22 12:35 PM
3	My boyfriend called me used up… are the 3 or any of the 3 people known to him. Friends of his for example? What age are we talking here? Is he in his early 20s?	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/22 08:34 AM
2	Non-religious/Atheist but conservative/libertarian ladies… I think your problem is a location related one. I don't know where you live, but I live in 3 countries and that changes depending on the location. I live in Austria. It's a catholic country, but I can tell you it's hard to find people here who take religion seriously. There are some, yes, but it's really a minority. The Childless-bit might be an age-related thing. It might change in a few years time. However, if it doesn't consider dating someone quite a bit older than you are. I don't know if i…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/11/22 07:08 PM
1	I was committed to celibacy but have given in to him twice. How do I regain control of the situation? I must admit that I don't fully understand the problem and the guidelines necessary here. If he's the right guy and serious, having sex doesn't seem to a mistake at all. What you want is just proper commitment on his part, not necessarily rules on how to decrease the sexual tension and contact. I will presume that nothing he did actually hurt you physically. The relationship seems to be moving forward, and whether you sleep with him this week or this year still ought to bring you the same result…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/11/22 10:14 PM
1	hey, serious question I am not a troll. While this is true to some extent, the question really is what the woman wants. Getting a guy who’s 45 and up commit to having children, is quite a task. If the purpose is only to get married, you’re better of with a 90 year old :D Same goes the other way. If he still has a wish for a family, he’ll shoot for someone between 25-ish to about 30, maybe 35. If he’s done with family-planing on his own. The 20-25 year olds tend not to be too serious about family planing and go for the top 10% anyhow, …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 09:50 PM
1	Is my ex trying to rekindle things or string me along? Based on what was said here: He’s in his early to mid 20s and you were good in bed. Doesn’t seem serious to me at all from his end.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 09:41 PM
6	hey, serious question I am not a troll. Most men date who they can, not who they want a relationship with. That's two different things for most men. If you want to make a good impression, you take care of your body, work out and watch your diet, use make-up etc. Those things work on 90% of all guys to make an impression. And in your age-range you should have no problems finding a ton of guys wanting to DM with you... Men stick around in relationships if they find women, who are not emotionally damaged, loyal, peaceful and if he feels …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 02:10 PM
3	What should I do My personal experience leads me to believe that if young people (implication here is that you're mentally too young) get into serious relationships, it seldom works, as someone always seems to lack maturity. What I mean by this is the following: If you're too young for example when you're having kids, you will neglect them more often than if you have them in later stages in life, where the child means everything and you want to spend as much time as possible with your children. A similar thought…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 05:07 PM
3	Help fixing a situation I don't know how well he knows you, because if he knows you have these phases of what most men will call "crazy behaviour", he might come back, if you really make a proper apology to him rather than on this subreddit. I think you have to blame it on menstruation or something and you need a deep felt apology, which mustn't be per text! What might work is giving him "time" in the sense that you promise him that you'll go out for a weekend just the two of you and you'll do whatever he wants. That t…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/22 10:24 AM
1	Will I regret my relationship choices. Be honest.. Well, if you figure out a good way to start, let me know. :) I wonder myself quite often, and I'm sort of convinced that I won't find a reasonable and reliable partner on a dating-app. I can just tell you that you shouldn't sell yourself short. I hope you have a brother or a male figure who can vet some of the guys for you. It's odd, men understand male logic and it's fairly obvious to us who is serious and who isn't. I'm sort of having the same problem but sex reversed. I've been working for th…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 09:53 PM
16	Small field report: shutting up & trusting him the hug was worth a lot after his mistake, and he wanted to make it up to you. That's sweet. And a good thing you went for the hug!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 08:27 PM
0	Will I regret my relationship choices. Be honest.. I think you don't have to worry. Personally, I think you can be legit picky now and consider yourself in the upper 10-20% of women around, because you're what most successful men in their 30s desire. For the next few years you're maybe visually not a 10 (can't judge, just making a point), but you're emotionally and logically a 10 in your mid 20s, who's not gone through toxic relationships. That means you can pick out the average guy, who's in his 30s and not had tons of girls (which is like 66% …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 08:10 PM
2	How to slow down on physical touch? It's hard building a relationships either way, because you're always fearful that the other person is not as serious as you are. Women pick men, so it's up to them to choose properly. For most men it feels like they're rejected when they approach a woman and she doesn't want to be physical. The physical in that instance can be something as simple as avoiding holding hands. It really doesn't matter what it is. But men interpret her liking him, by allowing him to make physical steps towards sex. D…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 09:36 AM
1	How to slow down on physical touch? Again: I'm not advocating for sex before a relationship. I'm merely pointing out that she might loose him, and why. I'm trying to explain the men's interpretation so she can hopefully talk to him, and explain her position. Otherwise she'll run into him loosing interest or even worse, catching him with another woman. This can be prevented.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 07:35 AM
1	How to slow down on physical touch? I'm not saying she should, I'm saying men won't commit in general if they get rejected too often. His mind tells him "she's not serious and you better move on". He feels like she doesn't like him. And if she doesn't like him, there's no relationship there from his point of view.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 07:16 AM
3	How to slow down on physical touch? Just for your information: Until you do not commit to him physically, he won’t commit to you in a relationship. That has biological reasons too. When women have sex, they release hormons and they actually become attached to men during sex. While most men don’t know that, their biological instinct is to have sex, in order to confirm “she likes me” or not. Hence, it is an odd play of women deciding when to have sex, and men looking around for anybody who’d offer sex to them. And who wouldn’t enjoy…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/22 07:00 AM
7	How to slow down on physical touch? the cuddling is a really good step for you I imagine and he'll like it too. The warming up part is good to. It's nice to feel needed as a man, and every small thing helps ;)	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/22 09:06 PM
13	How to slow down on physical touch? I worry you have been scared by someone quite more badly than mentioned here and I hope you did tell you man about it. If he likes you, he will indeed take it slow and wait for you to be ready. It's hopefully gonna work out. He seems to like you either way for having stuck around that long. What you could do, is smaller steps which you're comfortable with. It would be great if you can show him that you like him in a physical way. Certain things can be more intimate than sex. For me, it's more im…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/22 08:09 PM
9	How to slow down on physical touch? Men usually don't like to be rejected for that long when they want a relationship or just sex. In the case of the second, he probably would have given up by now unless he's like in his early 20s or even younger. In case he wants an actual relationship, I don't understand why you're holding back. I think he'll be at the end of his rope soon and look for alternatives rather soon. I'm not sure if that's what you want. You could also tell him that you don't want him. That's fine too. The "he feels t…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/22 07:31 PM
1	Help with repair + rebuilding period! Ok two things: Men watch NSFW stuff, because they are obsessed with sex, especially at that age. It has nothing to do with love, but rather with a desire to have sex with as many woman as possible. That is also biologically hardwired into male DNA and has nothing to do with how he feels towards you. Rejecting him for sex is a really bad idea. I know it's looks bad from your point of view, but you rejecting him is making the situation worse unwillingly. He's gonna get worried that you don't like …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/22 11:12 AM
3	Personal Boundaries Follow Up Post Men here. That is not a safe environment for you or your kids. I agree with pretty much what everybody here said. Get help, preferably from your and his family, in that order. It seems to me to be a setup for physical abuse which I fear might follow. Make sure your kids are protected from him.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/22 07:51 AM
1	What's the thing with male dominance/female submission? Basically it's the deal of: "if you want her to do the cooking, you have to let her buy the groceries"-deal for men. "if you him to steer the direction of their life and provide, then you have to let him navigate" ... probably it's not a saying, but I think it implies the right thing	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/22 07:29 AM
0	What's the thing with male dominance/female submission? yes it's healthy, especially executed in the right way. Men want to be in charge and have a natural instinct of protecting and providing. If he has to do that, he wants his partner to follow his decisions, because he is responsible of protecting and providing. Now that doesn't mean she has to become a slave, but submit to a path he chooses. Men tend to be older in relationship, and make decisions based on more experience, however, women can influence the decision whenever they choose. It's easy …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/22 07:11 AM
1	Am I a bad GF (25F) to my SO (27M) in a scenario? I agree. He seems immature for that age. It's not a common "bad boy"-character is it?	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 09:47 PM
2	Help! My husband and I are at a complete gridlock as it relates to personal belonging boundaries. I think he shows the problem of RP-dogma. Too many people get some "fact" but cannot process the information like it's meant. I would assume it's stupidity on his part, but I'm unsure how to fix it. Because if you do confront him, it might backfire. I would play the "disappointed" and "sad about"-card if he gets out of line. A good idea might be also implementing some rules with a form of agreeable punishment for either side. If he wants you to spend time in the guest-bedroom as a form of punish…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 05:38 PM
5	How can I move on from what feels like true love to me? It means that if you guys had a fair amount of sex, that he usually doesn't want to leave, especially if he sees a proper relationship. If he still does it can mean only one of two things: Either the sex wasn't good, or you guys didn't connect properly on other aspects other than sex. The second you unfortunately confirmed by stating that he feels that you guys are very different. If he says you are very different, there are some things he found which won't work in a relationship. While I'm sure…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 05:05 PM
2	How can I move on from what feels like true love to me? This one is a bit hard to judge from my end because he's a few years older than me. Hence he may have a different level of maturity than me and therefore have a bit different desires. My guess is, that you will have to accept not having children if you go into this relationship. At that age, and with him having children already, it is highly likely that he's done with having kids. His work and his time might mean most to him and I assume, that probably he will have deep trust issues. He also doe…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 04:32 PM
4	How can I move on from what feels like true love to me? You have not described him well. It's hard to judge based on this if he's serious or stuck between two options, if he's playing you, or if he's just not interested in either woman. What does he do? How distant is the relationship? Meaning how often did you see each other before/now/since? Has he kids, wife, etc.? How far off are you guys in age? Based on some information on him, it might be easier to judge from what POV he comes from and what you should do	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 03:34 PM
3	How would you want your husband to see you: she's so cute or she's so hot/sexy Personally I differ between a few terms when it comes to women, and I feel that most men understand these differently as well. "She's cute" means she's got a youthful appearance, usually means she's cuddly (or rather, I'd want to cuddle with her), she looks like she needs and wants protection (which hits something men desire), but it's the opposite of "sexy". Meaning both are visually pleasing but "sexy" would be more "mature" in look, something that says she's decisive and looks like she alread…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/22 03:07 PM
2	Finding middle ground in offering sex? (If he brought me flowers every day, wouldn’t I start to appreciate it less?) Sex is not a gift, it's part of the relationship. I think if you want less sex than he does it's kind of OK, but if you reject him to often, he'll start looking for someone who does fulfill the sexual need. And the same is true the other way. Good relationships are between two people with roughly the same sex drive. If that's too far apart or if one side gets rejected to often you won't keep any relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 08:16 PM
1	Question: What is femininity? What is submission? Being femin shouldn‘t be all that confusing. Everything feminin is naturally attractive to 90% of men. That means color pink, flowers, smell of flowers, soft and high voices, etc. etc. Now the things mentioned above I think ought to be clear. Submission is a different topic especially in the modern concept. I think RP women try to do what they think men what, and they‘re right most of the time. Men want women to follow their lead, and women tend to like dominant assertive men. But I believe ther…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/22 08:57 PM
2	How to not get too caught up in the future at the beginning of a relationship? I'd think it's a good thing. It's nice that you take relationships seriously. The question is only if you're partner is similar in that regard to you, and I think that's usually a age-related question. I think around 30-ish most people come to that "day-dreaming" bit in their life. Some mature sooner, some later and unfortunately, some never grow up :D	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 11:40 AM
2	How to reciprocate kindness to my boss You're very much welcome. I hope it makes sense why it's necessary for you to make the move. If you have rejected him before, he most likely won't try again, especially because you're working for him now. It really sucks in the times of "me-too". I've had people working here and I had to let my employee who's also my friend ask them for normal things at times. They were all to scared of me, because I was the "boss" and they didn't loosen up ever around me. So I had to ask someone else in their p…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 11:30 AM
2	How to reciprocate kindness to my boss I can explain the thought-process because I'm male and I'm a CEO. You don't get to become a CEO or "boss" if you don't work hard. The most valuable thing is often time in that position. Personally, I don't want to be played with, I don't want to be "chasing". Granted, I'm older, and hence not interested in any woman who's trying to take things slow and play the cat and mouse game for unforeseeable future. If I get the sense that she don't want to have kids, it's pretty much over for me right awa…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/10/22 09:28 AM
44	How to raise a boy while maintaining your femininity? You don't need to be masculine with your child. You should be yourself and just be feminine. I don't know if it natural to grow up with a super masculine mom anyways.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 01:59 PM
3	How to reciprocate kindness to my boss I don't understand the issue from a female point of view. If you're interested in him, he'll most likely let you do pretty much whatever you desire in terms of starting a relationship, with two exceptions: He's got a girlfriend already he's crazy about or he's not interested in you in the slightest. The second being quite unlikely. The problem you have is to judge if he'd be willing to be more serious than just dating. If you're just a fling (or crush) which he'll get over in a week or two, then…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 12:07 PM
3	Husband took off his wedding ring I would assume that he really doesn't need the jewelry to remind him that he's got a wife. I would also imagine there's two possibilities and that it depends on the guy. I think the importance of the ring can be judged based on the dating stage. I'd say if he used to be quite lucky with the girls before then, and you were the one he settled down with, then the ring might be more than a symbol because it also lets other women know he's taken. On the other hand, if he didn't have a great dating li…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/22 11:50 AM
2	The idea of being a man’s “Type”… I think that kind of preference is quite far down the list in terms of importance. He might like blonds over brunettes (or something like that) but if the right woman for him is having black hair, he'll quickly change his preference. that I think is among the least important things. Yes, some do work (in terms of making a better first impression) but it has nothing to do with building relationships. In a relationship character matters more. And if he's in love he is going to think you're the mos…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/10/22 05:13 AM
3	The idea of being a man’s “Type”… it tends to be subjective but there are some things men find attractive which have biological reasons most men follow, even if they don't know why. I hope I recall correctly the lecture. Some things can even be calculated. If you divide your waist by your hip and can come close to the 0.6-0.7 range most men will think you're "hot". Most men will find between 0.6 and 0.7 very attractive because it also incidentally implies the perfect body-fat ratio for bearing healthy children. Eyes are really i…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/22 09:08 PM
1	How to develop confidence & self worth despite a lack of male attention I cannot judge your looks based on the discription, but I cannot imagine that it‘s as bad as you make it sound. Personally, I‘d separate between the words „cute“, „beautiful“, „hot“ and „attractive“. I‘m not sure others do, but at least I do. If someone says „she‘s cute“ in my head it means she‘s got a cute face and youthful appearance. „She‘s hot“ implies body, „beautiful“ means nothing really, because everything can be beautiful, even a painting. And now come the two words I think girls/woman …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/22 08:59 PM
1	How much do looks really matter when trying to attract high quality man? "Fake boobs" are I think a win/win or loose/loose topic for most men. Either he likes that sort of thing, and he'll enjoy them, or he doesn't mind but would prefer natural, even if they're not perfect. But I really doubt that the boobs will aid you in finding the right guy. Don't get me wrong the "looks" absolutely matter, but not as much as many make it out to believe. Many guys just need something that attracts them to you. That could be something like your ears, neck or hands; it doesn't even…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/22 08:31 PM
1	The idea of being a man’s “Type”… Usually, men tend to get quickly a first impression in terms of attractiveness of a woman they meet. If she's to his liking, then you as a woman only need to give him a sign that he can approach you or that it's ok to engage you in some way. Rarely he will reject the woman, if he is approached. Most men tend to be quite timid and wait for the "right time", which doesn't come all that often when he's got the guts to talk to you. If he does, it's basically up to you how quickly the relationship go…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/10/22 08:20 PM