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I'm guessing she has never applied for a competitive "adult" job before.
/r/MensRights18/03/14 08:08 PM
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I agree that she did a terrible job of presenting these requests. I just sympathize with her because I recently researched negotiation tactics before asking for a merit raise at my job, and every piece of material directed toward woman advises us to aim high and ask for far more than we feel we deserve as a starting point for negotiation. I can totally see myself doing something like this - try to be assertive when opening negotiation and end up way overdoing it and shooting myself in the foot. …
/r/MensRights18/03/14 07:32 PM
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It depends where you do your research, though - here's some variation in industry standard estimates. This source, for example, suggests that her request was within the third quartile of assistant professor positions in philosophy, which doesn't seem like an unreasonable request considering that the Princeton Review ranks Nazareth in the [top 15%](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nazareth_College_(New_York) of colleges/universities. Edit: Not that I think she should expect to get that much, I just t…
/r/MensRights18/03/14 02:25 PM
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People are calling these demands but they really are not; she was opening the negotiation process, which is standard upon being extended a job offer. The school could have easily said no to any or all of these. Pretty much any resource on negotiation advises you to ask for more than you expect to get. Resources for women especially emphasize this, since women are generally less aggressive in asking for benefits (I don't know what the research on this is, but it's a very common theme in negotiati…
/r/MensRights18/03/14 01:05 PM
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13-year-olds - both male and female - cannot legally consent to sex.
/r/MensRights17/03/14 06:35 PM
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I understood several of the commenters to say that in their institutions, the patients did not fully understand or realize that the exam would take place, or that multiple medical students would perform it. It seems like it's in the minority of hospitals, though, if it truly happens at all. Either way, both of those situations are totally unethical. Ugh.
/r/MensRights16/03/14 06:37 PM
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Interestingly, this very issue came up in a TIL thread a while ago. This certainly used to happen and according to some accounts still does.
/r/MensRights16/03/14 05:27 PM
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deciding that the father should not be allowed to see and hold his newborn child But seeing and holding his newborn child is not what this whole thing is about. I don't think anyone anywhere is arguing that he shouldn't be able to hold it. What we're talking about is being present during labor and birth. And yes, there's absolutely medical basis for increased risk and difficulties if the mother is panicking, tense, and uncomfortable. And even if there weren't medical basis, that wouldn't matter …
/r/MensRights14/03/14 11:54 AM
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This is pointless. I'm done.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 10:33 PM
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In that case the limiting factor is the availability of a willing doctor rather than her lack of a right to make the decision. If she decides not to have a c-section, she won't have one. The doctor can't do it without her consent. As long as she is conscious and capable of consent she has the right to refuse care just like you do. You cannot seriously be arguing that patients do not make medical decisions.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 10:18 PM
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Real medical decisions are made by doctors not mothers This is absolutely untrue. Say Jane decides to have an elective C-section. That is a medical decision. It was made by Jane, not a doctor. The doctor does not have the right to make that medical decision for her without her consent.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 10:06 PM
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Consenting to care decisions made by a doctor is not the same as making medical decisions yourself. That's true. And all of us have the right to make decisions ourselves. A laboring mother could make the decision to get up and walk out of the hospital if she wanted (though she's have to attest that she was doing it against medical orders). if this was a medical issue it would fall to doctors not mothers. I'm sorry, but saying this does not make it true. This is a medical issue and it falls to mo…
/r/MensRights13/03/14 09:58 PM
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If this was a medical issue, the decision to bar fathers from the room would fall to doctors. Not mothers. That's an extreme over-simplification that completely ignores the fact that all adults have a legal right to consent to - or refuse - many (most?) aspects of their own medical care. Since when are mothers competent to make medical decisions about childbirth? Since forever? Women make medical decisions about childbirth all the time - whether to have an epidural, whether to have a C-section, …
/r/MensRights13/03/14 09:47 PM
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Not for a medical or ethical reason, just because she says so Can you honestly not recognize any medical or ethical issues at play here?
/r/MensRights13/03/14 09:34 PM
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Ma'am. :-) Am I? There are lots of people who legitimately hold Freddie's opinion. I don't agree, but it's not an unbelievably absurd view.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 07:49 PM
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Contact #1 "your child is on its way." That's the problem, though - the thing I was trying to convey in my previous comment is that it's not always clear whether the child is on the way or not. That's such a nebulous judgment call. If a woman was on a bed rest and knew she might go into emergency labor at any moment, then went into emergency labor and had a C-section 15 minutes later, would she be held legally liable for not having informed him when she was on bedrest? If the child dies during c…
/r/MensRights13/03/14 07:45 PM
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The problem is that while most normal pregnancies go "not in labor --> in labor --> birth", that's not always the case when it comes to medical complications. Sometimes there's false labor. Sometimes labor begins early and they're able to stall it/stop it. Sometimes the doctors are trying to prevent a medical crisis that would necessitate an immediate C-section. Sometimes the mother is on bedrest to prevent just such a crisis. All of this is a lot of detailed health information about the mother.…
/r/MensRights13/03/14 07:27 PM
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It opens up some very scary legal precedent, though. If we set precedent that a father has the right to to know when labor is process, we are saying that the father has the right to access medical information about the woman who carries his fetus, without her consent (and before birth it is considered her medical data, not the baby's). If that's the case, what if the fetus is having surgery in utero -does the father have a right to be informed then? Does he have a right to be notified if the mot…
/r/MensRights13/03/14 07:11 PM
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I agree.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 06:58 PM
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Sorry, I was going off other reporting sources I'd read earlier. It seems that there's some confusion on this point - several sources are reporting that it's notification about labor rather than notification about the birth. "The court, back in November, was asked to decide if a father could legally request to be notified when the mother enters labor" Also [here] (http://www.nj.com/south/index.ssf/2014/03/nj_judge_mom_can_keep_dad_out_of_delivery_room.html#incart_river) and here
/r/MensRights13/03/14 06:42 PM
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From what I can tell in the news stories the ruling is about being the right to be notified when the mother is in labor, rather than when the baby is actually born. Can anyone clarify?
/r/MensRights13/03/14 06:17 PM
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No, I don't think we're going to agree. The fact is that the father's decision to see his own child being born should not be in the hands of anyone but himself. The fact is that the father's decision to watch his child being born should be solely in the hands of the woman giving birth. The legislation you mentioned is awesome and I am totally in favor... but it's not the same thing, because maternity/paternity leave has nothing whatsoever to do with the right to medical privacy. That's not a goo…
/r/MensRights11/03/14 09:56 PM
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But refusing to allow the father into the room during childbirth has nothing to do with any of those things. Well... yes, it does. All of these things are evidence that the experience of (and decisions about) childbirth are not the man's responsibility or right. Having the father there does not add to the physical hardship, complications or medical bills. Yeah, it can, actually. Childbirth is a strenuous process that involves intense physical, mental, and emotional effort on the part of the moth…
/r/MensRights11/03/14 09:15 PM
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making a parental decision I disagree with this. Parenting is something that involves both parents, but childbirth... that's all on her. It's not fair, but that's biology. She is the one laboring, having contractions, and giving birth; she's the one who will have to deal with the physical aftermath of childbirth, as well as more serious complications to her body if something goes wrong; she's the one who is checked into the hospital and she's the one who is responsible for the medical bills. She…
/r/MensRights11/03/14 08:48 PM
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It was only a few decades ago that it was unacceptable for fathers to be present at the birth. Now, we have courtrooms arguing in favour of such an old-fashioned notion? No, that's not what the court is arguing. They are arguing that the person giving birth has the right to determine whether non-clinicians are allowed in the room or not. That's the same thing that the courts decided decades ago; it's consistent, not hypocritical.
/r/MensRights11/03/14 07:43 PM
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I agree. Our entire medical system is predicated on the assumption that people have a right to privacy regarding medical issues, and (barring homebirths), birth is a medical event. If a guy doesn't have a right to be present during an abortion or a non-pregnancy-related operation - and he doesn't - then he doesn't have a right to be present at a birth either.
/r/MensRights11/03/14 07:12 PM
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Oh, absolutely, if he's doing it purposefully. And the OP's wording leads me to believe that this is deliberate exhibition.
/r/MensRights22/11/13 05:26 PM
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Yes, that is true. And also in that thread someone else posted an article from a lawyer about the legality of similar situations. This article points out that the same action (in this case, masturbating in one's own house when visible through a window) is legal in Pennsylvania but not in Georgia. I know the guy in this case was not actively masturbating, but my point stands. Laws about obscenity, lewdness, and what constitutes a private location will vary according to jurisdiction. Unless we kno…
/r/MensRights22/11/13 05:05 PM
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To be fair, we can't make any definitive statements about the legality of this because we don't know where this picture was taken. Laws vary considerably between states, countries, provinces, etc.
/r/MensRights22/11/13 02:44 PM
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In this case, the other person was sober. The whole mess made me hate the world.
/r/MensRights24/05/13 04:42 PM
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if someone can't even talk then consent can't be given that's sort of a given Unfortunately many people do not believe this. I got into a big messy conversation in a reddit post yesterday about a person who not only did not consent, but was too drunk to even communicate that she did not consent... yet most redditors (female redditors) told her that it was not rape.
/r/MensRights24/05/13 04:23 PM
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Even if "smashed" means "too drunk to communicate"? Do you think a person who is that drunk still has the ability to grant consent, in your opinion?
/r/MensRights24/05/13 03:49 PM
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I posted a different comment above which explains the answer to that question in more detail from my own perspective. But in short, if they are equally drunk (really drunk - say, too drunk to even communicate) then they both cannot consent. In that case, both of them would be guilty of the action of having sex with a non-consenting person. From a totally technical point of view, that would make them both rapists - but I think it would be totally counterproductive to seek legal action or in any w…
/r/MensRights24/05/13 03:36 PM
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I'm a feminist. I say that.
/r/MensRights24/05/13 03:27 PM
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TL:DR; All people should be accountable for their actions, whether drunk or sober. However, consent is not simply in action in the same way that driving a car is an action.
/r/MensRights24/05/13 03:26 PM
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I'm probably going to regret jumping in the middle of this, but here goes... Consent and action are two different things. Consent is a state of mind, an agreement between two people; if you are too drunk, or too young, or too retarded, you do not have the clear and mature state of mind needed to grant consent. The same applies with signing contracts; a contract is basically a written record of consent. You need to be of sufficient age and sufficiently clear mind in order to legally sign a contra…
/r/MensRights24/05/13 03:25 PM
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I am sorry that you have such a negative impression of environmentalists and environmentally friendly cars!
/r/MensRights11/01/13 12:31 PM
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Totally agreed. Also, it may be that the police are required to write up and report all incidents so they didn't really have a choice of not reporting it. I guess at the end of the day I have to say this: I am a woman who follows men's rights issues with interest and (what I hope is) an open and egalitarian mind. However, it really makes me feel sick to think that if I, myself, were in a similar situation, you guys would jump all over me and call my behavior "child-like and irrational" the same …
/r/MensRights26/10/12 09:20 PM
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Yeah, I read through both police reports. The first report stated that the woman struggled but was unable to get free, and he only let her go when he saw someone else come along, then he ran away. I've actually experienced someone bear-hugging me and pinning my arms down. It was terrifying, it immobilized me, and I freaked the fuck out. And that was someone I knew. Maybe it was a genuine mistake and he thought he knew her, but my guess is that "I thought I knew you" was a lame excuse. There is n…
/r/MensRights26/10/12 08:36 PM
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Yeah, something clearly happened to the first woman. I really want to see the first CLERY release they referred to.
/r/MensRights26/10/12 05:25 PM
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Does anyone else realize there is was some sort of previous incident that gives context to this report? Without knowing what happened in that previous incident, we can't judge this one. Here's a hypothetical example: Earlier in the day, this same guy walks up to a different girl and says "Do I know you?" She says, "I'm not sure, are you in my blah blah class, blah blah..." and he mugs her and takes her wallet and laptop. She immediately reports in to the police and they send out Clery release #1…
/r/MensRights26/10/12 02:15 PM
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