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LIFESTYLEmomentsofnicole/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 10:21 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEmomentsofnicole/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 04:43 PM
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With my second birth, besides needing stitches, everything was fine. Baby was born in September, holidays came, then a huge international trip. We were both too stressed to even think about having libidos. I'm glad we waited more because it didn't hurt as much and I didn't feel pressure to have sex I wasn't ready to have. What exactly is his major impact?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 02:22 AM
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That 6 week wait is more for being declared medically stable. It does not mean you are fully healed yet. I had both my kids vaginally and needed stitches for 2nd degree tears. My first, I tried to go to the gym and have sex right at the 6 week mark. I felt miserable. I ended up hurting myself in the gym. Sex hurt so much. I had my second in September and didn't engage in intercourse until late January. I am so glad I did. If you have enough self control to abstain from a variety of activities du…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 11:27 PM
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I made a post for slightly older women, but it might be a good jumping off point https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/kmofbl/feminine_fashion_inspiration_from_japanese_ig/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 04:01 PM
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Expands your palate. My Mom spent a semester in east Asia before my parents got married. I got exposed to a lot of different foods that I wouldn't have. I have friends and coworkers from around the world. By learning about how to cook their foods, I've become a better hostess. I'm able to cater to different palates. My husband is Filipino.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 11:20 PM
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~Netflix~ Salt Fat Acid Heat ~YouTube~ Cooking With Dog (how to cook ALL the Japanese foods but also with really good instructions on why you need to do certain steps) ~Instagram~ CookingwithShereen Tiffy.Cooks Acooknamedmatt Tastemade Buzzfeedtasty (also YouTube) ~Specific Chefs~ Ina Garten Gordon Ramsay Julia Child ~Things you should learn~ All the cuts of meats. How to cook with alcohol What different spices are and how they are used How to cook ethnic foods from scratch (Filipino, Mexican, I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 11:05 AM
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Point out that all the badass women in the women in the Bible. Deborah: married, led an army, judge Ruth: followed her mother in law out of love to the point of being in the line of Jesus Esther: risked death for the sake of her people They weren't awesome because they were women. They were awesome for having badass character; their gender was secondary. Point out that men and women are all made in the image of God.
/r/askRPC29/03/21 03:47 AM
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You're welcome
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 04:15 AM
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To add to this: I also have ADHD. I suspect my husband has it too. Reading your post, I thought: ah, that's DH for sure. Your goals for life will probably change. I know I thought we were going to do x, y, z and lockdowns aside, many of those things did not and will not happen. I look at what we have in the present: a roof over our heads in a safe and very walkable neighborhood. I have made some really great friend. I mostly don't have to worry about money beyond food and paying off my credit ca…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 01:54 AM
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The crown i figured out after 2 weeks or so. My friend wanted her bridesmaids to have a fishtail braid pseudo crown. I didn't want to pay for the stylist, so I leaned how... I ended up still paying for the stylist tho haha. Anyhu, it's basically the same as Frenchbraid pig tails but since I'm old, with a side part. The braids go along the hair line. Then I bind it in a bun in the back.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/21 01:40 AM
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I have a weird shaped head and thick hair, so I don't use anything other than hairties. HOWEVER I do have to keep my hair up and tidy for work. I find doing a pseudo braid crown keeps me from getting headaches that I would get with a ponytail or bun. If my hair were longer, I'd definitely do a full crown. French braids are a nice go-to as well.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/21 08:48 PM
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Own Your Shit. It means acknowledging your faults and then also dealing with them. Unhealthy? Get fit. Got trauma? Get therapy. Low skilled? Get skills. Lonely? Go to a hobby club. Need help with your shit? Come here. But first, find out what your shit is and admit it to yourself. This is not and should not be a place to assure ourselves that we are enough. Why? Cuz that's just an excuse for not striving to better ourselves. We should all be striving to be the best we can possibly be. This means…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 04:39 PM
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To add on to what Sarah said: I went into a deep, can't move, feel tired all the time depression last year. It got to the point where the one mom friend I have asked directly if I didn't want to hang out anymore. Having had worse depression before and gotten therapy, I knew it was because I was not working my normal job. I had taken a voluntary leave. When I finally went back to work, the depression dissipated. I know I'm prone to bouts of depression, so I have to do things like work for my ment…
/r/RPChristians03/03/21 12:10 PM
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Ladies, remember that we are also supposed to OYS
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 06:17 PM
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You're welcome
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 03:35 PM
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I've heard an account of a couple that was on the verge of divorce that ended up stopping the proceedings. The wife had some traumatic sexual abuse as a child that was suppressed. She got the therapy she needed and their marriage got better. Your past sexual activity might not have been traumatic, but there is some sort of healing that might need to occur. That's just advice for everyone. Specifically for you, you're both just talking at this point. I think it's a bit too early to discuss sexual…
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 02:22 PM
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You're welcome. I wandered into MGTOW to see what it was all about. Understandably, the men there have many valid reasons to be as angered as they are. However, for a man of God to conclude that it means doing away with half of God's image, I have to intercede. It smacks of lack of faith and putting more fear of (wo)man than in God. I didn't know that statistic. It's a shame if most of those men are believers. There's a constant echo of a focus on the generations to come rather than the present …
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 04:51 AM
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I am a sister who occassionaly pops in on mobile so forgive poor formatting. If it was a symbolic marriage with Hosea and Gomer, what does that make of the conception of their multiple children? Paul empathizes that it is him who is saying it it better to remain single like him. Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them …
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 04:09 AM
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So what do you think of Hosea and Gomer?
/r/RPChristians01/03/21 03:13 AM
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Firstly, following the Sabbath does take discipline. Secondly, Sabbath starts at sunset and ends at sunset. Instead of applying the Western ideals of a day being a calendar day, consider it like the 24ish hours it was traditionally observed as. Hopefully that helps take some burden off. You can set up a family dinner of leftovers on a Saturday night and go out together on Sunday night. Sunday Breakfast and Lunch will have to be meal prepped. Breakfast sandwiches or cereal. Fun bento boxes you ma…
/r/RPChristians23/02/21 12:07 AM
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I prefer the term neurodivergent. I have ADHD. It's not Asperger's but there are definitely parallels. In infancy, my biggest issue was figuring out boundaries with my husband's side of the family. It was 90% my own problem in not being able to be clear. 10% having to navigate different culture expectations. I would definitely seek therapy in this issue before marriage. In dealing with my daughter directly, you'd be surprised at how well you can figure out your baby's language like hunger cues. …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 01:16 AM
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Virginity is more about a state of existing before any sort of sexual experience. Chasity is a virtue. You were chaste before your marriage and remain so in your marriage. You were, are, and will continue to be a chaste woman. All the while, I hope you seek counseling.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 04:48 AM
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Work out your shoulders. Specifically rotator cuff muscles. My daughter is 3yo and I'm still dealing with my messed up shoulders. Bonus: strong shoulders look sexy imo
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 01:48 PM
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I have ADHD too. Definitely stick to therapy. Also recognize that with ADHD there's also RSD Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. Recognizing that I genuinely feel pain when rejected helps me immensely. We feel intensely more than neurotypicals. It's like those clips of soccer players overacting in order to bring a harsher penalty onto another player. Only that is genuinely how we feel rather than pretending. In your "career", try to find a job that works well with your Executive Functioning Disorde…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/21 09:32 PM
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You're welcome. There were plenty of wealthy people in the Bible and most were shown as examples of God's blessings. It's only a few greedy types that give attaining ans having wealth a bad name. Another point: keep in mind different churches have different kinds of cultures. I've been in a few from different country cultures churches. Your church might be one which has decided to emphasize not having wealth be a snare. Whereas others like mine and my friends emphasized supporting missions. No o…
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 07:04 PM
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I'm from a really wealthy area and a few of my parents' friends are CEOs/Presidents and such. They definitely donate their money to worthy causes. My parents keep their large house partially because it had been and will continue to be used for ministries. I had one friend mention how in her church the wealthy people saw it as their duty to use it to sponsor missionaries. The Bible Project did an excellent podcast on Money. It really addresses pretty much any concern you might have on building we…
/r/RPChristians31/01/21 01:18 PM
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Certainly I was using hyperbole. It's because we want to assure our passengers that we are competent through our appearance.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 08:07 PM
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That's fair. But if the first time you see your flight attendant they look like a meth head, I doubt you're gonna think twice. Plus there's thing like negative panic. We are literally trained to scream at people to get them to move.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 07:58 PM
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The Boundaries books by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. I have ADHD so boundaries are not my strong suit. These books changed my life. I haven't read the dating one.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 08:39 PM
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My Dad was brought up Catholic and then became born again nondenominational. My Mom was brought up Pentecostal. They met at Wheaton. I asked before about issues with their differences in faith. Apparently my Mom wanted us children to be far more protected than my Dad who wanted us to be lights in the world. So we grew up not so forbidden from anything so much as encouraged more to do good things. Regardless of what denomination you adhere to or identify as, IMO the most important attitude to con…
/r/RPChristians25/01/21 04:36 PM
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Try OMAD.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 02:45 PM
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You're welcome
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 01:30 PM
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You're welcome. I also made a post about which Japanese hashtags to follow on IG
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 12:26 PM
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You're welcome
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 11:42 PM
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So I have a friend I call my brother from another mother. I want to say we have a deeper emotional relationship than I do with my husband in some aspects. BUT we also have a strong boundary of a sibling-like relationship. We call each other such, brother and sister. He introduces me as his sister. That being said, when I got married, I made a group chat with him and his now-wife to protect us from any sort of temptation or even projecting any hint of impropriety. It also helps that I have establ…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 06:36 PM
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I'm a flight attendant who chooses to wear a dress uniform. I wear heels and put my hair up in a sort of braid crown or french braid. They mention in training how important it is to be put together. If there's an emergency, are you take a shabby looking flight attendant seriously or the one that took the time to look put together? On my layovers, I'm wearing a graphic tshirt and jeans. I have zero incentive to dress femininely during these times because I am already married. In a way, I am signa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 01:27 PM
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I think it would matter more on the preferences of the man himself. I'm still learning how to better please my husband after a decade haha.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 03:45 PM
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That's fair
/r/RPChristians20/12/20 04:07 AM
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Just to add onto the Japanese religion: there are some traditions/practices that go starkly against Christianity so Japanese Christians will abstain. Example: funerals will have a time for people to pray to the dead. Christians choose to pray for the person instead.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/20 03:58 PM
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I, a female was also less than thrilled with my home church options, went to a Christian college, and did not have a lot of options. I met my husband through OLD. I know a few beautiful single Christian women who haven't found a spouse yet. They aren't being pursued for whatever reason. I would encourage them to try OLD or a matchmaker. Going through a paid matchmaker, you know that the other person actually takes courting as seriously as you do. With OLD, it's a mixed bag.
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 07:11 PM
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I don't have TikTok, but I do see a lot of Christian TikToks on my IG feed. Social media is what you make of it. I follow a lot of Christian meme IGs so the algorithms bring up Christian humor.
/r/RPChristians18/11/20 02:41 PM
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Add some air travel and you're set.
/r/RPChristians13/11/20 02:11 AM
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To avoid the temptation of premarital sex, I would add you should go stay with family members.
/r/RPChristians12/11/20 06:42 PM
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Weight restrictions aren't really a thing in US airlines. However, you must be able to at least fit in the jumpseat without an extender belt. Height requirements are still a thing though. You have to be tall enough to reach emergency equipment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 10:37 PM
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Definitely losing weight is important. It's a physically demanding job and your body will thank you for taking care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 09:09 PM
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Continue to be discouraged... (cries in broken dreams) In all seriousness, it will NOT make you any money. You will barely make enough to pay for the traveling you'll want to do. Okay, with that out of the way. If you want to be a flight attendant, be in customer service and/or something safety related. For at least 2 years. I recommend working in a bar/restaurant. If you can handle people on the ground, you can handle them in the air.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 06:35 PM
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I thought that being a SAHM was all I could do. I ended up becoming a flight attendant (another dream of mine). I'm married and we have a 3yo. My airline offered voluntary leaves so that they wouldn't be forced to furlough employees. Doing the SAHM thing is nice, but I do enjoy making my own money. It's more beneficial to my mental health.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:02 PM
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You gotta love Tina Fey for poking fun at that mentality
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 04:15 AM
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Ok. So now you're in a position to say, Hey, being friends (or whatever label you two have) is too hard for me. I'm going to have to walk away from this whatever it is for a time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 06:30 PM
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On and off about 3 years. I would Tell your friend to walk.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 11:13 AM
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As someone who waited for too long for a Maybe One Day, just walk away. If he wants you, he'll make it happen.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 12:34 AM
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So I met my husband on Plenty Of Fish (is it still around?). I was upfront with pretty much all of my dates that I wanted to get married and have kids. If I was using dating apps now, I would put on my profile: If you're not looking at all ever to settle down, get married, and have kids, swipe left. If you know that marriage and kids is something you want in the future, swipe right. I don't want to get married right away, I just don't wanna waste my best years in a will-they/won't-they situation…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 10:52 PM
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I'm a flight attendant. My husband is kind of more in your situation (when I'm not on voluntary leave). Talk to your husband about getting one half day off a week. That is, he gets one afternoon/evening a week to go hang out with friends. You get to do the same. As a pilot, he's most likely being able to get in all the alone time he needs at hotels. If his crew is cool, he gets some social time in too as well. Make sure you are prioritizing your sleep. I have a great tag team relationship with m…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/20 11:39 AM
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If anyone is interested in helping fund raids against child cybersex trafficking, check out ijm.org IJM also helps get children aftercare trauma counseling.
/r/PussyPassDenied31/07/20 02:43 AM
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This. I have ADHD so I get into ruts of depression because I compare myself to others. But I'm not like other people. I look to what I've been able to do. Are you focusing on someone else's physique? Work out and diet. Are you focusing on someone else's facial appearance? Get some makeup and r/skincareaddiction Are you focusing on someone else's career? Work on yours.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 11:50 PM
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I must agree with the romance novels tho not necessarily with the sex scenes. My husband is Asian so whenever I was an Asian romance drama I see my husband as the lead (or whatever side character that catches my fancy)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 12:51 AM
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I found that working in the restaurant industry helped soothe my desire to tend my own home (which I didn't have until I was married). I also learned some great cooking and hospitality techniques.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 03:56 AM
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Cooking with Dog on YouTube is great for How To.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 08:09 PM
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I would definitely talk to him about needing closure on flirting texts from before. I've seen in my life (Christian; my husband is Filipino) examples of how the slow steps into affairs happen. Two families who spent a ton of time together were eventually torn apart through divorce because the father of one and the mother of another had an emotional affair. They never crossed the line physically and eventually got married but at what cost? One man talking to my Dad (who is one of the most upright…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 05:28 PM
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I'm a flight attendant, which means I am in hotels with all my coworkers (we're all in seperate rooms). Generally, the not oft spoken rule of thumb is that you don't hang out in hetero(?) pairs with your crew. It keeps all parties clear of potential harrassment claims and steers clear of potential temptations. So like, it's a okay for me to go out with a female coworker or a gay male coworker in a pair. Having friends of the opposite sex is not a big deal assuming you have the right boundaries i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 12:22 PM
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Probably depends on the tattoo and it's location.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 06:51 PM
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Wait until you both have some time to live out from under your parents houses.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 05:29 PM
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I would say, do it yourself first.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/20 09:54 AM
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Age aside, you are both living with your parents. Of course you don't want to move in together until marriage. You should both at least have some experience living out from under your parent's roofs and out of college dorms before you look to getting married. If you were living together already, I'd push for engagement because at that point with your length of relationship, what's the point? Move out from your parents home. You don't have to live alone; get a roommate.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 06:14 PM
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Your first is not in the same way as important as your last.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 05:17 PM
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I'm so glad that everyone is like, NOPE THIS DUDE IS ABUSIVE AF. Cuz he is. Dump his ass ASAP. I'm writing this as a how I deal with my husband's anger. He has issues he has to deal with and they are HIS issues. He and I are both imperfect people. There are going to be times when I do upset him just as much as he is going to do things that upset me. Learning about Boundaries helped me realize how I am ultimately not responsible for his actions just like he is ultimately not responsible for my ac…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 04:42 PM
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My favorite sweater is from Uniqlo. They also have free shipping this weekend.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 01:05 AM
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Uniqlo also
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/20 11:23 AM
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You're welcome. I'm hoping that it puts you in a position that people don't think of you as being holier than thou but rather wanting to be as open minded about people as possible. Actively showing that you want to see the best in people shows that you want to see your peers in highly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 06:58 PM
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I work as a flight attendant, which is ripe with both and bad gossip. My policy with coworkers is to say that I don't want to know the names of people that they want to talk about. I like to make my own opinion of people. The exception being that the person in question is to be avoided for safety or toxicity reasons. I mention how I only want to hear names of people when they are speaking positively of someone. I make a habit of mentioning names of people that are particularly fun to work with o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 11:29 AM
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My normal job is a flight attendant. I took a voluntary leave for two months (April and May) cuz I knew we could afford it. I know other coworkers who aren't in as good a position. My husband recently got me a car, which we don't necessarily need (I usually get to the airport by public transportation). Long story short, I'm doing grocery delivery cuz I'm pretty sure I already had COVID-19 back in January or February. I'll be first in line when they have an antibody test. Initially, I was a bit a…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/20 11:21 PM
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It's been a while since I read about it (I did a report on him way back in Elementary School and then read up again about his death a few years ago). I can't recall if he actively practiced or not as an adult.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 11:17 PM
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Iirc, Part of Jim Henson's story is that he grew up in the Church of Christ Scientist, which frowns upon seeking medical assistance. So, a combination of that and him being the type to not want to be a nuisance led to his getting really bad Pneumonia.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:09 AM
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One of my biggest regrets is not traveling more when my near 3yo was small. I have the ability to travel cheaply cuz of my job (flight attendant benefits woo). I made up for all the travel I missed last year. I also travel without my husband. Go to the movies by yourself one day. If you like it, then you can probably like traveling by yourself with your son. Also go to the movies as much as you can before you give birth.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 02:00 AM
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The whole internet?? :O
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 12:08 AM
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MOPS Mothers of Preschoolers. My Mom went when my sister was still too young for school. Iirc, they do childcare. Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend is a good start and Boundaries in Marriage goes deeper. As a flight attendant, going to therapy was too much to add into my schedule. I did Faithful Counseling. There is an email only option. I found it so helpful in affirming my boundaries. With the current situation of the airline industry, I voluntarily took an unpaid leave. In the meant…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 11:36 PM
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There was other fun stuff, just not the full deed, heh. I think it's important to voice expectations early on so no one is surprised or frustrated. Also it helps to have the wisdom to know the difference between reasonable and unreasonable expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 02:22 AM
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On date three, I asked him where we were going to. He asked me to "be his girl" and I said yes. He told me later that it was because I was the sweetest girl he'd met. Dating =/= in a relationship. I was doing the online dating thing of going on dates with guys but no one was ever committed beyond that. My past relationship history is much longer. We had sleepovers but didn't do the full deed until 3 months. It's been a while since I saw the seminar. I would say from my Christian culture experien…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/20 01:44 PM
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3 months. Met online. We were officially a couple after 3 dates. 1 month later, I Love Yous. I started birth control since he was going to be my first. I went through one pack before we were first totally in. Some time around our one year anniversary, I watched a seminar from the Millionaire Matchmaker on how to be married in a year. One of the biggest rules she has for her club is No Sex Until Monogamy. No oral, no handjobs, NOTHING. 3 years anniversary, I brought up marriage and he joked that …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 02:00 PM
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Yup on this. I'm similar and I've been trying to work on better boundaries still even in my 30s. My ADHD does not help, but explains a good chunk of it. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Don't be afraid to return the bluntness.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 03:28 AM
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The question I have is how can you tell the difference between an truly abusive person or a person who didn't learn proper boundaries? The JustNo subs call it having FLEAS when you've grown up with improper coping. (If you lay with dogs, you'll get fleas).
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/19 08:22 PM
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Boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 01:19 PM
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I did. It got better.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 06:23 PM
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Wellp I got bigger problems. We have a dehumidifier that I keep going especially in the Summer cuz our apartment doesn't have a good flow and is effectively in a basement.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 03:18 PM
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If you want the root it's a mix of scarcity and desire. Growing up in old country you don't have anything so you don't throw it away. But now in new country you can buy new things. Vicious cycle repeat. He owns over a dozen kindles so there's that... I mentioned in another post that a family friend offered to sell the chargers at a flea market. I like the idea of the charity for the smartphones. There are a few places to donate them nearby. I just bought some little drawers for the same reason. …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 07:29 PM
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Someone else mentioned non-negotiables. Having a cluttered home is not acceptable for me given my ADHD and allergies (finally was able to get to vacuuming and dusting spaces that were blocked by clutter and my eyes aren't so itchy anymore 😭) I will say that my husband has the potential of being a good leader and I'm going to mention it to him. He did not have a good example growing up and it became clearer to me how bad it was after marriage. It brings up the question: How do you be more of a Re…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 05:53 PM
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Exactly. It's taken a while for me to be more understanding how my husband is in regards to being hurtful. He had a different upbringing where there is a bit more unspoken forgiveness (or maybe just rugsweeping...). I'm thankful to have a bunch of good examples of good marriages in my extended family including my parents. Times are tough and you stick it through and figure it out. My Mom has been a lot more open about the difficulties she and Dad went through just between each other since I got …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 05:43 PM
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That's why I came here rather than somewhere else: tough love. I don't follow or go to XX whatever. The one time I did it felt like I was reading a lot of shrill women screeching. Eesh no thank you. I rather aspire to the Proverbs 31 Wife (side note: Proverbs 31 is talking about a WIFE not a woman). I have a break of sorts when I'm at work but when I'm at home, I'm essentially a SAHM. Third Wave Feminist I am not. Divorce is only an option in the case of infidelity, which I'm not concerned with.…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 04:10 PM
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Ok a long post deserve a long reply. First off, I appreciate honesty and differing opinions given that they are argued well. I do think you misjudged me in some ways, which is okay given that you don't know me personally so I won't take it so. Hopefully I can give a little more clarity. All the while, I do appreciate that you brought up other points. I mentioned the location as being perfect since it is halfway between both of our jobs commute-wise. It also helps that I can walk to everything I …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 04:19 AM
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Oooh that's a good idea. Now that it's clean, I feel more comfortable about inviting a few friends over. He had a bad example growing up so I'm understanding in that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 02:29 AM
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He went on and on about being a minimalist when we were dating. Little did I know is that he was a minimalist compared to his family who are like level 3 hoarders who don't clean properly. He lived with some relatives and I assumed the clutter in his room was theirs. Yes and no. He had less stuff when we got married but kept buying little knick-knacks from aliexpress (they're gifts!) and old books from library sales (it's not so much books) and more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 01:53 AM
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I could understand it if I was doing nothing to get into shape again. I see in his family and culture it's acceptable to discuss weight. It's still frustrating and I have gotten to the point of deflecting back at him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 01:33 AM
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His parents are far worse to the point that I won't go in their home. My eyes get itchy. His deflection is that I need to also respect him by taking care of myself which is a nudge at my weight. I'm still losing weight (breastfeeding for a year did NOT help, internet liesss) and already got to my prepregnancy weight/size.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 05:20 PM
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You're welcome. 😉
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 12:28 AM
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You're welcome. You hear a bit more of QOL/Quality Of Life decisions with the airline industry. Yes, moving to x airline from y airline could make you more money, but it would mean you have to be based in q City with means you'd have a two leg commute so the cost of sanity is worth more than than the money. And that's just one example. In marriage and life, there are different seasons. Having a baby is a season that requires a lot of heavy adjusting. Being at home probably would make you both le…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 07:15 PM
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I wanted to be a SAHM but then realized that it probably wasn't going to happen. And it did and didn't happen. I became a flight attendant then bf and I got married and had our daughter nearly two years later. On my days off, I'm practically a SAHM. When I'm at work, he is with our daughter. A few times a month, our parents will watch her. We work just enough to not need daycare, which is exceedingly expensive. Husband's job provides us benjamins, my job provides benefits ;) You can probably poi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 06:56 PM
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yes you can define poor, sex doesn't end (but it definitely pauses with a screaming baby), budgeting is an option some people regardless of gender have trouble imaging a future probably not the reality. some women do just "give up" but many don't. the first year of the first baby is tough and you should give your wife some slack. only focusing on the tough first year or two of having a baby or two is not helpful
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 06:48 PM
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I was at my breaking point at 3 years. Our anniversary was a month before my birthday. So I waited until after my birthday to bring up marriage as I did everything Anniversary. He assumed I was asking about what he thought about marriage for HIM and not about marriage between US. He said that he never intended to get married without saying the expected romcom-esque assurances that he loves me and changed his mind with me. I kept quiet, smiled and nodded. An audible record stop sound in my head. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 03:25 PM
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Check out flight attendant make up and hair styles.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 12:39 AM
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Tingles can come later.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 01:28 AM
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Eshakti and Uniqlo for good quality basics. I wear a dress uniform for work (flight attendant) so I'm more likely to want to wear good jeans and a nice top. Husband and I are mostly ships passing in the night now though so he only really sees me in pjs..
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 04:15 PM
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Slow cooker ramen broth. Store bought ramen noodles. Narutomaki. Homemade ajitsuke eggs (tamago). Corn.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 04:03 PM
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If I could afford it, I would do eshakti for all my clothes. I'm waiting to get some more pieces from them while I'm still working on losing my baby weight.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 02:03 AM
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