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my friend who is 29 year old single mom, with a 4 year old kid and who works at a grocery store without a higher level degree of any kind. She dating a 30 year old lawyer who is tall and attractive without any kids. All while she is chubby and conventionally unattractive by societal standards. She would be considered below average in terms of everything. That was a relationship that lasted for a year. I find this incredibly hard to believe. Maybe because where I live there is a huge class divide…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:06 PM
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As much as you're probably joking, this is sad but true. I'm so tired of this disgusting porn addicted world. I would honestly love something wholesome such as handholding, kissing, and cuddling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:22 AM
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A man who is only in love with me, and only me. Also, we both enjoy kissing as much as we enjoy sex with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:18 AM
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Many men on reddit think they deserve a slim, young, pretty girl. Even if the dude is butt ugly with deplorable hygiene, he still thinks he deserves the best. I've been trying to find a comment I saved months ago in another thread. If I find it I'll post it here. Basically this guy was trying to set up his friend with a female acquaintance. He's been friends with this particular dude for decades. The friend was in his 40s, a virgin, obese, had a low paying job, and dressed in comic book/cartoon …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:42 AM
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Come back here in 5-6 years and update us OP. I will put $$$ on it that your gf will be long gone by the time her brain is fully formed. Eventually this girl will want to start dating men closer to her own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:04 PM
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Most young girls find much older men repulsive (celebrities do not count). I know I did. When I was a young girl, I was only ever attracted to one older guy in real life. I was 18, he was late 30s. He was tall and handsome, and looked much younger than his age. We never dated or got involved romantically, but he became obsessed with me...all these years later and he still tries to get my attention. He is now in his early 60s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:48 AM
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Bold of you to assume that I got lazy & fat. At the beginning of our relationship, my ex and I were happy and would go out a lot. Meaning, we would dine out frequently. During that time we both gained 30 lbs. We stopped going out to eat after that. By the end of our relationship, I was severely underweight. I had lost a massive amount of weight from all of the stress happening. His mother dying from bone cancer, bills piling up, a pet dying, car broke down, etc. My ex was also most likely cheati…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:12 AM
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I can almost always spot those guys. I also can pick out the ones who haven't been laid in a long time judging by the way they interact with me. It's a stupid supernatural power that I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:41 AM
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Damn. I'm jaded as hell and even I didn't think it was that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:15 AM
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Yep, I know men better than they know themselves. That's why I no longer date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:30 AM
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You have forgotten that men and women are not the same. If a man is getting his sexual urges met, he won't care whether or not he has a wife/girlfriend. Not all of course. I've said this in another thread, but when AI sex bots become a thing, I suspect many men won't even leave their houses. Not even joking either. It's going to destroy many marriages- Mark my words. Btw I do not agree with the whole AI sex bot thing becoming normalized. It's weird and unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:04 AM
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Downvote me into hell for this, but yes. I honestly believe at least half (or maybe even more) of men only get into LTR's or marriage because it's guaranteed access to sex. I'll go one further and say that if/when sex work or A.I sex robots become stigma-free, there will be many, many marriages and relationships completely ruined or brought to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:38 AM
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I'm not saying that people shouldn't live together. Though I'm unsure if I would ever do it again. Highly unlikely. It's good that you're pacing yourself before moving in with your SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:22 AM
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Many men drain women to where they have nothing left. Men take, take, take. Even if the man doesn't take much...add in other stressors such as life events you have zero control of, and other people trying to meddle in your relationship. There you have it. The very few relationships that I've been in, I always start out looking great....then end up looking like shit until there's a breakup. Rinse, repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:19 AM
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OP, have you ever lived with a man? Specifically after the honeymoon period ends. Life doesn't always turn out what you imagined or pictured it to be. Shit happens, especially when you're with someone for years. You ever hear the term "sacrificing for a relationship"?Sometimes you do things that you never thought you would do in a million years, especially when you're in love with someone. That includes neglecting your own health and self-care. I can elaborate if need be. Btw I would never do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:43 AM
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Lol I'm just saying...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:11 PM
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I've always been repulsed by the whole metrosexual look. Though I'm unsure about the whole "manly" look unless that's the way the guy really is. Years ago I used to post on the r4r dating SFW subs and talked to a couple of those "manly" men you're referring to. I then lurk their profiles and they were commenting in the femboy and twink subs. These were supposedly "straight" men...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:05 PM
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Meh, the screaming couldn't have been that bad. My ex was begging for me to come back to him. How is that any different than the supposed "man" of the house (my ex) making poor decisions or even dangerous decisions for us? He was supposed to lead the household yet I couldn't trust him to make sensible choices. He had zero common sense and I'm amazed he even exists tbh. He's a complete buffoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:36 AM
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Fuck yeah many men do prey on weak women. Is that shocking to you? Have you been living in a cave? Obviously not all men. But many men are opportunists.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:30 AM
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Hey, I never said I was perfect. I would nag and nag my ex. Then after a while with no change, I'd start screaming and yelling at him. Clearly I wasn't yelling loudly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:57 PM
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Oh please. You think men start off a relationship pushing boundaries and being complacent? I would have left long before it got serious. Just like abusive men don't start off a relationship by smacking their girlfriend in the face. If they did, most women would run away before developing any feelings for the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:09 PM
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If a man thinks that their woman is weak and won't leave him-YES. Stupid men (like my ex) thinking that their dick is so unbelievably great that I would never leave. Oh and btw, he was calling me a week later and blowing up my phone with text messages begging me to comeback. Promising me all of the things I had been pleading for us to work on. I still said no.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:39 PM
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Most of them know this. If a man thinks you're a weak woman, he will continue to do whatever he's doing without a care in the world. Even if you tell him exactly what's wrong and beg him to work on the relationship. I had a (now ex) boyfriend like this. We lived together for several years, and talked about marriage. My ex admitted after I left that he didn't think "I'd actually leave him". He was way too comfortable in the relationship and was shocked when I finally left his dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:31 PM
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was on Plenty of Fish within days, quickly dating again and is now married with a kid. ...and I guarantee you he's still secretly pining for the woman who dumped him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:22 PM
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Maybe those backwards religious hicks should mind their own fucking business. Then I wouldn't have so much disdain for them. What pregnancies? I don't even want kids. Nice attempt at being passive-aggressive, but I am childfree all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:43 PM
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This is a lie. Men think this way because they mourn their youth. Women mourn their youth as well, but in an entirely different way. I think women really want to go back to those days Again, lies. I would hate being a teenager again. Do I miss the 90s and want to go back? Hell yeah...but not as a teenager. Men mostly want to go back to those days, especially after a certain age. I've talked to so many men who miss their old highschool girlfriends...ones whom they haven't even seen or spoken to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:02 PM
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Unless you are paying hookers to cook for you, then I don't even know wtf you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:18 PM
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What ego? You pay women to touch your pp.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:47 PM
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Most people hate loneliness in general. But imo many men think loneliness equals to not having a woman, nor having access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:42 PM
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Men can pursue relationships out of interest rather than desperation They should, but many still won't. Men cannot handle being alone, and the ones who are hate being alone. Mostly because many men pursue sex, and get into relationships to gain access to sex. Then there are the men who have next to zero options, and will cling to the first woman who agrees to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:39 PM
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happy with a prostitute Normal men don't have to pay women to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:34 PM
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Well...the first mistake this woman made was trying to find a real "man" in a country like France. I mean, aren't they the biggest pussies over there in Europe?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:00 AM
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That's actually a good thing. Sounds like you have a decent head on your shoulders. FYI do not listen to any man on reddit, whether it's in this sub or any other subreddits. Get advice from men irl that you respect and admire. Such as male family members, teachers, etc. I'm 99% certain that half of the men here don't even leave the comfort of their own bedrooms. That's why they hate women and obsessively read toxic garbage online.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:53 AM
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Dude, you're in highschool. You have zero knowledge about what true loneliness is, nor life experience. Build at least a couple of solid friendships now if you haven't already. Yes, young pretty girls are much happier alone. Wait about 10 years and they will start thinking about marriage and having a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:06 AM
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If you want someone bold, take bold steps. No, because I am not a man. Men and women are not the same. are you embodying the kind of energy that attracts what you claim to want? I am quiet and introverted. My appearance is feminine. Tbh it seems many men across the board are attracted to this, which includes men I do not want. Let me ask you something- Do you like loud mouth, aggressive, masculine women? I bet you a million dollars that you don't. Why do you think that is? Probably for the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:01 PM
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Nope, I can't. If I find you unattractive at first sight- No amount of a great personality is going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:01 PM
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Nope, sorry. I'm not doing your job for you. Pretty sure I have always despised shy passive men. It took me a long time to figure it out, but I have only ever been attracted to assertive dominant men. Which are few and far in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:12 PM
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I've known this from a very young age, when my dad left all of us. He ran off with an underage girl, married her and went ahead and made an entirely new family. What he did never seemed to bother him. Meanwhile I watched my mom struggle to raise us. She is super religious and never remarried, nor even had another boyfriend after my dad. This shaped my entire perception of marriage and having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:53 AM
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Still have trouble watching my girl spit her tooth paste in the sink. Explain please. I don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:57 AM
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The only dating reality shows I secretly loved (going WAY back) were- Flavor of Love Rock of Love Pretty sure none of those shows influenced me either way, and I was in my 20s back then. It was all in good clean fun. I just enjoyed watching a bunch of trashy whores fight over a washed up shitty rapper, or a washed up shitty rock musician.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:17 AM
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What's your point? I never said you were religious. I'm just saying that you sound like one of these backwards, jesus freak hicks that live in my hometown. The more ret@rded and religious they are, the more kids that they end up having.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:05 AM
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A redpiller asks this...shocking. Not everyone thinks the same way, nor wants the same things. Maybe some women want a long term commitment, but they do not want to go through with having kids. As long as they're upfront with the guy they're dating, what do you care? You honestly sound just like one of the backwards jesus freak hicks that are from my hometown. Those idiots understand nothing but shitting out kids super young, then divorcing at 40. Like that's any better. Why not just hook up for…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:56 PM
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A mutual friend of ours told me. The husband only found out because she got pregnant by the other dude during the marriage. She couldn't hide it any longer. My ex- best friend never told me about the cheating because we had been no contact for years at that point. Hell, she never even invited me to her wedding. I've said this in other threads, but I'm 99% sure she was never attracted to her husband to begin with. Other mutuals have confirmed this. The guy was not even remotely attractive and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:04 PM
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Whores? You mean sluts. Men of all ages love sluts and still marry them. I've seen it more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:29 AM
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Ding ding ding. There are so many men out there who don't know how to interact with women, or don't even know how to act right in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:23 PM
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Lol gaining the most out of what? Wow, I can pick from this married lowlife POS pretending to be single, or pick a slightly taller married lowlife POS pretending to be single. Or I can pick a single man that has 4-5 kids with multiple baby mommas. Decisions, decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:07 PM
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You find it hard to believe but how many upper class people do you routinely interact with? You're right. Exactly zero. I grew up in poverty and am doing ok now financially, but nowhere near upper class. I have no kids. I guess I'm shocked that there are so many single mothers within the upper class. Statistically, you find this within poorer areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:45 PM
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I work with a lot of rich men who aren't short who can only date single moms in their 40s. I find this very hard to believe. Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:59 PM
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Imo ghosting is when you are both fully invested in each other (friendship, romantic relationship, etc.) and one person up and leaves without a word or explanation. You can always ask the people on r/ghosting if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:02 AM
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Imo this isn't ghosting. It was completely shitty, I agree. But you were stood up is all. I've read heartbreaking stories on reddit where the couple had been together for years (or even decades) and the other partner just left without warning. I even read one story on here where the girl was supposed to marry this guy that she had been dating for a few years. She ghosted him after going to the doctor, and finding out she had cancer. 5 years later and she wanted to ask people what they thought of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:29 AM
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Echoing everyone else here, this is how normal relationships work. Though everyone has their breaking point. I dumped an ex of mine years ago because he ruined a great job opportunity. I mean, this wasn't just a little mistake. It was pure stupidity on his part. I lost all respect for him right then and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:23 AM
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The only thing I gotta say is that it's amazing a book like this was published way back in 1992. I doubt most people in this subreddit even remember the '90s. Openly gay people were widely ostracized and treated horribly back then. Needless to say, I'm surprised that a supposed "straight" woman wrote this. I'd like to know if the author still feels this way, since the pendulum has shifted with women now having the upper hand in dating & relationships. Obviously I haven't read the entire book, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 06:30 PM
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Huh? Now I know you're just trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:30 PM
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100% agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:30 PM
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Dear god I hope that you never become a father. Do you want your child to get bullied at school? Because this is how kids get bullied. Why would you automatically give your son a hard time before he's ever able to fully function in society? Please know that children aren't toys that you can throw into the corner once you're bored with them. They are human beings. They become adults one day and have to live with the name that you gave them out in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:38 PM
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I was making an example. I don't even really love Chili's tbh. There are better restaurants out there. Like Thai, Indian, Vietnamese, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 04:39 AM
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I'm sorry but since when is Chili's extravagant? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 04:20 AM
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Hell if I know? You should be asking middle aged men. They are the ones who decide to filter out women their own age. What's messed up is that middle aged men were hitting on me the most as an underage teen, a legal teen, and into my twenties. Now as a middle aged woman I get hit on by baby faced dweebs. I swear 99% of men are ass backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:26 PM
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It's cheap and low effort. Men in my age group suggest coffee dates, mostly because many of them are dating multiple women at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:20 PM
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Men are the TRUE romantics, not women. Oh? Then why are so many of them porn sick?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:16 PM
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Japan is a poor country now? No, but it's a highly conservative country from what I've read. Also, I've lurked on the PPD sub. Those men warn the others to stay away from Japan and Korea because those women supposedly have "insane standards". Yeah right. More like they won't fall for a Western man's bullshit. Again, don't know where your getting this information. However, I can see wanting a nuclear family possibly being a motivation. More power to them. I grew up in poverty in a poor area. Thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:07 AM
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What disgust? I literally never pay attention to them unless they do something to piss me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 11:00 PM
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No coffee dates and no free dates. We can go to Chili's for all I care, but no low effort crap. Either way, I expect the man to pay for the date. If I end up not liking the guy, I'll gladly pay for my own meal just so I can get away from him. And do you ever approach the man for the first date at all , or is it something you expect the man to do ? He's gotta ask me out. No way am I acting like a man and doing the chasing. Downvote away.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:37 PM
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Ngl I've thought about things men have said and done to me in the past and get angry about it. Men have done nothing but torment me and cause nothing but stress throughout my life...in particular, my youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:56 PM
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No shit sherlock. I just admitted to it. But it's rare nowadays. Also, that's a BIG if. It's not like I'm still in my 20s when men wouldn't leave me the tf alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:02 PM
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Because in their eyes the mere idea of a "Low" Tier Man even having any Sexual Thoughts disgusts them. Wrong. The only time I think like this is if one of those guys approaches or hits on me. Otherwise, I don't ever think about sex with those men. They are essentially invisible to me. I don't hate them because they don't exist in my mind. Just like unfortunate looking or post wall women are invisible to you. But to be fair, I have nothing but apathy towards most men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:10 PM
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She was, and still is to this day. I haven't spoken to her in years, but this woman only used to come around when she needed something from me. That's her niche. Using people when it benefits her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:54 PM
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I honestly believe there are certain people out there who only respect partners that treat them like crap. Then there are others (like your grandmother) who fall for the sweet charismatic smooth talker, and when the mask finally slips off, they already have feelings for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:51 PM
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Blah blah blah yeah I've heard this shit 100 times over. Save your breath. No way in hell would I have ever gotten married in my twenties. That's what people do here in bible country FYI. They get married at 20 and start shitting out kids. I was very much a child myself at 20 with barely any adult life experience. Even if I had to redo my entire life all over again- I still would never have gotten married young.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:08 AM
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Highly unlikely. I don't think she cheated on any of the dudes who treated her like garbage. The only guy she cheated on (that I'm aware of) was her husband. Ironically, he was a good guy and did everything in his power to take care of her & her kids. As for the ex- I'm convinced at this point the dude doesn't know how to live on the outside, and keeps getting arrested on purpose. I saw his most recent mugshot about 6 months ago. This man is 42 years old and keeps getting locked up. He got 8 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:03 AM
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True bad boys rarely even need to approach. They socialize, and they interact with everyone. They are smooth with their words and women throw themselves at these dudes. I saw it all the time back in the day. My estranged best friend had a boyfriend 20+ years ago. The dude was always getting arrested. I'm pretty sure he was in jail or prison like 75% of their relationship. I honestly wonder how he managed to get her knocked up 3 times being he was always in a cell.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:13 AM
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No way in hell am I ever asking a man out. I have done that once in my life years ago (rather gave him my phone number) and the guy turned out to be married. Yet I was talking to this POS for months through a mutual shared activity, and he somehow failed to mention this. The lowlife just wanted attention. Why should the woman have to do all the work? I am not a man and I refuse to act like one. Many of those PPD guys can't even talk to women in this country. Many of them also lack social skills …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:15 PM
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I only did this when I was younger. No way in hell am I being too nice to the men whom I'm not interested in. I get enough of them bothering me as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:36 PM
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I disagree with #2 but that's because most men in their 40s and beyond look terrible around here. As you get older, the more effort you have to put into your appearance, especially if you want to attract the opposite sex. Many middle aged men don't seem to understand this. As for myself, I have to work twice as hard now vs. 10 years ago. Actually, make that thrice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:32 PM
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I rarely wear makeup and I'm in my 40s. But don't even ask me about my Insane skincare arsenal. ATM I probably own at least 16 different sunscreens alone...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:28 PM
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Well at least you're being honest. I'll just keep my 5+ year celibacy streak going. Tbh I plan on never having sex again.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 05:37 AM
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Where the hell do you live that you happen to find 60% of the women attractive? I live in one of the fattest states in the country. If any man who tried flirting, or getting involved with me told me this....I'd laugh in his face and walk away. Even if I found the dude attractive, it would be a massive turn-off that I don't think I could get past. Sounds like most of you dont find women very special. Rather you see them as objects to stick your peepee into. I already knew this btw. Just needed co…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 05:29 AM
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FYI men do the same exact shit in the workplace. In fact, many of them are much worse with treating the women they aren't attracted to as an annoyance, or they just downright ignore them. I've seen it more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 05:05 AM
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Oh really? Do you have standards or dealbreakers? What kind of a woman are you attracted to? So basically, you're saying if (only) obese unemployed single mothers with 2 or 3 different baby daddies each were liking you and bombarding your DM's, (and no other types of women) you would consider it a success in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:53 AM
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You can most certainly struggle with dating if you have major dealbreakers. There are a few things that I outright refuse to budge on. Also, the older you get...The tougher dating gets. Lots of men my age have massive amounts of baggage. For some reason, these people want to date the ones with the least amount of baggage, expecting you to tolerate theirs. Someone needs to tell them that it doesn't work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:44 AM
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This is utter bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:36 AM
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I was still on the dating apps when I turned 40. I swear my likes and matches plummeted when i hit the big 4-0. So much so, that I left the apps less than a month later and haven't looked back since. Everyone says that women are shallow, petty, and they filter out men by height. Well...men in my own age group filter us out by age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:31 AM
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That too. I know some dog dick ugly guys who still get women, but they can also talk to anyone about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:58 PM
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Because the men pissing and moaning about it the most are just angry that the young, slim, pretty girls don't want them. How dare they have to date a girl who's just as unfortunate looking as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:55 PM
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True. I don't even try anymore. Those men do not exist where I live. Even if they do, they got married a long time ago and are staying that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:51 PM
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I only get involved with men who have standards and options. The problem is, is that there are very few of those men left. If men stopped rewarding low-effort behaviour and raised their expectations, the whole dynamic would shift. As long as the woman is young and pretty that will never happen and you know it. The vast majority of men here on PPD would fall over themselves and allow a young pretty girl to treat them like absolute shit, if it meant he would get the chance to sleep with her. All o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:41 PM
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If you're a young girl who wants to get married & have kids- NEVER EVER DATE A BROKE ASS MAN. Especially if you're a young pretty girl who wants marriage and kids. Take your time and choose wisely. These guys deserve nothing if they can't provide. Re-read the last sentence over & over again. Downvote away.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:02 PM
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42F and not on the dating apps. But my ideal age range would be 40-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:06 PM
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Gotta love the men in this subreddit. It's a "privilege" for us women to get sex whenever we want it. But if we were to take advantage of it (like most of you men would if given the chance) we would be called sluts, whores, and tramps. It's only a privilege to me when I'm in a loving, committed relationship. Men do not seem to understand this, nor anything in general for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:52 PM
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How old are you OP? Are these women you're choosing dating for marriage + kids? If so, I don't blame them for wanting a man to already have his own house and vehicle. The paying for lavish gifts and expensive vacations is too much imo. And where the hell do you live that they want you to buy them a car? I've never known a woman like this, but I also live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere. Anyway, to answer your question- I have mostly apathy for the vast majority of men these days. But I'm also n…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:55 AM
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Let him. It's not like the dude is ever going to get a woman in this lifetime anyway. He understands nothing about how scary being a young girl/woman is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:02 PM
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When I was a young girl, it was. Having grown ass men following you around while minding your own business is traumatic. I even had to (more than once) have an employee, or a security guard escort me out the door while being at the mall or the store. All because of creepy guys who can't seem to read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:01 PM
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I've been cold approached for nearly 3 decades now. I found none of those men even remotely attractive. There's your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:03 AM
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I don't hate being a women at all. But ask me again in 5 years when I'm going through full on menopause. Just because I wouldn't have had kids at 20, with some fucking loser who can't provide for myself and our children...doesn't mean that I hate being female. I just don't fuck with losers. The end. Men like yourself should be glad that I didn't procreate. I would have been a terrible mother anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:15 AM
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Dude, you are preaching to the choir. Btw I wasn't talking about you because you seem like one of the very few men who are at least self-aware. I don't doubt that it's difficult for men past a certain age wanting a family of their own, without dealing with another person's baggage. I was screwed trying to find a decent partner by the time I entered my early twenties. Almost everyone around here got married and had at least one kid by their 22nd birthday. One of my close friends got married at 19…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:52 PM
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80% of the men on PPD- "I don't want to act like a masculine man who takes care of my shit, provides, and protects a woman. But I also desperately want a feminine girlfriend/wife. Must be a virgin and/or low body count. Has to be slim, young, and pretty. Must also birth my kids without asking for anything...Otherwise I'll deem her a gold digging whore." Or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:10 PM
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So you expect a young 20 year old girl to give up everything in her life, while wrecking her body to shit out your babies, but you also want time for yourself to build? You can't have it both ways. This is why I tell young people not to get married before 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:07 PM
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You're not on the same timeline for me in general. I'm 42 and have never wanted kids. But if I had, I would have picked a man who could provide for myself and our future children. And not some old ass dude either. I would want to grow old with my partner. Many men on Reddit do not understand this for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:19 AM
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Men will never leave the young girls alone. Lol 99% of you are too lame and thirsty to ever give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 03:25 AM
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How old are you currently, and were you married with a child by your early twenties? If not, were you able to care and provide for a wife and 2 or 3 kids by the age of 23?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 03:02 AM
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I should have worded this better. No, I'm not shaming the single mothers here. I was raised by a single mother btw. I'm shaming the women who date and continue to fuck these men, knowing full well that they do not take care of their children and abandoned them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:47 AM
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I'm mostly talking about the deadbeat dads not caring if you shame them. If they continue to find stupid enough women to fuck...I mean, why would they care? They don't even care to know if their child is being fed, clothed, or has a warm place to sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:12 AM
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I have done this irl and online. Shame these lowlifes and give them hell. But as long as these dudes are still getting women: They don't care. Trust me. If the guy is charming, goodlooking, and fun- There will always be a dumb enough woman willing to get involved with him. Sad fact of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:38 AM
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Men pretending they are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 06:02 PM
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I'm 42. A man putting effort into his appearance is super attractive to me. The 40s-50s men around here look terrible. No effort at all. Now...a guy having a more extensive skincare or haircare routine than myself? Yeah, that's too much imo. Just be clean, well-groomed, and stay active. I don't even mean going to the gym. I just mean don't look like a slob being ready for a heart attack. Having superb hygiene is even better and trumps everything else. Which is sad. I was at the store the other d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:19 AM
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That article is a load of crap. I won't even kiss a man unless I feel safe with him, let alone have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:18 AM
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How old are you OP? People in their twenties are immature and change their minds 10 times a day. Does any of this honestly shock you? I always tell young people not to get married before the age of 30. By then you should know what you want in a partner/relationship. I can tell you that most people where I live marry off young. They also have kids super young. I never wanted any of that. So by the time I was looking for a LTR I had to look outside of my hometown. I can tell you that the single me…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:38 PM
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I'm not even dating dude. I just warn the young girls here about these lowlifes. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 09:13 PM
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I'm 42 so not that old. But considering most men in this sub are only in their twenties, I am beyond ancient. I just like to ham it up on here by telling everyone how old and decrepit I am. Men on reddit have preconceived notions of how women over 40 look anyway. Even the middle aged men think the same. Yep, my old ass still gets approached but it's tapered off quite a bit (thankfully). It's nothing compared to when I was younger. Back in my teens, and throughout my 20s I could barely step 10 ft…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 07:16 AM
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I did not have a father in my life. It truly shaped my view and perception on relationships, marriage, and men. Four parents? So I'm assuming you mean step parents as well. How come your father or stepfather never gave you advice on girls? Genuine question because imo they should have been giving you tips.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:52 AM
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How old are you OP and were both parents present in your life while growing up? What were your highschool years like? Did you attend college? These are important questions because it does in a way predict your future relationships, or lack thereof.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:33 AM
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Good luck with that! I'm really hoping most of these guys are a mixture of young and inexperienced. That's my theory anyway. Because life doesn't work out like that 99% of the time. But on the other hand, it seems their father's never taught them to act like men. Now I'll wait for one of them to read this comment, get offended, and start arguing with me. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:10 AM
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Lmao that's 80% of the men here on PPD. No fatties or post wall women! Oh the horror that they have to interact with my old ass on here. Men can be over a certain age, ugly, with an unwashed butthole, and they'd still expect to have a slim, young, beautiful girl on their arm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:32 AM
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An ugly guy who has even one more option besides you, LMAO, he will play you in your face. Ding ding ding. For some reason ugly men are the worst. If they get more than one option...suddenly think they're some sort of Don Juan. The delusion is real. That's why I tell young girls to never date the ugly ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:56 AM
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Men and women are not alike. Do I need to start screaming this? Would you be attracted to a "post wall" obese woman who genuinely complimented you? Enough to ask her out on a date? Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:50 AM
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Are you asking why I wouldn't appreciate a man putting in effort whom I found unattractive? Uhhh dude...c'mon. First of all, I'd let the dude know that I wouldn't mess with him ever in a million years. I don't feel that it's right to lead men on. If he kept it up- Pepper spray or a restraining order.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:39 PM
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My favorite quote- "Put me on a pedestal and I'll treat you like shit" I appreciate effort, but if it's too much and you suffocate me- I'll lose all respect for you. Especially if it's in the beginning. It reeks of desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:30 PM
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My personal favorite as a young girl and up until 5-6 years ago "I have a boyfriend". Even then I'd still catch hell from some of those guys. Nowadays if I'm approached (it's tapered off quite a bit thankfully) I'm just blunt now. With men over a certain age (nearly all of them have kids) "I only date childfree men". It saves me the headache because most older men look like hell around here anyway. I'm much nicer to the younger guys and just laugh and say "Im flattered, but you're way too young …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:27 PM
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Not sure about SW's but men have always loved sluts. They just won't admit it out loud. Where have you been OP? All of the sluts I went to highschool with are now married with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:57 PM
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How old are you OP and how long would you make a man wait? Because let me tell you something- Just know that making a man wait means nothing. Yes, it will weed out the f-boys right away. But if a man in general decides he wants to play the long game, he'll leave anyway. No matter how long you make him wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:43 PM
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No, I wouldn't leave my partner for a celebrity crush. After all...it's only a crush and it should stay that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:37 PM
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Because 98-99% of those men either are lying about their single status, are downright unattractive, broke, have substance abuse or other addictions, just got out of jail, prison, or rehab, have a kid or have numerous kids, are unintelligent, or trashy. These were late 30s-40s men btw. Every woman should be warned with this age group of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:45 AM
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What's so funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:26 AM
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You mean online? Because I see women defending men irl all the time. Hell, in my younger years I'd see women fist fighting other women over a man numerous times. But yeah, I'm not defending men unless it's something I feel strongly about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:45 AM
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Dude, where do you live that 70K isn't enough? That's damn good money here in the Midwest. Now if you live in an HCOL area....good luck to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:39 AM
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If a majority of men are seeking a mother figure doesn’t that mean their mothers failed them? Could be a possibility, but I'm doubtful of it. I'll use my brother as an example here- He told me not too long ago that he wants to eventually marry a much younger woman, and have "at least 5 kids". When I asked him a hypothetical question about what he would do if himself + all of the kids and his wife caught the flu....crickets. He did not even think of that. Imo he just wants to be a "fun dad". He d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 02:26 AM
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I'm a straight female. I'm attracted to men. But lets be real- Most men disgust me, man children or not. I blame it on perimenopause and my declining estrogen. if I gave you the choice to wave my magic wand and make you attracted to women, would you accept? No, I'm not into pussy. Weird question btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:51 PM
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Are you being rhetorical here or are you asking me as a person? I didn't choose anyone dude. Fuck getting married. I'm 42 and I refuse to fall for that trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:36 PM
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Oh man, I'm about to make a post here...because enough of this B.S. What's with the autism excuses in this thread? Lets be real- Most of these dudes aren't even autistic, though I like to joke and say they are at times. They are basically socially inept buffoons. Do the men here not have mothers or sisters? What if a random man was disrespecting or following your mother or sister? Would you do anything about it? Back in the day (mid-late 1990s) you never heard of autism, yet there were creepy lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:33 PM
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Where the fuck did I say any of that? Many older Millennial men and Gen X men are what I was describing above. Women are human beings first and foremost. They aren't objects to be played with, nor are they slaves. Until men start seeing women as people and not just some pretty thing to look at, they deserve to be alone. I think men in general seek out mother figures subconsciously anyway, even if they don't mean to. If they want this from a woman, then they need to learn how to be decent provide…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:24 PM
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Idk about that. I really like my husband as a person. You lucked out. He probably does his fair share of work + commitment to dating you, in order to keep your marriage a happy fulfilling one. That is a good thing btw. What I've noticed is that most men (if not all) seek a mother figure. They want a nurturing woman whom they can also fuck. And many times, that means the wife is left doing the majority of the household, childcare, cooking, and running errands. Not to mention working a full-time j…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:00 PM
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How old are those men and are they married? Because if not and they are past a certain age, they aren't worth anything according to redpill rhetoric. Not unless they're spinning plates anyway. Also, what I've noticed as I've gotten older- Men past a certain age do not respect a woman unless she has a man and has a ring on her finger. Meaning, most men will not hit on you or be creepy with you if they see you wearing a wedding ring. Ask me how I know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:17 PM
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please describe what being creepy looks like and what it entails. Oh man, I could write a novel on this because it's happened to me since puberty. Being creepy- I'll give you an example from when I was around 20. I was at the bus terminal sitting down waiting for my bus to arrive. A man sits down a couple of seats from me and starts talking about the lack of decent public transportation in our town. I agreed with him. We were basically talking about the most mundane stuff ever for a few minutes.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:10 PM
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Oh my lord @ these answers. This is exactly why I distrust all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:08 AM
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Dealbreakers ARE standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:40 PM
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Are you talking about modern day feminism? Please save yourself the headache and ignore that mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:38 PM
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Dear lord. Re-read what I wrote. You are embarrassing yourself with this post. So...are you saying you would date an unemployed obese single mother of 5? Because hey, you should see if you have chemistry with her first before you raise your standards. Do you see how stupid your logic is?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:32 PM
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So...I'm supposed to date the unemployed alcoholic with 4 kids by two baby mommas to see if we "have chemistry"? Get the fuck out of here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:27 PM
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What is your age?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:10 PM
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Most of my friends (and the other girls I grew up with) ended up marrying the first dude they had sex with. Like I said, my ex-best friend was the only one that I knew of who did this. But she was already a ho to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:57 AM
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Bad. Long story short- It made me hate & distrust men. Not like I trusted them beforehand, but it got way worse after talking to these guys. But I'm assuming if youre a middle aged person on the dating apps, your success at finding a meaningful relationship is going to be slim to none. Edit: I did get lots of likes and matches, but none of those guys were worth getting to know. The vast majority of them were always lying about something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:53 AM
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Video games, porn, vaping, and soy laden foods. None of these boys could ever go to war.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:13 AM
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I've met men like this Irl and usually there's a good reason for it. Not a young girl anymore, but when I was young, even the unfortunate looking guys were paired up. But here's the catch- Their gf was usually unfortunate looking too. So two ugly people connecting. Nothing wrong with that because they are both being realistic about what they can attract. Many men here on PPD (I'm assuming) are ugly, antisocial, and refuse to wash their asses properly. Yet they want a slim, young, pretty girl. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:44 PM
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I'm sick of listening to this same old tired shit. Why would I want to marry a man who doesn't make me wet? "Til death do us part" but I'm going to marry a man who I find physically repulsive? Please. I've only seen what you're talking about play out once irl, and that was my ex-best friend. She married a dude who was not her type at all, but he worked two jobs to support her and all her kids. It was wrong on so many levels but imo she was just trying to survive. If anything, many men (not all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:31 PM
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Because you're one of the few outliers who has standards and sticks to them. Or I'm assuming you do...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:21 PM
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I used to think I could spot these guys from a mile away, until I got with my (now) ex. He played the long game with me and I fell for it. Hook, line, sinker. All he did was add more things to my red flag list.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:08 AM
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At the night club the Bartender is the Alpha Haha I don't even go to the clubs and know this is bullshit. The club owner + the bouncers are the Alpha men. Have you ever talked to a bartender irl? There's one who lives on my block and he's the biggest pussy alive. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:37 AM
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Are these UK or US prisons? Because those dudes talking in the other threads were based in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:03 AM
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There’s also an epidemic of female prison guards engaging in sexual activity with male prisoners. These women are fully aware of the risks—losing their jobs There is a reason for that. Look to the search bar here on reddit to get further details about this. There have been numerous posts and comments here in other subs with either male prison guards, or men who have been to prison. They all say the same thing- These female prison guards are beyond unattractive, even downright hideous in some cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:35 AM
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Dude...what the fuck are you even talking about? Was your comment intended for someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:19 AM
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Did you not find ANY single guys who do the basics? So, I'm the woman you're mentioning. I'm sure there are men I've talked to like this who exist, but I likely dismissed them. Mostly because I have a few massive dealbreakers that I'm unwilling to budge on. I'd rather stay alone than be unsatisfied with someone whom I'm in relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:34 PM
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It's easy if you're a sociopath, true. I often joke if I had been a different kind of person I would have been rich before even turning 25. Honestly let's be real- Probably 21. Disgusting old men were always offering me things. But I also knew that it would be wrong to take from men I had zero interest in. Plus, there is always a price to pay if random men give you straight up cash or gifts. Hell to the NO. Quick true story- A friend of mine back in my teens circa 1998 had this one aunt. She was…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:11 AM
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That's a load of horse shit. Ugly men hate and despise young, pretty girls. It's so weird because they will try everything in the beginning to get your attention. I said this in another thread, but my very first boyfriend was ugly. This lowlife acted like he hated me for simply existing. He was jealous and controlling. Then he stalked me for close to 8 years after I dumped him. I looked him up a few years ago out of sheer curiosity. The dude is 100x uglier than he was back then. Didn't even know…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:46 AM
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No, but ugly men do. My very first boyfriend was/is ugly and he was also a terrible partner. I swear he hated me for just existing... I always tell young pretty girls not to date ugly men because they're extremely jealous, insecure, and abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:29 PM
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It's the self-unawareness. Plus, many men on the spectrum (not all) have deplorable hygiene and that's why they can't attract women. I mean, what sane woman wants a smelly guy who doesn't know how to wash his own ass? Basically the opposite of autistic women who don't really have hygiene issues. At least not to the extent of their male counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:21 PM
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I feel like you're an outlier from reading your comments on here. You seem extremely self-aware for an autistic guy. Or maybe your autistic traits are very mild in comparison to many of the other men who post/comment in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:17 PM
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I lurked OP's post history and no longer feel sorry for him. He hates fat women and feels that men who have to look at "post wall women" is somehow torturous and abusive. Lol. Maybe if OP resembled Christian Bale or someone equally hot, he would be allowed to talk shit. But the dude is 40 and has to pay women to fuck him. Projection is a motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:47 PM
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Oh wow...sad. No wonder he refuses to answer my questions. I guess I'll stop giving him shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:18 PM
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Haha you decided to make this insane post. Deal with the consequences of getting asked certain things. Answer my questions first, and I'll gladly answer yours. You brought this onto yourself dude. How old are you and how many relationships have you been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:06 PM
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How many relationships have you had OP? I bet you a million dollars It's at ZERO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:46 PM
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I'm not talking about marriage. I'm talking about exclusivity + commitment. Hello, are you there OP? You need commitment even before you get the ring. You do understand that much, right? How old are you? Because you sound young and inexperienced as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:37 PM
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Haha what is this post? Yeah, OP that's bullshit. I need commitment from a man before I even have sex with him. I don't "work" for any man unless he is committed and pulls his own weight into the relationship. If he puts in heavy lifting, I will match his effort. Commitment (in my opinion) is also assuming that the other person will be faithful. Is that always true? Nope. It's always a gamble when you get involved with someone, no matter how great they seem in the very beginning. I've noticed th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:23 PM
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It doesn't bother me because most of those men are either extremely weird, awkward, or downright unattractive anyways. No woman here in the west wants them. It's basically the same thing with the european grannies who visit Gambia to find young african men. Hence why it's now nicknamed "Granbia". Those women can't attract anyone from their own country.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 12:51 AM
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No idea since I'm not into pussy. I do know that as a woman- I can smell a desperate, pathetic man from a mile away.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:09 PM
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The thirsty men rarely, if ever, get pussy. Hence why they're thirsty. Not making excuses for them because they are pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:32 PM
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Of course height is important to most women. But it really depends on her other deal breakers imo. I prefer 5'8 or taller myself. But when I was on the dating apps, I looked at whether or not the guy had kids before anything else. Lets say two men that are 5'8 and 5'11 are interested in me. They both are childfree, equally attractive, and have the same personality type- Of course I'm picking the 5'11 man. Lets say there are two different men, one who is 5'9 and the other is 6'2. Same as the exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:23 AM
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Marriage should be for life, I agree. But I would also love to see the statistics on happily married couples who have been married for more than 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:22 AM
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Oh yeah? I'm doing you a favor by telling you this dude. Are you super young? I'm assuming you are since you don't seem to get it. How old was this girl? I had a friend who did the exact exact thing to get out of a date with a guy, only hers was more dramatic. She pretended to choke on some ice out of her cup. We were all laughing...but that's mostly because we were a bunch of dumb teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 07:24 PM
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she said "but I'm not wearing any makeup. And men don't think women look good without makeup." Dude, she didn't want to go out with you and made up an excuse on the spot. She lied. I'm sure this girl had some makeup in her purse that she could have thrown on, if she really wanted to go out on a date with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:55 PM
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You think married men polluting the apps are well adjusted people? Two-thirds of men ages 40+ online dating are married or in a supposed committed relationship. That's 66.7% of these scumbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:03 AM
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42 and an older millennial. Sorry for being old AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:01 AM
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Like single men in their 40s are well adjusted people...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:55 AM
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Yeah i just googled it. I thought AF meant as fuck. BB beta bitch. But none of that made any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:54 AM
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What's AF and BB?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:22 AM
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I don't get this shit. Do some of you even understand that not all women have had A hookup? Let alone hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:30 AM
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How am I arguing in bad faith? I came to respond to this dude with the same exact thing you're saying. Men will always choose younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:27 AM
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Arent most people married by then? Yep. And many of those married men are polluting the dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:15 PM
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This is false. Wait until you reach 40 as a single woman and you will change your tune. I have nothing to compare online dating to, because I wasn't on there until my late 30s. Maybe if the apps had existed when I was 21, it would have been a completely different experience for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:09 PM
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This thread was inspired by seeing a women talking about her deep desire for violent sex. Did this woman ever mention that she had a lot of sexual trauma in her past? I noticed that a lot of women have rape fantasies, but not with the husband doing the raping. Many of these women have a lot of sexual trauma, particularly SA in their childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:29 AM
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If a 40 year old man wants to take me on a coffee date, I will laugh in his face and walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 04:51 AM
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“I do want a relationship….but she has to fuck me immediately otherwise it shows she doesnt care!” Lets be real- 80% of the men here on PPD wouldn't know what to do if that actually happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:36 AM
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Exactly my point. Lets be real- If a man had to choose between a 35 y/ vs. a 40 y/o he would almost always choose the younger woman. Even if they had the same personality and attractiveness, men would go younger. Even if it were only by two years of an age difference- Younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:49 AM
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Probably not, but many of them still think they are. Middie aged men who take care of themselves are very rare, but when they do...yeah, they can almost always attract younger women. Trust me, these guys know they are incredibly rare and will use it in their favor. Just ask any middle aged woman how rare it is to find an age appropriate guy, who doesn't resemble Homer Simpson. Can they attract a 20 year old? Highly unlikely unless they have $$$ to go along with their appearance. I'm talking mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:23 PM
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Single, by choice. Although I'm old as dirt so it doesn't count to most of the people here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:54 AM
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Very true. Side note: I don't think anyone is jealous of Kanye at this point. You should have picked a better example. I always had this weird theory that he used Bianca (who looks exactly like a certain Kardashian, only younger) as a big F-You to his ex wife in order to make her envious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:12 AM
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The comments here are hilarious. I have always dressed modestly, and men still objectify me. It's always been like this since puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:34 AM
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For myself, no. I want a partner whom I'm sexually, physically, and mentally attracted to. If I don't want to rip their clothes off (and vice versa) it's a no-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:15 AM
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Not interested in sex other people. A committed relationship in itself is a lot of hard work. If I love a person, I'll do everything in my power to make them happy. I would never do any of that for a rando.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:03 PM
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Yes, I had told him numerous times to pick up after himself. I did eventually leave him. It was one of many things that had built up over time. Honestly I should have left a year or so sooner because nothing got better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 07:50 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:54 AM
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A natural death of a loved one will fuck a person up to the point where you don't even recognize them anymore. I have seen it with my own two eyes. Though I cannot even imagine the aftermath and mental deterioration caused after a murder, especially if the person is your own mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:35 AM
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I hate feminists. But I also despise most men. Glad I got that all off my chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:03 AM
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It's true because I'm one of them. But I still won't get involved with a bad boy. Mostly because I've seen the destruction and aftermath with my friends dating those guys. But be damned if they don't make me hot and bothered. 😂 What's hilarious is that when I was a young girl in my twenties, I HATED the bad boys. I had crushes on the nerdy artsy fartsy types.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:44 AM
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Haha that's why I chose no one and decided to stay alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:27 AM
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I have never been married, but I can tell you that if you're with someone for long enough, things will happen that are beyond your control. Whether it be illness, tragedy, addiction, job loss, etc. That's when your relationship is tested. I had a relationship end to 2 of the above (plus add other things in that harbored resentment). Let me tell you if only one person is trying to save the relationship...it's the beginning of the end. Even when you have plenty of passion in a LTR it can be gone i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 04:50 AM
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So what if I have the means? Men ask those questions to see whether or not it's worth it to pursue me. Which is laughable because I have never found any of them attractive. Women ask those questions because they can't even fathom that another woman chose this lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:46 PM
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Post it to an ask men sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:53 PM
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OP- How old are you and which country are you from? I see lots of obese women partnered up where I live. And many of them have normal weight partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:40 PM
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I've read plenty of comments on reddit (not just in this sub) where the woman claims to be a BBW and dating a gym rat. It might be a fetish, or maybe muscular guys actually prefer chubbier women. Maybe those men want to be admired or adored. You should ask why those guys date bigger women instead of the other way around. I am at a healthy normal BMI now, but when I was underweight I would attract the meanest, most effeminate men to ever exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:36 PM
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OP you sound like a sociopath tbh. Just because I won't have sex on the first date, doesn't mean I'm not interested, nor does it mean I find the guy unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:23 PM
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She has 7 kids total by 4 different men. So yeah, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:19 AM
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Dude, your guess is just as good as mine. I do know that her ex-husband adopted 3 of her 4 kids when they got married. So I know for a fact her ex is on the hook for child support until they turn 18. Her one son turned 18 last year. I've got a ton of questions I want to ask her myself, but we aren't on speaking terms and haven't been in years. She would never tell me the whole truth anyways. I mainly just want to ask her how the hell she was able to cheat having 5 kids and a husband at home (her…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:18 AM
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Why is that? I think there are maybe 5-7 men here on PPD who respond with intelligent answers/advice. And even that's questionable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:49 AM
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Apparently, yeah. My ex bestie and I weren't on speaking terms (still aren't) but a mutual friend told me all of this. She got pregnant by the prison guy and obviously couldn't hide the affair from her husband anymore. She moved out, the husband filed for divorce. I think the only smart thing that dude ever did was make sure the house was in his name. Anyway, the prison guy left her. Surprise. I don't think the relationship even lasted 2 and a half years. Then he got 24 years in prison for multi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:46 AM
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I agree with this. Also, pick up your dirty ass underwear and socks off the floor. Wipe up the kitchen counter if you spilled food. I think many women get resentful because their boyfriend/husband makes more work for them in general, instead of taking the time to at least pick up after themselves. One of the many reasons I left an ex (whom I was living with for years) was because he made so much work for me. One instance in the very beginning after I had moved in- I had washed a couple loads of …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:31 AM
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Men and women are not the same. Most men like routine. They like stability and boredom. That's why many of them marry women who can and will "mother" them. I don't say that as a put down, but there you have it. Women can be a mixed bag. My ex best-friend loves men who create chaos and mayhem. That's what she's always been attracted to. Two of her ex's are lifers in prison. One of whom she cheated on her "boring, safe" husband with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:18 AM
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Tbh mob bosses are super hot. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:11 AM
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Imagine shitting out a bunch of kids, being responsible for most of the childcare duties, and your husband still expecting you to look as good as you did before you gave birth. No wonder I chose this life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:25 PM
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Not really. I stay quiet and mind my own business. But there are tons of men and women out there who seem to make it their life mission to ask me stupid fucking questions about my personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:46 PM
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Will claim he wants a relationship because he cant get hookups. This is the only comment I disagree with. Lots of men will say the same thing in order to get the woman he wants, even the ones with options. My ex is a prime example of this. He had other options, but lied about wanting a serious relationship because he wanted to be with me so badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:35 PM
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Yes, I realize that. It's why I said most, not all. The few men who did choose that life either have tons of options and don't want to leave the bachelor lifestyle, or they have peter pan syndrome. Most of the single CF men where I live did not make the choice to be alone, trust me. Survival of the fittest and that's why they weren't chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:52 PM
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Because past a certain age, there is a reason why they are miserable. Most of those men did not choose that life. It was already decided for them. The vast majority of single childfree women made it their own choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:58 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:54 AM
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teacher Huh? Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:21 AM
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I was being sarcastic with the second part. Well, halfway...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:10 AM
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Do you live in a huge metro area? That makes a massive difference. Most people in bigger cities are more progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:07 AM
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I can only speak for myself here. Because people either fear, or refuse to understand anything that isn't "normal". Go against the norm and you will be criticized and even ostracized. Many single childless women, are seen as a threat to other women who are already paired up. As though I wanna sleep with their man...get real. No one wants your man. Men in general think we're old whores. Apparently our vaginas are all blown out from our high n-counts. Also, CHAD was our first. After that, everythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:05 AM
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And the best example of this are the passport bros Best example? Aren't most of those men unattractive and autistic? Hence, why they have to go to impoverished countries because american women won't fuck them. I'm imagining most of those guys are weird, awkward, and ugly. Correct me if I'm wrong here. Most normal people date within their economic status. Now, there are always outliers in every situation but i don't think it's as common.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:04 PM
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I grew up in poverty. For many poor people, there's nothing else to look forward to other than shitting out kids. Why some ugly manlet would want to sneak his crappy DNA in the gene pool? I've also noticed that the ugliest men want the most kids. Someone please explain this to me because it's something will never understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:12 PM
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I have never dated or entertained a man who has cold approached me off the street. And that's saying a lot, since I've been cold approached since I was a teen. Most of you are rude, creepy, or downright disgusting when you do it anyway. I can think of maybe twice in my entire life where the people were genuine and respectful- Once, when I was 24. It was funny because this kid was only 17 and thought we were the same age. I politely told him that I was flattered but he was obviously way too young…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:05 PM
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But did those women give birth multiple times? I don't think men understand how much hormones and bodies change after childbirth. Add in the wives taking care of the majority of childcare duties and chores. Then there is zero self aftercare left for themselves. If I had had children I think I would have ballooned up as well. Most of the women in my family gained weight after giving birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:05 AM
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I'm honestly amazed this dude even got a girlfriend to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:46 AM
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90% of the men here on PPD expect the woman to be psychic. It's never the man's fault, ever. I brought up a week or two ago that I mostly attracted married/attached men when I tried online dating. Did I know for certain that they were indeed married? No. I still got comments that it was "my fault" for matching with those guys. But it still didn't matter to them that i never once met up or dated these men. It just proves that most of these guys have never even received one match through any datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:27 AM
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Men should also try being friends with women whom they are not sexually attracted to. Though, most would never do that. Every single time I have befriended a man in the past, he had ulterior motives. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:15 AM
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Please report those men to the person that organizes the meetups. They are nothing but predators and need to be banned from the group. It just ruins things for the people who want to partake in their favorite hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:24 PM
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True. But I've seen lots of fat younger people as well. I live in one of the fattest states in the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:18 AM
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I get it. I see all kinds of fat couples paired up around here. The men of reddit will argue with this...but that's mostly because they would have to go outside in order to see such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:33 AM
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I think you're halfway right. Some unattractive men can get by with a great personality as long as he isn't 100% dog dick ugly. I need both physical and mental attraction. I'm not attracted to overweight men in the slightest. Just no thank you. I'd rather have a guy with kind of a jacked up face who is fit and works out, over a fat man. But maybe its because I literally see fat people all day, everyday where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:21 AM
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Which country do you live in? I'm assuming Japan. They end up hating children and jealous of women who have families. Nah, not really. I would have been a terrible mother. As for the homewrecker comment- I'd rather gouge my eyeballs out with a spoon than ever get involved with a married man. If anything, the married men are the ones out there acting like they're single. Way too many of them are scumbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:41 AM
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You're going to get old one day too. And let me tell you- Most men don't age well either. Do you plan on getting married and having kids? If so, are you going to leave your wife the minute she hits menopause?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:32 AM
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Hahaha how old are you? I'm assuming you're early twenties. I love how you all think that the moment women reach 35-40 we become dried up old looking hags.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:14 AM
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Quick question OP: What is your age and are you married/or have been married before?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:36 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:53 AM
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There should be a requirement on your flair with this sub to put your age and how long your last relationship has been. Haha! Their last relationship? For 80%-90% of the men in this subreddit it would be exactly 0. You can tell many of them don't even know how to interact with the opposite sex. Or at least I can tell...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:32 AM
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Because there's always one of you who love to argue spewing- "Na uh! What about Chad? Women love to fuck Chad!!!" Or some other similar bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:26 AM
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You need to meet somewhere in the middle. Not cheap nor super expensive. Ask your SO for ideas on what she likes. If it were myself getting engaged, I would want something with a real stone. It doesn't even have to be a diamond, but it has to be real. Ngl though if it were some cheap ass Walmart ring I would be pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:50 AM
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That's nice. A healthy, meaningful relationship is needed in order for women to have sex with a man. But most men do not seem to understand this. Before anyone comes at me, this obviously excludes women who are only looking for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:43 AM
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That's actually a good price for a ring, especially for 20 years ago. It's not too cheap, but not super expensive either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:17 AM
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Hey, those guys don't have to do anything. But then they can also stfu and stop complaining that there are hardly any women on the apps. 71% of women over 40 have given up dating and are happier being alone. There is a good reason for this. Let those same men sit alone and stare at four walls if they don't want to put any effort into finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:50 PM
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Aww, are you mad? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:30 AM
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Bigoted? I'm sharing my experience from being on & off the apps for 2 years, like OP asked. And lets not even get started on all the disgusting men irl who have been inappropriate with me since puberty. Maybe you should try going outside? Some fresh air would do you a world of good. I go outside every single day dude. Funny, because I was thinking the same exact thing about you. Stay angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:29 AM
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Hahaha you can tell that the men of PPD never get propositioned for sex. They honestly think we should be flattered as women, having any dude online who wishes to put their penis inside of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:55 AM
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Who said anything about my male family members acting like the scumbags online? Yes, most of the men on the dating apps are only looking for sex. How does this surprise you? Read through the comments. The vast majority of women here are saying the exact same thing. Funny how you dodged my question altogether. Either english isn't your first language, or what I was trying to say went completely over your head. Would you lose respect for your female family members? Or maybe you're angry that sex i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:51 AM
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I have a hard time believing that about your friend. If he's as great as you say, that dude would be scooped up in a heartbeat where I live. How are his social skills? Also what is his age?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 01:22 AM
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What if I told you that men and women are not the same? Men will fuck women they deem unattractive, women they hate, and many will also fuck inanimate objects. What if your mom, sister, aunt, grandma picked any man off the street to have sex with...not caring at all to be picky. Would you still have respect for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:21 PM
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That is a lie. When I first got on the dating apps, I wasn't desperate per say, but I wanted a partner and was sick of being alone. I'm sure that showed through with some of my interactions with those guys. It's embarassing now looking back. Many of them were incredibly disrespectful, mean, rude, you name it. I used to think dating was supposed to be fun...it's not. My anxiety got so bad talking to these guys that I would literally get sick to my stomach when I got a match. I left the apps years…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:04 PM
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It's honestly both. Most of them refuse to do anything about it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:57 PM
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Try two-thirds of men. They did a study on this a few years ago. Roughly 66% of men on Tinder are married or in a "committed" relationship .
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:16 PM
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Exactly. Most of it is rotted, disgusting, unappealing looking food anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:12 PM
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I disagree. These clowns need a reality check.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:03 PM
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Most men online are not looking for anything but sex, she's right. The ones I'm talking about were all middle aged men by the way. Which is fucking sad and hilarious at the same time. Then those same men get pissed off and wonder why 71% of women over 40 left the apps, and are deciding to remain single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:02 PM
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I'm not young, but I am above average (appearance wise) for my age group. Do I look like I'm still in my 20s? Hell no. How do you reconcile having so many options, and wanting to date, but yet finding all or 95% of men not good enough? Most men 40-50 already have kids, which I want no part of. So I'm eliminating well over 90% of the men in my area for just that alone. Then there are the men that I do not find attractive at all, which is most of them. Mutual attraction is important to me and I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:53 PM
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Oh please. A man insinuating sex with basically a stranger is fucking weird. Like I said in another thread- Most of you don't even know how to act right, and are embarrassingly self-unaware. That's why so many of you will never be able to attract a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:34 PM
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True. I've said it in other threads- Mutual attraction is the most important thing to me. Then shared beliefs, morals, values, etc. But I also wouldn't get involved with any good-looking man who breaks any of my top dealbreakers. I have talked super attractive men and unmatched them quickly because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:39 PM
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Massive deal breaker. Besides, I would automatically lose any respect for a man that has to pay for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:10 PM
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Of course. But once you get past a certain threshold weight wise, there is no definitive shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:49 AM
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I meant rotund. Very obese. Hourglass or pear shaped is a normal body size for many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:30 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately many of these creeps are unpredictable, no matter what you do or say to them. I hope that guy got arrested for assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:21 AM
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Lol because I'm willing to bet you want a chance to sleep with your friend, that's why. If she weren't attractive you wouldn't care. Btw weird that you're showing her face and not blocking it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 12:08 AM
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...And you wonder why the young girls in their 20s are passing on the average man. I do not blame them one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:54 PM
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How many men do you know in real life who have outright admitted to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:25 PM
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Most men past a certain age would absolutely do this if given the chance. At this point, I'm convinced most married men cheat, want to cheat, or try their hardest to cheat. Though this doesn't apply if they are newly married. Those guys haven't gotten bored or disinterested with their wives yet. That being said- It still doesn't make it right. Imagine being so weak minded that you'd be willing to throw your entire marriage and family away just to sleep with a woman you found more attractive than…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:21 PM
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Just be monotone and act bored with any man you don't want attention from. Practically anytime I've been nice to a man he gets weird ideas in his head. As for the creepy comment- If the tables were turned, most of the men in this sub would be disgusted if an obese or unattractive woman was being super sweet/flirty with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:02 PM
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You're no prize either dude. You just seem like a horrible person in general using all of those women. Just because a woman is fat or ugly, doesn't mean that she deserves to be strung along. Hopefully you get your karma back tenfold.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:40 PM
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I'm at a healthy bmi (especially for my age group) and this is untrue. Besides, being at a normal weight wont fix many men's hygiene issues. Or teaching themselves how to dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:31 PM
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Do shared values and goals matter more than looks, status, & money? Yes. Of course mutual attraction should be a priority (and it is). But if we're not on the same page with any of the other important stuff, none of the rest matters to me. As for myself, a man having status and money were never major factors with choosing a partner. As long as he isn't living from paycheck to paycheck and isn't a complete weirdo, I would be content with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:32 AM
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If that's what it was, I don't see why they'd even waste their time arguing. But ok. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:35 PM
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That's right, I won't. Most men my age are stuck in their ways, so it's not like I'm missing out on much to begin with. They Expect Men to Meet High Standards While Bringing the Bare Minimum Since when? I already know I'm a catch by the sheer number of men who would send me scathing messages, trying to convince me why I should date them. Yet they wanted an argument. Lol. Btw this was back when I was still trying to online date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:25 PM
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Money doesn't make up for the fact that those innocent kids will never have a father in their lives. It won't make up for school conferences, going to the park, basketball games, getting ice cream, hugs & affection, etc. I'm really hoping most of you making these comments are young and know next to nothing about life. Because if you're a grown ass man- It's no wonder women want nothing to do with you. You have absolutley zero understanding of anything remotely human.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:09 PM
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What about the fathers? You know, the men who decided to put their penises inside of her without a condom. So you're saying that they have zero accountability for getting her pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:22 PM
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He's not impressionable. He just can never make up his own damn mind about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:17 PM
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Why are you so worked up? Go outside and get some fresh air. OP asked a question about brothers/male family members and I answered it. I purposely left out all the disgusting grown ass men who have been inappropriate with me since puberty. I don't feel sorry for any one of them. Btw I never said my brother was shitty. I'm just fucking annoyed by him, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:15 PM
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He was a woman hating atheist less than 6 years ago. He also changes his political affiliation every 4-5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:11 PM
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Ehhh...I try to be. But I'll be honest- I'm not that empathetic because my brother changes his mind and beliefs every 5 years it seems. He went from being atheist, hating women (yes, he admitted to this) and never wanting to get married nor have kids. Because "marriage and kids are for suckers". Then all of the sudden when my brother turned 35, he changed his mind and now has gone in the polar opposite direction. He is almost 40, is now god-fearing and religious, says he wants a much younger wif…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:04 AM
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I know of a few women like this. It's because they want someone to provide for their kids. If the guy has kids himself he won't be able to afford theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:22 PM
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I laughed so hard reading this post. These old men will always be delusional as all fuck. There's no talking sense into any one of them. Let the young girls bleed their funds dry...if they are stupid enough to fall for it, then that's what they deserve. These old guys were delusional when i was a young girl throughout my teens and twenties, and they will end up dying delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:27 AM
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Not a conspiracy theory. You aren't a woman and you have no idea. So sorry for trying to treat you buffoons with human kindness and respect. What do I get in return? Men thinking that I want to sleep with them. Most of you deserve to be treated like garbage by women. If you can't act right, women will continue to be mean as fuck. Men in general are completely stupid around a young pretty girl. If I had been smart when I was young, I would have used every single one of those dumbasses. I could be…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:04 PM
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Mindset? It's not a conspiracy theory. This has happened to me most of my life dealing with men. I was just too dumb about it up until the past few years. I have always had pretty privilege and was unaware of it. Now that I'm in my 40s I'm starting to see signs of aging, so I'm sure that will all stop soon enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:56 PM
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Exactly. But with the resting bitch face in turn these guys use the line "You should smile more". Can't win either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:51 PM
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Yep, you got me. Fat and ugly. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:49 PM
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My ex best-friend did this. None of my other friends did what you're describing, because they basically got married straight out of highschool. I've said this in other threads- But after my ex-bff pooped out a bunch of kids with a felon, she ended up marrying a man whom I knew for certain she was using. He wasn't her type at all. At the time we were barely on speaking terms and I didn't even know the dude to warn him. Anyway, they stayed married for about 6 years before she ended up cheating and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:57 AM
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Here's the finger for that ring 🖕
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:45 AM
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That's right, I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:36 AM
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I'm upset over dealing with mens fucking bullshit for nearly 30 years now, that's what. Hear my perimenopausal wrath.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:24 AM
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So should I just start waving my butterfly knife around whenever a man tries to initiate conversation with me? Will that change the rules? Because that's how fucking stupid you sound right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:07 AM
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Not every woman who is being nice, or treating a man with human basic decency wants something from you. Before covid lockdowns, I was a super nice sweet person to everyone around me. I was almost like a golden retriever because I wanted people to like me. Now I don't even care. I stupidly gave men the wrong idea 24/7. I would almost always have to explain to men that I am just being nice, and that's it. No hidden agenda behind it. Now I'm either mean as fuck and lash out, or I act bored and mono…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:03 AM
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It's no wonder I act bored with men nowadays. Lord.🤦 Newsflash: Just because we treat you with common decency, doesn't make it an open invitation to flirt. It means we are being respectful towards you. I find 98% of men unattractive anyway, so please don't. You're only embarrassing yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:43 AM
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Basic kindness doesn't work for most of us women. Time and time again, gorilla brained men have shown that women being nice= "She wants to fuck me". We don't owe you anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:39 AM
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Carry pepper spray gel if you live in one of the states that allows it. I have the one that the police use. The gel is better because even if it's super windy outside, it will still stick to the assailants face. It sucks that women and young girls have to live this way, but until men learn how to act right, they are going to get a massive reality check. I carry more than one weapon on me and I'm not afraid to use them. After literally decades of this nonsense, I am unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:30 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. What's sad is that exact situation you went through has happened to most women. What I've learned since puberty (or rather didn't learn) is the vast majority of men are buffoons. I have always been terrified of men since very, very recently. Maybe only in the past 3-4 years I will fight if need be. I knew that in the past...if I ignored men's advances or was mean, i would get harassed or threatened even more. So in turn I thought it was always a safe bet to be "ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:19 AM
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Here's where men get it wrong, and I only learned this (embarrassingly) a few years ago. It was a "oh shit" moment after a woman from another sub mentioned this- Men think women who are nice/friendly want to sleep with them, because most men are only nice to women they deem attractive and want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:42 AM
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I forgot to add that I refuse to pay for the first 2-3 dates with a guy. It's one of the first things i vet for. Men who are serious about getting to know a woman will absolutely do this. After a relationship has been established, we can take turns paying for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:18 PM
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There are many types of abuse. That being said, abusive men rarely start out by being abusive. These men know that they would have to hook a woman into a relationship first, in order for that to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:57 PM
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Yeah but those IG and OF girls are unattainable and these dudes know that. I'm mostly talking about real life. Most of them would either cheat or leave their wives/girlfriends for someone whom they deem more attractive if they got the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:56 PM
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I'd say the young girls and men of every age are shallow. But then again, I was once a young girl. I had an ugly boyfriend because I had low self-esteem and didn't think I could do any better. He treated me worse than anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:54 PM
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What's hilarious is that a lot of men are just as shallow, at least when it comes to looks. The only difference is, is that many of you have next to zero options and will take whatever you can get. I often wonder how many men who settled, would drop their wives or girlfriends in a heartbeat for a (insert physical preferences here) woman. None of you would even dare admit to this, not even online as an anonymous person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:16 AM
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Got it 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:17 PM
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You are not in your 40s and you have yet to understand how scummy these men can be. Hopefully you have found your person and never find out as a single woman in mid life. I cannot help it if men lie about their single status. If I had gone out with any one of those men, I would have equally been blamed on here for "not vetting well enough". These men also use deceptive photos that are anywhere from 5-20 years old. I saw one guy's photo that was dated 2009. That's the shit I'm dealing with. That'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:58 PM
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Yes, you're right. Most of the people on PPD are young, and they do not understand how scummy and deceptive middle aged people can be. Many of the men using dating apps are married or attached. They are just wanting validation or a way to cheat. I can't wait until the young people here realize when they get to my age, that the good looking guy they matched with, or the cute woman they see online is in fact 10-15 years older and 80 lbs heavier than their old photos. I wonder if they are thinking …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:51 PM
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Yes, I would message them when I was using Bumble. Most of those men either could not hold a conversation, would give me one word answers, or would go completely silent when I would ask to voice call. Many of the ones who would go silent or refuse to vc were in my opinion- Married.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:43 PM
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Not ashamed since I unmatched or deleted 95% of those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:56 AM
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Yep, I'm picky. I also don't date married men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:51 AM
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I suspect more than half were lying about being single. Some also lied about not having kids. So yeah... One guy I was sort of interested in kept lying about stupid stuff. He lied about his age (he shaved off 5 years) lied about his career, and his height kept changing in his profile. So I eventually blocked him. He could hold a conversation though, I will give him that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:51 AM
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"Just choose better" 5 years now, alone. When I was trying to online date I talked to probably 300 ish men, give or take. Still remained alone, but now as an added bonus I'm also traumatized. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:15 AM
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"Put me on a pedestal and I'll treat you like shit" My motto.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:37 AM
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Honestly? I think for certain age groups it can go in the other direction. I'll have to search for the thread (not in this sub) but it was a woman in her 40s talking about her experience at a singles dance. Only a handful of men showed up vs like 30 women. None of those guys wanted to interact with the women in their age group. Instead, they were flirting and coming onto the much younger servers and host of the event. I guess the women who showed up were complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:40 AM
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Women can clearly be great friends to men, but a woman friend might help you out when injured or sick whereas a wife will feel let down. Huh? How old are you? This is untrue unless you marry the wrong person. If anything, husband's leave their wives when they become severely ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:24 PM
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I've heard it's the same for mixers and singles dances. The ratio is skewed heavily. Like 20 women vs 1-2 men showing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:15 PM
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I went like 2.5 years without sex or a bf before I met my husband. Try 5 years and counting. At this point, I think I am going borderline insane. Then I see the very few available men around here and I keep going. There is a reason why no woman in their right mind wants them. Glad you found a good man...because trust me, you don't to be back out here single.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:20 AM
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it seems like women cannot abide being with someone they consider beneath them Beneath them? I want exactly what I bring to the table myself. Why would I lower my standards and settle for someone I'm not attracted to, or incompatible with? arguably just as happy alone vs being with a mediocre man. Ngl I wouldn't say that I'm "happy" being alone. It's been getting to me lately. But being alone vs. being in a relationship with/having sex a man whom I do not 100% want- I'll chose loneliness. Every …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:42 AM
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I doubt any of those men had the money to fund a sugar baby. They'd be lucky if they got a cheeseburger from any one of those losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:56 PM
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Are you fucking serious? What about people with a severe mental illness, such as schizophrenia? An old friend of mine had a schizo father and a mentally ill mother. They went on to have six kids. The kids were malnourished, never taught proper hygiene, and had to make themselves go to school because the parents just did not care about anything. Edit: Anyway, my friend vowed to never have kids because she is schizotypal herself. People can choose not to have kids if they know they will be unfit p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:54 PM
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Are these super young women in their early 20s? Of course those girls have daydreams. That doesn't mean any of them will come true. But its still healthy to have dreams. When I was 20, I wanted to move to L.A. to become a famous hollywood actress. Lol. Even though I had zero acting skills and was working as a server at a small local restaurant during that time. People think out loud sometimes, especially young people. Middle aged men are worse. If anything men are the delusional ones with fantas…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:27 PM
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Imo men care about looks more. But many thirsty men will take whatever they can get, mostly because they know how difficult it is for them to attract a woman. In turn, these guys will eventually come online and bitch about how they aren't attracted to their overweight (insert physical flaws here) partner. Go read through the relationship or marriage subreddits and you'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:02 AM
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How old are you OP? If you're younger than 35 you'll change your mind soon enough. Imo most HVM want families because it makes them even more high value to their community, if that makes sense. Powerful couples, and powerful families become even more popular amongst their social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:34 AM
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Reddit is not real life. Imo the coddling of men happens mostly online. I mean, why not? Antisocial, undesirable men congregating online makes sense. I believe many of them rarely interact with people, or they just don't know how to. So in turn these guys believe that all women go for the bad boys, Chad, or men in power. They blame women for not wanting to have sex with them, yet most of those same undesirable men will never do the work to try and attract a woman. There's this one 37 year old du…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:29 AM
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Exactly. I was happy for her when she got fully sober and started improving her situation. But she would never reciprocate when I was doing well with my life. I do not have any social media, but I did google my ex-friend a couple months ago to see what she's up to. Basically she makes Tiktok videos now with her tits hanging out. I have never seen someone more in love with themselves than her. 42 years old with 7 kids and still seeking attention from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 09:43 PM
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I'm not talking about competing for men, though I wouldn't be shocked if that happens too. I've only had that happen to me once. A much younger married woman was trying to compete with me for my (now) ex. Long story short- He never went for it and she basically pouted. I think this girl was used to getting her way with men, and was in shock when she realized that he didn't want her. But I'm mostly talking about women competing in the general sense of the word. Example- I have an ex childhood fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:59 PM
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Jealousy and extreme competitiveness. Yes, men can be competitive as well, but women take it to a whole other level. To the point where if you don't have a thick enough skin, it will destroy your mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:15 PM
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It should be built in person, agreed. But people have their own lives dude. You can't be joined at the hip 24/7. That's too much for a person like myself. Good luck to you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 03:04 AM
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Haha what in the actual F. How do you even communicate with women if you hate talking or texting? Serious question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:14 AM
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She’s not a humble, modest woman looking for a good guy with a good heart…she’s trying to swing for the fences, she’s usually shallow, she’s looking for validation, an aesthetic, and a lifestyle, not a genuine relationship, and that machine is chewing her up and spitting her out…she just can’t hang at that level. I'm none of those things, but thanks for the laugh. People say stuff like this without knowing the person's location, or how the mindset of people are in general where they are from. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:12 AM
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Not wanting to talk on the phone doesn’t mean that he’s married. Not always, but 9 times out of 10 they are. I also didn't realize this until recently, but I'm also assuming many of those men had kids in the home. In my profile i would write specifically that i only date childfree men. So...there's another lie. I had many other ways i would vet these men when I was still on dating apps. I should not have to date defensively. It was downright exhausting and I do not miss it one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:54 AM
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What good ones? Over 40 where I live, there are literally zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:51 AM
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Where the hell do you live that all of the men these women are marrying are magically 6'3" with good jobs? Wouldn't those be the guys less likely to settle down? Unless you live in a nordic country, give me a fucking break.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:49 AM
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Exactly. It's why I wonder if these guys are being 100% truthful. Most young women don't want to be seen out in public with a guy their father's age. Though ngl, when I expanded my search filters by distance, I did see a lot of hot 40s-50s men. But those guys did not live anywhere near me, they mostly lived in the metro area in or around Chicago. Thats why I think these relationships are rare. I could fully understand a younger woman being attracted to those specific men for the novelty factor. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:10 AM
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What do your girlfriend's parents say about this? Has her dad tried to kick your ass yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:37 AM
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Lol this thread is a mess. Older men prefer to date younger women...shocked i tell ya. When i was a teen and into my 20s, it was mostly the gross middle aged men approaching me. Somehow when I hit 40, they have magically disappeared. Now it's the 20s guys or men in their 60s pushing their luck with me. To be honest, what's shocking is that there are men on reddit who claim to be in massive age gap relationships. Are you guys located in heavily populated metro areas? Because I rarely see this whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:23 AM
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Plenty of women had to cut ties with guys because as soon as she shows some compassion, he wants his dick touched. Hate to break the news to you Lilith, but many married/attached men do the same exact shit. Sometimes they're even worse tbh. It's not specifically a male loneliness thing. No idea what's going on in their marriages or miserable lives, but it's not my fucking problem to fix. Nor do I care. In the past...almost every single time I have been nice, friendly, and compassionate towards a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:08 AM
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Yeah, I'm the sleazy one. It couldn't possibly be a man's fault for trying to cheat on his spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:58 PM
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Do those guys even exist on the apps? The very few marriage minded age appropriate men I saw on there wanted a younger woman to have a family with, but at least that was stated in their profiles. So I didn't even bother liking them. I get what you're saying, and I'm sure many young men would like a girlfriend. Most of those guys haven't been jaded by divorce, or by life yet. I'm specifically talking about older men. Most of the ones I had talked to said they were looking for a LTR in their profi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:43 PM
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Commitment phobic? That is the biggest lie ever told. If anything, the dating apps taught me to never trust a man. I honestly wish they had been around when i was young so I would have learned a long time ago from listening to men spewing their fucking bullshit. I left the apps years ago, but I did talk to around 300 ish men. None of them were suitable. I mean...none. Whenever I say this I get blamed, but I'm assuming most of the people on PPD aren't over the age of 35. You have no idea how scum…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:34 PM
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I'd like an age appropriate guy without kids. That's like eliminating 90% of the men where I live. Then I'd like to be at least somewhat attracted to him. That's eliminating another 8%-9% . Then we would have to share at least some of the same morals and values. Which leaves me with nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:00 AM
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When I was living with an ex many moons ago, it took me years to figure out that he was a dumbass. Basically, I knew it was over when we were barely keeping our heads above water financially, and he ruined a really good job opportunity. It was easily double what he was currently making with really good benefits. I had zero respect left for him after he screwed that up. I ended up leaving a few months later. Edit: I'd say if you have more than 25% uncertainty its over. At least for me it's over a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:49 AM
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Yeah, I know. Not denying it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:57 AM
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Yeah? Of course I find tall guys attractive, just not the arrogant ones. Human nature and I'm not apologizing for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:05 AM
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I didn't downvote or upvote you dude. There's a ton of people who lurk on these threads. Here's your upvote for being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:03 AM
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Lol hey, that's your preference and you're allowed to have it. I can't help what I'm automatically turned off by nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:56 PM
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Short guys and tall guys both seem to have attitude problems, only it's on the opposite ends of the spectrum. Short guys never stop bitching about height or sizing both of you up (a 5'6" ex of mine would never shut up about this) and the tall guys seem to be conceited, like they're better than everyone else. My sweet spot would be finding a guy 5'9-5'10 but I'm not super hung up on height. As long as I find the guy attractive both physically and mentally. Ngl though, no more 5'6" dudes for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:39 PM
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Did you meet your now husband in real life or online?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:31 PM
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Midwest bible belt here. I remember being in my early twenties, and my friends all got married off right after highschool. I never wanted to get married that young...I was very much a child myself and had no idea what an adult relationship was supposed to be like. Even if I had to redo my entire life all over again- I still would never get married in my twenties. It is what it is. By the way, most of the ones I know who married young are either divorced...or still married but miserable. I only k…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:44 PM
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Good for them. Wonder how many of those women bail after they get their green card.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:29 PM
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I understand that red pill men believe that only skinny, young, beautiful, childless, and fertile women deserve a good man Lets be real- The vast majority of the red pill men here on reddit would never be able to attract those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:32 PM
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And what would you say if a woman decided not to date throughout most of her twenties? It's funny because the men on PPD love to criticize a woman's body count...But when a woman decides to swing the pendulum in the other direction by not dating at all, we are told "You should have picked better". Can't fucking win.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:28 PM
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Lol is there a point you're trying to make? Many married women are on antidepressants as well because of their shitty husbands. Ngl, I'll even admit that being alone has been getting to me lately. But then I look at the very few single men in their 40s and I'm content with my choice. Just imagining any one of those guys being on top of me makes me want to dry heave. Men get super angry when women like myself would continue to be alone, rather than get involved with a man who we find repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:07 PM
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Lol most men are liars, at least online. But I've experienced the same thing irl as well. And it seems the older they are, the worse they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:01 PM
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Many of us don't even bother to pursue men. Here on reddit, I've been told many times to lower my standards (or that I should have no standards) because of my age (42). Btw I do not ask of any man what I can't bring to the table myself. If anything, my standards are way higher and have changed drastically since my 20s. I had very little dating experience back then and had no idea what I wanted in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 07:58 PM
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True. But OP is still very far removed from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:49 AM
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Lol do you actually think that the men of the church are all "good boring guys"? Many of them have had checkered pasts. A coworker of mine met her now ex at church. Guess what? He was an ex-felon who was supposedly born again. He got her knocked up then went ahead and got another girl pregnant. He's now back in prison. The dude is a lifer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:26 AM
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It may be meaningless, but it's better than feeling numb.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:25 AM
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I haven't had a crush in years and I honestly miss it. Having a crush makes you feel alive, even if it leads nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 10:19 PM
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Dead parent or not, I'd rather not deal with any of it. I'm a selfish person who needs to be number one priority in my partner's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:27 PM
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A man with kids isn't a flaw- Its a whole commitment that I'm unwilling to make, or be a part of. I don't have kids so why would I want some dude's baggage? I'd rather be alone. All of the other stuff? I don't ask of any man what I can't bring to the table myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 03:36 AM
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I was mostly talking about 10+ year age gap relationships. Your wife and you having a 7 year age gap isn't really a big deal, or is it? It seems men make a bigger issue out of it even if the woman is only slightly older than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 07:22 PM
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Enough to marry one? I'm willing to bet not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 07:04 AM
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The second part, yeah. I think picking a man based on whether he is over 6ft is ridiculous in itself. Just because a man is tall doesn't mean he will make an ideal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:25 PM
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84% of working women would rather be I stay at home mother according to a Forbes survey. The married women I work with would rather work part-time, and spend more time with their kids. I think most of them would go crazy if they were SAHM's. Many wives/mothers are burnt out. Mostly because many of them are working full-time, and then have to come home and cook, take care of the kids, run errands, and do most of the household chores. Marrying a tall man 6'2 or higher gives you a 30% More likely c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:18 PM
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There's no way in hell I'd want to be a man, unless I was an attractive man. But then it's still a no. I think it would only be easier if I were alive 50 plus years ago being a guy. I'll admit that I wasn't aware of my female pretty privilege at all until maybe 12 years ago, when my ex happened to point it out to me. We as women do have our separate problems, some of them worse than mens. But I'll even admit that it's worse being a young man in modern day society, at least here in the U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:54 PM
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Someone has doused and emptied an entire can of pepper spray onto you? Btw I carry the pepper spray gel that the cops use. It's a gel..so that when you spray it, even if it's windy outside- it sticks to the assailants face. I'd imagine an entire can of it being stuck in your eyes, mouth, nose, face would leave some permanent damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:44 PM
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That's partially true, yes. But I'm also not taking a chance on men that I know I'm incompatible with, or ones who I deem unattractive. Not sorry for it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:27 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:36 PM
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It's not a strange question. I'm saying that just because someone is thin, doesn't automatically make them hot. The same goes for 20s women. Just because you are 20 and happen to be female, doesn't automatically make you hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:34 PM
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Yes, I know. OP's argument is stupid. No shit that most men prefer 20s young women over 40s women. But just because a woman is 20 doesn't make her automatically hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:33 PM
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Having good sex will make you forget about your mental health struggles temporarily. Having an exciting toxic boyfriend is going to increase your mental health problems x1000 when he gets bored, and then finally leaves you. You won't get your daily dopamine hit anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:25 PM
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Should I just throw myself out the window already? It's laughable that you think all middle aged women are fat/obese. Is it the same when an older woman is fit/athletic but she has extremely sun damaged skin from her youth? Does a middle aged man's testosterone drop too when he sees an 21 y/o obese woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:03 AM
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If you are the guy without a family you are considered odd and they want to try to figure it out It's the same for women. If you are childfree in the heartland, you are considered a weird freak of nature. Honestly, one of my main motivations now to consider dating again is just to make it easier to make male friends Good luck to you. I mean that. I stopped trying over two years ago, as my mental health could not take it anymore. This has got to be the worst age to be single imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 10:04 PM
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Socializing past a certain age is largely child-centric Maybe this is true for women, but I don't recall the same for men, even though most 40+ men have kids. I rarely bother socializing with men anymore unless i have no other choice. They all have kids and massive amounts of baggage, which I'm trying to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 09:27 PM
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Men, hands down. I've had two stalkers in my life, the last one was back in 2020-2021. Didn't even know the guy and had to file a police report because he would show up at places I would frequent, which were very few....because there was a pandemic going on at that time. Anyway, I asked the cop that I talked to if I could pepper spray the guy if he bothered me again. He said that I could if I felt threatened. It's only been a few short years, but I'm way more unhinged now. If anyone tries to sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:58 PM
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Not dating at the moment, but i would say my standards are way higher than they ever were when I was younger. I had no idea what I wanted back then in a guy or what i was doing. I was chubby all throughout highschool until my senior year when i lost 60 lbs. That's when I started getting lots of male attention...but always from grown ass men way too old for me that I wasn't interested in. I was a late bloomer, was the very last one out of all my friends to lose my virginity, and even after that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:49 PM
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To be fair, most straight men don't deserve to have any female friends. You guys often don't know how to act right with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:01 PM
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I should also add- Do not befriend a woman just because you are attracted to her and have ulterior motives. I can smell those desperate lame dudes from far away nowadays. If I were a different person, I'd use every single one of them just to show them a lesson. But I can't be bothered tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:35 PM
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In the past, every single man who has befriended me- Developed feelings or had ulterior motives from the very beginning. I never befriend straight men anymore because of this. Years ago, I even had one supervisor at my job (not friendly with but civil to) was indirectly declaring his love for me. We worked alone together for a few months, which made me horribly depressed because I knew he was attracted to me. He even told me that we would have a "future together".... Huh? Dude, you smoke like a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:31 PM
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If you're a woman who doesn't have kids, isn't overweight and isn't unattractive, you're basically set until you age out of relationships. I'm all of those things and still single. Maybe I'm just beyond delusional and I aged myself out years ago. I really think it's mostly location based. If i lived in a much bigger city I would have (I think) a decent selection of childfree men my own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:20 PM
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Seeing the very few available 40-50 year old men around here...I'll both starve and dehydrate before I ever fuck around with any one of them, thanks. They are beyond repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:14 PM
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Yeah, whatever. I didn't "pick" any of them except the man in my last relationship. Those were guys I matched with and didn't even meet up for a single date. So sorry that I'm not a fucking psychic with rando strangers online.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:22 PM
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Haha nice try. I had a zillion vetting techniques when I was on dating apps. I will say that if they don't get on vc after we're texting back and forth for a good 20 minutes or so, without a valid excuse (work, etc) then I would immediately unmatch the guy. These were men in their late 30s/early 40s and I doubt they were shy. Most likely they didn't want to talk because their spouse was in the same room. I had other things I vetted them with, but that is the main one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:14 PM
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Once, in my last romantic relationship. We were friends (or so I thought) for years before that. He left me for his ex after admitting that he used me. The other men were ones I talked to through dating apps who were obviously lying about being single. They will lie about anything and everything. Luckily I never went out with any of those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:03 PM
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Is this a question for men? Because I can tell you as a woman- It's incredibly hard finding a relationship as well. Even if you are attractive. I think in some ways it's worse, because you are only seen as an object and not as an actual human being. I could easily find no strings attached sex but that's not what I want. Additionally, it's harder trying to weed through the men who blatantly lie about wanting a relationship, when all they're after is sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:10 PM
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Lets be real- Many of the men here wouldn't care either way as long as she was hot. That means no hambeasts and no single mothers!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:49 PM
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How old are you? Good lord I hope you aren't over 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:59 PM
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I do have reasonable standards. It's not my fault most men my age are a trainwreck. All of my standards and checkpoints are ones that I hold true to myself. I'd say the only "unreasonable" standard I have is that I was searching for a decent childfree man in his 40s. But it's not that unreasonable because I'm a childfree woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:15 PM
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There’s a guy in the PPD Discord who says he does not shower with soap and does not wash his hands after taking a piss. Disgusting, but it doesn't shock me. I'm just scratching my head as to why anyone would admit to something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:10 PM
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I'm unsure of what percentage, but hygiene is the first thing I notice when interacting with men. So fellas, please be aware of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:08 PM
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True. Which is why I got rid of a couple longtime friends years ago. Their competitiveness and jealousy was destroying my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 06:00 PM
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I mean, does that honestly shock people? It's because you're hot. Many years ago, I knew of a couple of women who had "kept men" . Those two women were nice people, but at the same time...very unfortunate looking. It was no different that a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. Good for you and your hustle I guess. I'm nowhere near rich, but I refuse to pay for a grown ass man's lifestyle, no matter how hot he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:25 AM
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Hey, that's your opinion. I'm talking specifically where I'm from. Obviously not all CF men in general are like those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:40 AM
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I disagree. Back in the 80s and 90s there were mostly young female celebrities. Commercials were full of young models like Cindy Crawford, Anna Nicole Smith, Rebecca Gayheart, and Naomi Campbell. I guess you could count The Golden Girls, which broke many of the stereotypes that older women weren't interested in sex, or couldn't get dates. I think Sex in the City (not a favorite show of mine tbh) also broke barriers that middle aged women can be trendy, date around a lot, and also get men to comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:13 AM
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Nah, I'm ok with being alone for now until I can move away from this place. The middle aged childless men around here are childless for good reason. Imo the very few CF men that I've come across here aren't childless by choice. They are one step above resembling a creature from a horror film. Both looks wise and personality wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 07:01 AM
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So you're saying that you would fall in love with a 5'3 and 300 lbs woman with an acne ridden pock marked face, if she were nice and pleasant to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 06:13 AM
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No. I mostly bitch about the low quality of men I get attention from irl. Lots of married scumbags, men young enough to be my kid, or men old enough to be my father.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 06:06 AM
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"Men don't like older women" Yeah, I fell for this B.S. too when I was a young girl. Even before there was such a thing as the redpill/bluepill and social media. We were brainwashed by magazines, movies, and television that older women were washed up invisible hags. I'm an older woman and men still like me. Obviously I don't get the same crazy amount of attention like I did when I was in my twenties, but I still get attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 05:22 AM
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Lol that's nothing to brag about. Three kids by all different dads? Those dudes throwing themselves at your mom think she's easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 03:45 AM
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Very true. It has almost always been women in the past who have called me ugly for my roman nose, or calling me "plain" for not wearing makeup, dyed hair, or having tattoos. Men have never criticized me for any of these things irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:20 AM
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Boo fucking hoo. Goodbye then. 😂 I've only had men making sexual comments and trying to stick their dick in me since the age of 13. No big deal. It hasn't fucked me up in the head at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:09 AM
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Like I said, this is my venting ground. If you don't want to read my bitter comments you can always block me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:06 AM
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Funny that you think us women making a guy wait is less attracted to him. I make a man wait because I need to make sure that he isn't trying to use me. I can't speak for anyone but myself...I pretty much know right away whether or not I want to have sex with a guy. But I need all three of these things- Mental attraction Physical attraction Sexual attraction Though there are some additional rules that go along with it- I need to have feelings for him and we need to have mutual trust, otherwise...…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:04 AM
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You've seen my comments, cool. Many other men have as well, because I get a lot of colorful messages spewing their hatred towards me. Anyway, Reddit is my venting ground. Kinda like facebook is the old peoples venting platform for whichever political stance they want to bitch about. Like I said, you'd never know in real life from the way I portray myself on here. I'm as sweet as pie irl and attractive. Men are always trying to find an excuse to get near me and talk to me. I guess that'll end whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 12:41 AM
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Who says I'm bitter in real life? Tbh I'm basically numb at this point. I'm sweet and cute irl and most men are too stupid to notice any different. I'll smile in your face and think you're a piece of shit behind your back. That's how I roll.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:59 PM
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It depends. Is he rich and easy to get along with? If so, I guess I could stick it out until he's ready to croak. Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall comes to mind. Though he was like 50 years older and she should have gotten everything in writing before they got married. If the guy is broke and 20 years older...then hell no. Hahaha I'm ready for the downvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:10 PM
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I stopped online dating over 2 years ago. At least I didn't go for obese men who looked like a trash bag. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:03 PM
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I've evolved...the older I get, the pickier I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:38 AM
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Lets be real- Many of them also prefer underage girls. People thought I was still in highschool up until I turned 30. I then lost a lot of the baby fat in my face. What's truly scary is that most men between the 30-40 age group hit on me from the ages of 13-23. It was hardly ever boys my own age that would catcall me, hassle me, follow me, etc. It was almost always grown ass men doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 04:18 AM
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I gave up online dating over two years ago. I'm just stating my experience with them. Yes, it's my fault that the 300 something odd men I had talked through the dating apps to don't know how to act right. I'm also assuming half of them were also married and trying to conceal it, but that's also my fault. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 08:16 PM
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Clearly she's more than capable of being single. Well...yeah no shit. That's why you see so many menopausal women divorcing these men in later years after the kids are grown. This is after decades of being the woman a live-in slave going all of the housework, childcare, errand running, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 08:10 PM
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Yeah. Best thank the universe I don't write the laws, because you'd all feel the fury of my perimenopausal hormones. It ain't pretty either. All of that still doesn't erase what happens everyday. Stay in your stupid naive little world where you believe nothing bad ever goes down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 05:20 AM
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How about adopting all of those unwanted babies? You in? Of course not. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:59 AM
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It wouldn't shock me. I've never been a bar goer or a heavy drinker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:56 AM
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Those are only recorded instances. What about all of the young girls and women who are afraid to tell people the truth? All of them are victims of horrific abuse. I don't give a flying fuck if it happens to be a small percentage. Rape and incest still happens and babies are still born out of these unfortunate circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:21 AM
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I'm tired of listening to men's fucking bullshit when they have no clue on what they're even talking about. I think it's wrong for a 12 year old girl to be gang raped and if she becomes pregnant from that horrific ordeal, she then must now carry a rapist's baby full-term for 9 months, and if that's not bad enough, its almost expected that she will have painful birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 03:54 AM
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I stole this quote from an older woman I used to work with years ago- "No matter how miserable a man is in his marriage, he will never leave if he's got a woman willing to wipe his ass for him."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:27 AM
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I'd love to see the stats for both individuals stating that they are happily married. I'm not talking about newly wedded people either. People where I live get married young. I can tell you that I know of only one couple who seem incredibly happy. In my opinion, most of the ones my age only stay together because they don't want to start all over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 01:34 AM
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Oh...now I'm a walking red flag? You don't know my life. Not every woman over 40 is some washed up old whore, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 01:27 AM
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My brain just exploded. Why the fuck are you even going for disgusting obese slobs if that's not what you want. Am I missing something here? The men I was referring to have all approached me irl. When I was online dating I'd never like or match with a man I deemed repulsive. What the hell are you smoking?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:43 PM
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You think I don't know this? Men aren't the only ones struggling with dating. It's hard for many women past a certain age as well. I can only speak from reading comments on here and other platforms. Although this is an interesting topic to me, I don't ask men about their dating struggles in real life for obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:36 PM
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Like I said in a previous comment- I'm mostly talking about the men who are chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:31 PM
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Hell to the fuck no. That's why I haven't had sex in years. I'm not opening my legs for some disgusting nasty fuck with a shitload of baggage to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:25 PM
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I need more detail. A young obese/ugly woman? Getting a rich, tall, handsome man to commit ain't happening for her. I'm talking about an above average, outgoing, young girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:23 PM
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Yes I read your comment and it sounded like you were disgusted by those women. Yet you went for them? The fuck. Figured out now why you're single. Women can smell desperate men a 100 miles away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:19 PM
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That's one woman's opinion. But hey, maybe you are attractive. Let's say you are a 7. Do you only reach for way hotter women than yourself? I've had (hundreds?) of men telling me that I'm hot, cute, beautiful, pretty, etc. since the age of 13. That doesn't make it true or real. It honestly doesn't mean shit to me because they were only trying to get into my pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:15 PM
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I replied to the wrong person, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:14 PM
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Oh really? I'm considered "attractive" for being old as dirt. Where I live, I only attract unattractive divorced men with 3 or 4 kids, and paying child support working some dead end job. Many of those said guys also have substance abuse problems, or a long history of them. Or I attract baby face dweebs young enough to be my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:13 PM
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That's fine, you have different things that you find attractive in the opposite sex. You are young, which is also fair. But lets be real- Most men in this sub want a young girl with a tiny waist and a cute face. Even if they're over 40, obese, daily weed smoking, doesn't ever leave the house, and watch porn night & day. Doesn't matter if she treats them like complete shit, because if they can have a chance to sleep with her...They would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:56 PM
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I'm mostly talking about the men who are chronically online. Reddit is not the real world. I've seen some insane comments in other subs (mainly dating ones) where one guy was bitching that he couldn't get a thin girlfriend because he "was only a millionaire, not a billionaire" like his married friends. He was dead fucking serious too. I know that's an extreme example, but most of these guys aren't in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:14 PM
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No, that's fine. I'm talking about mentioning my physical appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:10 PM
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Oh yeah, there's another check to my list. They see women as objects, not people. But I've interacted with men who aren't weirdo incels and they basically try to do the exact same thing. Nowadays I immediately dismiss any man who makes a comment on my appearance right off the bat. Mostly because I know where his priorities are, which is not getting to know me as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:40 PM
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Exactly. What's both hilarious and sad is that many men on reddit think that the average dude is exactly like them- Barely showers, porn sick, never goes outside and interacts with real humans, is afraid of talking to humans in general, has a bad gaming addiction, eats garbage food and never exercises, creeps women out, and probably doesn't wash their hands after taking a shit. Ladies, please control yourselves...the line starts here ----
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:33 PM
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Are you talking about the drinks and stuff being cheaper for women in order to get them to frequent the bars? Gotta have some sort of incentive to get the women to come to the bars...I guess. Not into the bar scene and never have been, not even in my twenties. There's nothing more repulsive imo than having to deal with a bunch of sloppy drunk men trying to make the moves on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:24 PM
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I feel like these questions are all geared towards super young pretty women. Of course young pretty women want to date their equal counterparts. I mean shit, does this honestly shock you guys? Most people are average, and they date/marry their equals. When average or below average men bitch about not getting any dates, it's because they want the young, pretty, petite girl. Ain't gonna happen for most of you, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:12 PM
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I'd still figure out a way to work around it. Maybe marry an older gay man whose still in the closet and become his beard. I wouldn't be taxed, and he would be straight to the outside world. Win/win.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:06 PM
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I don't have tiktok or any social media, but I've been saying this for years. I can't speak for anyone but myself...but it started after talking with terrible men through the dating apps. I was serious about finding a partner at the time and very optimistic when I started out, but it just didn't work for me. I've heard the same from other women my age. I think the worst men frequent online dating and it took me far too long to figure this out. I left the apps fully back in 2022. Will it happen f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:07 PM
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What's hilarious is that I'd still let the government tax me if it means I can do what I want with my life. I'm sure most older women would agree. Being taxed up the wahzoo is better than having to fuck, marry, or have a child with an ugly, repulsive, socially inept incel. Or any of these leftover 40+ men that no one wants. I'm wincing right now just thinking about it. Don't get me wrong though- I would still bitch about being taxed unfairly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:19 PM
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Do you have kids OP? I feel like men complain about this topic moreso than women. There was even an askmen or askreddit thread about this posted awhile back ago. Many of the men admitted they weren't attracted to their spouse and wished their girlfriend or wife would lose weight. Let me explain something to you dweebs about relationships and getting older. I say this as an hwp woman by the way... If you have a committed relationship with someone for several years and have children with them- pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:48 AM
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Old ass creepy men objectifying young women has been going on since the beginning of time. It's not right, but that's how it is. It happened to me and it's still happening to the younger generation, which is sad. Protect yourself. Btw, don't ever take these guys opinions seriously. Especially on reddit. The men who are actually getting laid and "spinning plates" don't even care to brag about it on the internet. They're too busy talking to multiple women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:35 AM
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Hmm ok. Maybe you just have massive competition where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:31 AM
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Haha now I'm making up stuff? Right. Btw, I said that I was off and on the apps. I didn't sit on them 24/7 like these lame ass 40+ men do. I took many breaks because just talking to these men would ruin my entire weekend. That's how bad it was. You have no clue how difficult it is to date when you're middle aged. The men that are left on the apps are there for a good reason. No sane, decent woman wants them. Hell, even their own wives wont fuck them...which is hilarious and I don't blame those w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:28 AM
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That's your opinion and you're entitled to it. FYI- not all of us live in a large city with endless options. I don't date married men, nor men with kids. These were both stated in my profile which I'm sure none of them even bothered to read. I swear the rest of them were just bored and wanted time to kill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:20 AM
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Wrong. I was on the apps on & off for close to 2 years. I had likes, some matches, and zero dates. But I'm also picky as hell. Many of those men were married, and/or had kids, and were trying to conceal it. You should change your first sentence to "Young women don't stay on the apps like men do."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:14 AM
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Huh? How old are you? I find this hard to believe unless you're extremely weird or creepy irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 01:09 AM
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Fucking ouch. Is everyone on reddit under 25? Do you even know anyone in their 40s who aren't your parents? I wouldn't describe myself as a 9/10 (not even close) but we don't all turn to dust at 40. I take very good care of myself, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 08:18 AM
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It's a stat that basically came out of my ass. 🤷 I'd go even further and say 80% of men on reddit in general aren't having any sex of any kind. Basically I gathered this from reading the insane and bizarre and downright laughable comments on here. It seems either most of them are super young without any life experience, or they just never leave the house. Or a combination of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:51 AM
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According to the red pill- I've already lost the race. I was a very late bloomer and I missed out on a lot of things. There's no man ever going to marry a 42 y/o woman. I know this. Not where I'm from anyway. Most people here got married right out of highschool. That's just how things are here in middle america when you live in a church town. Even if I had to redo my entire life all over again I still wouldn't get married before the age of 30. Anyway, there's some truth to the red pill, but also…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:32 AM
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Read my first comment dude. I lived it and I already explained. Men like yourself keep hoping and praying for that stupid article to become real life, but it's not. Maybe twenty something odd years ago, but not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 01:20 AM
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It's the eyebrows.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:43 AM
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Lol that's because 80% of the men on this sub are pure virgins. It's likely going to stay that way for the vast majority of them too unless they pay $ for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:38 AM
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My mom. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 12:35 AM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:27 PM
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A link from Esquire 😂 sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:26 PM
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You are completely wrong. If anything, men (ugly men) hate young beautiful women. They will treat you like gold at first, then the jealousy and emotional abuse starts in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:39 AM
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Most women in general don't want to fuck an old ugly man for the rest of their lives. Let alone a pretty & young woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:36 AM
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I get it. Reverse psychology. People always say that us women are insane, but I truly believe it's the men who are the crazy ones. Tell a man that you want marriage & commitment and he will run away. Tell the same man that you aren't looking to ever get married, and he will pursue you as though you're the last woman on Earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:34 AM
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Hilarious that you think I grew up wealthy, or that I'm even close to being wealthy. Also hilarious that you think I'd want to even consider getting involved with a man whose barely let the ink dry on his divorce papers, and also resides at home because he's broke. People like that guy shouldn't be dating at all. They should be working on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:46 PM
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I know, and I regularly help my mom out since I live within walking distance from her. This guy literally told me that he couldn't afford a place on his own after his divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:55 AM
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What 40s single men without kids? Where are they hiding?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:43 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:21 PM
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Major ick and I flat out refuse to date a guy still living at home. But I'm also in my 40s and I don't date younger. A few years ago I did match with a guy through online dating who was 52 and told me that he had moved back in with his parents. He had also just recently divorced. I unmatched him immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:24 PM
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You are correct. I met this particular ex well over a decade ago, through an online hobby. Back then I didn't think about height much, and had no height preference other than the guy had to be taller than myself. I'm 5'5.5 for reference. Average. I'm not tall in the slightest. My ex is 5'6. I just remember in the beginning stage of us talking to one another (video chatting) my ex used to repeat "You look so tall". I kept telling him what my height was. After the 5th or 6th time he mentioned me b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:43 AM
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Well then I'm fucked. I already believe I'm in the beginning stage of perimenopause as it is. My waistline is going to soon expand like nobody's business.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:50 AM
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Hey that's fine. If I were a fatass I wouldn't want to date myself either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:47 AM
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Yeah, and? At least I admit to it. I'm not here to gaslight you buttheads.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:41 AM
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Nope. But I also didn't grow up in a time where girls were trying to "outdo" one another with having a super tall boyfriend. I won't date shorter than 5'8" though. I did that and never heard the end of it. My ex was insecure as hell. I much prefer broad shoulders, nice eyes, and a handsome face over a 6ft guy who has an ugly mug. I'm wondering how old the other women are in this thread. Because if they're young, I feel like half of them are lying to save face here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:16 AM
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That list is pretty accurate. I'll add in that I don't want a dumbass man. I was in a relationship with a dumbass who couldn't make sensible decisions for himself, or us. That was a major reason why I left that relationship and moved out. I could no longer trust him to make sensible choices and lost all of my respect for him. I need a man that I can trust enough to take the lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:52 AM
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How is a young woman on OF taking advantage of these men? Because she shows her tits for money? Is that really any different than a guy going to a strip club and throwing bills at the dancers? If those guys end up bleeding their funds dry in order to see naked women, that's their own fucking fault for being stupid. No one forces these guys to do anything. Sex sells. The end. If no one cared to watch those women they would be out of business.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:35 AM
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Oh, I didn't know. I've had more than one boyfriend in my 42 years on this earth. I must be the biggest whore alive. An old whore at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:52 AM
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Nope. Midwest, small city. I also live in one of the fattest states in the U.S. If you are at a normal weight here, you literally stand out amongst the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:15 PM
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To be fair, most young girls can get by with any kind of look because they're still young and pretty. As you get older, you have to work twice as hard to look good. Actually, make that thrice. Everything is literally a chore in the "maintaining your appearance" department. It's a second job imo. If the person is older and fat, dyeing your hair a ridiculous shade of green or blue is going to make you look so much worse. But hey...if they like it, good for them. It's their hair, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:40 PM
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Who are you trying to attract OP? Ask yourself that first and foremost. Honestly, I would never ask men on reddit what they find attractive. Most of them don't even know. Ask men irl whose opinions you respect. Tell them not to sugarcoat anything either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:35 PM
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That's not how it works...or even goes. For reference, I have never been married. Just throwing that out there. This is only my opinion of talking to both married/divorced people throughout my life. I think the vast majority of couples do genuinely love each when they get married. Most are still young, and full of positivity and excitement for this new stage of life together. Then years pass...kids are usually born. Added stress usually comes with taking care of a baby, or babies. They cost mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:32 AM
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Nah. Men and women are not the same. Besides, promiscuity rots the brain imo. Its unhealthy and abnormal. Yes, I know plenty of still people do it. I said what I said. If every man got a "hoe phase" I doubt it would ever end for them. Why would any man pursue a committed relationship when he can get a different woman every single day of the week? It would be like living in Candy Land.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:40 AM
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Oh shit I did read that wrong. Anyway, I almost never see older guys with younger women. That's a lie too. Maybe that happens in bigger cities but I rarely see huge age gaps of any kind around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:13 AM
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No one owes anyone anything. Imo gender roles have already flipped, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:06 AM
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Pretty much. Most people (I'm estimating 80%) on reddit are agoraphobic as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:55 AM
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Which part?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:53 AM
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I know. And I'm saying that as an older woman I'm basically doing the same thing. Reddit is a hive mind and despite what you read online, most older women irl don't go for younger men. If they do, its certainly not young men in their twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:31 AM
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Not at all. I used to see so many hot 40-50 year old men, after I changed up my distance filters when I was still online dating. Too bad that they all lived much too far away. Forties men are the hottest when they take care of themselves. The 40s men around here already have one foot in the grave. Ready for a heart attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:10 AM
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Really? I'm 42 and I ridicule the younger men as well. Only not to your faces because that's mean. I have yet to see any older woman irl who dates younger men. Not around here anyway. I did know this one woman who lived on my block years ago who messed with younger guys. But she was also a major drunk and the designated neighborhood ho.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:06 AM
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Just because I have never been promiscuous doesn't make me a prude or a frigid woman. Only having 2 options posted is dumb, when all of us have different personalities. If I'm frigid with a man- it means I don't want him near me. When I have deep feelings for a man, I want to jump on his dick 24/7. I will do literally anything to make my partner happy when I'm in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:02 AM
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True. I'll laugh at a guy's stupid fucking jokes if I find him hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:56 AM
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I live in the midwest and I'm over 40. Ain't gonna happen where i live. The 40+ men who exist online are men that no woman in her right mind wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:54 AM
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I have a lot to offer the right man. As for being a weakling- I am a petite woman who carries more than one weapon on me while I'm out and about. I have been hassled, followed, catcalled, and threatened by men since the age of 13. Obviously it's tapered down but it still happens. I can only depend on myself. Men like yourself will never understand how terrifying this is. I have never been helped by any random man or "rescued" (aside from an ex) when I needed help out in public from a creep. Neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:52 AM
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Hahaha never going to happen. There will always be thirsty desperate men out there. If I downloaded any dating app right now, I could easily get a different date for every single day of the week. If I want to add insult to injury- Probably get a free dinner from every single one of those (schmucks) men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:44 AM
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I'll take my chances over a wimp who never goes outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:05 PM
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Oh please. Can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. I'm sure most of those guys throughout my life harassing me, catcalling me, following me, and threatening me...wanted to make a baby with me. More like wanting to get their dicks wet. Give me a fucking break. Anyway, most men have always been, and continue to be repulsive to me. It's a big part of the reason why I'm in my 40s without kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:14 PM
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Apparently since there's men out there who want to put their penises inside of us- We live on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:47 PM
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Dear god. 🤦 I like my men assertive, masculine, and not afraid to throw a punch. You know, the opposite of a man like yourself. Not sorry for it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:45 PM
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Every single one of your replies is cringe as hell. Go outside and start interacting with people. There's no way in hell that you've ever been with a woman romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:43 PM
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Are we talking about a man that I'm involved with romantically? Or just some random dude I was polite with through work, got to know him and months later he's pouring his heart out to me? The first question- No, not turned off. That would be the ultimate goal for me- Reciprocated feelings. The second sentence- Both terrified and turned off. I would have to avoid him like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:40 PM
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I expect my man to protect me. Not some random girl he doesn't know that's waiting for an Uber. Tbh that poster sounds like the same kind annoying B who would at the same time, whine about her man "protecting" another woman and being "attracted to her" over his own girlfriend. Argument ensues over said random girl, then a breakup. That dude can't win.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:16 AM
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I didn't list anyone as a slut. Unless you mean lost. Anyway, the word "slut" is a funny word to me. I love throwing that word around just to piss off everyone. Nah I'm single, single, single. Not slutty enough for the men around here. But hey, the old sluts my age are happy. They still get the men. Good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:55 AM
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All of the sluts i knew from back in the day are either married, or divorced. The divorced ones still have no problem getting men. Most of those guys aren't what I deem as attractive in the slightest...but hey, they still get men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:35 AM
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Oh wow...A self-aware man on Reddit. You guys do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 08:51 AM
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Lol the only men and women who leave comments like that are so repulsive they can't even get one date. People who are already attached or can get dates either don't give enough of a shit to leave negativity, or they wish others good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:29 AM
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All of the sluttiest girls from my highschool days eventually got married and had kids. I'm not a slut, was never a slut, and never got married nor had kids. Conclusion: Men love sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 08:16 PM
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Sunscreen is a preventative measure imo. But men seem to lump anything beauty related together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:01 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:00 AM
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"Stopping use of makeup saves them a ton of money." Wrong. I barely own any makeup but my skincare arsenal is insane tbh. An ex of mine used to give me crap about wearing sunscreen everyday, even during the winter months. I told him word for word- "You would bitch the same if I didn't wear any sunscreen and my face ended up resembling Leatherface." Is this about money or looks OP? Are you worried that a woman you get involved with is going to force you to buy her makeup? Anyway, I'll wear makeup…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:38 AM
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I don't deny it. 🤷 But I also talk shit about pretty much everyone, so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:18 AM
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I don't date any of these guys. Newsflash: Its not just fuckboys who do this. The most disgusting comments I've ever received were from men that 99.9% of women would be repulsed by, physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:59 AM
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In my experience, this is most men I've come across.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:22 AM
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I'm speaking through my point of view. This question was asked for the women, so I answered it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 09:55 PM
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If I had been smart back when I was a young girl, I would have used every single one of those "nice guys" and been rich before hitting my 25th birthday. Drain their funds, just like they were hellbent trying to drain their balls. Lets be real, those so-called nice guys just want sex. They were only trying to use me because I was a young, timid, pretty girl. Luckily I shut that shit down. But had I used them right back- They would have deserved it, tenfold. Downvote away.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 09:44 PM
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" the common retort is "Well the average man is overweight, doesn't take care of his appearance" - in reality there is a large proportion of men who do take care of themselves that are still invisible since the threshold for cute/hot is so high." Maybe this only applies to young women. As a woman in her forties, I most certainly notice when a man my age takes care of himself, because it's so incredibly rare where I live. Btw, I live in one of the fattest states in the U.S. Most middle aged men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:30 PM
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A man seeing me as an object and not a human being first and foremost, and cares only about putting his penis inside of me, doesn't count as "dating". Women have it much harder imo. There's no way to discern the genuine men from the scumbags nowadays. Men will lie through their teeth in order to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:59 PM
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Gay, and a nice person to be around. I do not befriend straight men at all anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:37 PM
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How the hell are most of you guys going to "spin plates" when you bitch about not being able to land ONE woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:37 AM
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I always forget to take pictures, even when i was a young twenty something girl. I think I only have two or three pictures from my twenties, which I regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:32 AM
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I don't like nor agree with modern day feminism, I've said this more than once before. That being said- Payback is a bitch. Like I said in my previous comment- This has been happening since the beginning of time. Men are now angry because the pendulum has swung in the other direction. Only 15 years ago (YES 15!) and I'm being conservative with that answer. More like less than 15 years ago. If women continued to be scrutinized 24/7 like back in the day, blamed for being assaulted/raped, blamed fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:49 AM
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Why are you only blaming the mothers? These men have fathers too. Obviously they taught them nothing. Aren't fathers supposed to teach their sons how to act like gentlemen?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:26 PM
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None of it's right tbh. I'm just saying (like I said in another comment) something's gotta give. There has to be a middle ground somewhere. If you are obese, your options should be to date other obese people. If you are a single parent- go date another single parent. No one owes you anything. I myself got tired of men with kids trying to shame me and argue with me because I refused to go out on a date with any of them. I owe you nothing dude. Another thing- Not just obese women, but normal looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:06 AM
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You cannot shame or disrespect women IT WILL NOT WORK The men all did back in the day, and almost always got by with it. Now, within the past, what? 15 or so years? Women are doing this to men. So basically this has been going on forever towards women until very recently, now it's happening to men and you guys are angry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:22 AM
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You need to start blaming thirsty men instead of women. Most people (especially women) in the U.S are either overweight or obese. Chubby, chunky, or a bit husky is ok. No one is perfect. But i definitely think it's insane when a person is literally killing themselves, you can see it with your own two eyes, and others are calling them "beautiful". No, sorry. You're not. I'm not saying it's right to call a person mean names, but somethings gotta give. I also think this is chronically online thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 02:45 AM
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Wft dude. Please get into therapy asap. None of the shit you're spewing is even normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:21 PM
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Wrong. There's a massive difference between being indifferent, and not being thirsty. If a guy acts indifferent, I will just see that as well...he's not interested. So I'll just move along. I only get involved with men who have options, and choose by their own accord to pursue only me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:14 PM
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Nope, and I'm not even into casual sex. Though I do wish I was born a little earlier. I wish I could go back to the mid 1990s as a young adult, instead of being a tween/teenager back then. The internet was still in its infancy (most people didn't even have a pc unless you were upper middie class or rich) and people actually talked to one another. Young people hung out at the mall and flirted with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:53 PM
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So if my man goes and fucks 25 women behind my back, I should just forgive and forget? I don't care how much I deeply love him- I'm kicking his ass out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:53 PM
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You just proved my point. I said that it wasn't like this at all with the male loneliness epidemic, back in the day. Learn to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:40 PM
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Wrong. Especially if you're past a certain age. The statistics have proven this. There aren't many good options left when you hit middle age and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:00 PM
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Not a feminist and at this point I only want the attention of one man. Decades of being treated as an object by men, instead of being treated as human will make a person unhinged. If men had to worry about rape as much as women do, you would change your tune completely. And yes: I'm highly aware that men can be, and are raped too. I'm not invalidating anyone here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:30 PM
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Yeah, ok. That dude has admitted to waiting for his A.I girlfriend to become affordable. And i'm not even joking. I don't even know this dude and can tell that he never goes outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:25 PM
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Then explain to me why the vast majority of boys in my graduating senior class eventually got married? I graduated in the year 2000 btw. Adding to this- Most of them got married super young. There wasn't a male loneliness "epidemic" where I grew up at all. Maybe the one weird guy who cant talk to people in general had trouble, but that dude also got married years later. Or is this solely a location thing? Back then, most young men in middle America got married and now have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:22 PM
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Dude, you don't even go outside in the real world to be rejected. So there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:02 PM
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Right. How about you outside and interact with one human today? It's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:43 PM
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I'm old as dust according to reddit. So technically, you're right. My ovaries are a couple of moth balls at this point. But hey, I still look good. That could change very quickly though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:34 PM
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To be honest, I have next to zero empathy for men these days. You're right. This is after decades of having to endure men harassing me, scaring me, threatening me, following me, catcalling me, etc. I am unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:32 PM
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That's not my fucking problem and I frankly don't care. It never used to be this way. It's because those men lack social skills and overall human skills in general. Women are repulsed by them and I see why. Their parents obviously didn't teach them jack shit. My mom is 80 years old. When we go out together, you should see the lack of common human decency that (mostly young) grown men fail to show towards her. I'm not talking about being "nice" either. I'm talking about the bare minimum of respec…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:25 PM
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Dude, go outside and start interacting with people. Learn some social skills. By people- I mean everyone. Not just women you're solely attracted to. There are lots of lonely people out there who are dying to make a friend. Also get a therapist so you can work out your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:50 PM
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You're literally talking to a brick wall. Men like OP will never understand that we as women have to be on guard at all times. OP thinks that men wanting to have sex with us, equals to positive attention. Being on this sub only reinforces the fact that the vast majority of men are only looking to get their dicks wet. Doesn't matter who. As long as it's a vagina- In their minds, they are ahead of the game. That's why I'll continue to be picky. There is a reason why there's a male loneliness epide…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:47 PM
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Hahaha your comment is why I will continue the monotone, straight faced routine with every single man I come across in real life. Except Chad. Oooh Chad makes my panties wet. You mad? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:43 PM
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You're still right though. The same men bitching about being ignored by the opposite sex, are the same ones ignoring any woman who is overweight, unattractive, or past a certain age.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:41 PM
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Pretend to be what? Why the hell would I lie about anything on this subreddit? I'm literally anonymous. I don't care about sugarcoating anything. Anyway, I have seen the exact opposite from men, so don't act like you're any better than me. Most of you ignore the "unattractive" women completely. I've seen men in group settings at my workplace try their hardest to get my attention, and flat out ignore the 50ish post-menopausal woman trying to engage in our conversation. I've had to literally turn …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:17 PM
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It really doesn't, you're right. It took me nearly 40 years to figure this out, which is sad. The vast majority of the people I work with are men. I try in general to get along with everyone. Some of the men at work are ok and not weird. But you'd think the rest of them have never seen a woman in their entire life, with the way they act.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:06 PM
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I don't feel disgust when those men become successful. I literally don't care. So you're only halfway right. Most of us women act indifferent because we have no other choice. Every single time I have treated a man with common courtesy, smiled, or treated him like a human being- His brain has to gone automatically to "she wants me" or thinking that I'm interested in him, when I'm not...Dude, I'm literally trying to be civil and nice. Most of you don't know how to act right around women. Yet you g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:58 PM
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Negative. So much so that I've stayed off the dating apps since August 2022. It was hell imo and I should have left them sooner. I was on them for a little over a year and a half. When I was trying to online date here in a small city, I was 38, almost 39 at the time. That doesn't help when you are childfree, trying to find an age appropriate man who is also cf, not weird, and halfway decent looking. Those men do not exist where I live. Too many married men trying to act single on the apps. Too m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 06:56 PM
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I was talking about middle aged men existing on the dating apps. Yeah, they can remain sexless and alone because no sane woman wants them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 06:38 PM
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Since when is OP's post for red pillers? It's literally a debate post. Like I said, it's not just a small group of men who do this. I think most of these guys don't talk about it because everyone (including myself) will see them as desperate and pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:21 AM
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In real life? No. But when I was still trying to online date I talked to many men like the ones I'm describing. Especially the ones who bitch about single moms. Yet most of them previously lived with, or were in a relationship with one. Also, posts right here on Reddit like this one- https://np. reddit.com. /r/AITAH/s/7UrZkVmxkN (I had to take the dot out and the www otherwise automod will remove my comment.) The guy's girlfriend and both her adult children are unemployed. OP confirmed this in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:58 AM
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My favorite men are the ones who continue to bitch about obese women, unemployed women, and single mothers. Yet they continue to date, have sex with said women, and even hand them over their hard earned money. Dumbasses 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:01 AM
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Lol whatever point you were trying to make as a "Gotcha" moment- You failed miserably. I mean, why tf would I even match with men I had zero physical attraction to begin with? I don't do pity dates. The men I matched with on the dating apps I initially found attractive. Then they started talking. Most of these men didn't even know how to talk to a woman without being rude, or downright disgusting. I talked to literally hundreds of men and refused to go on even one date with any of those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 03:52 AM
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Oh yeah I agree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:56 AM
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This post is making my head hurt. Most women (not all) are turned on both emotionally and physically by a man. As for myself, if the guy doesn't have what it takes emotionally I won't be turned on- No matter how attractive he is. Anyway, when I was trying to online date in & off for almost two years, my libido fell off a cliff. None of those guys were worth anything, not even one date. Those middle aged men will forever remain sexless imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:56 AM
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Having a high libido doesn't mean you partake in sleeping around. So you're half right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:50 AM
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Obviously not a man, but I believe most of the men here are early twenties. And virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:48 AM
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I thought having zero tattoos would attract a decent man. I am a reserved person, and I thought it would attract a certain type of guy. Oh boy did it ever. Just not the kind of man I would want. Yeah, I know. I'm stupid for thinking that to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:21 AM
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Are we talking strictly appearance here? I used to care, but not much anymore. Example: I have no tattoos and never had the urge to get one. When I started online dating a few years ago, I thought it would be something that would attract a decent man so I put it in one of my prompts. All it did was attract weirdos. Ugly weirdos. The worst of the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:07 AM
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Haha what a load of B.S. Just because you would be ok with a 10/10 Instagram girl lying there like a dead fish in bed, doesn't mean us women want the same in a guy...hot or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:02 AM
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Also, I know it was always embarrassing for her being seen with me and I know that appearances are everything to women. Not to sound condescending, but that wasn't because of money. Your ex was embarrassed to be seen with you as a woman, because she knew that she looked much older than you and was old enough to be your mother. I look good for my age, but there's no way in hell that I still look like I'm in twenties. Even I'm not that delusional. I'm sure that your ex felt the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:20 AM
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Most of those young adults also said that they would have kids if they could afford them. It's not by choice at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:34 AM
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Wrong. It's more of an investment for (young) women. Especially if the young woman wants to become a wife and mother. She is risking her overall health and body to give birth to your children. Women are also usually left bearing the responsibility of the child if the father decides to step out. Yes, husbands step out on their families everyday too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:38 AM
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Ehh it depends. Yes and no. Speaking as a 42 y/o woman: I expect the guy to pay for at least the first couple of dates. It shows he has interest in me. After that we can take turns paying for dates. Do we have to go to an expensive restaurant? Nope. But I also outright refuse to do coffee or walking dates. That is low effort and I don't give a crap what anyone else here says. I'll do coffee and walking dates after a relationship is established. If you're a 40 something year old man who can't aff…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:14 AM
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I'll be downvoted into oblivion for this but... GIVE ME THIS LIFE! PLEASE! I'll take it thank you. I'm tired as hell and believe I'm in perimenopause. Doubtful this will ever be my life but hey I can always dream. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 04:19 AM
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I mean, yeah? I really believe our foods are disrupting our natural hormones as women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:56 PM
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Huh? I don't really understand the question. Are you expecting the women here to say "throw all the men off a cliff" or something? I'd first get rid of most (if not all) artificial garbage in our food. I really think it's disrupting all of our hormones. Maybe then men and women wouldn't be so angry at one another. I mean, I like junk food just like the next person, but it's bad when our stores have more junk than actual food.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:32 PM
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Only if the guy is spending it on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:06 PM
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But but...he's a "nice guy" 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:04 PM
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Eh, I disagree. You're probably boring, if anything OP. Most women dislike boring men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:03 PM
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Ah ok got it. Still gay imo. I just searched and watched a YouTube clip of Myron. He's even gayer hahaha. Who was that one young guy posted a week or two ago in one of the main subs on Reddit? He got cancelled for saying "Your body, my choice." and he's supposedly red pilled. He's a white dude. Yeah, they found out that he's been having sex with a so-called femboy this whole entire time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:52 PM
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Yeah, I just clicked on the link you posted in another comment. That dude is 100% gay and he's trying his hardest to hide it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:23 PM
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I hate modern feminists. Actually, dislike is the better term. Any man who cares enough to say that they hate gay people- They are gay, gay, GAY. I mean, most actual straight men do not give a flying fuck about what the lgbt community does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:15 PM
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Nope. OP is a young guy and needs to be upfront after the first date. Especially if the girl wants kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:11 PM
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Men don't have to remain celibate, or do anything that they don't want to do. But then they need to stop bitching about single mothers and obese women if they choose to get involved with either. If higher standards were held on both sides, then they would have no other choice than to change their ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:07 PM
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Why tf would I lie or sugarcoat anything on this sub? I honestly don't care if the guy I'm with was born without testicles. Now, if it affects things negatively in the bedroom...then yeah that's going to be a huge problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:03 PM
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he hates gay people No idea who Myron is, but I guarantee you he's gayer than hell just by that statement alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:59 PM
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How shy are we talking here? Painfully shy? Or just shy because he doesn't want to come off as a creep? I don't know. I'd say probably not interested, even if he is hot. I despise passive men if I'm being honest. I don't want to have to make the first move with everything in our relationship. Yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:21 AM
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I feel like you're describing couples that either one, or both partners weren't sexually attracted to each other to begin with... People marry people they aren't attracted to probably more so than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:09 AM
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Being attractive means that men watch every move you make, and constantly criticize your appearance if you don't look like their version of "pretty". Case in point- Broke out with a huge zit right on the side of my nose, makeup barely covered it up. Asshole coworker goes "Gosh (insert name), your nose looks really red today. It looks terrible." Thanks dickhead. Another coworker stared at my cankles with a noticeable look of disgust on his face. As though I should have thin ankles since I'm not f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:32 PM
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I only want the attention of one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:25 PM
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It wouldn't bother me if I had feelings for the guy. You really should be asking these women whether or not they want children. Imo that will be your biggest hurdle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:22 PM
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She said that she was previously an unemployed single mom of five kids, who went back to college and met her (now) lawyer husband. I really have a hard time believing he's attractive, but what do I know? Maybe they met young and he didn't know any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:21 PM
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There's a difference between being a good man, and a man being a complete pushover. I want a caring, gentle guy. But also one who can take the lead, is able to make sensible decisions for us, who can also be assertive. Basically, I don't want to date a meek dumbass. As for the other garbage you spewed- I don't want a "dangerous" guy. I don't want the ex-felon. Again, he's a dumbass. Not a meek one, but still dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:18 PM
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I am submissive and agreeable to MY OWN man, not anyone else. Thank you. The comments here would suggest I am masculine, for cussing out a random dude approaching me on one of my evening walks (it gets dark out early now). But reality is, I am like a startled scared cat so I push back and scare the guy. I need to protect myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:56 PM
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Looks/appearance- Short hair, usually fat (but not always), baggy clothes, facial piercings, heavily tattooed. Personality- Loud, vulgar, wants to act like "one of the guys".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:36 PM
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Lmao it took me actually leaving my ex and moving completely out before he took me seriously. Before that, I made the mistake of begging him to work on our relationship. He actually said word for word after I left- "I never thought you would actually leave me." So yeah, he really must've thought that I was a complete pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:56 AM
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Maybe I just don't understand. He looks sickly. Like he's constantly knocking on death's door.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:18 AM
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He's dog dick ugly. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:08 AM
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It's not a family member, it's a friends family member. The niece. But anyway, didn't you say all your kids are by the same guy? Were you a druggie who had your kids taken away? If not, then I'm not talking about you either. And yes, I'll continue to judge those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:48 PM
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Nope. It's just a mixture of disgust, judgement, and bitterness. There are way too many women in the world like this who get nothing but rewarded for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:44 PM
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Because I worked and went to college, and he built computers from scratch. So basically- He was WORKING. Your man was doing something productive. That's way different than a worthless obese slob who had her child taken away because she decided that meth was more important. Now she gets to live off government benefits because she fried her brain with said drug, and is too fat to even stand for more than a few minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:28 PM
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I really despise what our culture has become. It's pathetic. Same. I love to tell people here to "bring back shame" but I just get downvoted into oblivion for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:06 PM
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You just proved my point. No wonder I struck a nerve. You are clearly one of the women I described above. You dated an unemployed man for 6 years? What for? Because you are the female equivalent to him? Honestly I'll give you props for dating low value men like yourself. At least you aren't asking for any insane standards that you yourself can't reach. Are you kidding about not shaming the men here? I do it all the time. Go through my comment history. I'm much harder on the men here in this sub …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 10:03 PM
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I don't demand anything from a man. If he's not what I'm looking for then I'll simply move on. I outright refuse to try and change a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:16 PM
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If my own brother got involved with either of said women I would shame her, but I would definitely shame my brother into oblivion. I'd first ask if everything was ok in his life, then ask wtf was he thinking by getting involved with someone like that. Holidays would be spent asking her a zillion questions, making her as miserable and uncomfortable as possible, mocking her, telling her what a despicable piece of garbage she was, etc. Yes, I am a bitch and love to shame people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:52 PM
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Most modern young men were never taught to be men. No idea if you were raised without a father or not. Maybe your father was in the picture, but wasn't a good father figure to teach you anything. Most of you lack testosterone. Many will blame testosterone for your poor choices in these women. But if you had enough T you wouldn't even give said women the time of day. I read somewhere not too long ago that young men born today in modern society will have less testosterone than a 60 year old man. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:40 PM
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I would shame them just the same if the genders were reversed. Deal with it. You're probably some young woman who thinks other women can do no wrong. You probably want everyone to tell you that you're a perfect princess when you are probably the exact opposite. If you or other women are mad about my comments- I'm most likely talking about YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:32 PM
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Would you date the male versions of the women I described above? Would you date a morbidly obese man with prior drug arrests, a child that he lost custody of because he's a piss poor parent, not to mention being unemployed and living off the government? Would you date a man with 5 kids by multiple women? Would you tell your best friend, sister, or cousin to date any of the above men? You wouldn't, and you know you fucking wouldn't. So get off your high horse. Or maybe you are one of many of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:14 PM
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True. I worded my comment badly. I'm just saying that if young men had the same standards as they did 20+ years ago, things would be much different for them. The one random morbidly obese girl got zero dates back then. I knew that girl because we went to highschool together. She had to lose well over a 100 lbs before she met her (now) husband. No boys would even look in her general direction before that. The single mother with multiple kids by multiple fathers? Good luck to her finding commitmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:44 AM
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I'm a woman, and I even agree with this. Young men cannot win. I am bitter that women who have multiple children, by multiple fathers are still able to find single men who are willing to get into relationships with them, willing to take care of them, and buy their kids gifts. Hell, I'm bitter that the young 25 year old niece (easily over 300 lbs, has a toddler in the system whom she'll never regain custody of, is living off the government, and who has prior drug arrests) of a family friend- Foun…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:52 AM
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It's not that unusual if you're a young pretty girl here in middle america. It happens more often than you think. Yes, my friends were often the victims of this same exact crap. Many of my friends were also r*ped. I am thankful that I wasn't. It almost happened not once, but twice. Luckily I ran and got away. I don't live in a bad town per say, but the area I grew up in was infested with sex offenders. I didn't know this until I got my own PC in my mid twenties, and was looking at the sex offend…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:02 AM
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Yeah, but how old are you? If you're a young guy I do feel sympathy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:56 AM
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Trust me, I'm highly aware of this. I'm in bible thumping country. I honestly believe the only reason the very few childfree men here exist, is because other women decided their fate for them. These men are beyond repulsive. No woman wanted their genetics. I feel like I would have a better chance finding a halfway decent looking 40s man in a huge metro area with more childfree people, but I could be very wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:54 AM
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Some men want me. I do not want them back. They aren't what I'm searching for in a partner. Yes, I am cute but also 42. I'm waiting for the laughs and snide remarks from you guys. Go ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 02:45 AM
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Mental illness, eating disorders, self-hatred. Hiding from the world in general. For many years I was terrified of men. Men were the epitome of terror for a long time. When i was a young girl (13 and up) I could barely get 10 steps out the door without grown men harassing, following, threatening, and catcalling me. I still get that crap from men every so often but it has obviously tapered off. I just wave my pepper spray (or knife) around now and start cussing them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:36 AM
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I never found one. Gave up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:29 AM
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Uh, that's below average imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:51 AM
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How so? I meet all of my own standards, except I am well above average for a 42 year old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:48 AM
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Forgive me, I'm old and decrepit. I'm also not well versed on what the cool kids do these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:46 AM
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I'm in my 40s so....yeah. It wasn't fun trying to dumpster dive for a decent 40 something man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:40 AM
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Yeah, that's way too big. And you're in your 40s? Unless you have an underlying illness or ailment, If you haven't taken care of your body by now- I doubt it'll ever happen. I myself have gained a bit of weight, but before that I was very underweight. And I also believe I'm in perimenopause at this point. So yeah, hormones. I wish you the best of luck though in losing weight and dating. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:37 AM
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To be blunt- How fat are you? Are you short and fat? I have a hard time believing a guy like yourself is single unless you are extremely obese. Then yeah, you're out of luck tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:23 AM
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I would like to order 1 average man. Please bill me later. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:19 AM
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I'm not giving away my location, but most middle aged single men around here have either one, or all of these low qualities that I'm trying to avoid. If anyone can find me a deadass average SINGLE 40-50 year old man, no kids, no smoking, no drinking, no drug use, monogamous, no criminal history, not weird, and employed- Please throw him at me. Thanks. Wouldn't be better to just say that women aren't attracted to normal dudes (though they often settle for them)? Can't speak for other women, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:17 AM
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I'm not attacking or putting down single moms. I was raised by a single mom myself, and she is my hero to this day. I'm just saying that men on here tend to attack overweight women, single moms, and women my age (40s). They apparently find us all repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:34 PM
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Men on PPD get angry when us women are picky or choose to remain single. What they don't understand is that 99% of our options would be the equivalent to an unemployed, morbidly obese, single mom with 5 kids. Men, stop being picky. So basically we get to choose men who are beyond unattractive, have substance abuse problems, have criminal backgrounds, also have 3 or 4 kids paying thousands in child support each month, and have an angry ex wife in tow. Hey guys, stop being picky. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:21 PM
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I'll admit that I've had pretty privilege most of my life. But I also chose (and still choose) not to take advantage of it. If I had, I could have used hundreds of men by now and been rich before turning 25. You guys get mad when we use men with our pretty privilege, then get mad when we decide not to use it. Go outside and talk to the human race ffs. Most of you cannot comprehend a damn thing. Good lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:08 PM
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You are 100% right. The older single men are miserable because they don't have a woman to cook, clean their house, wipe their ass, and have sex with them. Men my age really hate me. I'm cute, height-weight-proportionate, and I choose to remain celibate. I also look much younger than most people my age. Now, I'd be lying if I said some days I don't get super lonely (I do) but the pros definitely outweigh the cons when it comes to choosing to remain single. There is not one single age appropriate …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:03 PM
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FYI not all of us sleep around. This may come as a shocker, but I've had very few partners in my 42 years of life. Men like yourself will continue to spew your hateful garbage anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:32 PM
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Didn't you know? Women past a certain age (like myself) surely had their fun riding the cock carousel in our 20s. Now we get to sit alone with our 50 cats and cry about how "Chad" never decided to marry us. /S
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:24 PM
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I would ask him if he's insane. Sorry, but if you're a ho, I doubt you're going to change much until you are too old to keep acting like that. The slutty girls I used to know only stopped slutting around because they had a kid(s) or they now look like hell, aged, then decided to get married. The only former honest slut I know of is a coworker (my age) admitted that if she didn't have kids, she would still be sleeping around.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:18 PM
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I always laugh at posts like these. It just sounds like insane envy. Many average, or below average men would jump at the chance to meet an instagram 10/10 girl and let her treat him like garbage- For who knows how long so he can possibly get into her pants. If said girl cockblocks you for weeks or months but gets free meals, gifts, etc out of it...it's the guys fault tbh. You're stupid and deserved it. Yes, it's the average or below average woman's fault if she gets used by "Chad" or someone co…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 03:53 AM
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Yeah, but did you meet up with any of those men? I guarantee you more than half of them were predators.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:31 AM
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You know what? Fuck you. I was raised by a single mother. My mom was a strong willed catholic woman. She always stayed loyal to my dad. How did he repay his family? He ran off with a 17 year old girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:17 AM
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Are you fucking serious OP? Yes, lets blame all the single moms struggling and not the deadbeat loser POS fathers out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:29 AM
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Imo that is massive for a 5'4 woman, but still considered "skinny" where I live. I know women who think that if you're under 200 lbs, you are automatically thin. Even if they weigh 199 lbs. Not joking. That being said, many men would still go for the 170-200 pound woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:11 AM
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Most men aren't strong enough to remain celibate. I've known maybe one guy irl who was celibate by choice. But he was also serious about his religion. So i can respect that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:43 PM
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Yeah, I'm trying to help the sad men here. They still won't listen so oh well. Hey, I still look good. I've been told this ever since I can remember. So I couldn't care less what you guys think. I'll remain celibate, stress free without a low effort man, and continue to be pretty. 😂 Just block me if you don't want to see my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:25 PM
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Ok "Chad" you've written out a ton of paragraphs for nothing. I'm not trying to attract a top tier man. I've said this in numerous other threads and I'll repeat it here: I would be happy with a completely average, decent, age appropriate, childfree man. And yes, attraction is important. I have to be attracted to him. That doesn't mean he has to be over 6ft or whatever the men in this sub believe all women are going for. Chasing doesn't mean that he's a narcissist, good god. It means he wants to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:21 PM
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I am single and celibate by choice, yes. But I am also still hit on and approached regularly by men. Currently, I have to stay where I'm at, but I do plan on moving to a more childfree friendly city one day. Finding a decent, age appropriate, childfree man here is nearly impossible. My pool is next to zero unless I want to break my number one dealbreaker. So I've decided to stay alone. There is a difference between an incel who is self-unaware, can't attract anyone, and refuses to read the room.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:14 PM
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I did not say that. Scroll up and read my other previous comments. The man has to make the effort first, otherwise I don't want him. This is true for me. Are you mad? Because I'm still not sorry. 😂 I'm done arguing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:05 PM
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He does. I also said that he gets anything he wants from me after an effort + relationship is established. That means I'm putting in the effort as well. I'm not sorry for anything I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:31 AM
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On the first date? No way in hell. I'm too cute to be the chaser. I am not a man and not about to act like one. Not apologizing for it either. Read it over and over. The passive men here need to learn. If he makes an actual effort- I will put the same amount of effort into the second date. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:08 AM
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Nope. He's pursuing, planning, and chasing me. I am the prize. After he's made an actual effort to get to know me, and after a relationship is established- My man gets anything he wants from me. He is now my prize. Catch my drift? It's only a team effort after the man's own effort is established. I want a leader and a masculine man. Otherwise I don't want him. You should know all of this as a redpill man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:56 AM
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Yeah, F those guys. They should be the one driving to you. He should be the one worrying about your safety in a storm. Just keep blocking them. The self-unaware passive men in this sub will tell you that you should plan and initiate- Do not listen to them. They are chronically single and sexless for good reason. Men who act like actual men will pursue you if they're interested enough. If a man is truly into you, he will chase and chase. He will do whatever it takes to impress you. Let the downvo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:13 AM
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I'll translate all of this for you- "We should meet up" and this dude keeps complaining about the distance? He means that you should have to do all of the driving, paying for gas, planning, etc. Then you get the honor of him trying to rub his hard weiner against your thigh while you're watching a movie. Basically, he's a broke ass loser who wants sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:18 AM
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You aren't wrong. I'll also add to this- Most men know they would have next to zero options if they divorced and put themselves out there on the dating market. They don't want to start over, especially if they have kids. Most single women (like myself) don't want a guy who has a divorce under his belt, plus 3 or 4 kids that he's paying child support for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:07 AM
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I would immediately dump him. Get back with your ex-girlfriend if you want her so badly. It's disrespectful to your current partner when you're not over a previous relationship. I am the prize. When I'm in a relationship, I make my man feel like the prize as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:02 AM
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Oh? A self-admitted cheater is rare, even on reddit. I have yet to see any of those comments in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:16 AM
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Because half of these men are redpillers. They want everyone to believe that they're spinning plates 24/7. The blue pill men here are never going to admit that they secretly find their 400 lb wives unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:10 AM
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I think it's probably split down the middle tbh. I'm sure many men get married because they have no other option and in their mind, its better than being alone. Then you get into deeper topics...like losing attraction to a partner. My personal opinion- Most married men past a certain age cheat, try to cheat, or think about cheating. It could be boredom, but I think it's a combination of things: Fear of their partner looking and getting older, and having a mid life crisis in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:06 AM
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Interesting topic OP. But do you think anyone in this sub is actually going to admit to this? Because I honestly don't think they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:55 AM
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I don't use any social media, unless you count reddit. I've gotten enough unwanted attention for literally decades now. This isn't a humble brag. The attention has obviously tapered off compared to back when I was in my teens and twenties. I still don't need, nor do I want any social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 05:02 AM
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I'd date an older guy if i found him attractive. Most of the older men around here look like shit. Most of them look way older than their age, but that goes the same for most 40 somethings around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:17 AM
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I choose not to date at all. The very few men my age irl who try to pull crap with me are married. No thanks. The other men who approach are young enough to be my son. No thanks. I also specifically search for childfree men who are over 35, and that's limiting my pool to next to zero around here. I am in bible country. If you don't meet your spouse by your late teens or early twenties, you are screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:48 AM
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That's funny, because I went through almost my entire twenties without having sex....until I got into a relationship at 29. Stop reading incel garbage. Stop lumping every single young woman into a ho who turns into a housewife after a certain age. That's why you clowns can't attract anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:42 AM
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Men my own age (early 40s) filtered me out through the dating apps the day I turned 40. I gave up trying to find a decent partner entirely a couple years ago. At first it was an "ouch" moment. But now I don't give a flying fuck. I look better than most women my age, and this is confirmed by the men who approach me and flirt with me in real life. If those guys online want a 25 year old, I couldn't care less. I just laugh it off because most of those men won't be able to attract a young girl anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:12 AM
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I don't think my standards are unrealistic tbh. Should I have low or zero standards? Because you guys would bitch about that too. Reading through certain posts and comments in this sub, I find it unattractive when some men will take practically anything. Men should have standards as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:07 AM
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Why do any of us have to tell a grown ass man to wash his armpits, crotch, and in between his butt cheeks?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:10 PM
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You aren't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:46 AM
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...and even if they did, these guys would still find something to complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 12:30 AM
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Bingo. The most disgusting, unfortunate looking, misogynistic men are like this. They all think the same way. What's hilarious is that they also hate the young pretty girls. If any one of these turds happened to land a pretty girl, he would treat her like a sex doll. He would treat her like utter garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 09:45 PM
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Unfortunate looking incel wants the equivalent of government subsidized housing, but swap that for an A.I. wife instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:48 PM
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None of this would happen because I never sleep with a man right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:45 PM
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A lot of things are pointless, and people still do them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:00 AM
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That's their parents fault tbh. People my age (I don't have kids) let the internet babysit your generation. They really should have monitored what their kids viewed, which I'm sure was far worse than some trad wife YT videos. That's why so many young men now have porn sickness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:43 AM
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Hmm I think i misread one of your comments. Then I'll delete my other comment. Though I still don't think it's a big deal. IMO it's just a smarter way of hustling. Those girls are just trying to get views and make $$$
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:34 AM
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Haha I don't. I could just tell from this post that OP was of a certain age. I really believe some of it is due to insane jealousy. Those girls are young, thin, pretty, and like to cook snd clean. How horrific! Anyway, I think it's just part of making $$$ from social media. Can't blame their hustle tbh. Go read through some of the threads on the datingover40 sub. Those women constantly complain about getting "used" by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:53 AM
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What do you care if it's not hurting anyone OP? In my opinion its a small subset anyway. You know what's horrifying? All of these 40-50 year old whores my age. Not to mention sad as all fuck. These young trad girls are basically rebelling against their mothers. Just like certain girls in my generation rebelled against their supposed "uptight" moms. The pendulum always swings from generation to generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:44 AM
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Unsure if you're going to see my comment- I got banned from PPD for 3 days for arguing with OP. Yeah, what about my ex friend? She is dumb. But honestly her ex-husband is even dumber for marrying her. He knew she had 4 kids (two different dads) out of wedlock when he married her. The 3 youngest ones at the time- Their dad got 6 years of prison time. I don't think he ever paid child support either. I think he might even be dead because he's no longer on the sex offender registry. Her (now ex) hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:39 AM
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Unless you are from a country that believes and was raised in this- Just No. The men who spew this crap are ugly incels no one wants. Of course some, probably many western men would love arranged marriage- It would mean that these losers would finally have access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:34 AM
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If I'm out on the streets and starving, and there's nothing to eat but dog shit on the ground- Does that mean I'm craving dog shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:42 AM
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Ok, yeah you're right with that one. Some have unfortunately lost the genetic lottery. But I've known ugly guys who get women. They might not be the prettiest women, but hey. Those ugly guys I'm talking about can talk to people and work a room. If you're an unfortunate looking man who is socially awkward and weird/creepy...you are shit out of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:22 AM
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Because most men have zero options. I guess they can't afford to be picky. If you happen to be a young inexperienced guy, you get a pass because you're still young. You can always learn and catch up if you're willing to put in the effort. But an incel past a certain age? Unless he's lived in a dungeon his whole entire life- There is a reason why no woman wants him. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:14 AM
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YUCK. Why would any sane woman want an incel? I can't speak for anyone else in here, but if no other woman wants the guy, why would I want him?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:06 AM
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Lol dude learn to read the room. Taking anything doesn't mean the guy is interested. He mainly just wants to put his dick into something.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:40 AM
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Did you even read OP's post? Correct me if I'm wrong, but he was talking about cold approaching a man for his number. When you meet in real life- You both build a friendship first, have a mutual attraction, flirt a bunch, then you make it official. Anyway that's how I've done it back in the day. The very few people in my social circle are already married.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:39 AM
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I don't trust any random man while being out and about. Yet I would have to pursue one of them? Yeah, no thanks. Besides, most men my age are already married or taken. I'd say half of them would love an invitation to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:29 AM
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Because I'm not a man. I want to be the one pursued, not the other way around. If I have to chase it's a massive turn-off for me and I won't even want the guy anymore. Besides, most men have very few options...and many will take whatever they can get if they think it will lead to sex. Even if they find the woman unattractive, many men will still go along with her if she puts in the work chasing him. My last ex had options and was picky, yet he chose me and pursued me. I prefer men like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:51 AM
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I'm glad your female boss took charge and did something. Like I said, I think it had more to do with jealousy since my boss and I are close in age. She has used bullying tactics against me in the past. I have also done a lot of work for her that my other coworkers would never have done, yet never once got a thank you or recognition for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:06 PM
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I'm a 42 y/o woman. If men my own age filter me out because I'm not a young girl- Good riddance. I don't want those men anyway. People are allowed to have their preferences, even if they're ridiculous. Just like the single mothers I've known irl who won't date single fathers. Ridiculous that you won't give them a chance since you're in the same boat, but hey it's your own preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:14 PM
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You clearly haven't read my previous comments. We obviously aren't going to see eye to eye and that's ok. You are entitled to your opinion. You haven't answered my question. Would you be attracted to a very soft spoken, weak, effeminate man? I'm assuming you wouldn't. Why do you think that is? Because there are clear gender roles that both straight men and straight women (not all obviously) are attracted to across the board. Just because men can do certain things, doesn't mean that women can do …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 07:30 AM
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Because men and women are not the same. If you truly feel this way, then I'm sure you would have zero issues being sexually attracted to a weak, effeminate straight man...right? Before I get attacked, I'm not saying a man with a low number is weak or effeminate. I'm just saying that there is (and should be) a clear difference between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 07:19 AM
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Agreed. I would argue that this has to do with more men existing online, than men irl. Of course I've been put in situations in the past where no men helped me and just chose to turn their heads. But I will say that I might be an outlier. In the past 6-7 years, I've had to turn to my male bosses to help with harassment incidents involving male co-workers because my female boss did nothing the first (and second) time around. In fact- My female boss blamed me for the incidents. But that might have…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:32 AM
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If anything, I looked and felt my best at 30 lol. I had such a baby face in my teens and twenties that most people talked down to me as though I were a child. The only men I seemed to attract back then were creeps who assumed I was an underage girl. Not joking either. As for the other incel crap spewed here about how a woman is "used up" by the age of 30- My count was and still is extremely low.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:17 AM
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If you have a mother, grandmother, sister, or any other woman that you love- You should care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:15 AM
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Please remain miserable and alone. It suits you. Edit: OP edited his comment. My mother is alive and will be 80 in a few days. She is the strongest woman I know and has been through absolute hell and back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:55 AM
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With all due respect sir, you are dumber than a box of rocks and have no idea what you're talking about. My mom has told me horror stories about her ex-husband and the things he got by with. She would call the police, and they'd let him go.Things he would have gone to prison for now if any of those things occurred in present day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:39 AM
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I've answered this but I'll sum it up- Modern day feminism ruined traditional gender roles, and has given young women the wrong idea about being "empowered" by sleeping around. Promiscuity only hurts women in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:35 AM
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You are wrong sir. Back in the 1960s feminism was needed. My mom was a married woman back then and she had next to zero rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:27 AM
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I said nothing about trans people until you accused me of being transphobic. You asked me a question and wanted me to elaborate. Modern day feminism has ruined traditional gender roles imo. Just curious, but are you attracted to masculine women? Because I'm assuming most straight men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:04 AM
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Transphobia? No. It's just something I do not agree with. I am civil and polite to trans people. They are human too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:44 AM
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I don't think it helps anyone to hate men. Or to target a specific group in general. I think young men and women have become resentful of each other and it shows. I see so many young women walking around looking and acting masculine, and I see the exact opposite with many young men. If anyone here believes in God- There is a reason why god created two genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:41 AM
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It's honestly terrible and nothing like it was back in the 1960s. My mom is 80 years old and she still thinks feminism is great, mostly because she thinks its the same as it was back in the day. I've since had to explain to her what modern day feminism is all about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:35 AM
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The reason I said that is because I've been accused of kissing up to the men before. Just throwing that out there. It mostly has to do with being proud of sleeping around and all these supposed female empowerment "Slut Walks". No, it's not empowering or whatever you want to call it or sleep with random men then brag about it. In fact, you are only harming yourself and putting your own body at risk for std's. You think the guy cares if he hurts you or accidentally gets you pregnant? He won't care…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:32 AM
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Are you being sarcastic?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:22 AM
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I've been downvoted and reported (and even temporarily banned for a week) for saying this in the past in other subreddits- Back in the day, feminism was something beautiful that we women needed. It has since turned into something hateful and ugly that I don't agree with at all. In fact, dare I say it- modern day feminism basically knocked women down a few steps. By the way, I am not kissing up to any men here as I think most of them (at least on Reddit) need serious therapy and schooled on how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:18 AM
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Redditors are so fucking out of touch that it's incredibly insulting to us common people who have normal paying jobs. I saw a dude's comment not too long ago on the datingover30 sub complaining that he was only a millionaire and not a billionaire like his married friends, and that he thought it was the only reason why he couldn't land an attractive girlfriend. He was dead serious too. I seriously can't make this shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:36 AM
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I should have added that this was 14/15 years ago. Way before Tinder, Instagram, and "looksmaxxing" culture. Of course us young women liked goodlooking men back then as well, but even average height/looks young men could find a women fairly easily, as long as they weren't weird, or had substance abuse problems. My friend sounded genuinely honest and frustrated about wanting a decent husband and family. You could still be right though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:56 PM
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No idea tbh. This guy said he got first dates but nothing beyond that. He also said that he would pick up his dates in one of his fancy sports cars. So yeah, he was flaunting his $$$ but still got nowhere with these girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:45 PM
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When the ratio is skewed either way, things definitely get interesting. Back in my 20s, I had an online friend from Russia (female, same age as myself). This girl looked like a damn supermodel, but was stressing out about finding a husband. She said there was massive competition because the ratio of women to men was something like 6:1 and it was hard finding a good man that wanted marriage. The few good single men are apparently picky as hell. She also said that the few leftover single men in he…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:35 PM
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Ngl, I would hate to be a man. But I think it would be just as bad to be a below average looking woman. Yeah those women will still get dates, but 9 times out of 10 their men won't be happy with them. Or they'll be physically repulsed by those women but will never say anything about it. I'm assuming it is harder for men in the dating world, but easier in other aspects of life. Barring male family members, I think there's only one man in my whole entire life who has treated me as a human being an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:22 PM
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Yeah but one of those men in the dating subs would make numerous posts saying he was 28 years old, over 6ft, was attractive, owned his own house and vehicles outright, and made 300k a year. Yet he couldn't get a girlfriend and didn't understand why. If all of that's true, I'm assuming he was weird or creepy as hell irl and he scared away the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 10:14 PM
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I'm surprised no one in this subreddit has answered this question yet. Which either means they don't make squat at their jobs, or the ones who do are already partnered up. I see post after post in the numerous dating subs where the guy makes six figures but yet complaining that he still can't land a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:57 PM
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Translation- Young girls are getting smarter, and men resent them for it. I'm also seeing a lot of young girls out with their PARENTS Oh the horror!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:06 PM
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This is true OP as I remember the 90s and early 2000s. It wasn't uncommon at all to see ugly men with their pretty wives/girlfriends. The very few obese girls would never get dates. And if they did happen to get a guy.... they were hidden and treated like utter garbage. Or...a single mother trying to find a commmitted man back then? Good luck. May as well wish to win the lottery, because you'd have a better chance. Random memory popped up into my head by reading your post. I graduated in the yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:47 AM
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I'm not fat and I seem to attract zero single men, unless you count the ones that are half my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:18 AM
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No, I wouldn't and I've had many chances in the past when I was in a relationship. How old are you? I think it's past your bedtime. Honey, it would be a miracle if I found one decent man my own age who I deemed attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:09 AM
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😂👍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:54 PM
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I think most people forget how charming narcissists are, especially in the beginning. Most narcissists can work an entire room full of people without even trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:38 PM
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"That's quick Joel. Have you always been this smart?"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:35 PM
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women only surround themselves with negative men experiences for some reason yall are just critical and judgemental in general and never notice the good men because the good men keep their head down Wrong. This crap occurs at my workplace and when I'm out and about minding my own business. Am I just supposed to lock myself up like Rapunzel? It's like I have to dodge scumbags all day, everyday. Tbh I'm not even anything special. I'm height-weight proportionate and cute. I think that's the bare as…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:07 PM
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Half of your married friends would cheat in a heartbeat if they found the woman attractive enough. I've also dealt with known "good men" pulling crap with me. I don't care if you're bored or unhappy in your marriage. I don't care if your wife has gained 80+ lbs during the marriage. I don't care if your wife nags you all day. Then grow a pair of balls and stand up for yourself, or file for divorce. Just leave me the f*ck alone and keep me out of your miserable existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:46 PM
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Not at all your fault for not knowing. I still blame those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:28 PM
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Please don't tell these scumbags about FB. I no longer have any social media, but I've read here in women's subreddits that men type in the search bar for (insert group here) and will make posts warning other men about it. Men need to start blaming other men for their actions, instead of blaming us women for "being too picky". Gee, I wonder why we're so picky?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:13 PM
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I'm just writing out my own experience. I have never been married and at this point I never plan to. If this is how marriage works then I'll just stay alone, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:07 PM
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Obviously not all men cheat, but many way too many of them try their hardest to. These men will definitely cheat if they find the woman even remotely attractive and think they can get by with it. I say this as an attractive early 40s woman- Way too many married men have pushed boundaries with me. And I'm not even talking about the dating apps, I'm talking about in real life. When I was online dating I felt like more than half of those men were married. Most of them just wanted to endlessly messa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:57 PM
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That's funny because I went without sex throughout most of my twenties until I got into a relationship. You're just spewing incel rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:41 PM
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I never said that women aren't capable of cheating. Clearly they do, especially from reading posts and comments like yours on reddit. They are just as scummy as the guys who cheat. I was simply stating that married men frequent dating apps. There have been studies done on this- Researchers found that two-thirds of men on Tinder are either married or in a committed relationship. That's why many women like myself have pretty much given up. I will say that it puts a damper on the men who are actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:10 PM
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Where do they live? If those guys live in a Metropolitan area, that could be why- More competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:02 PM
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I also don't feel much sympathy for a woman. Well at least you admit to being a dirtbag, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:28 AM
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Hell men can punch few points above their SMV if they are willing to string post along 30 something women along for few years. Why would you even tell men to do something like that? This is how women eventually become unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:07 AM
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Reverse this for men on dating apps. Only now you have to vet harder because two-thirds of men past 35 are either married or are already in a supposed "committed" relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:21 AM
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That's a load of B.S. and you know it. Most women do not monkey branch. Maybe a small subset of them do, but don't lump me in with those women. Imo it's the men who try and do this, only it's called cheating. They will almost never monkey branch if they have a woman at home wiping their ass for them. But they'll cheat, or try their hardest to cheat, or think about cheating. Especially if they are men past a certain age. Do you even go outside? Serious question.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:11 AM
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I can only guess I'm being downvoted by the men. Which makes me think the standards are more skewed than I thought between men & women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:04 AM
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Eh, I don't even try anymore tbh. Well...considering that I've talked to nearly 300 men and never once wanted to go on a first date with not a single one of them, I think my vetting skills are pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:45 AM
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Yeah, probably not from my comments here on PPD. But I am very different in real life. I'm quiet, introverted, and passive in my day to day life. I also never share what I'm looking for when I start talking to/vetting a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 03:07 AM
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Hmm ok I see what you mean, I understand now. Odd I'm being downvoted for my original comment. I really don't think my standards are completely unrealistic tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:53 AM
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I agree with your first sentence, but disagree with your second one. I've noticed that most women (30+) are walking away from dating altogether instead of lowering our standards. I just know that I don't even try anymore. I feel sorry for the younger women tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:47 AM
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You're not wrong OP. If there's any halfway decent looking, monogamous, childfree, non-smoking, straight edge, employed, non-creepy, somewhat intelligent man out there in his 40s... I will fight to the death to get him. Too bad he doesn't exist where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:23 AM
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The majority of women do not juggle men. Not any that I know of anyway. If they do, I sure as hell never heard about it. But I also live in bible country- So there's that. Honestly, finding one man who doesn't give me a constant migraine would be a miracle at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:57 AM
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I just told you all why those women are stupid. There's no golden d!ck to me that's worth being with a lazy ass man. Maybe those men are deemed worthy by other women, but I'll pass. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 05:07 AM
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I'm not dissing any women. I'm all for traditional gender roles. Unpopular opinion here on reddit, I know. The thought of a "stay at home dad" is fucking pathetic to a woman like myself. Those are not men. To be honest, I really don't know whether to start dry heaving or to laugh when I think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:39 AM
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What is your point OP? That extremely good-looking men get lots of women? Shocked I tell ya. The women who pay for those men's lifestyle deserve all the the shitty things thrown to them. They're stupid, so they deserve it. Btw your friends aren't real men-They're attractive pussies who can't do anything but look pretty. If I wanted to date a pussy, I'd become a lesbian before I'd even consider any one of those dudes. I myself cannot stand a lazy man, no matter how attractive he is. I like hardwo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:19 AM
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Right. Keep telling yourself that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:05 AM
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It's not about the money, or whether or not the guy is willing to spend money. It's about the man taking the initiative. It's about his interest in a woman. One who is willing to court me. I can pay for my own meal. Any schmuck loser incel can try and spend massive amounts of $$$ on the average woman, and he still won't get anywhere because he has zero masculinity. That's what many of you still don't understand. You just see $$$ as some sort of a tool that we women use against men. Wrong. I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:04 AM
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They pay for sex because they can't attract anyone, or they're into weird freaky sex that no sane woman would do for them irl. So yeah, let those dudes pay for it. I don't want them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:41 PM
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I do not have children. But I would happily cook & clean for my man if he took care of his own responsibilities, such as fixing and repairing things around the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:52 PM
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So what? You've learned and grown. That's more than I can say about most of the men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:48 PM
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You ask me out, you're paying. End of subject. I do not date or get involved with men who do not follow gender norms. I like masculine men who take the lead, because I am a feminine woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:20 PM
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Thank you! I agree 100% I see you commenting in this sub a lot, and you're one of the few sensible men here on PPD. If other young men would read your comments and follow suit, they wouldn't be miserable and alone. They still refuse to see that men and women are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:18 PM
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Men who have anxiety or trouble understanding social cues might fail to act out their gender roles and thus get excluded by other men and seen as undesirable by women. You aren't wrong. That's like 80-90% of the men who exist here on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:54 AM
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I'm supposedly picky. Well, if I am...I'm not sorry for it. Finding a single man in my age group who doesn't have kids, wants a longterm relationship, doesn't smoke or have substance abuse problems, is at least semi-intelligent, and one who isnt dog d!ck ugly- It's near impossible where I live. I'd have a better chance of winning the lottery at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:13 AM
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Nah, she was never attracted to him to begin with. I knew this from day one. Did she ever admit to it? Nope. But I know her type, and he ain't it. The dude was her & her 4 kids meal ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:17 AM
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because they are usually "men of their word" and took their vows in front of their friends and family seriously. Laughing my ass off right now. Most married men past a certain age cheat, or at least try to cheat. I know because many of them are scumbags. Even the so-called "good men" have tried pulling crap with me. Is that why so many married men have pushed boundaries with me? Because they're so loyal? Hahahaha. What's that one saying? "There's no one more single than a married man."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:22 AM
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Because I don't fit in with red pillers or blue pillers, that's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:02 AM
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Oh, it is. Trust me. This girl is every man's worst nightmare when it comes to the Redpill. I used to roll my eyes at those stories until I found out how she imploded her own marriage. I've thought about typing out her story and posting it somewhere here on Reddit, because it is one terrible soap opera. But I can tell you that karma got her in the end. I still don't have all the details as I've cut her out of my life years ago. Though she still tries to pop into my life when she needs something,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:59 AM
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I'm assuming, yes. That wasn't my crowd tbh. But yeah they seemed to get with the popular guys. I did have a childhood friend from sixth grade who later became a party-ish girl. She did a lot of horrible shit to me and other people in her life, including her ex-husband. She ultimately left him to be with "Chad". But Chad left her, and he is now sitting in prison for the next 20 years. She will never see a dime in child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:48 AM
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Yeah...I guess there will always be thirsty men. Though we're all in our 40s now. A couple of these former party girls resemble Patty and Selma from The Simpsons imo. Smoker's voice and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:32 AM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:18 AM
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Young men chase party girls because usually they are the most attractive girls in the room. The downside (or one of many) is almost all of the known party girls in my town have aged horribly. I don't really think they could attract a man now if they tried their damndest to. And the married ones seem bored and miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:00 AM
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Yeah, I get it and that's true in some situations. I'll probably be downvoted for this since it's unpopular here on Reddit...but the last two relationships I was in, the men both carried concealed weapons.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 10:32 PM
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It's not about only looking like a man. I've seen buff guys who can't throw a punch to save their own skin. I won't date a man unless he knows how to fight and knows how to protect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 10:16 PM
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Like I was saying about many 40+ men, the women haven't dated since their twenties. These women have no idea what the fuck they're doing when they enter the dating world. Many 40 something women automatically think they're a prize because "hot" men half their age go after them. I can say for a fact that many young men will put their d!cks into basically anything. I've been downvoted into oblivion for asking those same women- If hot 40 something men approach them irl. Which we all know isn't happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 10:09 PM
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You forgot about deplorable hygiene. My top five are- Not masculine Unattractive high pitched voice Zero social skills Bad or non-existent hygiene Unattractive eyes. Yes, I have a thing for eyes on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 09:38 PM
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Your 59 y/o ex thought he was going to be knee deep in hot women? Yeah, right. And men say us women are the delusional ones. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 09:34 PM
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As a woman, getting dates is nothing to brag about if the guy is just looking for sex. Go lurk on the r/datingoverforty sub. Most of those women are either fat or unfortunate looking. And yet all they do is brag about getting likes and matches, but are still miserable because they get used by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 08:53 PM
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Why are men like this? I can answer this as a 42F from being on dating apps on & off again for two years. I gave up completely btw. It's because many men in their 40s do not work on themselves. Most divorced men haven't been single since their early twenties, and they have absolutely no clue that the dating game has changed, tenfold. Many come out of a dead bedroom situation, and think that they'll be knee deep in pu$$y once the ink has dried on the divorce papers. Unless the man is super attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 08:09 PM
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My mom remarried easily despite being a fat 40 yo single mom Yeah but how long ago was this? Also, did she have pretty lax standards in her choice of men? It ain't that easy anymore to find a decent man in your 40s. Especially one who isn't completely repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:58 PM
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Yeah, or maybe you could volunteer somewhere. Like a food bank, animal shelter, habitat for humanity, etc. Any one of those would help build your social skills tremendously.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:55 PM
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Theres little social stigma to not having kids, for people under 50. That is a lie. Where do you live? I'm assuming in one of the coastal states. I am a 42 childfree woman living in the Midwest and have been judged harshly for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:49 PM
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You might have to join some meetup groups. But don't join a group or a club for the sole purpose of meeting a woman. You'll just be seen as the creepy weird guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:47 PM
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Nope. Certainly not in some parts of the U.S, especially in middle america. I live in the Midwest and most people here are still getting married and having kids. Maybe they're having less kids than in the past...but here in bible country you meet your partner no later than in your early twenties, get married, and have kids. It's a status thing. If you're an unmarried woman without kids (like myself) you are seen as a complete freak show. I'm assuming it's the same for the men around here if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:42 PM
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People make mistakes. It happens. I just have zero respect for the ones who keep making the same mistakes and keep rewarding these sloppy women. If the genders were reversed, many people in this sub would have had a completely different answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:44 AM
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You aren't getting my point at all lady. If you said no, I wouldn't blame you at all. Most normal people would agree. Yet its cruel to think someone's a dumbass when the other person has shown that they're untrustworthy. Seriously? You just think these guys should "step up" even though they aren't the dad. I get that it's not the child's fault. But we also shouldn't be rewarding sloppy women. Society needs to bring back shame imo. I myself wouldn't raise another person's child, especially throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:56 AM
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Lol you wouldn't, and you know you fucking wouldn't. Honestly I'd have more respect for women like yourself if you just admit to it. This whole entire sub is sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:46 AM
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I have a question for you- If you found out that your husband was cheating (lets say he was cheating on you for a year), and got another woman pregnant, would you help him raise the baby? Let's pretend the mother died after giving birth and your husband begged for your forgiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:42 AM
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I don't believe that I'm a psychopath. Lol but maybe I am. I just have zero respect for stupidity. Especially when the person knows for a fact that they are being played. I wont say anything aloud about it, but I'll just think they're a moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:35 AM
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Oh it gets worse than that but I didn't want to write a novel. My coworker financially supported this woman because she didn't want to work. Ok fine, that's their choice I guess. The other guy she was screwing didn't have a (legal) job and was on probation. He would work shit jobs for a few weeks, and quit after he got paid. Rinse, repeat. When she left said coworker, she found a job so she could support her and her affair partner (and the baby), and also worked overtime. He left her anyway and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 11:46 PM
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Too many people out there will put up with so much crap only because they're afraid of being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 10:53 PM
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If the man makes politics his whole entire existence: I won't even bother with him, no matter which side he's on. I myself don't belong on either side. I have some conservative beliefs, and a few liberal beliefs. However, I skew more on the conservative side. I think it's crazy that so many women here on Reddit are spewing your man hate, yet you would be perfectly ok sharing public restrooms with people born with penises. Make up your damn mind already.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 10:51 PM
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Hey, it ain't my problem. I know a coworker like this irl. His longtime girlfriend was fucking around on him and got pregnant by the other dude. Then she had to come clean and obviously tell him. His gf eventually left to go live with the other man. My coworker wouldn't shut up about it at work and had a meltdown even months after it was over. I felt really bad for the guy. Not even two years later, we find out he took her back and has both her and the kid living in his house. He can't even play…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:15 PM
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It's the man's own choice. I think he should have left when he found out, but I also know life choices aren't always that easy. However, and I say this as a woman- If the guy stays with the mother knowing she cheated and got knocked up by another man...then he deserves every shitty thing she dishes out to him from here on out for being dumb enough to stay. I would say the same thing if the genders were reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:39 PM
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No. I'll just continue my streak of remaining celibate since early 2020. There ain't no guy that's worth having sex with in my vicinity anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:35 PM
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...and those women are just as delusional as OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:50 PM
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I agree and I am into traditional gender roles. I'm not some dominant "boss lady" mega bitch. I'm just telling OP what's what. Imagine if a single mother made a post like this. Refusing to date a single dad with kids, and only wants 40+ attractive men. Red pillers would be having a field day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:04 PM
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According to OP, he already has a "hot twenty-something girlfriend" but he's still miserable. He can't figure out that the main problem is himself, and his terrible personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:50 PM
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Yes, that's entirely possible. I agree with you. But according to OP's previous comments, he already has a twenty-something gf without kids. Yet he continues to bitch on here. Nothing is good enough for him. He acts like he's god's gift to women. Honestly OP is a grade A assh*le. He only goes for looks first and foremost and never screens these women. Then wonders why he's miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:27 PM
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This is true because I'm that 42 y/o woman. But lets be real OP, I've seen your other posts. You are a single divorced father who refuses to date single moms. Essentially you are a hypocrite. You expect an attractive woman your age without kids to date you, when they can easily date a man without kids. Many of us could also date way younger if we choose to. Why would a woman like myself date someone with your massive amounts of baggage? You also date way younger women. The reason why those young…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:48 PM
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Uh dude, I've literally been in a relationship with that 5'7 guy. We aren't together anymore for different reasons. But yes, it's entirely possible for shorter, masculine, assertive men to land a cute feminine girlfriend. You just refuse to believe it because you never go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:23 AM
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If the young men on reddit would ever bother listening to me, the vast majority of you wouldn't be doomed to be forever single and alone. You all think that you have to be over 6ft, buff, with a chiseled face. Yes, I'm sure that alone would attract women- You aren't wrong. Though it doesn't impress me if he's a straight up pussy who can't fight, or is too afraid to fight. But for the average man: Being confident, assertive, and masculine can go a long way with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:23 AM
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😂👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:04 AM
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I'm not mad honestly, just sad. Men like him are worthless to me anyway. I've said it before in other threads and I'll say it again- I'll take a 5'7" guy who knows how to lift, throw a punch, and protect me, over some meek ass wimpy 6ft guy who would probably cower in the bushes if another man so much as raised his voice towards him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:29 AM
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I don't take issue with what anyone does with their own body. People can have straight up orgies til the day they die for all I care. I'm only concerned about the man I get involved with and his past. Tbh I doubt that any man would admit to any of this stuff irl anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:00 AM
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An Immediate dump from me. I have a low body count, and expect the man I'm with to have some self-control. Plus, any man that has to pay for sex is either ugly as hell, or into some weird freakish sh!t that no sane woman would put up with irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:55 AM
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Sad as hell that height was wasted on a straight up 🐱 like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:43 AM
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Lol figures a stereotypical wimp like yourself is from Seattle. Stay in your liberal hell hole. Have a nice night!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:40 AM
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Exactly. You aren't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:32 PM
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Thank you. Also, your user flair doesn't check out. Above average would be more fitting for a man like you. It's honestly sad and depressing that I am shocked whenever I do see a man help out a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:31 PM
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Did I reply to you instead of the worthless man? Sorry, I will delete it and make sure he sees my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:50 PM
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Why haven't I blocked you yet? My fault I suppose. Judging from your replies, you aren't the kind of man that I would be trying to attract irl anyway...You aren't a masculine man and never will be, so your opinion means zilch to someone like myself. Have fun with your robotic A.I girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:48 PM
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Deal with it. He was calling the original commenter a "simp" for willing to protect his own wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:44 PM
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Let me tell you something and hopefully it will sink in- Men and women are NOT the same. Read it over & over. Its not just about sex, but everything else that goes along with it. Sex, cooking you a hot meal, kissing, cuddling, listening to your problems at work, rubbing your back, etc... Yeah, a wimpy man gets none of that from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:22 PM
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Lol you don't have to protect me. In return you get nothing from me. Every woman reading this post should read OP's words over & over again. Men like this do not deserve sex nor a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:46 PM
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I want passionate sex within a committed LTR. Not robotic boring sex, which OP was asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:25 AM
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If I'm super close and passionate with my partner, it's not important for me to orgasm all of the time. Now if I never orgasm? That's a huge problem. I don't want a guy with any crazy gross kinks, but I also don't want a robotic mundane guy who sees sex as a chore/routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:13 AM
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Neither. I'll just remain celibate if I gotta deal with any of that b.s. Passionate sex within a loving committed relationship is super important to me. If I can't have that then I'll just join a convent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:07 AM
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Be confident and masculine. Wash yourself thoroughly, brush your teeth, floss, clean the gunk from under your fingernails. Keep your hair as well as facial hair well groomed. You should also go outside if you don't already. I know that I'm not attracted to men who do nothing but game, watch porn, and stare at their phone/laptop screen all day. Instant nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:00 AM
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I've always been the "shy quiet girl" even when I was younger and this is untrue. Even now I'm still a shy quiet woman. Maybe it's true now in 2024 but back in my day, the biggest sluts got the guys, even when it came to getting a ring and eventually marriage. They knew how to hunt down the guys they wanted and flirt with them. They were outgoing and forward with getting what they wanted. Of course, I also knew the reserved girls who got married super young (we're in bible country). But as for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:55 AM
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As soon as I can afford to build a house in the boonies, only a handful of people will ever see me again. Forgot to add if you end up doing this, make sure to stock up on essentials. Go and lurk on r/preppers. There's some seriously useful information on that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:32 AM
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I'm not getting worked up. I'm just tired of seeing the same garbage being repeated that "Women go after the top 20% of men" and "Average men get nothing from women". That might be true if you guys are going after certain types of women, which many of you are. Laughable, when you continue to bitch about women doing the same exact thing. I'm willing to bet that most of you would be insulted and downright disgusted if a fat or unfortunate looking woman approached you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:03 AM
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How old are you? There is a good reason why 63% of young men are single. Most of you don't want to do anything about your situation. I've seen all kinds of fugly people paired up irl so don't gaslight me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:27 AM
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I don't even understand what you're talking about OP. I'm a modest reserved woman, and it seems all I attract are ugly gross incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:39 AM
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That's like straight people who say people of the same sex can't be in love. What a stupid analogy. AI being compared to same sex relationships falling in love. AI is wrong and weird as all fuck. It's abnormal. Those two are nothing alike. But hey, go ahead and become more detached from reality. Ain't my life to live anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:17 AM
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Only if you're a man who never wants to experience reality, who is too afraid to talk to women, and be a scared agoraphobic your whole life. A.I will never replace the warmth of holding someones hand, sharing a first kiss, laughing together, cuddling, eating at your favorite restaurant with your loved one, butterflies in your stomach, or falling in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:23 AM
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1 over everything else: A good man will see me as a human being first, and not an object. Someone who is kind to animals, children, and the elderly. A guy who knows how to fix stuff (personal preference lol) There are many other things that I look for in a "good" man that I'm not going to share. It goes into much deeper things like personal and spiritual beliefs. Things that I know are extremely unpopular here on reddit and know that I'd be downvoted to oblivion for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:19 AM
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Honestly, I wish I had a sibling with a family. I wouldn't have even bothered wasting my time trying to start my own family. I'd just be helping out whenever possible, and spoiling their kids. If you're only in your early 30s it's entirely possible to still have your own family. The only reason I gave up shortly after I turned 40 is because I realised that most men (even the supposed childfree ones) had women my age filtered out. Even on the r/cf4cf sub the very few men my age prefer younger. Be…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:06 AM
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To me, marriage means very little because I've seen many women throw it all away in pursuit of lust, greed, or delusions. I've only seen one case of this. Maybe there's way more but most of the women (at least in my family) that I know of married for love. The only outlier I know of is my former best friend whom I've mentioned on here before- She married her (now ex) husband because she needed a meal ticket for herself & her 4 kids. The husband worked 2 jobs so she didn't have to, so that she co…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:44 AM
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Congratulations. You are one of the very few self-aware ones. Consider yourself lucky. Most of the autists here on Reddit will continue to bitch & moan arguing why they should have to "do this and that". If they don't want to act like men, then those same men should find a loud mouth, dominant, controlling woman with a butch haircut to date. Except...most of them do not even want those women. They want the exact opposite. But yet they still cannot figure out why most feminine women are attracted…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:02 AM
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100% agreed. Not only are you the smartest man on this sub, but you are the smartest man here on Reddit. You might even be the smartest modern man to exist right now in 2024. Warning: The autists here are going to argue with your comment. "How dare you ask men to be protectors and act like men!"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 06:48 AM
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Myself? True. I'd rather throw myself out the window than get back on the dating apps. I'm still traumatized from using them a couple years ago. But not for the vast majority of people who live in middle America- Most people (especially women) want marriage, kids, and the whole nine yards. Particularly in the rural Midwest and the bible belt way in the deep South. It's a status thing here. You are seen as a freak show if you're past a certain age being unmarried without kids. I have been judged …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:52 AM
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You don't have to say we're worthless in order for me to understand what you actually think...You said it yourself- If you can't have kids with the woman you aren't marrying her. Fine. That is your preference and you are allowed that choice. You are like millions of other men around the world. I see marriage as beneficial because it proves that the man is willing to move forward with a forever committed relationship. Tbh I don't plan on ever getting married at this point. Not because I don't wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:57 AM
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Just because we are women past a certain age doesn't mean that we're worthless and don't deserve marriage. Men get all kinds of ED issues in their 40s. Should I just assume that they're too worthless to have sex with? Maybe they don't deserve sex altogether, even BJ's. Catch my drift? Hopefully you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:06 AM
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One question? Does your girlfriend know about this? If so and she's ok with it, that's fine...I guess. Me personally? I would dump the guy right away if he just plans on keeping me to pay half the bills forever with no ring. Fuck that noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:58 AM
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Men of PPD- She's hot and dressed sexy. Damn! Also men of PPD when they get into a relationship- Stop dressing like a ho! I don't like all that makeup you wear!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:30 PM
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Re-read my previous comment. I know most of you aren't that autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 04:02 AM
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I never said any of that garbage. You've mistaken me with some obese blue haired screaming banshee.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 03:57 AM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:21 PM
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I was being sarcastic with that part. Obviously I know that I can't fight off most men. I was just making a statement about how young men refuse to act like men now. Did OP have to throw hands? No, but he could have spoken up and told the guy to leave her alone. OP said it himself in his edit- This guy was around his height and skinny. Yet OP was too scared to even raise his voice. Fucking pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 10:01 PM
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No shit? Of course these guys would throw a punch at a petite woman like myself and it would take my head off. Yet they would never throw hands at a dude their own size. They can't even tell off or raise their voice to another man irl. Which is why they're worthless pussies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:40 PM
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Recently a guy was like “that’s sad, you shouldn’t have had to move yourself” Me: 🤯 You should ask that dude if he's single. Anytime a man acts like a masculine man and isn't faking a facade, it's a huge turn-on for me. Even if the dude is short or not the greatest looking: I instantly melt.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:36 PM
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What delusion? Most modern day men are spineless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:29 PM
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The most sane and honest answer here. I'm glad that you actually have standards and chose to turn those women down. Many men here on PPD would have taken anything thrown to them, even if they were repulsed by the woman. Most of these guys don't want to put the effort into pursuing a woman in real life. Yet they keep hoping and praying that if they swipe right enough times, that a woman will just fall into their lap.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:08 PM
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You're not wrong. Ain't that the sad fucking truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:43 PM
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Huh? My geriatric self could probably kick all of your sorry asses. And I'm a petite woman. Fucking wimps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 07:06 PM
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Like I said, I don't expect it. To answer your question- I do not date or get involved with a man who either can't or won't protect me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 06:17 PM
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Not to worry, I don't expect any young man to help me nowadays. Most of you are fucking worthless anyway. 70 year old men have more testosterone than any young man here in the U.S. and have more balls than any of you. How sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:52 PM
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Reddit is full of mostly upper middle class white liberals who have been sheltered their whole entire lives. They basically understand nothing. I suggest that you take advice here with a grain of salt. Not trying to say I understand your life, because I don't. I'm not black, but I'm mixed race and white passing. So I've heard it all. Middle class white liberals are racist as hell. They're just better at hiding it. But when a blackpiller comes on here and talks about how he can’t get a date becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:28 PM
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Spinster. 😂 For someone who considers me invisible, you're sure hell bent on responding to my comments over & over again. It's ok though. I'm sure it makes you feel better since you're a meek man with no backbone irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:08 PM
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What's your demeanor like? Do you act/sound feminine? As in, are these women acting like you're their favorite gay bestie? There's a guy who posts his profile every 4-6 months here in one of the dating subs wanting people to critique it. He's always trying to figure out why he can't get any likes or matches. He also said that he has lots of female friends. I wouldn't say the dude is ugly, but he looks gayer than hell. I mentioned that once thinking it would be downvoted into oblivion, but it got…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:36 AM
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I’m surprised you guys believe in discrimination based off looks here How so? Every single one of these shitheads discriminates, even without a photo to assess someone looks. I've been told over & over by these incels, that since I'm a woman in my 40s that I'm an "old sea hag". Plus other colorful words, descriptions, and assumptions about me. None of these assholes even know what I look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:36 AM
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Is it possible for you to move? You said that you live in a predominately white area. Are these also upper middle class people? Because yeah, I don't foresee things getting better for you. I used to work with a black woman who said that she had extreme trouble dating, until she moved into a mixed race neighborhood where she met her SO. Her husband is Dominican.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 02:21 AM
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Dude, you're not ugly at all but you look intimidating as hell. Do you walk around with an angry face? I used to have a former friend that was gorgeous but she couldn't figure out why men never approached her. She had a massive resting bitch face and that mostly scared men off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 01:39 AM
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It depends tbh. Is he the quiet take charge type of man? I'll make a pass for those types as long as they're assertive. If he's soft spoken, passive, meek...then just no. I'm sure some woman would still want him, just not myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:54 PM
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You see how women brains are wired to seek after men with more dominate characteristics What's your point? That men and women aren't the same? Then go find a loud mouth dominant woman with a butch haircut who won't take shit from you. Oh that's right- You most likely wouldn't, because you're probably attracted to the polar opposite. Nothing wrong with that, but you men act shocked when we are super attracted to men who act like men. Oh the horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:34 PM
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Boohoo. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:23 PM
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Lol none of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:18 PM
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Both. But I won't ever say anything out loud about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:17 PM
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Men don't have to do anything for me. It's a personality trait that I like. Just a preference. I'm sure you like quiet women who are introverted and shy. I happen to be that woman, and I despise wimpy passive men like yourself. But- I'll never say that to your face in real life. Most men cannot fake or amuse a trait like this for very long, and even if they could the mask would soon come off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:17 PM
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Maybe he is shy around the ladies though. Yes, imo red flag. Mostly because i can't stand shy or passive men. I am shy and passive myself, so I cannot see that working out. Anyway, I'm not about to teach any man how to f*ck me. I like the dominant loud mouth types. Lol sorry, but it's my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:57 PM
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I would love to see current photos of the guys here who say this stuff and line them up to assess their looks. I've been told in numerous subs for literally years now that I don't deserve a decent guy my own age (40s) because I'm "old" and I probably "look terrible". Yet they never say this to middle aged men who are seeking a partner. In real life, men never say this to me. I am told often that I'm attractive and that I don't look like I'm in my forties. It's mostly younger men pursuing me. Let…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:43 PM
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It honestly depends on the man's age. If he's still young- Then I don't understand why young women would be giving him shit for it. I know they still do it, but that doesn't make it right. I'm in my 40s, and a 40+ year old man being a virgin is a huge red flag for me. A few years ago, I actually could sense one guy I worked with (my age) most likely was a virgin. I mean, I didn't know for sure and I'm not about to ask. But..he was extremely weird, awkward, didn't know how to interact with us wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:34 PM
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for the 865467th time 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 09:22 PM
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I've had the opposite with one ex in my late twenties- He would spend money on me all the time. With his former ex- She was almost twice his age, and had a great career. So she was the one spending $$$ on him. When I found this out it shocked me tbh. Anyway to answer your question- I'd be angry and probably dump the guy. I want to be the prize, not the woman who recieves scraps when the ex got the VIP treatnent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:49 PM
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In 2024 alone someone raped a monitor lizard What in the actual fuck. I know it shouldn't shock me, but aren't those lizards venomous and can whip their head around leaving a severe bite? The lizard should have bitten that dude's dick off tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:03 AM
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Ah ok got it. Your baby face will help you in about 8-10 years if you take care of yourself. The men over 40 where I live, look 10-15 years older than their actual age. They look awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:10 PM
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Ah ok got it. In my opinion eastern european women look very feminine and beautiful, but I guess that's where it ends?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:02 PM
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Are the Polish men not very masculine? Because a couple years ago I was talking to a man who immigrated here to the U.S from Poland when he was a teen. He was telling me things like "I wanna take care of you" and "I want you to have the best things in life". He meant all of this financially btw. I never once mentioned finances to this man. I was like damn! Lol. He was attractive but i didn't trust his intentions at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:43 PM
1

Thank you. The same to you as well, friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:15 PM
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OP, why don't you just move over to one of those countries? Is it because you would have to adapt to the cultural norms over there?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:14 PM
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Also, I look 10 years younger than I am, and I don't think that does me any favors as a man. How old are you? I'm assuming you have a major case of the baby face.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:58 PM
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I'm honestly considering it if the guy is looking for a LTR. No relationship- Then I'll just continue on my almost 5 year celibacy streak. Younger men approach me irl anyway. Though I don't want to date anyone under 30. That's a bit too much imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:54 PM
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I'm not posting pictures of anyone. Average height 5'8 or above. He can have average income as long as he can afford his own place, even if it's an apartment. If he has roommates then hell no. He needs to own his vehicle outright. I don't want a man barely living from paycheck to paycheck. I'll give you a description of the last man I was seriously interested in- He was 5'10, receding hairline, with red hair. Was physically in shape but not anything crazy muscular. Had his own place and worked a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 08:51 PM
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I was mostly talking about physical attributes in my comment, but yes I think you also need to find someone with similar morals and values as well in order to have a healthy relationship. According to your user flair, you're married. Are you able to mask your autism well and that's how you attracted your wife? Otherwise you might just be above average looking. Not gonna lie, if you are an autistic man who is also short/ugly then you are pretty much screwed. Unless you are willing to date an auti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:25 AM
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Lol I couldn't even wear a two-piece bathing suit when I was 19. I was a complete knockout back then and only 118 lbs. Most of us women have cellulite. I started getting cellulite when i was 14. To answer your question- I'm 5'6 and currently 130 lbs. They get older, get fat and blame some kind of hormonal issue or pregnancy instead of their sedentary lifestyle of comfort foods. You are aware that men and women aren't the same, right? Even my gorgeous former best friend who had her first child at…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:30 PM
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Dude, I am looking for a dead ass average man without kids. Most of these guys are beyond disgusting after a certain age. They don't even try to make themselves look presentable. I have no kids nor an ex-husband. I am height-weight-proportionate. I stay active. I dress well to flatter my figure. I have long hair that I take very good care of. I have no tattoos or any piercings beyond one each in my ears. I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs. These are obviously just pure physical traits. I am more…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:10 PM
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42F here. Imo, men should raise their standards. Then we wouldn't have such a skewed way of thinking. I've said this for years and i'll keep repeating it- Women are delusional online, and men are delusional in real life. If you are a woman who's either conventionally unattractive/ obese, then no- You don't deserve a tall fit man who makes six figures. Lose weight, and put actual effort into attracting that guy. On the flipside- If you're a guy with deplorable hygiene, look like shit after smokin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:46 PM
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Men do this same exact shit. Many have outright admitted it right here on reddit and then wonder why they aren't happy. Many will pick "whatever" option is thrown to them because most have next to zero options. How is this any different? By the way, I'm in my 40s and will still pick the hot guy over the stable boring one. I wont let y'all down. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:44 AM
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The most honest answer right here ladies and gentlemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:55 PM
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Wait, what? I know men are mostly visual creatures but I mean, still. You have to like some basic human qualities in a person. Who is your celebrity crush, looks wise? What if you found a woman who looked exactly like your celeb crush, but she screamed and nagged at you all day? That still wouldn't matter to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:54 PM
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What was the age range in this group? I'm kinda surprised top tier men would have to attend something like a singles event. From what I've heard, it's the bottom feeders (both men & women) that weren't successful irl or on the apps finding a partner, so they end up attending these events.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:30 AM
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Yes, but it was the other way around in the case with my former friend...I've mentioned this before in another thread- She fucked around on her (now ex) husband of 6 years. She even got pregnant by this other man during the marriage and had his baby. The guy left shortly after she had the baby btw. What's worse is that her ex-husband legally adopted her other kids when they got married. Even though they've been divorced for years now, he's still on the hook for child support until they all turn …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 04:52 PM
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She had never seen that kind of money before in her life. Then she went around asking all of us if we'd ever done stripping before (wtf) because her current job wasn't cutting it. Basically, she wanted to keep up with her new lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:58 PM
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Dude, I don't know you or this girl. But women with honest intentions usually don't ask a man a shit load of questions about his finances. The most I ask is if he has a job and what he does for a living. If i barely know the guy- Asking what he makes per year is rude as hell. Now if we're about to move in together or get married? Yeah, I'm asking those questions ahead of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:55 PM
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Hmm that's interesting. So let's say you were in your 40s dating a 40 year old woman, you wouldn't be interested in marriage or a relationship with that woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:26 PM
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What's your point? What's her lifestyle like? All of the crap she owns might just be on paper and she could be living well beyond her means. Back when I was in my 20s an acquaintance of mine received a huge inheritance from a family member. It was around 1mil. She blew through it all in less than 2 years on designer clothing, handbags, traveling, eating at 5 star restaurants, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:15 PM
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What Could He Do To Change Your Mind? If I said no? I just usually trust my gut instinct and that would be enough for me. Just to humor you OP- In a hypothetical situation? I would need to know his single status. Is he 100% single? Does he have kids? Because i only date single childfree men. Even if he were the hottest guy on earth, if he's got kids and an on & off girlfriend- it's still a NO.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:11 PM
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You should have asked in return about her current financial situation. I'm betting it was bleak. There are certain women out there who will use men for financial gain until they are no longer of use to them. It's the equivalent in the way that so-called "Chads" use obese or unfortunate looking women for fun until they find something better that comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:59 PM
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Huh? Re-read what you just wrote. It makes no fucking sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:47 PM
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Being followed and stalked by random men while minding your own fucking business? Yes. I don't expect you to understand, especially since you're probably like every other autistic redditor on here who thinks "R*pe isn't that bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:12 PM
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This is highly unusual, especially for a redpiller. Doesn't the redpill teach men to go for much younger women? No judgement btw. I'm an early 40s woman and recently I've been thinking about dating a man a few years younger. Young men pursue me irl anyway. I'd prefer to be with a man 40-50 but the single men in my age group look terrible where I live. Like ready for a heart attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:10 PM
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You can be sarcastic all you want to, but imo its terrifying to be a young, pretty girl. I am no longer young, but I'm still attractive. Case in point- About a month ago while I was out on one of my evening walks, a much younger man ran up to me from behind. Luckily his motives were non-violent, but it still scared the shit out of me. He wanted to know if i was single and asked me a few other questions. It was bizarre tbh. I was nice and nervously laughed about it, but ultimately told him that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:01 PM
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I am an attractive woman. Lets just say that I'm highly aware of my appearance. I have a boyfriend. This was my favorite line to use, especially in my teens throughout my early 30s. I had men constantly hassling me and following me back then. I even had a stalker a few years ago when I was in my late 30s. FYI- It's so we don't get attacked or r*ped by an angry incel. Us women have to lie in order to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:50 PM
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I've been single and celibate for close to 5 years now. Men my age look terrible. Most don't even try to look presentable and imo they deserve nothing. I've had younger men pursuing me lately and I'm honestly thinking about going for it. That is, if the guy is looking for a relationship. No relationship= I'll just continue to remain celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:44 PM
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What did that person say? The comment was removed so it must have been bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:12 PM
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I get what you're saying though. Survival of the fittest. If I wanted a child, I wouldn't pick some ugly autistic guy to have a baby with. Hell no. Meanwhile, I'm over here searching for a dead ass average man my age. These guys can't even do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:35 PM
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Lol most of those men are fucking delusional. Average men getting a roster? In what world?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:23 PM
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I'm not having kids so it ain't my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 05:18 PM
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Wrong. I absolutely do not want a man with any kids, even if they're grown adults out of the house. Eventually I'd have to deal with grandchildren. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:40 PM
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Childfree woman here. I don't hate single dads at all- I actually think it's great that you took on the full load of taking responsibility of your kids. I was also raised by a single mom. That being said, I don't date single fathers because I do not want to deal with children in any capacity. I want to be able to do things spontaneously with a potential partner. I'm sorry women have been shitty to you. Why TF would they want you to abandon your own children? These sound like terrible women...so …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:36 PM
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I agree, but only to a certain extent. What if a man was charming, super smart, zero mental illnesses, had emotional intelligence, a well paying six-figure career, was pleasant to be around, was sociable.... But he was 5'3 and extremely overweight. Also had crooked teeth and almost no chin/jawline. Do you think a cute petite girl that's also in shape would still want to date him?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 06:01 PM
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Some personality disorders aren't curable. Go educate yourself. Like i said in my previous comment- If a man chooses not to date me because I have a mental illness, that is his decision and he's entitled to that choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:53 PM
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No, because some of those issues do not have a cure. I have several mental illnesses, which I am upfront with right away when I start talking to a man. I do mask well while out in public, but obviously i can't hide it when I get into a relationship. If the man chooses to not get involved with me, that is his own choice. He is allowed to do so. Are you triggered by the fact that I mentioned weight? Because imo, most overweight women are extremely delusional. Most obese women won't even consider a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 04:35 PM
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It's ok for men to have preferences as well. The issue is, is when it becomes hypocritical. Like attracts like. If you're a woman and a 5'2 obese ogre, you are definitely going to catch hell for wanting a fit muscular 6'3 guy. That's your preference I guess, but be realistic because most likely it ain't going to happen. On the flip side- If you're a 5'6 man and don't have the greatest facial features, don't expect a cute petite girl to want to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:37 PM
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They both are. People need to remember that life is survival of the fittest. Weight can be changed, height cannot. Although I do feel bad for short men, genetics will always win by a landslide. Most women do not want their future children to be short and have to struggle throughout life. Almost all men and women do not want to date overweight/obese people. Especially since in most cases, weight can be changed. It shows laziness. I'm not saying any of this is right or wrong btw. But sometimes lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 02:03 PM
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he realistically should be aiming for 6 but would he accept a 4 with all those other qualities over a 6 without them? Imo, yes. Only because most average/below average men have next to zero options. I could be wrong though since I'm not a dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:48 AM
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What if she were all of the things you wanted in a woman, but also happened to be 80 lbs overweight. Would you still want to be with that person?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:45 AM
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Tbh it would destroy me. In my opinion there needs to be an initial attraction from both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 03:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:51 PM
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That is the dumbest crap I have ever heard in my life. I'm a 42F without any tattoos. I highly doubt anyone on this earth is going to think that the man I end up with is a pedo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:36 AM
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What about a debt free, zero tattoos, ears pierced only, 42 year old woman that's not a virgin but still reserved? Do I win some sort of consolation prize? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 07:27 AM
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Congrats! As bad as this sounds, I've accepted being alone for the rest of my life. Going on almost 5 years now in a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:32 PM
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Is that meme still floating around?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:30 PM
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I never share my standards with anyone, including men. I learned that the hard way in the past. They will try their hardest to mold themselves into what you're looking for. This includes lying about having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:29 PM
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Your comment is exactly what I was talking about. I don't ask of anything that I can't give back to a partner. Edit: Nevermind. I shouldn't have responded to someone who's a married man, doesn't even love his wife and posts on a sugar baby forum.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:27 PM
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No shit? I had no idea I wasn't in my 20s anymore. Boohoo. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:26 PM
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For family reasons, I cannot relocate at this time. Which is part of the reason why I've put dating on hold. Your ex friend sounds like someone I know of . She is a seriously messed up person who has hurt a lot of people. I agree. I forgot to add this in my original comment, but her ex-husband also legally adopted all her kids when they got married. So that means he's been on the hook for several years now in child support, even though they've been divorced for over 5 years. One of the kids is g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:11 PM
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This is true. I've learned very recently to just be monotone and show zero emotion when talking to men. It took me decades to learn this. I don't want them raging at me, or thinking that I'm leading them on any way, shape, or form.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:36 PM
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According to reddit, I'm not allowed to have high standards because I'm a 42 year old woman. I should just go rot in the corner and die already.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:26 PM
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Men should have high standards too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:25 PM
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The guy in question was not attractive. Sorry, but he wasn't. I honestly question if he had any girlfriends before he met my ex friend. Does that mean he deserved to settle for such a trainwreck? Nope. But it explains a lot. Some men will put up with all sorts of crap to be with an attractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:02 AM
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True. Even a mutual friend of ours would say over & over that she was using him, months before they got married. If you saw both of them together- They were a complete mismatch, looks wise. This guy seemed like a good person but he wasn't attractive in the very least. I think his eyeballs were clouding his judgement tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:57 AM
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I agree with all of this. We've been friends since the sixth grade. Needless to say, she wasn't like this back then. Anyway, I haven't spoken to her in a few years. But she always tries to pop in & out of my life when she needs help with something. Tbh I'm tired of her crap. I would venture a guess if you tried and maybe re thought some deal breakers . I've thought about this and it would make me miserable. My biggest hurdle is trying to find a childfree age appropriate man here in middle americ…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:53 AM
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Best of luck to you, friend. I hope you find a good woman someday and I truly mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:48 AM
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What is your idea of a better catch OP? Many of us women can sniff through your B.S. just so you know. A few years ago, I talked to a man for a few days through Bumble. On paper he seemed perfect (good communicator, my physical type, made good money). But something felt "off". This dude started negging me on the 3rd day just because I wouldn't add him to my contact list on my phone. I told him nope, and wished him well. This seemingly decent guy responded with an "OK 🙂🖕".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:01 PM
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What do you envy most about your friend? With the way her life has turned out? I don't anymore. She gets into one short-term relationship after another. I don't think there are many men out there who are willing to commit to a woman with 7 kids. Not gonna lie, I was seething when she got married and didn't even bother inviting me to her wedding. The man she married was a good man who accepted all of her baggage. He even worked two jobs while she was in college, just to buy her & her kids a miniv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:48 PM
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Very true. But I've always been more attractive than her, especially since shes given birth 7 times. Shes still pretty but has aged quite a bit. I guess I'm considered boring until I really get to know someone, and then I come out of my shell. My ex best friend is very complimentary towards men that she's interested in- which does bump her up a few notches. I just remember one time (we have known each other since middle school) back in our early twenties when we were talking with a group of peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:12 PM
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Specifically, what don't you understand? I do not have an ex-husband, children, or numerous partners. As shitty as this sounds: I don't have the stereotypical baggage that most women my age come with. Well...unless you count being bitter as baggage. My ex-best friend continues to find childfree men (she will not date single dads). It's a slap in the face, because I've tried searching for CF men far and wide. To be fair though, I suspect she meets most of these men through her AA meetings. She's …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:55 PM
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I'll give you an example right now of what I've experienced- I am an early 40s woman, attractive, and I've had very few partners in my life. Despite this I have never been married. I also gave up dating two years ago, mostly because I couldn't find a man who met my dealbreakers. My estranged best friend (also an attractive early 40s F) who has had numerous partners, ended up getting married at 29 to a man who wasn't the father to any of her four children (two different fathers). They had 2 more …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:21 PM
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Ehh. I get what you're saying, but it's not that simple. What about all the autistic unfortunate looking men that will probably never be able to find a girlfriend? Most of those guys don't even know how to talk to women. As an older woman who used to be followed, catcalled, and harassed daily by men when i was a young girl- I would have welcomed sex bots. I wanted to be left the fuck alone. I was terrified of possibly being raped all the time back then. There are men in this world who are unhing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:31 AM
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Lol then don't believe me. Yes I was involved with an ugly man, both inside and out. Very first relationship. I had zero experience with boys and didn't even know what I wanted in a partner. I also had recently lost a fuckton of weight in my senior year of highschool, and was still the insecure fat girl inside. I thought i deserved nothing. I was also bullied a lot. I knew this guy from elementary school, we lost touch until after I graduated highschool. We started a relationship that lasted alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 02:11 AM
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I had to break up with a guy because he purposely make me jealous by mentioning other women to me. I went through this same exact scenario when I was super young. This has zero to do with competition. Men like this are usually the ugliest, most insecure men. I'm guessing you're young & beautiful but also have low self-esteem. Yet your man wanted to knock you down a few pegs because he wants you to be self-loathing. Been there. Next time- Any guy who gives the slightest hint that he's checking ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:48 PM
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I'm not saying that. I'm wondering what their age filters were. When i was new to OLD I didn't set my age filters until after I got a ton of likes. I learned quickly. I had a bunch of early twenty something twerps messaging me. Those are not the kind of men that I'm trying to attract. Most middle aged women here on reddit love to brag that young men are pursuing them. Or they are in a relationship with a man half their age. Yet when i click on their username and every so often happen to see thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:54 AM
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Those women are either lying, or have extremely lax filters, or don't have that many standards. I was online dating in my late 30s through 40 until I finally gave up. I had very strict age filters, and I only seek out childfree men. I am considered hwp and attractive. I wasn't bombarded with messages in the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:45 AM
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Men will commit to, or even marry women that they hate/are unattracted to. Most men lack options, at least here on reddit because they whine about it nonstop. This happens more so with women tbf. Its called "settling" and "Dating Mr. Good enough". You can find similar threads here in reddit "I'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend/husband" Most women don't marry "Mr. Good enough". At least none of the women I know. Many of those women are sick of doing most of the household chores, childcare,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:13 AM
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You obviously didn't read what I wrote... The vast majority of men can't attract "Stacies". If they could attract those women irl, this wouldn't even be a debate. So instead they'll take whatever else they can get. Of course men love beautiful women, and would 100% choose the attractive one over the below average looking woman. That's a no-brainer. The main issue is options, which many men admitted they don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:08 AM
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Lol that's crazy. Honestly after reading all of that, your wife shouldn't engage with your ex at all. Just block her on everything and be done with it. Your ex is giving me scary "Fatal Attraction" vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:30 PM
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Because the vast majority of men (not all) are thirsty and will say yes to whatever they can get. Men will fuck women that they find unattractive, ugly, and even downright repulsive. There have been numerous comments here on Reddit that confirm this. Hell, I've even read a few posts on the relationship subs where the guy says he's incredibly unhappy and unattracted to the girlfriend, but refuses to breakup with her. One of the men even admitted that he was ugly himself and knew it would be extre…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:02 PM
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I agree. I've been lied to more than once about the guy not having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:16 AM
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If this is all true- Your ex will never speak to you no matter how badly she wants to. Shes most likely pounding her fists and raging about it though, guaranteed. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:36 AM
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My #1 deal breaker is kids. No matter how good-looking or how much $$$ he has, if the guy has kids he doesn't exist to me. I want to be top priority and I don't care how selfish that sounds. Ngl attraction and looks do matter. But I will take a dead ass average man without kids, vs. a goodlooking man with only 1 child. Most people here get married super young and have kids right away. Average men without kids do not exist where I live. If they do please let me know. The very few men here without…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:59 PM
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Yes, you're right about that. I just don't like to be lumped in with them. Sorry not sorry. Being in the Midwest, I've caught hell most of my life because I decided that I didn't want kids. Its very unpopular here. Never been married either so I'm basically considered a freak. It's like you cant win as a woman. You're a single mom- "Everything's wrong with you." You're a woman past a certain age with no kids- "What's wrong with you?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:36 PM
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I should add that I'm in the midwest, and I'm also in one of the fattest states in the country. There aren't many attractive people in general around here as it is. Barely anyone takes care of themselves...so maybe that's why I stood out to these men? I'm assuming it's the main reason why both of these guys were on the dating apps. Neither of them were originally from my state, so I'm guessing they really didn't know anyone outside of work. These men were in their early 50s, still attractive.. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:39 PM
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If a man is good looking high social status or high income these can cancel out the fact he has kids Not for me. I've had a couple of these men match and want to take me out on a date. I declined after finding out they have kids. And these men always seem to hide the fact that they have children until after you start talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:22 PM
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You're funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:48 PM
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I've stayed alone and celibate for many years now, completely by choice. Tbh I'm pretty sure my last relationship traumatized me, even though I've long since been over it for years now. Most men bring nothing to my life but stress. No added joy, most are unstable, no companionship after the first few months. Not gonna lie- I would love to have a decent partner, but it's looking bleak out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:08 AM
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I am none of those things, and I'm considered attractive irl. But none of that matters due to my age (early 40s). It also doesn't help that I search for childfree men only. Not every woman through OLD is obese or a single mom, but yeah it's bad. I once reversed my gender on Bumble to see what my competition was...not to sound shitty but there was practically zero competition in my age group. Obese or downright unfortunate looking women, super outdated photos, terrible filters, multiple kids by d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:53 AM
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Lol wouldn't shock me. But these were also men in their 40s. One man in his late 40s even told me that he had been scammed more than once out of thousands. This was on OKCupid. I mean...did you not learn the first time dude? That pretty 24 year old posing on a beach with a tiny bikini doesn't live here in the Midwest. And she definitely wouldn't be interested in you irl if she did happen to live here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:13 PM
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True, but they still won't. I just remember this one guy I'd matched with a few years ago. He had only one photo (head shot from the shoulders up) and his profile said that he was new to online dating. So i kinda gave him a pass for that. Started talking with him and asked this dude politely to upload more photos of himself, including full body ones. He got annoyed and said "No, it doesn't work that way, I will include more photos if I feel like it." Lol what? I told him "You do realise that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:49 PM
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A man made a comment how on a dating app his only two matches were from obese women who didn't even brush their hair or wear clean clothes liked his profile Yeah, and? As a middle aged woman- There have been some ugly, unhygienic, and downright unfortunate looking men who have expressed interest in me since I hit puberty. I usually don't go around complaining about it, and this has been going on for literally decades now. The response from several women was to say he is worse than these than the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 10:15 PM
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I'm highly aware of this, trust me. I had gross middle aged men following and harassing me throughout my teens & twenties. Newsflash: Most young girls find you gross. Or at least me and my friends did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 05:01 PM
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Gtfo. Being attracted to a grown man in his 30s, is way different than a middle aged man wanting a girl that's only been a couple years out of highschool. The human brain doesn't fully form until the age of 25. Most of you just want them super young because of the power imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:54 PM
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Yeah, these men my own age love to insult us middle aged women for whatever reason. When I was a young girl, the middle aged men would get insulted if i wasn't interested in them. One of their favorite lines they'd love to use- "What? You think you're too good for me?" I'm 19 sir...kindly, fuck off. Nowadays? I'm tired of the insults and starting to change my mind on younger men, but I'm not going to go for too young. I would date younger if the guy was looking for an LTR. Maybe 29-35 age range.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:52 AM
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I should have thrown this out there- I am currently a middle aged woman. Most middle aged men have never acted right. They've been cringey for decades now, at least since I was 16-17 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:49 AM
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The divorced ones? More like the married ones. Lately it's been bad. Pretty soon I'm going to have to start batting them away with a fly swatter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 11:11 PM
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Yes. But more importantly, I want to be talked to/treated like a human being and not an object by men. I feel like middle aged men are the worst when it comes to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:04 PM
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Brutal, but you're not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:28 AM
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You're asking a question like this on Reddit? First of all, reddit is a hive mind in itself. Secondly, as a woman I take in all these answers with a grain of salt. I'm trying to attract one man, not an orbit. I've seen very few attractive women (and men, but lets stick to the main topic) on reddit. Sorry, just saying. It's probably why their relationships start out as hookups. Most attractive women don't have to start out relationships going backwards. I never have anyway. I'm not saying all, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 01:22 AM
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It's not that they're more open-minded. It's that many men have zero options and will literally put their d!ck into anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:25 PM
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Lol there's no way I think that I'm an 8. Not even close. And yes, I know of those women you talk about. Most are overweight and look old for their age, yet want to convince everyone that they are youthful looking. I see them all the time here on reddit when I click on their usernames.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:39 PM
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I flat out refuse to approach a man. First off, most men my age are either married or attached and try to hide it. Look up the stats: Two-thirds of men over 35 who use online dating are married or in a supposed committed relationship. And that's just online. Second, many men are thirsty and will take whatever they can get. Even if the guy finds the woman repulsive, he will still have sex with her. Besides, I like masculine assertive men. I'm not dating some passive wimp who can't even talk to wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:35 PM
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I was a very late bloomer and have had very few relationships in my life. One was a LTR that lasted several years. I wanted marriage, but he apparently didn't. I finally left. The end. The men approaching you are the men of your calibre So it's laughable that I don't want to date a man young enough to be my kid, or old enough to be my father? Please. I'll just stay alone like I have been for almost 5 years now. It's much less of a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 12:00 PM
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Dude, I'm always outside. I look damn good for being a 42 year old woman. I exercise practically every single day and yes, I am approached a couple times a week. Too bad that it's either really young guys (20s) or really old guys 60+ approaching. It's almost never men my own age. The last time a guy my age got flirty with me, I found out not too long after that he was married. Not going to get involved in that mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:20 AM
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I won't go younger. I'm looking for a committed relationship, not casual sex. Hell, even I know my place when it comes to leagues. I'm honestly looking for a dead ass average man and these single middle aged men can't even do that. I'm also unsure if any of them own a mirror...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:58 AM
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Tbh it's probably less than that. You try finding an attractive single man between the ages of 40-50 here in the Midwest. It's near impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:50 AM
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I only appreciate it if I'm attracted to the guy. So that's like maybe a 2% chance since I don't find most men attractive. Then there's my #1 deal breaker which is- I dont date men with kids. Most men my age have kids. Ready for the downvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:21 AM
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Shave your head. Trust me when I say it looks way better when balding men shave their heads entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:57 PM
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Men don't want 40-year-old obese single mothers with lots of old baggage. Funny, because as an early 40s woman I'm none of these. I am still approached and hit on. Am I as cute as I was back in my twenties? Hell no. But I also don't want some fat middle aged balding single dad with an ex wife and kids. You know, the same kind of baggage men talk about here on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:42 PM
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I really wish I hadn't looked this up after reading your comment. Porn rots the brain, literally. Do young people just get involved with anyone nowadays? Do young men not have any standards? Downvote away but that girl's size is inexcusable. Twenty years ago no man would have even asked her out on a date. I'm gonna sound old for this, but I only knew of one "bigger" girl in highschool who was big like Annabelle. This was back in the late 90s. No guy would go near her. She had to lose well over a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:50 AM
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Well...I don't have an answer to that. The majority of people my age had to interact with one another, otherwise you just wouldn't survive. If we wanted to contact someone, we had to either pick up the phone and call, or go to their house and knock. It wasn't that complicated either. I laugh at the younger millennials especially- Since they are terrified of even answering their phones. I mean, seriously? It's a voice on the other end. Fucking pathetic. I do know that if the only way you spend yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:00 AM
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I was bullied as well in highschool. Maybe things are way different now with how the bullying was back then. Sorry to say it, but you gotta learn to suck it up and deal with it. Highschool doesn't last forever. I've noticed that whomever peaked in HS is going to have a rough time in adulthood. Isolating yourself is only going to make matters worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:52 AM
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I'm childfree. I do know that if I had had kids, I would have made them go outside and interact with their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:46 AM
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As an older Millennial woman in her 40s, I don't even remember anyone whom I'd call an incel back in my teens & twenties. Even the one extremely "slow" and self-unaware kid in highschool eventually found a girl to marry and have a couple of kids with. I think a lot of young men are the way they are today, is because Gen X and older Millennial parents allowed the internet to babysit their kids- When they should have been making them go outside and interacting with the real world. Socially stuntin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:31 AM
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It's true OP and I'm sick of it. I am a 42 y/o woman and I do everything in my power to look good. I keep my weight down, my hair is long, no tattoos or facial piercings. I dress well. I only attract twenty somethings. That's flattering and all, but I want a man my own age. Not some baby faced twerp! The biggest slap in the face is when my 30 y/o coworker showed me all the men in her stack when we were both trying to online date. These were men in my age group that I never saw before. I'm assumi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:52 PM
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If you can get an attractive woman in 40s, she’s actually super in high demand by wealthy men 50+. Where did you hear this load of B.S. 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:01 PM
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IMO only the ugliest men want the most kids. No idea why they're so hell bent on spreading their seed around, when most women don't want their genetics passed on anyway. As a cf woman, I never had kids due to my long list of mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:34 PM
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Oh, so you're talking about the pretty white middle class women that go missing here in the states? Yeah, it's always been like that. Not saying its right at all. But the news stations all want ratings and views. I doubt that an obese single mom living in the projects would make news if she went missing. It's truly sad what's valued to the public.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:14 AM
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A poor hardworking single mom getting raped doesn't garner the same sympathy as a pretty suburban housewife getting raped. Maybe not to you, or to probably most of the men here on Reddit. But to most of us women- It's all the same. I have never been r*ped (though I've had a few scary encounters in my teens where I was almost certain it was going to happen) you have no idea how terrifying it is to be a woman in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:56 AM
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I don't understand all of this mumbo jumbo. IMO as a 40 something woman, the wall hits when you start to resemble a bag of dust.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 07:11 AM
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Oh look, an aspie redditor who doesn't give a flying f*** about a woman's feelings, or destroying her life + well-being. There's so few of you here on Reddit...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:06 AM
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I see that you're european. I ask because where I'm from (Midwest, US) most people here start families and have kids super young. Like straight out of highschool. Many just did what their peers were doing without any thought to it. I've talked to both men and women my age who just did what everyone else did- Got married, had kids way too early. Many of them regret not waiting for both until later in life. One coworker even told me she wished she never had her kids and that she hates being a moth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:28 AM
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Oh trust me, I know that its damn near impossible. I'm an attractive woman in my 40s and childfree, trying to search for a childfree man. The very few age appropriate cf men around me are repulsive. I'm not even talking average or slightly below average. I'm talking about how these men are ogre tree monster status. In fact, I often wonder if those men even chose to be childfree, or if it's because no woman wanted their genetics. I've been celibate for many years because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:37 AM
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Just curious, but why would choosing to be childfree be low value, especially if you're looking for a cf man?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:17 AM
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I know of a very young woman who's like this, and she can't even figure out why the men she likes either hide their relationship, or ignore her altogether- She curses 24/7 and is loud like a man. She dresses masculine, has a short butch hairdo, and doesn't even try to present herself as feminine. Also very obese. She's only 26 and has 2 kids by two different men. Makes grandma babysit them while she goes out to the bars to meet random guys. When i first met her I honestly thought she was a butch…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:11 AM
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What does your cousin look like? If she's in her 40s its already difficult to keep your weight down. I literally count every single calorie that goes into my body to keep my bmi normal. I've seen the ugliest women my age demand 6ft tall men. Yet they're wrinkled up, fat, dress horribly, and have butch looking hairdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 12:46 AM
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Finances? No. I only care that he has stable employment and isn't living from paycheck to paycheck. He also has to have a car and his own living space. Hell, I don't even care if he rents, BUT- No roommates and no shitty apartment in some shitty neighborhood. I also search for childfree men, since I'm CF myself. Which is damn near impossible at my age. As for looks, I'm not a 6ft or nothing type of woman. He has to be taller than me, thats it. Like i said in my other comment- I'm well aware of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:09 PM
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No offense taken. I'm well aware of my age and I think I look pretty damn good since I've always taken care of myself. Do I look as good as I did in my twenties? Fuck no. But my bmi is normal for my height and I take excellent care of my skin + hair. I am hit on regularly by much younger men. No idea what that says about me. I've read on the seduction subreddits that they tell young men to target middle aged women, since we're supposedly easy and desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:59 PM
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I never called anyone an incel. If it makes you feel any better- I've had pretty privilege my entire life and its slowly fading away now that I'm in my early 40s. I'm gonna hit that wall at 101 mph.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:09 AM
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Hey, give me some credit. I tried dating the ugly guy back when I was younger. I honestly did give it a chance. Too bad it was the worst decision of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:45 AM
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Well, you could say it's an age thing. I'm in my 40s. But then again, I remember barely finding any men my age attractive when I was young. Though I will say that many men in their 40s and 50s don't even bother to try and take care of themselves. That makes matters much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:42 AM
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You might be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:22 AM
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Nope, not exaggerating. As I get older it gets worse finding men attractive. I'm not going to list everything I find about them unattractive because I will get permabanned. Though I will say it's 60-70% looks, and the rest is a combination of other things. Such as, a man with kids is an instant turn-off for me. No matter how good looking he is. Stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:21 AM
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Raises hand I find most men repulsive. For a long time back in my twenties, I thought i was the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 09:27 AM
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Yeah, sorry. Not trying to be shitty or difficult. Even the few men that I've actually found to be physically attractive- They open their mouths to speak, and then i usually lose the attraction instantly after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 09:23 AM
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I only want the guy to approach me if I find him attractive. But I find 99% of men unattractive. So don't bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 09:19 AM
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Meh, I'd say don't even bother unless you're in the same group setting. As in: A shared hobby, sport, dance class, etc. Even then, you gotta feel the person out and get to know her. Source: I'm a 42 year old woman who's been cold approached since the age of 13 by all kinds of men. Literally hundreds, if not thousands have approached. I maybe found one of those men attractive way back in my early twenties. He completely fucked it up by running his filthy mouth, after I said "Hi" back to him. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 08:37 AM
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Are you kidding me right now? Learning social skills early on makes a world of difference, especially with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:17 PM
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I mean, this is kinda your fault OP. When your son was growing up, did you let the internet babysit him? Or did you push for him to go outside and interact with the real world? As of present, is your son addicted to video games/porn? Does he lack social skills? Because there's your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:50 AM
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IMO women are way worse when it comes to judging a man's body. I used to work events, and would see the shortest obese ogres with super tall fit men. These were mostly young couples under 35 and it was weird. On the other hand, many men will screw anything with a pulse. Which is why women feel they "don't have to lose weight for no man".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:24 AM
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Oh god. It's considered harassment you twit. Just like what you're doing now. Go dye your hair some hideous shade of green already.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:47 AM
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Thank you. I've recently had a lump removed from my left breast 5 weeks ago. The reason i said what i said is because men my age seem to want younger. I mean, even two years ago when I was still on the dating apps and was not quite 40 yet. They constantly insulted my age there. Don't know what was up with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:19 AM
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Have fun getting reported. One of the rules is that you can't share post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:37 AM
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You know what? Fuck you bitch. Didn't know my post history would be used against me. I've been out of the dating game for 2 years trying to get my health in check. I've also had numerous health issues. Before that my health and living space was fine. Hope you never have to deal with any of those problems and you always have perfect health.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:34 AM
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42F- There ain't no man trying to be in a committed relationship or trying to marry a woman my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:25 AM
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What is this bullshit? Why is no one in this sub worried about stds?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 01:02 AM
1

I grew up in a religious household, but I left religion years ago. It's ultimately a "me" thing. I don't listen to anyone or anything but my instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:05 AM
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I can't have sex with someone unless i feel safe with them + have deep feelings for the person. It's a mental thing. Not to sound dramatic, but if I had casual sex i honestly believe I would become suicidal.I have suicidal tendencies, so yeah...perimenopause also tends to heighten these symptoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:02 AM
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True. But neither will a guy working a low paying job with no way to move up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:25 AM
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You live in Europe, so your point is falling on deaf ears. Things are much more expensive here unless you live in middle america. If you live on the west coast, 40K a year will barely cover living expenses. The prices are outrageous, especially in California.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:04 AM
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40K a year is decent if you live alone. I'm talking about men who want families. If you want a family of 4 here in the US- That amount won't cut it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:56 AM
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Scroll down to my responses here since i seemed to trigger many of you. A man has to generate a good income to provide for a family in order to have a decently fulfilled life. No where did i say he had to be rich like Trump Jr. rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:45 AM
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I'm not even married, and I plan on keeping it that way. The fact that you think a broke ass loser with nothing to offer, should be entitled to a young beautiful woman to bear his kids...no assets, no future, etc. says a lot about the men here on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:15 AM
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How should i know the personalities of every young pretty girl? You could say the same thing about a rich good-looking guy with zero personality. On the other hand, most of those guys aren't dumb. They're not going to pick just any girl with a pretty face and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:12 AM
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Stay delusional. I could also become one of those middle aged 40 y/o women that have a young hot boyfriend, because "I'm in my prime". But i know irl that's delusional bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:58 PM
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Re-read what I just wrote. You want a wife and kids? It costs lots of $$$ to have a decent home life. I'm just talking about normalcy, not luxury. Here in the U.S things are damn expensive. Unless your ultimate plan is to live off government benefits. Anyway, you don't have to have a family. You don't have to have lots of money if your plan is to be alone. Just don't expect a young pretty girl to fall in your lap because it most likely won't happen. This is a reality check I'm trying to give to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:33 PM
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....And most men value youth + beauty. Yes, you need to generate a good income if you want a wife and family, otherwise...stay alone. You can't have it both ways so stop your bitching. Why on Earth would any young pretty girl want a broke ass loser who can't afford to take care of his own children? What does she get out of that? A lifetime of stress, that's what. You can't have it both ways so stop your bitching. I can't blame young girls today in the modern world. They get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 09:27 PM
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Are you talking about casual dating, as in purely sex? Or something that leads to a committed relationship? Because as a 40s woman, the latter is extremely hard to find. Men and women aren't the same. Learn it. Most of you get salty because you can't have unlimited access to casual sex partners. Whereas many women want commitment. I have been celibate for many years because of this. IMO sex with randos would destroy my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:43 PM
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Has anybody else noticed this? I have never seen an older woman with a super attractive young guy irl, but yes I'm sure it exists. I have an aunt (this was many years ago) who cheated on my uncle with a much younger man when she was around 50. The dude was 25 and also an alcoholic. He looked like a hard 40 tbh. Both of them were ugly as hell (and alcoholics) so I guess it made sense why they got together. Anyway, I know this does go on because it's been mostly young men approaching me lately. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 10:16 AM
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Dude, I lived in a high crime neighborhood where sex offenders were rampant. The area was a complete shithole...so guess what? The people in the nicer areas would chase them out (can't blame them) so they'd move here. None of those gross men were marriage material. Why as a young girl, would i even entertain the idea of marrying some man old enough to be my dad? Let alone a sex offender. World of ex-convicts at my fingertips. Wow, yeah I had it made. Decisions, decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 03:49 AM
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You don't know what you're talking about. When I was in my teens and throughout my entire twenties- I suffered from severe anxiety and agoraphobia, because I could barely walk out the front door without men coming at me. There were times in my very early 20s where I wouldn't leave the house for weeks, sometimes even months at a time because I was terrified 24/7. Then I would decide to be brave and go outside. Men still did not leave me alone. Back to living in my room away from the world for mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 03:08 AM
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To be honest, I think it's a mixture of both. People in my area seem to despise any kind of exercise. My neighbors think its weird that I go for a walk almost every single evening. Many of them will choose to drive to places that are less than 6 blocks away. But also, fresh foods here are super expensive unless you get them on sale. High caloric junk food is cheap here in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 07:03 PM
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Keep chasing those twenty somethings, I'm sure you'll find one very soon. I'm rooting for you! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:59 PM
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Are you saying that you're hit on now more at 50 then when you were a twenty something? Because as a 40s woman I find that hard to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:54 PM
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It's very different here in middle America. I live in one of the top 15 fattest states in the US. I take very good care of myself and keep my weight down. It's extremely rare for someone my age to have a healthy bmi. I'll put it to you this way- 90% of the time when i go out food shopping, or just out and about, I'm the thinnest (not bragging) even amongst the 20 something young women. Many men here are just as overweight. It's an epidemic at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 07:09 AM
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Well gee, thanks. I'm not exactly a spring chicken, but I have taken very good care of myself. If men my own age don't want me- Good luck to them. Most cannot attract younger women anyway unless they have money/or are extremely handsome. A couple of weeks ago I was out on one of my evening walks and a much younger man ran up to me trying to get my phone number. I told him I was flattered, but he was too young. Now maybe I'm thinking I made a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 06:07 AM
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Not if you have taken care of yourself. I'm a woman in my 40s and I really appreciate any man 40+ who hasn't partaken in a lifetime of drinking, smoking, and substance abuse. Also one who isn't obese. You have no idea how difficult that is to find here in small town USA. Most people where I live look much older.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:04 AM
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When I was a young girl, I genuinely was dumb because men claimed they wanted to "be my friend" and I stupidly believed them. Nowadays, I play dumb because I don't want any of these men becoming unhinged and possibly attacking me. Plus, nice guys in general...🤮 Anyway, it rarely happens anymore because I refuse to be friends with a hetero man anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:32 PM
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That is a lie. I won't even sleep with a man unless I feel safe with him, and it's why i've had very few sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:01 PM
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Just curious, but do you have any idea what happened to your ex wife? I know of a similar story to yours, but it ended much worse for the husband. Though eventually he got the last laugh, and his ex wife is on her 5th or 6th boyfriend because the men keep running away.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:49 AM
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I'm so sorry. Thank you for clarifying, though hindsight is 20/20. Lots of young people make poor decisions. I think we've all done so at one point in time, and you need to forgive yourself. I know it's a stupid redundant quote, but honestly "It's never too late to turn your life around".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:32 AM
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That figures. Big cities are different than living in the heartland. Its all families here where I live, and most people paired off right after high school or college.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:19 AM
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This is very interesting. What do you mean though by living up to your end up the bargain? That you couldn't "measure up" in your mind to be the man she wanted? Or you felt that you weren't good enough to be in a relationship with your now ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:17 AM
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What region of the country are you in? There's nothing even remotely close to a mixer for singles here in the midwest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:59 AM
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