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Perfect answer
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/25 06:11 AM
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So the catch-22 of arranged marriage is, yes you get marriage-minded men with mostly all practical factors—money mainly fitting, BUT you date while the marriage gets planned and rarely, 1/1000 will a family agree to let you date for several years before marriage (also in that case you need to have started the dating process at 21,22 to get several years benefit but if the “engagement” gets broken off, the girl and boy loses value rapidly). At this age where I am, even asking for 6 months is a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 07:40 PM
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So, already at 29, living with parents. And I come from a pretty close minded community when it comes to inter-anything marriage. Besides that, I too have very strict preferences of vegetarian, and sharing similar familial culture where eventually inlaws stay with us. This is not commonly shared by other cultures outside of our community. The dating pool, given all these restrictions is already low plus I know that my SMV is not matching to what is ideal in my head. Or will take several years (3…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 07:36 PM
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Can I dm you further if that’s not too invasive?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 07:32 PM
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Thanks that is not a sound advice given above.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 07:31 PM
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It feels like a dead end situation, and in either case I am settling. Realistically since I am already 29, I dont get a lot of options or pool to choose from either, since there are restrictions on culture, race, religion, eating habits etc. i just wish maybe if I could go back, I would have dated more like the process is here in RPW But now I have to kind of “make do” with the best of my situation
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 08:39 AM
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I’m not a kids optional woman, I see motherhood as something I would like to experience but I do admit that I have not dived into the financial and sacrificial part of it yet, not planned how much money is actually needed besides having a vague idea kids are expensive to have. Its confusing because, he seems to want to have kids but is almost afraid of desiring them because previously, he has put job applications to change his field multiple times to get a higher paying job in a new field withou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 05:35 AM
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I would not say madly. In the other option, the maximum time we get to vet is 6 months and during thst time the wedding gets planned. It puts a lot of societal stress to get to know someone qualitatively while also having social pressure to not break up since the whole family gets involved in the marriage WHILE verting
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 05:21 AM
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You’re right about the last part.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/25 01:38 AM
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I think through this sub, the biggest delusion I had been living is who I am presently, and what my SMV actually is and what I thought I deserve. There is definitely a wide gap. While I do feel I deserve something more than (financially), I fail to live upto it because I am on sabbatical and dont belong to a tech/finance field, where all the men from my community doing jobs belong. If I were in any other field, I would certainly be married into a business family + living with in-laws. Cross-reli…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 09:07 PM
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I think, convenience? What would you say
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 07:58 PM
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Well this makes it clear but sorry to be so dense, at the same time, I also did not want to be chosen for my ability to provide kids when I entered this relationship because I did not want them then. It has changed over the last 1.5 years and I have started to entertain that I would actually like to experience motherhood but I know it is like a pipe dream for me too where I only fantasize the emotional aspect of it. And I may as well not be prepared for the intense lifestyle and sacrifice it ent…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 06:59 PM
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I agree as well as I do not have answers but only optimism (which fails at times and comes across as questioning him with my concerns and he gets rightfully defensive and anxious.) Could I get some insight into his responses: -He says what I am looking for is a high earning man or someone with wealth because I want kids and he doesn’t have that but can only work towards this with effort and sometimes even effort doesn’t pan out? -he has mentioned if he had a partner who out-earned him, he wouldn…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 06:29 PM
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Could you elaborate more on how there are glaring incompatibilities of life expectations between us? It is very difficult to pinpoint the incompatibilities so close to the situation so would really appreciate your insight He wants kids but only when he can provide for them with a high paying job, he says he should be ok around 34-35, if he lands one through mba or finance through PR. He doesn’t want them beforehand as they’re expensive I want them too but then he doesn’t have the job right now a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 05:55 PM
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Hi, thank you for your comment. Tbh, my prospects are bleak at best. My profile currently suits into a business family kind of marriage (arranged marriage exists in India), and the profiles of such men are mostly trust fund babies, operating father’s business and living with parents, which causes the most friction with MILs. That while being financially secure, is even more bleak for me because it would mean plain obedience. I must admit, neither is he the best choice but then nor is arranged ma…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 05:43 PM
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Oh Okay, I did not know that
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 05:35 PM
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Can I dm you further
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 04:21 PM
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Re. he’s poor, he has his own house and some inheritance in his home country but the COL is crazy abroad in a developed white country. So, if I move in, he can afford to stay separately for me, but not be able to save. Until I pitch in monetarily. Is that also considered poor in western standards?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 03:10 PM
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Thank you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 07:56 AM
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This where generational wealth is a huge cushion. And it shows its mighty power. But also OTOH, this is also the reason a woman should work when they dont have this which is my other option.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 07:52 AM
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