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OKCupid. He liked me first, we started a conversation that fizzled out because I was apathetic about online dating and didn’t respond to messages regularly. When I returned to the app, I noticed he had either blocked me or deactivated his account. I assumed he blocked me to declutter his inbox since I stopped responding. I remember thinking, “That guy really seemed like he had potential. I should have gone on a date with him.” Vowing to learn from this experience, I made a new account with a fre…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 03:38 PM
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Drowning in low-effort messages, I would believe. Drowning in legitimately high-value, gainfully employed, literate prospects for an LTR? Not the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 04:51 PM
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I did the EXACT same thing and only reconnected with the man who I would later marry by making a new account ~6 months later.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 04:41 PM
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I can’t believe I’m here on RPW reading a lesson on chemical kinetics and collision theory. This is the happiest day of my life
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 03:17 PM
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Anything by Laura Doyle. For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura (I think?) (Edit: this last one is definitely a little less palatable to someone coming from a feminist perspective so...don’t try to redpill your gender studies goth gf with this one)
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 09:12 PM
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I actually hope it’s a teenager. I hope a grown woman isn’t on here like “Babies are such a drag, but I need to continue my bloodline! I guess that’s what nannies are for, until they’re old enough that they’re bearable, aka old enough to be good and traumatized by their mother’s obvious distaste for them! Teehee! What do ya think girls?!”
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 01:05 AM
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Call me a cynic, but I don’t think someone that’s disgusted at the mere concept of a baby will be emotionally equipped to deal with the challenges of being a foster parent.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 12:54 AM
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You should not have a kid. You’re already pre-emptively planning on foisting it off onto a nanny during the time when it’s MOST important that the kid be in contact with its mother. Your desire to continue your bloodline doesn’t mean it’s right to bring a baby into the world when it is obviously not wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 12:52 AM
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This and Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb present a really strong argument for keeping an online dating profile as part of your strategy to meet guys.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 01:07 AM
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I imagine with an attitude like this you must turn down a marriage proposal every day!! /s
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 01:00 AM
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Do people ever actually tell you you’re being too loud, brash, using humor when it’s inappropriate? Like, has this caused problems? If not, it sounds like you don’t really have an urgent problem. Being feminine doesn’t mean being dull.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 03:09 PM
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Remember that the approach matters here; the goal is not to suggest a solution to him but to explain the problem. “You need to do X” is not going to elicit the same response as giving him an open-ended opportunity to solve your problem.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 10:22 AM
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I guess I don’t really see why you would pursue him if you’re having alarm bells and he doesn’t even live in the contiguous US. That’s a pretty big hurdle.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 10:16 AM
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Maybe this is a situation where you need to bring him your problem and see what solutions he can come up with. “I am having trouble getting enough sleep, is there anything we can do so that you can be up and about while I’m still able to sleep?”
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 10:13 AM
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Why are you even posting this here when it’s... absolutely obvious what needs to be done? Is this a troll post?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 02:25 AM
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I’m just going to shamelessly plug moissanite rings for a second because my experience has been so great. After I introduced him to the concept of moissanite, and we looked at rings extensively together to get a sense of our tastes, my now-husband got a ring from Moissaniteco for, like, $600. It’s super hard (9.5 on Mohs scale) and looks just as nice as it did on Day 1. It’s small enough that it passes for a diamond, but big enough that I get tons of compliments. And we saved so much money!! I k…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 10:31 PM
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Reread #6 and 7 in the community info/sidebar. Your post is kind of a wall of text with no distinction between ideas. Chunk it up into paragraphs. There is no real central question or problem for people to respond to which makes it harder to give feedback. It’s also good to provide clear context right up-front for your post, such as your ages, length of relationship, whether you live together, etc. (Also, if reading RPW has you second-guessing every detail of your relationship, take a break from…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 06:00 PM
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When I have the summers off, I try to make it so he has to do zero chores inside the house. No cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, pet maintenance, or dishes.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 05:33 PM
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Yeh point B isn't going to happen. Not yet anyway. Maybe I can adapt it. (Appreciate his burden of retraining, the damage to his self image of having two failed careers and the maybe burden of knowing I carry 'his' burden and it has broken me previously. That'll be a challenge to word correctly....) I think you’re onto something here. Sounds like he might be in a dark place, especially if he senses you’ve lost faith in him and his ability to work. Sounds like a recipe for shame and then resentme…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/19 01:41 PM
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Some thoughts: 1) A: This is meant to be written for someone trying to bring their marriage back from the cliff. At first, yes, you need to give him that 30-min window even if it seems unfair. The idea is that as you successfully do more for him, he will be incentivized to do more for you. (To clarify, ‘More’ doesn’t necessarily mean more chores...) 2) General/B: Have you read Laura Doyle before this? Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood is good, but I wouldn’t suggest it as a primer of any kind. It…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/19 01:13 PM
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Sounds pretty blue pill, Todd
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 03:35 PM
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Am I having a stroke?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 03:27 PM
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Is this RPW-relevant or just a personal recommendation?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 09:59 PM
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You should definitely start with Laura Doyle’s books. (The Surrendered Wife/Single, The Empowered Wife, Things Will Get As Good As You Can Stand). “For Women Only” by Shaunti Feldhahn(?). “Marry Him” by Lori Gottlieb.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 09:55 PM
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I’m surprised men are taking issue with that post when pursuing “Free Love Dylan” as a 20-something is the EXACT way to end up with your Tinder profile on r/whereareallthegoodmen at age 35.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 08:35 PM
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Isn’t half the point of RPW the idea that some men ARE objectively bad choices (e.g., polyamorous guys who don’t want commitment) if you want a stable, committed relationship? Isn’t the other half of RPW the idea that most women will be happiest in a stable, committed relationship? (I.e., we DO all have a common goal, which is commitment?) I usually love your posts but this one gave me the willies. It seems like your main point is that even a man who will not offer commitment COULD align with so…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 08:30 PM
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Maybe you’re just too old for this post. Anyone younger than maybe mid-30s (?) would immediately recognize “Dylan”.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 08:27 PM
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I think really what people here are responding to is not anything specific you wrote about yourself. It’s just the premise of the post. Consider how an equivalent, unprompted, gender-swapped post in MGTOW or TRP would come across. Something kind of like, “I’m a 25 year old girl who believes in TRP, women are privileged over men in society, I don’t skank around at all, I’m a unicorn, AMA!” That post would be taken down so goddamn fast your head would spin.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:46 AM
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I have a question: How did you envision this thread turning out?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:04 AM
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I don’t have a highly scientific checklist here. Lack of shared interests, but more importantly little willingness to be flexible or supportive of each others’ interests. But it’s mostly in how she describes the relationship. The language used here is kind of contemptuous— the opposite of respect, which is fundamentally necessary for a woman to feel in a relationship. She describes a situation where the girl is the adventurous one that seeks out activities and the guy is the stick-in-the-mud, co…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 08:33 PM
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The title of this post is misleading. Your problem here isn’t ‘making jabs’ at him. It seems like a lack of respect stemming from basic incompatibility. You say you love him, but you have an absolute laundry list of reasons you’ve grown apart and don’t get along. I think unless there are other circumstances you didn’t include, you should see other people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 07:08 PM
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I’m loath to suggest breaking up, but in this case I would move on. What you’ve written here indicates totally unreciprocated effort on your part. What is he bringing to this relationship? From your post you seem unappreciated/not valued by this guy. Do you really want to go on feeling this way?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 05:57 PM
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*a circlejerk
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 09:32 PM
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welcome to red pill women, where apparently now men answer the questions posed by other men
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 09:11 PM
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“On sexual edge, always” seems like a pretty unrealistic expectation. That seems to imply the onus is on the man to provide constant thrills or the relationship is doomed. This is demonstrably untrue. Half of the posts in this sub are from women who have lost sexual interest in their partners but put in effort to bring their relationship back.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:48 PM
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That’s a very blue pill thing to say. I don’t think RPW ideas support the concept of a soul mate, much less the idea that you should leave an otherwise valuable relationship immediately just because you aren’t currently feeling Tingles™️.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 10:53 PM
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I mean, I think “fling” is the operative word in your situation... Guys might have a “fling” (read: short term sex) with low SMV women, but it doesn’t mean she could secure commitment from him, or that that’s a 100% accurate estimation of his SMV/RMV...
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 10:12 PM
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I don’t have a great answer to this. I’m just spitballing here, but consider that maybe the natural mechanics of the sexual marketplace have something to do with it. Young men tend to be passed over by high value women in favor of older men, so his exes from when he was younger might reflect his increasing value over time. My SO has some dorky exes, but they are all of decent moral character, reasonably well educated, and not promiscuous. I’ve met a couple of them and we get on fairly well. So e…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 09:56 PM
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Y I K E S
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 10:18 PM
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No, and tbh I think statistically your theory could probably be disproven. I think healthy women come from healthy backgrounds in which they observed healthy masculine and feminine adults. Please know that I’m speaking in generalities here and obviously there will be individual exceptions: having read through posts here for years, I think trauma probably warps your expectations and increases the odds that you will misinterpret unhealthy behavior as RPW-approved (thinking submission is being a do…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 12:25 PM
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This comment is such a non sequitur it’s almost comical. “The reason he’s not raring to move in together at 5 months is a secret impregnation fetish. Sorry I can’t help!”
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 10:14 AM
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was this post written by Kelly Kapoor or...
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 03:12 AM
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I don’t know why some girls are acting like this is a ridiculous question. People come here all the time complaining about not being able to find conservative men in liberal areas, and someone always suggests a move to a more conservative area. I’m not saying that advice is correct, but it’s not like this is outside of the normal realm of discourse here... I agree with the poster who said to seriously ask yourself if this move will help you reach your life goals.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 05:30 PM
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Monday: Teriyaki steak tips with broccoli Tuesday: “Boom Boom” ribs and antipasto salad Wednesday: breakfast for dinner Thursday: bacon-wrapped pork loin and brussels roasted in sesame oil Friday: H I B A C H I N I G H T
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 08:05 PM
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I’m confused. Are you asking about politics or spending time together?
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 11:40 PM
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I teach HS. Three things come to mind: You know how Fascinating Womanhood talks about admiration and acceptance? For example, men want to be admired but unless you are accepting of their flaws, they will be less likely to believe and appreciate words of praise? I find that those two principles work on teenage boys as well as men. A specific, thoughtful compliment can be very powerful, but if you’re constantly nagging them for minor issues, you negate that effect. Be aware of how the public schoo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 08:20 PM
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Nope. Vulnerability and trust doesn’t mean you have to be someone else’s doormat. Some women who participate in this forum are in nonmonogamous/open relationships, but you definitely don’t have to be open to that arrangement to demonstrate trust and vulnerability.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 10:15 PM
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Isn’t lack of sexual fulfillment/weaponized sex one of the major issues of men in relationships? She’s trying to do the right thing. Go pick on people that are actively working against the interests of men (there are PLENTY), instead of a forum full of women TRYING to do right by the men in their lives.
/r/MGTOW31/12/18 01:19 PM
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This low-effort, insensitive, and useless comment is why women take issue with male participation here.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 10:48 PM
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Look into keto. I lost around that amount of weight within 8 months. You can get this under control faster than you think!!! :) You can be in a MUCH better place even by the end of the summer!!! ❤️ Stop thinking about sex as a feminist issue and start thinking about it as one of your husband’s actual, real-life needs. When you acknowledge it as one of your husband’s valid relationship needs, in the same way that emotional support is one of your needs, I think it changes the way you think of it. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 03:26 AM
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So what makes you say that you’ll never find anyone better, if you’re not even in love with him? Do you think you’re not capable of loving ANYONE? This might sound crazy, but you might just not have met enough guys!! Have you given ‘duty-dating’ a real shot? Please do try the Laura Doyle book!! I think it’s probably more applicable to someone in your situation than the Gottlieb. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 10:41 PM
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So I notice most of your language here is kind of “fear-based”. You don’t even mention if you’re interested in or attracted to the coworker— are you? Or do you just see that he has good traits for a partnership, and you’ve scared yourself because of what’s in this book? I’ve read that book, and I don’t think the takeaway is supposed to be “marry the first tolerable guy you see”. It’s more “don’t throw away a five-year relationship over petty things”. Unless you’ve left out significant details, i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 10:33 PM
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Then ask your own questions with typos and leave OP alone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 01:06 PM
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Yeah, so is tact.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 01:00 PM
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We went looking at rings together to get an idea of our tastes, but then I stopped talking about it and let him do his thing. We discussed a budget of around $500 but a hard limit of $1000. I told him I liked three-stone rings and cushion-cut stones, and that my priorities were, in this order, a) budget, b) everyday wearability (ie, stone hardness), c) classic ‘engagement ring’ look (no colored stones, no tension settings, no weird shaped stones, no Super Bowl rings). I was so tempted to nag him…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 02:59 PM
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This is the correct response. I don’t know where the other commenters are coming from, geographically, that they can dismiss your concerns out of hand, but where I live, it wouldn’t be possible to function as an adult without the ability to drive.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 12:20 PM
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I don’t have too much fashion advice but wow!!! Congratulations, that’s so cool! (For what it’s worth, I see the value in what the first commenter said— a nice, professional dress in an understated color!)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 12:33 AM
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This post doesn’t flesh out any understanding of RPW OR any real definition of the “Undesirable Type of Woman” aside from three random characteristics. What makes you say they are similar? It’s hard to come up with a Venn diagram of the entirety of RPW and “one-dimensional imaginary Pizza-Eating Homebodies”. Edited to add: The central idea of RPW is cultivating traits that add value to a relationship. “Pizza eating homebody” is not that relevant— but feel free to change my mind
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 10:24 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 12:44 PM
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He took me on a hike up to this stone tower. We were having a picnic, and he mentioned the date we went on, on this day last year, about 4 months into dating. He said “That was around the time I started thinking I would like to have kids with you. I never thought that about anyone before.” I don’t remember what I said, but when I looked up he had a ring box out (so sneaky!) and said, “Well, since we’re in agreement, will you marry me?” ❤️ He completely surprised me, because like two days ago he …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 12:13 AM
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“For Men Only”, the counterpart to the book mentioned above, is pretty good (assuming you’re looking for an LTR-friendly perspective).
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 12:45 PM
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I think there’s a distinction between ‘crying because you’re overwhelmed’ and ‘intentionally crying to achieve the outcome you want’. Examples of the first category: an emotional movie, music, art, or issues outside of your relationship (e.g., work stress) Examples of the second category: crying to deflect his anger, crying to coerce him to agree with you, crying to get attention. My guy reacts to the first kind of crying with what I guess could fall under the category of ‘amused mastery’. He do…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 09:07 PM
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If she’s looking for an LTR currently, it will literally take years to be in a position to have kids. Not sure why this commenter is being downvoted.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/18 11:26 AM
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Leave now!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 07:51 PM
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