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Thanks for the ideas! I am working on learning how to speak better. I have a non-traditional performance art background where I picked up many poor speaking habits; talking as fast as I can, leaving big empty spaces where the ends of my sentences should be. Slowing down, saying the full word, completing my thoughts have been projects for me. I've been in aerial dance for two years now but I feel like it's made my body worse to a certain degree. I'm stronger and more coordinated, sure, but I also…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 02:17 PM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 01:52 PM
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Interesting! This will be the next book I read, then. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 01:52 PM
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Thanks! I'm thinking of ordering this one, but in my late sister's birth flower (both because I miss her and because I like her birth flower way better than mine, lol).
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 01:51 PM
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I'm struggling here. I need to take better care of my hair but have NO IDEA where to start. I used to be on a routine where I curled my hair on day 1, used dry shampoo in the evening on day 2, and then washed on day 3. After about 3 cycles of this, my hair became crunchy so I quit using heat entirely until my hair got its shit together. I'm a soft classic so I really need to have styled, softly curled hair... I haven't found any sustainable heatless methods that give my hair a loose enough curl,…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 08:28 PM
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Thank you for your supportive comment. I feel bad because I maybe didn't articulate his thoughts as well as I could've; I don't think he has an issue with my income. I do think he has an issue with my... ability to show up and emotionally support him? I don't know. He cited his bad day earlier this week as a time where he needed to lean on me and I wasn't there for him. He was closed off and cranky so I took him out for tacos and didn't complain when he didn't want to talk about anything. I'm ge…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:43 PM
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They love him! He's unique and quirky but very right for me. My parents like and trust him enough that they transferred property into his name that was intended for me when they couldn't put in my name for technical reasons. He has a very flat, deadpan affect and speaks VERY slowly and deliberately so people are initially very put off and confused by him, but everyone who takes the time to get to know him is very charmed. He also has a great group of friends of his own; they're not all attractiv…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:18 PM
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One of my jobs doesn't really pay that well but it's good experience and it's temporary. He's in a position that pays well enough, but is most importantly stable and undemanding while I'm in an extremely demanding few years of my life. After I graduate, he plans on looking for work that pays better.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:14 PM
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He's definitely doing more than his full 50%; between my workload and his workload, I think we're splitting that 50/50. I'd love to pare down my schedule a bit, but I can't. This IS the pared-down schedule; I used to have a full-time job, too! One of my jobs gives me money (the money I use to pay off my student loan interest, my portion of the rent, groceries, car insurance etc), and another job that doesn't really pay me a lot of money but is going to look really good on my resume when I gradua…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:13 PM
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Most of it is that we have a hilariously small kitchen. The whole apartment has sloped ceilings, and the kitchen is in a walled-off corner where everything is sloped. You have to crouch to use the stove. There aren't any counters. So when we cook, we have to walk between the dining room (where we use the table as a counterspace) and the kitchen. Then the dining room table is messy and impossible to eat on... He handles the mess of it all much better than I do. He also gets upset when I load the …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:06 PM
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What's his unique ideology on marriage, by chance? It's complicated. A great example is the fact that his dad got married young (he was born to teen parents and wasn't the first kid) and then felt pressure to "provide for" the family. That pressure ultimately led him to establish a business that my boyfriend finds unethical and exploitive. His parents are also very religious and credit all of their financial prosperity to their faith and the fact that they're married. My boyfriend became financi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:02 PM
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Thanks for this. I guess I should shut up in a lot of ways, because I don't even want any of this now. I just want it... soon, and I want to feel like it's coming at some point! Especially because he is SO present-minded, I'd just like to feel like I'm not spending my days working for something he's going to ultimately refuse to participate in with me. We did talk about it a little bit when he came home Saturday night and he admitted that he doesn't have any real issues with me or anything I'm d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 05:49 PM
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His issues with marriage are definitely not the usual RP concerns. His ideology is unique, and he was at least open minded enough to seriously reconsider when I made it clear that it was important to me (read books on marriage, send detailed emails to married friends asking for their thoughts). I just seriously had no idea that marriage was officially on the table for him until today, when he told me that we can't get married because he doesn't trust me to take care of him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 11:06 PM
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I'm 25 and we've been together 4 years. I know that I should be self-improving for myself. And I am! Self-improvement has kind of defined the past few years of my life. That's why I'm a little surprised and hurt by the sudden assertion that I'm not self-improved enough to marry. I'm willing to do what I have to do, but in writing out this post I'm realizing that a lot of my hurt and surprise comes from the fact that up until we sat down today to talk about it, he'd been kind of cagey about his d…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 10:48 PM
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I hear what you're saying. As I'm sure you understand, a lot more has happened in our years-long relationship than what is outlined in the few paragraphs I wrote above. He says he'd like to get married and have a family, but it's not that straightforward. The issue of whether we'll get married has been kind of tense; he's fundamentally opposed to marriage on political principle (it's a social construct that the government shouldn't be involved in), but has given it serious consideration for my s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 09:31 PM
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I'm not in therapy at this time, but I've been in and out for most of my adult life. I think I'm doing okay from a mental health standpoint because I'm able to differentiate between my perception of things and reality; I have the impulse to do X, probably because I'm in the habit of doing Y, and I have relationships with people I trust enough that I'll take them seriously when they suggest I try Z. Honestly, part of the problem is that I kind of feel like "a bungling husband" in our household a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 08:57 PM
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Thanks! I do know this. This is all part of the plan. I’m specifically just having an issue with feeling a little impatient. I know we’re getting married..... and I know the time isn’t now. I just need to figure out how to stop wondering when.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 12:46 AM
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Together two years. I’m 25. He’s 26. I have one year left of university (health issues took me out of school for several years so I’m behind). I have a career right now as well, a part-time job that wants me back full-time over the summers and once I graduate. He has no debt because his parents paid cash for his degrees. I’m working on paying down as much of my student debt as possible while in school. The plan is to pay off my student debt entirely within a year of graduating (my current math s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 11:55 AM
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