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Haha I guess gaming while being largely immobile will be difficult. That is what I meant by I have little dread to offer.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 05:32 AM
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Thanks. I had pretty much the same in my mind. Any tips on how to maintain attraction over a distance?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 01:49 PM
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Why? Even if I regularly hit the gym?
/r/askTRP04/07/19 10:26 AM
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Really depends. I had a terrible one but if they are on your side it can be great. I had one be my wing man a few times for smashing her friends. Another bonus is a sort of dread my GF always has because of one of them as we are good friends.
/r/askTRP04/07/19 10:10 AM
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No
/r/askTRP02/07/19 06:08 AM
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Yes bro I can't walk either coz I just got surgery. So I can't go to the gym.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 08:49 PM
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Not now it is a very recent joint injury. Should be cleared for it in a month and a half or so.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 06:18 PM
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Spent the day with her. She was pleasant and happy to be around and helped me quite a bit. Luckily my pain has gone down so I didn't whine about it either.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 05:20 AM
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Minor stuff the physio has allowed me to do.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 05:18 AM
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The knowledge that weakness is unattractive makes me not want her to see me like this. She is pleasant to have over but the above makes me not feel like it.
/r/askTRP29/06/19 12:03 PM
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The money.
/r/askTRP21/06/19 01:25 AM
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No I explicitly told her that I am not bringing any cash and we would split once we are back.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 03:35 PM
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Yeah she is carrying all the money now and I have made it clear that we'll split once we are back.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 03:34 PM
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Honestly speaking I feel okay paying for meals and she has several times asked to split but I don't because it barely causes a dent given my income. However it was the action yesterday that repulsed me a bit. Yeah I don't mind conflict and won't stay if she doesn't make me happy. There has been another instance in the past where she asked me to pay for something and I flat out told her "No I am not doing it" without any explanation.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 09:41 AM
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You are right. I wasn't thinking straight then. I plan to account for this in the final expenses when we are back.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 09:36 AM
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We are quite new (couple of weeks or so) and interestingly I never had this anxiety till I actually commited. Before that I didn't give a fuck tbh.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 01:16 AM
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Yes and I know that is is kind of hypocritical. She doesn't know and frankly I didn't enjoy cheating on her I just did it as a premtive thing for some reason.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 01:14 AM
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Haha you are wrong about this one. Because I thought the same and already did it with a couple of girls recently in an attempt to fix my issue so that isn't it. But you are perfectly right on me not seeing myself as the prize. It isn't about sex. It is because I have committed that she has become special and not that she actually is. I never felt like this before I made her my GF. So like I said it isn't about this girl it is about me being handed the short end of the stick if I get screwed. I d…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:50 PM
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You are spot on. Any pointers/reading that would help fix that mindset? I lift, have a great career and don't look ugly fortunately. What else do I need?
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:40 PM
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What worries me is that she would cheat and I don't find out for a long time and essentially get cucked by some random chad.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:35 PM
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I can demote and I know she would still stick around. So if demoting and possibly being in LTR months later with this girl or someone else would solve it I am actually open to that idea. But honestly I think the problem is more fundamental and not about this girl. For any woman I see I would never know where she was at every instance of every day and not knowing it and the possibility of being duped is what is making me paranoid. Open to all suggestions from your end since you are an EC.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:30 PM
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Thanks can you give some specific examples that don't involve overt display of affection? Should I initiate more dates? Should I text more? Etc. I have largely been a plate spinner not giving a damn so this is a bit difficult for me. My newish and first LTR actually brought this up and said sometimes she doesn't feel like my GF.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 04:39 PM
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What is some actionable advice on avoiding the protection mechanism issue? My girl seems to have this issue and has actually verbalised that she is not sure if I even like her? I don't want to make her too comfortable by saying I like you or shit like that too frequently.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 11:48 AM
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I am in a new relationship where before I committed she knew I was fucking other girls. In many stupid ways I verbalised the dread like you mention. Now that I have committed how do I keep it up without being overt. Sometimes I feel she doesn't react to covert stuff given our original situation.
/r/askMRP01/06/19 12:00 PM
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What would have been the right move according to you?
/r/askTRP27/05/19 04:19 AM
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Thanks for pointing that out. Guess I am looking for red flags where there aren't any clearly visible ones. I am new to the whole LTR thing and haven't ever consciously thought about Red flags before so idk.
/r/askTRP25/05/19 02:37 PM
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I have read that piece and have had women suck my dick and text cute messages to their BF minutes later. Knowing what they are is the reason I am feeling so stressed.
/r/askTRP24/05/19 08:05 PM
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She literally bled when I fucked her dude. I also laughed when she mentioned it but have to believe it when you see it. We are not in US if that helps make it mildly more believable. I had fun but eventually I have started finding plating meaningless. I am pretty amoral so I don't mind cheating on her. I tried - it wasn't fun. I vetted for 4.5 months. Also, I have plated virgins before so if I am indeed catching oneitis so that isn't probably the reason.
/r/askTRP24/05/19 08:04 PM
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It does but the women are weird. Had something similar happen to me so I just don't feel surprised.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/19 02:27 PM
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Because I hate texting my whole texting is usually either replying to what she texts or inviting her over. Is inviting her over a good idea?
/r/askTRP14/04/19 05:59 AM
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Can you please comment here later once she has wrecked you? Just so that we can say we told you so.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/19 03:06 PM
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Haha to be fair it was terrible the first time but she showed a willingness to learn. Further, given a lot of sex is psychological so it helps that I found her attractive enough.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 03:11 AM
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You might find an ever better plate before then and your perception of this girl and your relationship with her will probably flip on its head. Such stuff has indeed happened before. I think the girl is worth being exclusive with but I would like to vet for a couple of more months.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 08:00 PM
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I want to upgrade her but not immediately since a LTR means breaking up all the other plates. My only fear is too much alpha might make her think there is nothing other than sex possible here. The inconsistencies are because usually IDGAF but I am probably catching feels for this one. Gotta tread carefully.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 07:57 PM
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What happens once she starts withdrawing sex? With other plates I would cancel future meetings other than at my place and they get the message.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 07:54 PM
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Maybe you are right or this girl is retarded. She texted me to use protection and hit her up when I am back. 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/askTRP09/03/19 06:13 AM
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You are right about it. It's more like I want a LTR at this point than I want a LTR with her (she is the best candidate among other girls I have and I am happy to pass if someone better comes along). On my reasons for wanting an LTR I wanna experience 2-3 proper relationships before I hit 30 and that plate spinning has been boring lately.
/r/askTRP09/03/19 02:44 AM
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We have been on more dates. More importantly I have a nice little soft harem but I am bored of mindless fucking. This woman seems to have the brains which is a necessary requirement for me to more than plate. Don't you think A&A here would fire back if I wanna eventually take this serious?
/r/askTRP08/03/19 06:38 PM
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Yup will not make this mistake in future. This way they can hamster that I don't like to text instead of worrying whether am I fucking someone else. Kinda reduces dread.
/r/askTRP06/03/19 02:47 PM
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But where is she going with this? She wants commitment? - not happening now She wants to keep it casual - sure
/r/askTRP06/03/19 02:43 PM
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Ermm I wouldn't have answered this then I believe she would assume what she was speaking is the truth. She is great in person (and I am way better at not taking her shit seriously) it's the retarded texts like this that stump me. On the quick attachment I feel that's just from being inexperienced on her end. I actually like her more than just her holes but don't plan on anything serious till I am very sure of her character.
/r/askTRP06/03/19 10:50 AM
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Wymen logic. Maybe he wants me for more than sex. Retarded I know.
/r/askTRP06/03/19 10:45 AM
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Here is the thing forget about other people. You improve your SMV from where you are today - you improve your odds. Doesn't matter who is fucking who. Focus on yourself.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 07:17 AM
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I never texted random shit. It's her texting and me replying. More like it's her being a retarded bitch throwing one shit test after another. I have made plans for the week without her. So given I am not meeting her this week should I just leave this BS in read or grace it with a reply.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 09:00 AM
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She isn't a plate if it's only one of them. More like you are her plate.
/r/askTRP17/02/19 11:21 AM
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Uncle your account has been the single biggest contributor in me constantly getting laid. Respek on your name.
/r/askTRP17/02/19 11:18 AM
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Logically you know deep inside that there is no 'One' but your hormones and not having an immediate option are breaking you down. Know that it would get better. In the mean time follow the advice here. https://youtu.be/tu-QjTNtDz8 It's not perfect but a nice immediate crutch.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 06:24 AM
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One thing that really worked for me was writing FRs for myself. So often after a date/fuck I would note down my gotchas and would think what the perfect reply would have been. Then I would write it down. Not surprisingly situations with women are not as unique as we think them to be. They really don't have a lot of variety when it comes to shit testing. In that sense I am not a natural but it works for me. Further, as a rule of thumb if you don't know what to say A & A or a smirk are nice goto r…
/r/askTRP16/02/19 06:17 AM
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OP realize that blocking is not for you getting back to her. It's for you. You might be feeling damn strong or amped right after this but you will have moments of weakness when stupid texts come crawling in. Best is to block. If not turn of the notifications off and don't read any messages for a month. Let her feel the withdrawal symptoms. In case she doesn't beg for you take her back in a week be assured she branch swinged.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/19 07:50 AM
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For all the toxic parts of TRP the one thing it gets right is actually getting people laid. If you really had to use prostitution then you have way bigger problems then theredpill. You did not even learn the one thing they teach.
/r/ExRedPill21/01/19 12:50 PM
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I would give a counter point from someone living in a major city in Asia. Women might get degrees or whatever but their core behaviour doesn't change. For a long time I assumed that a lot of stuff here is too US centric and the advice doesn't fully apply to where I live. Wrong. They might screw you in a different way but they would screw you nevertheless if you are not careful.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/19 10:49 AM
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Haha lucky for me that white girls have never been my thing lol.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/19 10:31 AM
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Looks/outer game is what gets the dealflow. Inner game is how you close the deal.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/19 10:28 AM
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Guess that's the way to go about it. My concern though is that last time too I literally texted only for logistics. Should I bs first and then ask out the next time? Sorry if this sounds retarded but I am not really used to a girl acting exactly like me (not initiating any texts)
/r/askTRP03/01/19 02:05 PM
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Shit test or not. I wouldn't put up with such a bitch. If she fucks you cool or just hard next.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 01:48 PM
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Do you have any big parks or reservoirs where you live? Change this into a night date. Go to the park. Make out heavy. If it is dark enough and she is bold she might suck your dick lol.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:52 PM
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No I haven't initiated any contact. Wed - the date Thu - above exchange Fri - No contact Sat - Today ​
/r/askTRP28/12/18 09:33 PM
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Okay this is going to be a bunch of professional and life advice from someone a couple of years or so ahead of you. Programming is a craft and you really need to be extremely good at a few tools to shine. You seem to have picked C++ and it is a good enough choice. ​ Now where are the C++ Jobs -> Computer Graphics, Very Specialized jobs for writing bindings for AI frameworks (pretty much out of your reach), Game Dev, Some Robotics Stuff ​ But as a stronger advice I would suggest you to not be lim…
/r/TheRedPill24/12/18 06:52 PM
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Knowing the rules to the game gives you a huge advantage, and you can most certainly position yourself to maximise your chances, for a basic example, simply knowing about ‘social proof’ and why having options of other women make you much more desirable to any particular women is good knowledge to be aware of... Experienced this last week or so. Met a girl at a night venue and she seemed into me. Past me would have shot myself in the foot by saying stupid shit or giving too much attention. Instea…
/r/askTRP12/12/18 03:39 PM
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Okay what if I have made the mistake to some extent? How do I reverse this?
/r/TheRedPill10/12/18 09:20 PM
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Made the same mistakes the past year. Now spinning two plates and its bliss. Pain is the best teacher I guess.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/18 09:17 PM
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Similar story happened to me and I started questioning myself. Good post.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/18 09:42 PM
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Okay the thing is I had no way of telling whether the religious thing was one big shit test or the real deal and to be truthful I didn't care at that time. All the things you mention check out right. I stick to RP system because it has served me well. Anyway any advice on not being an evil dick head here? I am not aiming for a lay here. I just want to take things back to normal.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 02:57 PM
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Yes, I fucked her and before I did was considering to LTR her by dropping the other plates. In fact I had stopped seeing the other women for some time. I want to make it right - my intention is not to trick her into sex here but to actually go towards something serious if things work out. There’s plenty of girls out there who aren’t trying to fight off temptation and do right in their life. That is the very reason I want her back.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 02:37 PM
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Shit I have done that stupid shit in the past
/r/TheRedPill07/08/18 08:40 PM
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Completely unbothered. At some point she hit me again. Though what really helped me was that I was able to get 3+ girls in my life who were better in every sense. No surprise our older beta bucks got cucked too so I guess she is just a trash person and the result would have been the same no matter how I played.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 12:12 AM
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Seems like (b) or at least the drama this one is creating is not worth it I guess. Can't make it an invited location but asking where is my new place (wtf?) . Just gonna ignore unless she initiates a meet.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 05:58 PM
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Agree but my point is why play on hard mode when you can fix basic stuff and have it easy. Game/Money/Looks all have diminishing returns and more effort requirements after a level.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/18 04:43 PM
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My opinion is that there is a minimum threshold for both. Missing that threshold for one means the other can't compensate or maybe you have to be off the roof in the other for it to work. Luckily, looks department can be handled in large parts even for someone who doesn't really look great like me.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/18 04:37 PM
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I actually did that when I just found out. Obviously next morning I went to my normal cold self, completely disconnected and fucked another girl. But yeah I did cry and beg. Slaps moron in the past
/r/askTRP30/04/18 04:25 PM
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Exactly what I needed. One reason I am acting so stupid is that damn I acted so beta trying to save the relationship that I want to go slap myself in the past. So, I am really shocked with her letting it go and reaching out when even I can't forgive myself for the lame crap I did.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 04:19 PM
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I kept my replies short and said I wanted to sleep so as to not come off as too easy. Kinda tried to follow this https://archive.is/7Qi7n
/r/askTRP30/04/18 03:45 PM
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Okay but how to get around the awkwardness of not having talked in months and straight away ask out?
/r/askTRP30/04/18 03:37 PM
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Thanks. Yeah I have the logistics in place. Hmm so in conclusion I have to make the move. It has already been a couple of days since she hit me up. I guess good balance to not seem needy.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:33 PM
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Thanks for this. I have known this idea for sometime and for the same reason went no contact. My question though is how to handle this. I think my cold response though made the situation awkward. How am I supposed to contact without acting needy. Am I supposed to act like nothing happened? Say hi first and ask her out?
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:10 PM
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But shouldn't she be the one asking out here since she initiatied the conversation?
/r/askTRP30/04/18 12:35 PM
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Intelligent I guess. Hot - naah. More of a 6. But I prefer a 6 who can talk sense over dumb 8s who are just good for fucking. I'd say I stand similar or better than the current dude at SMV scale. The comment on she being confused actually gave me hope. Thing is I can wait for her to get single and try setting up dates and give it a shot. Or I can let her set dates now, not give a fuck when she says she has a BF and do my thing. Either she runs away or I hit it. I doubt my chances will be signifi…
/r/askTRP02/04/18 04:22 PM
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Well maybe, but doubt she would put it out in public view (where I can see) that she is attached. Interestingly, I can obviously play dumb like girls do and completely ignore it. Is there some TRP guide on gaming taken women especially ones who are hanging alone with you in the night?
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:26 PM
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Haha, I see. I follow that when it comes to dates. Question is whether this one or someone else. Like stated I obviously have a preference but I am confused if she is looking to branch swing or friendzone me. Essentially I am looking for some reading on being Mr. StealYourBitch while minimizing the chance of being friendzoned haha
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:13 PM
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Well I think I will just stick with radio silence and game others. Hit her up if she is free in a few months maybe?
/r/askTRP02/04/18 01:50 PM
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I have a stable plate and another date with someone new lined up man but I would agree about being invested. Keep running into so many dumb bitches that smart nerdy types are my kryptonite lol. I have time and I am on the fence about going me. If I choose to go what should be my play? Don't escalate?
/r/askTRP02/04/18 01:43 PM
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I want to go and I am interested just that I don't see anything good coming out of it as I have mentioned. Is there anyway I can go and make things go my way? I just got a few texts from her confirming logistics (and I am not replying). Damnn this is AWALT and it feels so weird knowing everything (obviously she has no clue I am aware of her background)
/r/askTRP02/04/18 01:34 PM
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Any guide/reading on that? My current process is quite random. Sometimes it just works, other times it falls flat like this haha
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:43 PM
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Apologies for using isolate wrong. I meant privacy in a place where no one is watching. It is very rare for couples to make out in public view in this country. Since, it is not logistically possible for me to invite her over - without being direct about renting a place to fuck can you suggest an alternative. I am moving out soon though (a couple of weeks) so should be possible to pull that off the next time. I know this might seem stupid to you but well I am still 22 and this place is fucking ex…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:40 PM
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She is 20-21. Thanks for the important pointer. I was thinking of the carnival because I know the area really well and there is an opportunity to isolate later (near the same area where we met before) for making out and stuff. This is partly because I don't think someone who acted up on making out would be enthusiastic on Netflix and chill (plus I have logistics constraints I don't live alone). Maybe my BP ass is wrong again at this. What are your suggestions for some date ideas in such a case? …
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:28 PM
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No, I didn't pay at last dinner. She is super rich and strongly insisted on her paying her way everywhere (dinner, drinks, breakfast). Plus, I don't do dinner dates so that problem is solved. I am thinking of some sort of carnival with games and rides.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:22 PM
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It has happened before too but at the same time I have hooked up with some too so I am not sure. I believe I was partly at fault for making the move too late and abruptly as well. Let's see. Thanks for the advice. I'll just use your words if I face resistance.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:20 PM
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No I did not pay for meals and drinks. She is super well off so this isn't a bitch trying to get a free dinner. What do you mean by this "She sounds off to me"
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:43 PM
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Run for your life. This has happened to me. Basically she would tie you down while accidentally landing on a dick by just meeting new people. Don't negotiate. Tell her let's keep it completely open and see how it goes. By agreeing to any such move you loose all power to dread and further she has nothing to chase because no matter what n-level hamster she is using exclusive means commitment. And lol this seems so much like the thing my last girl would say. I mean the exact words haha
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:16 AM
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Personally, I have the ability to switch it on and off at whim. It is important for 2 reasons: I am a nerd unless I open my mouth (actually even after) but a nerd who is a certified asshole (I have been told that by giggling girls number of times) confuses the fuck out of them. Secondly, I have done this so much over and over that (it helps that I had strong narcissistic attitude when dealing with other nerds) it now feels a part of me and let's me go bold and say shit I otherwise won't in an un…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 03:59 AM
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Lol apparently it does work. She asked me out already.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 05:01 PM
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Well I can wait haha. But in my limited experience that doesn't work unless you have already fucked.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:40 PM
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Hmm idk but I found it genuine (maybe I am hamstering) because she immediately asked questions like "is this normal where you were brought up?" - I am not from this Asian Country and then stuff like "I am from a very conservative family and this isn't normal for me at all." Obviously as TRP says watch her words not actions. So, I am leaning more towards your analysis. Though I just got a text saying thank you and she loved the conversation and really had fun. So I will probably ask her out in a …
/r/askTRP29/03/18 03:51 PM
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So text 3-4 days for next text? No acknowledgement of having a good time etc now?
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:07 PM
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No, I didn't pay. Dinner was after a while when we both got hungry and it wasn't something grandiose just the closest joint we could find. I tried escalating from the start and she had mixed responses. So, I kind of tested the waters with that move. Lastly, no I haven't done a 10 hour thing before and that is why it is quite weird for me too. It wasn't supposed to be that long and it wasn't boring at all so I decided to let it continue. I agree not the best move. And yes, I have a side woman.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 01:53 PM
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I think your point makes sense. Off late since I started applying TRP (few months) my tolerance has gone down for such stuff and I end up walking unless it is a YES girl. But, I mean a 10-12 hour first date made me rethink. Plus, I thought that well if she wasn't interested she could have left anytime?
/r/askTRP29/03/18 01:44 PM
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Lol guess I am on the wrong sub
/r/seduction25/03/18 12:36 PM
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No I don't have feelings for her. I have some crappy music we used to make out to but then I started using that with other girls as well so not special in any sense now. I threw away all the gifts. Yes, I sometimes think of her but not in a good way. For example I read some post on TRP about some guy seeking advice and I can see past me making some stupid mistake. In a a somewhat comical manner my thing with the new plate has been sort of repeat of things with the older girl except I learnt from…
/r/askTRP25/03/18 08:10 AM
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Okay your advice makes sense but my main question is what is the RP way to deal with crap like this?
/r/askTRP25/03/18 07:52 AM
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In addition don't open up about this to her. Once you do you are doomed. Act cool. I would suggest getting a couple of new female friends to use for soft dread and social proof. Should get her in line or you can always drop her and hit it off with your new "friends"
/r/seduction25/03/18 07:03 AM
2

Agree I just didn't want to appear butthurt. Wanted to play it cool.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 06:24 AM
0

Interesting I always end up pulling the trigger because without it you never know if the new girl you are seeing is a time waster or the real deal. What would you do if not indulge? Personally, I feel nothing gives your more confidence than having a couple of side chicks who are actively willing to fuck you.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 02:47 PM
1

I changed my hairstyle.
/r/MGTOW23/03/18 01:41 PM
1

It might actually work. Merely getting a new haircut did some magic for me with a previous girl.
/r/MGTOW23/03/18 09:38 AM
10

/r/sex is equally terrible. There was this post about this bitch forcing her husband into an Open Relationship and banging Chad. Guy takes some time to find a chick but his wife explodes and creates a drama. Everyone is telling the guy to go back and not fuck the new girl. I mean WTF. Makes me feel like Patrick Bateman with a chainsaw in American Psycho.
/r/MGTOW23/03/18 09:36 AM
1

This is golden. Saved to my quotes list.
/r/MGTOW23/03/18 04:43 AM
1

This makes me totally regret what I did with my last relationship. She basically came up with the same stupid idea and I turned it down despite having options on the side. Obviously she went behind back. Post breakup I fucked a couple of nice girls the next week. I could have done it all along and burnt the bitch. Regrets :(
/r/MGTOW23/03/18 04:30 AM
1

I am not sure what to do since I never had a high school dating phase and directly dived into TRP when I started in Uni. But honesty if you guys are not together idk man I feel you should just let this go on without giving a flying fuck. Treat it as some TV series you watch lol. Focus on the real things in life.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:59 PM
1

It had no signal. Simulate the reverse situation in your head - If you had a similar/better looking bird on the side and she asked the same question what would your answer be? The question you posed is a leading question with the only answer being "No nothing affects our thing." Posing the question is in itself a mistake in my opinion because now she has a clue. But luckily for you her lack of vehemently denying it means you know where you stand. Game other girls and invest minimally here to kee…
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:50 PM
1

Haha I am a fellow noob like you who just happened to have been in the exact same situation in the past. I mean feel free to but posting here is better since some EC might drop some solid advice and it is often better since they are more experienced.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:39 PM
3

Great but at the same time don't go super cold like the guy who gets his dick wet and leaves. She should have hope but not certainty.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:35 PM
1

All of this is situational man so I don't think many of us can select the best thing to do. Just keep it simple. The reason for low texting is this. You don't have to waste time thinking about such shit and things happen naturally in person if you avoid the usual pitfalls.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:23 PM
3

No you don't ask. This is commitment seeking behavior and I have made similar mistakes in the past. You are the gatekeeper of commitment. Now because you just won't listen and hamster out some way like I did. Here is the thing. Even if you want to desperately LTR her the trick is to keep smashing her. If you are the only dick then Mr. Oxytocin will work his magic for you. If not then you pushing for your case won't help you anyway. If you display commitment seeking behavior you are an easy catch…
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:19 PM
2

I often find telling myself this. But damn I have started loving the whole idea of going in and seeing how far I can push it. It is literally a fun game.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 07:51 PM
1

Most likely pushing for exclusivity. Read the sidebar article on how to handle the "Talk". If some drama creeps up - go with BS like "We shouldn't rush it.". Girls don't hit you up with direct questions unless they are flustered so I don't think it is a shit test unless it was said playfully. Agree and Amplify is great even if it is not a shit. It is my usual go-to when I don't wanna answer irrespective of gender.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 07:45 PM
1

She didn't mention the place she wanted to try for no reason. Now try to put an end to the banter. Simply tell her Let's go X at time Y. Bonus: I would avoid doing shit for her like the Google Doc thing. It leads to texting and I often end up changing woman's mind after fixing a date lol.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 07:41 PM
5

Oneitis already man. Slow down. I can agree she might be the only hot one in your circle (happened to me). Just game outside/online.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:59 PM
1

This is amazing advice and I made the mistake of not following it due to this exact question. Further don't softnext since you have decided that the bitch isn't worth commitment anyways. Consider it over and use her as a free fucktoy.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 06:52 AM
3

How do you get there? After being introduced to TRP I thought as I slept around more it would make my confidence go up. I think every single girl I have banged has been sheer luck and I can't get that out of my head. So even when I am spinning two plates I don't really feel what people at TRP called abundance.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 06:01 AM
1

I do this with all previous FWBs and I do it because I like it as I have said in other comment. Dating means I see someone as a potential romantic interest. She is the one who has been begging for my time so I am not sure what impression you have all this. I am not the one initiating meets. It always goes like - "When can I see you next?" and my answer always is "I'll let you know when I am free." Now she obviously is weaponizing sex. I still don't get your point about the whole offer thing?
/r/askTRP08/03/18 07:10 PM
1

I was in a LTR recently and quite busy with career stuff since I am about to graduate. Anyways, those are all excuses. Like I mentioned in the post already seeing a new girl soon just that I am not Chad enough to pull first date lays.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:43 PM
1

I don't really have a count of how many times you have saved my ignorant ass. Sticking to this. What if she doesn't turn around though? Cancel?
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:05 PM
1

I enjoy the complete experience of women holding on to me in public, running back to give me a good night kiss or bringing me food they cooked. If you know what I mean. I am actually open to LTRs but after being burned recently I have decided anything less than 6 months of evaluation of women is inviting more problems. So I am evaluating her and need some time as well keep my options open. Also, how do I deal differently if it is a comfort test?
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:32 PM
0

But man it has just been a month. I mean how can she be trying to lock me down already? So, yeah because I am supposed to see her day after, just cancel plans unless she talks some sense by tomorrow evening? I feel I am still BP won't this really drive her away by her thinking I am just in for the sex?
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:22 PM
1

Thanks for the advice. On it.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 12:01 AM
2

Idk I have never met an emotionally stable one ever
/r/askTRP24/02/18 03:41 PM
2

Make sure the raft is a hotter one. Do it soon.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 11:13 PM
3

Probably the roommate is fucking her no commitment (which she is seeking ) that is why she keeps checking him on Instagram. Girls can lie to your damn face with BS like privacy, controlling and crap. Had a LTR who I suspected - accused me of not giving her space. Snatched her phone and just scrolled through to display the whoring business. Tons of crying ensued. (Don't do this. It is stupid.)
/r/askTRP22/02/18 01:13 AM
2

Set things via text. Make it clear we are meeting to fuck. Drop some sort of I had a great time and loved the way you did X where X is some sexual act. Normally returns with a smiley. Enough evidence IMHO.
/r/MGTOW21/02/18 09:51 PM
1

I have been suffering with something similar. Here is how I have rationalized it. I think spinning multiple plates is an anti-fragile way of life. You can't really control other people in the long run. She may find a Chad, may just want drama or any other variant. I unofficially hang out with my plates outside (kinda getting the whole GF experience). Depending on how you manage to incite their emotions they will very much "love" you for a short period of time. I have had instances like when I dr…
/r/askTRP21/02/18 09:42 PM
5

Or in cases like mine where you lost frame so badly it almost becomes impossible even if you want to.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 07:22 PM
1

This
/r/askTRP21/02/18 05:57 AM
2

I would suggest the post on trp.red titled talking back. I found it excellent except when it is a direct confrontation.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 04:23 PM
1

Would have been cool to say that I am not like most men but who am I kidding
/r/askTRP20/02/18 04:03 PM
1

I agree with all you say. But what do I say to the exact question. Last girl the response I got was "So you want me to find other guys to sleep and are okay with it?" Now obviously that is not a good outcome and I can't really tell myself that well AWALT because it was my actions that resulted in this. Maybe my thinking is messed up here. I am trying to create an unfair situation where I can sleep around but plate can't okay. So in such a case you wouldn't consider it a LTR material right? And j…
/r/askTRP20/02/18 03:38 PM
2

My plan is to keep things as they are for few months and evaluate her and not start an ego war.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 03:23 PM
1

Worked.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 08:50 PM
3

I have been in exactly your position. Read the thread https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7xrsjl/bitch_cheated_now_wants_to_go_casual_again/ for a glimpse into the future. I wish I would have been given this advice earlier then I would have had a way better chance with this girl and would have hurt myself less. Firstly, you need to accept desire cannot be negotiated. In my case we definitely had a thing going (to some extent) but when she started seeing others I gave her an ultimatum on let…
/r/askTRP18/02/18 08:25 PM
2

I am new here so take my word with a grain of salt but as I started I only went for the easy ones (4-6). This lead to two problems: It seriously hurt my confidence. Even now the hotter ones seems out of my reach or if I get one I assume it was sheer luck. Whenever I would end with someone hot I would easily catch oneitis. Though I agree with the other comment at the end it is all about what makes us happy.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 06:40 PM
1

I would add my experience and say that my IDGAF along with the feeling that everything is a test (Ex. She doesn't want to meet this week bitch isn't into me. Soft Next) partly killed my RS. Obviously at the same time thanks to TRP I did plan my exit well because I saw it coming. I am still learning how to apply dread, soft-nexting in the right way. My repeated use of dread made the girl believe I wasn't serious and burned things down. A large part I feel has to do with being comfortable and conf…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 06:41 AM
1

Other ways like? Unless I am a Chad I know I can't just go out the next night and get a chick to fuck me. And old plates or others who you aren't actively fucking are always bitchy when you return after a hiatus.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 05:32 AM
6

Got one from someone else. Thanks 😂
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 01:32 PM
8

I plan to put this to test. Opinions people?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 06:26 AM
1

Pretty sure I can. I don't want her back or shit. Main thing is I don't want to do similar crap with new one given no options.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 07:25 PM
1

Right way to go about it? I already have a replacement but having just one is dangerous from what I have learned.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 06:11 PM
1

I know. I have no interest in LTRing her
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:56 PM
1

So I should try meeting this one out first instead of just asking her to get a room? This seems a bit counter-intutive given this just has to be about sex?
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:38 PM
1

Yeah no LTR no matter what.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:34 PM
1

From my current trajectory I hope money won't be a limiting factor (graduating soon and ending up in a high paying job and eventually plan to start my own thing). Time and game - time will tell.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:31 PM
1

Any advice on how one would go about it i.e. what to say after reinitiate. One issue is that we are both students and rent places to fuck so the plan of just meeting for something else and escalation is difficult.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:28 PM
1

Hope I get to your levels one day.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:26 PM
2

I am agreeing with you all the way man. Just stating the fact though it was unnecessary.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:24 PM
1

Trust me I did and I am seeing the other girl again tomorrow. I admit I am not great looking hence have a difficult time getting plates but I kinda did plan my exit when I felt shit was going down.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:23 PM
1

Well she didn't (dude was begging for sex and wanting to go third base on the chat) but it makes no difference to your point though. She would have maybe today, tommorow this week.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:20 PM
1

Okay okay I agree dumb stuff lol. I got into TRP just a couple of months back and the idea of spinning multiples used to be alien to me when this BS started.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:19 PM
1

That made me feel good lol given I have managed to cross this one since a year of getting active :p
/r/askTRP15/02/18 05:14 PM
1

Done and dusted ;)
/r/askTRP15/02/18 02:10 PM
1

I agree with this. From what she has described in the past the best things we have had have always been when I was super horny and went all out. I have been holding myself back. Partly the issue is that I find it really hard to transform from being normal in real life (I am not really the aloof types) to going rough in bed. I mean I really want to tie her up and shit but it is hard for myself to bring the animal instinct out. So given I don't believe that is the natural me I am pretty sure it is…
/r/askTRP13/02/18 11:58 PM
1

She wants to watch the old ones at home. I don't think I would even need to escalate. We both know we are going to fuck later.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 10:53 PM
1

This is golden.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 11:36 PM
1

I don't think so. We are young (22). Either everyone is correct or she is out of her mind thinking marriage now.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 11:14 PM
1

I wish I was Chad man but I am not. I just saved some for a rainy day. Basically I just kept this girl on the side because shit can hit the ceiling anytime. I mean I still hate myself for my beta shit and caring for this girl but at the same time last 6 months of TRP changed me for good. I wouldn't fathom keeping girls hanging, or trying to maintain an option while in a RS before. Thanks to TRP.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 09:00 PM
3

Perfect plan. Except logistics are stacked against me. We rent places out on Airbnb for fucking. So the escalation part beyond making out is never going to happen. I actually agree with Inchado's idea of hard nexting from a logical POV. Just that rn I don't think I am strong enough (not because I don't have options but because I am invested in this girl). I need to first work on myself to clear my head and then cause maximum damage.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:58 PM
1

Haha I didn't need that rationalization to cheat. I am already going to but it would be sweet if it would also result in some damage here besides getting my dick wet lol
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:41 PM
2

I have another option lying around who would fuck me good tomorrow. I was just avoiding that route so far.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:32 PM
2

Not fucking around has fucked with my head. I will get a lay tomorrow which I am sure of and then start racking up other options. I will make a deadline and hard next in the next couple of weeks.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:31 PM
2

Thanks, I understand better now.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:22 PM
4

Makes sense. Here is what I can rattle off my head: No cuddling after sex. Stop going on dates. Crap part is we moved from FWB to this thing and started dating as well. So I am not sure if the message would be strong enough? Never initating conversation other than meeting for sex. Guess I need to cancel the plans we had for 14th. Oops I am busy. Oh I don't mind cheating on my girls from a moral or whatever sense. I don't do it unless provoked but I guess it is time.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:17 PM
2

I don't mind smashing on the side. I am obviously into this girl but my liking for myself is a tad bit higher :p "What does she have that I don't?" - Translates to, if he dropped her before the wedding and proposed to me instead, I'd say yes and leave you in the wind. I agree but my question is if it is worth giving a crap when you know it is not going to happen? She might have fantasies about Ryan Bloody Gosling fucking her brains out. Should I care? I agree it definetly is driving a dagger thr…
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:05 PM
2

Nothing, show her how she fucked up with your actions (Demoting her ass back to a plate while plating other women). How? I never get this part at TRP. How am I supposed to demote a GF (exclusive) relationship without cheating (being discrete) in the first place? If I do it openly what is the right way? If I just cheat behind the back it sends no message doesn't it? If I am overt about it isn't it ineffective and inviting revenge?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:59 PM
1

But not in a whiny way just in a I'm too good for this way. Example how you would put it?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:43 PM
18

3 months. You got me. Hard next or plate? Any tips on how to plate a GF (break out of the exclusive shit)?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:27 PM
3

Yes, man especially just at 24 I am quite shocked. Further, I had been making plans with another girl but not feeling sure about it. This one made my choice easier ;)
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:22 PM
2

I like the suggestion. For the softnext to be effective should I first cancel the plans we had for 14th? Or just softnext till 13th and act as nothing happened?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:20 PM
1

A weak, desperate man. LOL Am I the one being made fun of here or the dude getting hitched. Anyways, what do you suggest I do? I'll leave her be for a few days but then what?
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:17 PM
9

Dude how the fuck am I supposed to know when this is being bought up months into this.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 07:12 PM
1

I am accepting them for what they are and that is what is killing my enjoyment. I know it seems stupid but to know that you are banging her now then there will be someone else and you are just a piece of crap among other sea of men. Or how she doesn't see you anything more than a tool kills the fun for me. How is that better than just jerking myself off? I know I am being whiny but help me see light how can you still enjoy them for what they are?
/r/askTRP04/02/18 04:51 PM
1

Yes, I am a thirsty beta who has limited HB 8-9 options. Happy? I can go shove my dick in HB 5-6s but that doesn't please me enough. Now onto the serious thing, do you think this is not a problem at all? From my limited time around here I have gathered, I shouldn't allow her to dictate the rules and that is what I am trying to fix in this particular context. She is very agreeable to my demands otherwise.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:37 PM
1

Curious if you know what exclusive means. Basically all you guys don't see any other option than cheating? I am fine with it if there isn't another solution but would prefer something different. Even worse this doesn't solve the issue of her behaviour.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:27 PM
2

Thanks. I do have a points system and she is well aware of it. But I agree my decision to upgrade should have been more well thought out.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:24 PM
1

Okay I will fuck other girls. But are you sure this isn't a problem. What bothers me about this is not the frequency of sex but I am more uncomfortable about her dictating the rules. So I feel like I need to change something instead of just showing up whenever the fuck she plans.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:23 PM
1

Okay I'll admit to it. But equally it is more of a challenge to me. If I would have been loosing my backup options then too I would have been frustrated to keep them on the bench. Please don't get the impression about be hamstering from the post. I am always elaborate when asking questions. But, YES I am more invested in this one then the rest combined. Also by supplementig your diet you mean cheat or let her know that she is being downgraded? I am fine with either as long as I win.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 10:18 PM
1

I have a couple who would on my terms but not that hot. Anyways, per say my issue is not exactly with the meeting but how it is fucking up the frame by doing it her way. Further, the planning one week ahead thing really reduces the frequency of how much I can screw. So what would be the trp thing to say if she says "let's meet around X (10 days later) that is when I get my pay so we can have fun and go out as well."
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:54 PM
0

Rest of the stuff is okay dude. Some of it is great too. She sometimes cooks for me takes cares of some other stuff as well. I think she is "teachable" from my understanding. Can always downgrade if it doesn't work
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:49 PM
1

Update. So yeah I followed this through and gave her the option. She said needed time to think but the feeling is mutual (she confused). Got back to me later and said she thinks we should give it a shot.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 07:11 AM
-2

Dude I have done it for every chick I have dated in last one year (8). Even when I have multiple running in parallel. AskTrp is kinda like training wheels for me and has helped me get laid several times when I am sure I couldn't with my own stupidity. I don't think I can really convince you on me being not invested enough to agree to her stupid shit. But thanks I appreciate the effort you are putting in. If what you are saying is right I will come back and update this post.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 08:55 PM
-3

I agree with the majority of your points but I think you are reading some stuff wrong. You are trying to control people. That is not going to work and it is also a very wrong mindset. I am sorry but maniuplation works. You might be the Alpha 2.0 but in my little experience I have made stuff work. The softnext is to take control back of the frame where this bitch has been thinking that I won't walk off. Let aside you are suffering heavily from oneitis and the only valid option here is an instant …
/r/askTRP17/01/18 08:44 PM
1

Thanks. Seem to be working. Can you please check the new post on this https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7r3tar/handling_situation_after_soft_next_asked_fwb_to/
/r/askTRP17/01/18 08:07 PM
1

Thanks for the advice. It does hurt but I am sure this is the right thing to do. Just to make it clear we had agreed to both people dating outside at some point. But yeah agree sex is part of dating so it was a stupid thing to decide in the first place. Any tips on ghosting the right way? I don't want to come off as a manchild who is pissed because he couldn't have his way. And I know she messages me on WhatsApp almost every morning so I don't understand "If she contacts you ...". Should I just …
/r/askTRP16/01/18 07:01 AM
1

I am falling out. More than any girl I like being the powerful person in such a social interaction lol
/r/askTRP15/01/18 09:44 PM
2

Nothing stops me from saying that now. I don't think it is difficult to bring this up again after I fuck her. And I think my reaction did send a similar message because when she insisted it was exclusive I just laughed it out. Maybe will make the boundaries more explicit. Anyways I already set up a hookup with the dead plate this morning. If she is gonna redefine exclusive I might as well go full throttle.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 07:51 AM
3

Thanks. Can you suggest any particular reading on this? Or point out specifically what I could have done instead? Was accepting exclusivity wrong in itself or what I did next? This is not the first time I am in this situation. So I would like to contemplate how to avoid this. Also, by softnext you mean cancel the next scheduled fuck and vanish or what?
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:34 PM
3

haha never seen that into the sidebar. You mean throw her right?
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:24 PM
0

Fuck yes I am an orbiter. But I am pretty sure I am not the friendzoned type BS. Okay then suggest right strategy to fucking her then lol. My main concern here is with the game. What frame to use to get her out. What not to say more importantly?
/r/askTRP04/11/17 11:50 AM
1

You have a valid point. But we are all interns so it would be a short term thing. Okay I agree she might have a lot of options but it would be stupid not to try I guess.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 03:06 AM
1

Somewhere between the night and the morning lol?
/r/askTRP29/10/17 03:34 AM
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