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CMVmissionarymechanic/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:30 PM
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No, it's called: You're arguing in bad faith and are utterly useless. As if we needed more "proof" than rising amounts of genital surgery among youth, anal bleaching, unprotected sex, and so on. You're blocked, loser. Take your goalpost with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:26 AM
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"Whadabout..." I have my own battles with child labor/prostitution/marriage and extreme poverty here in Romania. I'm afraid we don't have any cobalt mines. But I'm more than interested to hear the connection between sex trafficking and child labor for rare metals. As well as interested in hearing your contribution to ending this plight that you care about so much that you even deign to write on one such device. "Proof" I take it you've never had sex, then? Or every woman you've been with was hor…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:49 AM
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I take it you've never sat in on a human trafficking forum? And I don't mean an internet forum, I mean IRL, real people, doing the real work? You should. It's enlightening when you can ask direct questions from the people who've been there, done that, on both sides of the issue. Perhaps nothing will actually penetrate your conscious, but I assure you, people lie. There is no real obligation to verify provided legal information, such as age or a legal right to be/work in a country. Hell, you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:39 AM
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You should have a certain amount of skepticism of virtually everyone. Even your own parents, romantic interests, or children. People lie. People lie a lot. It is up to you to pay attention to when things don't line up and protect yourself. So I don't really see a problem with what you write, only to point out there is no way to ascertain to what extent is your experience confirmation bias versus actual reality. At the same time, some women simply are more often selected for violence. I'm too laz…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:51 PM
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r/iamverybadass is waiting for you, king.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 06:07 AM
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What does extroversion/introversion have to do with being shy? I'm still an introvert, but I overcame being painfully shy. Cry about it, though. The world will surely bend to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 03:58 AM
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You misunderstand the dynamic I've laid down. What I'm referring to is "pedestalization." The tendency to put another above oneself. Women are not pedestalizing shy men. By their nature, shy men aren't "seen" by anyone at all. They avoid attention. You're also obfuscating my point. I'm talking about shy men, but you've reframed it as men in general. That's material for another post.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:59 PM
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At best, being shy can be endearing. It does not generate feelings of attraction. You want women to actively friendzone men? Seems harsh and unnecessary. Here's an alternative idea: socialize shy men to realize that women are just people, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 03:04 PM
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Whatever the circumstances that got him there, he's famous because he's famous. Yes, there are many men who are more of everything... but they're not celebrities. And if you're not a celebrity, then you probably aren't going to be dating one. (I personally struggle to imagine why anyone would want to date a celebrity.)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:50 PM
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Vocal minority. Plenty of studies showing that married folks have more and better sex. While I'm not a proponent of sex before marriage, many times sex fails because of a lack of effort. Get game. Keep game. You'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 05:19 AM
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Yeah, I would never advise what you're saying. I would advise, however, self-examination of what someone is after if they keep pulling up weeds. It took me a few tries to realize that I had a pattern of going after women that I had to "win over," not because of a lack of options or liking the challenge, but. I was repeating a broken example and experience that "love" had to be "earned." That it isn't inherent/inevitable. That I could not be loved without effort on my part. Part of how that trans…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:52 AM
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Your confirmation biases do not reflect the reality that it is still a handicap. Younger would still have more options, whether or not those options were also preferences. When I was mid-twenties, I started dating a woman seven years older than me. (We originally both guessed that the other was roughly the same age as our respective ends.) She was that important combination of: single and attractive. Why was an attractive woman single at that age? Divorce. Dudes generally don't care too much abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:04 AM
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Boundaries are one thing, but I think the fact is most cross-sex friendships don't form because there's no equitable exchange of value: i.e., men and women don't normally value the same things the same way... Heck, most relationships are the same way. How many couples realize that they have nothing in common? That they're not really friends once the sex hormones come back down to normal? That's why I'm pretty big on insisting guys ask the question (ideally before having sex): Would you wanna be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:44 PM
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The bisexual bit at the end came sailing in like a stealth fighter out of nowhere... Gosh dang, dude(tte).. Sorry, but do you work a blue-collar job at all? The amount of bromances I've witnessed and times I've had to set boundaries with straight male friends to not grope me... usually under pain of death... Boundaries exist in every type of relationship. Perhaps you just haven't had the displeasure of yours being tread upon. (I'm also great friends with a straight, married female. We'll hug for…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 08:10 PM
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The "male dual-mating strategy" only works for guys who are hot to begin with... Were you talking about hooking up or marriage? Because, if the initial premise is that "hooking up" isn't the same, what does marriage and long-term commitment have to do with it? Hooking up is hooking up, marriage may or may not stem from it, but it is not a requirement for marriage. Generally speaking, those hooking up are not doing so with the mindset of long-term thinking... at all. Sexual desire does not have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 11:07 AM
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If we're going off the normal definition of "fetish," let's also assume that this is an indelible trait that does not diminish with age. In which case, there's really no negative for me that someone requires "basic bald white dude" for sexual gratification. I'm happy to supply. So the real question is if I would get into a relationship with someone who objectifies me on the basis of racial markers OR rejects those who do not have them... Probably not: Assuming mixed race, our children would spli…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:10 AM
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Are charismatic people never cheated on or divorced?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:19 AM
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The last part... You think women are immune to horny, bud? The rest of it, though. Pure comedy gold with logical inconsistency. You have not the slightest idea of what women experience. Here's the harsh reality: All else being equal, a 5th percentile man can handily overpower a 95th percentile woman. Unless he's buttery smooth, a cold-open is a threat, not an invitation. Men attack women, women rarely attack men. That's the perception. Monday night, I got home after a four-hour drive. I'm in Eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:39 PM
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Some things are hard-coded from childhood. I've my own issues and thoughts that I know are BS and wrong, and have to fight them when they rear up. The real test is when the external conflict arrives, what do you resort to when it counts? Your friend? He can espouse whatever he wants. But when you're not there to witness and put a stop to it, there lies the heart of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:04 AM
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It's more likely that someone aesthetically pleasing has more positive social engagement to begin with. So those more ambiverted would tend to gravitate towards extroverted activities. It's also likely that someone who's extremely introverted would be less inclined to doll themselves up for day-to-day activities; drawing less attention to themselves. Then there's the social factor. Extroverts can just be more entertaining and socially comfortable people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:07 AM
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Like... On paper, I would be as "conservative" as you could possibly get: Hardcore Jesus freak, gun owner, starting my own business in a blue-collar trade, owned a pickup until a few days ago, would really prefer a spouse to not work for someone else while kids are young... But I want nothing to do with Darth Cheeto and any of his supporters. I won't even vote Republican again for ever allowing such a dirtbag in their midst and adopting such a culture of hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:37 AM
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I've always considered "male feminist" a foreign term that translates to: "waits until she's drunk and alone." Partially due to the number of female friends who've been assaulted by an "ally." (To be fair, I've known some guys who seemed genuine to their stated cause and seem respectable. Many others? Not so much.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:25 AM
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1) Many couples have gone through this and found ways to be sexual. 2) Most people's sex drive will dwindle after a certain age, either way. 3) If sex is the only thing holding your relationship together, your relationship sucks. It's impossible to say exactly how I would respond. I'm fairly certain my first concern would be compassion for the cause of this issue. Like, if I had a wife dying of cancer and couldn't be sexual with me, I'm pretty sure sex wouldn't reach my conscious thought for a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:24 PM
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The external benefits of emotional intelligence for a relationship are only realized if you can clear the attractiveness gate. Otherwise, the benefits are personal and, imo, still worthwhile. You should probably take a second look at these couples you mention, though. Chances are that the women are about as equally as dense. Game recognizes game, and so does the lack of it. "EQ" is not actually a handicap. Having it generally means you've spent time understanding and mastering your issues. Inste…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 12:33 PM
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I don't think anyone is going to an OB/GYN for a good time. There's either an issue that really needs to be addressed, and short waiting times are the critical factor. Or, it's something that's generally unpleasant to begin with, and maximum comfort is preferred, which can also mean having a good rapport. Like... what's the plan for an ER visit? Bleed out until the husband approves the doctor? You can't necessarily control how you feel about it, but you can shut up and leave the room during exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:59 PM
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It's usually cringe, late-to-the-party, misinformed, delusional, low-quality, etc. That, or just plain uninteresting. Of the posts I find repugnant, I've never mis-guessed the gender. It spreads pretty evenly across the gender divide, but I think guys are pulling ahead at being wrong. Certainly a lot noisier about it, anyways... "Go team..." The real pearls of wisdom, if any are to be found, are in the comments. You just have to dig through a lot of mud to reach them. And it's usually like the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:14 AM
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It's easier if you've never had sexual experiences before. But once that door is opened, it's difficult to close it again. Not to mention the frequent manipulation: "Well, if you really loved me..." Or, "You're going to make me wait when you've already done 'X' before??!" There are a multitude of good reasons why waiting is a good strategy. But people are generally stupid, especially when motivated by hormones, and don't apply critical thinking to the challenges to this concept. Unfortunately, f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:37 PM
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I mean... virtually every woman I've dated has been way outside my "looks match." And I don't just mean a "single-bagger" to my "double," I mean, I've dated: enters-the-room-and-every-head-turns... good-looking. There've been more average ones as well, but. I've never been able to go after a woman I didn't find above average in looks to the point where I feel I'm kind of shallow. 5'8" on a tall day, face that looks like it won a fight with a brick, and a serious introvert with a "resting-murder-…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 02:54 PM
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I assure you, I can be ignored and casually ghosted by an "RP" woman as well as any other category you'd care to pick... But, more directly, it's not an uncommon theme for the faith group/intensity I'm looking for. If that's all they have for a profile, assuming they're not teeming with inappropriate pictures that contraindicate what they wrote (because that's common for some reason,) I might give it a go, but. I would have zero hope of anything interesting coming out of it. I don't do well with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 09:48 PM
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...and? I'd probably get bored if there weren't some intricacy and communication involved. I have enough experience to say that being passive isn't really a personal habit, either. Sincerely, if it's that much of a chore compared to what you believe to be automatic and practically a forgone conclusion, it's probably a you problem. I would suggest you rethink what "satisfaction" is as a man, or at least a dominant one. If your psychological fulfillment is in reading and satisfying your partner, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:50 PM
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I don't even ask for hard science, just an argument that bears some awareness of reality. Just the wording regarding hormonal birth control and ovulation does not seem fully acquainted with the subject. Then to say that "money and social control" are feminine traits... it's non sequitur; the premises are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:29 PM
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There are males who will tell women almost anything in the hopes of getting sex for free? Surely this has never happened in the history of mankind... Although your "date" may have been nudging the conversation if she was interested and you weren't; attempting to make a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:14 PM
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Yes... Birth control makes women horny for their brother... it all makes sense now... Selecting pictures of "feminine" faces is not the same as having sex with someone The "pill" tends to reduce sex drive It also is pretty good about preventing pregnancy, and thus, reduces the chances of poor genetic diversity Most of those engaged in casual sex are specifically trying to avoid getting pregnant Feminine faces tend to be less appealing to women as they age out of their teens Only about 25% of wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 05:42 PM
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Well... am man. Was angry as heck when I found out after the fact. Reasoned that it wasn't worth being angry over a relationship that I didn't think was going anywhere. Decided to be a decent person and live my life. Eventually acquired closure that would have been impossible if I had held a grudge. Am happy. It's said that "bitterness" is like continually drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die from it. Revenge is for suckers. There's no one who deserves your long-term emotions …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:00 PM
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Not accruing battle damage?? The body has its own built-in motivation and reward system, but it also has a cost. Most people imprint pretty hard on at least their first sexual partner, with diminishing returns after that. Spent on someone faithful and worth spending a life with, that's not a bad deal. Spent on teenage-Todd who whinges, "Well, if you really loved me..." is, quite literally, a f***ing waste. But, you know, getting stuck on the first manipulative bastard you get stuck by is not exa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 09:48 PM
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It's almost as if the most human thing is to dehumanize others... Nearly everyone has some sort of dissatisfaction of some kind. The easiest (if not the most toxic and counter-productive) way to cope with it is via narrow and selected comparison. Not many people will have enough self reflection and comprehensive data to understand how things really are. And if you're going to lead people by the nose, few things are more effective than to fuel those biases non-stop. Women have some things easier.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:41 AM
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I mean... more women than men vote in the US... men keep getting elected. Where are we falling behind?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:50 AM
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I literally had an even-keeled discussion today where I mentioned male suicide as a point of issue. Legitimately, I don't want to listen to this guy, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:46 AM
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More-or-less, that was intended direction of the first question. And the second question?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 10:43 PM
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I read that comment, but didn't think much of it. It's little more than a weak retort and appealing to the crowd. I think the reason you don't hear about it is that the majority of the "flow" is already one-way. I can only reasonably comment to my own surroundings, but. There's a bit of desperation for American men to find genuine companionship and community. We're very much a "peach culture*," and the closest many will get to companionship and community is through relationships and family... bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 10:25 PM
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Mmmm... I would generally agree, though that's still within "Western" alignment for the purposes of the question. But as far as the "passport bros" concept, this seems to be about capitalizing on market deficiencies by leveraging your own advantages to your mutual gain. Their women are also quite attractive, tall, and are well conditioned to their society. (I'm guessing you're also American?) What would women from your culture possess (or be perceived to posses) that would allow you to out-compe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:53 PM
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There are certainly places within Western culture where women might migrate to for better social/economic/political conditions... but. I would be curious as to where you feel, not backed by any data, just where you think you would go outside of Western countries for a "good" dating pool. What deficiencies from your "abysmal" dating pool would be corrected by this move?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:52 PM
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Women tend to have much stronger connections to family and community, and that becomes a critical feature when considering that raising a family of your own can be a communal effort. Even in the missionary world, single female missionaries tend to outnumber single male ones by anywhere for 5 to 8-to-1... however. In addition to outnumbering us, the women also have a higher turnover rate. Men tend to marry into the community or other missionaries, the women typically just go home. Some points: We…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:36 PM
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It's cool if I dress like a slob and wear clothing with embarrassing/offensive statements 24/7? The pro move is to shop within your expectations and tastes and have this discussion early to see where you both stand. You want someone to dress modestly? Find someone who dresses modestly. Social media has made it easier than ever to figure this stuff out. Having standards and boundaries is not a problem. Trying to bait-and-switch or to manipulate someone into what they're not is the issue. Personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 07:40 PM
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I read the title and thought, "Yep, that sounds great!" But the reality is that, while great advertising and would catch my attention, it's not actually enough. Everything you allude to is part of the total package that has to be weighed out, and even one of those items could be enough to torpedo any further interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:20 PM
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My standard is: a Christian woman with a similar/compatible missionary calling that existed before meeting me. Even among missionaries (there's even a dating website for us,) Eastern Europe is just not on anyone's radar. Coupled with the fact that there is a non-zero chance of entering an active war zone to render and deliver aid within shelling range... not exactly hoardes of women lining up for a ticket to ride. At this point, I'm just waiting for my life to stabilize as I initiate a business …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:29 PM
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I seem to be a magnet for the "women who have never been treated well before." And, yes, they really do freak out over it. It's... really sad, now that I think about it... That kindness can trigger someone into fight-or-flight, because "when is the other shoe going to drop??" is raging in the back of their minds... Anyways. I... might have done that before? The first time was in high school. She was attracted to me, but I had some severe internalized issues accepting that at the time. Like... I …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 11:20 AM
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I mean... I dated a woman who had been with girls/women before. It didn't do anything positive for me, and sex outside of marriage wasn't on the table for where we both were at that point in life. Read the username, advertising bi-sexual as if it was a positive feature for a relationship is basically a non-starter. Otherwise, my only concern was trajectory; everyone's got a past. I've only anecdotal evidence to support your claim about double-standards. If it's true, then it must be that men who…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 02:16 AM
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Ah, shoot, meant to reply to you, but someone had a similar response (I hate the app.) Link to my response if it's not visible in the tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 12:19 PM
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Those are called pedophiles and predators. While pure BS, and someone should have stood up for you and beaten the tar out of them, this is not representative of legitimate relationships; there is no equality/peerage. It does happen where both parties are reasonably developed and have a meeting of the minds and a shared interest. I've been there, both directions, and it caused serious hesitation both times. The last time, when I was the significantly older one, I about had a heart attack when she…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:29 AM
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Hey, my first relationship was with a woman seven years older than I was. Who's coming here to tell me I was being taken advantage of because she probably thought I was vulnerable and impressionable? Maybe I had mommy issues or was grubbing after her money? Bad people with disingenuous intent exist and are not a relevant point of discussion over the merits of any class of relationship. That's asinine. But if everyone intends to act like children that only think in absolutes, then what difference…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 04:15 AM
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When you say "old dudes" when you were "young," could you give more specific ages for this mental picture that comes to mind? Both yours and theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 03:21 AM
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Imagine people's shock when they realize that, perhaps the reason women aren't responding back is because... they're not actually looking for a relationship. The last woman I was chatting with was mid-30-something and keen on me, but conversation made it pretty clear that she initially had no real intent behind signing up for the app in the first place. (Couldn't go anywhere with it, because she really wasn't in a good position to join me in my adventures overseas.) At least as far as I've seen …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 01:58 PM
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Most won't even read your profile, let alone remember what was in it. You really think they're putting in that kind of time?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:24 AM
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I assure you, plenty of people can and do entertain relationships where the partner isn't kind, respectful, accepting, nor honest. It's not misunderstanding "need vs want" that screws people over, it's having misaligned priorities and intellectual dishonesty over it. If you were to write down your top ten traits in a partner in order, most people would put the most noble traits in the first half, and the "nice-to-haves" in the second half... however. An honest analysis would see that most people…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:44 PM
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There is no amount of effort that I could put into a profile that can overcome the structural realities of such a system. It encourages the most shallow sorting behavior and offers no meaningful social analog that could adjust a woman's perceptions: can you hold a conversation, be active in a group discussion, or make her laugh? After much testing, you know what increased my activity more than anything else? Lying about my height. Apparently, being 5'8" on a tall day is below the most common min…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:11 PM
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I mean... I will specifically check someone's social media for their pics and what they share/write. Bikini pics are an instant disqualifier for a relationship (Caveat: I'm very deep in my religious beliefs and only shop within my faith community. That also means that I accept that someone who has come to faith at a later date and had a change of heart, just hasn't gotten around to taking such things down, does get that stricken from the record. I'm not twisting anyone's arm over this, if it's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:01 PM
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Hence, everything that follows, "Be sober..."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:39 PM
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Option C: Be sober and quit pretending that one doesn't have agency, and thus accountability, whenever it's (in)convenient. I.e. Avoid the situation in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:18 PM
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Single parenthood is a serious issue. And the last I checked, men don't get pregnant and stuck with a kid by having sex; their real commitment to the process is almost non-existent. Maternity is inherent, paternity has to be assumed in the absence of testing. Unless a man particularly wants children, there's very little biological constraint for him to attach to them. Therefore, it is highly incumbent upon women to be both highly discriminating for a partner and place an extremely high level of …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:34 PM
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"But but... OuR bIoLoGy?!" Exactly. Most of these "studies" do not show what people claim they do. As if having or being a partner who does nothing with their life but gain circumference is supposed to be endlessly entertaining. Even for simple folk. We have one of the largest and most active brains on the planet. We get bored. That doesn't mean we're meant to sleep around, it means you need a hobby other than work, commuting, and wasting away on screens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:03 PM
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"Is that true?" People talk, it's what they do that matters. If these "attractive male friends" have a wake of women behind them and are not with someone they really want to settle down with-- right... now... what is their boasting worth to you? I'm a "'til marriage" kind of guy, so I've no skin the game of manipulating women with, "Well... if you really liked me..." or "But, you did it before with____...?!" Not to say that I haven't gone further than I wish I had, but that's my burden. You need…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:12 PM
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Well... you weren't a challenge (he's a high-achiever,) you're sleeping around with Tinder but want commitment, and you've really nothing left to bargain with. If a guy is high-status and has lots of options throwing themselves at him, the only one who's going to lock him down is the one who is attractive to him and knows how to ride the brakes. You fumbled. He didn't win with you, he just got more of the same. And, yes, it's not unlikely that he isn't already getting more of the same with someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:28 PM
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Does she have American PhD debt and is this a meaningful startup or a MLM? If "Yes" or "MLM," -4.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 12:10 PM
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Generally speaking, if something isn't moving within the first meeting, it's probably not going to happen. I'm not saying you have to get a phone number on your first encounter, but there had better be some attraction towards one another that grows with further interaction; even if it's just starting with glances back and forth. If you're just generally an unlikable and poorly presented person, don't expect to get matched. If you hang out with the same friends who don't do anything with their li…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:32 AM
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Mmmm... There's only one significant "feature" that would hold true in a fairly general sense for men-vs-women: Women seem to process the world in a more "immediate" and "emotionally-driven way," but can still tend to communicate and express themselves in more concrete terms. Ways this might play out: Coming home and complaining about something that went on that day. Guys will hear this as a request for help and something to be solved, but rarely is it more than just wanting to be listened to, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:23 AM
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Your counter to cherry-picking is... more cherry-picking? Fact of the matter and above everyone's opinion is that men are on average a few years older than their partner/spouse, and depending on where you live in the world is by how much. In the US? About 2.2 years. This does not balance the scales in favor of your argument. These facts more strongly counter your examples than the typical "older man" examples. But it is certainly not as common as the echo chambers would suggest. A more useful an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:24 PM
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Indeed, and imagine how snubbed someone would feel if their love language is "acts of service?" 😳 It's been a learning process to ask for help and depend on others. My hyper-competence isn't just stemming from talent, but also some unhealthy patterns I've internalized while growing up: "I can't be hurt or disappointed if I don't need anything from anyone." So, while it might be very... affective for some women; watching me work with my hands, it's a lot more effective when they're actually prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:26 PM
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Hear me out on this one point... If you never ask for help from a woman, that does not make her manipulative for asking you. It is your responsibility, not as a man, but as an adult, to not only set boundaries, but to extract equal value from your relationships. You cannot expect people to go out of their way for you without any sort of prompting. You don't have to beg, just interject a request: "Oh, you're going to IKEA? Ooo... grab me a pack of meatballs!" Strangely, women seem to bond more ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:34 PM
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Nice work. 👍It definitely felt like I was chasing a Woozle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 10:15 PM
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1) They have "morals and values" as much as anyone else, though you probably would not recognize them as such. 2) Seen plenty of "conservatives" who live up to those morals and values less than those who don't even have them. This is basically most of Romans 2 in the Bible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 01:20 AM
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I don't think this is a particularly useful survey question and is kind of a predictable slant. I tend to view "conservatism" and "liberalism" (in an American context) as a symptom of the way one processes and weighs information. The defining keyword at play with the survey is "always." Whereas "conservatives" seem to lean towards authoritative and absolutism based on available and recognized data, I think "liberals" would be more concerned about unknown circumstances. Essentially, even if a "li…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 01:12 AM
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Hahaha! Don't make me plug for my anthology series...🤫 It works, though. I was an absolute social pariah as a 'Yute. Between this and ballroom dancing, I definitely leveled up and was able to finally get relationships. They ended up being disasters anyways, but it's no longer insurmountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:49 PM
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And your data is based on, what? Your impression of echo chambers on the internet who handle data like it's an election year?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:26 PM
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And? You think the 50 year-old woman is fairing better with that guy? My answer assumes respectful partnerships, not the endless "whadabouts" you could muster to detract from the discussion of age-gap relationships. The answer is always the same: "Why would you even consider a relationship with someone who belittles you or others?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:39 PM
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Tons of uncertainty, anxiety, depression, and listlessness. Lots of secondary developmental issues: a significant number of and more brutal fights are breaking out and social skills in general are struggling. Meeting and befriending new people is a skill and COVID restrictions interrupted that learning process. Teen pregnancy is down and virginity is on the rise. I would generally be happy about that, but I recognize that it's not because of a reawakening in morality and pragmaticism... They jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:28 PM
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Nope. I wasn't directly addressing what seemed to be your scenario of what a mid-thirties man could offer a mid-thirties woman. That's not an age gap and not relevant to the discussion. You cannot offer a meaningful discussion of age-difference related benefits if there is no difference in age. However, surveying my response, a lot of these contrasts still hold in your scenario if you keep the gap the same for men in their 50's, though probably to a lesser degree. Because women in their 30's wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:58 PM
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When you're dating women in their 30's... :D Seriously, though. The "settling" vibe is pretty strong in 30+ women because the biological and social clock is ticking pretty loudly. If you can't land a date with a woman in her 20s (not saying that it's the best option or should do this, just whether or not it's available to you,) then you're probably not chad enough for a woman in her 30's, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:12 PM
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I was thinking more along the lines of men in their mid-thirties, but some should be applicable in your scenario: Intensity of sexual interest (whether or not they have the health to act on that) A fully developed brain A strong picture of their long-term physicality, including weight and hair loss Stability The ability to see the effects of their habits (A young man who's bad with money isn't too different from a young man who's good with money: they're both probably still broke.) Experience In…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:38 PM
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Though there's potential for exploitation. I think unattached women are more invested in shaming this. Their pool of suitors is shrinking after mid-twenties as they age while men's options continue to expand as they gain wealth and ascend social hierarchies until mid-30s or so (assuming they've actually got something going on in life.) It's a basic fact that men highly value looks/youth in women. And women can't get younger; the best they can do is be very fit or get plastic surgery (which I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:40 PM
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I'm 36. Whatever is legal; that they're a mature individual with good character and high intelligence. Age doesn't appear to be directly tied to those points (other than "legal," that's definitely tied to it.) However, generally speaking, under mid-twenties tends to be a non-starter. The developmental differences are very apparent and I prefer someone on my level over some wide-eyed "yute" who can't relate to my chapter in life. At the same time, I've not had pleasant experiences with women much…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:24 AM
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Pretty sure I'm on the "Gollum sightings" group, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:07 PM
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Touch is my love language. That doesn't (necessarily) mean I want sex all the time. I want some gosh darn hugs, cuddles, hand-holding, and a few tangos thrown in. I hug my own sister for at least a full minute every time I see her and we depart. And she is all covered in sister-germs?! lol Have you ever noticed the real emphasis is always, "the wife" who is responsible for not wanting sex anymore in those scenarios? How often do you actually hear it phrased or asked that the husband, himself, mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:22 PM
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"...Do you even like women as people?" Putting the cart before the horse a bit, eh? I tolerate most people. To "like" someone I would have to genuinely enjoy their company and feel energized by that time together... that is a very small subset of people, entirely. But, counting the number of males and females that I genuinely like, women pull out ahead just slightly, and I think it's because they're more comfortable with basic human things like hugs and are less likely to be emotionally bottled …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:14 PM
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I read it, it doesn't apply to me. I'm not desperate, nor budging on what I'm looking for in a marriage partner; I don't have to be married and have children. And I wouldn't pick someone who didn't fit with these plans and try to force them into it. That would be seriously messed up. As for business and family, should I ever acquire the later? All of my building efforts include keeping an apartment on-site or a short walk away. Even though it's extremely unlikely that I'd be a SAHD, it's not imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:41 PM
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How does "making more than me" negatively affect my ability to start a business and build a house or provide for a family? That's a meaningless measure that could really only be considered a positive. Now how much debt does she come with and is she willing and able to adapt to my lifestyle and support my calling? Because you don't make more money for free. It's probably going to have obligations to an initial investment, and cost time and energy; things that a marriage and family desperately req…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:27 PM
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Regarding "toxicity," I'm looking at it systemically, and not you personally. I don't have enough information to make a meaningful statement about you. To expand on that, though I recognize it as "having done the best they could with what they were given," it's not a healthy conclusion from your grandmothers in that it missed the real issue: having low self-worth and being susceptible to coercion. That isn't their fault, it typically goes back generations by parents who successively didn't do ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:45 PM
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I read through the comment tree, I don't particularly care for the OP's schtick, but. This is kind of a toxic mindset that's been imprinted on you, ya know? Having come from a broken family and dated other people with similar histories... there are people and families without horror stories like this. Of course, those stories don't get the same sort of traction. Myself? Hyper independent. But I recognize that my extreme rugged individualism is borne from a place of attempting to be "needless" in…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:56 AM
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Yeah, bro. Those are real profiles. Trust me, she just needs a few euros to buy a phone and message you. It's totally legit... This is just an export of your typical "Eastern Bride" scam. If you're dumb enough to fall for it, you probably deserve to be run through the wringer. You honestly think real women put in this kind of effort and money for dating app photos? Just to get attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:13 AM
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No dude, I think it might be your understanding of math that's holding you back. Chicks dig men who can math. If you can't math, what good are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 12:06 AM
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It's not about "finding a traditional wife," it's about hoping that women will chase them down for waiving a nice passport and a few bits of colored paper. It doesn't happen. And if it does? Run as fast as your legs can carry you. Transitioning from the East Coast, USA, to Romania, yes. The local women are far more approachable if you're an earnest person. And there are competing stereotypes over how one might be treated by local men compared to Western ones (there are genuine and caring Romania…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 01:28 AM
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I wouldn't say that I necessarily "search" for it, but I would definitely find it a highly appealing trait. However, my lifestyle (missionary) and community around it is fairly radical and more-or-less filters out promiscuity and being unrepentant about it. (With the notable exception of organizations that focus exclusively on recruiting young people for short-term trips. These are apt to be an absolute fuster cluck.) It's not like none of us are ever horny and don't have a past (or even a prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:28 PM
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...That is sex trafficking... That is exactly what I'm talking about...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 11:14 PM
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The difference is usually that the male sex-pats are engaging with trafficked women and children, and financially incentivizing these institutions. The female sex-pats often just find easy sex with no witnesses in their social circles back home; there's never a shortage of local men who will engage in sex without obligation. (Men are also only good for a few rounds of sex in an evening. Meanwhile, the former female-prostitutes I've spoken with considered "30" Johns a slow night...) There are ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:23 PM
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This is some serious Black Pill. It takes zero inches to satisfy a woman. If you can't do it with 5, then it's you and your very clear obsession with size. Your posting is pretty messed up, and I think you should see a therapist instead of trying to have others indulge whatever your issues are. None of your rationalizations validates what sounds like very twisted reasoning in choosing this "marriage" that you lay out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 02:33 PM
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I mean, I feel like that counts.😆 It's not too difficult of a logic pathway: - If it's actually your fault, then it's always someone else's fault and you're being persecuted. - If it's not your fault, it's still someone else's fault. - If it's someone else's fault, it can only be their fault. - If it's not someone else's fault, it's still their fault (for being poor/brown/female/etc.) - Every problem in life can be fixed by pulling yourself up by your bootstraps. - Everyone was born wearing boot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 04:25 PM
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Bingo. And people that are satisfied with their relationship have zero reason to scour this and other subs (except to laugh at people who are comically off in their understanding of humans.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:07 PM
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I would immediately challenge, "What the heck is a committed relationship?" For context, I would only shop within my own religious market. So anyone saying "celibate" and not "until marriage," definitely doesn't get it. Even outside of my religious community, it still makes no sense. I had lunch with a (nominally?) Muslim woman in the US that I had befriended. She was telling me about her new relationship that she got between then and the last time I had seen her. And, yeah yeah, Christians are …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:24 PM
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Hahah! Indeed. 'Tis a fine line between "crazy enough to do this" and "sane enough to live with." I've given up on my passport country in search of candidates. I think my best bet is to search within the host nation, at least then she isn't giving up things like friends, family, culture, and language. You know, it's not the end of the world if you're too subtle at the start. The only real questions anyone should answer in the beginning is, "Is this person going to stab me in my sleep?" And, "Can…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 11:01 AM
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Lol! My clueless self would just be jazzed about the pizza and never get the "hint" if that's all you dropped. Praise God that I finally realized that some women actually do find me attractive and that I can pick up signs now. You know, of the ones that don't run away screaming at the mention of "missionary," "for life," and "active war zone." :D
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:15 AM
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Physical appearance is like 90% of the battle, but the last 10% of getting a guy to buy in and keeping him hooked is an artform. You always want to keep a guy chasing, but some guys need a little extra nudge to get the ball rolling. If you find yourself in a conversation with a guy that you might be interested in seeing, close the conversation with: "blah blah blah, Oh, I've to go! You know... you should ask me out sometime." Wink, turn, walk away. Speak clearly, don't stick around long enough t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:39 AM
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My #1 clue-by-four that any woman can drop at the end of a conversation: "blah blah blah, I gotta go, but. You should ask me out sometime." ;) Turn and walk away. Didn't ask him out, the ball is in his court, he knows you're interested, and he still feels like he made the first move and gets to chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:51 AM
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"Invisible women" do not get "flirted" with on the regular. You know the popular RP idea about sub-"8" men being invisible? A woman would need a certain look and typically to be alone (or receptionists/service industry workers) to face that kind of daily onslaught. And cat-calls and other social displays from groups of men for their peers don't exactly count as positive experiences, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:11 PM
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The reality is that most people lack any and all self-awareness and broad comprehension to convey meaningful information on how to achieve anything that they have. Survivorship bias is very strong in this realm. A rich person will tell you all kinds of fluff on how they got rich, but they have no idea how many people, that were far more talented and capable than they were, fell by the wayside doing the exact same thing because they didn't have as much good fortune (i.e. rich parents.) Happily ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:20 PM
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Hey, guys, let me grab a YouTube video and pass my interpretation of it off as fact or even remotely scientific. It could be the hottest woman in the world standing across from me, at very least, I'm offering if she'd like to join me for lunch as I walk out of that place. Because I'm not: - Kissing a rando - Fulfilling some voyeur/YT stunt - Being used to justify some weirdo argument that the sort of people into being filmed as they kiss a stranger is in any way a meaningful point about human be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:11 AM
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I feel like there's an evolution of thought for the hopeful, though. Like, we cannot pedestalize women and have earnest and meaningful relationships until we acknowledge that our first interest is not particularly unique to any one woman or necessarily worthwhile. Sex and kids? Like 95+% can theoretically provide that. It is far more pathetic for a male to pursue women and having so little imagination as to what one could provide him than it is to be a woman with nothing else to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:12 PM
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Ballroom dancing. Christianity. Art. Eating. Breathing. Drinking water. Sleeping. Desire for an attractive mate. Total rejection for anyone who views casual texting as an excuse for poor spelling and grammar. Yeah. These all worked as far as common interests go.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:26 PM
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Way wrong religion, but I'm honestly fed up with writing things over-and-over to the point where I just want to write a free E-book. It's staggering how many people don't understand sexuality at all and otherwise jack up their lives, but are convinced that they're God's gift to the opposite/desired sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 12:00 PM
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Do they just have to say they're Christian or, when confronted with their errors, do they actually have to repent and be obedient?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 03:23 AM
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Dude, even as a missionary with a past, you have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Focus on her experience and not on getting your penis wet. Don't try and do a one-night stand or everything on the first night and actually build tension, and you will succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:02 PM
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Tell me you have no clue about female sexuality without telling me you have no clue about female sexuality... It takes ZERO inches to satisfy a woman. I repeat. Zero. Inches. You need to stop and do sex-ed about it and/or seek medical or psychiatric help.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:36 PM
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Don't "treat her a certain way." Treat her like you would anyone else and see where it goes. Be the one guy who doesn't pedestalize her and grow a relationship over time instead of being a weirdo with flowers on a first date or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:29 PM
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While some folks are more adept at processing it than others, dancing and many styles of it can be learned with lessons and practice. (Though finding good teachers who can break it down for you is not always easy.) Line dancing is too rote for me to find as anything but goofy, but it's definitely an entry point for a lot of people. I've found ballroom to be the right balance of discipline and expression. Either way, it's been a cathartic journey for me😁 (sooo many required school dances where I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:02 AM
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I agree. And from a practical standpoint: I'm hyper sufficient and have a massive array of skills. Can any of my female friends offer me any useful physical help? Not really. When I needed assistance for COVID isolation or to be carted around for a medical emergency? Guess who stepped in? Imagine choosing friends on their ability to help you versus their willingness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:16 PM
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As soon as you said "ballet" and "uncomfortable with male attention" I totally understood. My sister shared her stories. Ballet, cheerleaders, any sports with skin-tight clothing like indoor volleyball is just... oh gosh, the creepers. What's more disgusting are the ones who openly fantasize about "If I could do it all over again..." Yeah, it never clicks that they're fantasizing about children. Even at age twenty-three, college girls were basically untouchable for me. So those guys? It's distur…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:03 PM
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Yeah, but there's the negative aspect of it, too. Some people are not mature enough or are incapable or underdeveloped enough that they cannot understand that fantasy is not reality. I've read and heard of many sexual encounters where one person could have been substituted for a silicone doll, for all the lack of care and consideration shown them. And when you consider the number of teenage sexual encounters, where the boys in particular are just not wired completely enough to understand that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:28 PM
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I somewhat agree, but I think my case isn't quite the norm. For me, I find there's a minimum threshold for physical attraction that grows through intimacy and progressive romantic involvement. Runaway fantasy is one thing, but at the start of a romantic pursuit, I just... don't really think about them sexually. It's like I suddenly don't have consent when the fantasy manifests into reality. Now... That changes as things slowly heat up. And once certain physical thresholds are crossed, it's like …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:44 PM
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Welllll... "bellow average" is not necessarily a low bar if we're going by looks here. I don't know that I've ever dated someone less attractive than me, but when making a cut between two women, other factors like personality, friendliness, and intelligence have trumped looks. (And I've regularly dated waaaaay above my league, and getting particularly burned by one relationship had definitely recalibrated how much I weigh attractiveness. Looks get old real quick if they're just awful in every ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:30 PM
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Esthetics, like counterbalancing my masculinity in ballroom dancing or wearing feminine clothing styles. Tend to be more side-issue focused, which helps temper my long-range focus. More comfortable to hug* and generally more willing in strong platonic relationships. (*Y'all are just squishier. But none of you can compete with my late grandmother. She was the squishiest and warmest of all.)😁 More willing to share feelings, but less able to discuss men's feelings. More talkative vs just sitting ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:39 PM
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I'm sorry, but kids are not remotely a joke to be trifled with by such notions. Children's wellbeing trumps your desire for sex, period. I've dated a woman with kids. I would not choose to do so again. I am not remotely in a position where I feel that's my last and only option. Here's the deal. Someone without kids dating someone with kids is in for an incredibly imbalanced relationship. And it's not the children's fault, but it's the normal issue with the parent who has to balance their kids' p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:53 PM
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I believe your point was that women are conditioned to accept a narrow point of view. My point is, "screw that."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:24 PM
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Probably the same reason "flight attendants" are hit on so hard, too. The men are too stupid to realize that hospitality workers are literally paid to be nice to them... Or maybe they intrinsically know this and take advantage, because "being rude to customers" can get you fired when a lot of managers will throw you under the bus instead of sticking up for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 02:35 AM
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What's the downside of not being in a relationship with a man who is very much manipulating and projecting immaturity like that? Like, with my religious community? Considering the choices I've made and who might be most interested in my lifestyle? There's an understandable overlap of "No thank you." I'm all about saying, "No" to a relationship if there's something you're not down with, Lord knows I've heard and said it enough times, but. Male or female, giving or receiving, you be polite, you pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 02:09 AM
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Dude, if I invite my friends to any event or activity that costs money, I do so with the full preparation of paying their way, which they may decline. If it's a mutually arrived-at idea, split it. Otherwise, I'm facilitating the time I wish to spend with them. Either way, respect other people's wallets and your own. Don't twist anyone's arm or do unnecessarily expensive dates. Like, who cares who pays for two cups of hot chocolate? Because if you can't afford that, maybe you shouldn't date or be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:23 PM
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Where are you "shopping" for women? I think you're encountering a common issue with "high end" careers. Traditionally, because of how all-consuming careers like lawyers, business owners, doctors, etc., such fellows tended to end up with gold-diggers. It was a trade-off of feeding materialism for a total inability to provide emotional fulfillment for the "kept" partner. I'm going to try and leave moral judgement out of that arrangement, but I see why it might work. It's not for me in the least bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:29 PM
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You're assuming that "the Western world" will be a steady-state. It will not. All evidence points towards that those able to cohabitate and successfully combine their finances will have superior outcomes. The economics don't have to go negative to be painful, they just have to not keep up with population growth. And it hasn't. We're short on housing, vital services are getting more expensive, energy/food/water is becoming more of a problem, wages lag, interest rates are going up, Boomers are pul…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:42 PM
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There is not a single American that I've met who's pressured me towards marriage when discussing the topic. Specifically in the vein of trying to find even one suitable American woman: vanity/slovenly, emotional instability from jacked-up/divorced families, crushing amounts of debt, and "just don't know if they want children." And that's not including a few personal needs like: faith, being single, intelligent, and friendly. That was the case before compatibility with missionary work was necessa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:31 PM
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For most guys, the concept of being the best-dressed man in the room is completely alien. And while online dating is pure hell, from my investigations, women generally put a lot more effort into their appearance and photographs than men. I mean, significantly more effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:10 PM
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Regarding intellectual levels... You do understand that you need a 4-year degree, completed student teaching, and be licensed by the state to generally be a "kindergarten teacher," yes? And that there's really no "K" track, it's "elementary education." In addition, many jurisdictions require continued developmental training, and some counties really push for attaining master's degrees. Your view makes no sense in even your own off-kiltered sense. Do these "...doctors, lawyers, STEM PhD’s etc..."…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:26 PM
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Ah, sucks to hear about dependency. But hints in your writing expression in comments in addition to your experiences tripped my radar. Some people just are more easily ruled by their hormonal/neurotransmitter levels. So rather thinking that you can play the game like a lot of other people you've known, you possibly can't. And avoidance is probably your best bet for handling these things in general. As far as the "connection," I've been there, with someone who likely had BPD. And I still talked h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:55 PM
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I mean... you weren't thinking? Respectfully, you were horny and in the middle of a massive hormonal dump. Quite literally, you were "high." And, unless you expect a crackhead to make intelligent decisions in the middle of blazing a fat rock, I would not recommend thinking that you will ever be thinking when you're in that situation. (Btw, don't play around with drugs. You may be more susceptible to addicition than average if you couldn't stop.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:43 PM
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My hair was always awful. Thin, wispy, straight. Nice coloration, but. I am way more confident and satisfied in baldness than with hair. Honestly, I just want laser hair removal so I don't have to waste as much of my life keeping it shaved. Overall, the shape and size of my head seems to work better being bald. Large head/medium frame, lack of hair makes the proportions look better. The lines from my temples make for an edgier look that would otherwise be softened with my hair. Do gorgeous locks…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:13 PM
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I'm saying that you're drawing wrong conclusions based on false premises. The "number of participants" is not a valid indication of who gets the most benefit from a given system... And... just the thought of attempting to frame "trickle down" dating is... an extra layer of uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:50 PM
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When it comes to finances, only a handful of people are rich. But, most people are poor? When poors vastly outnumber the rich, would that not suggest that the poors get the most out of finances? Wouldn't the rich flock to poverty? Does that help?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:26 AM
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This stated worldview is so skewed and out-of-touch with reality that it's painful to read... Overall, you bring up that women have never been more free to be with whomever, yet they don't want to be, and that this is confusing to you and somehow less honest with their nature... I'm going to make a bold claim here: Perhaps it is because they do not wish to be. And that is, in fact, more honest about their desires. If it's "just hormones," why be with anyone? This is a contradiction, not support …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 12:02 AM
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You gotta admit that you left the door wide-open for that.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:48 PM
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What's funny is that I have less issue with a man who actually says he hates women and means it. You know exactly where he stands, and I can even respect an inflexible, vocal ownership of that view. It's the dang "Nice Guys" who screw it up for everyone and turned dating into a game of minesweeper. As such, I highly recommend anyone dating, male or female, to say, "No," at some point. Something unimportant or that you're truly not interested in, and see how they take it. Sit on it until they rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:54 PM
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Have you seen the memes? Sure, it doesn't take much imagination as to which subset of men say all of that without regard to the facts, but "Bezos" and "positive mention" are not exactly a common occurrence on various social media. The ones who do trash Mackenzie do not strike me as the sort of men who see women as even being human, let alone actually valuing them for loyalty and support. But them saying that she had no contribution to his gains is ignorant as can be and aggressively middle class…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:33 PM
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My personal tastes and lifestyle pretty much exclude the vast majority of the population where that is even an issue. Finding tats, smoking, other-than-ear piercings, and drinking a general turn-off. Selecting exclusively from my own religion and those dedicated to a very difficult path in following it. I've never encountered someone who it bothered me from that subset. The highest was probably in the 20's. But she also turned her life around regarding sex and intimacy. (Honestly, she needed mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:25 AM
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I'm looking for more than sex. But I'd probably pass if it means dealing with law-school debt and lawyer working-hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 04:57 PM
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What about a woman's achievements (likely built upon a mountain of debt in the US,) are attractive to me? Practically nothing. Her ability to have gainful employment is merely a nice asset that is to be weighed against other marital assets like time, money, energy, etc. In my personal case, I would consider if those skills are in any way useful towards my business, missionary, or humanitarian goals? If not? Then what good were those years and tens of thousands of dollars spent? (Also, you have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 04:51 PM
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Find something greater than yourself to work on, and/or move to a new location. I think there are cultures around the world that fit some people better than others, even within one's own borders, but. I am convinced that the US is one of the least socially hospitable places on earth. Our car-centric society, polarizing political climate, and meaningless debt-fueled consumerism will absolutely destroy your soul. It is incredibly difficult to leave for and actually stay in other countries, but I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:30 AM
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Well, this is going to be one of the most shallow comments I ever put on reddit... but. Tall women = best women. Longer legs/arms make for more elegant lines in ballroom. Usually an easier time with traveling dances like waltz. Dresses look/flow better (though finding ones long enough can be a challenge.) Short girls are mostly stuck with empire waists to get a similar effect. Eye-catching presence in a crowd. From a practical, romantic standpoint, if you keep it within at least 5 cm (~ 2 in.,) …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:13 AM
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Are you nuts? I loved dating a woman that was 5'10" (177 cm) to my 172 cm. The height really worked for me and I appreciated it when she wore heels. I'd probably enjoy taller, too, but: +/- 2" (5 cm) is actually really nice. You catch each others eyes more easily while talking and you can kiss for hours and nobody's neck hurts. Now... dealing with a woman who is self-conscious about being tall while shorter? That gets old. And, obviously, a woman who won't date some below a certain threshold is …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:46 PM
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I will never forget the time where I got pushy for physical stuff once. For one moment, I dropped the ball on focusing on, and being considerate of the woman I was with and her needs and desires. I felt wrong and contacted her afterwards. She agreed about how she felt and forgave me before I could even apologize. I think everyone is going to step over someone else's boundaries at some point. And it was for me, and probably for a lot of men, the fault of assuming that the "boundary" is always in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:09 PM
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I've tried scraping the absolute bottom of the barrel for what I found attractive, and I've actually had better response from women who were (IMO) above-average-to-very-good-looking. They were certainly better looking than me (But I also showed up to the bar with a shovel.) It's... I dunno. I suppose it's part ballroom dancing and group-discussion settings where I dominate as an adult and personality has a chance to shine through. You'd be amazed at how well a reassuring baritone soothing, "You'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:22 PM
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Though not a scale or unit of value I ascribe to, what you present does not differentiate between someone who has sex once, fifty, or one-hundred times in a year. (Or at least before COVID, but the 80/20 thing has been around for a while.) Even then, drunken one-night stands and relationships (however you care to define them,) are not equal in terms of risk/reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 05:55 PM
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As someone who preaches, this is very ineffective preaching. You haven't established a reason for people to care. (In a religious setting, I could always wiffleball it and "sprinkle some Jesus on it" to establish a reason for the audience to care. But that's awful on so many levels. So I usually work through the subject at lower levels and build up to a higher theological point. People like good stories.) If you're just going to shout into the void, you gotta find something personal and emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:40 AM
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Honestly, my gut reaction is that someone would write themselves as one of the options; if not in whole, then in part. Like... the second option has a looot more intimate detail... and then jumps back to the initial tone. Whether or not that's true, that's my perception. Also, probably every woman would think about the actual other options: adoption, go without children, try finding a sperm bank that wasn't listed on Craigslist, etc. Some dudes are whining "deflection," but, really, it's just a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:01 PM
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Everyone likes to lean on the thing they're best at as a crutch. So when someone comes along and kicks that out from under you, you're defensive. For me it's been intelligence. I have contact with people who would otherwise make me look like an idiot child: an astrophysicist who chairs a board, a newly-minted PhD who's a rocket surgeon, this one guy who would play chess with me and I couldn't touch, and so on. Now, I do have truly unique and broad skills, as well as interesting ideas and charact…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 12:53 PM
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This is going to sound cruel, but hear me out. I'm going to suggest that you do not fight your instincts to not approach a woman to ask her out. Chances are that your instincts are completely correct. Women are actually pretty obvious about their interest... I mean, painfully obvious when you can step outside of yourself and believe that it can even happen. (And my face is a pretty low bar if I can pull it off.) Instead, I'm going to suggest that you really work on socializing and learning to ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 03:08 AM
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Being a doctor is definitely a "lifestyle career," and I can relate. Either you find someone elbow-deep in it, or they end up being second-wife/husband to it. Something you may run into is that anyone remotely at your level of acuity is going to immediately see you as a stack of med-school loans. Reaaaally wouldn't hurt to drop that the debt is taken care of if it is/will be. If not... How do you feel about a househusband?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:43 AM
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Same issue. The vast majority of abortions are "birth-control" to avoid being held accountable for poor decisions. The fringe cases of rape, disease, or life-threatening/non-viable pregnancy are what's held up as justification, when something like 90+% could have been a hand-job. If I had the power to sign on the dotted line to "ban abortion"... I'd pocket veto it. Sincerely, it's one of the most pathetic and disgusting things humanity does, but forcing the issue at gunpoint doesn't fix anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:22 AM
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Man, I'm so born in the wrong century. Just the idea of "I had sex with you, but that does not mean I consent to you getting pregnant," is so utterly broken and divorced from reality. I'm not trying to attack you, OP, I'm pretty sure this is something you were socialized into, but. This is the only thing I agree with Musk on: I seriously want off this planet. I will call you on this, though: He did everything he could to not get her pregnant The. Hell. He. Did. I've had a girl chewing on my ear,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:55 AM
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You do understand how risk-adverse women are in public, right? Not that they all make great decisions regarding their personal safety, but that strangers make them highly uncomfortable. You have to be utterly gorgeous and charismatic to have a chance at making a cold approach on the street. The only way you are "safe" is if you have a woman, children, or a friendly animal attached. Far more ideal is meeting through friends and activities and keeping yourself well-dressed and groomed. It doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:29 AM
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"Widely accepted." Is it? Because I'm pretty sure most people balk when you hit triple digits or vastly exceede their own body count. (Seems to be a bit of a logarithmic scale, though. Like, all else being equal, "10" might struggle with "50," but "50" would probably be okay with "90.")
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 08:53 PM
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Humans are multi-faceted and are not fulfilled by any single emotional/behavioral state. Women will generally respond well to a guy who is dominant outside of the bedroom, too. (Or at least have an answer other than, "I dunno. Whatever you wanna do is fine.") But they would respond even better in both arenas when said man is highly considerate of her. It's all in the very subtle framing of things. It is entirely possible to ebb and flow between two traits; cycling to the point of blending two to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:38 PM
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Who gave you permission to speak? You only exist to serve me, why are you cluttering my feed with your presence? Get back to work and make me some money. Don't talk back. Chop chop, workey workey... ...What, you don't like being devalued, dehumanized, and dismissed?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:01 AM
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Because I don't need to? Because human trafficking and exploiting children is fricking evil as hell? Because just the thought of loveless sex is completely soul-crushing? Because I actually care more about pleasing my partner than getting my rocks off? Because there are certain sexual acts that I wish to partake in which would be extremely risky or else unsatisfying (revolting, honestly) with the kind of woman who is with that many different men as to be paid? Because that's not bringing me clos…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 10:42 PM
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Religious dating apps (Christian, anyways) are skewed the opposite direction. Real life numbers are 3:2 female-to-male participation in churches. Even if you account for the elderly and women outliving men, it's still pretty close. The niche sector that I fit in is even worse, being anywhere from 5:1 to 8:1 single female-to-male missionaries. There are some interesting things that go on. Males tend to marry and stay on the field, the turn-over for women is significantly higher. Female missionari…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 12:41 AM
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Lol. As if I've never been upset for the shallow reasons that I've been rejected that are beyond my control. Few people find it shallow when they're in possession of traits that you like (unless you're fetishizing and you don't actually care about the person. Ex: asian-fever.) Show me the skinny, large-breasted, beautiful, horny, virgin woman who's into flunky man-children who then complains about men's preferences. Doesn't exist. I'm 5'8" on a tall day, have a face that could break a hammer, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:18 PM
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Yes, but you're bringing all this logic to someone making an argument to the effect of: "Well, other women do it, so you have to as well. Don't you know that a nebulous entity exists and you have to submit to it? (Ignore the fact that this entity always aligns with my desires, though.)"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 11:12 PM
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Blowing my money on frivolous things doesn't mean I don't care about saving, I just didn't care about it those times... Either you're working towards something or you're working against it. Time and energy are finite. Even promiscuous people tend to think about pumping the brakes when they find someone that they really want a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 11:03 PM
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Um, no, I've known some tall and handsome men who struggle because they weren't socially adept or weren't the "alpha" of their particular circles. Really great guys, too, with a lot going for them. The women in NOVA are just that dang toxic and picky. It's all about bragging rights over their frenemies. Even my female friends who are off the market, including a lesbian, are flabbergasted and mention: "How the hell does anyone ever date around here?!" Short answer: They don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 01:19 PM
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It is actually possible to find n=0 women. But I'm also part of a community where that's much more common, too. (Granted, you can find some who've hit triple digits. But "Wild PK/MKs" aside, I don't think too many would disagree that the "0" demographic is a far more significant proportion than outside of it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:30 PM
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If you can't figure out why the goal post is always what you're not, then you don't understand why you're getting it in the first place. Let me try a different approach: "...I have a boyfriend." Translation: "Go away." While it's well documented on how well tall/handsome/fit guys are recieved, frankly, the average guy has the social skills of a raisin. More than likely you severely physically outclass any woman you're interested in talking to. She doesn't know you, she and no one else in her soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:35 PM
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Why would I want to avoid a situation where I could potentially be moved to a murderous rage and do things I might regret? I'll have to think on that some more... Being with someone who cares about depth and commitment of relationships and is motivated to actively avoid temptation for infidelity just sounds like a good idea. And someone with no past history of depth, discernment, fidelity, while not doomed to it, is still not likely to have a future with these things, either. When it comes to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:50 AM
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I had reviewed the data. 1) Did you review it? Because getting a spreadsheet is not exactly useful data when it's not plotted into a graph. 2) My "divorce rate" is amongst married couples. Yours is the general population, which includes people who are unmarried or are otherwise bound (too young or the spouse died); i.e. people who cannot become "divorced." One paints a real picture of the state of marriage, the other obfuscates it. I'll stick with mine, thanks. Now... Show me. Show me where I ci…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:52 PM
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Did you mean to reply this to someone else? It doesn't address the thrust of my original comment. The divorce rate has and continues to increase, but, more importantly, the marriage rate has gone down. Meaning marriages are increasingly unstable. The reasons cited for divorce are reasonably well published. In addition, a reason must be given for virtually every petition for divorce. As far as "higher satisfaction" with "pre-marital children," I can identify a few key biases. Your study only sele…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:36 PM
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It’s good to have sex before marriage, since it gives you insight into your partner’s character and is an important compatibility issue. Divorce rates and the percentage who have sex before marriage determined that to be baseless. Engaging in sexuality does not help you determine character traits of an individual. It is usually the end of discernment as the hormonal rush takes over rational thought. Even just "falling in love lust," your first hit and subsequent pursuit is akin to smoking crack.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:52 PM
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Didn't finish reading, was too boring. I dated a woman 2" (5 cm) taller than me and loved her height. She, however, was extremely self conscious and her family felt the need to give grief over it. At the very least, being close in height is much more rewarding. Hand-holding, hugs, and kisses are significantly more comfortable and convenient. I will say that it's probably better to be fairly muscular and formidable-looking if you're shorter. Being very powerful by comparison fulfills a common des…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 07:50 PM
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If sex is the only unit of value you understand, then your life is pretty garbage, tbh. And what fits into what category for you is of no consequence. Sex is nice, but actually making a difference in the world is better. There's nothing you have that you could offer that appeals to me more. (Fortunately, I'm outnumbered in the singles department, so there's a strong chance of having both.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:52 PM
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If sex is the only unit of value you understand, then your life is pretty garbage, tbh. And what fits into what category for you is of no consequence. Sex is nice, but actually making a difference in the world is better. There's nothing you have that you could offer that appeals to me more. (Fortunately, I'm outnumbered in the singles department, so there's a strong chance of having both.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:52 PM
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Considers: My asexual friend Multiple people I know dedicated to humanitarian work Several people with medical conditions where sexual relations are nearly impossible Hmmm... No, I think you're the broken one here. Some people just haven't had or don't want sex. That sort of talk is what some people use to coerce people into sex and, frankly, you can go pound sand with that twisted bull crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:42 AM
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Probably a similar amount to women who are cooking meals, cleaning the apartment, washing his skid marks, providing sex, and paying all the bills while wondering if they're "official" after 3 years or not. The reason is because he says he doesn't want to "constrain their relationship with a label." I've known more than a few women who went through that. Being a chump isn't gendered. It's just that men are expected to be strong and decisive leaders and get held to a different standard. (One I thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 11:14 AM
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I... don't? Anyone who floods my feed with pointless attention-seeking pics is immediately blocked or unfollowed. If that's all they've got to show, then they're never going to post anything worth my time anyways. Also, who doesn't go through social media accounts to see what someone is all about? Guy or girl, you can see clear trends about what's important to most people... And for a lot of folks, it's just an endless stream of vanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:53 AM
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You're worried about a top 1-2% earner overlooking you? The places that see a lot of those in high numbers have a pretty high cost of living, too. The rest of the time, where are you meeting these women? The polo club? At the office busting overtime to make that kind of money? What would you even have in common in the first place? If money is that big of a deal, date poorer women. These high-earners? If they're in debt or have to service an expensive lifestyle, they probably can't afford to take…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 12:30 AM
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It's not the "friends" doing it...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:42 PM
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What planet are you from? Women shame women just as much, if not more than males. You do understand that women typically socialize with other women more than men, right? And that the "tribe" is more likely to keep it's own in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:05 AM
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Yeah, no one who is personally and deeply concerned with such a thing is going to subconsciously think of that in terms of being a subtle rape threat. Nope, not at all... Like, what are you offering women where a guaranteed lack of ability to impregnate them is a positive? Casual sex without condoms? Someone who hates kids or has a terrible disease or genetics that they don't want to pass along might be game for more, but that's about it. May come to shock you that there's a lot of women who sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:10 PM
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I don't really see the "bad boy" angle. What I do see are girls who get roped into cycles of abuse due to low self-esteem and codependency, and "cluster-B" or generally unhealthy (but usually charming and/or physically attractive) guys who have an innate understanding of how to play off of those weakness. If anything, women would prefer the "boring guy" that the "bad boy" is afraid of. Men or women who chase after poor traits probably lack traits worth chasing themselves. Ignore them romanticall…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 07:36 PM
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She should definitely break it off with him. If she's not allowed to have autonomy in his mind and seeks to coerce her out of her own decisions, then it's definitely a bad deal. It's foolish to date someone who does not share your values and uses your past against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:37 AM
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That's a nice fantasy you've got there. Sure would be a shame for reality to happen to it... All the purported benefits you speak of do not materialize for the explosion of "unregulated" prostitutes in the aftermath. The only thing you do is remove the stigma for the pimps to conduct their coercion and exploitation. The market never goes away because you whitewash it, because it was never about "getting urges out," it is about power. Some women do, in fact, sell independently. But for every "emp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:57 AM
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In terms of meaningful relationships, the only men who should consider single-moms are single-dads or those who are well past when kids have moved out. The kids themselves aren't the real issue and are usually adaptable, it is the incredibly imbalanced power dynamic with their parent that puts up barriers. And I'm not saying those barriers are invalid, "mom's boyfriend" is one of the most common vectors for abuse. But by being a single-parent yourself, the negative experiences can balance out: "…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:09 PM
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Wait, you actually put your income on a dating app? And you're complaining that women didn't jump on you?? (Should we tell him?)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 06:53 PM
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That last sentence probably should have been linked to the previous with a colon. I'm over here thinking, "Dang, this man is struggling so hard he reached the point where 'personality' is a problem." XD
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:28 PM
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No, but there is a correlation between their attractiveness and your perception of their personalities. People general perceive and rate the personality traits of an attractive person as more positive than they otherwise have cause to. Somebody could poison kittens and take the pepperoni off of an orphan's pizza; objectively a monster, but if they're hot: "Maybe they just had a bad day, but still had thoughtfulness to protect that orphan from a pepperoni allergy?"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:03 AM
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Mechanic/fabricator/entrepreneur/missionary The last one is my only real issue with dating. Being stuck transitioning to a new life overseas and getting a brick-and-mortar business off the ground there (thanks COVID and Putin for being a plague upon humanity and jacking everything up) makes dating almost impossible. While most traditional missionary organizations field a ratio of about 5 to 8:1 single female-to-male ratios, what I'm doing is independent and incredibly specific. There is even a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:53 AM
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At this point, being bald is just an identifier. I flipping love being referred to as "the baldy" in Romanian: Cheliosul It makes me sound like some sort of gangster kingpin.
/r/RPChristians08/05/22 06:45 PM
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Nice. Beliefs matter, but I've enough experience and have found that accountability matters more. That's why I'm not into "we'll just see where it goes." Sexuality is just too powerful to think it can be played with and contained at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:57 AM
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Hmm, tactics... While there's blunt and more subtle manipulation, there's also just wearing down over time by being at the edge of whatever arbitrary physical boundary people set for themselves. A single kiss turns into a short make-out session. A short session turns into a long session. A long session turns into: "What did we do??" I would say, "initiating a relationship with no practical finish-line in sight" is its own tactic-- No, it rises above "tactic" and is a "strategy." If you're going …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:04 AM
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Holy cow, dude. Drop it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 03:30 AM
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The human burning for novelty is not easily snuffed-out once kindled. Our minds are incredibly good at rationalizing any action so that we always see ourselves as the "good guy." This is why I mentor: "There's no such thing as a good man/woman. The best you can hope for is one who is accountable. If they cannot accept or take ownership of having done something wrong, and they do not take steps to understand and correct the issue, run. Do not marry this person."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:07 AM
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I respect people who actually understand what the myriad definitions and proper usages of the word "respect" are before popping-off and revealing much about their internal biases... Having equal "regard" for people is right. But no one has equal "admiration" for everyone, as you clearly demonstrate. (And even if you could admire everyone equally, the word and concept of "admiration" would then have no linguistic value; you couldn't express it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:00 PM
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Well, Reddit exists, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:15 AM
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Rather simplistic-looking sub. Just comment "5.4" for every attractive woman and say she "doesn't have hunter eyes." What's so complex about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:23 AM
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Still not approaching some rando-woman, because my resting-face could make a sidewalk cross the street, but. I find it kind of odd that there are many women who insist that they want to meet someone through their social circles... and, yet, there is a large number who have no life, hobbies, or expand their social circles that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:13 AM
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You sound desperate to keep someone around that you're not married to, don't have kids with, and has behavior that does not scream "wife material." Why not ditch her and, instead of trying to whine someone into who they are obviously not, be in a better frame of mind to find someone who's much closer to what suits you. Haven't bothered reading the rest of the comments, but legitimately controlling people are generally not worried that they may be controlling. The fact that you're conflicted is y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:06 PM
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I was auto-banned from it for posting on some male-cope sub, critically, I might add. It's pretty much what comes to mind when people mention "toxic femininity"... minus the "femininity."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:14 PM
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It's because their instincts are correct. "Most men" have probably never seen or recognized a woman actually attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:09 PM
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Yes. I, too, believe that other people owe me sex to be of any value... Your claim is that women worry that they don't have anything else to offer, but the thrust of this word salad is focused solely on sex. And that somehow not having sex is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:04 PM
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I find that normal ear piercings are okay. Navel piercings can be interesting. Facial? They're so distracting! They're like really unfortunate zits and... they just drive me nuts! XD Facial cues are a huge part of communication. Particularly with someone I want to connect with on more than a superficial level, things that "frame" the face are nice, but everything else just sort of detracts from attention and appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:22 PM
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I'm thinking about a medical procedure to deal with my hair loss... Laser hair removal. Tired of shaving and I never liked my hair.
/r/RPChristians13/04/22 10:29 PM
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Bored and I get notifications. Why do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:29 PM
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I'm not insulted. Assuming you're a Zoomer, most of you can't read more than 2-3 sentences either. I talked this suspicion over with my high school teacher friends. Especially after the lockdowns; y'all are hurting. Badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:25 PM
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Hmm. "Old and creepy?" You're anonymously crawling around on Reddit and dropping unsolicited comments on other people's bodies. That's cheeto-stained basement-dweller levels of creepy. As far as "old?" Meh. Definitely don't consider myself young anymore. I don't understand the appeal of "young" anymore, either. A local college club hangs out with my group for archery and stuff, and it doesn't matter how "developed" they are, they instantly look like little kids the second they start talking. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:03 PM
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Honestly, being a guy, I will definitely take having my body referred to as a "bald shed." It makes me sound incredibly utilitarian. [Two girls giggling] Oh my gosh, see that guy?? He's built like a bald shed!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:21 PM
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No tats, don't like them, they're like graffiti on a Monet. I do respect those who use body art to take ownership over certain kinds of loss: injuries, scars, loss of body parts like mastectomies, deformities, etc. The rest just look try-hard and are uninteresting. Can't say it signals promiscuity as much as it does low inhibition/short-sighted risk-taking. Not exactly personality traits that I want to live with for the rest of my life. For all the times I've considered one, I could never get pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:21 AM
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It's not so much that you need to pretend to be someone else, but it could be useful as a safe place to expand your communication skills; allowing yourself to be lively.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:36 AM
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You missed the 20 comments that would have... tipped you off that they weren't from the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 01:22 AM
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Gender "class" warfare. Modern feminists can only be relevant so as long as there's a boogeyman trying to oppress them. They met the original goals, moved the goalpost, met those too, and are running out of things to prop up against. I mean, maybe I'm crazy for thinking this, but. How oppressed are a "class" of people who get more lenient criminal sentences, vote more, and. Live. Longer. than the other side? There will always be legitimate gripes and toxic people, but you gotta find what works f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 12:58 AM
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Perhaps it's self-harm if you don't find out? Or at the very least, sweeping the issue under the rug and hoping it never comes out again (a hugely popular approach to most things people face in life, I know.) And, not that you aren't allowed to have sticking points, but how "open book" are you if it's something you have aversion to knowing? The reality is that that information can hurt a lot of people; if not you then possibly your partner... and you realize this. And if one day your husband was…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:54 AM
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I'll tell you honestly that I'm going to feel kinda disappointed if at the end of my life I never got to have a family. But that disappointment is nothing compared to if I didn't fulfill my purpose; my mission, which transcends my own life. What you are writing and seemingly attempting to do: you are heading down a path of utter misery and failure if this is how you're going to approach life and women. I'm going to make a serious suggestion. I highly recommend you plow through a YT channel by th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:34 PM
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On everything? Dude, you gotta have standards and know that you are not meant for all markets. The reality is that if you're a loser, you're probably going to pair up with another loser. And there are good-lookin' losers, too. As a guy, your best bet is to find the "largest pond" that you are able to be the "big fish" in. Find the place where women participate, the kind of women that you're interested in, and you are clearly in charge; whatever your niche is. Positions where you are the teacher,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:01 PM
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What's funny is that I started by asking if there was a place where legitimate criticism is allowed. Apparently, and unironically, PPD was slung as a sort of insider insult... How can you write something like that and not hear the echo? {{{{We do not allow criticism here! Go to the place full of people who do!}}}} Are the based out of Russia or something? Anyways, at least they were helpful on suggesting.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 07:40 PM
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Age, wisdom, and experience. For me, getting the "Stacy" more than once and getting burned alive by them did wonders for being less focused on looks. And while there were personal issues as to why I chased after some toxic behavior, to repeat a cycle, it's also helped finding positive personality traits to be more of a turn-on. The biggest thing is to write down your "list" and prioritize it. Then have a hard, honest discussion with yourself: Are you trying to find your least important traits fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:24 PM
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"Purifying thought" by purging moderates. Just got my brand new perma-ban from one community for pointing out their departure from all reason in the comment section: "The mod who banned you here. Too long and too boring. Learn to be succinct. We don't have to explain shit to you and we don't have to qualify shit to you. Read the sidebar. Or get your ass to puplepilldebate where the same shitty subject gets revisited with the same points regurgitated every time without any resolution or growth. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:22 AM
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I'm actually curious now, care to spill it?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/06/21 04:51 PM
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I don't know what sort of conversations you've already had, but. When they come up, reassure her that you'll match whatever speed she wants but plan on savoring the moment instead of diving at the finish line. You seem to understand foreplay, so I don't think you need more encouragement there. All you gotta do at that time is nudge a little at a time and read her reaction. Let your only goals be her comfort and enjoyment, and you'll do just fine. But that's it. Don't make specific sex acts a goa…
/r/RPChristians07/06/21 04:58 PM
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Women are like busses, if you miss this one, there'll be another in 30 minutes. Bikini pics on social media are a no-go for me. Same as if a dude was sporting ripped abs. The bottom line is that people take pictures of what's important to them and how they want to be valued. So if I scroll through someone's feed, what becomes evident about what's important to them? Yeah, she can be a virgin, she can be chaste, and she can be from a community/culture that never even considers it a problem. But it…
/r/RPChristians08/05/21 06:52 PM
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"If I am able to reform my connection with God that would be a bonus..." I'm going to let you in on the biggest secret about Christianity: The only thing waiting for you in heaven, is God. If you want something other than that, you will be destroyed. God is not a bonus, He's all there is. And while we could probably do better than recommending you Oprah and re-runs of The Waltons for religious fulfillment, understand that you have no concept of Salvation. And the apparent disgust is that you wil…
/r/RPChristians06/05/21 06:40 PM
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