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Honestly, you could be their dream boyfriend on paper, and the moment they feel insecure about that fact they will decide it's all fake. It's a waste of time trying to fit someone else's fantasty. Find the person you want to be, pick them out in a crowd, and emulate that behavior. Whether that's Captain Cool, Jesus Christ or Mr. Satan, you will like yourself for it and reek of confidence. And that's always the no. 1 trait that drops panties. Stop focusing on who you are not, and be the best vers…
/r/seduction20/04/26 10:32 PM
5

29 is only midlife if you vaped.
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:33 PM
2

^ this. Most girls I know under 25 still have baby fat, never had a job, think TikTok is legit news, and dress like shit lol. Anyone attracted to that has low standards or easy prey. Add a little wisdom and personal fitness, and the hottest women emerge post 30-years-old.
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:33 PM
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I dated way more girls in their early to mid-20s while in my mid-30s, and 90% of the time I was not the pursuer. This younger generation of women is fed up with a great deal of boys their age, so age gaps are becoming far more common. That being said, once you reach a certain level of maturity, their lack of maturity becomes more obvious and less attractive. Focus on yourself. Anybody who isn't somebody in your life is just a bystander, dude.
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:28 PM
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I dated way more girls in their early to mid-20s while in my mid-30s, and 90% of the time I was not the pursuer. This younger generation of women is fed up with a great deal of boys their age, so age gaps are becoming far more common. That being said, once you reach a certain level of maturity, their lack of maturity becomes more obvious and less attractive. Focus on yourself. Anybody who isn't somebody in your life is just a fuckin bystander, dude.
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:27 PM
38

Sticking your dick in someone doesn't build confidence, being wanted does.
/r/seduction31/03/26 03:04 AM
1

It reboots the conversation. If they're interested and have deemed you properly "not a weirdo," sometimes they'll invite you with a "if you dont want plans, you should buy me a drink" or "WYD right now?"
/r/seduction26/03/26 07:27 PM
2

After a week, I would send this: :P About 25% of the time, they would reply saying they just wanted to hookup.
/r/seduction25/03/26 10:48 PM
1

I think a woman's sex schedule has more to do with her work schedule. Service industry workers you can take home in the AM, any day of the week.
/r/seduction25/03/26 10:24 PM
1

Inexperienced women usually need more time to make a decision. Young people have less life experience, therefor less data to work off of in making decisions, so wanting more time just means they're smarter. Even if they just want to have something non-romantic, they are just as interested in not having their time wasted as you are.
/r/seduction25/03/26 10:21 PM
10

100% -- it's like the dichotomy of black pill society and Looksmaxxing, both of whom represent the worst of male toxicity. I've stayed with this Reddit because I know what that hopeless feeling is like and hope to offer support.
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:27 PM
5

This. It's a muscle, and it can also atrophy if not used for some time.
/r/seduction20/03/26 04:22 PM
0

My advice: don't expect that you're gonna fix your life, or someone body else's, in under 100 words.
/r/seduction19/03/26 12:36 AM
1

We call that a Scorpio. You're lucky she only wasted a few hours of your life. There's many more beautiful and kind women out there waiting. Get back to it.
/r/seduction16/03/26 10:22 PM
1

I've been asked many times by women, "What do you want from a partner in bed?" My honest answer: "enthusiasm." We've been trained to believe that we have to fit in a certain mold, be this height, this weight, have this much money and say all the right things, and once we meet the minimum standards, most women will never acknowledge it. It feels good when someone we want expresses how much we are wanted because we feel validated as a partner, and for the hard work, physically and emotionally, it …
/r/seduction16/03/26 09:49 PM
63

I'm 3 for 3 with influencers. all weirdos.
/r/seduction13/11/25 03:17 AM
1

When I was in college, I knew many men who called themselves ugly, most of them being great conversationalists with passions and hobbies. Most of them are now married to very attractive women who share those passions and hobbies. Let the lady decide, my guy.
/r/seduction28/10/25 01:50 AM
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If it's allowed bar or club, don't worry about conversation. And said, focus on your short game: flirting, body language and nonverbal communication. You want to come off as confident, mature and sexy. You connect eyes with a girl, smile, walk up to her and she already knows what you want. Surprise her with a fun question like, "what's the biggest misconception about you?" Keep flirting and yet constantly dodge the cliche pickup behavior. You want her to feel wanted and yet that you don't need h…
/r/seduction27/07/25 04:04 PM
6

If you want to hook up, go to a nice hotel bar. There's plenty of business travelers looking for some strange.
/r/seduction27/07/25 03:54 PM
0

32 isn't old, but you're super young. When I was in my 20s, I felt bad dating even three years younger. In my 30s, sex with younger women became such a thrill. Have your fun, but be careful. In the end, he has much more experience and is far more capable of fucked up manipulation than a 20-year-old boy. I don't think it's wise to get emotionally involved.
/r/seduction18/07/25 05:25 PM
1

Lol here's the entire script, kid: "I had a great time last night. What would you say to grabbing dinner this week?" // "Awesome, do you have any dietary restrictions? // This place ____ is good. How about 7:30pm on Friday? // Looking forward to it :)" Don't overthink it. Just be direct and take the lead.
/r/seduction10/07/25 10:27 AM
7

Guess I wound up where all cool people hang out?
/r/seduction10/07/25 10:22 AM
7

Everyone I met was super friendly and wanted to ask me a million questions.
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:15 AM
1

Yeah, I heard lol. Everyone in the city was afraid of the two homeless guys walking around saying "God bless you."
/r/seduction10/07/25 09:15 AM
6

Apps and hotels bars = easy mode.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:47 AM
6

Lol genius. A friend and I in college were once messing around at a party doing Irish accents, and a pair of manic pixies became instantly obsessed. The next day, I stupidly revealed the truth and never got a second date.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:46 AM
4

Easy mode is going to a hotel bar.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:42 AM
10

100%, especially on the exotic part. Everyone thinks I'm Latino or Middle Eastern in Europe, and I felt fetishized by white women.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:42 AM
29

Most bigger cities are more open-minded on the topic of interracial sex. I'd say you have more of a shot there than in other parts of Ireland.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:36 AM
19

For sure, 4/5 are nope lol same as the average American town, but there's also a fair amount of undersexed, good looking Europeans there as well. I got matched with just about every 8 and above on Tinder. Wound up spending late evenings with a teacher from Spain.
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:34 AM
352

A smooth compliment on a woman's looks gets you far in Dublin. You would not believe how women there are starved for affection. I'm an LA 6 and I felt like a 10 out there.
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:46 PM
1

Dude, it's been a couple hours, just wait. It's only awkward til you make it awkward from here. She likely has something to do. If she doesn't text back, you'll see her at work in a few days. If there's chemistry, it will be there. Waiting is just the period of time right before action.
/r/seduction30/06/25 05:00 AM
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Nuance is key. For some, "cold approach" is when some sweaty drunk guy comes out of nowhere and starts hitting on the girl and won't take a hint. For others, "cold approach" is simply just saying "hi," making polite conversation--and based on the girl's response--deciding where to take it from there. You could say "hi" to the same girl on two entirely different days using the same lines and get completely different responses. Whether or not the cold approaching works on women has more to do with…
/r/seduction30/06/25 04:35 AM
1

By the time I hit 35, I never had it easier pulling women 22 to 26. All of them said they couldn't stand boys their own age.
/r/seduction25/06/25 04:53 PM
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I worked with this 60+ year old Armenian cook named Henry, who spoke a bizarre, yet hilarious, broken english laden with profanity. He said pulled women in their early 20s. Showed me pictures of this overweight tween girl sitting on a hotel bed with a crooked smile. And ever since then, when I hear old men bragging about fucking young women, I think of Henry.
/r/seduction25/06/25 04:49 PM
4

Always choose Sean Connery.
/r/seduction23/06/25 05:40 AM
0

Lot of reddit boys will find it hard to believe that women like to fuck nice guys.
/r/seduction23/06/25 05:37 AM
1

Corny can work, but it can also really trigger someone. I usually just wait til the conversation slows down, keep strong eye contact and ask, "Do you mind if I kiss you?" Works every time, and many women acknowledge they find it sexy being asked.
/r/seduction23/06/25 05:21 AM
1

Warm up to it from the start of the date by asserting physical dominance, enter her bubble: stand closer, lean in closer when you talk gently in her ear. Touch her arm or back as you get her attention. Be smooth about it, the touch doesn't need to linger yet. While watching the move, let your knee touch hers, let your foot touch hers. If she doesn't move away, she is enjoying the touch. Let that continue, and by the time the movie is over, chances are you've probably already started kissing. But…
/r/seduction23/06/25 05:16 AM
1

Find yourself a green bottle of polo classic cologne. Spray behind your head and walk backwards into it, so you only get a faint touch of it. It's potent so you don't need more than one spray. Never met a woman who didn't go crazy for that smell.
/r/seduction17/06/25 03:06 AM
1

This is a good call. I (now 39M) have been asked to 3rd wheel when a girl could tell a guy was trying way too hard to get alone with her.
/r/seduction02/06/25 12:56 AM
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Oh, that is true.
/r/seduction02/06/25 12:53 AM
1

Could be seeing someone else, or she's trying to break out of the habit of hooking up too fast. Either way, sounds like her friends was being protective and she was either A) aware and agreed with it or B) has absolutely no spine and is letting her friends govern her sex life -- which usually means the "friend" is secretly into her.
/r/seduction02/06/25 12:51 AM
2

I'm getting the impression that this girl told her friends that she wanted to avoid casual sex for a while, and she was trying to do right by her. So, the gang comes to rescue her from a good time and she accepts it.
/r/seduction02/06/25 12:47 AM
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I rejoined the dating scene at 34 and did exactly what you're doing. Most women have dropped ill preconceptions about sex at this age, and many of them are having good sex for the first time in their lives. I would not have expected I'd be having more sex, better sex and with way hotter women at this age. Never too late, but it might take a lot of experience before you feel super confident. Better get started.
/r/seduction21/05/25 05:23 PM
40

Gotta know when to hold and when to fold. Fighting reality is insanity. Move on.
/r/seduction20/05/25 06:43 PM
1

Confidence. Talking to them like I knew they liked me, and that I liked it, but didn't need their validation either: deep eye contact, smiling, asking them questions, listening, initiating physical contact, entering their bubble and either kissing them, or (in rare circumstances) telling them I want to kiss them, by the end of the first date.
/r/seduction20/05/25 10:24 AM
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Get her number while at the location and text "Hey, I'd like to keep hanging out tonight, but I'd rather one-on-one. What do you say?" And you both take it from there.
/r/seduction13/05/25 08:20 PM
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Yes, I pulled a sex therapist influencer, a real estate influencer, and a twitch streamer. I live in LA, so there's plenty of them. I'm 5'9" on a good day, regular job, drive an economy car, but I have a very well-groomed beard. The sex therapist (100k+ following) was married/poly, and I took her to a nice restaurant. I asked her lots of deep questions about herself (not really her job or marriage or being poly), and she talked away. I slid one leg towards her, and after a few minutes, she wrapp…
/r/seduction30/04/25 11:46 PM
1

The time investment can be draining, especially with online dating, but I tend to like novelty. I found it's best to focus all energy on openly casual women, often describing themselves as "poly." Having multiple low-effort sources of good sex was awesome.
/r/seduction18/03/25 11:13 PM
2

Experience builds expertise and confidence, but not necessarily satisfaction. Depends on what you're after.
/r/seduction18/03/25 04:47 PM
2

I'd say there's a lot to learn with both, but you can learn a lot faster with the same person. Multiple people teaches you more universal approaches, and more on how to seduce vs how to perform. One person might teach you how to meet their highly specific needs that don't apply much elsewhere.
/r/seduction18/03/25 04:44 PM
1

Mostly online dating, but I've been approached at bars by 22-25 year olds for the past several years. I look younger, but not that much younger. They know I'm older.
/r/seduction11/03/25 08:50 AM
1

Oof so true.
/r/seduction11/03/25 07:28 AM
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In my late 30s and I found that women in their 20s were incredibly easy to pickup. From what I've learned, a significant portion of Gen Z women are fed up with the majority of Gen Z men, and prefer much older.
/r/seduction11/03/25 07:25 AM
2

6) Poly events. While not a swinger club, these are places where you exchange numbers and hookup later. Most people who identify as polyamorous are pretty down to fuck sooner than later. 7) Kink events/"munches"/BDSM dungeons. Show up, do an orientation, and introduce yourself as being new to the community. Being a properly educated man on the subject of kink will make you twice as attractive to nymphos. 8) nice hotel bars are the easiest place to get some strange. 9) Or you could do volunteer a…
/r/seduction11/03/25 07:18 AM
2

Anyone who makes fun of you for asking out a woman and taking it in stride is someone who has never had the balls to do what you did. They give you flack, you tell em "I'd rather be rejected by someone else than too coward to take a risk."
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:10 PM
2

Oof. Not even an Uber? That one's probably dirty.
/r/seduction08/02/25 08:55 PM
0

She's seeing what else she can get out of it. If you explain you don't really have the means to be buying gifts or aren't comfortable with it, she either moves on or just continues to fuck you. Free sex > No sex > Paying for sex.
/r/seduction08/02/25 08:54 PM
5

Sometimes we have to have icky experiences to know we don't like them, but it sounds like you're torn between enjoying this woman and what the world will think about you. Only you know you, so just do you and be a good person to others. Most women out there want older men because they want maturity and sincerity, and it sounds like you gave her what she wanted.
/r/seduction06/08/24 10:34 PM
1

Accurate.
/r/seduction21/07/24 01:10 PM
2

Step by step: -Meet her outside the date venue and give her a hug -Lead the way: open the door, direct her to walk ahead of me with an open palm, hand her the menu, etc -Deep eye contact / flirting non-verbally while the date goes on -Ask her questions about herself and listen intently -Light physical touch and keeping close proximity -Inviting her to a 2nd location (usually for "a walk") -Find a moment where the conversation dies, while you two are sharing eye contact and then glance at her mou…
/r/seduction08/06/24 11:14 PM
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Confidence. Absolutely no fear of initiating a conversation, deep eye contact, physical touch, or navigating an awkward conversation. When you're with your partner, you're dominant and able to take control, lead where things are going, and from a place of trust and safety.
/r/seduction28/05/24 07:41 PM
11

I just went on a date with a woman who contributed absolutely nothing to the conversation, seemingly bored and better than everyone else, and I was honestly so relieved that she initiated us walking out. We both said it was nice meeting the other, hugged and we walked separate ways to our cars. I got in my car and thought, "I'm so glad I never have to do that again."
/r/seduction22/05/24 08:14 AM
3

They're probably both seeing 3-4 other guys, so there's limited availability. Still, way too much texting for that little output
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:34 PM
2

That's a lot of texting for very few dates. I text both of mine every day, fuck them both 2x a week, and didn't enter the "what do you what" convo for maybe 3-4 weeks in. By then, their feelings had boiled over and fell to a nice simmer.
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:32 PM
3

Probably because you fuck well. Just keep being nice and fucking well. Text her, match her energy (or slightly less), and space out replies by a few hours (for the most part). Let it happen organically, but you will need to schedule the dates. Again, space them out a few days. No need to rush to put a label on things or talk, just keep it focused on getting to know each other and the activity.
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:26 PM
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Agreed, she was likely open to kissing and possibly as far as sex as soon as she got into bed. She explained how she didn't like making first moves, and she likely also would feel more turned on if you took control (and no, that doesn't mean be disrespectful, it just means to lead) and you chickened out. OP, you can likely salvage this by being direct: explain how you felt nervous in wanting to be respectful of her (keep it simple, no need for a monologue), that you enjoyed her company and would…
/r/seduction30/04/24 07:18 PM
0

Just because you flip a coin and get heads 10 times in a row doesn't mean you're going to get any tail on the next one. Each coin toss has a probability of 50%, but it doesn't mean you'll get 50-50 split on the first 10 or even 100 coin tosses.
/r/seduction30/04/24 07:06 PM
2

"Most" depends on age, location, values etc. Most women between 25 and 40 in big cities want to get fucked within 3 dates or less imho.
/r/seduction30/04/24 07:01 PM
1

I've gone through spells where I can't get a date for weeks, or could get 7 first dates in a week and dead end at every one, and feel utterly hopeless and unworthy. And then there's times when every date goes super well and then I have to decide who I like fucking more. For me, if I walk around with a certain air of "I like this, but I also don't need it," suddenly I get it in abundance.
/r/seduction30/04/24 06:59 PM
4

You probably have a fair amount of depth, so you can choose who you want to present as.
/r/seduction29/04/24 04:43 PM
1

I think you nailed it, pros and cons of each. In my experience, I've been able to float between both personas (duality of man, I guess), but find I attract far more sex and affection when I remain #2. It becomes hard to show that vulnerable and nurturing side when you know that's a slippery slope into her losing attraction for you permanently.
/r/seduction29/04/24 04:41 PM
1

Lol you sure do know how a hot woman's brain works
/r/seduction27/04/24 09:01 PM
6

If he's told you that he generally loses interest in a woman after he's had sex, believe him. It's perfectly fine to ask somebody what they're looking for early on, or how they feel after several dates, and anybody who acts like that is too deep of a question is trying to manipulate you.
/r/seduction25/04/24 08:48 PM
2

I think the biggest part of the story is that you're part of a friend group. In all likeliness, she didn't want to disrupt that for what she might have seen as just hookup potential. Best thing you can do from here on out is continue to be a friend to her in your group.
/r/seduction18/04/24 03:30 PM
5

-Had the same girl invite me into her bed, just the two of us, to watch netflix. Didn't make a move. This was me several times. One time, she (25) and I (19) were even cuddled in her bed, watching The Emperor's New Groove, a movie we had both seen before, after we had a "drink" at a bar and she had spent the first 20 minutes in her room in/out of her underwear in front of me to show her abuela the new clothes she bought. At 2am, she walked me outside and kept staring deep into my eyes as we didn…
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:47 PM
1

It does, but also the brain needs time to maturely process emotions. Think about when somebody offends you. You might react in anger, but if you withhold response for a minute, an hour or a day -- the anger is mostly gone. And that's when we can ask ourselves why we were offended and ask what the person's intentions were, gain insight and grow. It's the same with love.
/r/seduction14/04/24 05:26 PM
3

Has anyone ever love bombed you? It's an immature reaction to profess emotional attachment with very little reason, indicating low self esteem in hoping for reciprocation. It's then socially repulsive because it puts an unfair expectation and responsibility on to the person they're love-bombing that they never asked for. They're giving you 100% of their attention and asking you to reciprocate.
/r/seduction14/04/24 05:23 PM
1

Yes and no. I think the lesson is to take time, and express affection slowly. Most people seek out the passionate love phase, which is indicated by extreme sexual and/or emotional attraction, but also anxiety. We feel the need to express desire and love early on, but it doesn't mean its ready to be received or believed. Things will work themselves out. Keep open communication, but keep the spark alive with some sexy mystery. They'll come to know you and how you feel over time, not by what you sa…
/r/seduction13/04/24 11:15 PM
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I wouldn't call that being indirect, but she probably had more respect for you when you were willing to brush past her. It's supply and demand. We often value the person who doesn't value us, because their attention is a scarce commodity. And once someone abundantly showers you in their attention, it loses all value.
/r/seduction13/04/24 12:36 AM
4

100%.
/r/seduction10/04/24 08:14 PM
41

Exactly. And if it doesn't feel right to kiss, some physical touch that illustrates confidence and desire can also satisfy that spark.
/r/seduction06/04/24 05:13 PM
1

Regardless, you can't judge somebody based on text messages. At the very least, you need to hear their voice, live. Schedule a phone call and you'll get your answers really quick.
/r/seduction13/02/24 04:47 AM
3

Takes time and effort. Get support or therapy, and make any changes you need to. Only you can figure it out.
/r/seduction11/02/24 11:58 PM
5

The trick to being confident is just accepting and liking yourself. And that is the biggest game changer. It only gets easier from there.
/r/seduction11/02/24 08:57 PM
7

Nope. 37 and I keep getting better at it. 9 years of relationships, body count over 60. Once you stop judging yourself by your age, you're free to be young forever.
/r/seduction11/02/24 06:47 AM
2

That's when you find a good old-fashioned American diner.
/r/seduction30/01/24 04:12 AM
1

It has more to do with people's self-esteem. Rejection will cause a pain, and the quickest antidote for it is an acceptance. So, you reject them and then they feel bad, so they want to reassure themselves that the rejection is not real and pursue you in hopes of getting a different response... However, they do have to like you, or be attracted to you, to begin with.
/r/seduction02/09/23 05:18 PM
7

37/M, over 50 count. Lowering your standards will only make you feel worse about yourself, but that's not to say attractive is only skin deep either. Always ask yourself, "do I want to have sex with this person or do I just want to have sex?" If the latter, skip out and save yourself the regret. The second question is tougher because both men and women like to feel being attracted to, and not used as a prop. Seeing you hook up with someone else (a sexual threat) diminishes the belief that they a…
/r/seduction13/07/23 09:58 PM
1

Even when invited, it doesn't always work.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:55 AM
2

Some people think they want someone when they really just want attention. You deny them that, they lose interest. You didn't lose anything worth fighting for.
/r/seduction16/11/21 09:35 PM
2

Agreed completely. On one hand, it is a nice way of breaking ties, but it usually means one if not all the described (usually) undesired traits. I think this is a common trap a lot of men get themselves into while attempting to portray themselves as non-threatening.
/r/seduction14/11/21 05:23 AM
2

Remember the shit you did right this time and apply that again! Also, sounds like she didn't notice you were inexperienced so nice job.
/r/seduction11/11/21 05:37 PM
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