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mmerijn/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 12:07 PM
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Yacht parties and dating apps are both terrible places to meet men interested in committing to you. You have to understand the man's perspective, men with wealth and/or friends with wealth need to watch out for gold-diggers. Any woman hunting for partners on a yacht is highly suspect of being a gold digger. I'd also generally advice reflecting on what you think is the men you value the most (HVM). It can give you some great insights into why you end up with men that only care about sex. For exam…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 09:33 PM
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I think you should make this comment a post. OP is asking for advice, and well, while questions can be helpful as advice I don't think this suits there. I do hope you get solid advice from some of the ladies here if you do turn it into a post. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 03:27 PM
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"Wouldn't it be funny if I actually tried this! ... wait, why is it working?!" - a lot of people that swallowed the various red pills. You aren't alone in this one Mrs. Sunshine. Many of us started like that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 07:22 AM
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I never understood why liberals push that conservatism and so-called sexism stems completely from white American or European cultures. Because they want to blame all their own personal/social-groups faults on our cultures, so they don't have to take responsibility and change their positions and way of life. If they have to accept that traditional beliefs are actually quite good, then they suddenly have to blame themselves for their miserable lives. It's much easier to just blame the culture of t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 07:19 AM
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I'd add to your comment that some men are so good at pretending they lie themselves into acting like they believe it, only for the resentment to later come up in the relationship. Very few men truly don't care, most men are willing to compromise and then later can learn to love it if their fears are assuaged. (can, not will). Though those compromises most HVM won't have to make, so take that with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 12:02 PM
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I find it important to correct some things here: "I get worried that men will think I’m at the wall when I turn 23 and leave me for a younger girl." - The red pill views like these you see on places like TRP are from men still in the red pill rage phase. Typically people consider 30-35 the wall, maybe 40 at the latest. Most men that are beyond the rage phase are more tempered. I'd give you some names but honestly I don't think it is useful for you to see from the mens side yet. You really need t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 12:57 PM
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I am a bit disappointed on the advice given in this post so I'll just give it a shot hoping that at least some of it will be of value to you: You're 30, not 300 years old. The harsh reality is that you're down a bit on the relationship/sexual market. But it is just that: a bit. Enough that you need to put in a bit more effort, but you're acting as if you've already lost all chances at your desired relationships. 6 months of really being dedicated towards growth can compensate for most of that if…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 08:48 AM
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Leave room for serendipity when implementing a tight, goal-oriented search for a high-quality partner. This is not meant to contradict, but rather temper the above advice. I mention this because so many successful couples arose from individuals who would never have expected "on paper" to make a good pair. Don't be lax about red flags, just make sure your preconceived notions don't disqualify an unexpectedly great match. I believe this underpins a more generally applicable notion: Understand the …
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 12:08 PM
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Grieving is a process. Take your time and take your space. You're not responsible for his pain, though if that isn't enough to convince you that you don't need to feel guilty about it know this: You tried your best to give him what he needed and he used it. He took your gift and ripped it apart for his own satisfaction. That's not your fault.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 03:39 PM
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You described it perfectly, u/DelicateDevelopment. Though I would say that you were definitely more kind in talking about that man than I would be. ​ But there are man who are just unable to look at you as individual without projecting everything they heard on you and to me it sound as if he would be such a case. Those are unreliable and typically immature men. Notice that every single problem he had with women he used as an excuse to push and control you (OP) into changing to someone he wanted …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 01:18 PM
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I was a victim of abuse as a child by my father. No fault divorce did not help in it. The truth of the matter is evil people exist, creating a fake safety blanket of no fault divorce just gives the false idea of security, which prevents many people from putting effort into the vetting process. You see the only answer to these people is a community coming together to keep their eye out for abusive people. This however only happens when the problem is something that they fear themselves and the co…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 10:29 PM
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I'd like to add that she didn't do anyone any wrong to him in this situation, she was honest and open and she should honestly be proud of that. It's not easy to admit what you consider to be your past failures, that deserves praise. It's just a shame that it might cause a problem in her relationship. Better now than it getting out after a 10 year long relationship, but still a shame.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 11:18 AM
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Glad to have been of help.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 09:14 PM
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To answer your question on vetting first: Truly good vetting is done through experience and learning about people. Red flags are a shorthand for when you don't know based on the experience from others. That's also why "everything is a red flag nowadays", it's because different groups of people consider different things as bad in a partner. The rules of dating change based on what you want out of it. If you want casual dating then having someone who bonds and gets too attached to you is a bad sig…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 10:45 AM
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Not the guy you were responding to but this one stuck out to me. I would ideally love to be a homemaker, working part-time but having my man take care of the majority of the bills while I work part-time so I can use those funds for fun and for savings. Finding a partner so you can use your funds for fun while he uses his to help you is kind of telling of the way she sees her future partner.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 05:43 AM
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You do have higher odds of meeting them, but social standards shift quickly nowadays so who does and doesn't date on the workplace I don't know. I'd also say that the surgeons you'd want to marry wouldn't want be explicitly looking for a model, they'd care about appearance obviously but the kind of balanced partner you'd want is themselves also looking for a balanced partner / friendships. That likely is also a part of the reason why the person I was responding to knows a lot of surgeons who mar…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 02:14 PM
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I'd add to that however that the education isn't as important as that you're interesting. You don't want a partner significantly below your level, but whether said partner has a phd or is simply a very curious and intelligent person capable of holding a conversation doesn't really matter. Also, you're a lot more likely to meet a surgeon when you're working with them. So for a part that can be explained that surgeons are busy men and having most of their quality time (not just passing a note or g…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 12:45 PM
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Part of the red pill is the awareness of our part in creating our own misery. That is a difficult thing to do for men because basically every part of society seems hell bent on making sure men don't see or even hear of any of the red pill truths stated here and in other red pill forums. To support my point I'll give you an example: "women are hypergamous, so build your career and don't tolerate hypergamous behavior like regular girls nights out at bars with single friends out". The common story …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 04:08 PM
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A little thing I'd like to note, the red pill men you're likely finding are those that are either in the red pill rage phase or trolls pretending to be red pilled. Red pilled men generally take the rule "shut up and put in the work" very seriously, they don't call themselves red pilled in public.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 02:26 PM
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I don't intend to do this forever, only until I can get my confidence back and work on myself fully so I can be confident he'll stick with me. Confidence is gained by facing your fears and overcoming them. Soothing your fears by continually seeking security from an app only worsens it. All therapy for fear related problems require some kind of voluntary exposure to the fear and a willingness to brave it. You won't regain your confidence the way you're doing it right now. You may regain your comf…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 09:48 AM
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He probably took you at face value when you said its for the sake safety. Though in the off chance that isn't the case, the reason he'd be silent is because he is waiting for you to come talk to him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 09:43 AM
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It's alright to grieve your mistake, but your fears seem to be unfounded. I suspect your fear comes more from the hamster in your head running wild than from legitimate danger. So here is my recommendation: I want you to brave your fears and work to improve your relationship. Don't change the path, but work on qualities you can provide. Work to become better than you were given the mistake you have made, not to undo a mistake. Mistakes cannot be undone, they can only be learned from. So, what do…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 05:09 PM
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And when the source was given they spoke no more, for doing so would admit their wrongdoing.
/r/PussyPass05/04/23 03:25 PM
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And surprisingly the less I complained, the less I felt I had to complain about and my mood naturally improved to the point where that smile at the end of the day was always genuine and my husband was able to come home to a positive environment and felt like his day of work was worth it because his wife and kids were happy and taken care of at home. I am a man but I just had to say that reading this felt so wholesome to me. You found the truth of mental health: by bearing suffering for a purpose…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 07:53 PM
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I see what you did now. You removed the nuance and painted it in the worst picture possible. Which fair enough I am guilty of doing with people I don't like as well, but completely removes the point from the argument. Your statement says if we take the implication in this context along with it: "women who don't want to be the victim of the crime of sexual harassment are hypocrites if they wear makeup" Now lets take a look at the discussion being held, because context matters. The discussion bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:56 PM
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Then do that. Because I believe I recall that interview and I remember a hell of a lot more nuance than what you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:24 PM
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I mean an acknowledgement that you hadn't thought of that before would have been nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:36 PM
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"attention" and "sexual harassment" are not the same thing. Women who complain about men looking at them after doing their makeup for hours are hypocritical. You're trying to look good for a reason, if you didn't want anyone to look at you then you'd try to blend in. How do we know that? Because some of the people actually traumatized try to do exactly that, and they put on makeup to look LESS attractive. You conflating attention and harassment is one of the typical manipulations people do of hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:33 PM
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A little perspective from a guy: my gut instinct is screaming "this guy is trouble". The words on their own are dubious but something a dumb young guy might do, something they would immediately stop after a conversation. But the specific examples you use are something very specifically meant to hurt. What he is doing sounds to me like something called love bombing. Men do not typically express love in the same way women do. Now some men obviously do, but those men are typically more empathetic a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:22 AM
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As a guy I have to say: Just talk about it. If he can he likely doesn't mind picking up a few chores to lighten the load for you. If he can't you two will have to discuss to find the best solution you two can think up. Best of luck and I hope you have a good talk with your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 07:58 PM
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Don't let your desire for a more seemingly more desirable relationship make you mess up the one you have. If you keep looking for the better thing you'll eventually be left with nothing. That's the warning against hypergamy (I think).
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 11:46 PM
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ahnd I know men prioritize beauty above everything else Now hold your horses there, we may be shallow the first time we meet you but I assure you we care a lot about your personality afterwards. All jokes aside, looks are only important the first 15 minutes if your attitude is bad or the first few nights of fun times if it isn't. Your personality has to carry the rest of the relationship. At least that's how it goes for any man with a spine and some self-worth. This to me sounds a lot more like …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 11:43 PM
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Let's not forget that 6 figures and above 5 10 aren't the only standards you will have. Not a psycho, probably somewhat socially well respected, has a click with you (not someone who you can't understand at all), etc. Those small seemingly innocuous standards quickly add up. If 80% of people on average among standards fit one of them and you have 5 of them then you quickly get to 33%. And most people, especially women, have a lot more than 5 and much fewer men will fit those than 80%. Add that t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 10:35 AM
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No, honestly it creeps me out a bit. Not them being ambitious, but the whole idealizing of power and influence in a relationship. You should be together because you love each other, not because having two grade A lawyers would make a Power Couple.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 12:53 PM
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I am going to have to second that, a career driven wife would absolutely put me off, and as you say most men tend to either not care or dislike it as well (though leaning towards the don't care category).
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:33 AM
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I am a male, but I want to try my hand at answering this question anyways. You aren't going to be able to protect them from sexual content. You can try and limit it, but you can't stop it. Also, by stopping it you're preventing them from learning through experience. Which leads to my next point. You are doing an excellent job talking about the subject, but personal experience and leading by example are the best forms of teaching. Be the kind of person that your children need to become to end up …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 09:21 PM
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You cannot rule out the correlation between intelligence (a trait that is desirable to many) and education being the cause of why all these people have college educated women, and that if a not so smart woman was given a college education it would not increase her chances at getting a good partner.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:10 AM
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I would prefer caring but politely disagreeing, but I'll take the not banning.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/18 06:37 PM
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Don't tell me what is "well established knowledge", it is no more well established than scientology and I am sure as hell not about to believe them on their word. No, I will judge for myself whether their arguments have any merit or not and if TRP keeps censoring certain opinions to the point I no longer find new and innovative new ideas here then as grateful, as I am for what it has given me, I will just leave for another place where I can find these.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/18 06:32 PM
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You can't, you can trick that part of you that speaks to others; the part that says "I am confident" when someone asks, but you are simply incapable of making the physiological changes occur that come with self-confidence. These things stem from a deeply biological system that applies to animals as unrelated to us as lobster, so just like how you can't make yourself fall deeply in love with an ugly disgusting piece of trash lying on the wayside you also can't just become self-confident — just im…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/18 11:19 AM
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You hit the nail on the head, when I talk with a girl who and to quote you: " drink in excess, and be very sexually forward with the men they wanted attention from." I am certainly not interested in any further interactions; these interactions are akin to a salesman convincing me of how low his prices are. Sure, I am pretty excited at the notion of getting something for cheap, but the only reason for which you would sell at such a low price is if the product isn't worth it, or you are trying to …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 06:23 AM
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Glad to have been of help.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 03:59 PM
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Regardless of whether he loved you before he certainly loved you less after being scolded multiple times, if you want him to change then you have to inspire him to change and for that you have to start with yourself. On another note one thing is certain: You won't know whether he loves you while you are stuck in the self-doubting mindset of "does he love me?" —you can't see him for who he is while you are too busy thinking about yourself. You should first stop scolding him, this is not going to …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 03:47 PM
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if I scold him for long enough about it. He doesn't really think on his own. He doesn't really observe me or notice when I'm not feeling good. I basically have to tell him OVER AND OVER AGAIN how he can help me. I also feel like he's being forced to care about me. You are scolding him when he doesn't look at you. Instead of being the lady that inspires his love and desire to coddle you, you are the one forcing him to care about you. I don't know whether your relationship is salvageable, but if y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 07:46 AM
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Express to him what you do respect or what you are grateful for. Acknowledge what he does contribute to the family instead of what he doesn't. I would like to correct one important thing which is: Don't tell you respect him, show that you respect him, telling him is still good but you should focus more on the showing because when your actions and your words don't align it hurts their trust in you instead. You however can't force yourself to completely respect him, but you can change your attitud…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 05:25 AM
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I am a little bit late on this but your comment seemed a little off to me, let me explain what I think you may be misunderstanding: Self-esteem is not only the single biggest predictor of successful behavioral change That is incorrect, our measures of self-esteem are the biggest predictor of these factors. This sounds like merely something semantic but allow me to explain my point with an example of something similar: Willpower. If you are to try and find this thing we call willpower (or any oth…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:02 AM
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I don't know what your best option is but I can confirm the culture in the Netherlands for you: Women classically work part time and most of our society is build to accommodate for that so you will have quite an easy time achieving that (professional) goal here while still going for the classic wife route. However if you want to find intelligent and competent men you have to both makes yourself attractive to them and be in places where you can frequently interact with them (I would also recommen…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 02:11 PM
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What you say is true but accepting it as inevitable will prevent you from improving yourself as much as you otherwise could. Just because you have a disadvantage doesn't mean you can't become better it just means you have to put in more effort (and if you are motivated that is something you will have plenty of).
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 07:07 PM
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> Getting laid is fun, but imagine if we put the pressure on women the same way they put it on us. The same pressure to look good, be successful, and have multiple things going on. That would require men to stop fucking and dating anything with a hole. Women who are in all honesty, terrible human beings still have sex, attention, and validation handed to them on a silver platter. Therefore, there's no pressure for them to change in the SMP. Why would they? Surprisingly you can achieve quite a lo…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/18 04:57 AM
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I bet on the women part because they lately have had this strong SJW moralizing tendency (arresting people for tweets and funny nazi pug dog video?) so I wouldn't be surprised if this is another one of those stunts.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 07:22 AM
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If that is the case that is good but if they wanted to try it out to see if it works then you might want to have a more representative sample size and not just women because otherwise you still don't know if the results worked just because of this specific demographic, because of that I don't think this is merely testing out and is instead a "save the women" virtue signal.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 07:09 AM
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Well, the question is if it is about saving money why only do it for women and not also for men?
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 07:09 AM
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This will take practice. People test each other. It is just how humans are. Men test, women test, deal with it. Coming to terms with this is the first step forward. Know that it is not personal most of the time. If it feels that way, it may be that you are acting or reacting in a certain way as to elicit more of this disrespect. I hope you have someone close to you who can help point out the ways that you may behave that cause this. I am not saying you are wrong, or you deserve anything, but tha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 12:24 PM
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Too much working causes inefficiencies because of a lack of rest and "leisure time". The reason why rest is important is because for one thing your mind works terribly on even as little as 1 hour rest (and a lack of rest also hampers your ability to recognize how poorly you are actually functioning), and leisure time is important because it allows for more "change" to occur eg. you learn new skills, different mindsets, and other people outside of your bubble confront you on stupid things you (an…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 02:09 PM
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Treat him like a child and laugh it off; you only make that kind of statement if you can't think of anything better. The actual statement doesn't matter that much just be calm and confident while saying it in a way that treats him like a little kid.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 04:06 PM
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The answer is DGAF while still being able to read the social cues and not going too far all the time, to quote u/nebder a few comments up: everything is a test but not everything is a test” You have to learn when to dial back jerkboy shittest smashing and when to ramp it back up. There will be pockets in the seduction phase where it’s not powertalk or shittests and they’re legit questions.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/18 10:26 AM
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It isn't just social media and the internet, exponential growth in technology has forced extreme and not well adapted changes to occur in society. You can compare it to putting extremely high evolutionary pressure (a large change in environment forces rapid change in species), we have completely overhauled our environment in less than 2 centuries so the fact women and men are not well adapted to the new environment is hardly a surprise.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/18 11:31 AM
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Your story made me laugh so hard and put a smile on my face on a bad night, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 06:37 PM
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I would make a compromise: Do openly walk around with them for at least one day and be confident about the mistakes you made and what you have learned from them, then afterwards go to remove them. For your children your attitude to yourself is crucial to forming the way they look at themselves. You obviously have to love them with all your heart, but you can only love them as much as you love yourself so removing those tattoos is worth it. At worst if your children really need that money then wh…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 03:30 PM
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This is something I can help with: Don't try to decide on the amount of eye contact, people on the autistic spectrum try to do this and it always comes off as creepy; it a common mistake. In fact, don't try to fake things by consciously making eye contact because it always give people the feeling that something is off. Instead, you should try to be sincere, pay attention to the person / people you are with, and try to be the best person you can be in that moment without worrying about what they …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 06:28 AM
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If it was just that stereotype then people would care a lot more about the massive amount of male workplace deaths because of a lack of safety, but sadly enough nothing ever changes while when a single woman dies in any of these places and all of a sudden the public is in an outrage and before you know it safety regulations are put in place.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 05:08 AM
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It is not wrong to think about your emotions, it is wrong to accept your emotions as true. The problem with the sentence "how can I find the motivation to X" is that he accepts that he does not have motivation to do X; when you accept such a statement as true then you need to find an external way to "fix" that when a better solution is to say "Well, ok, I noticed that I have a hard time getting up." and then take small steps towards X in a pace that feels acceptable eg. running: You stop slouchi…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 05:02 AM
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For one: Cheating gets partners pissed and your reputation ruined, more often than not great women will hear warnings from their friends about you if you do get caught cheating so any chance at better future partners are ruined (Reputation 101). Next: You don't get to devote time and build a worthwhile relationship up with any of them, our instinct wants a lot of partners but as a human we also have a desire for a deeper connection and you cannot fulfill both at once (some people never realize t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 04:54 PM
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The literal exact opposite: The desire for younger more attractive partners, and preferably be surrounded by them. Just like women have to rein in their desire for multiple partners so do most guys learn early on that "No, Jimmy, you can't have five attractive girlfriends.", though a lot of guys blame it on not being attractive enough some do realize that it is just a dumb idea to have multiple partners at once for, well... obvious reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 04:37 PM
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I needed to read this post today, thank you OP and have a nice day.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 03:51 PM
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The idea behind this is that he will take what you've said to heart, and act on it as necessary. Continuing to bring it up will only wear him down and may come across as nagging (even if you don't mean it that way). It doesn't just wear him down for now, you can bet that he will let any following minor requests go in one ear out the other because he is tired of listening to requests.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 05:57 PM
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I would add two things: Listen to your gut but figure out WHY your brain is telling you that; and check whether it is true by challenging it on occasion, maybe it really is just in your head.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/18 06:25 AM
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If that is how you read it then women are babies that can't even get through their day without someone affirming (talking positively) them. I propose neither, humans just have needs and if you hold contempt for others needs then you better be ready when they will completely disregard yours.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 05:17 AM
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Don't confuse male status and female status. Angela Merkel is a politician, this is a competence (policy / lying) based job which is more male oriented; males have to be useful to society which a politician is supposed to be. On the other hand a model or a celebrity does not provide anything and you climb to status through your attractiveness and your social skills. Status in the female hierarchies creates confidence in the sex / relationship, where male dominance hierarchies does the same men. …
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 09:37 AM
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Not quite, but it isn't like men who initiate a divorce are less likely to be beta. I would say that men who are already married and turn red pilled are more likely to turn their marriage for the better (in the long run) thus decrease the chance of a divorce in general, but I would say that the balance of who initiates would remain the same. Women have a lower threshold before they give into their emotions, while red pilled men will be more willing to work to improve before risking losing half t…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 08:24 AM
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50s women are well and truly out of the game, but if you are 50s - 60s man you have got all the women of a similar age ready for you. That is for multiple reasons but after 60 years old men die off a lot more than women creating a disparity, competent men at that age also have the advantage of still being attractive to younger women (because the attractiveness of a man is more related to character / behavior) so he has a lot larger pool to pick from truly denying 50s - 60s year old women from ge…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 07:35 AM
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Trust me, that 30% is just as beta as the rest of them (I can tell you that from experience with my father). They are just a lot more impulsive / easy to anger, and not long after they leave they jump right back into the arms of another woman to deal with the hurt of leaving a (toxic) relationship.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/18 07:28 AM
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Welcome to the red pill; if it works we share it (whether you like it or not).
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 06:37 PM
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Thank you for the compliment.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 04:07 PM
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To be quite frank the matters you have stated in your responses are all preferences and so very minor that the fact that you can't let them go captures my attention. Maybe there is some other underlying issue (objective or emotional), because it would be very strange if you have a hard time letting such minor differences slide while in a relationship. Now that I think about it, might it be your lack of assertiveness that is bothering you? With that I mean it is not the fact that your voice isn't…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 01:50 PM
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What you are asking for is a set of values for what is "good", or what should be aimed for. What he said is that you should spend your time wisely while chasing said good, or in other words time is something that can be(come) of value. What is good is something that every individual has to figure out for themselves, because what we value is something innate, eg. when one day old babies are shown a picture of a human and a picture of an object they will linger on one longer than on the other, typ…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 10:22 AM
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It may be a stretch of the term, but I'm of the opinion that life is >really just an elaborate shit test, designed to screen out the >unworthy who aren't strong and intelligent enough to shape >reality for themselves. A set of tests designed to discover the most competent based on a set of values, a hierarchy. I think what you describe as reality is "society"; a shit test is a way to test for value, a part of society is in a sense a repeated set of tests designed to discover your potential value…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 10:12 AM
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The need for harmony is a personality trait of the big five personality traits (google it) called agreeableness. It is a lot more prominent in women, if it is so bad it is disrupting your life then I recommend going to an expert (psychologist / psychiatrist). However if you really don't want to, which I am going to assume because you went to reddit before you went to a psychologist, then here is what you can do: Try to do things you are normally afraid of (because you are afraid to lose them) bu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 08:24 PM
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With the right person being virtuous is worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 08:53 PM
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From my experience there are a few reasons why parents don't talk about these subjects: 1. They don't think their kids will understand. 2. It feels uncomfortable. 3. They are not consciously aware of this reality (they feel it but they don't think about it). 4. and they don't know when and how to bring up the subject. These are the only ones I can think up from the top of my head.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 06:45 AM
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Good luck, I myself was quite a picky eater not long ago and I am a bit jealous of hearing your boyfriend getting to eat such food, so I hope this will help him appreciate that food more.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 09:33 PM
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I can't help you much besides give you a short description of a therapy for people who have such an extreme reaction to food they dislike that they can eat nothing but one food, and that "therapy" is so simple stupid you can hardly call it that. First: Take the food he likes, compare it to the food you would like to cook, then see how you can change the food he likes to taste a teeny tiny bit like what you would like cook, not so much that he would dislike it, but enough that he will taste a sig…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 07:40 PM
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To sum up the first half of your comment: "He is contradicting himself" and "He said sorry and that he was wrong, but that does not mean he is actually sorry and thinks he is wrong!". That is very weak emotional thinking, you did not point out anything in his words that actually showed a lack of regret, only that you did not think/feel it did. Also, he very much promotes what you are doing with your niece and nephew like that (though he prefers if you do that and have children of your own; I am …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 05:32 AM
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Thank you so much for writing this. Though Jordan Peterson actually specifically states that (success" equals happyness) is not what he is saying, and I want to correct you here because making strawman arguments about others is something that very much works AGAINST seeing the truth, what he always says is "Working towards a meaningful goal helps stave off the unbearable suffering of life" and "What you should be seeking is not happiness but meaning, do something worthwhile with your life BY YOU…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 02:44 PM
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Competence* Strength is just one way of being competent; intelligence tends to be a requirement for all forms of competence though.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 02:30 PM
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Living in the Netherlands I can tell you why it doesn't happen here as much: Though marriage and LTR is fucked it is not remotely as fucked as it is in USA. One example being divorce and children, unless the kid is either over 12 (and can choose for themselves) or the other parent has died both parents will always get to have at least a weekends worth of time to spend with their children (even if they are murders or have abused and/or attempted to kill their children which is at a severe detrime…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 02:18 PM
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To sum up your problems: You get attacks that include a mixture of depressions, panic, and lashing out at your boyfriend. I want to clear something up for you, your problems may have a cause but if you have not identified what it is in all of this time then you are not going to find it. I have nearly a decade worth of experience in dealing with extreme anxiety and attacks and one thing that holds true both for me and everyone I have met is that IT DOES NOT ALWAYS HAVE A CLEAR CAUSE! Or if you re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 05:57 PM
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To sum up your problems: You get attacks that include a mixture of depressions, panic, and lashing out at your boyfriend. I want to clear something up for you, your problems may have a cause but if you have not identified what it is in all of this time then you are not going to find it. I have nearly a decade worth of experience in dealing with extreme anxiety and attacks and one thing that holds true both for me and everyone I have met is that IT DOES NOT ALWAYS HAVE A CLEAR CAUSE! Or if you re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 05:21 PM
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This only counts for power dynamics, if you outshine your boss then he gets pissed and fires you. This law however, has absolutely nothing to say about how you should see yourself.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:59 AM
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Valuing yourself by comparing you to others is a meaningless endeavor, you know nothing about the skeletons in that other guys closet, you probably also had a different starting point, and you have different values. If you want to compare yourself do it with the you of yesterday, the you of last week, the you of last year. You should give a fuck.... about yourself not about others, they are good enough at giving fucks to each other, so you don't have to do it for them.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:55 AM
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I think both sides of this coin are harmful to yourself. On one end there is the 'you are nothing without me' sentiment, this is harmful to both the person saying it as well as you (recipient), because this implies that you can only trust the other person if they are entirely reliant on you. Then the 'I'd rather struggle every day of my life rather tha ngive a man the power to say X'l, are you going to do everything in your life on your own? Most of the food you buy is made by men, and these men…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 07:49 PM
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To sum up your post: Your sister is not very engaged in your families life, she is not open to advice, your parents and her fight a lot, she creates a lot of trouble and refuses to change her behavior, and you want to "help" her (into becoming a more cooperative member of the family). First of all two points, first: "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink". Second: What do you mean by "help"? It sounds like you want her to abide by the rules and be more kind, but in my perspec…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 09:00 AM
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Thank you! Finally, I have been saying this for years to the resentful intelligent women who cannot accept that it is not that men are intimidated by their intelligence; it is the hamster and the "reasoning" to argue for which you believe when your believes are confronted (and because you are smart you can get away with dumb believes just by arguing well). A thing we forget is: If you are smart, then you are also smarter at being dumb (dumb is not the opposite of smart, dumb the opposite of capa…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 08:13 AM
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and women the selectors of which ones should be passed on for their children to have higher chances to reproduce and survive to do so. One such thing in the past selected on is the desire to be selected (and therefore aspire to gain all the traits on which women select).
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 11:46 AM
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Yes, but for some it is easier to lose weight by eating smarter than it is to keep track of calories all the time (not everyone has the kind of energy needed left for self-control after a hard day).
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 05:09 AM
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The purpose of the downvote button is not decided by you or reddit; its purpose is decided by the users and many users use the downvote button as a disagree button. Also because you can still see the comment no matter how little dislikes (you just have to click on the plus to expand it) it is not reducing freedom of speech at all. In fact how much attention an opinion gets is up to whether people want it to spread and a upvote / downvote system to decide whose opinion gets spread more functions …
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 12:06 PM
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Do you think there would be an article about his coworker?
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 10:20 AM
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Freedom of speech is not freedom from mockery and negative feedback. Freedom is speech is to be allowed to say anything you want without being forced silent by force or through threats of violence. TheRedPill did not delete the comment nor did anyone threaten his life for it so they are in fact very supportive of the freedom of speech, including the freedom to mock and show their dislike.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 10:13 AM
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I’ve experienced a lot of very severe trauma in my life, and have spent and (could spend many more) years in therapy delving into all of it, but time is short and I also need to grow the f*** up. I don’t want my past to prevent me from the future I desire, and I don’t think the way we as a culture talk about trauma will help me achieve my goals. I am only going to respond to this part as the whole comment is too general. I am also going to rephrase your question here as: "How do I keep on improv…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/18 04:24 PM
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Read the side bar
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 12:08 PM
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A general rule of thumb I use is to just say exactly what I see and what I think will happen. I don't say it with the intention or hope of changing things but just so that they can recognize earlier what is going on than had no one told them that. That is what I would personally do and what has worked for me but it changes based on the individual so listen to everyone here and do what you think will work best.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 07:31 AM
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Wait a moment. Yes, all decisions are emotional. If they weren't you wouldn't be doing anything because a purely rational choice requires some sort of value (which is emotional) to put one above the other. What you probably mean it isn't all impulsive and for pleasure. I just wanted to point this out so as to not make these discussions more confusing than they have to be.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 04:48 PM
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Agreeable does not mean just better at giving emotional support. Agreeable means you are more likely to comply with others and consider others as more important, that goes for emotions and judgements too. Thus you are more likely to ask others for opinions and value them more (I think), you could see that as needing an outside source for approval.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 04:33 PM
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As far as I can see feminists are not winning the culture war. They won a decisive battle back a few decades ago and became tyrants. Now, because they were acting like spoiled brats hunting innocent people down to satiate their resentment they have created their worst enemy: The true leaders and intellectuals among men, now you are seeing people like Jordan Peterson gaining massive popularity for standing up against feminists and saying some of the things you guys tell people here (if you read b…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 06:46 AM
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I can't be certain but I get the impression that the problem isn't that you aren't letting yourself being "taken care of" but that you don't let your man give back. A very important fact in a relationship is that it goes both ways, that is not just because you might like being taken care of but also because you can make someone else feel guilty (unworthy/ many other negative emotions) by only helping them and never letting them give back. The difference between independent (being able to take ca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 05:05 PM
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I think the best advice I can give you on rethinking your issue is talk about it a lot. Write it down and review what you wrote and don't mind being wrong. You will have to write and think and rethink then talk about it with someone and listen carefully to their thoughts then rethink again based on what you heard. That is the best way I know of to figure out deep psychological issues it takes a long time and a lot of work. When you do eventually get a decent grasp of what it has to do with you c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 05:41 PM
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This sounds more like a deep psychological issue and you don't seem to know enough about why it happens for anyone to make a good guess about what is happening to you. The best solution is probably to take a deep look inside yourself and find some kind of help for this. I don't know what kind of expert would suffice for your specific issue so I can't help you with this, but I wish you the best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 04:34 PM
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If I recall, we tend to be "attracted", for a lack of a better term, to people of similar social status to our own (read as beauty and social skills in women and character / ability to produce aka creating value in men). Attracted in this case would not be the same way you are attracted to a super model, but more of a romantic attraction. This makes sense because a unattractive women will most likely not get a high value man so being romantically attracted to him will be detrimental (they would …
/r/askTRP24/01/18 10:21 AM
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Quick answers (from personal experience) to what I think you are asking: 1. It depends on the individual, whether casual sex is psychologically harmful. However, there is a better alternative that is better for almost everyone which is; deep, long lasting bonds build on cooperation towards a better life. 2. I don't know how many women have regrets because of casual sex. But, they do hold regrets over the consequences of it. They may not regret having sex X amount of times, but the lack of such a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 07:47 PM
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Pay attention to him (specifically his face). Keep doing that and you will see when it is probably too much for him to handle right now, or when it is ok to talk openly and express your feelings. I know that may be hard when you are overwhelmed by emotions, but there is no better way than to just look at someone and see how they feel. You have already made it a lot easier on yourself by letting him be aware of the problem. It is a lot less frustrating and difficult to listen to someones problem …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 04:30 AM
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"2. When doing #1, have sympathy for the motivating emotions behind the point of view." I think may be what you meant? Just expressing sympathy without feeling it can come over as distant / looking down on them.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 03:03 PM
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A therapist has many ways of helping you, it all depends on what the root of the problem is. We don't have much to go on here with you and a therapist would talk and ask questions for a lot longer than we can here to figure out the exact problem and potential solutions. The best I can give you is some general advice related to self-confidence. Start meditating: Specifically two types of meditation, mindfulness meditation and loving kindness meditation. Second: When you think people are judging y…
/r/askTRP11/01/18 08:43 AM
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I don't particularly hate anything hating things is a waste of time. Although there was one thing I disliked in the past, the tendency for women to care more about feelings and their social group than about truth and morality. To give you a short example of what I mean: Your group of friends is speaking ill (read as twisting the truth) of someone you vaguely know, do you stay silent, do you go along with them, or do you stand up and say to them "That is not true and lying about people is not ok"…
/r/askTRP31/12/17 04:20 PM
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That last question is easy to answer: You can't change your nature but you can prevent aspects of it from manifesting eg. it may be in a man's nature to want to have sex however we can stop ourselves from jumping on every attractive woman (for obvious reasons). If you know your nature and you accept the flaws then you can work on not letting it create more problems than necessary.
/r/askTRP31/12/17 03:30 PM
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I think a more accurate depiction of what women want would be: A character capable of producing (taking actions when necessary/ assertiveness). It is not exactly the resources themselves but the ability (read character and circumstances) to get them. This is also probably what you mean by "I want to be lead I don't want to lead".
/r/askTRP31/12/17 02:05 PM
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I agree with him but there is no way to get enough information from your post to know what is the problem. You would need at least to sum up what has been the problem throughout your life and whatever you think may be related to it and THEN a trained psychologist may be able to make a diagnosis (and even then it is wrong like ca. 30% of the time ). You summed up your problem which was: You look at everyone as beneath you and have trouble empathizing with other peoples problems: "get bored, and I…
/r/askTRP30/12/17 05:10 AM
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The first part is a warning for arrogance which can easily screw up whatever improvements you are trying to make. Also, the mind doesn't work like do x then you get Y. The mind works like a network. Let's take an example: You want to be able to focus more and you believe doing program X will help you achieve that. Now you will go into program x with some part of your mind already believing you will get better, this causes confirmation bias. Because of that you will feel like you are improving a …
/r/askTRP30/12/17 05:05 AM
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First things first: If you think you know what you are doing while changing your mindset then you don't know what you are doing. So if you ever get that idea in your head thinking "I know how I am going to become X I just have to do Y" then you are probably making a mistake. I wanted to get this out of the way because you said you tend to look down on people and I suspect you may look down on the problems on your path to achieving your ambitions as well. I think for you the best way is to observ…
/r/askTRP29/12/17 04:23 PM
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I am not going to make the argument for traditional values instead I will make the argument against rapidly changing what is already working. Assumptions: 1. Things that work right now will collapse at a speed related to the speed the environment is changing at. 2. There are many more ways for complex system to fail and be unsustainable than there are for them to keep on working 3. The primary goal of a society is to keep on existing and the secondary goal is to provide the greatest environment …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 09:11 AM
1

Meditation is a good one, but not enough. You also need to find something worth it in life. Just go out there and try to find something to do that is not as bad as whatever else you could be doing (including nothing). You really have to go out there and find it, because it is not coming to you on its own that is for sure.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 05:38 AM
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"a crushed apple on her face" FTFY
/r/MGTOW11/12/17 05:52 PM
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For men, the best solution is to resolve what is aching you. Not to talk about it with someone. Life is sometimes shit. Talking about your problems only makes you feel like you did something, this only solves the problem if it was imaginary. Now that I am thinking about it, that may be why it works for many women.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 10:14 AM
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Basically yes. Do take care you don't push yourself too far in your enthusiasm. A little every day goes a long way.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 05:15 PM
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That sounds like a nervousness/fear issue. The simplest method is the same method they use to overcome a phobia: See how far you can bear to go until you can't anymore, get used to it, and when you feel up for it go a bit further. Keep repeating this (It takes some time, so listen to your feelings. When you feel like you are tired or don't want to anymore then stop.) until you build up enough courage to talk to guys you are interested in. Also if a guy who considers you a potential partner sees …
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 04:34 PM
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In the end, it is a practice issue. Everytime you remember this: Try to think through all of your words again. This puts some time between the initial impulse and the words spilling out of your mouth. It might take months of consistently doing this (or longer if you are particularly bad), but it will help.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 10:33 AM
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Then I have another one for you. My mother had a friend who had throat cancer. Despite having stopped before she started smoking and drinking again even though she FELT how much worse it made things. A depressed childhood friend of mine: He knew how much desperately trying to be a part of groups of people made him feel more lonely. He felt more lonely every time he tried, however he could not stop.
/r/MGTOW15/11/17 05:07 PM
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Wisdom and intelligence are completely seperate issues from each other. An intelligent person can analyze high amounts of data and come to a conclusions to that time. However being able to won't mean you will accept the conclusion you have come to, let alone acting out the actions appropriate for that conclusion.
/r/MGTOW15/11/17 02:08 PM
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Understanding and acting are 2 different things. I can tell you about plenty of psychologists who know all the things they should and shouldn't do for their own mental health and they still do it. Or a doctor that was specialized in lung cancer yet still smoked for many years. Etc etc. Knowing and understanding something doesn't neccesarily mean you will act it out.
/r/MGTOW15/11/17 02:01 PM
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(Not mgtow, just a lurker interested in the ideas), there are expectations for women. They are: Be nice to other women, look good for other women (You hear them say it all the time: I try to look good because it gives me confidence. That means they feel higher up in the dominance hierarchy aka comparing themselves to other women.). These are the only ones I could think of from the top of my head but there is a strong tendency for the expectations on women to be there to either help other women o…
/r/MGTOW15/11/17 01:57 PM
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Actually not at all. I stated that they did it more, maybe I should have emphasized with slightly. They still prefer good looking over everything else.
/r/MGTOW18/10/17 08:16 AM
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Friend, that is not the case at all. I have lived with only tested highly gifted 130+ (top 2%) IQ people most of my life, and they are not interested in any guy or girl that they don't find physicall attractive. They will make more friends with people who are unattractive yes, but no relationships.
/r/MGTOW18/10/17 07:16 AM
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I can very much tell you it's not. They are like the noble's in histroy, yeah they can oppress everyone who is not a noble and execute them, but they better not make a single social misstep or every other noble has their knife ready to stab you in the back. Women treat other women just like they do men.
/r/MGTOW14/10/17 05:36 AM
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Jesus christ the cops took that call seriously? Where did this happen, I need to know whether you live in the same country as me.
/r/MGTOW14/10/17 05:33 AM
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Looks, Social intelligence, Outer appearance (clothes, expensive items, other hints you might be succesful), popularity, etc.
/r/MGTOW14/10/17 05:31 AM
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And you were actually liked and not banned. Props to askreddit.
/r/MGTOW13/10/17 04:06 AM
2

A counter argument against going your way would have to require making the argument that "Being together" would help you lead a better / happier life. Possible but with it's current outlook the numbers don't seem to match up for that argument.
/r/MGTOW11/10/17 06:06 PM
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I thought as a MGTOW you are supposed to go against god and not reproduce with the female variant of our species for the risk of "baby traps"?
/r/MGTOW11/10/17 01:06 PM
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The anti-feminists are not one group though. There are those who are legitimately against feminism and have a little bit of red pilling, and those who are only in there for views / attention. (Sometimes both if they are psychopaths).
/r/MGTOW05/10/17 04:19 AM
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You are rarely ever actually at the bottom of the hole. It can always go deeper.
/r/MGTOW30/09/17 11:15 AM
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You can't just let her try and stay true to yourself? No need to go to massive lengths for her or am I missing something here?
/r/MGTOW30/09/17 04:27 AM
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How did they react afterwards?
/r/MGTOW26/09/17 08:51 AM
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It is a normal behaviour in nature but we have developed new other as you said neocortex that helps us live in other ways besides fighting fucking and eating. We can do science, we can argue and accept differences in opinion. However when that old part of our brain gets triggered, just like when a women cheats an old part of the brain gets triggered then the actions will come. Sadly our society currently seems to be build more towards our amygdala than our prefrontal cortex (amydala = part of th…
/r/MGTOW26/09/17 03:40 AM
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Animals have wars as well. Conflicts over territory that animals die over happen fairly frequently. Take a look at monkeys, they fight over territory, wolves fight over territory etc. War is very much natural in every sense of the word. In all of these species the guys are the ones going out and doing the fighting / dying. Heck even bees and ants have wars and the guys are the one who mostly are the soldiers (don't quote me on this one I just recall hearing about it). Go read up on evolutionary …
/r/MGTOW25/09/17 04:23 AM
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Actually we are pretty likely too let ourselves be murdered in a ceremony we call "war" in a ceremonial slaughterhouse we call an "army" in order to increase the chance for our genes (this also means family and just our close kin in general) to pass their genes on. That is part of the evolution 101 you get in high school (where I live). That is why most men are still not mgtow despite the horrible shit deal we get.
/r/MGTOW24/09/17 06:27 PM
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You wish it was just our society, this is nature portrayed accurately. All animals have this one biological purpose: Reproduce, and a secondary purpose: Help your genes spread as far as possible by any method. So us going through society in order to create a family is just human nature, and nature in general.
/r/MGTOW24/09/17 03:21 PM
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Actually maybe if in the future this law isn't changed and through some technological wonder men can be pregnant then you might be able to consider it a human right.
/r/MGTOW13/07/17 07:00 PM
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This is not something that is female or even relationship specific. Everyone ranging from friends to acquaintances leave the moment they hear you have any kind of serious illness or health problem. I can say this as someone who did have such a thing happen in my life before. People who are ill / weak are useless and therefore anyone who has an interest in the person that is in any way related to that ability will leave. The only people who stay are the ones who are interested in what remains of …
/r/MGTOW10/07/17 06:46 PM
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Both Hillary and typical women do it because it is effective. You do get to escape quite a bit of criticism with it.
/r/MGTOW17/12/16 02:26 PM
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