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| 161 | Is anyone else getting reminded of their ex narc during the Heard Vs Depp trial?Two drug addicted, narcissistic, cluster Bs met and matched. ESH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 03:42 AM |
| 8 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.You’re either lost or new to FDS. Also, I really hate this idea that everyone in the world needs to cater to the 0.01% of the population that fits some obscure criteria, like making poly work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 06:50 AM |
| 22 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.committed for the long run safe and discreet arrangement like this These are mutually exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 08:22 PM |
| 40 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology"I’m not forcing a man to do anything, least of all wait on me. I have a high drive and make myself put off sex to be sure I’m with the kind of man who will be worth my time. If he throws a fit about this after all of two weeks of knowing him, I have received my answer with great ease. They make everything about themselves, part infinity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 03:43 PM |
| 40 | MAKE MEN PAY.I don’t want to force anyone to do anything they don’t want to do. Instead, I want to move on quickly when I see something I don’t like, and a resentful man who doesn’t want to (or can’t) provide is handing me good information immediately. I agree with the sentiment that men should pay in full for the first several dates with some flexibility thereafter (I don’t fault any woman who prefers to split after a while or who expects paid dates always). But he should want to provide this because he see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 08:46 PM |
| 201 | Dating “inequality” “data analysis”-🤣Good find, OP. I believe this massive inequality is the reason for patriarchy in the first place. There’s an inherent value in femaleness. I would even say that the very best of men are still below that inherent value because of the female ability to create new life. Obviously not everyone wants kids, but that doesn’t erase the biological facts of what it means to be male or female. The subjugation of women is about (artificially) lowering that female value so that most men have a shot at sex an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:37 PM |
| 83 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??In practice: women feel obligated, men are entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:49 PM |
| 28 | It’s not “playing games” to maintain our own boundariesThis was my take as well. I’m not sure why anyone would have a sexually graphic conversation within the first five dates and be surprised when they’re accused of playing games. I never side with guys in these types of disputes, and here I am seeing his perspective as fairly valid. OP revved him up and was shocked to find he wanted to experiment that same night. With cultural expectations being what they are, I can understand how he sees this as teasing. Best not to set that up IMO, for safety an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 11:28 PM |
| 444 | 🙄I doubt retail company opening was a black tie eventI dated a guy who was really weird about me wearing revealing clothing, even in 95+ degree summer heat. He’d say things like “you look like a sl*t” and at the time, pickme-me was all, “really? It’s just a normal outfit…” 🤡 Anyway, I think he’s just embarrassed by her in general for whatever reason. Hope she blocked/deleted from the Uber. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 01:29 PM |
| 15 | Britney Spears is pregnant. 💔They did a lot of horrible shit to her in the name of her “safety”/their profits. I agree - if she wants to never perform again and have a couple babies with her new man, more power to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 11:13 PM |
| 41 | Britney Spears is pregnant. 💔Right? That was one of the reasons she was fighting the conservatorship. She wanted reproductive control over her own body, which is kind of the bare minimum of legal rights. The broken heart/“nah sis” seems more about her deciding to have a baby even though she has mental health issues. There is no discussion of the fiancé/whatever he is here or really in the article. Mental health is a serious topic but I don’t think FDS is the appropriate place for this commentary on a celebrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 10:40 PM |
| 75 | When HVM deletes the appThe app deletion talk should happen around the time of the exclusivity talk and both of those should happen before sex. I don’t think there’s a hard and fast rule for when that should be. Personally, I’d be a little put off by a guy wanting exclusivity and for both of us to delete by the first three dates. Also, I would not stick around past maybe two months if the guy doesn’t bring up exclusivity. They know way before then if they see you as an option or as a girlfriend. Never be an option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 09:17 PM |
| 51 | Straight People Need Better Rules for SexAgreed. The cowardice in calling out the problem of men mistreating women is really something to behold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 09:47 PM |
| 41 | Broke dude used his wife for money for 13 years. She built him up so that now he’s comfortable and financially set, he can leave her 🙃Wow I went from zero to HATE STORM this Friday morning. Thanks for that! I won’t even need coffee today. This is actually a two-fer. He’s an absolute piece of shit for taking advantage of his wife’s generosity (HuMBlY aGrEeD, what rage-fuel), stealing years of her life and resources, but he’s also indifferent to her, forcing her to initiate sex and probably dumping all the chores on her. What awful garbage this pathetic male is. He’ll dump her for sure and find a new woman easily because he won’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 03:10 PM |
| 29 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.That’s your sign to walk. I used to give lots of chances but no more. It’s now a 3-strikes rule for me. If I told him 3 times what I like and he makes no effort, he’s not going to start with some magical ultimatum. That said, I will absolutely talk with a new partner about likes and dislikes, especially as the sexual part of the relationship is starting out. There is space for communication there. Even the highest of HVM won’t automatically know how to please any given woman without a bit of fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 05:05 PM |
| 527 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.There’s absolutely such a thing as taking too long when his technique sucks much harder than he does. Jus sayin. Normalize telling men what you like, how you like it, and taking action based on their reaction. If he says “thanks for letting me know what you like, how about I show you I’m a good listener,” then we have a winner. If he says “well, my ex liked it that way/that’s a lot of work/I don’t enjoy foreplay,” then we accept the answer and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 01:08 AM |
| 138 | Escort only moaned because he paid her. Hope he gets the therapy he needs, but I rly hope his wife will leave his toxic ass too. Many comments are advising him on how to hide his fucked up secret or justifying his infidelity & saying the marriage can be saved. Received ‘the wholesome award’? WtfI don’t understand this mentality. I’ve been in longer term relationships but not over 5 years, I’m in my 30s, and I’m never-married, so maybe there’s something I’m missing contextually. But if you’re this miserable, why stay? We only have his side but imagine hers. Does she think this life they’re living is as good as it gets, that she could do no better either by dating or living for herself? I imagine she wakes up every day with body pain from the depth of her resentment toward him. He’s terr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 06:24 PM |
| 151 | Update on my most recent post. Digging into OP’s comment history only confirmed to me what I already thought; he isn’t a good partner to her & she deserves better. I seriously doubt she doesn’t fake cum with him because she sounds v turned off. He asked some1 what a clitoris is. Is this April fools?2nd to last screenshot had some call-out gold. “Help! My wife isn’t overly enthusiastic about rough sex with me, a 300 lb porn addict with zero self-awareness!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 06:24 AM |
| 54 | He lied to her for two decadesThe age gap and the audacity team up to strike again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 11:38 PM |
| 291 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?Sing it from the rooftops. He’s not oblivious at all! He got what he wanted - sex and a bed all to himself with a morning on his terms. He knows exactly what he’s doing and is only confused that she didn’t go along the script, centering his needs over her own. This is what casual relationships look like. Perpetual disappointment for women dealing with “confused” men who forget they’re not the center of the universe. Sounds like a blast, right? 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:44 PM |
| 130 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.Your comment though. Solid gold for his brass balls. To the bin with this one. 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?Within your culture, you may have to deal with regressive attitudes and outside your culture, you may have fetishization. I can’t say which would be preferable but I can say, as an American, knowing how to predict the guy I’m dating is beneficial to me. I can understand how he thinks and I have something in common with his formative experiences. There are many problems with American guys. Most posts on FDS are about American/western men in general, with their laziness, their degeneracy, their po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 05:07 PM |
| 388 | & that’s on porn addiction… SMHSomeone needs to PM this exact message to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 05:35 AM |
| 16 | J.Lo and Ben … ultimate pickme?I need you to say that last line way louder please. NO MORE TOXIC “CELEBRITY” IDOLS PLS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:28 PM |
| 148 | This man really saw a woman’s standards of “has a job, showers daily, and has all his teeth” and came to the conclusion “nah, asking too much, men just can’t meet that”. If we lower our standards, there’s always someone trying to push them even lower.Honestly, it’s hard for me not to accidentally downvote posts like this. My thoughts: “Downvoted for ‘you can’t be fucking serious.’ Wait, I’m on FDS.” Anyway, for some of these degenerates, any standard is too high. Must have a pulse? Stop discriminating against the dead, bigot! Give the corpse a shot! You’ll die alone if— wait a minute… That dude must smell like a corpse complete with graveyard breath so maybe I’m hitting too close to home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:52 PM |
| 53 | Recently posted to Will's Official FB. Thoughts on a man who does what he did then apologizes publicy about his actions?Everything about the situation was trashy and embarrassing. We got some solid memes though, and honestly that’s the best I’ll hope for from some smug, elitist, self-indulgent narc-fest like the Oscars. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:18 AM |
| 291 | Blocked & DeletedI think you did great. You didn’t put up with his disrespect and the moment he made himself clear, you took him at face value (the way they always tell us we should) and left. Yeah, maybe it would be better to drop him the first time he showed he didn’t value your needs, especially after you made the request, which I don’t see as completely outside of FDS standards. Still, you didn’t allow him to talk you back into an unsatisfactory situationship. You get a solid A+ from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 10:04 PM |
| 62 | The most hellish DM convo showcasing the classic hits: grammatical errors and sociopathy!Team block and delete here. Maybe this provided her with some entertainment but personally, I would have been crying my eyes out at the mention of my late husband being a “lucky man.” 🤮 Read the goddamn room. I had a guy slide to my DMs because he saw me at the funeral of one of my best friends who had been murdered. Needless to say I blocked when his intentions became clear, which was almost immediately. And yes, more calling out this bullshit behavior by other men. They clearly can’t understan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:13 AM |
| 11 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️I edited my comment to note that women should be careful sleeping with a guy. I haven’t waited for marriage and I’m not sure it’s a good idea in the modern world to go with that strategy, but I do think women should carefully consider their needs, goals, desires and the status of the relationship before getting sexually involved with a man. If that has the effect of much longer courtships and people waiting for real commitment/marriage, maybe that’s not so bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 10:49 PM |
| 319 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️What a fucking jerk. I read most of that word salad and I still have no idea what his point was. Does he want a relationship? He certainly doesn’t act like it and prefers to waste everyone’s time, his included, while he navel gazes. Big takeaway: women should withhold emotional investment (EDIT - also be very careful before sleeping with a guy) until a man makes it abundantly clear that he has feelings and wants to pursue things further. If he’s just going with the flow, he’s not that into you a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:51 PM |
| 44 | The struggle is real.This is a woman who can’t define what a woman is and lets p*dophiles off with light sentences. She’s an ideologue. She’s no ally to women’s or children’s rights and safety. Edit - you can downvote all you want. This judge wouldn’t have a problem defining “fire hydrant” and “no parking zone” in a case or to the senate. The definition of a woman is under intense political scrutiny right now just as CP is under intense normalization pressure, as we’ve all discussed on FDS many times. Ironically, KB… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 10:34 PM |
| 8 | Instagram influencers/coaches?I didn’t know about that… damn. It’s tough to walk the walk when you’re surrounded by LV people looking for a crumb all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Instagram influencers/coaches?I really liked Esther Perel’s content especially when she broke it all down in a very digestible way for Lewis Howes. One of my friends LOVES Mathew Hussey and recommended Evan Marc Katz. I haven’t really looked into Matthew. What makes him so LV? EMK seems like an asshole and a lot of his advice can be boiled down to “lower your expectations since your only goal in life is to have a man.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 08:40 PM |
| 34 | BAD VEGAN on Netflix - Crazy story of a conman controlling, gaslighting, and stealing millions from his girlfriend/wifeYes, very good point. I’d like to add one more thing: this guy had literally ZERO green flags. None at all! Fat, crazy, gambling addict, paranoid, compulsive liar, controlling, angry, a thief, scammer, deadbeat father, threatened his own child, manipulative, stole from the restaurant workers, stole from Sarma’s family. His tone in the series is either enraged or whining like a pissy teen boy. He was absolute trash with not a single redeeming quality. The documentary and Sarma herself glossed ove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 11:40 PM |
| 85 | BAD VEGAN on Netflix - Crazy story of a conman controlling, gaslighting, and stealing millions from his girlfriend/wifeWe differentiate between your average LVM, a shitty ZVM, and the incredibly destructive NVM for a reason. The negative value man will wreak havoc on your life. He’ll leave you broke, imprisoned, humiliated, ruined, and/or dead. I’m watching this now and it’s very well done. I feel for Sarma in a lot of ways. She’s intelligent, a great businesswoman and she had an interesting concept for her restaurant. She strikes me as the kind of woman who loves the idea of being in love. It’s easy for her to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:44 PM |
| 17 | Scrote wants his mortgage paid offYou’re limited to investments in your employer’s plan. You might have a decent variety of choices, but they’re typically mutual funds or ETFs, and it’s usually certain asset classes since your employer/the custodian has a fiduciary duty to offer “responsible” investments. With an IRA, you can do individual stocks and bonds, private funds, real estate, hard assets, and sometimes options, all in addition to the usual low-fee funds. For most people that won’t matter; mutual funds and index ETFs are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Scrote wants his mortgage paid offFOR CHRISSAKES. Ma’am. He can pay off the bank over 15 years. This lady has already experienced financial hardship over the last two years as so many of us have, and now she’s being asked to take on her lower bf’s debts? This is so pathetic. What is she getting for it?? She’s already a forever gf. Watch her pay off his debt, and then he decides to up an leave (or kick her out since it’s his house) and she’s left with nothing except the bag. I’m happy she’s posting to Reddit and I’m hoping she’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 09:35 PM |
| 184 | The Scrotation PlaylistI’ll be straight up with you: I stan The Weeknd. That said, literally every single song of his is peak male fuckery. Edited to add my favorite semi-self aware lyric: Lowlife for life cause I’m heartless. It’s a still an absolute banger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 10:38 PM |
| 283 | 💯This and Only Fans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 12:06 AM |
| 467 | Men know this is what they watch and they don't care. They keep this horrifying industry alive. Never date a man who watches porn. TW:rapeReally fascinating that she goes out of her way to say she’s not anti-porn after detailing gang rape (!!!), drug abuse, botoxing her b-hole just to avoid incontinence, and how she feels part of her soul died, and that she may never find her way back. Catering to the male psyche is a helluva drug. That and Stockholm syndrome I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:12 PM |
| 390 | HVM Two years and still impressing me.Love it. Every day we vet and they have to earn their green flags. One of my favorite takeaways from FDS has been to watch and listen closely to how a man talks about other women in front of you. All women, even the most blind pickmes, can agree that your man drooling over or complimenting another woman right in front of you is messed up, but many will look the other way when a man insults women. His meanness can and will be used against you. It’s a matter of time. I just broke things off with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 320 | Ma'am, you cannot buy a man's love.This was me! Ughhhh the secondhand embarrassment is almost too much… He doesn’t love her at all, probably barely even tolerates her. Men are fine with existing in stasis forever (especially when video games are involved) so she’ll need to find the strength to do what needs doing. She needs to leave as soon as possible. I hope the kids aren’t shared so she can either dip or kick him out and start repairing her sense of self. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. He’s annoyed that sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 03:58 PM |
| 321 | SWer finds out her dad watches porn. Calls him vile and disgusting. He doesn’t get why and neither does Reddit.Oh wow, we rarely get the truth from SWers on how they feel about their clientele! Usually they have a kind of detached tone, like they’re more focused on the work/acting aspect of it. They see their patrons are demented, depraved paypigs. Imagine having this worldview, getting a gold medal in mental gymnastics trying to compartmentalize the “good guys,” and then finding out your own dad is just another piece of filth. We focus on how porn harms women, and it does, and this gets too little atten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:51 PM |
| 134 | What is negotiable when it comes to "investing" for a partner?A couple years ago, I gave up a great living situation for a crappy boyfriend. We moved in together and split bills but were not married. Spoiler - the relationship didn’t work out and I’m priced out of my old hometown, so now I’m renting a little apartment in a city I don’t care for. Unless very specific criteria are met, one of which ought to be marriage, you should not move for a man. Now, if you want to move to his general area anyway for your own reasons and you decide to live on 6th street… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:37 PM |
| 71 | Well… you chose him!BIG OOF. I’d bitch slap a friend who said that to me now. I’ve heard that “advice” in the distant past, from a girl who, get this, was sleeping with a married man. He strung her along for years, future faking and promising her kids and happily ever after or whatever. And she had the gall to tell me I chose my cokehead partyboy ex and therefore asked for all the drama he brought me. I didn’t know what I was getting into at the time and I didn’t know how much trouble he was. He was handsome and a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 09:30 PM |
| 27 | Can we ask HVM to change in smaller ways?Is he really high value if he lets himself go physically? Hair loss and the body changes that come with age is one thing, a beer belly, bad posture and poor hygiene are another. Exactly how ruthless you want to be is really up to you. It’s been my experience that guys are who they are. If you try to get them to change, even subtle changes, they see you as a mommy or a nag and the resentment builds from there. That said, people do change over the long term, and your soccer player boyfriend might … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 10:43 PM |
| 41 | The course of a relationship is up to a MAN and MAN ONLY.100%. That’s why it’s always better to walk away the minute he stops treating you the way you want to be treated. The corollary to that is you can’t argue with any specific man about your standards or his behavior; you can only walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:49 PM |
| 74 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.If the options are A) accept fisting or B) remain single, I’m happily team B all the way. Luckily there’s always choice C, which is find a better man. Thank u next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:45 PM |
| 628 | The course of a relationship is up to a MAN and MAN ONLY.This has been the hardest relationship pill for me to swallow. I heard somewhere that women are the gatekeepers of sex but men are the gatekeepers of relationships. They choose the pace and they choose the style of the relationship. Our only choices are to accept what they offer or to walk away; don’t bother trying to argue or convince them otherwise. Just leave when you know you aren’t getting what you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 11:39 PM |
| -4 | A simple trick to combat negging...I read most of your post (it’s long and I’m multi-tasking) and my interpretation was that you were looking for the clap back. You want these guys to see how it feels and you want to put them on their back foot, which to many of us is not worth the energy. I was joking around with the guys to get them and everyone in the circle laughing before I withdrew myself from their presence. That was the goal all along for me, to keep the situation light and move on from them. You do what works for you. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 90 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpGirl, I’m trying to be respectful here, but your standards bar is roasting in hell with your self-respect. Drop the bf with no warning and redirect all of your energy to resurrecting both of those key pieces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:10 PM |
| 5 | A simple trick to combat negging...I don’t really see the point in “combatting” negging or engaging with it at all. If a guy makes a comment you don’t like, or is clearly doing it for strategic reasons, a happy “K!” does wonders. Story time: I went out with some friends this past weekend and two guys approached me. Both used some classic negs about my height (nearly 6’/180 cm) and athleticism (I have a wiry look from pro dancing). I found their attempts at getting under my skin to be hilarious and had a great time negging them ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:07 PM |
| 86 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpHere’s a hard pill to swallow: you won’t ever out-argue your lover. Men get more and more resentful and argumentative as these little disagreements spark and spiral, especially when you’re right. What you’re dealing with here is basic incompatibility. Sis, your self-worth is so low that you’re “giving one last chance” to someone who doesn’t care about you, desperately hoping that he’ll see the light. He won’t. If he blows his last chance at having a constructive disagreement with you, what will … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:24 PM |
| 102 | Makeup Give UpAs long as you don’t start calling women who use makeup “pickmeisha,” you do you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:14 PM |
| 134 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpThere’s a lot to unpack here. First and foremost, you’re not happy at all. In the relationship, in life, with your family, with your choices - all of that is contributing to your unhappiness. I’m quite a bit older than you and I’m American so I’m not sure I can help with any cultural advice except to say that I empathize with what you’re going through. It’s hard to find your own way when you have family putting pressure on you and you’re not sure you’d be accepted back if you deviate from their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:02 PM |
| 201 | What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine too!I love how FDS women simplify things so perfectly. Chef’s kiss, c’est magnifique. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:14 AM |
| 336 | This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank god she is getting out. How is there not protections for young women like this.And here’s the other side of the age gap relationship. Holy shit. I hope we get an update from the other side when she and her son get away from this monster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…I have a good friend who’s in a relationship like this. She’s late-30s, he’s probably early 50s and they’ve been together something like 15 years with 12ish years of marriage. Basically her job in the marriage is to look hot and always be in his corner since he has a lot of family drama. You know what? It works for them. Like, completely. He’s kind of a nerdy, goofy guy who made bank after selling his start up and she’s a figure competitor. I mean this in a kind and nonjudgmental way - she’s one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 11:50 PM |
| 113 | I don't know if I did the right thing.Girl, if I had to guess, it would be drugs. Sounds like he was a confused young person who went down a bad path and has a lot of regret. Under absolutely no circumstances should OP have any further interaction with this man! If he’s that deteriorated he could have a lot of physical and mental health problems to go with that which means he will be very unpredictable. Make sure everyone in your family knows about the situation and send him packing, maybe with a side of intimidation, if he ever sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 02:09 AM |
| 68 | 🎶Let's just dress up infidelity and terminal self-centeredness with trendy vocab!🎶Nope, “lonely” is the perfect word. This bizarre arrangement is basically free love all over again but dressed up in liberal jargon du jour so that it sounds almost self-aware of how destructive it is. These people are incredibly damaged. There’s no other way to describe a group, guided and abetted by sex therapists, who wants a lot of casual physical intimacy with very little emotional or spiritual intimacy. They’re lying to themselves if each partner is a high level of intimacy unless they’re … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 19 | Man OK with 50/50 relationship as long as it's to his advantage. But as soon as it barely compensates the woman, it's transactional and gross. Notice, they're "spiritually" married 🙄I can’t believe I had to scroll so far to see this response. Yeah, Queen shit I guess for dropping a binder length explanation that shouldn’t even be necessary in the first place, but she’s going to put up with his resentment about how ~unfaaaaair~ it is for him to take a larger financial stake in creating his family. All this because she showed from the get-go what a cool girl she is. And almost all of us know what happens when we get a resentful man rather than a responsible one. I swear to go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 8 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Agree on your last point - no one is under any obligation to date anyone else. Your dealbreakers can be as specific as you want. I don’t think anyone, man or woman, should be given a dating chance while they’re working on their major issues. I only take issue with the idea that someone with certain things in their past can’t change or be high value. The original question is about a specific sex act. I brought up addicts and criminals because they can change (though many will be defined by their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:08 PM |
| 333 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Basically you’re asking if it’s possible to be a high value person with poor past behavior. I think so; I think criminals can reform themselves, drug addicts can get clean, porn addicts can repair their psyche, pickmes can develop boundaries, and kinkmeishas can grow some self-respect. If, however, you’re not comfortable with his past, whether that’s having been community dick, a porn or heroin junkie, or having engaged in sex acts that gross you out, then he’ll never be high value to you. But i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:52 AM |
| 107 | Sisters, I beg you... please STOP posting screenshots from other subs, which offer no advice and only highlight disgusting bullshit that men do. WE KNOW these clowns exist. WE DON'T need to see it here all day every day. I feel like leaving this sub because of it. 😫I don’t disagree. Seems like spam at this point because there’s so many. The tag should stay and many of these posts are worth the attention here, because they’re a reminder especially to any newcomers. The reason we need a strategy is because we need to weed through sick and depraved men in order to find good ones, and seeing their thoughts so clearly written out are their giveaway. This part of FDS really helped me in that it hammered home that these men know exactly what they’re doing. They’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:04 PM |
| 72 | Why are men so fucking weird ?That’s a really long way of saying “I’m trying to fill that hole in my soul with casual sex while deluding myself that a pity fuck means I’m doing someone a solid. I refuse to engage in positive self-care or to acknowledge that I, too, am a pity fuck for similarly empty women with no self-worth.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:21 PM |
| 73 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?I know the bar is in hell because my first thought was “Well, at least he’s able to use his imagination!” 🤣 I’m curious to see others’ responses on this. What is he like otherwise? Is he creepy about it, reading and writing graphic, degrading stuff? Does he dive deep into his imaginary worlds, complete with 1000 yard stare into the books? Is what he’s reading/writing novels with actual stories that include steamy sex scenes, or just literal written porn? I’d feel turned off to be honest. It’s a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:01 PM |
| 39 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡The “it’s not cheating” and “she must be doing this for some other reason aka SHE’S CHEATING” responses are insane. He’s clearly a porn junkie and implied that he has physically cheated on her at some other point. She’s doing the right thing by leaving before the wedding but should have kicked his ass to the curb a year ago when he showed his colors. I’m still puzzled why men like this even try to have “relationships” with women when they clearly don’t even like us. The bangmaid doesn’t cover it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:48 AM |
| 85 | What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video)Funny, how even when she did the right thing according to RP (capitalize on her beauty, marry while young, find an older man with a stable future, remain faithful) she still got screwed and they blame her :/ Wow, you fucking nailed it with that. This line alone is handbook-worthy. The moral of the story is that we must play for keeps and always look out for ourselves first. A man is not a plan. Even if you do everything “right” (according to men) they will still drop you with nothing and have th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:57 PM |
| 71 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Mine are blue. And I completely relate to what you say, “used for some random genetic reason” - you’re nothing but a conquest to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:11 AM |
| 163 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Lilith was hilarious on the podcast regarding this very subject. If you haven’t listened, I highly recommend it. I see it as similar to an age gap relationship. Women from his culture (or his own age group) would see through his bullshit immediately and pay no attention to him. Women from other backgrounds (or much younger) tend to excuse it all away. I’m white and I’ve been treated as a “prize” by some men from other backgrounds. I could tell it was either a fetish or a status thing, aka, it wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:05 AM |
| 52 | Male tells another male how to 'dress up' BDSM in Woke terms. 🤢My takeaway was that the pop star was actually a man in disguise trying to get young women to engage in self-destructive behavior because he and men as a sex class would benefit from this. The comedy was basically “This isn’t actually happening… but if it were real, would anything be different?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:33 PM |
| 9 | Male tells another male how to 'dress up' BDSM in Woke terms. 🤢I don’t think u/alpinepunch2021 said Key and Peele are HV. Laughing at someone’s comedy content doesn’t mean endorsement of their character. Seems more like two people arguing past each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:30 PM |
| 643 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..I want to know why they store bodily fluids in perfectly innocent jars or bottles. Has this ever been addressed? Anyway, age gap 🚩family hates him and couldn’t wait for her to see the light 🚩he put hands on her when she tried to remove his poop jugs that he stores in their goddamn fucking kitchen 🚩 and last but not least, HE SHIT IN A JAR AND FOR SOME REASON LIKES TO KEEP IT 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 That’s enough Reddit for an evening. ✌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 05:18 AM |
| 361 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesI know two couples. One got together as college freshmen. She definitely wanted to get married much sooner than they did, and they finally tied the knot after something like 12 or 13 years. Over drinks one night she revealed how she got him to propose. He always wanted to do anal, and she was against it unless he put a ring on it. Finally he did and now she’s stuck doing anal with him like once or twice a month, but, uhhhh… at least they both got their way?? 🤢😱🤡 Other couple is a lot older, like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 51 | Female Political Strategy Podcast: EP 12 - Could We, Should We, Desexualize Breasts?Lots of thoughts. So, the discussion was kicked off by an advertisement, and that should be our first red flag. Many corporations, notably Adidas and Dove, have used positive messaging around the female body to sell a product. It’s like a sugar coating on a poison pill. The sugary taste and shiny exterior are “you’re beautiful regardless of age/size/color and deserving of supportive/fitting clothes” but the inside is women’s naked bodies being used to further a corporate bottom line. These compa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 65 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?It’s the same as dating a man with any other unresolved issues or trauma: they find ways to numb themselves, put the blame on anyone else (sometimes while getting very defensive of their family), and continue to deny their issues. I don’t deny that intergenerational troubles exist, but I do think a lot of folks use them as an excuse for current bad behavior. As for how it all affects a partner, there’s not much difference between intergenerational trauma and a personality disorder. You still end… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:37 AM |
| 183 | Another post promoting sex work as “real work” and an OP that is probably one of the top 1% of earners on OF… I feel for these people struggling to make it financially but sex work ain’t it.Fourth screenshot really nails the whole conundrum. She’s so close to getting it! Late stage capitalism and you’re selling yourself like a piece of meat… but then right back to 🤑 as though money is all that matters. It’s gonna be a lot less cute running on that justification hamster wheel when you’re trying to tell anyone that you’re more than just a naked body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:04 PM |
| 39 | 🤡Men hate it when women pursue them or make the first move. It sets up a biologically-reversed pursuer-distancer dynamic that leaves them feeling like they have a loser woman all over them, even if she’s an absolute catch. All I hear is “I want sex and attention but I’m lazy and insecure. Time to lay that at the feet of women. Time to do literally anything except self improvement.” 🤡 is right. Somewhat related: this is why effort from men is so important. The coffee/walk guys are throwing their l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:11 PM |
| 73 | Straight from the horse's mouthI also have a LVM acquaintance who’s my little male open book. In his (kind of, but not really) defense, he does a habit of picking girls who have a serious flaw, like one enjoys stirring up drama, another who sleeps around with a lot of people in a short timeframe within the friend group, or, most recently, has a raging cocaine habit. He claims to not see this right away but I don’t know how you miss it. He still validates everything on FDS and is really funny about it so 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:13 PM |
| 130 | Straight from the horse's mouthNah, it’s just his low effort/value. I believe most LVM don’t hate women, but they do hate expending any effort on anything because vidya is now life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:05 PM |
| 179 | Big oof. This whole thing made me cringe really hard. This is why we don’t chase or be too forward without properly vetting. The wrong men will get the wrong idea, their entitlement doesn’t have limits.Jesus. I don’t know if you can really vet for this; this guy is some kind of clinically disturbed. Based on her story, they were somewhere more private and making out on the first date. I don’t know. I hate that we have to be so puritanical about it, but here’s a great reason why you stay fully public and avoid escalating physical stuff with a guy for a few dates. A few weeks ago, I went on a date with a new guy. It was ok, I was on the fence about seeing him again until the end of the night whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:46 PM |
| 67 | Tale as old as timeI think I wasn’t clear on condemning his behavior. His actions say he’s a predator. He found a woman with wounded self-worth and jumped through some hoops to get what he wanted. If she ended the night without sex, and he saw that he’d need to build a real emotional bond and prove himself to her as a worthy man, he’d probably bounce. She would feel bad, as anyone would, but not like a walking receptacle. It’s not about proving behavior, at least not on the women’s side, but we can only control ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:02 AM |
| 252 | Tale as old as timeI feel for this woman. She’s played along with the modern dating script and this is what she has to show for it: trashed confidence, loneliness, no boundaries, being used and discarded. But can we please stop making it so easy for them?? If a guy asks for Snapchat, block and delete. Nudes, same. Flaky on plans, same. Literally any other boundary violation, signal of low interest, disrespect, etc., just move on immediately. And don’t have sex with someone on the first date, especially not in his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 12:01 AM |
| 60 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItSeriously. Hope the trip to Mexico is worth fucking that pig and the public humiliation of being seen with him or featured on his prank page, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:32 AM |
| 119 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItLiterally exactly what I thought. I mean, damn… if you’re going to be that much of an asshole shit-tester, at least have the courtesy to be hot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:26 AM |
| 211 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItI audibly gasped in horror when he turned the camera around 🤢. He’s as ugly outside as he is inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:22 AM |
| 23 | Textbook Terrible V-DayThis is hysterical to me. He bought her a yoni egg… what in the blue hell made him think of that? I would walk away from a man on the spot if he gave me something like that. 🤣🤣🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:39 AM |
| 337 | The relationship subs have delivered on my expectations for Valentine's Scrotery but this one really hit me for some reason. I think its the massive cope at the end.“I know he loves and cares about me” 🤣😭🤡 Ahhh, copium. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:56 AM |
| 155 | Jordan Peterson + Childless WomenWatch their faces when they talk about women over 30. Chris especially starts to get a smug smile on his face, as though to say “Everything women believe is a lie and I’m excited to rub their faces in it.” Part of that is they want to say 30+ men are high value by default and 20ish women should be pairing with them. It’s really all male projection/audacity/wishful thinking. Men were not riding up on white horses to whisk us away to a house with a picket fence and 3.5 children. The boomers create… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:52 AM |
| 47 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayI was just reminiscing with a close friend. One year ago today she was with a (literal textbook) narcissist. Let’s count the red flags on her Valentine’s Day: - He insisted on driving them an hour away on his motorcycle to a biker bar. My friend is not a motorcycle enthusiast and was very cold during this trip. - The biker bar was an absolute dive with bowls of peanuts for food. They passed a nice steak restaurant while walking to the bar and my friend expressed she wanted dinner before going dr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:31 PM |
| 66 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?You can go on YouTube and see dozens of artists from all genres stopping shows for problems in the crowd. Billie has stopped shows many times and at this point is kind of known for it. Travis Scott doesn’t give two shits about his fans. Race has nothing to do with it. Kanye is trying to shame Billie Eilish for having an ounce of decency to stop a show for fan who needs medical attention, mostly so he can make a non-issue about himself. Quelle surprise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:06 PM |
| 32 | Mistakes were made, let us count the ways…This is it. The daughter is nuttier than a fruitcake thanks to her dad nearly forcing her to help terrorize the women in his life, but she’s still nuttier than a fruitcake. No less dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:33 PM |
| 118 | Why do so many men have bad breath?I’ve known too many men who simply don’t brush their teeth. I have no idea why. Can’t even fathom it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:27 PM |
| 213 | Mistakes were made, let us count the ways…Jesus Christ. While the overall lesson of avoiding single fathers is still valid, the girl has some extreme behavioral problems. Hopefully (but unlikely with her worthless dad) she gets the help she needs because with mommy issues and deviancy like that, she’s on her way to being a female Jeffrey Dahmer. Edit - the google drive with nudes didn’t even scratch the surface. The kid installed parental tracking software on the poster’s phone, with her father’s blessing, to see if the gf was cheating … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 01:44 AM |
| 52 | In Australia one step back. This timeline is need fudged…I think this legislation and the accompanying social policies only serve to commodify women. I know quite a few lib-fems who went into sex work via stripping (etc.), Only Fans, and even porn. They saw it as empowering at the time. For those around 25-30, they still do to a degree, but as they’ve gotten older or are getting older, they see what everyone else sees: a young woman who doesn’t have a clue and has now memorialized herself as a commodity. No one who sees or consumes their material sees… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:28 PM |
| 10 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀This man is gay and in denial. It’s 2022, brother. Come on out of that closet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 149 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAdA quote from a guy on this post: “Makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong if this is where the bar is at.” Amazing. As always, they know. And the bar is in hell, my dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:20 PM |
| 50 | Barb the Builder: don't do unpaid labour for a manShe is absolutely ridiculous for wanting money that will go into the “same” bank account. Good lord. Why do we do this to ourselves. In case I’m being unclear, she needs new everything asap. A new bank account, a new place to live, a new job that isn’t indentured servitude to an entitled jerk, and after she’s done a little soul-searching to answer why she allowed this for years, she can consider a new man. The current one needs to go yesterday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:13 PM |
| 42 | LVM f*cked around, found out.Yep. Also, if you read between the lines, his own family was against him and took the ex-girlfriend’s side, which is really saying something. Assuming this is real and not some made up story for internet attention, I’m surprised he kept that part in as it speaks volumes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:28 AM |
| 1111 | LVM f*cked around, found out.Missing info: what she said while listing the “petty” things he did wrong in the relationship. I’m guessing it starts with 50/50 finances while she drives him around and cleans up after him and extends to his lack of respect, affection, attention, and everything else that goes into a relationship. He sounds like a complete asshole. Good riddance, Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:18 AM |
| 22 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳Once again, they tell on themselves. It’s clear that bringing up Nancy’s past is not a badge of honor, just as it’s clear the husband in the post thinks very little of his wife, even while “complimenting” her bedroom behavior. Men look down on women who use their bodies, even while encouraging more of it. You see the same with e-girls, prostitution, porn, and IG models. The moral of the story? Have some goddamn self respect. Demand better from men and from yourself. This is what you get for bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:44 PM |
| 468 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.I’ve never heard of height being this much of an issue outside of Reddit. Most women I know prefer taller guys but only relative to their own height. I know men of all heights who have no problem finding women to date. Reddit is the only place I’ve seen the “short king” wars - no one cares unless the guy has a complex, which also isn’t uncommon, and I say this as a tall woman. This sounds like either complete BS or leaving out a bunch of context. Finding out my partner was a little shorter than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 49 | A Curated Selection from OLDA. No, it’s not “cool” now or ever, but it’s incredibly common. Why? I’d guess a combination of the pickme urge to be as much of an easygoing partner as possible to the point of self destruction and the porn-drunk male urge to act out fantasies without consequences. If a pickme finds a guy who’s just a little bit nicer than the average asshat, she (sometimes, not always) will find herself doing anything to keep him around. A guy with two brain cells, an ounce of manipulation and zero fucks to gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:34 PM |
| 20 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsLmao exactly. What’s wrong with wanting both?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:43 PM |
| 37 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsOnline dating absolutely sucks. I can kind of understand it for now with on and off corona lockdowns, but if this guy and men like him want to feel like they’re choosing a partner and honoring their “standards,” they need to ditch the apps and stop being so damn lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 10:52 PM |
| 29 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.I hate saying it but you should change your number and email. If you’re going to use any social media, delete old accounts and tie any new accounts to the new email and phone number. Edit - I see people saying you should get the police involved. I don’t know if anyone’s been paying attention for the last 15 years but the cops are not going to help you. You can document all you like but expect nothing. Do everything you can to guard your privacy and safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:55 PM |
| 44 | Did anyone else hear about this? idk if they’re trying to be the new edgelord couple, but if my man designs an engagement ring that hurts to take off, Imma have to pass on his assWeren’t Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina Jolie kind of like this back in the day? Carrying around vials of each other’s blood and having bizarre fights in public?Seems like MGK and Megan are trying to revive and out-edgelord them for attention and money. Other commenters nailed it. Megan was highly sexualized at a young age, got into a toxic marriage at a young age, and is now making up for lost time in the most Hollywood way possible. I don’t know anything about MGK (like is he an actor? A music… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:42 PM |
| 22 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I literally just watched my best friend go through this and gaslight herself into staying. Her shitty, alcoholic boyfriend of 6 months blames her for his financial irresponsibility and emotionally abuses her. He wants to “work on things” and had promised to “see someone,” which I guess means a therapist. And y’all, she’s buying it!! When he’s in one of his moods, he’ll use weaponized incompetence against her and/or is viciously mean. When called out, he of course has no idea what she’s talking a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:53 PM |
| 74 | How to piss off men (this had me rolling)“I saw that in Pinterest” when talking about a tattoo or whatever else he’s using as a substitute personality is DEVASTATING. I said this to some asshole who couldn’t take a hint at a bar and he finally walked away slack-jawed. Damn that whole series is hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 03:44 PM |
| 75 | So done with avoidant men.Your aloofness may be working against you, and I say this as a fellow-reserved woman. Avoidant men are attracted to women they perceive as somewhat unavailable because, if the relationship progresses, they believe they can continue being avoidant without consequences. Of course, the conflict starts when he wants more emotional labor and you want more investment. If you really like the guy and want to put off avoidants, be as engaged as you can. Answer texts and calls right away, pay full attenti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 12:06 AM |
| 17 | I’m tired of sex work being promoted as the only other option if a woman can’t make money. It’s not that easy and it will ruin your future opportunities if you were to transition out of it.I saw that, too. Sounds like a freak with a fetish for scamming straight men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:19 PM |
| 15 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.A little toe, with his tiny pinhead on his foot-looking body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:39 AM |
| 30 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youAnother FDS maxim is proven: pickmes can be dangerous. If blocking her dickhead boyfriend will start an argument with your “friend,” then she needs a little timeout herself. And if that’s really a legit concern you have, anything she says can be countered with “Your dumbass is in my DMs. Fix that.” The excuses for all of your involvement in this have been paper thin. This is a low value couple doing low value things. If you’re being fully honest with yourself and you’re not enjoying the attentio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 02:18 AM |
| 69 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youWhat am I supposed to do? Oh, I don’t know… block him? Or when he tries to take a photo of you, hold up a hand to block the shot, get up and move away, or tell him to stop? It sounds like you’re getting off on the attention and he’s getting off on staring at you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 11:33 PM |
| 35 | So glad I’m not dating a GaMeR. And not wanting your partner to watch porn 24/7 or follow half-naked influencers does not equal insecurity.Yep, controlling whether a partner can eat, what she wears, or how often she’s in contact with friends and family (all common in abusive men) is totally on the level of “please stop watching porn and playing vidya so we can have a relationship.” Editing to add - I can’t disagree that it’s weird to go into a relationship with someone who has these horrible habits. Women should avoid these men like the plague and not try to be Barb the Builder. It don’t work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I’m mid-30s. I would date a divorced man; it’s pretty common after 32-34 to have had marriage or longer term relationship. If they don’t have significant relationship experience like a marriage or at least 1-2 years consistently with the same person at this age, it’s a big red flag for commitment or attachment issues. There are many reasons relationships fail, and sometimes the guy tried to do everything right. As for kids, I’m not down to be stepmom. Most of the guys with kids I’ve talked to wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:36 PM |
| 68 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himMe, me, me. You mentioned more messages. Don’t hold back on us, narcissistic meltdowns are great entertainment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.“Men who are mentally ill or not financially secure should be avoided” oh, how we fucking dare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 152 | Child preaching the good, FDS wordPoints for energy, but a little kid spouting off about porn, perversion and pedophilia? Ehhhh… that’s pretty gross by itself. I would hope he’s just parroting back what his mom and guardians are saying and he doesn’t actually know what those things are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:32 AM |
| 35 | Why Women May Struggle to Leave Charismatic MeThis is why “high value man” or “low value man” aren’t helpful labels. You can see self-gaslighting happen even in FDS when someone starts questioning a relationship with her “HVM” and then describes a bunch of bullshit behavior. “But he’s an HVM who’s so thoughtful and generous! He can’t possibly be abusive, I must be misinterpreting something.” “He was so good to me up until that one night.” “The first two dates were amazing and then he started the push-pull nonsense.” It’s the behavior that’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:44 PM |
| 18 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Marriage is a good idea for most women. There are a lot of legal protections that come into play and if you have kids, plus take time off work to care for them, those protections become very important. Defining the relationship is also a good idea if you want a man to live up to your expectations. As we often say, don’t be a forever girlfriend, and don’t act like a wife when you aren’t. Very rich women (and men) can afford very well-drawn and specific prenups. If you/anyone doesn’t want to get m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:39 PM |
| 118 | Having a really bad few weeks in November$200 for a little self care is money well spent. As another commenter said, you don’t know the reality of the relationships around you. Most of my friends are partnered and I can think of only two with strong, solid, happy relationships. Maybe that’s cynical and maybe I’m too judgmental. Maybe your friends are all in amazing relationships and you haven’t had luck in that department yet. Don’t be hard on yourself and continue to live life and vet ruthlessly. (Anecdotes since I can’t help myself: … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Neo burlesque...thoughts?There are women who frequent FDS for political reasons vs seeking dating strategies. I love and agree with a lot feminist politics, but some of it seeks to deny sex, and all the fun in courtship, altogether. The only way to desexualize women completely would be for women to cover up and stay away from any activity that could be considered sexual. Problem is, there are counties that do that, and they have a lot more violence against women and women have a lot less agency. That’s why I think there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:47 AM |
| 4 | Neo burlesque...thoughts?I’m a pole dancer and instructor as a side hustle. I don’t see the harm in enjoying alternative fitness, which is what modern pole, aerial and burlesque classes are. Pole dance is usually done in a bikini style costume because we use our skin to grip. Aerialists need form fitting clothes so the fabric doesn’t get bunched or tangled. Burlesque is essentially stripping with rhythmic dance. None of these activities need to be sexualized to be enjoyed; some pole dance looks a lot like ballet with a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:54 PM |
| 131 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!You’re spot on, but I think it goes further. Putting the HV label on any human is a bad idea; a person either exhibits high value or low value behavior. This is an important distinction. Even the most pornsick, filthy, worthless POS or the most violent, abusive bastard (and their respective female equivalents) have moments where they show incredibly high value behavior. Even the most emphatic, kind, attentive man will have his graceless moments. It’s a matter of whether the good outweighs the ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.Wow, I’m actually blown away by this story and the lackadaisical attitude of the commenters! This is insane. A lie like this, with the whole family and friend group involved, could only be the start of an incredible rabbit hole of deceit. It’s some kind of drama-thriller territory. I would ghost immediately, mail the ring back with no return record and consider moving away from these psychopaths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:53 PM |
| 5 | The IckYep. The defeated feeling was too real. I should have called a friend or something but I didn’t. About 45 days after this, I was all moved out and done with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:29 PM |
| 83 | The IckI lived with an ex. The first time I truly felt disgusted by him was way late, after we had broken up and were still trying to figure out the logistics. I was going out for the evening and he decided to stay in with a pizza. He chose to eat that pizza in our shared bed while watching tv, something he could have done in the main room. As I passed by the bedroom door, I noticed he was putting the box on my pillow. The disgusting, greasy fucking box of pizza, on my pillow where I put my head at nig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:54 PM |
| 18 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?I’m not the commenter but I have a similar mindset. What’s your goal, to get experience dating? Honestly, unless you’d entertain the possibility of a longer term relationship that could lead to marriage, I believe you’re wasting your time. Most important reason for this is that you’re vetting out men who are trying to go the distance. The causal strategy will by its nature eliminate serious minded partners, leaving you with very smooth fuckboys and very charming guys who aren’t fuckboys, but hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 11:49 PM |
| 163 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?Years ago, I went on two dates with a red haired guy who had a tattoo of a ginger root on his arm. It was part of a full sleeve but it was really prominent. Damn thing looked like a massive elongated testicle. Which is to say, any guy with a large joke tattoo is waving red flags for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:20 AM |
| 2 | What do you think of MGK & Megan Fox? Apparently MGK cheated on Sommer Ray to be with her, then tried to make himself look like the victim when he was already dating Megan.That’s a lot of negative value all around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:18 AM |
| 55 | Seen on Facebook. No, teach your sons to stop murdering their partners.It’s both. The podcast from last week with the Jezebel article talked about this. Men, even good men, benefit on a societal level from male violence, so we can’t expect men to act against their interests in women’s favor. Women have to look out for ourselves which means being cautious and altering behavior to avoid danger. It sucks. It isn’t fair. Denying that reality does not help women. And yeah, men should also stop acting like animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 01:16 AM |
| 28 | What do you think of men who do live feedings for pets like large snakes, snapping turtles, etc?These wild animals should not be kept as pets. They’re not domesticated like dogs and cats; they are predators that should be out hunting their prey. I don’t see live feedings as animal cruelty, but I do see keeping non-domesticated animals as personal pets as highly unethical. I would not date someone with such a pet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:15 AM |
| 209 | How to vet if a man is pornsickSome of these symptoms you listed are deep porn addiction. Like if these guys used crack instead of porn, they’d be sleeping on the streets and sucking dick for a hit. There are gradients of porn addiction in the same way there are functional alcoholics. I would argue the semi-functional porn addicts are even worse to deal with since they are harder to vet. And to be completely honest, I think almost everyone has viewed porn, and the overwhelming majority of men have used it to get off, but anyo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 01:33 AM |
| 7 | PSA: Anyone claiming FDS supports a “TradWife” lifestyle or never criticizes conservatives is willfully ignorant and a liar. The Tradcon logic flair has been there from the beginning and it’s been cleTradcons and lib fems are two sides of the same coin: women exist to further men’s needs. The point is to take care of our own interests first, as women and human beings with agency in our own right. Lib fems support women being financially independent, but only to the degree that we serve as cogs in the corporate liberal machine. This mentality ties into women serving men’s interests sexually and domestically (aka 50/50) at the expense of women’s needs. This is literally most modern advice for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:24 AM |
| 129 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 32 - Jezebel.com Goes Inside Us“We’re not pick up artists, we’re put ‘em back artists.” That’s it, debate’s over, we got pure distilled FDS right here. Big Queen energy. 👸🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:02 AM |
| 145 | Never forget that many men live like this 🙊🧼🧹Lmao some men do live like this, but these three are high af and probably just squatting while they trip or tweak or whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:01 AM |
| 222 | What in the FUCK did I just readI got a weight loss tip for her. Dump this dumbass and you’ll be down a minimum of 200 lbs immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:49 AM |
| 121 | The amount of hate former porn actresses receive for speaking out is interesting to say the least…This is the answer. If they can pretend that porn is just like any other movie, they can keep jerking off guilt-free. They only have to lie to themselves about the effects on them personally, like ruined relationships, ED, loss of empathy, and personal/financial cost of addiction. In reality, there are some legitimate companies, but the majority of porn worldwide (and you don’t know the real source of your pornhub videos) features exploited women. They are trafficked, groomed, bought and sold, u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:45 AM |
| 195 | [Update] Good news about the post with the fiance telling his fiancee he wasn't attracted to her for two years. She left him.New and improved post! It gives me a little bit of hope when I see someone choose self love over trying to force a hopeless situation. This is really more evidence of two FDS maxims: If he wanted to, he would, and; Men will sit comfortably and indefinitely in convenient relationships with women they don’t love, possibly even don’t like. Also, don’t be a forever girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:32 AM |
| 6 | [Update] Good news on the post about the fiance being unattracted to his fiancee for two years. she broke up with himOh, it’s in the comments. They’re not included in the screenshots at all and the post isn’t linked (which is fantastic, don’t do it lol). The screenshots you have here end in her saying she was satisfied with the answers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:15 PM |
| 7 | [Update] Good news on the post about the fiance being unattracted to his fiancee for two years. she broke up with himIt says she was “happy with what she got.” Is there another update after that? It looks like she was fine with the whole shitshow, which is next-level self loathing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:09 PM |
| 29 | Pewdiepie is a scrote to the world and to his wife. Look at their couple quiz and see how deeply imbalanced with their relationship and how normalized it is. 🤡 Raise your standards, ladies.Yep, same impression of him for me. I had no idea they’re 50-50, what a fucking ass! The much younger gf, the cheapskate ways, the leery stares that he tries to hide, the 50-50 despite being a multi fucking millionaire - all scream lvm. Any guy who spends that much time in front of a screen is going to have weird habits and porn is always one of them. Some of his financial advice is genuinely very good (other than him being very late to the crypto game because he doesn’t get it) and he has a poi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:07 PM |
| 26 | 16 mins of Nikki Glasser saying Pickme.I saw her live a few years ago (I had no idea who she was and didn’t pay for the tickets!) and it was a 90 minute speed-talking monologue about her acting and being treated like garbage. There was absolutely nothing funny about it, not even in an ironic sense, and I don’t get the hype or popularity around her at all. I left that show feeling really sad for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:46 PM |
| 49 | Yeesh girl, no 😬 Sorry, but the guy is right here, he knows.Men know. This is why FDS is not too harsh or wrong. Men are fully aware of other men’s tricks, games, lies and mental gymnastics. Funny enough, if it’s to dunk on a pickme like this girl on Twitter, they’ll call it out with no problem. Contrast with all the “jUsT COmmUniCAte” advice subs (unless the female OP gets salty, then they’ll state the truth). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:51 PM |
| 41 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?I stopped reading at the mention of exes. No man you’re dating should be in contact with any ex for any reason other than logistics (they lived together and have to settle a bill; there’s some kind of paperwork related to the divorce; there’s a kid involved). Casual contact and “just talking” should be a nonstarter. That goes for you as well, by the way. Do you think a high value man with good boundaries and self respect would say “I guess in this one specific case, despite all evidence to the c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 11 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"Fuck pickmes. Seriously. This is where the “mean” side of FDS is a boon. If you stay with a roid raging ape like that (and fucking defend him!) you will have no one to blame but yourself for what’s coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 121 | Pickme Logic: I know he's a player and I'm already sleeping with him but will ignoring his texts get him interested in more?She did keep arguing with this guy! And she clearly touched a nerve when she called him out for being a married man on dating subs. That’s where it got really funny. Everyone sucks today, or maybe it’s just my PMS. At least they’re amusing in their suckiness. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:04 PM |
| 75 | Pickme Logic: I know he's a player and I'm already sleeping with him but will ignoring his texts get him interested in more?“Fucking obviously.” Like, totally! Everyone in this whole fucking town is, like, in the palm of my hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 6 | What to do when your friend is being emotionally or physically abusedA line I used on a female friend who was obviously being emotionally and financially abused was ”He’s treating you like a runaway slave.” We were out having brunch and walk while he was blowing up her phone, asking when she’d be back. She had basically moved in with him after a month 🚩 and hadn’t spent more than a few hours away from him, his kids or his dad in weeks 🚩. That line really cut through her defenses of him and, thank god, she dumped his worthless ass a few weeks later. She still cred… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:48 AM |
| 38 | Offered dating advice: now banned permanently from a popular subreddit because I follow FDSThat’s just pathetic. Your advice was beautiful and actually made me a little misty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:37 AM |
| 45 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menYes, all of this. There are often posts on here from younger women asking for advice, or “what would you tell your younger self” questions. Simple. Listen to yourself. Do not gaslight yourself. You’re not crazy; something is wrong. Part 2 of that advice is, of course, there is something better out there for you. If that means being along and working on yourself, it is absolutely 10000x better than being in a terrible relationship. This poor woman died. She could have a) listened to herself and b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 04:26 AM |
| 292 | 27 year old scrote with ED and porn sickness 🤢 and she’s the one who’s insecure and worrying about what she’s doing wrong! 🤦🏻♀️She should feel insecure because she is doing something very wrong here - she’s staying with him and giving him “a chance.” What is possibly redeeming about this relationship!? Girl. He’s already in a relationship and it’s not with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:41 AM |
| 154 | Low Effort Dates | Online DatingYou are correct. These are low-effort date options from low value men who are perfectly capable of stepping up but choose not to. And only give out your snap if you’d like to be flooded with dick pics and/or 2am “wyd” selfies aimed up their nose or down their happy trail. Usually these guys have some giveaways in their profile, like extra stupid photos and one or two word responses to hinge prompts, so be careful matching in the first place. I wouldn’t proceed at all. I unmatch and block aggress… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:20 AM |
| 200 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?It’s all cope. If you, generic young woman, put up with a man’s shitty behavior for just the right amount or time, he’ll turn loving and honorable. It’s just a tiny little bit more nonsense and we swear it will happen! Lots of women think like this and it’s not just Disney. It’s most romance and a fair amount of women’s advice and literature, especially from the right. Indefinitely tolerating trash treatment is the basis for most pickme BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:27 PM |
| 24 | What did I just read? Glad she kind of wised up, sad she did it way too late. A forever girlfriend with his baby, self admitted mommy #2, he's an "entrepreneur". Basically a walking pickme & NVM stereotype all in one post.He doesn’t do shit. He’s worthless. And she’s made him a father. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:23 AM |
| 15 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.Generally my best experiences with men have been conservative-leaning moderates. They understand being a provider, they understand sex differences without being a patronizing douche, they generally take care of themselves physically and emotionally, and they usually avoid 50-50 and redpill nonsense. Liberals and left-leaning moderates always pushed for 50-50, were openly porn positive and addicted, usually had some kind of mental health problem that they were too “manly” to address, had no ambit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.In all honesty, as radfem you’d probably have more in common with a conservative guy than a progressive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:24 PM |
| 8 | Pick-me-men.Seems like a case of “all squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares.” You can be extremely insecure and not a narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:59 PM |
| 13 | Pick-me-men.You think so? He was such a weasel and otherwise would repeat “I just want you to like me” all the time. Didn’t strike me as narcissistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:12 PM |
| 48 | Pick-me-men.Sounds like codependency actually. Codependent men like to play fast and loose with the truth to keep the peace, have weak boundaries, and change up their preferences to make people like them. I dated a guy like this years ago. He was younger than me and not divorced or anything, and AFAIK he wasn’t a porn addict. He told me he ready to go ring shopping and I came back with something like “I don’t even know who you are!” He was the type who’d change his drink order if he thought I was getting so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:35 PM |
| 37 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?I’ve known a few conventionally attractive men going for “ENM.” They all have something else wrong with them that would disqualify them from a relationship with anyone medium to high value - raging narcissism, addiction, attachment issues, they’re with a pickme that they don’t respect at all. The poly types who are also into BDSM, on the other hand, are universally hideous. I think it’s because they like bullying people they see as weaker/lower status than them, and they know in normal life they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:16 AM |
| 45 | Literally what's wrong with Gen-Z women?This right here. Can we ban active links to pickme shit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:45 PM |
| 42 | Share your badass breakup stories!My queen 👸🏻 I’m literally laughing right now, damn my sides 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:01 PM |
| 21 | I’m so sick of hearing “don’t undermine your value” in terms of having sex. Stop talking about “value” and “worth” when it comes to women and sex. This isn’t a market.For any of your examples, like sleeping with a guy “too early” or using L’Oréal products, you can stick “self” in there and it makes perfect sense. Self care rocks, though L’Oréal is debatable. Sleeping with a guy too early in a relationship can definitely impact your self worth and can interrupt the vetting process. If he has what he wants quickly, he can step on out of high value mode and turn into a low value scrote, something he would have done anyway, now with you left to pick up the pieces… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:58 PM |
| 93 | Team Edward or Team Jacob: How Love Triangles Primed a Generation of Women for LVM (intro)There was a whole other level to this with the Twi-moms. Do you remember the 35+ women who were obsessed with the series and ended up being the base for the “50 Shades” craze? It was deeper than just the books and movies. Imagine your mom, aunts, and their friends having an actual heated debate on Jacob vs Edward, saying that these were legitimately the epitome of male love. Pickme clowns 🤡 Personally I missed the Twilight boat. I was too old to be impressed with it and too young for the Twi-mom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:47 PM |
| 39 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneI want to mainline this energy. I want it directly into my bloodstream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:20 PM |
| 18 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!I’m libertarian, which I guess in reddit terms is right wing, even if I don’t consider myself as such. There is great value in listening to people from another political persuasion. I never would have learned about radical feminism, porn addiction, or the dangers of hormonal birth control if I had dismissed the perspectives as left vs right. Pushing women away from FDS because of their politics or only entertaining “progressivism” (which feels very regressive these days) will not help the cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:54 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Handle This Comment/ Argument Tactic by MenI feel like we need more context. In my experience, the person starting a tit-for-tat looks more like a punkass fool than the person they interrupted to stir the pot. For a colleague, I usually go with: “Perhaps you and I should schedule a separate meeting to hash this out so we don’t spend everyone’s time on this one issue.” If you’re talking about your boss or a client, they (unfortunately) get time decide the direction of the meeting and everyone in it will feel equally annoyed. So there’s th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:01 PM |
| 6 | How Do You Handle This Comment/ Argument Tactic by MenTwo things, really. First, you don’t roll in shit with pigs; the pigs like it and you get dirty, which is to say, don’t engage with them. Know that they’re trying to get a rise out of you so don’t reward them with energy. Be a gray rock with a cold stare and they won’t find you fun to antagonize. If they continue anyway: “That’s not very professional/polite/whatever/That’s gross.” Cold stare, cringe, move on. Second, if you’re truly offended and/or they won’t back down from their denial strategy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:38 PM |
| 27 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.This. A few years ago, I paid for my broke grad student friend’s dinner a couple times so she could enjoy the company of the friend group. I can’t imagine ignoring hunger in the person I love. As always, the audacity is amazing. (That friend now has her own successful business and has paid for me on occasion for no reason. Good karma!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 03:56 PM |
| 58 | The High Costs of Moving in with a LVMAre you me?? Damn, girl, you’re speaking to my soul here. I had basically the same experience with my jackass ex. Things started great but there were massive red flags (that I ignored 🤡 ), we moved in together, things fell apart, and suddenly I had to deal with a ton of extra expenses on top of being heartbroken. All the symptoms were the same too - absolutely zero effort on his part while I cried like a little pickme fool. I’m still recovering financially but so happy I maintain a solid emergen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Recently Got Back On ‘That app’ and Here’s My Bio Hall Of ShameOh my god, I actually yawned. Dating app dudes are so boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 99 | "Only after a person has fulfilled the basic reproductive responsibilities, such as having two children, should he or she have the right to use contraceptive products." - China's policy for declining childbearing age womenAt least China is honest: citizens are tax cattle. The only reason the west doesn’t hear more of this is that we encourage and allow immigration, while the CCP does not. I’m a little surprised they aren’t forcing women to make babies, though who knows, after an official policy of forcible abortion, forcible pregnancy isn’t far-fetched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Please read this and tell me if you think a woman or man wrote this. My brain tells me “male fantasy”, women don’t romanticize this stuff?Male fantasy. Possibly a woman seeking morons in her DMs by playing up a male fantasy. I’ve known a few women in the stripping/sex industry and I’ve never heard of them sending a woman to a party without a bodyguard. It’s a massive liability and insanely unsafe. Even sleazier clubs usually have a guard just to watch the strippers come and go from their cars since patrons are known to hang out near the back exit of the club. That’s the part that jumped out at me as male fantasy, that this girl wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:12 PM |
| -1 | FDS being as large as it is shows how out of touch some women are and that doesn’t help get women results.Wow, you just deliberately twisted or misunderstood everything I typed! FDS was right. Do not engage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 5 | FDS being as large as it is shows how out of touch some women are and that doesn’t help get women results.I lurk there all the time and there's almost no "working on yourself" it's very much that you're perfect how you are, you're the prize, yasss qween. This simply isn't true. Many posts discuss what it was like being in a bad/unsatisfying relationship and most of the women posting own up to the fact that they put up with it... but will not (or are trying not to, lol) anymore. Or, they are stating that they are unhappy and plan to move on, sometimes listing the reasons. Those reasons are often vali… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 46 | FDS being as large as it is shows how out of touch some women are and that doesn’t help get women results.A lot of what FDS preaches is that women shouldn’t put up with low effort/low value men and should work on themselves primarily. In practice, what this means is a man should be expected to take care of his home, take care of himself physically and mentally, support his partner, and be fully honest with his intentions. A guy who expects praise for taking out the trash most days or sometimes unloading the dishwasher is showing low value behavior, especially when the partner consistently cooks and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/21 08:00 PM |
| 6 | OopsThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:29 AM |
| 66 | OopsTotally got emotional over this meme. This was me with my ex. Haha, wow... just really hit today. It’s been about two and half months since I ended it and two weeks since I moved out. I haven’t cried since well before I moved out. My friends told me how pale and sad I looked, how my eyes became sunken in, how much weight I was losing. I’m happy the chapter is closed. It’s amazing how much physical change emotional pain can cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Women tend to make bad decisions in regards to their safety. They are too lenient with dangerous men and too cautious with safe men. They have standards which actually rewards pushy guys and pushes away respectful ones.I’m legit curious - are insulted by the term “male friend”? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/21 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Women tend to make bad decisions in regards to their safety. They are too lenient with dangerous men and too cautious with safe men. They have standards which actually rewards pushy guys and pushes away respectful ones.I can’t tell if you’re serious. Are you insulted by the word “male”? I’m talking about friends who are male and would have said “female friends” if talking about my female friends. Red flags in women can be similar to what you seen in men. I see them as clear signs of incompatibility, probably even as a friend. Immediately clingy, makes assumptions about the relationship, substance abuse, insulting or “shit test” behaviors, hot/cold behavior, starts drama, way too busy, emotionally unavailable, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/21 11:59 AM |
| 11 | Women tend to make bad decisions in regards to their safety. They are too lenient with dangerous men and too cautious with safe men. They have standards which actually rewards pushy guys and pushes away respectful ones.I see the same thing with my male friends who disregard a field of red flags for a girl that excites them while ignoring girls with more mellow dispositions, even though they claim that’s what they want. Even for your examples of women staying with bad partners or going to unfamiliar places alone, I’ve seen the male counterpart, and I’m sure you have as well in your friend circle. All people make bad choices. You blame sexual miscommunication on the women you’re talking to for not knowing what t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/21 04:43 AM |
| 60 | Porn is one of the leading factors in why couples get divorced. Divorce lawyers have been sounding the alarm since 2002.This was a glimpse into what could have been my future. It sounds like most of the time the man withdraws from intimacy completely, preferring his addiction to his wife, family and overall life. In the majority of cases he doesn’t even try to act out the porn/fetishes, and that’s the “acting” (vs nothing at all) most couples therapists were trying for while recommending porn usage. Reality: many couples “haven’t had sex in three to four years.” What the fuck... marital abandonment it is. “Irreco… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:58 PM |
| 76 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouYep. Most recent ex expressed jealousy of my career and investing success a few months before we broke up. I should have taken it as the death knell it was. Foolishly I thought my success could eventually be our success, you know, #justpickmethings Started OLD (gag) and a guy tried an aggressive neg off the bat. The context is important so I won’t go into detail but it hit extra hard because of the dead bedroom I had been through with ex. Pre FDS I might have responded or even met this guy for a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:58 PM |
| 8 | Ladies, what are your physical preferences?5’9” or taller (I’m 5’11”) White with tan undertones Clear and clean skin, nails, hair and teeth Large blue, green or hazel eyes with clear emotion and intelligence Fit and strong but not an overly muscular bodybuilder type or skinny; I like them somewhat stocky but absolutely no moobs or gut that droops down or sticks out past his dick Broad shoulders and small waist Full head of hair in a well-maintained style, any color but grayish or red Decent sense of style, preferably somewhat alternative… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:16 AM |
| 14 | The grandmaster pickme...Oh my god that’s disgusting and disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:43 PM |
| 78 | I hate everything about thisMy interpretation as well, but then again this was basically me and my ex. Moved out last week and feeling amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 6 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandLike everyone else says - be careful. Consider going to a new community or staying with friends/family. Make sure you have all important documents and money sorted out. Congratulations on ditching this loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:02 PM |
| 770 | Why do men LIE like this? REALLY? You've NEVER heard of any sex based slurs for women? "Scrotes" is BY FAR THE WORST? This is why I cannot take Redditor critics of FDS seriously.I’ve seen women referred to as “holes” in some of these manosphere circles. But ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:07 PM |
| 7 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureI agree with this. There may be a general trend toward stage or set makeup but it isn’t driven by men, at least not for their pleasure. I mean, I went from a modeling gig to a big happy hour and the men there all weren’t fans of the caked-on look while the women were very interested. The set makeup trend driven by social media where everything is on camera. A lot of these young women have to one-up themselves and each other in terms of makeup looks, all for their bottom line. All of that said, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 04:51 PM |
| 24 | The “iM an AlpHa mALe” is already a turn off for me but then on top of that, these dudes never actually want to play that role all the way. They just like the part where they get to boss the woman around.I went on a couple dates with a guy like this years ago. Something he said on date 2 was “I think a man should be a man and a woman should be a woman.” I asked him to elaborate. Of course he meant the woman submits in all ways to the man’s will in a traditional type of relationship.... while still “earning her keep.” So work a full time job, be a maid and mother, deal with his bdsm needs (because of course) and still get bossed around. Sounds great, sign me up. I called this out and the date end… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:01 PM |
| 15 | How to tell if your partner is becoming red pilledIf you go there now, probably at least 50% of stories are from higher libido women. Sad reality: there is nothing a woman in this situation can do. The LLF situation seems like it can change for all the reasons FDS even exists in the first place (in summary, women are more willing to do the work and please their partners) but the LLM won’t/can’t change 999/1000 times. The only solutions are to accept no/terrible and infrequent sex or leave. I went through it and I left and yeah, it’s some specia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:40 PM |
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