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Rape is also verifiable with a lot more research to back it up so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:52 AM
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> all in all, the Purple and Red pillers here should not be morally shamed for 'not believing Women' or 'not asking the Women in your life about their experiences' or out of hand dismissing Feminist shock studies as manipulative frauds. Fair. I mean men have done that for eternity already so that’s nothing new. Then don’t morally shame us for not caring about men’s mental health, suicide rates and the “loneliness epidemic.” Do we have a deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:11 AM
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Bc if things go left they’re put in a hard spot or there’s something about you that makes a good friend but not a good partner (happens to the best of us).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:53 AM
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I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic or legit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:49 AM
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> I mean you see it all the time, they would say the man is gay or say that she’s too good for him or even stoop to rude remarks and insults when they get rejected by men. I wish that was the only thing we had to worry about when rejecting a man and mind you rude remarks is already a given. Being insulted is like elementary level. You thinking that’s the worst thing is cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 11:01 PM
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If you break up you’re supposed to just kill yourself because you need them and it’s the end of the world? Of course you don’t need them. You move on, find another partner or stay single. Nobody needs a relationship to survive. They do it because they want to and like the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:49 PM
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Oh I meant the problem is just you. As you can see other men in this sub don’t even really agree with you and find you ridiculous so…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:45 AM
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Most men are normal, but for so long society defined degrading women as normal, so most if not all are somewhat misogynistic whether they realize it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:21 AM
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People are most honest in front of a screen especially if anonymity is a given. Some of those people you think are normal and well adjusted may be on those subs you just don’t know about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:19 AM
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It doesn’t seem to be men, just you buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:17 AM
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Womp womp
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:22 AM
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Anything and everything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:19 AM
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It’s not what you do, it’s how you make them feel. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:21 AM
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So you believe a 50 year old going after your 19 year old daughter is the same as interracial marriage? Well unfortunately you have plenty of old white men weaponize race and age against young POC women. But yea if you’re going to compare pedophilia with interracial marriage, honestly I would also tell a woman to be careful marrying another race that is more privileged than hers. Make sure his family isn’t racist. Make sure he’s not racist. Make sure he’s not fetishizing you. Make sure you’re no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:59 AM
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Ok gramps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:53 PM
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When did I say you’re lying? I said I’m challenging the idea of serious automatically equals good. Idk how that flew over your head…?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:07 PM
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I am challenging your idea that if he’s older, you would approve if he’s serious. The older one is bound to be more serious just for age alone. Just because there are some who are never serious doesnt mean a serious man automatically = good. Serious should be honestly the bare minimum for signing government papers to be in a lifelong commitment I would hope. I would hope if you’re serious about her, you’d have the conscience to not date someone who could’ve been your daughter and is still under …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:21 PM
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Well of course the older one is going to want serious, he’s running out of time not because he genuinely cares about the younger person who didn’t get to live her life yet. He got to enjoy everything when he was younger so it doesn’t guarantee he’s going to be a good person just because he’s older.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:07 PM
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Investing in yourself means pouring into yourself whether it’s self confidence, etc. not just the superficial things. If you automatically associate being your best self as being manipulative and trying to take advantage of others for power then that’s a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:05 PM
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So you just have problem with semantics. I mean by all means feel free to not do so, just don’t be shocked if there’s zero results 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:37 PM
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Is effort not needed to get said power unless you’re already born into it? Clearly OP isn’t so yea, a lot of you are gonna have to invest in yourselves to get said power.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:50 PM
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There are plenty of women who do, you may just not be the demographic that they do it for. Except for creeps and violent men, women don’t just stay still and men approach. In order for good-looking, decent men to approach, you have to look good yourself and show that you’re open for communication. You have to put yourself in spaces to be approached. For online, you need a nicely curated dating profile or social media. The truth of the matter is a lot of men don’t invest enough in themselves to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:28 PM
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It can be negative. But more often than not, it’s a matter of knowing what I can and cannot handle and knowing whether I would be compatible with the person or not. So for example, if I’m disabled and I know I wouldn’t be able to keep up with someone who is outdoorsy and loves sports, that doesn’t mean I think that it’s a negative thing to love sports or the outdoors. It’s because I physically cannot engage and make someone who wants to do that with their partner happy. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:32 PM
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Hmm what I find interesting is when I ask men who defend large age gaps really hard if they’d be ok with their own daughter or sister being in one, all of a sudden they say personally they wouldn’t be ok with it, but they don’t care if others do it. And I ask them if you think it’s ok to do and there’s no problem surrounding age gaps whatsoever why wouldn’t it be ok for your close loved ones to do it or why would you think twice before being ok with it? And I also find these same men have double…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:21 PM
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So I didn’t say women don’t complain ever, I said women don’t complain the same way men do. Reread again. And as I said before if they do, they would get the same response. If you’re complaining without action or solutions, anybody is going to find you annoying is that not a fair thing to say? People can only tolerate a whiner for so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:03 AM
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They don’t complain about being single. And how have men changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 10:46 PM
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If women were to complain the same way men do, you better best believe she will get the same response that she needs to put herself out there. Nobody rewards it. It only feels like a punishment for men because men care about it more than women do. If men didn’t complain then yea, nobody would say anything to you. If you were content with the way things are, it’s fine. But if you’re just complaining without doing anything then anybody would get annoyed that’s just common sense
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:10 PM
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Ok and?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:04 PM
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Ok and?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:13 PM
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“women get called a queen for changing their own tire. Women calling themselves queens simply for being self-sufficient,having a job, going to school, paying their own bills. That's baseline adulthood.” I mean plenty of men can’t even do all of that so 👀 I guess maybe that bar is too high for y’all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:29 PM
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It doesn’t equate to being a bad person but there is something going wrong. Instead of blaming all women, these men need to recognize they are the common denominator and there’s a pattern there. And especially if they’re blaming all women and hating on women then yea, that further confirms their mindset is what’s repelling people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:15 AM
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I wonder how it feels as a man reading men’s comments like this…do other men now get why it’s annoying to be with men? Do you understand the entitlement and lack of logic dealing with men like this,
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:11 AM
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"I want to focus on my career, that leaves me more fulfilled." That's a valid argument, if you're a nurse, lawyer, teacher, or something of real value to society. But lots of nurses, lawyers, teachers take a little break from their career or put less of an emphasis on it, have a child, and then go back to that. You’re a server and saying anything other than a nurse, lawyer, or teacher is not of real value to society…?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:03 PM
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How are you arguing the actual definition of these two? If people don’t follow along that’s because they don’t know the definition, the difference and use them interchangeably not because the definition is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:52 AM
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Why was there no complaining? Because there were no words for it back then to describe what men were doing to you. Men mistreating you was also treated like an individual failure. There was shame in sharing it. But now, you have more and more women coming out and sharing their experiences and identifying these manipulative patterns of behavior. Women always felt this way it was behind closed doors. Where do we think we heard about the horrors of men? Not just by experience but through our grandm…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:33 AM
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So you’re actually the one who’s mixing it up. Standards are non-negotiables with the essentials like morals, values etc. Preferences tend to be on more “superficial” qualities. Standards are must haves whereas preferences are nice-to-have. You should ideally be respecting both. But most of all especially standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:24 AM
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Having high standards doesn’t mean I have higher value. It means they are my non-negotiables that I don’t mind if it means having to be alone forever, completely different from preferences. They are coming from a place of self awareness of both the good and the bad knowing what I can and cannot handle or tolerate. But I do agree that one should not announce it. Let your actions speak for you. The moment a man shows me his true colors and the slightest disrespect, I cut him off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:20 PM
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I said “since” meaning these standards still exist today.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:04 PM
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When is “you should’ve done…” ever productive after the fact? What’s done is done. Especially if she was the victim and she didn’t hurt anyone else but herself. It’s better to say what to do for next time and learn from past mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:35 PM
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If it worked, it’s probably either 1) he gave her space first and respected her no then they later on connected or 2) she had very low self esteem and can’t keep up with her boundaries. Either way you shouldn’t see that as a green light to ignore a no a woman is saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:30 PM
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I am as well. Actually BBL for the longest time had the highest mortality rate of any cosmetic procedure. Don’t even get me started on the amount of young girls who’ve died from eating disorders. Men had no problem enforcing these standards on women even with them dying. Instead of thinking “is this how it felt for women all this time?” you’re complaining, while still expecting women to adhere to your own standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:55 PM
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He doesn’t have to go after ugly women if he doesn’t want to, but what he doesn’t get to do is be a hypocrite and be angry at the women he does want not wanting him. The truth of the matter is you may not be your type’s type and type is not always set in stone. You can’t control someone else’s type but what you can do is work on yourself and manage your own mindset and expectations. I’ve never once felt entitled to a man and get angry he doesn’t view me as his type like a lot of men especially o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:50 PM
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Plenty of women die from BBL’s and plastic surgery
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:44 PM
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It does because you’re replying to a post saying the problem is that men don’t want to date at their level and both you and the original commenter is saying you wouldn’t tell an ugly man to go for ugly woman, when the clear point isn’t to tell ugly men to go for ugly women, the point is that those ugly men shouldn’t be angry at hotter women for not going for them when they themselves wouldn’t go for an ugly woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:15 PM
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Men are just finally getting a very small glimpse of the treatment women have gotten since the 80s-90s. Women have always been held to higher beauty standards. I can’t help but roll my eyes with men not being able to handle just height. There are plenty of things women were teased about for things they could not change unless they had plastic surgery and ultimately have changed. And before you say you can’t change height, height lengthening surgery and growth hormone treatment is a thing. There’…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:06 PM
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That’s not what she is saying. She is saying don’t be a hypocrite. If you wouldn’t lower your own standards then don’t expect the hot women to lower their standards for you. If you want a hotter woman instead of getting angry at her and telling her to lower her standards for you, either be someone she would be attracted to or move on and find someone who would be attracted to you. Idk why this concept is so hard for men to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:59 PM
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Because you have men denying it even with the research, imagine without it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:40 AM
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So then why are you supporting and advocating a post that says all power imbalances aren’t bad and should be excused?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:07 PM
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So here’s the thing. Let’s say the person isn’t mentally fit or have a disability and can’t understand. Would you say since they communicated, there’s no power imbalance and all is good simply because it was talked about? Now what if the person is developmentally way younger so they don’t know they’re getting themselves into? So communication isn’t always necessarily enough. I think men try to find communication alone as a loophole when there’s so much more that goes into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:33 PM
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That is a completely different conversation and as you’ve mentioned yourself they are well negotiated. In a lot of these relationships, they are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:27 PM
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You said there aren’t men who live that dirty and to keep it realistic. You have a man right here who thinks it’s not a thing so…exhibit A
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:54 PM
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You would think that would wake men up but it doesn’t. So the only solution left is to divorce or just never get married to that kind of guy but sadly so many don’t show that until you live together, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:56 PM
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It is realistic. You really underestimate how gross men can be. The only reason why you don’t see that often is probably their wives or girlfriends are cleaning for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:06 PM
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But here’s the thing according to OP it’s all arbitrary. One guy can think wet trash is ok. See the point now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:58 PM
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He was hot actually. But he had dead eyes. Probably how he managed to get so many victims but go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:57 PM
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And mind you, OP didn’t provide data to back up his claim either so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:16 PM
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I used the anecdote because common sense isn’t so common. Single google searches will tell you leaving crumbs around attract bugs and mice. If you’re a grown adult who has done his laundry, you would know you have to clean the dust off the filter before drying. But here we are with men saying cleaning is just for aesthetic not practical purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:14 PM
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You think anime nerds can’t abuse ever? You don’t think the media he consumes that infantilizes and sexualizes women isn’t gonna bleed out in how he sees and treats women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:13 PM
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You can also gauge vibe from photos. Granted it’s not always accurate but it’s better than not having the photo at all. I didnt like this one guy’s photo. Just the way he looked was off. He had the dead eyes and later I found out he was a streamer who abused his girlfriend. It was actually pretty scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:08 PM
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Fair. I also believe the same applies to men with sports, anime, marvel etc. So many men abuse their partner when their favorite team loses. Anime men who like fan service and don’t wear deodorant are definitely bound to have mental illness, too. Don’t get me started on marvel! 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:49 AM
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It’s so weird because they get these things for cars and let’s say we were to put diesel in their car because their rules are just “arbitrary,” they would scream!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:07 PM
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I feel like a lot of you men don’t understand the why’s women do it. Women don’t do it because of how it looks, but because there are real consequences if you don’t clean. My dad doesn’t clean up after himself. He’ll spill water and not clean it. The area where he spills is now rotted. My mom usually would clean it but sometimes she didn’t know that he even spilled so the water was sitting there. Now it costs a lot to replace that rotted wood. My dad refused to clean the filter before putting cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:23 PM
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That’s valid. But men are called controlling when they blame her when she didn’t la
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:31 PM
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Your definition of indulging is wearing provocative clothing. Our definition of indulging is actually responding to DM’s, likes and engaging when they approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:31 PM
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“ Women may have been told to tolerate men looking at thirst traps or attractive women, but that does not erase the broader double standard. A woman objecting was usually framed as jealous of the other woman or insecure about herself. A man objecting to comparable attention-seeking behavior from his partner is far more likely to be framed as controlling, possessive, misogynistic, or opposed to women’s freedom.” -OP’s original claim was that women got more leeway, more grace and less consequence …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:27 PM
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It’s funny that you say that which is why I always say that men have a talent in cherry picking their memories. I remember even up to millennials, men were always excused whether they liked a woman’s thirst traps on social media or looking at women in public. Especially during the toxic positivity and female empowerment movement, you had people telling women they were being jealous and misogynistic towards other women, toxic and insecure if they were upset by it. I remember millennial women tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:34 PM
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If she responded with a dm, followed and also liked his stuff I would say that’s indulging. But if she’s just posting herself? Then that’s not her indulging. Just like I wouldn’t judge a guy for posting himself. If he gets messages from women then how he responds to it is his responsibility. As for hanging out one on one, that’s weird and worth calling out. But originally in your prompt you said hanging out with guy friends alone not one on one. So like which is it? You keep changing the example…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:02 PM
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Men took this point and ran with it. Instead of saying “oh that makes sense I should contribute more in housework and not expect her to work and do all of the housework chores,” they said women just want providers!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:20 AM
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Lol backtracking when she has receipts bahahahaa
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:17 AM
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We all understand that this is a form of rejection. What you fail to understand is that she’s not upset about getting rejected, she’s upset by the way he tried to pressure her into doing something she clearly already stated that she didn’t want to do, which is reasonable. You admit yourself he’s an f boy not the kindest man you’d marry your daughter to. So she did well by saying no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:13 AM
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You paraphrased leaving out the most important part of the conversation. He said he was expecting to hookup if he goes over her house on the 2nd date and then stated “You said I don’t know about that, but I guess my thing is like…what would be the point of me coming over then if we’re not gonna like hookup?” What is the point of me….doing this, if you don’t do what I want. I don’t know in what context that sounds very positive. So she clearly showed that she was uncomfortable the first time. He …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:19 AM
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He oversimplified the message. You should listen to it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:55 PM
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“Its also why you see a lot of woman fake their orgasm. Because they don't actually find their partner sexually attractive but want the relationship benefits so they pretend to enjoy having sex with them.” Women fake orgasms because they don’t want to hurt the feelings of the guy they are with for not making them cum. No one does that if there’s not at least a little bit of attraction. The way you managed to twist women’s consideration for men. This is why I tell women not to fake, let them know…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:37 PM
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Lol “hiplet” sounds so cute compared to all of the other things men call women. Women have died from eating disorders because they were called fat. So honestly this is nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:18 AM
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I don’t necessarily care to have children, but for the children already here they do matter…? I do believe everyone is part of the community..? And I think you’re mistaking what I’m saying as what OP is saying..? I do believe single people shouldn’t be discriminated against nor mothers. There should be a way in which everyone gets to do their choice without being scrutinized by the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:48 PM
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You lost all credibility the moment you said having a career doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:46 PM
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It shouldn’t be but society places great importance on it and discriminate accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:51 PM
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The problem is that it’s going to look different per person depending on their personality and what they’re like. So one thing that is crucial for me is for the guy to make it known he’s only doing that with me, not just with everyone. Let’s say you’re the goofy type with everyone. You risk her thinking you’re joking like you’re normally are with everyone else. Maybe in front of her, you should show that you can be sincere and serious so when it comes down to it, she knows that you’re not joking…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:43 PM
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I agree that people who don’t follow the status quo don’t get appreciated like having kids and getting married. It is known that married men get higher raises and do gain status from getting married. I will also say married men can be seen as more trustworthy because they’ve been seemingly approved and vetted for by a woman. Married men get 11% more than single men and divorced men get 9% more. It isn’t however because marriage benefits women or that he received approval from women. If that were…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:59 AM
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Nobody appreciates anyone for that matter. You just have to live with that like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:46 AM
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I agree! Finally, women are free! Let men be the single fathers and actually take responsibility for their own kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:10 PM
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A hard no unless maybe he was widowed. But even then, I wouldn’t take it so lightly. You’re responsible for someone else’s kids who’s probably already traumatized by their parents separating or their mom dying. Your presence will also be a source of pain to them. You also don’t have the authority as the biological parent so it’s harder to raise them. I would also consider why did the mom give up custody for the kids? And how do I know he’s not just using me as a replacement of a daycare? It is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:22 PM
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Now I know what your problem is. You don’t want to meet people unless it’s solely for dating. You just want results without the getting to know part. So yes she may have invited him to share the gospel but that’s also a way to establish a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:23 AM
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So let us put our thinking caps on. If man is doing leisure time more than woman and they both have kids, who is watching said kid while man is enjoying his leisure time? Is the wind magically taking care of the kid as he is enjoying his leisure time? I wonder….
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:31 PM
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Well men compare women to fish and themselves the fishermen all the time. They compare women to locks and themselves the key. They essentially always compare themselves to predators so…I just used male logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:29 AM
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Yea, I can tell you ONLY read the first sentence. “men spend about 10 hours more than women per week in paid work, although women spend about six hours more than men in household work and about three additional hours in child care, bringing the total work time to 45.6 hours per week for men and 45.2 hours for women. However, men spend more time than women in leisure activities, which includes TV time, playing games, sports and a series of other activities.27 The gender gap in leisure is about fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:26 AM
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Where’s your data to support any of these claims?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:31 AM
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Lmao “men suffer in silence” why am I hearing about it 24/7?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:11 AM
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Why would the mouse give empathy to the cat when the stakes are way higher for the mouse than the cat? Maybe cats are nice and won’t eat the mouse. Will it die if the mouse isn’t nice to it? No. Will the mouse die if they’re empathetic towards the wrong cat? Absolutely. Is it more likely for the mouse to get eaten when encountering a cat? Yea. So tell me again why women should be more empathetic to men when they face the bigger risk from men than men do from women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:55 PM
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You’re trying to strawman so I will not engage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:15 PM
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You just pick up things through experience with men. And yes, I have changed things but because I realized I was being objectively toxic. It had nothing to do with the validation of a man and more to do with my own growth as an individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:07 AM
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Red pill is a core belief within the manosphere. Red pill is also closely tied to conservatism. If it was simply just work on yourself, people wouldn’t have a problem with it. You want to distance yourself and pretend it isn’t, but there’s too many of you who are that it’s become one and the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:57 AM
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But sadly men will look at that and say I don’t know what I’m talking about and somehow twist it, so honestly, whoever takes the advice will take it. The ones who don’t will continue blaming others. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:48 AM
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No. The fact of the matter is both red pill and blue pill notice the similar issues. They go about it differently. Red pill tries to find scapegoats for everything. Women are to blame for men not getting dates and lower birth rate. Immigrants take all of the jobs. Blue Pill looks at the true source. The economy sucks so nobody is able to afford to get married and having kids. Immigrants aren’t stealing your jobs, billionaire corporations are trying to replace people with AI and laying everyone o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:44 AM
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So here’s the thing. It’s similar to this economy. Work hard and you get success. We all know it’s not true. Capitalism isn’t a meritocracy because everyone is handed different cards. A lot of it is luck. You were at the right place, at the right time, met the right sponsor etc. Working hard alone doesn’t guarantee success. But that doesn’t mean, you don’t work, right? Being kind and being hygienic doesn’t guarantee you’ll get a woman. There are plenty of men with good jobs, good hygiene and are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:55 AM
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So here’s the difference. If you prefer someone with a low body count because you yourself have a low body count and want compatibility, man or woman idgaf. It’s also fine if someone with a higher body count doesn’t prefer with someone who’s a virgin. Maybe they feel uncomfortable being someone’s first time. But if you’re JUDGING and determining someone’s character based on the number, then i have an issue. If you assume they’re a virgin because theyre a loser or they’re a red flag just because …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:36 AM
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You wouldn’t be able to know that if you just judge by number though. Thats my point. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story. Only basing your judgment of a person based on the number makes you a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:31 AM
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“It is a reason why we preserve criminal records” Are you actually comparing someone’s sexual history with a criminal record? You’re saying sex is a crime? Are you clinically insane? Having sex doesn’t mean you’re liar etc. So long as it is consensual and two people are in the know, there is nothing wrong with it. You might as well be the Taliban if you believe it’s the equivalent of a crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:30 AM
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I said base someone’s humanity on body count. Not about having a preference for less people. If she judges that he’s not human for having a high body count based on him being a man maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:55 PM
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Lmao then I’m gonna assume your entire question is in bad faith and you don’t want answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:51 PM
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Types of men like what…? Types of sex like what…? What sexual taboos?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:18 PM
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Misogyny is prejudice and contempt towards women. If the person it’s being directed to isn’t a woman, then no, it’s not misogyny by definition. Internalized misogyny can be a motivation for having that standard, but no, I wouldn’t call it misogyny unless she were judging other women for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:59 PM
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Give me the list then. How are you going to be vague and then be mad I assumed it’s the most common thing men have a problem with?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:54 PM
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The man I actually want wouldnt be a misogynistic prick who decides a woman’s humanity based on body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:47 PM
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Literally nothing. I have nothing to offer a man, so by all means go find the man of your dreams who will treat you like the princess you are~
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:10 AM
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“if she would want her son or dad to intervene even if it means risking their lives for a woman they have no connection with” You realize that there are many ways to intervene without risking your life, right? Why are you assuming that we’re asking men to fight these men off? Most of yall can’t fight or have the balls to anyway. You can call 9-1-1 from a distance, you can pretend to be a boyfriend, tell the security guard, etc. You just want to excuse yourself for doing nothing at all by pretend…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:45 PM
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Then make sure to ask OP that question too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:06 PM
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Or sorry they dislike weak and shy women more than they like criminals
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:40 PM
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I’m not claiming they’re dominant because of their success. I’m claiming their success makes it so they’re not as easily submissive because they have the means to get out if needed unlike women who rely on a man financially. These men don’t like that. Because otherwise by your claim, dominant women who arent successful wouldn’t get married, yet you see plenty of women with dominant personalities in difficult neighborhoods married all the time with multiple kids. The difference is in the finances…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:38 AM
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I can name female criminals who had male partners like Taylor Parker, Gypsy Rose etc. With that notion I guess both men and women only date and love criminals. Both prefer criminal over nice people with your logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:15 AM
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How exactly is that different? You claimed most men are not intimidated by their success, they just dislike nonsubmissive women when their success is the main factor why they’re nonsubmissive?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 04:22 AM
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“These men don’t really care that she’s successful, they just dislike nonsubmissive women.” It’s her success that makes her non submissive so ultimately they don’t like her success. The reason they like women who earn less or want to be a traditional wife is because it will make her more submissive since they would rely on them more financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:19 AM
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Like what they say on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:59 PM
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“vast majority of people act completely normal in real life?” You’d be very surprised and totally overestimate how many men act “normal” around women. Maybe around men or women they don’t like or arent attracted to, they act normal but in a dating/ relationship context, you really wouldn’t know unless you were on the receiving end of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:50 PM
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Doesn’t this prove that men prefer bad women if anything if we want to use your logic? Your friend clearly chose a terrible woman. Then that terrible woman chose a terrible man. So basically everyone prefers and chooses terrible people 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:04 PM
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You’re right it doesn’t guarantee better relationships. But that’s not the point of high standards. My standards exist because of previous experience of knowing what I like and don’t like. It doesn’t make me more discerning. It means I won’t waste other people’s time and they won’t waste mine. It means I’m not gonna use someone else to just not to feel lonely even while I secretly don’t really like them. It means I’m not gonna tolerate certain behaviors just for the sake of being in a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:39 PM
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Lmao “my ex” clearly it didn’t work out then which proves her point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:28 PM
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But that’s how real nice guys talk. Anyone who has dealt with a nice guy knows. They tend to take what you said to an extreme, so they can be the victim. Let’s say you ask them to stop doing something that’s making you uncomfortable, “do you hate me that much?”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:35 AM
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I remember when it was the other way around. When social media controlled by millennials pressured everyone to only like based on who’s nice. You were considered toxic for even wanting a specific body trait. Back then you could not dare say you cared about looks without being accused of body shaming. So it’s just very interesting. I do believe low and high standards can be influenced by others. Like when people pressure you to date the nice guy and if you don’t, everyone hates on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 02:30 AM
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They think single mothers don’t take accountability when honestly her even raising the child alone is taking accountability, the man isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:31 AM
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As someone who’s had a glow up, invisible is fine. It hurts to not be seen as an option don’t get me wrong. But men can be especially cruel if you’re not up to their standard. Being asked out as a joke is a given. They assume if you’re nice to them or just being normal that you like them and get really mad. That’s why I made it a point to be nice with rejection when I had my glow up. I knew how much it hurt to be treated differently, but oh how I learned the hard way, men will take advantage of …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:58 AM
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Idk what planet you’ve been on but plenty of women do. When you’re not considered attractive at best, you’re invisible, at worst, men hate your existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:29 AM
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So for wanting 3 kids, as you’ve mentioned yourself, you might not get because maybe she has a miscarriage or doesn’t feel like getting a third after suffering with two. You said you wouldn’t compromise even you know it might not happen, so you’re gonna divorce her if it’s not 3 kids because she didn’t fulfill your standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:40 AM
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It’s because you listed them as “standards” not your ideal life. People would be a lot more receptive if you said this would be your ideal partner, but instead you listed it as “specific issues” you would not be compromising on. So no, they’re not really strawmanning you. The way you presented it makes them think you believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:20 AM
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It’s a response to the man on here who said women love to be objectified lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:58 AM
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If men didn’t treat women differently by gender first in a way that endangers them, women wouldn’t have to be cautious, right? I’m not endangering my life to cater to your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:57 AM
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Am I supposed to throw myself at any man and be every man’s friend? Would that be enough for you? If something then happens, will you take responsibility? No. It’s my life and I’m allowed to choose who I let in and don’t. I’m not being rude, excluding or hurting men. I’m simply not giving and showing everything but somehow that’s discriminatory?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:54 AM
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Lmao you didn’t read the original post, did you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:46 AM
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It means trust needs to be earned which is true of every human, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:39 AM
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I mean isn’t that natural? Regardless of gender you have to vet and be careful of who you’re friends with. By your logic, you’re being discriminatory if you don’t automatically let people in and know everything about you inside out. I still treat them civilly. Just at arm’s length.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:10 PM
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Some things men will just never be able to relate. I was once being followed by a guy on campus and happened to come across my male friends (not friends anymore) and I begged them to give me a ride or walk with me. They laughed in my face (maybe they thought it was a joke) and then said out loud “your dorm is right there” in front of him. It was only after I burst into tears that they took me seriously. Another time, I was hanging out with my friends who work at the desk of a dorm. The same stal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:47 PM
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No, you just threw a tantrum and reported them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:00 PM
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What’s difficult about saying what to do for social skills is that it depends on the context. You have to be adaptable to what the situation calls for and learn through experience, but I can share some social mistakes I’ve seen men make. - turning everything into a debate or quiz: if she says she likes something, saying why you think it sucks or if she said she like anime and you quiz her on anime facts - openly commenting on a woman’s appearance - giving short responses that make it impossible …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:51 PM
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Well a lot men don’t even do well with that so….
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:02 PM
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You realize, it’s possible to treat people with respect even if you aren’t into them, right….? You know that you don’t have to abuse people just because you don’t find them attractive. I guess that’s a hard concept for men lol…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:53 PM
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Lol they were trying to empathize with you and yet, you turned on them. This is why no one cares about male mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:48 PM
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Have you talked to women? Clearly you haven’t and yes I did talk to men. Plenty of men exhibit avoidant behaviors because it’s normalized due to patriarchy. You have to seem “nonchalant” or “tough.” Men cry about not being able to cry all the time. You don’t think they’re connected?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:42 PM
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Women just fantasize men treating them well. Men fantasize women serving them. Huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:41 PM
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But at the end of the day though is he still treated like human? You didn’t even deny that women aren’t treated as human in the story or a valid character, you just “but women’s stories also…”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:40 PM
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Why would they get rid of them? They’re the easiest to manipulate and use. It’s the same reason why white billionaires convince poorer white people that it’s immigrants taking their jobs not AI, not them hoarding all of the wealth. ISIS used to recruit lonely young men all over the world to be terrorists through YouTube. The right used men to win elections. Feed them some crumbs and they’ll do all of the dirty work for you. Why wouldn’t the top want these lonely, angry men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:35 PM
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Here’s the difference, in even dark romance, male lead characters are humanized, not objectified. They have their own backstory. There is reasoning. There are characteristics not just about his body but also his feelings, personality etc. Even while the woman is the main lead, the man is not just treated like an accessory, he also has his point of view shared. In men’s stories, a woman is treated a side character at best or just a tool or object at worst. She’s just reduced to her boobs and butt…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:24 PM
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A lot of these men were avoidant before the women. They’ve probably acted like that even when they were younger and carried that out to adulthood. I can’t imagine being so dumb to blame it on the other gender when you can control your own approach in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:19 PM
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Lmao yes they do. “These hoes are for the street” etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:20 PM
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Maybe up to high school, I would get pissed that the meanest women always had the nicest boyfriends and felt like nice women finish last. But once you’re an adult and mature, you realize that not even you, yourself are the best person and you have your flaws. And a relationship is not a reward for being good. It’s a partnership between people who are compatible with one another. People have their preferences and you don’t always have to moralize it. You don’t just date someone because they’re go…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:18 PM
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If you watch crime documentaries, does that automatically mean you want end up in one? Like this logic is so flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:31 AM
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Lmao you’d be surprised by the kind of messages young women get even by grandpa’s. You think grandpa’s are innocent? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:37 AM
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Plenty of men in the dating scene explore even after 20’s. You know how many profiles of men on dating apps say “not looking for anything serious?” Anyone who touches grass knows that your statement is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:33 PM
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LMFAO do you live under a rock?!?! Almost every normal young man does this bahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:54 PM
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I’m just pointing out the hypocrisy and how it’s factually incorrect to put all of the blame of this on women when this is the making of men for many generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:09 PM
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That was definitely the case. Men always went about how time was ticking for women and if you weren’t married before 30, you had no hope and would be a cat lady. In different parts of the world, women who don’t get married are called leftovers. Only when men started to feel lonely too and birth rate got affected did they start to coin terms like male loneliness epidemic and claim women have all the privileges. It’s so weird to vilify women focusing on careers and claim they have all the privileg…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:17 PM
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But mind you when it was men who didn’t want to get married, you didn’t have women becoming radicalized, some shooting up schools due to their anger, did you? No. Women accepted that they couldn’t force marriage onto a man and decided to leave or focus on themselves. Men can also choose to focus on themselves. Thats the point here. It’s just weird how Gen Z men are gonna pretend that women always had the upper hand when that’s far from the truth. It’s that women took matters into their own hands…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:58 PM
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What’s so crazy for me was that even up to millennials, it was men who didn’t want to get married. Boomer men and Gen X men would joke that getting married was like being shackled and how much they hate their wives. Millennials didn’t want to get married and started the whole being non commital thing because they saw all of Gen X and Boomers get divorced. They also wanted to be liberated from being tied down. So you had millennial men dating women for years and refusing to get married and being …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:57 PM
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Sure. But what I’m saying it’s not an automatic death sentence if you’re not on the bigger side. Except if you’re micro in which then I’m sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:18 AM
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Why would you think that? Even men, don’t want to be fathers and abandon their kids when they don’t have to go through any of that. That’s a testament what a big burden and commitment it is. So logically speaking, isn’t it more than possible for women who have to deal with even more than men to not want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:17 AM
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Just a list of things that can happen when pregnant: - your legs swell up - UTI’s - constant back pain - constipation -gas bloating -bleeding gums -higher risk of type 2 diabetes - gain weight -lose teeth - brain swelling - painful muscle cramps - brain fog While giving birth: -vomit can come out of places other than your mouth -your eyeballs and retinas can pop out while pushing the baby - if your placenta gets stuck doctor goes elbow deep in your coochie to get it -anesthesia might not work wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:16 PM
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You said it makes men disadvantaged so according to you, men are the inferior ones who can’t handle trying to be confident
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:41 PM
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If it was just a matter of disagreement, then women don’t care. Plenty of pro choice women would not get an abortion themselves. The issue people have with you is not just that you “disagree,” you wish infringe on other people’s rights. You’re also making things up that don’t make logical sense and doesn’t stay consistent. If there’s a flaw in a debate calling it out is also part of said debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:43 PM
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If women can do it too, you can as well. Are men inferior to women? No. So then they can do it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:15 AM
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Then perhaps you’re not ready to date
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:26 AM
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A newborn baby can live without their mother’s support. How do you think orphans survive? Anyone can step in. It’s born with a mind that is processed, which is why a newborn is different from a fetus. And hence laws recognize personhood when you are BORN. That’s also why you don’t pay child support for a pregnant wife, you only pay child support if they’re born. Thats also why you’re not considered US citizen automatically if your mom got pregnant with you in the US. You are recognized as a lega…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:56 PM
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You don’t have to care, but don’t cry when this becomes a precedent to the government overriding other bodily autonomy rights. If the government can force women to give birth, what stops them from forcing you to do any invasive treatment or having to donate your organs etc? You’ve just given them the ok to interfere with your own treatments etc and we know with the imperfect justice system that we have, they’re not going to do it with your best interest at heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:05 PM
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Are you not a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:02 PM
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I used sperm to get men to see where women are coming from because a lot of you can’t process it unless you’re included or you go through it yourself. But it’s interesting how you respond it’s ok for me, but not for thee. And mind you without the sperm there’s also no baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:01 PM
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So you realize how unreasonable you sound with your logic. The fetus cannot become human without the mother giving birth to it. And most times than not due to miscarriage or other circumstances, it may not even fully become human. So to argue with “potential” is unreasonable. To jail women for a fetus that hasn’t even formed its own mind yet to process anything is unreasonable. You wouldn’t count sperm as a human either because it cannot think or process pain even if technically it’s living and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:59 AM
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For every ex, it was me who approached first. Probably why it didn’t work out. But I don’t take it to heart. You think women are cruel with rejection? I’ve had men show my picture to friends and laugh with them. I’ve been asked out as a joke. If they’re cruel enough to act like that, they would’ve been cruel if you dated them so honestly, you’ve dodged a bullet. Sometimes it’s malicious, other times it’s just lack of compatibility. They might not be over their ex or something just didn’t click w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:55 AM
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The women who are angry about transphobia in sports from men are not going to be the same women bothered by transwomen in bathrooms. A lot of men who argue this are not arguing in good faith because a) a lot of them don’t even watch female sports and degrade it and b) they’re arguing cis men could pretend but that has nothing to do with transgender women. The problem with trying to police gender with sports is how are you going to go about it? Check testosterone levels? What a cis woman happens …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:36 AM
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Do you hear yourself? You don’t think those men didn’t deceive..?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:39 AM
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Bro everything has risk, that’s just part of life. I will empathize with the fact that with people able to film and post other people’s dating profiles, messages and faces, it makes sense that the younger generation are scared. Rejection used to be private. But here’s the thing, luckily for you, you can control who you choose to approach and have greater reach with social media. You can choose low risk settings to approach women. So instead of school, close friend group, you can opt for online d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:36 AM
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Self-assured, decisive, take charge, comfortable in their skin, is too hard for you…?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:27 AM
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If you want to argue about potentiality why stop at a fetus? What about sperm? Should we count sperm as a legal human, too because it has potential to become a baby if it meets the egg? Should we call bloody murder every time you use a sock?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:21 AM
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How you use it matters more 100%. If it’s big yet you don’t know what to do with it, it’s pretty much useless. I notice smaller guys do better because they have learned how to work with what they have or around it. Men who prioritize making the women feel good will always be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:44 AM
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Just watch the Korean Netflix show Better Late Than Single and you will see just how much it shows when you’re inexperienced lol. It’s a show of late 20’s men and women who’ve never dated and they get a glow up plus some coaching from celebrities. The show is hilarious because the men are so clumsy in an endearing way, but also heartwarming to see them grow. Some things you can only learn through a relationship context. You’ll notice for both the men and women, there is ALWAYS a reason why they …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:43 PM
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Guess what? Black women exist, too….crazy, right? So they not only go through what you go through but also deal with the struggles of being a woman. I gave few examples mostly of how white civilization has dealt with incels in which it has led to persecution of other groups. I mainly spoke of studies of history that exist but feel free to conduct your own research on how POC went about incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:25 AM
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You said nobody is saying women should date men they don’t want, then what is your solution and in what way are you expecting women to help? Women try to give advice, then men say women don’t know what they want and it doesn’t work. Women try to encourage going to therapy to work on the trauma and issues holding them back, as you see in the original post, they say it doesn’t work. If you say no to everything, you better have a better alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:22 AM
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So what’s stopping men from helping each other? Why is the sole onus on women? Why don’t the men who are happily adjusted befriend incels and show them tips and tricks? Not in a redpill way but in a gain confidence, style and healthy mind way? Why don’t men try to be role models for other men or create safe spaces for them? Why don’t you guys help each other on social skills? Let’s be fr here, a lot of you don’t even want to do the work yourselves. You don’t even want to be friends with them or …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 09:30 PM
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Considering the risks women take when going on a date with a man for the first time, expecting her to come out AND pay is entitlement. When women go on a date with a man she doesn’t know, she’s going expecting that worst comes to worst, she might get raped or found in a ditch. I don’t let men pick me up because I’ve had men try to trap me in their car and now don’t want them knowing my address. I let a friend know before leaving just in case things go south. Men think hiking dates are great beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:51 AM
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Then that probably means your expectations are unreasonable and you need to adjust accordingly or just be single. I notice you didn’t even provide an example and were very vague with “does/allow that.” Allow what? Whatever it is, I have a feeling deep down you know it’s unreasonable so that’s why you’re not even iterating what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:53 PM
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Dating isn’t a meritocracy, you’re right because we’re talking about people, not test results. People are complex. Let’s be real here, not even you like every random person you come across, some for valid reasons, others just because. Think about the people you do like, why do you like them? Then you should expect that people are going to want that as well. You’re right in that having perfect social skills or being funny doesn’t guarantee a relationship. Being pretty doesn’t guarantee fulfilling…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:36 AM
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The world would be my oyster. Btw I’ve pursued the guys I’ve liked and wanted to date and have been rejected for it terribly, too. If rejected, it’s just not meant to be and a lesson is learned. If it works out, it works out. As the pursuer, you get to decide who to go after and how to go about your approach. You gain new information every time and can learn so much from rejection. - Enjoy the process: Men get too stressed about the result of a date with getting sex or a relationship. I would tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:22 PM
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Ok, I will change it to empty wallet then
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:49 PM
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The way men would fume if we called them our “ATM machines” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:49 PM
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Her pussy dries up? They were about to have sex then he cried about his cat…? I mean it’d be weirder if it got wetter after hearing his cat died don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:46 PM
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Men don’t state their preferences clearly either, you just figure it out as you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:05 AM
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Lmao you’re not slick you said he should not have listened to his wife, trying to still make Eve the only blame and Adam the victim. And now trying to backtrack cause your argument is weak. Very cute attempt though~
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:57 PM
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Lmao she ate you up
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:34 AM
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Give a primary example of this. You’re saying you’re seeing this everywhere but I don’t understand what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:21 PM
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Men willing to pay for one dinner is not the same as dedicating a life. Also, your one anecdote doesn’t apply to most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:04 PM
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You’re right, it is different. When women are single they are called cat ladies and told their time is ticking and they’re undesirable by 30. Men are not held to that same standard. Everyone is supposed to care if a man is single, but if a woman is single, it’s her fault. We women are different because we take responsibility for being single. We are ok with the consequences of not being with a man because it’s better than being with one who mistreats us. Men clearly don’t go through the risks wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:39 AM
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I literally mentioned even the hottest men do things to upkeep their appearance, so what do you think that means..?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:32 AM
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I find it funny when men say they want a "woman with no makeup" and act like it's the most humble standard ever. They're basically saying she needs to be genetically blessed and have the perfect features from birth and look great, never looking or being tired, with no blemishes without having to upkeep it. Even your hottest man does things to upkeep his appearance. Not to mention, they can't even tell the difference anyway. They think a woman who got lash lifts just naturally have curled up, lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:26 PM
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A couple of things: "As a society we are busy telling men to open up emotionally to women without ever bothering to make it SAFE for men to open up and make themselves emotionally vulnerable with women." It's not safe for women, either. Vulnerable literally means opening yourself up to risk. When women are vulnerable with the wrong man, they pay a heavy price for it sometimes even death. Women get called mentally ill, crazy or that they're on their period. Women are told they can't be leaders be…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:18 PM
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Yea, no one is gonna make that documentary for you. Men need to take charge on their own movement. You think feminism just appeared like magic? It took centuries of organizing and initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:18 AM
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You make your own then..?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:46 PM
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It’s already talked about everywhere. You see articles about “male loneliness epidemic” all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:26 PM
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Then leave her I guess. Both of you find someone closer and with more compatible sex drives and views on porn. But I will say women who have a problem with it, usually have a problem with it because it bleeds out in other areas of the relationship. If he has an addiction, if he’s lying about it, or it’s affecting their own sex life where he’s no longer stimulated by her alone, it becomes a problem. She was honest with you and instead of cheating and making it your problem, she tried to find ways…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:09 PM
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Why do politicians or any political party have to help you get laid and have romantic success? Do you want the government decide your partner for you? How would you even want them to go about doing it? You want them to make laws to traffick girls to your home so you can get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:28 AM
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This is how I know men have selective memory and can’t see things objectively. Republicans are the original “you’re the problem” party. You’re getting f’ed by the economy? It’s because you didn’t work hard enough and bought a latte. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps. You don’t want to be forced to have a kid? If you didn’t want one, you shouldn’t have had sex before marriage. You don’t want to get shot up in a school? It’s our right to have guns, you should’ve protected yourself with a gun. Oh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:42 PM
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You want women to sell their bodies and livelihoods so men don’t kill themselves? Only for those same men to say they’re for the streets?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:15 PM
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You do realize countries with the strictest modesty laws have a correlation with treating their women the worst, right? To name a few, Afghanistan, Saudi Arabia. The women are covered from head to toe, does that stop it? No. It’s interesting to see how western men try to pride themselves in being better than men in Middle Eastern countries then basically push for the same thing. You’re not creative. Your “solution” is not new and has been proven time and time again why it leads to oppressive reg…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:38 PM
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So the thing is, with every stranger you don’t their intentions and you don’t know what they’ve been through. Just keep it pushing and call it a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:40 PM
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I agree that the world is unjust and unfair, but the way you twist the “why,” is the problem and the real just word fallacy. You’re trying to moralize attractiveness because you feel it’s unfair to not be considered attractive when quite frankly, both are just as capable of being evil. This automatic assumption that unattractive men are kinder than attractive ones is rooted in fantasy and not realism because you see those movies where the unattractive, nerdy guy saves the day like a hero and get…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:04 PM
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You’re basically asking for perfection from women. You’re expecting her to know everything about a man’s intentions when he approaches her as a stranger. If something ends up happening to her because she was nice, it’s her fault. If she’s guarded, she’s a bitch. At some point you can’t just keep putting the oneus on women, you’ve got to address the men as communication is a two way street. You also have to do your part to signal safety and you can do that by accepting the rejection, not pushing …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:24 PM
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You don’t know that though. You don’t know if they wouldn’t have abused them or done them wrong in some way shape or form unless you’re able to somehow see into the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:14 PM
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You took one term from therapy and psychology class and just ran with it. What you’re doing is just world fallacy actually. You’re assuming the world is inherently just and full of good people, so it has to be something wrong with women and it’s inherently their fault as to why they’re with bad men. Just world fallacy is more aligned with victim blaming. You here are blaming the victims and making claims it’s because they’re attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:10 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting a DNA test if he highly suspects of cheating. There’s also nothing wrong with a woman wanting nothing to do with him afterwards if it turns she hasn’t cheated and the child is his. I don’t get why you men want mandatory testing when you can already get your own test. You want to force everyone else to pay for it through the government and subject everyone else to taking the test when they’re already sure because you don’t want to face the consequences if …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:55 AM
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I didn’t overstate, you underestimated. You made it seem like women just sit at home and a man magically appears on her doorstep and 💥 relationship 💥. That’s not how it works. Your average passive woman is at home, phone really dry, not getting advances etc. I know so many women who haven’t dated before. They don’t like to go out, rarely any men approach them. They get ghosted like your average man does. The ones who date, man or woman, get those opportunities because they put in the work. You’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 06:34 PM
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The average woman isn’t being passive to get opportunities her way. Maybe the ones with ULTRA pretty privilege, but even then, pretty privilege can only take you so far. Women also have to put themselves out there to get more chances with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 06:12 PM
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“Healthy vulnerability can strengthen relationships, but vulnerability without stability can sometimes alter romantic dynamics for both men and women.” AI answered it for you. The reason women leave is probably because more often than not it’s the latter than the former. So a couple things: 1) What is the man being vulnerable about? The content of what is being said is important. Let’s say I am “vulnerable” and “emotionally honest” about cheating on you and you leave me for it, do I later get to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:06 AM
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It’s almost as if men don’t understand the concept of BALANCE.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:45 AM
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Could’ve just asked AI at that point for the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:44 AM
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Do you not realize how dehumanizing that sounds from their perspective? You can try liking a woman from another country for who she is not because you feel like you can use your heritage to your advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 12:12 AM
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If you just said you had a preference for women from the country and found them attractive or even just you resonated more with their culture, people would at least give you the benefit of the doubt that you see these women on an equal footing and like them for who they are. But going out of your way to say you want to use your nationality as an advantage is basically saying you think you can use your status and opportunities from your country as leverage over these women. That is your western s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:37 PM
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I have never once looked at man from a different heritage and thought how I could use mine to my advantage. You have to have a very insidious mindset to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:32 PM
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Trying to use “nationality as your advantage” is very much shitty. It means you don’t see them as an equal. You see yourself as superior to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:51 PM
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I’m not saying they are less educated. You’re the one who used the exact phrasing “use nationality to his advantage.” You’re the one with the view that you are better than these women in those countries whether racially, ethnically or financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:50 PM
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Basically this sub is all about men crying “why cant i do something shitty without being called shitty for it?” You want to take advantage of women in other countries without backlash lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:48 PM
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I just believe knowing someone as a friend does not mean you know the way they act in the dating scene or to their partners. I believe thats a very fair, logical statement. This applies to both men and women. You assume all of the entire gender of women are the problem if they’re not dating your friend, but you dont know how he acts in front of women. Im not necessarily saying automatically he’s a terrible human being, but realistically speak if he’s the common denominator, it’s more logical to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:58 PM
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My point still stands even with dating, you know the person a lot more intimately than just as an acquaintance or a friend. You’ve never had sex with your guy friend so you don’t know how he may act in the bedroom. You wouldn’t know he could rape bc you would never be with him in that context. You don’t know how he acts on dates because you’ve never been on a date with him. There’s a lot more that meets the eye when you’re a woman with a man vs. his friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:24 PM
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“Who seem pleasant to be around” is different than being compatible enough with them to date them and live with them for the rest of your life in marriage. When you’re just a friend, anybody can somewhat seem pleasant to be around. I’m sure you’d agree even with roommates, it’s a different story. You’re not compatible just anyone to live together. Even friendships fall apart when you live with them. Now imagine being married for life and having kids with them. You better best believe your concep…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:05 PM
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These men see it as transactional because before they benefitted when they exploited women. Now that women are asking for more mutually beneficial contracts and are making their own demands, love is suddenly transactional to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:00 PM
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Most women I find to have an issue with their partner watching porn don’t like it due to other underlying issues, not just the porn itself. So for example, you’re dating a brunette, but only watch porn with blonde women? Your brunette partner is going to wonder is that is your real type and you settled for them? Would you not find it weird if it was the reverse? For example, you’re brown but your partner only likes to watch yt men in porn? They may not be ok with the category. Another issue is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:55 AM
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Men are constantly moving the goalpost for this though. Men even find pigtails sexual. Men will even sexually harass hijabi women. So at what point is it about the dress vs. men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:33 AM
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Everyone has eyes, not everyone has walked in other people’s shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:05 AM
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Ok then let your sister and daughter marry any random man on the street without vetting him at all since they’re SO safe. If all men are good, any random man should do, right? Hire only male babysitters since they are so safe. Go in only the male bathroom with your daughter and change her diaper there. Drop your daughter alone in a room with only men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:05 AM
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Did you date and marry them? No. Then sit down
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:49 AM
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Ask for an arranged marriage, then..? Do you want to go back to that era where you ACTUALLY didn’t have a choice and it was picked for you? You have the privilege of being able to pursue who you want. You also have the privilege to say no if you want. You just don’t seem to like the responsibility that comes with having that freedom of choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:10 PM
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The reality is it will be impossible for women to avoid every single type of bad man out there if bad men are not held accountable. “Good men” will have no choice but to pay for it if they don’t address the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:45 PM
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Basically all men are potentially dangerous. Some are more obvious about it than others. There are so many archetypes of bad men you have to avoid. Some are less experienced than others so they don’t know. Imagine having to avoid the guy who is misogynistic, the guy who catcalls, the guy who uses weaponized incompetence, the guy who is liked by everyone so when you get a bad feeling everyone tells you you’re overthinking it but he turns out to be abusive, the guy addicted to substances, gaming, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:25 PM
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Let me put this into perspective with racism as a WOC. Just because a Black man wears a hoodie and a chain, is he a gangster? Is it ok to assume he’s violent from the way he dresses? No. You don’t say he’s asking to be profiled and treated like a criminal just for dressing a certain way. In the same light, a woman dressing a certain way is not asking to be objectified. She should be allowed to wear what she wants to wear without feeling unsafe. Also, finding someone attractive is different from …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 08:26 PM
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Tbh I’d care more about why I’m doing it for free? Where’s ma money?! Jkjk but in all seriousness, in either scenario I’d want them to get tested first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:29 PM
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Man or woman would be called out for not helping. There is no hypocrisy there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:10 PM
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I never told you to, just don’t whine.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:49 AM
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Then stop whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:25 AM
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Do for others as you would want people to do for you, your family and your kids. Would you call a man who runs away while your daughter is getting killed, brave? I highly doubt that. What kind of world is better? People who only think and act like you and excuse it as being “human?” Or people who would actually step in when needed. Man or woman, I prefer the latter. Being a bystander by definition is cowardice. And if you want to keep being one, that’s fine but you can’t expect people to praise …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:21 PM
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A lot of women are sparing you men’s feelings here, you’re right it’s not just coercion nor is it even a matter of attraction. The truth of the matter is, it’s going to look different because each guy has different equipment, preferences and skills so compatibility/ chemistry is gonna differ per person. There are some positions I could do with one ex that I couldn’t do with another because well…God didn’t really bless him in that specific department, but am I gonna tell him that? No. But are the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:08 PM
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You’re mistaking an ultimatum and a boundary. Ultimatums are about force, usually involving a threat or a demand that attempts to control another person. Boundaries are about personal power, a limit set for yourself that does not come from a place of anger, judgment or blame. So they can be similar in that there is a consequence but a boundary is more limiting actions done TO you, whereas ultimatums is about invading other people’s boundaries. You’re basically setting an ultimatum, threatening h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:40 PM
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Isn’t it true though that a guy is insecure if he needs society to validate his preferences for him? No one is really stopping you from adhering to your preferences. You’re basically asking society for permission to fat shame and be shallow. While no law is stopping you from being shallow, you can’t police how people will react to it. If a little booing is enough to abandon what you want for yourself, then yea you are hella insecure by definition. When women do it, we do it knowing there’s the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:28 PM
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You don’t even think about society just your dick
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:22 PM
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If you’re really that concerned about the birth rate declining, by all means adopt children already here and/or donate your sperm everywhere. But you won’t because you’re not actually concerned about the country’s birth rate, you just want a hole to abuse and use a woman’s body as an incubator. If you truly cared, you would address and advocate for a better economy, lower childcare costs, paid maternity leave, lower maternal mortality rate, better healthcare, gun reform so kids can go to school …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:48 PM
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Plenty of women have answered you. You’re just too hard headed to listen to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:50 PM
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Literally, everyone has a type. If not in looks, then in personality or vibes. Men and women alike have one. You either are just not self aware enough to be able pinpoint the similarities or just trying to feel self righteous about having no type. If you truly had no type, anyone and everyone would do it for you which we all know that’s not true as everyone has their preferences. Type isn’t permanent either. Yes, it makes it harder to find a partner, but at least I’m not wasting people’s time an…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:20 PM
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Do you genuinely believe you’re doing them a favor? I dare you to tell them what you actually think about them beforehand and honestly say you’re going to use them for casual sex because they’re maladjusted and awkward and see how successful you are then. You won’t because you know that what you’re doing is cruel and they wouldn’t stand for it if they knew about it. That’s why you resort to deceiving. Women at least reject out front without giving false hope and not waste either person’s time. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 08:46 AM
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You’re comparing active vs. passive. You actively picking a woman to talk to in order to cheat on your partner is a lot different than a woman dressing and posting herself on social media and men flocking to her. The only way they would somewhat be comparable would be if she actively accepted those requests and started to talking to them. Two completely different things. And this can easily be solved by you only seeking women who dress modestly and who don’t really post on social media. Even if …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:56 PM
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If we’re using a song as our primary source, then I’ll use any hip hop song to prove all men are cheaters and are violent towards women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 05:24 AM
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“You’re not like other girls” is a typical ploy players and abusers use to keep a woman hooked. I immediately run the other way because I know the guy is going to treat me horribly if I stay. “You’re not like other guys” is probably genuine, but I’d be mindful because that means she was hurt A LOT by other men especially if she’s saying that over things that are just normal. Hurt people can hurt people. And notice you didn’t provide an exact equivalent for “for a woman” because there isn’t one. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 04:45 AM
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If that’s your definition, then it’s even less for women. Women may get the initial approach but that doesn’t mean they can easily “create a relationship with a guaranteed 100% outcome.” It easily can become a failed talking stage, situationships. They can get ghosted, used for sex, might not be safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:23 PM
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Please continue to maintain your dignity, so any woman who encounters you can dodge a bullet.You’re just acting on insecurity and having retroactive jealousy. That’s stuff you do when you’re younger, not older.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:33 AM
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Genuine question here, why would you even know about those things in the first place? I don’t understand how you would even come to know about every single act your partner has done in the bedroom unless a) they say it unprompted in which that case is really weird b) you asked them for that info. Don’t ask about it if you can’t handle the answer. It’s just unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:36 PM
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Men and society don’t. They tell women they should’ve chosen better, meanwhile don’t tell men to do better, which leads to a huge imbalance. If you keep telling women to be careful of a missing step and blame for falling without fixing the missing step, you’re bound to have women very anxious and wary of using the stairs, afraid they will fall. Men need to fix that step before telling women to stop falling and to use the stairs without fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:00 AM
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If you want grace for doing the work, give grace to women who’ve been victimized and in the process of developing their discernment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 07:54 PM
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Ok. Nice guys, being nice doesn’t guarantee a relationship because people are complex and nice is baseline. You can be nice but not be compatible (different personalities, lifestyles, ideal types etc), make a terrible first impression, not be socially ept, be at different life stages (ex. transitioning jobs, just broken up recently), not be actually kind (ex. using niceness as a means to an end, expecting something in return), have terrible timing, come off as desperate, etc. There’s just so man…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:44 PM
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Right I can state my boundaries and say everything I expect. He pretends that’s what he wants too and is going to do. Then right after sex, dips. Wtf did it accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:33 AM
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Are you fr? Why can’t women communicate? How would she know what to talk about or what she’s missing if these men are LYING? What’s the point if they’re going to LIE anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 02:49 PM
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Well the whole point of this place is to debate, right? You can post what you like, people will respond how they feel about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 02:37 AM
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So for your specific analogy about illness, what I’m talking about is when instead of just ranting about illness, they’re blaming everyone else and getting angry with them. Yes, you try to understand it’s because they’re sick. But at some point, how much of the anger and disrespect can one take just because they’re sick? I understand someone may have hurdles due to some things they can’t control in dating, but you can’t expect me to constantly take them blaming women and being misogynistic, angr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 02:10 AM
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Yes, you’re allowed to vent and others are allowed to respond to you how they feel about it. As you’ve said, I vent as well, but I don’t expect everyone to cater to me. There are bound to be people who disagree like you. You can’t police how they react just like I can’t control how you respond to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:44 AM
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In order to make an effective comparison, you don’t take two completely random different situations and say they’re one and the same. You were trying to compare and say it’s victim blaming, which I understand where you’re coming from. But your examples are flawed because one is where someone is directly impacting another negatively by violently hurting them. Whereas in the other situation, it’s rejection. Though there can be times it is cruel, it is often not malicious and just a mismatch of nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:37 AM
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Your example doesn’t work because not being attracted to or dating someone is not the same as punching someone. If that were the case, you punched someone too at some point, I’m sure there are people who you, yourself, are not attracted to in this world. Not everyone is going to like you and you’re not going to like everyone and you shouldn’t be forced to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:31 PM
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It’s not gaslighting, it’s called human psychology. I acknowledge it could be due to other factors that are out of their control. That can easily lower your self esteem and ruin your perception of others. It can make you very jaded. It may not be your fault for getting rejected. However, when you come to the internet and start blaming people for not choosing you and saying they’re all shallow, don’t know what they like, any normal person is not going to be that receptive to that. It’s not going …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:28 PM
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People only assume that depending on how you present the prompt. If you’re asking for genuine advice and looking to improve yourself, nobody is going to assume it’s automatically because of a terrible personality. However, if like a lot of these men in this group, you present it very negatively while blaming all women and being very misogynistic about it, then yea, women are going to say it’s because of your terrible personality. Perhaps it’s a matter of chicken or the egg. Is it because of bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:25 PM
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I’ve only used this when a man gets praised for basic tasks. Like praise for a father that doesn’t abandon his kid? Yea, the bar is in hell because that’s what a dad should do. Men have collectively made the bar so low by abandoning their kids and/+} neglecting them on a large scale so much so even in this discussion, you see “single mothers” brought up a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:31 AM
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Let’s make this clear. A woman’s dream since she was a little girl isn’t to pick a man who beats her. Men choose to beat and treat women terribly in the same way robbers choose who to rob. In either scenario, it isn’t solely the woman’s responsibility. It is the man who shouldn’t be doing that in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:10 PM
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Do you seriously not hear how unreasonable you sound? If you get robbed bc you didnt lock your door and so since then you start locking your door, is it reasonable for me to say it’s not fair for you to lock the door bc you used to not lock it before and to leave the door wide open? What if you get robbed again? Then you would say it was dumb to leave your door unlocked twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:53 PM
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You were the one triggered by the idea of having to cook, I was just gently reminding you it’s a very natural thing an adult should be able to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:44 AM
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You realize cooking and having emotional intelligence are just life skills that you would need regardless of having a woman or not, right? It shouldn’t just be a means to an end. It doesn’t hurt to have more skills as a human in general. I don’t get why men go out of their way to lower themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:18 PM
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Is the possibility of giving birth worse or losing a couple dollars for food worse? Not to mention risk of STD’s depending on what was lied on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:36 PM
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This topic is about spotting BEFORE that happens. This advice that’s provided is not truly going to show that. You’re suggesting AFTER he already shows his true colors.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:20 AM
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The topic at hand is “refusing to work on social skills is a sign of laziness” so I am addressing said topic and this specific original comment said that it is hard to learn. You are going on tangents.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:12 PM
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When did I say putting in effort guaranteed success? So here’s the thing, it doesn’t guarantee success but if you don’t, it does guarantee failure. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. I struggle, too. But I don’t blame the rest of the world because I know the problem lies within me. There is no magic person who appears at your doorstep without you having to be social, put yourself out there and will be the lover of your dreams. That’s the reality. I never sold a lie that it guarantees suc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:00 PM
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It isn’t easy to accomplish. Reality is though, you cannot get angry and blame everyone else when there are plenty of people out there who do put in more effort and learn in order to integrate into society. At some point you have to look inward. It’s ok to struggle and get frustrated. It’s not ok to blame everyone else, while refusing to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 02:36 PM
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Exactly, so tell that to the men who say it's because women didn't choose better and be angry at the men who make it harder for all of you, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:20 AM
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The point is these men provide the most basic advice, while telling women to pick better. And plenty of abusive men treat service workers well to uphold their own public image and beat a woman secretly at home. IMHO treating a janitor and service worker with respect is basic human decency, it’s not the strongest indicator. Also honestly, how many women do you think are chasing and pursuing men who beat a janitor in public?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:58 PM
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Most true nature comes out 3-6 months but even then, you have men who turn once you get married, pregnant. These men would not survive a day in our shoes if they had to vet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:33 PM
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Lol, you realize men can just lie, right? Now I know why men think women just choose bad men. They seriously underestimate how manipulative members of their group are. This sort of basic advice doesn’t work and every woman knows it already.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 07:58 PM
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We are very fully aware and believe in your struggles, but you cannot help or change someone who doesn’t want to help themselves and is constantly stuck in negative loop of blaming everyone else and finding something else to nitpick. Women try to give advice, men say that advice sucks. You even have a comment thread here of a woman sharing how she gave a man a chance, and there’s a comment saying “it’s charity.” There’s no end to it. The stakes are already higher for us so we cannot afford to ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:27 PM
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Whatever helps you sleep at night and feeds your delusions ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:28 PM
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First of all, why do women even need to provide advice for you on how to get them..? What else do you need us to decide and do for you because you can’t even figure out or decide anything for your own life? If you think the advice doesn’t help then…like a normal person…ignore it..? Keep searching for other solutions that apply specifically for your own life. And the advice you get depends on the amount of info you provide, how you ask, and who you ask. You’re not going to get a personalized plan…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:23 PM
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Maybe it’s not their fault. But it’s also not women’s fault if they’re not attracted to them either which a lot of these men seem to believe. That’s what makes them misogynist. If you’re the common denominator of all of these failed attempts at connection, at some point you can’t keep blaming everyone else, you have to look inward. If you want change, it’s your responsibility to pursue that change, others cant do it for you. You worked on yourself, proving that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:03 PM
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So you’re only good when you get rewarded for it? Then you’re already bad and not good at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:55 PM
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Lol logically speaking if you’re not in a good place mentally, physically, psychologically, it’s a lot harder to showcase a good mindset and personality. He also gained hobbies, travelled. New experiences can make you more open minded and influence your personality. When your self esteem is boosted, it makes you a lot more outgoing and assertive. I don’t get why that’s such a hard concept to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:47 AM
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You realize improved conditions can influence personality right and how you interact with people?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:43 AM
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You literally worked on your personal flaws and now get more women. You are literally living proof that women are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:22 AM
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This! All of my autistic cousins are married with women from abroad!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 11:20 AM
2

You genuinely think the risk of getting raped and impregnated by a guy against your will is the same as not getting a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:40 PM
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Yes aka men. Men are usually the drug dealer, the pimp, the one paying for it. They’re the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:17 PM
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Men who pay for sin will forever be worse than women who sin for pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 06:50 PM
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Well clearly they don’t treat it as such. It’s only men’s benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:50 PM
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Money comes back…? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:23 PM
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What’s the point of getting a nice car if you’re just gonna leave it at home for it to get rusty?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:22 PM
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Exactly so why are you comparing it to working
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:38 AM
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Your example in itself was reductive. What does the government do to make women want to give birth? Nothing. Women get penalized for getting pregnant within their jobs. There’s no federal paid maternity leave. Daycare is astronomically expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:35 AM
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You get paid for it. Do you get paid for having a kid and raising it? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:27 AM
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It’s not met with the same regard precisely because it doesn’t have the same impact and misandrist influencers aren’t running trafficking rings and scamming their followers. What part of that is hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:00 AM
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What does her being married once before have anything to do with making your current living situation with her fair? What exactly are you insinuating with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:48 AM
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She asked for a Tate equivalent. So she’s asking for an influencer with the same impact and is known similarly for what Tate does, which I’m pointing out you failed to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:09 AM
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She didn’t get arrested for running a human trafficking ring like Tate did. She doesn’t run scams either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:05 AM
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You didn’t provide a single name.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:03 AM
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That’s what I thought ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:05 PM
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<image> Does that say OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:03 PM
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It was OP and one other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:00 PM
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It was different people in case you think I don’t know how to read username.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:58 PM
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“Would you love me if i was worm” type beat
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:00 PM
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You men are exhausting…one woman says she doesn’t want to think about it, a man is grilling her about her answer. Another woman says she would move on and hope her partner moves on, too. Another man isn’t satisfied with that answer. Others say they wouldn’t know until it happens. Y’all keep grilling about how long when they said they wouldn’t know because there isn’t an exact timeline to it. Like what do you even want to hear? God dayum
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:06 PM
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Looks do matter. But once again, if we dont know what you look like, how can I tell you what to physically fix? And plenty of men will ask women for advice and claim they’re doing everything right and don’t know why they’re not getting any women. I can’t believe you managed to find a way to strawman and argue this reasonable take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:51 AM
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I notice a lot of men don’t seem to understand balance and only think in extremes..? And the truth of the matter is, there’s only so much advice one can give not knowing what you look like and how you act on dates. We can only gather based on the information you provide. Strangely, it seems like all men are just perfect and yet, can’t seem to get with a woman..? Without fail, there is always at least something going on that’s causing it. But if you yourself aren’t self aware enough and objective…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:09 AM
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The reality is you don’t get to cherry pick the good or bad of being a woman and how men treat you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:38 AM
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That can be true. But also, it’s easier to be nice when you’re privileged. It can also be easier to be bitter when you’ve gotten the short end of the stick. It’s easier to pour from a full cup than an empty one. Also work harder for others’ approval does not necessarily = good. If they’re doing it for approval, they’re not doing it not out of the kindness of their hearts. They’re doing to gain something.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 11:57 AM
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Well I guess this hit a personal nerve for you for obvious reasons. If you can’t tell the difference between older men PREYING on young women who could’ve been your kid vs. a young man just being sexually attracted to women his age, idk what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 01:08 AM
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Being creeped out is often an emotional response to ambiguity with potential threat. So NT people may be creeped out by us because we don’t follow NT social norms and are therefore unpredictable. Women will naturally be creeped out by stranger men until he proves/ presents himself to be safe because physical/ intimate threat is always there, it’s the ambiguity of not knowing whether he will use it against you or not. How, where you approach can impact creepiness for example, whether it’s in a cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 03:24 PM
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Well, his question was if he was normal and respectful. It’s safe to assume he wasn’t talking about older men who prey on younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 04:49 AM
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1) You’re the one who mentioned it’s biology and natural for men to only go after women in their prime so I’m asking for clarification to what extent you think it’s ok. If my pal made this post, I’d ask them but they didn’t —you did. 2) So you personally wouldn’t be ok with your daughter dating an older man, why? You said there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe be more honest with yourself. If you defend and promote this kind of thinking, there’s no stopping your daughter from using your same logic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:36 PM
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So genuine question? What’s the end goal only going after women in their “prime?” Even those 20 yr olds are going to become 30 at some point unless you create a Time Machine that stops age altogether. Are you planning to keep switching every time they turn 30 until you’re 90? When does it become weird then for you? I also want to know how ok would you be with your 20 yr old daughter dating someone in his 40-50’s or just the same age as you? I also don’t think it’s not that frowned upon consideri…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:06 PM
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I mean in many cases that is true. For example, I don’t get how you can be married to an immigrant, vote for Trump, then be shocked when they get taken away by ICE. You basically voted for that. That makes no logical sense to me tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:00 PM
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Where’s your source for this? 99.9% is a very interesting claim and number.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:47 PM
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Men are the ones complaining about “loneliness epidemic” and how women are being more selective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:33 PM
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And they forget all women grow old at some point lol. Like what’s the end goal? They’re gonna keep switching for 20 yrs old until they’re 80?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:31 PM
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They also dabble in human trafficking and pimping so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:37 AM
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I’m sorry I misunderstood due to the tastefully bad joke which you at least admitted. IMHO when you preface something like saying “I don’t mean to excuse it” BUT or “I’m not trying to be racist, BUT” it basically becomes what you claim what you’re not trying to do otherwise you wouldn’t need to preface that. I will still stand that I bet the last your daughter wants to hear when raped or assaulted on a date is “at least he paid your dinner.” And that what happened to her is just societal. It was…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:57 PM
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Well, someone is gonna have to do it if you send all of the women off to war. Who do you think held the base down when men left? But you’re right, lowkey that sounds like a nightmare for all of the kids and elderly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:01 PM
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You’re pretending it’s not a gender issue when it very much is. If this also happened to men as much, shouln’t men be more empathetic? But no, your instinct was to make a “edit: bad joke.” You can only “joke” about it because it’s not as real to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:57 AM
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Do you not see the (EDIT: BAD JOKE)?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:54 AM
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You made up a whole fake scenario to discredit her claim. You are excusing it. This is exactly what we’re talking about. And you wonder why we have no empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 07:14 AM
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I clearly gave a chance when I could’ve easily ended it or backed out, yet you say I should be spit on. I believe men are why women don’t want to at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:50 PM
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Well, clearly men care bc they keep complaining about it. But here’s the thing if men can’t respect a woman’s choice like you for example, why should women respect men at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:44 PM
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The fact you clap for lying then why should anyone respect you or virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:42 PM
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Not necessarily. I was my ex’s first and he lied. Let’s just say it showed and he didn’t exactly learn in precisely 40 seconds. There was a bit of a learning curve, which is natural, but it also caused problems in the relationship. I had to teach him everything from A to Z. It felt like I was grabbing at straws and becoming a mother figure. I learned the very hard way why people don’t want to do it so honestly, it’s very valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 09:59 PM
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It depends. But for virgins specifically, I think it’s more people wondering why he’s a virgin or not wanting to have to teach someone from the beginning all of the in and outs of not just intercourse, but also a relationship. You should honestly be more concerned and creeped out if they’re overly excited about you being a virgin because that lowkey means they want to be the one to mold you into however they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:29 PM
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They want the authority of a king, but the responsibility of a toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:27 PM
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There’s levels to it. It’s a matter of how subtle or blatant they are with it. It’s similar to racism. You have those yt ppl who say “go back to your country” or “deport all immigrants” and then you have the yt people who then say “you’re surprisingly good looking for a (ethnicity).” It seems like they wish you well, but find underhanded ways to knock you down. Incels are like the ones who say “go back to your country,” it’s not a coincidence they tend to be in a similar category or align politi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:42 PM
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Genuine question. How often do you see a man who’s 666? And also among all of the married/coupled up men you know, how many are 666? If what you said was really true, you wouldn’t have been born. All of my male cousins and brothers wouldn’t be married. Nobody would be a couple because seriously I’ve never seen a guy who’s is 6 feet tall, 6 figures and 6 pack in my entire life. I’ve only seen them on TV at most. I have never in my entire life seen a guy that fits that criteria, never liked a guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:00 PM
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Funny enough, I didn’t downvote you. I simply answered your question. But ig you felt like my answer was aggressive even if it wasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:41 PM
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It can be a toxic pattern just like anything in excess can be. But that alone does not determine a human being’s worth and how they will be with you. You can choose not to date them or state your preferences so they can filter themselves out, but it is not within your jurisdiction to force people to reveal private information about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:31 PM
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Accountability for what? She should be punished for having a past? Do men not have pasts, too? Why should only women punished for it? I will never tell a man about my past relationships or body count even if he asks because that’s private information. I also don’t want him comparing himself and competing with a past that is not relevant today. I would only disclose if it’s affecting the present in some way like there’s toxic patterns happening and it’s to work on them or they’re still present in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 01:41 PM
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It is supposed to be nature. Humans are the only species where the males kill females. Every other mammal species do not attack their females because it is counterintuitive and would lead to their species to go extinct and yet despite having more agency and decision making, it is human males who kill their female counterparts. It is nature to uplift and keep women safe for the survival of your species as they hold the key to life. That’s why for every other animal species you see males compete a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:25 PM
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What year were you born? How did you manage to twist and not know the basics and origin of homophobia?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:34 AM
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Don’t worry, you’ll live. If you can’t even handle being called out for assuming a victim is a liar due to “lack of evidence,” then consider yourself lucky you aren’t the victim who has to prove their rapist actually raped them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:16 PM
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Lol there you go, you proved my point. So just as you won’t stop, we won’t stop either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:48 AM
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I don’t understand why men complain about this. We already live in a world that does what you want. That’s why Trump isn’t even being investigated properly despite being mentioned thousands of times in the Epstein Files. That’s why he’s even President. That’s why Brett Kavanaugh is in the Supreme Court. Accusations have never actually impacted (white) men. What I hear is only you want to have opinions and no one else is allowed to have an opinion on anything that is against yours. You want to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:47 AM
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“We shouldn’t be shamed for calling women liars based on no evidence” I’m actually glad you said the quiet part out loud. Men like to pretend they’re not biased, but isn’t it biased if you’re automatically assuming they’re liars? I would see it as more objective if you said we don’t have enough details to pick either side due to lack of evidence. But regardless, you’re allowed to have your opinion, you don’t get to police how people react to it. Men already do what you’ve said, so much so that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:16 AM
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The problem is a lot of the characteristics and mindset of red pill show up in school shooters. A lot of male conservatives who actively vote against the interests of the people are surprise surprise red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:49 PM
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Because he chose to impose his views onto women on a public platform?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:19 AM
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I dont understand what his personal situation with a single mom has anything to do with that or proves anything? If anything it shows that being single is better than being with a man like OP. She clearly doesn’t engage in hypergamy if she gave someone like her children’s father and OP a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:59 PM
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What is there to debate? His story and what he’s trying to convey is all over the place
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 10:17 PM
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If you were so happy with where you’re at and who you’re dating, would you make a post like this or even care who other women choose to date? At the very least those women aren’t out here doing whatever you’re doing. They’re keeping to themselves and being real with themselves about what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:28 PM
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Exactly people lie so it isn’t unreasonable to be cautious
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:36 PM
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The issue is not just about men not being upfront, it’s accusing women of using them for not giving up their body fast enough, while not being upfront about what they want. I would also argue paying is a lot different than exchanging intimacy and not as invasive as something going in your body and risking pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:26 AM
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Men lie about everything. Maybe you haven’t dated men, so you don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:04 AM
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There were many things that were normalized in the Bible that surely you wouldn’t wish are done to you now. By your logic we should still allow slavery, child marriage, punishment for eating meat, being disabled meant you sinned etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 11:53 PM
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People give general advice with the faith that you’ll have the discretion to not bean soup it and actually apply it according to your own specific situation, but I guess that’s too much faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:12 PM
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It’s not easier with a guy who’s attractive or not attractive. It’s hard overall. A guy can be so hot, but it doesn’t happen. That’s what we mean by looks have little to do with it. That’s why I compared it to performance anxiety. Also, if you really can’t fathom it, maybe understand that we know more about our own bodies than you do..?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 12:39 AM
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Bro. Let me explain it in a way a man can understand. Sometimes, when a guy finds a woman really attractive or he really likes her, he gets very nervous and can’t perform, right? Would it be fair for me to automatically assume he doesn’t find her attractive and only attraction means he can perform? No. You have guys who can do it with girls they’re not attracted to just fine. There’s so many factors and situations on why a guy might not be able to or able to perform without it being due to level…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:28 PM
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It depends on how it’s executed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 12:28 PM
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Meeting them in a community setting: all of the guys I’ve fallen for I met at community service or work with children. I think that in itself was already a plus and made me feel safe with them. Never really fell for anyone with a cold approach in person. I agree with the having a lot of friends or seeming “popular”: having a good reputation among others really piques interest and helps with the vetting process -How they treat you vs. others: I call this the opposite charm effect. For example, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:57 AM
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Clearly, it’s not if so many women talk about it. You can cough it up to just a few who do this if very few women talked about it, but not if you have majority women saying it’s a thing. Sadly, I’ve seen many examples of this among majority couples myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:02 PM
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Whether they make a bigger deal or not, you can just take responsibility for your own things, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:37 AM
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So if it’s so easy with a Facebook notification or a calendar and men did it before a woman came along, why all of sudden they need a woman to do it for them? The difference is if before she had to take care of just herself, now a man is dumping his on top of hers and making it double. She now has to remember double the birthdays, cook for at least two, clean a mess created by two, etc. Like you said yourself, if it’s so easy, why not truly do 50/50 and men take accountability for their own date…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:23 AM
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No, it is more comparable to BIPOC feeling cautious of yt ppl due to police brutality and historically how yt ppl have colonized their lands. Men are yt ppl in your example. And funny enough similar logic is used against both BIPOC & women. “Don’t wear a hoodie if you don’t want to be seen as suspicious or walk alone at night” = “don’t dress promiscuously if you don’t want to be followed” “Not all cops, it’s just a few bad apples” = “not all men”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 12:57 PM
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Being seen as the most attractive one, maybe? I’m not talking about you’re not allowed to see another women as attractive because obviously if you have a past, you found your exes attractive at one point. But ideally, I guess as the current partner, women want to be seen as the most attractive one —the one you’re the most attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:11 PM
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For sure! I totally agree that’s not up to you to teach them, it’s for them to learn on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:34 PM
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Even if the reason seems stupid to you, it’s quite frankly not your decision or your life. If you wouldn’t want someone forcing you to be with someone you’re not into just because they think your reason for being turned off isn’t good enough for them, then don’t do that to others. There are things only that individual can pick up on that may apply to their life. You’re also not going to take responsibility if the relationship doesn’t go well anyway. It’s better to regret decisions you’ve made fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:12 PM
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You’d be surprised how much society tries to force women to be with a guy even if she has valid reasons for not liking them. I got the ick or rather alarm bells went off when an ex told me he had monsters in his head telling him to do things he didn’t want to do. God forbid I didn’t want to end up in a crime documentary. But I was told to be grateful cause he was “nice.” I was labeled a bitch for breaking up with him, but later found out he was creepy to many other girls and followed them around…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:56 AM
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I once had a guy ghost me because I thought his Boston Terrier was a Frenchie (sorry dog lovers, I don’t know a lot of dog breeds). Clearly, his dog was important to him and me getting the breed wrong was a turn off. It is what it is. Once again, anybody can get the ick. It depends on the person 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:55 PM
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You realize you don’t have to walk on eggshells, right? You just move on and find someone else. Do you walk on eggshells because something you do might be someone else’s pet peeve? No. You just live life as always knowing very well everyone has some sort of pet peeve.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:37 PM
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If a relationship/interest is so weak that it gets snuffed out by a single ick, that relationship was bound to not last anyway. It is probably within your best interest to not stay with someone like that anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:07 PM
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Genders were not exposed to it because people weren’t allowed to reject or leave unless they had a valid reason for it. There wasn’t a vocabulary to explain what that emotion was. I’ve definitely gotten the ick in the past, but couldn’t verbalize it without people trying to force me to stay just because a guy was “nice.” I would just try to stick it through or try to find ways to get the guy to be sick of me, but that also made me a “bitch” who led people on and wasted their time. Chances are, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:03 PM
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Why are men so sensitive about icks? Everyone gets them. Just think of it like pet peeves or turn offs. I get really annoyed when people cough loudly. If my partner does it will I be annoyed? Yea, but will I stop liking them because of it? Probably not. If they completely lose attraction over it, it may just be a sign you’re not attracted or compatible and that’s ok. It’s better to realize that early on than to drag it out because you think it’s not a good enough reason and waste more time. So l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 05:45 PM
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I wish you can say that to the men who have a problem with it instead to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:02 AM
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I can say the same to you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:55 AM
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Yea they were hoping the engagement ring, but it didn’t happen. To assume that they didn’t make every guy wait if they have a number when it could be failed relationships, commitments etc is not fair to judge women by is my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:54 AM
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So then why are men blaming women like a monolith?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 11:05 PM
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So you’re saying this assuming every man they wait for will automatically commit to her, but that’s not the case. Plenty of men will pretend they are going to commit (and even go as far as introduce their family to you) and then ghost or break up. Penalizing someone for things not going the way they wanted it to is insane. Things happen. Not everyone finds love on the first try.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 11:04 PM
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A lot of women agree. It only becomes a problem when those men blame all of women for it and use it to justify hurting others (like mass shooters, voting against the rights of other groups, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:20 AM
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I see it more as not incentivizing marriage but rather to not overextend yourself during the dating stage. I believe there should be a distinction between dating and marriage or else it’s very easy to lose yourself in a man. For example, you shouldn’t be giving up job opportunities for a boyfriend. When you’re married, there is a lot more to consider because you’re a family unit, but for a boyfriend absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:52 AM
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So you admit it can be hard for different people like your in-laws. You trying to generalize that it’s easy is insulting to your in laws, too and anybody who’s struggled taking care of kids for a multitude of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:33 AM
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Do you even know what colic is? Do you realize just like not every person is exactly the same, not every newborn is exactly the same? Is this your first or second? I can tell this is your first rodeo. I have 5 nieces and nephews. I was a daycare instructor. Even for other people’s kids, I never took it lightly. It was hard because I cared. I hope the best for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:52 AM
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If you were truly going above and beyond, you wouldn’t have time to be arguing with strangers on Reddit. I’m childless but helped both my brother and sister with their newborns and even I don’t dare say that. I did not have time to be on my phone when I helped watch my nieces and nephews. I was only on my phone when I recorded how many mL they drank, what time they slept, whether they burped or not, or to look up anything if I didn’t know what to do. My brother would be livid if he saw your post…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 01:54 AM
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Where are you getting this idea that hot men are automatically terrible and men who aren’t hot are automatically good men? Both hot and not so hot have the capability of being bad and good. And yea, not dating is better than trying to force men to look hot or to be good when they’re not, no? I’m not trying to force men to match to my standards. I believe that is a very reasonable take.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 09:25 PM
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Men are weird. Why do you want us to be attracted to our friend’s partner? I’m assuming the men asking this secretly find their friend’s partner attractive and would steal them if they could.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:22 PM
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You realize that’s the same for women, too. Men’s looks and who they say they are can be deceiving. Yet men tell us we should’ve chose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:13 PM
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Hunter gatherer societies were more egalitarian than agricultural ones because of matrilocality. Women didn’t have to stay with a husband, she could just stick to her own kinship networks and keep moving. Whereas for agriculture, you have to stay in one place usually with your husband/husband’s family and defend the land, so men gained power and privilege that way leading to the patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:01 PM
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It’s very hard to find someone who is completely undateable as most people have potential, if they tap into it. Unless, sadly you have a disability/illness that makes it very hard for you to. But for the examples you’ve stated, they are things that can be worked on. HOWEVER, I do believe not everyone is going to attract their type. That’s where the cognitive dissonance occurs and you assume that makes you undateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:18 AM
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That’s not true. All of my autistic cousins who aren’t considered the most attractive have gotten married and I’m going to be honest here, they’re not considered conventionally attractive. But it is doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:09 AM
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Can you provide a link to the reddit post? Does the datingoverthirty group not consist of men and women? Yet you said NONE of the comments consoled him. So I feel like there’s context missing here on what was actually said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:22 PM
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You want a beautiful and young woman, but that’s not shallow? You only care about appearance and nothing else (personality, their job, goals, dreams, aspirations) and that’s being accepting? No. That’s just looking at the surface and not caring about who they are as a person. It is the epitome of being superficial. That’s just you tolerating and not accepting them as a whole. You want women to lower their standards for you, but have no intention to lower yours either. How are you going to compla…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 10:39 AM
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Women have empathy for men, but we’ve either experienced ourselves or seen how having empathy for a man can derail your life and/or kill you. It’s like asking a mouse to have empathy for the cat. Maybe not all cats eat mice. Having distance from a cat won’t kill it, but being nice to the wrong cat will for sure kill the mouse. So sadly, we’ve learned the hard way to give our empathy/sympathy sparingly. You cannot change a man who doesn’t see you as human. You cannot negotiate with a collective w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:36 PM
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Men do not claim to care about N count? Did I hear that correctly? In what universe, do men not care about it? Men use the lock and key analogy all the freaking time. You must live under a rock if you think men calling women hoes is not hypocritical because usually the ones saying that aren’t really that pure themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:50 PM
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