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8, 9 (no kids), 11, and custom - shares my hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:33 PM
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I always love in this kind of discussions, how butthurt PPD men are, when told to put some effort into how they present. Dude, if you don't put any effort into your style, I assume you don't put any effort into things that are not visible everyday either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 02:12 PM
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Woman. An introvert. I have two jest friends whith whom I write daily, meet them 1:1 around once every month. About 6 times a year I meet with work collegues or former work collegues (I work from home). Every other weekend hubby and I meet a couple we are friendly with for a boargame night. That is sometimes still top much socializing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 09:59 AM
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On my youth I did not know what I wanted, as I had no or very little dating expirience. Later after some failed LTRs I leraned what I really need and want, so I screened heavy for it. That is why I am now married to the men of my dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 09:55 AM
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I prefer to be both. I like to look nice, wear dresses, cook, bake, have long hair, don't swear etc. I also like driving cara, motorcycles, gaming, like the masculine direct approach to communication etc. Brat option is to take what is best from both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:54 PM
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That is why I always asked guys out. This way I could avoid extroverts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:50 PM
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It sounds completely bonkers. I live in a slavic country. Exclusivness is assumed cery early. Men are less whiney, women are not often extreme feminists. Cold approaching is not common, as you just avoid strangers (talking and smiling at strangers will label you as not mentally stable). Abortion is illegal, the pill hard to get. Divorce rape is not common, as assets from before marriage as well as comming from inheritance and gifts/donations are never counted towards the maritial assets. If Amer…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:47 PM
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I am able to love only one partner at once and I lok for someone who is the same. I also think that between wiek, hobbies, house chores and every struggles, there is barely tone to cultivate one healthy relationship. If my partner were to have many relationships, our would be negatively affected. Not to mention the struggle to acomodate to the needs, esthetic and lifestyle od everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:10 PM
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I'd love to get one, but any kind of sterilization for women is illegal here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:53 AM
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I do not agree with the fairly cheap statement, as all who say it are young people, who learn later in life that this thinking bwas wrong, but I understand that making an effort and dedicating recources to looks is more than most people are willing to put up with
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:36 AM
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People think eating veggies and lifting id enough. It is in your 20s and will hit you hard later if you did nothing more. But I guess people just want to live easy and comfortable lives when they can, Hance the thinking that after you are 30 you are old and life, beauty and fitness is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:07 AM
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Maybe it is not typical but the whole point of this doscussion is that if a men wants to have a woman who looks good, he Has to accept it will cost. The bigger the standards the higher the cost. With skin care the trick is not only to use products with ingredients that are good, but also to not use anything that Has event the slightest disadvantage for you (there are great products I can not use as they are too heavy and mess up my pores. Other women have different problems). Helathy lifestyle i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:04 AM
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The vitamin D is recommended in my climate during winter for every person. Also again I am talking about prices in my country, not about Chanel level creams and serums. I also bet you are fairly young- young people tend to think cheap things will do for the long run, as they are naturally more fit and beautiful, but only by investing in my looks from a young age am I able to be mistaken for being closer to my 20s than 40s. If you want results you need more than eating broccoli and lifting - but …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:48 AM
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Dude I do cook my own meals and still need to supplement, as I can't eat some things (per doctor recommendation). Not to mention in regions where there is little to no sun in winter, it is literally every healths organizations recommendation to supplement vit D. Also please stop using American prices on an international forum. Gyms here cost around 20 dollars a month so with an average salary it costs you almost a day of work. A good face cream costs 2 days of work for an average salary. This is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:34 AM
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Skincare products do cost money. Gym membership also. Razors and shaving foam cost money. As other thing I listed- maybe these are not heaps of money but still it costs money. And supplements in some climates and for people who have eating restrictions are helathy and needed. Good clothes also cost money. I also lead a helathy lifestyle, I eat clean, rarely drink, don't smoke, work out, use skincare and hair products (I don't dye my hair, have no fake lashes or anything like it) and still money …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:15 AM
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Naturally attractive people also need money te keep their natural beauty for as long as possible: good skincare products, hair products, gym membership, waxing (every woman gas hair in unwanted places), sports equipment, healthy gmfood, diet supplements (depending on where you live some like vitamin D are a must) etc. It is not only about things to look good now, but about perserving good looks when years past and we age inevitebly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 08:15 AM
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I have compromised on my standards and it always ended up in breaking up. So I waited with settling for the right guy and Infound him, tough later in life then I hoped for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:59 AM
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I am always nice to men. Young guys, old guys, fat, slim, shredded, funny, unfunny, short, tal... you get it. I would be a millionaire if I got a dollar for every time a guy thought I was hitting on him. The more sicially awkward the guy was, the quicker he was to think I was flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:06 PM
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I would prefer whatever would make him happy and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 01:23 PM
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For me anything that involves touching genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 02:39 PM
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I don't know as I don't think a moral judgement can be made without more details. But society has many stupid believes- that is why it is good to think for oneself and not follow the majority or any distinct ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:41 PM
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Because it is harder for me to assess women as I am not dating them. Also as someone who does not use something ot is event harder to judge. But I already expanded my answer. As long as it does not impede the woman's ability to enjoy sex with other humans and does not mąkę her expectations unrealistic I guess it is ok, so like porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:48 PM
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As long as their use does not mess up with the ability of the user to enjoy sex with another human I guess it is ok. Like with porn - depends on what it does to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:46 PM
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I don't use them personally. The use of any gadgets is limited exclusively for the time with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:34 PM
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Games are cool as lobby as you are not addicted to them (do like every pastime). I have more issues with porn, but for the majority it is also ok, as long as it does not have a negative consequences (like problems with erections, unrealistic expectations etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:13 PM
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I am short af and a men being taller than 5'7 is too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 02:54 PM
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Makeup clogging is a myth. If appplied correctly and washed off before sleep, good products will not worsen skin conditions. Too mamy girls just go to sleep with makeup on or use products not fit for their skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 10:11 AM
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Not needig makeup does not mean a woman will never wear it. I don't need makeup but will apply it for weddings, occasions etc as makup compliments the dress and helps to look fresher when exhausted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 10:04 AM
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I always cared about my skin. I use a day cream, a night cream, cream for under eyes, a mineral booster. I do face scrubs and use face masks on a regular basis. Don't know if for that reason, but I can go without makeup and not feel bad. I still use makeup when going to a party or to the office but go without it on vacation etc. But I also use care products for hair (masks, oils, good shampoos and conditioners), feet, hands, I moisturize my whole body daily, try to eat helathy, work out and eat …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:46 AM
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I don't support the stigmatization of neither sex workers, nor their clients. But personally I would not date either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:55 AM
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Crush in kindergarden. Sexuall attraction at 14. 2.16 Around 12. 16 or 19 (depending on your definition of virginity). I don't have regrets. I was always LTR oriented and had all milestones in my first LTR. Shortest relationship of mine was 2 years (and it was not the first). I don't like porn, sometimes I like to read soft erotica, but visual porn could not exist for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:11 PM
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That is a stupid argument. We don't have to get into a relationship with everyone we fall in love with. We are intelligent enough to vet someone and not date them if we see fundamental differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:18 AM
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Funny because I know of some guys that they did. Great friends but would never date them due to their views on sex and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:14 AM
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Of course. Everyone van have preferences. Preferences are only a problem when you expect every person to agree with them or shame those who don't. I don't shame men who go to sex workers or do drugs I only don't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 05:12 AM
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I never said they should be shamed, just that that can be a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:53 PM
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Treating sex transactional does damage the ability of the men to form a healthy relationship. Is it always like that? No, but I always thought trying to find out of a guy is the exception was just not worth my time. Better to start with someone who has better odds of being a good partner from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:07 PM
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I don't say it is universally bad. I just don't want to date someone like that. A preference like any other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:01 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their standards, when it comes to people they date. Those standards may seems dumb to others but it should not matter. The only undesired mindset is when people try to impose their standards on everyone or try to change someone so that that person stsrts meeting their standards. You want a certain kind of person a partner- be prepared to wait. That is one of the reasons I got married late- I had to wait long for the right partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:00 PM
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Prostotution and drugs go against my morals, and I don't want to date someone, whose morals differ from mine. The same reason I don't date people with another view on religion/kids/family involvement/marriage/alcohol use/smoking etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:25 PM
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I think drugs should be legal. That does not mean I will ever date someone who does drugs. Legalization of drugs makes users safer, cuts profits for cartels, makes drug therapy less a stigma etc. Legalization of prostotution will make prostitutes safer, reduce human trafficing and make it easier for prostitutes to change career. These are all good things and I still would not date a men who thinks going to a sex -worker is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:11 PM
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I know the code toy SO's phone and he to mine, as we someone check things for each other, when one of us is driving or something like that, but wewould never go through our phones. We also don't share passwords for computer profiles. I have nothing to hide, but I sometimes text with my best friends about things they would not like a 3td party to know about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:29 AM
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Giving that I am old I'd say anything between 1 and 20 partners for a guy with a similar age to mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 08:47 AM
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Why do you think I am frustrated? O just pointed out that having a hobby that baseline humans find attractive does not mean you get an SMV boost from it and that hobbies should not be about SMV as it is some Blizzard backwards thinking. Also ot is better to attract a quality minority than appeal to baseline humans, but just that my thought process.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:25 PM
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Is cycling a hobby ifnyou don't compete for money? Od course it is, so why should gaming be different? Also what about gamer girls who don't stream or don't have any video games related social media? You think those don't exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:13 PM
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Attractive means different things to different people. I know girls who think dancers are attractive and for me it is completely unappealing. Also I talk about being interesting and believe me I have seems people having 'dumb' hobbies but having do much knowledge and passion that their dedication was attractive enough. Of course there are hobbies that majority of people find interesting to begin with, but the purpose of hobbies is to find something you are passionate about, and what makes you gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:10 PM
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Anything can be interesting if you put heart and thought into it. You can watch Netflix all day and know nothing about films, or you can have knowledge about usage of camera angles, scenography etc. You can game all day without much thought, or you can have knowledge about level design, animation, etc. You can just read books, or be able to interpret them in socio-economic context. Also there are 2 types of hobbies and most people need both for a good balance- one are hobbies that help us grow a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:04 AM
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Can I sign away my rights to the kid? Give it for adoption? If no, than I support abortion in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:05 AM
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I would as I see it working on my parents. They are married for 34 years and my mom makes a career while dad was mostly a SAHP.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:55 AM
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Introversion, emotional stability, agreeableness, conscientiousness, intellect/imagination. I am no pill. Think that RP is stupid, do are incels and FDS. People here would call me blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:07 PM
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I don't do OLD, so I have no idea what men put on there. But I also don't believe what people put in their profile. My friends did OLD and usually it turned out the guy was faking being compatible so I just always avoided it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 07:52 PM
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As I know far more women who don't like exitement and far.more men who do like it, I disagree with your whole post.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 11:17 AM
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As an exitement hating woman I just disagree. I looked for a home on men and many of them wanted exitement from me, and we ended up uncompatible. Now I am with someone who also os looking for a home on me do we can give it to each other. As for my friends- some of my girl friends look for exitement some not. But more look for a home.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 11:12 AM
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I think that the inability to attract a good partner being a partner means these women should work on themselvs and not seek fault in others. I also am aware that there are many shitty people out there,both men and women and funny a good partner takes time and vetting skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 08:23 PM
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Men's clothes are too big (I wear an XS/XXS in woman sizes). Also even if the sizes were right- men clothes are made with no room for boobs or wider hips, which makes them also not fitting and is the reason why buying clothes for teen boys is also not a valid solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 07:45 AM
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Many older people do not want to get the vax. So government lets younger and younger people to have their dises. I git my first one a few days ago and hope people on the fence will see it is no big deal and get vaxxed soon. My whole family got their doses, as did my SO's family.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:27 PM
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I would not say I am pessimistic, more that our current outlooks are just not great. I am aware that there are many great initiatives, but they are just a small fraction of what is needed. I am really mostly na anti-natalist, and while I don't Police choices I just think that the planet and universe would be a better place without humans, or at least without humans as we are now, with our love od war and disregard of others- we are not even able to be kind to each other (look at how poc, lgbtq p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:46 PM
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It is that bad when you look at the whole world. Fossil fuels will run out in less than a 100 years. Climate changes will bring a food shortage, especially when we do not lower meat consumption. Drinkable water is also running low, even in the USA and EU. Mikro plastic pollution is already a concern and we don't even know what long-term effects it will have. We might have a chance, if we invest as a species in space travel, but we have an ever shrinking time window for it, as we leave so much ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 01:44 PM
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Having bio children in this day and age is pure selfishness. Soon we will run out of resources, that climate will change, so there will be massive migartions się to famines. Also there are too many kids in foster care and those waiting for adoption. RP men are too dumb and shortsighted to see this decay of society. The only true men are childfree or want to adopt. Every other one is just like an animal overrun by basic instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 06:46 AM
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If he is just socially awkward then I usually don't think much. Sometimes I wonder what happaned in his life, or if he is, or thinks about being, in therapy. Many nerds are socially awkward but I still like talking to them, as we have common interests. If he is socially awkward and creepy I think he is creepy and try to avoid him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:54 AM
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Many people do think lifting two times a week will make them bulk. But then again you don't have to lift to be fit -any sport done regulary will do the job just fine. Personally I do have a dumbell set at home, so I lift and do bodyweight as well at home and pre pandemic was also going to the pool (they are closed nie where I live). My friend on the other hand does just bodyweight, cycling and running no lifting and is also fit. There is no one magucal formula suited for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 09:59 AM
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As a woman I hate going to the gym, as there are many creepy guys there and being around many people makes me feel sick. I work out at home with my own equipment and many of my girl friends do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 07:18 AM
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Poor regions are also in developed countries. I think everyone should have access to hygine products, housing, quality food etc. Why is this believe, that everyone should live on a level to have those things, an indication of being priviliged?
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 08:13 PM
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Of course Basic hygine is different for very poor regions, but it shouldn't be. Everyone should be able to afford deodorant.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 05:16 PM
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I warn quite good for my country yet duch a handle is like 1/3 of my days pay. And if you add a pink tax it is like working an hour longer to buy from womens shelv. This is why I buy mens things if they are not scented. I don't care if the handle is pink, green or brown. But I do care if I smell feminine and it is stupid that sandal wood soap is cheaper than rose soap.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 05:15 PM
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Tej everyone should do what makes them happy, as long as they are not harming anyone. But this is not what I jest from feminists irl.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 05:09 PM
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They definitely are gendered on the shelvs. Personally I make more than minimum,yet still american prices are baffling. The minimum wage is 700 dollars but a room rental is about 200 dollars do just a different reality. The chepest alternative are those one use razors- they cost like 2 dollars for 20 and each blade lasts for a few uses - and they are also gender sorted on shelvs.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 03:24 PM
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I don't complain,just point out facts about bizzare pricing.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 03:20 PM
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Are this not normal razors? And 30 dollars is still much in a country where minimum wage is around 700 dollars per month.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 03:11 PM
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Unisex is fine. And the problem is not ith cheap vs expensive only with the same quality suffering only in colour/scent profile.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 03:06 PM
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I prefer to smell and look like a woman. You do you, but I still see no point in making men scents be cheaper.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 02:15 PM
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I guess they still do use some deodorant, otherwise it would be top gross? I can understand higher proces for luxury products, but soap/shampoo/deodorant/shower tel are like basic hygine products.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 02:03 PM
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Great advice. Really. I guess my SO will be overjoyed to have a manly smelling woman. Maybe I should cut my hair short, stop wearing dresses and start to be manly on other arras as well? Could as well be a feminist then, if no one would be able to tell if I am a woman, men or cave troll!
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 02:01 PM
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Actually the same razors with punk handles do cost more than other coloured handles (hence the name pink tax). That is why I buy non scented products from the mens shelv. If the razors you wrotek about are a specific brand, and they have the same price regardless of colour, I am afraid it is not available in my country.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 01:36 PM
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You mean those one use razors? If yes the men razors are still cheaper.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 01:07 PM
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You nailed it. Many men in this sub think women should be feminine, yet don't see the damage in making being feminine more costly.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 01:02 PM
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I don't think there is a doctrine. I just don't agree with modern, western feminism. Feninists think there are no differences between men and women but on average there are. I also think anti-feminists are more conservative when it comes to gender roles, wheras feminists were bashing me for being the primary cook, wearing dresses and heels etc. Extreme feminists even think women are better which is also not true.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:59 PM
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Yes and that is exactly why as an anti-feminist I feel it is unfair. It is hard enough to be feminine in the modern world
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:49 PM
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Yes but that leaves no choice for women who are not willing to pay as much. I have either to wait for sales and buy in bulk, or pay more. I could also buy men products (I do it for products where scent does not matter) but I am feminine and want to keep it that way. So as a feminine woman wanting to manage money well I have a harder time. The current system awards less feminine women and those who don't mind spending too much.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:45 PM
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It would make some sense. But men also buy showering gels and shampoos, so their popular scents, should by that logic, also be more expensive. That would be fair, but it is not how it is.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:38 PM
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It was a typo. I corrected to "unfair"
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:34 PM
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I would love to pay less. But feminine scented products are more expensive. I gry to buy on sale but it is not always possible.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:21 PM
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I often buy products for men as they are cheaper. Shaving cream and razors, beautician boxes etc are all things where it does not matter how they look like or smell. But with showering gels, deodorant etc it is unfair that women have to pay more to have a feminine smell.
/r/AntiFeminists15/04/21 12:18 PM
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I dated a guy like B. Although we had many interests in common, really liked each other as people and had chemistry, we were ultimately miserable with each other. I was tired of being dragged to parties, weekend travels and having to take vacation with friends. He felt miserable whenever I wanted a quite evening at home or a vacation with just the two of us. All other guys I dated were more like A, including my soon to be husband, who is the most amazing person ever to walk the earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:32 AM
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Mid 30s. A sounds ideal as I love a quite, boring life. B sounds like my worst nightmare of a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:21 AM
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My first ever BF had copper-coloured hair. Every hair colour can be good looking. The way the hair is cut and cared for is more important. Though with gingers I like them long (like young Axl Rose)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:42 PM
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Considering I have my years, I would find it concerning nic a men my age did not have any experience in the dating departament. I like of a men had at least one LTR,a sit means I don't have to trach him everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:03 PM
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I lived a different life than many people I know. I was a loner, bullied and anxious, with only a handfull of friends throughout my life. No wild parties, no carefree college life as I worked my as off as soon, as it was legal for me to work full time. I will marry but i'm a rather old age. I don't have children, nor will have them. I lived a life different from the ideal hallmark experiences and although bit was sometimes hard I overall like my life. And it is never too late to start doing thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 09:01 AM
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I think the wall is a revange fantasy. I am way over 30 yet everyone thinks I am fresh out of college. My BMi is below 20 I have long, shiny hair etc. Are there woman who decline in looks over 30?- yes. Usually stay at home moms from a poor background..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 08:42 PM
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As an introvert I hate attention. I prefer to be left alone. But I also always wanted a good LTR and so I had to be able to get some male attention. But attention for the pure purpose of itself is nothing I ever cared about. More important is having a good job, being able to experience hobbies, bring healthy, having som social circle etc. All my self-improvement was done do I can feel more happy. i went to therapy to learn to deal with unwanted emotions and to become a stable human, being able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 01:13 PM
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Hateful people hate other people. I don't see any difference between my firendship with my woman best friend and man best friend. They are different people but the same amount of mutual effort is required in both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 12:47 PM
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I ma currently in am LTR so I have no idea, as I am not looking for nor caring about having options. But every time I was single I had at least Andre guys pursuing me. As for dating, provided the guy/girl was single I always got whom I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:30 AM
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No. O used to feel this way as a teen. I thought I have to love parties , adventure, meeting people, casual sex etc to be considered 'normal' l. But I grew up and realised I don't have to pretendet to be someone I am not and am now fully on tune with me. I don't care what others think about me, or tell me to do. I am happy, have great hobbies a job I like and a great relationship and friendships and that is all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:34 PM
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Sude, you do what you want and be happy with it. Just let others be happy the way they are. Your idea of constant fun and adventure seems to be boring and exhausting to people who like other things. So just find people you Vibe with and be chill with those who not Vive with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:25 PM
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Even if they they think of being BFFs I think they are deeply mistaken. Bonds like that form over many years and is just a matter of luck if you will form one with someone of your gender or the opposite. Also there are people we are not attracted to sexualy. If the possibility od being attracted to someone would mean no fridndship is possible bisexual people would not have any close friends. I have one woman and one men as best friends and I talk to them about everything. They are like family, l…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:37 PM
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It is stupid,as it propagates the shallow idea, that men have only manly things to talk about, and women only womenly things. Friendships can be formed on the basis of shared interests, shared history (like going to the same class, our parents being best friends etc), shared friends (when you are a part of a bigger gruop you eventually befriends the individuals in it) etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:23 AM
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If something can not be measured or be shown using scientific methods, it is not a fact -only a hypothesis in the best case scenario. Usually it is just some projection, confirmation bias or a lie we choose to believe, because it makes our life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 05:20 PM
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I have heard people gush for in my opinion very bizzare people. Again- looksmatching makes statistically sense but not on am individual level. People can have the hots for all kind of freaky things. Not to mention that gushing over someone does not detrmine who we will be attracted to -hormones are a funny things, and many people end up being head over heels for people they would not not find objectively attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 05:02 PM
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Have you any data to prove it? And do you relally mean all women, or just some visible part of the very diverse group that women are?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:44 PM
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For the majority yes, but there are still outliers. People generally like people on the normal BMI range, and yet you have feeders or people bring attracted to severily underweight bodies. Statistics is fun, but does not hołd any major relevance for individual cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:42 PM
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What do you mean by ignoring looksmatching? Being with someone who is objectively not your looksmatching but with whom youb have mutual attraction and love? Because of this is what you mean I am unable to grasp whatbis so horrible im people being happy, even if some people think one of the pair is better looking than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:40 PM
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I agree. The idea of looksmatch does not make any sense, especially when it comes to emotions, and emotions are what makes a good relationship. You have tolove each other and feel attracted to each other- attraction and love does not take into consideration things like looksmatching.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:33 PM
2

So the whole looksmatch idea is irrelevant and there is no point giving it any attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:22 PM
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There are, but what has this to do with looksmatches? And why do you think people should pick partners by the appeal to majoroty and not by what they personally find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:15 PM
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I never understood the idea of looksmatches, as the only thing that matters is to be with someone who is attractive to us and to whom we are attractive. One person will rate someone a 4 while a second person will rate that same someone a 9. Looksmatch is a concept develop for incels to sulk even more in hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:03 PM
1

No. I don't know anything about random people. There is more to a relation that what can be taking away from a brief interaction. We usually don't even know how relationships of our friends relally look like behind closed doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 09:29 AM
0

Taking into consideration that I am not a feminist and that Peterson does not hate equality only the dumb stuff modern feminism is all about, I'd say I mostly agree with him in that matter. Women and men do differ when we look at them from a statistics point of view and many things modern feminists fight for is really just as toxic as patriarchy, only the other way round. And of course the disrupton in traditional gender roles leads to confusion and problems -it does not mean this disrupton is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:52 PM
2

As an introvert- I hate meeting new people, hate social gatherings, hate dates and the idea to fotce myself to be outgoing and fun is making me sick. I was always interested in other introverts and managed to find someone who is as happy as I am being at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:39 AM
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I will answer from a womans perspective. I read his 12 rules for life and found this books really good. I do not agree with some of his viewes (ie. i am an atheist) but I found his ideas interesting for everyone and those I for not identify with, I still think are usefull for the more conservative people. His interpretetion of biblic stories were also fascinating as they often times differed from the popular in my country catholic view. I think he has great points and try tu push people to think…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:36 AM
2

Most men here on PPD have no idea how women work. They just live in their fantasy, hatred-filled world and think they unravaled the mysteries of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 06:07 AM
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I assume men, who get this advice from people other than Internet strangers, give a reason for recieving this kind of advice. Usually people tailor their advices to the person who is asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 01:20 PM
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You are ignoring the true purpose of that advice. You think it is given , so a men can hit on the women in the club, or for them to drag you to meetings with their friends. But the true purposes are:. To give you a hobby that will seem interesting to the opposite sex. Many people are just dull or tend to have gender specific interests. To give the men an opprtunity to be around women and get to know them -to see how they function, think, to see they are humans as diverse as it could be. To give …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 01:01 PM
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Sexuality is a spectrum. There are no courious women, women who had sex with other women, but prefer a men for LTR, as they want bio children or już simply are more romantically into men. There are women who have been equally in LTRs with women and men. Tehre are women whonare primary with women romantically but like to have sex with men also. There are women who always were with other women but find themselvs attracted to men. Sexuality gatekeeping is so bizzare. People have so many different t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 11:46 AM
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When they want something from nr o lub because I look young and they think I am attending college or am fresh out of it. This always have me a predatory vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 11:19 AM
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I don't want to. Allowing guns means also masa shooters and stupid people with guns. Besides I feel safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:41 PM
2

Everyone hates centrists so I get your pov.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 02:51 PM
1

Yeah. As a 5'2 woman under 110 lbs I can tell you that there are no men clothes even close to my size.
/r/AntiFeminists15/03/21 02:51 PM
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Men clothes have different sizes and look different. Handbags are ok but sometimes not practical. The pocket issue is not sexist but still is an issue. It is hard to find feminine clothes with pockets able to fit a phone.
/r/AntiFeminists15/03/21 02:48 PM
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I am a centrist but as for gun permits I think it is good the way it is so I would not eat ot is the leftist fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 02:35 PM
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Most of the times yes. I feel slightly unsafe walking albo nr in the middle of the night, but I don't go out often anyways, and if I do, I take my car or an Uber. Or sometimes my SO picks me up from a public transport stop. But most of the times I feel reasonably safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 12:07 PM
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Heh Europe is do shitty, with its lawes: worker protection, universal health care, banking guns. All so horrible. Dude I took self defence and once against I don't feel anxious around people do why do you feel the need to give me all this unwanted advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 11:57 AM
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Look I don't feel afraid most of the time and don't want to remove men. I am not even a feminist... The first thing I said is that in some countries there is no legal option of having a weapon, and using it would give you jail time. The second, that it would be overall nice for everyone to not fear other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 11:37 AM
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Look aby weapon is illegal. Besides a club would not help as any weapon you are not trained in can be and usually is used to your disadvantage. Not to mention civilization was buold so that we can feel afe and not have to go everywhere hitting others with clubs like cavemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 10:36 AM
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Oh yes, the all american -just get a gun. In Europe it is hard to even get a sports gun permit. And even than you have to have the gun not loaded if you are anywhere other than at a shooting range.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 10:25 AM
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What I expect:. Good looking, likes working out and eats reasonably healthy, can do all basic house chores (bonus if they like to do dishes and vaccuming), has style and takes care of appearance and hygine, is emotionally stable, has a kind heart, good communicator, hates mind games and manipulation, childfree, geek, earns enough to be able to support themselvs, introvert, atheist, similar sex drive. What I bring:. I am quite good looking, work out regulary, have good hygine, wear feminine cloth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 10:55 AM
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So just grab the most usless part like party, rings and calling each other spouse and throw away legal rights, tax benefits and medical decision making? Sounds lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:41 PM
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Guys just think that bisexual women are as oblivious to what other women tweak in their looks as them. Also hetero men are butthurt they have competition and that they are percieved as less attractive on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 03:20 PM
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Of course cosmetic surgery can enhance looks of every gender. The problem is , most are poorly done and it is visible some work has been done. And plastic surgery is available to everyone. As for make up-also everyone can do it but most importantly as a woman myself I know what kind of make-up tricks other women did and can judge accoridngly, men usually think haevy makeup mimicing a no-makeup look is natural. Still for me more women are good looking -I am not saying women are ideal, just thelat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 01:02 PM
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You made a lot of assuption on what I find attractive. I don't relally like fake lashes, fake boobs and their likes. I am talking more about care routines-moistutizing of skin, using appropriate hair products, dressing in fitting clothes. Men could also achieve results taking care of their sklep n and hair. As for stretch marks and fat- they are also common on men, and men look far worse with 25% BF than women with the same amount. I relally love how, when I answer something from my point of cor…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:48 PM
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You asked bisexual people to answer, so yes, I am bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 11:54 AM
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There is a far greater number of attractive women. They take more care of their skin, hair, clothing etc. Men are usually sloppy, even if they have a nice face.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 11:41 AM
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Ideally in summer a walk (in the park, on the river bank etc), after the walk grabbing a coffee/beer/drink in a small place.everyone pays for their one drink of choice. Or just grabbing a takeaway drink and continue the walk. In winter a coffee/hot drink in a small place. It is ideal as it has potential to last long if the date is going good but can also end quickly and no one is bitter as the investment on both sides is minimal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 10:29 AM
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The older I am, the more sure I am that I will never have any children.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 09:55 PM
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It depends on the person. I was always LTR oriented. I dated my first BF for 3 years and never had a relationships shorter than 2,5 years. Obviously some relationships ended for various reasons but my goal was always to have a lasting realtionship,ideally for the rest of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:28 PM
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You think that having non romantic benefits to a LTR makes it non-romantic? Because in real life both aspects count. You have to love your SO but also be able to have a good life together and help each other grow as humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 07:26 PM
3

Did it ever occure to you, that splitting bills also mean lower bills for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:46 AM
1

I recommend therapy. Having struggles is normal, but we are human and can better ourselvs and we should work on us constantly, especially in a relationship if we want it to be healthy. A partner will not cure us, we have to do the work alone. If you want a good partner you have to be a good partner yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 11:44 AM
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You can always file for divorce. And marriage does not mean you automatically are miserable. Marriage does not mean you stop putting effort either. For me it means I put even more effort as I want my parter to be surę he has choden a good wife and feeling comfortable in an LTR brings out the best in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 10:06 AM
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Being recognized by others as a family, being able to make medical decisions, having access to tax breakes, etc are important to us. Also we are eloping and having an intimate ceremony as this feels right to us. We just want to get married to be related in the eyes of others. We are family, so we want to be treated as one, and without children or marriage it is hard. Especially in a rather conservative country.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 08:11 AM
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More or less the same, but I have a bigger capital (being a home owner). We also have seperate accounts and split bills and everyday expenses. He is on my medical plan, drives my car etc. So I would not call myself a leech. Nor would I call him a leech, for that matter, as he also contributes to this relationship and helped me through my health struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 08:04 AM
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CF woman here about to be married. I get love, companionship, and help from my SO. Life is easier, he is my best friend and the greatest lover. We split chores, split bills, we share hobbies. He is my truest family, as he is family by chocie and not blood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:15 PM
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No wonder the woman had nothing to snap back. The argument 'I am prettier" is so dumb, there is nothing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 02:16 PM
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Only an extrovert could say this. There is a ton of things I can do at home and going to places is basically mostly doing boring stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 03:04 PM
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If you yourself are na adventurous person- sure. For introverts and quiet, homy people it is rather a -2. Seriously nothing is more repulsing than a men I have nothing in common. But this is really just a matter of compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 02:47 PM
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Yeah but Sweden is a completely different country. In a different part of Europe, so I don't see any connection here.
/r/AntiFeminists01/03/21 04:20 PM
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Switzetland is actually very conservative. They were the last country in Europe to give women voting rights, and still for Swiss born in Switzetland, the place of a woman is on the german 3 K (children, kitchen, church). Also being neutral Switzetland takes pride in the fact, they have their citizens ready to fight, and again as a rather traditional country the men are expected to serve more, as women serve in the household. Many changes are comming due to a large amount of foreigners gettig vot…
/r/AntiFeminists01/03/21 03:44 PM
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I don't know about an average woman but I can tell you about my average day. Wake up at 7 with my SO. Shower, and make my morning routine. Make breakfast for the two of us, while he does the dishes. Then we eat together watching a documentary show on TV. I start work at 9 and work untill about 5.00. (before the pandemic I drove to work by car, now I work from home) sometimes I have time to make a quick lunch for the both of us, sometimes we order take-out. After work I either attend language sch…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 09:17 AM
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If you mean showing a piece of paper with a list, than no, as I don't have anything like that written down. If you mean communicating and telling my SO about my boundries, golas,morals and requirements - we did talk a lot about those things during the initial dating time and before hitting realtionship milestones. We did things like "100 questions you should ask before moving in" etc. He has also his list of requirements for an LTR. And most of them were on details discussed between our 3rd date…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 04:03 PM
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I had a list and thanks to it found the perfect partner for me without spendng too much time on people who were ultimately uncompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 03:43 PM
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Similar interests, must like fitness (but not be a total gym freak), handsome (to me of course), compatible sex drive and fetishes, introvert, emotionally stable, caring, has a stable job, childfree (does not want children and does not have any from previous relationships), has a sense of humor, around my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 07:37 AM
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I am all for traditional roles but it is still beneficial for everyone to know basic cooking and cleaning. When my grandma needed surgery my grandad was helpless during the time she was on hospital and then recovery. And life happens so some basic skillset really helps.
/r/AntiFeminists30/01/21 09:58 AM
1

I am 5'2 and one of the biggest lady killers I ever met was shorter than me. He has looks, style, is a sports instructor and playe as guitar like a pro. He was always surrounded with girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/21 06:21 AM
2

We are as a society obsessed with youth because we do not want to face the truth of aging. The traits considered trendy and good are associeted with youth - being adventurous, energetic, spontanious, bubbly, physically strong, independent - most ofnthese traits fade with age as pieple become more vulnerbale and frail. We also learned to think that love is a mixture of lust and being on love, completely depreciating the aspect of growing together as a couple and spiritual/intelectual/emotional bo…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/21 10:08 AM
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Income is really not telling anything, considering users outside US exist and in some countries especially out of Europe and North America people can warn crap when converted into dollars but still decently for their country. A more general question like what income class you belong to would be much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 08:19 AM
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Assholes do not make relationships interesting. They mąkę them boring- only things they do is being abusive and mentally draining. All the days look the same, you just know they will be an asshole no matter what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 02:18 PM
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My SO is 5'7. I only learned from the Internet that this should be supposedly an issu for me. I don't get that obsession with minimum 6' ....
/r/AntiFeminists21/01/21 10:07 AM
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Definitely less talkative. I don't want anyone constantly bubling im my ear and not giving me space. I prefer we both snuggle while reading books than have endless disputes for the whole reason of talking itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 08:55 AM
1

No trudu should nie wait,but they should takie a 'no' like a champ and not harass any woman for not being interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 07:28 AM
2

Being in love is a fleeting emotion. Love is deep and as much of a choice, as an emotion. Children can be fulfillong, but other life choices van also be. If someone does not want children, they would be only miserable as a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 07:22 AM
1

When I smilele,am polite, compliment you, remember our previous convo- I am just being polite. If I am interested I will ask you on a date -simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 03:15 PM
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No. I am childfree and being a stepmom is like having children. Also I don't want to have baby mama drama in my life, psy child support or to be always second (because for a parent the child should come first).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 07:48 AM
2

Infidelty on his part, hitting me and substance abuse. Yes I want one partner for life,but he has to be a good person and not do any dealbreaker stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 09:12 PM
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It all deoends on what you mean by better. I don't like travelling and hate the idea of a romantic weekend in Paris do finding out my SO went to such a trip with his ex does nothing for me except for being błąd he knows me me and does not do things I would not like. Youznshould treat partners differently, because they are different persons.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 09:27 AM
1

In a relationship both parties carry for their home and help each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 09:21 AM
1

I hate beards and facial hair. Also AM not a fan of body hair. I don't like chiseled faceta as I prefer feminine features. Muscles are fine as long as they are not showing right away only during physical activities. Height is indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 08:02 AM
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I am in my 30s and love feminine features on men. No berds, minimal body hair, slender body. No preferences when it comes to hair- some men lok better with long, others with short. I am not into K-pop but generally the most handsome men are asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 07:51 AM
1

I always had more male friends. I don't really see a differece in the friendship by itself, when it comes to gender. But having men as friends definitely helped me gain insight into the men's point of view. Yes some did but only those who entered the friendship with the intention of something more, and it did not work as I viewed them as friends. With my best friend and other good friends there was never any sexual tention or any advances. I have not felt attracted to a friend. Tough I becamse f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 09:28 AM
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I slept with my LTRs as quick as with others (have in mind I was always LTR oriented). The differece was that with LTRs I wanted to still have sex with them after the first time, I wanted to spend non-sex time with them as well and they turned out being compatible ping term wise. With the people who did not make it to a LTR, it was either that after sex I did not want to sleep with them ever again (terrible lovers), or they turned out to be not compatible (different moral views, different goals …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/20 07:57 AM
1

Thank you for pointing out my mistakes. English is my 3rd language and I tend to make some typos. I will correct the mistakes I can find and hope for a fruitful, on-topic discussion afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 01:38 PM
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Some things are great to experience only in your fantasy. People play games, where they kill, that does not mean they would like to kill irl or date a killer. People have sexual fanatsies, that they like to masturbate to,but would not like to act out irl. People read books about royalities, that does not mean they would be happy about having to adhere to royal etiquette for their entire lives. Movies, books, games, theater -they are all designed to make us experience something we find nice on pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 11:32 AM
4

Why do you suddenly put abuse into the equasion? Abusers are love bombing in between abuse periods and are all in for big romantic gestures. I know that shitty people come in all flavoures, but I was just referring to the fact that women tend to like a different romantic gestures set than men do, and hence the illusion of not being romantic. I would never do any big public gestures to show my love, but I do decorate food for my SO, make him small origamis when he has a bad day, always buy someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 10:53 AM
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Men think Bering romantic means big gestures- and those are in mostek cases cringy and stupid. Moreover, men think those gestures are enough to make up for shirty everyday behavior. Womensl know that real romatisizm is on small everyday gestures that together comprise a ping term romantic, healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 10:36 AM
2

Who said anything about changing a raletionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 10:47 PM
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Nothing of those. Neither of us wants to fuck the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 10:21 PM
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I have one guy best friend. He is happily married, with the same girl he was with for over 10 years. There were never any feelings between us -we bonded over hobbies and we heleped each other out more than once. I am friends with his wife and he with my fiance. Not everyone wants to fuck everybody of the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/20 10:10 PM
1

F 30+ None of the mentioned. I do not see any sense in being a hedonist,yet I like my life to be comfortable and I like to have sine Irena of luxury. A life with only purpose would be dull. I prefer a quaiet, peacfull life,where I have time to pursue my passions and am sorry ale to help others to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 09:49 AM
2

Probably around 30 for both sexes but only if they never had any good relation with another human. Lacking an LTR can be due to many reasons and not all of them are flaws. So if person has friends but just did not want an LTR nothing wrong with that. Of someone dated but ot never clicked with anyone alos fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 09:46 AM
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I love how every preference now is called brainwashing. I had a parter once who wanted to be polyamorous it sounded good on paper but my emotions work on such a way that I can only love one person at a time. What's more I think being in a relationship requires quality time spent together, much communication ans sometimes compromises. Having to have it with more than one person seems like an unnecessary hussle, especially given I am an introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 07:56 PM
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As a woman I only want to be with one men. You do you if you want to, but please don't speak for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 07:50 PM
3

Who even cares what a bunch of play pretend alphas think?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 12:08 PM
1

He got me in the time when he gave up faking. Was he trying to be extroverted I'd never have him a chance. And I bet many introverted girls think the same way (I know my girls friends all found their spouses/BFs through outweeding all those cocky jerks). Men are advised many things, women are also advised many and most of those things are just bullshit made either to make you feel better about yourself, or to sell you to a cult like ideology. Most people are really bad at giving reliable advice.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 02:26 PM
0

If you try to be someone you are not, youay be able to get a date but not a relationship, as sooner or later your partner will find out that everything you did/said was fake. I don't know about the be a specific kind of guy trope- I hate extroverted men who are full of themselvs. They as me out but always got rejected as it just would not click in a LTR with them. My SO manged to peak my attention because he was himself and hinets about being conventionally 'boring' and it was great as a life of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 01:50 PM
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Lying (also by omission). Engaging in manipulator bahaviour (exploting someone being naive or mentally ill). Trying to be someone you are not (so also a sort of lying).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 06:34 PM
1

Weak minded people will become bitter with age. Strong minded will use their past failures to change for better. Unfortunately the second kind of human is rare among both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 06:31 PM
2

Skull shape hass some alt right neo-nazi ring to it do maybe rephrase better? I did not specify as there are so mamy subhobbies. For sewing can be costume making or clothes designing. Photography van by pirtraits,nature, digital photos. Cooking can be fine dining or nuclear cooking. There are soamy subganras I just mentioned whole categrsies to make the list shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:14 PM
2

Than that is a problem I don't care about age or gender of my friends. i can have a great time with highschoolers and pensioners. Maybe working on being more open could help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:00 PM
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No woman would use the word females. Also phrenology was debunked long ago, so probably that is why no one is into it. Guns are fun, and I know many girls who like to go to a shooting range. Decirative baking is not usefull for house parties, as preparong a cake for 3 days leaves no place for other chores. Also skiing, photography, languages and most other stuff I mentioned have nothing to do with ane house chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:58 PM
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Never saw the first movie, not gonna see that one. I hate romcoms /Christmas movies. I don't like movies in general, only some good sci-fi and fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:52 PM
0

I disagree with your observation. Also artistic baking is not a house chore believe. And over half of the things I mentioned have nothing on common with staying at home. I get the impression you just look for excuses for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:44 PM
1

Sorry, I her sometimes attacked for being a girlnerd and can overreact to fast. Books are great audio have a few shelvs of them, though now I switched to ebooks mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:42 PM
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What are your interests that it is so hard to find subwoofer similar? If a friend makes you miserable it is time to drop them and find a better one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:41 PM
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Can you elaborate? Hobbies I know women I met have/had include: fashion, makeup, motorcycles, car racing, windsurfing, snowboarding,skiing, sailing, travelling, reading, writing, painting,animaton, history, gaming, crotcheting, baking, cooking, sewing, jewelery making, photography, politics, keeping exotic animals, playing an instrument, singing, learning languages, learning about other countries and cultures, music, gardening and many more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:34 PM
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So mąkę friends? Join a social club, an online group and make friends. I don't have many people I consider friends, but this is my choice as I prefer to have a narrow inner social circle. I fotos have more friends as I know many people I just font crave social interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:29 PM
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You sure you are a woman or know any? My and my girl friends have a diverse set of hobbies and bone of them is TV or social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:26 PM
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Great bonding activity. Yes I am a nerd, and have mamy nerdy hobbies. Than again I also have non nerdy hobbies so I guess I just am a normal person enjoying many flavours od life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:25 PM
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What about friends? Can't you talk to them on the phone/duscord/make a Zoom meeting?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:23 PM
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I am sorry to hear it. There are nad therapists out there, but a good one is not simple a person to talk to, but more of a spiritual guide who can give you the right tools to fight whatever it is in you that prevents you from being happy and at peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:22 PM
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Why do you think so? Are there hobbies requiring to have a penis on order to do them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:19 PM
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Don't worry -I already found my dreamguy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 01:18 PM
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Actually it is hard for an introvert to live with someone else. We do spend most tone apart, working on seperate rooms, gaming or reading alone. Of you have friends you can tak via phone or an app, but even when I lived alone I preffered to keep to myself. I just like having no one around and not having to talk to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 12:34 PM
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You should find a good therapist to deal with those issues. Depression is tought but there are ways to heal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 12:25 PM
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Girls also have hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 09:41 AM
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I am INFP, though my SO is INTJ and we love the isolation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 09:41 AM
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When I interacted with coworkers it was already too much social interaction. Now isolating hits the sweet spot. I get to see friends one or two times a month and no one but my SO in between (we live together) and it is such a bliss.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 09:40 AM
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Can't you just naturally be busy? I get the feeling that there is always so much to do I just can't get bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 09:37 AM
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I am a woman and I love the isolation. I can work from home, don't have to commute or sit in an open space. I have more time for books, videogames, painting and playing boardgames with my SO. I can cook and bake more. I have more energy, as I don't have to be around people, so I work out more, have energy to learn languages and prepare for a work certification. I feel happy and calm not having to deal with people, and with my few close friends-we still meet for boardgame days from time to time. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 08:43 AM
1

It is not that easy as compatibility is not a binary trait - it is a mix of many traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 05:29 PM
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I don't do OLD at all. I get enough unwanted attention IRL and the internet has way too many creeps and wannabe alphas.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 02:06 PM
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I am not from America so I don't know how the dream success agenda is pushed in reality there. But yes,life is not all sunshine ans roses. But again that does not mean being jealous or stopping trying to make our lives better are good roads to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 01:25 PM
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Of course reckless optimism is bad,as there are things we can not change. But still there are do mamy things we can change. And I say it as someone who has been in life hell and still got to manage, change, adapt and I have a great life now. I know what I will never be able to change, but just live with that and do what I can. There are very little unchangable things
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 01:16 PM
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I agree that jealousy is a normal human reaction. And if someone wants to be jealous of a particular thing,they will be, no matter if I have other problems they choose to overlook. But something being natural does not mean it is good. We should be working on ourselvs and our emotions, working on that positive outlook, as it seldom comes naturally. Everyone has struggles but also everyone has advantages. And everyone is different,values different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 12:59 PM
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Everyone has their own, different problems. If instead of wining and being jealous of the opposite gender's problems, people would just be empathetic and would work on thrmselvs we would not have FDS, TRP, Incels and other garbage phenomenons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 12:40 PM
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Gwmetting to know each other is so important. To see if our goals and values allign. To know what makes our partner happy, to know when to leave them alone and when to hug them. To know what presents to buy them. It is important to be friends,because it is vital to like each other. Also when you live someone you just want to know things about them, and believe me even after years together there are still new things we learn about each other. Also people change so you actually get to know someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 12:06 PM
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Work on other things- his body, smell, way of dressing. He can get a surgery done,learn to use some make-up products like concealer. He can also work on his self esteem and character.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 10:17 AM
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Actually having too mamy men to choose from is not a good situation. It gets really hard to find up with a good algirithm to sort out the best,as the best includes things not visible on a first flance (or even after a few dates) like compatibility,similar values and goals, the ability to form a genuine friendship with that person etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 10:15 AM
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I always thought it is common knowledge, that no matter your gender,if you want a quality partner, you should be a quality partner yourself. Falling im love is essential but then you have to be comoatible, like each other, be able to spend time with each other and have common goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 08:14 AM
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I always approached when I liked a men. Why Play games and try to make someone notice me, if I can just state what I want?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 06:16 AM
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Sorry but I am already taken for life. Though I bet there are many other girls who have a similar taste to mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 06:14 AM
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No long hair (i liked it in high school) and definitely no painted nailes or make up -thkse things only look good on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 06:13 AM
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Actually I know. Top 2 are smell (good colognr makes wonders) and voice (deep is really sexy). Next on is face and body- I am a sucker for the slender tyle with a boyish face and no beards or facial hair oh and od course a nice butt. Last but nor lest style- plain dark coloured businees clothing -shirt +nice pants or suits. Bright colors or gangsta/hippie/jock style make even the hottest men unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 09:24 PM
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I don't know why that stereotype still prevails. I love board games, my girl friends do also love board games. I have been playing video games sice my parents bought our first PC. I have been playing RPG games , also as dungeon master from primary school, also with my girl friends. Many girls are geeks, the problem is the hobbys have also many male creeps so we usually stick to ourselvs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:26 AM
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I know it, but statistics also tell you nothing about a given real life situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 03:22 PM
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Taking into consideration that on those numbers are also women who get divorced because the spouse is aggresive or had an affair the chances even out. I know that it is cool on PPD to hate women and marriage. Also on the statistics department everything tells I am actually less likly to divorce. And my SO is the best person ever and I will not even start to describe how deeply I love him and some people being bitter on Reddit will not change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 02:26 PM
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Imagine women feel the same way. I also don't want to get divirced, or loose my flat, car, my PS, my custom PC, my boardgame collection, my spotrs gear, kitchen equipment etc. Maybe that is why I waited for marriage untill I found a men fit for being a spouse instead of marrying the first hot dude ready to settle? Also education, ambition and social backgrounds are the best indicators of earning potential. That is nit weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:58 PM
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I never said it is universal. I just find it funny that every guy here is afraid od divorce rape,not taking into consideration 3 things: That there is a possibility a women will ountern them. That on average the average men has an avarerage salary , debts and not too much savings do there is nothing to divorce rape. That usually people marry within their social circle, that means both spouses have a similar earning potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 12:10 PM
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In most marriages I know both parties earn about the same amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 09:13 AM
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It is hilarious how guys here think it is always the men earning more and having more assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 08:46 AM
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I would guess the Incel is hateful and being a terrible human is just bad in intself. The plate spinner Has just low standards and thinks with his dick. Both have more to do with being bad humans than with a easily cslculatable SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 06:03 PM
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I don't believe in SMV or RMV but I hold my partner to the same standards I hold for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 09:07 AM
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I installed Tinder for a bit before dating my SO. It was the horror. The number of thisrty men, and the number of low-tier men thinking they are the prize was astonishing. I unstalled Tinder after a few days and went back to dating in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:44 AM
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The only universally good think is to be able to have a recent conversation and not be a creep. As to the test well I personally don't like extroverted men as partners, as I have a different definition of fun than them (don't like parties, going to pubs, concerts or partaking on grup activities), other women on the other hand may like extroverted partners do it all depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 07:09 AM
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I prefer o to sleep with my SO,but my parents are a couple from primary school and have since living together always had seperate rooms and beds. Mom is a light sleeper and father snores like a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 06:02 PM
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My ideal life is early retirement with my SO, and a peacfull quite life with our pets. I don't need men to change, as the only important men in this dream is already perfect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 09:50 AM
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I work out 6 days a week. And have been doing so way before learning about any pill. I do it because it makes me helthier and I feel better. I do not know another woman writing out as much. I am in a LTR do I do not do it to improve SMV as I already found my parter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/20 07:29 AM
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Funny then how I ended up madly in love with a men who os 5'5, is younger than me and less wealthy. I must be doing the being a woman thing wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 09:47 AM
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We don't agree. But think what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 07:12 PM
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Working on emotional intelligence, working on trqumas and problems. Working on communication skills. Working on hobbies and social skills. People can and octem choose tomwork on thrmselvs for thrmselvs and in turn those changes benefit the people around them and close to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 06:50 PM
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Yes and still this statement od riddiculus and untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 06:04 PM
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If you don't believe women can improve than we have nothing to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 04:18 PM
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If you think of a break up as a better deal then yes.but I guess you think a LTR is only good for sex, and in that case it just means you probably are better off without any LTR. Also there are some things you just don't think about unless you expirience them. Also they tought me what I could have done better and how I can improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 02:26 PM
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I had my share of relationship that ended, yet they were not failed, as each tought me something about myself, raltionships and what to look for in a partner. So I do not feel devalued by them ending. T They are expiriences that shaped me, as any other have. Yes, realtionshios that were not marraiges do matte, as there was a reason they did not end in marraige. People are single when they are single. Being in any relationship makes you not single. There is no gradiation od singleness. Because ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 12:04 PM
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Introversion is not hating people. I am an introvert but I have to socialise at work. I can do it, it just drains much energy from me. I am able to be in a LTR but with a fellow introvert. We spend our free time reading, gaming or doing some things with only the 2 of us, as we understand each other and do not bother each other. But I hate crowds, parties. I meet with friends/familiy usually every other week only with 1-3 people at a time and still find it exhausting. But I am fully capable od be…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 08:18 AM
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Banning abortion would mean no sex for my LTR as I don't want a child ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 07:56 PM
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I am on my 30's and don't expect, nor want anything fancy for a first date. The first date is to get to know each other better and should be an easy encironment, where it is easy to end the date early. A coffee, drinka at a pub or a walk on the park are perfect for a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 07:12 AM
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Early 30's a nerdy/geeky type. Someone I can watch fantasy ans sci-fi, play videogames and boardgames with. An introvert who does not need a very active social life (i prefer meetingu people every other week). Someone who os calm, confident in his masculinity (so buying femelae hygine products or sharing household chores does not feel emasculating to him). Someone who works out and is willing to eat helathy. Ideally non religious and a political centrist. Must be childfree.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/20 08:56 AM
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There is no point in maintaining toxic relationships.pive is too short to put up with people who are abusive or pitting me down. I rather have a small selection of close friends and familiy, who małe me happy, than have many people around me who contribute nothing good to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 08:38 AM
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PS5. It will lat for long and give mamy hours of fun and playing together. Wasting that much money on a night out and fancy dinner, would just mean my partner is horrible with money. Fortunately we both know what presents would be great for three other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 09:36 AM
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In every imaginable way my current SO is way better than men I dated in my 20's (though there were not many as my shortest LTR was 2 years). He is better looking, has more personality and is a better human being. But again, he is so now, and he says himself he was different in his youth, do I don't know how I would like his younger version.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 04:55 PM
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I have no idea if I would date my SO when we were in our teens/20`s as we did not known each other then. We met when we were both older and fell in love. We have no clue how we would react to each other many years ago. Why would such a thing even factor into a decision we made today?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 09:28 AM
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We are born and consdtioned in our early childhoods for certain behaviours and attachment styles. But if we are self-aware we definitely can chcnage. We can learn to change waysbin ruch we react. We can go to therapy and learn to manage out emotional and even change them . We also learn as we grow from people around us, from friends, idols, coaches. We change constantly and we can also decide in what direction those changes go. The catch is that deliberate change requires work and that is someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 07:55 AM
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Og course getting to know smone and dating is a vital part of vetting. I just don't like that part because: 1. It is time consuming. When I went for a date with my current SO I had to commute to the date place and back. If I was haing a sleepover at his palce I had to bring a change of clothes, cosmetics etc and it meant that after work there was only the date happening and nothing more, as usually there are only 4 hours of day left after work. 2. I have hobbies so dating means dedicating all of…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 12:07 PM
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I am definitely not all the time serious, but I am silly only with close friedns and my SO, as only with them I feel comfortable. Also different people have different kinds of humor and what you described doing with friends is a bit cringy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 11:41 AM
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I never claimed that inding someone good for an LTR is easy. But if you find that person, it is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 11:16 AM
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For me a good LTR is the best, but being single is better than a medicore or bad LTR. But I hate dating, the first phases of a relationship and getting to know people. I feel goo when I can be myself with someone whom I can trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 11:15 AM
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I can not anser because there is no a right answer. I can say what is better for me, or some of my friends, but not for all people. Both are perfectly valid ways of living - whatever makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 10:48 AM
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Of course there are also introverts who feel great about being single. But the benefits of LTR as having someone who you trust and who can take care of you are still applicable to such a person more than to a party animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 10:47 AM
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It depends on what a men values, and what his needs are. You love cinstant travelling, meeting new people, have a different woman every night - than being single is a blast. You want to have children, someone who will take care of you when you are ill, someone who will pay your bills when you get fired, you like living a more quiet life? - than LTR is way better than casual hookups. It all depends on your character, goals, and emotional needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 10:22 AM
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I am no pill. I think the pills no mater the colours, are toxic ideas, made for people who can not stand the fact that the world and people are different, that not everyting is black and white and that diversity exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 07:38 AM
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For LTR/marriage yes. You want to make sure both parties contribute financialy. You wnat to be in a situation where if one person looses their job/has a serious accident etc, the other party will be able to pay bills for you both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 07:36 AM
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Woman here. For me: 1.Compatibility (most of the other traits would come from here. It is the single most importnat trait in a partner). 2.Personality (he has to have a good character, an inner moral compass, have passions) 3.Ambition (He has to have goals. I have mine and I think partners should support each other in obtaining them. Having ambitions also means you work hard to achieve them) 4.Physical state of his body ( I work out and have a helathy lifestyle and am slim. My partner should be …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 10:22 AM
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Never. I was asked about past LTRs and why they did not last but that is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 06:21 PM
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The problem is not abundance but low quality of men. It does not matter idf I have 500 klikes a day if only 5 of them are people I would consider even talking to. Most men are so generic and have nothing intresting to offer that it makes no difference how many o them are intersted in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 07:34 AM
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As picky as you want.A life partner is for life so they should tick all the boxes. The thing you risk by being too picky is being single till the end. The thing you risk by not being picky enough is divorce or being unhappy for the rest of our life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 07:32 AM
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I am a wam and have been cheated on by more than 1 partner. It was painful at those times but it dod not affect me im the sensei that I trust my current partner and I have no hatred towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:18 AM
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You don't even have to go back in time to hear music that was popular but is somehow disturbing now. Listenting to some African tribal music or some Asian traditional songs can also have this effect, as there are cultures where out of tune singing is considered beautiful. OP has a narrow understanding of music, as western music.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 09:09 AM
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Woman initiating divorce is a stat I see thrown around but it says nothing about the cause of divorce. An abused wife will and should initiate divorce. A wife that was cheated on will initiate divorce. A cheating wife probably will iniatate divorce,but also the husband could in such a situation. Statistics on cause of divorce are a better indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 08:48 AM
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Just hold your emotions untill you vetted the person better. Simple as that. But many people have aboslutely no agencu over their urges or emotions so they end up doing stupid things and then blaming the world or others for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:46 AM
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Tking into consideration that men are more likely to leave a terminally ill partner, or opt out of marraige when a disabled child is born I highly daobt that men love better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:44 AM
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Dread keeps me in line. A big line I draw to keep a dreadig individuall out od my life. If you are so insecure that you fear a woman existing is dreading you, you should keep being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 07:38 PM
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When I ended reoationships it ment I did not want anything from that guy, so if he did not care I would not care. Him not caring is the best outcome. Nothing worse than a whiny or revengfull ex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 07:36 PM
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Woen are the once who have to be pregnant. They have to give birth. In the vast majority of cases, women give up their jobs and income to stay with the kids, and are the primary caretaker of kids. Of course they will nor be as ebthusiastic as men, who usually get to be the "fun parent". In my expirience it just depends, but women are usually more vocal and their stance is usally more solid (weather it is to have or not have children) wheras men are usually more indifferent and would be ok with b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 07:10 AM
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Of course - I said it is a minimum, and yet many men fail to do it. Also all the things and more can help anyone's look get up. Most often you can't do much about your face and some other bodily features (unless you are willing to have plastic surgery) but you can definitely go up a bit by just having some basic hygine and fashion. And no amount of muscles of nice face will ever make a men attractive in sweatpants and with body odour because he can't be bothered with deodorant - and my God I'd b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 02:09 PM
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As far as I can see and deduce from what people say and write (also here on Reddit) men are shocked they should: -not be obeese -wash and trim their nails -have a skin care routine, especially when they have acne problems -drink less -eat more healthy -wear well-fitted and colour-matched clothes -wear cologne/parfume -have a flattering hairstyle Takin into consideration all those things are a minimum for women and also that this list is by no means complete I'd say there are extremly low standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 01:46 PM
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I guess it may came across as such, beacause in the looks department there were always extremely low standrs for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 01:38 PM
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Body positivity is not about telling men what they should be attracted to. It is more about lazy people getting triggered by people who actuaolly put some effort into their looks and health. It is like a drug addict group, where instead of helping, they just encourage each other to do more drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 01:31 PM
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I see the problem as having 3 main causes. 1. Men genrally expect that doing thing A will lead to immidiate gratification (immidiate ONS and girls begging to be with them). But it is not how it works. A good dating startegy is a complex one and still women are different, and what works on one, will not work on another. So you should actually think of what kind of person you are, and what kind of relationship/partner are you looking for (a traditional wife? modern wife? a FWB? many ONS?) and adju…
/r/ExRedPill17/08/20 08:17 AM
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Bold of you to assume I have not seen my grandma rocking a new relationship in her 60's. And bald of you to assume her boufriend is not high value. Thank you for telling what people I know :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:36 AM
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Fo humans who have emotions and brains relationship are based mostly on trust, making each other lifes better and genuine love. If you look at relationship as purely transactional money for sex and resources for offspring you are free to do it but you would be better off with prostitutes and a surrogate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:29 AM
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1) I did not say noe woman, I just said that no woman I know )also I don't even know Oprah) 2) Yeh I am definitely the emotional one in this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:25 AM
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because this theme will always cause a recation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:24 AM
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1) I don't know any woman reading that crap or watching TV. Of course I can live ina bubble but the only places I see women magazines are beauty salons etc. 2) If you want to have a doscussion you should be able to take into consoderation that people have different opinions, and that only because something they say does not fir into your world-view, it does not men it is to be riddiculed or not belived. I mean if you already know everything better why bother posting a CMV thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:18 AM
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I could write you plenty of those. It is really easy - take a subject that will be controversial and cause an emotional response and let people whine over it. It is the same premise reddit is thriving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:16 AM
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1) Female magazines are are so trashy. They don't even back up their articles. They are there to cause emotions and be controversial to have better sales. 2) I am not at all triggered. Why would I - I have the best men I could dream of and I still have men from all age ranges interested in me. The use of swear words was there to emphasize my strong stance about not caring, wich is why they are used in language at the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 11:14 AM
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Articles are written in order to couse an emotioanl response and unless they are in scientific jurnals they are a terrible source for any real world occurences. As a woman 29+ I don't give a f*** about who is dating whom, as long as it is not pedophilia, grooming etc. Will I have a lower opinion of 30+ men pursuing girls in their 18-20? probably yes, but not becaouse I am envious (I had all my life an abudnace of valuable men pursuing me, still have) but because I think there must something wron…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 10:54 AM
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I have seen women in theu 60's and 70's able to get high value men so I think the wall is just a revange fantasy of whiny low value men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 10:09 AM
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I would not be offended with either. I want a fit partner and find obeese people sexually replusive. Also weight is something we have control of and I think every rational human being should aim for the normal BMI range (esoecially taken into consideration that it is range and in itself gives everyone the possibility to be slightly more or slightly less). It is definitely more fair than filtering through height (an still people are allowed to do it).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 06:50 AM
3

No to all your points.
/r/AntiFeminists14/08/20 06:19 AM
3

And he was able to determine with 100% certainty how mamy men she slept with/dates and how long each and every one of them had to wait for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 12:39 PM
1

If you need somoen else to give you happiness, you should not be in a relationship. Of course friends, and romantic partners increase our overall happiness, but if they are the only source of happiness, we will always be misarble.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 10:35 AM
3

I always wonder how do you know how long other guys waited? Can you read het thoughts or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 06:32 AM
2

I can speak only for myslef but I love my SO with all my heart. I am constantly hugging him, kissing, telling how much I love him. I buy him presents are treats without any occasion. I support him. I always make warm breakfast for him, cook for him and bake him things he likes. When buying a resent for Christmas or birthsday I start to search for it a month or 2 earlier to make it just perfect for him. I also make some random sweet things for him - like a heart origami when he is upset etc. He d…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:53 AM
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My bet is they find them on Tinder, in clubs, at wild parties and on social media. A club hating social media absent (or using them sporadical) introvert can not be in any if those places. Also looking anywhere else is probably too hard a job for terpers as it requiers having a personality and the woman in question will be not likely to jump their cock after 1 date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 03:17 PM
16

Because not only women face problems. Because I do not believe one sex is better than the other. Because I despise philosphies that use wrong data. Because feminists have no empathy. Because I hate to be ostracised by feminist for being the cook in my relationship and for living to be traditionally feminine. Because I get more respect form men than women on everyday life. Because I am for true equality I see the problems women face but also those faced by men. Because I don't like the narrative …
/r/AntiFeminists11/08/20 08:02 AM
3

In the looks department: long hair, slim athletic body (daily workouts and a good diet), pretty face, nice ass and boobs, (hourglass figure 0,7WHR, double Ds). I dress in a feminine way (lots of dresses, skirts, high heels - thoug I have currently joint problems and had to switch to flats for everyday activities. I know how to use light but good looking make up. In the mental and career department: I have a stable, good paying job. I know fluently 2 foreign languages and am learning a 3rd one. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 07:03 AM
3

I guess I will still post here. Because personal expirience is something that is also valuable. But you are free to ignore my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:43 PM
1

Great but I can say things only for myself and people I know. Talking about the generał population makes no sensei,as I don't know all three people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:22 PM
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Love, sexual compatibility, basic starting assets, hobbies are not things that fade over time. Thnking that love is an idealistic thing, and that you should love np matter what is stupid. It is helathy to not love an abuser for example. And a good LTR is one were neither party lets themselvs go. Were both try to be better versions of themselvs, not be slobs etc. Bad times will happen and you should support your partner, but ulitimatly it is the consant growth of both parties and a constant effor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 02:19 PM
3

Darling I am over 30 I am defiitely not new to any LTR game. And belive me- knowing what rational good things both parties bring to the table does not diminish any love or attraction we feel for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:57 PM
3

I think it is both. Of course he loves me for being me, but he is no fool and he sees and knows the values I bring to his life. He knows he lives rent-free because I own a flat (we split bills). He knows I cook and bake for him and make half of the houswork he had to do for himself. He knows we are sexually compatible. He knows and aprriciates that he has a gaming buddy in me, that I encourage him to pursue his career and better lifestyle. In a good LTR there are both factors - loving for what p…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:51 PM
3

People have a very emotional response to cheating. I get it- it is a hard topic, but the world is not black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:37 PM
3

I beg to differ, as I amq uite certain I give all of the above and much more to my SO. He wouldn't be with me if it weren't for it as he has many other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:35 PM
3

I don't think my SO had a female perspective when choosing to be exclusive with me and then proposing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 11:52 AM
5

It depends on the circumstances. Was it a one-time cheting? Was it a long time go? Does he regret it? Was he in an abusive relationship at that time? How deos he treat me? Sometimes people make mistakes, sometimes poeple change.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 10:54 AM
2

My SO choose to stop playing the field in his 20's. He met me and decided I was worth settling down with. Pursuing women get's old and does not give you love, companionship or stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 10:41 AM
2

Incels are bad but that does not imply feminists are good. Both groups are fucked up.
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/20 08:37 PM
2

I think it is important for every gender to be disciplined in some way. Without it you can't really work-out, keep a healthy diet, keep a self-care routine, pay bills, keep your home tidy, keep a stable job etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/20 07:00 AM
2

I don't know I was always on the verge of being underweight, so if a guy told me I have to be slimmer I'd think he has something wrong with his head. But if I was overweight or obese I'd understand. Being a fatty is not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/20 06:55 AM
2

It is, but there is a much bigger chance he has some charcter flaws that makes him undatable. The only men I have met who were with no relationship expirience or sex expirience and were over 25 had all an incel mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 08:31 AM
1

I am in my 30's so a men in his 30's who is a virgin means either that he never was in a LTR (which is a rted flag for me) or taht he is religious and that means a major incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 08:26 AM
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I think that a relationship where one person has more power is toxic. In a good LTR people are equals in terms of power, as they both want the relationship to work, and each other to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 07:01 AM
3

Define care about n-count. I care in the sense that I don't want my SO to be a virgin, but I also don't want him to have a significantly higher count than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 07:00 AM
3

Personally I think that TRP and readical feminism are both the same. Radical movements trying to blame all the fault on one gender, refusing to acknowledge that people are different and have their own desires and behaviours. I know what makes people readicals, but that does not mean that being any kind of radical is good or excuseable.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/20 09:22 AM
1

Why do you think someone who marries a women who already had partners befeore was locked out of sex? Usually they dated/had FWB/casual sex only with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 09:17 AM
1

I thing to marry when you are under 25 is most often a mistake. People can change drastically between ages of 18 and 25. They usually have not finished their education (or just finished one) and are only begining to live an adult life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 09:12 AM
2

I was banned from writing in askfeminists because I asked why feninists hate do much women who don't share their views. When asked about the reason of being banned and writing to the mods, that irbis a shame they banned a normal discussion,the mods posted in my thread how I apparently made a scene and was agressive in my dm to them. They can not stand anyone having a different opinion.
/r/AntiFeminists24/07/20 12:23 PM
3

I always liked to think that people are somewhat intelligent, self-aware, and good hearted. I question it every time I see incels, or terpers, or radical feminists typing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 08:51 AM
1

People do dring less and less every year. You should also factor in some things like: 1. Your age. Young adults drink more. Being freshly of legal age and the first time living alone makes alkohol and parties appealing to young people. Most of them will grow out of this phase. 2. When you don't drink you notice everyone drinking even if it is just a glass of wine to dinner. ' 3. people who drink too much are more noticable. 4. You meet other people mostly in social situations like parties, bars,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 07:22 AM
8

I was on Tinder for about 3 days. I was single at that time and wanted to see what the fuss is with that app. I looked at some profiles got creepy/random/unfunny messages from various men and unistalled the app as it had nothing to offer. I don't know what one can get out of it. I get more quality validation in everyday life than from the creeps there, and the men were usually completly unintersting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 07:36 AM
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Don't try to be interesting for a woman. Just have some hobbies, passions and try finding a date within fans of the same activity.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/20 01:38 PM
1

Being crazy in love does not mean you d stupid things. It can mean it, if you do not know how to deal with emotions, and evaluate them to act accordingly to your best interest. But loving with your whole heart is the best emtion, there can be, providing it is a good relationship. I am crazy in love with my SO, but that does not mean I would let him treat me with disrespect. It does not mean we do not talk about boundries and all the importrnt stuff. This does not mean he is ideal and has no flaw…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:20 AM
1

If you feel that your partner is somehow beneath you, you start resenting them, often cheating (because you can do better), or you treat them like shit (because they are not as smart, educated, etc). Never date down intentionally. Now if you find someone you are crazy in love with, and think the sun shines out of their ass every minute of any day, and other people are telling you you date down with them, just keep doing what makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:03 AM
1

Again this question will make no sense, as incels and terpers will scream about women lying and virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 12:19 PM
3

If I had to choose with only combinations that add up to 10 I'd choose 3 looks and 7 character. I think that 1 and 2 looks is the equivalent of me physically not being able to be attracted to this person. But I also know that any character below 7 just means I'd be unhappy (with a person who is a slob, incompatible, not intelligent, agressive etc). Luckily the wirld does not work like a must add up to 10 so this question is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 11:54 AM
2

There is a big difference between the fact that some traits are more universally attractive and the fact that people are individuals. Everyone wants certain traits in their partner, but there are other things that are vital. I had a LTR with a top tier guy, who annoyed me so much we broke up, as he was contantly partying and wanting to be with humans and I just loved staying home. Now I am ina a LTR with another top tier guy but who prefers to stay home and in an intorvert at core and the relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 10:42 AM
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I don't have any bourden, beacuse you have to be seriously sheltered to not realise people are different and they like different things and different traits in other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 09:29 AM
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Different people value different things. Ale being interesting is defined by what you find interesting. An adventorous extrovert will probaby want a partner who likes social gatherings, traveling etc. A shy nerd will prefer someone who is into gaming/anime/fantasy and sci- fi etc. A generic person with no real interests will preffer someone equally generic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 07:44 AM
3

You would not make it to date 2 with this attitude. And for a restaurant to have a waiter IT does not have to be high end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 07:08 AM
1

I like strawberrie but dislike sweet drinks. It would be a no from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 05:59 AM
2

Ordering like in telling three waiter my order instead of me doing it? That is ok. Trying to pick a position from the menu from me without asking what I want to order is just stupid. I may have allergies, intolerances, I may dislike a certain dish etc. It shows a men Has no respect for my needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 05:58 AM
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I have food alleegies, some very dangerous, so a men ordering for me od unacceptable. Also I have my own taste and I like to decide on my own what to eat. Ordering for me is a creepy move and gives off controlling vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 05:51 AM
1

I never said that the majority is healthy. But I will nie lowe my standards for myself or my SO only because many people don't meet them. And I will applief strategia that would ensure me getting a high value men. It is dumb to do things to attract trashy people and them copmlaining that they are trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 09:01 AM
1

Hitting on girls you don't know. Hitting on girls in clubs,pubs etc (only certain girls go there regulary). Only pursuing girls that want immudiete sex. Dread game (only a woman who gad no other quality options will put up with it). Not wanting to commit. ( No value woman will allow herself to be a plate). And the list goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:03 PM
2

I am not a feminist and I don't think men create an insecure society. But I also know that healthy women are not attracted to TRP men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 08:59 PM
2

You are aware that people tend to datepeople similar to them? Hobis usually don't date middleclass people, only having primary school finished will slim your chsnces eithpeople having a degree etc. Lower class dates lowerclass and low value people (like terpers, if they were high value they would not need TRP ) tend to date other low value people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 03:53 PM
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It is a confirmation bias. Men followong TRP are low value, they attract low value women and then think IT confirms AWALT. FDS does the same. Good think is IT keeps them all off the dating pools of decent humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 03:20 PM
1

A good relationship is beneficial to both parties. TRP denies it can be possible and is made to attract women who are not material for a good life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 03:07 PM
4

Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:35 PM
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I learned many things during 4 LTRS i had: 1. That is is very important to have shared values and goals. If one person has to constantly bent to satisfy the other it will grow resentment 2. I learned that conastant fear and walking on eggshells are signs of abuse and that a good relationship will make life easier not harder. 3. I learned that it does not matter what a guy is saying/promising only what he is doing (in terms of working on himslef, splitting chores etc.) 4. I lerned that there is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 01:44 PM
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TRP is a great way to attract women who are either low value, trashy or damaged. These also happen to be women who usually are more willing to have a ONS. But if ypu want to have an actual relationship with a helathy human, TRP will give you the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 12:41 PM
2

Someone who has a good heart, thinks of my needs and cares about me without being overbearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 06:48 AM
7

None. It is childish, immature and stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 06:13 PM
2

No. I loved men and women but always as individuals. I loved some humanas but I don't love humankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 08:10 AM
0

But there was probably a difference in the rate you contracted STD's.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 09:45 AM
1

I would not be happy.I don't have many friends as I am an introvert and prefer my alone time but I would feel alone and empty without my two best friends I know for ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 06:46 AM
1

Body positivity is great in theory. Even when you don't have a body to be proud of, you should learn to live with it, and having a halthy relation to your body is the forst step to make changes if they need to be done. But the movment in reality is twisted and used to shame people who have no issues or are already over them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:45 PM
1

I get that some people don't like certain things, but a body positivity movement should not shun anyone for any body related decision/issue/feature.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:20 PM
1

The body positive movements shame women who are traditionally feminine. If a woman has long, natural hair and is slim, working out and has nice boobs, or had surgery to achieve it, she is shunned, as someone compromising with the patriarchy. It is hard to be masculine and feminine in these times as the social acceptable thing is to be fat, androgynous and standing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:52 PM
3

Sometimes after many months/years of knowing her, but mostly they have no clue. Men assume different things in different settings. When they meet me at work or in official settings they always assume my n-count is very low. They think that because I look young, am feminine, cook and bake, always wear dresses and skirts and haev ribbons in my hair it must mean I am innocent as a flower with my n-count being 1 or 2. If they meet me in my free time they see my tattoos (only during hot summers) t-sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:28 AM
3

One thing is that every human deserves some basic respect. Like I respect everyone's decision to live their lives as they please, as long as they don't harm anyone. I respect their religion, the way how they want their relationships to look like (or if they even want any), I respect their career chocies, their chocie to have or not children, where to live, what to eat etc. Now this basic respect does not mean I like everyone, it means just that I will not be an ass to them. Second thing - there …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 09:31 AM
3

•What percentage of men you’ve asked out have said yes? Around 80%. Most of those who said no said so because they were in a relationship I was not aware of previous to asking them out. •What percentage of men said yes and just used you for sex? I'd say 0. I never felt used for sex and when I asked someone out and they said yes it either turned out after a daate or two, that it we are not a match, or they wanted a relationship with me. •What percentage of men said yes and it led to a genuine rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 06:56 AM
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I am sorry you think so and am happy that my relationship is build on healthier fundaments.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:27 PM
2

I guess it depend on what you mean by alfa, but I guess you think of a manipulative jerk, in which case such a men does not deserve even an ounce of repsect, but also he does not deserve any commitment. Respect is only possible if both parties are emotionally mature and think of respect as a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 12:28 PM
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The only problem with monogamy is that many people expect it to just work. The truth is there are two key factors in order for monogamy to work. 1. A good, respectfull relationship were both parties are still trying to be their best for the other person. 2. A consious decision. Sometimes there will be just the rihjt setting for cheating and it takes a consious decision to not take advantage of it. The decision is easy when you are in a respectful and fullfilling relation, but still has to be mad…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 10:04 AM
1

Tro yhinks those traits are enough. And they are just the barely minimum with agree and amplify being a majipultion method, if I spot IT in a guy he is out od the picture in seconds. A hot body and social proof are easy to aquire, I know a lot of men who have it and only a small percentage of them is worth even one date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 07:15 PM
1

It does not make sens for people who only know trashy ,low value women,as those are the women on whom trp works. If low value is what terpers are aiming for do be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:55 PM
1

Marriage is commitment from both sides. If a men does not want to commit, it means he is not serious. I don't need such a men as there are mamy willing to commit. Also my SO loses nothing as I have more assets and net worth so with no children or threat of divorce raper, he would be stupid to not want a kegal contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:35 PM
1

We are both childfree , do I'd be baffled.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:32 PM
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OLD is just not worth it. There is no validation in horny, desperatemen swiping or sending generic messages. The dane 'vakidation' from the same men , gos to a ton od girls do it is worthless. I i stalowe Tinder once and uninstalled it 3 days later as the amount of men who had nothing to offer was too high. I have an abundance of high value men irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:32 PM
1

Sge told you what she likes, not what all women like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:27 PM
6

If you grew up yes. But mamy prople do not grow up and thonk relayionships work three dane way,they did in highschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 04:11 PM
1

I do not have connt with my exes and expect the same grom my SO. Of course meeting an ex by accident (in the mało, during a party etc.) happenes and in this situation people should be civil but not overtly friendly and after three event, back to no contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 07:46 PM
1

I don't want my pictures all over the internet. I do not post anything on facebook and on Instagram only photos of things related to my hobbies. My SO does not post anything on facebook. The only thing we changed is our relationship ststus. I'd be disappointed if he would suddenly start to "show me off" on social media. I am a provate person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 07:00 AM
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I'd totally do the test. It would turn out SO would be the father, and in the next step I'd be failing for divorce. He would show he does not trust me, and I would not need that kind of negativity in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 06:50 AM
1

No. I think for both sexes showing nipples and/or buttcheeks is obscene and should be kept in provite or for nudist places.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 09:52 AM
2

No. Him being good for a different women than I, says absolutely zero about how good of a mach he would be for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 09:35 AM
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I don't give a damn about some randos on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 01:14 PM
4

I have no idea. I always communicate about my need/feelings and never kept two guys waiting. I also hate having orbiters, and when guys tried to orbit me I just went no contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 08:38 AM
1

Yes but not all that is buzzare is abusive. And not all seemingly normal is abuse free.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 06:27 PM
2

We have been together for 3 years, living together for 2 and are engaged. We plan to elope by the end of summer or if Covid stops us, next spring.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 06:26 PM
2

Why did feminism even enter this discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 02:27 PM
4

No two people and no two relationships are the same. Knowing yourself and living the life you want is all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 02:20 PM
9

Thank you that is so sweet to hear :) I guess the key is mutual respect and communication. We love each other for who we are, and try to encourage the other party while being respectful to our individualities :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 02:18 PM
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Probably. And also form imagining that cooking and driving ae the only chores in existance ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 02:00 PM
4

Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 01:59 PM
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Why do you think there is even a slight hint of me being a mommy to him? We divide chores accoriding to what we like to do. (Me - cooking, baking, groceries, kitchen and bathroom cleaning. Him - dishes, trash, vaccuming, floor sweeping, dusting, small repairs. 50/50 with washing clothes, taking care of our pet, ironing, balcony cleaning etc). And it is not even so that my cooking is a requirmment. When I have no mood to cook we just order things or he cooks something simple. Also working out tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 01:19 PM
59

I have my own income, so we split living costs (it is cheaper for him and for me than it was before we lived together) I have my own flat (we live here as he was renting when we met, so we both pay less in rent than we used to). I have my own car and I take care of it an and the main driver on long trips (he does not like driving and designated himself as a driver for parties and nights out, as he rarely drinks). I cook and bake (he does the dishes). He dislalikes cooking as it bad at it so he h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:33 PM
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Personally I never had problems with men wanting to commit. I don't know what an avarage modern woman is, and I don't know what they have to offer. But I have to offer quite a lot, and as my SO puts it "I greatly enhance his life in all aspects".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:18 PM
1

For starters you can not tell from the way someone looks ow old this person is. I have so many men hitting at me, thinking I am 21, that the poor creatures have a heart attack learning that I am way post wall. So no - it does not matter as attractive women are always viewed as being younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 09:20 AM
2

Overweight no. Obese - yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 06:51 AM
2

My SO tells me constantly that he loves me. It makes me want him even more, as I know he values me and has feelings for me.
/r/ExRedPill15/06/20 02:20 PM
16

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/20 10:46 AM
4

Actually a women peaks 2 times in terms of libido. In their 30s and after menopause (because there is no more threat of unwanted pregnancy)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 11:29 AM
12

It works for my parents and they are together over 40 years
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 11:03 AM
4

Yes but I don't want kids.and the household is a shared responsibilty. As for reoationship I have plenty od time for IT as I don't have to waist energy on a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 08:19 AM
2

In highschool yes, but when you are an adult not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 06:25 PM
2

Let's agree to disagree. A hot guy dressed like a skateboarding highschooler or hobo is not a falttering sight. But I udnerstand there are women who have minimal standrads and for whom such a guy might do. My SO is hot. he is hot and muscular in sweatpants and a t-shirt but in a well tailored shirt and trousers he loooks like panties down hot. The sweatpants are not flattering no matter the body beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 04:40 PM
2

Men have facial hair and a natural lowe far ratio. We can argue like that forever.of course not everyone can be a 10 but dating that men don't have to do anything besiedes workout and showering is just ineffective. Of course the more a men will do the better looking he will be. For women is the same case.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 04:32 PM
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There is a ceiling in how much you you improve but not in how mamy marhods you van use to achieve it. Most men will also not be a 10, but the van do things to be a good 7 or they van use siap and hit the gym and be stuck at 5 at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 03:32 PM
7

That thinking is exactly why most guys look like slobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 03:30 PM
0

I for not admit three is any ceiling. It is made up by lazy guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:30 PM
5

Besides make up a men cann do anything a woman does do the ceiling is just an excuse for being lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:17 PM
6

Yes but still they have to be good quality, they have to match your height and proportions and be on linę of a color pallete suiting you. Certain colors van make your skin look sick, and with muscles you just look like a sick ripped guy and it dies not really help much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:15 PM
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Women also work out to look good. And being ripped loooks better with nice,fitted,color-matched clothes. Though I get it is easier to think siap and muscles are the only things you need and then wine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 02:03 PM
2

There is a lot of learning for you to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:45 PM
22

I love it when guys write paragraphs about "why men should not put effort into their looks" and then are surprised they can not get a decent lay or LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:30 PM
8

About about 60% of men don't wash their hands after using th ebathroom, so it speaks volumes for itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:28 PM
3

You are aware that perfume can be very masculine and that many women can be turned on by just the way a men smells? Also hands with dirty claws instead of nicly trimmed, clean fingernails, are nor a rugged vibe but just plain unhygenic. This is never attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 01:26 PM
4

I work out religiously but mostly at home or sometimes in a gym only for women, as there are too many creeps in a normal gym setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 10:46 AM
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I would add - for clothing not only fitting clothes, but also know your color-palette. Use perfume. It really is a game changer to smell good. Take care of your hands - have your fingernails trimmed and clean. Don't be afraid to go to a beautician to trim your bushy eyebrows or gaet tretment for pimples (if you have any)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 07:32 AM
1

Your question can not really have an answer. Because self-improvment just means being better then you were before (or trying to get better than you were before). There are so many areas you can better yourself in, that the answer will vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 01:39 PM
1

During the las 12 months: Took challenging projects at work. Worked out regulary. Learned 2 new things as hobbies. continued therapy. Worked on my wardrobe. Established new froendships. Worked on my earlier hobbies to be better at them. Started learning a new language.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 07:35 PM
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I never felt disgusted. I felt threatend when the men approaching were not taking no for an answer or looked like they went straighy out of prison. Usually I am flattered, happy for then that they gad the courage but also a bit sąd for then as I am taken and always turn them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 07:32 PM
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I ivested in a nowe job and bracers. I take care od my diet and work out on a regular basis. I oto the hairdresser, have my beauty routines. I consulted a personal stylist on my wardrobe. I spent fine on my hobbies. I learn to bake and cook new things every month. I learn new languages. I better myself at work and learn things for my cureent and future position. I meditate and go therapy to improve my character.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 07:10 AM
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I disagree. Are there such privilaged women? - sure, they exist. But the reality is that being a women does not mean you are immune to everything. You can get raped, murdered, abused, have mental issues, loose your job, get a serious menatl or physical illness, get robbed, be homeless. There is a gruup of humans (of all genders) who get things handed on a silver platter, but most people have an average life and expirience poroblems as normal humans do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 02:10 PM
1

And where do you get the idea from that every girl will find a good partner only from the pool of guys approaching? Your way of thinking is exactly why girls are cinditioned not to lift a finger, which is not good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 08:10 AM
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Equality is about equal opportunities and laws, not about forcing people to do things. Equality is also about equality for all and not just for a group. Every group has advantages in some fields and disadvantages in other. Also it would be great ig the language would not be agressive and condoning. Feminism should be more understanding that people sometimes have different perspectives and those are fine to have. Also if concent is a big thing for feminismt, than please stop with slut walks and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:53 AM
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I don't really care. I am indifferent towards how other people live their lives. The only thing that matters is if those statistics have any real impact on my lifeand my goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:07 PM
4

Why on earth would girls don't need to show somehow that they are interested in a certain men? Even if we have more options, that does not mean we would be happy with either of them, and the only way to have a better chance at getting a men who chcecks all our boxes requires to take the initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 02:05 PM
3

That is sad, but girls are conditioned to wait for the men to make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 01:28 PM
2

What do you mean? It is logical that looking at someone, or doing things with hair is no indication of anything as it can be random, or overlooked. I don't get the "I lloked at him so he must know I like him", not to mantion it also creates confusion as guys get in their heads I like them because I smiled (no I smiled because i am a nice person).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 12:58 PM
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If I see a giy as a potential romantic interest I invite him to a date. That is the one and only indicator of attraction for me. I smile and am friendly to everyone and if I use subtle signes I am not aware of it. If i ask you out i like you, if i don't it means I am only frendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 09:19 AM
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This sub is extremly toxic, but it makes me appriciate my SO even more and also shows me how much I have grown as a person, as I am able to distance myself form the hatrated here and just pity all those people who will not be happy due to anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 07:38 AM
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If we date we are exclusive. If a men thinks we are not exclusive "because we did not state it" he gets dumped. Luckily I establisg early on that dating=exclussivness. So ansering your questions - both are dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:50 AM
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History of bisexual encounters - no problem here Single bisexual encounter and realizing it wasn’t for them? Do your attitudes change depending on the context (giver/recipient, oral/anal)? - no problem here Zero sexual or relationship history - If he is older than 25 it would be a dealbreaker. Relationship history but no sexual history - it would most likely mean he is asexual or very religious, and both are dealbreakers. Extensive sexual history but no long-term relationships - depending on how…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 08:03 AM
2

I will not have children
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 07:55 AM
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You are confusing some things. Yes sex tends to strenghten the bond between people, but for many there has to be a bond in the first place to even consider having sex. Infatuation often starts with looks, but it is so fickle it can disappear in an eye-blink, and often does so when a beautiful person opens their mouth and ends up being stupid/hatefull.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 09:32 AM
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Not only lucj but it also depends to whom you are attracted to. If you like party girls your chances of a good LTR diminish. Also if someone is giving vibes of being a good ONS, then he will pull girls also interested in ONS and not LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 12:13 PM
3

FDS are as eveil and bad as RP. I'd never date neither of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 10:41 AM
2

Easier but not too easy. Of course there is the halo effect, but also more people are going to be anvious, creepy stalkers etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 08:13 AM
2

From my experience - I am a fit and feminine woman (5'2 feet , 110 pounds, I have long hair, wear high heels, dresses, light makeup, look about 10 yeras younger than I am, I work out on a regular basis etc). Of course I like my men to be fit and have good hygine and a sense of style, but the fact is I am a huge nerd myself so I like a nerd for partner. My SO and I play boardgames together, we play on our PS4 and PC together (or just cheer for each other), we watch nerdy movies, have nerdy hoem d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 07:41 AM
3

Is sexual promiscuity/polyamory/OLTR so important if it just a want?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 12:08 PM
5

My Prince Charming definitely chose me, so it was worth having high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 06:58 AM
1

Are you asking about someone old fashioned or chivalrous? Becouse you ask one thing and describe another. I don't want an old fashioned guy, as I don't want kids or be a stay at home wife. I want someone who is gentle and can lent me his jacket but I do not want a men to provide for me - I am a person not his toy to feed and clothe.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 01:56 PM
1

She looks amazing and healthy. But I dod not even knew she lost weight. I don't give a f***about celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 01:21 PM
1

Why do you cite US law, when I stated I was not grom US and we have different laws?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 05:27 AM
1

I thought Chad is about loooks and frame and that he can do whatever he wantsno matter the opinion of women or other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 04:35 PM
1

By trying to point the guilt in a hypotetical situation solely to the woman, you are missing my point. Sexlessness is reason for breaking up/divorce but only if the circumstances would allow to work on the source of sexlesness and one party does not want to work on them. If a woman would let herself go and thus not wanted to have sex, andwould be ok with it for months it would be grounds for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:57 PM
2

The situation OP is talking about is: she does not want sex. Of course no one should let themselvs go, but her letting herself go would probably not lead to her lack of libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:42 PM
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I guess it all depends why the lack of sex is occuring. Has the men let himself go (dadbod, lack of hygine, sloppy clothing)? is the woman seriously sick (meds decreasing libido, stitches after surgery etc)? Have they both/one of them fallen out of love? Real life is often full of gray areas, and sustaining a healthy sex life is the work of the couple (both of them) and not one person. That said if the lack of sex is not connected to anything and nothing works to make the situation better, and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:25 PM
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I am not the person you are responding to, but well, where I live the assets before marriage, all inheritance etc are beklonging to the person who got it, and do not fall under "shared assets". Also I would like my partner to inherit without tax the flat we live in etc (so like the opposite of divorce rape). I have my own money, own flat, own car and really marriage is for lower taxes, inhertiance in case of sudden death, hospitalization and to ease some formalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 10:01 AM
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Same. I don't want any engagemnet, any ring, I do not want a wedding dress, nor a wedding party (ideal is eloping with just witnesses). I wold marry for the legal benefits (taxes, making sure my SO would inhert things from me without taxes, medical rights). Having a fancy dress up party is the least appealing thing I can think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 07:03 AM
2

It is illegal to dictate what emplyees are allowed to do and what not as long as their relations do not have a negative impact on the company. America is really messed up in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:59 AM
1

I would not punp and dump because it does not feel appealing to me. I do not see any value in it. Maybe it would change, were I a male, but the thought experiment was to be me just in male version.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 06:57 AM
2

So as I said I would be Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 08:57 PM
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I have the loooks and do much more, you would not believe. Of course it is easy to get laid as a woman IT is do easy I do not put any value on it. But the level of guys wanting to commit to me is the real tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 08:31 PM
0

Chad but with a good heart. no pumping and dumping.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 06:58 PM
5

Youngest are about 18, oldest about 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:27 PM
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If a person saying that means really "I am shitty 90% of times so if you don't like me like that you do not deserve the good 10%" then it is shitty. But if it means "I am a good person 90% of the time, but I have my bad days, so please do not judge me by them so much" it is just stating a normal life truth - people have bad days.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:25 PM
10

I am not from America so probably the social dynamic is different, but I do not know many people who have dates online. My married friends, or those in LTRs mostly met their SO at work/school/through hobbies etc. There are people who have tried OLD from time to time, but it was mostly a disaster. Most high quality people dont do OLD and if they do it is not through Tinder or IG but professional match-making dating sites.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:17 PM
2

People give me usally the 21-25 age range so I still do get the horny ,broke ,college guy style of attention, but I also know more mature men im their 30's and 40's who also give me attention and are definitely better quality. Though I still chose an a bit younger guy for an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 02:48 PM
14

F >30 here. My dating options increased on quality. No change in quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 12:31 PM
1

All acts where penis or vagina were touched with any body part of the other party.no matter if drunk or lasting 30 seconds or 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 09:35 PM
3

I am over 30 and would take the pretty boy over a masculine men. Lean body, clean shaven ( facial hair is mostly a turn off) hair cut short (but on the longer side of short), looking younger than they are. Like Paul Rudd or Keanu Reeves without beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 01:51 PM
1

But you are awar,that RP advocates for abuse? Dreadig, nexting, manipulating, gaslightning, behavioristic conditioning... all this is hallmark abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 09:49 AM
0

Specially for you: You're confusing preference for value. Preferences have much to do with value. Because the real value is the one you give to something. I do not care how much a designer dress is calimed to be worth, as I would not give a dime for it if it is ugly. And the other way round I would give more money for a no-name brand that I happen to like very much. It is the saem for the dating market. You can tell yourself that you prefer fast food over Michelin 3-star, but that doesn't mean f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 01:12 PM
1

I do not think any of your points are wortk addressing. Thinking about bullshit wil not make it less shitty, it wil still stink.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 12:38 PM
1

You could not be further away from the truth. But I get that some men have to maintain RP belives in order to convince themselvs they are high-value. if they new the truth they would be miserable, so they live in this fantasy world, where they are the kings, and all females are bad and delusioned. Whatever it takes to remain sane.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 12:22 PM
1

Of course high value is subjective, as it is also dependent on the culture you were growing up in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 11:50 AM
5

RP men go after a certain type of girl and than complain about AWALT. Also they project their own believs on women (only wanting a good looking partner, being promiscuious, lying, having double standards etc)
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 09:43 AM
1

No, because they are manipulative and immature. Fortunately they are also very easy to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 09:05 AM
1

You forget that studies show avarages, which means they are true for some people and untrue for other people. Because you know some people are liars (also men) and some not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 07:34 AM
1

I don't know many women sleeping around in LTR gaps, but I choose my company carefully. I get you, but that does not mean that every woman is on the CC. But why do men here thnh every woman is slepeing around, that is hilarious for me. I count everyone in my n-count why wouldn't i? My SO knows my body count with as much detai as he wanted to know. I know his. But again men here will argue that every woman is a liar and will downplay her n-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 07:08 AM
2

I want to married but I don't want any engagement rong, I don't want a wedding party or even a big wedding (my ideal is eloping with witnesses). Marriage for me is showing the world that I choose my partner over anyone, it is about security ( I have some helath issues so I'd love my partner to have a say when it comes to hard decisions). I also od not have family besides my parents who live in another country so I want to form a formal family with the men I love. I also want him to feel secure- …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 07:03 AM
1

Fisrt thing - woman who are now 30 or 40 grew up before social media so they are different fromtheir younger counterparts. Secondly the could have 2, 3 LTRS that failed and not be single (I have not been single for more than it takes to go on a few dates with the same guy sine 16) and was "only" in 4 relationships all lasting long years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 06:56 AM
1

Whe do men here assosiate a 30+woman with riding the CC? She could have some LTRS, she could be single and not interested in ONS - but well I am a woman so I probably lie and am delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 06:49 AM
1

I do not argue agains dating anyone - you do you. I just argue that youth should not be the only factpr to take into consideration when enetering a LTR (I od not care about ONS), and if it is it actually tells many things about the quality of the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 06:48 AM
2

Unlike men I presume, who know exactly how everything works including how women work - seems legit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 06:46 AM
1

What you describe is bring bitchy not mature
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 05:26 AM
2

They are going after me because I am hot. And Ilike to argue here because IT is a fun thing to do during quarantine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 06:55 PM
3

His first on bed, no. His first to LTR and cohabitate, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 06:54 PM
1

Greta do this Man is low value,therefore what makes him hard long enought is totally inimportnat.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:48 PM
-1

I also don't Carey how terpers define high value. so we are all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:40 PM
0

I don't see any other requirement listed really. And all the terpers here are arguing that only loooks defines value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:39 PM
0

As you when defining high value are just talking about what your stereotypical men needs for his dick to stay hard long enough to be able to take long term advantage of one girls pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:38 PM
1

So they are low value if they only bring pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:35 PM
5

Also I get it that men want good looking women. We also want good looking men. The problem is any high value men will want things besides hot and young. It is easy to look young (work out, eat good, be healthy) id that is the only requirement a men has he must be low value as there an tonnns of hot young pussy. A high value men knows he deservs more than just the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:34 PM
1

I do not shame men for their desires. I just think that some men are of low value due to them not having any standards besides young, hot pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:30 PM
11

Men who do not care at all about maturity are not high value, do their definition od high value women are of no value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:29 PM
1

Exactly the same importance are for me what terpers define as desirable in a woman. I am glad we found common grounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:26 PM
0

For me,my rating advice worked. I am smoking hot but men who value me for only this are not high value for me, and do not deserve any piece od my hottness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:25 PM
2

I get it,you think men have a hive mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:14 PM
7

I don't event know how other girls think od my SO. For me he is the hottest guy ever and that is what counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:13 PM
1

I can fathom it.I also know that every men has his taste and I do not intend to change it. I just say that men who define high value as some people here do, are just low value themselvs,but that is ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:11 PM
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Most young women are nit confident,as confidence id gained with expirience. bring feminine is also corelated to expirience (you have to know how to dress,have time to learn feminine hobbies etc) and women iin their 30 can be very hot. Also this is how you define high vale,and not men im general. You are individuals not a hive mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:08 PM
-2

No, it is how terpers define high value.but their opinion does not matter, as they are only wannabe high value but in reality, they are more pussies than any woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 05:02 PM
4

Mature as i'm knowing how the world works, knowing herself, and having life expirience. High value as with time and expirience, she knows how to dress,how to cook,bake, she has hobbies, and a better income so id able to bring more to the table than just pussy. Puree pussy is wrak as almost all women have it. For a good LTR more is needed than just pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 04:57 PM
15

And why would I want a highly desirable man? Isn't it better to be with someone I highly desire, no matter if other girls are hyped by him or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 04:46 PM
1

I also think women on their 30's are far better more mature and more high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 04:39 PM
22

Getting a RP man is the worst,that can happen to a woman, so the only benefit od knowing pills is knowing how to avoid terpers. RPwomen are a bunch od wannabe punchinbags and FDS are like incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 04:36 PM
1

Everyone should have the right to opt out of being a parent. It is not their family. Family are the poeple you love and whoraised you. Bio parents who gave you up are just some genetoc relatves, who do not want you in their lives, tey are strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 10:40 AM
1

I always thought the fathers should have the right to opt out of fatherhood, same as mothers have the right to abort. That said, I do belive a child given up for adoption should not have the means to reach out to bio faily against the bio-parents wishes. The only thing that should be provided is the bio-parents medical history (and it should be anonymus).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 10:25 AM
8

We live in a world where children are money burners, instead of an investment. Also in a world where you can by happy and occupied without rosing offsspring. That paired with effective contraception makes people think if they even want to be parents. Many do not want because there are no real benefits to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 12:33 PM
2

My parents are together since primary school. My best friends is married for 10 years and very happy, all other friends are also happy in marriage. Those with unhappy relations seem to be a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:45 AM
2

Communication does not mean that everybody is unhappy. The whole idea of communication is to create an outcome where everyone is happy. It works in my relationship. It worked when we talked marriage, it worked when we divided chores, and it works when we decide what food to have for takeout. But it works only if two people have vetted each other good, and have many alligned fundamentals.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 01:29 PM
4

There is the exredpill sub for you to check. Also RP is usually a just a phase for socially awkward Young people. Most well developer adults grow out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 06:34 AM
2

My BF is the best proof it can. But I guess it is not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 07:21 PM
1

Like that he is not tempted to go back to his RP days.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 06:01 PM
2

I am sorry but I do not get your point. Are you angry that people live their lives, as the wish? Are you angry about what stone people post on social media? I try to not be i contact with people I find dumb. I rarely use social media, I do not follow anyone except my close friends (and still I check i maybe once a week). I also do not see people bullshitting themselves into change. People rarely change, but if they do it is often sincire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 03:36 PM
1

Depends really. People often mature after realising their life choices did not gave them what they want. So again, it is hard to judge based only on one fact. Did he realise he is not happy, under went change and is commited to his new self? Or was he thinking of having kids and just calculated he would have an easier time with a different type of women, while still wanting better to be with a much younger partner? Did he change because he happened to fall in love with a woman his age, or is he …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 01:10 PM
5

Sorry. English is not my language and swiftly writing on a phone with different language spelling check, makes it sometimes awkward, if I don't take time to double check.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 01:06 PM
8

My partner was RP before meeting me. It came out in a convo we had while dating. I was curious so started my online research, and fell in the pitfall of reading all that nonsense. I had a heart to heart with my SO, as I had to be sure he will not relapse, but it seems he was healed out of it, also thanks to me. I am now here, and lurking on RP subs to drink less coffee (my pressure rises from all the dumb stuff posted).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 12:17 PM
10

Depends. Did I know him when younger? What kind of person is he now? Did he really change? What was has driven the change? Is it calculated or did he started to be attracted to different kinds of people? Too many other factors to consider for me, so I can not give a definitive answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 12:09 PM
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Few things can happen. There are bad people out there, abusers, psychopats, sociopaths, people Wit a narcistic personality. They can bring the worst out even from very kind hearted persons. Also there is a thing called personal growth, and learning from mistakes. RP likes to se it as something bad, and think that it is hitting the wall and settling, or lying. But people do change. They can go to therapy or find their own way through self-help books, meditation etc. Also there are dynami s that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 09:40 AM
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It was more like him asking me what he could do feel better and less insecure (his wife is very thin and attractive) so I told him to get in shape and start taking care of himself. He lost already about 120 pounds, found a style for himself (nordic Viking as he is still big), do he bouhy nice clothes, started grooming hid beard, bought some accesories and gained self-confidence and a happier marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 09:04 AM
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Why the hell would I say anything about looks to a coworker? But to good friends - yes. My good małe friend is in a weight loss journey,(his wife of 10 years lives cuurently due to some life circumstances in another city, so the see each other only on weekends) and yes I do encourage hon to work out, or go shopping with hon to help him style. He also helps me choose some nice outfits if I want to surprise my partner with a nice new dress or heels. I do bot have more really close male friends, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 08:53 AM
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My partner works out and takes care of himself so I don't have to baby him with basic grooming and looks. I do however point out if he wears something unflattering and as the one in charge of groceries and cooking I encourage healthy meal choices. If he would start to get lazy and fat I would point it out. He would do the same for me. In practice we both motivate ourselvs to work out regularly, make good lifestyle choices and take care of our looks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 08:34 AM
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I know. But still I was still called a skeleton especially from obese 'body positive ' persons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 01:00 PM
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I work out to be fit and healthy (no backpain, being ale to use stairs, lift things around the house). I am about 50 kg having 159 cm height, and I think it is good, buy only because I have low body fat. I do bot try to be very slim, just stay the way I am and be healthy and in good shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 12:53 PM
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The 'body positivity' moment is the cause I am called a skeleton and being ridicculed for working out. It is also the cause I have a hard time finding adult (not teenage) clothes. Thus movement is only about fat acceptance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 12:27 PM
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A woman has definitely more value than first sex. You definitely would not even małe out to the sex part as after few dated your Gross worldview would come to light. On dates I screen men on compatibility (if they ale LTR oruented, what they lifegoals are, if they want children, are the religious etc) only rare few made it past the first two dates. I am honest with my number, though I also met men who would not like to know. Also my numbers were not high shwn I met my SO, especially considering …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 07:13 AM
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I don't so not all women but as a men you sure know better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:11 PM
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Maybe to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 06:15 PM
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In my experience it is a mutual decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 06:04 PM
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I could ask the reverse. Why should a woman co mit if a man could at aby time fuck another woman? But really commitment is fucking with many other benefits. I feel sąd for anyone who thinks that LTRs are only for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 05:29 PM
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We do joke that we were made for each other, as we check our boxes and never even argue, but this is great for us. We are happy and still very in love. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:28 PM
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I can only say for myself. I don't know why women do things. I do not chase guys. If one does not want me (or does not want me exvlusivly) I justgo do other things and wait for a better guy. And yes, I try to get to know guys I find attractive, everyone does it. Why would I want to be with a guy I don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:27 PM
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Why robot?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:24 PM
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Of course they count. Why wouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:20 PM
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Fortunately I my SO checks all boxes and more and makes me happy beyond believe so thank you for your concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:20 PM
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I do not care about the height (my bg is around 5.6 even smaller). He is also not my type. Paul Rudd and Tom Holland are the closest to my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 02:00 PM
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You mean what if he is fat? - he better have a good reason for it, but I doubt he would even peak my attention in the first place. I like slim guys (you know like anime charming boy style slim)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 01:55 PM
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Let me put it differently - I do not like brussel sprouts, so I do not eat them. I have no reason not to like them it just that their taste is disgusting to me. I also don't like nonmonogamy. Of course not always, but again non-monogamy is not for me so I do not do it. You can find a partner who shares your believe, but any men willing to by with me must not sleep around. If he does not liek the idea, he is free to pursue someone who will put up with his shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 01:41 PM
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ogical support or a justification, I’m asking you for a reason. Why is it important to you? Why do you want it? There is a reason for every decision that we make. Wh The thought of my partner fucking another person makes my hurt, it pains my heart, as a wound hurts skin. You don't need any justifictaion for why it is painfull when you are bleeding, so why you need one if I tell you that my SO sleeping with anyone else hurt? It just does hurt. Also I belive people are equal in a relationship. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 01:08 PM
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I hold poetnetial partners to the same standard I hold myself. 1. I work so he must also work and earn in my salary brackets. 2. I have my own apartment, so he should at least be able to buy his own 3. I have my own car and drive it and take care of it. He should at least have a driving licence 4. I live on my own and can do all chores, he should also be able to do chores 5. I always wear nice make-up, high-heeled shoes, dresses or at least skirts so I expect him to wear shirts and jackets most …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 11:43 AM
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1.That is your opinion. 2. all non-hooker sex is for free. 3.If by free you mean with no time investment it is false, as going on a few dates and amking a good impression is some investment 4. Also only the forst sex is free. You want morethen one time sex and more than just sex (companionship, love, care, financial contribution) you also have to give something. 5. I find you views gross so would not make it past the first date mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 11:29 AM
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Because this is the way I want my realtionship to be, and taht should be reason enough. I don't have some biologic truths to support me or anything. It is just soemthing I want and if a men is not ok with it he is free to find another woman. If someone wants regular sex form me, want me to cook and bake for him, dress up for him, if he wants to live in my apartment, drive my car, get gifts and emotional support from me etc. it is one of the conditions he must accept. I do not have to have any ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 09:20 AM
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Firstly I do not see sex a product. It is just a vetting process. I meet someone, we go on dates and see if we click. If we do we have sex. Now see, there can be three scenerios: -the sex was ad for me, him or both. So we end the realtion. -the sex was good but he was in only for sex or does not want to commit - I end it with him -the sex was good and he wnats to commit we still date. It is the most efficient way. There are initial dates to see if there is any compatibility at all; it weeds out …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:21 AM
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I write from purely my perspective. After first sex, if everything was good I have "the talk". If the guy does not expilicitly promise monogamy he is out. If he says he needs time, starts bullshitting around, avoiding the topic etc - he is out. I do not need to spent my time on someone who wants his options open. So supposing he agrees to monogamy ig he still sleeps around he is a liar so he is out the second I find it out. As to why I want monogamy - I do not want to share my men. I also do not…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:56 AM
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There is no imaginable status fo rme that would excuse being an animal. I have to much self respect to allow myself to be with such a men. Agian if he fucks other women he has automatically a ststus of 0 even he has milions in his account and looks like a rockstar. I
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:23 AM
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If a men would be fucking other women it would be a dump on the spot with ghosting and blocking. Having a harem is in my eyes low-value as it only shows the men has no self-control and is driven by animalistic insticts, and I do not want to fuck an animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:03 AM
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Women do like men with good vocabulary, but they also like men who are laid back and do not brag. It is one thing to put a sophisticated word every now and then, or show off when there is an appropriate time for it, it is another to talk like a snob. Balance is your friend. Also what u/mimoxs said - type 2 is usually a fedora-type niceguy and trigger an autoresponse of running away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:00 AM
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Why do you assume people with tattoo have always mamy of tjeghm and why you assume they are nad quality? What about beautiful tattoo, or someone with just on or two, well done and meaningful?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 05:39 PM
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Not really as I guess it depends on what tatoos they have and for what reason. Some people have them for pure aesthetic reasons. Some have religious tattoos (or rrelevant to their believ system) to remind them of higher principles. Some have memorandum tattoos of a deceased parent/grandparent. Some have tattoos to remember a promise they made to themselvs or a happy/significant event (note not every significant event must be traumatising, and even if getting over trauma leaved you a helthy human…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 02:30 PM
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You would be surprised actually. I knoe quite a few thouthfull, quite people with tattoos. Also in many cases they have them ina place that is easly to cover (shoulders, chest, back, upper tigh) etc so unless you know them well, or they tell you yourself you would not even guess they have anything on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 12:33 PM
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We are not ahead as men are very likely to fake emotional attachment in order to get some ass, so women have to be very careful, and being careful does not give any feeling of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 11:46 AM
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Yes and no. Liberal as in less prone to adhere to old-fashion gender roles. That also is connected wirh sexuall liberty. But gaian it is only on average, so it does not mean that a girl with tattoos any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 11:44 AM
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I am woman so probably will get downvoted to hell, but here is my stance. I am not advetorous. I hate meeting new people, travelling, doing weird sports etc. So i look for a similar partner. He was looking for a partner like me, as he is also a stay at home, calm guy. I dated once an adventorous men and we broke off due to this fundametal incoampability. I was in agony every time he took me for a trip, insisted I try a new sport, or meet one of his hundred friends. But I also have no idea why RP…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 11:19 AM
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OLD is terrible for everyone looking for a decent partner. Men can not show their charisma, which is a great part of their attractivness. Women are flooded with creeps and stalkers, who have no value other than looks. Meeting someone in real life is always going to be easier. You instantly know if there is chemistry, you expirience all the non-visual qualities of that other person and you instantly know if you can have a good conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 10:33 AM
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No. I don't use social media. I have an FB account but do not post there, as I use it only for group chat from my language school and be able to see news posted on sites of companies I use (liek resturants, beauty salons etc). And I have an Instagram dedicated to boardgames and baking (no photos of myself). I do not use Tinder (tried itt out once and unistalled after 3 days, as the men were creepy as hell. I am in a LTR so no. Before this LTR I was in an LTR also. There was one time when i was 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 07:18 AM
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I think it is not sad it is just called being self aware of my flaws and abilities. My way of life is i cimpatible with having children. I like quite, I just have a routine or else I get panic attacks. Also I hate being aroubd people, my SO is an exception. As you see those traits make me not for for motherhood. Also Ijyst don't want children, pkain and simple. Because making an effort to the extend of being uncomfortable is something I don't like, not effort per se. I hate going out and not hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:58 PM
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Knowing what I want out of life and Knowing my limit is not sas.on the contrary. Not going in dates is not not giving a fuck. I dress up for him, buy him presents, cook, bake etc. I just do it comfort, which is great. Because everyone can Land in an abusive relationship and it is good to have realisric believes in order not to be trapped in one. Again feeling comfort able does not mean stopping trying. I try more when I feel good, because I have resources and capability to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:13 PM
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one of that is unsurpasable, the only thing that matters if you can live without one another or not. Seems you and I have a vastly different perspective. I think people should be able to live alone and be happy by themselves and then find a partner. Nope, that's just the overrational modern woman's aproach to relationship. You have children because you know deep down, that you live for each other and would want to live for your children as well. I definitely would not want to live for chidren. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 01:45 PM
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Only if the woman changes course and decides she wants a nice guy mid stream. Incompatibilities don't exist if you want to be with him and burn the world toghether. Of course there are incoompatibilities. Like having children, where to live, what religion to practice (or if any), how to spend time (an introvert will have a hard time with someone who loves parties) etc. Agreed, because people hook up to have sex, not to have children. Having children is something you do, not something you plan. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 11:54 AM
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Starting from a hot intense relationship is the major factor of future incompatibilities. In the honeymoon period we wear rosed-coloured glasses, and do not see red flags. Also many people don't talk or are plain manipulative and after yeras of dating they are schocked if one spouse wants kids, and the oter don't. Or that one person wants a wedding and the other don't. Compatibility is more than tingles and intense emotions. Tingles and emotions are required but are not nearly enough for a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:07 AM
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Why 4? Why not 5 or 6? And of course the next partner is going to be better. Why would you fail at a relationship and form the next with a worse person, or the same person? There are many factors that contribute to a failing relationship. Sometimes 2 people try but are just not comfortable, sometimes they just grow apart (people change and sometimes the directions of change are opposite in a relationship). Sometimes the partner is abusive, sometimes someone was a cheater. I agree that doing the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 09:41 AM
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How many times can you be in love? Definitely a few. People fall in love and sometimes relationships work out soemtimes don't. Some fall apart after a few months, sometimes after years. There is only one relationship that will last till death. Is being in many short term relationships a red flag? yes. Is being in like 4 relatiionships during 10 yers a red flag? I highly doubt. That is what I am trying to say all along. Pure numbers say nothing - the nuances are and the history behind them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 09:13 AM
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The problem ist, that it is really hard to judge. I don't thonk having a different partner every few weeks is healthy for anyone, but I also don't think regular ONS are healthy. It is one thing to have 1 or 2 ONS in your life, but them being regular is a red flag. I think 10 partners for every ten yers you live is a good number. Like 20 in your 20's, 30 in your 30's etc. Minus the time a person was in a LTR. (like say you are 25, but you were 4 years ina LTR so the n-count would be 1 for LTR plu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 08:51 AM
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I heard about the Red Pill and thought it is hilariously shitty. That brought me here and I stay here because I like reading about other people beimg angry, cringy and stupid. It makes me appreciate my blissfull lige more. It is the same as me enjoying incel cringy things. I am fascinated with people who are miserable because of their own actions, and in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 08:34 AM
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Let's do math! Assuming she started having sex at 17. She is in her 20's so for the sake of it I'll assume she is in the middle of the 20's range so 25. So she is sexually active for 8 years. 20 partners in 8 yers is 2,5 paartners a year so roughly 1 partner every 5 months. Does not sound promiscous to me. 5 months is plenty of time to even wait every time for the sex for more than 3 months. So I don'r really see any issue with the number. I could see an issue if that sex was careless, without p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 08:31 AM
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I am a woman and my life is heaven now. I can doy introverted stuff, work from home and spent time with my SO. I finally don't have to meet people and adhetr to socialisng norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:49 AM
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I am way better now so I would. I am gładź my SO did not knew me when I was a teen or 20 yers old, as I was ugly and bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 05:05 PM
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All of them;) but honestly I've playing boargames for almost 15 yers now and am horrible at reccomending gateaway games, as I do not play them. I suggest you go to r/boardgames and ask there for recommnedations. I love games that are overcomplicated and take up to 6 hours to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 07:57 AM
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The only times I am envious of men are when I am on my period.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 06:51 AM
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Few reasons: If the men approaching looksdangerous or the setting is a secluded area and getting dark - I am simply afraid. Afraid he will rob me, rape me, stalk me etc. Assuming neither of the above is true, I simply am very introverted and do not like talking to people. So I respond only if it is obvious form the beginning that someone is aking for help/directions. I have far to often experienced guys hitting on me in such situations. Offering coffe, asking if I have a boyfriend, kneeling and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:19 PM
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Actually great. We both work from home (but form separate rooms) so our routines are not so different from before. We are both nerdy intorverts, so after work we do our own hobbies (gaming, painting, writing, readingetc.) or we play boardgames or PC games together or watch a movie. We are less stress from work, as we do not have to interact with other people. It is actually pure bliss :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 01:22 PM
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Yep, good ol Poland. I know not a single woman who was better up after divorce. Mostly they end up with kids, no child support, no alimony and social stigma.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 01:17 PM
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U.S.A. is not the only country in the world, you know? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 01:17 PM
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Easter European one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 12:00 PM
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The only statistic for my country I know is that 80% of people who are supposed to pay child support- do not do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 11:56 AM
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I never thought about chores as feminine of masculine. Maybe because my mom was the breadwinner, when my father was a stay at home dad and just worked for soem periods of time, when it was convininet for both of them. I was always tought to both cook and use a hammer. I am able to do repairs and to do laundry. Chores are chores and you have to do all of them when you live alone (or at least be able to hire a professional to do it for you). The things you listed as manly do not sound masculine to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 10:45 AM
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I didn not have the issue, as before moving together we made a list of chores we did when living apart and decided on our approach to them and spliiting them. Id something new arises we decide who's job it normally is. It goeas mostly like this: Me: cooking, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning bathroom and toilet, grocery shopping, paying bills, and taking care of the car Him: dishes, vaccuming and floor sweeping, taking care of plumbing (we have a faulty shower plumbing that needs to be cleaned out …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 10:11 AM
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Anyone who bases their view of real life on movies, especially animations, is a tad retarded. Disney is for enjoying the magic, knowing it is all a fairytale.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 08:40 AM
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It also depends on the way of life of the girl. I get approached when I am out in public, case being even without the pandemic I did not like being out in public. I do not go to clubs, I go to pubs maybe 3-4 times a year when a close friend asks me to join. I do not like hot weather, or the beach, so I do not sunbathe. I have facebook, but I do not post there (I use it only to keep in touch with friends ans have acces to informations form my language school etc). I have instagram but only post p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 08:37 AM
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No all things in life are about attraction. Some are just about being adlt and doing what is required. Chores are unfortunately a part of life and they have to be split. How - that depends on the involved parties. I live in a big city ina flat. here is no yard work, no wood chopping, no regular repairs to be done. So we just have the cooking,cleaning, washing chores and we split them. Does it make my SO more attractive-no. Does it make him less attractive - also no. Splitting chores just makes u…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 06:53 AM
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I call it the "building up asshole effect". In most cases the resentfull praty has been bbuilding up those feelings for a long time, but the asshole party dod not care/notice and then acts surprised by the "sudden change"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 06:44 AM
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Do I have morals - I like to believe I have. Does it mean I never did anything wrong? No. But I always tried to learn from my mistakes and better myself. I am not harming anyone on purpose, I try to understand other people. I never was angry even at my abusers, as I aways thought it is better fo me to be in pain, if only it could spaer other peopole from expirencing what I have. But I do not feel superior. I am a mortal like any other person, with my flaws. Wrong is anythng harming directly or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:29 PM
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I am all for paper abortions, as I think it is unfair women can force men to play daddy or pay child support. But it would have to be cleverly arranged. I'd say a written agreement stating what would happen if the woman gets pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:18 AM
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A week is to short for any gender to get a decent partner. If by decent partner you mean looksmatch for sex Ivd be smashing because I am georgous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 08:00 PM
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If most people are ok with low standards it is good for them. I am not and well 1 in 100 guys is the rate for witch i meet people who do not get on my nerve after 3 hours. For an LTR I need much more than that. Hell O need more for a decend friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 07:58 PM
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Maybe yes, maybe not. Definitely would like it better to be a catlady than with someone who is only good enough. And judging from my life I would be a Cat lady for a long time, which would be better than a medicore relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 03:42 PM
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Co sidering that I found who I was looking for, I highly doubt I am too fussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 01:13 PM
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I met a lot of people, had a fww LTRs and net only one person I am decently cimpatible with. No, the are kot lots of cimpatible people out there, there are a lot of good enough people, but this not what Iam looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 11:58 AM
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Some men and some women definitely think this way. Personally as ling a certain money treshold is met (the men has a job and is able to support himself) sex becomes way more important than money. I can earn my own stuff if I want something but definitely am not able to have satisfying sex with only myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 10:02 AM
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Thank you internet stranger. It was some time ago. I am in therapy, and in a good relationship. It all seems just a nightmare now, though I still feel the damage done to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 08:44 PM
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Banged my head repetitivly on the hard kitchen floor, bit me till I was bleeding, cheated, controlled everything I did (made sure I was not eating more than 800 calories per day), always told me I was fat (I was 45 kg) and many more. But yeah, women are evil. Was average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 08:38 PM
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N-count is somewhat imporatant (details below) I would not consider LTR with someonw who has a much higher n-count. ~100 is very high and would mean the men is used to changing his girls every occasion. I am over 30 so I'd note LTR a virgin, because I want my men to have some expirence. The sweet spot for my is someone who was in some LTRs before and was not cheting in them, an in between had maybe 2,3 new partners a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 12:39 PM
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As long as you are single there is nothing wrong with exploring. If you are in a commited, monogamious relationship exploring just means cheating, lying and baking a promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 07:18 AM
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No. I was ugly, emotionally unstable, poor and an outcast.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 06:52 AM
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We stiil work but from home. We never really argued and we do still not argue. We are both introverts so whenever one of needs alone time we just both revert to playing single player games, reading, painting or whatever else we enjoy. It is as great as ever only I am a bit nore anxious about the whole pandemic situation. All in all we are as happy as ever relationship wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:57 AM
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How much younger? 2-4 years younger I see no problem, as the diffenrnces in my age group are not that big. But if you are asking about 18 year old boys - well they mostly look like children and they are immature. I can say if they are pretty or good looking, but it is more admiration for something pretty like a painting with no sexuall context.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:53 AM
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What I bring- job with good income, car, flat. I cook, bake, do basic sewing. I am sensitive love cuddling, holidays and romance so I try to always think about occasions and I bring lots of affection. My partner - has a good paying job, cleans the house, is the logical component in our relationship and remembers about chores and obligations. I am the main cook and driver. He is the main cleaner and takes care of finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 08:17 AM
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Reddit is especially America - centric. The assumption that there are many single moms, that women can't cook, that praties and drugs are a nirmal way of spending times for teens. The college culture, fraternities. Availability of contraception, abortion, minimal empluyee rights. It is all like whole other planet for me. But I know one thing - I would not want to live there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 01:12 PM
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I am an introvert, so I do not feel a much intense desire to socialise. But I do have 2 best friends, one małe and one female. I also had a fww feiendships throughout my life,tjat eneded naturalny for one reasonor another. I am quite likable and have many aquaintances at work, with whom I am friendly and go from time to time for drinks outside work or for a lunch break. They are both genders. Both my best friends have a different view on dating. She likes the thrills of new relationships ans is …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 02:23 PM
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Well yes some relationships are shitty. Also yes, we desire companionship, but there are many ways to obtain it, and being in a relationship is just one way of doing it. I think that no one should be in a relationship, untill they learn how to be happy with an by themselves. a relationship ios so much more than a refuge from solitude, as this function can be held by extended family members, friends, social clubs etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 03:31 PM
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Actually I was happier single than in a shitty relationship. Also I am not arguing against OPs thesis. I totally agree that older women have higher standards and good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 03:13 PM
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I am not single and I tell you one thing - if anything I have set my standards higher. And if I ever end up single I will also not lower my standards, because I am better on my own than with some medicore partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 02:15 PM
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Again, if the only thing holding a men down would by me having a child with him, I would be gklad if such a men would move on. He has also nothing to hold me down, as I have my own money, car, flat, friends and everything else. We are together for more complex resons than "having a baby". We have a blast in life and if he is menat to leave me, then it will heppen rerdless of me popping out a child. And if this happens I would be glad tehre is no little human still binding us together. Not every …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 12:06 PM
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Why would I risk loosibg him when he is dwadxsetiys, about nie having kids and got snipped years ago? And even if it would be his choice and an incompatibility. I don't care what you think my trump card is, it is definitely not the ability to be an incubator. If a men sees me having children as my greatest asset, well he knows where the doors are. I would also not date any men with former children or anything like it. I get thet some people want to be aorents but they ca find a compatible parter…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 10:27 AM
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I don't want kids, earn my own money, have a car and my own flat why on earth would I lower my standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 10:04 AM
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That is why I found a men who does not want children. I don't want to be with a make who sees my value as an incubator only.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 09:58 AM
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No, but I don't get an ego boost from being approached anymore. When I was in a bad state of mind I felt that every attention form any małe of female is an ego boost. Now I find my ego boost within me and exteral validstion is nice but nothing special. My value is within me not in the perception of my body in the eyes of some random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:48 PM
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Woman here. Guys would be surprise how much maintanance Goes into a woman body. The waxing, shaving, moisturizing, pi king out clothes, making Make-up. Then they would be surprise ld how painfull PMS and menstruation can be. How painfull sex without foreplay and proper wetnes scan be. They would be devasteted, if they end up in good looking body, by how much people are dicrediting their intelectuall capacities. And they would be angry that casual sex is seldom anything good as most men suck in b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:45 PM
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I am a woman. I have a very high sex drive, always had higher than any of my partners and I do not empathise with wining men, because people don't die when they can not get sex and there is always masturbation,porn, and toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:40 PM
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It is not the same. Working out, doing Make-up require effort, so if it was ubattractive people would stop doing it. Overeating and being fat do not require effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 09:51 AM
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If women would start being repulsed by fit men, most men would stop working out. It is the same logic. Of course we do things to appeal to the other sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 08:14 AM
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How big are her boobs now? If she has them flat like fried eggs it is a different story, than her having double Ds and wanting them huuuge.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:54 PM
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Dress good (according to your figure in clean and fitting clothing). Get a good haircut. Go to barber and decide weather your face is better without a beard or with one (and if with, gets it also well trimmed and shaped). Be clean and helathy - start a skin care routine, use perfumes, shower regularly If you wear glasses get a fitting pair. Work out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:52 AM
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This is the problem with "Tinder experiments" is that Tinder is made to appeal to people who put great value into looks and/or are looking for ONS. Those categories are by definition more likely to bear with an impolite good looking person, as those people are in the range of what they are searching for. People who put more value into personality, hobbies and values will look for partners within their social circle, in their hobby group etc. Tinder is a biased app and wil give biased results.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:49 AM
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Actually no. I get two-threw pimpkes every time before my period due to hormobe changes (many girls have it like it). Circkes around eyes after hardly sleeping are also natural. No one od Perfect at all times. People have allegies, bad days, hormobe changes and it does not mean not being reasonably healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 05:24 PM
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I think I am stunning with and without make - up, as I only wear the make-up no make-up look (to mask the ocassional pimples or dark circles under eyes when I am sleepy. I do not change my features or bone struvcture or colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 02:56 PM
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First reason - divorce is not so frawned upon, and women entering fully the workforce means they can afford living after a divorce. Second reason - people confuse love with "being in love" and often forgo any rationality in terms of relationships and end up with someone they have the hots for but no deeper compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 08:17 AM
1

I baked him his favourite cupcakes from scratch. Also he got a boardgame he really wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 01:21 PM
1

We watched a movie at home. On Saturday we gave each other small gifts, I baked stone cupcake and we are chilling playing board and PC games. Ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 01:16 PM
1

Being dangerous is a turn off. Why on earth would I wnat to be with a dangerous guy? I would fear him myslef and it i snot something I should feel in an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 03:18 PM
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Guess everyone has their own taste. I despise aggresion and violence. Even getting into a fist fight (eillingfull, being attacked is different) is reasonenough for me to dump a guy (did it. A now ex of mine got into a fight with a friend who hugged me. I dumped his silly ass o er it soon after). Violent men can be violent towards me. Being agressive or just physicslly strong is not dominance. Dominance is wits, posture, attitude not bruiding some rando over something silly (and anticipating the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:42 PM
3

Why should this be important?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 12:37 PM
2

Dealbreaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 11:51 AM
9

Kurt Cobain and Axel Rose in his youth were way hotter than Jason Momoa.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 08:10 AM
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Everyone wants to look good and be smart and better. People, who do not usually end up without relationships as everything need effort. Women are paying for clothes, make up, beauty salon treatments, hairdressers, fitness classes, dieting etc. We also "pay" for getting dates and relationships. A problem occures when one person in a LTR puts way less effort into the raltionship, than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 08:08 AM
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No. I don't want children so I don't give a damn about fertility. I am still Hot AF and can get any men I want. I will continue with it till I die. Taht is my expiration date, and even then probably some Chad necrofile would still bang me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 10:45 PM
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Based on what I know about him I would not, as he was a terper back then and mysogynist. But if he was the way he is now in his 20's I definitely would date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 08:35 AM
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I don't care about abs and I don't care about his net assets. I care about compatibility, similar life goals etc. He should have a job to be able to participate in household expenses and he should not be morbidly obese. The rest that counts is a pretty face, good heart and similar hobbies + world view.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 08:33 AM
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I can only say for myslef. I have my own apartment where we live with my SO. I earn money so I need him to earn just enough to contribute to expenses. I expect him to play video games as it is also my hobby and I like to do hobbies together. His dreams should allign with mine: so no kids, a dog, moderate social life and a stable job.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 03:39 PM
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Oh if you mean the first move, than it was like usally 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 06:13 PM
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Actually my SO and I, we approached each other after some months of casual knowing each other. But none of my relationship started with approaching, it was always that we knew each other due to some mutual friends and environment and it evolve from there. I would never datę a guy who would approach me out of the blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 06:07 PM
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I am always amazed about top 20% as it suggests, that all women want the same kind of man. Which is just untrue. I am an introvert, so all extraverted men are lower on teh tier list as introverts, as I don;t want to spent my life on an incompatible LTR. There are many more charcter/looks traits that makes the top 20% different for each woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:58 PM
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I have 4 former LTRs 2 were nice and the time with them was great. With one we grew apart as we started dating in HS. With the other it turned out we had incompatible lifestyles so it eneded, but I have fond memories of both of them. 1 was forcing me into his llifestyle and was weird (but I was young and naive and desperate for love). Turned out he was menatlly ill. An asshole - yes but mostly because he did not want to treat himself. 1 was a full blown piece of shit. Showed his true face about …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 08:07 AM
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And here I always thought Reddit is for discussing things and exchanging information and life lessons. Yes I fdlt the need as I think it some kind of duty to dębu g both Red and blue pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:44 PM
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High value: attarctice, good self esteem, feminine, knows what she wants in life (be it a good job, being a SAHM etc) who is emotionally mature, low drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:42 PM
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Because aby Woman with selworth will want a men who is able to be kind, be a good father, be someone to spent life with. Dark triad traits are the opposite of it. Also girls bought up in abusive households with flock to abusers (dar triad personality) as it is the only relationship model they know
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:54 PM
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Why should I feel better about myself when I am regulary approaches by high value men and am in a great LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:52 PM
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You are mistaken,but it is ok. Great if you think that Type you are able to pull are high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:27 PM
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Having a PhD is really no idication of value. Darvtriad fetures attracts emotionally immature and unstable women. Anyone with self worth and integrity stays away from the dark triad traits as they are really of no value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:50 PM
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It works on emotionally damaged, low value women. But if it is satifying enough I guess it is good that low value men flock to low value woman. You all preach dating in yuor legue and you do it just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:12 PM
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Men approach first if they find you attractive enough. If you need to negotiate attraction and convince him to like you, you're already lost. It's over.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:51 PM
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I want to marry my SO but I don't want a wedding. Just us, two witnesses and that's it. A samll ceremony for families maybe, if it was importnat but really I would not even want that, as I hate parties, being the center of attention and I think spending vast amounts of money for one night is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 12:41 PM
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He would also loose half his posessions so I guess it is quite normal. But my experience was that during my divorce we just agreed outside of court how to spli everything. The alimony thing would be ok ig he was unemplyed for the duration of the marriage. As for children and households I don't have any opinion as I am childfree and never intend to adopt or be with a men with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 12:38 PM
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Do you think living together is essential for a relationship? or does it create more tension? It cretaes more tension only with incompatible partners. Yes, it is essential to get to really know your partner. Also, for me, dating and visiting each other are exhausting things to do, and are too mych time consuming, Living together allowas for spending quality time with each other while having time for individual hobbies. Is living together the reason for falling into a rut? Can you keep the spark …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:00 AM
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If I had to judge by how my exes, crushes etc were - then I have no type. If I were to tell now? in the looks department it would be men who look like Paul Rudd. When it comes to character - funny, nerdy and emotionally stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 01:06 PM
1

There is a big difference between being honestly and assertivly nicem and being a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 11:48 AM
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As a woman ,the more comfortable I am the more sex I want. The intimacy, the closeness, the ability to express desires, to explore kinks, to be able to trust the other person and allow myself to be vulberable and emotionall makes for a boost in sex drive, and allows me to verbailse the things that really get me going.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:28 AM
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I and SO plan to get married one day. He was never married before so for him it starts blank. I divorced over 7 years ago and treat him way better than I terted my ex-husband. Then again my SO is waaay better than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 08:02 AM
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I don't know. Didn't really like that movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:36 AM
1

I am not confusing anything. Lifting and learning "game" are only things done in order to inflate male ego and are basicly worthless when it comes to soccess with high-valyue woman. Terpers want to be abusive assholes, scoring pussy from damged goods woman, as only those kind of woman even fall for their "game" and "muscles". And scoring trash is an easy way out insted of actuall effort it takes to score valuables. This actuall effort is working on yourslef to be a better human, working on your …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 03:21 PM
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He is a jerk, they have no common interests, they have different lige doals, he is not her type, she heard bad things about him, she has other values and a dosen other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 01:24 PM
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Because you know, to be a good partner you have to put work and effort into the raltionship. And guys like RP believers just don't want to lift a finger and the more crappier men women choose, teh better for them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:42 AM
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He is very handsome and works out (muscular, always well-dressed, great face and butt) so he attention from girls but there not many girls prettier than me to be honest (size 2, long hair, double D breasts and good butt) I also work out and get attention from guys. I think we are both very good looking. Abuse is something I will not tolerate, but also I don't see ant signs od abuse in him. He is not activly dreading me, he is sweet, he takes care of me etc.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 08:30 PM
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I see your point of view and it is actually simmiliar to his. Thank you for the insight. yes the need to get married is only mine. Due to being somehow estranged with my own family I have an urge to have someone close and someone who will also be legally acknowledged as family. I will definitely give him time.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 08:21 AM
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Easy to say. I know he is a great guy, so I do not wnat to bother him with my insecurities. So I wanted to reach out to the internet for help. I have cPTSD so it is easy for me to be triggered by some minor things and to start creating scenarios. I fight with it in therapy nad am getting better but the exposure to the manosphere I had makes me extremly cautious in this area.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 08:18 AM
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I don' think it makes him a bad person. I am afraid that after some time he will get bored of being with me and only me. I am also sometimes afraid he will start using rp methods on me in a moment of panick or weakness.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 08:16 AM
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Well submissive and obiedent are not words would use. Out relationship is equal i the sence that we both want each others happiness and we communicate. And nonthreatening is like the core feature in any relation. Why on earth would I want to be with somene whim whom I don't feel safe and stable?
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 06:55 AM
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I really do not link his mistakes or anytjing like it. As I stated in an earlier comment, I keep those strange thoughts for myslef. It is more of an lingering, deep anxiety that sometimes comes to life than any actual problem I could have had with him.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 10:26 AM
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Yes, he said it not so long after dating, when we had a moment of confessing się things about our pasts. We sos it without too mamy details biur only to highlight things that could come out on the future, so better to tell them ourselvs.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 05:34 AM
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There is really boring to worry about. Wtell each other what e feel, like and dislike. We Just both hate yelling and arguing do we are civilised about it. There is no benefit in arguing, when you can discuss things like adults.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/20 05:32 AM
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We disagree, we sometimes have heated discussions but no storming off, no name-calling or yelling. We discuss things and give each other space to cool down if we start being too emotionall in an argument. We do not hurt each other with words. I think this is how healthy comunication looks like.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 09:18 PM
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We are in our 30s. Also I try not to think about how past too much and I do not bother him with my occasional fears. So I thought writing in this sub may help me.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:52 PM
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Thank you. It means much.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:50 PM
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I am not responisible od his emotions. Of course I live hon and take care if him. I have even a higher libido than him. I do not shit test or anything like it, butif he will revert and do things like dread gaming I will be out of that relationship in an eyeblinck.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:50 PM
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Thankfully he does not Police the gender of my friends, or has anything about evenings out with girls (I hate clubs or parties, or staying up after midnight, so he does not even has to be cautious). Also he does not Police my collegues, as I work in IT, and there are like 95%men at my company.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:48 PM
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You are right in many ways. I have also matured and grown. And he probably feels a pressure but we talk marriage like maybe once in few months to check if he need more time, or if there are ways in which I could somehow help him ease into this decision.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:46 PM
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I do not intend to break up. He is the best guy I could have imagined and do nich more. I come from an emotionally abusive household and have had abusive relations before, hence I am now cautious. But also I have been i therapy for quite some time now and am becomming a more healthy person.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:44 PM
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We have a good division on life chores. And we have the same views on core value as having children, finances etc. This is by far the best relationship I ever had. I just sometimes am a bit anxiuos, mostly due to past mistakes I made in vetting partners.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:41 PM
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We are in our 30s. But yes, I always tell myself it is who he is now, which counts. He also days it does not matter what I did, because he sees how I am now.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/20 07:39 PM
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Both genders. Men think they look like like greek heroes even when they are balding and have a beer-belly. Woman on the other hand think they are attractive because they behave slutty and drunk men in cluns want to fuck them. And they also think thata single trait (like being beautifull or popping out a baby) will make a men stick with them, even if they are shitty otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 10:29 AM
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He cheated so I had no interest in having sex with someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 08:33 AM
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Because guys over 25, who live with their parents usually are either unable to do thei chores (mommy does everything for them) and do not know real life expenses, or they are emotionally attached to mommy and can not make any independent decision of their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:08 AM
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I do not know how it looks like in the US. Where I love, it is worth. In case of divorce only assets aquired during marriage can be split (and that excluding inheritance) so the financial risk is minimal and proportional to the lenghth of marriage. Also being married grants soscial approval, lowers taxes, comes with social benefits (i.e. it is lamost impossible to adopt a child being a single parent, many programs are meant for young married couples). Also the benefit of being able to make medic…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:00 AM
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Look when you have a job and also have to Cook and take care if yourselv, you have to devote some time to other things. Like with any other hobby, you can not do it 100% of your free time. This is some great level of bs gatekeeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:31 PM
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Maybe it a cultural difference. Sometimes. Sometimes it was an event with just other girls. Honestly I consider myself a gamer for over 20 yers and of course małe are dominant but there are also way naore girls, that you imagine. The prejudice that all nerds Must me hermits 8s really baffling to me. So for analog a Cinema fan can not discuss his hobby with other Cinema fans?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:30 PM
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Since when are have only video games? Most video games fans I know also play other games, hence gamer not videogamer. Funny that as a girl I was at many a LAN party. Also we now gather at fun virtual reality games or at old games that are kick ass classics, but ate not supported by new gaming consoles. Most people are multidimensional. A gamer who spends like 60% of their free time gaming and the other 40% doing other stuff od still a gamer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:12 PM
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I consider myself a gamer, as gaming on mamy forms is my primary interest, as in I prefer gaming to watching movies, going to pubs etc. Still there are many other things I do, though they do not degine my as much. I work out, biut because I want to be halthy and good liking, not because it is tobs of fun for me. It is called being an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:09 PM
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Gamers can have an actove social life. Board games and RPG games require company. Also lan parties and other nerdy get togethers require you to be socialising. And gaming is usually just one of many past-time activities. I have to be presentable because I go to work, go to language school, have friends I meet and have a SO for whom I like to look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:25 PM
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I am over 30 game and do fitness because I like both. Why should it be exclusive? DO fottball players only like sports or can they have other more dedetary hobbies? It is also the case of gamers. Gamers do not spend all their time gaming we do other shit too. And it is nice to do an sport activity and then reset while gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:23 PM
2

Could you explain why?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:23 PM
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It is a hobby like any other. It has many different aspects (video games, board games, tabletop RPG games etc) and they are perfecty not exlusive to any other hobbies. Sports, music, reading, clubbing - any of theese things could be considered "not real hobbies". But as hobby is "an activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure" so it can be anything. Also not only incels game. I am a gamer and am no femcel and my BF is also a gamer and he is hardly an incel as he had his many yeras…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:11 PM
2

It becomes relevant though when considering mutual inetrests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:48 PM
2

Why? I know many gamer girls and they are not fat. In fact you mostly would not even tell that they are gamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:25 PM
2

You really think gamer girls do not work-out, shower or dress nicely?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:24 PM
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So you are not a true gamer. Geneder does not matter. If you like a hobby you find enjoyment in it (especially since games are wide - computer games (single player, MMO, made to be played with friends), board games, party games, RPG games (demanding to be social, as ou nedd people to play). IF you don't like your hobby it is not a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 10:14 AM
2

So you play games but think they are a bad habit? So you are probably not a gamer-girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:45 AM
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Maybe when she is a teen or does not have a normal job. Also it is a bit cringy to cosplay outside conventions and/or free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:25 AM
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And how does the gamer girl present herself? I am a gamer girl but I also dress in a feminine way, wear high heels, make-up. You would not tell from looks alone I am a huge geek. So the gamer aspects only adds to my SMV for gamer guys and does not substract anything from my SMV for non-gamers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:16 AM
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Yes and no. I think it is better to be femininie and like other girls on the outside - be good looking, feminine, dressed well, with good make-up and good manners. But beneath that first impression it is good to have something that stands out from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:00 PM
1

I know people tend to think their dancing is innocent. If their partners are happy with it then great for them. For me dancing is an intimate activity and it is important that my partner either shares my opinion or finds dancing unimpirtnant. I know I am biased but it contra from many of my personal expiriences. You can have different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:55 PM
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Maybe yes. Nontheless, going to clubs is really boring and it so happend, that I do not associate with people who go to clubs. Really non of my close friends like it. Stone coworkers do like clubs but I don't hang out with them. I admitt clubs seemd fun in my teens. After some time spent as adult I just find them dull and loud. And I don't see the harm in being myself and in being surrounded by people, who think alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:52 PM
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Reading, playing board games, computer games and RPGs, baking, fitness, cooking, meeting in restaurants and pubs to try new food and drinks. I get this can also be u fun to some people. There is a rwason there are so many different hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:56 PM
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For me people who go to clubs are boring. Drinking and dancing are not fun in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:28 PM
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I ma a girl and my idea of a girl-night-out involves playing board games, or RPG games or going to a pub. I would never date anyone whou would dance regulary as I do not like the activity and do not see as as apropriate for my SO. Other people can do in ther relaionships as they please, but dancing is not "innocent"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:27 PM
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Look firtsly I am in a relationship with someone who also does not like clubbing. Also I am not afraid my SO would cheat and if he would go to a club like once a year for a special ocassion (say somebody's birthday) I'd be ok with it. But I would never choose for a relationship someone who is a club-goer. If my SO changes his mind and would want to go clubbing regulary I would deem it a sign of major incompatibilities. Fortunately his firends and my friends are major nerds ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:00 PM
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When I meet with friends I want to talk to them, know what is going on in their lives and not dance to some loud music. I get it, you love dancing an so on, then find a partner who also loves clubbing and you will both be happy. Just let other people have a different opinion. I do not club, I do not dance. And I was screening for a BF who also doesn't do both of those things and we are happy going with friends to drink a beer and play boardgames. The key is compatibilty and forcing others to lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:47 PM
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Setting doeas matter a lot. I meet my friends at my home or theirs. Sometimes in a caffee or a bar with room for talking. My SO is free to do the same. Clubs with loud music, full of sexually thirsty people grinding on each other is not a good place to meet up with anyone for the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 01:44 PM
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That is reasonalble. I do not go to clubs and I chose as a partner someone, who also does not go to them. Compatibility saves a lot of trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 01:41 PM
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I get the feeling online dating apps are overrated. I uploaded Tinder once. It was just a bunch of thirsty dudes trying to score. Deleted it after two weeks. There are better guys to be found in real life :)
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 11:00 AM
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Texting does not ruin attraction. I love that my SO sends me a cute gif or text evey 2-3 hours during the day, even if we live together. Before living together we would tez every day for about 30 minutes or call each other. Constant texting in the sese of being gled to ypur phones is invasive, but showing every day affection and care is not.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 10:56 AM
1

Over 30. I live in a big European city. Get daygamed about every second time I go out of home. Turn them down 100% of times. I know I am hot but I am dedicated to my SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 08:32 AM
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Usually not, as I have a bigger libido. I turn him down when I am really unwell and my back hurts or when I have an infection.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 01:31 PM
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He is compatible with my lifestyle. Hehas similar hobies, he contributes to our household (chore division), he contributes to household expenses, he gives emoonall comfort to me, helps me in being a better person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:42 PM
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If sex happened and there is no commitment right after I just stop seing that guy. I do not need anyone wo is not instantly and deeply attracted to me and only me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:39 PM
1

I am intomenwho share my hobbies. Weather thae are traditinally feminine or masculine once.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 02:15 PM
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I don't know. But he Must Be a terper. Ugly, dumb and thinking he is some kind of sex God
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:48 PM
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You are aware that most meds are taken for a finite amount of Time? But your pov is great. Terpers make terrible LTRs sp good there are foolproof methods to trigger them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:15 PM
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Cutting or aytempting suicide os not attention whoring it is most often a result of imbalance of brain chemicals, that after meds and therapy can be healed like any physical desease. Tats can be a symbol of love, a won battle a cured desease. Fortnunately dumb terpers see scars, tats etc as Red fkags, so it is great to have them, to weed then out from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:02 PM
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I am form Poland. And well yes I think the man should be able to provide, but I sure as hell want to be independent. SO and I have a joint account and we both contribute to it. In public places he always pays, but from the joint account, not his own. I would never ever allow myself to be dependant on someone elses money. I have seen to many women without education or jobs being left for younger models and not being able to provide for a good life for themselvs, except social wellfare, if the had…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:07 PM
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Maye I am biased because I earn good money meself and would never be ok with being on the mercy of a men. And my female friends are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:58 PM
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W - 31. last week. The general rate is about every 2nd time I am in a public neutral space (like mall, public transport etc. - I travel by car and order things onlne, so I am out in public about 1 time per week). In clubs, bars etc every time my BF goes to the bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:49 PM
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Usually the bills are split. Also a single woman, especially with children can get from the state more money then the average pay of a men is. So no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:47 PM
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I am 5'2 110 pounds, (US size 2 with double D breasts and a quite nice ass) I dress in a feminine way (think of skirts and dresses in the style of 60' and the ocasionall rock girl look). I get hit on in bars and clubs, but I just do not attend such places as they have nothing to offer. Men chat me up, and the ocassional freak even tend to get to knee in front of people on the tube and say how lovely I am. But except of awkward moments of unwanted attention and the iccasional stalkers there are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:55 AM
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There was a time when I had depression, anxiety and overall poor mental health. In those yimes I was attracted to the dark triad. Now, after therapy, after ome time on meds and after healing I find non of the "dark" features attractive. I am no longer drown to destroy myself so I also am attracted to kind, good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:29 AM
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I do not feel any physical threats. Unlike feminists I do not feel like every men is going to harm me or rape me. I therefore do not feel more or less attracted to big men. What is importnant to me, is that my men should make feel safe psychologivally, so that I can be myslef, so that I can relax and do not have to tiptoe my way around him wondering if he will dump me for whetever petty reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 09:07 AM
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I read that in a good relationship the give to take ratio should be 60:40 with both partners aiming to give 60. Frommy perspective - the love and efforts should be equal. And not in absolute measures but in balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:57 AM
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I feel about them exactly as about any other men. Tey can be good or bad, in shape or out of shape, intelligent or stupid, funny or boring. Depands on the men. People tend to be better in relationship with ae but only if thet have the ability to learn from their own mistakes. Men who are 30+ and are only chasing young pussy are not LTR material. Also many men have wifews and families. But those who are left if we exclude the above groups are usually vey dateable. Also I prefer men my age give or…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:55 AM
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Never. Only monogamy. I don;t want to sleep with anyone other than my SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:09 AM
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OMG you really think there is not a single woman in her 30's being in a realtionship out of love? Relationships without love are not worth anything The send 1 ;) - The same can be told about men - older claim tobe divorced raped already, often have children form previous partners and if not they are wannabe careless pussyslayers. 2.My forst date with current SO was a walk in the woods and eating some strawberry cream waffles. If a woman takes care of herself she can look stunning. Men have more …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:09 AM
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People are bad at communicating because we are not tought how to do it properly. There are no assetivness lessons so assertive people are often percieved as rude and people who want to be assertive often are ryde due to mistakes. Also there seems to be no win-win sutuation, if a woman does approach and voces her needs she is a slut if a men does it he is a creep, If a woman does not do anything she is a cols hearted B***, a men in that same sutuation is a pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:17 AM
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I always communicate my need and expectations, because i know there are poeple like you who somehow think that everyone else shares their believe system, so they do not need to start converstaions about important topics,
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:13 AM
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No. I do not need months of dating. Actually usually about a month of dates was fine to detrmine if a parter is right for LTR (am not interested in FWB or any other arrangment). Also after the forst sex there was always talk about exclusivness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:10 AM
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Everyone should be upfront about what they want, don't want and about things they are not sure about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:27 PM
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Actually I always found it the other way round. Do not communicate with men. They either get cold feet when yyou want something serious, or get offended you do not put them on a pedestal. Only the normal and fun men are ready to Just name what is going on and stick to it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:15 PM
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Sleeping with, dating someone who sahres your views on the relation is great. No matter if it is a ONS, FWB, DINKS, living aparat together or marriage with kids situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:14 PM
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31 so maybe I'll still count ;) I met my SO at my workplace (though he was already decided to change companies before asking me out). In the last few yeras I have been asked for a number/date etc by coworkers, people in bars, restaurant, in the shopping malls, the underground, buses etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 08:09 AM
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No. I know a guy who does Such shoots and he is a sex obsessed creep. I also dated a wannabe photographer who loved taking photos of women. Turned out he also fucked them in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 12:50 PM
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I am a woman. Solid 8. Good 9 when I really try to look my Best. RP is for wannaby alpahs who like to plate low value women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 01:38 PM
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I have only seen those things happening online. I have nerdy intersts since I remeber. Got into D&D when I was 10, also about that time I discovered computer games. Later I got into board games. Am a Star Wars fan since 5, love the sci-fi genre (fantasy a bit less), superhero movies etc. I never expierienced gate keeping irl. I played competitive pc games and the boys were well boys. I fought wit them, I used swear words and was hyped and angry at about the same things. I am A DM myself, and I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 07:57 AM
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Lookin for anything in a Club will only bring trashy value. Which is ok trashy men find there trashy women do this kind does not bother anyone outside their groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:19 PM
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Wiem low value Woman probably yes. Those more high value look for more in terma of appearance. Also shirts and suits don't have to be boring accountant style.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 05:18 PM
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So you must have had many ONS with men to speak with such authority.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 04:01 PM
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They are different women. I do not know which is better as you wrote nothing about their moral choises.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:08 AM
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That is pure nonsense. For a ONS a men should be hot and well dressed. There s no fun in unpacking even the hottest dude if he has a black V neck (not to mention that V-necks are gay as hell)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 08:07 AM
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I think the person claiming it is a moron and then I go about my life. There is no point in beating myself up over a statment form a random internet starnger. I am happy with my life, have my goals and that is all that matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 08:43 AM
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I got to know my SO when I was 29. I am over 30, childfree, I take care of myslef. I got myself in order, know what I want, have money to achieve my goals. I feel young, have a younger boyfriend and am in a much better place ten in my teens or early twenties.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/19 12:25 PM
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Change yea, but it is not predetermined if for the better, or for the worse. Having many partners can make you addicted to having always a fresh body in your bed, but it may also teach you what you want and need, especially for women as we must learn our sexuallity in order to achieve orgasm during piv, or any other sexuall activity. Having more partneres also showed me how sepcial sex with the person I truly love is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 12:23 PM
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Someone who goes clubbing regulary (like once a week or every other week, monthly) also someone who enjoys the clubbing scene. I personally hate clubs and would only date someone who only goes there on occasions like a freinds birthday. Luckilly my SO dislikes cluns to and we have not been to one neir=ther together nor separately from when we started dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 09:02 AM
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She has a fat ass and tights but that can be appealing to some.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 08:55 AM
1

Face: I use special cleaning cosmetics, creams. I do facemaks, peelings. I do my Make-up (using about 15 to 20 different products) , had a nose job done and am finishing wearing Invisalign bracers. I use lip balm a few times a day Hair: I wash it every other day, I use exchangably two condiriobers and regulary do hair masks and oils. I do not use a dryer, get them regulary trimmed and brush them 2 times a day worth a special brush. Body: I shave regulary, use body scrubs and lotions. I work out,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:45 AM
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I am childfree so children are off the table. But I would not be in a LTR without cohabitation. Cohabiting means helping each other out in everyday life. It means taking care of each other while being sick. It means easy access to sex and intimacy. It means less planning and less strain in our daily schedules. For me being in an LTR means being family (in my opinion you do not need children to have a family). Also I would not want to be in a LTR without the prospect of marriage. Where I live all…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 11:26 AM
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A mam should show emotions, be caring, gentle when needed, like cuddling and don't be ashames of liking sweet things and gestures. I do not care if he cries. But he should be masculine on the outside, be a shelter when needed, dress in shirts and suits, be clean shaven and Wear his hair short. He should be able to help in Javier task, but not force his help, when it is not needed. I am more classical feminine, so he should be masculine and a gentle an but not a doormat. A good balance, that is w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 08:00 PM
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Unattractive women do exist as well as do Unattractive males. Also again, both genders can change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 02:18 PM
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It sos not happen to me, or anyone I know. Nie it happened the other way round, so Boys who would not date me inny youth, hit on me when I was older - why? Because I chnged. I changed my looks, I started being fit, Itook care od my mental state, gained confidence. People change. Someone for the better, sometimes for the worse. And those change affect their desirability.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 11:58 AM
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I am not vege but I wish I could be (can not due to allergies to varipus Plant based foods) I do not approve of guns and thank fully live where owning one is illegal without a hard to obtain permit. I do not feel safe around people taking a liking in killing. It should ne a sąd neccesity and not a prpde sport. I have more problem with a soldier taking lives then him being gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 02:08 PM
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Yes. Nobody is that special that I have to out up with things I do not approve. If not this men then another. Why waste time for someone who would treat me as a plate and not give his commitment? It is the same philosophy for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 09:33 AM
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Sorry but a guy with FWB would not be ok. I don't want a male slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 09:17 AM
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I know that hunting is necessary. But would never date a hunter. Other jobs/hobbies are also essential/beneficial but I would never ever date people who do it: sex workers, porn stars, doctors, hunters, soldiers. I am allowed to have my preferences when it comes to whom I am dovoting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 08:06 AM
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That is sad. Skiing is just a sport. Piloting sounds fun and all, but you got me with robotics - that is hella interesting. I am afraid by telling only about sports and piloting you will unintentionally weed out all girls potentially intersted in robotics, as they will see you as too adventourus for them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:05 PM
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Yeh I agree, Hinding thngs is good for a one time fling. In an LTR it is importnat to be able to do thigs together and respect each other for who we are. Sadly Purple Pill is dominated by terpers, who think a woman should be sexy, should cook, give blow jobs and shut up, and theese are not foundations for any good relation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:03 PM
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To make a point, explain it and give examples - which is usually how a discussion between people work. Really readin comments in here I am starting to believe that the kind of hobby, how much you lift etc are not the core problem of reddit men trying to find a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:00 PM
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Not impressive. Total War Atilla rocking with Huns would be something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 11:16 AM
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Quantity does not equal quality. I'd guess that, the more niche a hobby is the more chances that people also into it will be more compatible. Also "male dominated" hobbies tend to be popular (board games, vidoe games, cars etc) and there are a lot more girls in tere as it would seem - most of them in hiding, as there can be a really toxic male community so it is easier and better to pretend to be makle in the internet. Hobbies also serve another purpose. They are not ony to find another hobbiest…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 11:13 AM
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I am also not talking about Snake Ladders. BF and I play things like Civilisation through the ages, Spirit Island, Race for the Galaxy, Aeon's End, Imperial Settlers, Legendary: Alien etc. I also do not think swimming in pussy/or in dick/(fe)male validation is a good think. It is better to find fewer people but more compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 09:44 AM
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I was using it, according to TRP philosophy that 30 is post-wall. Every relationship i smeaningles sin the grand picture. Also CF couples play also a role in society, as usually they took care of nieces and nephews, they were there to adopt children from immidiate family in case of accidents etc. Also I guess every human cares about his/her wellbeing so no one takes sociaety into consideration when choosing a SO, rather they choose who makes them happy. So arguing about what type of relation ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:45 AM
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As a woman: your comic book collection - why not. your love for boardgames - I also love boardgames and collecting them together and playing them togather is a great bonding expirience. your love for boardgame models, such as Warhammer and Warhammer 40K - Models are cool, and if you can paint them and make good -quality attachments you can be an artistic god video games - hell yes. I don't want a men who will not cheer for me in LoL of TFT or who would think of playing togetherr as something stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 08:37 AM
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Not every woman and not evrey men want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 03:30 PM
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What does it mean a meaningfull family? You can build a loving relationship at any age. A meaningful LTR is one that makes both parties better people, one that let people grow. I do't think a woman in her 30's is knocking on deaths door. (She is post-wall according to terpers) she has like two times as much time (after substracting childhood) for being a fully grown adult in good shape. Also you do not seem to understand the term better partner. I foud that after turning 30 I have way more chanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 01:27 PM
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Divirce rates among young people are way higher, than among older. Why should a woman risk loosing her asstes and becoming a single mom, only to make some dude happy with her youth? Also I found the quality of partners are better, the older I am. I can spot red flags, I know that ending a relationship over violating ground rules is way better, than sticking in something that does not make me happy ( a heartbreak is not the end of the world). Also it is easier to find men certain of being childfr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 08:58 AM
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I am childfree and don't regret it. I have time for my passions and for self care. But I want to marry my BF as it is important im the long run to be able to have acces to our medical tretment, to make decisions on behalv of each other and to pay lower taxes. Also where I live the assets from before marriage, from hertigaes and donations always belong to the individual and are not split in case of divorce, so knowing I will not have children there is no drawback in getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 08:12 AM
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And how would you know how many partners she had and how long she waited with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 10:32 AM
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Sometimes the friendzond guy is doing it to himself. I once had an adirere, I told him straight away I am not inetrested - 3 times on differnet ocassions and he still somehow managed to get into his haed he had a chance. Even after I was not talking to him, avoiding him and literary runing away whenever I saw him...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:46 PM
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Even, if you do seduce, the friend may still be not interested. There is no rule saying you must be willing to fuck every firned that developes urges towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 12:44 PM
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I like sex fo sex. Hookups can be great but they will never fulfill me because I have kinks that requuire trust, and trust requires time and an emotionall connection. Can sex without those kinks be good? - yes. Can it be as good, as with them?- no.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 08:51 AM
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In all technology related fields, being a good looking woman is a nightmare. Male coworkers usually think such a woman is uncompetent and got thje position only for her looks or for having sex with the boss.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 07:34 AM
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Both are intimate, both are sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 07:32 AM
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OMG that is riddiculus. I am 62,5 inches tall (ao almost tyhe avarage there) but my waits is at least 11 inches smaller and 60 pounds lighter (and still I think I could tone up a bit). Woman in America must be like monstrously obese oO
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 11:09 AM
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You were together 3.5 years and doid not get married, so she thought it will never happen and started looking for another candidate,
/r/askTRP22/10/19 07:31 AM
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Depends. Why does he work there (does he like it, had he to find a job at a young age, had he been too poor for education). Is he reasonably independednt (can take care of his own stuff, can cook, clean for himself). Is he hard working? Has he any hobbies (and if yes - what). Does he have a plan for a future, a goal he is pursuing. How does he treat me. What is his history. How does he behave towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 02:29 PM
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When you rae 20 and/or it is your first relationship - it is stupid. When yo uare aboce 30 and have some expirience in LTRs it is fine, because you mostly know by now what you want and can easly filter out bad candidates for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 07:29 AM
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81 feminine 51 masculine. Am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 01:11 PM
1

It is not perfect, and it does not decribe how exactly an individuall will react. It does however show how someone is processing information, how much intro/extraverted someone is and how they make decisions. It is not always 100% telling, as there are shadow functions, the person can be an "unhelathy type" etc. But it does say something about ideal conditions for the person. I am an INFP and my partner is an INTJ - and it is true that we both value our alone time, are no partygoers and have muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 07:29 AM
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Birth controc made my sexlife skyrocket. Not having ti be afraid of having a parasite in me only because I enjoy sex is all I need to relax and have fun. The longer I am with my SO, the better iur sex is, as we get to knoe each other better and create a sgfe environment to explore our kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:56 PM
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Well maybbe some single man could be orbiters. I simply do not know anyone who is not married or not in a LTR but maybe this is how it is after 30 when things like orbiters are a matter of high-school past were everyone was awkward,
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 07:52 AM
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I love that every male friend is an orbiter. All of my male friends have wifes they adore and yet they still are friends. I have a boyfriend whom I love to death and still am able to help my friends when they need help. That is what friendship is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 11:48 AM
2

Living aparat the logistics killed Joy and free time. We had to schedule time, commute, do each Our chores. It was a nightmare. Now we Just are whenever we need a quickck hug or anything else. We do not fight, we do not really annoy each other, have more free time for our own stuff. And we really enjoy our company.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 10:12 AM
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Why? There are handsome men who just don't click. therea rae men who are maybe less conventiobally handsome but have something in them. It is a well-known truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 12:17 PM
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Because u;less you are in a kind of open relationship you will have sex with only that person fpr the rest of your life. So she/he better be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 08:08 AM
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12+ I was not into dating anyone 15+ I liked nerdy metalheads 20+ I liked nerdy metalheads 30+ I like nerdy metalheads, but most man look ridicculus in that age with long hair, so someone who is a metalhead/biker/tatooed nerd type on days off and a nice guy in suit on weekdays.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 08:05 AM
1

I would never only stay at home. And I would never relay for the rest of my life on my partner's money. I would consider cutting work hours maybe but only if I could support myself for the momney I'd be making.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 08:02 AM
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The problem is that Tinder is for hooks up so yes-- the beauty factor plays a bigger role in that. Also it is hard to judge real attraction based on some photos, so people tend to just want what is "objectivly" good looking. It is different in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 07:55 AM
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I always believed in the men of my dreams and I found him when I was 30, so post wall according to TRP. The tricky part is that it is not a pronce charming like dream man, but a dream man for me. He may not be perfect for any other gitl, but he has everything I ever dremed of, and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 09:19 AM
1

You can socor but you have to have money for it. Poland has it's own currency and extremly low wages so buyg anything, especially health-care related in other EU countries is something only upper class, and some middle class people can afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 09:16 AM
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In theory. But the procedure costs loads of money so I don't think poor people can actually afford it. We have a avarage salary of 1000 euro per month and an abortion costs more so otis hard to save for one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 04:27 AM
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In my country abortion is illegal do some maybe, I know of some but really few and only the rich one who could buy an abortion abroad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 03:45 PM
2

Yes and no. For a ONS I looked only if the guy was hot and reasonably funny and intelligent. For LTR he must be hot, funny, intelligent, have similar hobbies, be gentle, he must care for me etc. So all that he must have for a ONS and much more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 02:17 PM
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They are humans like any other human. They can be great and can be shitty, as all humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 09:11 AM
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As a woman I can tell you that neither of them is even remotly fuckable for me. Guy on the right has and average face and ugly body and Guy on the left has averahe face and ugly body. Neither one has even any Real nice style.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 02:20 PM
4

Red Pill's and Rollo Tomassi's statements about anything concerning womaen, dating and relationships is wrong.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/19 10:06 AM
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Asking about commitment or plans are not shit tests - tjey are just questions normal people ask when they want to be in an LTR or want to start a family etc. I never heard of girls bringing up aspects of their sex life other that just stating what they like and what theit boundries are, as men do also. I do not know what you are talking about with "labels". IF you mean like boyfriend, or husband these are not labels. If yu mean alpga nad beta then there is no such thing as there are many sahdes …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 12:59 PM
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There is no such things as shit-tests. It is an imaginary trait terpers see in woman, because they only inetract with with borderline disco girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 12:36 PM
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Don't get me wrong but the ex was less alpha than my current SO. My Bf is more handsome, has bigger muscles, more girls are attracted to him, he went his own way for many years before meeting me, switching between vatious fwb. He has more values, is better at sex, more dominant etc. That all is paired with more compassion, and a kind heart, he is a good human being and is a True alpha. The a user was Just pretending to be alpha like all those poor Boys in trp threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:03 PM
1

Not dating an asshole now and was also not dating assholes "in my prime" so have to disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 01:48 PM
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According to TRP I was post-wall when I met the asshole so I don't think it is an important factor. Also I do not think I have any real baggage because I do not bring any problems form my past to my present. I do not argue with my so (we never even shouted at each other), we have a great sex life, we have separate income and spend money separatly, splitting the bills and utilities. We do heve the same religion, point of view, hobbies. Dunno maybe he is a chadlite puuting up with my shit, but he …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 10:10 AM
1

More like asshole effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 09:03 AM
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TRP advice works in short term perspective. My ex used to do things like TRP says - yes I was at first desperate to connect, as I did not know why he was distant. After 2 yers I got tired, I hated myself, I hated him and what he made me do. I hated I always felt dread, I always felt not good enough, that I always had to compete. I had no rest, I was not myself. I dumped him and it was the best decision in my life. I hate him to pieces. I am now with someone different. Loving, helpfull, someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 08:48 AM
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Bullshit. I am a polush Woman and americans, hispanics or other nationalities are not more attractive by default. To sone girls yes but those are usually the shallow once.
/r/ExRedPill13/08/19 03:18 PM
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Poland is great. I know it cause I live here :D
/r/ExRedPill13/08/19 03:15 PM
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Go on. Give her anxiety, depression and suicide thoughts. Your dread game is awesome. Keep up the good work. The more they cry, the better your game.
/r/askTRP13/08/19 09:46 AM
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Girls I know have hobbies. Pen&Paper RPG, hiking, motorcycles, painting, playing an instrument, learning languages, baking, cooking, video games, boardgames, sewing, crochet making. You name it. Apparently you guys just are attracts to the boring girls. If you meet a chick in the Club her hobbies will be clubbing and instagram. What else do you expect?
/r/askTRP12/08/19 04:06 PM
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What is a high partner count? I mean I know girls who have had relationships lasting 2-3 months, but also women in ther 30s - 40s who have been like in 4 relationships, each lasting 2-5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 09:18 AM
1

In any slef-help book actually. It does not even matter on which politacal siede you are. Pettersons books are great, Stephen Covey, Feminis literature. Work on yourslef, be better, be independent - this is common sens knowlegde.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:27 AM
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W do not want children. But if I would by some miracle get pregnant and my SO would want a paternity test, well it would depend on the circumstances. If he was told he was infertile or was snipped I would agree to the test because I know he would be freaked out. If it was a normla pregnancy like - we both are fertile and the condom broke - I would take the test and separate myself form someone who would with no real proof accuse me of having another man's child.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:23 AM
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I know it is not common, but lamost nothing chaged. I lerned to clean a bit more and he learned to text me if he is going to be later than usual. Apart form that we are just more happy and have more time alone time, as we do not have to schedule our lifes around dates and sleepovers. We do not argue and if there is a misunderstanding we talk it through. All else is just natural. Been living almost a year together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:19 AM
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Slavic female here. I found out through reddit. I think all the debates are hilarious. Terpers are socially awkward, bragging sociopaths. Red Pill Woman are some wannabe 60's housewife cult with no respect for themselvs. Blue Pillers are soem self-proclaimed SJW feminists, who twist everything in an opposite direction then Terpers. And PPD is a troll-hole with funny, pointless debates. Oh and black pill as the incel-heaven is like diving heads deep into a shitholw. I find the whole pill idea to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 10:39 AM
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Because women need sex too and if there is no one suitable for an LTR a one time fling can be good enough for blowing off steam. Whe do men fuck 5s or 6s and not only 10s?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:17 AM
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Th LTR guy must be hot - I will fuck only him for the duration of the LTR (hopefully till we death). A ONS can be uglier it is only a one time fuck I do not have to see his ugly face ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:15 AM
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II do not understand why my long term partner should feel worse than my short term partners. I pay for my own shit, I have sex with him whenever he wants, I cook for him and take care of him, he is more masculine than any men I ever have been with and yet he is sweet and supportive. If he wasn't the best of the baest I would not be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 09:13 AM
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Many MGTOW an Terpers are young folks, for whom a lady in her 30' is almost ancient. Also a woman over 30 is in most cases, stable, she knows her worht, has a job, knows what she wants from life, so she is not easy to manipulate and sets standards for her dates. And we all know that Terpers think doing anything for a woman is beta, so they are scared they will be not good enought for the grown-up women, so they prefer to aim for the not mature once.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 08:37 AM
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Hanging out with exes and old hook ups is a no for me. I do not mind old friends and hanging out one on one with them. I do not mind making new friends, but I expect to be introduced and if I get a fishy feeling I expect my partner to be loyal to my and my needs and not the friend he just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 08:32 AM
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I do not see any reason for him to ask. I use my fb account only to communicate with friends, I do not post pictures (beside my profile one), or any other private content- only once per few months I will share posts about poeple/animal missing in my area etc. I use my instagram to advertise the things I bake and cook, and there are also no pictures of me there. If he asked me to delete them I would think he is stupid or controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 08:20 AM
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From a perspective of a 30 year old, taking into account the man is also in his 30's: High would be anyting above 20 I would peobably accept 30, but only if most of it was samshed when he was a young and stupidly horny teen anything above 30 is a total no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 08:12 AM
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I do the cooking he doeas the dishes. I clean the kitchen and bathrooms he does the dusting and vacuuming. Loundry is done by whomever has time, as is feeding our pet and taking care of him. Neither one of us remembers to regulary water thla plants so they are all half dead, but somehow still live fo years.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 08:33 AM
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No. If any of my exes were better than my current SO they would not be exes. If I broke up, that means I did not see them as anyone worth my further comittment and if they broke up, it meant they were also not good for me, if they were we would be happy with each other. The alpha widow theory is one of the most ridiculus things TRP has invented,
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 11:11 AM
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1) Not submissive at all. I am assertive but nice at work and try to have it all my way 2)Some. It depends on the situation. I like being heared out and feeling that my opinions are valued, but I do not mind the men leading in many scenarios 3)Very. I am a sub 4)No. I know girls who have all the other way round. Or are dominatative all the time. It depends on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 09:29 AM
1

My mom was the one earning money and the tough one. My father is a gentle creature, who was a stay at home dad for years. I am neither PPD nor RP nor BP. I think everyone should find someone they are compatible with and be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:09 AM
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Never met a men shorter than me, so I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 07:26 AM
1

I am a post-wall woman who has slept with about ~20 ppl. I know now what i want and I loe my current SO more than anyone ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 01:56 PM
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1) No. There are men who are funny, good looking and with whom I have good chemistry but they are too incompatible or plainly too stupid for an LTR. 2)Usually the sex happens before relationship talk. But if I wa sin love and thouht of a guy as relationship material and he wanted only sex, no strings attached I would not see him further. Definitely more for casual sex. There isa lot of hot guys out there but it takes more than being hot to be a agood partner. No it means casua sex with someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 01:54 PM
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I am intorverte so I hate parties and bars and socialising. I had never problem with relation, I meet ppl through common interests. I met my SO at work. I have loads of fun, just not by going out, but by staying at home which gives me opportunities to do fun things like boardgames, rpg, video games, reading etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:31 PM
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I was 29 when I met my SO. Dating near 30' is sooo much better than when I was a teen or in my early 20s. The men are better quality, they know hwt they want, I know what I want. Dating is more fun, because we both had time and mmoney to do funny things, we had both already had some experience in relationships, so we knew exactly what our dealbreakers were, what our needs were. I was able to filter out the best candidate. And my dating pool incresed as I was able to choose between guys fro ther …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:07 AM
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I never acce[t benefits that are based on my looks alone. Men tend to be aggresive and vindicative when they do not get sex "in return".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 08:18 AM
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If a woman gets enough sleep, uses good cosmetics and has a good hair and skin care routine, if she exercises, keeps a helathy diet does not smoke, do drugs or drinks too much - so if she basically just takes normal care of herself, as any one should be, she can be beautiful for a very long time. Also as an adult one can take better care of her mental health, and earn enough to have a good face lifting done etc. The sad fact is that most woman are obese, do not take care of themselvs, drink, smo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 08:15 AM
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Marriage can be shitty deal for both sexes. You do not need marraige to have children and you do not need children to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 08:11 AM
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If it were up to me I'd have sex every other day, or everyday. But for my SO's sake I manage to live with twice a week, he has a lower libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 08:16 AM
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Sorry English is not my first language and my cell phone makes some dumb autocorrect when I try typing in English. I do not agree with your statement. A 23 year old is as likely to be better looking as somene in their 30', as likely it is to be the other way round,
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 12:43 PM
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No. Seriously there is no huge difference between 23 and 30. It is exactly as likely as a 30 yer old being more pretty than a 23 one. The amount of importance given tu purely age is hilariously funny. I would agree that a 23 woman is more likely to be more attractive than a 70 year old but then again it does not matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 12:36 PM
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I am over 30, everybody thinks I am 23 at most. I look better then ever before. The wall is just another Terper BS invetned to make lame men feel better that they do not get the women they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 12:27 PM
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I have never wanted anyone to be an orbiter, though I do try to aquire frinds of both genders. What do you mean by low value? I am flattered no matter how gives the attraction, but when I can not reciprociate I just tell it straight forward to the men in question. When I know a men has feeling for me and I can not give them back I tend to cut him loose for his own good. When I loose someone I thought was a friend but it turned out he had feelings I am sad for him a nd sad for losing a friend. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 07:53 AM
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I don't want kids so I do not give a damns about "sexuall startegy", reproducing and things like that. Seriously the world is not resolving around men's cocks and reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 08:10 AM
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so: 1. pre-selection. I do not give a single f. about wether other women find my men attractive. If I see a men who has a harem of girl friends around him I will thing he is a narcistic player and will not have a reklationship with him. 2.DOminant men? No I want a men who will be equal and to whom i will be equal. We are living a lofe together so the decisions are ours. 3. Dread game? If a men wuld use dred game I would dump his ass. He wants to be with me, then he has to text back, care and fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 08:09 AM
2

I really don't know if it even exist. I have not met a guy too short for dating yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 08:21 AM
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I don't have one. I never ever cared for the height. Was once dating a guy shorter than me ( I am 5'2) and I did not care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 06:56 AM
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No. I don't care for the height of men, nor for their muscles, but I have seen many men having very strong preferences when it came to female breasts or asses.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 08:10 AM
1

Equally. My SO is incredibly handsome, but I am a hot as hell as well :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 07:45 AM
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From some men we want only sex, pump and dump his ass because he is not good for anything else then sex. With some we want forst to establish a relation, in order not to fall head over heels immidietly after close sex. There is also a thirs group- the once we want to have sex right away but also want a raeltionship right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 07:53 AM
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As far as I know the terms he is abot 50/50. He is strong, dominate, has his hobbies, is hot and attracts women but he is also sweet, gentle, caring. He is like alpha on the outside and beta for me and would not want it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 07:51 AM
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The lie would not be needed, if men culd handle rejection. Many times I sid 'no' it was a festival of questions. The guys asked, why I am not attracted and simply saying "the is no chemistry" I do not "feel it" etc. wa snot enough, they demended to know why. So I had a few times to start a rant about how I find them ugly, and then tehre was the shaming (you do not know what attractive is, with this attutude you will never find anyone, If I change it will you go out with me). There os no good sol…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 11:49 AM
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The best startegy for women is to find a loving partner who will always take care of her and respect her. It is exactly the same for men. Age does not play any factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 10:53 AM
1

But spilitt8ing chires 50-50 is also beneficial for men. If they lived alone they would have to do 100% of theit chores, so I fail to see the logic...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 10:51 AM
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I would never be in a non monogamous relationship. I tried nonmonogamy in my early twenties but it made me miserable. That experiment showed me there er no circumstances that would make it work for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 08:26 AM
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If making a jerk out of myself had the benefit of 'gym goers' being offended and not wanting to interact with me, I am satisfied. Seriously I do not know what is so triggering for you? You have your tastes and opinions, I have mine. And actually you shousl be graetful such a jerk as me does not want to befriend you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 07:57 AM
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Great it works for you. For me it is a waste of time. And again I do not like toned muscles, or visible muscles in general so I prefer other activities and other people around me. Where is the harm in having my own preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 07:54 AM
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I do not deny your feelings. You can feel good having muscles, I can choose to date/like people who have no need of having muscles. Fitting clothes over a muscular torso is somethung I do not consoder attractive and I do not think I harm anybody with my taste. A better use for those 5-6 hours would be for me doing something intelactually more stimulating - doing some craft things, reading, playing complex board games, spending time on tabletop rpg. I thing working intentionally on muscles is vai…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 07:53 AM
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I don't want children so it wouldn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 09:18 AM
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Yes they are. Going to the gym is not helathy by definition. It is only good for you if you have a tailored work-out routine, combine exercises for different muscles, take into consideration the balance between strenght, stretching and cardio etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 02:54 PM
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People who go to the gym are certain kind of people. I do not say they are identical but they represent certain values and believes like, that going to a gym is helathy/good/interesting. And I justy happen to dosagree with them. Also I do not say that every gymgoer is looksobsessed but all gymgoers I ever knew were. Maybe there are some who are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 02:30 PM
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I am nie turned off by people caring for their health. I Just never in my life found a dateable gymgoer. And also non of my friends are gym enthusiast although quite some of them like running, dancing, swimming, cycling etc. My conclusion is thatgym goers are nie my type for I found each and every one boring. I do not understand why you try so hard to deny my lack of attraction to gymgoers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 02:13 PM
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People who to the gym are a certain kind of people. I prefer those who chose outdoor activities insted. Never dated a gym guy and I guess I never would. Yest brainy boyish men go also to the gym, ans still I never found gym goers attractive, there was someting about the health and look obsession taht turned me off. If someone hea good helath because he has interesting (and mind me interesting in my opinion, yours can differ) hobbies, that add up to health and muscles then it is ok, but going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 11:41 AM
1

No it is not. Attraction as in chemistry, yes. But still I can find a guy attractive and still not fuck him of he was the las men on earth id he is uniteresting and dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 10:42 AM
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Every time I feel jealous or insecure I loose sex drive. I am all over my SO if he is sweet and gentle, when he makes me feel desired and beautiful. He for one does not apply dread game and that is the reason I love him and would bang him every day if only he had as high an libido as I ;) My ex was an abusve red piller I broke up with him and well also we had a dead bedroom for the dread game made me dry as the Sahara. I learned to hate him and felt like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:20 AM
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Hotness is not standarized. There is the muscular jacked type of hot, the Viking with beard type of hot, the boysh charm hot, the crazy artists hot, brainiac hot. Besides hotness will never be enough. Mayby for a ONS but for more? Banging a hot dude, with whom I have nothing in common and wgo is plain dumb would be worse than using a dildo, for I wpuld have to listen to this dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:13 AM
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It is not even all about genetics. It is also about compatibility. I would not like to date or even fuck a guy with whom I do not have anything in common, and gym goers are mostly dull and boring for me, we do not have anything in common. Also someone who is obsessed over their looks, to the extense of working out every day or every other day is a turn-off. I care more about the brain and prefer a boyish look ayway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 09:07 AM
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Woman here. i do not follow celebrities, hate partying and dancing, night clubs and party life. I like nerdy stuuf, but still care for my looks. Yeh all femoids are the same. I am glad ypu will never want to date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 09:21 AM
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So I guess I am a reptilian or was secretly born not a woman, for my SO is definitely a pretty boy and I wouldn't trade him for any muscular guy. For me he is perfect and 100% my type. Jason Momoa is nice to look at but not my type at all in terms of sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 09:22 AM
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My partner has a lower libido. It is lower but not too low. We still have sex about 2 times per week and the quality is great (he gives me always multiple orgasms). Sometimes, when I am too horny I just masturbate in his presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 08:45 AM
1

I like to read any pill related sub when I am having a break or taking a dump. FUnny terpers, incels and MGTOW make me love my perfect SO even more. And they always give me a good laugh, makes the day better ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 08:39 AM
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Woman do this because there are men who just can't take "no" for a answer and are a pain in the a** So every working strategy, to get this petty types to leave a woman alone is golden.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:36 AM
1

Don't know abut Murica but where I live 24-25 is the age women and men get higher educations, their first jobs etc and start adulting. So both sexes see it is time to stop partying and, making mistakes just to see if others were right and just get their s...t togehter. I am over 30 and never had any of this "oh I am old I am never gonna find soemeone to settle" breakdown, but I do not want kids too. I have a kind, very attractive, SO, who is also younger than me and he is a good guy and at the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 08:52 AM
2

Both. I am small, slim have big eyes and blond hair, so that makes me naturally cute. I also love to hug and like stuffed animals etc. On the other hand I have big tits and nice hips. I wear high heels, fitting clothes and am a freak in bed. There are times when I want to be more cute (wearing a pony tail and cute dresses) and times where I want to seel like a real vixen with red lipstick and miniskirts. Depends on the situation ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 09:26 AM
1

TRP will never help improving communication or honesty, because terpes think that AWALT and that women ate liek children, always lying, cheating and not knowing what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 08:32 AM
1

I am more astounded by the thought process behing "high n-count= sex on firts dates". A woman could have many partners and still never sleep with anyone on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 08:30 AM
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I was cheted on, beaten, abused. My dreams were shattered but it never led to me believing all men are the same or some other bs. A man could ever only shatter my dreams of him but I always got over the jerks and hoped to finde someone trust and love worthy and I did. All RP, RPW or other ideologies are for weak ppl, who need to generalize about the other sex in order to get their s...t together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 08:27 AM
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I only cheted on one bf, the abusive one. I Never cheted in any previous relationship nie on this one. I am nie proud of what I did but life is not only black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 07:38 AM
0

Actually he was the one I cheted with so yeh, he knows and does not mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:30 AM
1

If you think, that your SO is replacable with thousands others within vicinity, this person should not be your SO. Why bother with a relationship with someone who is not sepcial to us? It does not make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 02:00 PM
3

Actually the only men I cheated on was an abuser. He was bringing me down so much thart I didn't have tge courage to leave him and I pursued other men who I hoped would rescue me. I am now in a boring, emotionally helathy relationshop, where we did not argue even once and it is the best. I hate drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 01:53 PM
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People usually date in their social circles. A company president, who goes to a high-end gym will not have many opportunities to meet a plain hairdresser working in an avarege hair salon. SMV as per beauty does exist but not in the fprm of a mathematical, always accurate scale, because people have different preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 09:14 AM
2

Basic truth made to sound like an epiphany. No human belongs to another human. A woman has her free will and when she falls out of love and/or the men is shitty she can leave (The same goes for men leaving their girls). It is some basic principle, that no human owes another one being forever with them when the relationship starts going downhil with no chances of repair. terpers just make it sound like it was a horrible feminine trait, whrn in fact it just means that both parties in a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 03:29 PM
5

What about Instagram with little to no selfies and just photos of meals she cooked, cakes she baked and other purely hobby related stuff?
/r/TheRedPill19/12/18 12:00 PM
4

I'd prefer my man not to love me like a dog, but like a human. And no, women do not dump men who fail to provide, women dump men who fail to be decent human beings, and who for example treat them like dogs and not humans ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 12:34 PM
1

That ist funny. I found in my life that men tend to have a lower libido after moving in, whereas mine was always as high, if not higher then before.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 09:02 AM
4

Every adult loves conditionally. If a woman stops satisfying your need- you will dump her. She will do the same with you. That said do one actually should love unconditionally. If the other person is abusive, aggresive, if there is no undertanding, a dead bedroom and lack of trust and respect, then it is better for the relationship to end. I do not get the idea od unconditional love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/18 09:00 AM
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trueratme is not objective and too harsh. They said i look like I should loose weight, but I am already 105-110 pounds depending on the cycle day, so you know.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 08:36 AM
1

You shoyuld definitely talk to him. There are many kinds of pills, but there also other means of contraception that could work better for you. I think the best thing to do is to find a good, reliable doctor, sadly it is also the hardest.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 03:00 PM
4

I'm sorry to hear you had bad experiences with the pill. I hear so often form fellow woman how bad they react. Has your gyn run all the necessary tests on you beore decindinh which one to give you? Since I am on the pill I have almost no menstrual cramps, my skin is nicer, and my sex drive is not affected, I think it even incresed as I am no longer stressed over unwanted pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 02:56 PM
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Woman here. Please stop assuming I am undecided and will make decisions based purly on emotions just because I am a woman. Just get to know me as a human being and respond accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 02:32 PM
2

Yeah you sure know better. I would find someone probably pretty soon but I do not feel the need to, nor do I cultivate backups. I cut orbiters as soon as I realise someone wants more from me than rpg/boardgame playing or the ocassional Office chit-chat. I do not want any LTR, I want a healthy one do the pool is small. No Terpers, no Chads, no BP, no abusers, no girlish men. It sucks really, most men do not know howto be a men,that is also True for all RP gyus.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 04:33 PM
2

I do not believr that every LTR is forever. People change, sonetimes it don't work out. That is natural. Having a backup means you are of course not dependent on the person you are currently in a relation with, but it means you are dependent on a relation, no matter who it will be. I am with my SO not because i need any relation with whomever, but because we make rach others lives easier. If the relation fails it will fail and I will be single, no need for any backup. I Will be perfectly fine al…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 04:26 PM
5

We woman also have preferences like we prefer not to date abusive, hypocrats and douchebags ;) And for sure I have seen hypergamy in women and men alike. I have also seen love and faithfullness in both men and women. Why even bother with a LTR if you want a backup? That is so childish and silly. You don't need a backup relation if you are a helathy adult, who loves himself. Having backup means you are dependant on a relationship to function and that crosses out any healthy LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 03:17 PM
3

personally saw a different aspect of the advice. It to me said "always have some women as backup plan in case the relationship ends bad" if put how chik books call it. And I find this quite the good advice. Most LTR end up in breakup, so it is quite a good strategy. Sure, no kissing or sex, but have someone as backup is the basic of basics where I come from. Why do TERPERS think having a backup is ok, while at the same time not allowing the girls to have backups?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 02:38 PM
1

Everyone can have prefferences, but if you don't like something about a potential gf you just don't date that girl anymore, without saying she is a hoe. Also if you shame a woman on her n-count and yo yourslef have a similar or higher n-count, then you are just a jerk and no decent woman would put up with that anyway,
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 02:33 PM
2

If I found out my bf is chetaing it would be over. My ex cheted on me and the next day he was out of our apartment and blocked. My other ex thought all woman are cheting so he cheted as well. guess what? He was my ex as soon as I found out. Some woman demand respect. I do not cheat, neither should my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 01:56 PM
1

No and in fact I hate having orbitres, but they are always around, they smell each time I am single like bloodhounds. And when I a taken the more persistant once, still do orbit. They are a pain in the ass, don;t take "no" for an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 08:45 AM
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I don't know. It is hard to judge but i would guess a solid 8 (7 for some, 9 for others). I am 5'2 tall with 110 pounds. Have longblond hair, 35-24-35 (bust, waist, hip proportions). I have a decent face. I had guys kneel in public transport and declare their infatuation with me, I have high SMV guys hitting on me all the time. My SO gest congratulations from strangers when we go outside together. And I have never had a men turn me down when I wanted a date,
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 08:37 AM
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Morticia and Gomez
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 02:42 PM
5

Because there are no men to choose from. Some afre to feminine for my taste and those who are not, have some alfa male complex and act like jerks. Finding someone who is not a pussy and not an alfa dickhead is almost impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 09:14 AM
2

I love it how ugly guys, thinking they have any SV just becaouse they lift, have the nerve to scale the looks of a woman. Love terperers
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 09:16 AM
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I did not have any potential at 20. My breasts developed when I was 25, my WTH ratio was starting being decent when I was 25. I was brestless, assless underweigh skinny skeleton in my twenties. There is no way that had more potenial than my now femininie body with good and not anorectic BMI (mind I naver had anorexia, I was eating a lot, just did not grow femine till my late twenties - it runs in the family sadly)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 08:27 AM
1

Studies based on photos hardly show what a woman would do or to whom she will be attracted to. I can look ata photo of a particular men and tell if he is in my opinion handsome or not. Just as I can state if a woman is pretty or not. It does not yield any additional context. Saying a man is handsome does not mean I would be eager to have sex with him. It just means I find his face pretty. I met a bunch of pretty/handsome man and I would never trade my SO for any of them, cause I do not love them…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/18 01:45 PM
1

Neither. I do not need anyone addicted. I'd rather be alone, than with someone who can't even hold his sh*** togehter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/18 11:56 AM
1

And do you get that bigger beard dies not equal better masculinity? Just like bigger boobs do not mean better femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:41 PM
1

Yes. Still it is not a sign of masculinity, nor has it to be a feature I like in men. I don't think it is that hard of a cocept to grope?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 02:17 PM
1

I can? When somone is blonde for example and has literally only few hairs growing on his beard then they are practically invisible. I am sorry that I do not like the hipster beard type or the beard viking type or the lumberjack beard type. Beard are gross and all I can picture while seeing one is the suliva and leftovers of food in them and they ar ichy when kissing and simply they never look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:43 PM
1

It is a beaty criteria - just like make-up. Some men like women with make-up, some don't. I personally like when there is no beard on a men. ANd the beard limnes are not importnant when I can't see them than it is fine. I like the shaven boyish type of look, I find it the most hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:35 PM
2

No it is not. A beard is just a facial feature and has nothing to do with masculinity. Some women like it, some don't (IMHO they are gross).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 01:17 PM
1

In reality I am a men. But I like to pretend I am a mentally unstable fat woman. Glory of the Internet :D
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 12:05 PM
8

If make-up is lying, so is also waering clothing masking a beer-belly or wearing a beard in order to hide an ugly face :D
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 12:02 PM
1

OMG you really are funny. I never had kids and never will have them. And as for the workout there are really many factors to consider and you can get super fit even when you start working out being 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 08:47 AM
1

I stated I had plastic surgery done. And I do not see why I can't be a 8-9. Is there a law against it or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 12:13 PM
2

See, that is exactly what I was talking about. I was an average teen I got lips fillers (slight but still), I got a nose job done, started caring for my hair, learned how to dress, and do make up I started working out. I look like I am 23-25 hava a BF few years younger cause he thought I am still younger then him. Only sad RP folk think a woman in her 30ies must look worse. I am so sorry for you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 12:07 PM
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Funny questions. I guess from the form, that you are some sad RedPiller looking for proof of the misery of post-wall girls and having some troubles with women so let me help. 1. 8-9 depending on the day and how much effort I put into looking good. 2. I am 30 yo. I lost count of partners. Do I include other women? Do I include just oral? Dunno, I guess I had about 25 male partners. 3. I do not compare partners. Comparing is dumb. 4. I don't know. I guess no. Was always looking for someone compati…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 12:01 PM
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