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Fundamentals montanalombardy/r/seduction21/10/22 11:20 AM
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I tihnk it would be very unusual for a woman to not know why you are texting her. She's asking this because: She is giving you an excuse to ask her out She realized you want to ask her out but doesn't like you that way, and wants to just reject you early without any more fuss In either case, it's best to be direct.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:26 PM
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Who said the coffee date should be quick? Meet in the afternoon/evening. If the date is going well, continue to dinner or drinks or dessert or a walk. If she is like "aight imma head out" after talking to you for an hour, she isn't into you anyway lol. Unless she has to be off for work, in that case you set up a second, proper date.
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:42 AM
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You don't need game to get girls. You just need a social life. If you regularly talk to peoplke, go out with friends, meet their friends, etc. you will find a woman interested in you eventually. If you know how to flirt with women, it just increases your chances. Btw, PUAs really try to cut against the grain. Talking to random women on streets or bars might be the hardest way to meet a woman.
/r/seduction01/09/23 03:11 PM
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There is truth to your title. However, from what I see, most men have no clue how to flirt. And this leads them to fail with women who are into them. A girl I was chatting with for the past two weeks kept on telling me how cool it would be if she was able to afford to go somewhere for the summer, I asked if she would like to go with me to a festival that I was going to in a couple of days, she didn't reply. This was an all-expense paid trip, something that she supposedly wanted. Man, you might h…
/r/seduction02/08/23 10:50 AM
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I believe "skill confidence" and "social confidence" are completely different things. That's why some utter lsoers have amazing confidence when talking to people. And some extremely talented overachievers are the most awkward unconfident people you'll meet. To have a good dating life you need social confidence. To build social confidence, go out and socialize. Meet people, make friends, talk to strangers, learn social skills.
/r/seduction18/07/23 01:01 AM
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they've never been approached before. Not possible unless the woman has been really isolated. She probably did not even realize guys were chatting her up to try to hook up with her. Women can be really oblivious about this. When I go out with female friends to a party etc, it's like a 90% chance they will be approached. I've had a really pretty girl I know (she has a bf) be approached by 3 different guys in 2 mins, I shit you not. She probably thought they were being friendly or some shit.
/r/seduction31/05/23 10:12 PM
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This is movie shit. It's so rare that a woman you haven't talked to gives you a genuine all-teeth-showing smile. And if you see that you don't need a stranger online to tell you to talk to her.
/r/seduction17/04/23 11:15 AM
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Simple reason is: she wants to know you before she wants to be with you. I think it's about trust and safety. If she knows that you are basically a normal person, she can trust you and feel safe with you. And for her to know you, you need to talk. If you are just sitting there listening, she may think you are cute but she won't know you.
/r/seduction02/04/23 08:51 PM
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Go to a girl wearing a regular costume and say "Are you a sexy vampire?" (or ghost, witch, whatever) She will say "No, I'm a regular vampire." Then you say "No you are a SEXY vampire" and wink at her. Doesn't work on women wearing actual sexy costumes.
/r/seduction27/10/22 11:48 PM
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More like she's thinking "I paid for the gym, might as well use it" and 8 mins later "ok I'm bored". Furthermore, why are you so concerned about whether she is signaling you or not? If you like her, talk to her. You are at a fairly socially acceptable place to talk to strangers.
/r/seduction24/10/22 10:32 PM
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It's legit advice. It means be honeat to yourself. Don't ignore your wants and feelings. Express your opinions and interests. Eg. If you really like a girl and want to talk to her but you don't, you ar enot being yourself. Eg. If someone is telling something boring and you don't change the topic and instead pretend to be interested, you aren't being yourself
/r/seduction19/10/22 08:02 AM
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I love when a guy approaches me and talks to me like he’s known me for years I try to do this. Both with men and women, as I think it's also a great way to make friends. It is hard sometimes to find topics of conversation when you just approach someone though. Other than the basic "what do you do?" Type questions.
/r/seduction18/10/22 02:08 PM
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Any tips and tricks? Should I literally try to fit these into the conversation at any possible opportunity?
/r/seduction17/10/22 03:04 PM
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And then "game" is simply improving yourself and communicating these things?
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:40 PM
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Yeah, maybe I have no idea. What do women find attractive?
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:23 PM
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I find this hard to believe. Yes, some girls are that into you and will escalate it till you are in her bed. But if you wait for that to happen, you might get laid once in a year or two. Most women you meet will not be that into you. But just kino and flirting will do wonders. And also some women will be really into you, yet too awkward or introverted themselves to escalate and you will have to take the reins at some point. Still, yours is an interesting mentality and I'll think over it for a wh…
/r/seduction17/10/22 02:01 PM
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Maturity includes knowing how to have a balance in life. Balance between responsibilities, fun, hobbies, friends, family... A mature man is not all work all the time. Yes he works diligently but he knows when and how to let loose, he knows how to lead his group of friends to a fun activity, he knows how to court a woman. You are not mature. You are underdeveloped in the sphere of socialization and fun.
/r/seduction17/10/22 08:47 AM
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Then making friends and improving social skills should be your priority, not women.
/r/seduction13/10/22 11:49 AM
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Relationships and sex
/r/seduction10/10/22 05:23 PM
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Bro you have bo experience. You are not into hookups or ons, you don't even know what they are like. You should only be into getting some experience however you can.
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:02 PM
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Based on my observation: Yeah, most girls don't. Especially women in their 20s. In their 30s they start to become more open to dating someone yougner, because the available dating pool is shirnking (more men their age are married/committed).
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:42 PM
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Actual good advice. I figured these out myself and it was actually life changing.
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:39 AM
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No you did not fuck up. The worst scenario, it's a bit awkward.
/r/seduction05/10/22 08:38 AM
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Men like romance and emotions. But they are unaware of it or ashamed of it for various reasons. Men aren't raised wit much emotional awareness, most of us aren't aware of what we really want and like Culturally it is considered unmasculine to seek deep emotional connections and be vulnerable There is this expectation that romantic relationships are supposed to be long term while purely sexual relationships can be short term. Men don't want to be tied down to a long term relationship quickly Your…
/r/seduction05/10/22 08:15 AM
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You might need them. You never know when you could use a handful of predatory birds.
/r/seduction03/10/22 12:01 PM
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Bring condors
/r/seduction03/10/22 10:13 AM
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If you have never had success your focus should be: Making friends and having an active social life Approaching friends of friends and women you meet through social functions You know, normal men with average social skills do this and date and get laid like this. You are not at this level yet, it should be your goal to get to this level first.
/r/seduction03/10/22 06:58 AM
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I'd say yes but IOIs are usually so subtle and men are so oblivious that you will probably lose a lot of chances if you wait until you see an IOI.
/r/seduction03/10/22 06:41 AM
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I understand. I had, and still have most of the same feelings. How to deal with it? I don't know. You start to care less whether strangers lile you or not when you already have some friends. But tbh I still care and try to avoid rejection. Something I am trying to get rid of. One helpful mindest is, trying to see interactions parrlt as you screening he other people. Whether you will click with them or not.
/r/seduction03/10/22 06:04 AM
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I don't know your life, so I can't say. I had it pretty tough, maybe you had it tougher. I won't claim that you can be great at socializing and puckup. But I believe having a few good friends and a gf is within everyone's reach. And to address some specific things you said: I don't believe in paying for sex. The feeling of connection and being desired of regular sex is what we all crave, paid sex can never replicate that and it's more akin to porn. Status does matter. Yes, men usually make frien…
/r/seduction30/09/22 05:54 AM
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I get it, trust me. I spent years without a friend. By all accounts I am not normal, I was exceptionally introverted and socially anxious. If you put effort, being 1/10 as social as a normal person is nothing. You can be even more social than the average person. You are overeatimating how much of your lack of success is your nature and underestimating how much of it is just bad habits.
/r/seduction29/09/22 10:08 AM
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I am not counting women who are significantly older than me. Of women aged 20-35, yeah 90% of them are honestly attractive. Btw this might matter: I don't live in the USA, there are very few obese people around.
/r/seduction29/09/22 09:33 AM
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In my limited experience... She may suggest that you should come over. Eg by suggesting you watch a show together or that she makes good coffee. She may ask you to walk her home or drive her home. If she doesn't, you can offer to. If you are bold, you can even suggest coming over. Like "Hey I can come over with a bottle of wine". But usually the norm seems to be she imples it and expect you to offer taking her home or hanging out at her place.
/r/seduction28/09/22 03:04 PM
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Imo it's sort of the opposite. When you love someone she looks hot as fuck.
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:56 PM
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Your standarda are too high mate. How are you attracted to only 5% of women? For me it's like 90%. I legit don't understand it.
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:55 PM
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No, you won't stand out by avoiding interacting with people. Everyone has so much shit going in their life they won't even register you in their brain cause you are one of the 1000 random people they see that day. If you want someone's attention, the only real way is to go talk to that person.
/r/seduction28/09/22 02:51 PM
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There are things in your control. How much you go out, whether you go out woth the same friends all the time or actively try to meet new people, whether you talk to that woman you like or not, whether you ask her out or not... but you can't control how she feels about youm
/r/seduction28/09/22 09:35 AM
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Thinking about it, I don't "click" with 95% of guys out there. Meaning we might have a nice chat but we will never be friends, never get some beers together or hang out all day. And it does not bother me a bit. But when I do not "click" with a woman aka. I get rejected, it feels bad. Maybe most people just are not compatible enough to be anything more than acquaintances and you shouldn't sweat it if this is the case with a woman you meet.
/r/seduction28/09/22 09:17 AM
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Eg. Most people are super interested in talking about relationships and sex. To talk to introverted people, you have to open up more and carry the conversation. People get turned off if they feel like they are your only option for friendship. You can ask a random question out of nowhere and sometimes it creates good conversation. You won't click with the vast majority of people so don't sweat it. Doing things together is a better way to make friends than just chatting. Etc.
/r/seduction28/09/22 08:59 AM
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True. You see patterns though.
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:59 AM
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Repeated practice. Meeting new people. Trying new things, noting what works and what doesn't. Observing people who seem to be great at making friends.
/r/seduction27/09/22 11:14 PM
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Tbh being comfortable with drivimg seems more important to you rn than getting dates. I mean imagine, let's say you make a gf off online datimg. How are you goimg to go on dates?
/r/seduction27/09/22 03:08 PM
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Idk where you live but public transport, taxis and uber are all options.
/r/seduction27/09/22 02:46 PM
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I lost it late as well (later than 26). Being depressed about it is normal. Know that it's possible to do it and work like hell towards it. But for a short term, easier solution, meditation and mindfulness help to lower negative emotions. My advice to you is: socialize. Socializing and meeting people is how you get girls. Fitness, money, success, status, fashion, etc. Are all secondary to it. You should first build enough of a social life, and social skills and confidence, that getting a gf or g…
/r/seduction27/09/22 02:06 PM
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Online dating sucks unless you look like a male model Girls won't flirt with you. They won't approach you. This is just the way it is for 90% of men. So what you have to do is socialize, meet new people, approach women and flirt with them.
/r/seduction27/09/22 10:41 AM
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The more I socialize and improve my skills, the more I realize this as true. I have never met a guy who is great with women who isn't also great at making friends.
/r/seduction27/09/22 07:03 AM
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You call them "0 personality". And yeah, maybe they have no hobbies, they are not smart, but they probably were able to hold a conversation and have fun. Because I have met tall and good looking guys who were awkward and anxious and could not get girls.
/r/seduction27/09/22 07:00 AM
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How do you hit on women in a socially acceptable way?
/r/seduction25/09/22 08:59 AM
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I don't think it means anything. People often don't feel comfortable holding constant eye contact, and shift it sometimes.
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:39 AM
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Honestly, your life seems in order. I think your biggest problem is you probably don't pursue women and never ask women out. If you have friends, and if your life is in order like you said, basically ask every single women you know and one will say yes. Probably more than one.
/r/seduction24/09/22 11:45 PM
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No man, work on being fine with yourself.
/r/seduction23/09/22 01:34 PM
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Why do you care so much about whether someone shows up to your party or not? These are adult people. They have different plans and priorities. If you are organizing a hangout of 10+ people some will inevitably have other plans or priorities and won't show up. Guys don't do this? Well maybe you don't notice because you don't care if a regular dude doesn't show up as opposed to when a cute girl soesn't show up. Why are you so stuck up on whether other people invite you out? If you like someone, in…
/r/seduction23/09/22 12:10 PM
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I checked out your post history. Bro you look fine. Could you be a model? No. But you look normal. I've seen guys much worse looking than you be good with women. Your problem is you are obsessed with this shit. You are subbed to god knows how many face proportion subreddits. You are insecure as fuck, you are unconfident, you have terrible self esteem. You perceieve yourself as low value and trying to learn why, you came across this face proportion kind of subculture that tells you you are ugly. …
/r/seduction23/09/22 11:50 AM
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How to tell if a girl is into me or is just a touchy/flirty person?
/r/seduction23/09/22 10:43 AM
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She is obviously into you. Since you still haven't made a move on her even after her constant flirting, she started to assume you are asexual or uninterested in sex. Bro if you are into her at all, make a move right now.
/r/seduction23/09/22 10:30 AM
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I'm an introvert and tbh I don't relate to your post at all. The personality trait you are deacribing is more likely an avoidant attachment style.
/r/seduction23/09/22 10:22 AM
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OP has a point imo. Being friends with someone and seducing ia very similar. Seduction just involves more emotion, increased physicality, flirting. Never met a guy who was good with girls who wasn't also good at making friends.
/r/seduction23/09/22 09:07 AM
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Being exhausted/tired is no excuse to skip a date imo. Of you are too tired to meet someone, you don't like them enough. So, do workday dates after work if you can.
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:39 AM
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Tell her "I love this bakery, I come here for the awesome buns" then wink at her aggressively.
/r/seduction22/09/22 08:56 AM
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In HS, social circle is king, since you are around the same people all the time. Make friends, talk to people in classes and friends of friends, swt up hangouts with people outaide school. Be known as a cool social guy. One advice I'd give my HS self would be be more bold. If you think there is a girl who likes you, flirt with her, ask her out, get her to somewhere private and kiss her. I lost a bunch of cjances cause I was too timid in high school.
/r/seduction22/09/22 08:50 AM
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Think logical vs emotional, not intelligent vs unintelligent. Intelligent conversation is good. Even great, if she is into intelligence. But logical conversation? No. It turns things into a friendly vibe. Save your figures, numbers, pedantic discussion over details and definitions for your friend group. Talk to your date about how this topic makes you feel, how it relates to life, cool stories related to the topic. Also save your obscure references to people who will get them.
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:04 PM
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This guy fucks
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:59 PM
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Same. I only recently reached this point and it saves so much energy. I mean I will treat her as a friend if she is cool. But if she won't respond to my flirting and she won't respond to me trying to be a friend, she just doesn't exist anymore lol.
/r/seduction19/09/22 11:50 AM
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You've gotta get on their wavelength and make her feel things. How do you do that?
/r/seduction18/09/22 02:12 PM
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Get an interest or hobby that can be done with other people. Find a group that does it. Go spend time with them. Even if you have 0 charisma, confidence or social skills, you can make friends through this. Proximity is the best way to friendship.
/r/seduction16/09/22 10:57 AM
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How would you define masculinity? I'm thinking of a guy I know who is very successful with women. And I'd describe him as feminine. He has the confidence though.
/r/seduction15/09/22 10:19 PM
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Yeah, people read guys like Manson beause they want tog et socially adept. This is like saying "Bill Nye is fucking trash, if you are scientifically adept you already know everything he tells about". Yeah dude he makes content for people who aren't.
/r/seduction10/09/22 10:21 PM
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From what I see it's like 90% with friends or other people they know from social circles. Very rare to do it with a total stranger. (But then again maybe people don't talk often about their stranger escapades)
/r/seduction07/09/22 07:30 AM
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I can't relate to most success posts on this sub but I can relate to this. High five bro.
/r/seduction02/09/22 03:26 PM
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One of the guys I know who has an easy time getting ladies is a game dev who loves gaming, anime and reddit and sends memes to girls. If you are hot, social and confident, anything is attractive.
/r/seduction02/09/22 03:23 PM
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Ask for her Club Penguin, thats the alpha move
/r/seduction01/09/22 09:44 PM
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Ask for her myspace
/r/seduction01/09/22 09:38 AM
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Yes you can. When making a point, touch her shpulder. She says something funny, touch her arm. When you are walking, touch her back to guide her. At this point she will ideally be touching you back. And you can try ballsier things like holding her hand, briefly touching her leg or brushing her hair back. Or she will be uncomfortable and physically distancing herself and you know you have no chance left.
/r/seduction31/08/22 07:10 AM
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Hmm... guess she is just not 100%
/r/seduction27/08/22 04:34 PM
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trying to meet up for a hobby I have had situations where a girl said she wanted to "meet up for a hobby" but she really wanted a date. Called her out to a hobby meetup multiple times, no luck. Got confused, she had seemed so interested. Texted her "let's go have coffee" she said yes. Ask her out for a date.
/r/seduction27/08/22 01:11 PM
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Affection and sexuality are needs. Imo you need certain things in life A kind of income A social life, companionship A way to wind down and entertain yourself aka a hobby Relationships with your preferred sex (unless you are asexual) Take one of these away and your life is not in balance. Few people will happily make do without one of these.
/r/seduction25/08/22 11:11 AM
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Awesome post. I am this way. Lost the one girl I liked the most because I got too serious too soon.
/r/seduction24/08/22 10:53 AM
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You can but it will go smoother if you enjoy it
/r/seduction24/08/22 06:12 AM
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Events, meetups. Go find a gathering where strangers go to socialize. Approach everyone, both men and women. And both women you like and women you don't. You live in the USA, you are already at a better place to do this compared to like 1.3 billion other Indians who are stuck in the old world. It will help to get your fashion and hair on point. I feel like so many Indians (and Asians) in the west are seen as "boring nerds". So try to look as non-nerdy. Or at least like a cool nerd.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:29 PM
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Yeah I am at the same place. With so many women, I have had a nice conversation over text but they don't respond the next day. Or I go out on a date, have a good time, keep texting afterwards yet they never want to meet up again.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:22 PM
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Yes you can. You will need to learn how to socialize though. Because, unfortunately, socializing is how you meet people. There are a lot of introvert girls out there whose ideal date is staying home and watching a movie. Or extroverted girls who want that stable introvert energy from their man. In the end, your journey will mean you will have to learn how to socialize, learn how to enjoy socializing, talk to a lot of women.
/r/seduction23/08/22 10:36 PM
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Please explain to me why I, a decent looking person, got mt first gf only after improving my social skills and making conscious effort to go out and socialize. Did I start going to the gym without being aware? Did a vigilante surgeon give me jawline surgery in my sleep? You can also explain to me why I never got a date in college while my friends who were fatter, shorter, and generally worse looking did.
/r/seduction22/08/22 10:05 AM
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Your standards might be fucked cause of social media, porn, movies. 90% of girls I see are attractive.
/r/seduction16/08/22 06:39 AM
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Just flirt with her & ask her out. Believe me, she will let you know if she has a bf (and no intention to cheat).
/r/seduction16/08/22 06:31 AM
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Go somewhere, do your thing, invite her to tag alon Had little success with this. In my experience, if a girl likes you, she wants a date, not an activity. And sometimes she feigns interest in your hobby to get close to you lol.
/r/seduction15/08/22 10:14 AM
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She has low self esteem
/r/seduction12/08/22 09:49 AM
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Build up social skills. Your job for the next year is to go out every chance you have. Talk to as many new people as you can. Find events and meetups online and keep going.
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:52 AM
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Wtf I'm a guy dude
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:46 PM
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Yeah, most of them, i think they just lack the confidence to be direct. Or think this is the only way to approach girls. Bur tbh some of those dudes give me the sleazy motherfucker vibes.
/r/seduction11/08/22 02:46 PM
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Oops I dropped my monster condom that I use for my magnum dong
/r/seduction11/08/22 02:15 PM
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I think nice guys come off as fake. What happens is, nice guy sees girl he likes. Approaches her as a friend. Pretends to be friendly and harmless. Pays her special attention. Girl loves it because, wow, it's a guy who pays her attention, does things for her, and doesn't ask for anything in return! Then the nice guy gets some balls or sees a chance and starts to pursue her for sex/dating. She feels like she has been lied to, that the guy was only pretending to be her friend. She rejects him. Mos…
/r/seduction11/08/22 02:09 PM
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The solution is: you are gonna come off as so confident, social, nonchalant, attractive tuat whan she says "not if my life depending on it", her friends will think she is lying.
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:55 PM
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I believe they boost new profiles so you get a lot of likes and get hooked on the app. That was probably it
/r/seduction11/08/22 10:44 AM
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Counterpoint: Louis CK was a talented comedian. Tate is a celebrity. Of coyrse there will be people who love them. Look at Jason Momoa. Everyone likes him and some also love him. Look at Alex Jones. He is polarizing as fuck and is an utter tool. You can't really compare what works for a celebrity/entertainer and what works for normal people like us in normal situations.
/r/seduction11/08/22 10:39 AM
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Honestly these sound natural rather than toxic. Think of your male friends. Do you text them every day? No. Do you text them good morning and good night? No. Do you tell them about girls you are talking to? Yes. (The only weird thing is unadding her) I think the problem is we were taught that being fake is being nice. And women hate it when they feel like a man is acting fake to get into their pants.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:51 AM
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Relationship implies two things: Letting go of other options Responsibility A woman might want to have fun with you without wanting these. We were taught that it's usually the men who want to fuck around while women want to tie men down and be stable. But it isn't like that. It may in fact be the opposite in today's world as women have way more options than men.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:38 AM
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Imo it's a myth that hooking up on vacation is easy. If you don't have an easy time hooking up normally, it won't be easy. Focus on chilling, having a good time, socializing with your group and the locals. If it happens, it happens.
/r/seduction10/08/22 08:05 AM
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College is probably the best place for this. Talk to girls in your classes. Join clubs that would have these nerdy girls.
/r/seduction10/08/22 06:57 AM
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Imo... if she doesn't want to be serious, don't force it. I was in the same situation and I wish I just let the relationship continue as casual. Trying to make it more serious only resulted in drama, jealousy and a breakup.
/r/seduction09/08/22 06:16 AM
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Ok this is a life lesson, not just a relationships lesson. If you always wait for permission before you do something or try something, you will end up doing very little with your life. (Do have the tact to leave if the new person you are speaking to is uncomfortable. If you have that, you are golden, and there is no place you can't approach people, men or women.)
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:20 AM
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Based on a few guys like this I know: Extroverted. Meaning these guys could talk. They could talk about their experiences or any random topic they feel interested in. They are easy going, friendly, usually happy. Even when they are talking about their problems they can add some humor to it. They are confident of course. Not all of them are conventionally attractive. Nor conventionally successful. But it helps.
/r/seduction04/08/22 04:10 PM
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Yooo, there is this guy I know, he unintentionally flirts with everyone. Several women I know thought there was a "thing" between them and even got toxic and blocked him when he didn't reply quickly to her or something. While I know 100% this dude never tried to get with those women at all.
/r/seduction04/08/22 03:34 PM
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Unless she has like 0 social life, she will have men flirting with her. But it doesn't mean she is doing anything with them.
/r/seduction04/08/22 02:31 PM
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Of course its normal lol. Tbh sounds like he has avoident attachment style while you have anxious attachment style. A classic match for unhealthy relationships 👌
/r/seduction29/07/22 09:15 AM
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Eh I think most people are just not that open to talking about that stuff unless they really know you. Or they are not always in the mood for talking deep topics. Talk about easier things like movies or where you have traveled.
/r/seduction29/07/22 09:10 AM
3

Yes bro, that is a rejection.
/r/seduction29/07/22 08:00 AM
10

Wrong. Yeah self improvement can improve your chances. But your bank account, skills, hobbies, muscles, bench press, career, won't get you girls unless you are also good at talking to girls and go out and talk to girls. I'm sure you have seen many poats here saying "I have a good job, I am fit, I am tall, ehy can't I get girls" and I'm sure you have seen unemployed ugly losers who somehow have an easy time getting girls. Use your logic.
/r/seduction24/07/22 10:51 AM
3

I think sex is suppsoed to be with someone you like. Of course you will have sex with multiple people through your life. Casual sex is fine by me if you feel a connection with someone. You know, sometimes there is this conenction, but also you two are not the right pair for dating? Yeah. What I find sad is sex with people you don't even like, just for the physical sensation. Like, use porn.
/r/seduction21/07/22 10:57 PM
0

Weird old dudes who run spirituality retreats
/r/seduction21/07/22 05:35 AM
1

Yeah, wait like a week then text again
/r/seduction19/07/22 03:38 PM
1

It really doesn't matter. Since you already know her, she has already made her opinion about you, and if she likes you she will be receptive no matter what.
/r/seduction19/07/22 02:40 PM
0

Tbh if you are 10 years older you are already one step ahead of guys their age, in my experience.
/r/seduction19/07/22 02:33 PM
1

If you aren't BOTH constantly improving and talking to girls, you are wasting your time imo (unless you are in a relationshiip already). Like it's not one of the other bro. And it's kinda toxic to think you need to improve before you deserve a relationship/sex. Cold approach might not be for you right now though, I'd say build a social circle and meet women through that.
/r/seduction19/07/22 02:30 PM
1

You have to go out and join some clubs. This can be clubs that cater to your solo interests. There are groups that just come together to watch movies and discuss. But it's also a good idea to start getting interested in things you can do with other people. Even if you find p clubs or meetups that remotely interest you... then your only option is to go to one that does not interest you. Trust me, you will find others like you there who are there to only make friends. You are in college. This is t…
/r/seduction18/07/22 12:13 PM
7

Look man if I could have a normal easy going conversation about nice things on command, I wouldn't be searching reddit for advice.
/r/seduction16/07/22 08:15 PM
8

It means if you spend all your time in your basement becoming a coding expert, chicks will just teleport in there begging to fuck you. Yeah, of course it's not how it works. You gotta go out and be social and try to get girls.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:59 PM
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My theory is that, highest levels of confidence just appear as being an asshole. That's because, we modern men were trained to be exceptionally nice and to see all forms of self centeredness as being an asshole. But if you have extreme confidence, you almost always come off as sort of self centered. But also that same extreme self assuredness is what attracts women. Girls obviously don't want immoral dudes, they want the kind of dude who is so self assured he sort of stopped caring about others.
/r/seduction06/07/22 08:39 AM
2

Hmm... my best female friend had one of those old timey asshole fathers. And the result is quite opposite of what you say, she is dating a huge goofball and has always dated similar guys, to my knowledge.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:54 AM
9

Skills won't help you. The way to interest girls is to be social and confident. Have an active social life, have social skills. If you are confident and social, you should be pulling girls here and there. You know, being social, you will meet girls regularly and being confident, you will attract them. After you get to that point, now you can think about maybe adding a few skills or tricks to your arsenal.
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:25 AM
1

Why don't you stay with her and have a fun time with her after having a good approach at an event or festival?
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:57 AM
2

In my experience, if she is flaky, you can't expect her to be proactive and set a date herself. Accept that you are not getting this girl, that she is just not that interested.
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:38 AM
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That sounds like an excude rather than being picky tbh. She didn't like you and used the distance as an excuse. But with that said, yes women are very picky.
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:33 AM
21

Wrong. If you don't have game, you won't magically get game in another city or country. I travelled a lot with mates and never had sex on travel, and neither did any of my friends (except for one really attractive dude who never had problems getting laid anyway).
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:28 AM
7

No, a lot of people just browse casually so it don't mean much
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:20 PM
2

They can look good or bad depending on the shirt, your build, and your general fashion sense. One dude wears it and looks like his mom picks his clothes, another dude wears it and looks like a classy guy wearing his casual outfit. I think plain t-shirts are less risky.
/r/seduction04/07/22 09:41 AM
1

Bro Inalso got my first experience woth women later in life. I am still learning, not an expert, but I have some advice. First of all, build a social circle. You need to find a hobby group and go there every week without excuse. You gotta see the same damn people week after week for like 10-20-30 weeks. Amd talk to them. That's how you make friends and build a circle. And also read basically every material you can find on social skills and how to build confidence and self esteem. Do a bunch of s…
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:33 AM
2

Cause she does not like you. Women will often give out their number because it's easy to ignore or block guys. Easier than rejecting them when they ask.
/r/seduction01/07/22 02:01 PM
5

I don't know his inner mental processes and how he got to be that way. But I met his parents and they were super chill and easy goimg as well. This stuff starts at the family. If you have parebts who are critical, negative, controlling, or if they are anxious thenselves, youcwill not grow up with the confidence you want.
/r/seduction01/07/22 05:52 AM
2

Probably a good idea given that days must be like 20 hrs long there nowadays
/r/seduction30/06/22 02:08 PM
7

Yes, my good friend in high school. He was always fat and started balding at like 17. Not a looker in any way. But dude had incredible confidence and charisma. Could talk to everyone and anyone. I never saw him uncomfortable or not happy. He could easily make friends and get girls. I wish I had 10% of that dude's charisma.
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:56 PM
2

Yeah, girls typically don't look at guys or come to chat. You basically will have to build a social circle and meet girls through friends. Or you will have to go approach girls.
/r/seduction22/06/22 02:05 PM
1

Could it be just the woman? Some are more reluctant to open up and be romantic early on.
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:53 PM
0

Hit he Lights, Fight Fire With Fire, Battery, Blackened.... Metallica has some fire openers
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:47 PM
23

Dude stop it. Billions of average men have had sex though the history of mankind. The average woman is attracted to the average man. Yes, some people are more fortunate. They are born rich, or look like a model, or have a talent that makes them famous. So they live awesome lives. But that is the 0.1% of people and you can't compare yourself to them. Guess what, guys who are dumber, uglier, fatter, poorer than you are getting laid right now. There is nothing stopping you except your low self este…
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:43 PM
1

No a red flag would be if she fooled around with another dude.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:38 AM
3

She fucks people she doesn't even like, that might be even a bigger red flag. How do you know she will not get angry at you or feel you don't like her and fuck someone else?
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:58 AM
7

Yeah, I call bullshit on that. Everyone treats attractive people better. Men, women. Even babies smile more when looking at attractive people. Maybe a few other men may treat you bad cause the girl they like has a crush on you. But 90%+ of people will treat you better. It's true that you'll still need to have confidence and do most of the work though.
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:31 AM
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Can you also give tips on how? I know what a fun time and good vibes look like. I can have a good time if we are both in the mood for it. But I have no clue how to create it from scratch.
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:35 PM
3

Brb making 1.8 million dollars before I am allowed to have sex
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:34 PM
5

736373 women in 2 seconds
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:33 PM
2

You would too if there were 5 women hitting on you hardcore at any time without you showing any efforr.
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:15 PM
2

Confidence in your abilities is different from social confidence.
/r/seduction15/06/22 12:10 PM
2

1 is false. Women are complex, they give mixed signals and their minds change. 2 is true.
/r/seduction14/06/22 04:22 PM
5

Most girls would say no even if she wants to fuck Better to say something like "wanna come over and watch a movie?" Or sth
/r/seduction14/06/22 03:41 PM
2

Bro... 20 is very young and a normal age to be a virgin. If you make out with girls, getting laid is just around the corner for you lmao my dude. People who go to hookers usually report that it's a shitty experience. Don't do it.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:49 AM
1

"Got back with her ex" Dude she probably cheated on him with you.
/r/seduction07/06/22 09:59 AM
1

Bro that's a hard wall rejection. Just move on.
/r/seduction02/06/22 10:19 AM
2

That's the nicest rejection possible lol
/r/seduction31/05/22 01:22 PM
1

There is no binary here imo. Sometimes you get into a good relationahip by starting as casual/fwb, and would have lost your chance if you went too serious early on.
/r/seduction30/05/22 08:21 AM
1

Yes, you can never be 100% sure. I've seen it in either way. Girl who seems super interested and tben decides she isn't at all. And girl who rejects a guy only to be with him afterwards.
/r/seduction27/05/22 07:28 AM
1

If she invited you to her place, she wants to have sex or at leats make out dude.
/r/seduction26/05/22 03:31 PM
1

It sounds obvious to me. She thought you were attractive so she was looking at you. But she has a bf and doesn't intend to cheat. You didn't do anything wrong.
/r/seduction26/05/22 03:26 PM
34

Don't text too much, don't be clingy, don't show too much interest If these were the rules of dating I'd be fucking women left and right lmao
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:05 AM
5

That's definitelt my major problem. I keep things too platonic/friendly. Both online and in person. Any tips?
/r/seduction24/05/22 03:37 PM
13

Online sucks for me. I must have talked to 50+ girls and only one so far turned out to be a normal fucking person carrying a normal conversation.
/r/seduction24/05/22 03:27 PM
3

How do you pursue a woman without coming off as needy? By pursue, I mean approach, set up a date, escalate... I feel like it necessarily feels at least a bit needy. Unless if you are suuuuper casual in which case she assumes you are uninterested?
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:00 AM
3

Give tips then
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:49 AM
6

Yeah, the book is 90% focused on how to behave in a relationship or marriage. It's not a "how to get girls" book. Maybe not ideal for you at this point in your life.
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:36 AM
11

Very good imo. But it's more about how you act in a relationship than about meeting women.
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:30 AM
7

Where do you live? Iran?
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:37 AM
2

The guy in my social group who is the most successful with girls is an effeminate guy. I think this is something that helps you stand out, not harms you, at all.
/r/seduction14/12/21 12:41 PM
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