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Dude this is not a flake, she tried to reschedule. A flake is either: 1) getting ready for an hour, driving 30mins, check your phone to find out they won't be able to make it 2) getting ready for an hour, driving 30mins and waiting 45mins for a date that never shows up 3) they give you their contact details and they never respond She hasn't met you yet, you can't describe her as wishy washy. Show some persistence and trust yourself - that if she meets you once it's over, she's cooked.
/r/seduction05/06/26 12:07 PM
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You know it's a numbers game, but you're not playing the numbers. A Saturday date for most people a good sign. For all you know she's finishing up her period and wants to fuck you senseless on Saturday. I'm not saying compromise your work, boundaries or suffer 1000 reschedules. You can reschedule for a day that suits you both and send her some low effort tension building flirty messages.
/r/seduction05/06/26 07:42 AM
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Context: have been dating this chick for 4 weeks F*ck the sh*t out of her on the third week Got resistance last time, as she asked "what are we?" after being sexual for the last 3 weeks She should clearly know what you want already (set expectations), or you should be prepped for this question. I thought she could be my GF so I dropped my other options (she told me not that she's not comfortable with me seeing other chicks while getting more and more intimate with her) You should know if you wan…
/r/seduction05/06/26 01:26 AM
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You're doing great work and putting in the effort, you should be proud of yourself. what do people here think my chances of ever succeeding are if I continue doing this? Do you think I can/will get better? Do you think I can/will figure out what, if anything, I’m doing wrong, eventually? Does anyone here know of anyone who got into this who had to go through multiple years and thousands of approaches in order to accumulate enough imperceptible microcalibration to start succeeding? For the amount…
/r/seduction27/05/26 05:02 AM
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It's all about how you make her feel.
/r/seduction21/05/26 10:51 PM
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TLDR: You should practice expressing your feelings more, setting boundaries with consequences and disqualifying chicks. How to setup physical relationships - 1) Have a good date, not a great date. Good chats, not great chats. Like hanging out, but you don't see yourself hanging out with them for a whole day. There's no high volatage electric chemistry, definetely some attraction, but you don't think about them the next day. You are comfortable around them like a friend. You respect them and want…
/r/seduction18/05/26 06:56 AM
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Great question and I hope you keep seeking the answer. It's a basic question, with a complex answer that can't be communicated effectively through just text. There's a lot of material on the internet. I'd recommend going out to a bar or club and observing. If you find a successful guy, humbly asking for help.
/r/seduction05/05/26 01:10 AM
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It's fine to have feelings and you don't always need to be in control. It's when you're unable to exercise self-control when necessary, or if they impact your daily life / long term goals negatively. Ideally you should be pretty busy with an abundant life (work, girls, hobbies, friends, therapy). They aren't your only source of fun, achievement, self-confidence. Enjoy the moment, the adventure, experience and the process. Accept and appreciate yourself (including areas where you need to grow), f…
/r/seduction29/04/26 10:56 AM
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I think your question is flawed, your expectations are zero or 10000% successful. I went from 19 years old, zero girlfriends, zero anything, fat, very shy, depressed and anxious as fuck. Girls were scary and overwhelming - I didn't like them but I wanted them, I wanted them to like me but I didn't want to be around them, they turned me on but annoyed / disugusted me. In 3 years time, I was at a house party, hiding under the covers in a girls bed after we just had sex, as she had to tell another …
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:22 AM
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Experience, knowledge, knowing yourself (confidence) and empathy towards others. I'd also argue that you may need strong character / values / beliefs, some self-control and understanding that in many occasions an average decision now is better than the best decision later.
/r/seduction25/04/26 12:18 AM
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I was thinking trying to get with any one who I noticed gave me the most attention Dude, chill. Enjoy the volleyball games, be a good friend to your team mates (including the guys) and be highly sociable (friendly and bit flirty) at league events. Invite them out to parties or events, they'll bring their friends and vice-versa. Don't make this your main area for dating and getting laid. If you meet someone at Volleyball and there's good chemistry, take the opportunity.
/r/seduction24/04/26 11:32 PM
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I strongly suggest therapy, as usually these difficulties when you trace them back, are from some past trauma. Try getting more comfortable and confident in self-expression with your body, voice and socialising. That may mean having a part-time job which involves a lot of socialising. In your spare time joining some social activities like dance classes, joining a choir, learning an instrument, joining a sports team, saying yes to every social event you can. Learn to enjoy being around people and…
/r/seduction19/04/26 06:12 AM
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Enjoy the moment. Reflect and analyse afterwards. Please try to stay open, positive, non-judgemental and curious. You have no idea if she is "easy", as you don't have the full information on this person to understand if this is her being "easy" or not. There can be layers to someone's expression, for example some South American women will be making out with you hard on the first date, doesn't mean you will get laid. What is wrong with someone who is "easy" anyway, sounds great. If you feel that …
/r/seduction19/04/26 05:54 AM
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It's worth doing at some point, for the memories, scratching "the itch", and the self improvement. Just don't sacrifice your morals / ideals for women. Ironically I think more men probably need to learn how to socialise with women, as there aren't the same opportunities there used to be. The surface level way of looking at others, really doesn't make for a good time long term. Most guys find someone they love and settle down. The types of guys who fall deep into this have other trauma they haven…
/r/seduction13/04/26 12:35 AM
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I think it gives you an interesting broader insight into their sexualisation of men. You can notice some commonalities, tropes & themes across the medium (character traits, communication styles, flirting, inner thought monologues, emotionality, vulnerability, etc). It also counteracts some of the toxic masculinity nonsense. Their fantasies emphasise men who are commonly strong, confident, self-actualised, capable, selective and vulnerable. It can give yourself a touch of extra flavour / style wh…
/r/seduction04/04/26 07:47 AM
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Are you sure you have enough information that you want to be monogamous? It doesn't have to be complete, but you know what she's like under stress, period, bad nights sleep? Have you had a major argument with her yet? Does she enjoy similar things to you? What are her friends and family like? Will she fit in with your friends, meeting your family? What's she like on the weekends in her own time? What does she want to do long term? Have you considered what it would be like with her if she was fat…
/r/seduction19/11/25 02:22 AM
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Probably the first, but it doesn't matter. Act in the moment with good intentions (would like to make them smile, curious, appreciative), express yourself (brave, respecting, curious and whatever other flavours you are), enjoy the moment and have fun. Cause all these moments will one day be gone, seize the day.
/r/seduction09/11/25 04:01 AM
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This can fucking suck if you have both said you love each other. You need to live through your values and morale's, take the lead and end this in an a mature, caring, responsible way. It gives you some meaning, satisfaction and confidence that you're a good partner. You never know how things come back around (booty calls, friends with benefits) in years to come, or what her friends will hear. I've got a lot of sex and money (job opportunities) from ex's. It could be she's having mental health pr…
/r/seduction03/11/25 03:55 AM
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I was finally in a place where sex was as casual as I've always seen it on the internet, without being prostitutes. Unless you were at a sex club, no, they were just girls dressing slutty, being sexual and having fun. Which is great, enjoy the vibes and have fun. It shouldn't be anything too special. Sexually expressive, sex positive, fun, should be a normal expectation / framing in your world.
/r/seduction01/11/25 05:02 PM
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You can use the apps, but be aware they are going to be low percentage, 'fun' instagram swipes that you do while taking a dump. No-one really gets to know you deeply until you move in together. Enjoy yourself, try to learn from your experiences, don't take it so seriously, it's a numbers game. More attempts = more chances for improvement = more success.
/r/seduction22/10/25 09:46 AM
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So I will ask one more question, because I believe we're still dancing around the line I'm searching for; while there is a seductive passive strength to being outcome independent like this, I do believe there is an active element which needs to be demonstrated to women in order for them to be attracted to you. You can't rely on always being passively inwardly strong to attract girls - you need goals and go forward with intent to get the girls. You need to demo proof of your value. The only eleme…
/r/seduction19/11/24 05:23 AM
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She has demonstrated her interest which is evidently low by her actions You don't have enough quality information at this point to make that determination. You're in a low information state, don't try to fill in the blanks. You will only gain high quality information by seeing their actions over time. This would be one data point, you need more. You don't know what's going on in her life, there could be hundreds of legitimate reasons why she flaked. You've only met this person twice. Prioritise …
/r/seduction18/11/24 02:49 AM
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Yeh, I literally had that experience haha.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:37 AM
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I can't give you a quick fix. Keep developing friendship with girls. Try your best to push yourself, even if you feel uncomfortable. Ultimately, you have to work on the root cause of your problems. It's quite likely related to trauma in your childhood. If you can work that, you'll see more success. Keep working away at it, as I mentioned above, with a therapist or as best you can through self reflection, reframing and good mental health behaviours.
/r/seduction16/11/24 12:50 PM
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Dude, I'm really sorry to hear that, sounds really rough. If you can, please get some counselling / therapy. It really really helps, not just with women. If you can't get a therapist, the basis of most mental health strategies is self-reflection, re-framing poor mental frameworks and reinforcing positive mental health behaviours. Positive mental health behaviours, are like journaling, long walks with self-reflection, exercising (gym, whatever), mediation, socialising with friends, being part of …
/r/seduction16/11/24 07:03 AM
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My question related to this is how does being an outcome independent man not result in you being a walk-over who will tolerate flakiness and weirdness from women that would otherwise generally be deemed unacceptable. Everyone has great replies to you. There's some deeper issues you might want to think about: 1) You cannot be fulfilled by others. No amount of women's attention or sex can fulfil you. You need to live a life that is fulfilling and personally rewarding for you. If a girl flakes on a…
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:49 AM
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Thanks for the great post, I've had similar experiences as well. There's little discussion on the transition from dating to successful relationships. I wish I had some knowledge of this when starting out. Relationships with awesome people can be very mutually rewarding.
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:16 AM
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The downside is, she's very unsympathetic in chats, very immature and doesn't show great engagement, meaning she's not complimenting or anything else positive. But when I ignore her, she double texts, sends picture of her driving past my place etc. Once we had a talk, where she said for her it's hard to let people come close to her, but she will work on it and show me with actions. Nothing (besides of meeting 3-4 times for 30 min in front of my porch) happened. Dude, wtf run. That's creepy. The …
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:11 AM
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And even when I do think it I'm insecure, don't really act on it because like I said I haven't been with someone in a while, Im deluded into thinking it's nothing, maybe I just hate myself I don't know. My guess is you had a bad break up? It's likely you need to see a counsellor / therapist to help you work through this. There might be some other contributing factors from your past. Do you have a history of anxiety, depression, low self confidence? It will be really beneficial and helpful for yo…
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:07 AM
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So is this a cycle we are never meant to fulfill? If you end up getting laid and then she or you decide to leave, you end up lower emotionally and energetically than you were as if you would have avoided it all together. You won't get fulfilment from someone else. It's something that you need to figure out and do on your own. But after meeting and dating tons of them, it just never worked: flakes, ghosting, excuses and anything you could think of. If things seemed to move along, there always end…
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:02 AM
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I like your post, I think it's good stuff. My constructive criticism: Well, digression from the start lol. YOUR OUTFIT - seemingly insignificant yet very significant. Make sure to put on some nice fragrance, and for God's sake, NEVER, EVER, dress classy on a date, let alone first one. Only exception is your wife. Women find that wannabe-businessman schtick cringe. You have a couple of options, that are bad boy-ish yet stylish, and reveal your skin, which tingle the girl's imagination (yes, they …
/r/seduction16/11/24 05:35 AM
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Be interesting, be ballsy, be independent, be busy. Have some whimsy and some edge. Don’t assume that a woman should be happy to be with you just because of a few stereotypically desirable qualities—you have to have depth and mystery. I think the PUA / Seduction Community overemphasises the "do this" characteristic / fake it til you make it mentality. Which is fine, as we're all have to in some manner. I think instead of faking, the most applicable advice is to "be" the man you want be, live a f…
/r/seduction16/11/24 05:08 AM
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As we all know to make a girl crazy about you, you have to be unpredictable. No, that's only a part of it and you're looking at it out of context. You should be living a fulfilling life doing the things you love. Sometimes you will be very busy and you can only see her once in a week. This is not sustainable for romantic relationship (trust me through hard fails). It's okay for dating, but expect to have a strong phone / texting game. You should be aiming for twice a week if you want more than r…
/r/seduction13/11/24 04:03 PM
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Even though it’s been 10 months do you think I’m ready to begin talking to girls I'd encourage you try, you're in the perfect age to incorporate this stuff into your personality. How do I build up the social profile to get noticed more It's not necessary for success. But you said you do some modelling and training for a Hyrox event. Add some of those photo's. Include some photos with you and a pet. If you're attractive and young, you could even look at it as a side hustle, potentially making you…
/r/seduction13/11/24 03:46 PM
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I agree but the physical aspect is a major factor,and it may be an initial turnoff which will not always have an opportunity to be overcame That's out of your control. You can only do the best you can in situations. If you love tattoos and piercings, that is an expression of yourself. If she can't handle that, great! You're closer to the next person.
/r/seduction13/11/24 03:43 PM
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If I was legit into tats and piercings, I'd totally do it. You'd be pre-selecting for girls who really like you. You'd be fairly unique, only 24% of US adults have tattoo's. I saw 16% have a piercing (mostly women). https://www.statista.com/statistics/259666/survey-on-the-number-of-tattoos/ "Attraction is not a choice", a girl who loves you will not care if you have a tattoo. My opinion - get jacked, tattoos look awesome on lean & muscular bodies.
/r/seduction13/11/24 02:43 PM
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Anyone else had some girls on dating apps who you match with, seem to be playful and in to you and then say they're not interested out of nowhere and unmatch? Good, now you're one less person away from someone special. It isn't common but I feel happened once or twice and it just feels like a power thing/ego boost trip. Or was it a shit test and I failed? Keep your focus on what you can control. Is there anything you could have improved on? Detach, Analyse, take that lesson, apply it for next ti…
/r/seduction13/11/24 02:34 PM
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Touch can be used to build comfort, trust, arousal, fun, heightened emotional events/states. To get proficient you need to be aware and incorporate it into your life. When's the last time you hugged your best friend? Hugged and kissed you your Mum on the cheek? Playfight with a dog? Held a child's hand? Comforted someone? Appreciate how touch can improve the quality of your relationships and enjoy doing it. Enjoy being more affectionate. When you're naturally expressing yourself for comfort, tru…
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:36 AM
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Game her like when you first met her. Have some ideas of what you want to do with her when you get back and follow through. You might also need to actually work through your issues together. If you really care for her, you'll go through that effort and make changes. Including attending relationship counselling together. If you're not that interested, it might be better to end the relationship and focus on new girls.
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:25 AM
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Remove your brain out of the equation. If the chemistry is good, you naturally hook up (assuming hook-up = sex here). You would much prefer to have it happen at your house, but it can happen in a car, stairwell, park, wherever. You have to think ahead a little bit logistics wise to help things along. Should you also tell her your not looking for anything serious and have a discussion about it, or do you think that's weird? No, it's not weird. You can bring it up first if you like, it's not a big…
/r/seduction13/11/24 06:48 AM
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There might have been some miscommunication, I'm going to make a long ass reply so it covers what I do in case you want to try it. Up to you. I'm preselecting for girls who are more likely to be okay with FWB. Types of girls I go for, I'm not interested in looking for Christian girls next door, virgins are out. During dates I will be flirty, affectionate, can make fun / jokes / talk about sex, and try to build chemistry. I lose interest if they're not responding to that. During the date, "what a…
/r/seduction11/11/24 03:36 AM
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It's not what I think, it's what I've experienced and prefer. Yes, Op can do whatever he likes. This seems to be working ok, but I wanna know how others approach it. Also OP was asking for how others do this.
/r/seduction11/11/24 02:47 AM
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I seem to be in the minority, but I don't like hiding your intentions or tricking someone into a situationship. I've had multiple fuck buddy relationships for 1 - 3 years. It's about communicating what you want, leading the discussion, setting expectations and following them. You tell her how great she is, what you like about her. That you're physically attracted to her, but you don't think a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship between you will work out. You think you'd be great as friends and t…
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:11 PM
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This has been known for a while. Dating apps are great for while you're on the toilet, waiting in line, on the bus. It's low reward, don't get too invested with your time, energy and emotions. Do change things up if you're getting no results though, or avoid it all together.
/r/seduction10/11/24 03:33 PM
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There's plenty of YouTube videos on this topic. The most important thing is that you make, test and repeat. See what gets you results and what represents you best. Good quality photo's within ~12 months that aren't too catfishy / over edited. Try and make her feel something - make her laugh, "aww", "wow cool" Try and show your personality. If you're sarcastic, be sarcastic. If you're career driven ambitious, put it in there. If you relaxed and joke around, put it in there.
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:41 AM
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Aren't you getting a bit ahead of yourself? You're about to put a lot of time, money and effort into something that didn't work out previously. She hasn't invited you to anything, you're only working off feelings and assumptions at the moment. You don't know what she's doing, feeling or thinking. How about seeing if she wants to catch up for a coffee or a drink first, see how it goes? Maybe tell her how you feel, ask if you can do something with her on her birthday?
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:36 AM
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Living in a tiny town where everyone knows each other makes me feel insecure. You need to move somewhere else. If you find someone awesome you'd like to be in a relationship with, tell them what you said "I was living in a tiny town where everyone knows each other, not many opportunities for dating or relationships" People care about how you make them feel, it won't be factor.
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:28 AM
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Hope you have a great night sexy
/r/seduction10/11/24 04:24 AM
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Tbh I hate being so jealous of everybody Please reflect and work on this as well (therapy, counselling, journaling, meditation, etc). It's likely it will come back to hinder you in other ways.
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:54 PM
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Oldie but a goodie - "Yeh, I'm the bad boy your Mum warned you about" Whatever the red flag is, make it even more extreme in a funny way.
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:45 PM
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Congratulations on building your social skills, that's really good work! I'm going to have to make some assumptions from your post. Apologies if they don't apply accurately to yourself. 1) Depending where you are on the spectrum, you may not be aware of the signals that a woman is interested in you and are unable to continue further. Most guys are not aware of this either, but it might be a bigger problem for you. That is okay, you will need to work iterations, attempting different tactics/strat…
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:42 PM
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And oddly enough, I interacted with more guys than girls last night. Met some cool dudes. That's great. Any of them players / naturals that you can ask for help? Or you can watch them and model their successful strategies? I just wish these girls weren't so damn defensive and label guys as creeps. This is wrong, you need to challenge this belief. Even if it does happen, as long as you're bringing positivity and being respectful, it should not matter. Would they even remember you in 1 weeks time?…
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:14 PM
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Ideally you kiss a girl when you're into her. Very high probability you're going to have to talk to her in some manner first if you're an average guy, even if it's yelling stuff over the PA system. It is rare that you find someone where it's pretty obvious you are both completely attracted to each other straight away (feels great though). Even in those situations, you eventually want to talk to figure out WTF is this amazing chemistry you have. Funnily enough I have met someone I had amazing che…
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:02 PM
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Yes, I see a lot of emotional responses to this question. Very little practical experience, or working through the problem. "I tried this" "this didn't work" "under these circumstances" "avoid these types of people" If you're unable to be vulnerable, you are in a toxic relationship and need to leave. You're hiding, you're weak, you don't have a strong foundation of character and experience.
/r/seduction09/11/24 04:19 AM
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Even though I can talk, sometimes I meet superficial and boring people who can't say anything fun or have no content, this irritates me and I end up rejecting them. Are you sure they aren't just nervous, shy, introverted or like listening to you speak? What have you tried so far to problem solve this issue? You shouldn't be rejecting them unless it's after multiple tries and they're obviously not wanting to talk at all. From my experiences, not talking 80% of the time means they like you but are…
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:53 PM
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You should be relaxed, enjoying the conversation and what you guys are talking about. You'll naturally move between different topics / subjects as you keep the conversation going and branching off from nouns/verbs into other subjects and/or emotions. You'll talk about topics you care about deeply, some are funny, some are silly, scary, etc.
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:49 PM
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It's not a good idea to think about this too much. Focus on if you're attracted to her or not. Focus on being the best version of yourself you can (looksmaxxing and otherwise). There are plenty of pretty girls who are ugly people. There are beautiful people who are not pretty. There are 7's to me that you probably think are 9's. I know there are 9's someone would think are 7's. If you can value people for who they are, the actions they take, and how they make you feel, it removes the power from …
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:41 PM
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Sorry to hear about your difficult childhood. I can recommend therapy, as you will likely have underlying issues from neglect, rejection and trauma. You will have to learn to be patient and loving with yourself, especially with the inner child. As a child, you develop coping strategies to get through trauma that are ineffective when you get older. You will need to "unlearn" and challenge these strategies. You will need to replace them with positive behavioural strategies. Look up Cognitive Behav…
/r/seduction08/11/24 08:30 PM
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Interesting stuff, thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:55 PM
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Ignore them op, they don't know what they are talking about. They read "how do I be vulnerable", it triggered them and they responded emotionally.
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:52 PM
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Maybe you were, maybe you weren't. You do the best you can at the time, and analyse that stuff later. There's no benefit from doing it in the moment.
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:35 PM
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You should be having fun, or making it fun for yourself. If not, change this, figure out how. Maybe you are a bit burnt out, in which case it's okay to take a break. You might need to self-assess, have you missed something: Are you taking care of you physical, mental, emotional health? When was the last time you got a checkup at the GP? Are you eating healthily? Exercising? Do you need to see a therapist? When's the last time you did something fun that did not involve women? Do you have fulfilli…
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:12 PM
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but it all happened spontaneously. You tripped and fell inside their vagina? No, this is not true. These girls wanted you or it would not have happened. You did enough not to fuck it up and close, which is all you need to do. I actually have a pretty decent girl rn (kinda insta model~100k followers). Dumb ass, why are you here then. Your attention is probably better focused on this girl. If not, dump her, you seem to have plenty of options. Sometimes they even approach me and try kissing me but …
/r/seduction08/11/24 07:01 PM
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I prefer talking on the phone asap, as most guys don't do it and it portrays confidence (for some reason). My generation you talked to your friends on the phone for hours, it was super normal with limited internet. Whatever. Phone calls are great for getting inside the strongest erogenous zone for a woman - her mind. This is what works for me, your mileage may vary. Get comfortable, somewhere quiet. I like to lie down on my bed. Deep breaths, close your eyes. You want to be very relaxed, breathi…
/r/seduction08/11/24 06:47 PM
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since you work in the same space. How much do you value your job if this goes badly? I'd friendzone her. You know she probably has hot friends you could be introduced to? She might even set you up on dates? Imagine all the great insider knowledge you would have from a hot chick friend. She could help you go shopping, decorate your bachelor pad, take photo's for your instagram, build your confidence with women, build your social girls with women. Imagine the social proof of going to parties, talk…
/r/seduction08/11/24 05:58 PM
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Yes, I've experienced something similar. It pains me to feel the very thing that was my source of strength now feels like a monotonous job/chore. Women or their relationship with you, should not define your self-worth. I find Ive fell out of love with it. I dont feel anything as every interaction feels so repetitive: the things a girl would say, my responses, the steps leading to and on the date. I consider anything less than a lay a failure. Even then the achievement feels so shortlived. I thin…
/r/seduction05/11/24 02:35 PM
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It can be difficult, especially when you're not experienced or have had a difficult childhood. I think the biggest issue is learning to be sociable and being comfortable around women. Make your life super social, who is social proofed and warm opens, or you're super sociable and like talking to everyone. I recommend making some female friends. Get used to being around women and how they work. Learn to listen, empathise, be aware of their emotions / thought processes, be a good friend. You'll fin…
/r/seduction05/11/24 02:22 PM
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Mewtew type build with a cute as face Hell yeh. So what do you guys do to retain that confidence in yourself when shit goes wrong whether it’s on a bad date, bad link or just bad convo? I like going for a long walk, it calms my mind and constructively reflect and work through issues. If this is really mind fucking you or you're short on time, get out a piece of paper and do a self-reflection on the event. I like the Gibbs reflective cycle, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gbczr0lRf4 Ideally you …
/r/seduction05/11/24 06:19 AM
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I'll be honest, I don't enjoy talking with people that much anymore (it could be a side effect of drugs and the fact that after my semester abroad I learnt that people aren't that special in my opinion. In fact, beside a couple of close friends, I don't give too much of a shit about others). I think you might need to talk to your therapist about this. Do you need your medication reviewed? Maybe you need it reduced and incorporate some behavioural strategies? I'm concerned that you're "not giving…
/r/seduction05/11/24 06:10 AM
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It should be one of your qualifying questions during a conversation. "What kind of relationship are you looking for?" Don't waste your time trying to hide your intentions, you should know who you are, what you want, and can tell them what to what to expect from a relationship with you (in the appropriate timing and context). This requires that you do the self-reflection work beforehand, investing the time and energy into yourself (improving where necessary) to make your life fulfilling, meaningf…
/r/seduction05/11/24 05:50 AM
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But I have been stopped from going further because I am unsure about how I can show romantic/sexual interest in a bold way that encourages her to reciprocate. I'm assuming you're on a 1:1 date, first time meeting. Get more comfortable with expressing your feelings with physical touch. Your physical touch should increase with the emotions you have for people and the emotional states you are in. It runs a spectrum from greeting someone with a hug, touching someones arm when they make you laugh, ho…
/r/seduction05/11/24 05:27 AM
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Playful comments are a joke or something you could say to your Mum, Sister, Aunt, Grandma and they would laugh. You would both be laughing together, having fun. I highly recommend you focus on making some female friends first. You need to calibrate this, be a good friend to a girl first. You might have been hanging around young guys too much or have some insecurities, which is fine you can fix it.
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:59 AM
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I've found the best way is to make sure you're enjoying it and that online dating doesn't become all consuming, you do it in between stuff for fun. You should be sending messages that make you feel something. I like that somewhere in the first couple of messages something that makes you laugh or giggle. You could send something to her more raunchy / flirty, especially if she makes you laugh or qualifies herself. As things get more flirty, try and be quick with a good response. It ramps up the te…
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:48 AM
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"what turns you on in the bedroom? Do you have any kinks?" I think the setup, timing and delivery is more important than the question itself. Good setup & timing would be after you've built trust and comfort and you both acknowledge there's good chemistry (e.g. making out, going back to chatting). Delivery - It could also be a good qualifying question for yourself, like what if she's into pegging and you're not haha. It's more of "how do you like your massage", it shouldn't be a big deal. Obviou…
/r/seduction05/11/24 04:29 AM
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I'm not really interested, even to have sex I'm personally not feeling it. But I still keep it respectful in communications. My question is, should I be outright and tell her I'm not interested, and say it would be cool if you want to link up as friends. Yes, tell her. Honesty is the best policy.
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:19 PM
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I agree with u/Biscuitsbrxh great succinct points. I'm just going to waffle on below if anyone's slightly interested. seem to be noticing if you don't have a long first date planned or aren't trying to take her home same day, kissing on the first date seems to work against me if you can't take them somewhere private. It's great you're kissing on dates and closing, but in my humble opinion, I think your question is not that important, it's tertiary. What happens during and after, it can depends o…
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:00 PM
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She is not a coworker, she is a guest at the hotel. What is the policy for fraternising with guests? If you get fired, are you okay losing this job? There are one or two customers who flirted with me (they asked me out) who I look back and would say, yeh fuck it, should have done it. But I didn't have to be unemployed, find a job either. Just be sure you know the consequences, or know how to get away with it, haha. I mean, I'm majorly depressed but that's beside the point. That's always been the…
/r/seduction04/11/24 10:47 AM
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I know that it is important to not give a fuck and be fun and expressive and not be in my head all the time. Unfortunately I'm embarrassed to say that I don't know how to that. I have secretly been yearning to go off on any of them if they disrespect me male or female. I think they can sense this and now everyone avoids me. I do feel like I take things seriously. People have disrespected me at my job and I have had to put some people in their place. I am not where I want to be in my career so I …
/r/seduction03/11/24 04:39 PM
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I'm very bad with dating, but girls seem to like my personality and this isn't the first time this has happened when working at a hotel. She was very attractive, I just knew that I wouldn't know what to say or do and I gave up immediately. I also wasn't in a good mood. The girl is secondary to the lessons you could learn from this. You're making too many excuses for yourself, "I wasn't in a good mood." If you're feeling attraction towards someone, that's a good thing and you should express yours…
/r/seduction03/11/24 04:07 PM
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I know you think this is what is actually happening, but it's not. You'll be a lot better when you leave this type of thinking behind.
/r/seduction03/11/24 03:56 PM
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Too much good, no good. I can understand why you want to go out as the best version of yourself and it's an admirable goal. However, that won't happen without you going through the process of meeting people. You're never 100% ready. You try your best with what you've got. You go out with low expectations ("It'll be nice to have a drink and chat, meet someone new, try to make her smile"), test and adjust (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act) from your different dates / experiences.
/r/seduction03/11/24 03:53 PM
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After sex generally. It can come up earlier. I bring it up first, as I want to things to be honest, fair and I'm not trying to take advantage of her.
/r/seduction18/10/24 02:39 AM
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Anyways, this experience is posted to provide evidence for that sub that, even when you think you might have it dialed, sometimes you’ll still won’t see the curveball coming. It’s also a space to remind the newbies that there isn’t ever a “one size fits all” or “magic formula.” Seducing women can be a fickle, complicated task, and it’s rare that anyone ever stops learning things through the process. They're seducing you too. It's a win-win dance. You're presenting as yourself and sometimes there…
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:24 AM
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Yes, first world problems. It gets emotionally, physically and financially draining though. If you're young you can keep it up for a while, ~ 6 months before it feels more like "work." Gotta clock in and message girl #7, don't forget to message #4 for a date, #5 needs a check-in to ask her about her work presentation..." I wrote notes about the women you're seeing in small pad that fits in a pocket. Check it multiple times a day. Check your chat history log that you research prior to seeing them…
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:05 AM
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So yeah, this story highlights how important forming quick friends and connections is to a successful night, how to recognise interest signs from a girl, and how to utilise a guy who could be competition to your advantage. Worst case you would have had a fun night with new friends. The good part is you made the best of the situation and took high success plays. Everyone travelling wants to go out and party with new people, girls want to hook up with cute guys. You were being sociable with everyo…
/r/seduction17/10/24 05:35 AM
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If the convo goes dry, that's fine. If the relationship doesn't go anywhere, that's fine. It's a good thing, because you're one step closer to finding the right guy for you. You are limited as a person by time and energy. Do not waste your time and energy on guys who you are not connecting with, not reciprocating and are emotionally unavailable. Don't waste your energy on things outside of your control, that haven't happened yet. You can only control your actions, the way they act is out of your…
/r/seduction17/10/24 05:15 AM
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I think we might be talking past each other and agree on most things, not worth continuing multiple paragraph responses. Thanks for the discussion, I appreciate it.
/r/seduction16/10/24 03:01 PM
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I understand you're probably trying to come from a good place in helping people. It's incorrect, shows a lack of experience and self reflection, and would be highly damaging to someone's life if they accept that framing.
/r/seduction16/10/24 02:43 PM
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another question, what do u mean lie? as in say what? If he asks "how many guys have you slept with on the first date" or "what's your body count" type questions. I'd try to figure out if he's slut shaming. If you feel like he does, or not sure, you can lie if you want, whatever, just make him feel special. but then im like, why dont u call me ? (i didnt say this, i havent replied to the text yet). i might go visit him in a month or so but if he doesnt fly me out, is it desperate of me to fly my…
/r/seduction16/10/24 02:29 PM
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Do these people have fulfilling long term relationships? The most successful people of RSD seem to move away and find fulfilment in other areas. Tyler is more of a life coach now. If you read The Game, you will read about Mystery having a breakdown and struggle with anxiety and depression. There are many stories about Tyler being a jealous insecure douchebag. These people's narcissistic personalities are not someone you want to emulate. Learning hundreds of ways to get female attention and physi…
/r/seduction16/10/24 01:53 PM
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If I told someone who is clinically depressed "have a positive and optimisitic attitude when talking to people" it would not work. They could talk to someone for a brief time, but it would be very difficult for them to have a meaningful conversation. I could give them every single action and technique they need to do - words, facial movements, hand gestures, etc. They could talk for a brief time, but it would not work. At a fundamental level, there's sub-conscious communication in body language …
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:52 PM
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okay so heres where im stuck - i heard that guys dont consider girls who are sexual before dating 'wifey' material. is that correct? i have no idea. Don't worry about it, that cat is way out of the bag haha. For me, it's a positive thing, there's sexual chemistry and I know we're into each other. Had many gf's in relationships from sex on first or second dates. If he asks, and gets weird about it, lie. It's a crap double standard that men can have sex with many women and be proud of it. I doubt …
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:21 PM
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I like to do things in a way you find funny, creative or entertaining. If you never hear back from them (it can be completely random) at least you had fun doing it. Upside is it usually filters out the women you wouldn't like anyway. The ones who respond you make them laugh a few times, ask them out.
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:17 PM
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You only met the guy once, are you that interested in him to be waiting for months? If the answer is yes: send him nudes randomly Be prepared to do some phone sex if required Tell him all the naughty things you want to do to him when he gets there. Be a good conversationalist. Make him laugh, ask questions. Otherwise just chill, keep chatting to him and wait. To be realistic, if I was him, I'd be hitting up all the girls in my State for a last hurrah, then coming to see how things work out with …
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:14 PM
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To her it is, but you'll do this at every wedding if you can get away with it haha
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:03 PM
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You're wrong. Outer game can be learnt fairly quickly, most of it in a couple of months. Inner game is the most important part. People avoid it because it's hard, but it's the most essential part. You don't need to be a zen master, it's about accepting who you are and taking action (therapy, meditation, exercise, eating healthily, etc etc) towards being a better person. You're gold at that point, very few men are ever doing that. Yes, you can only focus on what's in your control. You don't need …
/r/seduction15/10/24 06:02 PM
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Don't have any expectations is good. See it as practice for future dates. Get your routines down: clothes ironed, showered, smelling good, hair cut, facial hair trimmed, pubes trimmed, shoes clean, cars washed, cars clean inside, beds made, room is clean, phones charged, you have cash / cards ready, the location is suitable, you have a general idea of where to sit, you have a general idea of what you're ordering, you have some general / specific questions you want to know about her, you have som…
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:43 PM
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Dude, what a good way to meet women. I'm jealous. Obviously if you're getting mad eye contact, go talk to her passionately about photography stuff, tell her you need to show her "how to get the best photos on instagram, only the professionals know" We just need to go outside somewhere quiet. Give her the camera, let her fiddle around, as she won't know anything. Let me show you, get close behind you, reach my arms around. Hold her hand on the camera. Can you see through the zoom finder? Get clos…
/r/seduction15/10/24 05:32 PM
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Listen to her, ask questions. Really get inside her head and try to understand how she is thinking. Is it trauma? Bad ex? Is she leaving the country next week? Mum just died? Virgin? Didn't expect to have these strong feelings (scared)? Actively listen - be attentive / concerned summarise / paraphrase if you don't understand ask them to repeat show empathy Open body language, eye contact don't judge don't interrupt ask questions don't give advice unless asked. Women usually have good reason to s…
/r/seduction15/10/24 04:43 PM
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This is really bad advice. As the time goes, you date for months-years, her expectations goes up exponentially, she expects you to give her emotional support, help her with her tasks, buy her expensive gifts, take her on romantic dates and so on. Your life is intertwined, you make commitments, you have responsibilities to not only yourself anymore. You made promises, people have expectations. Do you know another time when you had no responsibilities? When you were a baby. Part of growing up is a…
/r/seduction15/10/24 04:29 PM
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I work a full time job where I only get along with one or two co-workers. I feel like I have let the dog-eat dog atmosphere of my job taint my personality a lot. I have also live a very lonely life but I am determined to become a better man no matter how hard it may be. I live in a small town and don't want the reputation of a clown. Your workplace seems toxic, or unfriendly. You live a lonely life, which can be added pressure if you're trying to make romantic connections. You live in a small to…
/r/seduction30/06/24 11:01 AM
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You're going to have to deal with your anxiety and limited social skills. Take actions to deal with your anxiety. Can you access therapy? Regularly meditate, journal, exercise? Find what works best for you to calm your anxiety. Be consistently maintaining your mental health. I tried talking about league of legends to this one girl and she acted amused so I kept talking about it for hours. Obviously nothing came of it and I heard from a mutual that she thought I was weird This is ironically what …
/r/seduction30/06/24 10:50 AM
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I do my best within my limit to fight this conditon. i hit to gym 5 days a week and i eat very clean. Whever i go on datees, i think it's obvious to girls that i do have some physical condtions. i dont make big deal out of it because it does not bother me. This is great. so i want to ask you redditor here.. Is having this kind of condtion dealbreaker for alot of females?? i know physical strenght is one of the natural attraction button for woman and it is evolutionary hardwired... but i do not h…
/r/seduction30/06/24 10:31 AM
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My old self thought if I did all of these things the women would come to me. Many times I wonder how I have the perfect setup to go and meet new women all over the country who i’ll never see again and not use it as a learning exercise. My fear of rejection and other underlying anxiety issues is so overwhelming that even with everything I have achieved it’s the scariest idea for me to even start. Please take actions to address your anxiety and self-esteem challenges. You don't need to "fix them" …
/r/seduction30/06/24 10:05 AM
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Humour is another form of expression. It can be used in many ways and convey a variety of emotions - as a crutch, a shield, a manoeuvre, flirty, silly, hateful. It's all about the context and how you use it. Don't be trapped into expressing yourself only one way. Don't be afraid to be in the moment and be vulnerable with someone. I'd encourage you to express yourself fully. If you like jokes, makes some jokes. As long as you're coming from a positive, mentally healthy, constructive frame of mind…
/r/seduction30/06/24 09:55 AM
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Recently single. I used to have so much game. Used to have 3 or 4 chicks in the rooster all the time. I keep meeting these chicks online. They’re really into me in the first date. Then it slowly gets less romantic as time goes on. They either kiss me and ghost or friend zone. So annoying! I’m kinda going for 10s these days. What do you want? If you want multiple chicks on a roster, be upfront about it. If you want a serious relationship, physical attraction is important, but it's not the most im…
/r/seduction27/06/24 11:36 AM
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You're using a strategy (act normal, express yourself well and have a good appearance) to talk to women you're interested in. A lot of the canned material and techniques are only useful for showing you other types of expression and what might work. It's not applicable and necessary to every situation. They are supposed to be destroyed and incorporated into what suits your style best. Ultimately, no style is where you want to be. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yCeduVJW9s
/r/seduction27/06/24 11:07 AM
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Be kind to yourself, lower your expectations to the floor, enjoy the moment, and have a small goal of making it a positive experience ("I want to make her smile").
/r/seduction27/06/24 11:00 AM
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I like that you're self-reflecting and spending time thinking about what type of person you want to be. That's really good and is uncommon, keep it up! This all sounds good. Try to be more specific with some of your goals (SMART acronym, if you haven't heard it look it up). You don't need to go too extreme on things, like never texting a female friend back. Think of something reasonable, like how often and how much time would you spend texting your male best friend or your sister? How many hours…
/r/seduction27/06/24 10:51 AM
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I'm sorry, but get good. You're competing against more options now, but you also have more options now.
/r/seduction27/06/24 10:17 AM
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These days I barely use game, i just try to act as normal as possible, let my intelligence shine through a bit and my looks do the rest. That is game though. You might be more relaxed, confident and now you're looking good too.
/r/seduction27/06/24 10:11 AM
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I prefer to get them of the phone / video call. If you're a literary God, you can send amazing messages.
/r/seduction22/03/24 02:06 AM
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We are hard wired to communicate sub-consciously our values, beliefs and boundaries. You need to be consciously managing / developing yourself and your internal state of mind. It's very easy to distract yourself by getting validation from women, instead of doing the painfully hard work of self-reflection, healing, self-acceptance and change. Too many guys in the scene place too much value on how a girl responds, a bad night is not getting laid, not getting a text back. The good night should be w…
/r/seduction19/03/24 12:39 AM
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You don't have enough data You misunderstood my point. "Not enough data" in the context of a dimly lit, noisy, crowded pub or club, it's difficult to see or hear, you and others are consuming alcohol. ​ I have circa 2 decades of being one of the most absurdly sexually successful people who doesn't work as a full time prostitute or work as a porn star with a significant career to speak of. Before my success I was a socially stunted, undiagnosed autistic guy who graduated high school with no exper…
/r/seduction16/03/24 09:31 PM
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You misunderstand me. My life has an abundance, but that isn't the reason I'm able to differentiate a clear understanding of social norms from a neurosis. I've listened to this voice since before I'd even gotten laid. There's a difference between ignoring basic social norms vs the nuances of analysing if a stranger is available to chat in a crowded, dimly lit, noisy venue where socialising occurs (bars, clubs). They are completely separate things. Even if you are making things super-awkward for …
/r/seduction16/03/24 08:35 PM
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So do you actually have a point on this subject that I haven't already addressed several posts ago? Yes, I disagree with your opinion in the example above. ​ Because I like my life to include as much good stuff and as little bad stuff as possible. I extend the same assumption to all people. Awkwardness is minor as far as negative experiences go, but I'm still not going to just inflict it on people when my life already has a superabundance of women in it. I'd be introducing negative shit onto thi…
/r/seduction16/03/24 07:22 PM
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I can highly recommend this.
/r/seduction16/03/24 06:53 PM
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I assure you, my life could not possibly include another awesome woman at this time. My entire life has been a parade of awesome women. Good for you, still avoiding my point though. There is a downside to what you are doing. You rely on guesstimating behaviors on a stranger, listening to a sub-conscious feeling that can be dramatically different depending on your state of mind. What if your sub-conscious tells you from now on, for every day of your life, that you're interrupting them? You should…
/r/seduction16/03/24 06:47 PM
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For example, do you think it's possible that 'the flinch' could be caused by a subconscious feeling that it is inappropriate to approach in that context? Both you and the example dismiss this feeling, with the only difference being how proudly ignorant you appear to be to the girl about your ill-timed approach. I would agree if men had high levels of emotional intelligence to assess subtle body language for interest, and had no issues approaching women. Unfortunately we generally suck at both an…
/r/seduction16/03/24 04:56 PM
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Seduction basically teaches you to become valuable in women's eyes: don't chase, be the prize, have options, etc. And, all of those are good frames of mind to have. The truth is that she will eventually get bored of you, or chose the next exiting man that comes into her life. Like the old saying goes, it is just your turn with her. If you use psychology to try to change a woman, it will just in up biting you in the end. If you believe foundationally with every woman, this will become a self-fulf…
/r/seduction15/03/24 04:41 AM
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No worries. Keep dating around, be honest with what you want and what you're doing. Find out what you really like in a partner. Let go of the relationships that don't serve you. Eventually you'll run into someone special.
/r/seduction14/03/24 09:06 AM
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Yes, there's a certain natural chemistry you can only get from meeting someone. I have the feeling you might need to self-reflect and examine if you're using dates as a tool for self-validation. You have a limited amount of time and energy in life. You need to know what you want and need, and filter people out accordingly. First dates are to see if you've got some attraction. Later dates to see if you're starting to get feelings. I recommend after a couple of dates (3 - 5) being honest and open …
/r/seduction14/03/24 07:24 AM
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Have you been in love before? Are you attracting the women with qualities and type of relationship you want? Some of the PUA / Dating advice can prevent good relationships from forming. The idea of avoiding vulnerability at all costs. However if you're starting / engaging in a longer relationship, this eventually will push the other person away as they don't feel close to you
/r/seduction14/03/24 03:53 AM
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You're not logically working to problem solve this issue. It is not impossible for you to be happy, even if you don't have any success dating. I hope one day you can change your perspective and work towards self reflecting and problem solving your issues. Wish you the best of luck.
/r/seduction14/03/24 03:48 AM
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I had multiple customer-facing jobs in my 20s. Talking to customers and talking to strangers are radically different. Telling a joke to a Grandma is practice for telling the same joke to a cutie. You can be dealing with a whole variety of people. If you're near College or Uni, plenty of cute girls would come by as well. Can you join social groups? Meetup.com has some heaps of different things to do. Currently running groups are popular singles spots in my city. Its pretty difficult to find other…
/r/seduction13/03/24 04:21 PM
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Because it's one of the biggest determinators in looks, especially if you're looking to date younger women I highly doubt you are open to challenging your beliefs, so this is not for you. It's for anyone else who might be struggling with hair loss. There are plenty of attractive people who have had hair loss, it was not a limiting factor. Jude Law, Bruce Willis, Henry Caville, Ben Affleck, John Travolta, Daniel Craig, Lebron James, Patrick Stewart. Many of these people were named "sexiest man al…
/r/seduction13/03/24 11:05 AM
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Well my only source of social interaction is at work. My social sills isn't my best attribute but lately I have been trying to improve by forcing myself to converse with women at work (co workers) and my approach isn't even flirtatious, just friendly intentions and for the same of my own benefit of improving, if it ends up in something more than that well cool. I like your overall strategy. I think you could improve on this by looking at socialising outside of work, or changing jobs to something…
/r/seduction13/03/24 07:32 AM
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I typically approach freely after mutual eye contact and say hi and just smile. Ask basic non threatening question to start the conversation and then roll into trying to break touch barrier and being flirty. Nothing wrong with this. I like the simplicity and directness. But after this point I usually hit a wall and would like to know how to escalate or is that really just it and I try to text her later to secure a date where then I would escalate. My dream is to same night close but I feel like …
/r/seduction13/03/24 07:11 AM
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Hey, I just want to say I have tried this method and it does not work to build happy, successful, long term relationships.
/r/seduction13/03/24 07:06 AM
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No it's not. Have you spent the time to self-reflect and challenge this belief?
/r/seduction13/03/24 06:49 AM
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I think you're displaying traits without understanding they come from deeper values. You can "fake it til you make it" and it will work for a time. It will give you the "feel" or an idea of where you need to get to. However you need to be building your inner game and your life to the point where your behaviors are an expression of your values. You're naturally not fawning over a girl because she is pretty, you can be naturally flirty, naturally sexual, etc. That is who you are. At some point you…
/r/seduction13/03/24 06:42 AM
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For 95% of guys, we don't have the emotional intelligence to tell. The biggest attractor is how she feels about you, she doesn't know that until you start talking to her. There are the top 5% of guys who are model attractive and get looks. It's just not applicable to an average persons experience. It's not worth thinking about. Even if it was true, you should be the one that decides if you are attractive. Things like, am I living a fulfilling life, am I doing things that challenge me and make me…
/r/seduction13/03/24 06:21 AM
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I tried volunteering at an art gallery(bc I like art) to make female friends and....that didn't happen. A big part being my severe anxiety. Have you considered getting a job that's customer facing? Builds a lot of social skills and helps with social anxiety. All I'm really seeking is chances and opportunities with women just as weird and alt as I am, but I have no idea how to ever get past my fear of rejection, esp at age 31... Gotta be in the same type of circles. I think volunteering at the ar…
/r/seduction13/03/24 06:11 AM
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You need to problem solve a process for calming yourself when you're feeling under stress. I find it helpful to pull your focus back to your senses, self-expression and enjoying the moment. Presuming you can see her in a queue, taking a second or two to enjoy a nice deep breath. Find something in your environment you really enjoy/appreciate, maybe it's a bird flying past the window, the feeling of wind on your face, the sun reflecting off a surface. Remember back to a time recently when you were…
/r/seduction13/03/24 05:44 AM
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Why would you care about this?
/r/seduction13/03/24 05:11 AM
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Hey, I've been thinking about this, and I've been reading this resource and skimming some others. I don't know how much of this applies to you, but it's what I'm working from. https://www.healthline.com/health/demisexual I'm sorry, I don't know if I have a troubleshooted solution for you. I'm not knowledgeable in your sexual orientation and applicable dating strategies. All I have are theories that you might have to play test. If I come across as rude, stupid or a possible bigot, please forgive …
/r/seduction10/03/24 05:39 AM
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problem is that I dont know who is attractive until I am so deep in the friendzone that I cant get out. Sorry, just to be clear, you're talking to someone and have no feelings of attraction until you are deep in a friendzone? I have also never been on a date. Are you saying you've never asked someone out before? Can you go to a speed dating night? ​ Are you religious, ex-religious by any chance?
/r/seduction09/03/24 05:09 AM
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Hey dude, it's okay to not be good at women right now. You're doing some really important stuff setting up your life to go to med school. You can chill on this and come back to it. Seems like you want everything right now. It's going to be okay as you go through a journey. You've got a lot of good stuff going on. You're going into the medical field which is dominated by women. Nurses will probably be hunting you down in the corridors. If you're desperate on this, don't let it affect your studyin…
/r/seduction08/03/24 06:34 AM
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Work on decluttering your brain before the date. Hours before the date - Do whatever you need to do to get in a positive state of mind. Meditate, play some music, watch a movie, go to the gym, do something creative, talk to friends / family. Weeks/Days before a date - Practice good mental and physical health. Do you need to Journal, meditate, socialise, volunteer? Do you have deeper issues and need to talk to a therapist? You should exercise / work out regularly and eat healthy foods. You own wh…
/r/seduction08/03/24 06:23 AM
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That's not how our society's generally function with hetrosexual dating. Women find it generally uncomfortable to pursue men in ways that a man would perceive it (because we're idiots). They will do things more subtly, like hair flips, moving hips, brief touches, "happen" to be next to you a lot, that will encourage you to pursue further. Much better just to take action if you feel attracted to someone. I have met women who will go up to guys and tell them that they are fucking them tonight. The…
/r/seduction08/03/24 06:05 AM
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You're friend zoned dude. If you value her as a friend, keep her as a friend. If you are attracted to her, I'd drop it and get back out dating asap.
/r/seduction08/03/24 05:46 AM
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Go there to have fun and an adventure. Take your shots at women you're attracted to, and accept that you have no direct control over if you'll get laid. Don't stress the things outside of your control. Maybe change your focus to things you can directly control. Like saying yes to everything, talking to everyone (male/female/fat/skinny), trying new things, trying to build a fun time with everyone. People will see a confident, fun, adventurous, care-free guy, who cares about those around him. It's…
/r/seduction08/03/24 05:39 AM
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I thirdly agree on going out for coffee 1st dates. You're finding it's unsustainable paying for food and drinks every time. If you're desperate for sex and paying $120 to talk to a strangers, why don't you go pay for sex with a prostitute? It would be much more simpler and is essentially what you want.
/r/seduction08/03/24 05:25 AM
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It seems like they’re into me and will give me their number or add me social where we keep talking. Things will be going great and feels like we’re dating until I actually ask them out one on one. Be more direct with your intentions when you're talking. Talk to them on the phone / video chat asap. See what they are like as a person, not just physically. Be honest, do you like them as a person? If you do like them, express what you like about them. If they reciprocate or give you a strong indicat…
/r/seduction07/03/24 08:07 AM
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How do you get yourself into those positions where you can even do those things? What I'm describing is something you should be comfortable "default" doing when you're attracted to someone (with the obvious caveats not at work, or housemates, or bestfriends wife, etc.). You can do this anywhere. It's an extension of you expressing your inner feelings for someone (whatever they are). As your feelings grow for them (as they reciprocate), your expressions grow. It is natural subconscious communicat…
/r/seduction07/03/24 07:41 AM
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It might be something simple as getting more (appropriately) physical. Sitting closer, holding eye contact, light touching, arm around her, getting lost at moments in what you find so attractive about her. There could be mental / emotional components you need to examine. Do you have any hang ups about sex? Or you "don't feel worthy" of women being sexually attracted to you? Intrusive negative thoughts during dates? Were you teased a lot as a kid? You might need to self reflect and weed out the t…
/r/seduction06/03/24 06:36 AM
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Be legitimately busy. Have other stuff going on your life that you really enjoy and love. Prioritise other things besides women and their attention. Don't put your life on hold because someone you are just getting to know might want to hang out. Set up dates with multiple women. The more likely you are out dating, the more likely you are going to find someone that you really like. Don't over-invest in your feelings until they've been earned (generally). A girl who is really into you will be aski…
/r/seduction04/03/24 05:40 PM
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It sounds like you're frustrated, but long term you're cruising. These other guys can only pick up your left overs. Keep approaching, keep making moves, it will pay off. I'd challenge you to accept the disruption in momentum and flow as an opportunity to get better. Sharpen up your wit, roast out other guys (including your friend) who try to walk up. Other ideas could be make her so into you that she ignores them completely, or try to isolate asap for deep chat, or charm and enlist the help of h…
/r/seduction20/02/24 04:54 PM
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Watched 15mins, seems like legit good stuff.
/r/seduction20/02/24 04:16 PM
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She already likes you bud. Relax, have fun, don't be too weird.
/r/seduction20/02/24 04:03 PM
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Be comfortable with things being uncomfortable for a couple of seconds. Everyone will be fine. Shoot your shot. Life is too short for regrets.
/r/seduction20/02/24 03:44 PM
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Go see a Doctor, tell them the issue and get it investigated, just to be safe. There are some health issues that could cause this, get it ruled out. ​ Stress is a common cause of sexual dysfunction. Other causes include: sexual trauma psychological issues diabetes heart disease or other medical conditions drug use nerve damage alcohol use certain medications
/r/seduction20/02/24 02:42 PM
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As you continue, please consider using the Gibbs Reflective Cycle. Really helps you review and learn. https://www.mindtools.com/ano9qiu/gibbs-reflective-cycle ​ Just to give some context before I get into my field report that I am still talking to the woman that I really like and have been hanging out with her for over 8 months now. But since she is way older than me and has a kid, we realized that this “situationship” is not gonna go anywhere and we are just living in a fantasy. I really like t…
/r/seduction19/02/24 02:35 PM
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I'd rely on your strengths and become more expressive in describing visual details. Read some more books in general and get an idea for how your favourite authors tell stories. Not everything needs names, they can be inserted later. For things related to you, it's not a big deal. You will repeat a lot of the same stories, friends names as you get relaxed and chatty with more and more people. Visualise in your mind the things that are happening to girls you are talking to. You don't need to know …
/r/seduction19/02/24 02:16 PM
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Keep going bro, we've all been there. It can be challenging. Stick with the process, put in the time. You never know what could be happening in people's lives, don't take it personally (harder to say than to feel). You will forget the rejections, but the lessons you learn will last forever. As a way to improve your skills, can recommend the Gibbs reflective cycle. Especially if you have a tricky interaction or are emotional. https://www.mindtools.com/ano9qiu/gibbs-reflective-cycle Do you have a …
/r/seduction19/02/24 01:52 PM
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Basically you've got other things more important in your life that you care deeply about. You've got your own set of considered / tested, morals / principles ("frame") that you live by and strive to follow and be better. Her just being a hot girl doesn't mean too much, she needs to earn your long term respect and attention over time to stay around you (not in a snobby way, just normally through reciprocity, natural chemistry, just like everyone else). Getting the approval of a random hot girl / …
/r/seduction19/02/24 01:19 PM
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It's great when you can setup your place nice, have lots of things to talk about, show (musical instrument, photos, memorabilia, books, friends, cute pet, etc). Makes transitioning to sexy times (if you want), more easier.
/r/seduction08/02/24 04:05 AM
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I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a Bush | This Morning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEYuNKVW0Ns&pp=ygUpaG9tZWxlc3MgbWFuIHNsZWVwcyB3aXRoIGdpcmwgZXZlcnkgbmlnaHQ%3D
/r/seduction08/02/24 03:49 AM
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Homeless Millennial Survives By Picking Up Women Every Night | Bustle https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmav517MQJc
/r/seduction08/02/24 03:48 AM
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If you're a confident masculine burger flipper who is studying law, IT, or starting his own business. It would not be an issue. If you have really good game, burger flipper would still land rich girls.
/r/seduction08/02/24 03:47 AM
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Brigitte Macron and Emmanuel Macron: Brigitte Macron, the wife of French President Emmanuel Macron, is 24 years older than him and was his drama teacher when he was in high school. She comes from a wealthy family, while Emmanuel came from a middle-class background. Despite the age gap and wealth difference, they started dating and eventually got married. Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham: Oprah Winfrey, the American media proprietor, talk show host, and philanthropist, has been in a long-term rel…
/r/seduction08/02/24 03:44 AM
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Great post, this has been my experience too.
/r/seduction10/06/23 11:46 PM
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Did you read what he said, it's difficult for him to find peace
/r/seduction10/06/23 11:42 PM
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I think there are more than two options. Being honest with what you want, what you are capable of providing, and being very clear and direct. It would be a moral dilemma if every girl wanted to 'go deep into you', but that's not the case. She's an individual with her own little world going on. Also how much can she trust you if you sleep with her and obfsucate your in intentions? Girls aren't dumb, many have had a similar emotional playbook from other guys. My opinion it's a bit fuck boy-ish rea…
/r/seduction28/05/19 01:16 AM
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Guys can be intimidated trying to talk to the hot girl in a group. Have you tried standing alone? Maybe standing near a guy you fancy? What about flirty eye contact from across the room? Maybe going out as the least attractive one again? haha.
/r/seduction14/09/14 07:31 PM
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I don't think you got rejected, it sounds like she was legitimately busy. I love how your mind works and put you into action, that's pretty cool. Sounds like you're doing a lot of good things! :) You could have angled it as a way to help her study better (5min coffee break). Don't go into full details on the sell, tap dance and tell a vivid story of how it'll make her ace all her exams, she'll remember new childhood memories etc. Just 5 minutes is all, and assume with confidence she's already in…
/r/seduction14/09/14 07:08 PM
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Congrats on the progress :) My personal experience - either you drag her out somewhere to fuck or deepen the interaction ("omg, we have such intense chemistry, who are you"). Either way you can't fuck her on the dance floor, and need to lead her into something else. Wasn't so sure calling her a dirty girl in that situation, too intense and sexual, fired off her social fears of looking slutty and probably freaked her out. Sounded like a great night!
/r/seduction04/09/14 05:12 AM
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I'd see a psychologist while working on it yourself.
/r/seduction23/07/14 04:02 PM
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Girls want to kiss a guy on the first date, they love the idea. They'll go back to their girl friends and one of the first questions will be, 'did you kiss him?' Romantic novels, movies, even Disney are full of passionate encounters. They won't feel slutty if you connect with them & it feels good, you accept them as who they are and are sexually and otherwise comfortable with yourself. They'll be so excited and happy they got to kiss you, girls love that feeling (being a great kisser helps too, …
/r/seduction22/07/14 06:26 PM
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Please don't let your anxiety get the better of you and your innate potential. Please don't attribute one bad experience with every girl, texting can be such a good thing. If you've had girl friends / sisters, you'll know how sometimes girls just have a bad day and read a text the wrong way, they forget, they lose their phone, they can't pay their phone bill etc etc. If a particular girl doesn't get back to you, it doesn't mean anything. If a lot of girls aren't getting back to you, that's a dif…
/r/seduction22/07/14 05:54 PM
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Wow, good work! That took courage man. You'd be an awesome dude to hang out with, the girl just didn't know it yet ;)
/r/seduction22/07/14 05:23 PM
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Trust what you did on the first date and focus on the 'process' and your long term goals. Sounds like you like this girl, which is good! Give yourself permission to use it as a learning situation. Don't be afraid of 'fucking up texts', because of the nature of the medium some girls read waaaay to much into texts and they fuck it up themselves. I guess the catch 22 is you don't want to come off as needy, but she went on a date with you. Girls would have been able to feel that from you, and it may…
/r/seduction22/07/14 05:11 PM
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By the end of the first date the girl should know she has a connection with you (in some way), if she hasn't invested you (and you in her!) by then it's generally not worth your time and energy. My own personal marker is have I kissed her by the end of the date, and shared some light kino. If you feel like texting her, text her. If she replies, great. It's another opportunity to build the energy for the next date. If not, no big deal. I think it's a mistake to wait for girls to text you back (wh…
/r/seduction22/07/14 04:09 PM
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I can understand where this is coming from, but aren't you limiting yourself by preemptively rejecting girls? Is this a temporary tactic to prevent any over investment in girls? You don't have to text them every time, but maybe you think of them, the date or something silly that happened and you just send them a quick text, with not much thought on them replying... Is that there where you want to be? Cause girls are human beings too, they have their own shit to deal with and problems in their li…
/r/seduction22/07/14 01:20 PM
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Something similar - I like to make up simple story lines and act them out through ridiculous dance moves (whilst dancing to the beat!)
/r/seduction03/05/12 03:25 AM
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My prayers for a threesome are with you.
/r/seduction22/04/12 06:18 PM
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Here's my opinion as a mid twenties guy. The girl who's 17, stop seeing her so much and flirt with her more. Tell her she's lucky she's got a boyfriend right now. You're both young so it's unlikely that she'll be with him for a long time. In the meantime make yourself busy by doing cool shit and hitting on some other girls (maybe even her friends). Mutual friend girl - organise a cool party somewhere with friends. Be cool, hit on her. If you're in a country where drinking age is 18, get her drun…
/r/seduction22/04/12 06:15 PM
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Hilarious, maybe too brutal though?
/r/seduction22/04/12 05:15 PM
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My humble two cents: Tactically: If I can't think of anything, I just shut up and look at her like she's a little funny/weird. I can ignore it by immediately changing topics, or if she persists it gives me time to think while she validates her reasoning. If she keeps mentioning it or it's a big thing, you'll have to deal with it directly in some way. Strategically: Why wouldn't she be attracted to you over a little thing as height/hair? You're awesome. If she truly doesn't like you for your phys…
/r/seduction22/04/12 05:09 PM
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