mosteverythingisgrey Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
18	Take the Wife Back?		mosteverythingisgrey	/r/askMRP	03/04/18 10:20 PM
3	Transition From Faking it into Being it?		mosteverythingisgrey	/r/askMRP	11/04/18 08:20 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Kill Your Ego Great breakdown (and introspection), thanks for that.	/r/askMRP	13/04/18 11:13 PM
1	Kill Your Ego When you developed your current ego/confidence/frame, did you reach a point where it maintains itself with little to no upkeep needed other than clear-minded introspection? This is a bit tough to articulate so follow me here. I’m at a place where I have that introspection, but at the same time I also have those barriers of self-delusion that still need to be broken down. And that’s fine, I’m doing the right things to make that happen – every action and small epiphany clears some fog from my sens…	/r/askMRP	13/04/18 02:37 AM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Fucking excellent analogy, and consistent with /u/SorcererKing and Yoda's advice above. Just fucking do it. How many times have we all heard a chick (or a dude) complain after eating that tub of ice cream, and listen with amusement. If I can see that for what it is, then I can see how it applies to me here. Edit: In this thread, theory and perspective were provided, and then immediately driven home with a practical example of how it applies to my actions in a gay comment chain. Perfect.	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 04:52 PM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Well you’re right about my frame needing work. You know how I know? Because I didn’t think I needed to reply to a fellow new-guy’s boiler-plate MRP pseudo-badass comment, yet here I am anyway. This comment itself is a good reminder to kill my ego, so thanks. I got a lot of value from the responses of /u/SorcererKing /u/red-sfpplus and /u/JoATMoN9. It turns out that even low-value responses are a learning opportunity – but I am definitely enjoying this dialogue. Kill the ego everythingisgrey, kil…	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 04:19 PM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? That doesn't make any sense. Does that really not make sense to you? If not, then you're probably not the right one to advise me on this. But thanks for reading nonetheless, I do appreciate the help in this place. Check out some of the responses above. Looks like a slight shift in perspective is what I needed. What are you going to do when your current GF stops fucking you? This is low-hanging fruit. The answer is nothing. I keep lifting, wrestling and camping with my kids, cutting the grass, an…	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 01:47 PM
2	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Okay that's good, thanks. A slight shift in perspective and a shove to keep me going. Fuck I should have posted here a long time ago. Instead I got advice to meet my wife's needs, which I knew was bullshit so I stayed in the anger phase. And please don't call me a faggot, I'm here for help and I'm a human being with feelings. Edit: Ah FFS, for those who can't hear my inflection over the internet, throw a "/s" at the end of that last line.	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 01:13 AM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Seems like you could a dose of both. Yeah no shit. A blatant example of what you talk about in your post was me during the last while of my marriage. I did the reading, I knew about the RP, I was taking care of things goddamit! I checked off all the boxes, so fuck her and fuck this marriage! Well it was never about her or the marriage. And I think a more subtle version of your post is me now, which is why you linked it. So onward I go. And for a laugh, an example of overthinking it is that your …	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 01:01 AM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Nah I don't actually think that, but it was fun to write. What I do think is the opposite. That the experienced guys were able to crush their ego enough during their own process in order to develop themselves into who they needed to be. And that's what I want.	/r/askMRP	12/04/18 12:04 AM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? That's a good one, thanks. Yep I'm overthinking it and I need to just keep doing it because it's working. Eventually I'll just be. There was another post linked within your thread called Turn off your Brain. That poster concludes with, "Just stop thinking so damned much. Do things that make you happy..." Can't really argue with this, can we.	/r/askMRP	11/04/18 11:54 PM
1	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Anyone reading this can change those numbers to whatever they want, doesn’t matter to me. Let’s go with 2-13%. Hell put me in the denial stage if it helps the discussion, I’m still interested in any responses.	/r/askMRP	11/04/18 09:33 PM
2	Transition From Faking it into Being it? Ahahaa you just accurately condensed my wall of text into two lines. Good quote, I’ll keep doing.	/r/askMRP	11/04/18 09:13 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? That's how I've lived over the past year and reaped the rewards first hand. Interesting that I've slipped from my own frame back to my ex's frame. Ah well, at least I know now.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 07:04 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? Okay cool, thanks for the clarification.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 06:07 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? Yep, I’ve read that and I’ve read all about the feminine imperative. Yet here I am still asking the question. I think bacon_deadlifts nailed it when he said I’m operating in the FI without even realizing it. This is a good kick in the ass.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 05:02 PM
2	Take the Wife Back? Think goddammit think. Do I use AA here or AM? Shit too late, failed. Edit: How ‘bout a kiss on the forehead instead?	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 04:39 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? without even realizing that's what you're doing You nailed it right there, light bulb moment. I’ve read this in Rollo’s stuff about the FI and I already knew everything you wrote there. But not really right? As far as I’ve come, you’re right because here the fuck I am admittedly feeling guilty about not “giving them my best self.” Completely within the FI without realizing it. The same decision still needs to be made, but it needs to be made through a red pill lens. As seen in the comments here,…	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 04:11 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? He’s a few thousand miles away with a new family. She left him years ago. Communication with the kid over FaceTime, yearly visits, and regular gifts, but that’s about it. I’ll never marry again and we won’t move in in the near future, but yeah these things are all considerations.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 03:44 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? lets me cry on her shoulder Looks like I should have put a /s beside this one. But yeah, I’ve no doubt that she’s doing these things to snag me in the end. Thats why I keep repeating to her that I won’t be doing anything more than we’re doing at the moment. But I agree with mrpthrowa that if managed properly, a high value live-in woman could be a benefit rather than a drain.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 03:28 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? whenever i read this; i know the man's ego is still standing in his way. thinks he knows enough to not calibrate with other men or is too scared of the feedback. I’ve read guys here being told to stop posting, go read the sidebar, and get to work in the real world. Sounded reasonable to me, so which is it? But your point about WISNIFG is well-taken. It’s my friends who bust my balls, but in any serious conversation they say that I’ve kicked ass over the past year. Thanks.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 03:11 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? No, in the end I won’t be guilted into it, but I was curious about any other perspectives. I thought there might be one or two guys who would say, “Yeah brother I was in a similar situation as you and got back with my wife. This was my reasoning and this is how it worked out.....” Well, a quick look at this page shows that that’s not the case. A few good reminders here too.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 10:49 AM
1	Take the Wife Back? Yeah man thanks. The more I read these the more I realize that I’m trying to validate what I already know and what I’m doing.	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 10:39 AM
2	Take the Wife Back? I agree that the post was giant, really can’t argue with that can I? Probably a hamster puke too, but definitely not a victim puke. I’m not dependent on her at all anymore, as she and I have both learned over the past year. But I think it’s a valid question for a guy in my situation to ask himself. If he can get properly fucked and live a happy life with the family together again, then it’s not an unreasonable thing to at least consider. Now, the responses here are all consistent with what I alr…	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 10:23 AM
1	Take the Wife Back? Great advice. Of all those red flags, the only two two that apply to the present girlfriend are that she’s post wall with a kid. Although those weren’t technically in the red flag list. I’ve told her that I won’t marry again and even after a year of dating I’m still telling her that I won’t be ready to move past what we have now for a long time, if ever. She says she’s fine with that and is just enjoying every minute she gets to spend with me. Says she’s never dated a “real man” until now. Which…	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 09:53 AM
2	Take the Wife Back? If I read you right, then one of the implications here and in a couple of other posts is that I haven’t yet fully unplugged and that I’m still following the female narrative due to my BP conditioning. I admit that this is where it gets fuzzy for me. RP thinking tells us to work on ourselves, that the responsibility for everything rests on our shoulders, and that’s okay. We’re not victims, it’s simply how things are. Cool, so I have no one to blame but myself if things fuck up. I like that accoun…	/r/askMRP	04/04/18 09:10 AM
2	Take the Wife Back? Well Christ. Yeah you got me on that one.	/r/askMRP	03/04/18 11:59 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? Yeah I cleaned up my act, but she was non-responsive during that process. Now we're both seeing that for the most part I did in fact get my shit together and that perhaps she needed to do her own work. And now she regrets it. No, I don't owe anyone other than my kids. And what I owe them is a proper father. They get that by dad doing what he wants. The proof is in the pudding because now everyone is happier except the ex.	/r/askMRP	03/04/18 11:28 PM
5	Take the Wife Back? Ha. And this is exactly why I came here - good response. As I said, still work to do.	/r/askMRP	03/04/18 10:41 PM
1	Take the Wife Back? That was the intention. My mistake.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/04/18 10:08 PM