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| 43 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townWhere was this post when I needed it saturday 😭 this is VERY important to check. Met for dinner with a guy Saturday and it was in an area of town I hadn’t been to before. There were men shooting up drugs and when I opened my car door I heard a gunshot somewhere, which is bad even for my city. This lack of consideration and bad planning is why I decided to not see him again (+ a dose of mansplaining me on something he had just told me he doesn’t know well). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:20 PM |
| 40 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Perfectly summarized! I’ve had flighty bfs in the past who were all “spontaneous” and they had zero actual goals. I ended up feeling more like their mom than their girlfriend because I was the one trying to wrangle them into doing what they were supposed to be doing …. This was obviously waaaay before I came across fds 🙃 it was back in early college | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:30 AM |
| 3 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪I vote (C) because of what he said at the end “fine don’t expect anything at all next year”, reminds me of ohh I break the dishes whenever I wash them so I’ll never wash them. D is also very compelling though 🧐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Compilation of the “bearded cutie” filter. Women on tiktok are dragging the podcast men“Critically and logically” smacks head vigorously 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:14 AM |
| 145 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesThis is what stood out to me too!! Massive projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:57 AM |
| 43 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?Wtf that’s sociopath behavior 🤭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:44 PM |
| 17 | Reminder: FDS is not heavily focused on how to improve your appearanceAbsolutely, I am not intending to shame anyone for wearing makeup. My intent here was to remind that the handbook specifically discourages focusing on makeup in this forum. While I know that the tenets of FDS do not say you have to wear makeup to be a hvw, I have in fact seen posts and comments, here only a little but quite a lot in the levelupstrategy sub, talking about how they’re learning to do makeup as their level up strategy. I’m hoping we can refocus on leveling up our hobbies, our friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:38 PM |
| 15 | I'm going to have a nude sculpture of you in the living room even if you don't like it.I couldn’t articulate why it bothered me so much that the husband thinks HE is in charge of where the sculpture goes, while also claiming it’s for HER. This makes it so clear, thanks for the explanation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:16 PM |
| 87 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.Block and delete, no response required. There was no contract, she doesn’t owe him a THING | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 01:46 PM |
| 65 | This is our dating pool 😂Ope this is exactly my history, the top-left quadrant faux woke fuckboys 🥴 this is why I’m on a break from dating, I need to detox and reset my preferences lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:02 AM |
| 170 | Expecting men to pay for a date is apparently toxic now? Like anyone cares about his opinionUmmm but why though? “Dismantling a system of oppression also includes considering the oppressor’s feelings and spending more money so the oppressor spends less” ??? What? How about call me back when women are making the same $ as men, are equally represented in management and CEO positions, and do exactly half the housework. Then we can revisit 50/50 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 03:09 PM |
| 22 | Embarrassing. Don’t be like this! Focus on becoming a happier person not fixing scrotesAnd then men have the audacity to ask what we bring to the table 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 10 | My biggest tip: schedule a first date after another event (work event, going out with friends, etc.)A good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 11:56 PM |
| 93 | My biggest tip: schedule a first date after another event (work event, going out with friends, etc.)This is helpful! I think the alternative you mentioned (schedule before the event) works a little better for me, because no having to leave my friends when I’m having fun I can tell my friends about the date afterwards which is fun my friends are expecting me, so if I don’t show up they’ll know something is up (eg if I was put in a bad situation / harmed, they’d know I was unexpectedly missing and could contact an authority) what you said about having a set end time so the date doesn’t go on too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 392 | Guy tried negging me and got frustrated when I didn’t care. Story time ☕️I agree, no matter how hot/<other good quality> a guy is, always remember that the way he treats women he’s NOT interested in is a clearer sign of his character than how he treats his love interest. Plus why would you care for a man who is rude to your friend?? Friends > men Tbh if my friend entertained this, I would be rethinking whether she’s that trustworthy of a friend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 04:49 AM |
| 25 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.Just my luck that of the handful of guys I have had sex with, 2 of them had literal micropenises 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:38 AM |
| 4 | What is FDS’s official stance on online dating? A shift to more productive conversationsI personally also wouldn’t give Facebook info, but an alternative would be to get a Google Voice number — basically it’s an app that can take calls and texts, and the other end can’t tell it’s going to the app. The app has a separate phone number from your phone. I think it works over internet only (hence it doesn’t require a new plan). This reminds me I should redownload it lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:01 PM |
| 37 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.I agree. I hate to be harsh to other members who are trying to figure things out, but sometimes it gets frustrating seeing not only posts that clearly demonstrate OP didn’t read the handbook but ALSO that they’re advocating for something explicitly discouraged in the handbook (eg clapbacks, though luckily I’ve seen fewer of those lately) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:55 AM |
| 24 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Don’t forget: if you were put off by his behavior, you don’t need to find an “acceptable” reason to end things. The fact that you didn’t really like it is a good enough reason not to see him again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how would you expect your father to react when you damage the car a little?My would not do this. I’m sorry to hear about what happened— accidents happen and as long as no one was hurt and you take more care next time, it shouldn’t have been a big deal. Your father has the right to feel upset, even angry. However, he has the choice how to react to his anger. Instead of discussing with you how you can learn from this, or how you might help pay for the damages, he instead used vicious words to hurt you as much as possible. That’s not right. Sending a big hug 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:16 AM |
| 47 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.And honestly that saying doesn’t hold up even if you DO pretend even bad sex is good. Like, bad and misleading comments are DEFINITELY worse than no comments at all because they derail your investigation of what the code is doing by sending a false herring. “Men are funnier than women” in WHAT WORLD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:46 PM |
| 2 | What do you ladies think ?Yes, let’s add even more requirements for women in the bedroom or else they’re not good partners!!! /s 🤡🤡🤡 clown world forreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:19 PM |
| 17 | Oxfam charity after being found out protecting MALE woman and child rapists decide to blame women, especially white women for males’ actions. Men’s rights subreddits silent on this subject of course. Oxfam charity supports rape and hates White women.archived here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:34 PM |
| 157 | Oxfam charity after being found out protecting MALE woman and child rapists decide to blame women, especially white women for males’ actions. Men’s rights subreddits silent on this subject of course. Oxfam charity supports rape and hates White women.Who does it serve to silence white feminists? Who does it serve to shame white women for reporting their own sexual assaults? (Hint: it’s men) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationWell, this is why fds members are trying to encourage one another to delete all the dating apps 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:43 PM |
| 190 | Ever notice after a lifetime of loyal pampering, Pickmes are still abandoned by their sons in old age?My mom lets my younger brother walk ALL over her. He totally ignores her when she says something to him, unless it’s something he’s actually interested in. He yells at her when she reminds him to do his homework. He’s 19 now and he does NOT treat our dad that way, he is much more respectful and would never yell at him. It makes me so angry the way he treats mom. I noticed this years ago but when I tried to step in and defend her, she’d turn on me and tell me I’m not his mom and I have no right t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 45 | Don't "share" your friends!I had a former friend who had a completely useless helpless “I’m so dumb” bumbling boyfriend. She had boundaries that he broke one by one and he’d be like “I didn’t know that’s what you meant” 🙄 (edit: I don’t think he was stupid, I think he just acted oblivious but knew exactly what he was doing. My friend always thought he was actually oblivious) Case in point: she didn’t want to share friend circles but he was so socially awkward he didn’t have friends anymore. He decided to befriend her frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:14 PM |
| 42 | My grandpa’s gesture made me almost cryThis is so lovely and wholesome. So sorry for your loss OP. Off topic but the charms… 🇷🇴? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:06 PM |
| 28 | All it takes for a woman to be reduced to an object is too much eyeliner | Arwa MahdawiI just cut off 2 feet of hair (went from waist length to chin length) and dyed it the color I always wanted; I feel like myself again somehow 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:53 PM |
| 88 | FDS Translates VICE - "Adult" Men with their Mattresses on the Floor“Emotional fortitude” SENT ME If I, a smallish, fairly inexperienced with handiwork woman, was able to assemble a bed frame by myself in an evening, I’m sure most able-bodied people also can 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:13 AM |
| 74 | The FWB Myth: Why Friends With Benefits Only Cause Women PainI liked this article, it was a good perspective. I’d like to push back on the part where he said it doesn’t matter if you sleep with him “5 minutes in” and that either hookups or no hookups have equal “success rate.” I’d argue if the “success” is just “a relationship,” then maybe that’s true, but success should actually mean “a good and mutually beneficial relationship” in which case sleeping with a guy early on is a near-zero chance for success. Overall though, good reminder that we need to kee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:49 AM |
| 26 | Non libfem feminist subs, are there any?The only one I know of, and this doesn’t exactly fit the bill but it’s similar, is wgtow. Not a ton of posts per day, but the more people join the more there’ll be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 09:34 PM |
| 100 | Stockholm syndrome victim rationalizes her trauma bonding.I am pretty sure “impact play” is about hitting your partner. Agreed, I hate how the euphemisms make the acts sound fun and hides what they really are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 32 | Buzzfeed posts “toxic” GenZ girl responses to boys but Comments support GenZ queens 💅🏽How in the world is anything from that screenshot toxic??? Yeah men shame women for not being hairless, wrinkle-free doormats for them, but women are the toxic ones because we want guys to put in some effort? Seriously 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:42 PM |
| 225 | I thought this was very telling. Most guys who post about their wives are judged to be the asshole, while most women aren't the asshole when posting about their husbands.And furthermore we have all seen how insanely biased that sub is against women, so the fact that EVEN with that bias this is still the outcome is worth thinking about Edit for typo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:12 AM |
| 12 | "bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they saidI’ll be honest I am never sure when my period is coming, luckily for me the first day is always light so I can just be like “oh ok time to start wearing pads” and not paranoid about stains etc. I wish I had predictable periods 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:10 AM |
| 5 | Slimy old men approaching me. The Audacity!Pre pandemic I liked sometimes going to bars by myself just to vibe, and old guys would try to talk to me, with their bald hatfishing selves 🤡 not one, but 3 separate occasions these strangers would insist on guessing my age. I’m early 20s, I don’t do makeup, I dress very casual so I do look younger than my age. But these scrotes would guess I’m in my 30s in what I know realize was an attempt to neg me 😂😂 I know I don’t look older than my age, so it didn’t even bother me I just thought they are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 69 | No quarter for coomersYou have forgotten the cardinal rule which is that everything is our fault 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:02 PM |
| 19 | Wedged In My Windshield Wiper: A Note From A ScroteHAHAH me and my friends all tell each other this because we have never had a good experience with a J name 🤣 I thought it was just us but not anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:15 PM |
| 6 | Icelandic artist Daði Freyr's song about the great decade he's spent with his wife is so wholesome and HV.I like his song “think about things” it’s about his infant daughter (and his wife a little) and it’s lovely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 07:38 AM |
| 5 | Woman asks if she was wrong to tell her ex's girlfriend that he had 3 kids he abandoned. The first responders say yes absolutely, but the fact they are heavily downvoted gives me some hope.I don’t care if the motivation was revenge, anger, or more looking out for the other woman. Not sure why the male commenters are sooo hung up on accusing her of being vindictive. Who cares— the primary issue is this guy being a deadbeat dad and then hiding it from his next girlfriend. This is just like when a guy is cheating on his girlfriend but Reddit neckbeards vilify the girlfriend for “invading his privacy” on a hunch. Give me a break. Always deflecting to blame the woman. Women have the ri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 0 | Gethin Anthony anyone?Third pic is 🔥🔥🔥 game of thrones didn’t do him justice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 07:26 PM |
| 37 | This is why I’m okay with not getting married or having children. I’d much rather be out experiencing life and enjoying myself than have to deal with thisLowkey saving this comment for the lovely description, sounds amazing 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 07:04 PM |
| 275 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.He started this business but still made her go 50/50 on bills 🤡 look, if you’re gonna do the old he provides / she takes care of the home, it means he PROVIDES 100%. He is doing less than half the job of a significant other by shirking half the financial weight and the entire housekeeping weight. Useless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 99 | Much data. Totally proves point. I am much convinced.“Adult men had sex with children because the children wanted to” does this pedo hear himself? How stupid do you have to be to say this sort of thing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:07 AM |
| 20 | How do you clearly show a man your standards/expectations? Consistent, precise, and rapid ACTIONIt’s easy: if a man you are vetting and not even in a relationship with yet does something you don’t like, you block and delete. Why waste time when even on BEST (theoretically) behavior he disappoints you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 74 | *warning nsfw language* Saw this on the She Rates Dogs twitter page - he said the quiet part out loud“Boo hoo look at me and make me feel better I’m such a bad person 🥺🥺🥺” wtf what is it with guys doing this, just yesterday I read a post about another guy pulling the same shit and going surprised pikachu when the woman was like ok bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 06:27 PM |
| 35 | And you can be a whole Dragon Queen and end up with a JackassI’m still mad that during shrek 2 (my favorite of the shrek movies despite the ogre nonsense mentioned in this post), shrek literally offers to stay human forever, I was like omg yes Fiona can be back to who she was and now SHREK is the one who changes for her but nooo she goes “I’m a princess I want to live happily ever after... with the ogre I married” I’m so mad every time like Fiona WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:15 PM |
| 12 | I am done pandering to women In my lifeI’m right there with you on that 🙁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:51 AM |
| 61 | The ImplicationYes!!! 100% agreed. Women need to wise up and stop burdening themselves with making men “understand” social norms when actually they are only pretending not to understand. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life being embarrassed by a man who doesn’t know how to act right (either in social situations or between the two of us) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:38 AM |
| 88 | “At the end of the day, we love each other” 🤡“It’s actually the 3rd time with this couch” this sounds like it predates the current sofa oml couldn’t be me. Notice how her narrative is how she can help him instead of him taking responsibility for his stupid actions. Also not to harp on the same thing over and over but I posted recently about the erosion of normal and how women have to put up with everything no matter how ridiculous. This is what I’m talking about. A grown man getting so drunk he pisses on the sofa numerous times, and the co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Let’s just make reproductive coercion seem like fun now /sYou know they’re obsessed with it because they’re always accusing women of trapping THEM in with a baby. Anytime they accuse women of something they’re actually outing themselves on what they’re doing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 10:26 PM |
| 224 | Watch until the end!I was getting increasingly riled up LOL glad I watched to the end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 51 | I found this poem by Nayyirah Waheed recently...and then this criticism. How do u feel about it?I read “soft psyche” as a child’s easily-shaped worldview, as in a child starts with no innate beliefs but their mind can stretch and be molded (“soft”), while the “cruel” nature is learned and inferred to be directed at women from the last line. I really don’t see it saying the son starts out “womanly / soft” and ends up “manly / cruel”. I read it as the son starts off “childlike / soft” and ends “woman-hating / cruel” forgetting who gave him life. So I’m perplexed at the critical fb comment pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:27 PM |
| 10 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameYeah, he really sucked! I’m just glad that I dumped him ASAP and didn’t try to coMmuNicAte why he bothered me 😌😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:41 PM |
| 69 | The "Tell-Tale" signs of jealousy/envy are not always the sameI had gone to a top ranked uni for computer science and my nv ex had gone to a local college with the same major. We were both programmers at the time (graduated already). I never really brought it up, but he took every opportunity to always tell me how he’s the best at his job, and how his school had an amazing computer science program. I was like ... Ok?? Good for you?? He also was the first (and last) person to ever seriously neg me, and it ramped up rapidly once we became “official”. It went… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 21 | I still don't understand other women putting their worth into how much pleasure a man can get out of their vaginas.There’s so many things wrong here I don’t know where to start— As others here mentioned, it’s disappointing and unnerving hearing women sexualize themselves in this crass way; it isn’t empowering, it’s degrading yourself for ... Flowers? The response seems to imply that the ultimate goal for a woman in a relationship is to not need to work, aka give up the only source of financial independence in your life and become dependent on a man. Gonna be a no from me. Why are we still on the same tired t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:45 AM |
| 52 | Why it’s block AND deleteIs it an iPhone? Mine does that too— I usually add the contact, block it, then delete the contact and this lets the # be blocked while removing the name from the number! Alternatively, in the past I made a “spam” contact and added tons of spam and bad numbers to it and blocked the whole contact, so each time I wanted to block someone I just added their number to Mr. Spam lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Help☹️ dang I don’t know how you are able to memorize someone else’s number, I went years not even knowing my own number LOL. Sorry I didn’t help, stay strong and know that the longer you refrain from contacting him, the easier it becomes, until you don’t even want to reach out. Whenever I got the urge to message a dude back in the day, I would message my best friend instead and she would support me through it 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:47 PM |
| 2 | HelpBlock and delete! Delete = delete the conversation, delete his number, delete any way you could possibly contact him. Next time you feel the urge, you couldn’t contact him anyway! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:32 PM |
| 103 | Woman's abusive ex boyfriend showed up to her house to harass her. She stood up to him like a queen!Same reason they’re baffled when we’re busy, expect us to always be available, and think they can put in zero effort and still see us: they think women are not real people with fulfilling lives; they think they are the best thing that ever happened to us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:24 PM |
| 52 | Stressful situations/Sickness weed out LVM/NVMsThis reminds me of something from the handbook where it was recommended to go on a trip together (presumably after you are already boyfriend-girlfriend) because travel can be stressful and therefore can reveal what your boyfriend’s response to stressful situations is— does he handle it with patience, humor, and supportiveness, or does he get snappy, bossy, or expect you to handle everything? I think it’s a great idea because you’re not manufacturing a problem per se, and trips can be fun. Plus, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:12 PM |
| 11 | What college girls need to look out for; Causal DatingGood post! Commenting to add: frequently while I was in college, me and my other friends were asked to be “exclusive but not official.” !!! Even back then, I told my friends it is not a real thing. It’s only a way to make sure you won’t have sex with anyone but them, without them putting in any care or commitment because “we’re not in a relationship we’re just exclusive.” Also, shockingly (to me) these guys 100% tell on themselves and say exactly those words, so you don’t need to do any reading … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:32 AM |
| 74 | Imagine being this mad about having to put in effort to start a relationship. And of course under a woman's comment saying "this can go both ways" they ask, "are you fat?"This is exactly it^ and that’s why we tell each other to wait a while, because people can’t hide their true selves forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 7 | A great example of how libfem pickmes are dangerous to women. FGM = Female Genital Mutilation.Also I had thought FGM is done to children, not adults, right? Children can’t consent, so the whole argument doesn’t even follow libfem “logic” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 05:42 AM |
| 14 | The false equivalency of pornography for men and romantic comedies for womenAgreed. I also often see men comparing porn with erotica, and although they’re both mediums that help you masturbate, one of them exploits and rapes women and children, the other is a BOOK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 05:39 AM |
| 2 | Why we don’t do clapbacksIt’s a natural feeling when someone has wronged you, don’t beat yourself up about it. The more time you spend loving yourself and creating a full life without him, the less you’ll even care to think of him. You got this 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 4 | my therapist "not all men'd" meGlad you’re looking for a new one!! Shame on that therapist, defending men even on her job to help YOU. I remembered commenting on a recent thread like this, here’s the link below if you want to see those other responses! link to post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:32 AM |
| 7 | This is how men view women. Apparently Marilyn Monroe is not even average without make up, and looks disgusting and like a man. Just another fine example how all LVM can do is reduce a woman to her looks.Maybe this is a weird thought, but I feel sad that even now, as she passed away many years ago, men still make crude comments at her and decide her worth based on her looks instead of her extremely impressive— especially given the time period— accomplishments. Like damn, women can’t even get peace after passing. Women still have to be fuckable even then. Exhausting 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Why we don’t do clapbacksI saw that!! Glad you like the post :) I report it under fds rules > “read the handbook before posting” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:30 PM |
| 43 | Why we don’t do clapbacksYes!! So happy for you 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 04:22 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inWill do! Thanks :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:40 PM |
| 53 | Is there a word for this?This feels similar to when guys flirt very clearly but then deny it when you turn them down. To myself I just called it plausible deniability behaviors and avoid avoid avoid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:52 PM |
| 126 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI was wondering if it would be possible to discourage “clapback screenshot” posts? I see them consistently and not only are they not fds, I also often see newer members defending and encouraging it in the comments, while members who point out it’s not fds are responded to rudely and initially downvoted. I just don’t think clapback posts show anything helpful and in fact they encourage spending time and energy on guys when we could be moving on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:35 PM |
| 204 | Hypocrisy of men: Women are not allowed to kink-shame, but they are allowed to boundary shame women?!As a former libfem I now struggle to understand why it was so important not to kinkshame. Like, why is it so necessary for people to broadcast the weird and often harmful (see: misogynistic/racist “kinks”) things they want to do during sex? Was that really the biggest issue society was facing, that we don’t talk about weird sex shit enough?? Smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:37 PM |
| 30 | I have been laughing about this all day. Went to his page and its full of cringey content like this. He talks about going 5050 with women as well. Also, he seems to be very short. Someone please give this broke hobbit some sense 😂😂😂This comment has me wheezing 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:36 AM |
| 82 | Vetting a therapist?I just kept switching until I got someone I like. Wasn’t allowed to pick, I could only request a new one and get assigned. Notably my current therapist’s info/about section is a lot more no-nonsense, it included something along the lines that we will track measurable progress to make sure therapy is working. In our first session she told me if I’m not seeing results by session 4, I should fire her. She’s also the first one who gave me worksheets to do between sessions. She’s the first one who ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:22 AM |
| 30 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateI ended a date once by telling the guy we aren’t compatible (due to him thinking trump isn’t “that bad”). Then when I got home he texted me that I seem nice but after thinking about it he doesn’t think we’re a good match. Like..... I literally said we’re not compatible, out loud, you don’t get to act like you’re turning me down 😂😂 I didn’t respond, just laughed and deleted him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:57 PM |
| 18 | Lvm and false dichotomies?💯💯 especially on “nobody ever asked them to be a fairytale prince” they often seem to react to any standards by painting them as absurd and sliding below the bar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Lvm and false dichotomies?I didn’t know this, but it makes sense! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:24 AM |
| 14 | Lvm and false dichotomies?Yes! This is a good point, turning any criticism of them into an absurd standard is definitely a variant of this false dichotomy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:23 AM |
| 19 | Another dog went after my dog and it's proof men are trashI feel this is exactly the case. He can’t harass me directly so he allows his dog to do so | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:08 PM |
| 35 | Another dog went after my dog and it's proof men are trashI also think women are more likely to take responsibility for their actions than men tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 52 | Another dog went after my dog and it's proof men are trash100000%. When I see women walking dogs who aren’t yet friendly, and they see me with my dog, we both swap ourselves as we get closer so our dogs are on the outside, as far apart as possible. It’s totally unspoken, just the safe, polite thing to do to ensure no one gets hurt. On the other hand, SO MANY men have dogs on these retractable leashes (horrible!! These are so dangerous for the dogs) and of course, these leashes are so long that even if the man is standing on one edge of the sidewalk, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:35 PM |
| 12 | testHey! I may have an explanation for this because I too sort by new. When I made a post recently, it waited in mod queue (I guess) for a little while before getting approved. When it got approved it was at the top of new, but the timestamp still reflected the time I originally submitted it. So maybe that’s what’s going on when things seem out of order— they were submitted a while ago but just got approved so they really are new | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 02:36 AM |
| 9 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateNot me at an internship where a male intern remarks at me “woW pReTty AND sMaRt hehe” they really dont think we are complete people do they 😒😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 04:24 PM |
| 25 | Men intend to force you into a no-win situation when they cross your boundaries. Don't let them.I feel this is closely related to the jUst cOmMuniCatE advice that we see so often, it places the onus on the victim (whose boundaries are crossed) to I guess outline every possible thing that could bother them, even extremely reasonable normal things, or else they’re not allowed to be upset when their partner does them 🙄🙄🙄 yeah right. That’s gonna be a no from me. My rule: the FIRST TIME a guy does something that a reasonable person would understand is rude/hurtful/unpleasant for me, they are b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:44 AM |
| 26 | The front page just re-traumatizes me all over againI’m sending you a big internet hug 💞 I’m so sorry to hear that, but so glad you’re not there anymore. Echoing another commenter, I also don’t ever look at the front page because the majority of posts and comments are anti-woman, and I just dont need to see that. If it’s possible, I hope you might try to avoid it too for your own sake ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 11:51 PM |
| 12 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Had to start taking anti-anxiety medication while dating a nvm.. it gave me insomnia so I was horribly tired but at least I wasn’t anxious anymore I guess?? Stopped taking it cold turkey the day we broke up, never felt better 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:30 AM |
| 22 | Applying FDS "sex strategy" when I physically cannot/ have never had an orgasm?Hi I just want to let you know I had my first orgasm at 23 after years and years of trying, and the answer was just trying a different type of vibrator with a stronger vibration, and being patient with myself (sorry if that sounds unhelpful, there really was no magic thing). I haven’t had an orgasm from a partner and I seriously doubt a partner could do that unless they were totally un-selfish and genuinely wanted to please me, as opposed to wanting it for their own ego. They’d also need to be V… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:21 PM |
| 15 | Having boundaries does not make you controlling or insecure, and cut anyone out of your life who tells you otherwise.I think that would be a good topic for a post! I also think sending nudes is not a smart decision but not sure about intimacy outside the bedroom 🤔 Small edit: yes also agreed the lying itself was bad!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 12:51 AM |
| 80 | Having boundaries does not make you controlling or insecure, and cut anyone out of your life who tells you otherwise.Yes I am so glad I’m seeing this today! 100% on all points. I saw a post earlier on fds from a woman who left a relationship because the guy watched porn behind her back. Initially she had posted in another subreddit that’s “for women”, where people accused her of being insecure and that porn isn’t bad and that the bad part was the hiding and lying not the porn. When I saw the insecure comments I was so irritated on OP’s behalf. Taking “he is doing something akin to cheating and I don’t like tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:51 PM |
| 3 | How to avoid interacting with men who are far right/hate womenPepe is a meme cartoon drawing of a frog, I don’t know what Wojak is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:20 AM |
| 111 | Thoughts on being friends/hanging out with men who see you as more than a friend?I don’t believe in friendships with men even if they haven’t explicitly said they have feelings for you. I would never trust a man the same way I trust women. Something I would always wonder: is he friends with me because he really cares for me, or because he thinks if he keeps being my friend I’ll eventually sleep with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 7 | an excellent message!!I agree with the other commenters that it’s more nuanced than that: if you are in an abusive relationship, you probably do not realize it’s abusive, and believe it’s at least partly your fault. Not to mention isolation and the many other factors that make it difficult to escape. But if we set aside abusive relationships and apply what she’s saying to regular old LVM relationships without abuse, then I think her critique is valid. If your only motive to stay in a bad, useless relationship is so y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:18 AM |
| 4 | Oww, Oh what? I got hit with cupid's boomerang. Happy Valentines to me!Love it!! I’m currently soaking with a bath bomb and a candle + a good book 🥰🥰 also Cupid’s boomerang gave me a good laugh. Enjoy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Vanilla Convert (anti BDSM finally!)Thank you so much for this!! Because of fds I would never do bdsm again anyways, but it’s what I thought I liked in the past. Your experience is reassuring for me and I’m so glad you posted it. Saved! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:18 PM |
| 80 | Best. Clickbait. Ever!Y’all, it’s a video explaining why if you’re asking “how can I get him to commit” it already shows he’s not the right person! Hence the “clickbait” title lol. Very clear and logical video about the “contract” of a relationship and respecting yourself by holding your standards high | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 08:33 PM |
| 32 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I read the book about attachment styles, so I’ll chime in with what I understood from there. In the book, it said avoidants often value independence so highly that relying on anyone for anything becomes very uncomfortable and conflicts with their self-view of not needing anyone else. It makes them worry they’re becoming dependent on someone and in response, they distance themselves from others. Whereas I assume “resilient” self-concept is where you’re confident enough in your own independence th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 31 | "I didn't mean to" doesn't cut it the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time...I was just thinking about this yesterday— even if a guy really didn’t mean to upset you, the HV way to respond is if he apologizes and genuinely makes it up to you and shows he understands by not making a similar mistake. A LVM instead does this bs “I didn’t mean to” aka “I am exonerated from wrongdoing”. If he says “I didn’t mean to,” not only he’s not sorry enough to apologize properly, but also he doesn’t listen or pay attention enough to be aware of what might bother you or he’s just too stu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:08 PM |
| 344 | Art imitates lifeI married a warrior in Skyrim and every day he cooks me a meal and gives me money 🥰 always vet!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 188 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyA good point!! My 2 cents— I think all the advice on fds that’s in the “don’t expend effort on undeserving men” box should come with the caveat — “unless it shields you from imminent danger” eg if you find yourself alone with a man you think could become aggressive if you shut him down. I’m sure you already thought of this but worth mentioning! Also your story with your brother cracked me UP lol at the “logical” sex thinking you can “prove” a sense of humor like it’s a math problem lmaooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:45 AM |
| 65 | “Have you tried communicating?”“You should only have to communicate your boundaries clearly if they are unusual or not inherently obvious.” Clearest way I’ve ever heard it said. Very important to remember when navigating when to communicate vs when to immediately block and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:48 AM |
| 71 | Might be controversial even here, but I thinks BJs as demeaningSame here! Recently realized that I’m never giving a bj again 🥳🥳 post-fds I’m realizing I don’t need to do things I hate just to please a man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:33 PM |
| 13 | Online dating... should I try again or am I being ridiculous?Even ignoring all of the other issues mentioned (regarding catching Covid, which obviously is a massive risk and I’m not downplaying it), I just want to ask: what date do you see yourself going on? In my area, ALL indoor activities are closed, it’s winter, and most people here don’t have cars. Since we’re on FDS, we only do HV, high effort dates. I can’t name even 1 that could be done, because it’s too cold outside to do any hv outdoor activities, and indoor is either closed or just too risky. G… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Protect your energy from everyoneOmg no this was an actual party, the warehouse one sounds so scary!! But the similarities in our story def agree to be careful about who we trust | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:44 PM |
| 49 | Protect your energy from everyoneI visited a friend while we were in college, and she took me to a party across the city. Within a few minutes, she told me she was dipping to go hook up with this guy — turns out that was her plan all along — but not to worry, her male BFF will make sure I make it back to the dorms. Well, her male BFF attempted to sexually assault me, and laughed in my face when I loudly said I don’t consent. I ended up having to run and hold a door shut, it was terrifying. I told my friend about it when she cam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:28 PM |
| 60 | The men (and women) in the comments are LOSING IT 😂LOL love it! Only the truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 10:48 PM |
| 4 | A Short Addendum to the Question of TherapyI agree but I wanted to tell this story about my (pre-fds, early pandemic days) ex. He was a disaster and had serious commitment issues, and I was pushing him to go to therapy. Eventually I made him no-contact, and he decided he still didn’t need therapy BUT that he’d do “self-therapy” once a week where he thinks to himself about what his issues are and how to fix them 😂😂 Anyways after a few of his “self-therapy” sessions he reaches out to me and says he’s figured out why he wasnt able to commit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:48 AM |
| 47 | Saw this exercise posted here, thought I'd share my pre-FDS ex and why I left him. I'm 3 years out now and much better, but this was the reward I got for moving states with someone I barely knew. Always vet!He sounds absolutely horrific, I’m so glad you got out! Sending a big hug 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:48 AM |
| 8 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I do like it—I’ve been lucky so far with my teammates at work, but I’ll second the notion anyway based on my other interactions. I always thought it would be nice to date a programmer so we could talk shop at home but I’ve yet to find 1 who fits the bill 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:03 AM |
| 55 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?Some guy in a bar told me I must be a shitty programmer if I don’t know how to build a computer (???) so I told him he’s probably a shitty farmer since he doesn’t know how to build a tractor lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:35 PM |
| 7 | Sometimes it do be like that lolOkay this is funny but as someone who’s felt this before, I wanted to share what I learned to avoid this. The moment when this is happening it’s good to take a step back and ensure 1. That you’re having a complete and fulfilling life outside of dating and 2. That this person isn’t (intentionally or unintentionally) making you anxious with texting games. Especially if 2 is happening, it would be time to block and delete!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:52 AM |
| 41 | "My bf is perfect! Except for his violence, abuse and starving me."Agreed, this post made me really worried. It’s already in controlling behavior territory by controlling her food intake and intimidating her (through his anger and door-slamming). I really hope she gets out of there :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:58 PM |
| 18 | Princess Pickmeisha receives a proposal of marriage from Lord ScotemortOkay so obviously this is bad and she shouldn’t entertain this bs... but the 20 questions at the end had me laughing so hard 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 18 | I’ve already come to the conclusion but I’d like your thoughts..Same here (at least that’s what I did when I still had the apps lol). If he’s not talking to me in over a day or so, then I assume he’s not that interested so ¯\(ツ)/¯ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:21 PM |
| 11 | PICKME gives women a piece of her mind.Lmao yeah talking about “females” and “men” yet another male LARPing as a woman online to put us in our place 🙄🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:33 AM |
| 22 | What type of guy do you like?“I’ll know when I see it” to be honest I don’t even know what my type is anymore so this isn’t even a lie! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:06 PM |
| 28 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I had been vetting one last guy who was probably the first one ever where I let him chase me— he baked me a cake to congratulate me on my recent work success, sent me mochi and bath bombs, took me on lovely dates to restaurants and museums, but unfortunately he didn’t message me at all for 2 days after I sent the last message, so I had to block and delete. On reflection, I noticed that despite the fact we had about 6 dates, I still had no grasp on his personality and values/goals in life. I thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 11 | Do any of you have HVM dads?My parents got divorced, but from what I know it was just incompatibility. They are still in friendly contact (I suspect at least partly because they share custody of my younger sibling). My dad still helps my mom around the house when she messages him for help about something he had always handled when they lived together. As for my relationship with my dad, I’m actually a lot closer to him than I am to my mom (although I’m working on being closer with her too). He is always telling me how he’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:02 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020That sounds so cute!! Can’t wait to go get my Christmas tree this year too 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:25 PM |
| 6 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Okay I do NOT appreciate the mental image you gave me here lol 😂 but you have a point. I will note I DID see him get it out the “clean” linen closet all folded but... 🤮 never again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 35 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Let me tell you it is FABULOUS I moved into my own apartment last fall and I love how everything STAYS neat and tidy and when dishes are cleaned they are CLEAN... I don’t think I ever want to live with someone again! By contrast when I had a situationship this spring and went to my “boyfriend”’s apartment which he shared with 2 other guys, it was never too messy per se but nothing was clean, everything had a layer of grime on it. I showered once at his place.. ONCE because the towel he handed me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:36 PM |
| 28 | We don't get to participate because of our views.https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toe_the_line | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:19 AM |
| 87 | My dating fatigue summed up in one video.Girl I’m cackling 😭 I feel this so hard though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 04:27 AM |
| 31 | i think my eyes rolled back so far i saw my brain.Agreeing with the other commenter who said to stop using dating apps— I’ve only met sociopaths and assholes that way, and even they were the result after wasting days of my life filtering out everyone else. Since deleting the apps, I found I have leveled up so much and I’m enjoying my free time a lot more. Side story, before I deleted all my dating apps this guy messaged me to say he would like to meet my dog “oh and don’t worry... you’re invited too” like wtf my dog is my baby and even the auda… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:12 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you guys done/are going to do single motherhood by choice (smbc)?Personally, I believe I’ll eventually want kids but I’m increasingly thinking I’m not going to find anyone worth marrying. So, I think I’ll either freeze my eggs and go the sperm donor route, or adopt. I don’t want the lack of a man to prevent me from doing something I’d like to do (raise a family) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:13 AM |
| 12 | Therapists are frustratingI’m sorry you don’t have the ability to change therapists right now because that therapist sounds the opposite of helpful. Reminds me of my old therapist. I told her about an argument I’d had with my then-boyfriend who said some sexist shit. She asked me to explain “so why is it so important for you for the guy you’re dating to be a feminist?” I was like ??? Really? I have to defend my standard, instead of clearly seeing this guy is a sexist pos?? I was so mad 🙄 and when I told her a few session… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:12 AM |
| 57 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.Wtf! I hope you did suggest to him to enjoy it without an orgasm 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:58 PM |
| 116 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.The false narrative!! I didn’t think I could orgasm until this year when I finally got a vibrator lol turns out I never actually liked sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 167 | Celebrating small victories by being supportive and encouraging is always wholesome to me :’)This reminded me! I’m currently vetting a guy and recently had a successful meeting with one of the higher ups at work, and when I told the guy, he baked me a cake 😭 I haven’t ever been courted before because I am a very assertive person and that carried to my love life. But I’m letting him take the lead, and I have to say it’s much better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:46 AM |
| 2 | In need of support 😥Please remember to forgive your own mistakes— you already grew and recognized it wasn’t the right choice to keep in contact. By agonizing over it and beating yourself up, you’re being harsh with yourself. If your friend had made a mistake and messaged her ex, you wouldn’t be mean to her about it right? So extend the same forgiveness to yourself as you would to a friend. Take a deep breath, remember that everyone has made decisions they regret. I’ve also been alone for the majority of the pandemi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Low Value Men on TinderThey swipe right on everyone and expect the women to filter themselves out because they can’t be bothered 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:59 AM |
| 10 | Even after 11yrs and TWO kidsIn fairness “don’t move in before marriage” is part of the fds handbook, and there’s a bit in there about how you can still analyze the things you mentioned without moving in first | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:03 PM |
| 36 | Love LanguagesAgreed— one of my takeaways from the book @men is that it’s not about what you’re good at (re: “but I’m just not good at gift giving!”) but rather, what your partner needs from you. If your girlfriend really loves gifts, then you work on your gift-giving game. If she feels like there hasn’t been enough words of affirmation, doesn’t matter if you’re “not good with words,” you work on it and meet her needs. Once a man starts using “but I’m not gOoD at that love language” he’s misusing the concept … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 166 | This was on the ‘trashy’ sub. Dunno- sounds like legit advice to me! 🤷🏻♀️Yes! Everything they say only reinforces my belief that men will always condemn what women do unless they think it serves them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:28 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I can’t seem to find this in the handbook— what’s a good timeline for the first time you let a man come over to your place? I’ve been on 4 high value dates over the past few weeks with a guy and he’s asking about coming over to play boardgames. Only green flags so far but I’m trying to stick with FDS principles. Thoughts? ETA- thanks for the responses! I hadn’t responded to his message, and he actually called me to suggest we go to a restaurant instead. I’ll make sure to take it slowly and only … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 11:29 PM |
| 12 | Perfect response!I would even say life is too short to text a man at all! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 06:34 AM |
| 27 | Porn has fried so many brains they can’t even see a cute picture puppy video without mentioning porn.To be clear, the 😒 is at the joke not at you lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 47 | Porn has fried so many brains they can’t even see a cute picture puppy video without mentioning porn.I wish I didn’t understand the joke 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 57 | The first date walk in the park stikes again!LOL honestly you have a point. But would Gigi entertain that? Absolutely not, and neither will I! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:30 PM |
| 134 | The first date walk in the park stikes again!Tbh my strat is just to unmatch anyone who suggests a stupid date to me. I think “is this the kind of date they’d suggest to a supermodel they’re obsessed with?” If the answer is no, then my answer is no :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:54 PM |
| 54 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”I thought I liked sex until I purchased a vibrator, now I don’t even think about sex at all :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:35 PM |
| 16 | Don’t rush to feel the butterflies and passion when you’re meeting these men. That’s actually your intuition telling you somethings up! Love isn’t extreme passion. It is gentle, warming and safe.I needed this reminder today!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 11:44 PM |
| 2 | What posts do you enjoy seeing on FDS and what would you like to see more of?I like seeing real-life examples of HVM behavior (specifically in relationships, not the ones of “here is a man doing a good thing!”) to remind me what the bar is in a relationship. I also like posts picking apart common things we see that are less widely known yellow or red flags. I do not like seeing screenshots from incels (why are those here? Useless) or the ones of women arguing with LVM on OLD, that doesn’t exemplify what we strive for at FDS. On a side note, I frequently see posts where i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:45 AM |
| 30 | Why all the rape jokes??Once heard somewhere that the equivalent level of fear for men is the idea of getting their dick cut off. It works well, I say this because when I once read a story about an abused woman getting fed up and cutting her husband’s dick off + throwing it in a bush, I oddly found it kind of funny? I felt a bit guilty for it, but in fairness he was a terrible abuser. And it seems like men find the story absolutely terrifying even if they are vehemently against abuse. So I think dick getting cut off is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 36 | “I was raised to take care of my husband...”Sounds like he definitely got taken care of 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:49 AM |
| 12 | I blocked him.If you were already noticing red flags, why did you go on to meet up with him more than once, let him continue to talk to you rudely and objectify you, purchase food for him, get in a car with him, make out with him...? I’m glad you are recognizing that this was bad behavior on his end, but I really think you should have blocked and deleted so much sooner. It would’ve saved you a lot of frustration and time and peace of mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 24 | Why do men think I want to be their friend? When I refuse dates, they say they just want to hangout "as friends"... Um my friends are comical geniuses, who are empathetic and have so much wisdom to share. These men are dull, sheltered and boring.This got me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:06 PM |
| 26 | Local man can't handle the fact his girlfriend is smarter than himUmmm ackshually his high IQ (did you know it is 162??) has caused him to abandon his human form and now he is a liquid, hence he pours over his books and gets absorbed into them duh 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 07:42 AM |
| 4 | Beyond the peen: what are your physical preferences when it comes to men's appearances?I was about to write mine, but this right here is basically exactly what I would’ve written. Pity that we even have to specify that we want a hygienic man, in a better world it would be a given | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Block and delete feels so freeingLOL I am deceased they always try to slither back in 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 08:06 PM |
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