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When did it end? Decree was ~3 weeks ago. But it has been feeling mostly ended since settlement negotiation almost 2 months ago. Somewhere in between those I got a big "now what???" in my head. I think fucking more women will fix most of these problems. I see the merits of GFTOW but right now 'women are secondary to mission' seems like a better mindset for me. I finally have a compelling mid-term mission that isn't just 'survive'. Trying to make GFTOW my mission without sufficiently valuing myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 09:25 PM
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OYS #36 Age: 49; 6’4”, 195 lb, BF: 13.6%(navy) Reading Heartiste, Psycho-Cybernetics Fitness Chest press: 163.5x10 Shoulder press: 142.5x10 Rows: 171x7 Lat Pulldown: 167x10 Leg Press: 570x8 DL: 330x5 Zercher squat: 265x9 I messed with incline press and it didn't really help my shoulder, but adjusting my position on the chest press machine did make things slightly better. Once I stop hitting 10 on the AMRAP set, I'll experiment with deloading and going 3x8, as well as barbell vs. machine. Shoulde…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 06:05 PM
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There’s a really good phone app for Phrak’s called GreySkullLP Weight Lifting that makes it completely autopilot to start. But if you want (and pay$) you can customize the program. Also, don’t skip getting the microplates.
/r/askMRP10/01/24 03:03 PM
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I take every possible perceived slight personally and I react. This is what I really need help with. Re-read the WISNIFG Bill of Assertive Rights a few dozen times. You are letting someone else's judgement (real or projected) fuck with you. I've found it helpful to remember that everyone else has these rights too. This helps me to not over-interpret their actions and statements.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 04:38 PM
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Thanks. I'll mess around with this. Is there any advantage to doing your psuedo decline vs just doing real decline?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 09:29 PM
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Yeah I had shoulder surgery this summer and upper body lifting started over from 0 in late Oct. Presses are the worst, I'm not going past 90 deg ROM because of pain, popping and recommendation from PT.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:05 PM
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> it took much more time and money than I expected to get there It ALWAYS does. That's why it's a broken record here. Because no matter how you prep, what the conditions are, what your STBX accuses you of, it still takes fucking longer than you could imagine. >The recommendation to use your STBX and work on your shit before nuking would have also made it easier Didn't your wife "hang out" aka suck the dick of another man like mine did? I can't see why you're having secondary doubts here, IMO our…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 07:40 PM
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​ You don't owe these women shit dude, but 49 years of bad programming is going to take a while. Take some time to unplug from the matrix or you're just going to keep trying to LTR the first women who touch your pee pee. I guess what I've struggled with is figuring out how to 'take some time to unplug' that doesn't feel like wasting time, unless I'm trying to work on my interactions with women. I could go monk mode and work on my career, sons, friends, health, etc, but all of that is going at le…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 07:03 PM
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OYS #35 Age: 49; 6’4”, 196.5 lb, BF: 14.5%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Re-Reading NMMNG, WISNIFG, Pook, Heartiste Fitness Chest press: 135x5 Shoulder press: 117.5x10 Rows: 155x10 Lat Pulldown: 140x10 Leg Press: 530x10 DL: 310x5 Zercher squat: 245x10 Upper body is still going slow based on how my shoulder feels. DL and Zercher are limited by back / cor…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 04:15 PM
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There’s really nothing you can do at the gym? I went and found every machine I could do without engaging my shoulder. I went on my normal schedule and just did those machines. It was very helpful mentally, and I gained some weight and lower body/core muscle mass.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 01:08 PM
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Changing my OYS format as it was too wordy. Continued in comments
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 07:11 PM
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This is my current thinking on managing it, I'm not sure I'd say it is fixed and I'm not sure I'll ever say that. Have you considered Owning Your Shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 05:02 PM
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I got them as part of PE treatment when I was still married. Same situation, anxiety and dead bedroom. In that context it made no difference. With other women, who are actually interested in me, they're helpful because they make a second round much more possible for me. I'd recommend working on fixing your anxiety in general and about sex specifically. I found this comment to be especially helpful. As many others have said, it is all in your head. But your head is in your body. I found reverse k…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 04:07 PM
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OYS #34 Age: 49; 6’4”, 197.5lb, BF: 15%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. ReadingThe Unchained Man, other Caleb Jones content Fitness Chest press: 115x5 Shoulder press: 102.5x10 Rows: 147.5x10 Lat Pulldown: 125x10 Leg Press: 480x10 (reset for more ROM) DL: 275x10 Zercher squat: 245x10 PT told me I was done and I should work with the personal trainer at the …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 03:59 PM
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Yep, you were right. Adjusting my feet gave me some more ROM and more effort. Resetting. Thanks for the tip.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 03:11 PM
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I'll try adjusting that tomorrow, but it isn't the only factor. I don't think I'm anywhere close to the limit of what my legs can do on those other 2 exercises. I'm ramping them up slowly as my shoulder gets better, after restarting at empty bar a month or so ago. Leg press OTOH has been 3x/week for the 4 months before that. But if I can get more tired with less weight on it, that's good.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 09:31 PM
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I had this, and eventually figured out it was anger at myself, not her. Mostly for putting up with so much bullshit now that I know how much better it is post-D. Yeah it is all my fault and I thought I'd accepted that. A new aspect of it is being concerned that the settlement is 'fair' and I that I don't give in to more of the bullshit. Which is looking for external judgement/validation. The only thing that matters is knowing what I want, getting as much of it as I can, and not worrying about th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 07:50 PM
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OYS #33 Age: 49; 6’4”, 199lb, BF: 16%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness Chest press: 100x5 Shoulder press: 90x10 Rows: 135x10 Lat Pulldown: 110x10 Leg Press: 690x10 DL: 225x10 Zercher squat: 185x10 Upper body pushes are still rough and not full ROM. Everything else feels pretty good. I was at 201lbs consistently before travelling for thanksgiving, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:49 PM
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OYS #32 Age: 49; 6’4”, 198lb, BF: 16%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness More PT, more lifting, back to bike riding. Eating 200+g protein, 2800 - 3500 kcal. BP: 75x10 OHP: 80x5 Rows: 125x10 Lat Pulldown: 100x10 Leg Press: 670x10 DL: 185x10 Zercher squat: 145x10 Everything except for DL and Zercher squat is on machines. Everything except Leg Press is …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 04:51 PM
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OYS #31 Age: 49; 6’4”, 197lb, BF: 15.5%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Reading Heartiste on Game, Mystery Method (in progress) Fitness PT keeps getting more involved, which is good. Adding machine OHP and lat pulldowns. Also trying zercher squats, which seem like they will work better for me than back squats, even once my shoulder is fully recovered. Soc…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 03:06 PM
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OYS #30 Age: 49; 6’4”, 196lb, BF: 15.8%(navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Reading The Game, Heartiste on Game (in progress) Fitness Since my PT started to include strength exercises, my shoulder has started feeling better fast. I've been doing this PT more than recommended because it felt good. As of Friday the Dr recommends careful full weight bearing. Thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 03:52 PM
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Giving them friendly shit. Calling them on dumb opinions. Generally acting like I matter more than they do. It’s acting if you’re in the fake it until you make it stage, but how does it feel to you? Its most often an act, sometimes feels real, mostly with the low SMV women. ​ I'm weaksauce at this According to who? Because this my friend: as I get called sweet, kind, and nice frequently Is a shit test. I’d A&A the shit out of that Now THAT I wasn't seeing. I'm getting this from most of the women…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 10:21 PM
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Define what asshole game looks like to you. Giving them friendly shit. Calling them on dumb opinions. Generally acting like I matter more than they do. I'm weaksauce at this, as I get called sweet, kind, and nice frequently. I don't think I've ever been called a jerk or an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 08:30 PM
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There’s something a little off with your mindset here but I’m not sure what it is. Agreed. ​ My girl did a bunch of pinch grip chin-ups on my mezzanine the night we met. I respected it so much I fucked the shit out of her all night. I admire her body. Kind of worship it in a way: I have her undress in front of me everyday. It’s a turn on for her. I don’t need to tear her down to build myself up. Maybe it is this: I see these athletic women, who are all doing similar sports to what I do, as more …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 06:40 PM
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Wdym? Are the ones you’re fucking fatties? Yep. ​ Just double down on everything that works with the others: Kino, asshole game etc. You need more not less. Yeah, but I do need less respect for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 06:07 PM
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OYS #29 Age: 49; 6’4”, 196lb, BF: 16%(navy) Reading Just finished Practical Female Psychology Also these three posts were helpful, I found this part especially relevant after the discussion of my use of “Failure” in my last OYS: The definition of “not giving a fuck” is only keeping positive thoughts and emotions in your head, and cutting out people, places, activities, thoughts, media, etc... that are negative. “Not giving a fuck” is not about being cold, aloof, an asshole, or stupid, but by fil…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 12:49 PM
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https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/221209/detailed_roadmap_on_how_to_actually_succeed_at_tinder_bumble backlinks to 1.0 and 2.0 are worth reading as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 02:40 PM
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You need to reframe your social section. If the old PUA's considered every set that didn't convert into sex as a failure, they'd have lasted about one week before they gave up. Everything that you do is progress, as its experience that you can use to improve for next time. I guess I don't see failure as a bad thing or at all correlated with giving up. But I did have some negativity in the midst of all this. ​ Here's a useful mindset. You open new women with the intent to test and improve. If you…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 12:06 AM
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OYS #28 Age: 49; 6’4”, 194 lb, BF: 16.4 %(navy) (OYS #26 & #27 written but not posted) Reading Dating Essentials for Men (Glover), Bang, Day Bang, Fuccfiles Starting Practical Female psychology Physical I have been consistent with lower body / core lifting. I have consistently increased weight for everything I’m doing. Leg press 550x10 on monday. Close to topping out several of the machines I’m using. My legs are definitely stronger than when I was injured. Core is mixed. Upper body is what it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 01:01 PM
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Understood
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 01:26 AM
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OYS #23 Age: 48; 6’4”, 192 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness Switched to active PT (arm moves itself instead of stick moves arm) so hopefully the atrophy is done. Weight and BF measurements are not changing at all right now. Divorce Made first temp support payment on the same day I paid the last joint credit card bill. That was a big …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 01:41 PM
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https://youtu.be/Of_jyeDZ3Sg?si=Gb7bbuW15UMY4bMV
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 11:56 AM
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You're probably right, but I'm not THAT down on myself, mostly I thought that was funny when it popped in my head. I am proud of my self awareness and I need to use it better, especially in the moment. In this case, since we had to be interrupted to start the lame group activity, a good move could have been to say "This is going to be lame you wanna go for a walk instead", with kino nudging towards the door. But this weekend I found a shit ton of new opportunities to try again and that's the mos…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 09:16 PM
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Yeah I need a shirt that says: I spent $10k on marriage counselling and all I got was this lousy self awareness.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:38 PM
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OYS #22 Age: 48; 6’4”, 192 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness PT and lower body lifting continue. I'm going to look like a T-Rex before this is over. Reading Rational Male: Player's Handbook - still. This is Rollo's newest book and there's a lot in there. Juggler Method, mallardcove's Tinder guides (original, 2.0, & 3.0) ** Social ** W…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 02:31 PM
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Yeah this is great, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 02:38 PM
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OYS #21 Age: 48; 6’4”, 190 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness More lower body machine lifting. Lots of walking, but mostly for mindfulness and enjoyment rather than an actual workout. Started shoulder PT, 10m range of motion exercises 5x a day. Weaning off the sling, still no weight bearing. The sling was a useful reminder to myself an…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 03:21 PM
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Probably ought to read about the 1000 foot rope and rambo too. And the many great posts on the sidebar. I'm just spotting some of the same shit I struggle with.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 06:56 PM
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That's why I do it on top of my calisthenics which comprises weighted pull-ups, ring dips, ring rows, archer pushups etc. +kettlebell OHP. I also use barbells for front squat because it's the one thing I found I can't replace with either kettlebells or calisthenics. Are you sure THAT extra is enough? Specifically that swings are giving you the same benefit of the deadlifts you tried last week, and archer pushups give you as much benefit as bench press would? Also, you say you did no cardio but s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 03:18 PM
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Lifts - Calisthenics and Kettlebells. Barbell for front squats. Broke my arm 3 months ago at BJ Current lifts Front Squat 50KG 5x4 ; Weighted Pull ups+12KG: 4 ; Pull-ups: 11 ; Dips: 11; Ring Dips: 5 ; One Arm Kettlebell Swings 24KG 100rep <7mn; Turkish Get Up 16KG 10rep<10mn ; Kettlebell OHP 20KG 6 Right/5 Left; Strict Toes-to-bar: 9 I did Simple & Sinister kettlebells for several years and thought it was enough. It isn't. I've gotten more out ~5 months of GSLP barbells than I ever did from kett…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 02:24 PM
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Career/Finance: Things are great. We’re comfortable with wife as a SAHM. For how long will you be comfortable that way? SAHM can make sense until the kid(s) start school, but after that?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 02:09 PM
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OYS #20 Age: 48; 6’4”, 190 lb, BF: 15% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness Continued machine based lifting. Leg press RPE feels about like where I was at with squats. My injured-side arm looks smaller now than the healthy side. Eating 3000kcal / 190+g protein, but not gaining any weight even though my activity level is about 25% of what it was before…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 01:52 PM
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OYS #19 Age: 48; 6’4”, 190 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Overall I'd rate my progress this week as 'treading water' Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness Started machine based lifting. Lower body only, leg press, isolation stuff and some core. Restarted creatine and eating 3000kcal / 190+g protein. Doing my limited shoulder PT until next week when I start real PT. Rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 02:28 AM
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OYS #18 Age: 48; 6’4”, 189 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. I will do work that provides value to me, and to those that I value. Fitness Had my first shoulder surgery follow up today. PT is going to be very slow. Right now I'm to do some basic arm movements 3x/day. I am cleared to lift on lower body machines, so I'll start that tomorrow. Over the weekend I did some hiking which was great but on the edge of wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 01:00 AM
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OYS #17 Age: 48; 6’4”, 191 lb, BF: 15.5% (navy) Mission I will be at home in my body and mind. I will constantly work to maintain and improve them. (this is partial) Fitness I had shoulder surgery exactly a week ago. I'm in a sling for 4 weeks, then 8 or so weeks of PT before I can consider things like lifting, biking or yoga. I want full function back so I'm going to listen to the doctors and not rush. Still at my first follow up next week I'm going to ask about doing lower body lifting on mach…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 02:06 PM
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OYS #16 Age: 48; 6’4”, 197 lb, BF: 15.0% (navy) Crashed my mtb hard on sunday. Separated shoulder on my dominant arm, back covered with abrasions, etc. Not sure what the recovery will be like yet, will find out Friday. I lost respect for what I was doing, thought I was invincible and found I out I'm not. Part of the price of doing this sport and it'll be a good story at least. It also could have been much, much worse. I'm grateful it wasn't and that I started lifting, which probably reduced how …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 07:56 PM
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can't argue with that
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 03:41 PM
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After some thought and some more jacktenofhearts... What: Acceptance. Both just as a person and as a man. From literally anyone except myself. Which of course a hopeless thing to want. Look at me, dancing monkey for the whole world. Why: I am a career beta, who has been faking it for a long time. At times very well. And in that context, my current regression from trying to fake it till I make with women is not terribly surprising. How I got this way: Variation of the standard NG background. Well…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 03:39 PM
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Did you judge the NENM woman? She was upfront about what she's doing and she had something you wanted. Probably not. I did not judge her about the NENM , I knew that part coming in. I mostly put in detail about what she said because I thought it was interesting. And its a big contrast to where I'm at. She's had a series of affairs but also says she's still happy with her husband and says they still have a good sex life. How her husband feels now or if he knew everything? Dunno. But she has no gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 04:00 AM
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A Practical Guide to Building Frame recommends being mindful of what frame you have in every situation by doing pre-framing exercises. When reflecting back on this, I clearly see how quickly and easily I abandon my frame, often to avoid conflict (nice guy). I really like the guide as it's highlighting how to setup small goals that are within my own locus of control and it's up to me if I success or fail. Thanks for sharing this post, it is a great read and what I need to work on as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 03:34 AM
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Spot on. I don't know his credentials or job prospects but he's gonna have to work at mcdonalds to pay some bills soon while he searches for the real job. He's a talented kid and he'll figure it out. They both are. This is a good struggle for him to face now, rather than later when the stakes are higher. You're 48, 6'4", successful and not fat. Your perceived prize level to women will only be limited by your own prize mentality. I think my anger this week was a glimmer of that mentality. I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 03:32 AM
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Your dating pursuits sound pretty thirsty, texting this woman who's not into you about your 'wants'. You already know it though, Namely, bottom feeding It's not a waste. You can use this as your real world evidence for how that goes. I need to not settle in at the bottom though, which happened for a while when I was younger. And the evidence so far is that I need to revise my attitude and grind more. ​ Being a young man needy for income and a 48 year old needy for female validation are two entir…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 08:12 PM
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OYS #16 Age: 48; 6’4”, 193.8 lb, BF: 14.0% (navy) Mission Have some fucking outcome independence in all things Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex ​ Lifting BP: 167.5x5, Barbell Row: 135x6, OHP: 87.5x5(deload), Chinups: bandedx10 Squat: 235x9, DL: 280x5 Ate 3800kcal+ / 190g+ protein all week. My appetite caught up quickly and yesterday was 4400kcal / 265g …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 01:18 PM
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Well its good you know but now that you do, don't expect anything you say at this point to change her behavior for the better. It seems like she doesn't respect you enough to listen. And he's giving her something she needs (attention) that you aren't. There's a ton of sidebar content you need to read right now, such as this and this. I was in a VERY similar situation to you, shitty orbiter and all. If you want to see what it looks like when you give an ultimatum before you make substantial impro…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/23 05:11 PM
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Checking her phone and any other form of mate guarding won't help, and could very well make this even worse. I've been there, done that. Blaming yourself is a good start, now go work on yourself. Sidebar, lift, repeat. Eventually you'll either be a clearly better option for her than this orbiter or decide that you are better off moving on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/23 03:54 PM
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You recall correctly. She gets the big why, but is pissed about the tactics I used to leave and is scared to death about money. But she has consistently made the money situation worse. I need want her to see that on her own. If I straight up tell her, she'll do something even dumber like hire an extra lawyer. Most of what I told her was pointing her toward this realization, I hope. I gave a little extra because I want to be able to do simple things like get stuff from the house without lawyer ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 09:20 PM
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Yes, to keep (well, try to start) the peace and to give positive reinforcement for communicating well. I don't want to dissect the relationship but I've been getting rage in response to practical things that I do want to discuss. This was better in tone, and she did mention that all of the hamster shit she laid out was why she couldn't deal well with the practical stuff yet, so I thought some minimal comfort would be useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 04:12 PM
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That's at least worth the time and money.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 02:31 PM
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I was complimented on my squat form by a trainer, which felt pretty nice. But did this help you lift any better?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 02:11 PM
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OYS #15 Age: 48; 6’4”, 190 lb, BF: 14.5% (navy) Mission Have some fucking outcome independence in all things Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex ​ Lifting BP: 165x5, Barbell Row: 132.5x7, OHP: 95x5, Chinups: bandedx8 Squat: 230x9, DL: 270x5 Started tracking macros on Saturday. I was hitting 3500+ calories but only about half protein. Next day I hit protein…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 02:08 PM
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Either I'm slow or this is clear as mud. What you're saying is that she said she wants to use rubbers and you said ok? Yes. And I'm clearly being a social retard here. Well probably most of the time. ​ On the lifting stuff GSLP for programming, starting strength for technique, grams of protein = your bodyweight in lbs and enough kcal to gain 2-4lbs per month until you have bench/squat/dead at 2-3-4 plates for reps at a minimum. Should take you six months at most. From there you can cut to fucboi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 02:30 PM
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STFU is never wrong. In this case, the exact right play. You literally just met the girl. WTF. If she presses the issue of monogamy I'd tell her it's way too soon. Depending on your style, frame etc. either deadpan or with some AA/AM thrown in. I met this woman on a hookup site and the conventions are a bit different. And she's coming at it from a safety angle not an emotional one. Her previous fuck buddy was married and they went at it for years and eventually stopped using condoms. So she was …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 11:27 AM
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I've never had a problem saying "no" so IDK if there's much value added from reading WISNIFG after MMSLP WISNIFG is about so much more than saying no. Do not skip it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 11:20 PM
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Besides masturbating to TWOTSM, what do you have planned for defining what you want out of life? Yeah I'm gonna jerk it so hard to that book. I have some fairly concrete timeframes to start with: I am moving in August - I have a bunch of setup stuff to do around this time Divorce will finish sometime this year - once I know the settlement I can start making more financial plans. Youngest son will graduate college 3 years - I live in the town where he goes to school and want to stay here until he…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 10:45 PM
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Now that you mention it, she did probe a bit on this last week. I STFU because I wasn't sure what to say and by the time I did we both had to leave. The way I was looking at it today was: I could lie and probably fuck her in her frame (exclusive husband replacement) or be radically honest and maybe fuck her in my frame (plate). But I'll find a way to be more nuanced / minimal in what I say.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 09:02 PM
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OYS #14 Age: 48; 6’4”, 188 lb, BF: 13.8% (navy) Mission Have some fucking outcome independence in all things Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 160lbs, Barbell Row: 127.5lbs, OHP: 92.5lbs, Chinups: bandedx8 Squat: 215lbs, DL: 265lbs With lifting, being the right kind and amount of angry helps. So did reading this. I have stopped gaining weight…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 01:09 PM
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Thanks for the reminder that "fuck you coach" is a powerful motivator.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 02:21 PM
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You're both right that I should be more bold. And 'Be Patient' / 'Expect Nothing' is really just a too passive version of 'Have some fucking OI'. As far as lifts & bodyweight, I could probably make more progress if I gave up riding MTB. But as I've said before I'm not going to do that, it is one of the most enjoyable things I do. My progress with lifting, such that it is, has still made a big difference in my looks, mood, confidence and even riding.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 08:59 PM
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But was the steak at the steakhouse any good?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 03:42 PM
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Yeah I'm old and regret taking so much time to start working on my shit. But at the same time I have kept trying to force results before I've put in the work and the time, and that doesn't work out well.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 09:50 PM
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Fuck your wife, or don't, whatever... But based on what you said last week you are taking huge risks with lack of birth control. You already have kids, do you ever want more? If not, just get a vasectomy and be done with this risk forever.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 02:40 PM
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OYS #13 Age: 48; 6’4”, 189 lb, BF: 13.3% (navy) Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Reading For the last 5-6 weeks I've been lazy about reading the rest of the OYS thread. I'd check it a few times on Tuesday and that's it. The last 2 I've checked back towards the end of the week and I've go…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 02:07 PM
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I was thinking a month, although in NMMNG, Glover actually discusses a “sex moratorium” of 3 to 6 months and discussing it with your spouse. I have not talked about this with my wife. I am not opposed to it, but honestly, having a conversation with her at this point about it feels more like validation seeking than anything else. Watch this, which discusses some of the problems with NMMNG. Sex moratorium was one, talking with your wife about the book at all is another (but it looks like you got t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 05:20 PM
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OYS #12 Age: 48; 6’4”, 189 lb, BF: 13.6% (navy) Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 152.5lbs, Barbell Row: 120lbs, OHP: 85lbs, Chinups: bandedx7 Squat: 205lbs (deload), DL: 250lbs Skipped 2 days lifting but rode my bike really hard 4 days instead. Which was the purpose of the va…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 05:10 PM
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She has some anger issues I think, but mostly is hilarious. It'll be an interesting afternoon no matter what. So hot. So funny. So angry. I think I was doing pretty well but eventually she got pissed that I shut the doors to her car too hard. We were supposed to be stopping by my hotel before going to the beach, but then she just left. It was going to be something eventually. Still a fun and educational day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 05:23 AM
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*OYS #11 Age: 48; 6’4”, 187-ish lb, BF: ??? * Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, MMSLP/MAP, Models, TRM Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 152.5lbs, Barbell Row: 120lbs, OHP: 82.5lbs, Chinups: bandedx7 S…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 01:51 PM
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15% BF (visual estimate) Buy a measuring tape & use the navy method use the navy body fat calculation method. ​ Lifts: SQ -132 lbs, DL - 132 lbs, BP 110 lbs, OHP 44 lbs, BR 75 lbs. Second week of training and I’m at my max right now, so will see if Im gonna plateau here or keep increasing. A bit worried about my back thb. Will be a little careful the next week. Besides that eating like a pig to gain weight. So far so good. If you're having back pain at those weights you should get someone to hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/23 02:23 PM
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It is very low so far. Intermittent texting + 2.5 hrs to do an initial coffee date. Since she flaked the first time I think she texted me on 2 days over about 3 weeks. For this meet up, she is investing far more, driving a fair distance to come to my place. My investment is the time she is at my place, which is during the day and not blocking any other plans. If she doesn't show I really should spend the time cleaning or reading. Why is she doing this? Her husband has a medical problem & can't f…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 11:54 AM
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The first one I'm not ruling out completely, just not pursing right now. There's definitely a high chance for sex with her at some point, based on intel from other women who know her. It won't happen by chasing her, but by waiting and demonstrating value over time. I was easily able to demonstrate value relative to her hangers on this weekend, but if I push it hard now there's a very high chance of friend zone. I think I need to work more on my frame to withstand the save-a-ho and some physical …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 02:56 PM
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This was a hard habit to break. I almost caved several times in initiating conversation or pandering to a pedantic text or response. The Nice Guy deep-seated reaction to DEER is huge and anxiety inducing. If anyone is having trouble doing this like I still do, just stick to a script and when things go off the rails STFU. I know I will probably slip up in the future, but I know that I can keep referring to the script until things flow more naturally. Good points. I also found that reducing contac…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 01:13 PM
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OYS #10 Age: 48; 6’4”, 185lb, BF: 14.5%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, MMSLP/MAP, Models, TRM Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 145lbs, Barbell Row: 112.5lbs, OHP: 80lbs, Chinups: bandedx7 Squ…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 01:07 PM
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Thanks, I'll check them out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 12:00 PM
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Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 12:24 PM
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OYS 32 Trust I can't trust these people, but they open doors. Many of my friends are sinners to the bone, but I can sense mutual trust between us, and most are people I have a solid amount of respect for. I probably should have never trusted previous GFs, and probably shouldn't trust any in the future. BP me thought trust was a virtue. The issue it reveals is this: I do not trust my wife. (if it could have happened and I don't trust her, I will assume it did happen. Any non-zero chance of infide…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 02:55 PM
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Despite the above, I had 1 slip-up last week that set me back in my progress. I was reactive when wife ghosted the kids and I for over 24 hours and sent a random text late that night that asked if I still loved her. I said "of course" and that's it. Fight ensued. I was blamed for her behaviors and that I was avoiding communication with her to further isolate her from the family. I lost my temper and tore into her BS, hard. We reconciled later and agreed to her return date in the first week of ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 02:05 PM
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OYS #9 Age: 48; 6’4”, 187.8lb, BF: 15%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, MMSLP/MAP, Models, TRM (again) Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 140lbs, Barbell Row: 107.5lbs, OHP: 75lbs, Chinup: banded…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 01:53 PM
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That's a really good reminder. She didn't seem crazy when we met, but maybe she's just a different flavor of crazy than what I left. I'm assuming this isn't happening. If it is, it will be at least a month from now. It probably makes sense to reevaluate from scratch if she does come back after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 11:52 PM
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Someone mentioned to me "you can either have your comfort or your dignity but not both". In the very short term I agree. In the long term I'd say: Once you have your dignity and are unwilling to give it up, you can be much more comfortable. ​ Third, is STFU. I failed at this hard. This was the cause of the fumble at the 1 yard line. I talked. As horns said, more detail would probably help. With just this, it sounds like the bigger problems were that you listened and believed her.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 04:21 PM
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Re: SMV. The point of the comments last week weren’t an assessment of your SMV, just a commentary on how a high SMV man gets to set his own rules. The minute you think you have to prove something to women or get caught up in a relative SMV mindset, you drop a notch or two. Just focus on upping your own SMV, get out there and have fun with it — enjoy the process. If it’s awkward, laugh it off. I didn't take your comment as an assessment. But it was a good thing to point me at. I've gotten many co…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 03:09 PM
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You need to reward good behavior (MMSLP) and who cares if she thinks sex is a tool, if it doesn't actually work on you. If you have sex in your frame and not hers this looks more like a comfort test than a shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 02:32 PM
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Saying I needed sex and that she could make me feel better through sex. Calm replies of "I feel great, my workouts today were on point, my eating is good this week and I am happy." bonus is that I am, she knows it and is trying to regain a foothold. Her mother preached "use sex to control a man", so its deeply rooted and will continually be a shit test and one which my stopping of validation through sex is paramount. I'm not sure I understand this part. It sounds like she's offering you sex, doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 01:34 PM
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Backstory: Drunk Captain. Which type?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 01:22 PM
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OYS #8 Age: 48; 6’4”, 184lb, BF: 14.5%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, TRM, MMSLP/MAP, Models (in progress) Mission Be patient Expect nothing Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Lifting BP: 130lbs, Barbell Row: 100lbs, OHP: 72.5lbs, Chinup: …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/23 12:55 PM
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Drop the fancy labels (co-dependent/ covert narcissist). Diagnosing and obsessing about shit that’s in the past won’t change it. u/YDDMS there is a huge rabbit hole of videos, therapy, support groups, etc for those labels and it leads to a giant pity party. My wife was probably about the same, and I started down that rabbit hole right after I left her. It was helpful to understand what my wife *probably* has, and that was a large reason why I moved towards leaving permanently very quickly. After…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 04:47 AM
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Good point. Yes I've read that book but I clearly didn't internalize it all yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 08:06 PM
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Women make rules for betas / LVM and break rules for alphas / HVM. Evidence so far shows I'm not there yet. ​ Like Horns said, lifting will solve a lot for you. I also agree you shouldn’t conceal anything. You don’t have to volunteer anything you don’t want to (or answer anything you don’t want to), but actively concealing is wasted energy. Yeah. I need to own it / be congruent about it better than I am right now. So much of my time was spent married that it is going to come up fairly quick if I…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 03:35 PM
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> Consensus from my divorced friends is that most women want you to have been > divorced for some time before they’re interested. Do you believe this? What would they say about women being interested in married men? One guy who I trust went down this path early like I'm doing and he says that it was most and not all women who felt this way. Some of the others divorced due to their wives having affairs so they're also well aware of the interest in married men. What I'm seeing on AM is that many w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 02:09 PM
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OYS #7 Age: 48; 6’4”, 184lb, BF: 16%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, TRM, MMSLP/MAP (in progress), lots of PUA videos on youtube Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Be patient Expect nothing Lifting BP: 125lbs, Barbell Row: 95lbs, OH…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 12:16 PM
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You may be at rock bottom, but you've got solid self awareness and you're taking action. That isn't nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:09 PM
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OYS #6 Age: 48; 6’4”, 183lb, BF: 16%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, TRM, MMSLP/MAP (in progress) Note: I should have read MMSLP much sooner. Got the standalone MAP book for free and it is very watered down. Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, trav…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:00 PM
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Nah, I was getting hints at the same stuff from my dad too. And I'm here to feel uncomfortable. Like I said, for now I'm acknowledging it and watching it. Too busy to go down the rabbit hole. And as far as the other stuff, thinking it through like that helps me internalize what works and doesn't. Writing stuff down here really makes it work for me. eg. I'm chatting with a brand new Tinder match right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 06:54 PM
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You don’t need to retain an attorney yet, just when you’re ready to file. Do a consult or two (likely to cost $200-300) after you’ve done enough of your own research around: custody, asset split, child support, and alimony. I was able to a free initial meeting with an attorney. At least around here that's enough for them to be conflicted out so that your wife can't use them. Once you know which jurisdiction it is worth doing with the most aggro lawyers there, if only to keep them on the sideline…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 03:32 PM
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Been reaching out to old guy friends and hanging out. Realized I am not the only nice guy and it is up to me to make these things happen. All my friends are married and also pussies when it comes to making plans. Hopefully more of that but its hard with my wifes travel schedule. Looking to join a local running club so I can meet people with similar interests. A workaround for this is to set up a weekly recurring thing. I joined on to one several years ago and a lot of the guys in it have become …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 03:06 PM
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Wow. I was assuming 1 because of my own assumptions about monogamy. Hmmm.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 01:37 PM
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I haven't had much time for myself. My only hobbies at the moment are lifting and reading . I don't feel like lifting everyday but reading, specially the sidebar, I do it everyday. Lifting > reading. Find another hobby. Get on meetup and find a bunch of stuff to try, and maybe you'll find something you like. At the very least you'll be out of the house and away from the shit more. You've probably read plenty and it is a whole different thing to start applying it. ​ I am treating this like a job …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 01:15 PM
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I've let go of trying to influence my daughter's future and relationship with me. Fuck all I can do except give her quality time and be successful and filled with vitality when I do see her. She adores me, but I can see it fading as her mother slowly poisons the relationship. Out of my control. Yep. Be a good example. Be the oak. ​ I've been gathering evidence that other women can be all the things I look for Why does one woman have to be all the things for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 01:05 PM
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As for my abundance, I am living in scarcity. I recently identified the issues with my sexual frustration. I get anxious initiating, this is a new trend that my wife can clearly see right through. Other than spewing feelings in the past (now I am very STFU because that’s all I am good at now) this is my current most unattractive behavior. This anxiety transitions to anger quickly but I have to figure out a way to separate that. So, I might try to fix my anger and anxiety issue before I initiate …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 12:58 PM
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OYS #5 Age: 48; 6’4”, 183lb, BF: 16.9%(navy) Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts, TRM, MMSLP/MAP (in progress) Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Be patient Expect nothing Lifting BP: 110lbs, Barbell Row: 80lbs, OHP: 55lbs, Chinup: 0x3 Squat: …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 12:42 PM
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Good point. I was thinking mostly of people just starting out with shitty 1st mission statements (like your old one) or "insert mission statement here" (like my first one). But I guess if you don't write it yourself, you don't OWN it and then what's the point?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:44 AM
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No. You're whining about everything. That you're weak, that you're scared, that you can't change you're behavior, and much more. All of those are totally in your control but will take time, effort and mental discipline. Your wife's behavior is because she doesn't respect you. You might be able to fix yourself enough to change your marriage or you might not. But as MANY people on here have demonstrated, you will be better off if you work on yourself beforehand. I'm not a good example for this par…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:36 AM
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If I get my shit together and OMS for a year I will contribute something of value to this community with a guide to writing an effective mission statement if it does not already exist. Revised Mission Statement: Exploit the success I have enjoyed throughout my life, end empty validation-seeking behaviors, and continue to improve incrementally and measurably in all aspects of my life. Purpose: To take back control in my life. Method: Reading daily and Owning my shit every week for no less than a …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 09:24 PM
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Go back? You haven't gone anywhere yet. You have given no one, including yourself, a reason to respect you. You will have to build your own self respect 1 small step at a time. Find 1 thing that you like about yourself, that you're proud of. How did you get that way? Can you replicate that process with any one of the many things you're whining about here? Then do it. And then do it again. When you get slammed here or anywhere in life, figure out why and work your ass off to do something better n…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 09:06 PM
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Your comments today make me feel uncomfortable as hell. Because this right here is the core of my problems. I'm starting to prop up some parts of my life but I need to find a way to break through into this rotten core. So far my only plan is to push outside my comfort zone, make mistakes and then try to adjust. ​ > force new habits and suppress old ones You read NMMNG how many times? Yeah yeah. Almost all the time I feel naturally much more confident, outgoing and assertive. This event was a big…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 02:29 PM
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You seem to be identifying a lot of self sabotaging behaviors. You've read NMMNG? Yes, twice. And that's how I ended up here. While reading it the second time I started looking for discussion of it on the internet. I found Rian Stone's video series about it and went down the rabbit hole. Self sabotage is a good way to describe it. Once my expectations didn't match reality I was in a pissy, defensive mood and I'm sure that showed. I tried to rally but there was no need to dig a hole to start in b…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 01:45 PM
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OYS 12 I don't even know if I am still entitled in posting here, but OYS have been a real tool to learn more about myself so I'll continue them in spite of the breakup. Ban me if you think I don't belong. I don't think you need a disclaimer, it comes off as DEER. Post what you want and then just accept the ban if it comes. There's multiple guys posting (including me) that are posting after divorce or break up. ​ I had a few days where I felt totally empty inside, crying in my room without a desi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 12:30 PM
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OYS #4 Age: 48; 6’4”, 184lb, BF: 17%(navy) / 10%(impedence) Currently Reading: The Rational Male Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Be patient Expect nothing Lifting BP: 100lbs, Barbell Row: 70lbs, OHP: 50lbs, Chin-up: 0x3 Squat: 135lbs, DL: 135lbs 1 full week of lifting. I got a free personal trainer consultation …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 12:13 PM
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That is a good question. I definitely want to fix these relationships. With my dad, when our relationship was better we shared books on a wide variety of subjects. So it feels like a natural way to communicate with him. And it worked out. With my kids, I feel like WISNIFG is important knowledge that I wish I had at their age. And it is stuff that I failed to demonstrate while they were growing up. But there is risk of a covert contract with me expecting them to read and apply the stuff in it to …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 02:06 PM
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I feel a lot of commonality with what you wrote. I found MRP shortly after I blew up a very similar situation just over a month ago. If I were you, I'd focus on your kids. It sounds like you're doing way more for the family than she is. Make a plan for your move that doesn't assume your wife will be there, and let her know you can take care of everyone without her (lack of) help. Make her choose to come with you or not, do her own work to join you, and make her commit to contributing more to the…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 01:21 PM
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Misson: To take back years of beta damage done to my marriage and life and become the alpha who met my wife. Establish an Oak frame and take back the leadership I ceded to my wife over the years. ... Often when I read TRP in my late twenties, I never really internalized anything. I treated it as a parlor trick to keep women guessing Why not be someone better than that guy? He caved. ​ My Biggest Weakness: Right now I am too invested. Sure seems like it. ​ My MAP is going to focus solely on mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 12:49 PM
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OYS #3 Age: 48; 6’4”, 185lb, BF: 10% Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Rian Stone sidebar videos, many jacktenofhearts posts Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex This weekend while cleaning my apartment I realized that I am so fucking happy. Divorce Barely made it through the introductory mediati…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 12:35 PM
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Yes. But try the free content before you decide.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/23 03:16 AM
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Shame gone - amazing how that prison vanished, huh? Keep that in mind. Definitely. ​ Father - By my read of it, your father wasn’t bullying you. It seems like he meant well. He was probably just trying to have fun with you (practical jokes) and giving you low-risk reps to learn to deal with bullies or similar. I'm not sure either way. There were was at least one instance where the goal was a joke and not me learning. Whatever the intent it didn't work at the time and it has taken me way too long…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 08:31 PM
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It has meant I have completely shifted focus on my life. I can see how anxiety is adversely impacting my life more than ever before. My focus and immediate short term goals are in controlling this anxiety. I have started with readings of You Are Not Your Brain, and I can see where some of the causes of anxiety are coming from. My response to false messages is atrocious. I struggle with anxiety too. I've made great progress with the Unwinding Anxiety book and app, if you're looking for something …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 12:54 PM
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GSLP is much better than SL. Do that. And fix your press (and other lifts) by reading and watching the Starting Strength stuff in stead of randomskinnyyoutuber294. Start here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dacy5hjaE8 Thanks. I'll check both of those out. ​ FWIW I’ve been divorced for years and interactions with my ex are still where I have the most difficulty with assertiveness. I never could fix it completely even though she’s attracted to me, behaves well, all that stuff. I figure it must b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 05:48 PM
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Don't worry about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 05:31 PM
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When I consider giving it to her, I usually conclude that in doing so I'd be just trying to change her/project on her, so I don't. Probably you're better off trying to lead her to it by example. That way there's no expectations on her, you're not wasting effort and it is up to her to follow or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 04:57 PM
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Primarily I want my sons to read it, they're both in college. I also am going to recommend it to some close friends. My wife and I are getting divorced (see my OYS this and last week), but even before that she wasn't interested in reading things like this. She really would benefit from it though. Training your employees using it sounds like an excellent idea to me. I'll put Christopher Voss on my list, thanks for the recommendation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 04:55 PM
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Wow I found it: https://www.ribbonfarm.com/the-gervais-principle/
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 03:41 PM
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You've reminded me of some stuff I was reading 10+ years ago that was pretty much TRP but for work. I can't find it again yet but I'm pretty sure its still out there. But it boiled down to this: Except at the very top, companies want managers not leaders. Managers are Nice Guys who do grunt work like performance reviews. Leaders set direction and make risky decisions, and there's usually only a handful in any company. You can be a leader even if you're not at the top but you must NGAF and be rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 03:37 PM
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For the past week I have been reading the first chapters of WISNIFG. I feel this book is having a much greater immediate benefit than the other sidebar material I have read this far. I just read it too and I agree 100%. I'm trying to get important people in my life to read it. Even if someone doesn't have problems with assertiveness, having a framework and language about how to have tough conversations is a valuable skill. I went through thousands of dollars worth of leadership training at work …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 01:26 PM
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Mission: Regain the frame and authority that I let slide, stop failing very obvious shit tests, stop waiting on life to happen, be a better father figure. Also put my health back in forefront and stop being a fat fuck. I'm pretty new here too, but it looks like your mission is all negative statements. What you want to stop doing. It might be better to focus on what you want to START doing, even if you're really saying the same thing. But hey, you started posting here and that's a big step.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 01:14 PM
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OYS #2 Age: 48; 6’4”, 185lb, BF: 11% Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook, WISNIFG Mission Live where I want and how I want Have good relationships with my sons Continue doing outstanding work in my career Develop more and better friendships Make more time for fun experiences, hobbies, travel and sex Divorce Started mediation. Lots of meetings over the next few weeks and then a pause while they dig through the financial disclosures. I am still intimidated by my STBX when she’s mad, which…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/23 01:06 PM
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Yes, probably more than ever. At this point he's doing me a favor by helping her cope with the divorce, like a true white knight. I truly am not bothered by what they do at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 03:23 PM
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Riding style is part of it. I'm into MTB currently and I am pretty strong lower body but weak upper body. When all this went down I made a huge increase in how much and how fast I was riding and how much was climbing. But lack of alcohol and lifting helped too. I definitely lost a lot of body fat and probably have better abs that I've ever had (which isn't saying much). I think now I really need to switch to a traditional weight program like everyone is recommending and also focus on nutrition f…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 08:42 PM
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Search for “drunk captain” and figure out what kind you were / are so you learn from it and don’t make the same mistakes in the future. Definitely #2. Most alpha I've demonstrated in the past was a result of covert contracts with my parents. ​ If an orbiter situation arises in the future, how will you handle it differently? This is a fundamental question. My current answer: Frame I need to enforce boundaries much sooner, so that nukes aren't needed. I must make myself respected such that people …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 05:42 PM
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And really if you count therapy sessions this is like OYS 10 for me. Some of the therapy sessions were truly pathetic. The therapist would be telling me about abundance mindset, to stop enabling, to be my own person and I'd be nearly crying, saying shit like: "I'll ask her if I can be more independent" and "I just want to be in love with someone". Ugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 01:32 PM
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Thanks. I got a lot of help from my therapist, I wish I had found him a couple of years earlier and it sure seems like its rare for a therapist to even get close to this stuff. BTW, he is a sex therapist rather than a 'normal' mental health therapist. Our marriage counselor was NOT a sex therapist and it would have been interesting to see if we had different results had we started with a sex therapist right away. Finding MRP earlier would have even been better, seeing all of the other OYS report…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 12:10 PM
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Yeah I definitely need to eat and lift more. The amount of weight I dropped so far is surprising and I really shouldn't drop more. The bike has to stay because its a big part of my social life & sanity.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 09:42 PM
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OYS #1 Age: 48; 6’4”, 183lb, BF: 10% Mission: rebuild myself better Read: NMMNG, Praxeology Part 1, Book of Pook (in progress) TL;DR: I have a bad case of Dysfunctional Captain #2. Many mistakes. Marriage nuked. Relationship Married almost 25 years. 2 college age sons. I met my wife in college. She was struggling with depression and an eating disorder. But we got along and the sex was really good. Until about the last 5-6 years, our marriage was really good for me. I worked hard at my job, on ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 12:08 PM
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